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Speaker 4: My life, grinding all my life, sacrifice, hustle.

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Speaker 2: The Price, want a slice?

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Speaker 4: Gottor Brother Geys swap all my life, Poppy grinding all

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Speaker 4: All my life, pop Be grinding all my life.

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Speaker 1: Hello, welcome to another edition of Club Shaha. I am

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Speaker 1: your hole Shannon Sharp. I'm also the propriet of Club Shaha.

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Speaker 1: And the lady that's stopping by for conversation on the

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Speaker 1: drink today is an Emmy nominated NAACP Award, Image Award winner,

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Speaker 1: New York Times bestselling author, globally known and beloved social

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Speaker 1: media personality, one of TikTok's top three creator, a vegan icon,

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Speaker 1: plant based activist, Peter twenty twenty Person of the Year,

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Speaker 1: A mogul entrepreneur, ce CEO and actress producer Ride a

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Speaker 1: Whole fashion designer. Why America's Mom and Auntie Tabitha Brown?

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Speaker 3: Is that?

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Speaker 5: Honey?

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Speaker 3: Listen?

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Speaker 2: I was like, who did all that?

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Speaker 3: Did I need anything else?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 3: How are you doing this thing?

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Speaker 2: I'm doing amazing?

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Speaker 1: You man, I am doing this is an unbelievable honor

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Speaker 1: for me. When doing my research on you, I'm like, Wow,

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Speaker 1: I'm just not hearing about you. But you've been at

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I've been doing it for a long time. Yeah.

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Speaker 6: I think in the second phase of my life, which

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Speaker 6: has been the last six years.

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Speaker 2: When most people found me. Right, it's how most people

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Speaker 6: But I've been pursuing my dreams and entertainment for over

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Speaker 6: twenty plus years.

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Speaker 1: So when people refer to you as America's Mom or

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Speaker 3: Do you? Are you like, don't be calling me no Auntie?

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Speaker 5: I ain't.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, honey, I love it.

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Speaker 3: Yes, it's a term of endearment.

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Speaker 2: It's a term of endearment.

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Speaker 6: And also like for the term America's Mom. I had

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Speaker 6: that on my vision board for years and nobody knew

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Speaker 6: that really, but I wanted it because I wanted to

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Speaker 2: I looked at her like, oh, she's America's Mom. So

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Speaker 6: That, and I thought I'd have a show as an

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Speaker 2: But people call me that just for being me.

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Speaker 1: So when you were growing up, you're from a small

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Speaker 1: from Reidsville. Shut up, Hollywood. Hollywood is from Redsville.

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Speaker 2: Say it ain't. So come on with the three three cs.

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Speaker 2: We got to know each other again.

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Speaker 5: I talk people.

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Speaker 1: So when you're growing up, So what did what did

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Speaker 2: I wanted to be an actress.

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Speaker 2: And so I spent all my childhood trying to figure

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Speaker 2: And so my whole life, that's always been what I wanted.

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Speaker 2: You know, It's just always been the thing I love.

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Speaker 1: I'm from rule, South Georgia. I talked with a heavy

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Speaker 6: I covered it for years, for years, okay, from corporate

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Speaker 6: And so I took acting classes and you know, learned

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Speaker 6: code switch. Very early as a little girl. My mama

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Speaker 6: I did that, but I did it for so long,

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Speaker 6: Six years it has been my freedom walk and I

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Speaker 1: What did people say, because a lot of times they say, oh,

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Speaker 1: Oh yes, So, so how did how did they receive

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Speaker 2: Well, it was a normal thing, right.

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Speaker 6: A lot of people met me and didn't know no

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Speaker 6: So, now, when you know some of the people I

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Speaker 2: I was like, yeah, because I won't free.

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Speaker 3: Right.

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Speaker 2: But now, if you had ever come to my house.

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Speaker 6: And you was with me and my husband and my

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Speaker 1: But yeah, So why was it so important to get

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Speaker 1: back to Tabitha's original self and not let corporate America

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Speaker 1: change Because if you change your voice, you're changing who

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Speaker 1: is that North Carolina, right.

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 6: It was just about freedom, Like I had lost freedom.

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Speaker 6: You know, when you start to conform to make other

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Speaker 6: to fit in, it's not freedom, right. And so when

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Speaker 6: I got sick, my prayer was to God was if

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Speaker 6: you heal me, you can have me. And what I

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Speaker 6: be this Tabitha I created no more.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be who you created me to be. And

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I love that, And I've been letting him have

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Speaker 2: Every day you have.

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Speaker 3: A lot of sayings.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you're my you know, people hear me on

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Speaker 2: That's my dad and my daddy.

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Speaker 1: Have you always because I've never I shouldn't say never,

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Speaker 1: and see you, you're always smiling, You're always so happy.

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Speaker 1: Have you always been this person?

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Speaker 6: I have always been a joyful person. That's what my

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Speaker 6: the root of who I am. Right, I choose joy.

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Speaker 6: It's a it's an intentional choice every day. It doesn't

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Speaker 1: So it's very important for you to be positive even

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Speaker 3: Smiling like, hey go through right.

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Speaker 1: Yes, But it seems to me that you're very appreciative

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Speaker 3: That you're very, very, very appreciative. My grandmother used to.

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Speaker 1: don't be ungrateful to God. Yes, she said, you got

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Speaker 1: you woke up this morning, did you? So everything else

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Speaker 2: That's right, that's the gift. Wow, that's the gift.

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Speaker 1: So now that your struggles, you talk about how you're struggling,

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Speaker 3: What were those times?

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Speaker 2: Like those times were?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 6: I was living right, So I was pursuing acting, but

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Speaker 2: So we were working and trying.

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Speaker 6: To build and struggling and from North Carolina to california're

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Speaker 6: I couldn't see hass that I had to put myself in

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Speaker 2: And so that's what it was.

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Speaker 6: But I always had a job. I used to work

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Speaker 3: What type of employee was Tabitha?

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Speaker 2: Oh, listen, it's always a good employee.

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Speaker 6: Okay, I can go get a job right now, Okay,

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Speaker 6: right now, I can go get a job.

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Speaker 2: I ain't never been like.

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Speaker 3: I can see why you worked in the call center.

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Speaker 3: See how you do it today.

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Speaker 2: Exc So that's where I learned to coverage, right, you know? Yep?

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Speaker 1: the time that you were going through and you said something.

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Speaker 1: You said you were living, but is there's a difference

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Speaker 1: between living, surviving and thriving.

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Speaker 6: To do what Yet So when my mama was sick,

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Speaker 6: It plays a large role in my everyday life. In

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Speaker 2: I worked in the office at the office, Yeah, at Macy's.

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Speaker 6: I did it from October of twenty seventeen to December

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Speaker 2: I know how to read the room though, I know

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Speaker 6: But I also was like, in my mind, I'm about

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Speaker 2: Okay, so everybody that.

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Speaker 6: I thought I would find a pick up, the producer,

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Speaker 3: Cast, somebody that can put you on.

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Speaker 6: I said, I'm gonna get discovered in the car because

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Speaker 6: I think I picked up maybe one person who said

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Speaker 6: But I would every time somebody to get.

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Speaker 3: So you getting so you picked me up?

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Speaker 1: I have some water, have some wives, have some mints

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Speaker 2: I have all that.

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Speaker 6: I was just getting back on my feet. Just so,

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00:17:40,920 --> 00:17:42,240
Speaker 6: what y'all gonna get this mask?

448
00:17:44,240 --> 00:17:47,919
Speaker 3: You mentioned your little disability? What transpired? You? You're following you? No?

449
00:17:47,960 --> 00:17:48,520
Speaker 2: I got sick.

450
00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:48,840
Speaker 3: Sick.

451
00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:52,040
Speaker 6: I got sick in twenty sixteen, and uh I had

452
00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:53,960
Speaker 6: a headache in the back of my head and the

453
00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,480
Speaker 6: headache was there every day for a year and seven months,

454
00:17:56,760 --> 00:17:58,959
Speaker 6: and I started having chronic fatigue in my body and

455
00:17:59,040 --> 00:18:02,240
Speaker 6: chronic pain throughout, and I just could not get well,

456
00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:05,000
Speaker 6: and going to the doctor every week and every month

457
00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:06,920
Speaker 6: and doing blood work and.

458
00:18:06,880 --> 00:18:09,720
Speaker 2: All kind of like MRIs, everything would come back normal.

459
00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:12,040
Speaker 6: They couldn't figure out what's wrong with right, And so

460
00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:13,960
Speaker 6: they just told me one day, they were like, we

461
00:18:14,040 --> 00:18:16,560
Speaker 6: know that it's something out of immune making your body

462
00:18:16,600 --> 00:18:17,400
Speaker 6: attack itself.

463
00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:18,920
Speaker 2: We just can't figure it out.

464
00:18:19,240 --> 00:18:21,560
Speaker 6: And so of course when somebody tell you we know

465
00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:22,760
Speaker 6: something wrong with you, but we don't know.

466
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Speaker 1: Hold on, y'all went to all this school, man, y'all

467
00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:27,679
Speaker 1: went to school for ten, fifteen, twenty years. Y'all are

468
00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:30,119
Speaker 1: waiting to get all these yea, and y'all don't nobody

469
00:18:30,160 --> 00:18:31,000
Speaker 1: know nothing.

470
00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:33,359
Speaker 6: No, no, So that cost me to fall into the

471
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Speaker 6: dark depression.

472
00:18:34,400 --> 00:18:37,000
Speaker 1: So now you depressed because you've got people that's very, very,

473
00:18:37,560 --> 00:18:40,960
Speaker 1: very well educated, and they can't diagnose or tell you

474
00:18:41,040 --> 00:18:43,800
Speaker 1: what's wrong or how long this is going to go on.

475
00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:44,880
Speaker 2: This is very true.

476
00:18:45,160 --> 00:18:48,199
Speaker 3: Yeah, wow, yeah, you try and stand up.

477
00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:51,480
Speaker 2: I did. I was doing it for a little while, honey,

478
00:18:51,480 --> 00:18:52,560
Speaker 2: And it was right, good in it?

479
00:18:52,720 --> 00:18:54,720
Speaker 3: How many jobs? How many time to figure how many

480
00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:55,280
Speaker 3: jobs you had?

481
00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:57,760
Speaker 2: Or you jaica listen, it's probably my rooms.

482
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Speaker 6: Okay, maybe I mean ups Mazie's uber stand up?

483
00:19:05,880 --> 00:19:07,800
Speaker 3: What made you decide to do stand up? Were you

484
00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:08,680
Speaker 3: fron other child?

485
00:19:09,040 --> 00:19:10,800
Speaker 2: Oh? Always? Comedy is natural for me?

486
00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:11,080
Speaker 3: Right?

487
00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:13,360
Speaker 6: Okay, but I told you my daddy used to buy

488
00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:16,320
Speaker 6: me Joe book. We used to watch stand up all

489
00:19:16,359 --> 00:19:18,680
Speaker 6: the time. My daddy was a big richer prior thing. Yes,

490
00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:21,159
Speaker 6: Jerry Clyd were like all the like. We used to

491
00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:24,520
Speaker 6: listen to the records and listen to comedy and then

492
00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:27,080
Speaker 6: death comedy Jam when that came, would record them all.

493
00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:29,359
Speaker 6: I would play them over and over and over. So

494
00:19:29,400 --> 00:19:32,240
Speaker 6: it was just a thing that I loved and I respect.

495
00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:34,600
Speaker 6: And so when I was trying to get a TV

496
00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:36,719
Speaker 6: show because I was acting and acting, and I was like, man,

497
00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:38,080
Speaker 6: these comedians keep getting.

498
00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:40,240
Speaker 2: TV shows, let me go try some standing.

499
00:19:41,440 --> 00:19:43,640
Speaker 6: So that's why I did it. That's why I did it,

500
00:19:43,960 --> 00:19:44,760
Speaker 6: trying to get a show.

501
00:19:45,440 --> 00:19:47,679
Speaker 3: So you were good. So did you get booed?

502
00:19:48,119 --> 00:19:48,199
Speaker 4: No?

503
00:19:48,560 --> 00:19:51,120
Speaker 2: Never, really never?

504
00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:52,719
Speaker 3: So why did you give it up?

505
00:19:53,160 --> 00:19:55,680
Speaker 2: I got seeck. So when I got sick.

506
00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:56,720
Speaker 3: You thought about going back.

507
00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:59,760
Speaker 2: I'm not really every blue moon people would be like

508
00:19:59,800 --> 00:20:01,200
Speaker 2: you you stand up again.

509
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:06,920
Speaker 6: I think that now what I do it has stand

510
00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:08,040
Speaker 6: up in its own way, right.

511
00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:12,040
Speaker 2: But I realized why I love stand up so much.

512
00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:15,239
Speaker 6: It is really to make people feel well, right, And

513
00:20:15,280 --> 00:20:16,119
Speaker 6: I do that anyway.

514
00:20:16,240 --> 00:20:18,920
Speaker 3: You do your personality. You walk into the room.

515
00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,760
Speaker 1: You walked into the room and you have this big

516
00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:24,800
Speaker 1: smile and you're like full of energy and vibrants. It's like,

517
00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:27,280
Speaker 1: even if I'm down, like, damn, she happy. So something

518
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,399
Speaker 1: must be going back to happen to me because she

519
00:20:29,560 --> 00:20:31,960
Speaker 1: just came outside. So when I go back outside, it's

520
00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:33,400
Speaker 1: gonna be it's gonna be sunny again.

521
00:20:34,320 --> 00:20:40,000
Speaker 3: So you didn't meet anybody in La. How did this

522
00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:40,880
Speaker 3: start to take off?

523
00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:46,960
Speaker 1: I read that you did you critique Whole Foods a vegan.

524
00:20:46,760 --> 00:20:47,920
Speaker 2: The sandwich sandwich?

525
00:20:48,080 --> 00:20:48,399
Speaker 5: Yes?

526
00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:51,679
Speaker 1: And from fifty thousand views to a million views and

527
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Speaker 1: that was really the launching or the jumping off point

528
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Speaker 1: for you.

529
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:57,439
Speaker 2: Yes. So I was driving over right. So this is

530
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Speaker 2: December thirty of the twenty seventeen.

531
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Speaker 6: I had been a new vegan for a couple of months,

532
00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:04,000
Speaker 6: so I had just started doing videos in these couple

533
00:21:04,040 --> 00:21:07,280
Speaker 6: of months to tell people excuse me when I find

534
00:21:07,520 --> 00:21:09,800
Speaker 6: a new vegan option, or I would cook in my kitchen.

535
00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:11,000
Speaker 2: I'm gonna share it with y'all.

536
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 6: And so I had dropped somebody off buy Whole Foods,

537
00:21:13,560 --> 00:21:15,000
Speaker 6: and I was like, oh, I need a little breakfast.

538
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:17,560
Speaker 6: Whole Foods always got a vegan option. Went in there,

539
00:21:17,920 --> 00:21:20,200
Speaker 6: and I had never heard of vegan bacon at the time.

540
00:21:20,240 --> 00:21:22,840
Speaker 6: I was like, oh, I got a bot, but it's vegan.

541
00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:25,280
Speaker 6: Let me get that why they got a play baseall again,

542
00:21:27,800 --> 00:21:30,800
Speaker 6: reall yes, And so I got it ate the first

543
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,560
Speaker 6: half of the Sundar so quick. I was like, oh lord,

544
00:21:32,560 --> 00:21:34,119
Speaker 6: I need to do a video to tell people I

545
00:21:34,160 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 6: found a new vegan option.

546
00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:37,600
Speaker 2: So, sitting in my car, I did the video, posted it,

547
00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:38,800
Speaker 2: I went on back to drive an uber.

548
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Speaker 6: I ain't think anything really up the video because I

549
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,600
Speaker 6: was already doing videos and they won't getting like no

550
00:21:44,840 --> 00:21:47,160
Speaker 6: thousands of us. They would get like a couple hundred views,

551
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:49,159
Speaker 6: a couple thousand over a couple of weeks, you know.

552
00:21:49,880 --> 00:21:52,240
Speaker 6: And so when I got back home and termed my

553
00:21:52,280 --> 00:21:54,399
Speaker 6: notifications on that video had like over.

554
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:55,360
Speaker 2: Fifty thousand views. Wow.

555
00:21:55,400 --> 00:21:58,439
Speaker 6: And then I was like, well, we're watching the video like,

556
00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 6: I don't know. And then the next morning when I

557
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 6: checked it again, it had over one hundred and some thousand.

558
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:03,880
Speaker 6: I was like, I told my husband I think I'm

559
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,719
Speaker 6: going viral, and he was say, what that mean.

560
00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:07,760
Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know. He was liked, well,

561
00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:09,359
Speaker 2: you gonna make some money. I was like, I don't know.

562
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 3: I don't know that either.

563
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:13,160
Speaker 6: But four days later, Whole Food's reached out on Facebook

564
00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:14,879
Speaker 6: and my DM and it was like, we saw your video.

565
00:22:14,880 --> 00:22:16,440
Speaker 2: We'd love to work with the honey of the rest

566
00:22:16,520 --> 00:22:17,439
Speaker 2: in history ever since then.

567
00:22:17,480 --> 00:22:20,360
Speaker 1: Ye, so Whole Food's reaching out in your DM. You're

568
00:22:20,400 --> 00:22:21,879
Speaker 1: mispronouncing the sandwich wrong.

569
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Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

570
00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 1: They ended up they ended up saying, okay, we're gonna

571
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Speaker 1: call it what you call it.

572
00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:32,560
Speaker 6: Yes, it was originally TLTA for ten fee letters Tomato Avocado.

573
00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 6: I called it TTLA okay cause I was just excited

574
00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:37,160
Speaker 6: and I thought I said it right, but I said

575
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Speaker 6: it wrong, So they changed it to TTLA.

576
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Speaker 1: Did you go vegan because of what was transpiring with

577
00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:45,159
Speaker 1: your body? The auto immune deficient the thing that you

578
00:22:45,240 --> 00:22:46,960
Speaker 1: had going on? And you say, you know what, I

579
00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:48,720
Speaker 1: meet meat and I'm putting all this process food in

580
00:22:48,760 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 1: my body, Let me try.

581
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 2: This, Yes, so I went vegan.

582
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Speaker 6: My daughter came home from school one day during this

583
00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:56,880
Speaker 6: time of my sickness, and she was like, we saw

584
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:58,840
Speaker 6: this documentary at school today, Mom, I think you should

585
00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 6: watch it. And it was What the Help on Netflix,

586
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,680
Speaker 6: and so we watched it together and I told my husband,

587
00:23:03,720 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 6: I was like, mmm, when they started talking about not

588
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 6: all diseases being hereditaries that they can eat the same

589
00:23:08,640 --> 00:23:11,120
Speaker 6: thing that can cause the same disease in our family,

590
00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:13,159
Speaker 6: and I thought, well, my mama.

591
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 2: Died at fifty one, a rare disease. There's no cause

592
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:16,200
Speaker 2: or cure.

