WEBVTT - Family Secrets: Season 6 Trailer

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<v Speaker 1>Already. When you're sixteen year old calls you at five am,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not normal. But she was screaming and saying that

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<v Speaker 1>the police were in the house. That's Mattie Corman speaking

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<v Speaker 1>about the day her family's secret came to light. And

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't understand what she was saying. And I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>even comprehend that police were in our house, let alone

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<v Speaker 1>why they were there. And I could also hear that

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<v Speaker 1>my boys, who were eleven at the time, were with her,

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<v Speaker 1>and I could hear them crying. And it was even

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<v Speaker 1>right now, I feel like my face is going to

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<v Speaker 1>fall off even just talking about this and remembering this moment,

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<v Speaker 1>because it was the moment that all of our lives

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<v Speaker 1>changed forever. I'm Danny Shapiro, and welcome to the new

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<v Speaker 1>season of Family Secrets. I'm so excited to share ten

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<v Speaker 1>extraordinary stories with you. The thing about Family Secrets is that, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we all have them, I mean everybody. The pod now

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<v Speaker 1>has over twenty two million downloads. It turns out so

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<v Speaker 1>many of us can relate. This is our best season yet,

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<v Speaker 1>which drops on Thursday, December nine. Here's Adam Man's back

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<v Speaker 1>speaking about the night his life changed forever. The first

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<v Speaker 1>thing my father asked me was whether I was sitting down,

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<v Speaker 1>which I don't think anybody had ever asked me that

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<v Speaker 1>in real life before. I guess that question is only

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<v Speaker 1>asked when you think that the news you're about to

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<v Speaker 1>deliver might literally knock somebody on their ass, that the

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<v Speaker 1>person's legs might stop working. I got off the phone

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<v Speaker 1>with my father and I stood there crying hysterically. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that I spoke out loud to my brother,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think I spoke in my head to my brother,

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<v Speaker 1>said something along the lines of like, what have you done?

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<v Speaker 1>And this is key? And Julie Wang, who learned as

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<v Speaker 1>a young child that keeping a secret was the only

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<v Speaker 1>way to protect her family, m I think the message

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<v Speaker 1>of having to lie about the fact that I immigrated,

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<v Speaker 1>the fact that English was my second language, the fact

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<v Speaker 1>that I was undocumented, embedded in me a deep shame

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<v Speaker 1>that went to the core of who I was. If

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<v Speaker 1>I couldn't tell people I was born in China, which

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<v Speaker 1>was at that point very central to my identity and

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<v Speaker 1>my life, it must have been to my childhood mind

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<v Speaker 1>that pretty much everything about me was worth being ashamed about,

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<v Speaker 1>and everything about me should be kept secret. Trench Wrestler

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<v Speaker 1>grew up on a cattle ranch in South Dakota, a

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<v Speaker 1>place where being a gay man was a dangerous thing,

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<v Speaker 1>so he had to keep a secret, especially from his dad,

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<v Speaker 1>about the very essence of his identity. Queer people don't

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<v Speaker 1>grow up as ourselves, you know. We grew up playing

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<v Speaker 1>a version of ourselves, and we did these mental summersaults

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<v Speaker 1>to try to justify who we are and present one

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<v Speaker 1>thing to the world and another thing that we keep inside.

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<v Speaker 1>And all of that erodes are authenticity and our sense

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<v Speaker 1>of self. And it totally has one purpose, which is

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<v Speaker 1>to minimize our own humiliation and our own shame. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I knew that if I came out, my parents would

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<v Speaker 1>not be okay with it, and I knew it would

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<v Speaker 1>cause a rupture. I hope you'll join me and my

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<v Speaker 1>amazing guests for this new season of family Secrets. Inside

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<v Speaker 1>every secret is a truth, and you know what they say,

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<v Speaker 1>The truth will set us free. Coming Thursday, December ninth,

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<v Speaker 1>from my Heart Media and available wherever you get your podcasts.