1 00:00:00,320 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: I listen to the Black Guy Who Tips podcast because 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: Rod and Karen are hot. In fact, despite a largely 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:11,200 Speaker 1: positive reception of the Negro Woman's special issue from both 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: male and female readers of Ebony, one male reader wrote 5 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:18,239 Speaker 1: an angry letter in October nineteen sixty six issue. As 6 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,639 Speaker 1: I sit here in my matriarchal home father deceased, awaiting 7 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: a divorce from my potentially power mad wife of four months, 8 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: I started reading the special issue of the August nineteen 9 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: sixty six edition of Ebony featuring Negro women. I will 10 00:00:31,400 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: not argue the point that negroes are where they are 11 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,840 Speaker 1: now primarily because of the efforts of Negro women, since 12 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:42,199 Speaker 1: negroes are still nowhere when the Negro woman realizes the 13 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: real progress will come only when she decides to get 14 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: in behind her Negro man and not on top of him. 15 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:51,479 Speaker 1: Freedom will come in a matter of years, and not 16 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: in hundreds of years. Hey, welcome to the black outils 17 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:59,000 Speaker 1: fire cast, your host, Ride and Karen, and we are 18 00:00:59,120 --> 00:01:03,840 Speaker 1: alive on a Saturday. That is an excerpt from Beyond 19 00:01:03,920 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 1: Respectability Women's gender Sexuality in American History. I believe Britney 20 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:14,080 Speaker 1: Cooper wrote that ye Britney C. Cooper is an author. 21 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 2: Of that I rolled my eyes so hard Hoole tipping 22 00:01:17,080 --> 00:01:20,480 Speaker 2: Ben Hope temp is whole tipping Ben Hole temping. How 23 00:01:20,920 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 2: is this? 24 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:24,120 Speaker 3: Yeah? 25 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:26,959 Speaker 1: Man, I love reading stuff like that because it always says, 26 00:01:27,440 --> 00:01:29,400 Speaker 1: you know what, this shit has been around for a 27 00:01:29,440 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 1: long time, and the stuff that we see now from 28 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: like you said, hoteps and uh, the kind of people 29 00:01:38,319 --> 00:01:41,000 Speaker 1: that are famous online for their misogynistic views and shit, 30 00:01:41,440 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: especially ed Tai black Woman's misogyny and stuff, or massogy noir. Yeah, 31 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: it's funny because it's always like, you know, this ship 32 00:01:50,360 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: has been around so long it it's never changed, you know. 33 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 4: And I don't ever really do this, but I'm gonna 34 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:57,840 Speaker 4: do this today. 35 00:01:57,960 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 1: Someone wrote us a four star review and I do 36 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: want to start the show reading it. Okay, it's by 37 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 1: than Osha or than Osha. I don't know, four stars great, 38 00:02:07,520 --> 00:02:12,440 Speaker 1: but really love dot right they did say dot dot 39 00:02:12,440 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 1: dot Ah, how'd you know that's known? 40 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 2: How I go? Wait, dot dot dot dot dot dot 41 00:02:18,960 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 2: is the shade that dot dot dot is though, butts uh. 42 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 1: Great, but really love the show, like seriously, really would 43 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: have given five stars, but need to cut down on 44 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: the reading rainbow that takes over at least twenty minutes 45 00:02:34,040 --> 00:02:36,440 Speaker 1: of the show, if not longer. And that's coming from 46 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:38,720 Speaker 1: this is all caps, and that's coming from a woman 47 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:42,840 Speaker 1: who reads with four information points. Maybe switch it out sometimes, 48 00:02:43,360 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: dot dot dot please love the show though? Was this helpful? No? 49 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 1: The thing I wanted to say is, uh, ironically, I 50 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: did a poll about this four weeks ago. It says, 51 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,639 Speaker 1: do you like the new excerpt openings for the show? Yes, 52 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: it's interesting or no go back to rap lyrics. Nine 53 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: percent of people agree with they no, sha ninety one 54 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:11,040 Speaker 1: percent of people think it's interesting. Now that that part 55 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: is over, I do want to say they're not going anywhere. 56 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:19,560 Speaker 1: Most importantly, I love talking to my wife about the 57 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:23,440 Speaker 1: things I read. So you know this is our show 58 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: and you get a chance to listen to it. That's 59 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:28,679 Speaker 1: the only you Either listen or don't listen, fast forward 60 00:03:28,720 --> 00:03:29,840 Speaker 1: or don't fast forward. 61 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:32,400 Speaker 4: Those are the only options you have. I do think 62 00:03:32,720 --> 00:03:35,480 Speaker 4: the reading Rainbow is hilarious. 63 00:03:36,520 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 2: I like the reading Rainbow. 64 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: That's some good shade rainbow. Maybe we should call that 65 00:03:41,200 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: segment to reading Rainbow. I I know they won't let 66 00:03:45,600 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: LeVar Burton use it, so I'm not gonna push it 67 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:50,839 Speaker 1: and call it to reading rainbow, but we can unofficially, 68 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 1: you know, it's our reading rainbow moment. The other thing is, 69 00:03:55,200 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: when I grew up the things i'm reading now, nobody 70 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:01,280 Speaker 1: was telling me about these. Some of the stuff you're 71 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 1: hearing is stuff I'm learning for the first time. 72 00:04:03,520 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 2: And some of my audiences too. 73 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of people the last week or so 74 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 1: since I published put my link to good Reads my 75 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 1: good Reads account. Now I have all these followers on 76 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:17,240 Speaker 1: good Reads that follow my reviews, and you know, my 77 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:22,480 Speaker 1: reading list and all this stuff. I just finished another 78 00:04:22,480 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: book yesterday. I'm very proud of myself. You read your 79 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 1: woman who reads a lot, congratulations. I'm not a person 80 00:04:28,480 --> 00:04:31,120 Speaker 1: who's really made the time to read in a long time, 81 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 1: and I'm proud of the progress that I'm making reading. 82 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 1: I'm proud to share what I've read. This is my 83 00:04:37,279 --> 00:04:41,279 Speaker 1: platform and Karen's platform, which we built, and we know 84 00:04:41,320 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 1: what the fuck we're doing, you know you, Like I said, 85 00:04:45,720 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 1: you can go choose to throw away the whole podcast 86 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: because you don't like the opening ten to fifteen minutes 87 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: being about you know, discussions from the book from books. 88 00:04:54,320 --> 00:04:57,479 Speaker 1: I'm okay with that, Like I'm not beg I've never 89 00:04:57,520 --> 00:05:00,799 Speaker 1: begged a single person to listen to this show. Everything 90 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:03,560 Speaker 1: has a time, and some people come and go. There's 91 00:05:03,600 --> 00:05:06,480 Speaker 1: people that decided to be our best friends, and now 92 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:08,839 Speaker 1: were they worst enemies in their minds? You know, Like 93 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: I'm forty one, you know, so the idea trying to 94 00:05:14,000 --> 00:05:17,440 Speaker 1: please all these niggas listening all the time is ridiculous 95 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:19,840 Speaker 1: to me. When it was Rap Layers, there are people 96 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:22,800 Speaker 1: that didn't like that. Right fast forward through the rap lyrics, 97 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:25,560 Speaker 1: when there was exerts for quotes and stuff, there were people. 98 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 4: That didn't like that. 99 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 1: I don't care. I like it. I liked all of them. Well, 100 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:32,360 Speaker 1: I might change it to Rap Layers quotes and then 101 00:05:32,400 --> 00:05:37,279 Speaker 1: we read the books. I don't give a fuck. But 102 00:05:38,200 --> 00:05:40,479 Speaker 1: you know, I just want you to know you were hurt, 103 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: you know. I just I'm not going to change what 104 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 1: we do. If it win, that changes, it'll because I 105 00:05:47,120 --> 00:05:47,680 Speaker 1: feel like it. 106 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:49,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, mix up. 107 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, it didn't always used to be booked exerts. So 108 00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 1: I'm sorry that you're not being fed by and that 109 00:05:55,839 --> 00:05:57,880 Speaker 1: you don't enjoy the discussion. But you know why, I 110 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:00,120 Speaker 1: like it. In addition to just getting to talk to 111 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:04,720 Speaker 1: caring about something the topic I listen to podcasts, and 112 00:06:04,960 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: our podcast I don't want it to just be like 113 00:06:07,279 --> 00:06:10,680 Speaker 1: everybody's podcast. Let's talk about the hot topics every day. 114 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:13,719 Speaker 1: Let's talk about the twitter things every day. Let's talk about, 115 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:17,600 Speaker 1: you know, how these niggas took you know, this reality 116 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,279 Speaker 1: TV show or this TV show recap. We get to 117 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: do whatever we want to. It's to ride and care 118 00:06:22,040 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 1: variety hours we can if we want to come and 119 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:27,840 Speaker 1: talk about we want to talk about how Hotel's been 120 00:06:27,839 --> 00:06:30,920 Speaker 1: the same since nineteen sixty six, then goddamn it, it's 121 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:33,960 Speaker 1: getting talked about, you know. And it's one thing that 122 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:36,440 Speaker 1: I know these other podcasts ain talking about because they're 123 00:06:36,440 --> 00:06:38,760 Speaker 1: not reading the same thing I'm reading. They're not talking 124 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 1: about the same thing I'm talking about. And even if 125 00:06:40,800 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: they were, they're not talking about it the way Karen 126 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 1: and I can. There's a reason that you wanted to 127 00:06:45,120 --> 00:06:48,800 Speaker 1: give us them full stars. It's because we're good. You know, 128 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 1: we're great at what we do. One of the best, even, 129 00:06:51,720 --> 00:06:55,600 Speaker 1: I'd say, So, you know, if you just want to 130 00:06:55,640 --> 00:06:58,200 Speaker 1: go get the same hot takes on the same topics 131 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:01,600 Speaker 1: from everybody else, man, it's plenty of shows out there 132 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:04,400 Speaker 1: that to give you that. You know, I'm not even 133 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:07,600 Speaker 1: mad at you, and I appreciate you voicing your displeasure 134 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:10,800 Speaker 1: with it. But like I said, it's here to stay 135 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 1: and it's not going anywhere anytime soon. So as we 136 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 1: were as we were saying, yeah, hotel has been hotel 137 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,600 Speaker 1: since nineteen sixty six. And this nigga our from the 138 00:07:21,640 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: exert in the book, he was getting the whole last divorce. 139 00:07:25,960 --> 00:07:29,560 Speaker 1: I wonder why come on now? It was and it 140 00:07:29,720 --> 00:07:33,600 Speaker 1: was like in ninth in the sixties, what was happening 141 00:07:33,640 --> 00:07:35,840 Speaker 1: to was there was a you know this like started 142 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: this black power movement. A lot of you know, this 143 00:07:38,440 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: is like sixties seventies is when you get like black 144 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 1: panther type stuff. You're getting, uh, you know, a lot 145 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 1: more black pride. You know, this is when afro is 146 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 1: like where you rock your afro. It is beautiful hair 147 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: and all that stuff, you know, like nothing is new 148 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: under the sun. All the stuff we got now people 149 00:07:55,200 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 1: were doing a lot of that stuff back then. 150 00:07:56,600 --> 00:07:58,640 Speaker 2: Natural hair's coming back and all kinds of stuff like 151 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:01,320 Speaker 2: it's been around for a long time time, but it 152 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:04,120 Speaker 2: was a time where everybody didn't get that hair relax 153 00:08:04,160 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 2: and people's like, fuck that relaxing shit. And you've seen 154 00:08:06,960 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 2: like how you see it now, natural hair froze puff 155 00:08:09,840 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 2: people that have their hair pressed, and it's almost like 156 00:08:13,080 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 2: history repeats itself, it always repeats itself and black. 157 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: So in that freedom, you had a movement for black 158 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: people to have black freedom and black expression and black power. 159 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: And at the same time you're also having the broad 160 00:08:30,760 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: burning hippies of the sixties and seventies that are sexual freedom, 161 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: sexual empowerment. But if you look at that hippie movement, 162 00:08:38,920 --> 00:08:42,199 Speaker 1: it's mostly considered a white people thing, right right, So 163 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,680 Speaker 1: you have so if you think about that intersection, you 164 00:08:45,800 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 1: have broad burning feminism, woman power, hippie stuff, and then 165 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 1: you have black power. Where's that intersection because you have 166 00:08:54,880 --> 00:08:57,600 Speaker 1: black women that are kind of left out of the 167 00:08:57,640 --> 00:09:02,440 Speaker 1: broad burning feminism. It's a black power movement. It's we 168 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 1: need to listen to these men. You know, it's Fred Hampton, 169 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 1: it's you know, it's uh okay, it's Malcolm X, like 170 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:13,359 Speaker 1: it's all that. That's what people consider to be black uplifting. 171 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: It's men leading women doing as they're told. And a 172 00:09:17,000 --> 00:09:20,640 Speaker 1: lot of women in this book, specifically beyond respectability it's 173 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 1: about the women who bucked that trend. It's about the 174 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:24,880 Speaker 1: women who became race women when there were no words 175 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 1: for race women. It's about how they were rased by history, 176 00:09:27,679 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 1: and many of them were not considered to be on 177 00:09:33,080 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: the same intellectual scale as like W. B. The Boys 178 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,880 Speaker 1: or Booker T. Washington and stuff, even though they existed 179 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: at the same time. Many put their lives on the 180 00:09:42,760 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 1: line to do stuff, you know, ou to be wells 181 00:09:45,320 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 1: with their life on the line. And so, you know, 182 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:51,080 Speaker 1: I enjoyed that kind of you know, I enjoy to 183 00:09:51,200 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: go back and and I don't know, it's like refreshing, 184 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:56,240 Speaker 1: almost in a sad way, to see like, okay, niggas 185 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:59,080 Speaker 1: was always trying to be like this feminism is gonna 186 00:09:59,080 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 1: break the black family down. You know, it's not some 187 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:01,960 Speaker 1: new shit. 188 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:05,360 Speaker 2: And more as that is you basically saying I'm not 189 00:10:05,400 --> 00:10:08,439 Speaker 2: gonna be the head of the household. Like that's underlying 190 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:10,520 Speaker 2: what you say. I'm not gonna be able to bost 191 00:10:10,520 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 2: my wife around and fuck her when I want to. 192 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 2: I oh, goddamn, I got to listen to a motherfucking opinion. 193 00:10:15,400 --> 00:10:18,160 Speaker 1: How dare she right? And of course there's this idea 194 00:10:18,240 --> 00:10:23,679 Speaker 1: that black women won't let black men lead, which I mean, 195 00:10:23,720 --> 00:10:25,599 Speaker 1: you think about black leaders, shall. 196 00:10:25,360 --> 00:10:27,960 Speaker 2: We push you to lead because niggas don't want to lead? 197 00:10:28,280 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: Well, not just that, but you think about black leadership 198 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:34,200 Speaker 1: over the years, over the decades, has in the face 199 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:38,080 Speaker 1: always been black men? Like when was this magical time 200 00:10:38,160 --> 00:10:40,680 Speaker 1: that they were like, well, there's no black men leaders 201 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:42,400 Speaker 1: because the black women are taking over. 202 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 4: Black men have always gotten to be the face. 203 00:10:44,960 --> 00:10:47,240 Speaker 1: Even when black women had ideas, it was like, we know, 204 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:48,800 Speaker 1: we can't sell this idea without. 205 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 4: A black man delivering the same idea. 206 00:10:52,400 --> 00:10:57,840 Speaker 1: So yeah, it's it's interesting to see how people do this. 207 00:10:57,880 --> 00:11:00,720 Speaker 1: And of course women back in nineteen sixty still dealt 208 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: with the same thing that black women talk about now, 209 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:06,720 Speaker 1: where it's like men are intimidated. They don't like me 210 00:11:06,840 --> 00:11:10,480 Speaker 1: being too intellectual. I should be more emotional and all 211 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 1: this stuff. 212 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 2: They don't want me going to school, they don't want 213 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:16,280 Speaker 2: me getting educated. Lord have Lord forbid If I'm like 214 00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 2: fuck some kids, right, Lord forbid? Of like, no, nigga, 215 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:21,400 Speaker 2: I don't want to marry you because you don't meet 216 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:24,320 Speaker 2: my standards, you know, and shit like that, or or 217 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 2: I'm like, hey, I got an education, I want you 218 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:29,320 Speaker 2: to get your education, I can be like, well, let me, 219 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:32,320 Speaker 2: let me help you get your education. And you know, 220 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:35,400 Speaker 2: even to today, you know, depending on the makeup, dudes 221 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 2: will fight women over there hour. Why I got to 222 00:11:37,200 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 2: get educated, because you know this is actually will benefit 223 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 2: both of us. But it's kind of hard put like this, 224 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:45,760 Speaker 2: When people want to be ignorant, you have to let 225 00:11:45,760 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 2: them stay ignorant. Sometimes you have to be like, you 226 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:51,000 Speaker 2: know what, you stay on that ignorant train all by yourself, 227 00:11:51,000 --> 00:11:55,880 Speaker 2: and I got to go. And because the way, particularly 228 00:11:55,880 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 2: in the black communities is set up is black women 229 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:03,719 Speaker 2: do all the emotional labor. A lot of times. I 230 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:06,679 Speaker 2: build my man up, I build my kids up, I 231 00:12:06,679 --> 00:12:09,040 Speaker 2: build my family up. I build my brothers and sisters up, 232 00:12:09,040 --> 00:12:11,240 Speaker 2: I build my uncles up. I build everybody else up 233 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 2: with me. I'm like literally the last person on my checklist. 234 00:12:15,240 --> 00:12:19,120 Speaker 2: And so when you be like, you know what, I'm 235 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:22,080 Speaker 2: gonna put me first, fuck y'all niggas, it becomes a problem. 236 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:24,880 Speaker 2: But the reality of it, I can't help y'all if 237 00:12:24,880 --> 00:12:28,360 Speaker 2: I ain't together, how can I help you be whold? 238 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 2: And I'm broken in a million pieces that that that 239 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:31,760 Speaker 2: doesn't make sense. 