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Speaker 1: My jock son pulled a prank and an autistic girl,

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Speaker 1: and I'm about to unleash Hell.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be honest, Am, I'm not mad at it.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I say unleash it to. Oh I thought

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Speaker 1: you were saying about the prank. John's frank some autistic children. God,

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Speaker 1: watch out. Oh you don't like loud noises ban ban

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Speaker 1: bang bang, not me being Gasolin. That's exactly what you said, John.

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Speaker 2: You hard to hear post John's Love.

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Speaker 1: All right, I forty eight female, have a son, Jack male, nineteen,

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Speaker 1: and a daughter, Alyssa female eighteen, and I'm married to

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Speaker 1: Tom male fifty. Okay, we have the ages and the

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Speaker 1: sexes of everyone in the story. Tom is Alyssa's father,

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Speaker 1: but Jack's father is my ex husband Dan. Dan and

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Speaker 1: I had a pretty ugly custody fight, and he lives

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Speaker 1: in New York while we live in Texas. Over the years,

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Speaker 1: Dan has unsuccessfully tried to get Jack to move in

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Speaker 1: with him. It wasn't easy to fight him off because

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Speaker 1: he is a very successful lawyer. Never get into custoy

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Speaker 1: battle with a lawyer. Yeah, you o, My god, pulling

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Speaker 1: every trick in the book. Jack is a pretty popular

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Speaker 1: kid in school, all right, mister Jack, Jack Jack meehoff.

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Speaker 1: His friends on the wrestling team came up with a prank. Also,

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Speaker 1: is the wrestling team like the popular.

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Speaker 2: I guess so, or maybe just the more like more

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Speaker 2: just like uh like blockhead just like yeah, like.

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Speaker 1: Wrestling is a little bit more like I feel like

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Speaker 1: I think of like football as the blockhead sport, or

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Speaker 2: Maybe like blockhead but less popular.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think of wrestlers as popular like I

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Speaker 1: think in like stranger things schools, like you would think

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Speaker 1: of wrestlers as like not popular and their skin tight.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like wrestling hispan just getting.

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Speaker 1: Around, riling around with some hot, sweaty hunky boys.

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Speaker 2: Oh goodness, goodness, all right.

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Speaker 1: His friends on the wrestling team came up with a

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Speaker 1: prank for him to ask a heavily autistic girl who

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Speaker 1: had a crush on him to the prom as a joke,

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Speaker 1: and for him to show up wearing a gorilla suit. No, oh,

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Speaker 1: that is a low class joe. Oh my god, low

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Speaker 1: class Jack originally said, no, good for you, Jack, let's go.

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Speaker 1: Let's go at least, you know, but the wrestling team

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Speaker 1: raised a fund which got to be somewhere north of

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Speaker 1: eight hundred dollars for him to do it, and they

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Speaker 1: paid for the gorilla suit. Jack agreed, who is funding

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Speaker 1: this a wrestling team? I mean, hey, they know how

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Speaker 1: to fundraise, I guess God. Also, capitalism corrupts us all man.

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Speaker 2: Dude, Actually, though, eight hundred dollars, eight hundred dollars, is

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Speaker 2: that the price of your soul? Jack? I mean, he

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Speaker 2: is an hice cool, but I mean.

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Speaker 1: Eight hundred dollars is like one hundred thousand dollars and

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Speaker 1: working man's land.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if it matters.

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Speaker 1: This is very out of character for him, which I

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Speaker 1: guess kind of like makes sense seeing that he said no.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, eight hundred dollars is a lot of

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Speaker 1: money for a high school kid. But I understand the temptation. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: come on, you're better than that. Don't be the dick jock,

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Speaker 1: you know. After the prom, I was looking around on

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Speaker 1: and was surprised that he didn't take his girlfriend Jess.

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Speaker 1: That's actually like terrible. Not only does he do this

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Speaker 1: is like top liver too.

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Speaker 2: Why not go with her.

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Speaker 1: Let's piss off both people.

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Speaker 2: And it's like a like, this is like it's a memory,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like you want to look back?

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Speaker 1: Oh god, yeah, prom is important. Come on, it's the

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Speaker 2: I did? Big man? How was it that a sophomore? Also,

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Speaker 2: let's go I remember, I remember we talked about my

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Speaker 2: first my.

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Speaker 1: First girlfriend, Rhianne, and she, uh, she invited me and

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Speaker 2: That's amazing. That actually, oh man.

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Speaker 1: I mean I was so innocent and it was just

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Speaker 1: It was yours.

