WEBVTT - Ep. 187 — Promote Wealth & Combat Stress by...Walking? 0:00:16.760 --> 0:00:24.840 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown a mission. 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:27.600 Hey Manny, Hey, how is your three day weekend? 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:33.279 EXCELLENTE? I spent it in the I don't know, does 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:34.680 Colorados have rocky mountains? 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:36.960 I think that's the Rockies, correct. 0:00:37.240 --> 0:00:42.000 I spent them in the rocky mountains of Denver, Colorado. Outside. Nonetheless, 0:00:42.880 --> 0:00:46.080 that sounds beautiful. What were you doing there? So there's 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:49.519 an organization called Girl Trek g A I R G 0:00:49.840 --> 0:00:51.680 I R L trek t R e. 0:00:51.640 --> 0:00:59.840 K What are you spelling? Okay, go ahead. 0:01:00.160 --> 0:01:02.800 It was awesome. It was co founded by a women 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:06.520 named Morgan and Vanessa, and they just had this concern 0:01:06.760 --> 0:01:10.280 for black women and their health. And so they said, 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:11.960 you know, if we could just get out and walk, 0:01:12.040 --> 0:01:13.840 like in half an hour a day, it would just 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:16.240 make a tremendous difference in the health of black women, 0:01:16.240 --> 0:01:17.840 because you know, black women have, like, as far as 0:01:17.840 --> 0:01:20.000 women are concerned, like have the highest incidents of like 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:24.760 diabetes and like you know, blood high, blood sugar and hypertension, 0:01:24.760 --> 0:01:27.240 all these things they tell you. And so they just 0:01:27.280 --> 0:01:29.680 were like, what if we could create some sort of 0:01:29.720 --> 0:01:32.640 movement to really get black women to move. Then what 0:01:32.720 --> 0:01:36.520 they realized which I thought was really awesome because Girl 0:01:36.520 --> 0:01:39.560 Trek is six hundred thousand women strong. I think at 0:01:39.560 --> 0:01:42.560 the actual conference, I guess you can't even call it that, 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:44.720 but for lack of a better word, of conference with 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:48.840 which they call the Stress Protests, there was about six 0:01:48.920 --> 0:01:51.880 hundred or so more women. But it was awesome, Like 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:54.800 we like Girl Trek. They have these like blue T shirts, 0:01:55.200 --> 0:01:56.880 and so as soon as I got off the plane, 0:01:57.520 --> 0:01:59.560 like and we got to like wherever' supposed to meet, 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:02.320 you just see blue a sea of blue T shirts. 0:02:02.440 --> 0:02:04.640 And it was just awesome to see all of these 0:02:04.640 --> 0:02:09.920 women all around the country come together and like, like 0:02:10.520 --> 0:02:12.560 do all these outdoor kind of activities. You know, it's 0:02:12.600 --> 0:02:14.520 so crazy. So I brought my like, last minute, I 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:16.200 found my fitt, which I have not been wearing, and 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:22.160 I brought it with me. Mandra, I walked over twenty 0:02:22.160 --> 0:02:25.840 five miles in those few days. Damn. You like it 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:28.560 when I tell you, and like and so I went 0:02:28.600 --> 0:02:30.320 on a hike, which is really great. I did like 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:34.880 the intermediate like beginner hike, which was really great. I 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:39.280 also they had like trap yoga amazing. They had double 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:41.200 Dutch overall bigs amazing. 0:02:41.680 --> 0:02:46.560 This sounds like my dream workout class trap yoga. 0:02:46.600 --> 0:02:48.120 It was so because it was like you know, it 0:02:48.160 --> 0:02:52.160 was traditional yoga poses, but like Salams was playing and 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:54.760 like you know, like it was just like Drake. It 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:58.160 was just he played like really dope music while working 0:02:58.200 --> 0:02:59.960 you through like you know, like the sun side and taste. 0:03:00.120 --> 0:03:02.959 So that was awesome. They also had like this Vogue class, 0:03:03.280 --> 0:03:06.239 like a self love Vogue class. They had something called 0:03:06.240 --> 0:03:10.079 a soundback, which was like you kind of like lay 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:12.160 on the ground and then like they played like these 0:03:12.240 --> 0:03:15.480 vibrational sounds to kind of like increase your your your 0:03:15.520 --> 0:03:18.320 your your vibrations And honestly, it was really dope. What 0:03:18.440 --> 0:03:23.000 else did that? Oh? I did acupuncture, massage. There was 0:03:23.080 --> 0:03:25.280 so many things, And so it's really. 