Speaker 1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Wherever you may be,
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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited
Speaker 1: about your life so that you can live life on
Speaker 1: purpose and for a purpose. Now, if this is your
Speaker 1: first time tuning in, let me tell you right now,
Speaker 1: Vitamin D is not only a dream of mine, but
Speaker 1: it's also a pun off my name. Well, you know
Speaker 1: my name is Dawn, right, which means the sun, and
Speaker 1: you get vitamin D from the sun. Right. So I
Speaker 1: am here to shed light into your life. And I
Speaker 1: do this with inspirational insights and conversations with celebrities and
Speaker 1: everyday people like you and me. However, let me give
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Speaker 1: is all about inspiration and motivation and getting you excited
Speaker 1: about your life and feeling good, I want to be
Speaker 1: clear with you when we talk about shedding the light
Speaker 1: that's on the good and the bad, Because if you
Speaker 1: want to be better and you want to do better,
Speaker 1: Guess what you're going to have to be able to
Speaker 1: see better. See, when we talk about shedding this light,
Speaker 1: it's on the good parts and then not so good parts.
Speaker 1: You did what I'm saying because I'm not asking for
Speaker 1: a piece of you. I'm asking for all of you.
Speaker 1: And I don't want you to step into this process,
Speaker 1: this journey of living your best life, this journey of
Speaker 1: me uncovering my best life and living about my wildest dreams,
Speaker 1: of giving a piece of ourselves. You are going to
Speaker 1: see on this podcast. You're gonna see, You're gonna listen,
Speaker 1: You're gonna learn, you're gonna feel, we're gonna gravitate all
Speaker 1: of this together that, um, this is a journey and
Speaker 1: none of us are perfect. In fact, we're gonna unravel
Speaker 1: how human we are, and unraveling like these quote unquote imperfections,
Speaker 1: We're gonna realize that these are our superpowers, these are
Speaker 1: the very things that make us who we are. So
Speaker 1: as we go through this journey, I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: right now, don't try to put me in a box.
Speaker 1: Don't try to say how things should be, because I'm
Speaker 1: stepping into everything that I am. Right now, and I
Speaker 1: realized that everything that I am right now is what
Speaker 1: brought me here in front of you. What is with birth,
Speaker 1: this whole inspiration, this whole dream, just being a multi
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Speaker 1: days I might be laughing. I might be in my feelings,
Speaker 1: I might be wanting to curse you what I don't know.
Speaker 1: But all I'm asking you, or I'm declared rather, is
Speaker 1: that I'm human and I need space to do that,
Speaker 1: and I want to create the space for you to
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Speaker 1: these inspirational insights and conversations. Also, UM answer advice letters,
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Speaker 1: my intake on whether your relationship, whether your career, whether
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Speaker 1: a decision. You just want somebody else's voice, UM, send
Speaker 1: it over. We just might pick out your letter in
Speaker 1: the email bag, hey be nice, and I might tell
Speaker 1: Jeremiad to just pick yours a going Um. Also oftentimes
Speaker 1: though we are just here talking and I'll tell you
Speaker 1: what's happening, what's going on, it just takes something check
Speaker 1: in or what's going on my life. So basically it's
Speaker 1: a buddle of everything, and it's a preparation for when
Speaker 1: I'm live and direct on your television screen or whatever
Speaker 1: we're gonna be doing in the future. Okay, So um,
Speaker 1: I want to talk about, uh, something that has been
Speaker 1: on my mind for a while, and I guess even
Speaker 1: building up to this process of being in the studio
Speaker 1: right now. It's about pruning. It's about mental health, self care,
Speaker 1: over using all of this bumbdus up in one We're
Speaker 1: just gonna have a conversation, y'all. So, without further ado,
Speaker 1: it's time for your dusts a vitamin D D. Right
Speaker 1: with me and get excited. How y'are doing, how you feeling,
Speaker 1: how's it going. That's a great day to be alive.
Speaker 1: It's a great day to be alive because you ain't
Speaker 1: dead yet, I said yet. I know that sounds so morbid.
Speaker 1: Perhaps we need to really focus and live life like that.