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Speaker 2: Uh. So both times I basically asked girls that I

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Speaker 2: The first one was like a friend who might have

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Speaker 2: you know, we go to the dance, we have this

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Speaker 2: whole fun thing and and then I was like, Okay,

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Speaker 2: And both times I was like nah nah. The last

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Speaker 2: But like I think she kind of as we were

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Speaker 2: and she's like okay, thanks by and just slammed the door.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, right after the problem. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: We got back, Like her mom was outside, so I

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Speaker 2: she gave her. She's like, oh to your mom. Ba.

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, thanks, and then she and the

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Speaker 2: moment inside that was me and her. I was like, hey,

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Speaker 2: so you know, I had such a good time and

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Speaker 2: I wanted to ask, okay, y.

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Speaker 1: Rough, John, there you have it. That that's how it goes. Okay,

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Speaker 1: back to the store, John sad previous love. Yeah, get

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Speaker 1: that out of here. That was some of my high

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Speaker 1: school experience too. Yeah. After reading the comments. I learned

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Speaker 1: what happened to say, I was furious, doesn't even do

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Speaker 1: it justice. I woke Jack up as soon as I

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Speaker 1: Then when Tom heard what was going on, he joined ed, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I mean, pretty shitty thing to do. Jack. Absolutely, Tom

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Speaker 1: but I suspect Jack's father, Dan has a hand in that.

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Speaker 1: Jack told Tom to f off, I'm talking to my mother.

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Speaker 1: So we took away all Jack's electronics, his phone, and

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Speaker 1: we had paid for a car for his graduation present.

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Speaker 1: Because of his prank and his disrespect to Tom, we

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Speaker 1: instead gave it to Alyssa the sister.

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Speaker 2: Hell yeah, I love that.

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Speaker 1: We also forced him to give up the eight hundred

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Speaker 1: him write a letter of apology. He was also grounded

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Speaker 1: They came down hard, but honestly deserved right, very much deserved.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that's the exact right punishment.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: That, Like like I'm making him apologize.

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Speaker 2: The apology I think is very important.

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Speaker 1: Giving the money to the I feel like it's very

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Speaker 1: well thought out to like even down to giving the

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Speaker 2: My goodness, dude.

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Speaker 1: When Jack's birthday came, there was a knock on the door.

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Speaker 1: It was Dan and he had suitcases. Tom said, what

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Speaker 1: is this? The custody agreement says you don't get him

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Speaker 1: on his birthday. Dan just looked past Tom and said,

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Speaker 1: hey kid, I'm here for the jail break. He then

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Speaker 1: pointed at the Mustang and said, hope you like Forde.

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Speaker 1: You can practice driving your new car on a road

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Speaker 1: trip back to New York. Let's take a detour to Nola.

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Speaker 1: What's Nola?

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Speaker 2: Uh? Uh? New Orleans? Oh? New Orleans?

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Speaker 1: Cool dad coming in, my son of God. The two

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Speaker 1: just ignored us as we tried to intervene. The only

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Speaker 1: eye and say, as cold as ice, checkmate, stop, what is.

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Speaker 2: This a movie?

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Speaker 1: Get out of here, yo, Dan, fun, Dan coming back?

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Speaker 1: I hate this guy. And then Jack yelled as they

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Speaker 1: were driving off, f off Tom My God. Since then,

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Speaker 1: Jack has gone totally no contact with me. He talks

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Speaker 1: a little bit to Alyssa, and from the little he

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Speaker 1: him the royal treatment, bringing him to steakhouses Yankees game

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Speaker 1: and just giving him outright cash. It's almost been a year.

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Speaker 1: I'm going crazy thinking I've lost my son. So I

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Speaker 1: the a hole and there is an update. But first,

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Speaker 1: I mean, do you think, op, he's the a hole?

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Speaker 1: What do you think of this whole situation?

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, dude, I mean this Dan guy is

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Speaker 2: a piece of work. Like he literally is like rewarding

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Speaker 2: if the kid doesn't want to live there anymore, then

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Speaker 2: he can go, right because it was on the birthday, right,

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Speaker 2: and he's like, hey, let's go. He's not okay, dude,

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Speaker 2: I mean that is so awful. I mean, Dan's the ahle.