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:27.000 Like a conference where you like do you stay in 0:03:27.000 --> 0:03:29.600 that same hotel? Is there like a registration fee or something? 0:03:29.919 --> 0:03:31.760 Yeah, so there's I believe it was like maybe like 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:33.320 five or six hundred dollars. But what it's so great 0:03:33.320 --> 0:03:36.440 about it includes your your your room, all the food 0:03:36.480 --> 0:03:38.680 and transportation. You have to pay for your flight because 0:03:38.720 --> 0:03:40.960 you know they can't know where you're coming from. But 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:42.960 so they did it at the why when they said 0:03:42.960 --> 0:03:45.120 it was at the YMCA. I was like what, because 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:47.200 you know the YMCA where I live, it's like a 0:03:47.240 --> 0:03:49.720 little small little building. But no, this YMCA is a 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:52.600 property with like acres and acres and acres of land, 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:56.160 and so they've got like little cabins we stayed in. 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:58.560 Like it was like I don't want to It wasn't 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:01.840 really a hotel. It it was like I guess it 0:04:01.920 --> 0:04:04.680 was like hotel slash cabin. I guess you can kind 0:04:04.680 --> 0:04:06.400 of call it. It was like two people per room, 0:04:06.880 --> 0:04:09.800 but it was really cute and like like outdoors, like 0:04:09.840 --> 0:04:12.000 everything was like wood trim and stuff like that. And 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.480 then they also have like a main hall, dining hall 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:17.200 where everyone could eat. So we weren't the only groups there. 0:04:17.200 --> 0:04:19.920 They were like I guess people have Like there were 0:04:19.960 --> 0:04:23.000 like church groups and like families were there and so 0:04:23.040 --> 0:04:25.839 that's when we all ate. But we took over specific 0:04:25.920 --> 0:04:29.400 like lodges where we stayed. But it was just such 0:04:29.440 --> 0:04:32.320 an amazing experience. They even had a napping class. 0:04:32.360 --> 0:04:36.520 Okay, napping did you get a little blue and red 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:37.560 matt and everything. 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:39.840 Well, you know, I missed it. That was so mad. 0:04:39.880 --> 0:04:42.000 Some people were like it was amazing that you literally 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:45.359 went in and they like did soothing talking and sound 0:04:45.560 --> 0:04:48.039 just to relax and busa. They were just what I loved. 0:04:48.080 --> 0:04:50.159 It was like a mix of because I taught a 0:04:50.160 --> 0:04:52.280 class called financial Wholeness, so it was a mix of 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:55.880 like you know, like classes, but then also like physical 0:04:55.920 --> 0:04:58.680 activities that were classes, so it was it was just 0:04:59.120 --> 0:05:03.599 and then I know, I don't know how long they 0:05:03.680 --> 0:05:06.440 must have planned for this, because everything was branded in 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:10.080 this beautiful way. It just was so well done. I've 0:05:10.080 --> 0:05:12.560 been to a lot of conferences and this was like 0:05:12.600 --> 0:05:14.919 the anti conference, because you know, you go to a conference, 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:16.640 you sit in the room, the person sits at the front, 0:05:16.800 --> 0:05:18.400 and it's like la la la, I know the things 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.320 you want to know me. And then you go to 0:05:20.360 --> 0:05:22.719 the next room, same thing, the experts on the stage, 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:24.400 La la la, I know the things you want to 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:28.480 know me. But that wasn't this at all. This was like, hey, 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:30.520 instead of sitting in the classroom, and some things were 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:32.360 in the classroom, but it was like, hey, I went 0:05:32.400 --> 0:05:34.400 on the hike before I went for this class, and 0:05:34.800 --> 0:05:37.160 the next class for taking a nap, and the next 0:05:37.160 --> 0:05:39.719 class like they literally had arts and crafts. It felt 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:42.560 like summer camp where you're like, oh, I can paint outside. 