WEBVTT - Pruning Season 0:00:00.840 --> 0:00:04.559 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Wherever you may be, 0:00:05.360 --> 0:00:08.879 you are tuned into the Vitamin D with Dawn Day Podcast. 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:12.200 Hold on, let me say it again. You are tuned 0:00:12.360 --> 0:00:17.640 in to the Vitamin D with Dawn Day Podcast. Man, 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:20.520 that felt good. Well, if you haven't guessed it already, 0:00:20.520 --> 0:00:23.280 I'm your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited 0:00:23.320 --> 0:00:25.520 about your life so that you can live life on 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:28.360 purpose and for a purpose. Now, if this is your 0:00:28.360 --> 0:00:30.880 first time tuning in, let me tell you right now, 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:34.000 Vitamin D is not only a dream of mine, but 0:00:34.080 --> 0:00:36.559 it's also a pun off my name. Well, you know 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:38.839 my name is Dawn, right, which means the sun, and 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:41.120 you get vitamin D from the sun. Right. So I 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:43.800 am here to shed light into your life. And I 0:00:43.920 --> 0:00:49.080 do this with inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and 0:00:49.120 --> 0:00:52.239 everyday people like you and me. However, let me give 0:00:52.280 --> 0:00:56.440 you a clear rance, clear Rance clearance. While Vitamin D 0:00:56.600 --> 0:01:00.320 is all about inspiration and motivation and getting you excited 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:02.960 about your life and feeling good, I want to be 0:01:02.960 --> 0:01:07.039 clear with you when we talk about shedding the light 0:01:07.720 --> 0:01:09.720 that's on the good and the bad, Because if you 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:11.560 want to be better and you want to do better, 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:14.520 Guess what you're going to have to be able to 0:01:14.560 --> 0:01:18.320 see better. See, when we talk about shedding this light, 0:01:19.240 --> 0:01:21.880 it's on the good parts and then not so good parts. 0:01:22.720 --> 0:01:25.080 You did what I'm saying because I'm not asking for 0:01:25.120 --> 0:01:26.880 a piece of you. I'm asking for all of you. 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:29.280 And I don't want you to step into this process, 0:01:29.360 --> 0:01:31.640 this journey of living your best life, this journey of 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:34.800 me uncovering my best life and living about my wildest dreams, 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:37.120 of giving a piece of ourselves. You are going to 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:39.360 see on this podcast. You're gonna see, You're gonna listen, 0:01:39.400 --> 0:01:42.360 You're gonna learn, you're gonna feel, we're gonna gravitate all 0:01:42.360 --> 0:01:48.800 of this together that, um, this is a journey and 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:52.200 none of us are perfect. In fact, we're gonna unravel 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:58.640 how human we are, and unraveling like these quote unquote imperfections, 0:01:58.880 --> 0:02:02.320 We're gonna realize that these are our superpowers, these are 0:02:02.320 --> 0:02:06.560 the very things that make us who we are. So 0:02:06.640 --> 0:02:09.040 as we go through this journey, I'm gonna tell you 0:02:09.160 --> 0:02:11.240 right now, don't try to put me in a box. 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.160 Don't try to say how things should be, because I'm 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:17.120 stepping into everything that I am. Right now, and I 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:19.520 realized that everything that I am right now is what 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:22.000 brought me here in front of you. What is with birth, 0:02:22.320 --> 0:02:26.960 this whole inspiration, this whole dream, just being a multi 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:29.760 vitamin for your mind. I would even say your body 0:02:29.760 --> 0:02:32.280 and your soul, because vitamin D is applied to all 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:35.040 of that. But let's just be clear that that's what 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:38.120 this is. Okay. Some days I might be crying, some 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:40.720 days I might be laughing. I might be in my feelings, 0:02:40.720 --> 0:02:42.600 I might be wanting to curse you what I don't know. 