Speaker 1: Stop acting like you're dead by not living your best life,
Speaker 1: by not going after your dreams, by not being bold,
Speaker 1: by not being vulnerable, by not taking a chance, by
Speaker 1: not living and when I say living, well, we know
Speaker 1: that living things grow, and living things move, and living
Speaker 1: things evolve. If you find yourself stuck by choice because
Speaker 1: you're allowing fear to decapitate you, you're allowing your relationship
Speaker 1: to hold you hostage. You're allowing um your life not
Speaker 1: to be said. That's like death. You ain't dead yet,
Speaker 1: so live. So I was, um, I was coming across
Speaker 1: some things, just looking online and just seeing what's been
Speaker 1: talking about, and like I talked about before, there's this
Speaker 1: whole process and feel like that I've been going through
Speaker 1: of pruning and just in place, You're unclear. I didn't
Speaker 1: even think about pruning. I was talking to a good
Speaker 1: girlfriend of mine, Shelly. Shout out to Shelley, that's my
Speaker 1: home girl. Uh, And I was just saying, like so
Speaker 1: many people in my life, like my friends, or what
Speaker 1: I thought was my friends, are just like these relationships
Speaker 1: are falling by the wayside, like I don't know what's
Speaker 1: going on. And I'm almost like, you know, we get
Speaker 1: into a mode of trying to hold on and trying
Speaker 1: to salvage. And I do believe and feel holdheartedly that
Speaker 1: relationships take work. However, I'm working on not in the
Speaker 1: business of holding onto things because I gotta go higher.
Speaker 1: So I'm talking to Shelley and Shelly was like, Dawn,
Speaker 1: you sound like you're in a pruning process. And it
Speaker 1: didn't register or I didn't click what xactly pruning was.
Speaker 1: And so after looking up the definition, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: dann a, am I being a proning process? So if
Speaker 1: you're like me, and you're like, okay, Dona, what does
Speaker 1: prony mean? Okay, I'm glad you asked. Let me tell you.
Speaker 1: So I just did a quick Google search and um,
Speaker 1: it says proning. You means like to trim, you know,
Speaker 1: And oftentimes I think we think of plants like roses, flowers, um, trees,
Speaker 1: And essentially the prony process removes dead and dying branches
Speaker 1: and stuffs, allowing room for new growth and protecting your
Speaker 1: property and passer by from damage. Okay. Also it deters
Speaker 1: pest an animal infestation and promotes the plant's natural shape
Speaker 1: and healthy growth. Okay, did you catch it? Let's break
Speaker 1: it down to how I applied this to myself. So
Speaker 1: we talked about this whole aspect of growing to be more,
Speaker 1: to be fruitful, you know, to uh, to expand. Right. Well,
Speaker 1: just like every day you lose thousands of cells from
Speaker 1: your body, it literally falls off, so we can regenerate
Speaker 1: a new thing. Heck, and we still had the cells
Speaker 1: that we had as a baby. Like literally we would
Speaker 1: be like conformed into the small being. But guess what
Speaker 1: those cells had to shed and had to create a
Speaker 1: new thing. And you realize that all of this dead
Speaker 1: skin and dying branches, you have no more use for them.
Speaker 1: And I'm looking at I asked God. I said, God,
Speaker 1: I want to be taken higher with my dreams and
Speaker 1: with my purpose. I don't want things to be in
Speaker 1: a way that's a distraction. And I realized that an
Speaker 1: elevation and even going higher, things that don't serve me,
Speaker 1: they don't deserve me. And if it's going to fall
Speaker 1: by the wayside's fallen by the wayside. So I had
Speaker 1: another friend, I'm showing everybody, calling everybody business and heck
Speaker 1: hel She's like, well, don do you think something's wrong?
Speaker 1: You know, maybe maybe something's wrong. And I said, well,
Speaker 1: wait a minute. I don't think I want to fight it,
Speaker 1: because I'm not in the business of force and anything.
Speaker 1: I am in the business of having a conversation and
Speaker 1: figuring how things go. But I realized that my dreams
Speaker 1: are unraveling. And when I say unraveling, they're being unpackaged.
Speaker 1: There the ribbon is being taken off, because now I'm
Speaker 1: walking in the gift I'm not just looking at the
Speaker 1: gift as a president or I want to have it. No,
Speaker 1: I am being that gift. And what I realized is
Speaker 1: that unwrapping my gift, everything is not meant to come
Speaker 1: with me. And maybe it could be at the not
Speaker 1: the right timing, but I don't want to force it.
Speaker 1: So in this motive she's saying like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: what's going on, I'm like, well, well, I'm not tripping
Speaker 1: because God has showing me my life, of my dreams,
Speaker 1: and if it isn't serving me, it doesn't deserve me.
Speaker 1: Meaning I'm not going to try to hold onto things.
Speaker 1: And I just have to ask to you, like are
Speaker 1: you holding onto some things that you need to let? Oh?
