1 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:10,479 Speaker 1: Buckle up, hold on time. Here it is strawberry, letty, 2 00:00:12,760 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 1: strawberry Let people. Subject, it's a little bit in the 3 00:00:17,480 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: back of my throat, alright. Subject. Children with a married man, 4 00:00:26,280 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: Dear Morning Show. I am writing this because I was 5 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: messing with this married man for years, and I was 6 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 1: also married, but I am recently divorced. Anyway, me and 7 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,320 Speaker 1: this married man had two children on the side together, 8 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:41,960 Speaker 1: but we chose not to tell anyone about it. But 9 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:44,919 Speaker 1: now my children are getting older and they know who 10 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: their father is because after a while, I had no 11 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:50,680 Speaker 1: other choice but to tell them. My husband found out 12 00:00:50,720 --> 00:00:52,640 Speaker 1: when they were babies, and we worked it out. But 13 00:00:52,680 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: now my children want to have a relationship with this 14 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: man and his family. I don't know how to go 15 00:00:57,840 --> 00:00:59,720 Speaker 1: about it. He took care of them and came to 16 00:00:59,720 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: see them once in a while when they were growing up, 17 00:01:03,120 --> 00:01:06,600 Speaker 1: but they only know one man as their father. Should 18 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 1: I let them choose for themselves or tell them to 19 00:01:09,959 --> 00:01:13,600 Speaker 1: leave that cannib worm closed by the way. When his 20 00:01:13,640 --> 00:01:15,759 Speaker 1: wife found out, she divorced him, and he had three 21 00:01:15,840 --> 00:01:18,280 Speaker 1: children of his own already. Please help me to make 22 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:21,840 Speaker 1: the best choice with my children. I think if you 23 00:01:21,880 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: and your husband work this out. You're a pretty blessed lady, 24 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: because I just don't know too many men who would 25 00:01:29,240 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: have stood by their wives during you know, this kind 26 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 1: of mess. This was a mess. You're married, messing around 27 00:01:34,760 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: with a married man. Uh, they would have left just 28 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: like the other man's wife did. But to answer your question, yes, 29 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: I think since the children are older now and if 30 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:47,119 Speaker 1: they want to see their biological father and his kids 31 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,120 Speaker 1: their siblings, then let them. A lot of it is 32 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: going to be curiosity on their part. Um, I say, 33 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: just don't allow them to disrespect the man who raised them. Uh, 34 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 1: your husband. Don't allow them to disrespect him in any 35 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 1: way because he raised them as their own and um, 36 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 1: that's who they really know as their father during that time. Steve. Uh, 37 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:16,640 Speaker 1: it's something missing in this letter. Yeah, because I'm gonna 38 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:21,679 Speaker 1: tell you where it is. Um. First of all, the 39 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: both of you were married, you all start messing around 40 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:33,679 Speaker 1: with each other. And okay, you're also married while you 41 00:02:33,720 --> 00:02:37,120 Speaker 1: use messing with But I am recently divorced. Episode that 42 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:40,880 Speaker 1: means the ladies divorce. Anyway, Me and this man had 43 00:02:40,880 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: two children on the side together, but we chose not 44 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 1: to tell anyone about it. Wait, a minute, Wait a minute. 45 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,959 Speaker 1: We chose not to tell anybody about it? You mean 46 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: you mean you mean he didn't want his wife to know, 47 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: and you didn't want your parent, your husband to know. 48 00:03:05,120 --> 00:03:09,160 Speaker 1: Is that what those other people that you chose not 49 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 1: to tell? But now your children are getting older and 50 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:15,919 Speaker 1: they know who their father is because after a while, 51 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:19,880 Speaker 1: I had no other choice but to tell them. Okay, 52 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: wait a minute, I don't understand. How did they started 53 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 1: realizing that this other man was not the father. I 54 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 1: mean it's missing some pieces, yes, it's it's a lot 55 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 1: of pieces missing him. My husband found out when they 56 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: were babies, and we worked it out. Your husband found 57 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 1: out when when they were babies, and y'all worked it out. 58 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:54,760 Speaker 1: So you you were married after you had the kids 59 00:03:54,880 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: by this married man. That's what I'm going. I have 60 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,160 Speaker 1: news for you because I think got just fixed something out. 61 00:04:01,200 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 