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Speaker 2: The kid is the ahole. I feel like the kid

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Speaker 1: I mean, like the honestly, the punishment was very It

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Speaker 1: Dan just like, fuck it, let's shake out, Let's go

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Speaker 2: Baby dude. It's giving like uh uh. Donald Glover has

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Speaker 2: this has this joke of like, uh, He's like, who's

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Speaker 2: been to stucky cheese? Chuck e cheese. He's like, you

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Speaker 2: all had step dads or you all had like divorce parents,

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Speaker 2: Like it's the classic like divorced like stepparent move. And

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Speaker 2: she's like, all right, let me just shower them to

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Speaker 2: just buy their approval. Oh my god, I hate.

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Speaker 1: It, which I guess is working, but there is an update.

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Speaker 1: Oh I just feel so stupid. I know Dan, he

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Speaker 1: has been waiting years for an opportunity like this, and

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Speaker 1: I handed him the perfect storm. I'm not proud of it,

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Speaker 1: but I did not treat Dan very well towards the

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Speaker 1: end of the marriage. To be clear, I never cheated

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Speaker 1: on him, but he has hated me ever since. I

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Speaker 1: don't know how I'm going to make next month's mortgage.

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Speaker 1: Dan is a very high earner, so it was a

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Speaker 1: big check. So I guess because Dan was paying child support. Dang,

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Speaker 1: he can actually go after me now for child support,

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Speaker 1: and my lawyer tells me he's already filed the paperwork

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Speaker 1: for that stop because New York child support goes to

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Speaker 1: twenty one.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: At the time of the divorce, I won a very

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Speaker 1: high household income split. It was good for me back

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Speaker 1: then since he had to pay me. Now I have

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Speaker 1: to pay Dan my portion of that very high number,

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Speaker 1: So I get a double whammy of losing the checks

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Speaker 1: I was getting and now have to write big checks

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Speaker 1: his way.

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Speaker 2: Yo. This is so fed up.

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Speaker 1: Wow, Okay there is another update.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm not right.

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Speaker 1: Which super fucked up situation?

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Speaker 1: I reached out to Dan to see if he would

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Speaker 1: What Jonathan said. Jack has a claim against me for

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Speaker 2: Bro.

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Speaker 1: He'd actually worked very hard to get Jack to the

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Speaker 1: But since he knew that if I had to choose

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Speaker 2: He's so getting revenge over here. It's great, crazy golly.

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Speaker 2: I asked him if Jack was just a pawn in

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Speaker 1: apparently not invited to Jack's wedding. Oh my god. Dan

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry, Wow, I am so sorry.

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Speaker 1: Sucks. Dan feels like an evil master. He is literally

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Speaker 2: This guy thinks he's like Wolf of Wall Street, like

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Speaker 1: I feel so bad for I mean, like, what would

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Speaker 2: Dan is like ten million percent to a hole. The

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Speaker 1: He's gonna look back at this years later and be like,

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Speaker 2: Hard when she was just trying to like teach me

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Speaker 1: My question is where is Tom? And all?

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Speaker 2: This good question? I mean, I think I can maybe

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Speaker 1: Like mortgaging her house and stuff.

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Speaker 2: Oh right, Yeah, that's a good question to incomes.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I think that's a wrap on that one.

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Speaker 1: Let us know what you think.

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Speaker 2: I will never split the bill with my husband at

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Speaker 1: Okayop? This is okay. OP.

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Speaker 2: I'm Saming letter and I'm John fro Starters on the Internet.

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Speaker 2: So Sam, I personally have a strong opinion on this

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Speaker 2: or decently strong.

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Speaker 1: That strong opinion shorts and negative opinions, say again, Arnold

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Speaker 2: Okay, I actually have to pause now because I do

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Speaker 2: have a story that you made me just think of

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Speaker 2: very quickly. I moved to LA and I wanted to

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Speaker 2: Is so, I hadn't seen really like a famous person

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Speaker 2: I was doing my my morning bikes ago a few

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Speaker 2: It's sick. I'm very audibly wrapping it out loud like

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Speaker 2: what what not? You know, I'm not, I don't. I

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Speaker 2: So I'm leaving Venice Beach right, and then uh, some

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Speaker 2: it Arnold Schzenegger. It was Arnold Szenegger. Bro.

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Speaker 1: I have seen Arnold Schorzenegger on that same bike path.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they were filming him. Though they were filming, they

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Speaker 1: And what's it like a documentary? So he was literally

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Speaker 2: Was literally riding a bike, bro Like there was nothing

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Speaker 2: But we always being filmed. We locked, we had icy Arnold.