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:48.239 But all I'm asking you, or I'm declared rather, is 0:02:48.280 --> 0:02:51.080 that I'm human and I need space to do that, 0:02:51.120 --> 0:02:52.720 and I want to create the space for you to 0:02:52.760 --> 0:02:56.040 be that. We all just need a little space to 0:02:56.120 --> 0:02:59.440 be who we are when we are just as how 0:02:59.520 --> 0:03:03.080 we are. That's what this is. So I hope they 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:05.760 gave you a generalization of the idea of what this 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.240 podcast is. And you know, you can check us out 0:03:08.240 --> 0:03:11.040 on on YouTube. We got the YouTube page up and 0:03:11.080 --> 0:03:14.800 have snippets of our conversations and inspirational insights and quick 0:03:14.840 --> 0:03:17.880 dooses and mandres. 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Also, UM answer advice letters, 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:46.120 So you can go ahead and email me Vitamin D 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:49.320 at dawn day Speaks dot com and I'll give you 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:52.840 my intake on whether your relationship, whether your career, whether 0:03:52.880 --> 0:03:55.640 it's on love or finance, or just trying to make 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:59.520 a decision. You just want somebody else's voice, UM, send 0:03:59.520 --> 0:04:01.600 it over. We just might pick out your letter in 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:04.440 the email bag, hey be nice, and I might tell 0:04:04.520 --> 0:04:10.960 Jeremiad to just pick yours a going Um. Also oftentimes 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:15.080 though we are just here talking and I'll tell you 0:04:15.120 --> 0:04:17.440 what's happening, what's going on, it just takes something check 0:04:17.520 --> 0:04:19.560 in or what's going on my life. So basically it's 0:04:19.600 --> 0:04:22.040 a buddle of everything, and it's a preparation for when 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:24.680 I'm live and direct on your television screen or whatever 0:04:24.720 --> 0:04:30.120 we're gonna be doing in the future. Okay, So um, 0:04:30.160 --> 0:04:33.440 I want to talk about, uh, something that has been 0:04:33.520 --> 0:04:36.360 on my mind for a while, and I guess even 0:04:36.480 --> 0:04:38.560 building up to this process of being in the studio 0:04:38.680 --> 0:04:44.479 right now. It's about pruning. It's about mental health, self care, 0:04:45.320 --> 0:04:48.920 over using all of this bumbdus up in one We're 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:51.800 just gonna have a conversation, y'all. So, without further ado, 0:04:52.160 --> 0:04:56.839 it's time for your dusts a vitamin D D. Right 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:05.160 with me and get excited. How y'are doing, how you feeling, 0:05:05.279 --> 0:05:09.839 how's it going. That's a great day to be alive. 0:05:10.600 --> 0:05:13.120 It's a great day to be alive because you ain't 0:05:13.120 --> 0:05:17.159 dead yet, I said yet. I know that sounds so morbid. 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:20.440 Perhaps we need to really focus and live life like that. 0:05:21.279 --> 0:05:24.599 Stop acting like you're dead by not living your best life, 0:05:24.839 --> 0:05:27.440 by not going after your dreams, by not being bold, 0:05:27.440 --> 0:05:30.200 by not being vulnerable, by not taking a chance, by 0:05:30.240 --> 0:05:35.880 not living and when I say living, well, we know 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:39.800 that living things grow, and living things move, and living 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:43.520 things evolve. If you find yourself stuck by choice because 0:05:43.600 --> 0:05:47.039 you're allowing fear to decapitate you, you're allowing your relationship 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:50.200 to hold you hostage. You're allowing um your life not 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:53.640 to be said. That's like death. You ain't dead yet, 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:57.239 so live. So I was, um, I was coming across 0:05:57.279 --> 0:05:59.760 some things, just looking online and just seeing what's been 0:05:59.760 --> 0:06:04.560 talking about, and like I talked about before, there's this 0:06:04.560 --> 0:06:07.000 whole process and feel like that I've been going through 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:13.039 of pruning and just in place, You're unclear. I didn't 0:06:13.040 --> 0:06:14.840 even think about pruning. I was talking to a good 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:17.080 girlfriend of mine, Shelly. Shout out to Shelley, that's my 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:20.360 home girl. Uh, And I was just saying, like so 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:22.800 many people in my life, like my friends, or what 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.320 I thought was my friends, are just like these relationships 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:29.919 are falling by the wayside, like I don't know what's 0:06:29.960 --> 0:06:33.800 going on. And I'm almost like, you know, we get 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:36.040 into a mode of trying to hold on and trying 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:40.240 to salvage. And I do believe and feel holdheartedly that 0:06:40.279 --> 0:06:45.320 relationships take work. However, I'm working on not in the 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.440 business of holding onto things because I gotta go higher. 