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.960 There were like dance sessions where you're like, oh, they 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.039 just played music and everyone was just dancing. When I 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:52.200 tell you the level of joy. I didn't realize how 0:05:52.240 --> 0:05:55.039 anxious I was here in New Jersey until I came back, 0:05:55.400 --> 0:05:57.680 because what I like too is that they didn't really 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:01.800 have any internet or phone acts, like very little, so 0:06:02.120 --> 0:06:03.960 I was cut off from a lot of like quote unquote, 0:06:03.960 --> 0:06:05.599 like the work stuff that I have to do. Plus 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:07.159 it was a holiday weekend, so it wasn't like anybody 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:09.400 was doing work anyway. But and then I got back 0:06:09.440 --> 0:06:13.040 to Jersey and I felt like this flood of not 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:16.239 full fledged anxiety, but like anxiety. I was like, wow, 0:06:16.400 --> 0:06:20.080 the difference, and it made me realize, like okay, because 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:23.880 I would never have like classified myself as someone who's anxious. 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:27.280 But coming back, I kind of felt the world's rushing 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:29.320 and I was like whoa, whoa, whoa. So one of 0:06:29.320 --> 0:06:31.080 the things I like I was determined to do was 0:06:31.520 --> 0:06:33.360 I actually went for a walk because one of the 0:06:33.360 --> 0:06:36.039 classes I took was about how to distress and how 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:39.240 to get clear and focus and still because I'm like, 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:41.000 I feel like I'm always on ten and so I 0:06:41.000 --> 0:06:42.960 took that class and something she said it seemed like 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.279 so small, but it really resonated. She had us like 0:06:45.320 --> 0:06:47.040 kind of like do this like writing activity where we 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.960 wrote down the last time we felt joy and like, oh, 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:51.880 the some times that we just feel joy in general. 0:06:51.960 --> 0:06:53.479 And so I did that, and it was like, oh, 0:06:53.960 --> 0:06:56.159 when my niece and my nephew came over, or you know, 0:06:56.200 --> 0:06:58.480 talking to my sister on the phone, or laughing with Jarell, 0:06:58.800 --> 0:07:01.279 or taking a walk because I actually like walking. And 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:03.000 I realized a lot of the things I had on there, 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:05.799 like I don't do them that often. And we talked 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:08.640 about like, as a group, why are so many things 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:11.720 that we say we experience joy, but they are things 0:07:11.760 --> 0:07:14.000 that we're not duplicating in our life over and over. 0:07:14.400 --> 0:07:16.440 Like if hanging out with my niece and my nephew 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:18.920 gives me joy, I mean, my sister would love for 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:22.600 me to babysit twenty four hours a day, like go 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:25.440 see that, especially after work. I know she's exhausted, Like 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:28.040 they literally live probably not even a ten minute walk 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:30.280 from my house, a two minute drive. I could be like, Okay, 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:32.920 I know she gets home at seven. I'm gonna beat 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:35.160 her at the house. I'm gonna watch the kids relax, 0:07:35.680 --> 0:07:37.840 and then I get joy as she gets rest, you know. 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:41.320 And so I just thought about that that like that 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:43.320 was like the probably the biggest takeaway from that class, 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:46.120 which is just to multiply the joy. You write down 0:07:46.160 --> 0:07:47.600 the things that give you joy the last time you 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:49.400 felt it and ask yourself, how could I do that 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:52.520 again and again and again? Like I actually enjoy walking, 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:55.240 but I rarely walk, and I don't know why because 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:58.320 I work for myself at home. So this morning I 0:07:58.360 --> 0:08:00.160 woke up and I was like, I had a I 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:04.520 had a PR call myself, Drina and my CEO Karen. 