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Speaker 1: I was like, wait, this is the first did You've

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Speaker 2: That was my first time. I'm so pissed. Wow, I'm

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Speaker 2: That's a big one.

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Speaker 1: That's also like a really nice guy too. Oh really yeah,

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Speaker 2: Everyone's like, yeah, well anyways, that completely derailed my my.

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Speaker 2: Oh but I'll quick I'll quickly do it. What's your

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Speaker 2: what's your opinion on splitting the bill? Sam? How do

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Speaker 2: we do this?

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Speaker 1: I think unless you're like taking someone out. Just split

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Speaker 1: the bill, agreed. I I like, if your girl wants

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Speaker 1: but let's put the bill.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's it's it just makes perfect sense to me,

435
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:08,679
Speaker 2: like we split the bill. And I also liked it.

436
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:11,399
Speaker 2: Like when I was dating on the second date, I

437
00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,359
Speaker 2: would make it clear. I'd be like, hey, like I

438
00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:17,840
Speaker 2: like to split the bill because not because like I

439
00:22:17,840 --> 00:22:20,000
Speaker 2: mind so much paying every time, but more so like

440
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 2: I want to have someone in that mindset. It's almost

441
00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,479
Speaker 2: like a like a qualifier essentially, Like if someone's just like,

442
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:29,239
Speaker 2: oh okay, like just expecting me to pay, I'm like,

443
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:31,600
Speaker 2: it's not hit the road.

444
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:35,160
Speaker 1: Hit the road, yeah road, and don't come back.

445
00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:38,560
Speaker 2: No no, no more, no more. But you know what,

446
00:22:38,640 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 2: we do have more of this freaking story. I'm about

447
00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:44,760
Speaker 2: your read here we go. I will never split the

448
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:46,879
Speaker 2: bill with my husband at a restaurant.

449
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:50,479
Speaker 1: Am I day hole sounds like it sounds like it

450
00:22:50,480 --> 00:22:52,919
Speaker 1: sounds like it, But let me withhold judgment.

451
00:22:54,000 --> 00:22:57,160
Speaker 2: Let's let the people of the internet's decide your fate.

452
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 2: That title sounds bad, yeah, I know, but I'll let

453
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:07,440
Speaker 2: you decide who is in the wrong heir. Okay, okay.

454
00:23:08,119 --> 00:23:11,959
Speaker 2: To begin with, my husband and I do not share finances.

455
00:23:12,800 --> 00:23:15,000
Speaker 2: It's been like this for three years of our marriage,

456
00:23:15,040 --> 00:23:18,960
Speaker 2: and so far we're doing pretty well. Though. He'd sometimes

457
00:23:19,000 --> 00:23:21,200
Speaker 2: try to get me to pay for him, but I

458
00:23:21,320 --> 00:23:23,120
Speaker 2: do it only when I want to do a nice

459
00:23:23,119 --> 00:23:26,440
Speaker 2: thing for him, say, invite him to a restaurant. This

460
00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:28,520
Speaker 2: past week, he got a bonus at work.

461
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Speaker 1: Oh baby, yeah, money, dull baby, that's right.

462
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:36,800
Speaker 2: He was overjoyed, and he informed his entire family and

463
00:23:36,880 --> 00:23:39,120
Speaker 2: planned for them to go out and celebrate with us.

464
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:43,840
Speaker 2: He picked the restaurant, meals, drinks, et cetera. I naturally

465
00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:46,400
Speaker 2: thought he was going to pay for it all. Yeah.

466
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Speaker 1: Bro, that's the point of the money you got. If

467
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Speaker 1: you're getting a bonus, you better treat your.

468
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Speaker 2: Fam exactly, like exactly, I mean, it only made sense.

469
00:23:56,480 --> 00:24:00,440
Speaker 2: This was his happy celebration for his raise. But wait, wait,

470
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:01,679
Speaker 2: really really quick story on that.

471
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:03,560
Speaker 1: One of my friends raised a bunch of money and

472
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,119
Speaker 1: he's like, yo, let's go out to celebrate and uh

473
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:10,040
Speaker 1: and I'm like sure, And it was just us did

474
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:12,399
Speaker 1: didn't didn't didn't even pay for one drink.

475
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: They pay for everything.

476
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:14,640
Speaker 1: Huh.

477
00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:15,679
Speaker 2: You paid for everything.

478
00:24:15,920 --> 00:24:18,040
Speaker 1: We split the bill, and I was like, oh, you're

479
00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 1: gonna buy me a drink and just raised like twenty

480
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:20,719
Speaker 1: million bucks.