593
00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 6: And my daddy was the first man to ever turn

594
00:23:18,160 --> 00:23:20,760
Speaker 6: seventy in our family. Wow, And people die young in

595
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 6: my family and they get seeking young ages. And so

596
00:23:23,440 --> 00:23:25,439
Speaker 6: I thought, well, the only thing we had in common

597
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:27,680
Speaker 6: was how we ate. And I wasn't a bad eater,

598
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,760
Speaker 6: right because you know, I was in Hollywood, But I wasn't.

599
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:32,840
Speaker 2: Eating to feel well. I was eating to look a

600
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,760
Speaker 2: certain way and that's not the way to live, right.

601
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 6: And so I told my husband. I was like, let's

602
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:39,960
Speaker 6: do a thirty day began challenge because I had tried

603
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:47,359
Speaker 6: every drug. Yeah, did it as a family days because

604
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Speaker 6: I mean, I had taken all the drugs the doctors

605
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:50,879
Speaker 6: gave me because I was a guinea pig. You know,

606
00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:53,520
Speaker 6: you don't know what whatever you want to offer me.

607
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:54,680
Speaker 2: I'm desperate to feel better.

608
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:57,600
Speaker 6: Shots in my head, shots in my so I was

609
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Speaker 6: doing everything. So we did it for thirty days. In

610
00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 6: the first ten days, the headache I got had every

611
00:24:02,119 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 6: day for a year and seven months disappeared. And so

612
00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:06,040
Speaker 6: I was like, wait a minute, that's how I look.

613
00:24:06,280 --> 00:24:08,000
Speaker 6: See that little thing you do with your head, That's.

614
00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:09,639
Speaker 3: What I say. Okay, okay, So I figured.

615
00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:11,040
Speaker 6: I was like, you know what, I'm on the something.

616
00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:12,879
Speaker 6: And then after the thirty days, I was getting the

617
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:15,639
Speaker 6: energy again. My pain was leaving my body, and I

618
00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:17,159
Speaker 6: was starting to feel like myself. And I was like,

619
00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 6: you know what, this is gonna be my life. I'm

620
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,520
Speaker 6: gonna go vegan right here. I am almost six yeard

621
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Speaker 6: on thirty days. He said, babe, I told him. I said,

622
00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:27,480
Speaker 6: I'm gonna be begging back. I'm not going back.

623
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Speaker 2: He said, that's so good for you. But tomorrow and

624
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:29,800
Speaker 2: need a piece of cheek.

625
00:24:30,359 --> 00:24:32,480
Speaker 1: Yeah know what I'm thinking. I'm like, I feel good.

626
00:24:32,520 --> 00:24:34,520
Speaker 1: I ain't got no headache about stuff. It don't hurt,

627
00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 1: and I got plenty of energy.

628
00:24:35,840 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, I said, you know what, that's your business, right,

629
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Speaker 6: But he did it two years after I was veging.

630
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Speaker 2: I was begging for two years, and then he decided

631
00:24:43,240 --> 00:24:43,680
Speaker 2: on his own.

632
00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:46,960
Speaker 6: He watched a different documentary Game Changes, and that's from

633
00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 6: the athletes and a man's point of view, and then

634
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:50,800
Speaker 6: he did it himself and was vegan for two years,

635
00:24:50,840 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 6: and then he recently went back to eating fish and chicken.

636
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 3: Yep. Right.

637
00:24:56,240 --> 00:25:00,399
Speaker 1: Did you know social media had the power that it

638
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:02,040
Speaker 1: had before you went viral?

639
00:25:02,200 --> 00:25:02,360
Speaker 5: No?

640
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:06,040
Speaker 6: I didn't think anything really of social media, you know

641
00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 6: when you for me as an actress, I was always

642
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 6: told you don't get on their honey. Yeah, theyin't gonna

643
00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:13,679
Speaker 6: take it serious, I think, and I kind of believe that,

644
00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:15,000
Speaker 6: kind of like over the years.

645
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 2: Of me believing other things that the industry told me.

646
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 2: But I was doing what God told me to do, right.

647
00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 6: I only got on social media because I had a

648
00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:25,200
Speaker 6: dream and I saw myself on the show.

649
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,560
Speaker 2: And I have always had the gift of dreaming and sining.

650
00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:31,760
Speaker 6: So when I woke up and I asked God to

651
00:25:31,800 --> 00:25:33,400
Speaker 6: reveal that to me, because I was like, I'm sick.

652
00:25:33,440 --> 00:25:35,919
Speaker 2: I'm not out auditioning, I'm not doing stand up.

653
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:38,520
Speaker 6: How was I on the show and the words that

654
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 6: I heard was started doing videos.

655
00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh, no, Lord, I'm not about

656
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:43,600
Speaker 2: to do these videos. I don't do that.

657
00:25:43,840 --> 00:25:48,760
Speaker 6: I'm an actress, okay, But he was very adamant. God

658
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,600
Speaker 6: was just like, this is what you need to do.

659
00:25:51,760 --> 00:25:53,119
Speaker 6: He said, when you were trying to get a show,

660
00:25:53,400 --> 00:25:55,520
Speaker 6: you were doing stand up. You was reaching fifteen thirty

661
00:25:55,520 --> 00:25:57,440
Speaker 6: people a night, he said, but if you start doing

662
00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:58,399
Speaker 6: these videos, you'll.

663
00:25:58,240 --> 00:25:59,439
Speaker 2: Reach thousands and minutes.

664
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:01,719
Speaker 6: And I was like, Lord, I ain't even got thousands

665
00:26:01,760 --> 00:26:04,240
Speaker 6: of people to reach in minutes, Like this don't make sense.

666
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 6: And then he reminded me of the moment in the

667
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:08,600
Speaker 6: bathroom when I had said God, if you heal me,

668
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,199
Speaker 6: you can have me, so which meant I had to

669
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Speaker 6: be obedient. So when I first started doing my videos,

670
00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:15,920
Speaker 6: I was doing the same like jokes and stuff I

671
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,520
Speaker 6: would do on stage as a comedian, but I'd be

672
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:20,119
Speaker 6: sitting on my bed or sitting on my couch.

673
00:26:20,359 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 2: It had nothing to do with food.

674
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Speaker 6: Then, over that time, when my daughter came home and

675
00:26:25,119 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 6: I decided to go vegan, the moment I told my

676
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:30,639
Speaker 6: husband I'm going vegan. The whisper in my ear was,

677
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,520
Speaker 6: now tell people what you're eating in your videos. And

678
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 6: I was like, oh Lord, I gotta tell these people

679
00:26:35,359 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 6: I'm vegan. I'm from North Carolina. This time I had

680
00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:39,919
Speaker 6: also shaved off all my hair, so I did the

681
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:42,119
Speaker 6: big chop. I was like, Lord, if I get on

682
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 6: here and tell people, it ain't no challenge, Like it's

683
00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 6: my life.

684
00:26:44,840 --> 00:26:45,959
Speaker 3: I'm going to be right.

685
00:26:46,000 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: This is a lifestyle now, this is not thirty day

686
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:48,960
Speaker 1: sixty day challenge.

687
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:50,920
Speaker 6: Is this is gonna be it. I was like, they're

688
00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:52,640
Speaker 6: gonna be like that girl to finally lost my mind.

689
00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,199
Speaker 6: I just Hollywood. But I was like, I can't care

690
00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:56,960
Speaker 6: about it. I got to be obedient and do what

691
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 6: God has called me to do.

692
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Speaker 3: So I had Steve Harvey on a couple of weeks ago.

693
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Speaker 2: He said it was amazing.

694
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,399
Speaker 1: Thank you, And he said, the number one killer of

695
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:08,640
Speaker 1: dreams is family and friends. When you told your husband

696
00:27:09,359 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 1: about this dream, about this vision you have, it seems

697
00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 1: that I've watched a lot of your videos that he's

698
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 1: been so supported in your dream.

699
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 2: Well, you know, I'm gonna let him tell you eventually.

700
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:21,719
Speaker 2: But I was crazy.

701
00:27:21,880 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay.

702
00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,520
Speaker 6: I would have I'd be like, God showed me this

703
00:27:25,880 --> 00:27:28,560
Speaker 6: because I have, like I talk about it in my

704
00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:32,200
Speaker 6: first book. Right, I've always had the gift of seeing,

705
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:34,639
Speaker 6: whether I'm awake or asleep, I can see things that

706
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 6: nobody else sees. I can hear things nobody.

707
00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 3: Else here because he's talking to you, talking to me.

708
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 6: Right, and so I and he's showing me things. My

709
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 6: dreads and my mama would always tell me that. She

710
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:45,439
Speaker 6: was like, you know, God gave you the vision, not

711
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:48,719
Speaker 6: anybody else. It's up to me to make it manifest

712
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 6: so that others will become believers.

713
00:27:50,760 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 2: Right, but you speak it so that they know it

714
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:53,399
Speaker 2: is real.

715
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Speaker 6: And so you know, there were many times I would

716
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:59,520
Speaker 6: tell him and he'd be like, okay, all right. You

717
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 6: know he would go along because he loves me, not

718
00:28:02,720 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 6: necessarily because he believe it. But now he'd be like, dang,

719
00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:08,840
Speaker 6: everything that you was were living in the dream.

720
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 2: Now do we ever come up.

721
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:16,040
Speaker 1: And said, baby, you thought of something. Everything we judge it,

722
00:28:16,040 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 1: It goes anyway you thought about it.

723
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 2: You thought about something, Yes, yes, you listen. I'll let

724
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:21,680
Speaker 2: him tell you.

725
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 3: So what a social media platform.

726
00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 1: I mean, obviously it's Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, TikTok, what's what's

727
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:29,160
Speaker 1: your preference?

728
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,520
Speaker 6: I don't really have a preference, but I started on

729
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:36,679
Speaker 6: face Facebook, right, that's my original order, right, which is

730
00:28:36,920 --> 00:28:37,760
Speaker 6: my older order?

731
00:28:37,880 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I thought Facebook was like for family reunions,

732
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:41,360
Speaker 1: class reunion?

733
00:28:41,560 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 3: Hey, how you doing that?

734
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:42,600
Speaker 2: Hey?

735
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:45,680
Speaker 3: You know we went to school together. But people are

736
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:47,560
Speaker 3: all really on Facebook.

737
00:28:47,360 --> 00:28:51,760
Speaker 6: On there, they really only and they are loyal and

738
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 6: dedicated to their.

739
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 2: People, right, and my following years, I call him family.

740
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Speaker 6: Nobody more loyal than my think right, they show up

741
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:03,680
Speaker 6: for me, right, and they and I have Instagram as well,

742
00:29:03,760 --> 00:29:04,520
Speaker 6: I mean I have them all.

743
00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 2: Instagram is huge for me as well.

744
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:10,800
Speaker 6: But I've never cooked live anywhere else other than Facebook.

745
00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 3: So are you the social media opera?

746
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,760
Speaker 6: I don't know, but people call me that. They just

747
00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 6: a lot of people like you. Are you the new

748
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,160
Speaker 6: Oprah for us? And I'd be like, well, god bless

749
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 6: it all?

750
00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:23,840
Speaker 1: Right, but there's something But you're different. But you're cooking,

751
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 1: but you're giving inspirational talk.

752
00:29:27,080 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 3: Yes as you.

753
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 2: Cook and sometimes I'm not cooking at all, and.

754
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:34,120
Speaker 3: You feel, yes, was your did your mom? Is that?

755
00:29:34,280 --> 00:29:36,200
Speaker 3: Did you? Where do you get that from Where did you? Why?

756
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 1: Where did you? And why did you decide to add

757
00:29:38,560 --> 00:29:39,600
Speaker 1: that aspect to it?

758
00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 2: That was always a thing that I have inside of me.

759
00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,400
Speaker 6: Like my friends, my family, they know like I'm that

760
00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:52,360
Speaker 6: person that would always pour into other people. It just

761
00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 6: it's a natural thing for me. But you know, after

762
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 6: I went through my season of the darkness, I was

763
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 6: doing whatever God called me to do, right and I

764
00:30:00,600 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 6: still am. So when God puts something in my heart,

765
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Speaker 6: I'd be like, oh, okay, I need to share this

766
00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 6: with somebody.

767
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:07,000
Speaker 2: It can't just be for me, right, Yeah?

768
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 3: You so celebrities obviously everybody.

769
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,640
Speaker 1: CJ, my producer, his wife is here, says and this

770
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:15,160
Speaker 1: is the first time she come on the set or

771
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,479
Speaker 1: the second time. If you brought a family right there

772
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 1: in the green, she is like, I gotta meet Tabitha.

773
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 1: I got to see Tabitha. I so many people.

774
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:25,720
Speaker 3: When they's like, well who you got on the podcast,

775
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 3: I'm saying I got Tabitha.

776
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 1: Bron Man telling Tabitha Brown, tell I love her, tell

777
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,600
Speaker 1: I love her. Everybody seems to love you. There's nothing

778
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,920
Speaker 1: bad to be. What does that make you feel?

779
00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 3: Like?

780
00:30:35,040 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 1: With so many celebrities, we understand the fan base, but

781
00:30:39,360 --> 00:30:43,960
Speaker 1: a lot of famous people. No, Tabitha Brown loves Tabitha Brown.

782
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:50,560
Speaker 6: I mean, I feel grateful right to be loved. But

783
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 6: the most I think the most important part for.

784
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:54,760
Speaker 2: Me is that people just love me just for being me.

785
00:30:55,000 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 6: Yes, you know, so I feel like family and I

786
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:00,600
Speaker 6: think that's what it is for people. People just feel

787
00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 6: like I'm part of their family too, And that's intentional

788
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 6: for me, Like I want people to feel like we're family.

789
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:07,960
Speaker 1: So that seems so approachable. You seem so down to earth.

790
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 1: You don't give the like, don't come talk to me.

791
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,760
Speaker 1: I'm busy, I'm in a hurry. You give the vibe like, hey,

792
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:14,280
Speaker 1: how you doing?

793
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:16,520
Speaker 3: Come talk? Say hello? It'll do yourself.

794
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:18,440
Speaker 2: I'm going in. I'm going in for the hood.

795
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:22,000
Speaker 6: Like hey, like I love that, But I also like,

796
00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,120
Speaker 6: how dare I not have time for the people who

797
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:25,840
Speaker 6: help me climb?

798
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 2: You know, I am.

799
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 6: In this position, hey, because God said I could have it,

800
00:31:30,120 --> 00:31:32,840
Speaker 6: but because people support me. And so when I have events,

801
00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:34,560
Speaker 6: you know, if my team was here, they would tell

802
00:31:34,600 --> 00:31:37,640
Speaker 6: you I have events. And if there's a meet and greet,

803
00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:38,920
Speaker 6: you better not put a time on it for me

804
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:42,320
Speaker 6: because I'm gonna see every person, Like literally, it will

805
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 6: go from a hour to ten hours, right.

806
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:46,200
Speaker 1: Because you're having a conversation, you're taking a picture and

807
00:31:46,200 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 1: you having a conversation, Hey, how is your day going?

808
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:52,520
Speaker 1: You know, my mom loves you and you're like obviously

809
00:31:52,600 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 1: before you had a team in before people got your number.

810
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: Obviously you have a team, you have a business manager.

811
00:31:57,760 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 1: A lot of the things that would transaction that were

812
00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 1: happening in your DM. You said, Whole Foods reached out

813
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:04,120
Speaker 1: in your.

814
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:06,040
Speaker 2: DM absolutely on Facebook.

815
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: So do people still reach out and try to and

816
00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:12,120
Speaker 1: want to do business with you even though you got

817
00:32:12,120 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 1: a team that.

818
00:32:14,040 --> 00:32:15,720
Speaker 2: And you don't always pray before I go into my

819
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:17,800
Speaker 2: dms because I need to. I always say, God, let me.

820
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 6: See who what I'm supposed to see, because there's so

821
00:32:19,560 --> 00:32:20,760
Speaker 6: many I ever see them all.

822
00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:23,920
Speaker 2: But there's still people who can't get.

823
00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:25,960
Speaker 6: To my team because you know, some some things depending

824
00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 6: on like you know, when your agency is big.

825
00:32:27,840 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 2: They won't entertain certain things.

826
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 6: But those are the ones that I'll send to my

827
00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 6: other team that'll be like, I want to do this

828
00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 6: for you know, it ain't about the money, It's about

829
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 6: the people.

830
00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:36,840
Speaker 3: Wow.

831
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:41,000
Speaker 1: So but you also have to be careful because for

832
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,920
Speaker 1: every good deal that could potentially come along, there's a

833
00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 1: scam and the one thing that you don't want the

834
00:32:45,720 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 1: ding on Tabitha Brown's name. You work so hard for

835
00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 1: this reputation and this Christine, and you like to keep

836
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,960
Speaker 1: it in tap. So what's the process of going through it?

837
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:57,960
Speaker 1: Says Okay, is it your husband? Is it your team

838
00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,400
Speaker 1: that you get down to it and says okay, I

839
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,600
Speaker 1: think this might be this is something that we might

840
00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:05,720
Speaker 1: need to entertain or something like, Nah, I'm gonna stay

841
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:06,120
Speaker 1: away from that.

842
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 2: When you mean like it to come into DM. Yeah, yeah,

843
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 2: if it coming to DM, like, I'll send it to

844
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,240
Speaker 2: my team and like you let them better, Yeah, bet

845
00:33:14,240 --> 00:33:15,240
Speaker 2: this and see if it's real.

846
00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:15,560
Speaker 1: Right.

847
00:33:15,640 --> 00:33:16,520
Speaker 2: Yeah.

848
00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,520
Speaker 6: But then also I don't say yes to nothing without prayer, right,

849
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:23,160
Speaker 6: So I pray about it and I'll say, okay, we

850
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 6: can move forward.

851
00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 3: I surely appreciate you praying about this because.

852
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,480
Speaker 6: When I told my husband, he was like, oh, you're

853
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:32,680
Speaker 6: doing this.

854
00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:36,120
Speaker 3: But you you've done so much. I mean you have.

855
00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:39,040
Speaker 1: Let's talk about the spices because I have a friend

856
00:33:39,040 --> 00:33:42,800
Speaker 1: of mine and she says, tell Tabitha that I bought

857
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:45,840
Speaker 1: fifteen of those of those spices. My mom bought ten.

858
00:33:46,120 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 1: I said, why the hell y'all bought ten? To the

859
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 1: safe talk about they sell out?

860
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 2: Yeah they yeah. In the beginning.

861
00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 6: The first time I dropped Sunshine was my first season.

862
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 6: It sold out I think in twenty six minutes online,

863
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:00,720
Speaker 6: and so I had no I did it, was gonna

864
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:03,160
Speaker 6: do this right, And then we released it again. And

865
00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:06,960
Speaker 6: then maybe like six months later, it broke the site

866
00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:09,279
Speaker 6: for McCormick and it was so it sold out in

867
00:34:09,320 --> 00:34:11,759
Speaker 6: like forty six minutes. Probably have sold out quicker, but

868
00:34:11,800 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 6: the site broke and so when it got back up,

869
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 6: it took about forty six minutes. And so then we

870
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,240
Speaker 6: were like, we gotta put it in stores right online

871
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,680
Speaker 6: it's just not it's not. Yeah, So now it's available everywhere.