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:07.320 We have a PR call every other Tuesday. So I 0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:10.800 had a PR call every other Tuesday. And so I 0:08:10.920 --> 0:08:13.280 was walking and talking. I'm like, Timothy, take the PR 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:16.080 call on a walk, And because Adrina came with me, 0:08:16.160 --> 0:08:19.920 so did Karen, my COO, and so did Tamika, who 0:08:20.040 --> 0:08:24.320 I have several chapter DreamCatcher chapters. So if y'all just 0:08:24.360 --> 0:08:27.440 knew listening like Dreamcatchers were about eight hundred thousand women 0:08:27.480 --> 0:08:30.080 deep were like the beehive, like Beyonce's behive, but for 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:33.880 personal finance. And so I wanted them all to come 0:08:34.040 --> 0:08:37.840 so we could see how can we enhance our group 0:08:38.160 --> 0:08:40.400 and community experience. So I could see like what it 0:08:40.440 --> 0:08:43.200 looked like when it was done at the level of excellence, 0:08:43.200 --> 0:08:46.199 and girl Check is awesome and it went so well. 0:08:46.559 --> 0:08:49.320 I met with them, one of the founders, Morgan, and 0:08:49.360 --> 0:08:51.880 we're actually going to do things together because we have 0:08:51.920 --> 0:08:53.960 a lot of overlaps. It's a lot of my audience 0:08:54.000 --> 0:08:56.080 is also African American women, most of my audience, and 0:08:56.120 --> 0:08:59.000 since they catered to African American women, and so we're 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:01.520 gonna start with something called the Wealth Walk, which I'm 0:09:01.559 --> 0:09:04.840 so excited about, which is just girl trekkers walk every 0:09:04.840 --> 0:09:08.480 week together anyway, but like one of those walks, we 0:09:08.520 --> 0:09:11.199 will focus on talking about money. So I'm going to 0:09:11.240 --> 0:09:14.920 create like a series of questions and a series of 0:09:14.960 --> 0:09:17.920 like maybe definitions to talk about, and like a little 0:09:18.000 --> 0:09:20.440 video that they can watch as they're walking, like right 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:23.040 before they walk, so they can discuss the discuss that 0:09:23.040 --> 0:09:25.600 that Wealth Walks lesson. So it just made me really 0:09:25.640 --> 0:09:28.560 excited about, you know, just some things that we could 0:09:28.559 --> 0:09:30.240 do together. But then I can also bring back to 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:32.600 dream Catchers so they can do as well. So honestly, 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:35.960 I had a bomb dot Com weekend, despite the fact 0:09:35.960 --> 0:09:38.680 that we were like in like, you know, I don't 0:09:38.679 --> 0:09:41.600 consider myself an outdoorsy person, but we were that guy. 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:44.200 Like I said, twenty five plus miles is when I 0:09:44.240 --> 0:09:46.520 walked just from like going to get something to eat, 0:09:46.679 --> 0:09:48.839 going to go paint, going to jump, you know, going 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:51.240 to going to on our hike or whatever. It was 0:09:51.280 --> 0:09:53.160 just like I said, it was just an amazing experience 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:54.120 and beautiful too. 0:09:54.800 --> 0:09:58.440 That sounds really nice. Yeah, well, yeah, I did that 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:00.959 for Mental Health Month. I try. I took conference calls 0:10:01.040 --> 0:10:03.520 on walks and but then it got to be like 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:05.640 one hundred degrees and one hundred percent humidity, and then 0:10:05.679 --> 0:10:07.440 I stopped. But I'm getting back on now that the 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:09.320 weather is nice out. I've been getting out a lot 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:12.280 a lot more. But that makes me actually want I've 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:15.800 never looked into like doing a wellness retreat or a conference, 0:10:15.920 --> 0:10:18.120 just like for myself, because you always think of conferences 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:20.840 as being like something you do for work or for 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:23.920 your business. But especially if you take it's such a 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:25.960 sounds such a good way to spend time with your 0:10:25.960 --> 0:10:26.960 girlfriends and catch up. 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:30.320 Yeah, honestly, because I like Drina and I because you 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.120 have to you share rooms, so because you know, I 0:10:33.160 --> 0:10:36.080 obviously was going with someone. So it was just so 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:38.360 nice we got to like because I feel like like 0:10:38.440 --> 0:10:40.680 for me, you know, like I've known Drina, who's my poplicist. 0:10:40.720 --> 0:10:42.840 So if you know jenas use my publicist. She like 0:10:42.880 --> 0:10:46.640 has some really like high level clients and so sometimes 0:10:46.640 --> 0:10:48.360 you know, but she's also my best friend. And I've 0:10:48.400 --> 0:10:52.800 known Drina so she was nine and so sometimes like 0:10:52.800 --> 0:10:54.640 we say that all the time that sometimes we're like, 0:10:55.320 --> 0:10:58.280 you know, we talk, but I talked to Dream every day, 0:10:58.320 --> 0:11:01.560 typically multiple times a day, but almost always is about 0:11:01.640 --> 0:11:03.440 oh did you do the thing in CNBC wants to know? 0:11:03.480 --> 0:11:05.600 And can you do the real and so you know, 0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:08.120 and sometimes it's like we don't like when it's the 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:10.520 last time we just said hey, yeah, you know, just 0:11:10.600 --> 0:11:14.440 like girlfriend out without it leading to also talking about business. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:17.440 And so it was nice because we didn't talk about 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:19.760 business because it really you know, like we couldn't really 0:11:19.800 --> 0:11:23.920 use our phones. We couldn't really like it was just like, oh, 0:11:24.000 --> 0:11:26.079 isn't that plotter so pretty well? Take our picture by 0:11:26.080 --> 0:11:28.360 this mountain or like you know, like we're just nice 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:30.880 just to be friends. So that part was really nice. 0:11:30.880 --> 0:11:34.440 So I highly highly highly recommend. If you go to 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:38.360 girltrek dot com, you could join the movement. You can 0:11:38.440 --> 0:11:41.120 like look for the next the next you can find 0:11:41.120 --> 0:11:44.120 a walk local to you which is dope, and you know, 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:47.640 signing up for a girl for stress protests next year. Honestly, 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:49.280 it's such an even if you don't go with someone, 0:11:49.480 --> 0:11:52.240 the women are so friendly. Girl, it was just a 0:11:52.240 --> 0:11:55.200 bunch of hey, baby, good baby, Okay are you good. 0:11:55.200 --> 0:11:57.520 I mean, it was just black women are just amazing 0:11:57.559 --> 0:11:59.720 and it was just like a love fest of just 0:11:59.760 --> 0:12:05.720 a amazing positive just yeah, it just was just I never, 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:09.000 I've never I'd never done anything like that before. It 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:12.160 just was like a LoveFest of like of women like me. 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:14.920 And so I highly recommend it if you guys are 0:12:14.960 --> 0:12:18.200 looking for some way to get out there and something 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:20.000 that Morgan said that thought was really interesting and then 0:12:20.040 --> 0:12:22.640 we can you know, chat about something else is But 0:12:23.000 --> 0:12:25.559 she said that what they started girl Trek to talk 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:29.319 about health, but what they found found what it really 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:32.679 was a cure for loneliness that sometimes as an adult, 0:12:33.320 --> 0:12:35.560 you know it's hard to make new friends, or maybe 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:37.959 you've moved to a new area, or just maybe you've 0:12:38.040 --> 0:12:39.800 just like you know, you're and your friends just don't 0:12:39.800 --> 0:12:42.360 connected like you used to. And she found that women 0:12:42.440 --> 0:12:45.520 were coming out and just really getting to know other women. 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:48.040 And then let's just say you've been on a walk 0:12:48.520 --> 0:12:50.160 three or four times and you don't make the fifth 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:53.000 of sixth to seventh one, like your your your your 0:12:53.040 --> 0:12:56.320 local walk, you know, liaison whatever, they check in on you, 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:58.640 like maybe where you been girl? You okay, like you 0:12:58.640 --> 0:12:59.959 haven't been for a walk. No, I don't feel like, 0:13:00.040 --> 0:13:01.679 well we're gonna come get you. No, no, but now 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:04.160 now we'll be we're here outside, come outside, like and 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:05.760 I just love that. She was just like that they 0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:09.280 found that because health is not just about I want 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:12.440 to get snatched or whatever, like health is mental and 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:14.600 emotional help. And she said that it was just like 0:13:14.640 --> 0:13:18.640 that's an awesome side effect to like walking with others, 0:13:18.679 --> 0:13:22.679 that it wasn't just that you were getting healthy physically, 0:13:23.080 --> 0:13:26.800 but like it was really mentally and emotionally helping to support. 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:31.080 And some walks actually walk and pick up trash. Some 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:33.679 some walk and take pictures, so they're like people are 0:13:33.760 --> 0:13:36.880 using their walks for like like you know, like multitasking 0:13:36.880 --> 0:13:38.280 on their walk and just making the most I just 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:40.679 thought that that was just really amazing adope or sometimes 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:44.840 they'll walk and do volunteer work, and so I just honestly, 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:46.560 I just can't say enough about girl Track and what 0:13:46.640 --> 0:13:48.959 an awesome dope organization. And like I said, if you 0:13:49.000 --> 0:13:52.400 want to learn more, it's girl trek dot com and 0:13:52.400 --> 0:13:53.080 they're amazing. 