481
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:26,240
Speaker 2: No, you can't afford seventeen.

482
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:29,040
Speaker 1: It's fine, you know, you know, we split the bill.

483
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:32,040
Speaker 1: That's what we do. I'm not salty about it. I'm

484
00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: salty ya. How would we do?

485
00:24:34,760 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 2: I'd be like, damn it, no, you're paying for this motherfucker.

486
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:45,359
Speaker 2: But it turns out I was wrong because when it

487
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:48,919
Speaker 2: was time to pay the bill, he told me to

488
00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 2: quote take care of it.

489
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Speaker 1: Okay, that's ridiculous, that's ridiculous. You got the bonus, You

490
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:01,159
Speaker 1: got the bonus, you're your wife to take care of

491
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:01,840
Speaker 1: this ship, and.

492
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:03,880
Speaker 2: You plan the whole thing. It would be one thing

493
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 2: if like the wife is like you just got a bonus.

494
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 2: I'm organizing an entire party. I'm inviting everyone planning, then

495
00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:11,720
Speaker 2: it's like a little bit more expected.

496
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:14,560
Speaker 1: But nah, dude, you can't plan a whole party and

497
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:18,479
Speaker 1: expect people who are in, like one person who's invited

498
00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:20,120
Speaker 1: to pay pay the bill.

499
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:26,480
Speaker 2: No, that's not how it. I said, why, yeah, exactly why.

500
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:30,920
Speaker 2: It's his celebration, not mine. But he insisted I pay

501
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,960
Speaker 2: for it, and he'll explain later.

502
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 1: What does that mean? That does that sounds like you

503
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:39,639
Speaker 1: don't have an explanation? Man, that sounds like you're trying

504
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 1: to come up desperately.

505
00:25:41,840 --> 00:25:44,520
Speaker 2: You're buying some time there, you're moving your court day back.

506
00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 2: I refused and demanded an explanation. He said that while yes,

507
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 2: he is the one who got the bonus, but he'd

508
00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,639
Speaker 2: assumed that I'd want to celebrate that and offer to

509
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:00,480
Speaker 2: cover the bill.

510
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:05,880
Speaker 1: It doesn't make any sense. My man got money, my

511
00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: man I got money, he got richer.

512
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 2: The whole point is you having more money.

513
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:14,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, so we're gonna celebrate you having more money

514
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:17,359
Speaker 1: by me spending that money and having less money.

515
00:26:17,720 --> 00:26:20,720
Speaker 2: Yeah. This isn't your birthday. This isn't like you just

516
00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:26,120
Speaker 2: accomplish some goal, like no other than so non monetary goal. Yeah,

517
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:27,960
Speaker 2: come on, climb a rock or something. I don't know.

518
00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 2: When I talked about how ridiculous it was of him

519
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 2: to assume I'd pay for not just his but his

520
00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 2: family's meal, family's meal, his family's meals.

521
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:41,680
Speaker 1: Dude, that's like a thousand.

522
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 2: Bucks, he said that I should be happy for him

523
00:26:45,119 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 2: instead of getting visibly bitter.

524
00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 1: Bro, pay for your own shit.

525
00:26:51,359 --> 00:26:52,800
Speaker 2: Hey for your food, my god.

526
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:54,720
Speaker 1: Or have everyone pay for their own stuff?

527
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:55,400
Speaker 2: Like here we go.

528
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 1: Literally, that's fine too. Split it just split the bill.

529
00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 2: It's called venmo buddy, hashtag venmo sponsorous. He then said

530
00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 2: he's yet to receive his bonus and begged that I

531
00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 2: take care of the bill now and he might consider

532
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 2: paying me back at a later date.

533
00:27:16,880 --> 00:27:20,320
Speaker 1: Might also, is this happening at the dinner table, like

534
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:23,600
Speaker 1: like the check coms like, baby, you're paying for this, right,

535
00:27:23,800 --> 00:27:25,720
Speaker 1: Dude's like, uh no, it's.

536
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,280
Speaker 2: Like please please pay for It's like nah, bro, that

537
00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 2: poor waiter, Like that's way worse than the fight to

538
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:36,280
Speaker 2: pay for it. Oh my god. I refused and only

539
00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:39,880
Speaker 2: paid for what I consumed. Him and his family started

540
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,919
Speaker 2: talking about how inappropriate I was acting.

541
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:47,159
Speaker 1: This baffles me. This baffles me.