872
00:34:20,719 --> 00:34:24,319
Speaker 6: Now I have new spices that are now literally rolling

873
00:34:24,360 --> 00:34:25,360
Speaker 6: out the spring and summer.

874
00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:27,359
Speaker 3: I mean, you named and now you got a hair

875
00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 3: care product.

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00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:30,600
Speaker 6: Uh huh, Donna's recipe because it's Donna In case you

877
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Speaker 6: didn't know it, don she on break Caation right now,

878
00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:35,520
Speaker 6: break Caation yeah, yeah, Breid Cash.

879
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:36,280
Speaker 2: Yeah.

880
00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 1: So so what made you decide to come up with spices?

881
00:34:39,760 --> 00:34:42,440
Speaker 1: Because you said you want to be an actress you didn't.

882
00:34:42,520 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: I didn't hear you say you want to be Martha

883
00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:48,080
Speaker 1: Stewart or some cooking expert. But now you got spices

884
00:34:48,120 --> 00:34:50,880
Speaker 1: you cook. How did you transition? How did you weave

885
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:53,839
Speaker 1: your way and navigate your way to like, Okay, I'm

886
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:55,439
Speaker 1: done with this, so let me come over here.

887
00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 6: So, as I started doing the videos and cooking right,

888
00:34:58,760 --> 00:35:02,040
Speaker 6: I was like literally letting God order my steps. So

889
00:35:02,400 --> 00:35:05,840
Speaker 6: as I'm cooking, I'm reading comments people like hell, do

890
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:08,560
Speaker 6: you need your own spices? And I'd be like, I

891
00:35:08,560 --> 00:35:12,600
Speaker 6: guess maybe I do need my own spices, right, But

892
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 6: I don't know. And you know, the first year, I'm

893
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:18,080
Speaker 6: just cooking and I'm talking, I'm cooking, and then I

894
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:19,600
Speaker 6: thought about it. I was like, you know what, I

895
00:35:19,640 --> 00:35:21,799
Speaker 6: do use a lot of different spices, and I'm really

896
00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:25,000
Speaker 6: big on being salt free, right because I know, like

897
00:35:25,080 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 6: my family dynamic exactly, especially with people of color as well,

898
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:32,680
Speaker 6: and so I was like, if I could do a spice,

899
00:35:32,680 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 6: it would have to be salt free. And so when

900
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,640
Speaker 6: I first started working organically with McCormick, it.

901
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:40,560
Speaker 2: Wasn't even really a thought. I was like, oh, well,

902
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 2: this is great.

903
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:42,800
Speaker 6: I can use their stulf because my granted using my

904
00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:45,040
Speaker 6: mama used them, and I'll just continue to use it.

905
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 6: And they were like, you ever thought about doing your

906
00:35:46,400 --> 00:35:48,680
Speaker 6: own spice? I was like, actually I have, and it

907
00:35:48,760 --> 00:35:52,080
Speaker 6: was an organic thing. But also because my people wanted it,

908
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:53,160
Speaker 6: so I wanted to give them what.

909
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 3: They asked for, right, So how did the hair product

910
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 3: come about?

911
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,160
Speaker 2: So Donna's recipe?

912
00:35:57,680 --> 00:35:59,919
Speaker 6: Well, you know, with Donna, I had did the big child,

913
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,640
Speaker 6: and so as she was growing out, I had a

914
00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 6: nice little fro and to begin a little small one.

915
00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 6: And so I also have stenosis in my neck from

916
00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:09,879
Speaker 6: a car accident, and so for a period of time

917
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:11,719
Speaker 6: I had to lay flat on my back, so my

918
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:13,960
Speaker 6: hair started to thin in the back and I was like,

919
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:16,400
Speaker 6: oh lord, I need to find something to make my

920
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:19,239
Speaker 6: hair strong again and make it grow bad. And so

921
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 6: I started trying to find different products, but a lot

922
00:36:21,960 --> 00:36:24,440
Speaker 6: of products had chemicals in them, and I was like, well,

923
00:36:24,440 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 6: I'm on this new journey of being vegan, and I

924
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:29,680
Speaker 6: had had that headache for you know, the year prior.

925
00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,360
Speaker 6: I didn't want to just put anything back on my head,

926
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:35,359
Speaker 6: especially you know that's going to seep into my you know.

927
00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:35,800
Speaker 2: My pores.

928
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 6: Correct, So I started trying to create my own with

929
00:36:38,239 --> 00:36:41,440
Speaker 6: like essential oils and natural oils, and I just couldn't

930
00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,799
Speaker 6: get it done on my own. And so I was

931
00:36:43,840 --> 00:36:45,920
Speaker 6: doing that for almost a year, trying to like like

932
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:49,319
Speaker 6: I was like a chemist, tap in right right in

933
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:53,000
Speaker 6: the house, in the bathroom. And so my business partner's

934
00:36:53,040 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 6: my business partner now, Gina Woods. She came to me

935
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 6: and was like, I had this idea Donalds. She have

936
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 6: her own hair Caroline. I was like, girl, I've been

937
00:36:58,840 --> 00:37:01,319
Speaker 6: trying to do that for a year, you know. And

938
00:37:01,400 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 6: so she presented her idea to me and my husband,

939
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 6: and I was like, okay, this is kind of you

940
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 6: know already what I was doing anyway.

941
00:37:07,480 --> 00:37:08,600
Speaker 2: So that's how it came to be.

942
00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:12,520
Speaker 6: But it was really because I needed a product for myself,

943
00:37:12,600 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 6: and once I figured out the formul I was like, well,

944
00:37:14,520 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 6: I can't keep this to myself.

945
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:16,960
Speaker 2: I want to share it with the world.

946
00:37:17,080 --> 00:37:20,800
Speaker 1: So what have you learned about entrepreneurship and business because

947
00:37:20,800 --> 00:37:22,480
Speaker 1: a lot of people now we see a lot of

948
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:26,240
Speaker 1: saying okay, I won't instead of taking a fee up front, okay,

949
00:37:26,320 --> 00:37:28,080
Speaker 1: let me take a percentage of the company.

950
00:37:28,160 --> 00:37:29,719
Speaker 3: Let me get there. So let me get that.

951
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: So what have you learned because I read where you

952
00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,320
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, some people got me in the beginning,

953
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:36,400
Speaker 1: they did a number on me.

954
00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 3: They got they got your girl.

955
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:42,479
Speaker 6: Yes, So in the very beginning doing brand deals and partnerships,

956
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 6: I didn't know that business. I knew SAG, I knew

957
00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 6: the union, I knew acting word, and so I had

958
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 6: to learn it.

959
00:37:48,040 --> 00:37:50,280
Speaker 2: I'm glad they got me because they won't give me again.

960
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:53,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you come back, I'm gonna get you

961
00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 1: and okay, okay.

962
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:58,279
Speaker 2: So I learned a lot that way.

963
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:01,239
Speaker 6: But the one thing I learned is that people will

964
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 6: show up and try to act like they are.

965
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 2: They have your best interests, but you gotta be like,

966
00:38:08,440 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 2: you have to use your discernment.

967
00:38:10,160 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 3: Right.

968
00:38:10,400 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 6: Everybody don't have your best interests, and a lot of

969
00:38:12,719 --> 00:38:16,600
Speaker 6: people want to pull from you and gain from you, right,

970
00:38:16,640 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 6: and even try to take your your businesses. You know,

971
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:22,359
Speaker 6: they'll think that they own you. So I've always making

972
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:24,000
Speaker 6: it very clear that the tab is not for sale.

973
00:38:24,080 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 6: You can do business with me, but you.

974
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:29,399
Speaker 2: Don't own me and you don't own my brand. Right. So, uh,

975
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:29,920
Speaker 2: that's the thing.

976
00:38:29,920 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 6: And you just got to be very careful with business

977
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:36,200
Speaker 6: and with who you do business with. You cannot trust everybody.

978
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 6: You cannot trust everybody.

979
00:38:39,360 --> 00:38:42,040
Speaker 3: Okay, you hurt no matter.

980
00:38:41,840 --> 00:38:44,359
Speaker 1: What they say, no matter what they say, no matter what,

981
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,160
Speaker 1: no matter what color, either, no.

982
00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 6: Matter they can look like you or not. But you

983
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 6: cannot trust everybody.

984
00:38:50,760 --> 00:38:54,360
Speaker 1: I get, Okay, you're doing doing spices. I get everything

985
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,440
Speaker 1: you make your spices, most spices are created. But how

986
00:38:57,480 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 1: do you get in teld you with a lab to

987
00:38:59,440 --> 00:39:02,719
Speaker 1: try to do a haircare line product that all of

988
00:39:02,760 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 1: a sudden people ain't looking like Kojak, women ain't looking

989
00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:07,279
Speaker 1: like Kojak because that's the last thing that you want.

990
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 6: I mean, you won't believe this because it's another job.

991
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:13,200
Speaker 6: It's not on their ice working contract manufacturing.

992
00:39:13,280 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 2: Right.

993
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:19,399
Speaker 1: So I know you born in Jamaicon you you born

994
00:39:19,440 --> 00:39:21,960
Speaker 1: a jam You had no way you got detailed twelve jobs.

995
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:27,400
Speaker 2: I did that for like five years. It was for

996
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:29,800
Speaker 2: you know, wellness and beauty products.

997
00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:30,200
Speaker 6: Wow.

998
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:31,239
Speaker 2: And so I already knew that.

999
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 3: So you had a background. You had a background, and

1000
00:39:33,280 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 3: so you understood.

1001
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:36,279
Speaker 2: I understood it. I understood the lab.

1002
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:39,759
Speaker 6: I understood you know, testing, I understood formulation, I understood

1003
00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:41,280
Speaker 6: shipping and all that stuff.

1004
00:39:41,680 --> 00:39:41,879
Speaker 3: Wow.

1005
00:39:42,320 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 1: You know, Master P is always preaching about product. So

1006
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,399
Speaker 1: what do you what do you love? Because it's like,

1007
00:39:48,640 --> 00:39:51,040
Speaker 1: you gotta make money while you sleep. You cannot meant

1008
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:53,160
Speaker 1: you got to get your rest and you can't cook

1009
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:55,400
Speaker 1: twenty four hours a day and you can't make beauty

1010
00:39:55,440 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 1: supplies twenty four hours a day. So what is what

1011
00:39:57,600 --> 00:40:00,480
Speaker 1: is Tabatha most proud of? What she's been able toccomplished

1012
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:00,759
Speaker 1: thus far.

1013
00:40:01,560 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 6: Oh, I think the thing I'm most proud of is

1014
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,879
Speaker 6: that I've done it all just being me. That's that's

1015
00:40:07,040 --> 00:40:12,359
Speaker 6: my biggest accomplishment, never conforming in the season of my life, right,

1016
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:17,040
Speaker 6: you know, I think I really that's it, you know.

1017
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:19,879
Speaker 6: And also family is the most important thing to me, yes,

1018
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 6: you know, being a wife and being a mother and

1019
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:27,279
Speaker 6: never sacrificing anything over there, like that's I'm most proud

1020
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 6: of that.

1021
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 1: Being an next professional athlete, I felt that I had

1022
00:40:32,160 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 1: to sacrifice, that I missed a lot of things with

1023
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:38,760
Speaker 1: my kids that I probably shouldn't have, but I felt

1024
00:40:38,760 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 1: that if I didn't, I would always look back and

1025
00:40:41,560 --> 00:40:43,359
Speaker 1: say that if I'd didn't, if i'd have studied, if

1026
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:45,000
Speaker 1: I'd have worked hard, if I had have trained harder,

1027
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:45,840
Speaker 1: I'd have missed something.

1028
00:40:46,640 --> 00:40:48,320
Speaker 3: It seems to me that You've done.

1029
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:51,480
Speaker 1: A great job of not only being there for your

1030
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:54,319
Speaker 1: husband and for your kids, but also being able to

1031
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:59,239
Speaker 1: go full steam ahead and accomplish Was that a big

1032
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:01,640
Speaker 1: part of what you want? Like, I'm not sacrificing any

1033
00:41:01,640 --> 00:41:05,440
Speaker 1: part of my family to make one extra dollar for me.

1034
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:08,440
Speaker 6: I'm blessed because I have a husband who's my partner,

1035
00:41:08,840 --> 00:41:11,880
Speaker 6: who literally says, babe, go I got it, you know,

1036
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,160
Speaker 6: And I have that. So when I leave, I know

1037
00:41:14,239 --> 00:41:16,560
Speaker 6: that my children are taking care of the now.

1038
00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 2: We only have my son in the house.

1039
00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:20,759
Speaker 6: You know, my daughter is grown now, but I know

1040
00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:23,400
Speaker 6: I have a safe space for my son and he

1041
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:24,680
Speaker 6: knows that mommy is working.

1042
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 2: But when it comes to major things, I'm not missing it, right.

1043
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:29,319
Speaker 2: I don't care how much money it is.

1044
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 6: If my son is about to graduate fifth grade, and

1045
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 6: I looked at the calendar and it was like what

1046
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:34,239
Speaker 6: y'all put on my calendar on this day?

1047
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:38,319
Speaker 2: I can't go wow, Like, no, it's this amount of money.

1048
00:41:38,400 --> 00:41:41,000
Speaker 2: I don't care. He gonna graduate one time from fifth grade.

1049
00:41:41,360 --> 00:41:44,040
Speaker 6: I can make money any day, right, So it's those

1050
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:47,800
Speaker 6: major things that are important to me and my husband

1051
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,359
Speaker 6: take Like, I also still am human, so I'll even

1052
00:41:50,400 --> 00:41:53,000
Speaker 6: have parent guilt where I'm like, I miss being able

1053
00:41:53,040 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 6: to take him to school every day. We literally was

1054
00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 6: just having this conversation. I miss the normalcy that I

1055
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:00,000
Speaker 6: used to be able to do. I used to take myself,

1056
00:42:00,280 --> 00:42:02,120
Speaker 6: my son, and my daughter to school every morning, pick

1057
00:42:02,160 --> 00:42:04,879
Speaker 6: them up, make their lunches, cook dinner every day.

1058
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 2: That was my life for a very long time.

1059
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 1: But you understood that that's part of the sacrifice, that

1060
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:11,120
Speaker 1: those are some of the things that you're gonna have

1061
00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:13,600
Speaker 1: to give up in order to accomplish what god di

1062
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:15,840
Speaker 1: vision that God gave you and set you out on

1063
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 1: this journey. You understood that there were some of the

1064
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 1: things You're gonna have to give up.

1065
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 6: I'm understanding it every day, right. It doesn't mean I

1066
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:26,160
Speaker 6: enjoyed that feeling every day. Sometime I miss it, But

1067
00:42:26,200 --> 00:42:28,160
Speaker 6: I also look at my life and how blessed I am,

1068
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:30,280
Speaker 6: and I'm like, oh, okay, I'm still doing a different

1069
00:42:30,280 --> 00:42:32,760
Speaker 6: type of work that my family is reaping the benefit.

1070
00:42:32,960 --> 00:42:36,360
Speaker 1: You secured over fifty six major brand deal, Dunk and Donuts, Cybro,

1071
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: Pizza Plan.

1072
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:40,080
Speaker 3: I mean, you just have so much going on.

1073
00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 1: So how does Tabitha walk into a room you know

1074
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:47,200
Speaker 1: your worth you know, they want to come in and

1075
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:49,080
Speaker 1: give you twenty five percent of what your worth is.

1076
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 1: So how do you go in the room says now

1077
00:42:51,880 --> 00:42:54,399
Speaker 1: it's worth more than that. I still be Yeah, I'm

1078
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 1: not gonna be able to do that.

1079
00:43:00,080 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 6: What I say, I'll be letting them get everything out.

1080
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 2: I'm like, this is so, this is nice. Thank y'all

1081
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 2: for letting me come. But you know where it's gonna

1082
00:43:08,000 --> 00:43:10,120
Speaker 2: be aenough for me? I'm so grateful for.

1083
00:43:10,360 --> 00:43:12,120
Speaker 3: Yes, I appreciate the opportunity.

1084
00:43:12,440 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 2: Yes, thank you for thinking of tails. Yeah, but no,

1085
00:43:15,960 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 2: yeah it's a tail.

1086
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 1: Yeah. So then they come back and say it's okay.

1087
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:23,160
Speaker 1: So Ms Brown, how do how do we make this

1088
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,440
Speaker 1: partnership work? Well, we start by this what you say

1089
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:29,000
Speaker 1: at the beginning, That about how it's gonna go.

1090
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:33,080
Speaker 6: You know, for me, depending on what it is, Sometimes

1091
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 6: it ain't about the money, right. Sometimes it's just about

1092
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:38,880
Speaker 6: whatever it is. I'm like, this don't serve me right.

1093
00:43:39,360 --> 00:43:40,920
Speaker 6: There's no amount of money that's gonna make it serve

1094
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:44,080
Speaker 6: me right. And then when it comes to the money,

1095
00:43:44,280 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 6: this is the thing that you always have to realize,

1096
00:43:46,360 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 6: there's no amount of money enough for what I deserve.

1097
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 6: It's only like, I'm priceless, right, Okay, okay, it's what

1098
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:57,600
Speaker 6: I will accept. Oh right, there's no amount of money

1099
00:43:57,600 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 6: you can offer me that. It's what I'm worth.

1100
00:44:00,120 --> 00:44:00,520
Speaker 2: I'm worth.

1101
00:44:00,680 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 6: I am priceless, but there's an amount that i'll accept

1102
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:05,000
Speaker 6: to partner with you and work with you.

1103
00:44:05,520 --> 00:44:07,640
Speaker 2: That's the difference. And so I just have to make

1104
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:08,920
Speaker 2: a decision do I want that or not.

1105
00:44:10,000 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 3: I'm gonna keep that in mind.

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Speaker 2: I'm priceless, you are priceless, but.

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00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,680
Speaker 3: For a nominal fee, I'll be read in the partner.

1108
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:18,960
Speaker 2: With That's it?

1109
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 3: Like that?

1110
00:44:19,760 --> 00:44:22,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's your that's that's your mindset going into it.

1111
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,200
Speaker 1: You do you have a do you have a normally

1112
00:44:25,239 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 1: when you go into a deal, do you have a

1113
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 1: dollar amount? Do you have a Have you surprised yourself

1114
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:32,280
Speaker 1: with some of the things that you've been able to negotiate?

1115
00:44:32,680 --> 00:44:37,799
Speaker 2: Oh? Absolutely, Yeah, you know, I definitely.

1116
00:44:38,840 --> 00:44:42,640
Speaker 6: I remember, like one of the first times of asketball

1117
00:44:42,640 --> 00:44:44,120
Speaker 6: a crazy amount of money just to see what they

1118
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:48,439
Speaker 6: was gonna say. And then when they said yes, I said, yeah,

1119
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:50,400
Speaker 6: that's that your husband.

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Speaker 2: Are No he would have been like yeah, I was.

1121
00:44:54,120 --> 00:44:57,279
Speaker 2: I was good with that. Shoot, but we're gonna go

1122
00:44:57,320 --> 00:44:59,319
Speaker 2: on and take but you know next time, you know so.