1: We'll be back. I'll tell you what I come on 62 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:06,160 Speaker 1: see with your responsive part two of this letter. Let's 63 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:10,760 Speaker 1: do it now. Children. See, I'm writing this morning because 64 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:13,560 Speaker 1: I wasn't messing with this married man for years, and 65 00:04:13,600 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: I was also married, but I'm recently divorced. Anyway, man, 66 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 1: this married man had two children on the side together, 67 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:21,520 Speaker 1: but we chose not to tell anyone about it. But 68 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:23,680 Speaker 1: now my children are getting older, they know who their 69 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: father is because after a while I had no other 70 00:04:26,160 --> 00:04:28,600 Speaker 1: choice but to tell him. My husband found out when 71 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 1: they were babies, and we worked it out. But now 72 00:04:31,640 --> 00:04:34,160 Speaker 1: my children want to have a relationship with this man 73 00:04:34,200 --> 00:04:37,120 Speaker 1: and his family. See this is there's a lot of informationists. 74 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:40,320 Speaker 1: Here's what I think. I think that she was messing 75 00:04:40,360 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: around with this married man before she got man. That's 76 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: what I think. She had the baby, then she had 77 00:04:51,760 --> 00:04:56,839 Speaker 1: to tell her new husband who the babies really were, 78 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: and then he went along with it and said that 79 00:04:59,360 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: ain't no problem. I'm raised him as mine. But then 80 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: they got a divorce. The children getting older, now they 81 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 1: want to know who they're real daddy is because the 82 00:05:09,360 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: dude you divorced ain't. I don't know if you're really 83 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: acting like the father any more, Blase Blase. So you 84 00:05:15,760 --> 00:05:18,400 Speaker 1: had no choice but to tell them. That's the only 85 00:05:18,440 --> 00:05:20,160 Speaker 1: thing that I can get out of this that might 86 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 1: make a little bit of sense, because if you had 87 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:27,200 Speaker 1: the babies by this man while you were still married 88 00:05:27,240 --> 00:05:30,080 Speaker 1: to this man, I don't think when you went in 89 00:05:30,160 --> 00:05:32,600 Speaker 1: there and told him that the babies wasn't here. I 90 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 1: don't really know how to de strawberry letter could have 91 00:05:34,640 --> 00:05:39,080 Speaker 1: went to smoothly. I really really don't. That's why I'm thinking, yeah, 92 00:05:39,120 --> 00:05:42,800 Speaker 1: that there's something else not now. The children want to 93 00:05:42,839 --> 00:05:46,080 Speaker 1: have relationship with this man and his family. You're talking 94 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:49,720 Speaker 1: about the married man and his family. Well, y'all decided 95 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 1: y'all couldn't tell it nobody in the beginning. I think 96 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,080 Speaker 1: at the beginning he chose not to tell it. You 97 00:05:55,160 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 1: went along with it. That's what I really think him there, 98 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:02,680 Speaker 1: you know, okay, yeah, Well he took care of them 99 00:06:02,720 --> 00:06:04,440 Speaker 1: and came to see them once in a while when 100 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 1: they were coming up. But they only know one man 101 00:06:06,800 --> 00:06:10,719 Speaker 1: and say, father, that would be the guy that you marry. 102 00:06:11,200 --> 00:06:14,160 Speaker 1: Should I let them choose for themselves or tell them 103 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:18,599 Speaker 1: to leave that can of worms clothes? Excuse me? Once 104 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:20,799 Speaker 1: a child gets a certain age, it ain't the choice 105 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 1: of yours anymore. A child has the right to know 106 00:06:24,720 --> 00:06:29,039 Speaker 1: who their father is. Period. It's it's who they are. 107 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:32,159 Speaker 1: You can't be talking about this a can of worms 108 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:37,080 Speaker 1: because you tripped. Come on, lady, you gotta let these 109 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:40,880 Speaker 1: kids know who their dad is. Whatever the situation, is well. 110 00:06:42,160 --> 00:06:44,479 Speaker 1: But you say, by the way, when his wife found out, 111 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:47,800 Speaker 1: she divorced him and they had three children on his 112 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:50,719 Speaker 1: own already. Please help me to make the best choice 113 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:53,640 Speaker 1: with my children. The best choice with your children is 114 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 1: to let your children know where their real father is. 115 00:06:57,120 --> 00:06:59,920 Speaker 1: Packing a lie on top of a mistake, ain't fitting 116 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 1: fix nothing. You made a mistake, Okay, lady, People make mistakes. 117 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: You're not the worst person in the world. You know. 118 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: God has a forgiving God. That's that's what he has 119 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 1: grace and merciful for when we all make mistakes, as 120 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: we all will do. So, you've made a mistake. You 121 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:17,320 Speaker 1: was with a married man. Okay, you did it. It's done. 122 00:07:18,240 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 1: Email us or Instagram. 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