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Speaker 1: All right, thank you, nephew. Subject he's paying bills for

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Speaker 1: his cousin. Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been married for six years,

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Speaker 1: and for the past ten years, my husband has been

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Speaker 1: taking care of a female that he used to date.

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Speaker 1: When I met him nine years ago, he said that

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Speaker 1: he was close with the female cousin that lives in Maryland.

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Speaker 1: He said that he hasn't seen her in years, but

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Speaker 1: they talk almost daily. It was strange to me that

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Speaker 1: he's closer to his cousin than he is to his

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Speaker 1: own sister. He said that his relationship with his cousin

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Speaker 1: causes tension between him and his sister because his sister

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Speaker 1: can't stand the cousin. I kept asking to meet her,

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Speaker 1: but he always had excuses. I'll ask who he's texting,

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Speaker 1: and he'll say it's his cousin. If they're face timing,

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Speaker 1: he hangs up when I walk into the room. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I never thought anything was up with them until I

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Speaker 1: started planning our Christmas trip to his parents' house in Maryland.

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Speaker 1: I told my husband's sister that I want her to

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Speaker 1: work things out with her cousin, because life is too

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Speaker 1: short to be hating family members. She told me that

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Speaker 1: the woman is not her cousin. She used to date

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Speaker 1: the woman, and when they broke up, the woman dated

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Speaker 1: her brother, who is my husband. She told me to

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Speaker 1: get my fat straight before I come to her. Trying

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Speaker 1: to be a peacemaker, she said that my husband has

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Speaker 1: been paying this girl's rent and car note for years,

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Speaker 1: and she does not live in Maryland. She lives about

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Speaker 1: ten miles from us. My chest tightened and I started

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Speaker 1: seeing white stars. I called my husband on the freeway

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Speaker 1: and he hung up when I asked him about his cousin.

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Speaker 1: He won't talk about it at all, or if I

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Speaker 1: bring it up, he locks himself in our guest bedroom.

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Speaker 1: I want to know what money he's using to pay

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Speaker 1: her bills. Why would he marry me if he's been

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Speaker 1: with her all along? Why won't he tell me what's up?

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Speaker 1: He's just not going to tell you. I mean, she

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Speaker 1: may not be of the family, but she certainly keeps

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Speaker 1: it in the family.

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Speaker 2: This one.

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Speaker 1: First your sister in law, then your husband. Who is

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Speaker 1: your sister in law's brother. Of course, I don't even

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Speaker 1: know who does that. She started dating a brother and

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Speaker 1: a sister from the same family. It's kind of hard

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Speaker 1: to wrap your mind around that, isn't it. Anyway. I'm

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Speaker 1: glad his sister told you because he certainly wasn't giving

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Speaker 1: up any information. But what a way to find out.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm sure that had to hurt you and

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Speaker 1: all of that. Your husband is foul for his lives

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Speaker 1: and deceit. He's taking money out of your household to

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Speaker 1: pay her bills. You've only been married to him for

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Speaker 1: six years, but this is going on for the past

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Speaker 1: ten years. How has he been able to get away

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Speaker 1: with all of this foolishness for so long? Even if

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Speaker 1: he did say it was his cousin. And what is

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Speaker 1: all this locking himself in the guest bedroom about. I mean,

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Speaker 1: he's beyond immature. This man is not ready to be

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Speaker 1: anyone's husband, let alone yours for six years. He can't

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Speaker 1: be trusted with his lies and everything. You deserve way

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Speaker 1: better than a husband who pays another man's bills, another

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Speaker 1: woman's bills right under your nose. I mean this is

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Speaker 1: just wrong. I just think you know finding out this information.

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Speaker 1: This marriage is over, Steve.

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Speaker 2: Well that's to Shirley.

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Speaker 1: I know, yes that and love and love.

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Speaker 2: Yes, just kill this relationship. It is over. He did

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Speaker 2: in the water.

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Speaker 3: I have actually have happened to agree with you on

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Speaker 3: this one. I don't know how this one gonna survive

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Speaker 3: is here right here? But well, here we go with this.