1123
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:05,719
Speaker 1: But yeah, you hosted a vegan competition, so you only

1124
00:45:05,760 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 1: eat vegan. You have to sold you how much of

1125
00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:10,000
Speaker 1: your time is sitting around trying to come up with

1126
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:13,880
Speaker 1: different vegan recipes because, like you say, you cooked so much.

1127
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:15,879
Speaker 3: But you have to understand.

1128
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:18,200
Speaker 1: Because people, most people have eating meat all their life,

1129
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:20,799
Speaker 1: and to get them to try this and to make

1130
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:23,279
Speaker 1: them like it, because that's the thing. People eat what

1131
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:26,560
Speaker 1: they like, that's right, And so how do you like? Okay,

1132
00:45:26,719 --> 00:45:28,879
Speaker 1: you just go in the kitchen, like, babe, I'm gonna

1133
00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 1: go in the kitchen. I'm gonna see what I can

1134
00:45:30,360 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: come up with. Tonight, I'm gonna see what I can

1135
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 1: come up with the day. Is that how you do it?

1136
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:35,239
Speaker 2: It just come up it literally throughout the day.

1137
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 6: If I got a taste for something, that's what I'm

1138
00:45:36,680 --> 00:45:39,320
Speaker 6: gonna make, okay, right, And sometimes I'll dream a recipe.

1139
00:45:39,719 --> 00:45:42,160
Speaker 6: One of my most successful recipes is when I dreamt

1140
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:43,799
Speaker 6: and I woke up the morning, did a video and said, yeah,

1141
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:44,880
Speaker 6: let me say about the dream I had.

1142
00:45:44,960 --> 00:45:48,840
Speaker 2: It was a vegan devil the eggs, and in the dream.

1143
00:45:48,600 --> 00:45:51,600
Speaker 3: I was like, but with eggs, but they're real eggs right.

1144
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 2: Now, they're mushrooms.

1145
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 6: I took the white mushrooms because I did this in

1146
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:57,160
Speaker 6: the dream and I was like, I don't know, but

1147
00:45:57,200 --> 00:45:59,359
Speaker 6: I'm gonna see if it's gonna.

1148
00:45:58,840 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 3: So you so you can't eat the animal product.

1149
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:01,799
Speaker 2: I do not know.

1150
00:46:03,960 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm with you. I want you little she got

1151
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 1: to go on this journey alone.

1152
00:46:09,360 --> 00:46:10,759
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't you know.

1153
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:12,439
Speaker 6: When I first did it, I did it to save

1154
00:46:12,480 --> 00:46:17,000
Speaker 6: my life, right and now after six years of being vegan,

1155
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:20,320
Speaker 6: it becomes a thought where I now connect the animals

1156
00:46:20,360 --> 00:46:23,480
Speaker 6: to the food. Oh okay, yeah, yeah, Now I ain't

1157
00:46:23,480 --> 00:46:25,839
Speaker 6: gonna lie to you though I still miss a crab leg.

1158
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:29,320
Speaker 2: Do you you know how people count? She crab legs?

1159
00:46:29,320 --> 00:46:31,640
Speaker 6: In my sleep, I'll be telling people, you know, during

1160
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 6: the day when I'm awake, I'm vegan, but when I'm

1161
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:36,280
Speaker 6: sleeping pescatary because I be eating crab legs and dreams.

1162
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:37,120
Speaker 3: What about ice cream?

1163
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 1: You don't, I mean, you don't miss sweets, so like

1164
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: like cake and cookie?

1165
00:46:40,239 --> 00:46:42,359
Speaker 2: Do you all that stuff? You still can eat.

1166
00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 6: You just don't use real eggs, and you don't use

1167
00:46:46,560 --> 00:46:50,160
Speaker 6: there's vegan butter, there's vegan milk, there's all this stuff. Honey,

1168
00:46:50,200 --> 00:46:51,680
Speaker 6: I can You're gonna have to come to the house

1169
00:46:51,719 --> 00:46:54,560
Speaker 6: and eat okay, but I don't bake. I'm not a baker,

1170
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 6: and I was already allergic to milk.

1171
00:46:56,200 --> 00:46:58,040
Speaker 1: Like most of the yeah, most of the yeah, yeah,

1172
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 1: I keep If I think I'm gonna eat something that

1173
00:47:00,640 --> 00:47:01,719
Speaker 1: has there it, I'm gonna take.

1174
00:47:01,800 --> 00:47:02,439
Speaker 3: Keep black tape.

1175
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:03,720
Speaker 2: Say that again.

1176
00:47:04,200 --> 00:47:05,920
Speaker 3: If I think I'm gonna eat something there, I keep

1177
00:47:05,960 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 3: lac tape with me.

1178
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:10,560
Speaker 1: Why we do that cause I like iron creams sometimes

1179
00:47:10,600 --> 00:47:12,080
Speaker 1: and I want to eat some cheese if I.

1180
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:12,719
Speaker 3: Wanted some cheese.

1181
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:14,680
Speaker 2: But why do you have to keep the lac tape?

1182
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:17,200
Speaker 1: Because what happens my stummach that it don't agree with

1183
00:47:17,239 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 1: my stomach, but know why, but it'll agree with me time.

1184
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 3: I'll tell my stomach shut up, I'm gonna eat this.

1185
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:26,160
Speaker 6: But there are other options for you so that you

1186
00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:28,399
Speaker 6: could still get all the tastes that you're looking for

1187
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:29,600
Speaker 6: without the bubble.

1188
00:47:29,600 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 1: Good well, Hollywood, and now we did have some bigger

1189
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:33,200
Speaker 1: We have some bigger barbecue.

1190
00:47:33,239 --> 00:47:36,319
Speaker 3: Then with Hollywood, Hollywood tore it up. He tore it up.

1191
00:47:36,360 --> 00:47:38,680
Speaker 6: There are options. I'm to get you on some old

1192
00:47:38,719 --> 00:47:40,960
Speaker 6: ice cream or some cashew ice cream.

1193
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:46,160
Speaker 2: It's amazing, Hollywood. You down, I'm telling you, it's very good.

1194
00:47:46,280 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 3: I would let Hollywood go be the guinea pig hood.

1195
00:47:49,360 --> 00:47:52,320
Speaker 1: You had a restaurant, but you never opened it.

1196
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:53,319
Speaker 2: We closed it.

1197
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 6: Yeah, it was too many problems with the building, the

1198
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:58,760
Speaker 6: landlord another thing where I say, you can't trust everybody.

1199
00:48:00,080 --> 00:48:01,400
Speaker 6: Or we had to close it down because it was

1200
00:48:01,440 --> 00:48:04,720
Speaker 6: just too much damage that he would not fix.

1201
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: Right, So is opening another restaurant? Is that something that

1202
00:48:09,600 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 1: you would like to do?

1203
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:12,719
Speaker 6: I think if I do, because that was a partnership

1204
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 6: that I partner, would kill my name, kill my name.

1205
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 2: I love the restaurant.

1206
00:48:15,640 --> 00:48:18,240
Speaker 6: It's still open in Chicago, and so I just partner

1207
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 6: with him to open that one here in la If

1208
00:48:20,120 --> 00:48:22,359
Speaker 6: I do it again, it has to be my restaurant, right.

1209
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 1: Obviously, But are you Is it going to be like breakfast,

1210
00:48:29,360 --> 00:48:32,080
Speaker 1: It's gonna be lunch, It's gonna be brun Oh.

1211
00:48:31,360 --> 00:48:33,400
Speaker 6: H you know, I gotta I have to make a

1212
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:36,800
Speaker 6: decision to do it first. I think my the big

1213
00:48:36,920 --> 00:48:40,080
Speaker 6: vision that I have would be like a retreat. And

1214
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:43,080
Speaker 6: on the location of the retreat, like you know in

1215
00:48:43,120 --> 00:48:45,719
Speaker 6: oasis or where you can come, there would be kind

1216
00:48:45,719 --> 00:48:47,960
Speaker 6: of like a bed and breakfast there, but like a

1217
00:48:48,040 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 6: homehouse where you can come for breakfast and you can

1218
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 6: come for dinner type of thing.

1219
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:53,920
Speaker 2: But that's like a vision that I have for later.

1220
00:48:54,520 --> 00:48:56,640
Speaker 3: Have a company ever tried to change the way you

1221
00:48:56,680 --> 00:48:57,280
Speaker 3: do content?

1222
00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, even after when after the success that they've

1223
00:49:01,560 --> 00:49:06,360
Speaker 1: seen you enjoy, they're still willing to try to change

1224
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:08,400
Speaker 1: what you do how you do it.

1225
00:49:10,560 --> 00:49:14,680
Speaker 2: Yes, but people are crazy in the world.

1226
00:49:15,560 --> 00:49:18,800
Speaker 3: But they don't but they know what they.

1227
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 6: They love you and then they say, we love exactly

1228
00:49:23,080 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 6: what you do.

1229
00:49:23,719 --> 00:49:25,280
Speaker 2: Now we want to show you this video.

1230
00:49:25,360 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 6: And then they play the video and people don't look

1231
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:29,640
Speaker 6: like me, and they say, if you could do it

1232
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:30,400
Speaker 6: a little bit.

1233
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:35,600
Speaker 2: Like this, No, there you go. Yeah, yeah, it's not

1234
00:49:35,760 --> 00:49:36,000
Speaker 2: for me.

1235
00:49:36,120 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 3: Do people when they look at you?

1236
00:49:37,920 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 1: I think the thing is and sometimes people are all

1237
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:43,400
Speaker 1: saying is that people take kindness for weakness. You have

1238
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:45,560
Speaker 1: a smile all the time. You seem to be a

1239
00:49:45,719 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: very outgoing and very personable person. Do you think people

1240
00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:51,920
Speaker 1: take that as a weakness and try to try to

1241
00:49:51,960 --> 00:49:53,400
Speaker 1: get over on you all the time.

1242
00:49:54,080 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 6: But I'm very smart, but they will try it and

1243
00:49:58,239 --> 00:49:59,080
Speaker 6: I let them.

1244
00:49:59,520 --> 00:50:02,200
Speaker 1: I like the do you get up does she I

1245
00:50:02,200 --> 00:50:03,960
Speaker 1: would ask him, I was asking me to do you

1246
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: get upset?

1247
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 2: Yes?

1248
00:50:05,719 --> 00:50:07,319
Speaker 3: But how do you? But but you all.

1249
00:50:07,200 --> 00:50:09,319
Speaker 1: I'm saying, it's like, guys, y'all know I'm not gonna

1250
00:50:09,360 --> 00:50:10,479
Speaker 1: be able to do that right.

1251
00:50:11,239 --> 00:50:13,520
Speaker 2: Well, you know, it takes a lot to get me

1252
00:50:13,640 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 2: up right.

1253
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:17,160
Speaker 6: Okay, Most times when it comes to like that type

1254
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:20,080
Speaker 6: of stuff, it's not gonna upset me. It's just a

1255
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 6: matter of, Oh, I'm so sorry that you didn't see

1256
00:50:23,760 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 6: me for me.

1257
00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:27,000
Speaker 2: But you know what, I hope you found what you're

1258
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 2: looking for, right, right, But that's not something that.

1259
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:31,280
Speaker 3: That's not that doesn't get you upset.

1260
00:50:31,280 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 6: Things upset me is when you mess with my family,

1261
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:37,640
Speaker 6: you mess with my money and my time, right because

1262
00:50:37,719 --> 00:50:41,120
Speaker 6: I use all those things for my family and for myself.

1263
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:44,719
Speaker 1: So how is it that, I mean, this is a

1264
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:49,120
Speaker 1: you know, and content creators. What you do, what you do,

1265
00:50:49,160 --> 00:50:51,759
Speaker 1: there's a very large there's a space for it, but

1266
00:50:51,800 --> 00:50:55,040
Speaker 1: it's a limited people that's in that space. How is it?

1267
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:57,520
Speaker 1: Are you guys friendly? Are you receptive to one another?

1268
00:50:57,719 --> 00:50:58,560
Speaker 1: Is it cutthroat?

1269
00:50:59,239 --> 00:50:59,439
Speaker 3: Oh?

1270
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:04,839
Speaker 2: And I love everybody. That's enough room for everybody, right,

1271
00:51:04,880 --> 00:51:06,680
Speaker 2: So I never compared myself to anybody.

1272
00:51:06,719 --> 00:51:10,320
Speaker 6: I don't really care what nobody else do. I applaud everybody, right,

1273
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:11,799
Speaker 6: we all did.

1274
00:51:11,920 --> 00:51:14,719
Speaker 1: So since they print money, we shouldn't try to cut,

1275
00:51:14,800 --> 00:51:17,160
Speaker 1: backstab and undermind somebody else to get to keep.

1276
00:51:17,239 --> 00:51:19,319
Speaker 6: God asked for me is for me. What He has

1277
00:51:19,400 --> 00:51:21,840
Speaker 6: for you is for you. There's nothing we can do

1278
00:51:21,880 --> 00:51:22,360
Speaker 6: to stop that.

1279
00:51:23,880 --> 00:51:27,560
Speaker 1: So what God is saying for for me? Even Hollywood?

1280
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:33,600
Speaker 1: You heard that, Hollywood, You heard that, Hollywood. So but

1281
00:51:33,800 --> 00:51:37,640
Speaker 1: you know, I'm not gonna break this is not interrupt

1282
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:38,960
Speaker 1: the normal schedule programming.

1283
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:41,920
Speaker 3: We know vegan. When we hear vegan, we think of

1284
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:43,680
Speaker 3: someone that doesn't look like you.

1285
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:44,399
Speaker 2: Oh yeah.

1286
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:48,879
Speaker 6: When I listened back in the day, and I said

1287
00:51:48,880 --> 00:51:51,080
Speaker 6: this many times. When I used to hear the word vegan,

1288
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:54,000
Speaker 6: I thought that it was for white women who did yoga,

1289
00:51:54,239 --> 00:51:57,440
Speaker 6: right I did, and nobody was really vegan.

1290
00:51:57,520 --> 00:52:00,760
Speaker 2: I heard a vegetarian right right, right, right right.

1291
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:03,040
Speaker 6: And then I thought, well, if that's not the case,

1292
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:05,680
Speaker 6: it's the people who walk around picketing, you know, and

1293
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:07,759
Speaker 6: they were in the you know, the blood all over

1294
00:52:07,800 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 6: them and doing the type of activist and I didn't

1295
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 6: want to do that. And so I knew that when

1296
00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:17,279
Speaker 6: I made the decision to become vegan. I wanted to

1297
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 6: be a source of a different type of life, and

1298
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:22,479
Speaker 6: so I always wanted to be approachable, and I wanted

1299
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 6: people to be curious and to want to try it,

1300
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:28,600
Speaker 6: and so I did it with love and laughter and

1301
00:52:28,640 --> 00:52:31,880
Speaker 6: a little bit of comedy but informative. So I have

1302
00:52:32,120 --> 00:52:34,480
Speaker 6: probably converted I can, of course, can't you eat a

1303
00:52:34,520 --> 00:52:38,960
Speaker 6: number but more people than any you know, traditional activists,

1304
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,440
Speaker 6: more people than you can imagine coming to miss I'm

1305
00:52:43,480 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 6: vegan because of you. I eat plant based me and

1306
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:48,080
Speaker 6: my family eat plant based now because of you. And

1307
00:52:48,120 --> 00:52:50,719
Speaker 6: I'm like that I've never told anybody in the last

1308
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:53,319
Speaker 6: six years. I've never told not one person you need

1309
00:52:53,360 --> 00:52:53,920
Speaker 6: to go vegan.

1310
00:52:54,440 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 2: Never.

1311
00:52:55,239 --> 00:52:57,120
Speaker 1: So how do you So when you're home, do you

1312
00:52:57,160 --> 00:52:59,400
Speaker 1: cook vegan for you and cook him bacon?

1313
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:03,360
Speaker 6: I used to when when I first went begin that

1314
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 6: first year, I was cooking like them two meals and

1315
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,839
Speaker 6: I was like, I can't keep doing that. So then

1316
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:11,040
Speaker 6: I just figured out how to make all our favorite

1317
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:14,360
Speaker 6: things vegan and make it good.

1318
00:53:14,120 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 2: And everybody loved it.

1319
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:17,719
Speaker 6: So all my favorite non vegan things, I turned them

1320
00:53:17,719 --> 00:53:18,719
Speaker 6: into vegan meals.

1321
00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:20,000
Speaker 3: So he got to go out.

1322
00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:21,239
Speaker 1: So you got to go out and get it if

1323
00:53:21,239 --> 00:53:22,960
Speaker 1: you want a steak, or if you want to burgers

1324
00:53:23,000 --> 00:53:23,319
Speaker 1: or chicken.

1325
00:53:23,360 --> 00:53:25,520
Speaker 6: But he don't eat that. He's chicken and fish, but

1326
00:53:26,080 --> 00:53:27,239
Speaker 6: he can order it or.

1327
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,719
Speaker 2: You. Yeah.

1328
00:53:31,960 --> 00:53:36,560
Speaker 1: So I'm looking at athletes have turned big and Chris Paul, Kyrie, Irving, Venus,

1329
00:53:36,560 --> 00:53:42,680
Speaker 1: William Lizzo. So I'm trying to figure out, man, how

1330
00:53:43,280 --> 00:53:46,280
Speaker 1: would I be able to keep my musculature and stay

1331
00:53:46,320 --> 00:53:47,160
Speaker 1: you know strong?

1332
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:50,080
Speaker 2: You ever seen a gorilla?

1333
00:53:50,680 --> 00:53:51,239
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1334
00:53:51,680 --> 00:53:52,680
Speaker 2: What you think they eat?

1335
00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:58,320
Speaker 1: They you grassed, but the four hundred pounds of it.

1336
00:53:58,760 --> 00:54:05,719
Speaker 1: But I think in the beginning had but that's all

1337
00:54:05,840 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 1: they eat. I think the thing is if who had

1338
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: never gotten to taste, it's hard to miss what you've

1339
00:54:12,200 --> 00:54:12,840
Speaker 1: never tasted.

1340
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:15,719
Speaker 2: Well, yes and no.

1341
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:21,400
Speaker 6: I think that you have to have a very specific why.

1342
00:54:21,480 --> 00:54:21,719
Speaker 2: Right.

1343
00:54:22,520 --> 00:54:25,400
Speaker 6: Eventually you're not gonna do dairy anymore because you're not

1344
00:54:25,440 --> 00:54:26,879
Speaker 6: gonna like how it continues to.

1345
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:32,279
Speaker 2: Make you feel. Okay, if meat was killing me, i'd

1346
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:33,360
Speaker 2: be crazy to keep eating.

1347
00:54:33,800 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 3: That is correct, right.

1348
00:54:35,000 --> 00:54:37,200
Speaker 2: So a lot of times we are reactive people.

1349
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 6: We do things out of something happening, so we react

1350
00:54:41,280 --> 00:54:43,400
Speaker 6: to it instead of being proactive practice.