0:06:48.800 --> 0:06:51.520 So I'm talking to Shelley and Shelly was like, Dawn, 0:06:51.680 --> 0:06:55.000 you sound like you're in a pruning process. And it 0:06:55.040 --> 0:06:58.839 didn't register or I didn't click what xactly pruning was. 0:06:58.920 --> 0:07:02.880 And so after looking up the definition, and I'm like, 0:07:03.120 --> 0:07:07.840 dann a, am I being a proning process? So if 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:09.640 you're like me, and you're like, okay, Dona, what does 0:07:09.680 --> 0:07:12.160 prony mean? Okay, I'm glad you asked. Let me tell you. 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:15.920 So I just did a quick Google search and um, 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.520 it says proning. You means like to trim, you know, 0:07:18.520 --> 0:07:23.000 And oftentimes I think we think of plants like roses, flowers, um, trees, 0:07:23.800 --> 0:07:27.640 And essentially the prony process removes dead and dying branches 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:31.400 and stuffs, allowing room for new growth and protecting your 0:07:31.440 --> 0:07:37.840 property and passer by from damage. Okay. Also it deters 0:07:37.920 --> 0:07:42.880 pest an animal infestation and promotes the plant's natural shape 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:47.360 and healthy growth. Okay, did you catch it? Let's break 0:07:47.400 --> 0:07:51.320 it down to how I applied this to myself. So 0:07:51.440 --> 0:07:54.440 we talked about this whole aspect of growing to be more, 0:07:54.560 --> 0:07:59.200 to be fruitful, you know, to uh, to expand. Right. Well, 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:03.920 just like every day you lose thousands of cells from 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:06.200 your body, it literally falls off, so we can regenerate 0:08:06.200 --> 0:08:08.360 a new thing. Heck, and we still had the cells 0:08:08.360 --> 0:08:10.200 that we had as a baby. Like literally we would 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:12.800 be like conformed into the small being. But guess what 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:15.640 those cells had to shed and had to create a 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:19.280 new thing. And you realize that all of this dead 0:08:19.360 --> 0:08:23.880 skin and dying branches, you have no more use for them. 0:08:23.920 --> 0:08:26.680 And I'm looking at I asked God. I said, God, 0:08:26.720 --> 0:08:28.400 I want to be taken higher with my dreams and 0:08:28.400 --> 0:08:30.960 with my purpose. I don't want things to be in 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:33.959 a way that's a distraction. And I realized that an 0:08:33.960 --> 0:08:37.360 elevation and even going higher, things that don't serve me, 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:39.240 they don't deserve me. And if it's going to fall 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:42.120 by the wayside's fallen by the wayside. So I had 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:45.800 another friend, I'm showing everybody, calling everybody business and heck 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:48.960 hel She's like, well, don do you think something's wrong? 0:08:49.200 --> 0:08:51.480 You know, maybe maybe something's wrong. And I said, well, 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.400 wait a minute. I don't think I want to fight it, 0:08:54.240 --> 0:08:58.320 because I'm not in the business of force and anything. 0:08:58.800 --> 0:09:01.160 I am in the business of having a conversation and 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:04.480 figuring how things go. But I realized that my dreams 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:08.840 are unraveling. And when I say unraveling, they're being unpackaged. 0:09:09.240 --> 0:09:12.840 There the ribbon is being taken off, because now I'm 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:15.240 walking in the gift I'm not just looking at the 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:17.319 gift as a president or I want to have it. No, 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:20.360 I am being that gift. And what I realized is 0:09:20.400 --> 0:09:24.440 that unwrapping my gift, everything is not meant to come 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:27.200 with me. And maybe it could be at the not 0:09:27.320 --> 0:09:29.360 the right timing, but I don't want to force it. 0:09:29.440 --> 0:09:31.559 So in this motive she's saying like, oh my gosh, 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:33.600 what's going on, I'm like, well, well, I'm not tripping 0:09:33.640 --> 0:09:37.360 because God has showing me my life, of my dreams, 0:09:38.760 --> 0:09:41.079 and if it isn't serving me, it doesn't deserve me. 0:09:41.080 --> 0:09:43.079 Meaning I'm not going to try to hold onto things. 