0:13:54.120 --> 0:13:56.679 Yeah, I mean, we've gotten questions from Remember there was 0:13:56.720 --> 0:13:58.640 a listener who had a question about being lonely, like 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:00.960 how do you make friends and your late thirties or forties. 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:04.600 It's something that people don't talk enough about. And having 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:07.360 just moved away from the city to I live like 0:14:07.400 --> 0:14:09.720 thirty minutes away from Manhattan now, where a lot of 0:14:09.760 --> 0:14:12.199 my friends live, and you know, a lot also our 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.320 friend now I'm in my thirties, our friends are also 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:18.920 moving on to suburbs or different places. And I've definitely 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:21.160 had weekends where I'm just like, do I have friends? 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:24.080 Where are my people? I'm so lonely. I have nothing 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:26.720 to do, nowhere to go, no one to see, and 0:14:26.760 --> 0:14:31.600 it can be really isolating. And I'm actually I am worried. 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:33.680 I'm trying not to focus on the negative so much, 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:36.960 but I am worried because I'm doing the wintertime, there's already, 0:14:37.040 --> 0:14:39.240 you know, just to do stuff in my area. I 0:14:39.240 --> 0:14:41.480 got to get in a car and go somewhere, and 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:43.520 I'm worried, like, what's going to happen when I had 0:14:43.520 --> 0:14:45.160 this baby in the middle of winter and It's going 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:47.240 to be dark at four pm and I'm going to 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.360 be alone and I'm going to be going nuts and 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:52.600 I'm trying. And I actually posted on this mom's group. 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:56.240 There's all these moms of whatever town facebook groups like 0:14:56.520 --> 0:14:59.560 I'm sure you have a bunch wherever you guys lived, 0:15:00.040 --> 0:15:02.560 and recommended I just like, join this moms of my 0:15:02.640 --> 0:15:05.800 town's Facebook group. And I got in and I woke 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:07.720 up as I do, at like two am in the morning, 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:09.800 you know, because I had to pee, of course, and 0:15:10.760 --> 0:15:12.480 then I'm scrolling and I was like, let me post 0:15:12.520 --> 0:15:14.600 something because I was just feeling I was like, I 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:16.640 need to ask this of people in my area. So 0:15:16.680 --> 0:15:18.680 I asked in the group, I just have to comment saying, 0:15:19.200 --> 0:15:21.360 you know, for moms who've had babies in this area 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:22.960 in the wintertime, what did you do so you didn't 0:15:22.960 --> 0:15:24.600 feel so isolated? Am I even? 0:15:24.800 --> 0:15:24.920 Like? 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:27.080 Am I crazy for even thinking that I'll want to 0:15:27.080 --> 0:15:29.360 be able to leave the house with a newborn, and 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:32.040 I forgot about it because it was two am and 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:34.480 I was delirious. And then a few days later I 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.400 signed in to Facebook and I had like a flood 0:15:37.440 --> 0:15:41.400 of responses from women who who had like winter babies, 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:42.600 and they were like, yes, you have to get out 0:15:42.600 --> 0:15:44.720 of the house, you have to talk. There's like walking 0:15:44.720 --> 0:15:47.840 groups at the mall, and there's ei, there's newborn yoga, 0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:51.320 and made me feel not. 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:53.680 Not alone, because you're not, honestly, And that's why I 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:55.680 just think, to me, whether it's girl check or whatever, like, 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:57.960 it doesn't obviously have to be this, but it's just 0:15:58.080 --> 0:16:00.400 I think just in general, it's just import and that 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:03.680 that you you know, that people connect with other people. 