1351
00:54:43,440 --> 00:54:43,799
Speaker 2: We wait.

1352
00:54:44,239 --> 00:54:47,360
Speaker 6: Many times we wait until we get sick before we

1353
00:54:47,400 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 6: try to get better, right, instead of just saying, let

1354
00:54:49,960 --> 00:54:52,640
Speaker 6: me be proactively trying to make sure I'm as healthy

1355
00:54:52,640 --> 00:54:55,719
Speaker 6: as I can be. And so when it comes to

1356
00:54:55,760 --> 00:55:00,280
Speaker 6: me my why was life or death? I chose life.

1357
00:55:00,560 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 6: And then I also got it in my mind. I

1358
00:55:02,239 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 6: was like, I just don't want to eat dead animals anymore.

1359
00:55:04,160 --> 00:55:06,440
Speaker 6: I just don't like the thought of it anymore. Right,

1360
00:55:07,520 --> 00:55:10,040
Speaker 6: I don't even like the smell of it. When it's raw.

1361
00:55:10,400 --> 00:55:12,440
Speaker 6: It turns my stomach. Now, I ain't gonna lie to

1362
00:55:12,440 --> 00:55:13,800
Speaker 6: you how I can smell a cook out of my

1363
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:18,640
Speaker 6: way and be like, Lord, have mercy, somebody is cooking.

1364
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:21,720
Speaker 6: But you know, that's the difference in not thinking about

1365
00:55:21,719 --> 00:55:25,520
Speaker 6: what you see. But there's there's definitely a way to

1366
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:28,800
Speaker 6: incorporate it and form new habits, right, And I always

1367
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,040
Speaker 6: tell people this to don't look at it as though

1368
00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:33,799
Speaker 6: you're taking something away from yourself. Look at it as though, oh,

1369
00:55:33,800 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 6: I'm giving myself something new to try.

1370
00:55:35,280 --> 00:55:38,080
Speaker 1: Right, I'm gaining six months, six years to my life.

1371
00:55:38,800 --> 00:55:40,759
Speaker 1: Maybe that's the way you look at it. That's the

1372
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:43,440
Speaker 1: way because you said you had had you let me

1373
00:55:43,480 --> 00:55:47,000
Speaker 1: ask you this, had you not had the autoimmune. Had

1374
00:55:47,040 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 1: you not had the headache for a year and seven months,

1375
00:55:49,040 --> 00:55:52,640
Speaker 1: had you not had the lethargy, would you do you

1376
00:55:52,680 --> 00:55:53,760
Speaker 1: believe you to go on vegan?

1377
00:55:54,120 --> 00:55:57,880
Speaker 6: No, I didn't have a reason right, not necessarily, but

1378
00:55:58,440 --> 00:56:02,600
Speaker 6: I may have eventually only because oh I heard vegans

1379
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 6: be skinny.

1380
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:07,600
Speaker 2: But then I got vegan and got pig because now

1381
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:10,040
Speaker 2: their lives, because now I be eating and eating right.

1382
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:13,440
Speaker 2: And also I don't eat to look a certain way.

1383
00:56:13,640 --> 00:56:14,720
Speaker 2: I used to starve myself.

1384
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:16,640
Speaker 1: But let me ask you a question, could you do

1385
00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:18,879
Speaker 1: you believe you can be a vegan in rural North

1386
00:56:18,920 --> 00:56:21,360
Speaker 1: Carolina because a lot of it, because it gets hard

1387
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:24,719
Speaker 1: because you in California, you have a lot of options.

1388
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:29,040
Speaker 1: In carol and in Canada you don't have those same options,

1389
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:33,600
Speaker 1: especially in rural South Carolina, Georgia or the rural parts

1390
00:56:33,600 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 1: of the South.

1391
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,840
Speaker 6: I could be a better vegan in rural North Carolina

1392
00:56:36,880 --> 00:56:38,080
Speaker 6: really because.

1393
00:56:38,120 --> 00:56:39,719
Speaker 3: You grow your food right.

1394
00:56:40,040 --> 00:56:44,600
Speaker 2: Most of our you know, parents and grandparents were mostly vegan.

1395
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:46,319
Speaker 3: Yeah, they ate what they grew, They ate.

1396
00:56:46,280 --> 00:56:49,520
Speaker 6: What they grew, and meat was a delicacy. They only

1397
00:56:49,520 --> 00:56:51,520
Speaker 6: had it on the weekend. Yes, my daddy was one

1398
00:56:51,520 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 6: of twelve My daddy always, he said, you know, until

1399
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:55,360
Speaker 6: you became BigGAN, I never thought about it.

1400
00:56:55,360 --> 00:56:58,920
Speaker 2: But we only ate chicken on Sundays, he said, we

1401
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 2: only ate pento beans and from the.

1402
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:05,759
Speaker 3: Green during the week. Right, Well, you know we have

1403
00:57:05,840 --> 00:57:07,759
Speaker 3: some We know we have fat back in green though.

1404
00:57:09,200 --> 00:57:10,520
Speaker 3: You know we had a fat back. We had to

1405
00:57:10,520 --> 00:57:11,400
Speaker 3: have a fat bathroom.

1406
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:14,640
Speaker 2: That's all there, y'all had.

1407
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:17,360
Speaker 3: That was special occasion. Though you did, you didn't, You didn't.

1408
00:57:17,160 --> 00:57:20,479
Speaker 6: Get it all the time yet absolutely, you.

1409
00:57:20,400 --> 00:57:22,560
Speaker 3: Know what, I think this is the part of the show.

1410
00:57:22,640 --> 00:57:24,560
Speaker 3: We probably should invite your husband.

1411
00:57:24,840 --> 00:57:29,960
Speaker 2: Bring them on in the room.

1412
00:57:35,560 --> 00:57:36,160
Speaker 3: You sit right there.

1413
00:57:36,640 --> 00:57:38,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and no backs right there now.

1414
00:57:38,480 --> 00:57:40,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're not gonna be You're not gonna be able

1415
00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:40,520
Speaker 3: to leave back.

1416
00:57:40,560 --> 00:57:43,800
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. They stay behind Every great man is a

1417
00:57:43,800 --> 00:57:47,160
Speaker 1: great woman. But I think behind every great woman that's

1418
00:57:47,240 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: like your wife, that has to be a great man

1419
00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:53,400
Speaker 1: because you have to be secure enough in yourself because

1420
00:57:54,160 --> 00:57:55,520
Speaker 1: you kind of become the afterthought.

1421
00:57:56,280 --> 00:57:58,920
Speaker 3: And you seem to be very very okay with that.

1422
00:57:59,120 --> 00:58:01,400
Speaker 1: You guys have been together over twenty five years, been

1423
00:58:01,400 --> 00:58:04,480
Speaker 1: together for twenty years when.

1424
00:58:04,320 --> 00:58:07,680
Speaker 3: You started dating her, did you see y'all here?

1425
00:58:09,400 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 5: Absolutely not? You know what it had, I didn't really

1426
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:24,800
Speaker 5: have much vision. People always ask me about it, you know,

1427
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 5: very similar questions, and I always say I wouldn't with

1428
00:58:29,680 --> 00:58:32,680
Speaker 5: her for that, right. I was with tab because of

1429
00:58:32,680 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 5: how she made me feel right, right, And yes, I

1430
00:58:36,640 --> 00:58:43,520
Speaker 5: thought she was a little crazy. I was attracted to crazy. Yeah,

1431
00:58:43,680 --> 00:58:46,920
Speaker 5: that's the difference, a right. So I'm with her because

1432
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:51,320
Speaker 5: of my attraction to that crazy. When she would.

1433
00:58:51,040 --> 00:58:51,480
Speaker 3: Tell me.

1434
00:58:53,160 --> 00:58:55,760
Speaker 5: One day, I'm gonna be on TV one day, you

1435
00:58:55,760 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 5: know whatever, I would get tickled. I would tackle because

1436
00:59:00,800 --> 00:59:04,160
Speaker 5: I can look in her eyes and you really believe this, right,

1437
00:59:04,640 --> 00:59:08,560
Speaker 5: And it made her happy. It made her really really happy,

1438
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:14,440
Speaker 5: a happiness that I kind of I wish that I

1439
00:59:14,440 --> 00:59:17,040
Speaker 5: could tap into from my own childhood. And I remember,

1440
00:59:17,640 --> 00:59:20,120
Speaker 5: I remember feeling like what I've seen in her eyes,

1441
00:59:20,160 --> 00:59:22,919
Speaker 5: and I'm saying, man, at some point in my life,

1442
00:59:23,000 --> 00:59:26,040
Speaker 5: I lost that while you're a true believer of what

1443
00:59:26,080 --> 00:59:29,520
Speaker 5: you're saying. So whatever it was, I was like, I

1444
00:59:29,560 --> 00:59:33,760
Speaker 5: didn't really try to believe it. I just wanted to

1445
00:59:34,120 --> 00:59:36,640
Speaker 5: keep her happy and say, all right, man, let's go

1446
00:59:36,800 --> 00:59:38,840
Speaker 5: for yo, as long as it's not hurting us.

1447
00:59:39,320 --> 00:59:41,680
Speaker 3: Even though you might have not believed in it.

1448
00:59:42,200 --> 00:59:44,480
Speaker 1: You never told her that You're like, baby, that sounds

1449
00:59:44,520 --> 00:59:45,560
Speaker 1: like a good idea.

1450
00:59:45,760 --> 00:59:46,720
Speaker 3: I think you can do it.

1451
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:49,520
Speaker 5: Yep, I would, I would, And then it would be

1452
00:59:49,600 --> 00:59:51,920
Speaker 5: times where I'd be like, all right, dam wait a minute,

1453
00:59:52,160 --> 00:59:54,880
Speaker 5: hold up. Like the story she told you about moving,

1454
00:59:55,960 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 5: I'm always up to thinking. My thinking was what a

1455
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:01,800
Speaker 5: we currently doing right?

1456
01:00:02,360 --> 01:00:02,640
Speaker 3: Right?

1457
01:00:02,760 --> 01:00:05,640
Speaker 5: Can it hurt us? Can your vision or this dream

1458
01:00:05,720 --> 01:00:07,640
Speaker 5: or this thing that you believe in? Can it hurt us?

1459
01:00:08,280 --> 01:00:11,160
Speaker 5: If we ain't currently doing anything better? And what you're

1460
01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:15,840
Speaker 5: saying can't hurt us, Let's try it. Let's go for it,

1461
01:00:15,920 --> 01:00:17,960
Speaker 5: right right, It's not gonna hurt us. So let's put

1462
01:00:18,000 --> 01:00:19,680
Speaker 5: a plan together. As long as we got a plan

1463
01:00:19,720 --> 01:00:23,280
Speaker 5: and we got each other and ain't nothing else going on,

1464
01:00:23,400 --> 01:00:24,920
Speaker 5: let's go do it. Let's try it.

1465
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:29,960
Speaker 1: You guys started dating, if you could say, the eighth

1466
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:33,400
Speaker 1: grade is dating in the eighth grade, when you.

1467
01:00:33,360 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 3: Saw him for the very first time, what did you think?

1468
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:38,160
Speaker 5: Oh?

1469
01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:40,520
Speaker 6: I saw him way before eighth grade. We known each

1470
01:00:40,560 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 6: other since about what fifth grade? And so I thought

1471
01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:46,000
Speaker 6: it was cute with his little curly hair and stuff.

1472
01:00:47,800 --> 01:00:50,480
Speaker 6: But he was mean, That's what I thought he was.

1473
01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:52,760
Speaker 6: I was like, Oh, he got a little attitude.

1474
01:00:52,400 --> 01:00:53,800
Speaker 3: Okay, you like I'm it.

1475
01:00:54,000 --> 01:00:54,280
Speaker 5: Yeah.

1476
01:00:54,400 --> 01:00:58,080
Speaker 6: But then in eighth grade, you know, he was playing

1477
01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:01,560
Speaker 6: football and I was the football manager.

1478
01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:07,520
Speaker 2: You know, I had a job in eighth grade, Damp,

1479
01:01:09,520 --> 01:01:10,680
Speaker 2: and so when we would.

1480
01:01:10,560 --> 01:01:13,840
Speaker 6: Do the bus rides, I just would be looking at

1481
01:01:13,920 --> 01:01:16,480
Speaker 6: him like, you know, the eye contacted.

1482
01:01:16,520 --> 01:01:18,200
Speaker 2: I was like kind of like him.

1483
01:01:18,520 --> 01:01:18,800
Speaker 6: You know.

1484
01:01:19,480 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 3: Did you know she liked you? Yeah?

1485
01:01:22,560 --> 01:01:26,280
Speaker 5: I was kind of popular back the father. That's the man.

1486
01:01:26,760 --> 01:01:29,280
Speaker 3: You okay, you a popping man. I was a man.

1487
01:01:29,520 --> 01:01:32,560
Speaker 2: He was. He was a mad everybody like chance. Okay.

1488
01:01:33,080 --> 01:01:36,360
Speaker 2: He had a girlfriend though what and I had a

1489
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:37,040
Speaker 2: little boyfriend.

1490
01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:38,720
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, get good.

1491
01:01:39,040 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 2: We went to we went to a birthday part.

1492
01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:46,840
Speaker 6: Uh, y'all came separate, left together, came separate, and we

1493
01:01:46,960 --> 01:01:48,680
Speaker 6: ended up kissing at the birthday.

1494
01:01:49,960 --> 01:02:01,080
Speaker 1: Damp, Damp, Come on, Chances. We had a minute that

1495
01:02:01,200 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 1: a minute. I'm talking about you.

1496
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:07,480
Speaker 6: You came for somebody and y'all because he didn't want her,

1497
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:08,120
Speaker 6: no way he did.

1498
01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:09,720
Speaker 3: It seemed like you want.

1499
01:02:10,400 --> 01:02:13,240
Speaker 2: Thrill was gone in those eighth grade relationships.

1500
01:02:13,840 --> 01:02:15,960
Speaker 3: This was the thing the eighth grade dance.

1501
01:02:16,720 --> 01:02:18,360
Speaker 2: Listen, but this is the funny thing.

1502
01:02:18,480 --> 01:02:21,240
Speaker 6: His girlfriend was happy he broke up because she likes

1503
01:02:21,240 --> 01:02:24,440
Speaker 6: somebody else to My boyfriend was a little hurt.

1504
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:24,840
Speaker 4: But.

1505
01:02:26,400 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 5: Look junior high crush.

1506
01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:29,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, but she is.

1507
01:02:29,800 --> 01:02:32,320
Speaker 2: You know, he was a man back bed. But you

1508
01:02:32,320 --> 01:02:34,280
Speaker 2: know I broke up with him in eighth grade.

1509
01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:38,600
Speaker 3: Hold on, you kids, break up with his girlfriend.

1510
01:02:39,040 --> 01:02:43,480
Speaker 2: He's still he's still all these years, he still hold on.

1511
01:02:43,480 --> 01:02:49,440
Speaker 5: To this my whole life, almost all the eighth grade.

1512
01:02:49,480 --> 01:02:51,560
Speaker 6: But my sister, she older than me, she's six years old,

1513
01:02:51,600 --> 01:02:52,880
Speaker 6: and she said, listen, you about to go to ninth

1514
01:02:52,880 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 6: grade to the high school.

1515
01:02:53,920 --> 01:02:55,360
Speaker 2: Yes, a lot of boys over there. You don't want

1516
01:02:55,360 --> 01:02:56,120
Speaker 2: a little boyfriend.

1517
01:02:56,480 --> 01:02:58,080
Speaker 6: So I told him, I said, listen, we gotta break

1518
01:02:58,120 --> 01:02:59,720
Speaker 6: up because my sister says, a lot of boys over

1519
01:02:59,760 --> 01:03:02,120
Speaker 6: it high school. I got to see what's out there.

1520
01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:05,120
Speaker 6: And so he hated me for breaking up. That's why,

1521
01:03:05,600 --> 01:03:07,640
Speaker 6: you know in high school he wouldn't even speak to me.

1522
01:03:07,840 --> 01:03:10,240
Speaker 6: But that's how I ended up. I have a stepdaughter

1523
01:03:10,240 --> 01:03:11,600
Speaker 6: because he had a baby in high school.

1524
01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:13,760
Speaker 2: So I always tell him to see, I'll let you

1525
01:03:13,800 --> 01:03:15,800
Speaker 2: go and now see if I.

1526
01:03:15,720 --> 01:03:17,520
Speaker 3: Had a we had to say together, that's a great

1527
01:03:17,560 --> 01:03:18,360
Speaker 3: way to transition.

1528
01:03:18,680 --> 01:03:21,440
Speaker 1: I remember I read an interview where you told your

1529
01:03:21,480 --> 01:03:24,080
Speaker 1: mom you would never marry You would never date a man,

1530
01:03:24,480 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 1: let alone marry a man with a child.

1531
01:03:26,960 --> 01:03:27,440
Speaker 2: Very true.

1532
01:03:28,560 --> 01:03:29,800
Speaker 3: What changed?

1533
01:03:30,640 --> 01:03:31,440
Speaker 2: I was fifteen.

1534
01:03:31,880 --> 01:03:34,000
Speaker 6: We were at a basketball game at high school and

1535
01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:36,680
Speaker 6: I remember he couldn't stand me, right, and so uh

1536
01:03:37,600 --> 01:03:39,080
Speaker 6: at the game, you my mom would sit on the

1537
01:03:39,080 --> 01:03:41,280
Speaker 6: bleachers and he walked up and he was standing on

1538
01:03:41,320 --> 01:03:43,360
Speaker 6: the corner of the wall with his girlfriend.

1539
01:03:43,440 --> 01:03:47,160
Speaker 3: They all day, you did perfect. You want to understand

1540
01:03:47,280 --> 01:03:48,960
Speaker 3: you you got your little kids.

1541
01:03:49,640 --> 01:03:51,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I wouldn't have to be honest with you.

1542
01:03:51,600 --> 01:03:53,480
Speaker 5: I wouldn't even think about her when told when she

1543
01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:57,360
Speaker 5: told me the story, yeah, years later, I remember it right,

1544
01:03:57,800 --> 01:03:58,840
Speaker 5: I wouldn't think of about it.

1545
01:03:58,920 --> 01:04:00,640
Speaker 6: And I looked and I just I like rolled my

1546
01:04:00,680 --> 01:04:03,400
Speaker 6: eyes like, m you know whatever. And my mama was like,

1547
01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 6: I don't know why you're doing that. I was like,

1548
01:04:05,280 --> 01:04:06,760
Speaker 6: she was like, I'm gonna tell you what's gonna happen.

1549
01:04:06,880 --> 01:04:09,000
Speaker 6: She said, that little girl gonna get pregnant and they're

1550
01:04:09,000 --> 01:04:11,600
Speaker 6: gonna have a baby. But that's your husband. I said, oh, well,

1551
01:04:11,640 --> 01:04:14,600
Speaker 6: you gonna know me because I would never marry men

1552
01:04:14,640 --> 01:04:16,960
Speaker 6: with kids. That's what I'm supposed to think at fifteen, right,

1553
01:04:17,280 --> 01:04:21,880
Speaker 6: And so Mama was right. She was right on graduation day.