0:09:43.120 --> 0:09:45.280 And I just have to ask to you, like are 0:09:45.280 --> 0:09:48.679 you holding onto some things that you need to let? Oh? 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.080 Because if I can see how God is arraveling my 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:54.360 level of discernment, me making a choice, even me like 0:09:54.440 --> 0:09:56.720 filling in my gut, let's just let's just be real. 0:09:57.360 --> 0:09:59.480 So in this whole pruning process, I was telling you 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:02.920 about how people are falling away, I was just telling illness. 0:10:02.960 --> 0:10:06.520 I was like, yo, every person or each person that 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:10.680 I felt some uncertainty with, where something didn't feel right, 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:13.160 where I had the second guess, or where I had 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:16.960 to look over my shoulder. They're not here right now. 0:10:19.160 --> 0:10:22.480 I'm not mad at it. I don't think that I'm 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:25.559 I'm hurt by it because I want to step into 0:10:25.600 --> 0:10:28.560 the realm of understanding what's supposed to be in my 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:32.280 ecosystem so I can thrive in my ecosystem. And this 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:35.400 isn't just about living my dreams as far as vitamin 0:10:35.440 --> 0:10:38.640 deep don a podcast. This is even prepping to be 0:10:38.760 --> 0:10:41.840 that woman, to be behind the podcast, to welcome everything 0:10:41.880 --> 0:10:47.440 else in my life. So I don't think like, is 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:51.400 it lonely? I don't know, because I ain't trying to 0:10:51.480 --> 0:10:54.600 force nothing. Like you know, we could get so consumed 0:10:56.360 --> 0:11:00.280 but won't wear a shoe. Ladies in particular want to 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:03.360 where some type of high heel. Even some fellas you 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:05.240 might be so quick just to get a shoe that 0:11:05.280 --> 0:11:07.880 you're not even concerned of whether or not it fits. 0:11:08.559 --> 0:11:10.560 I only want the things that fit in my life. 0:11:11.559 --> 0:11:13.560 Like do you know how uncomfortable it is to wear 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:16.520 something that's too tight? Do you know uncomfortable it is 0:11:16.520 --> 0:11:18.520 to try to run and try to maneuver, and shoes 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:23.120 too small you start to get callouses. I eat corns, bunions, 0:11:24.480 --> 0:11:26.679 and it starts to get thicker and thicker, almost kind 0:11:26.679 --> 0:11:28.640 of like a wall or a shell, because if you 0:11:28.679 --> 0:11:31.720 have someone around you, or you're surrounding yourself in situations 0:11:31.880 --> 0:11:34.280 that don't deserve you, you do not operate in the 0:11:34.320 --> 0:11:37.600 full self and the magnitude that you wish to because 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:40.240 it's constantly a block, it's constantly a shoulder I gotta 0:11:40.280 --> 0:11:42.520 look over, it's constantly a second guess, and I don't 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:46.120 want to operate that way. I want to operate and 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:48.880 I want to grow from a space of abundance and 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:52.720 a fruitful environment where I feel comfortable. I can't tell 0:11:52.760 --> 0:11:55.880 you how important it is for me to be comfortable. 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:59.240 And when I use comfortable in this sense, for me 0:11:59.320 --> 0:12:02.200 to have space is to be done. Now you will 0:12:02.240 --> 0:12:04.920 hear me consistently say that you should not be comfortable 0:12:05.000 --> 0:12:07.920 when you're talking about pursuing your dreams because you are 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:10.400 asking for more when you're asking to grow. But when 0:12:10.400 --> 0:12:13.000 it comes to my relationships in my life, when it 0:12:13.040 --> 0:12:15.680 comes to who I surround myself with, or it comes 0:12:15.720 --> 0:12:17.800 to who I allowing my home and in my space, 0:12:18.000 --> 0:12:20.600 it has to be comfortable because I need to exist. 0:12:20.920 --> 0:12:23.440 And when I say comfortable, think of it like oxygen. 