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Speaker 3: I found some real foolishness in this letter. Anyway, Your

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Speaker 3: husband been taking care of female that he used to date.

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Speaker 3: Right now, what is the rest of this letter for us?

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Speaker 2: I could tell you right now.

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Speaker 3: This crazy person I live with, she can't have no

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Speaker 3: letter to start with this. And then it continued because

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Speaker 3: all this is a wash. My husband is taking care

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Speaker 3: of female he used to date. Met him nine years ago.

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Speaker 3: He was close with a female cousin that lives in Maryland.

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Speaker 3: He said he ain't seen in yeb they talk daily,

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Speaker 3: and it's strange to you because you say he's closer

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Speaker 3: to her cousin than he is.

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Speaker 2: His own sister.

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Speaker 3: He said that the relationship with his cousin causes tension

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Speaker 3: between him and his sister because his sister can't stand becusin. Well,

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Speaker 3: let's move on and find out why. I kept asking

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Speaker 3: him to meet up, but they always had an excuse.

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Speaker 3: I asked him who he texted. He says, cuz if

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Speaker 3: they FaceTime, and he hang up when I walk in

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Speaker 3: the room. Honestly, I never thought anything was up with them. Really,

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Speaker 3: you kind of slow. Here's a female cousin, he talk

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Speaker 3: to you all the time you've been wanting to meet,

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Speaker 3: won't let you meet him be on FaceTime? Hang up

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Speaker 3: when you walk in the room, and you ain't thought nothing?

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Speaker 3: Cuz okay, I started playing the Christmas trip to his parents' house.

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Speaker 3: I told my husband, now here we fine to find

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Speaker 3: out why there's tension.

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Speaker 2: Between the cousin and his sister.

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Speaker 3: I told my husband's sister that I want her to

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Speaker 3: short to be hating family members.

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Speaker 2: She told me the woman ain't her cousin. All hell.

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Speaker 2: That cause, for all.

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Speaker 3: Hell, that woman is not my cousin. I used to

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Speaker 3: date her. Oh he they had an affat together. They

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Speaker 3: was in a relationship, the female that your husband is

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Speaker 3: with and his sister was in a relationship, she told me.

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Speaker 3: And then when they broke up, the woman started dating her.

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Speaker 2: Brother, who is now your husband.

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Speaker 3: And she told me, get my fact straight, for I

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Speaker 3: come trying to be a peacemaker god though.

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Speaker 1: Okay, Steve, we'll have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: subject he's paying bills for his cousin. We'll get back

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Speaker 1: into it right after this. You're listening Steve Harvey Morning Show.

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Speaker 1: All right, come on, see, let's recap today's strawberry letter.

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Speaker 1: The subject he's paying bills for him?

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Speaker 3: Well, he's paying bills for his cousin. But we found

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Speaker 3: out in the letter it ain't his cousin. It's a

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Speaker 3: female cousin. And he used to date her, but it

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Speaker 3: looked like they still date.

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm confused.

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Speaker 3: And she didn't know this, but he told her he

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Speaker 3: had a cousin that he's really really close to him.

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Speaker 3: You thought it was surprising because he's actually closer to

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Speaker 3: her than he is his own sister. And he said, well,

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Speaker 3: the reason that is because they have some tension between them.

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Speaker 3: We found out the reason they have tension between them

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Speaker 3: is because the husband's sister and this female cousin used

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Speaker 3: to date, and when they broke up, she started dating her.

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Speaker 2: Brother, who is your husband. And that's what bills he paying.

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Speaker 3: He paying the bills, and you're not paying bills because

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Speaker 3: we used to date. Right, Yeah, men don't do retro pay.

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Speaker 3: I'm just gonna tell that we don't do retro pay.