240 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:33,880 Speaker 1: To me, and a lot of the men don't feel 241 00:12:33,960 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: that it's their place to, you know, do that type 242 00:12:36,480 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 1: of work towards a woman. So it's like, no, you 243 00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:41,880 Speaker 1: fix me, I go earn the money and and all 244 00:12:41,920 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 1: this shit, and I'll get to say the words about 245 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:47,720 Speaker 1: what leadership is. And when you're broken and struggling, well, 246 00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:49,520 Speaker 1: you're just not supposed to do that. Get yourself together 247 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: with depending on. 248 00:12:50,480 --> 00:12:52,960 Speaker 2: You, right, and and and and and and the you 249 00:12:53,120 --> 00:12:56,840 Speaker 2: fix me thing kills me because that only goes one way. 250 00:12:56,880 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 2: That only goes towards the men. When it comes to 251 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:02,200 Speaker 2: fix the men, it's is never fixing women, you know, 252 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 2: because the reality is, particularly in the community when it 253 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 2: comes to black men, is away all hands on deck, 254 00:13:10,120 --> 00:13:12,560 Speaker 2: get them the help they need. They need support. They 255 00:13:12,600 --> 00:13:15,679 Speaker 2: go to prison. You see the places packed full of 256 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:18,160 Speaker 2: women and children to go up there to help support them, 257 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:20,079 Speaker 2: to get them back in society. You know, the women 258 00:13:20,120 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 2: go to prison, they've done studies and statistics and nobody 259 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 2: goes visit, nobody comes by, you know, and shit like that. 260 00:13:26,640 --> 00:13:29,520 Speaker 2: So it's like, Okay, where's this community, All hands on deck? 261 00:13:29,559 --> 00:13:32,000 Speaker 2: It only goes it only that all hands on deck 262 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:34,840 Speaker 2: only flows one way. And it only flows towards the man, 263 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:37,320 Speaker 2: like the man is the end all be all. But 264 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:39,520 Speaker 2: you know what a lot of times, particularly and you know, 265 00:13:39,600 --> 00:13:42,680 Speaker 2: if if it's a straight relationship, it took two parties 266 00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:47,440 Speaker 2: to make this function. But society and the patriarchy and 267 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:49,520 Speaker 2: men and women have both bought into this, and it 268 00:13:49,520 --> 00:13:52,439 Speaker 2: has devastated the community. Because the thing is, the structure 269 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 2: was never designed for negroes. The structure was always designed 270 00:13:55,160 --> 00:13:58,120 Speaker 2: for white people. And so niggas has got this illusion 271 00:13:58,160 --> 00:14:02,400 Speaker 2: and has bought into this white supremacy, the philosophy that 272 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 2: we deserve the same thing white people get, and then 273 00:14:06,080 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 2: that's quote unquote equality. 274 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:10,600 Speaker 1: And one of the reasons that one of the aspects 275 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:12,320 Speaker 1: of this people most people don't talk about when they 276 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:14,320 Speaker 1: talk about it not being meant for black people, is 277 00:14:14,320 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 1: that black men want they covet the idea of the 278 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:20,680 Speaker 1: power of white men, you know, so they they're straight. 279 00:14:20,720 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: Black men are like, yes, I would like the same setup. 280 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:26,920 Speaker 1: I earn the income my woman does, I tell her 281 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: to do blah blah blah. And a lot of people go, oh, 282 00:14:29,120 --> 00:14:30,960 Speaker 1: it's because you just want the power white men. But 283 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 1: what a lot of people are I think the next 284 00:14:33,400 --> 00:14:36,240 Speaker 1: step to that is not just the power white men, 285 00:14:36,600 --> 00:14:40,680 Speaker 1: but then the entrapment of your women because the power 286 00:14:40,720 --> 00:14:43,640 Speaker 1: of white men means white women get put into a box, 287 00:14:44,160 --> 00:14:47,480 Speaker 1: and black men cannot access the power of white men. 288 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:48,920 Speaker 4: So then they feel. 289 00:14:48,640 --> 00:14:51,240 Speaker 1: Like I can't put my woman in control, I can't 290 00:14:51,280 --> 00:14:54,680 Speaker 1: be in control of like her money, all this stuff. 291 00:14:54,680 --> 00:14:56,480 Speaker 1: Because black women go out and work and they earn, 292 00:14:56,520 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 1: and they educate themselves, they buy, they start businesses like 293 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:03,680 Speaker 1: they're leading the the nation in these categories, and so 294 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:06,600 Speaker 1: there's there's no ability. A lot of black men feel 295 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:11,120 Speaker 1: like I'm powerless if I can't then use this cage 296 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:14,000 Speaker 1: mechanism to cage a woman down because they met a 297 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:17,080 Speaker 1: lot of men, not just black men, men measure their 298 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:21,080 Speaker 1: power in caging up this woman, right, Possessing this woman 299 00:15:21,200 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 1: is my power. And when it's not possible through blackness 300 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:28,440 Speaker 1: because of racism and a bunch of other shit, they 301 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 1: then go I feel powerless and that and they say 302 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 1: stupid shit like this dude did. 303 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:36,320 Speaker 2: Right, and they lash out and anger and you know, 304 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 2: and and and what's so funny is like a lot 305 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:42,960 Speaker 2: of dudes, uh, this is just my philosophy. A lot 306 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:44,800 Speaker 2: of dudes that have issues with women. A lot of 307 00:15:44,800 --> 00:15:47,040 Speaker 2: that ship stems way way way back in the day. 308 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:50,640 Speaker 2: Some shit today, some internal pain or struggle, how they 309 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 2: view they mama's, they sister, some girl broke their heart. 310 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:56,560 Speaker 2: Something has happened with the with the woman somewhere down 311 00:15:56,560 --> 00:15:58,800 Speaker 2: the line. And you ain't fixed that ship. You ain't 312 00:15:58,840 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 2: ask yourself why. And you know what, that goes unchecked. 313 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 2: You know what that equals gamer Gate, that goes unchecked. 314 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 2: You know what that equals a lot of these hotels 315 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:10,440 Speaker 2: as niggas, you become an adult with the same fuck 316 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 2: ass philosophy. 317 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:15,640 Speaker 1: All right, let's get into the feedback, Kay, feedback show. 318 00:16:15,720 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: This is where you guys, and I'm so sorry to 319 00:16:19,360 --> 00:16:23,320 Speaker 1: be so excruciating with us talking about gender dynamics from 320 00:16:23,320 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: an excerpt of a book. I know that that was 321 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:26,640 Speaker 1: hard for a lot of y'all to get through. Most 322 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 1: y'll probably fast forward through that. Y'all don't want to 323 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:33,800 Speaker 1: hear that reading. They're like DMX and Belly, you can't 324 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: feed your kids in. 325 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 2: The books, nigga, ain't nobody got time to read it. 326 00:16:38,520 --> 00:16:41,240 Speaker 2: Talking about somebody was talking about bro running. You know, 327 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:44,320 Speaker 2: if we had like a variety, like a variety skit show. 328 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 2: We could do two skits that I would love to do, 329 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:51,240 Speaker 2: and it made me think about when the Shade said this, 330 00:16:51,680 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 2: I want to do one where you have like the 331 00:16:53,560 --> 00:16:55,920 Speaker 2: sixties and seventies you talking about, and you would have 332 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 2: like white women hippies burn their bras and then you 333 00:16:58,880 --> 00:17:01,000 Speaker 2: look at the niggas and I'm not bringing my bro 334 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:03,320 Speaker 2: that brought too expensive. I mean I will fold it 335 00:17:03,360 --> 00:17:05,560 Speaker 2: and put it away. I mean I will go and 336 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:07,840 Speaker 2: you can see my nipples, but I'm not burning this bro. 337 00:17:08,359 --> 00:17:10,119 Speaker 2: You know, I would love to see that because you know, 338 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:11,680 Speaker 2: they were brunning everything. 339 00:17:11,520 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 1: Like and white women have that class and privilege to 340 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:16,960 Speaker 1: kind of yeses. 341 00:17:16,040 --> 00:17:18,639 Speaker 2: They they you know, they're burning bros and girdles and 342 00:17:18,680 --> 00:17:20,680 Speaker 2: shit and niggas like I'm not burning no girl, I 343 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:22,720 Speaker 2: don't know. I might I might need this girdling again 344 00:17:22,760 --> 00:17:25,600 Speaker 2: one day, you know. And you see them like putting 345 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:27,840 Speaker 2: it in like the back closet can hide it and ship, 346 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:29,920 Speaker 2: you know, and then they come out, you know, fight 347 00:17:30,000 --> 00:17:32,240 Speaker 2: the power, you know, and over and you flash the 348 00:17:32,320 --> 00:17:34,679 Speaker 2: other side and everything just bringing up and it smoke 349 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:37,960 Speaker 2: and shit like that. Like I would love that they 350 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:40,919 Speaker 2: have like a box, you know. Uh, bros here and 351 00:17:40,920 --> 00:17:43,120 Speaker 2: everybody just you know, put they used bros in there, 352 00:17:43,200 --> 00:17:46,280 Speaker 2: some shit like that. And the second skit, uh, if 353 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:49,280 Speaker 2: we ever get a variety show. The second skit I 354 00:17:49,280 --> 00:17:53,480 Speaker 2: would love to do with being a woman, like going 355 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:55,560 Speaker 2: to the bathroom, going to the bathom. She sit down 356 00:17:55,560 --> 00:17:58,520 Speaker 2: and she pulls out a path and she's sitting there 357 00:17:58,720 --> 00:18:00,640 Speaker 2: and she kind of has this pad up you see, 358 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:02,960 Speaker 2: kind of worry a little bit, and she pulls the 359 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:06,439 Speaker 2: strip and it says and when she does that, it 360 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 2: echoes through the whole office building mm hmm. And when 361 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:12,960 Speaker 2: it echoes through the whole office binding, she's like, damn it. 362 00:18:13,680 --> 00:18:17,160 Speaker 2: And then everybody office been and go, oh, Susie must 363 00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:21,440 Speaker 2: be on her periods. I heard the strip mark. And 364 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:23,800 Speaker 2: then it would be like an infomercer with somebody when 365 00:18:23,840 --> 00:18:26,920 Speaker 2: somebody says, have you been caught in this embarrassing situation? 366 00:18:27,560 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 2: We not got the product for you. It's called silent strip. 367 00:18:32,480 --> 00:18:34,520 Speaker 2: And did you see a lady walk in? And she 368 00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:36,920 Speaker 2: come and she can't off in there, don't make no sound. 369 00:18:36,960 --> 00:18:38,640 Speaker 2: She's like, hey, don't nobody nor. 370 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:42,920 Speaker 1: My period today? Yeah. And when the first woman, while 371 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:45,359 Speaker 1: I was out of the bathroom, everybody be like your period. 372 00:18:45,960 --> 00:18:46,359 Speaker 2: Look at that. 373 00:18:46,800 --> 00:18:51,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, everybody they do stuff that would annoy a regular person, 374 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:56,760 Speaker 1: like a normal person, But then they be like, you know, yeah, 375 00:18:56,760 --> 00:18:58,400 Speaker 1: she just functioned in like normal. 376 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:04,040 Speaker 2: Would love if we ever get a variety skits show that, yes, 377 00:19:04,560 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 2: that's the ship that will my mind would go because 378 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 2: that's the ship just fucking annoys me. And I know 379 00:19:11,359 --> 00:19:13,280 Speaker 2: when you do it in real life, it don't echo 380 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,399 Speaker 2: like that, but but in my mind it sounds like that. 381 00:19:16,440 --> 00:19:18,600 Speaker 2: In the bathroom, it's like, oh my god, everybody knows 382 00:19:18,600 --> 00:19:19,560 Speaker 2: I'm on my fucking period. 383 00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:24,920 Speaker 1: Down all right, this is our feedback show. You can 384 00:19:24,920 --> 00:19:30,040 Speaker 1: find us off I putomatically was five star reviews or 385 00:19:30,080 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 1: occasionally like a four star review that you know, uh 386 00:19:34,000 --> 00:19:35,720 Speaker 1: that says you don't like the intro to our show, 387 00:19:36,080 --> 00:19:38,199 Speaker 1: but we'll read it on the air as long as 388 00:19:38,240 --> 00:19:43,000 Speaker 1: it's nice. 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Esquad please 440 00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:21,600 Speaker 1: say the Esquad like Commas San Diego all over the globe. 441 00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:24,479 Speaker 1: I'll be on the Instagram like, oh so that's what 442 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:25,320 Speaker 1: Lindon looked like. 443 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,400 Speaker 2: Okay, we look like, oh so what's going over there? 444 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:33,639 Speaker 1: Okay? Okay, Jeff F. Lindsay B i'l Fonzo, M, Paul Matto, 445 00:22:33,720 --> 00:22:39,760 Speaker 1: Stone Magic, James C. Joy, M, David C. Autumn, W. 446 00:22:40,640 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 1: Damien Jackson, I am for real. Thank you so much, 447 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:50,680 Speaker 1: Damien R. And that is everybody. I bet people tired 448 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 1: us reading that too, but they're giving us money, so 449 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:55,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna go ahead and let it flow. I know 450 00:22:55,800 --> 00:23:02,919 Speaker 1: it slow, you know, a cold mine. 451 00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:08,639 Speaker 2: Today's a new day. But tell me where are my 452 00:23:08,760 --> 00:23:12,560 Speaker 2: blues skies? Where it's your love. 453 00:23:12,560 --> 00:23:14,480 Speaker 1: And mom is some? 454 00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 2: Tell me all right? 455 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:25,880 Speaker 1: I almostly but my power that I can't explain bell 456 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:32,560 Speaker 1: from heaven like a showering. I know, but I smile 457 00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:34,920 Speaker 1: even though I hurt. 458 00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:35,880 Speaker 2: See I smile. 459 00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: I know God is working, so I smile, even though 460 00:23:41,240 --> 00:23:47,359 Speaker 1: I been for a while, I smile, smile. It's so 461 00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:48,080 Speaker 1: hard to. 462 00:23:47,920 --> 00:23:49,320 Speaker 2: Look up when you look down. 463 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:52,560 Speaker 1: I sure would hate to see you give him now. 464 00:23:53,960 --> 00:23:56,359 Speaker 2: You're so much better when you're smile. 465 00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:06,399 Speaker 1: Smile fo me. Can't you just smile. 466 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:09,000 Speaker 2: For me? 467 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 1: Whatever you're doing right? Now follow me. Can't you just smile? 468 00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:22,280 Speaker 5: Oh me? 469 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 1: And the people say, yeah, it was funny. 470 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 2: Man. 471 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:32,160 Speaker 4: I had a day to day. 472 00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:36,760 Speaker 1: I went to play basketball and there's a list at 473 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:40,879 Speaker 1: the basketball court, and use the list because you know, 474 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:43,960 Speaker 1: to make sure that we keep order when people have next, right, 475 00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 1: ten people are playing, five people lose, five people. Come on, 476 00:24:46,920 --> 00:24:48,679 Speaker 1: you take the five people from the list. Those are 477 00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,000 Speaker 1: the people get to play next. And that way it 478 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:54,679 Speaker 1: keeps people in an orderly fashion, right right, And you know, 479 00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 1: and so if you want to if you're waiting ten minutes, 480 00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,600 Speaker 1: the people will in front of you have waited longer 481 00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,480 Speaker 1: than you. The people behind you have waited less than you. 482 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,440 Speaker 1: So it keeps It's like the DMV, a ligne of 483 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:10,120 Speaker 1: the DMV. That's why they have a line. Right. So 484 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,200 Speaker 1: today it was the song made me think of this 485 00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:16,719 Speaker 1: and also that that that feedback we got today. There 486 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 1: was this guy that I played Paul with and he 487 00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:24,159 Speaker 1: lost a game and then he wanted to skip everybody 488 00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 1: else and play like in the next game and take 489 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 1: somebody's spot who was leaving. And I was like, well, 490 00:25:29,640 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 1: that's not fair because other people have waited longer than you, 491 00:25:33,040 --> 00:25:35,040 Speaker 1: and that person leaves and moved. 492 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 4: The next man up moves up, and that keep that's 493 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:38,280 Speaker 4: fair to everyone. 494 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:43,040 Speaker 1: Everyone moves up one spot and he's he threw such 495 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 1: a temper tatrum. He got such an attitude and a 496 00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,960 Speaker 1: grown man, and it was crazy baby, because it was 497 00:25:50,800 --> 00:25:54,199 Speaker 1: everybody on that sideline had waited longer than him, so 498 00:25:54,280 --> 00:25:57,120 Speaker 1: they would all do that spot before he was anyway, 499 00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:02,800 Speaker 1: And I was the only only person advocating, not just 500 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:04,879 Speaker 1: for me, for everyone, because it wasn't like I was 501 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:05,560 Speaker 1: gonna get the spot. 502 00:26:05,880 --> 00:26:06,879 Speaker 2: They don't want the confrontation. 503 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:09,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like, listen, you can't do that because 504 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:12,040 Speaker 1: everyone waited. He's like, why not you work here? You 505 00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,600 Speaker 1: work at the WAI was like, no, yes, I work 506 00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:16,720 Speaker 1: at the Wild. Who gives a fuck? It's just wrong. 507 00:26:16,960 --> 00:26:20,840 Speaker 4: Like, wait, the way that everyone else waited, Well he's leaving. 508 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:22,600 Speaker 1: Why can't I play now? I say, if you wanted 509 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,119 Speaker 1: to keep playing, you should have won. That's how it 510 00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:28,080 Speaker 1: works with everybody. Everybody else got a win to keep playing. 511 00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:31,000 Speaker 1: If not, you lose and you wait, that's you know 512 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:31,440 Speaker 1: the rules. 513 00:26:31,440 --> 00:26:32,800 Speaker 2: It ain't like you brand new it is. 514 00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:35,640 Speaker 1: It's fair to everyone, right, So and I know this guy, 515 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 1: like I see him a couple times a week at 516 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,760 Speaker 1: the while, like it's not even you know, I never 517 00:26:39,760 --> 00:26:41,239 Speaker 1: felt like I was in danger or nothing. But he 518 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 1: was just trying to intimidate me correct And he was like, man, 519 00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:47,760 Speaker 1: nobody else got a problem. I said, no, everyone over 520 00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:51,080 Speaker 1: here would have a problem with you still in that spot, right, 521 00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:53,919 Speaker 1: I'm just the only one being vocal right now. But 522 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: I'm doing it for them, like this ain't for me. 523 00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:58,760 Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck if like, you're not taking 524 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:02,000 Speaker 1: anything from me necessary, but you are taking something from 525 00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 1: everybody being selfish like this. And he was like. 526 00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:07,280 Speaker 2: Uh. 527 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 1: He had to set the paper in his hand and 528 00:27:10,600 --> 00:27:11,879 Speaker 1: he was like, now give me the pin and I 529 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,800 Speaker 1: was like no, and he was like, man, I'm gonna 530 00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:16,080 Speaker 1: write my name now. I don't give a fuck with 531 00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:18,280 Speaker 1: you said. I was like, then get your own pen. 532 00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,280 Speaker 1: I'm not like fuck you like what cause he but 533 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,240 Speaker 1: right before that he saw to weight what so long? 534 00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 1: He wanted to leave because he was losing. He lost, 535 00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:28,160 Speaker 1: but guess what, everybody else had to wait three four 536 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:33,320 Speaker 1: or five games, is right. And so this guy takes 537 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,879 Speaker 1: the paper and balls it up and throws it in 538 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:38,520 Speaker 1: the trash. And I said that okay, like, I don't 539 00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 1: know what that's supposed to do, but now you just 540 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,680 Speaker 1: run it for everybody, so who gives a fuck? And 541 00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:46,159 Speaker 1: he's like, then he takes it out of the trash 542 00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:47,800 Speaker 1: and like, give me the pin. 543 00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:49,760 Speaker 4: I was like no, and then he rips the stress 544 00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:50,800 Speaker 4: and throw it in the trash again. 545 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:54,600 Speaker 1: And then and then of course, like he leaves, and 546 00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:56,439 Speaker 1: he thinks I'm gonna leave too, but I was like, 547 00:27:56,440 --> 00:28:00,720 Speaker 1: I'm not leaving, and so uh and it's funny because 548 00:28:00,720 --> 00:28:03,119 Speaker 1: he follows me on Instagram and all this shit, so 549 00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:07,119 Speaker 1: he you know, he has this terrible attitude or whatever 550 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:09,639 Speaker 1: and let me act like a child. And then of 551 00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 1: course when he rips the list up, then people start 552 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,520 Speaker 1: being like man, what the man? And even a couple 553 00:28:14,560 --> 00:28:16,320 Speaker 1: people try to be like why you didn't just let him? 554 00:28:16,359 --> 00:28:18,480 Speaker 1: I'll say, man, don't start with me, because if y'all 555 00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,040 Speaker 1: would have spoke up when he was trying to cheat everybody, 556 00:28:21,200 --> 00:28:23,879 Speaker 1: he would have just he would have just down. But 557 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:27,600 Speaker 1: because y'all sat there and acted like will Rod's gonna 558 00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:30,359 Speaker 1: handle it, so I don't gotta do shit, he escalated 559 00:28:30,359 --> 00:28:34,640 Speaker 1: his behavior. Now that being said, I'm like, we know 560 00:28:35,560 --> 00:28:39,400 Speaker 1: on the honor system, who lost when and everyone knows 561 00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:42,840 Speaker 1: about when they were on the list, so we'll just 562 00:28:42,880 --> 00:28:45,440 Speaker 1: don't go by a memory, like, hey, when did you 563 00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:48,440 Speaker 1: look you lost two games ago? You should be we 564 00:28:48,520 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 1: know you, like you know, I know I played after you, 565 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,040 Speaker 1: so I'm after you on the list. And I pulled 566 00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:54,720 Speaker 1: out my phone and I just typed up a little 567 00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,520 Speaker 1: list of my notes app and we went ahead and 568 00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:01,320 Speaker 1: kept playing, and we ended up playing like five or 569 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:04,160 Speaker 1: six more games after that. I played. I think my 570 00:29:04,200 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 1: team won like four or five games at end of 571 00:29:05,920 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 1: the day. And and when he was leaving after you 572 00:29:11,600 --> 00:29:14,560 Speaker 1: through this tantrum, I said, a Q, hey, you have 573 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,680 Speaker 1: a blessed day, brother, like a dead serious I said, 574 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:18,960 Speaker 1: you have a bless day. And I'm gonna see you 575 00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:21,160 Speaker 1: next I'm gonna see you Tuesday, because I know he 576 00:29:21,200 --> 00:29:23,160 Speaker 1: comes to this otherwise I'll see you next week, man. 577 00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:24,960 Speaker 1: And he was like all right then, man, and he 578 00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,480 Speaker 1: like left or whatever. And I was like, cause he 579 00:29:27,600 --> 00:29:30,080 Speaker 1: was like telling me, like, oh, I know you're gonna 580 00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:32,960 Speaker 1: leave go home then ride like laughing because I was 581 00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:34,320 Speaker 1: going to get my stuff. I was like, no, I'm 582 00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:35,680 Speaker 1: going to get my phone so we can just start 583 00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:40,400 Speaker 1: a new list. And it was funny. We played four games. 