0:12:24.840 --> 0:12:27.160 When I'm not comfortable. I feel like I can't breathe, 0:12:28.000 --> 0:12:31.480 like I feel constructed. That's kind of like what you 0:12:31.559 --> 0:12:41.200 do when you're uncomfortable, what versus when you are you 0:12:41.240 --> 0:12:44.599 can breathe. There's a sort of means of relaxation. And 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:47.520 I think that's so important. And when we're talking about 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:50.640 UM proning, those things that are causing you not to 0:12:50.679 --> 0:12:52.880 be able to breathe and to operate have to be 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:56.000 cut off. Things have to be done by the wayside. 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.120 And I think oftentimes when we look at pruning, we 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:01.960 have to take in concert deration of UM, just different habits, 0:13:02.280 --> 0:13:04.800 how we choose to love on ourselves along with the 0:13:04.840 --> 0:13:08.920 people that we choose to surround ourselves with, because sometimes 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:11.760 that can still hinder us from being our best self. 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:18.120 I think also UM a lot of pressures society game 0:13:18.200 --> 0:13:22.200 place on us. And I guess it really hit me 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:25.600 like this pruning process raveling and showing up who we 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:28.559 are and and and our position and our comfort that 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:30.840 we get placed in the world. As I was going back, 0:13:30.880 --> 0:13:32.160 and I don't know if you had a chance to 0:13:32.240 --> 0:13:35.640 check it out, but I had interview for the second time. 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:38.080 I had a conversation with the second time I should say, 0:13:38.200 --> 0:13:43.920 let's a conversation with the NBA's first female referee, Violet Palmer. 0:13:44.280 --> 0:13:45.680 The title of the episode, if you go back on 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:51.240 the podcast, is called black and Proud, And I think 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:54.680 oftentimes when we go through this pruning process, there's a 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:57.320 pride in which we need to stand in ourselves. You 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:59.360 need to hold yourself accountable of the people that you 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.400 surround your self in your life, um, the opportunities you 0:14:02.480 --> 0:14:05.960 either choose to seize or to release, um even if 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:10.600 your state of existence of the consumption. So in talking 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:12.680 about that, it made me just think of the pressures 0:14:12.679 --> 0:14:16.800 in society you know, oftentimes puts on us, or basically 0:14:16.840 --> 0:14:19.920 what we allow it to put on us. And what 0:14:20.000 --> 0:14:23.840 I mean by that is that oftentimes I'm not sure 0:14:25.160 --> 0:14:31.800 society welcomes a lane, a lens, a space to show 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:36.760 up and to be exactly who we are meant to be. 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:44.240 And when that space isn't created, we find ourselves trying 0:14:44.240 --> 0:14:48.000 to fit in spaces that don't have room for us. 0:14:49.680 --> 0:14:51.680 I gave you an example starting off, I talked about 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:56.440 relationships some people don't fit anymore. Just like when we're 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:59.480 talking about this whole proning process, it says It removes 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:04.320 dead and dying branches and stuffs. Some of these relationships 0:15:04.320 --> 0:15:08.400 that we're holding on in life are dead. It's time 0:15:08.440 --> 0:15:14.120 to release them. But understand this tool. Where there's an ending, 0:15:14.160 --> 0:15:17.520 there's a beginning, and it doesn't mean dead forever. It 0:15:17.520 --> 0:15:23.520 can just simply mean this season. Right. See. The issue 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:27.280 becomes when you try to control the seasons and try 0:15:27.320 --> 0:15:33.240 to hold on and constrict about how things should be, 0:15:33.960 --> 0:15:37.360 what should be done, versus allowing things to flow and 0:15:37.520 --> 0:15:43.640 understanding that sometimes man's rejection is God's protection. If it 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:48.560 doesn't flow, we got to go hit the role jack 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:51.920 and don't you come back? No mo no moan, no 0:15:52.000 --> 0:15:55.520 mo no moan, no no, no, are just right now. 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:57.840 But I guess I'm saying all that to say because 0:15:57.960 --> 0:16:00.040 when society doesn't allow us to wrong, to grow a 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:04.440 space to be, we feel as though we are trapped 0:16:04.720 --> 0:16:08.200 and then therefore we cannot show up as authentic self. 