1554
01:04:21,960 --> 01:04:25,200
Speaker 6: Years later, on graduation day, my mama came.

1555
01:04:25,080 --> 01:04:26,920
Speaker 2: To me and she said, go get chance.

1556
01:04:27,160 --> 01:04:28,840
Speaker 6: I want y'all to have a picture with y'all was

1557
01:04:28,840 --> 01:04:30,320
Speaker 6: Captain gown I'm gonna used to sitt y'all with.

1558
01:04:30,440 --> 01:04:32,640
Speaker 2: And I said, would you stop? Why would you say

1559
01:04:32,680 --> 01:04:33,400
Speaker 2: something weird like that?

1560
01:04:33,520 --> 01:04:33,560
Speaker 3: That?

1561
01:04:33,680 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 5: My mother loves my biggest fan. She loved Chanes. Yeah,

1562
01:04:36,880 --> 01:04:37,880
Speaker 5: she was my biggest fan.

1563
01:04:37,960 --> 01:04:38,880
Speaker 2: And she used that picture that.

1564
01:04:38,920 --> 01:04:40,360
Speaker 5: I went, yeah, and she was gifted too.

1565
01:04:40,880 --> 01:04:41,160
Speaker 3: Wow.

1566
01:04:41,640 --> 01:04:45,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, your mom saw something that you didn't see at

1567
01:04:45,840 --> 01:04:46,240
Speaker 1: the time.

1568
01:04:46,760 --> 01:04:49,120
Speaker 3: You had like you'd have broke over me. You ain't

1569
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:51,000
Speaker 3: want me. So yeah, you did your thing.

1570
01:04:51,520 --> 01:04:54,240
Speaker 1: And here all these years fifth grade, So your fifth

1571
01:04:54,280 --> 01:04:56,680
Speaker 1: grade you're probably what eleven years old, twelve years old?

1572
01:04:56,920 --> 01:04:58,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, all that time. You guys.

1573
01:05:00,120 --> 01:05:03,040
Speaker 6: From the same hometown. Yeah, the same small small city.

1574
01:05:04,480 --> 01:05:06,320
Speaker 6: But I would see him in high school. I would

1575
01:05:06,320 --> 01:05:08,160
Speaker 6: always have this like little pain in my stomach when

1576
01:05:08,160 --> 01:05:08,720
Speaker 6: I would see him.

1577
01:05:09,080 --> 01:05:09,920
Speaker 2: It was like a feeling.

1578
01:05:10,120 --> 01:05:15,439
Speaker 5: I always tell us guilt. He said, it was, Yeah,

1579
01:05:16,400 --> 01:05:17,280
Speaker 5: that's guilt, That's.

1580
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:17,640
Speaker 3: What that is.

1581
01:05:17,960 --> 01:05:20,760
Speaker 6: But I went to college and in Miami. He went

1582
01:05:20,960 --> 01:05:23,200
Speaker 6: to college in North Carolina, and so I was there

1583
01:05:23,880 --> 01:05:25,440
Speaker 6: and one night. I woke up in the middle of

1584
01:05:25,440 --> 01:05:27,040
Speaker 6: the night. He was the only person I could think about,

1585
01:05:27,200 --> 01:05:29,320
Speaker 6: and I was like, just thinking about all the years

1586
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:30,640
Speaker 6: that I would see him, and I had this pain

1587
01:05:30,720 --> 01:05:33,000
Speaker 6: in my stomach. And we had kind of became friends

1588
01:05:33,040 --> 01:05:35,720
Speaker 6: again in our senior year, and I just had this

1589
01:05:36,240 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 6: thought of, like, I think I'm in love with him.

1590
01:05:38,680 --> 01:05:40,400
Speaker 6: And so I found his number in the middle of

1591
01:05:40,440 --> 01:05:41,720
Speaker 6: the night. By the time I called him, it was

1592
01:05:41,760 --> 01:05:43,800
Speaker 6: about three thirty four in the morning, and I called

1593
01:05:43,920 --> 01:05:45,120
Speaker 6: his kept calling the room.

1594
01:05:45,520 --> 01:05:46,360
Speaker 2: His roommate answered.

1595
01:05:46,360 --> 01:05:47,560
Speaker 6: I was like, I need to beat the chance brows

1596
01:05:47,600 --> 01:05:49,520
Speaker 6: and emergency. And so when he got on the phone,

1597
01:05:49,560 --> 01:05:51,840
Speaker 6: I was like, I know this might sound crazy. I

1598
01:05:52,000 --> 01:05:54,400
Speaker 6: was like, but I think I'm in love with you.

1599
01:05:54,520 --> 01:05:55,760
Speaker 6: I was like, So I just told him. I was like,

1600
01:05:56,120 --> 01:05:59,080
Speaker 6: all these years I would see you, and I would

1601
01:05:59,080 --> 01:06:01,480
Speaker 6: have this pain in my stomach. I was like, I'm

1602
01:06:01,720 --> 01:06:04,520
Speaker 6: thinking about all these different things, and if you don't

1603
01:06:04,520 --> 01:06:08,160
Speaker 6: think I'm crazy coming back to Marge's number, he ain't

1604
01:06:08,160 --> 01:06:10,440
Speaker 6: say nothing on the phone, and then I.

1605
01:06:12,440 --> 01:06:13,720
Speaker 5: I had to start out a little bit.

1606
01:06:16,240 --> 01:06:17,600
Speaker 2: I waited all day.

1607
01:06:20,120 --> 01:06:24,600
Speaker 3: A little bit. But yeah, but obviously you had felt

1608
01:06:24,640 --> 01:06:27,360
Speaker 3: the exact same way. Yeah, you know.

1609
01:06:28,240 --> 01:06:31,120
Speaker 5: The crazy thing is I held on to it my

1610
01:06:31,480 --> 01:06:38,680
Speaker 5: entire high school school years, right, And I would see her,

1611
01:06:39,520 --> 01:06:42,080
Speaker 5: I see her in passing, and it was always something

1612
01:06:42,160 --> 01:06:46,920
Speaker 5: about this one particular girl who always she's always been

1613
01:06:48,040 --> 01:06:50,920
Speaker 5: full of joy like and it was a feeling that

1614
01:06:51,160 --> 01:06:54,000
Speaker 5: that I always say that only my mom could give

1615
01:06:54,040 --> 01:06:56,560
Speaker 5: me like it make me feel like I can do anything.

1616
01:06:57,160 --> 01:07:00,360
Speaker 5: That's what I remember about the entire time. Now, I

1617
01:07:00,440 --> 01:07:02,800
Speaker 5: didn't start living a whole different life. I'm in college

1618
01:07:02,840 --> 01:07:06,240
Speaker 5: and went through high school playing sports popular by my

1619
01:07:06,320 --> 01:07:10,400
Speaker 5: own means, right, and nobody could ever make me feel

1620
01:07:10,480 --> 01:07:13,520
Speaker 5: like that besides my mam and this one particular girl.

1621
01:07:14,760 --> 01:07:20,960
Speaker 5: And this was now after a few incidents. But I

1622
01:07:21,120 --> 01:07:23,280
Speaker 5: like to say, you know things that where a lot

1623
01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:25,080
Speaker 5: of people had kind of started looking at me as

1624
01:07:25,160 --> 01:07:28,560
Speaker 5: being problematic. Right, So you got somebody who still got

1625
01:07:29,080 --> 01:07:33,240
Speaker 5: no no marks on their record, got their whole life

1626
01:07:33,440 --> 01:07:36,560
Speaker 5: ahead of them, right, and she still admiring your boy.

1627
01:07:37,280 --> 01:07:41,280
Speaker 5: And I'm like, man, this girl still got that little

1628
01:07:41,280 --> 01:07:43,480
Speaker 5: bit of crazy in her that I just I can't kick.

1629
01:07:43,880 --> 01:07:46,120
Speaker 5: It's crazy for you to call me after four years

1630
01:07:46,160 --> 01:07:48,280
Speaker 5: in the middle of the night and say what you

1631
01:07:48,400 --> 01:07:50,360
Speaker 5: said on the phone to me. That was crazy, but

1632
01:07:50,440 --> 01:07:52,280
Speaker 5: I was attracted to it. I was like, man, this

1633
01:07:52,400 --> 01:07:57,040
Speaker 5: girl still this girl weird. But I can't kick it.

1634
01:07:57,520 --> 01:08:01,200
Speaker 3: I'm a caller. So I called it, hey, and so

1635
01:08:01,360 --> 01:08:06,040
Speaker 3: would you call the phone? Damn chaying what did you say?

1636
01:08:08,200 --> 01:08:10,919
Speaker 5: First? She had a she had a roommate that didn't

1637
01:08:10,920 --> 01:08:14,200
Speaker 5: speak English. She was in Miami and I called her

1638
01:08:14,640 --> 01:08:18,599
Speaker 5: and I just remember the roommate answer in the phone,

1639
01:08:18,640 --> 01:08:20,880
Speaker 5: and I'm trying to say her name like she and

1640
01:08:20,920 --> 01:08:23,680
Speaker 5: I'm like making like this, this can't be. I got

1641
01:08:23,720 --> 01:08:26,479
Speaker 5: the number wrong, and she I could tell when she

1642
01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:28,559
Speaker 5: grabbed the phone. She got on the phone excited.

1643
01:08:28,880 --> 01:08:31,680
Speaker 2: I had been waiting by the year all day on that.

1644
01:08:31,880 --> 01:08:33,000
Speaker 3: But you we were gonna call it.

1645
01:08:33,479 --> 01:08:36,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, So when she got on the phone, I just

1646
01:08:36,640 --> 01:08:37,960
Speaker 5: I kept it. I tried to keep it.

1647
01:08:38,160 --> 01:08:39,000
Speaker 3: You try to keep it g D.

1648
01:08:39,160 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 5: I tried to guy's like, hey, you called me, Yeah,

1649
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:44,439
Speaker 5: say did you.

1650
01:08:44,520 --> 01:08:46,640
Speaker 2: Really call me at four o'clock in the morning. I

1651
01:08:46,840 --> 01:08:47,719
Speaker 2: was like, yep.

1652
01:08:47,960 --> 01:08:49,600
Speaker 5: And I ain't want to be jumping out there, so

1653
01:08:49,680 --> 01:08:52,040
Speaker 5: I just let her do the most, you know. But

1654
01:08:52,160 --> 01:08:55,040
Speaker 5: in my head, I'm like I had told my homeboys

1655
01:08:55,120 --> 01:08:57,519
Speaker 5: that in college. I was like I had one friend

1656
01:08:57,600 --> 01:08:58,840
Speaker 5: who I can always.

1657
01:08:58,479 --> 01:08:59,240
Speaker 3: You know that one friend.

1658
01:08:59,640 --> 01:09:01,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, So I'm telling him all the reasons why.

1659
01:09:02,000 --> 01:09:02,559
Speaker 3: The whole day.

1660
01:09:02,600 --> 01:09:04,439
Speaker 5: I'm like, man, this girl call me. I'm about trying

1661
01:09:04,439 --> 01:09:06,559
Speaker 5: to live my life, and now you want to come

1662
01:09:06,600 --> 01:09:08,679
Speaker 5: and get your boy back. I'm bating like I'm somebody.

1663
01:09:11,080 --> 01:09:13,439
Speaker 5: He was, and he waited and he waited.

1664
01:09:13,680 --> 01:09:14,320
Speaker 3: My boy tied.

1665
01:09:14,360 --> 01:09:15,240
Speaker 5: I love him to this day.

1666
01:09:15,400 --> 01:09:15,519
Speaker 3: Man.

1667
01:09:15,560 --> 01:09:19,880
Speaker 5: He said, you scared, fool man, You're gonna call her?

1668
01:09:20,040 --> 01:09:20,200
Speaker 3: You know.

1669
01:09:21,080 --> 01:09:23,639
Speaker 5: I'm like, Nah, I ain't gonna call her. I waited

1670
01:09:23,760 --> 01:09:25,439
Speaker 5: till the end of the day, the end of the day,

1671
01:09:26,040 --> 01:09:29,400
Speaker 5: and I called her, you know, and I knew I

1672
01:09:29,680 --> 01:09:31,040
Speaker 5: was you know what I mean, Like it was just

1673
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:34,040
Speaker 5: one of those where I was like, I don't want

1674
01:09:34,040 --> 01:09:35,960
Speaker 5: to be this dude. You know that ego thing right

1675
01:09:36,160 --> 01:09:36,960
Speaker 5: right right right?

1676
01:09:37,600 --> 01:09:38,200
Speaker 3: I called her.

1677
01:09:38,720 --> 01:09:42,160
Speaker 5: I called her, and here we are twenty five years later.

1678
01:09:42,800 --> 01:09:47,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, is marriage everything you thought it would be?

1679
01:09:47,760 --> 01:09:48,519
Speaker 3: You too thought it would be.

1680
01:09:49,600 --> 01:09:51,519
Speaker 2: It is nothing that we thought it would be.

1681
01:09:53,920 --> 01:09:54,800
Speaker 3: Is that good? Or Man?

1682
01:09:55,040 --> 01:09:59,759
Speaker 1: It's good because you guys make it sound so perfect.

1683
01:10:00,680 --> 01:10:03,800
Speaker 1: But there has to be some disagreements at some point?

1684
01:10:04,760 --> 01:10:10,840
Speaker 1: What what about the fairy tale? For feel grade and

1685
01:10:11,200 --> 01:10:14,799
Speaker 1: I hertale no, no, no, See, don't.

1686
01:10:14,640 --> 01:10:18,920
Speaker 5: Be confused about okay, marriage, See what you know what,

1687
01:10:19,120 --> 01:10:20,760
Speaker 5: I didn't come from a house. I didn't come from

1688
01:10:20,760 --> 01:10:23,639
Speaker 5: a family of marriage, But I ain't have no understanding

1689
01:10:23,720 --> 01:10:27,000
Speaker 5: of what marriage was. Right, her parents were married and

1690
01:10:27,200 --> 01:10:32,560
Speaker 5: you know, church going, you know that, you know, so

1691
01:10:32,640 --> 01:10:34,680
Speaker 5: I didn't have an understanding of what marriage was. So

1692
01:10:35,080 --> 01:10:37,400
Speaker 5: when you asked a question, I'm like, I had this

1693
01:10:38,240 --> 01:10:44,920
Speaker 5: ridiculous idea. This really just male perspective of what marriage is.

1694
01:10:45,080 --> 01:10:47,760
Speaker 5: I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna have this. It's gonna

1695
01:10:47,800 --> 01:10:50,200
Speaker 5: I ain't gotta be out here chasing this because it's

1696
01:10:50,240 --> 01:10:54,160
Speaker 5: at the house. That was really in simple what it was,

1697
01:10:55,120 --> 01:11:01,280
Speaker 5: but as we uh, as we grew together, it became

1698
01:11:01,400 --> 01:11:05,560
Speaker 5: something completely different. It became you know that, that's my

1699
01:11:05,720 --> 01:11:08,800
Speaker 5: best friend. You know, that's that that's that unconditional thing,

1700
01:11:08,920 --> 01:11:11,680
Speaker 5: that's that thing to where even when I'm in I'm

1701
01:11:11,760 --> 01:11:13,960
Speaker 5: not ready to hear what she's saying, I got to

1702
01:11:14,000 --> 01:11:18,120
Speaker 5: revisit it. And now it's a possibility that she could

1703
01:11:18,160 --> 01:11:20,600
Speaker 5: be right. This is the one, this is this is

1704
01:11:20,680 --> 01:11:23,719
Speaker 5: the person, the one person on this earth, even outside

1705
01:11:23,760 --> 01:11:25,760
Speaker 5: of my mom. Right now, my mom, I'm always right,

1706
01:11:25,840 --> 01:11:28,439
Speaker 5: I'm a baby feel but this is the one person

1707
01:11:28,520 --> 01:11:33,360
Speaker 5: that's gonna that has no interest in trying to backdoor

1708
01:11:33,520 --> 01:11:37,519
Speaker 5: me or get one over on me. I gotta consider it.

1709
01:11:37,720 --> 01:11:40,240
Speaker 5: And that's invaluable, you know what I mean. That's you know,

1710
01:11:40,360 --> 01:11:42,439
Speaker 5: so I started to learn what marriage truly is. And

1711
01:11:42,600 --> 01:11:46,920
Speaker 5: also in the aspect of it's it's like a fortune

1712
01:11:46,920 --> 01:11:49,080
Speaker 5: five hundred company, you know what I mean. It's that

1713
01:11:49,240 --> 01:11:51,599
Speaker 5: thing to where you say, look, if you don't take

1714
01:11:51,680 --> 01:11:54,479
Speaker 5: pride in anything else, you should be able to take

1715
01:11:54,560 --> 01:11:58,680
Speaker 5: pride in this companion that is building your legacy, you know,

1716
01:11:58,760 --> 01:12:00,640
Speaker 5: where your kids will be able to a lot of

1717
01:12:00,680 --> 01:12:02,640
Speaker 5: people don't have. Like I'm listening to your interview with

1718
01:12:02,680 --> 01:12:06,320
Speaker 5: my wife, right, and you asked her a question, what's

1719
01:12:06,360 --> 01:12:07,760
Speaker 5: the one thing that you're most proud of?

1720
01:12:08,040 --> 01:12:08,160
Speaker 3: Right?

1721
01:12:08,400 --> 01:12:11,600
Speaker 5: I knew she was gonna say that, right. But what

1722
01:12:11,760 --> 01:12:15,559
Speaker 5: I value out of all of this that I didn't

1723
01:12:15,640 --> 01:12:19,920
Speaker 5: have growing up is that my great grandkids will be

1724
01:12:20,000 --> 01:12:23,000
Speaker 5: able to go and find something with the Brown family

1725
01:12:23,080 --> 01:12:26,080
Speaker 5: to name on it. They'll be able to say, my

1726
01:12:26,160 --> 01:12:30,599
Speaker 5: great grandmama, she wrote two books. My great grandma got

1727
01:12:30,640 --> 01:12:33,519
Speaker 5: nominated for this. My great grandmama is the reason I'm

1728
01:12:33,520 --> 01:12:35,720
Speaker 5: able to go to this nice school. My great, I

1729
01:12:35,800 --> 01:12:38,080
Speaker 5: ain't have none of that. Those things right there is

1730
01:12:38,160 --> 01:12:41,840
Speaker 5: what marriage turned out to be, and more important than

1731
01:12:41,880 --> 01:12:45,120
Speaker 5: what I thought marriage was about, was you know those

1732
01:12:45,240 --> 01:12:50,840
Speaker 5: male ego driven dumb things and materialistic things from the South.

1733
01:12:51,120 --> 01:12:51,360
Speaker 3: I am.

1734
01:12:51,720 --> 01:12:54,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, the marriage when you got home to meal was

1735
01:12:54,160 --> 01:12:58,840
Speaker 1: on the table, the wife cook, clean, did all those things,

1736
01:12:59,400 --> 01:13:00,160
Speaker 1: and what.

1737
01:13:00,280 --> 01:13:01,120
Speaker 3: The man said.