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Speaker 3: We don't do backup pay with you. Anyway, I kept

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Speaker 3: asking to meet her exes and the reason she found

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Speaker 3: out they was cousins because she was playing in a

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Speaker 3: trip to her husband's parents house in Maryland and told

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Speaker 3: your husband's sister that I want her to work things

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Speaker 3: out with her cousin because life is too short to

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Speaker 3: be hating family members. She snapped, told me that the

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Speaker 3: woman ate her cousin, that she used to date the

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Speaker 3: woman and when they broke up, the woman started dating

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Speaker 3: her brother, who is now your husband. She told me

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Speaker 3: to get my fact straight before I come to her

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Speaker 3: being a peacemaker god dog. But now we have letter

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Speaker 3: after this. Why I don't know, but we have some

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Speaker 3: more letter and here we go. She said, my husband

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Speaker 3: has been paying this girl's rent and card note for years.

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Speaker 3: And she don't live in Maryland. She stayed about ten

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Speaker 3: miles from us. He been over there. I just told you,

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Speaker 3: we don't do retro pay. We don't send money across

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Speaker 3: state lines. That's a crime. That's a crime to send money,

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Speaker 3: Yes it is. That's mail fraud. That's wired Tampa, that's

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Speaker 3: cross cross line. You can't do that to people. That's

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Speaker 3: a crime, especially if it's a legal activity going on.

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Speaker 3: And this is not a legal illegal activity, but this

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Speaker 3: is an immoral illegal activity because you had a husband

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Speaker 3: and wife contrac So I called my husband on a

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Speaker 3: three way. First, she said, my chest tighten up and

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Speaker 3: I started seeing white stars. Last time that happened to me,

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Speaker 3: Larry Singleton had punched me in the jaw. That's the

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Speaker 3: last time my chest tightened up and I saw white stars.

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Speaker 3: Larry single damn then knock my hands out, So I

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Speaker 3: know the feeling. Anyway, I called my husband on the

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Speaker 3: three way and he hung up when I ask him

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Speaker 3: about his cousin.

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Speaker 2: Now listen this. He hung up.

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Speaker 3: He won't talk about it at all, and if I

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Speaker 3: bring it up, he locks hisself in our guess bedroom.

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Speaker 2: What you can do that?

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Speaker 3: Boy? Wait a minute, man, you can do that. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: Tommy kill. Next time you're having an argument with your wife,

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Speaker 3: walk away and lock yourself in another room.

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Speaker 2: That whole damn dough will be on fire, man, he would.

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Speaker 3: Boy, Now I tell you what that'll be the last

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Speaker 3: time you go in because you be walking down the

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Speaker 3: hallway and all the dolls is gone.

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Speaker 2: I didn't even know you could do that. Now here's it.

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Speaker 2: Here's a question.

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Speaker 3: I won't to know what money he's using to pay

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Speaker 3: her bills? What you want to know what money he's

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Speaker 3: using to pay her bills? Let me ask my radio

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Speaker 3: listening audience a question. When have you ever heard of

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Speaker 3: another money?

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Speaker 2: Right? She said? I want to know what money he's

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Speaker 2: using to pay her bills? What you mean? What money?

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Speaker 3: Who on this show has ever heard of another money?

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Speaker 2: All this money over here, this mind.

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Speaker 3: So if I'm paying your bills, it's got to be

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Speaker 3: with because you can't use nobody else money to pay

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Speaker 3: somebody else. You can't do that. Who's giving you the money? Hey, dog,

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Speaker 3: I know you got this girl.

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Speaker 2: Man, Just take money? Boy? Who do that? You can't

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Speaker 2: go to the bank? Excuse me? Not like take out

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Speaker 2: a long? Yeah? What is your loan for the day?

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Speaker 2: It's time. I got chick on the side and I

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Speaker 2: want and you want to ball money to do that

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Speaker 2: from us? Yeah? Who there, sir? Step away from the counter.

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Speaker 2: All right. Now, here's the other one.

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Speaker 3: Why would he marry me if he's been with her

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Speaker 3: all along? Well, that's it's called an affair, and you

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Speaker 3: try to keep that a secret. Here's the last question.

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Speaker 3: Why won't he tell me what's up? What the hell?

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Speaker 2: You don't know? What? What?

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Speaker 3: What you wanted to? You just told us what was up.

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Speaker 3: We know what's up. Now you say, why won't he

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Speaker 3: tell me what's up? I think really? Cause you stupid?

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