584 00:29:40,440 --> 00:29:42,400 Speaker 1: We had a great time. I took a picture of 585 00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:44,880 Speaker 1: everybody on the court and I tagged you to it 586 00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 1: on my Instagram. I was like, hey, man, thank you. 587 00:29:47,760 --> 00:29:50,080 Speaker 1: You inspired me. When you destroyed the list. You made 588 00:29:50,080 --> 00:29:52,080 Speaker 1: it so that I felt like I shouldn't even lose again, 589 00:29:52,520 --> 00:29:53,960 Speaker 1: so that I don't even have to sign the list 590 00:29:54,040 --> 00:29:56,240 Speaker 1: no more. You know what, I did it four games 591 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:59,960 Speaker 1: in the road. Whatever. You have a great day, yeah, 592 00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,040 Speaker 1: Because and so what I'm thinking about when I hear that, 593 00:30:03,120 --> 00:30:05,479 Speaker 1: I smile even when you hear that dumb ass, not 594 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:07,440 Speaker 1: dumb ass, I'm not gonna say that, but even when 595 00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:11,800 Speaker 1: we got that four star review or whatever, It's like, dog, 596 00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:14,240 Speaker 1: you can let this little shit ruin your day, or 597 00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:16,760 Speaker 1: you can take that same energy and transform that shit. 598 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 1: You know, the difference between our show and everybody else's 599 00:30:20,680 --> 00:30:25,200 Speaker 1: show is that it's ours, and I like to relate 600 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,840 Speaker 1: these things that maybe it doesn't relate to somebody, Maybe 601 00:30:27,880 --> 00:30:31,400 Speaker 1: somebody's fed by. But there were people whose day would 602 00:30:31,440 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 1: have been ruined by that. There were people that got 603 00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:35,239 Speaker 1: up and left after he ripped that list up, right, 604 00:30:35,440 --> 00:30:38,640 Speaker 1: there were people like he ruined other people's day because 605 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:41,360 Speaker 1: he was mad that he lost the game and it 606 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,400 Speaker 1: ruined his day that he didn't get to just keep 607 00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:45,840 Speaker 1: playing until he felt like it. I said, so what 608 00:30:45,840 --> 00:30:47,360 Speaker 1: happens when you lose the next game? You just get 609 00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:50,080 Speaker 1: to play again? And everybody got to wait again. I said, 610 00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,160 Speaker 1: what's the like, what's the limits? 611 00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:52,800 Speaker 3: You know? 612 00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:57,560 Speaker 1: So anyway, my whole point being like I smile because 613 00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,480 Speaker 1: I had a good time. My friends was out there, 614 00:30:59,600 --> 00:31:03,080 Speaker 1: me just and Adam and Damon, like we still had 615 00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,600 Speaker 1: a good time. We still had fun and that and 616 00:31:06,600 --> 00:31:09,200 Speaker 1: and and my day goes fine, my week goes fine. 617 00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:13,160 Speaker 1: So you know, you just gotta taking this stride sometimes oh. 618 00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:15,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh yeah, And a lot of times that actually 619 00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:17,960 Speaker 2: takes you being a bigger person. And truth be told, 620 00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:20,520 Speaker 2: people don't want to talk about this, but it takes 621 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 2: a certain level of emotional maturity to get to that 622 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,760 Speaker 2: point where you'd be like, Okay, I understand and I 623 00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,120 Speaker 2: see what you're doing. But what I'm not gonna do 624 00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:33,280 Speaker 2: is match your energy and you can do whatever you 625 00:31:33,280 --> 00:31:35,440 Speaker 2: want to do because eventually this this got to end 626 00:31:35,600 --> 00:31:37,560 Speaker 2: because you're not gonna get your way. Like I'm determined 627 00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:39,560 Speaker 2: that you're not gonna get your way. So eventually, like 628 00:31:39,600 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 2: you do children, this is gonna have to end, and 629 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:44,280 Speaker 2: then everything's gonna go back to Norman anyway. 630 00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:46,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I just think about that sometimes because I 631 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 1: think a lot of that stuff had to come from 632 00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,520 Speaker 1: me being more secure with myself, because there would have 633 00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:52,040 Speaker 1: been a time where I probably would have been yelling 634 00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,760 Speaker 1: and screaming at that dude, calling them all kinds of names, 635 00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:58,320 Speaker 1: you know, uh, just because just because he did something 636 00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,880 Speaker 1: so ignorant and but it's so child is just like 637 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,280 Speaker 1: attachment from a five year old, correct, you know, even 638 00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:06,560 Speaker 1: with that review, A lot of podcasts would be really defensive, 639 00:32:06,600 --> 00:32:09,760 Speaker 1: start talking bad about the person, you know, you know, 640 00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:12,320 Speaker 1: don't listen to your nigga, you know that type of shit. 641 00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:14,239 Speaker 1: And I used to feel that way, Like I used 642 00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 1: to be like, well, if you don't like any aspect 643 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:19,080 Speaker 1: of the show, fuck you go go somewhere else. I 644 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:21,200 Speaker 1: don't give a fuck. Blah blah blah. And then it's 645 00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:24,920 Speaker 1: like that's insecurity talking. If you're not fed by I'm sorry, 646 00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:27,400 Speaker 1: but you don't feel that, you know, I wish you 647 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:31,200 Speaker 1: were fed by everything we do, but that's not possible. 648 00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,200 Speaker 1: And that's okay, you know, and that you know, if 649 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:36,280 Speaker 1: that means with four stars for you, then that should 650 00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:39,280 Speaker 1: be okay too, you know, like I get it. Maybe 651 00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:41,040 Speaker 1: somebody else will read that review and be like, yeah, 652 00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:43,360 Speaker 1: I don't like that either, and I agree with that review, 653 00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:45,840 Speaker 1: and maybe it'll cop them from listening and good for them. 654 00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:48,240 Speaker 1: Like I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade. But 655 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,760 Speaker 1: at the same time, I don't have to allow your 656 00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:55,520 Speaker 1: precipitation onto my dancery either, you know. 657 00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:57,960 Speaker 2: Come on that, all right? 658 00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:01,200 Speaker 1: We got five star reviews, speaking of which always recommend, 659 00:33:01,840 --> 00:33:08,080 Speaker 1: says a gift Ruinner on Apple podcast. Fo Stars Roder 660 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:09,880 Speaker 1: Carrot are so funny and I love listening to them 661 00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:11,600 Speaker 1: on the way to work or just say home. Chilling. 662 00:33:11,640 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 1: As well as funny, they're also insightful and sometimes challenge 663 00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:16,120 Speaker 1: my views. 664 00:33:15,920 --> 00:33:17,200 Speaker 4: And the way I think about things. 665 00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,959 Speaker 1: I really enjoyed that talks about the celebrity and what 666 00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:23,320 Speaker 1: social media does to skew our reality slash relationships with 667 00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:25,680 Speaker 1: each other. As someone who grew up with the internet, 668 00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:28,000 Speaker 1: it's easy to buy to relationships and easy access to 669 00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:30,880 Speaker 1: the internet has Also, my dad listened to them first, 670 00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:34,440 Speaker 1: so I wrote them office whatever because it's my dad. Oh, 671 00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:34,960 Speaker 1: we all do. 672 00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,520 Speaker 2: That I okay, whatever, Dad, listen to that old man 673 00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:38,480 Speaker 2: shit ha. 674 00:33:38,280 --> 00:33:40,880 Speaker 1: Ha, But after listening on my own, I was hooked. 675 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,440 Speaker 1: So now I recommend them to anyone who listened to 676 00:33:43,520 --> 00:33:46,200 Speaker 1: podcasts who want to support black voices. 677 00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,040 Speaker 2: And have a good time to shout out to Daddy, 678 00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:49,160 Speaker 2: shout out to pops. 679 00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:52,000 Speaker 1: Okay. I actually today I found out one of the 680 00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:56,600 Speaker 1: dudes I played basketball with my dad came in second. 681 00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:59,920 Speaker 1: They came He came in second at the senior basketball 682 00:34:00,200 --> 00:34:03,920 Speaker 1: uh North Carolina, like like tournament that they have, and 683 00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:07,040 Speaker 1: uh he sent me a picture of them holding up 684 00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:09,800 Speaker 1: the banner and I was like, you know, congratulations. 685 00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:10,839 Speaker 4: You know, that's dope dad. 686 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:13,560 Speaker 1: And then, uh, today I found out one of the 687 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,960 Speaker 1: guys I play with, he's an older guy and he 688 00:34:16,000 --> 00:34:18,799 Speaker 1: follows me on Twitter and stuff. He was he's on 689 00:34:18,880 --> 00:34:22,480 Speaker 1: my dad's team. Yeah. So he came over to me 690 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,239 Speaker 1: and was like, yeah, you know I came in You know, 691 00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,080 Speaker 1: I told you all went to that tournament last week. 692 00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,279 Speaker 1: I came in second. I was like, and my mom 693 00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:31,520 Speaker 1: was like, now that's a goddamn my dad came in second. 694 00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:33,960 Speaker 1: But I was like, okay, cool, well all right, he 695 00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:37,759 Speaker 1: was that's dope, man. Congratulations John, and he was like yeah, man. 696 00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:40,400 Speaker 1: I said, wait, my dad played in the tournament. He 697 00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:45,680 Speaker 1: came in second. They got silver. And he was like, uh, really, 698 00:34:45,880 --> 00:34:47,160 Speaker 1: who's your dad. I was like, yeah. He sent me 699 00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,440 Speaker 1: a picture of when I was feeling the picture, John 700 00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:52,040 Speaker 1: was in the picture. I didn't even notice it in 701 00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:53,040 Speaker 1: the picture the whole time. 702 00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,040 Speaker 2: He said, who's that guy on the left yard, I said, that's. 703 00:34:54,920 --> 00:34:58,080 Speaker 1: You all ship like it was a small world, man, 704 00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:02,359 Speaker 1: small world anyway. I also promised y'all that I could 705 00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:06,279 Speaker 1: get reviews from other places that we've missed, and I 706 00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:09,239 Speaker 1: found an app, charterable dot com. In case you're a 707 00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:13,799 Speaker 1: podcast or listening to this, charterable dot com is a 708 00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:17,120 Speaker 1: website that you sign up for and say, this is 709 00:35:17,160 --> 00:35:19,279 Speaker 1: my show and all that stuff. It allows you to 710 00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:21,759 Speaker 1: not just see your show on charts all around the 711 00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:23,800 Speaker 1: country all around the world. You can see where you place, 712 00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:26,759 Speaker 1: but it also allows you to see your reviews from 713 00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:27,759 Speaker 1: all over the world too. 714 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:29,240 Speaker 4: Okay, so this one's from. 715 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:34,200 Speaker 1: Great Britain and from October October twenty seventh by Secure Daichi, 716 00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: who says, I love you lots five stars. I first 717 00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:39,680 Speaker 1: heard these wonderful folks all the way back in twenty 718 00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:42,160 Speaker 1: fourteen when they were guests on another podcast I just 719 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,920 Speaker 1: started listening to at the time, then Sandy Check Podcast. 720 00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,239 Speaker 1: I enjoyed every guest spot they had so much I 721 00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,400 Speaker 1: went and followed both of them on Twitter. It was 722 00:35:50,080 --> 00:35:52,200 Speaker 1: It wasn't until about a year later I realized they 723 00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,319 Speaker 1: too had a podcast, and I've been listening ever since. 724 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,440 Speaker 1: I always appreciate their nuance and thoughtful takes on things. Also, 725 00:35:57,760 --> 00:35:59,880 Speaker 1: I always barely laugh at least once an episode. The 726 00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,640 Speaker 1: very best of the best at what they do. Thank you, 727 00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:06,879 Speaker 1: Thank you. Let's see who else left or something from 728 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:13,360 Speaker 1: outside the United States, because we do have several Canada. 729 00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:18,080 Speaker 1: This one is from October twenty third. Keep five stars. 730 00:36:18,120 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 1: I'm gonna keep five stars. I'm gonna keep it short. 731 00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:23,799 Speaker 1: Karen is a delight and always providing real ideas and 732 00:36:23,800 --> 00:36:26,400 Speaker 1: feelings on topics that range from joyful and hilarious to 733 00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:29,080 Speaker 1: frustrating and tiring. She is the perfect four for her 734 00:36:29,120 --> 00:36:32,200 Speaker 1: co host, I can't remember his name, winky face. Winky face, 735 00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,320 Speaker 1: back at you, buddy, who fools you in the thinking. 736 00:36:35,400 --> 00:36:38,280 Speaker 1: He's the straight man with his truthful and introspective opinions 737 00:36:38,320 --> 00:36:40,600 Speaker 1: and arguments, but the co host is often looking for 738 00:36:40,640 --> 00:36:43,400 Speaker 1: a way to cheat. Pun you to death this podcast 739 00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,480 Speaker 1: to death. This podcast is a necessity for many, and 740 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:49,360 Speaker 1: I hope you will add it to your regular lineup. 741 00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:54,279 Speaker 1: Ins by Ola Adobe, Ola Bode. I think I've said 742 00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:56,719 Speaker 1: that right, if not nowhere. 743 00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:58,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you trying to prepare the puns. 744 00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:03,120 Speaker 1: We got one from Japan in piping all over the globe. 745 00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:06,520 Speaker 1: As close to perfection as you will find. Five stars. 746 00:37:06,520 --> 00:37:09,800 Speaker 1: I started listening to this podcasts during the Charlotte Uprising because 747 00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:13,480 Speaker 1: they are trustworthy and honest. Oh yeah, I remember. 748 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,680 Speaker 2: That there was a lot going on that time. 749 00:37:15,880 --> 00:37:17,759 Speaker 1: I listened to tons of podcasts, but I have not 750 00:37:17,800 --> 00:37:19,960 Speaker 1: found a podcast as close to perfection as this one. 751 00:37:20,200 --> 00:37:22,120 Speaker 1: It may just be that they have put in thousands 752 00:37:22,120 --> 00:37:23,719 Speaker 1: of hours of practice, or it may just be that 753 00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:25,880 Speaker 1: they are the nicest. They are nice, honest people, and 754 00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:28,279 Speaker 1: it does not matter. They are simply better than any 755 00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:31,360 Speaker 1: other podcasts out there. And this is by Sean E. KPg. 756 00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:34,480 Speaker 2: Thank you, Thank you from all the way in Japan, all. 757 00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:36,840 Speaker 1: The way in Japan. I feel like I'm supposed to 758 00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:38,120 Speaker 1: say something Japanese right now. 759 00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:39,600 Speaker 2: I don't word or got to. 760 00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,720 Speaker 1: That's that's the that's that's the Southern way of fucking 761 00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:45,719 Speaker 1: up Japanese okay, better than me. I think that means 762 00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:46,120 Speaker 1: thank you. 763 00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,880 Speaker 2: I don't know. I was gonna say something and I 764 00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:51,960 Speaker 2: was like, I think that's probably a different language, so 765 00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:54,160 Speaker 2: I'm not yes. 766 00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,840 Speaker 1: I think that means hello, Okay, yeah, only all the 767 00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:01,520 Speaker 1: foreign Japanese foreign is a lot of get my Japanese. 768 00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:03,000 Speaker 2: From so and I don't think it's too good. 769 00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,879 Speaker 4: I really can't use any of it, guys. I don't 770 00:38:05,880 --> 00:38:06,640 Speaker 4: think there's any that. 771 00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:11,080 Speaker 1: I don't think I'm supposed to be saying those things. 772 00:38:12,880 --> 00:38:15,640 Speaker 1: I don't think they'll go over to Japan. Chemo chiez, nigga, 773 00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:18,239 Speaker 1: what what are you talking about? You're coming all over me. 774 00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,480 Speaker 1: No you're not, No, sir, put your dick away. A 775 00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:25,880 Speaker 1: Fantastic Podcast five Stars. You think you you pull your 776 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:28,799 Speaker 1: penisime Japan, it just becomes pixelated or you think they 777 00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:29,680 Speaker 1: add that in posts. 778 00:38:30,160 --> 00:38:33,239 Speaker 2: I think it becomes pixelated. I wonder I think the 779 00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,000 Speaker 2: pixelated people always is death. 780 00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:39,240 Speaker 1: You never know, guys. Fantastic Podcast five Stars is from Canada. 781 00:38:39,520 --> 00:38:41,680 Speaker 1: Dear Riding Karen, thank you for providing an insightful and 782 00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:43,839 Speaker 1: humorous take on news and everything in between. You two 783 00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:46,680 Speaker 1: our amazing hosts, and I especially love the fact that 784 00:38:46,760 --> 00:38:49,040 Speaker 1: while you may share different views on the subject, or 785 00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,040 Speaker 1: you may even share the same opinion but for different 786 00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:54,000 Speaker 1: underlying reasons, you listen to each other and explore every 787 00:38:54,040 --> 00:38:57,640 Speaker 1: facet of an issue. My favorite with a U segments 788 00:38:57,960 --> 00:38:59,959 Speaker 1: on the show our guest, the Race and Sore Ratchet, 789 00:39:00,480 --> 00:39:05,360 Speaker 1: the introstore of ratchetness never gets old. I started listening 790 00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:08,400 Speaker 1: to you guys thanks to them Thrones hashtag and loved 791 00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:10,439 Speaker 1: your takes on every episode. I raised about to show 792 00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:12,279 Speaker 1: to all my Game of Thrones loving friends to check 793 00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,920 Speaker 1: out the podcast too. I try to save your podcast 794 00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:16,879 Speaker 1: for my morning commute to the office and can't tell 795 00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:19,320 Speaker 1: you how many times I caught myself smiling or chuckling 796 00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,560 Speaker 1: to myself on the train. In my head. You two 797 00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,759 Speaker 1: are my friends. If you ever in Toronto, I'll be 798 00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:25,400 Speaker 1: more than happy to take you to a round and 799 00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:26,840 Speaker 1: show you the best of my city. 800 00:39:27,120 --> 00:39:28,240 Speaker 4: With love from Canada. 801 00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:32,480 Speaker 1: Vivian, Oh thank you, Vivian. Might have to get up 802 00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:37,319 Speaker 1: there for some poutine one of these days. Okay, we've 803 00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:39,960 Speaker 1: had it here in Charlotte. I'm not saying it's bad. 804 00:39:40,000 --> 00:39:41,520 Speaker 1: I'd have nothing to compare. 805 00:39:41,320 --> 00:39:43,359 Speaker 2: It to, right, because I haven't had the real thing. 806 00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:45,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, it could. I mean, it could be the it 807 00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:47,359 Speaker 1: could be exactly what what it's supposed to be. 808 00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,800 Speaker 2: It could be trash. I wouldn't know the difference. 