1738
01:13:01,320 --> 01:13:02,840
Speaker 1: I don't know how it was in your house, but

1739
01:13:02,920 --> 01:13:06,840
Speaker 1: what the man said when it wasn't. No, Okay, let's

1740
01:13:06,840 --> 01:13:09,120
Speaker 1: think about it. Let's talk this through. He said, we

1741
01:13:09,240 --> 01:13:10,920
Speaker 1: going to church. We went the church, he said, we

1742
01:13:11,040 --> 01:13:14,360
Speaker 1: go in here, we going there. But I'm looking at you.

1743
01:13:14,600 --> 01:13:17,840
Speaker 1: It really is a fifty to fifty yes, And that's

1744
01:13:17,880 --> 01:13:20,960
Speaker 1: what I treasure that the most. I don't have to

1745
01:13:21,040 --> 01:13:23,400
Speaker 1: carry all that weight. So you know how you started

1746
01:13:23,479 --> 01:13:25,720
Speaker 1: with me being able to play the back.

1747
01:13:25,880 --> 01:13:29,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, I have no issue with that. I have no

1748
01:13:29,160 --> 01:13:30,440
Speaker 5: issue with that because.

1749
01:13:30,320 --> 01:13:31,920
Speaker 1: Because you but you know a lot of men would

1750
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:35,439
Speaker 1: a lot of men would feel emasculated if their wife

1751
01:13:35,520 --> 01:13:39,719
Speaker 1: or their significant other because yo, she said, hey, you're

1752
01:13:39,800 --> 01:13:40,519
Speaker 1: the police officer.

1753
01:13:40,640 --> 01:13:42,519
Speaker 3: Yeah, she said, set that down. Yep.

1754
01:13:42,720 --> 01:13:45,400
Speaker 5: I got a baby, and that's because of that little

1755
01:13:45,439 --> 01:13:46,280
Speaker 5: bit of crazy right.

1756
01:13:46,479 --> 01:13:46,639
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1757
01:13:46,800 --> 01:13:50,840
Speaker 5: So look, so from the very beginning, I'm not lying

1758
01:13:50,880 --> 01:13:52,560
Speaker 5: to you. Ill could literally come in the house and

1759
01:13:52,640 --> 01:13:55,439
Speaker 5: tell my wife I wanted to be an astronaut and

1760
01:13:55,560 --> 01:13:58,760
Speaker 5: the next day she's gonna have a paperwork everything late.

1761
01:13:59,320 --> 01:14:01,800
Speaker 5: It's because support. That's the kind of support that I

1762
01:14:01,920 --> 01:14:04,400
Speaker 5: got from my wife. Right, I'm order to suit forman

1763
01:14:04,479 --> 01:14:08,640
Speaker 5: and say, look, she was that kind of crazy, right,

1764
01:14:08,840 --> 01:14:12,320
Speaker 5: So I got all of that prior to what the

1765
01:14:12,400 --> 01:14:16,280
Speaker 5: world see right now. See, they don't know that portion

1766
01:14:16,400 --> 01:14:18,160
Speaker 5: of the story, like how she was there supporting me

1767
01:14:18,240 --> 01:14:21,000
Speaker 5: and making me feel like an outpa male and king.

1768
01:14:21,200 --> 01:14:24,759
Speaker 5: She didn't treat me like a king for the majority

1769
01:14:24,800 --> 01:14:27,000
Speaker 5: of our relationship, believing in me.

1770
01:14:27,160 --> 01:14:30,720
Speaker 1: When I say, even before they knew who Tabitha Brown was.

1771
01:14:31,040 --> 01:14:34,120
Speaker 1: So she was treating you like this before she was Hey,

1772
01:14:34,240 --> 01:14:38,120
Speaker 1: I'm Tabitha Brown all that I just read the.

1773
01:14:38,120 --> 01:14:40,439
Speaker 5: Other day, believing in me, and I need people to

1774
01:14:40,520 --> 01:14:43,479
Speaker 5: understand that, believe in when I say, I got us

1775
01:14:44,360 --> 01:14:47,599
Speaker 5: right and even when I didn't believe in myself, finding

1776
01:14:47,680 --> 01:14:50,599
Speaker 5: a way to get me back up into my belief

1777
01:14:50,680 --> 01:14:52,519
Speaker 5: system so that I could take care of my family.

1778
01:14:52,640 --> 01:14:55,920
Speaker 5: So she's been playing second so well that I learned

1779
01:14:55,960 --> 01:14:58,560
Speaker 5: from her how to do it and what I and

1780
01:14:58,640 --> 01:15:00,559
Speaker 5: now I need to be a soldier for her. Right, well,

1781
01:15:00,600 --> 01:15:03,560
Speaker 5: I'm gonna be a soldier for so it's easy for me,

1782
01:15:03,840 --> 01:15:11,320
Speaker 5: and especially when it's coming like this in abundance. This up,

1783
01:15:13,200 --> 01:15:13,639
Speaker 5: I'm good.

1784
01:15:14,720 --> 01:15:17,719
Speaker 1: I read Gabrielle Union. She said her and her husband

1785
01:15:17,920 --> 01:15:22,200
Speaker 1: split everything fifty to fifty. And I'm listening to you, guys,

1786
01:15:22,720 --> 01:15:25,800
Speaker 1: and you know, marriage is a is a is a

1787
01:15:26,000 --> 01:15:29,000
Speaker 1: personal person thing. What works in their marriage might not

1788
01:15:29,160 --> 01:15:31,519
Speaker 1: work in this marriage, and it might not work for you, guys.

1789
01:15:31,760 --> 01:15:33,240
Speaker 1: So what are your thoughts to have Let me get

1790
01:15:33,280 --> 01:15:35,599
Speaker 1: you first, what are your thoughts on you guys splitting

1791
01:15:35,640 --> 01:15:37,479
Speaker 1: things fifty I.

1792
01:15:37,479 --> 01:15:40,680
Speaker 6: Don't really know about fifty to fifty because it's one

1793
01:15:40,760 --> 01:15:42,080
Speaker 6: hundred one hundred right, right?

1794
01:15:42,439 --> 01:15:44,800
Speaker 2: What was mine as his and was his?

1795
01:15:45,400 --> 01:15:49,160
Speaker 6: Like we when we started our relationship, we had one

1796
01:15:49,240 --> 01:15:52,479
Speaker 6: bank account one right, we both had a deblocard that

1797
01:15:52,640 --> 01:15:58,800
Speaker 6: was it was anything in it honey, old draft, the

1798
01:15:58,880 --> 01:16:02,479
Speaker 6: old draft, thie. But we you know, that's when we

1799
01:16:02,600 --> 01:16:04,880
Speaker 6: both we both was working at the costs in it together, right,

1800
01:16:05,240 --> 01:16:07,920
Speaker 6: So all our money went together, We balanced it together.

1801
01:16:07,920 --> 01:16:10,840
Speaker 6: We kept a notebook and we would do buildsing the

1802
01:16:10,880 --> 01:16:11,880
Speaker 6: notebook and we would talk.

1803
01:16:11,800 --> 01:16:15,240
Speaker 5: About what and I said, our real savings. We only

1804
01:16:15,280 --> 01:16:17,400
Speaker 5: had that account because it was starting to be a

1805
01:16:17,439 --> 01:16:18,960
Speaker 5: part of life where you had That's how you butt.

1806
01:16:18,960 --> 01:16:21,479
Speaker 5: Our real savings was in a Nike shoe box.

1807
01:16:22,200 --> 01:16:22,400
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1808
01:16:22,840 --> 01:16:25,360
Speaker 6: So it's always been our money together, right, And now

1809
01:16:25,439 --> 01:16:28,400
Speaker 6: we have multiple accounts, but we're both still on them all.

1810
01:16:29,280 --> 01:16:31,920
Speaker 2: So there's no money that he doesn't know about it.

1811
01:16:31,920 --> 01:16:34,519
Speaker 2: There's no money I don't know about. We just in

1812
01:16:34,640 --> 01:16:35,040
Speaker 2: it together.

1813
01:16:35,680 --> 01:16:35,880
Speaker 3: Wow.

1814
01:16:37,560 --> 01:16:42,479
Speaker 1: Worked so to see tab because this is not traditional.

1815
01:16:42,680 --> 01:16:44,640
Speaker 1: This is a different way of doing things. Normally, the

1816
01:16:44,720 --> 01:16:47,240
Speaker 1: husband goes off the work, the wife stays at home,

1817
01:16:47,320 --> 01:16:50,880
Speaker 1: takes care of the kids. Okay, boom, Now you have

1818
01:16:51,000 --> 01:16:53,840
Speaker 1: a very non traditional and you, like you said, you're like,

1819
01:16:53,880 --> 01:16:56,680
Speaker 1: I'm cool with it, bro, I'm cool with it. How

1820
01:16:57,920 --> 01:16:59,920
Speaker 1: do you because a lot of times it's the home

1821
01:17:00,400 --> 01:17:02,080
Speaker 1: because they always got something say bad. I can't believe

1822
01:17:02,120 --> 01:17:04,240
Speaker 1: you let your your woman take care of you, stopping

1823
01:17:04,360 --> 01:17:08,439
Speaker 1: all crazy. But because you had known her for so

1824
01:17:08,840 --> 01:17:13,040
Speaker 1: long and you guys had been together for so long before,

1825
01:17:14,520 --> 01:17:15,200
Speaker 1: it didn't even bother.

1826
01:17:15,280 --> 01:17:15,560
Speaker 3: You did it.

1827
01:17:16,200 --> 01:17:19,320
Speaker 5: And that's why that's and you just summed it up.

1828
01:17:19,360 --> 01:17:24,360
Speaker 5: It didn't. There's I only know one other couple like

1829
01:17:24,600 --> 01:17:27,639
Speaker 5: me and my wife that knew each other so long

1830
01:17:27,760 --> 01:17:32,080
Speaker 5: and grew up together. So and I really kind of

1831
01:17:32,160 --> 01:17:35,840
Speaker 5: keep my circle tight, you know, I don't really, Yeah,

1832
01:17:35,880 --> 01:17:38,559
Speaker 5: I don't really. So I haven't encountered too many people

1833
01:17:38,680 --> 01:17:41,200
Speaker 5: in my immediate circle. I've had quite a few people,

1834
01:17:41,520 --> 01:17:43,800
Speaker 5: especially when I moved here to La, to kind of

1835
01:17:43,960 --> 01:17:45,840
Speaker 5: tell me that we weren't gonna make it, and you know,

1836
01:17:46,000 --> 01:17:48,960
Speaker 5: all this because it's just impossible. But I'm a country boy.

1837
01:17:49,040 --> 01:17:50,439
Speaker 5: You ain't seen the city yet. You don't know what

1838
01:17:50,560 --> 01:17:53,880
Speaker 5: kind of women out here, that type of thing. But

1839
01:17:57,520 --> 01:17:58,880
Speaker 5: when I came out here, I came out here with

1840
01:17:58,960 --> 01:18:04,880
Speaker 5: a gold and that goal was for us to make

1841
01:18:05,880 --> 01:18:09,439
Speaker 5: something out of nothing. Right, So I found my I

1842
01:18:09,600 --> 01:18:12,200
Speaker 5: just associated with people who were married, other young people

1843
01:18:12,240 --> 01:18:14,400
Speaker 5: who were married, or other people who were married and

1844
01:18:14,600 --> 01:18:16,720
Speaker 5: like minded. And when it started tourn you know, going

1845
01:18:16,840 --> 01:18:19,840
Speaker 5: left with negative thinking and negative I kind of put

1846
01:18:19,880 --> 01:18:22,640
Speaker 5: a wedge in there to protect what I got in

1847
01:18:22,720 --> 01:18:23,280
Speaker 5: my household.

1848
01:18:23,680 --> 01:18:26,400
Speaker 3: Wow, I heard Steve Harvey had like I said. I

1849
01:18:26,439 --> 01:18:28,800
Speaker 3: had him on. He said, blended family is hard.

1850
01:18:30,720 --> 01:18:35,040
Speaker 1: How was it you know, your daughter accepting tab and

1851
01:18:35,160 --> 01:18:37,960
Speaker 1: tab understanding because I think the thing is that you

1852
01:18:38,120 --> 01:18:39,880
Speaker 1: hear a lot of kids you not my mom, you

1853
01:18:40,040 --> 01:18:42,960
Speaker 1: not my dad, Like I'm gonna tell your tale of

1854
01:18:43,080 --> 01:18:44,080
Speaker 1: like I'm your mom or your dad.

1855
01:18:44,120 --> 01:18:44,879
Speaker 3: You better hunt.

1856
01:18:46,880 --> 01:18:47,160
Speaker 1: Hard.

1857
01:18:47,680 --> 01:18:49,599
Speaker 2: It's hard, It is definitely hard.

1858
01:18:49,960 --> 01:18:53,479
Speaker 6: But I don't think it's because of the children, right.

1859
01:18:53,600 --> 01:18:57,680
Speaker 6: The adults make things hard, right, really absolutely so for me,

1860
01:18:57,960 --> 01:19:02,240
Speaker 6: I've been Leah's stepped since she was two, so she

1861
01:19:02,320 --> 01:19:03,280
Speaker 6: don't know nothing else.

1862
01:19:03,880 --> 01:19:06,280
Speaker 2: Her parents were never together, right, so she never saw that.

1863
01:19:06,680 --> 01:19:11,200
Speaker 2: So all she knows this and it's always been tailed.

1864
01:19:11,280 --> 01:19:13,040
Speaker 6: I ain't never like I was a stepmam before I

1865
01:19:13,160 --> 01:19:16,759
Speaker 6: was a mother, wow right, I had that role before

1866
01:19:16,760 --> 01:19:19,600
Speaker 6: I was a moment so uh, And I always loved it,

1867
01:19:20,320 --> 01:19:20,479
Speaker 6: you know.

1868
01:19:20,600 --> 01:19:22,439
Speaker 2: It was always a fun thing for me, and I

1869
01:19:22,520 --> 01:19:24,280
Speaker 2: still do. I mean she's good and grown now. She

1870
01:19:24,840 --> 01:19:28,000
Speaker 2: about to be twenty eight, so she's grown grown.

1871
01:19:28,120 --> 01:19:30,599
Speaker 5: But yeah, and it's hard because of just even two

1872
01:19:30,840 --> 01:19:34,560
Speaker 5: with us moving and separating ourselves. There's a culture in

1873
01:19:34,640 --> 01:19:38,800
Speaker 5: North Carolina how you raise kids, right, absolutely in the South, Yeah,

1874
01:19:38,840 --> 01:19:41,520
Speaker 5: then there's a difference, and we wanted we didn't necessarily

1875
01:19:41,600 --> 01:19:44,479
Speaker 5: bring everything with us on how we wanted to raise

1876
01:19:44,520 --> 01:19:47,600
Speaker 5: our kids. To La, but we bought a lot of it.

1877
01:19:47,720 --> 01:19:50,559
Speaker 5: But there are some indifferences, right, So when those two worlds,

1878
01:19:51,880 --> 01:19:54,560
Speaker 5: you know, it's like they collide. The adults have a

1879
01:19:54,640 --> 01:19:56,040
Speaker 5: problem yet you get what I mean.

1880
01:19:56,160 --> 01:19:59,679
Speaker 6: So we also learned as we as we were parenting

1881
01:20:00,000 --> 01:20:04,240
Speaker 6: our children that we had together, we were learning that,

1882
01:20:04,520 --> 01:20:06,840
Speaker 6: oh wait, just because this is how it was for us,

1883
01:20:06,880 --> 01:20:08,519
Speaker 6: it's gonna work for our kids, right.

1884
01:20:08,800 --> 01:20:10,080
Speaker 2: And there was a lot of things I want to

1885
01:20:10,120 --> 01:20:10,280
Speaker 2: tell you.

1886
01:20:10,360 --> 01:20:12,840
Speaker 1: You can't discipline your kids like you got this going

1887
01:20:12,880 --> 01:20:14,759
Speaker 1: to jail, then you're going to jail.

1888
01:20:15,000 --> 01:20:17,560
Speaker 3: If it's simplar that you going to jail.

1889
01:20:18,080 --> 01:20:22,479
Speaker 6: Right exactly, Like that ain't working. You can't go out

1890
01:20:22,520 --> 01:20:23,960
Speaker 6: there and get non switch off the palm tree.

1891
01:20:24,040 --> 01:20:27,400
Speaker 3: Okay, but it was.

1892
01:20:27,520 --> 01:20:28,479
Speaker 2: It was just different.

1893
01:20:28,800 --> 01:20:33,400
Speaker 6: And I think also not being in North Carolina, you know,

1894
01:20:33,560 --> 01:20:35,679
Speaker 6: with my stepdaughter she was still living with her mom

1895
01:20:36,200 --> 01:20:39,439
Speaker 6: and we were here. Even that was hard, right, But

1896
01:20:39,880 --> 01:20:41,800
Speaker 6: we made it, of course work the best that we

1897
01:20:41,880 --> 01:20:44,599
Speaker 6: could because we want a lot of us with no money.

1898
01:20:45,160 --> 01:20:45,559
Speaker 3: For a chance.

1899
01:20:45,560 --> 01:20:52,520
Speaker 1: You're a basketball coach now, mhm, So obviously you like basketball.

1900
01:20:52,680 --> 01:20:53,719
Speaker 1: So who's your team.

1901
01:20:55,080 --> 01:20:55,360
Speaker 3: Roll with?

1902
01:20:58,600 --> 01:21:02,760
Speaker 5: So always say listen wherever he go, I'm going right, right,

1903
01:21:02,880 --> 01:21:04,599
Speaker 5: So I don't like the I don't like to claim

1904
01:21:04,720 --> 01:21:10,280
Speaker 5: teams right. You know, Lebron, My whole team thing went

1905
01:21:10,360 --> 01:21:14,720
Speaker 5: out literally when Mike retired, and then Lebron came in

1906
01:21:14,840 --> 01:21:17,000
Speaker 5: and he convinced me that he he was the man

1907
01:21:17,080 --> 01:21:20,000
Speaker 5: for the job. And then the new wave of how

1908
01:21:20,280 --> 01:21:23,719
Speaker 5: how players move and everything. Yeah, yeah, I rote Lebron

1909
01:21:23,840 --> 01:21:27,840
Speaker 5: and I'm wherever he at. That's where I'm at, a.

1910
01:21:27,840 --> 01:21:29,840
Speaker 1: Guy that's been in the loser an awful lot lately

1911
01:21:29,880 --> 01:21:32,240
Speaker 1: of John Moran. We saw the incidents that he had

1912
01:21:32,320 --> 01:21:35,360
Speaker 1: with the guns waving maronal Ig live. If he was

1913
01:21:35,400 --> 01:21:38,080
Speaker 1: your son, what type of advice would you give him?