542
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:51,280
Speaker 2: I took my purse and went home afterwards because there

543
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:55,159
Speaker 2: was so much commotion. Oh dude, O he just left,

544
00:27:55,400 --> 00:28:00,719
Speaker 2: just up and daddled. Ah because there's so much commotion

545
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 2: when they started arguing over who's going to cover the bill?

546
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 2: Oh my god, So she leaves and then everyone else

547
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:09,399
Speaker 2: is like all right, now who's going to pay for it? Dude?

548
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:10,720
Speaker 1: This is so dysfungeal.

549
00:28:10,880 --> 00:28:14,640
Speaker 2: Oh my god. His mom spam called me for hours.

550
00:28:15,200 --> 00:28:18,000
Speaker 2: He went off on He went off on me at home,

551
00:28:18,280 --> 00:28:21,960
Speaker 2: saying that I spoiled his celebration and joy because I'm

552
00:28:21,960 --> 00:28:25,880
Speaker 2: feeling bitter, especially considering I had enough money to cover

553
00:28:25,960 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 2: the bill right then and there.

554
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 1: Dude, I sent a divorce coming for real.

555
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 2: I said it was not my obligation and he was

556
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 2: the one who came up with the celebration idea. He

557
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:41,080
Speaker 2: argued that if the roles were reversed and I got

558
00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:44,280
Speaker 2: a bonus, he'd celebrate me and my achievements and pay

559
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:47,920
Speaker 2: for the dang meals after taking me and my family out.

560
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:52,160
Speaker 1: Yeah right, bro, Yeah, they're like, I don't believe that

561
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 1: in the slightest not no, no, not not.

562
00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 2: He would be like, nice, bonus, you have enough money

563
00:28:57,800 --> 00:29:02,960
Speaker 2: to pay for but next time, you cover me when

564
00:29:02,960 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 2: I get money. But if you get money, you cover us.

565
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:10,160
Speaker 2: That's that's I casually said, well, that's just you, not me.

566
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,800
Speaker 2: He got even more pissed and said that he had

567
00:29:13,880 --> 00:29:17,920
Speaker 2: had it with my juvenile antics and that he won't

568
00:29:18,040 --> 00:29:21,000
Speaker 2: ever forget the scene I made at the restaurant in

569
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:22,400
Speaker 2: front of his family.

570
00:29:22,440 --> 00:29:26,080
Speaker 1: Juvenile antics Are you kidding me? You're the one being

571
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: a child for your own ship.

572
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,320
Speaker 2: God, I'm gonna buy I'm gonna buy you some diapers.

573
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:37,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, don't worry. I'll cover the diapers. Yeah I will.

574
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 1: I don't have to split the diapers.

575
00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 2: I will buy it on you. I'm pulling up with

576
00:29:41,400 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 2: it depends. At this point, he's been upset with me

577
00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 2: four days and there is an update?

578
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,680
Speaker 1: Oh what's the update? Divorce?

579
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 2: The Wow? Too many responses here from you guys, and

580
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:59,400
Speaker 2: I am seeing a variety of judgments, really a variety,

581
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:01,320
Speaker 2: a variety. I guess some people are on a side.

582
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 2: I don't know what. Just so you know, my husband

583
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 2: just got home and I'm going to show him these

584
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:09,480
Speaker 2: responses right now. I'll update with an opinion soon. Oh

585
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:13,400
Speaker 2: my god, Wait, what's the husbig? Good is that second updates? Oh? God,

586
00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,200
Speaker 2: surprise we just got into an argument.

587
00:30:16,840 --> 00:30:18,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no surprise there.

588
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 2: I showed him what I posted, and he lost it

589
00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 2: on me. I accept what everyone said about me, but

590
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 2: he will not. He said, and I quote, these people

591
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:33,040
Speaker 2: have no idea and said that I should have mentioned

592
00:30:33,080 --> 00:30:37,400
Speaker 2: that I make more money than him, not that much more.

593
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 2: And I don't think it justifies it it doesn't, and

594
00:30:40,400 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 2: that he had paid the bill for me in the

595
00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:46,320
Speaker 2: past when I forgot my wallet, but I paid him back.

596
00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:48,280
Speaker 2: That doesn't count.

597
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 1: Bro doesn't count at all.

598
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:54,240
Speaker 2: He's pretty pissed right now, though he kept laughing sarcastically

599
00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 2: when reading some of the comments. He just walked out

600
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 2: of the kitchen to make a phone call and said

601
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:01,120
Speaker 2: he'd be right back. Still here with the dog,