809 00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:52,919 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'll be when I see poutine, I'd 810 00:39:52,920 --> 00:39:55,600 Speaker 1: be like, I have no idea who this man is. 811 00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:02,120 Speaker 1: I hope I'm not making the food myself, Okay, but 812 00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:06,080 Speaker 1: I have no idea who this man is. So those 813 00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:10,839 Speaker 1: are back to like I think that took it back 814 00:40:10,920 --> 00:40:13,960 Speaker 1: to like August. I don't know if they're more. Let 815 00:40:14,000 --> 00:40:17,560 Speaker 1: me because I know I had checked a while ago. 816 00:40:17,880 --> 00:40:19,120 Speaker 2: And we may have missed some. 817 00:40:19,880 --> 00:40:27,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, scrolling back to let's see July. On July, we 818 00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:31,480 Speaker 1: got one in Canada. Oh wait, let mescroll the job. Okay, 819 00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:34,600 Speaker 1: America America. Okay, yeah, so we got one from Canada 820 00:40:34,800 --> 00:40:41,400 Speaker 1: and I was actually in June. Great podcast. Rod and 821 00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:43,400 Speaker 1: Karen are two peas in the pot. I can't stop 822 00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:45,359 Speaker 1: listening to them, and their bench is always interesting. They 823 00:40:45,400 --> 00:40:47,759 Speaker 1: always have great guests. They always keep me laughing at work. 824 00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:50,160 Speaker 1: Keep it up, they are going. They're still going strong. 825 00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:53,000 Speaker 1: Best podcast in the game. Dave from t Dot thank you. 826 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:57,520 Speaker 1: And then this one's from Canada also says great podcast, 827 00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:02,919 Speaker 1: five stars. That's all from the sixth c A oh shit, 828 00:41:03,040 --> 00:41:08,440 Speaker 1: the home of Drake Belgium. What nothing beloved. Rod and 829 00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:12,560 Speaker 1: Karen are the best thing I've discovered since I recently 830 00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:15,640 Speaker 1: started listening to podcasts. They are funniest, hell sharp, and 831 00:41:15,640 --> 00:41:18,200 Speaker 1: they tackle topics in a profound way. I've learned a 832 00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,720 Speaker 1: lot while listening. I love their honesty and the obvious 833 00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:22,720 Speaker 1: love and respect they have for each other, their listeners, 834 00:41:22,719 --> 00:41:25,719 Speaker 1: and their community living while black in Europe Belgium. These 835 00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:28,120 Speaker 1: conversations between Roder Carroen often influence my writing and my 836 00:41:28,239 --> 00:41:30,280 Speaker 1: views on things that happened in the world. I also 837 00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:32,960 Speaker 1: love the recurring games and rap intro. Well, it's the 838 00:41:32,960 --> 00:41:36,040 Speaker 1: book intro now, so she might have to moet us 839 00:41:36,040 --> 00:41:37,560 Speaker 1: to folk Stars, or they might have to moet us 840 00:41:37,560 --> 00:41:41,279 Speaker 1: to fos Stars. So yeah, that I think that's about 841 00:41:41,440 --> 00:41:45,040 Speaker 1: I think that should be about it, because I feel 842 00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:48,080 Speaker 1: like I feel like I did do the overseas. I 843 00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:51,400 Speaker 1: used to get these overseas reviews and it stopped. 844 00:41:52,600 --> 00:41:54,319 Speaker 4: Here's one from Switzerland. 845 00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:55,680 Speaker 2: I don't remember. 846 00:41:57,400 --> 00:42:01,399 Speaker 1: Marie Jane who says he five stars love your show. 847 00:42:01,640 --> 00:42:04,319 Speaker 1: I listened regularly, love the diversity of issues discussed here, 848 00:42:04,320 --> 00:42:07,800 Speaker 1: and every time I every time I hear Karen say 849 00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:10,759 Speaker 1: come on now, I chuckled. Good job. 850 00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:16,080 Speaker 4: So yeah, I can't remember when. 851 00:42:15,920 --> 00:42:21,600 Speaker 1: I stopped getting these, but uh, just let's say it's. 852 00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:25,439 Speaker 4: Switzerland, okay, top notch. 853 00:42:25,480 --> 00:42:27,800 Speaker 1: Love your show. I live in Switzerland and listen regularly, 854 00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:29,879 Speaker 1: love the diversity of issues discussed here, and every time 855 00:42:29,880 --> 00:42:31,600 Speaker 1: I have karents Oh wait, I did that already. That 856 00:42:31,719 --> 00:42:39,560 Speaker 1: was by uh the original black HEIGHTI all right, I'll 857 00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:42,400 Speaker 1: do I'll do another page just to make sure, just 858 00:42:42,400 --> 00:42:44,680 Speaker 1: to make sure. Yeah, I wait until I get to 859 00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:46,480 Speaker 1: one that I'm like, oh, yeah, we read this one. 860 00:42:46,560 --> 00:42:49,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, people over people overseas going we live. 861 00:42:49,120 --> 00:42:50,400 Speaker 1: In fastar reviews. 862 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:53,800 Speaker 2: I like, way, ain't y'all we mind yet? 863 00:42:54,080 --> 00:42:54,960 Speaker 1: Yeah exactly. 864 00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,440 Speaker 4: I felt I feel bad or whatever. 865 00:42:57,480 --> 00:42:59,880 Speaker 2: We wasn't getting them, y'all, so it wouldn't n personal. 866 00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:08,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, So all right, you know, I think, let's see 867 00:43:08,120 --> 00:43:10,520 Speaker 1: that's back towards the beginning of the year. I think 868 00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,000 Speaker 1: I think we gotta be hitting the point where we 869 00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:17,160 Speaker 1: were getting some of these, So yeah, all right, we'll 870 00:43:17,200 --> 00:43:19,799 Speaker 1: stop there for now. I don't think we I know, 871 00:43:19,880 --> 00:43:22,320 Speaker 1: we beg. I know we got some this year before 872 00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,680 Speaker 1: that site started fucking up, so let's just let's just 873 00:43:25,719 --> 00:43:28,279 Speaker 1: leave it at that, all right. We have episodes on 874 00:43:28,320 --> 00:43:30,840 Speaker 1: the on the on the on the of the podcast 875 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:34,759 Speaker 1: on the website, and we have comments on those episodes. 876 00:43:34,840 --> 00:43:37,080 Speaker 1: The first one from last week was our feedback show 877 00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:41,480 Speaker 1: nineteen ninety best podcast in the World, and we got 878 00:43:41,480 --> 00:43:44,840 Speaker 1: two comments in mindsets. Now I know how Rod feels 879 00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:47,880 Speaker 1: when we're ruin this jokes on Facebook. Lol. Let's side. 880 00:43:48,080 --> 00:43:50,520 Speaker 1: But I meant to ask if y'all knew any podcasts 881 00:43:50,520 --> 00:43:52,560 Speaker 1: that we're talking about Watchmen, because so far I've only 882 00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:54,880 Speaker 1: found two. For All Nerves had an episode about it, 883 00:43:54,920 --> 00:43:57,160 Speaker 1: and HBO has one, but it's only going to have 884 00:43:57,280 --> 00:43:59,600 Speaker 1: four episodes to talk about the show. I got nervous 885 00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:01,359 Speaker 1: in my voice, so it didn't come out right. I'm 886 00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,560 Speaker 1: starting to think some podcasts aren't going to talk about 887 00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:05,640 Speaker 1: it until the entire season is over. I'm a fan 888 00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:07,560 Speaker 1: of the movie in the graphic novel, so each episode 889 00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:11,120 Speaker 1: is such a treat. Love y'all a mine. I watch 890 00:44:11,160 --> 00:44:14,320 Speaker 1: every episode. I do not want to podcast every episode, 891 00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:18,960 Speaker 1: and I don't know who is I'm sorry that I 892 00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:21,080 Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, it's got to. 893 00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:23,200 Speaker 4: Be somebody doing it. 894 00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:24,719 Speaker 1: It's got to be some black people doing it, because 895 00:44:24,719 --> 00:44:27,080 Speaker 1: they started those first two episodes with black history shit, 896 00:44:27,239 --> 00:44:30,319 Speaker 1: and you know, black people was really impressed by that. 897 00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:34,000 Speaker 1: The last two episodes don't have that in it necessarily, 898 00:44:34,040 --> 00:44:36,719 Speaker 1: but it's related to the story, so you know why 899 00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:38,879 Speaker 1: they might not have those code opens, they do have 900 00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,000 Speaker 1: the same elements. So I mean, hopefully people are still 901 00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,279 Speaker 1: supporting them podcasting it. I just don't. I just didn't 902 00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:47,560 Speaker 1: want it to be worked for myself. So I and 903 00:44:47,600 --> 00:44:49,520 Speaker 1: the other thing you have to remember, I don't listen 904 00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:53,279 Speaker 1: to review podcasts like movies, TV shows. I have my 905 00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:55,640 Speaker 1: own opinions. I don't need to know yours. You know. 906 00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:57,839 Speaker 1: I don't even really like when I see videos they 907 00:44:57,840 --> 00:44:59,600 Speaker 1: give me all the spoilers and east AG's and something, 908 00:44:59,640 --> 00:45:01,680 Speaker 1: because I'm like, if I couldn't figure it out myself, 909 00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:05,319 Speaker 1: then it wasn't that important, Like real talk. I saw 910 00:45:05,400 --> 00:45:07,879 Speaker 1: one for Watchman, and that shit was like ten minutes 911 00:45:07,920 --> 00:45:09,600 Speaker 1: long and it was only the first episode, Like did 912 00:45:09,640 --> 00:45:11,040 Speaker 1: you know this and this and this? I was like, 913 00:45:11,080 --> 00:45:13,440 Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck about that, Like unless it's 914 00:45:13,440 --> 00:45:17,560 Speaker 1: gonna come up in the story again. Okay, anyway, even 915 00:45:17,600 --> 00:45:19,879 Speaker 1: he says, you have slender arbage for the last time, 916 00:45:19,960 --> 00:45:24,800 Speaker 1: Wait until Christmas, waitin till Christmas for what some arbas 917 00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:30,160 Speaker 1: gift cards is? That was just is this a threat? Anyway? 918 00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:33,440 Speaker 1: That's what Karen says. 919 00:45:34,480 --> 00:45:36,799 Speaker 4: Uh, you know, she's adventurous. 920 00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:39,799 Speaker 1: She ordered chicken, gives it yackaty so yeah, she don't 921 00:45:39,800 --> 00:45:40,360 Speaker 1: mind throwing it. 922 00:45:40,640 --> 00:45:42,680 Speaker 2: Was not good, pay for it. 923 00:45:43,400 --> 00:45:45,239 Speaker 4: She don't mind throwing somebody's money in the trash. 924 00:45:45,320 --> 00:45:48,800 Speaker 1: Somebody paid for it and it went straight to the trash. 925 00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:50,080 Speaker 2: It was not good. 926 00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:53,680 Speaker 1: Do you do you read books? Audiobooks count too? Yes 927 00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:57,160 Speaker 1: all the time, yes, but rarely no, not really no, Karen, 928 00:45:59,520 --> 00:46:03,640 Speaker 1: audio books they count. So I'm saying, do you read yes. 929 00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:05,680 Speaker 2: Yes, audiobooks and comic books. 930 00:46:05,520 --> 00:46:09,239 Speaker 1: Yes, so yeah, so uh fifty percent say yes all 931 00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:12,080 Speaker 1: the time. I know I read all the time, uh 932 00:46:12,120 --> 00:46:13,600 Speaker 1: because I read comics all the time. 933 00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:16,160 Speaker 4: But then I added long form. 934 00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:18,520 Speaker 1: Books this year, and so now it's really all the 935 00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:19,880 Speaker 1: time and I'm gonna try to keep it up. 936 00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:22,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, for me, it's comic books and audiobooks is new 937 00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:24,760 Speaker 2: for me, you know, going through the Harry Potter series. 938 00:46:24,760 --> 00:46:27,000 Speaker 2: But audiobooks is kind of new for me because audio 939 00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:30,960 Speaker 2: books are similar to podcasts to me. So for the audiobooks, 940 00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:32,759 Speaker 2: you actually need to be really really good at it 941 00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:36,400 Speaker 2: to keep my attention. So when I do it, I 942 00:46:36,480 --> 00:46:39,400 Speaker 2: kind of pump for some of the better quality ones 943 00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:43,719 Speaker 2: because they are almost like like what you call those 944 00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:46,160 Speaker 2: audio dramas type of things when you do this in 945 00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:48,239 Speaker 2: to audio books. And then sometimes it take a break. 946 00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:50,239 Speaker 2: Sometimes we play video games for months and months on end. 947 00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:53,720 Speaker 1: Then I come back yep, and I got my library 948 00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:57,680 Speaker 1: card now, so maybe I'll do some physical books. See uh, 949 00:46:57,719 --> 00:47:00,000 Speaker 1: fifty say yes all the time, thirty five percent say 950 00:47:00,080 --> 00:47:02,600 Speaker 1: yes but rarely, and tim percent say not really No. 951 00:47:03,360 --> 00:47:05,840 Speaker 1: We had comments. Brooklyn shoe Base says, I love reading 952 00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:08,120 Speaker 1: audio kindo and traditional. I'm a slow reader, so it 953 00:47:08,160 --> 00:47:10,719 Speaker 1: frustrates me because there's so many titles on my read 954 00:47:10,880 --> 00:47:13,320 Speaker 1: list plus on the library, and I'm around new books 955 00:47:13,320 --> 00:47:15,319 Speaker 1: all the time, so many books, so little time. Yes, 956 00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:18,120 Speaker 1: man as a the Kendle is the is the number 957 00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:20,120 Speaker 1: one drug dealer for me because it's like I read something, 958 00:47:20,160 --> 00:47:22,000 Speaker 1: it's like, hey what about this? 959 00:47:22,080 --> 00:47:24,880 Speaker 4: Though, I'm like, you know, we got to sell you know, 960 00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:25,440 Speaker 4: we give you fight. 961 00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:28,360 Speaker 1: I was off this book, I'm with that crack gotta 962 00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:31,000 Speaker 1: do it, and mom says, I love books, And now 963 00:47:31,040 --> 00:47:34,440 Speaker 1: I'm really rolling deep because a while back I downloaded Hoopla. 964 00:47:34,640 --> 00:47:38,480 Speaker 1: The Hoopla app with de pairs with local libraries so 965 00:47:38,560 --> 00:47:41,239 Speaker 1: I could check out ebooks and audiobooks. I also love 966 00:47:41,320 --> 00:47:44,720 Speaker 1: taking my daughter to the library. She feels so grown 967 00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:47,000 Speaker 1: up because the library has self check out kiosk. 968 00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:49,880 Speaker 4: Now when I was now, when I was in high school, I. 969 00:47:49,840 --> 00:47:51,799 Speaker 1: Could read three books at once. Of course I had 970 00:47:51,840 --> 00:47:53,880 Speaker 1: the time, and I loved how weird my dreams would be. 971 00:47:54,160 --> 00:47:57,799 Speaker 1: But now I just do two and one usually is 972 00:47:57,840 --> 00:48:00,600 Speaker 1: an audio book. I used to be snooty about audiobooks 973 00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:02,799 Speaker 1: and didn't think they counted, but now it's a busy mom, 974 00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:04,160 Speaker 1: wife and small business owner. 975 00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:04,879 Speaker 4: I love them. 976 00:48:06,000 --> 00:48:09,120 Speaker 2: Audiobooks count. I know a lot of people, but like you, 977 00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:11,680 Speaker 2: didn't read what I said in my brain. I sat 978 00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:15,760 Speaker 2: through hours and hours and hours of somebody talking. 979 00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:18,120 Speaker 1: So well, if I can tell you what happened and 980 00:48:18,239 --> 00:48:21,280 Speaker 1: I read it, come out. It's about getting the information 981 00:48:21,320 --> 00:48:24,960 Speaker 1: into your brain. What about people that are blind? You 982 00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:28,120 Speaker 1: know only broil counts. Get the fuck out of my face. Anyway, 983 00:48:29,680 --> 00:48:31,240 Speaker 1: I don't know why I just got mad at fictional 984 00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:33,680 Speaker 1: person that said that. I'm sorry, fictional person, you didn't 985 00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:39,239 Speaker 1: do anything to me directly, motherfucker that don't exist. Get 986 00:48:39,239 --> 00:48:39,840 Speaker 1: out of my face. 987 00:48:39,920 --> 00:48:42,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, because I was looking at that. Because Terry Potter 988 00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:44,680 Speaker 2: is like seven books, and like it takes a few 989 00:48:44,719 --> 00:48:48,040 Speaker 2: hours to get through several, you know, each one, so 990 00:48:48,080 --> 00:48:49,640 Speaker 2: by the time you might be like a twenty or 991 00:48:49,680 --> 00:48:51,759 Speaker 2: thirty hour book, there's probably the same amount of time. 992 00:48:52,000 --> 00:48:53,359 Speaker 2: You know, if you're a quick reader, you probably get 993 00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:54,879 Speaker 2: through it quick. You know. Some people read them shits 994 00:48:54,920 --> 00:48:57,200 Speaker 2: to me like zoom zom zoom, But I'm like, I'm 995 00:48:57,239 --> 00:48:59,480 Speaker 2: like the library. I'm not the cook of a reader, 996 00:48:59,560 --> 00:49:01,360 Speaker 2: so a lot of actually more convenient for me to 997 00:49:01,400 --> 00:49:02,239 Speaker 2: do an audiobook. 998 00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:07,400 Speaker 1: I love them in the audiobook series MENTI is particularly 999 00:49:07,400 --> 00:49:09,960 Speaker 1: delightful because I read the trilogy then listen to the audiobook. 1000 00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,560 Speaker 1: The voice actions are so good. That's what makes breaks 1001 00:49:12,560 --> 00:49:15,919 Speaker 1: an audiobook for me. The voice acting agreed. Alicia says, 1002 00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,000 Speaker 1: I love to read, but just don't have time anymore. 1003 00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:20,040 Speaker 1: These damn kids take up so much of my time. 1004 00:49:20,320 --> 00:49:22,400 Speaker 1: I'm like Brooklyn Shoe Baby, I have so many books 1005 00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:23,759 Speaker 1: on my list that I want to get to. My 1006 00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,520 Speaker 1: coworker who also has given has children, gives me a 1007 00:49:27,600 --> 00:49:29,799 Speaker 1: reading hack. The other day she said, hide in the 1008 00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:32,759 Speaker 1: bathroom to read smart. A lot of people book in 1009 00:49:32,760 --> 00:49:33,280 Speaker 1: the bathroom. 1010 00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:35,520 Speaker 2: Yeah, we've done studies. It's something about that, how women 1011 00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:38,400 Speaker 2: like lock themselves in the bathrooms for like extensive periods 1012 00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:41,000 Speaker 2: of time and be like, fuck it, this is one 1013 00:49:41,000 --> 00:49:43,640 Speaker 2: place you are not allowed to be in a younger dad, 1014 00:49:43,640 --> 00:49:46,880 Speaker 2: as long as the house ain't on five, leave me alone, keep. 1015 00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:49,719 Speaker 1: A book in the bathroom talk. Ms Barnes says, I 1016 00:49:49,800 --> 00:49:55,000 Speaker 1: love my books, graphic novels, smiley face. It's something about 1017 00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:57,879 Speaker 1: cracking open a book and just absorbing the material. It's 1018 00:49:57,920 --> 00:50:00,319 Speaker 1: the most relaxing thing I can that I can do. Yeah, 1019 00:50:00,360 --> 00:50:02,839 Speaker 1: I find a lot of relaxation and peace in it. 1020 00:50:03,080 --> 00:50:07,680 Speaker 1: I actually put together some patio furniture, just some cheap 1021 00:50:07,680 --> 00:50:09,960 Speaker 1: shit I got off of Amazon, nothing too expensive, but 1022 00:50:10,000 --> 00:50:13,320 Speaker 1: something sturdy with a table and two chairs. I actually 1023 00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:16,760 Speaker 1: put it together this week so I can go outside 1024 00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,040 Speaker 1: and read my books. And I go out there with 1025 00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:22,280 Speaker 1: some coffee and you know, wrap myself in an Infinity 1026 00:50:22,320 --> 00:50:26,759 Speaker 1: SCF and you know, sip my pumpkin spice coffee and 1027 00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:30,440 Speaker 1: read books all to live long. It's good. It's like 1028 00:50:30,480 --> 00:50:35,720 Speaker 1: a meditation or therapy or something, because it's like twenty 1029 00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:40,440 Speaker 1: fifty hour minutes of just your brain absorbing something without 1030 00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:43,760 Speaker 1: you like look trying to respond to it, without hopping 1031 00:50:43,800 --> 00:50:47,760 Speaker 1: on Twitter, without you know, looking at the text like you're. 1032 00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:48,480 Speaker 2: Trying to disconnect. 1033 00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:48,759 Speaker 1: Yeah. 1034 00:50:49,200 --> 00:50:52,359 Speaker 2: And also you got me thinking you put that out, 1035 00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:55,600 Speaker 2: Oh this is so pretty. And so now when I 1036 00:50:55,600 --> 00:50:58,600 Speaker 2: get a chance, I want to clean up back there, 1037 00:50:58,680 --> 00:51:00,919 Speaker 2: and I want to I was looking online to see 1038 00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:03,440 Speaker 2: if I can find something to hang like flowers and 1039 00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:05,480 Speaker 2: things like that around to kind of spruce it up. 1040 00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:07,319 Speaker 2: So you really got me kind of thinking. I went 1041 00:51:07,360 --> 00:51:10,160 Speaker 2: online and was looking like ideas for like small patio, 1042 00:51:10,200 --> 00:51:12,440 Speaker 2: and they had like some really neat, cheap ideas that 1043 00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:15,520 Speaker 2: we can kind of spruce that area back there up. 1044 00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:17,480 Speaker 2: You know, because I got a black thumb. You know, 1045 00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:20,000 Speaker 2: I kill plants. If you won't throw plants dead, give 1046 00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:22,040 Speaker 2: it to me. It is on the it's on the 1047 00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:22,640 Speaker 2: death list. 1048 00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:23,560 Speaker 1: Mm hm. 1049 00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:26,000 Speaker 2: So I'm gonna try to do better about that. You know, 1050 00:51:26,000 --> 00:51:28,520 Speaker 2: people talking about you can't kill this bitch, watchman. I 1051 00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:29,880 Speaker 2: am a plant murderer. 1052 00:51:30,320 --> 00:51:32,840 Speaker 1: We'll see. I'm trying to get better. I bought an 1053 00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,120 Speaker 1: African ballet that I take out there with me, but 1054 00:51:35,160 --> 00:51:38,080 Speaker 1: then I bring it back in because it needs indoor heat. 1055 00:51:38,600 --> 00:51:40,680 Speaker 1: Like if it gets you cold, it's gonna die. So 1056 00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:42,520 Speaker 1: I just take it out there what I'm reading and 1057 00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:44,399 Speaker 1: I need to get a pot for it. And turning 1058 00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:46,440 Speaker 1: to a white woman, y'all, And you know what, as 1059 00:51:46,440 --> 00:51:48,880 Speaker 1: a white woman of color, I recommend it to everyone. 1060 00:51:48,960 --> 00:51:51,520 Speaker 4: It's less stress. These negroes will stress you out. 1061 00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:53,200 Speaker 1: Okay. I don't have time to be arguing with you 1062 00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:55,680 Speaker 1: guys about Obama, all right, I have books. 1063 00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:58,080 Speaker 2: To read, no, and and and it really got me, 1064 00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,560 Speaker 2: uh thinking, because, like I said, I'm actually too turning. Well, 1065 00:52:01,600 --> 00:52:03,359 Speaker 2: I was already a white woman of color. I'm actually 1066 00:52:03,400 --> 00:52:05,600 Speaker 2: able to get to get to get upgrade. 1067 00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:08,760 Speaker 1: You other white woman of color, racist against black people 1068 00:52:08,840 --> 00:52:09,720 Speaker 1: and that kind of stuff. 