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:11.160 And that was one thing that Violet made sure that 0:16:11.200 --> 0:16:15.400 she consistently said over and over again, how it's important 0:16:15.440 --> 0:16:17.720 to be your authentic self? How is it important to 0:16:17.760 --> 0:16:20.400 show up who you are as you are? How when 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:24.200 she decided to be everything that she is and what 0:16:24.360 --> 0:16:30.080 she stands upon allowed her to break barriers that were unknown, unbeknownst. 0:16:30.280 --> 0:16:32.080 And it doesn't even just go with the realms of 0:16:32.080 --> 0:16:35.400 her sexuality, even down to her just talking about how 0:16:35.480 --> 0:16:39.320 she decided to wear her hair, how she decided to 0:16:39.360 --> 0:16:42.720 amplify her voice, and in doing that, when she decided 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:45.120 to walk into permission of who she is, she saw 0:16:45.200 --> 0:16:47.960 that everything is coming. But guess what, when we're put 0:16:47.960 --> 0:16:51.320 in a situation of we're not allowing the pruning process 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:55.600 to naturally happen, these branches, these dead things, they start 0:16:55.680 --> 0:16:57.960 to create these layers on top of us. And so 0:16:58.000 --> 0:16:59.560 now all of a sudden, the things of how we 0:16:59.560 --> 0:17:02.800 were able to move so easily through we can't anymore. 0:17:03.600 --> 0:17:06.600 Or let me say this, we don't even give ourselves 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:11.760 permission to do so. Heck, I was even looking at um. 0:17:11.760 --> 0:17:14.120 Did you see that episode of the Red Table Talk 0:17:15.760 --> 0:17:19.760 where Jada was talking about her her experience with addiction 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:22.000 and how she was talking about her cocktail. She was 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.080 saying that she got to a point where she was 0:17:24.119 --> 0:17:26.960 over drinking. She can drink will under the table, but 0:17:27.040 --> 0:17:28.360 she said she got to the point where she start 0:17:28.359 --> 0:17:30.760 getting our cocktail because she started mixing in the ecstasy 0:17:30.840 --> 0:17:33.960 with the weed, and it started the whole taking over. See, 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:37.000 that's what I'm talking about. Um, I'm so grateful now 0:17:37.160 --> 0:17:39.000 that we're in the space that we can talk about 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:42.600 these things. We can talk about how the overusing can 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:46.080 overuse us. She said she had gotten to the point 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:49.040 that she had made a bad cocktail because of what 0:17:49.320 --> 0:17:51.520 a bad um. I don't know it was a bad 0:17:51.560 --> 0:17:54.480 trip or just the quality of the ecstasy. She passed 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:57.879 out on the set of The Nutty Professor. Oh my god, 0:17:58.880 --> 0:18:00.720 I say this because I can't even imagine how many 0:18:00.720 --> 0:18:03.520 other people have been going through things. And thank god, 0:18:03.760 --> 0:18:06.960 now in this damn age, we have space. We have 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:10.159 room to talk about these things. We have room to 0:18:10.200 --> 0:18:12.800 say it's okay not to be okay, we have room 0:18:12.880 --> 0:18:15.439 to say, hey, look at these damaged goods, and I'm 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:17.400 trying to leave them out because who knows, that story 0:18:17.440 --> 0:18:21.000 probably says somebody else's life. And when we're talking about this, 0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:24.359 this proning process, we gotta realize that sometimes we gotta 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:27.280 check ourselves before we wreck ourselves. So whether or not 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:29.000 you thinking like, oh, because I'm so used to this 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:34.800 relationship that I gotta hold onto let it go, You know, um, 0:18:34.960 --> 0:18:37.720 we gotta to get used to the realm of letting 0:18:37.720 --> 0:18:40.600 go of things. And it's like society teaches us to 0:18:40.640 --> 0:18:44.119 hold onto so much, acquire, get this, have this, you 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:46.280 can do this if you have this. But what about 0:18:46.320 --> 0:18:48.199 when we say I'm just gonna be free and just 0:18:48.280 --> 0:18:50.760 to breathe. When we get to the point of we 0:18:50.800 --> 0:18:55.240 allow our existence to just exist and just like the seasons, 0:18:55.240 --> 0:18:59.400 when the rain comes, it goes, sometimes these relationships gotta 0:18:59.440 --> 0:19:01.800 be like that. Hey, we even look at the fact 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:04.439 of just going back to how society can press the pressure. 