Speaker 1: Because if I can see how God is arraveling my
Speaker 1: level of discernment, me making a choice, even me like
Speaker 1: filling in my gut, let's just let's just be real.
Speaker 1: So in this whole pruning process, I was telling you
Speaker 1: about how people are falling away, I was just telling illness.
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, every person or each person that
Speaker 1: I felt some uncertainty with, where something didn't feel right,
Speaker 1: where I had the second guess, or where I had
Speaker 1: to look over my shoulder. They're not here right now.
Speaker 1: I'm not mad at it. I don't think that I'm
Speaker 1: I'm hurt by it because I want to step into
Speaker 1: the realm of understanding what's supposed to be in my
Speaker 1: ecosystem so I can thrive in my ecosystem. And this
Speaker 1: isn't just about living my dreams as far as vitamin
Speaker 1: deep don a podcast. This is even prepping to be
Speaker 1: that woman, to be behind the podcast, to welcome everything
Speaker 1: else in my life. So I don't think like, is
Speaker 1: it lonely? I don't know, because I ain't trying to
Speaker 1: force nothing. Like you know, we could get so consumed
Speaker 1: but won't wear a shoe. Ladies in particular want to
Speaker 1: where some type of high heel. Even some fellas you
Speaker 1: might be so quick just to get a shoe that
Speaker 1: you're not even concerned of whether or not it fits.
Speaker 1: I only want the things that fit in my life.
Speaker 1: Like do you know how uncomfortable it is to wear
Speaker 1: something that's too tight? Do you know uncomfortable it is
Speaker 1: to try to run and try to maneuver, and shoes
Speaker 1: too small you start to get callouses. I eat corns, bunions,
Speaker 1: and it starts to get thicker and thicker, almost kind
Speaker 1: of like a wall or a shell, because if you
Speaker 1: have someone around you, or you're surrounding yourself in situations
Speaker 1: that don't deserve you, you do not operate in the
Speaker 1: full self and the magnitude that you wish to because
Speaker 1: it's constantly a block, it's constantly a shoulder I gotta
Speaker 1: look over, it's constantly a second guess, and I don't
Speaker 1: want to operate that way. I want to operate and
Speaker 1: I want to grow from a space of abundance and
Speaker 1: a fruitful environment where I feel comfortable. I can't tell
Speaker 1: you how important it is for me to be comfortable.
Speaker 1: And when I use comfortable in this sense, for me
Speaker 1: to have space is to be done. Now you will
Speaker 1: hear me consistently say that you should not be comfortable
Speaker 1: when you're talking about pursuing your dreams because you are
Speaker 1: asking for more when you're asking to grow. But when
Speaker 1: it comes to my relationships in my life, when it
Speaker 1: comes to who I surround myself with, or it comes
Speaker 1: to who I allowing my home and in my space,
Speaker 1: it has to be comfortable because I need to exist.
Speaker 1: And when I say comfortable, think of it like oxygen.
Speaker 1: When I'm not comfortable. I feel like I can't breathe,
Speaker 1: like I feel constructed. That's kind of like what you
Speaker 1: do when you're uncomfortable, what versus when you are you
Speaker 1: can breathe. There's a sort of means of relaxation. And
Speaker 1: I think that's so important. And when we're talking about
Speaker 1: UM proning, those things that are causing you not to
Speaker 1: be able to breathe and to operate have to be
Speaker 1: cut off. Things have to be done by the wayside.
Speaker 1: And I think oftentimes when we look at pruning, we
Speaker 1: have to take in concert deration of UM, just different habits,
Speaker 1: how we choose to love on ourselves along with the
Speaker 1: people that we choose to surround ourselves with, because sometimes
Speaker 1: that can still hinder us from being our best self.
Speaker 1: I think also UM a lot of pressures society game
Speaker 1: place on us. And I guess it really hit me
Speaker 1: like this pruning process raveling and showing up who we
Speaker 1: are and and and our position and our comfort that
Speaker 1: we get placed in the world. As I was going back,
Speaker 1: and I don't know if you had a chance to
Speaker 1: check it out, but I had interview for the second time.
Speaker 1: I had a conversation with the second time I should say,
Speaker 1: let's a conversation with the NBA's first female referee, Violet Palmer.