1069 00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:14,120 Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no no no, not that kind of no 1070 00:52:14,120 --> 00:52:17,200 Speaker 2: no no no no no no, no no no no. 1071 00:52:18,000 --> 00:52:20,719 Speaker 1: I call them niggers. You call them nigs. Okay, we're 1072 00:52:20,719 --> 00:52:23,520 Speaker 1: from different parts of the country and white women I'm 1073 00:52:23,520 --> 00:52:24,160 Speaker 1: from main. 1074 00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:33,080 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, and it's making me think about it because 1075 00:52:33,239 --> 00:52:36,080 Speaker 2: you know, I've never been like no outdoorsy type of person. This, 1076 00:52:36,160 --> 00:52:38,399 Speaker 2: so this is one thing. I go, Okay, I can 1077 00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:41,279 Speaker 2: kind of this is a compromise. Well, I ain't got 1078 00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:43,600 Speaker 2: to go out there and fuck around with dirt, you know, 1079 00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:45,239 Speaker 2: because you're still gonna do dirt, but it ain't like 1080 00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:48,160 Speaker 2: outside outside as far as like you know, like more 1081 00:52:48,239 --> 00:52:50,800 Speaker 2: my mama them God, I can deal with the unlimited, 1082 00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:55,360 Speaker 2: unlimited intake. And also it's one of the things where 1083 00:52:55,600 --> 00:52:57,560 Speaker 2: they got things where you can grow herbs and ship 1084 00:52:57,680 --> 00:52:59,040 Speaker 2: like that. I was like, you know what, we can 1085 00:52:59,160 --> 00:53:00,920 Speaker 2: you know what, we can suck around and have some 1086 00:53:00,920 --> 00:53:03,160 Speaker 2: some line troll and some shit out there because they 1087 00:53:03,200 --> 00:53:04,719 Speaker 2: have like little things you can do. And hang, I 1088 00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:06,960 Speaker 2: was like, this is neat. So yeah, I'm starting to 1089 00:53:07,080 --> 00:53:10,399 Speaker 2: think a little ideas on little things, you know, that 1090 00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:12,360 Speaker 2: we could do to kind of spruce it up and 1091 00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:12,960 Speaker 2: make it greener. 1092 00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:17,400 Speaker 4: As long as I don't see that cat, No, that cat. 1093 00:53:17,239 --> 00:53:19,000 Speaker 2: The stairs the stairs at us, I don't know. I 1094 00:53:19,239 --> 00:53:20,960 Speaker 2: think I think he might have got us fill up home. 1095 00:53:21,000 --> 00:53:22,080 Speaker 2: He didn't let us alone. 1096 00:53:23,080 --> 00:53:26,319 Speaker 1: Back to this, it's something about cracking over the book 1097 00:53:26,320 --> 00:53:28,160 Speaker 1: and just observing with tailors. Most last thing I could 1098 00:53:28,200 --> 00:53:29,960 Speaker 1: do turn on my phone brewce some coffee and just 1099 00:53:30,040 --> 00:53:33,280 Speaker 1: dive into my pages. When I'm on vacation, I'm dragging 1100 00:53:33,280 --> 00:53:35,200 Speaker 1: the book sitting by my pool. By the pool just 1101 00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:37,839 Speaker 1: reading audiobooks serve that purpose is fine and groovy, but 1102 00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:40,160 Speaker 1: the whole the book, smelling pages, dog getting pages is 1103 00:53:40,200 --> 00:53:43,919 Speaker 1: just wonderful. Yeah. I used to read physical books more, 1104 00:53:43,960 --> 00:53:46,439 Speaker 1: but then I also realized, in addition taking up face, 1105 00:53:47,760 --> 00:53:55,000 Speaker 1: I like the convenience of being able to take h 1106 00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:59,279 Speaker 1: take my finger and highlight quote and it keeps my 1107 00:53:59,320 --> 00:54:00,080 Speaker 1: notes for me. 1108 00:54:01,160 --> 00:54:03,080 Speaker 4: Like that's That's so dope. 1109 00:54:03,760 --> 00:54:03,880 Speaker 2: Uh. 1110 00:54:03,960 --> 00:54:07,279 Speaker 1: The next episode we did was nineteen ninety one. Check 1111 00:54:07,320 --> 00:54:11,680 Speaker 1: Her Hymen Wild as the Taliban. Ah ah, check her 1112 00:54:11,760 --> 00:54:15,600 Speaker 1: how Man Wild as a Taliban. We talked about ti 1113 00:54:15,760 --> 00:54:21,880 Speaker 1: his proclivities. Let's see, Aman says, I'm with Karen, ti 1114 00:54:21,920 --> 00:54:23,960 Speaker 1: I putting his daughter's medical information out there as such 1115 00:54:24,000 --> 00:54:28,880 Speaker 1: a betrayal, bad judgment and potentially dangerous. And there are 1116 00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:32,719 Speaker 1: lots of guys who like virgins. Trust. Of course, there's 1117 00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:34,880 Speaker 1: also lots of creepy dudes who like virgins, and t I, 1118 00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:37,440 Speaker 1: being who he is, he probably alerted all those dudes. 1119 00:54:38,200 --> 00:54:41,440 Speaker 1: If she ever gets very is she going to ask 1120 00:54:41,640 --> 00:54:42,759 Speaker 1: for her first night sheet? 1121 00:54:42,840 --> 00:54:44,560 Speaker 4: Is he gonna ask for her first night sheets too? 1122 00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:44,880 Speaker 3: Uh? 1123 00:54:45,040 --> 00:54:48,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, Well, in lighter topics and my culture, auntie and 1124 00:54:48,680 --> 00:54:51,640 Speaker 1: uncle can be as any close friend of your parents 1125 00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:56,400 Speaker 1: or anyone your parents' age or older as our uh 1126 00:54:56,600 --> 00:54:59,200 Speaker 1: at our masjid. I don't know if I pronounced that right, 1127 00:54:59,200 --> 00:55:02,440 Speaker 1: and I'm sorry if uh so. Any race could be 1128 00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,480 Speaker 1: an auntie or uncle. But once the debate started, I 1129 00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:08,040 Speaker 1: told my sister I'm off the uncle Joe stuff. She 1130 00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:10,000 Speaker 1: assisted that she's still calling him that as long as 1131 00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:13,200 Speaker 1: he rides for Obama. Then I say, but Obama told 1132 00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:15,480 Speaker 1: his his out of touch ass not to do this, 1133 00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:17,920 Speaker 1: shaking my head lol. 1134 00:55:18,560 --> 00:55:20,920 Speaker 4: Maybe it's because she's older. I don't know. For now, 1135 00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:22,359 Speaker 4: we laugh about it, love y'all. 1136 00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:26,120 Speaker 1: A man, Yeah, I like man, I know it's unpopular 1137 00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:28,919 Speaker 1: as fuck, but in the woke circles, but I real talk. 1138 00:55:28,960 --> 00:55:30,759 Speaker 1: If Joe Biden wins, I have no problem voting for 1139 00:55:30,840 --> 00:55:33,160 Speaker 1: him the same I don't have. I don't have a 1140 00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:36,040 Speaker 1: problem voting for any of the Democratic candidates that are 1141 00:55:36,080 --> 00:55:39,680 Speaker 1: in the top like five to seven, like I like, 1142 00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:42,359 Speaker 1: literally I'll pull the lever for them and won't give 1143 00:55:42,400 --> 00:55:45,399 Speaker 1: a fuck, Like I know, I know what the steaks are, 1144 00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:48,239 Speaker 1: and that's all it really takes. You know, if it 1145 00:55:48,360 --> 00:55:50,520 Speaker 1: was like Toasy Gabbard or some shit, then obviously I 1146 00:55:50,560 --> 00:55:52,320 Speaker 1: would be like, now, I have a lot of trepidation 1147 00:55:52,360 --> 00:55:54,400 Speaker 1: about this person. I'm not even sure they're Democrat, but 1148 00:55:54,760 --> 00:55:55,480 Speaker 1: correct yeah. 1149 00:55:56,040 --> 00:55:56,120 Speaker 2: Uh. 1150 00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:58,760 Speaker 1: Brooklyn shoe Bay says the policing of a black people's 1151 00:55:58,800 --> 00:56:02,160 Speaker 1: bodies causes it pa generational trauma. And yes, I learned 1152 00:56:02,200 --> 00:56:04,120 Speaker 1: all those phrases within the last two years, but I've 1153 00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:06,719 Speaker 1: been dealing with that trauma for decades. That just mehan, 1154 00:56:06,760 --> 00:56:09,800 Speaker 1: you find the words for it. I was primarily raised 1155 00:56:09,800 --> 00:56:12,320 Speaker 1: by my grandma because my mom was twenty and unmarried 1156 00:56:12,360 --> 00:56:14,200 Speaker 1: when she gave birth to my twin brother and me. 1157 00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:16,719 Speaker 1: I swear my grandma and I had an okay relationship, 1158 00:56:16,719 --> 00:56:18,960 Speaker 1: although she was really strict until I started high school. 1159 00:56:19,160 --> 00:56:21,000 Speaker 1: She didn't want me riding the bus in the skirt 1160 00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:25,440 Speaker 1: and thought back black clothes were for grown women. She 1161 00:56:25,600 --> 00:56:28,000 Speaker 1: started accusing me of having sex with boys in school, 1162 00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:29,920 Speaker 1: asked if I was having three somilar two boys I 1163 00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:32,720 Speaker 1: used to hang out with from school newspaper, and accused 1164 00:56:32,719 --> 00:56:34,600 Speaker 1: me of trading sex for a ride home from a 1165 00:56:34,640 --> 00:56:37,560 Speaker 1: male classmate who drove me home when I was sick. 1166 00:56:38,440 --> 00:56:40,200 Speaker 1: She and my aunt believed that I only wanted to 1167 00:56:40,239 --> 00:56:42,279 Speaker 1: do at the school clubs because some boy put me 1168 00:56:42,400 --> 00:56:44,000 Speaker 1: up to it. She hated that I would call boys 1169 00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:45,880 Speaker 1: on the phone the same way I would call my girlfriends, 1170 00:56:46,040 --> 00:56:47,800 Speaker 1: and when she found out I had sex in college, 1171 00:56:47,840 --> 00:56:48,799 Speaker 1: she stopped talking to me. 1172 00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:52,279 Speaker 4: A year later, I moved out. My mom was no better. 1173 00:56:52,400 --> 00:56:55,280 Speaker 1: Everything about sex was bad, even when I was married 1174 00:56:55,320 --> 00:56:58,319 Speaker 1: and would ask for advice. My value literally was tied 1175 00:56:58,400 --> 00:57:01,000 Speaker 1: up in my virginity and how my how many sexual 1176 00:57:01,040 --> 00:57:04,560 Speaker 1: partners I had. When I suffered infertility and multiple miscarriages 1177 00:57:04,560 --> 00:57:06,720 Speaker 1: in my late twenties and early thirties, I was convinced 1178 00:57:06,719 --> 00:57:08,680 Speaker 1: it was punishment for having pre marital sex. 1179 00:57:09,000 --> 00:57:10,919 Speaker 2: Wow. Baby, and they. 1180 00:57:10,840 --> 00:57:11,799 Speaker 4: Put a head trip on you. 1181 00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:14,759 Speaker 1: Wow. It played a great part in my depression and 1182 00:57:14,840 --> 00:57:18,600 Speaker 1: subsequent suicide attempt in two thousand and one. Besides sexuality, 1183 00:57:18,640 --> 00:57:21,160 Speaker 1: my weight and what I eat was also instilled police 1184 00:57:21,200 --> 00:57:25,040 Speaker 1: and criticized by my family. I know that feeling not 1185 00:57:25,160 --> 00:57:28,640 Speaker 1: the obviously not the miscarriage stuff, but I definitely have 1186 00:57:28,800 --> 00:57:31,480 Speaker 1: had family members just say some wold shit to me 1187 00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:35,600 Speaker 1: or I'm like, okay, so this is happening. I guess 1188 00:57:35,680 --> 00:57:37,400 Speaker 1: I got to sit here and get a lectured about 1189 00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:40,280 Speaker 1: my weight real quick. All right, it's because of this 1190 00:57:40,360 --> 00:57:42,000 Speaker 1: I've gone out of my way to raise my daughters 1191 00:57:42,000 --> 00:57:44,680 Speaker 1: in a body positive and sexually positive home. I remember 1192 00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:47,680 Speaker 1: forbidding my nanny from using self deprecating humor in front 1193 00:57:47,720 --> 00:57:49,680 Speaker 1: of my girls because I didn't want them to think 1194 00:57:49,720 --> 00:57:51,680 Speaker 1: it was ever okay to talk bad about themselves. 1195 00:57:52,040 --> 00:57:53,640 Speaker 4: They are twelve and fourteen years old now. 1196 00:57:53,640 --> 00:57:55,280 Speaker 1: They will tell you that I talk about sex and 1197 00:57:55,280 --> 00:57:57,720 Speaker 1: reproductive health and how patriarchy police is women's bodies a 1198 00:57:57,760 --> 00:58:00,320 Speaker 1: little too much. I tell them that people are stupid, 1199 00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:01,680 Speaker 1: and I want them to be the smartest person in 1200 00:58:01,680 --> 00:58:03,919 Speaker 1: the room when it comes to their bodies. I tell 1201 00:58:03,920 --> 00:58:06,080 Speaker 1: them that their father and I would prefer they wait 1202 00:58:06,160 --> 00:58:07,919 Speaker 1: until after high school to have sex, but we can't 1203 00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:09,680 Speaker 1: stop them. We just want them to have all the 1204 00:58:09,720 --> 00:58:12,640 Speaker 1: tubs to make a decision for what's right for them. Yeah. 1205 00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:14,480 Speaker 1: I think one of the things that the TI I 1206 00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:18,680 Speaker 1: think that was very disappointing was I shouldn't say disappointed, 1207 00:58:18,680 --> 00:58:23,400 Speaker 1: it predictable. It's very predictable because internet discussions go extremely. 1208 00:58:22,960 --> 00:58:26,640 Speaker 4: Black or white. It was very much like your either team. 1209 00:58:27,000 --> 00:58:29,560 Speaker 1: I let my seven year old have sex with anyone 1210 00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:34,040 Speaker 1: they want to because a freedom, sexuality, empowerment. And then 1211 00:58:34,080 --> 00:58:37,000 Speaker 1: it was team like you lock her your way and 1212 00:58:37,120 --> 00:58:39,680 Speaker 1: fucking put her in a box until she's ready to 1213 00:58:39,680 --> 00:58:42,160 Speaker 1: get married and then she can pop out some babies. 1214 00:58:42,200 --> 00:58:44,120 Speaker 1: And it's like the truth of the matter, his parents 1215 00:58:44,120 --> 00:58:46,760 Speaker 1: do worry about their children having sex. You early, you 1216 00:58:46,800 --> 00:58:49,520 Speaker 1: do worry about your children are sexually active. That's not wrong, 1217 00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:52,439 Speaker 1: that's not bad to be like, because sex means there's 1218 00:58:52,440 --> 00:58:55,080 Speaker 1: a lot of responsibility with sex, and you do need 1219 00:58:55,120 --> 00:58:58,560 Speaker 1: to be at least of a certain mentality and maturity 1220 00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:03,400 Speaker 1: to handle something like that, because the consequences from not 1221 00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:09,880 Speaker 1: being responsible with sex can be lifelong consequences children, STDs. 1222 00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:13,600 Speaker 4: You know, not to mention some of these motherfuckers. 1223 00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:15,520 Speaker 1: We all have people you look back and be like, 1224 00:59:15,560 --> 00:59:18,280 Speaker 1: I regret that you know, and if you have more knowledge, 1225 00:59:18,400 --> 00:59:19,840 Speaker 1: be like, I see the warning signs of why you 1226 00:59:19,880 --> 00:59:21,400 Speaker 1: shouldn't fuck with this type of person. 1227 00:59:21,480 --> 00:59:21,680 Speaker 2: You know. 1228 00:59:21,880 --> 00:59:25,040 Speaker 1: So, yeah, there's a lot of stuff that comes along 1229 00:59:25,080 --> 00:59:28,520 Speaker 1: with it, and it's not wrong for a parent who's 1230 00:59:28,560 --> 00:59:31,960 Speaker 1: responsible for guiding a person into this world to at 1231 00:59:32,040 --> 00:59:35,520 Speaker 1: least be concerned about it. But then there's I'm going 1232 00:59:35,560 --> 00:59:38,040 Speaker 1: to the fucking doctor to check your hymen and that's 1233 00:59:38,160 --> 00:59:41,280 Speaker 1: clearly fucking wrong. There's you know, you can't. 1234 00:59:41,120 --> 00:59:45,360 Speaker 4: Wear uh uh. 1235 00:59:44,960 --> 00:59:47,640 Speaker 1: You know, like don't wear this certain type of shirt 1236 00:59:47,760 --> 00:59:51,520 Speaker 1: or something like that because you now you're being fast, 1237 00:59:51,560 --> 00:59:52,880 Speaker 1: so you got to stay in the house all day 1238 00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:55,160 Speaker 1: or you should be ashamed you're going titties. You should 1239 00:59:55,160 --> 00:59:59,360 Speaker 1: be ashamed of yourself. You have you have a boy 1240 00:59:59,440 --> 01:00:02,160 Speaker 1: that shows in you, now you're a whore. You're having 1241 01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:05,280 Speaker 1: sex with them. Like that's not healthy either, you know. 1242 01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,760 Speaker 1: So there's there's these in betweens that I think people 1243 01:00:08,480 --> 01:00:11,680 Speaker 1: glossed over because you know, the nuanced part of this 1244 01:00:11,720 --> 01:00:13,400 Speaker 1: shit is hard to live in. 1245 01:00:13,960 --> 01:00:18,040 Speaker 2: It. It really is very hard to live in. And 1246 01:00:18,680 --> 01:00:20,280 Speaker 2: don't I don't know if it's a general it's not 1247 01:00:20,320 --> 01:00:22,720 Speaker 2: a generational thing, because it's even some of us. Some 1248 01:00:22,760 --> 01:00:26,120 Speaker 2: people our age to picked up that same some of 1249 01:00:26,160 --> 01:00:28,400 Speaker 2: them went through it, yes, and they just passed that 1250 01:00:28,440 --> 01:00:30,920 Speaker 2: shit down. That's kind of some of the ship that, 1251 01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:32,680 Speaker 2: you know, kind of that I went through because the 1252 01:00:33,160 --> 01:00:36,760 Speaker 2: first time I had sex, I wasn't really I did 1253 01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:41,040 Speaker 2: not even understand what I was doing. I didn't understand 1254 01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:44,800 Speaker 2: what happened. Nobody ever talked to me, nobody explained anything 1255 01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:50,520 Speaker 2: to me, and it was embarrassing. And I love my mama, 1256 01:00:50,560 --> 01:00:53,280 Speaker 2: but she threatened to kill me. I literally had to 1257 01:00:53,400 --> 01:00:55,520 Speaker 2: run and like like myself in the room, actually had 1258 01:00:55,520 --> 01:00:57,320 Speaker 2: to call one of my aunts to actually come over 1259 01:00:57,360 --> 01:01:02,520 Speaker 2: there to calm her down. And it was one of 1260 01:01:02,560 --> 01:01:08,600 Speaker 2: those things to where at that point that she had 1261 01:01:08,640 --> 01:01:10,200 Speaker 2: already done and I love my mam, but she had 1262 01:01:10,200 --> 01:01:12,920 Speaker 2: already done things to break that bond. But after that, 1263 01:01:12,920 --> 01:01:15,600 Speaker 2: that bond was broken forever and it has never been prepared. 1264 01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:18,360 Speaker 2: I love her, but there's some things I just don't 1265 01:01:18,400 --> 01:01:20,400 Speaker 2: talk or discuss or bring up with her. I just 1266 01:01:20,480 --> 01:01:24,360 Speaker 2: can't because I don't trust you and I will never 1267 01:01:24,400 --> 01:01:27,880 Speaker 2: trust you in that manner again. And so, you know, 1268 01:01:27,960 --> 01:01:32,520 Speaker 2: after that, we never really talked about anything it's particularly sexist, 1269 01:01:32,520 --> 01:01:35,560 Speaker 2: sexual related and anything like that. Because I was a 1270 01:01:35,600 --> 01:01:37,800 Speaker 2: ward of the state, I actually did a lot of 1271 01:01:37,800 --> 01:01:41,920 Speaker 2: my health stuff kind of own my own. You know, 1272 01:01:42,480 --> 01:01:45,680 Speaker 2: I got myself on birth control pills. You know, I 1273 01:01:45,720 --> 01:01:47,360 Speaker 2: went to doctor. I wanted to be on you know, 1274 01:01:47,440 --> 01:01:49,520 Speaker 2: birth control pills. And the thing is it was more 1275 01:01:49,520 --> 01:01:51,160 Speaker 2: of I wanted to be on birth control pills so 1276 01:01:51,160 --> 01:01:53,240 Speaker 2: she could quit fucking harassing me about my period, because 1277 01:01:53,240 --> 01:01:55,479 Speaker 2: like I said, I said this for my period would 1278 01:01:55,520 --> 01:01:58,960 Speaker 2: come on, be gone three months, come on six months straight, 1279 01:01:59,040 --> 01:02:00,560 Speaker 2: be going another six month. I didn't know what the 1280 01:02:00,560 --> 01:02:02,320 Speaker 2: fuck it was doing, and so she would hound me, 1281 01:02:02,360 --> 01:02:04,600 Speaker 2: assuming I was pregnant at having sex. But like, where 1282 01:02:04,680 --> 01:02:06,160 Speaker 2: is the bitch? I don't know either, nobody knows what 1283 01:02:06,280 --> 01:02:08,760 Speaker 2: the fuck it is. We're all ill thinkerfeuse, I can't 1284 01:02:08,800 --> 01:02:11,919 Speaker 2: make it fucking appear just because you harass me every month. 1285 01:02:12,280 --> 01:02:14,080 Speaker 2: So you know, so it was like I got on 1286 01:02:14,080 --> 01:02:17,240 Speaker 2: birth control pier feels more for that and more so 1287 01:02:17,240 --> 01:02:20,040 Speaker 2: she could quit hounding me, and and and then it 1288 01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:22,520 Speaker 2: actually gave me a hormonal balance, so my peers wasn't 1289 01:02:22,520 --> 01:02:26,200 Speaker 2: as harsh and as hard. And you know, from then on, 1290 01:02:26,360 --> 01:02:29,320 Speaker 2: I did various types of birth control peels, but I 1291 01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:32,640 Speaker 2: was in control of my own health kind of after 1292 01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:36,680 Speaker 2: that point. And it's it's and that's the ship that 1293 01:02:36,800 --> 01:02:39,840 Speaker 2: you know, dudes not so funny. Boys don't care, you know, 1294 01:02:39,880 --> 01:02:42,720 Speaker 2: they don't care. They don't understand the things that women 1295 01:02:42,760 --> 01:02:43,400 Speaker 2: have to go through. 1296 01:02:43,440 --> 01:02:47,040 Speaker 1: Because the only time people get mad at boys were 1297 01:02:47,080 --> 01:02:49,400 Speaker 1: having sex early is if they bring home like a kid. 1298 01:02:50,040 --> 01:02:52,479 Speaker 1: No one goes you've been having sex with the fuck 1299 01:02:52,640 --> 01:02:55,280 Speaker 1: Like it's you know, if they find out that, like 1300 01:02:55,320 --> 01:02:58,320 Speaker 1: with boys, are are you being responsible? Are you wearing 1301 01:02:58,320 --> 01:03:01,160 Speaker 1: a condo? They don't? We bringing no babies up in here? 1302 01:03:01,240 --> 01:03:04,520 Speaker 1: That's it. You know, Like you might get hit if 1303 01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:06,280 Speaker 1: you bring a child at home, but you're not getting 1304 01:03:06,360 --> 01:03:10,280 Speaker 1: hit for just having sex. What girls get beat for 1305 01:03:10,320 --> 01:03:13,520 Speaker 1: that shit? Like it's totally different the ownership they feel 1306 01:03:13,600 --> 01:03:17,640 Speaker 1: towards girls, and it's all to protect them quote unquote, 1307 01:03:17,840 --> 01:03:19,120 Speaker 1: but it's by traumatizing you. 1308 01:03:19,160 --> 01:03:21,360 Speaker 4: I'm protecting you by traumatizing you, right, and. 1309 01:03:21,560 --> 01:03:25,200 Speaker 2: It actually benefits nobody. It benefits nobody because after that 1310 01:03:25,280 --> 01:03:28,200 Speaker 2: particular experience, I felt like my body was dirty. I 1311 01:03:28,200 --> 01:03:31,880 Speaker 2: felt like my body was nasty, you know, I felt worthless, 1312 01:03:31,920 --> 01:03:34,280 Speaker 2: Like it's a lot of shit that happened. And you know, 1313 01:03:34,640 --> 01:03:38,440 Speaker 2: I have one aunt who actually asked me after the 1314 01:03:38,480 --> 01:03:40,760 Speaker 2: first time I was intimate and nobody else even asked 1315 01:03:40,760 --> 01:03:42,920 Speaker 2: me this. She was like, hey, baby, I want to 1316 01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:45,240 Speaker 2: ask you this. She was like, I wanted to be 1317 01:03:45,320 --> 01:03:48,160 Speaker 2: sure everything's okay and this and I love this under death, 1318 01:03:48,200 --> 01:03:51,200 Speaker 2: she was like, uh, what you raped? Did did did 1319 01:03:52,120 --> 01:03:56,280 Speaker 2: you know, people pusced themselves upon you. And I was like, no, ma'am, 1320 01:03:56,400 --> 01:03:59,800 Speaker 2: almost like this, you know, in my thing. The other 1321 01:04:00,640 --> 01:04:02,920 Speaker 2: didn't even care, didn't ask in care, and and and 1322 01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:08,520 Speaker 2: the thing is I wouldn't even had the words because 1323 01:04:08,520 --> 01:04:10,200 Speaker 2: I was really young. We didn't even had the words 1324 01:04:10,200 --> 01:04:12,560 Speaker 2: to explain. If they had, for I probably would have 1325 01:04:12,560 --> 01:04:16,240 Speaker 2: said no regardless, you know. But at least she cared 1326 01:04:16,360 --> 01:04:20,160 Speaker 2: enough to actually ask, hey, are you okay? You are right, 1327 01:04:20,400 --> 01:04:23,600 Speaker 2: you've been traumatized. We need to go get a police report, like, hey, 1328 01:04:23,960 --> 01:04:25,640 Speaker 2: you know, and this is the same what I called 1329 01:04:25,680 --> 01:04:28,520 Speaker 2: to come come my mama down, and so you know, 1330 01:04:29,200 --> 01:04:31,680 Speaker 2: she like and like I said, it is so fucked 1331 01:04:31,800 --> 01:04:34,760 Speaker 2: up how we don't give a fuck about little black girls, 1332 01:04:35,240 --> 01:04:39,840 Speaker 2: you know, and you know, as and and and also 1333 01:04:39,880 --> 01:04:42,920 Speaker 2: I think and I've gotten better, but I remember when 1334 01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:46,919 Speaker 2: we had the conversation about the period parties and how 1335 01:04:47,120 --> 01:04:49,760 Speaker 2: adamant I was, and I had to really think about it, 1336 01:04:49,840 --> 01:04:52,320 Speaker 2: why are you being ridiculous about this camp? Like I 1337 01:04:52,360 --> 01:04:55,320 Speaker 2: had to question myself like why why are these feelings 1338 01:04:55,360 --> 01:04:59,640 Speaker 2: so so visceral and so harsh and so anti? And 1339 01:04:59,720 --> 01:05:02,160 Speaker 2: I literally while we was talking, I literally had to 1340 01:05:02,360 --> 01:05:04,160 Speaker 2: run through my mind, it's because it was fucked up 1341 01:05:04,200 --> 01:05:06,320 Speaker 2: for me, right, you know. And because it was fucked 1342 01:05:06,360 --> 01:05:08,160 Speaker 2: up for me, I'm like, no, no, no, no, but. 1343 01:05:08,120 --> 01:05:10,240 Speaker 1: You were tired to be ashamed of it and shame 1344 01:05:10,320 --> 01:05:13,520 Speaker 1: of your body, so therefore no one gets to be 1345 01:05:13,560 --> 01:05:16,160 Speaker 1: proud of it. But it's really a celebration in womanhood. 1346 01:05:16,200 --> 01:05:18,920 Speaker 1: We had fucking bar mits for and botments for us 1347 01:05:19,320 --> 01:05:22,960 Speaker 1: in Jewish culture because you're becoming a man, you're becoming 1348 01:05:23,000 --> 01:05:26,240 Speaker 1: a woman, and yet here we go for you know, 1349 01:05:26,480 --> 01:05:29,080 Speaker 1: when it comes to girls, it's like, nah, that's now, 1350 01:05:29,160 --> 01:05:29,720 Speaker 1: this is now. 1351 01:05:29,840 --> 01:05:32,640 Speaker 4: You now have this terrible burden, right, you have this. 1352 01:05:32,680 --> 01:05:37,360 Speaker 2: Quote unquote terrible burden of womanhood. And the thing is, 1353 01:05:37,440 --> 01:05:40,120 Speaker 2: I remember when I was sixteen, I went to the 1354 01:05:41,080 --> 01:05:43,080 Speaker 2: actually playing parents, which you had a plant period, went 1355 01:05:43,120 --> 01:05:45,520 Speaker 2: to OGB Baynn and it was this white dude that 1356 01:05:45,640 --> 01:05:49,640 Speaker 2: was running my test and at the time I did 1357 01:05:49,720 --> 01:05:54,160 Speaker 2: not understand. Now I was an adult, I would have 1358 01:05:54,160 --> 01:05:55,919 Speaker 2: cussed him out, but it was one of the times 1359 01:05:55,920 --> 01:05:57,600 Speaker 2: where he was like, ooh, you're sixteen and you ain't 1360 01:05:57,640 --> 01:06:00,600 Speaker 2: got no kid. That's exactly what he said to me. 1361 01:06:01,280 --> 01:06:02,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, as an adult. 