1914
01:21:38,479 --> 01:21:41,280
Speaker 1: Because you know, and I tell people this, people don't

1915
01:21:41,320 --> 01:21:44,880
Speaker 1: understand this. When the child becomes the provider, it changed

1916
01:21:45,520 --> 01:21:50,400
Speaker 1: the dynamic in a relationship because you, as a father,

1917
01:21:50,560 --> 01:21:53,640
Speaker 1: you provide. But once he becomes a professional athlete or

1918
01:21:53,680 --> 01:21:56,400
Speaker 1: he becomes famous and then he takes over that role,

1919
01:21:56,720 --> 01:21:59,719
Speaker 1: the roles have not changed. It shouldn't because the dynamic

1920
01:21:59,880 --> 01:22:02,240
Speaker 1: is you're the father, he's the son. But when he

1921
01:22:02,360 --> 01:22:04,680
Speaker 1: starts paying for the house, then the cardinals, and he

1922
01:22:04,760 --> 01:22:08,080
Speaker 1: starts paying for everything that you have or the family has,

1923
01:22:09,240 --> 01:22:11,280
Speaker 1: you kind of treat him differently, even though you.

1924
01:22:11,400 --> 01:22:17,160
Speaker 5: Should see I think the mistake is in wherever you

1925
01:22:17,320 --> 01:22:20,400
Speaker 5: start treating him differently is where you've already messed up.

1926
01:22:21,800 --> 01:22:26,759
Speaker 5: You've already messed up. I don't think that it's okay

1927
01:22:26,840 --> 01:22:28,760
Speaker 5: some point the dynamic change with me and my wife

1928
01:22:30,439 --> 01:22:33,240
Speaker 5: and no hesitation. When I feel some kind of way,

1929
01:22:33,280 --> 01:22:37,120
Speaker 5: I'm gonna I'm gonna speak my mind. I'm a man, right,

1930
01:22:37,240 --> 01:22:41,519
Speaker 5: and I value this relationship and our future more so

1931
01:22:41,720 --> 01:22:44,439
Speaker 5: than I do anything that this money can do for us.

1932
01:22:45,000 --> 01:22:46,680
Speaker 3: So if he was my son, to.

1933
01:22:46,760 --> 01:22:52,120
Speaker 5: Answer your question, I would really have to sit down

1934
01:22:52,200 --> 01:22:53,680
Speaker 5: and have a heart to heart with my son and

1935
01:22:53,760 --> 01:22:55,840
Speaker 5: try to try to find out, man, what is your

1936
01:22:55,880 --> 01:23:02,960
Speaker 5: infatuation with guns? And bring him I just I really

1937
01:23:03,040 --> 01:23:05,920
Speaker 5: don't understand it, right, I need to and I need

1938
01:23:06,040 --> 01:23:08,719
Speaker 5: to get some kind of understanding of why you feel

1939
01:23:08,800 --> 01:23:13,040
Speaker 5: the need to one have one to two show it

1940
01:23:13,160 --> 01:23:17,439
Speaker 5: off to the world, right. Three What is it that

1941
01:23:17,560 --> 01:23:21,840
Speaker 5: you don't understand about this blessing right that.

1942
01:23:23,880 --> 01:23:24,560
Speaker 3: Been given to you?

1943
01:23:24,840 --> 01:23:27,320
Speaker 5: You you worth? I mean, I don't know, but I

1944
01:23:27,479 --> 01:23:30,600
Speaker 5: imagine he worth about two hundred million dollars, right, And

1945
01:23:30,720 --> 01:23:33,120
Speaker 5: I would try to probably send some light on him

1946
01:23:33,280 --> 01:23:38,000
Speaker 5: of what that really means, so he can so because

1947
01:23:38,000 --> 01:23:40,400
Speaker 5: it is too. I don't sometimes think that we I

1948
01:23:40,439 --> 01:23:42,920
Speaker 5: think we make an assumption about the youth and that

1949
01:23:43,040 --> 01:23:46,200
Speaker 5: they should understand it. I deal with kids, and I'm

1950
01:23:46,240 --> 01:23:47,160
Speaker 5: the over explainer.

1951
01:23:47,400 --> 01:23:48,040
Speaker 3: I'm the dude.

1952
01:23:48,360 --> 01:23:50,479
Speaker 5: I'm the dude that's like, nah, bump that I'm not

1953
01:23:50,560 --> 01:23:52,479
Speaker 5: doing what y'all a customer are doing and trying to

1954
01:23:52,479 --> 01:23:54,719
Speaker 5: explain and get it done in forty five seconds. Because

1955
01:23:54,800 --> 01:23:58,960
Speaker 5: Instagram and social media has now turned the world into

1956
01:23:59,080 --> 01:24:01,640
Speaker 5: ninety seconds, let's get it all done. Kids are now

1957
01:24:01,760 --> 01:24:08,040
Speaker 5: starting to think that's there, that's the expectation of attentiveness, right.

1958
01:24:08,280 --> 01:24:11,240
Speaker 5: I'm nah nah, I'm the dude that's like, no, we're

1959
01:24:11,240 --> 01:24:15,120
Speaker 5: gonna talk until I feel like you got it right.

1960
01:24:15,200 --> 01:24:18,360
Speaker 5: So he I don't think that he is of understanding

1961
01:24:18,439 --> 01:24:20,840
Speaker 5: and taking the type of pride as a young black man,

1962
01:24:20,960 --> 01:24:22,439
Speaker 5: strong emphasis on black.

1963
01:24:22,280 --> 01:24:23,280
Speaker 3: Man that you are.

1964
01:24:23,479 --> 01:24:29,840
Speaker 5: You are now responsible for generations. Okay, let's make it personal.

1965
01:24:29,960 --> 01:24:31,439
Speaker 5: If you don't, if it's not that big of a

1966
01:24:31,520 --> 01:24:33,559
Speaker 5: deal for you and the kids out in the world

1967
01:24:33,600 --> 01:24:36,040
Speaker 5: that you don't know personally, let's sit down and I

1968
01:24:36,160 --> 01:24:39,759
Speaker 5: want you to I want you to really think about

1969
01:24:39,840 --> 01:24:43,960
Speaker 5: the life that you won't your grandchild have yo now

1970
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Speaker 5: his child, and then think about how they gonna view

1971
01:24:47,280 --> 01:24:49,920
Speaker 5: you when they go to Like with my wife, I'm

1972
01:24:50,000 --> 01:24:51,680
Speaker 5: telling you, that's the most important thing to me. I

1973
01:24:51,840 --> 01:24:55,920
Speaker 5: love the fact that we can that. At ninety I

1974
01:24:56,040 --> 01:24:58,760
Speaker 5: can envision one of my great grandkids coming to me

1975
01:24:58,800 --> 01:25:02,200
Speaker 5: and saying, yeah, man, Grandma, right there, right there, right there.

1976
01:25:02,280 --> 01:25:04,360
Speaker 5: They can't lie about it, they can't change it. It's

1977
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Speaker 5: right here.

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Speaker 3: We got it.

1979
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Speaker 5: And I think that's where I will start. It's trying

1980
01:25:09,280 --> 01:25:14,960
Speaker 5: to something there because there's a disconnect in the world

1981
01:25:15,080 --> 01:25:17,679
Speaker 5: of those type of things where it's like we ain't

1982
01:25:17,680 --> 01:25:21,240
Speaker 5: sending the message home. And that's where I would start

1983
01:25:21,280 --> 01:25:23,600
Speaker 5: as a dad, like, look, man, I'm proud of you,

1984
01:25:23,720 --> 01:25:25,680
Speaker 5: but you need to be proud of yourself. You need

1985
01:25:25,760 --> 01:25:28,599
Speaker 5: to you need to own some of this. You need

1986
01:25:28,680 --> 01:25:31,280
Speaker 5: to see what this really is. This is and if

1987
01:25:31,320 --> 01:25:33,920
Speaker 5: he ain't had a history lesson, he need to get one.

1988
01:25:34,560 --> 01:25:35,479
Speaker 5: That's where I will start.

1989
01:25:36,479 --> 01:25:37,840
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get you out of here on this one.

1990
01:25:39,479 --> 01:25:45,160
Speaker 1: What's your keys to a success in business.

1991
01:25:46,240 --> 01:25:49,760
Speaker 2: And in manage oh, honesty.

1992
01:25:51,479 --> 01:25:51,960
Speaker 3: In both.

1993
01:25:52,880 --> 01:25:57,120
Speaker 6: Right, If I can trust you, we can build amount.

1994
01:25:57,960 --> 01:26:01,840
Speaker 6: Right If there's trust there. If we're honest, we can

1995
01:26:01,920 --> 01:26:04,400
Speaker 6: actually have a conversation. We do all the things that

1996
01:26:04,520 --> 01:26:06,160
Speaker 6: we need in truth.

1997
01:26:07,439 --> 01:26:07,919
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

1998
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Speaker 5: I would just like to add just promoting and encouraging

1999
01:26:12,400 --> 01:26:15,479
Speaker 5: your partner to be okay with change. I think sometimes

2000
01:26:15,560 --> 01:26:19,800
Speaker 5: we kind of how how you started out is how

2001
01:26:19,840 --> 01:26:23,240
Speaker 5: I always want you to be. So I think you should,

2002
01:26:23,360 --> 01:26:27,920
Speaker 5: you know, encourage change and welcome it and be okay

2003
01:26:28,000 --> 01:26:31,040
Speaker 5: with it with your partner growing and growing in any direction.

2004
01:26:31,160 --> 01:26:33,600
Speaker 5: And I feel threatened by them outgrowing you.

2005
01:26:34,760 --> 01:26:36,000
Speaker 2: And that's some business city.

2006
01:26:37,000 --> 01:26:39,040
Speaker 3: Could you, guys, because you grow every day.

2007
01:26:39,120 --> 01:26:41,880
Speaker 1: Tabitha is different today than she was yesterday, and she'll

2008
01:26:41,920 --> 01:26:44,719
Speaker 1: be different tomorrow than she was today, and likewise for chance,

2009
01:26:44,960 --> 01:26:46,840
Speaker 1: and so you have to be ready to adapt to

2010
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Speaker 1: that change.

2011
01:26:47,560 --> 01:26:52,240
Speaker 5: Absolutely, be okay with it, expect it on day one

2012
01:26:52,280 --> 01:26:53,880
Speaker 5: when you get married, when you say I do, start

2013
01:26:53,960 --> 01:26:57,040
Speaker 5: thinking about it like this next week.

2014
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Speaker 2: All that night. The honeymoon might be a little different

2015
01:27:01,600 --> 01:27:02,120
Speaker 2: than what you think.

2016
01:27:02,200 --> 01:27:05,200
Speaker 3: Guys. You guys seem like you guys, have you guys

2017
01:27:05,320 --> 01:27:07,519
Speaker 3: have so much fun? You seem like you have so

2018
01:27:07,800 --> 01:27:11,200
Speaker 3: much fun together. Do you guys have been together?

2019
01:27:11,240 --> 01:27:12,760
Speaker 2: You you can?

2020
01:27:12,920 --> 01:27:14,880
Speaker 1: I bet you can finish her center, and she can

2021
01:27:14,960 --> 01:27:17,240
Speaker 1: finish your center because you guys have been together that

2022
01:27:17,360 --> 01:27:18,880
Speaker 1: long that you know what each other's thinking.

2023
01:27:19,040 --> 01:27:22,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, most times. Yeah, and then sometimes she has five.

2024
01:27:24,800 --> 01:27:29,960
Speaker 2: To change. So I did bring you some some things. Okay,

2025
01:27:31,680 --> 01:27:33,920
Speaker 2: So it's a couple of things, and some of this

2026
01:27:34,040 --> 01:27:35,840
Speaker 2: might have to go to some people, okay that you

2027
01:27:35,920 --> 01:27:37,360
Speaker 2: you know, they're gonna say, she didn't give me that.

2028
01:27:37,400 --> 01:27:40,200
Speaker 2: Because this is my cookbook. In case you don't want that,

2029
01:27:40,880 --> 01:27:41,160
Speaker 2: get you.

2030
01:27:42,800 --> 01:27:43,240
Speaker 1: Cook book.

2031
01:27:43,240 --> 01:27:45,760
Speaker 2: It's a big cooking book. This is my first book,

2032
01:27:45,760 --> 01:27:47,920
Speaker 2: Beating the Soul. So that's all about my life and

2033
01:27:47,960 --> 01:27:50,600
Speaker 2: my journey. And then this is a working journal that

2034
01:27:50,680 --> 01:27:54,640
Speaker 2: accompanies that. Okay, all right, and so then so you

2035
01:27:54,680 --> 01:27:57,760
Speaker 2: can get in the kitchen. You can get in the

2036
01:27:57,880 --> 01:27:59,360
Speaker 2: kitchen with all the seasons and things.

2037
01:27:59,400 --> 01:28:01,960
Speaker 6: So these are my you went along with the original Sunshine,

2038
01:28:02,360 --> 01:28:05,200
Speaker 6: big good Garley, like sweet, like smoking, and these are

2039
01:28:05,240 --> 01:28:06,840
Speaker 6: all salt free, so I look out for.

2040
01:28:07,160 --> 01:28:11,519
Speaker 2: These are your saltabe lends. And then well, you got

2041
01:28:11,600 --> 01:28:11,960
Speaker 2: a name.

2042
01:28:11,880 --> 01:28:14,160
Speaker 1: For your hair No, you know, I just got you know,

2043
01:28:14,240 --> 01:28:16,120
Speaker 1: I'm old school. I mean I had the same haircutsin

2044
01:28:16,200 --> 01:28:16,640
Speaker 1: seventy two.

2045
01:28:16,960 --> 01:28:18,080
Speaker 2: You got a name them, you got a name.

2046
01:28:18,240 --> 01:28:19,599
Speaker 3: So I got a name, got a name of them.

2047
01:28:19,680 --> 01:28:21,960
Speaker 2: So this is Donald's recipe. Okay, they get you together

2048
01:28:22,000 --> 01:28:23,600
Speaker 2: a little, a little thanks, or you can get it

2049
01:28:23,600 --> 01:28:25,720
Speaker 2: because somebody over there. I feel like her energy is

2050
01:28:25,760 --> 01:28:27,640
Speaker 2: already you see you see that you.

2051
01:28:28,160 --> 01:28:29,920
Speaker 1: I think she came here to get She knew you

2052
01:28:30,000 --> 01:28:31,679
Speaker 1: was gonna break a goodie bag and she can't.

2053
01:28:31,520 --> 01:28:32,200
Speaker 3: Be taking this from me.

2054
01:28:32,400 --> 01:28:35,000
Speaker 6: But this is sweet potato pie, so Donald's best sweet.

2055
01:28:35,000 --> 01:28:37,120
Speaker 6: So I need a sweet potato pipe because I don't bake,

2056
01:28:37,600 --> 01:28:38,320
Speaker 6: but Donna does.

2057
01:28:38,360 --> 01:28:40,360
Speaker 2: So she says she made the desserts for your hair,

2058
01:28:40,479 --> 01:28:42,200
Speaker 2: but these are off of you. And then you know

2059
01:28:42,280 --> 01:28:44,320
Speaker 2: if you want the baggage, well, this is I collect

2060
01:28:44,439 --> 01:28:44,920
Speaker 2: from Target.

2061
01:28:45,040 --> 01:28:47,800
Speaker 1: Okay, well I need the bag to take this stuff home.

2062
01:28:47,840 --> 01:28:49,559
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm gonna take the hair products

2063
01:28:49,600 --> 01:28:52,759
Speaker 1: home ever. See that's now fifty dollars I'm charging.

2064
01:28:53,160 --> 01:28:55,360
Speaker 3: I just got it for free. But if fifty dollars for.

2065
01:28:55,400 --> 01:28:59,040
Speaker 2: You, oh that's right, the chance saisons. We gave you

2066
01:28:59,200 --> 01:29:00,200
Speaker 2: something that we probably Oh.

2067
01:29:00,200 --> 01:29:02,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, we got to call you. We got we got

2068
01:29:03,360 --> 01:29:05,160
Speaker 3: we definitely, we definitely got. We just definitely got a

2069
01:29:05,200 --> 01:29:10,080
Speaker 3: bok get you and uh you see my hoodie, I

2070
01:29:10,160 --> 01:29:12,639
Speaker 3: mean We're gonna get you one. What's what's what size?

2071
01:29:12,680 --> 01:29:12,920
Speaker 5: You are?

2072
01:29:14,080 --> 01:29:14,400
Speaker 2: Medium?

2073
01:29:15,040 --> 01:29:17,080
Speaker 3: Got you, We'll get that. We'll get that to you.

2074
01:29:17,400 --> 01:29:19,599
Speaker 2: Yes. Absolutely, this has been great.

2075
01:29:20,280 --> 01:29:24,400
Speaker 3: This has been unbelievable. This has been unbelievable. Thank you

2076
01:29:24,479 --> 01:29:25,960
Speaker 3: for taking absolutely ahead.

2077
01:29:26,320 --> 01:29:28,519
Speaker 1: Thank you for taking us time out of your day.

2078
01:29:28,680 --> 01:29:30,680
Speaker 1: I understand you're very busy. We've been trying to get

2079
01:29:30,680 --> 01:29:33,439
Speaker 1: this and we finally got it. We found Thank you

2080
01:29:33,560 --> 01:29:36,120
Speaker 1: so much, Thank you getting thank you for having.

2081
01:29:36,560 --> 01:29:39,719
Speaker 2: Appreciate absolutely I don't get the handshake. Shall we close

2082
01:29:39,760 --> 01:29:41,240
Speaker 2: it out? How I close out all my videos?

2083
01:29:41,360 --> 01:29:41,519
Speaker 3: Yes?

2084
01:29:41,840 --> 01:29:44,040
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, again, thank you so much for having me.

2085
01:29:44,120 --> 01:29:45,800
Speaker 6: And until the next time, honey, y'all going a bout

2086
01:29:45,840 --> 01:29:48,280
Speaker 6: y'all business and have the most amazing day.

2087
01:29:48,600 --> 01:29:50,400
Speaker 2: But even if you can't have a good one, don't

2088
01:29:50,439 --> 01:29:52,880
Speaker 2: you there go messing up. Nobody else is here. See

2089
01:29:52,960 --> 01:29:54,840
Speaker 2: y'all next time. Love y'all, Thank you.

2090
01:29:55,600 --> 01:29:55,840
Speaker 3: Thank you.

2091
01:30:00,120 --> 01:30:04,479
Speaker 4: My life grounding all my life, sacrifice, hustle, pay the price,

2092
01:30:04,560 --> 01:30:07,280
Speaker 4: and want to slice. Got to brow the dice that

2093
01:30:07,400 --> 01:30:09,800
Speaker 4: way all my life. I've been grinding all my life,

2094
01:30:10,560 --> 01:30:12,200
Speaker 4: all my life and grinning all.

2095
01:30:12,120 --> 01:30:16,519
Speaker 2: My life, sacrifice, hustle, pay the price in one slice.

2096
01:30:16,720 --> 01:30:17,800
Speaker 2: I got to brow the dice.

2097
01:30:18,080 --> 01:30:19,519
Speaker 4: WA all my life, I've.

2098
01:30:19,400 --> 01:30:20,479
Speaker 5: Been grinding all my life.

2099
01:30:21,479 --> 01:30:27,839
Speaker 3: Yeahm mhm