Speaker 1: The title of the episode, if you go back on
Speaker 1: the podcast, is called black and Proud, And I think
Speaker 1: oftentimes when we go through this pruning process, there's a
Speaker 1: pride in which we need to stand in ourselves. You
Speaker 1: need to hold yourself accountable of the people that you
Speaker 1: surround your self in your life, um, the opportunities you
Speaker 1: either choose to seize or to release, um even if
Speaker 1: your state of existence of the consumption. So in talking
Speaker 1: about that, it made me just think of the pressures
Speaker 1: in society you know, oftentimes puts on us, or basically
Speaker 1: what we allow it to put on us. And what
Speaker 1: I mean by that is that oftentimes I'm not sure
Speaker 1: society welcomes a lane, a lens, a space to show
Speaker 1: up and to be exactly who we are meant to be.
Speaker 1: And when that space isn't created, we find ourselves trying
Speaker 1: to fit in spaces that don't have room for us.
Speaker 1: I gave you an example starting off, I talked about
Speaker 1: relationships some people don't fit anymore. Just like when we're
Speaker 1: talking about this whole proning process, it says It removes
Speaker 1: dead and dying branches and stuffs. Some of these relationships
Speaker 1: that we're holding on in life are dead. It's time
Speaker 1: to release them. But understand this tool. Where there's an ending,
Speaker 1: there's a beginning, and it doesn't mean dead forever. It
Speaker 1: can just simply mean this season. Right. See. The issue
Speaker 1: becomes when you try to control the seasons and try
Speaker 1: to hold on and constrict about how things should be,
Speaker 1: what should be done, versus allowing things to flow and
Speaker 1: understanding that sometimes man's rejection is God's protection. If it
Speaker 1: doesn't flow, we got to go hit the role jack
Speaker 1: and don't you come back? No mo no moan, no
Speaker 1: mo no moan, no no, no, are just right now.
Speaker 1: But I guess I'm saying all that to say because
Speaker 1: when society doesn't allow us to wrong, to grow a
Speaker 1: space to be, we feel as though we are trapped
Speaker 1: and then therefore we cannot show up as authentic self.
Speaker 1: And that was one thing that Violet made sure that
Speaker 1: she consistently said over and over again, how it's important
Speaker 1: to be your authentic self? How is it important to
Speaker 1: show up who you are as you are? How when
Speaker 1: she decided to be everything that she is and what
Speaker 1: she stands upon allowed her to break barriers that were unknown, unbeknownst.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't even just go with the realms of
Speaker 1: her sexuality, even down to her just talking about how
Speaker 1: she decided to wear her hair, how she decided to
Speaker 1: amplify her voice, and in doing that, when she decided
Speaker 1: to walk into permission of who she is, she saw
Speaker 1: that everything is coming. But guess what, when we're put
Speaker 1: in a situation of we're not allowing the pruning process
Speaker 1: to naturally happen, these branches, these dead things, they start
Speaker 1: to create these layers on top of us. And so
Speaker 1: now all of a sudden, the things of how we
Speaker 1: were able to move so easily through we can't anymore.
Speaker 1: Or let me say this, we don't even give ourselves
Speaker 1: permission to do so. Heck, I was even looking at um.
Speaker 1: Did you see that episode of the Red Table Talk
Speaker 1: where Jada was talking about her her experience with addiction
Speaker 1: and how she was talking about her cocktail. She was
Speaker 1: saying that she got to a point where she was
Speaker 1: over drinking. She can drink will under the table, but
Speaker 1: she said she got to the point where she start
Speaker 1: getting our cocktail because she started mixing in the ecstasy
Speaker 1: with the weed, and it started the whole taking over. See,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm talking about. Um, I'm so grateful now
Speaker 1: that we're in the space that we can talk about
Speaker 1: these things. We can talk about how the overusing can
Speaker 1: overuse us. She said she had gotten to the point
Speaker 1: that she had made a bad cocktail because of what
Speaker 1: a bad um. I don't know it was a bad
Speaker 1: trip or just the quality of the ecstasy. She passed
Speaker 1: out on the set of The Nutty Professor. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I say this because I can't even imagine how many
Speaker 1: other people have been going through things. And thank god,
Speaker 1: now in this damn age, we have space. We have
Speaker 1: room to talk about these things. We have room to
Speaker 1: say it's okay not to be okay, we have room
Speaker 1: to say, hey, look at these damaged goods, and I'm
Speaker 1: trying to leave them out because who knows, that story
Speaker 1: probably says somebody else's life. And when we're talking about this,
Speaker 1: this proning process, we gotta realize that sometimes we gotta
Speaker 1: check ourselves before we wreck ourselves. So whether or not
Speaker 1: you thinking like, oh, because I'm so used to this
Speaker 1: relationship that I gotta hold onto let it go, You know, um,
Speaker 1: we gotta to get used to the realm of letting
Speaker 1: go of things. And it's like society teaches us to
Speaker 1: hold onto so much, acquire, get this, have this, you
Speaker 1: can do this if you have this. But what about
Speaker 1: when we say I'm just gonna be free and just
Speaker 1: to breathe. When we get to the point of we
Speaker 1: allow our existence to just exist and just like the seasons,
Speaker 1: when the rain comes, it goes, sometimes these relationships gotta
Speaker 1: be like that. Hey, we even look at the fact
Speaker 1: of just going back to how society can press the pressure.