1362 01:06:02,320 --> 01:06:05,600 Speaker 2: I wo'd have been like the fuck, Like Uh, what 1363 01:06:05,680 --> 01:06:06,560 Speaker 2: is that supposed to be, sir? 1364 01:06:06,960 --> 01:06:07,120 Speaker 1: Right? 1365 01:06:07,920 --> 01:06:10,880 Speaker 2: Like? Uh, yeah, you know, but me as a child, 1366 01:06:10,880 --> 01:06:12,880 Speaker 2: and a lot of times I was going by myself, 1367 01:06:13,480 --> 01:06:16,520 Speaker 2: you know, so you in there, and that's the thing 1368 01:06:16,560 --> 01:06:17,800 Speaker 2: when you're young, you don't know. 1369 01:06:18,200 --> 01:06:21,040 Speaker 1: But you know what's interesting though, even now you probably 1370 01:06:21,360 --> 01:06:23,440 Speaker 1: knowing you, you wasn't cussing them out because that's not 1371 01:06:23,520 --> 01:06:26,200 Speaker 1: what you do, but it is offensive. You would be 1372 01:06:26,640 --> 01:06:28,640 Speaker 1: you'd be well within your rights to cuss the ass out. 1373 01:06:28,680 --> 01:06:31,919 Speaker 1: But I'm just saying you, that's not you like you. 1374 01:06:31,920 --> 01:06:34,200 Speaker 1: You you know, you probably just be like, what the 1375 01:06:34,200 --> 01:06:34,920 Speaker 1: fuck is wrong with this? 1376 01:06:35,040 --> 01:06:35,280 Speaker 5: Dude? 1377 01:06:35,320 --> 01:06:36,880 Speaker 1: I would be upset and then you would come home 1378 01:06:36,920 --> 01:06:38,560 Speaker 1: and tell me and be very upset. 1379 01:06:38,720 --> 01:06:42,000 Speaker 2: Yes that now, now that's that's the fact. Or either 1380 01:06:42,280 --> 01:06:44,760 Speaker 2: I would, if I was bold enough, I would actually 1381 01:06:44,840 --> 01:06:47,640 Speaker 2: go tell somebody, hey, something about him not right right? 1382 01:06:47,680 --> 01:06:50,440 Speaker 1: You know? And imagine who else he said that to correct? 1383 01:06:50,520 --> 01:06:52,600 Speaker 2: You know, as an adult it was like I mean, 1384 01:06:52,600 --> 01:06:54,480 Speaker 2: as a child, I told nobody. As an adult, I 1385 01:06:54,520 --> 01:06:57,280 Speaker 2: would have told somebody, like somebody else would have known 1386 01:06:57,320 --> 01:06:57,840 Speaker 2: this fuck. 1387 01:06:57,800 --> 01:07:01,520 Speaker 4: Because and you know that's because you're you know, because 1388 01:07:01,560 --> 01:07:02,200 Speaker 4: you're a black girl. 1389 01:07:02,440 --> 01:07:02,640 Speaker 1: Right. 1390 01:07:02,840 --> 01:07:06,760 Speaker 2: So I'm sixteen and Okay, like the fuck that got 1391 01:07:06,760 --> 01:07:07,320 Speaker 2: to do it right? 1392 01:07:07,400 --> 01:07:10,040 Speaker 1: Here? You have kids, you must something. 1393 01:07:10,320 --> 01:07:13,560 Speaker 2: Right and and and and it's weird, you know, because 1394 01:07:13,600 --> 01:07:16,720 Speaker 2: they people assume that everybody has children, you know, and 1395 01:07:16,800 --> 01:07:21,360 Speaker 2: so it's just really really uh fucked up and actually 1396 01:07:21,600 --> 01:07:23,640 Speaker 2: you know, and and it actually fucks our minds up. 1397 01:07:23,720 --> 01:07:26,160 Speaker 2: I don't think women realize how fucked up they are 1398 01:07:26,200 --> 01:07:29,400 Speaker 2: about relationships, how fucked up they are about men, how 1399 01:07:29,440 --> 01:07:32,000 Speaker 2: fucked up they are about parenting, how fucked up they 1400 01:07:32,040 --> 01:07:35,280 Speaker 2: are about a lot of things. That stems back to uh, 1401 01:07:35,320 --> 01:07:38,560 Speaker 2: them just being I'm talking about little girls, them just 1402 01:07:38,600 --> 01:07:40,560 Speaker 2: being little girls, and the fucked up things that were 1403 01:07:40,640 --> 01:07:42,080 Speaker 2: laid upun you that you didn't ask for. 1404 01:07:42,600 --> 01:07:46,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. Uh finally, t I's ignorance and that jazz segment 1405 01:07:46,880 --> 01:07:48,760 Speaker 1: really got me twisted all up in my feelings. Thank 1406 01:07:48,800 --> 01:07:51,080 Speaker 1: you for talking about this riding care, So you mean 1407 01:07:51,120 --> 01:07:54,680 Speaker 1: to say me talking about an excerpt from a book 1408 01:07:54,720 --> 01:08:01,120 Speaker 1: that I read by Tony Morrison this year, smart cologists. 1409 01:08:02,600 --> 01:08:03,640 Speaker 4: And you thank me for it. 1410 01:08:03,760 --> 01:08:06,920 Speaker 1: You thank me and care for having a discussion like this. Wow, 1411 01:08:07,800 --> 01:08:11,040 Speaker 1: Wow you I'm just saying wow. I was told by 1412 01:08:11,080 --> 01:08:12,880 Speaker 1: AppleCare didn't nobody want to hit. 1413 01:08:12,840 --> 01:08:14,280 Speaker 2: The ship Africa told you too. 1414 01:08:14,440 --> 01:08:16,280 Speaker 1: I hope you inspired to some parents and aunties and 1415 01:08:16,360 --> 01:08:18,040 Speaker 1: uncles to be more careful in how they talk about 1416 01:08:18,040 --> 01:08:21,080 Speaker 1: women's bodies and sexual activity. Peace out, cousins. In my head, 1417 01:08:21,360 --> 01:08:24,200 Speaker 1: thank you. I never think about that when we're doing 1418 01:08:24,200 --> 01:08:26,960 Speaker 1: the show, but if that's a byproduct, I really do 1419 01:08:27,120 --> 01:08:31,639 Speaker 1: hope that there's somebody's uncle, annie, parent, somebody who has 1420 01:08:31,760 --> 01:08:34,840 Speaker 1: a child that in there and thinks about this ship 1421 01:08:34,880 --> 01:08:38,200 Speaker 1: for one more second rather than you know, high five 1422 01:08:38,280 --> 01:08:39,320 Speaker 1: and to y'all, right. 1423 01:08:39,200 --> 01:08:42,400 Speaker 2: And and and and and one more thing for what what? So? 1424 01:08:42,520 --> 01:08:45,280 Speaker 2: What's so fucked up is after the trust was broken, 1425 01:08:45,760 --> 01:08:48,919 Speaker 2: we didn't really talk about anything, and this was fucking hilarious. 1426 01:08:48,960 --> 01:08:51,200 Speaker 2: I was like seeing college think. I was like a junior, 1427 01:08:51,840 --> 01:08:57,320 Speaker 2: like junior or sophomore, junior, and my mama chicks me, 1428 01:08:59,240 --> 01:09:03,759 Speaker 2: oh you wantuh Now, I'm twenty, I'm twenty some years 1429 01:09:03,800 --> 01:09:05,840 Speaker 2: that this is too late to be talking to me 1430 01:09:05,840 --> 01:09:12,920 Speaker 2: about drugs. No, nope, don't unless it's prescribed. I told 1431 01:09:12,960 --> 01:09:16,280 Speaker 2: y'all I wanted them, you know their program, I to 1432 01:09:16,280 --> 01:09:19,360 Speaker 2: read type of people. So I'm like, drugs, fuck your 1433 01:09:19,400 --> 01:09:22,479 Speaker 2: brain up, Mama, No, no type of But she didn't 1434 01:09:22,520 --> 01:09:24,840 Speaker 2: know that, So I was like, no, and I thought 1435 01:09:24,880 --> 01:09:26,320 Speaker 2: to myself, even if it was, what the fuck want 1436 01:09:26,360 --> 01:09:26,760 Speaker 2: to tell you? 1437 01:09:27,280 --> 01:09:30,040 Speaker 1: Mmm, No, I've seen you do drugs, so huh uh. 1438 01:09:30,120 --> 01:09:32,400 Speaker 1: The rhyme and hymond hero strikes again. This is my 1439 01:09:32,600 --> 01:09:35,080 Speaker 1: law who says t I is an example of when 1440 01:09:35,120 --> 01:09:37,519 Speaker 1: you go unchecked for too long. I don't even know 1441 01:09:37,520 --> 01:09:40,040 Speaker 1: what anxious scroll a Hotelperie he read to even get 1442 01:09:40,080 --> 01:09:42,160 Speaker 1: on that level, but I'm pretty sure he's going to 1443 01:09:42,240 --> 01:09:44,519 Speaker 1: challenge pera con for the title shot. Oh and I 1444 01:09:44,560 --> 01:09:46,599 Speaker 1: forgot to put a pole for this episode. My bad 1445 01:09:47,439 --> 01:09:49,160 Speaker 1: probably would have been something about a hoiman and y'all 1446 01:09:49,160 --> 01:09:52,439 Speaker 1: would have said one hundred percent, So is it okay 1447 01:09:52,439 --> 01:09:53,519 Speaker 1: to check your daughter's timon? 1448 01:09:53,680 --> 01:09:53,840 Speaker 3: No? 1449 01:09:54,120 --> 01:09:56,840 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, undred percent? No, Uh, let's go to 1450 01:09:56,920 --> 01:09:59,879 Speaker 1: the next episode. Maga bars got a lot of comments 1451 01:10:00,080 --> 01:10:05,599 Speaker 1: out this episode on Twitter like everybody was loving it. 1452 01:10:05,920 --> 01:10:09,240 Speaker 1: JL Cove and Chris Lambert like, it's some pretty heavy 1453 01:10:09,320 --> 01:10:11,160 Speaker 1: hitters that thought just as very we. 1454 01:10:11,160 --> 01:10:12,840 Speaker 2: Had them all, y'all, Don'm not even gonna lie. That 1455 01:10:12,920 --> 01:10:16,400 Speaker 2: was unexpected. We didn't realize that it was gonna turn 1456 01:10:16,439 --> 01:10:17,720 Speaker 2: into it whatever it turned to do. 1457 01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:21,200 Speaker 1: A mon left for comment. Hey, so I left two 1458 01:10:21,280 --> 01:10:24,599 Speaker 1: voicemails because I'm pressed, lol, but I'm not leaving a third. 1459 01:10:24,640 --> 01:10:26,120 Speaker 4: I get embarrassed if I leave a third. 1460 01:10:26,160 --> 01:10:28,040 Speaker 1: But again, I want to say thank you both for 1461 01:10:28,080 --> 01:10:30,800 Speaker 1: talking about LGBTQ issues. It changed my mind on some 1462 01:10:30,840 --> 01:10:33,439 Speaker 1: things and educated me on others, which inspired me to 1463 01:10:33,479 --> 01:10:37,639 Speaker 1: look up more information for myself. Hey, that's beautiful. There 1464 01:10:37,640 --> 01:10:39,720 Speaker 1: were many times where I felt disappointed in myself for 1465 01:10:39,800 --> 01:10:41,840 Speaker 1: not speaking up when I saw transphobic post on my 1466 01:10:41,920 --> 01:10:44,840 Speaker 1: timeline because it didn't feel I didn't feel I had 1467 01:10:44,840 --> 01:10:46,800 Speaker 1: the right to say anything. But I know now that 1468 01:10:46,840 --> 01:10:49,320 Speaker 1: I can at least say that's not cool, I disagree, 1469 01:10:49,400 --> 01:10:52,519 Speaker 1: or that sounds really transphobic. Yeah. I think people are 1470 01:10:52,840 --> 01:10:56,639 Speaker 1: just like, get to gym this morning, people afraid of confrontation. 1471 01:10:56,280 --> 01:10:58,719 Speaker 2: Right, and they let people have their way. 1472 01:10:58,960 --> 01:11:01,559 Speaker 1: Right, Because I mean, everybody sat up there and saw 1473 01:11:01,600 --> 01:11:04,000 Speaker 1: me talking to that dude and I'm the only one 1474 01:11:04,160 --> 01:11:06,480 Speaker 1: and I know him right, and they know him right. 1475 01:11:06,520 --> 01:11:09,000 Speaker 1: And at one point, I'm like all of these guys here, 1476 01:11:09,080 --> 01:11:11,760 Speaker 1: they're not saying anything, but they agree with me, so 1477 01:11:11,960 --> 01:11:14,680 Speaker 1: just don't be a dick. They couldn't help itself. So 1478 01:11:14,920 --> 01:11:18,160 Speaker 1: that's the kind of thing where you don't necessarily have 1479 01:11:18,240 --> 01:11:20,200 Speaker 1: to go in and fight the good fight. I think 1480 01:11:20,200 --> 01:11:25,960 Speaker 1: a lot of people really misapplied what you should be 1481 01:11:26,000 --> 01:11:29,519 Speaker 1: spending your energy on the internet. They really think that 1482 01:11:29,720 --> 01:11:33,240 Speaker 1: you arguing with biggots all day is gonna change the world, 1483 01:11:33,240 --> 01:11:37,200 Speaker 1: and it's not. They've actually done studies to show that 1484 01:11:37,240 --> 01:11:41,240 Speaker 1: you arguing back and forth with people that have really 1485 01:11:41,280 --> 01:11:43,960 Speaker 1: fucked up views and shit, it doesn't actually change anything. 1486 01:11:44,360 --> 01:11:46,640 Speaker 1: If anything, they become more entrenched in the views I 1487 01:11:46,680 --> 01:11:49,439 Speaker 1: already had. So we had to find ways to reach 1488 01:11:49,560 --> 01:11:52,799 Speaker 1: people and to let people know this isn't cool without 1489 01:11:52,800 --> 01:11:55,280 Speaker 1: it turning into World War three. So if your instinct 1490 01:11:55,320 --> 01:11:59,840 Speaker 1: was not to like, you know, deliver a lecture, that's okay. 1491 01:12:00,040 --> 01:12:02,000 Speaker 1: Also if you feel out of your depth, that's okay, 1492 01:12:02,120 --> 01:12:05,679 Speaker 1: you cause sometimes you might feel something's wrong and still 1493 01:12:05,720 --> 01:12:07,600 Speaker 1: not how the words or the education on it, and 1494 01:12:07,640 --> 01:12:09,599 Speaker 1: you just out here saying shit and you find out 1495 01:12:09,640 --> 01:12:12,519 Speaker 1: your ass wrong, you know, So it's dope that you 1496 01:12:12,520 --> 01:12:15,360 Speaker 1: felt the need to go educate yourself and just let 1497 01:12:15,439 --> 01:12:17,800 Speaker 1: people know that's not cool. That's really and most of 1498 01:12:17,840 --> 01:12:20,479 Speaker 1: the time, I won't say all the time, most of 1499 01:12:20,520 --> 01:12:24,400 Speaker 1: the time, if they're a well meaning person, that nugget 1500 01:12:24,479 --> 01:12:28,519 Speaker 1: is enough to make them re check themselves. Some people 1501 01:12:28,560 --> 01:12:31,280 Speaker 1: are not well meaning, well intentioned, and they're just assholes 1502 01:12:31,280 --> 01:12:33,160 Speaker 1: and you wasn't gonna change them if you send them 1503 01:12:33,200 --> 01:12:36,360 Speaker 1: a book, it wouldn't fucking matter. But yeah, I've done 1504 01:12:36,360 --> 01:12:38,479 Speaker 1: that in real life, where someone says something foul and 1505 01:12:38,560 --> 01:12:42,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, you know, that's fucked up. Today somebody was 1506 01:12:43,920 --> 01:12:46,800 Speaker 1: I was saying something about Justin that was positive, and 1507 01:12:46,840 --> 01:12:50,439 Speaker 1: this dude was like, wow, you must really love to 1508 01:12:50,439 --> 01:12:53,600 Speaker 1: taste of Justin and I said, well, just is my 1509 01:12:53,640 --> 01:12:57,040 Speaker 1: best friend and I'm sorry that platonic male friendship makes 1510 01:12:57,080 --> 01:13:00,800 Speaker 1: you feel homophobic. He just was like, nah, man, I'm 1511 01:13:00,800 --> 01:13:02,479 Speaker 1: not home for me whatever. I was like, okay, so 1512 01:13:02,520 --> 01:13:05,000 Speaker 1: then stop talking like that. And so that was and 1513 01:13:05,000 --> 01:13:06,800 Speaker 1: that was it. It wasn't like it didn't become a thing. 1514 01:13:06,840 --> 01:13:09,439 Speaker 1: We didn't fight, There wasn't no one started calling each 1515 01:13:09,439 --> 01:13:12,120 Speaker 1: other names. It was just a quick like I heard, 1516 01:13:12,240 --> 01:13:14,320 Speaker 1: I didn't think that what you said was cool, and 1517 01:13:14,600 --> 01:13:16,720 Speaker 1: you wouldn't have a problem with this if you was 1518 01:13:16,760 --> 01:13:20,000 Speaker 1: cool with it, So boom. So thank you to you 1519 01:13:20,080 --> 01:13:22,400 Speaker 1: both for provide a platform where people can come and 1520 01:13:22,479 --> 01:13:26,040 Speaker 1: learn and evolving the better people. Side note are y'all 1521 01:13:26,080 --> 01:13:29,640 Speaker 1: going to see Doctor Sleep? I don't plan on it. 1522 01:13:29,960 --> 01:13:31,600 Speaker 1: I hope we get a screener for it. It feels like 1523 01:13:31,600 --> 01:13:35,080 Speaker 1: when them screener movies. I also saw the run time 1524 01:13:35,120 --> 01:13:35,519 Speaker 1: of that shit. 1525 01:13:36,080 --> 01:13:38,280 Speaker 4: How long was it? 1526 01:13:38,120 --> 01:13:39,240 Speaker 2: It was three hour? 1527 01:13:39,600 --> 01:13:41,680 Speaker 1: It was it was a lot, it was over. It 1528 01:13:41,720 --> 01:13:44,000 Speaker 1: was well over two hours, like maybe two and a 1529 01:13:44,040 --> 01:13:45,240 Speaker 1: half hours or more. 1530 01:13:45,400 --> 01:13:48,760 Speaker 4: And I know that it has a little black girl 1531 01:13:48,800 --> 01:13:49,080 Speaker 4: in it. 1532 01:13:49,760 --> 01:13:52,360 Speaker 1: But I don't even really watch a lot of horror movies, 1533 01:13:52,479 --> 01:13:56,080 Speaker 1: and I'm definitely not sitting in the theater for two 1534 01:13:56,080 --> 01:13:57,799 Speaker 1: and a half hours for doctor. 1535 01:13:57,760 --> 01:13:59,519 Speaker 2: They said this is the something to the Shine. 1536 01:13:59,640 --> 01:14:01,000 Speaker 1: I did the stequal to the shining. 1537 01:14:01,120 --> 01:14:02,080 Speaker 2: I didn't see the shining. 1538 01:14:02,680 --> 01:14:04,559 Speaker 1: Okay, I care that. 1539 01:14:04,520 --> 01:14:05,400 Speaker 2: Answers your question. 1540 01:14:05,640 --> 01:14:08,360 Speaker 1: I know it's technically a scary movie, so scared it's 1541 01:14:08,360 --> 01:14:10,599 Speaker 1: probably out, but it's not as scary as the original. 1542 01:14:10,640 --> 01:14:12,559 Speaker 1: But that might be because I'm a fully gown adult now, 1543 01:14:12,680 --> 01:14:14,719 Speaker 1: not a teenager. But there's so much black girl magic 1544 01:14:14,760 --> 01:14:16,960 Speaker 1: in it. Yeah, it's not even about it being scary. 1545 01:14:17,000 --> 01:14:20,799 Speaker 1: That runtime just told me what Yeah, they said, nah, 1546 01:14:21,640 --> 01:14:22,559 Speaker 1: uh Brooklyn Shoes. 1547 01:14:23,160 --> 01:14:24,760 Speaker 4: I mean there's a few movies I had to do 1548 01:14:24,800 --> 01:14:25,519 Speaker 4: that with this year. 1549 01:14:25,640 --> 01:14:30,320 Speaker 1: So, uh, what was that that you tapped out of 1550 01:14:30,320 --> 01:14:32,519 Speaker 1: that it? Yeah, I wanted to see it part two 1551 01:14:32,640 --> 01:14:35,599 Speaker 1: runtime No, I'm good. I'll tell you what. It won't 1552 01:14:35,600 --> 01:14:37,120 Speaker 1: be a part two for me. Okay. 1553 01:14:37,840 --> 01:14:40,880 Speaker 2: Uh now, let's they send the screen of Brooklyn Shoe 1554 01:14:41,080 --> 01:14:44,599 Speaker 2: says yo the coon maga bars are well too much, 1555 01:14:44,680 --> 01:14:47,320 Speaker 2: although your reactions will go Then then he came through 1556 01:14:47,360 --> 01:14:48,320 Speaker 2: with the soulful hook. 1557 01:14:48,880 --> 01:14:49,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, that was wild. 1558 01:14:50,160 --> 01:14:51,160 Speaker 2: I wouldn't expect that. 1559 01:14:53,240 --> 01:14:57,479 Speaker 1: It ain't got no color. I had to stop walking 1560 01:14:57,520 --> 01:15:00,080 Speaker 1: the hall, laughing in the street, all jokes aside. I 1561 01:15:00,320 --> 01:15:04,760 Speaker 1: don't like how this is their race thing being stoked. Uh, 1562 01:15:04,840 --> 01:15:07,120 Speaker 1: there's this race thing being stoked. Hey, black people don't 1563 01:15:07,160 --> 01:15:09,439 Speaker 1: vote for liberals because they're white. Last time I checked 1564 01:15:09,439 --> 01:15:11,720 Speaker 1: the left and right with equally white. Uh well, to 1565 01:15:11,800 --> 01:15:15,639 Speaker 1: be fair, the white and the right are much more 1566 01:15:15,640 --> 01:15:19,280 Speaker 1: whiter like uh, plus you got the white power whites 1567 01:15:19,280 --> 01:15:21,479 Speaker 1: over there. So it's even I don't know what a 1568 01:15:21,479 --> 01:15:24,160 Speaker 1: black person is doing voting for them. I don't know. 1569 01:15:24,640 --> 01:15:26,759 Speaker 1: Like that's that's the thing. We're taking the contrarian asshole 1570 01:15:26,760 --> 01:15:29,840 Speaker 1: thing too far. It's if I can make this point, 1571 01:15:29,920 --> 01:15:33,679 Speaker 1: then there's a good point. No, Nigga's not. Michelle says, 1572 01:15:33,680 --> 01:15:35,599 Speaker 1: you know the conservatives are desperate when they openly appeal 1573 01:15:35,640 --> 01:15:36,639 Speaker 1: the black people for support. 1574 01:15:36,640 --> 01:15:38,679 Speaker 4: It's the end times. Yeah, they was rapping. 1575 01:15:39,680 --> 01:15:46,360 Speaker 1: Anonymous says that Coon Tune slapped Trill Khalil says, Coon Tang, 1576 01:15:46,439 --> 01:15:54,599 Speaker 1: motherfucker Coon Tang. What the fuckers gou Dang Coon Tang 1577 01:15:54,680 --> 01:15:58,200 Speaker 1: clan with a k uh. Y'all kill me with the 1578 01:15:58,280 --> 01:16:01,919 Speaker 1: maga bars, y'all break, y'all breaking up, laughing, maybe explode 1579 01:16:01,960 --> 01:16:04,760 Speaker 1: out that work. Thanks. Charles EV says, I don't think 1580 01:16:04,840 --> 01:16:06,840 Speaker 1: it really matters if Instagram is hide and lights because 1581 01:16:06,840 --> 01:16:08,360 Speaker 1: you can see all the people who like to pick. 1582 01:16:08,560 --> 01:16:11,479 Speaker 1: They just removed the count, so nothing will really change, right. 1583 01:16:13,000 --> 01:16:16,280 Speaker 1: The Maga challenge was still was the most cootastic thing 1584 01:16:16,360 --> 01:16:17,559 Speaker 1: I have seen in a long time. 1585 01:16:17,960 --> 01:16:20,960 Speaker 4: That Where's Willie d when you need them? I'm surprised. 1586 01:16:21,680 --> 01:16:26,120 Speaker 1: I'm surprised Cubic, Zirconia and Polyestera didn't enter the competition. 1587 01:16:26,280 --> 01:16:29,080 Speaker 1: I wonder if they all got together, would it be 1588 01:16:29,160 --> 01:16:32,960 Speaker 1: a conference? I think I've made I think I made 1589 01:16:33,000 --> 01:16:38,840 Speaker 1: that joke about Candice Owens conference. Yeah, and the black 1590 01:16:38,920 --> 01:16:41,800 Speaker 1: face box where in my mentioned y'all. 1591 01:16:40,960 --> 01:16:44,360 Speaker 2: Y'all y'all know that it had been too cootastic for him, right. 1592 01:16:45,160 --> 01:16:47,120 Speaker 4: The poe was, do you think it's good that Instagram 1593 01:16:47,240 --> 01:16:47,840 Speaker 4: is hiding likes? 1594 01:16:47,960 --> 01:16:50,439 Speaker 1: Yes? No, I'm just here to look at butts. Care. 1595 01:16:50,720 --> 01:16:51,680 Speaker 2: Oh, I'm here to look at. 1596 01:16:51,680 --> 01:16:54,200 Speaker 1: But sixty audience agrees with you. They are just on 1597 01:16:54,240 --> 01:16:57,599 Speaker 1: Instagram look at butts. Eighteen percent say yes, twenty percent 1598 01:16:57,640 --> 01:17:00,800 Speaker 1: say no. Phil g says not many care, but Nigma 1599 01:17:00,800 --> 01:17:02,800 Speaker 1: Minaj did a whole rant about this happening. I'm just 1600 01:17:02,840 --> 01:17:05,639 Speaker 1: happy they took away the feature to see what people 1601 01:17:05,720 --> 01:17:08,880 Speaker 1: you follow like. Instagram still dry snitches on you about it, 1602 01:17:08,960 --> 01:17:11,240 Speaker 1: but this would have been great six weeks ago for me. 1603 01:17:12,720 --> 01:17:16,439 Speaker 1: Ronauzia says, I think it should be an option if 1604 01:17:16,439 --> 01:17:19,320 Speaker 1: you want them or not. Oh that's nice, Juwan says, 1605 01:17:19,400 --> 01:17:22,599 Speaker 1: and Titties, that's valid point. I had not thought about that, 1606 01:17:22,760 --> 01:17:27,000 Speaker 1: and uh yeah, I had to take that in full consideration. Okay, 1607 01:17:27,160 --> 01:17:30,000 Speaker 1: unlike that four star review, I think you have added 1608 01:17:30,000 --> 01:17:34,800 Speaker 1: something to the show. Okay, and Titty's is a great point. 1609 01:17:35,160 --> 01:17:39,920 Speaker 1: Episode nineteen ninety three a real shit show because we 1610 01:17:40,040 --> 01:17:44,080 Speaker 1: had all those ship articles in it. I don't I 1611 01:17:44,160 --> 01:17:46,400 Speaker 1: say that, but I picked the articles. I don't know 1612 01:17:46,400 --> 01:17:48,719 Speaker 1: how you didn't make the link. I know you followed 1613 01:17:48,760 --> 01:17:50,559 Speaker 1: this picking. I just thought I was picking argus. By 1614 01:17:50,600 --> 01:17:52,599 Speaker 1: the end, I was like, that's every article here about shit? 1615 01:17:52,680 --> 01:17:55,200 Speaker 1: Do I need care? I'm shitting right now? On the show, 1616 01:17:55,280 --> 01:17:59,639 Speaker 1: y'all academic says, you mentioned black people not doing things 1617 01:17:59,680 --> 01:18:02,200 Speaker 1: they they don't think black people do. So for years, 1618 01:18:02,360 --> 01:18:04,320 Speaker 1: I only wore Nikes in the dealers because I thought 1619 01:18:04,400 --> 01:18:08,160 Speaker 1: Asex and Mizuno's were Bobo's rod when I first when 1620 01:18:08,160 --> 01:18:11,559 Speaker 1: I first tried on some of those damn apix, they 1621 01:18:11,640 --> 01:18:15,360 Speaker 1: were like pillows on my feet. I felt hoodwinked that 1622 01:18:15,439 --> 01:18:18,800 Speaker 1: my prejudice had me missing out on this gentrified foot 1623 01:18:18,920 --> 01:18:20,719 Speaker 1: comfort all these years. 1624 01:18:20,720 --> 01:18:24,479 Speaker 4: Come on, Yeah, nothing worse than the box you put 1625 01:18:24,520 --> 01:18:25,040 Speaker 4: yourself in. 1626 01:18:25,520 --> 01:18:28,599 Speaker 2: Did you put yourself in? Then you'd be like, the fuck? 1627 01:18:28,760 --> 01:18:31,840 Speaker 1: Is this like food? Was that for me? Well? I 1628 01:18:31,880 --> 01:18:34,479 Speaker 1: was just like, so wait, what is this? I could 1629 01:18:34,520 --> 01:18:38,080 Speaker 1: have tried this years ago. Pumpkin spice blew my mind? 1630 01:18:38,600 --> 01:18:39,120 Speaker 1: What is this? 1631 01:18:39,280 --> 01:18:41,519 Speaker 2: A medium steak? The funk? I ain't got the tw 1632 01:18:41,760 --> 01:18:42,200 Speaker 2: like rubber. 1633 01:18:42,360 --> 01:18:45,000 Speaker 1: I've been clowning punkin spice without trying it. Tried that 1634 01:18:45,000 --> 01:18:46,960 Speaker 1: shit and was like, oh, these niggas lied to me. 1635 01:18:47,120 --> 01:18:49,320 Speaker 1: That was actually what woke me out of the black 1636 01:18:49,320 --> 01:18:51,640 Speaker 1: people on Twitter Matrix. I said, oh, these niggas are 1637 01:18:51,680 --> 01:18:54,599 Speaker 1: live about pumpkin spice. I know they lie abot Sean 1638 01:18:54,680 --> 01:18:57,600 Speaker 1: King and I'm just KIDDINGA anonymous says, hey, look that 1639 01:18:57,760 --> 01:19:02,439 Speaker 1: oh jo Hey, look that O Jay's mixed y'all did 1640 01:19:02,479 --> 01:19:06,080 Speaker 1: about Popeye's chicken. Shit hit so hard as fuck line 1641 01:19:06,080 --> 01:19:09,000 Speaker 1: skippers laughing my fucking ass off, Thank you, thank you. 1642 01:19:09,160 --> 01:19:12,599 Speaker 1: That was all off the fly too line skip us 1643 01:19:13,560 --> 01:19:17,240 Speaker 1: uh Amani says, y'all, niggas ain't shit for that Samurai 1644 01:19:17,280 --> 01:19:19,240 Speaker 1: shan Plu music at the end have me crying and 1645 01:19:19,320 --> 01:19:20,200 Speaker 1: laughing at my desk. 1646 01:19:20,520 --> 01:19:22,640 Speaker 2: Shout out to you one of the five people, didn't you? 1647 01:19:23,000 --> 01:19:25,000 Speaker 1: And ev he says. A lady who got body slamed 1648 01:19:25,000 --> 01:19:27,280 Speaker 1: that Pope's chicken probably didn't deserve to get her body 1649 01:19:27,320 --> 01:19:29,599 Speaker 1: broken to that extent. But I bet you won't say 1650 01:19:29,600 --> 01:19:32,280 Speaker 1: that shit out in public again. So maybe she'll serve 1651 01:19:32,360 --> 01:19:34,720 Speaker 1: as a reminder to her family members that Trump may 1652 01:19:34,760 --> 01:19:38,960 Speaker 1: be president, but don't get your ass beat by being reckless. 1653 01:19:39,240 --> 01:19:42,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, because people people will put their hands on you. 1654 01:19:43,439 --> 01:19:46,880 Speaker 1: The poe was, do you ever pretend you know something 1655 01:19:47,040 --> 01:19:49,519 Speaker 1: rather than ask for information. Yes a lot, yes, but 1656 01:19:49,680 --> 01:19:55,400 Speaker 1: really no, I ask all the time me I ask, yeah, 1657 01:19:55,520 --> 01:19:58,040 Speaker 1: yes a lot twenty two percent, yes, but rarely fifty 1658 01:19:58,040 --> 01:19:59,960 Speaker 1: three percent, and no, I ask all the time. Twenty 1659 01:20:00,040 --> 01:20:04,000 Speaker 1: folks sent, I am in the middle. Still, I still 1660 01:20:04,040 --> 01:20:06,120 Speaker 1: struggle with it, y'all. I know I should be more 1661 01:20:06,320 --> 01:20:08,160 Speaker 1: of a I don't know what the this person talking about. 1662 01:20:08,240 --> 01:20:09,280 Speaker 1: Let me find out. 1663 01:20:09,479 --> 01:20:12,080 Speaker 4: But the way my hatred. 1664 01:20:11,800 --> 01:20:14,479 Speaker 1: Of conversation with people is set up, You're like, no, 1665 01:20:14,520 --> 01:20:17,640 Speaker 1: I'm good, I will if I can fake this information. 