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:07.000 And now we're getting a space that we can say, hey, 0:19:07.040 --> 0:19:09.000 you can see me for who I am. Look as 0:19:09.040 --> 0:19:12.159 you carry I'm not going to even from I do 0:19:12.280 --> 0:19:14.560 think that, you know, as far as abiding by rules, 0:19:14.560 --> 0:19:17.240 with the rules simply states. But here is a woman 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:19.520 just showing up as she is right now to say 0:19:19.560 --> 0:19:22.200 I was going through something. This is something that whether 0:19:22.320 --> 0:19:24.120 or not I had to deal with because my mother 0:19:24.200 --> 0:19:27.320 died or whatever the case may be. But when we 0:19:27.320 --> 0:19:29.040 get to a point in society where we do not 0:19:29.160 --> 0:19:33.760 allow people to show up, it's hard. So let the 0:19:33.800 --> 0:19:36.359 pruning process be in that to it whatever access that 0:19:36.400 --> 0:19:38.879 we gotta figure out we gotta carry everybody else. I 0:19:38.880 --> 0:19:42.200 don't know about you, but I'm only carrying it on. Heck, 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:45.880 we even saw what Naomi Osaka and how she decided 0:19:46.000 --> 0:19:50.520 not to participate in the French Open because she said 0:19:50.600 --> 0:19:54.119 I am protecting myself. Where she had an article that 0:19:54.240 --> 0:19:56.560 was was it in Time and it was entitled it's 0:19:56.560 --> 0:20:00.439 okay not to be okay and guess what okay to 0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:03.720 talk about that? See, that's part of the pruning process. Whatever, 0:20:03.760 --> 0:20:06.080 this stigmatism of things that we feel like we gotta 0:20:06.119 --> 0:20:07.919 hold on, I'm telling you right now it's time to 0:20:07.960 --> 0:20:12.560 let it go. I feel like oftentimes when we hold 0:20:12.560 --> 0:20:15.399 onto things and situations that don't serve us, we lower 0:20:15.440 --> 0:20:20.359 our level a frequency, like our vibrations actually vibrate lower 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:25.320 because it isn't moving freely. It's moving under these conditions, 0:20:25.560 --> 0:20:28.199 conditions that are not in our natural state. And I 0:20:28.200 --> 0:20:30.680 say natural state, things that are belonging in our life, 0:20:30.800 --> 0:20:33.120 things that were we're not getting a good vibe from. 0:20:33.200 --> 0:20:36.560 And if we are these spiritual beings having this human experience, 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:41.119 we know that we are consistent of electrolytes, this energy source, 0:20:41.160 --> 0:20:43.199 that's what this energy is. We are just on this 0:20:43.240 --> 0:20:45.520 plane of just a vibration. But when we stop the 0:20:45.600 --> 0:20:48.240 vibration of not existing with ourselves or holding onto things 0:20:48.240 --> 0:20:50.400 that need to be led away, it starts to get 0:20:50.440 --> 0:20:53.119 slower and it starts to get lower. So it's like, 0:20:53.160 --> 0:20:58.480 what vibration frequency are you operating at? M hm? It's 0:20:58.480 --> 0:21:01.840 time for that. We gotta not only um make sure 0:21:01.840 --> 0:21:05.080 other people are held accountable, we have to hold ourselves 0:21:05.080 --> 0:21:07.320 accountable for some of the proning process that needs to 0:21:07.359 --> 0:21:11.240 be done, because when you get into a situation and 0:21:11.280 --> 0:21:13.640 you're looking at when you're asking to grow, when you're 0:21:13.680 --> 0:21:17.320 asking to be better, you are the company that you keep. 0:21:17.680 --> 0:21:19.639 I was just telling Jeremiah the other day, is that 0:21:19.800 --> 0:21:22.119 sometimes you have to treat certain people like you have 0:21:22.160 --> 0:21:24.080 a white outfit on. You may have heard me say 0:21:24.119 --> 0:21:26.080 there on a few episodes back, But what I mean 0:21:26.160 --> 0:21:28.800 by that is that you are cognizant or what is 0:21:28.840 --> 0:21:32.480 in your surroundings. You are cognizant about what gets too 0:21:32.520 --> 0:21:36.159 close to you. You are cognizant to understand that everybody 0:21:36.200 --> 0:21:38.840 doesn't deserve a hand on you. And that's what proning 0:21:38.960 --> 0:21:42.360 is about, is understanding that not everyone and everything deserves 0:21:42.640 --> 0:21:46.560 a hand on you. So, like Naomi Osaka was saying, like, hey, listen, 0:21:46.720 --> 0:21:48.680 I was just coming from my truth at that time. 0:21:48.720 --> 0:21:50.760 I did not want to talk at that press conference. 0:21:50.880 --> 0:21:53.600 Had she talked about how even in a not everyday 0:21:53.640 --> 0:21:57.080 society that people that work right, they're giving their what 0:21:57.119 --> 0:21:59.440 do you call it their day off as a sick day? 0:21:59.680 --> 0:22:02.120 And she said was dang, can I have one day 0:22:02.160 --> 0:22:03.960 where I do not want to talk to the press? 0:22:04.680 --> 0:22:06.119 And do you see how we shame her for that? 0:22:06.160 --> 0:22:08.679