Speaker 1: And now we're getting a space that we can say, hey,
Speaker 1: you can see me for who I am. Look as
Speaker 1: you carry I'm not going to even from I do
Speaker 1: think that, you know, as far as abiding by rules,
Speaker 1: with the rules simply states. But here is a woman
Speaker 1: just showing up as she is right now to say
Speaker 1: I was going through something. This is something that whether
Speaker 1: or not I had to deal with because my mother
Speaker 1: died or whatever the case may be. But when we
Speaker 1: get to a point in society where we do not
Speaker 1: allow people to show up, it's hard. So let the
Speaker 1: pruning process be in that to it whatever access that
Speaker 1: we gotta figure out we gotta carry everybody else. I
Speaker 1: don't know about you, but I'm only carrying it on. Heck,
Speaker 1: we even saw what Naomi Osaka and how she decided
Speaker 1: not to participate in the French Open because she said
Speaker 1: I am protecting myself. Where she had an article that
Speaker 1: was was it in Time and it was entitled it's
Speaker 1: okay not to be okay and guess what okay to
Speaker 1: talk about that? See, that's part of the pruning process. Whatever,
Speaker 1: this stigmatism of things that we feel like we gotta
Speaker 1: hold on, I'm telling you right now it's time to
Speaker 1: let it go. I feel like oftentimes when we hold
Speaker 1: onto things and situations that don't serve us, we lower
Speaker 1: our level a frequency, like our vibrations actually vibrate lower
Speaker 1: because it isn't moving freely. It's moving under these conditions,
Speaker 1: conditions that are not in our natural state. And I
Speaker 1: say natural state, things that are belonging in our life,
Speaker 1: things that were we're not getting a good vibe from.
Speaker 1: And if we are these spiritual beings having this human experience,
Speaker 1: we know that we are consistent of electrolytes, this energy source,
Speaker 1: that's what this energy is. We are just on this
Speaker 1: plane of just a vibration. But when we stop the
Speaker 1: vibration of not existing with ourselves or holding onto things
Speaker 1: that need to be led away, it starts to get
Speaker 1: slower and it starts to get lower. So it's like,
Speaker 1: what vibration frequency are you operating at? M hm? It's
Speaker 1: time for that. We gotta not only um make sure
Speaker 1: other people are held accountable, we have to hold ourselves
Speaker 1: accountable for some of the proning process that needs to
Speaker 1: be done, because when you get into a situation and
Speaker 1: you're looking at when you're asking to grow, when you're
Speaker 1: asking to be better, you are the company that you keep.
Speaker 1: I was just telling Jeremiah the other day, is that
Speaker 1: sometimes you have to treat certain people like you have
Speaker 1: a white outfit on. You may have heard me say
Speaker 1: there on a few episodes back, But what I mean
Speaker 1: by that is that you are cognizant or what is
Speaker 1: in your surroundings. You are cognizant about what gets too
Speaker 1: close to you. You are cognizant to understand that everybody
Speaker 1: doesn't deserve a hand on you. And that's what proning
Speaker 1: is about, is understanding that not everyone and everything deserves
Speaker 1: a hand on you. So, like Naomi Osaka was saying, like, hey, listen,
Speaker 1: I was just coming from my truth at that time.
Speaker 1: I did not want to talk at that press conference.
Speaker 1: Had she talked about how even in a not everyday
Speaker 1: society that people that work right, they're giving their what
Speaker 1: do you call it their day off as a sick day?
Speaker 1: And she said was dang, can I have one day
Speaker 1: where I do not want to talk to the press?
Speaker 1: And do you see how we shame her for that?
Speaker 1: And I say, we are used that loosely, but just
Speaker 1: as a whole, as as a people. Oh why did
Speaker 1: this girl want to talk? It wasn't the day for it.