1666 01:20:17,280 --> 01:20:18,760 Speaker 2: For three months, I go google it. 1667 01:20:18,800 --> 01:20:21,080 Speaker 1: If I got to, yeah, they'd be like, oh, you know, 1668 01:20:21,120 --> 01:20:24,360 Speaker 1: it's a wicked at jibility we're having out today. I'm like, mmm, 1669 01:20:24,200 --> 01:20:26,559 Speaker 1: I'm excuse me. Can I buzz into the wam scare 1670 01:20:26,640 --> 01:20:30,320 Speaker 1: or not? And then later on they be like, I 1671 01:20:30,360 --> 01:20:33,280 Speaker 1: told you about the gebigger, then you've left me forsaken. 1672 01:20:33,360 --> 01:20:34,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know what happened. I don't know. 1673 01:20:36,560 --> 01:20:39,280 Speaker 1: I have no idea what this band is. No idea, 1674 01:20:39,439 --> 01:20:41,679 Speaker 1: Lola says, as a person on the spectrum, I don't 1675 01:20:41,680 --> 01:20:43,840 Speaker 1: assume I fully understand. I have good people around me 1676 01:20:43,880 --> 01:20:47,800 Speaker 1: who don't mind me asking that's dope. Phil G says, 1677 01:20:47,960 --> 01:20:49,960 Speaker 1: don't listen to a Summer Walker music, but I love 1678 01:20:49,960 --> 01:20:51,920 Speaker 1: her album cover and people tell me your music is 1679 01:20:51,920 --> 01:20:53,679 Speaker 1: a whole move. But I hope she gets some self 1680 01:20:53,680 --> 01:20:55,800 Speaker 1: care because folks really acting like they I owed her 1681 01:20:55,800 --> 01:20:58,040 Speaker 1: body just because you hate to see it. I had 1682 01:20:58,040 --> 01:21:00,400 Speaker 1: to leave my comment here because of the episode section isn't 1683 01:21:00,400 --> 01:21:03,720 Speaker 1: taking it all right? Phil got it? Allegia says I 1684 01:21:03,800 --> 01:21:06,320 Speaker 1: used to be ashamed to ask, but having a coworker 1685 01:21:06,360 --> 01:21:08,519 Speaker 1: like Karen helped me get comfortable with not knowing and 1686 01:21:08,640 --> 01:21:11,400 Speaker 1: asking when I don't. She didn't know what red bottoms 1687 01:21:11,479 --> 01:21:14,200 Speaker 1: or plats were, lol. But I would not go along 1688 01:21:14,240 --> 01:21:16,600 Speaker 1: if I don't really care about what you're saying. Just 1689 01:21:16,600 --> 01:21:18,439 Speaker 1: want to be polite. None of us are perfect. We're 1690 01:21:18,439 --> 01:21:19,800 Speaker 1: all ignorant on something. 1691 01:21:20,280 --> 01:21:23,400 Speaker 2: Agreed agreed, And this is the thing that for me 1692 01:21:23,439 --> 01:21:26,080 Speaker 2: because I ask questions because I want to completely understand, 1693 01:21:26,120 --> 01:21:28,519 Speaker 2: and I work for coworkers to get an attitude. Honey, 1694 01:21:28,600 --> 01:21:29,920 Speaker 2: the worst thing you can get to do is get 1695 01:21:29,920 --> 01:21:31,760 Speaker 2: an attitude, because guess what, I'm gonna still ask it. 1696 01:21:31,800 --> 01:21:34,120 Speaker 2: With your funky ass attitude, you're gonna answer my question. 1697 01:21:34,400 --> 01:21:36,040 Speaker 2: You know I've had people get out to it. Okay. 1698 01:21:36,320 --> 01:21:38,439 Speaker 2: Uh huh uh huh. I listened to them talking about like, okay, 1699 01:21:38,479 --> 01:21:41,280 Speaker 2: but can you answer this question for me? Like, fuck 1700 01:21:41,400 --> 01:21:43,559 Speaker 2: you fuck about your attitude? Your job is to answer 1701 01:21:43,600 --> 01:21:44,360 Speaker 2: the question. 1702 01:21:44,520 --> 01:21:47,000 Speaker 1: Karen be at work, like, so you're a twenty nine 1703 01:21:47,080 --> 01:21:49,400 Speaker 1: year old black woman with no kids answer my question. 1704 01:21:49,760 --> 01:21:50,559 Speaker 2: No, I don't do that. 1705 01:21:50,640 --> 01:21:54,320 Speaker 1: Oh okay, I'm sorry. I'm misunderstood, you completely misunderstanding. 1706 01:21:54,320 --> 01:21:57,640 Speaker 4: I should ask a question first, Grace, what happened when 1707 01:21:57,640 --> 01:21:58,120 Speaker 4: you assume? 1708 01:21:58,439 --> 01:22:00,360 Speaker 1: Grace? Ann says, if I want to get out of 1709 01:22:00,400 --> 01:22:02,840 Speaker 1: a conversation, I might nod along and fake knowledge just 1710 01:22:02,880 --> 01:22:05,200 Speaker 1: to avoid dragging it out. Like if you've ever been 1711 01:22:05,360 --> 01:22:07,840 Speaker 1: talking to someone and suddenly they say something wold because 1712 01:22:07,840 --> 01:22:10,080 Speaker 1: they want you to ask about it. Oh nigga, now 1713 01:22:10,160 --> 01:22:11,799 Speaker 1: see that? Okay? 1714 01:22:11,920 --> 01:22:13,400 Speaker 2: That now that's a trap. 1715 01:22:13,479 --> 01:22:15,599 Speaker 4: That is a pet peeve of mine. I fucking hate 1716 01:22:15,600 --> 01:22:16,160 Speaker 4: these people. 1717 01:22:16,240 --> 01:22:18,479 Speaker 1: I hate them. I hate them with a fucking passion. 1718 01:22:18,520 --> 01:22:19,479 Speaker 2: I've gotten better about that. 1719 01:22:19,520 --> 01:22:19,760 Speaker 1: I don't. 1720 01:22:19,800 --> 01:22:21,400 Speaker 2: I don't fall for the hook line and sekul. 1721 01:22:21,520 --> 01:22:24,320 Speaker 1: People do that sometimes on my Facebook page, and I've 1722 01:22:24,360 --> 01:22:26,679 Speaker 1: taken to deleting the comment. Tell me what the fuck 1723 01:22:26,680 --> 01:22:29,760 Speaker 1: you want to say? Nigga, What the fuck? Well, now 1724 01:22:29,760 --> 01:22:30,400 Speaker 1: you gotta. 1725 01:22:30,400 --> 01:22:32,200 Speaker 4: So, Now I gotta pretend like I'm invested. 1726 01:22:32,320 --> 01:22:34,439 Speaker 1: Oh what do you mean by that, nigga? You know, 1727 01:22:34,479 --> 01:22:35,719 Speaker 1: I don't know what the fuck you're talking about. 1728 01:22:36,280 --> 01:22:37,639 Speaker 2: Don't nobody know what you're talking about? 1729 01:22:37,680 --> 01:22:39,519 Speaker 1: Oh it's the worst. 1730 01:22:39,920 --> 01:22:43,280 Speaker 4: Oh sorry, took me to a place, y'all. 1731 01:22:43,360 --> 01:22:47,080 Speaker 1: I hate that. Well, you couldn't pay me to drink 1732 01:22:47,120 --> 01:22:49,680 Speaker 1: tap water with the government puts in it. Uh, with 1733 01:22:49,720 --> 01:22:51,439 Speaker 1: what the government puts in it. I'm not trying to 1734 01:22:51,439 --> 01:22:53,960 Speaker 1: get stuck here for X thirty minutes. Listen to your conspiracy. 1735 01:22:53,560 --> 01:22:54,719 Speaker 2: Theories, all right? 1736 01:22:54,920 --> 01:22:56,960 Speaker 1: That said, One of the things that saved my grades 1737 01:22:56,960 --> 01:22:59,439 Speaker 1: in college was getting over my embarrassment about asking questions. 1738 01:22:59,479 --> 01:23:01,080 Speaker 1: Part of it was realizing that a lot of other 1739 01:23:01,120 --> 01:23:04,160 Speaker 1: people were afraid to ask questions. Come on, because everyone 1740 01:23:04,240 --> 01:23:05,840 Speaker 1: was afraid they were the dumbest one in the room. 1741 01:23:05,880 --> 01:23:07,479 Speaker 1: But the other part was that I was paying for 1742 01:23:07,520 --> 01:23:09,679 Speaker 1: an education, so I need to make sure I learned. 1743 01:23:09,880 --> 01:23:13,040 Speaker 2: Come on, because guess what you don't know? Not ask it. 1744 01:23:13,080 --> 01:23:14,880 Speaker 2: They don't give you that fucking test, and you gonna 1745 01:23:14,880 --> 01:23:15,320 Speaker 2: fail it. 1746 01:23:15,520 --> 01:23:18,000 Speaker 1: I had to reframe the idea that asking questions meant 1747 01:23:18,040 --> 01:23:20,360 Speaker 1: that I didn't know something and start using questions as 1748 01:23:20,400 --> 01:23:22,439 Speaker 1: a tool to make sure I understood what I was hearing. 1749 01:23:22,760 --> 01:23:24,720 Speaker 1: That way, if I was wrong, the teacher could use 1750 01:23:24,760 --> 01:23:27,559 Speaker 1: the language I was using to re explain what I missed, 1751 01:23:27,600 --> 01:23:29,599 Speaker 1: or I could hear an affirmation to explain the idea 1752 01:23:29,640 --> 01:23:32,519 Speaker 1: of my own words was correct. What was even better 1753 01:23:32,600 --> 01:23:34,640 Speaker 1: was looking around and noticing other people write down what 1754 01:23:34,720 --> 01:23:37,240 Speaker 1: the teacher was saying after my question, and not in 1755 01:23:37,320 --> 01:23:37,599 Speaker 1: a loan. 1756 01:23:37,680 --> 01:23:39,200 Speaker 4: When I asked something. 1757 01:23:39,280 --> 01:23:41,559 Speaker 1: It was very hard to be the only black person 1758 01:23:41,560 --> 01:23:43,240 Speaker 1: in the room and raise my hand to say I 1759 01:23:43,240 --> 01:23:46,400 Speaker 1: didn't know something, but everyone else at least pretended to know. 1760 01:23:46,920 --> 01:23:49,439 Speaker 1: But I just had to lean into where I was from. 1761 01:23:49,880 --> 01:23:54,160 Speaker 1: Maybe that didn't look Maybe they didn't overtly teach us 1762 01:23:54,200 --> 01:23:58,320 Speaker 1: fancy grammar diagrams at my overcrowded, underfunded public schools, but 1763 01:23:58,360 --> 01:24:00,679 Speaker 1: they did teach me not to leave my laptop unattended 1764 01:24:00,680 --> 01:24:03,679 Speaker 1: in the library. Anyway, asking questions was probably the best 1765 01:24:03,720 --> 01:24:06,479 Speaker 1: thing I did for my grades, besides waiting until after 1766 01:24:06,520 --> 01:24:10,840 Speaker 1: I graduated. The star drinking ha man Ganghi says, I 1767 01:24:11,040 --> 01:24:13,120 Speaker 1: fake it all the time to get out of non 1768 01:24:13,160 --> 01:24:16,160 Speaker 1: productive conversations. My job has a limitless supply of them 1769 01:24:16,320 --> 01:24:19,599 Speaker 1: non productive conversations. Amma says, I do that a lot, 1770 01:24:20,360 --> 01:24:22,680 Speaker 1: but it's because I want the conversation to end. If 1771 01:24:22,720 --> 01:24:23,800 Speaker 1: it's something I don't know. 1772 01:24:23,920 --> 01:24:25,840 Speaker 4: That I'm actually interested in, I ask questions. 1773 01:24:25,920 --> 01:24:27,559 Speaker 1: I know. I need to stop doing that because I 1774 01:24:27,560 --> 01:24:29,519 Speaker 1: get annoyed when my husband and little sister think I 1775 01:24:29,560 --> 01:24:31,920 Speaker 1: know everything, and I think my daughter is taking on 1776 01:24:31,960 --> 01:24:33,720 Speaker 1: the trade because it bothers the hell out of me 1777 01:24:34,000 --> 01:24:36,160 Speaker 1: when she says she knows something and I say, and 1778 01:24:36,240 --> 01:24:39,519 Speaker 1: I know she doesn't. So I'm trying to stop myself 1779 01:24:39,520 --> 01:24:41,120 Speaker 1: from doing that in front of her and say, oh, 1780 01:24:41,160 --> 01:24:43,280 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I really have to be going, or some 1781 01:24:43,320 --> 01:24:45,760 Speaker 1: other excuse to get out of conversation. Yeah, that's a 1782 01:24:45,800 --> 01:24:48,200 Speaker 1: good point. I don't have kids, so I'm gonna keep faking. 1783 01:24:48,640 --> 01:24:51,559 Speaker 1: Monica says, as an introvert, I do sometimes pretend to 1784 01:24:51,600 --> 01:24:54,480 Speaker 1: know something or not ask additional questions to end conversations. 1785 01:24:54,479 --> 01:24:57,200 Speaker 1: On the flip side, at work, sometimes I pretend to 1786 01:24:57,200 --> 01:25:00,639 Speaker 1: not know something or politely just tell people oh. 1787 01:25:00,520 --> 01:25:03,479 Speaker 2: Yes, now, now I've done that before, you know, because 1788 01:25:03,520 --> 01:25:05,160 Speaker 2: because it's a balance for me, I've done that before, 1789 01:25:05,200 --> 01:25:07,519 Speaker 2: I can actually know something, like actually know it, know 1790 01:25:07,600 --> 01:25:11,000 Speaker 2: it and for certain people. Mm hmmmmmm. I'm like, you 1791 01:25:11,040 --> 01:25:13,280 Speaker 2: know what, won won't you don't Why won't you act 1792 01:25:13,320 --> 01:25:14,519 Speaker 2: such such and such such such. 1793 01:25:14,320 --> 01:25:16,599 Speaker 1: About that, or politely just tell people what to find 1794 01:25:16,600 --> 01:25:18,760 Speaker 1: the info on their own, just to avoid going into 1795 01:25:19,160 --> 01:25:21,599 Speaker 1: the info bank. Some people will latch onto you after 1796 01:25:21,600 --> 01:25:23,960 Speaker 1: you help them once and you have a friend quote 1797 01:25:24,000 --> 01:25:24,719 Speaker 1: unquote for life. 1798 01:25:24,800 --> 01:25:27,080 Speaker 4: Oh oh my god, this is at home love y'all. 1799 01:25:27,840 --> 01:25:30,280 Speaker 1: Ain't that the wordst that that person that they don't 1800 01:25:30,280 --> 01:25:31,880 Speaker 1: want to ever do shit for theirself if you did 1801 01:25:31,880 --> 01:25:34,360 Speaker 1: something one time, so now you gotta do shit for them? 1802 01:25:34,640 --> 01:25:35,920 Speaker 2: Mmm hm him. 1803 01:25:35,960 --> 01:25:39,839 Speaker 1: Doc says, I'm analytical, so I'm not shy about asking questions. 1804 01:25:39,840 --> 01:25:42,280 Speaker 1: But if I even if I think they're dumb questions, 1805 01:25:42,320 --> 01:25:44,599 Speaker 1: you never know what you can gain from asking. Half 1806 01:25:44,600 --> 01:25:46,439 Speaker 1: the time at worked, I'm the only brave one to 1807 01:25:46,479 --> 01:25:50,400 Speaker 1: ask something that everyone was wondering about. Yeah. 1808 01:25:51,000 --> 01:25:53,360 Speaker 2: Right, And sometimes I'm just gonna have to listen to people. 1809 01:25:53,800 --> 01:25:55,880 Speaker 2: Well the baby, I'm sorry, you know what I don't. 1810 01:25:55,800 --> 01:25:57,719 Speaker 1: Right, because when I fuck this up, you're gonna be mad. 1811 01:25:58,160 --> 01:26:00,799 Speaker 1: Come on, Drake getting boob by them. Tyler the creative 1812 01:26:00,800 --> 01:26:03,040 Speaker 1: fans kind of lars to me. He takes three these 1813 01:26:03,200 --> 01:26:06,120 Speaker 1: l's and stride and I can appreciate that. Yeah, drunk 1814 01:26:06,320 --> 01:26:08,479 Speaker 1: is the best at taking the l and being like, em, 1815 01:26:08,680 --> 01:26:13,400 Speaker 1: I'm rich like I could, but I know, but a 1816 01:26:13,400 --> 01:26:16,760 Speaker 1: lot of people are rich and they don't take There's 1817 01:26:16,760 --> 01:26:18,479 Speaker 1: a lot of people that are rich that can't take it. 1818 01:26:18,520 --> 01:26:21,120 Speaker 1: He really just I think he just looks at his 1819 01:26:21,120 --> 01:26:23,320 Speaker 1: bank account on that fancy ass watch. It probably is 1820 01:26:23,360 --> 01:26:25,479 Speaker 1: a watch that gives sex tips at bank accounts, and 1821 01:26:25,520 --> 01:26:28,639 Speaker 1: he's like, oh wait, I'm still rich. Okay, Well, bye, 1822 01:26:28,640 --> 01:26:29,719 Speaker 1: broke niggas be mad. 1823 01:26:30,000 --> 01:26:33,519 Speaker 2: I'm going to the congo all right, toodles Uh. 1824 01:26:33,720 --> 01:26:37,599 Speaker 1: The last episode was Beta Blocker, which was the Walker 1825 01:26:37,680 --> 01:26:40,000 Speaker 1: Dad recap, and Mon says, I'm just here to say 1826 01:26:40,080 --> 01:26:42,599 Speaker 1: y'all haven't signed. If y'all haven't signed it to a 1827 01:26:42,600 --> 01:26:45,639 Speaker 1: live feed yet, do it. It's a delight. And Rod 1828 01:26:45,680 --> 01:26:48,320 Speaker 1: plays really great music. He played this song Tom Loup 1829 01:26:48,840 --> 01:26:50,800 Speaker 1: and I've had it on loop for days now. 1830 01:26:51,000 --> 01:26:54,720 Speaker 2: That's my Jamn Sherman shout out to Sherman stowcase. 1831 01:26:54,600 --> 01:27:00,960 Speaker 1: Time and I want to go back in time as 1832 01:27:01,000 --> 01:27:04,000 Speaker 1: a doctor who fan it makes me so happy. Plus 1833 01:27:04,000 --> 01:27:05,639 Speaker 1: as a parent, I need to break from old Town 1834 01:27:05,760 --> 01:27:08,920 Speaker 1: Road and Steven Universe soundtracks. Thank y'all for bringing new 1835 01:27:08,960 --> 01:27:11,760 Speaker 1: bops into my life. Thanks some mom. Yeah, I try 1836 01:27:11,800 --> 01:27:13,679 Speaker 1: to share some of my stuff on Facebook and stuff, 1837 01:27:13,680 --> 01:27:17,120 Speaker 1: but it's just I listen to just whatever I feel 1838 01:27:17,160 --> 01:27:18,760 Speaker 1: like listening to. You know, I don't know. I don't 1839 01:27:18,760 --> 01:27:21,920 Speaker 1: feel like I'm a music expert, but I dig what 1840 01:27:21,960 --> 01:27:25,160 Speaker 1: I did then. Nicole Bust is my new groove right now. 1841 01:27:25,280 --> 01:27:27,960 Speaker 1: I like that too, love her album. Even E says 1842 01:27:28,200 --> 01:27:31,160 Speaker 1: Nagan was everything in this episode. I'm hoping the show 1843 01:27:31,200 --> 01:27:33,800 Speaker 1: goes the comic book route, but even if they don't, 1844 01:27:33,840 --> 01:27:36,919 Speaker 1: I love seeing Nigan interact with the Whispers. I'm sorry, 1845 01:27:37,200 --> 01:27:40,439 Speaker 1: but I think Dante is sus Where the heck did 1846 01:27:40,439 --> 01:27:43,559 Speaker 1: he come from? Watchs He have no backstory, at least, 1847 01:27:43,600 --> 01:27:45,599 Speaker 1: I thought he was a figment. At first, I thought 1848 01:27:45,600 --> 01:27:48,040 Speaker 1: he's a figment of Sedi's imagination. But there's something about 1849 01:27:48,080 --> 01:27:50,160 Speaker 1: that dude, I don't trust. He looks like he was 1850 01:27:50,160 --> 01:27:52,839 Speaker 1: the skin of another person. I bet before the Zpoch 1851 01:27:52,960 --> 01:27:55,920 Speaker 1: he was. Yeah, he was having bodies in his basements. 1852 01:27:56,240 --> 01:27:58,559 Speaker 1: I think I may have found a character I hate 1853 01:27:58,560 --> 01:27:59,880 Speaker 1: worse than Henry Impossible. 1854 01:28:00,080 --> 01:28:02,760 Speaker 4: Fuck Dante. I hope he dies now. 1855 01:28:02,800 --> 01:28:05,880 Speaker 1: I think you're just trying to grasp the old trying 1856 01:28:05,880 --> 01:28:08,920 Speaker 1: to get the old mob of hell. You're trying to 1857 01:28:08,920 --> 01:28:11,760 Speaker 1: get that old mojo back of your Henry hate. And 1858 01:28:11,840 --> 01:28:14,040 Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you right now, says Dante. Ain It. 1859 01:28:14,840 --> 01:28:18,120 Speaker 4: But I do agree that he is suspect because we 1860 01:28:18,280 --> 01:28:18,919 Speaker 4: I don't. 1861 01:28:18,720 --> 01:28:21,800 Speaker 1: Remember where he came from, and I know he got 1862 01:28:21,800 --> 01:28:24,840 Speaker 1: a veteran story about PTSD, but that don't necessarily mean 1863 01:28:24,880 --> 01:28:28,080 Speaker 1: it's true. Agreed, who knows what the fuck that dude 1864 01:28:28,080 --> 01:28:28,479 Speaker 1: he could be? 1865 01:28:28,720 --> 01:28:31,400 Speaker 4: The I mean, Eve, do you be on she be 1866 01:28:31,439 --> 01:28:34,360 Speaker 4: on the stuff? Lastly, the Poe. 1867 01:28:34,439 --> 01:28:36,400 Speaker 1: Do you think there's a spy in Alexander your Hilltop 1868 01:28:36,600 --> 01:28:38,439 Speaker 1: r Side Collective? Yes? Or no? 1869 01:28:39,880 --> 01:28:42,760 Speaker 2: Me. I know it might sound wild, but no, I. 1870 01:28:42,720 --> 01:28:44,400 Speaker 1: Think no too. I'm in his thirty five percent, but 1871 01:28:44,439 --> 01:28:47,519 Speaker 1: sixty five percent say yes. Corey says, I still don't 1872 01:28:47,520 --> 01:28:51,400 Speaker 1: trust the inappropriate behind doctor. He is either completely incompetent 1873 01:28:51,520 --> 01:28:53,720 Speaker 1: or not are for not already figuring out that there's 1874 01:28:53,760 --> 01:28:55,760 Speaker 1: some kind of containment in the water, tending it in 1875 01:28:55,800 --> 01:28:58,479 Speaker 1: the water, or he knows and it's purposely trying to 1876 01:28:58,520 --> 01:29:02,000 Speaker 1: keep Sayed away from the sick Ooh, so he won't 1877 01:29:02,000 --> 01:29:04,559 Speaker 1: figure it out. Is he drinking the same water? Ooh, 1878 01:29:05,800 --> 01:29:11,000 Speaker 1: that's a good swerve. I don't know now, ship Well, 1879 01:29:11,040 --> 01:29:12,880 Speaker 1: I should have made a category for I don't know, 1880 01:29:12,960 --> 01:29:15,040 Speaker 1: because now I don't know. I'm not in yes or 1881 01:29:15,120 --> 01:29:18,080 Speaker 1: to know. That's a good point because he didn't get 1882 01:29:18,160 --> 01:29:20,240 Speaker 1: so deep. Maybe he was waiting on everybody to die. 1883 01:29:22,000 --> 01:29:26,360 Speaker 1: All right, let's get into a couple of voicemails. Wait, 1884 01:29:26,360 --> 01:29:28,840 Speaker 1: what time is it? Okay, we got time. We got 1885 01:29:28,880 --> 01:29:31,439 Speaker 1: a couple of voicemails on the voicemail line seven O 1886 01:29:31,560 --> 01:29:35,080 Speaker 1: four five five to seven zero one eight six is 1887 01:29:35,120 --> 01:29:37,160 Speaker 1: the voicemail line has to be two minutes or less 1888 01:29:37,240 --> 01:29:39,960 Speaker 1: or you will get cut off at seven O four 1889 01:29:40,439 --> 01:29:43,519 Speaker 1: five five seven zero one eight six. 1890 01:29:43,600 --> 01:29:45,400 Speaker 2: Oh my bad, it's one for eight. I looked at 1891 01:29:45,400 --> 01:29:46,720 Speaker 2: the clock and was like one fifty five. 1892 01:29:46,760 --> 01:29:56,720 Speaker 5: I was like, Karen, just calling just to provide a 1893 01:29:57,800 --> 01:30:04,960 Speaker 5: comment Terry on your Sunday episode, kind of your opening remarks. 1894 01:30:05,640 --> 01:30:09,479 Speaker 5: I just want to say thank you to Karen for 1895 01:30:09,520 --> 01:30:15,360 Speaker 5: sharing to some of her thoughts about shaming black girls 1896 01:30:15,439 --> 01:30:19,920 Speaker 5: and kind of retelling her story of how she grew 1897 01:30:20,000 --> 01:30:24,680 Speaker 5: up and how the journey of learning to accept and 1898 01:30:24,720 --> 01:30:29,280 Speaker 5: love herself and what that meant like you know, on't 1899 01:30:29,320 --> 01:30:32,000 Speaker 5: agree with the things and how it's kind of how 1900 01:30:32,000 --> 01:30:35,320 Speaker 5: she's passing it down to her knees or both of you. 1901 01:30:35,439 --> 01:30:35,920 Speaker 2: Have the means. 1902 01:30:36,439 --> 01:30:41,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, part of my nervousness, I'm kind of I'm gonna 1903 01:30:41,960 --> 01:30:44,320 Speaker 5: sting here with the pig in my throat because it's 1904 01:30:44,400 --> 01:30:46,840 Speaker 5: kind of like, I don't know, listen to every listening 1905 01:30:46,880 --> 01:30:51,240 Speaker 5: to this kind of like kind of looking in the mirror. 1906 01:30:51,520 --> 01:30:55,320 Speaker 5: But I haven't gone so far to the end of 1907 01:30:55,680 --> 01:30:59,479 Speaker 5: the journey as Karen has. I'm still dealing with a 1908 01:30:59,520 --> 01:31:05,080 Speaker 5: lot of acceptance issues, kind of bringing myself to you know, 1909 01:31:05,400 --> 01:31:07,599 Speaker 5: a word to appreciate what I see in the mirror, 1910 01:31:08,120 --> 01:31:10,400 Speaker 5: kind of just spelling some of the things I've kind 1911 01:31:10,400 --> 01:31:14,360 Speaker 5: of grown to revent from my parents. But of course 1912 01:31:14,439 --> 01:31:17,080 Speaker 5: I'm you know, taking the necessary step to do so 1913 01:31:18,160 --> 01:31:23,240 Speaker 5: therapy and just learning self care. But I just point 1914 01:31:23,320 --> 01:31:28,360 Speaker 5: responded to thank you for being open, insuring. 1915 01:31:28,640 --> 01:31:29,880 Speaker 3: And have a great day. 1916 01:31:30,000 --> 01:31:33,840 Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you for calling in. 1917 01:31:34,200 --> 01:31:35,400 Speaker 2: Thank you baby. 1918 01:31:37,200 --> 01:31:39,679 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I just think, I mean, I do. 1919 01:31:39,840 --> 01:31:43,320 Speaker 1: That's one of the reasons that I like reading the 1920 01:31:43,360 --> 01:31:45,559 Speaker 1: excerpts because it does lead to conversations and we do 1921 01:31:45,640 --> 01:31:49,920 Speaker 1: talk about personal things and our experiences in these conversations, 1922 01:31:50,040 --> 01:31:53,719 Speaker 1: and yeah, we share a lot with our audience, and 1923 01:31:53,800 --> 01:31:55,680 Speaker 1: you know, try to be honest and try to be 1924 01:31:55,800 --> 01:32:00,439 Speaker 1: forthcoming and you know, talk about the examples the things 1925 01:32:00,439 --> 01:32:04,559 Speaker 1: in our lives. I think there's a big impost now 1926 01:32:04,560 --> 01:32:08,639 Speaker 1: to present yourself as like perfect fixed work on work 1927 01:32:08,720 --> 01:32:12,519 Speaker 1: through done over it, and to say like. 1928 01:32:12,560 --> 01:32:16,559 Speaker 2: You just finished product on it. We are always working 1929 01:32:16,680 --> 01:32:18,880 Speaker 2: something that is always needed to be fixed in us. 1930 01:32:19,080 --> 01:32:21,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's and I think the most important thing you 1931 01:32:21,520 --> 01:32:24,840 Speaker 1: said there is that you are doing work and it 1932 01:32:24,880 --> 01:32:29,320 Speaker 1: is work, you know, like you said, therapy and self 1933 01:32:29,360 --> 01:32:32,360 Speaker 1: care and like learning different stuff. I know, like like 1934 01:32:32,400 --> 01:32:38,000 Speaker 1: I said for me, man like learning learning like certain 1935 01:32:38,040 --> 01:32:42,200 Speaker 1: things with like reading, exercise and stuff like that that 1936 01:32:42,240 --> 01:32:45,000 Speaker 1: I've been adding into my life a little bit more 1937 01:32:45,000 --> 01:32:48,000 Speaker 1: in different ways now. It's like I see the effects 1938 01:32:48,040 --> 01:32:52,000 Speaker 1: and I mentally feel better and stuff like that. And 1939 01:32:52,080 --> 01:32:53,920 Speaker 1: I didn't grow up with the head trip of being 1940 01:32:53,960 --> 01:32:56,160 Speaker 1: a black girl. So I'm not saying it's the same. 1941 01:32:56,280 --> 01:32:59,599 Speaker 1: But everybody got some shit that they're working through our 1942 01:33:00,120 --> 01:33:02,400 Speaker 1: at our apartment. If you go into the leasing office 1943 01:33:02,479 --> 01:33:03,800 Speaker 1: or whatever, sometimes you have to go in there and 1944 01:33:03,840 --> 01:33:07,519 Speaker 1: get packages and stuff, but they have a sign behind 1945 01:33:07,600 --> 01:33:09,360 Speaker 1: them that said. I took a picture of it pull 1946 01:33:09,479 --> 01:33:13,320 Speaker 1: my Instagram because it said something like basically like be 1947 01:33:13,800 --> 01:33:18,320 Speaker 1: courteous because everyone has a struggle that they're going through 1948 01:33:18,320 --> 01:33:21,640 Speaker 1: that you don't know nothing about, clone, And that's some 1949 01:33:21,720 --> 01:33:24,439 Speaker 1: real shit because you really don't know all the people 1950 01:33:24,479 --> 01:33:27,599 Speaker 1: you think have it together. You don't fucking know. You know. 1951 01:33:27,760 --> 01:33:30,200 Speaker 1: The book I've just finished reading, I'm finding either are You? 1952 01:33:31,400 --> 01:33:33,879 Speaker 1: A big part of that book is how people feel pressured, 1953 01:33:33,960 --> 01:33:36,400 Speaker 1: especially by the Internet but in life in general, to 1954 01:33:36,439 --> 01:33:38,080 Speaker 1: feel like I have to show you I have it 1955 01:33:38,120 --> 01:33:41,320 Speaker 1: all together when they don't. And so I think, you know, 1956 01:33:41,400 --> 01:33:44,880 Speaker 1: it's really braver you the right to phone in and 1957 01:33:44,920 --> 01:33:45,439 Speaker 1: share that too. 1958 01:33:46,120 --> 01:33:48,400 Speaker 2: Mm hm, because you don't never know who's going to 1959 01:33:48,479 --> 01:33:51,880 Speaker 2: do what, and who's dealing with what and what I've 1960 01:33:51,920 --> 01:33:54,600 Speaker 2: realized and I know this is quote unquote gonna be 1961 01:33:54,640 --> 01:33:58,920 Speaker 2: yall hippie diepy, but what I realize you live your life. Yeah, 1962 01:33:58,960 --> 01:34:01,320 Speaker 2: you live your life for you, but you also live 1963 01:34:01,360 --> 01:34:04,040 Speaker 2: your life as an example. Regardless of if you tell 1964 01:34:04,080 --> 01:34:07,680 Speaker 2: your story or not, somebody somewhere is watching you. You 1965 01:34:07,880 --> 01:34:11,679 Speaker 2: never know who is watching you, and everybody is afraid 1966 01:34:11,800 --> 01:34:16,839 Speaker 2: to share their life experiences or their testimony because nobody 1967 01:34:16,880 --> 01:34:19,679 Speaker 2: wants to be the only one, and everybody's always surprised 1968 01:34:19,720 --> 01:34:22,320 Speaker 2: because all it takes is one. So you're the one 1969 01:34:22,360 --> 01:34:24,920 Speaker 2: person that says, hey, this has happened to me. This 1970 01:34:24,960 --> 01:34:26,479 Speaker 2: is how I dealt with it, this is how I 1971 01:34:26,560 --> 01:34:29,240 Speaker 2: overcome it, this is how I healed. And then you 1972 01:34:29,280 --> 01:34:31,760 Speaker 2: will be amazed how many people at the Woodworks go, yeah, 1973 01:34:31,760 --> 01:34:33,320 Speaker 2: me to me, to me, to me, to me too. 1974 01:34:33,640 --> 01:34:36,120 Speaker 1: Our show is a testament of that because I've never 1975 01:34:36,200 --> 01:34:39,200 Speaker 1: done one episode of this show thinking about how I'm 1976 01:34:39,200 --> 01:34:42,479 Speaker 1: about to change the world to educate people or whatever. 