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:06.120 There was like this study where they found like this 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:10.840 small little this small little town in Italy where it 0:16:10.880 --> 0:16:13.120 was either they had no incidents of cancer. I don't 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:15.120 think it was cancer. I think it was no heart 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:17.560 attacks or strokes, and they were trying to figure out 0:16:17.640 --> 0:16:20.600 how or why was it diet, was it excesense? Was 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:23.040 it this was that it wasn't that at all that 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:27.880 this small little town that people visit each other every 0:16:27.920 --> 0:16:30.880 single day, like they checked it on everyone and they 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:34.280 found that when you are in community with others, like 0:16:34.320 --> 0:16:38.360 the health benefits cannot be I mean, there's just just 0:16:38.400 --> 0:16:41.160 the health benefits are just extreme. Like even if you 0:16:41.200 --> 0:16:44.000 know you have this big Italian diet of like sauces 0:16:44.040 --> 0:16:45.840 and riches and butter and all that kind of stuff, 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:49.440 you know, like despite all of that, that those things 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:52.800 can be offset with just being in community with others. 0:16:52.960 --> 0:16:54.880 So I just think that that's such an important thing. 0:16:55.400 --> 0:16:57.800 And I'm just glad that you got you know, your response, 0:16:57.880 --> 0:17:00.400 and just for anyone listening, because it is if you 0:17:00.440 --> 0:17:03.760 move someone new somewhere new just know like either you 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:05.880 know whether it's girl track or you just hit Facebook 0:17:06.000 --> 0:17:09.040 up and just type in maybe something that you enjoy, 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:12.720 like moms that travel or traveling, like Newark has a 0:17:12.760 --> 0:17:15.359 Newark Mom's group. I know that, or like I know, 0:17:15.400 --> 0:17:17.919 I'm part of No Madness, which is like a brown 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:20.040 black well it's not just girls, but like a brown 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:23.320 black traveling group where like you know someone I remember 0:17:23.359 --> 0:17:25.440 when I was first starting to travel. I I joined 0:17:25.440 --> 0:17:27.440 it cause I was traveling alone mostly and I would 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:29.560 they call it throwing up the back signal. I would 0:17:29.600 --> 0:17:32.719 throw up the back signal and no madness. And I remember, 0:17:32.920 --> 0:17:34.880 like I went to San Francisco for the first time 0:17:34.920 --> 0:17:37.359 and I went by myself and like three women were like, oh, 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:40.040 I live here, and they took me around. Was a 0:17:40.119 --> 0:17:42.520 jazz singer. It was like, here's tickets to my jazz 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:44.720 show tonight. So I went and one woman was like, 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:46.840 this is my favorite restaurant. She took me. It was 0:17:46.880 --> 0:17:49.120 just awesome. And so I just encourage people that you're 0:17:49.720 --> 0:17:53.240 you know that if you feel alone to reach out 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:58.000 and social media, there's a social component to media, to 0:17:58.080 --> 0:18:01.240 social media that you can really lean into. And I'm 0:18:01.240 --> 0:18:02.520 just glad that you did. That's awesome. 0:18:03.400 --> 0:18:07.000 Yeah, well my weekend. You know, I won't bore you guys, 0:18:07.119 --> 0:18:09.640 but I don't want to like and I certainly don't 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:12.160 want to overshadow what you did. But I did watch 0:18:12.280 --> 0:18:15.520 all eight episodes of that new Styling in Hollywood show 0:18:15.560 --> 0:18:18.800 on Netflix with the guys who style like Taraji p 0:18:18.920 --> 0:18:21.119 Henson and like a lot of black actors in Holiday 0:18:21.200 --> 0:18:23.800 is so good. I was gonna say, isn't it It's 0:18:23.840 --> 0:18:25.840 so good? Yeah, it's great. Well, one, it's like a 0:18:25.880 --> 0:18:29.560 black gay couple, black male gay couple, and their business 0:18:29.600 --> 0:18:33.800 is part styling Hollywood, part interior designing for Hollywood, and 0:18:33.840 --> 0:18:36.760 so they're like designing homes for like Gabrielle Union and 0:18:36.840 --> 0:18:41.520 Doula Hill and obviously, yeah, obviously like styling people like 0:18:41.560 --> 0:18:45.240 Taraji p Henson and Ava Duverne. It's it's good quality 0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:47.800 half hour television if you guys are looking for something 0:18:47.840 --> 0:18:51.280 to fill your mornings with. So that's that's what I did. 0:18:51.320 --> 0:18:54.280 And you know, I hope that inspired you guys to 0:18:54.359 --> 0:18:58.600 stay connected with people, and you know, just like Tiffany's weekended, 0:18:59.119 --> 0:19:00.560