Speaker 1: We gotta stop putting all this pressure on. So when
Speaker 1: I revert back to my friend l and the reason
Speaker 1: why I said that, I may mention about the fact
Speaker 1: that she's like, oh my gosh, well, don't you think
Speaker 1: you need to hold on? It's like, I don't need
Speaker 1: that pressure to feel like I got to hold on
Speaker 1: because I want to operate in a space that is
Speaker 1: for me is for me. I want to operate in
Speaker 1: this space. But I welcome conversation, but I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: to to welcome discord. Do you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: I'm in the healing process, and in this healing process,
Speaker 1: I understand how important it is to feel. You catch
Speaker 1: it because if I'm able to feel, I'm able to
Speaker 1: understand the frequency of the vibration that's on. Not, like
Speaker 1: I said before, a lot of the people that were
Speaker 1: around in my life that are not I had to
Speaker 1: do a second guess. There was a second guess that's
Speaker 1: going on. When I have to check, I'm like, yo,
Speaker 1: why doesn't this feel right? So I ask you, who
Speaker 1: are you holding onto? Don't sit here and say, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, well I'm not sure. Yes you do. You
Speaker 1: know the truth by the way that it feels. What
Speaker 1: did I say before? And y r Re told us
Speaker 1: that we gotta get back into the mode of trusting
Speaker 1: the intuition, trusting what's inside. Do you think that a plant,
Speaker 1: the very thing that gives us life because it allows
Speaker 1: us to have oxygen, is ever concerned with the fact
Speaker 1: that whether or not the sun is going to shine
Speaker 1: the next day. No, it stands tall and expectancy. And
Speaker 1: I think that's what we have to do. We have
Speaker 1: to expect that every life decision, the things that are
Speaker 1: working for us and the things that are are working
Speaker 1: against us are in its true state and in its
Speaker 1: form and being so clear and discerning that we are
Speaker 1: able to see it. And that's what comes with the
Speaker 1: punting process. The proning process ain't nothing but getting the
Speaker 1: way to weeds. So I'm not trying to force any
Speaker 1: weeds to grow on my garden that is not meant
Speaker 1: for there. Because if I don't see myself being fruit full,
Speaker 1: if I don't see myself feeling at my best self,
Speaker 1: and if I don't feel rejuvenized what I'm with you,
Speaker 1: you are not serving me. So guess what you're not
Speaker 1: deserving of me? And it's everything that goes along the
Speaker 1: lines when we talk about how you were your greatest
Speaker 1: ass act. Well, hold on, now, I've been talking about
Speaker 1: this whole time of proning of other people. But I'm
Speaker 1: also have to say when we need to just shed
Speaker 1: more light approving things that surround us. And just like
Speaker 1: I was saying with Jada and her whole situation of
Speaker 1: her overusing, there was a numbness that's there. And I
Speaker 1: will say here, I have my my vices, whether it's overeating,
Speaker 1: maybe have a cocktails, do, maybe indulge in some other libations,
Speaker 1: but it's about the balance, right, It's about understanding what
Speaker 1: do you want for your life? How do you choose
Speaker 1: to exist? Now? As I said before, we're not perfect
Speaker 1: and we're all learning this together. We all understand that
Speaker 1: life is a journey and we're taking gets that by
Speaker 1: st up. We have to realize that just like those
Speaker 1: people that will hold onto and how I was saying,
Speaker 1: how they serve as those callouses, those things that you
Speaker 1: are overusing are servicing a callous to you as well,
Speaker 1: because you're not able to feel and too move like
Speaker 1: you need to. But here's the thing. I ask that
Speaker 1: you find grace with yourself. And that's what I had
Speaker 1: to learn from Dawn. We are just human. When you fall,
Speaker 1: you get back up. Now, if you said, oh, but
Speaker 1: you you gotta have all this discipline if you're a
Speaker 1: person as a firm believer of the Bible in the
Speaker 1: book Jesus failed three times. So what is you saying?
Speaker 1: You're human too. But it's important to be on a
Speaker 1: level or the vibration of understanding of when you're at
Speaker 1: a state where you're not feeling, do you understand what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? And because like I was saying, the society
Speaker 1: is and what the pressures are doing. We get into
Speaker 1: a state of we're not feeling. I need you to
Speaker 1: feel what I'm saying. The proning season is warranted because
Speaker 1: you have to get to a point that you are
Speaker 1: can't go other things that do not work for you.
Speaker 1: Even amidst of all these stretched sanctions about what you're
Speaker 1: supposed to do, what you can't do, you have to
Speaker 1: be able to find yourself. You have to find your
Speaker 1: own rules on the know how and how to do
Speaker 1: to do something for yourself. You have to set those parameters.
Speaker 1: You have to discern and decide what you are going
Speaker 1: to allow in your life, because at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, you're going to have to check yourself before
Speaker 1: you wrack yourself. And that's checking your environment, that's checking
Speaker 1: the temperature of your frequency. What is your vibe? Can't
Speaker 1: you go, lamar, don't kill my vibe. Don't allow anybody
Speaker 1: to kill your vibe. Don't allow what circumstances to kill
Speaker 1: your vibe. Heck, don't even allow yourself to kill your
Speaker 1: own vibe. That goes back to force and situations that
Speaker 1: don't work. That goes back replacing yourself around people that
Speaker 1: don't serve you that's going back to overusing things and
Speaker 1: allowing you to over you you. I didn't say not that.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm saying, when you get to a point where
Speaker 1: you're not able to control it with yourself, it's time
Speaker 1: to check yourself before you rack yourself. Let's get away
Speaker 1: with the shame and blame game. Okay. I told you
Speaker 1: were shedding light. So that's stepping forth as you are
Speaker 1: who you are, as you are right now, right now,
Speaker 1: not tomorrow, not five years, not ten years from now.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you right now, you don't have to hire
Speaker 1: who you are. You can be everything that you want,
Speaker 1: but you have to understand that in this process of
Speaker 1: being greater, in this process of being more than, it's
Speaker 1: some puny that will be said. Hey, I don't know
Speaker 1: if I'm just making it up from a movie, but
Speaker 1: even like I've seen this thing of um like spaceships
Speaker 1: when they'd be going out of space and stuff, I
Speaker 1: feel like some memo and stuff be coming through, like
Speaker 1: it's shedding some stuff off, you know what I'm saying. Hey,
Speaker 1: even thinking of the process of a butterfly when it's
Speaker 1: in the whole caterpillar mode and it's going into the cocoon.
Speaker 1: Do you see the shedding and the puning that's happening
Speaker 1: in order for the transformation into a butterfly? To transformation
Speaker 1: process as serious and even in the process of that butterfly.
Speaker 1: Guess what, Homie flying Now, that's as laming as it
Speaker 1: can get. At one point, this this caterpillar was crawling,
Speaker 1: went through a process, didn't try to avoid the fact
Speaker 1: that the proning process, and decided to fly. Are you
Speaker 1: going to decide to fly? I don't know about two,
Speaker 1: but I didn't. I didn't come this far to stay
Speaker 1: the same. So if you gotta go, you gotta go.
Speaker 1: I ain't holding on to nothing, And I guess I'm
Speaker 1: in a place right now, and I'm wondering what about you.
Speaker 1: I'm in a place right now, but I'm trusting things
Speaker 1: because I see things are opening up. And that's what
Speaker 1: I meant about how my dreams are unraveling, Like I'm
Speaker 1: unwrapping the gift that God gave me and I'm walking
Speaker 1: into it. So I gotta find something that feels right,
Speaker 1: and I'm going with that wind. That's what I'm doing
Speaker 1: for Dawn. And if you aren't blowing with me, then
Speaker 1: you're going and if we aren't at the point that
Speaker 1: we can have a conversation to understand what's going on,
Speaker 1: then I gotta go. I'm open to it, but I
Speaker 1: damn so ain't holding on to it because I'm holding
Speaker 1: on for my life right now, for my dreams and
Speaker 1: as we all are. And I just want to make
Speaker 1: sure that to remind yourself of that, to understand how
Speaker 1: important it is for the proning process, how important it
Speaker 1: is to to advocate for your self care, and in
Speaker 1: that self care of understanding if I have now to
Speaker 1: the overusing Hey, i was looking at their Dangna video
Speaker 1: and I'm going back to the Red Table talk and
Speaker 1: I'm listening to Jaden. I'm listening to these women are
Speaker 1: coming up there, they who have this addiction to alcohol,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, yo, I look at myself and I'm
Speaker 1: like yo, I hear myself and I'm like, yo, that
Speaker 1: might be me with food. I'm gonna be transparent. Let's
Speaker 1: just keep it real. You know a lot of these
Speaker 1: women they had talked about how um they got the career,
Speaker 1: they got the degrees, and they got their family and
Speaker 1: to get you, they said this one thing that they
Speaker 1: are able to put their hands on. I know with myself.
Speaker 1: If I'm gonna just be honest and like I told you, like,
Speaker 1: we're gonna be learning a lot because I don't plan
Speaker 1: to go nowhere. I'm gonna be here for a long time.
Speaker 1: I'm going into history books with this um. But what
Speaker 1: I realized is that my thing is food. And I
Speaker 1: laugh and I joke about it. I mean, because I
Speaker 1: do enjoy it. But it's about having that relationship. And
Speaker 1: I can whole hardly say probably my relationship with food
Speaker 1: could be healthier. Know it should be healthier. I can
Speaker 1: say that because I want to be honest with myself,
Speaker 1: UM and what I want. And sometimes we think it's
Speaker 1: just cutting something black me off. I can't cut food off.
Speaker 1: That's how I live. But I gotta understand the relationship
Speaker 1: with it. So if that's gonna take me having to
Speaker 1: rid myself of people that serve as a distraction, UM
Speaker 1: of another way to get the focus off, then I
Speaker 1: can't have that. I'm not saying it's just everything that
Speaker 1: revolves around don't know, but I am the center of me.
Speaker 1: I can't be good to anything else that comes around
Speaker 1: me if I don't surround myself with the goodness of myself,
Speaker 1: that is myself, you feel me. So I looked at
Speaker 1: that and I saw that I'm going to explore that
Speaker 1: and even more. Now I'm gonna tell you right now,
Speaker 1: I'm still gonna eat my food. I'm still gonna talk
Speaker 1: about the food probably is the food that's not so healthy.
Speaker 1: But um, what is the first step is awareness? Right,
Speaker 1: and remember we choose the life that we live. So
Speaker 1: then it becomes to the point of what do you want?
Speaker 1: And I asked myself that what do you want? As
Speaker 1: I'm on this journey of working out, as I'm on
Speaker 1: this journey of figuring out to get back in the
Speaker 1: kitchen because I forgot. I know it sounds crazy, but
Speaker 1: for a few years I was doing a meal plan,
Speaker 1: a vegan meal plan, and so all of my food
Speaker 1: was delivered. Well, I had clearly, Hello, I had a
Speaker 1: transition in my life. So I have to figure out
Speaker 1: where to allocate my funds and how they go. And
Speaker 1: so I gotta get back in the kitchen. And I
Speaker 1: appreciate that because I actually love to cook. Let it
Speaker 1: be know now, and I'm gonna tell you this right now.
Speaker 1: When vitamin D comes out on your television screens or whatever,
Speaker 1: there will be a segment we are going to be
Speaker 1: eating and cooking food like that's my ships knows. I
Speaker 1: just have to make sure that I understand the appropriate boundaries.
Speaker 1: And maybe that's what we need to talk about. Maybe
Speaker 1: the proning process are these boundaries. And as I was
Speaker 1: talking earlier, and I talked about the seasons, the boundaries
Speaker 1: in those seasons, like you know, and they're like, oh man,
Speaker 1: went to be up in the summer, like what up? Though, No,
Speaker 1: we can't last how many we melted away? You know,
Speaker 1: you might get a splash, but it will reside. Well,
Speaker 1: I guess depending on the climate change, things could change.
Speaker 1: But you know what I'm trying to say, stop making
Speaker 1: me overthat show. So um, I just wanted to say
Speaker 1: that they don't don't be afraid of the proning. Um.
Speaker 1: We talked about the self care, you know, we talked
Speaker 1: about the mental health and protecting your space, and of course,
Speaker 1: like I said, with the eating, the overusing, and I'm
Speaker 1: sure there are other things. But when we get to
Speaker 1: the heart of the matter, when we realize that we
Speaker 1: don't have to carry all these shells and all these
Speaker 1: callouses because we're not trying to fit in space as
Speaker 1: we don't belong. That makes taking the layers off half
Speaker 1: the battle. You feel me because I don't have all
Speaker 1: this gunk on me. I ain't. I ain't got this
Speaker 1: stuff because because I just showed up as me and
Speaker 1: I'm enough and I feel inside of me and you
Speaker 1: fit inside of you. And if it doesn't, guess what,
Speaker 1: it's gonna fall away. So don't try to hold on
Speaker 1: to it. Okay, that's what I'm saying. Be like Erica
Speaker 1: by doing like she said, pack light. Yeah, I want
Speaker 1: that for you, Okay. And then also I also want
Speaker 1: to say this too, Um, if you feel like this
Speaker 1: is a struggle, only know that this is just a
Speaker 1: due process, just for a finite amount of time, and
Speaker 1: that is possible, and you're gonna be Okay. I just
Speaker 1: need to make sure that you choose you first. Okay,
Speaker 1: you are your greatest asset. All right. Well, if you
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