1977 01:34:42,520 --> 01:34:45,400 Speaker 1: I've talked about us and me. I've talked about my 1978 01:34:45,520 --> 01:34:49,320 Speaker 1: life and my experiences and my opinions, and people write 1979 01:34:49,360 --> 01:34:52,519 Speaker 1: in all the time and tell us your show educated me, 1980 01:34:52,680 --> 01:34:55,160 Speaker 1: You changed me my point of view, you presented something 1981 01:34:55,200 --> 01:34:58,040 Speaker 1: to me that I hadn't thought about before. I've never 1982 01:34:58,200 --> 01:34:59,680 Speaker 1: once got on the mic and be like, I'm a 1983 01:34:59,680 --> 01:35:02,639 Speaker 1: fit change these niggas minds, because because I think that's 1984 01:35:03,800 --> 01:35:05,920 Speaker 1: you never know what's gonna change somebody's mind. Nope, But 1985 01:35:06,040 --> 01:35:09,559 Speaker 1: I will be honest about the journey I'm going through 1986 01:35:09,560 --> 01:35:12,439 Speaker 1: in my life, and people can resonate with that, you know, 1987 01:35:12,680 --> 01:35:14,800 Speaker 1: like you say it's hippie dibby, but I feel like 1988 01:35:14,840 --> 01:35:17,000 Speaker 1: people can resonate with that energy, and y'all get on 1989 01:35:17,040 --> 01:35:20,840 Speaker 1: the same kind of wavelength, the same plane, and you 1990 01:35:20,960 --> 01:35:23,360 Speaker 1: never know who your energy is affecting, you. 1991 01:35:23,320 --> 01:35:26,320 Speaker 2: Know, Yeah, And also is one of those things too, 1992 01:35:26,800 --> 01:35:29,360 Speaker 2: and what and me just living my life and just 1993 01:35:29,400 --> 01:35:34,479 Speaker 2: going through life. Everybody's watching you. Everybody that is watching you. 1994 01:35:34,720 --> 01:35:36,960 Speaker 2: Everybody's not gonna always reach out to you. There's gonna 1995 01:35:36,960 --> 01:35:39,559 Speaker 2: be people that quote unquote watch you from the shadows. 1996 01:35:39,560 --> 01:35:41,920 Speaker 2: And that's what people fail to realize. They're gonna be 1997 01:35:41,960 --> 01:35:44,519 Speaker 2: people that's watches you, and they're gonna reach out and 1998 01:35:44,560 --> 01:35:47,240 Speaker 2: acknowledge and let you know how I'm watching you. But 1999 01:35:47,280 --> 01:35:49,200 Speaker 2: then there's a lot of people that's gonna watch you 2000 01:35:49,280 --> 01:35:52,679 Speaker 2: from afar, watch it from a distance. You're actually impacting 2001 01:35:52,720 --> 01:35:54,960 Speaker 2: their lives and you don't ever know it. They will 2002 01:35:55,000 --> 01:35:57,760 Speaker 2: never contact you, they'll never let you know. You might 2003 01:35:57,800 --> 01:35:59,880 Speaker 2: not know who they are. Y'all might el never mean 2004 01:36:00,040 --> 01:36:03,080 Speaker 2: face to face in your lifetime, but you aren't impacting 2005 01:36:03,200 --> 01:36:05,960 Speaker 2: people around you more than you ever know. And so 2006 01:36:06,200 --> 01:36:08,960 Speaker 2: I've just I've just come to the realization of that 2007 01:36:10,040 --> 01:36:12,760 Speaker 2: for me personally, and so you know, a lot of 2008 01:36:12,800 --> 01:36:14,479 Speaker 2: times when people think you got it together, and when 2009 01:36:14,520 --> 01:36:16,400 Speaker 2: you show your flaws, they'll let them know, Oh it's 2010 01:36:16,439 --> 01:36:18,880 Speaker 2: okay to be flawed. Oh it's okay not to have 2011 01:36:18,960 --> 01:36:20,880 Speaker 2: it all together, and it's okay to make mistakes. And 2012 01:36:20,920 --> 01:36:23,200 Speaker 2: old people do bounce back, and old people do. But see, 2013 01:36:23,200 --> 01:36:24,800 Speaker 2: the thing is if you don't show your story and 2014 01:36:24,840 --> 01:36:28,000 Speaker 2: you don't tell people, hey, what you see now is 2015 01:36:28,640 --> 01:36:32,280 Speaker 2: it took years to get here. It took unlearning, retraining, 2016 01:36:32,439 --> 01:36:35,879 Speaker 2: it took forgiveness, it took you know, maybe going to therapy, 2017 01:36:36,040 --> 01:36:37,840 Speaker 2: and may have tooken the middle breakdown, and may have 2018 01:36:37,840 --> 01:36:41,439 Speaker 2: it took depression, thoughts of suicide. I don't share that 2019 01:36:41,479 --> 01:36:45,680 Speaker 2: because what you see now is a quote unquote polished product. 2020 01:36:45,800 --> 01:36:49,000 Speaker 2: But just like anything that you're any project that you're 2021 01:36:49,040 --> 01:36:51,559 Speaker 2: trying to do, when it first started, it's a rough 2022 01:36:51,640 --> 01:36:53,920 Speaker 2: draft and you got to work it, rework it, rewrite 2023 01:36:53,920 --> 01:36:57,840 Speaker 2: it again, scrap it, start all over again, scratch things out, revised, 2024 01:36:58,000 --> 01:37:00,479 Speaker 2: re updated. You got to do all time to ship 2025 01:37:01,040 --> 01:37:02,760 Speaker 2: in order to get to the finished project. And then 2026 01:37:02,800 --> 01:37:04,960 Speaker 2: once you get to the finished project, guess what, you 2027 01:37:05,040 --> 01:37:06,840 Speaker 2: got to upgrade it, which means you got to turn 2028 01:37:06,880 --> 01:37:08,479 Speaker 2: around it by like, Okay, this is a finished product, 2029 01:37:08,479 --> 01:37:09,960 Speaker 2: but I need to improve on it. I need to 2030 01:37:10,000 --> 01:37:11,600 Speaker 2: improve on it, I need to change it. It could be 2031 01:37:11,600 --> 01:37:13,800 Speaker 2: tweet tears. Oh okay, I got some more information and 2032 01:37:13,840 --> 01:37:15,960 Speaker 2: got some more knowledge. And that's how life is. To me. 2033 01:37:16,160 --> 01:37:19,400 Speaker 2: Life is a constant upgrade. It's a constant mental upgrade, 2034 01:37:19,439 --> 01:37:25,400 Speaker 2: spiritual upgrade, constantly upgrading, constantly learning, constantly re re reevaluating, 2035 01:37:25,520 --> 01:37:28,680 Speaker 2: constantly realizing that, oh this is outdated. Let me get 2036 01:37:28,800 --> 01:37:31,920 Speaker 2: rid of this, these words, these languages and stuff, you know, 2037 01:37:32,040 --> 01:37:35,360 Speaker 2: my attitude. Let me revamp this, let me find out 2038 01:37:35,400 --> 01:37:37,960 Speaker 2: a new way to get a different answer. And a 2039 01:37:38,000 --> 01:37:39,880 Speaker 2: lot of people don't look at life like that. And 2040 01:37:39,920 --> 01:37:41,800 Speaker 2: once you do, it makes life easier. 2041 01:37:42,560 --> 01:37:46,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. And on top of that, like I think, what 2042 01:37:46,880 --> 01:37:48,720 Speaker 1: the kind of brain I have? I think of what 2043 01:37:48,840 --> 01:37:50,679 Speaker 1: I think of people watching me? I think of people 2044 01:37:50,680 --> 01:37:52,800 Speaker 1: watching me waiting for me to fuck up. Now that's 2045 01:37:52,920 --> 01:37:55,800 Speaker 1: me occupying my own brain with that, Right, I'm putting 2046 01:37:55,840 --> 01:37:58,600 Speaker 1: those people out there. Sure they exist somewhere, just like 2047 01:37:58,640 --> 01:38:01,320 Speaker 1: they're but but what have is when you focus on that, 2048 01:38:01,400 --> 01:38:06,360 Speaker 1: you also are waving off the amount of people that 2049 01:38:06,400 --> 01:38:09,280 Speaker 1: are watching you, hoping you succeed the amount of people 2050 01:38:09,320 --> 01:38:11,880 Speaker 1: that are watching you saying, well, if this thing work 2051 01:38:11,960 --> 01:38:14,880 Speaker 1: for them, it's gonna work for me. And I tend 2052 01:38:14,920 --> 01:38:17,679 Speaker 1: to forget about those things. Even with our platform, even 2053 01:38:17,720 --> 01:38:20,120 Speaker 1: with my following all that shit, I still my brain 2054 01:38:20,200 --> 01:38:23,719 Speaker 1: just doesn't always think that. But then I'm always constantly 2055 01:38:23,720 --> 01:38:26,120 Speaker 1: reaffirmed by that. When I say I'm reading, people are like, 2056 01:38:26,160 --> 01:38:28,400 Speaker 1: I want to know what you're reading. When I say 2057 01:38:28,520 --> 01:38:30,760 Speaker 1: I'm listening to this music, Hey, what song is that? 2058 01:38:30,800 --> 01:38:33,120 Speaker 1: When I say, you know, I've been excising lately, I 2059 01:38:33,160 --> 01:38:35,400 Speaker 1: find it to be, oh, yeah, I'm gonna do that too. 2060 01:38:35,479 --> 01:38:37,640 Speaker 1: What are you using? You gotta fit bed? Or what 2061 01:38:37,680 --> 01:38:39,840 Speaker 1: are you walking? Or you're running or you know, like 2062 01:38:40,240 --> 01:38:42,559 Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. And so I'll be sitting up 2063 01:38:42,560 --> 01:38:45,120 Speaker 1: there thinking about the negative people when I should be 2064 01:38:45,160 --> 01:38:47,519 Speaker 1: thinking about the fucking positive people, you know, when I 2065 01:38:47,520 --> 01:38:49,680 Speaker 1: should be thinking about the positive steps I've taken in 2066 01:38:49,680 --> 01:38:52,760 Speaker 1: the work I've done. But I think a large part 2067 01:38:52,760 --> 01:38:55,960 Speaker 1: of that for me was being on social media so much. 2068 01:38:56,080 --> 01:38:59,160 Speaker 1: It showcases that negative all. 2069 01:38:59,120 --> 01:39:02,640 Speaker 2: Right, And before we go, what I realized too is 2070 01:39:03,120 --> 01:39:05,439 Speaker 2: kind of piggyback on what you were saying. Yes, there's 2071 01:39:05,479 --> 01:39:08,600 Speaker 2: always in your life it sounds might sound well, but 2072 01:39:08,680 --> 01:39:10,479 Speaker 2: in your life, there's always a cheering section in a 2073 01:39:10,479 --> 01:39:13,639 Speaker 2: booing section quote unquote in your life, and you've got 2074 01:39:13,640 --> 01:39:15,800 Speaker 2: to realize there's more people cheering for you than actually 2075 01:39:15,840 --> 01:39:18,320 Speaker 2: booing for you. But a lot of times we look 2076 01:39:18,360 --> 01:39:20,839 Speaker 2: at the booze and we pay the booze more attention. 2077 01:39:20,920 --> 01:39:21,800 Speaker 2: Did we actually look at the. 2078 01:39:21,840 --> 01:39:24,679 Speaker 4: Cheers and get stronger? 2079 01:39:25,600 --> 01:39:25,800 Speaker 1: Yeah? 2080 01:39:25,880 --> 01:39:28,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, and and and and that's the thing is, it's 2081 01:39:28,160 --> 01:39:30,519 Speaker 2: like whatever side that you draw your attention to will 2082 01:39:30,560 --> 01:39:33,519 Speaker 2: get stronger. And so I ain't have a and to 2083 01:39:33,600 --> 01:39:35,640 Speaker 2: my detriment, sometimes there has to be a balance, but 2084 01:39:35,680 --> 01:39:37,400 Speaker 2: I have a tendency to be very verge. Some of 2085 01:39:37,400 --> 01:39:39,920 Speaker 2: Al's most too positive to some people. I'm like, yeah, yeah, 2086 01:39:39,920 --> 01:39:41,719 Speaker 2: I know that they other fuck them. And I was like, okay, 2087 01:39:41,720 --> 01:39:43,880 Speaker 2: I'm over here with with the positive ship and the 2088 01:39:43,920 --> 01:39:46,040 Speaker 2: positive things and and the things that are going to 2089 01:39:46,160 --> 01:39:48,160 Speaker 2: edify me and make me a better person and keep 2090 01:39:48,160 --> 01:39:51,240 Speaker 2: me growing, like like like this is me, you know, 2091 01:39:51,680 --> 01:39:54,280 Speaker 2: I know those things exist, and yes I can vamp 2092 01:39:54,320 --> 01:39:57,040 Speaker 2: and change. But a lot of times that negativity can 2093 01:39:57,240 --> 01:40:01,200 Speaker 2: literally suck all the tears to where you hear nothing 2094 01:40:01,240 --> 01:40:01,880 Speaker 2: but booze. 2095 01:40:02,160 --> 01:40:07,360 Speaker 1: Yep, we have another voicemail. All right, So, like I said, 2096 01:40:07,479 --> 01:40:11,200 Speaker 1: next voicemail, Hey. 2097 01:40:11,040 --> 01:40:14,640 Speaker 3: Rod Hen Karens is mem on. So I'm listening to 2098 01:40:15,320 --> 01:40:24,680 Speaker 3: your episode Maga Bars and about the trans sobia and 2099 01:40:24,920 --> 01:40:28,520 Speaker 3: the always packaging. It's like, I've had so many conversations 2100 01:40:28,560 --> 01:40:33,120 Speaker 3: about this with different people. And then the thing that 2101 01:40:33,600 --> 01:40:37,120 Speaker 3: then I wasn't shocked by the trans phobia by the 2102 01:40:37,120 --> 01:40:40,920 Speaker 3: people that I know on my Facebook page. It was 2103 01:40:40,960 --> 01:40:44,000 Speaker 3: more about where they were sharing their transphobia from. It 2104 01:40:44,120 --> 01:40:47,759 Speaker 3: was like, y'all said, this is from a hateful Republican site. 2105 01:40:48,200 --> 01:40:52,760 Speaker 3: It was like Republican Women's something, and they're like, oh, 2106 01:40:53,040 --> 01:40:55,479 Speaker 3: you're not gonna raise my womanhood. I was like, how 2107 01:40:55,520 --> 01:40:58,960 Speaker 3: does this erase your womanhood? And I was just asked. 2108 01:40:59,000 --> 01:41:00,920 Speaker 3: I would just go on to this common question. I 2109 01:41:00,960 --> 01:41:04,120 Speaker 3: would just say, hey sis or go alphake, I'm how's 2110 01:41:04,160 --> 01:41:08,400 Speaker 3: this erase your womanhood? I was like, are you still 2111 01:41:08,439 --> 01:41:10,120 Speaker 3: a woman? Are you still a person? Do you still 2112 01:41:10,160 --> 01:41:13,360 Speaker 3: feel feminine? I was like, we still gotta use these products. 2113 01:41:13,720 --> 01:41:15,880 Speaker 3: It doesn't take away that. I was like, I don't 2114 01:41:15,880 --> 01:41:17,920 Speaker 3: get this. And then they'd be like, oh, I'm not 2115 01:41:18,000 --> 01:41:20,920 Speaker 3: answering any questions. I'm like, all right, all right, I 2116 01:41:20,960 --> 01:41:23,800 Speaker 3: won't even know that that's been disrespectful. And then in 2117 01:41:23,840 --> 01:41:28,280 Speaker 3: a lot of doula groups because because most doulas and 2118 01:41:28,400 --> 01:41:34,040 Speaker 3: midwives are SIS women, and a lot there's been a 2119 01:41:34,160 --> 01:41:39,520 Speaker 3: lot of controversy, like in different dula groups about inclusive language. 2120 01:41:39,160 --> 01:41:39,760 Speaker 1: And things like that. 2121 01:41:40,400 --> 01:41:42,880 Speaker 3: And I had another doulah with my friends. She's like, 2122 01:41:43,280 --> 01:41:45,200 Speaker 3: how do you feel about, you know, working for a 2123 01:41:45,320 --> 01:41:48,719 Speaker 3: trans person? And I was like, if they're having a baby, 2124 01:41:48,920 --> 01:41:52,160 Speaker 3: I'm willing to work with them, Like I don't need 2125 01:41:52,240 --> 01:41:56,200 Speaker 3: the problems. I was like, we're about working with. 2126 01:41:58,280 --> 01:41:58,599 Speaker 2: People. 2127 01:42:01,120 --> 01:42:04,120 Speaker 3: It's just been a thing. But okay before they cut 2128 01:42:04,160 --> 01:42:04,400 Speaker 3: me off. 2129 01:42:06,760 --> 01:42:07,040 Speaker 2: Baby. 2130 01:42:07,280 --> 01:42:10,000 Speaker 1: She love another voicemail too, but it's like, yeah, so 2131 01:42:10,520 --> 01:42:15,200 Speaker 1: I want her baby to be their baby, his baby, whatever. 2132 01:42:15,720 --> 01:42:19,400 Speaker 1: I would like the baby in this situation to not 2133 01:42:19,560 --> 01:42:22,800 Speaker 1: have care because it's a trans from a trans person. 2134 01:42:23,880 --> 01:42:27,000 Speaker 1: How that make sense, Like, that's not the job. 2135 01:42:27,320 --> 01:42:29,960 Speaker 2: My job is to make you a healthy right the 2136 01:42:30,479 --> 01:42:31,559 Speaker 2: child is born, Like. 2137 01:42:31,800 --> 01:42:33,400 Speaker 1: What the fuck are you even in this business for? 2138 01:42:33,640 --> 01:42:36,280 Speaker 1: If that's like it's well, I just don't understand that 2139 01:42:36,320 --> 01:42:38,280 Speaker 1: type of biggoty because it's so stupid to me because 2140 01:42:38,400 --> 01:42:40,120 Speaker 1: like it's the same thing we talked about where like 2141 01:42:40,240 --> 01:42:43,200 Speaker 1: a trans person gets shot or something in the hospital, 2142 01:42:43,280 --> 01:42:46,280 Speaker 1: refusing to treat them because it's like, well, I mean trans, 2143 01:42:46,400 --> 01:42:49,240 Speaker 1: I mean, we don't do that here, like someone's bleeding out. 2144 01:42:49,680 --> 01:42:50,360 Speaker 1: Just do your job. 2145 01:42:50,600 --> 01:42:51,720 Speaker 2: Do your fucking job. 2146 01:42:52,560 --> 01:42:53,719 Speaker 1: She left another voicemail. 2147 01:42:54,400 --> 01:42:58,240 Speaker 3: Hey y'all, it's me on again. I just wanted to 2148 01:42:58,960 --> 01:43:01,400 Speaker 3: call that because it after I calmed down a bit, 2149 01:43:01,640 --> 01:43:03,519 Speaker 3: because I don't know if you could tell in that 2150 01:43:03,640 --> 01:43:07,080 Speaker 3: first message, I was really pressed, Like my heart felt 2151 01:43:07,160 --> 01:43:09,120 Speaker 3: like super heavy. I felt like I was out of 2152 01:43:09,240 --> 01:43:14,639 Speaker 3: breath just talking. So but yeah, it's just because it's 2153 01:43:14,760 --> 01:43:19,800 Speaker 3: just and I want to thank y'all because for talking 2154 01:43:19,840 --> 01:43:24,920 Speaker 3: about the subjects, because before, you know, at least on Facebook, 2155 01:43:24,920 --> 01:43:29,080 Speaker 3: I never felt like comfortable speaking about those things. Like 2156 01:43:29,160 --> 01:43:32,800 Speaker 3: if I would see someone say something you know, really, 2157 01:43:33,800 --> 01:43:38,439 Speaker 3: you know, horrible, I don't just I'm gonna delete that 2158 01:43:38,560 --> 01:43:40,640 Speaker 3: from a page. I don't want to see that, or 2159 01:43:41,000 --> 01:43:43,360 Speaker 3: I took a sad face like okay, I don't see 2160 01:43:43,439 --> 01:43:46,280 Speaker 3: why you're thinking like that. But I wouldn't really say 2161 01:43:46,280 --> 01:43:49,240 Speaker 3: anything because I felt like, okay, well that's not my experience. 2162 01:43:49,360 --> 01:43:52,680 Speaker 3: I don't really know enough to say anything, so I'm 2163 01:43:52,720 --> 01:43:55,040 Speaker 3: just not going to say anything, but you know, the 2164 01:43:55,120 --> 01:43:58,920 Speaker 3: information's out there. You know, it's like talking about it, 2165 01:43:59,200 --> 01:44:01,200 Speaker 3: listening to y'all talk about it, and then just going 2166 01:44:01,560 --> 01:44:04,360 Speaker 3: to google stuff because it's like and then within the 2167 01:44:04,439 --> 01:44:08,080 Speaker 3: birthing community, it's it's like, yeah, there's information. I started 2168 01:44:08,120 --> 01:44:12,760 Speaker 3: following pages that talked about, you know, the transperthing experience, 2169 01:44:13,000 --> 01:44:14,880 Speaker 3: and then just looked at us and there's so much 2170 01:44:15,000 --> 01:44:18,160 Speaker 3: information out there because you know, I can see like 2171 01:44:18,280 --> 01:44:23,400 Speaker 3: if I as assist black black woman, if you know, 2172 01:44:23,520 --> 01:44:28,040 Speaker 3: and I'm on these groups, like, okay, we understand the 2173 01:44:28,160 --> 01:44:31,240 Speaker 3: plight of the black women when it comes to birthing 2174 01:44:31,320 --> 01:44:34,720 Speaker 3: in America, how can you not emphasize at least if 2175 01:44:34,760 --> 01:44:37,800 Speaker 3: you don't understand it, you can have empathy about it, 2176 01:44:38,000 --> 01:44:42,439 Speaker 3: about the struggle of being a transperson. And so why 2177 01:44:42,920 --> 01:44:47,200 Speaker 3: are you like upset about inclusive language? And I was like, 2178 01:44:47,360 --> 01:44:50,080 Speaker 3: I don't get that even if you know, I wasn't 2179 01:44:50,200 --> 01:44:52,519 Speaker 3: talking about it that I am talking about it now. 2180 01:44:55,240 --> 01:44:59,000 Speaker 1: Oh did it cut off? Oh damn? Okay, So then 2181 01:44:59,040 --> 01:45:01,160 Speaker 1: that's why she said she wrote in one more thing, 2182 01:45:01,240 --> 01:45:04,400 Speaker 1: But yeah, yeah, there's a lot of resources out there 2183 01:45:04,760 --> 01:45:08,000 Speaker 1: to arm yourself with, and honestly, a lot of times 2184 01:45:09,520 --> 01:45:11,720 Speaker 1: not to say that ignorance is okay or whatever, but 2185 01:45:12,880 --> 01:45:15,400 Speaker 1: a lot of people's ignorance has got it literally like 2186 01:45:15,680 --> 01:45:17,880 Speaker 1: literal ignorance. It's got it from the fact they don't know. 2187 01:45:18,800 --> 01:45:25,559 Speaker 1: And a lot of that ignorance is actually you can't 2188 01:45:25,640 --> 01:45:27,240 Speaker 1: see it all the time, but a lot of times 2189 01:45:27,240 --> 01:45:29,840 Speaker 1: it's them reaching out trying to find guidance and trying 2190 01:45:29,880 --> 01:45:31,720 Speaker 1: to and trying to find somebody that does know. 2191 01:45:32,400 --> 01:45:34,880 Speaker 4: And unfortunately it doesn't always take a good shape. 2192 01:45:34,920 --> 01:45:36,560 Speaker 1: And I'm not saying you should be subjected to that 2193 01:45:36,720 --> 01:45:38,679 Speaker 1: or people should go engage with that all the time. 2194 01:45:39,240 --> 01:45:41,919 Speaker 1: But if you are a privileged and you can engage 2195 01:45:41,960 --> 01:45:46,200 Speaker 1: with it in a in a what do they call that, 2196 01:45:48,280 --> 01:45:52,160 Speaker 1: in whatever it means, when the conversations on the up 2197 01:45:52,200 --> 01:45:54,759 Speaker 1: and up, where it's not like them doing Devil's advocate 2198 01:45:55,000 --> 01:45:56,519 Speaker 1: or just want to control you. 2199 01:45:57,320 --> 01:45:58,960 Speaker 4: If you can engage in that, man a lot of 2200 01:45:59,040 --> 01:46:00,240 Speaker 4: times a lot of good can come of that. 2201 01:46:01,040 --> 01:46:03,800 Speaker 1: Like a lot I've done that before and had it 2202 01:46:03,920 --> 01:46:06,840 Speaker 1: done with me, and I'm thankful for those it took 2203 01:46:06,880 --> 01:46:09,479 Speaker 1: the time out to hit me up to something like that. 2204 01:46:09,560 --> 01:46:11,640 Speaker 1: Because it doesn't have to be ugly, it doesn't have 2205 01:46:11,760 --> 01:46:12,439 Speaker 1: to be a debate. 2206 01:46:12,840 --> 01:46:14,000 Speaker 4: It doesn't have to be a fight. 2207 01:46:15,320 --> 01:46:17,120 Speaker 2: Yes, you really about education. 2208 01:46:17,280 --> 01:46:18,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm thankful to the people that took the time 2209 01:46:19,000 --> 01:46:20,240 Speaker 1: out to do it for me, and I try to 2210 01:46:20,280 --> 01:46:21,880 Speaker 1: remember that pay it for it when I do it 2211 01:46:21,960 --> 01:46:24,680 Speaker 1: for other people and not spend the whole time like 2212 01:46:24,840 --> 01:46:29,640 Speaker 1: chastising people that really don't mean harm, you know, because because. 2213 01:46:32,560 --> 01:46:35,439 Speaker 4: Unlike what the Internet says, intent does matter. 2214 01:46:35,600 --> 01:46:38,760 Speaker 1: It matters. It does, and a lot of and sometimes. 2215 01:46:38,439 --> 01:46:42,240 Speaker 4: Intent matters more than the actions. But intent matters for sure. 2216 01:46:42,520 --> 01:46:45,760 Speaker 1: So this idea that it doesn't matter you'll be able 2217 01:46:46,040 --> 01:46:48,720 Speaker 1: to define it or decipher who's on the up and up. 2218 01:46:48,760 --> 01:46:51,280 Speaker 1: But that's dope at least being in the community and 2219 01:46:51,360 --> 01:46:55,120 Speaker 1: being somebody that's like, hey, this is why I don't 2220 01:46:55,120 --> 01:46:57,800 Speaker 1: agree with y'all, you know, And it takes a lot 2221 01:46:57,840 --> 01:47:03,960 Speaker 1: because with group dynamic like being ousted, being embarrassed, dragged 2222 01:47:04,040 --> 01:47:06,439 Speaker 1: or whatever, it's not it's not fun and a lot 2223 01:47:06,439 --> 01:47:08,640 Speaker 1: of times is wrong. A lot of times it's just 2224 01:47:08,680 --> 01:47:10,840 Speaker 1: flat out wrong, and it doesn't people like to act 2225 01:47:10,880 --> 01:47:14,320 Speaker 1: like it's always weaponize for good, but it's not all right. 2226 01:47:14,479 --> 01:47:17,120 Speaker 1: Beats for the podcast. We got emails am a right 2227 01:47:17,240 --> 01:47:20,200 Speaker 1: saying hey, Rod and Karen, this is a mind aka 2228 01:47:20,400 --> 01:47:24,560 Speaker 1: Infrared Crypto. Oh maybe know you from Three Guys on 2229 01:47:25,560 --> 01:47:26,840 Speaker 1: Okay we are three g o. 2230 01:47:27,960 --> 01:47:30,240 Speaker 2: You know uhang Gang Gang Gang. 2231 01:47:31,640 --> 01:47:33,960 Speaker 1: You may have heard some of my music on Three 2232 01:47:34,000 --> 01:47:36,759 Speaker 1: Guys on podcasts. I'm a huge fan and I thoroughly 2233 01:47:36,920 --> 01:47:38,599 Speaker 1: enjoyed the show. I've been listening to you out since 2234 01:47:38,640 --> 01:47:41,200 Speaker 1: twenty fourteen. It's been a delight to hear you guys 2235 01:47:41,240 --> 01:47:42,720 Speaker 1: every week. I just wanted to send you out a 2236 01:47:42,720 --> 01:47:45,160 Speaker 1: few beats I created recently for the podcast in case 2237 01:47:45,200 --> 01:47:48,639 Speaker 1: you needed any music and the foreseeable future. Feel free 2238 01:47:48,680 --> 01:47:51,280 Speaker 1: to use them anytime. Hopefully you enjoy them. Well, you 2239 01:47:51,400 --> 01:47:54,920 Speaker 1: know what, man, thank you. You know, normally I say 2240 01:47:55,040 --> 01:47:56,920 Speaker 1: I won't even play this shit on my show, but 2241 01:47:57,040 --> 01:47:59,759 Speaker 1: you know what, dog, I'm gonna play some of these songs, 2242 01:48:00,680 --> 01:48:02,640 Speaker 1: some of this music on the show. And maybe we 2243 01:48:02,720 --> 01:48:04,519 Speaker 1: can't find a use for him for maybe that somebody 2244 01:48:04,560 --> 01:48:13,640 Speaker 1: spin off shows and stuff, find some. 2245 01:48:13,880 --> 01:48:18,400 Speaker 2: Gangster ship, like somebody about to come in real hard. 2246 01:48:29,160 --> 01:48:30,680 Speaker 1: I was waiting on the drive. I knew something was 2247 01:48:30,680 --> 01:48:39,040 Speaker 1: gonna drove. Okay, all right, I might go ahead, free. 2248 01:48:38,880 --> 01:48:43,960 Speaker 4: Stout of this shut up, all right, I'm ready ready, 2249 01:48:45,040 --> 01:48:45,360 Speaker 4: I got. 2250 01:48:50,240 --> 01:48:53,960 Speaker 1: Pulling out the pump we buffer, Donald Trump, Kanye West 2251 01:48:54,160 --> 01:48:57,080 Speaker 1: so fresh, he the best, got these coon bars. Hey, 2252 01:48:57,160 --> 01:48:59,559 Speaker 1: you know I'm just some maga boy. You better put 2253 01:48:59,720 --> 01:48:59,960 Speaker 1: out a. 2254 01:49:02,360 --> 01:49:02,880 Speaker 2: Turn off. 2255 01:49:03,080 --> 01:49:07,080 Speaker 1: I started freestyling. Is a sorry pro Donald Trump? No, no, 2256 01:49:07,760 --> 01:49:12,599 Speaker 1: I told you I'm a mega boy. Well I can't 2257 01:49:12,600 --> 01:49:14,120 Speaker 1: freestyle for the people. Carn damn. 2258 01:49:14,160 --> 01:49:16,839 Speaker 2: I mean you can freestyle, but not about no mega bars. 2259 01:49:17,120 --> 01:49:18,280 Speaker 1: Maybe the next be to be better. 2260 01:49:18,360 --> 01:49:23,040 Speaker 2: Let me see, eh like this one. This one got 2261 01:49:23,080 --> 01:49:23,920 Speaker 2: more of a bounce to it. 2262 01:49:33,439 --> 01:49:35,040 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, I got all right. 2263 01:49:35,080 --> 01:49:35,360 Speaker 2: Here we go. 2264 01:49:42,920 --> 01:49:45,840 Speaker 1: I'm cruising down the street. I'm listening to the beach 2265 01:49:46,400 --> 01:49:51,720 Speaker 1: talking about universal healthcare. You liberals are all on welfare. 2266 01:49:52,560 --> 01:49:55,880 Speaker 1: You need to get a job and just prepare. You 2267 01:49:56,000 --> 01:49:59,120 Speaker 1: hate to see a black man being independent When I'm 2268 01:49:59,160 --> 01:50:03,920 Speaker 1: walking down a in my maga fitted so religious. They 2269 01:50:04,040 --> 01:50:07,920 Speaker 1: can't get it. That's why I'm always cripping for these 2270 01:50:07,960 --> 01:50:08,799 Speaker 1: Trump niggas. 2271 01:50:09,160 --> 01:50:13,160 Speaker 4: Oh wait, Domn say, you're right. They would never say nigga. 2272 01:50:13,920 --> 01:50:14,599 Speaker 1: I take that back. 2273 01:50:15,160 --> 01:50:16,519 Speaker 2: You you would have got banned off the video. 2274 01:50:16,760 --> 01:50:17,479 Speaker 1: I take that back. 2275 01:50:17,600 --> 01:50:22,680 Speaker 2: Okay, here's another big This is Swaves, yes saying. 2276 01:50:24,920 --> 01:50:42,400 Speaker 1: That's kind of jazzy maga. Don't have no colors. No, no, no, that's. 2277 01:50:44,360 --> 01:50:44,800 Speaker 2: Even wrap. 2278 01:50:45,479 --> 01:50:48,240 Speaker 1: Build a wall. We're gonna wind up all put them 2279 01:50:48,320 --> 01:50:51,479 Speaker 1: in the halls. Make sure they have them children on call, 2280 01:50:51,920 --> 01:50:54,439 Speaker 1: because that's what we're doing. Donald Trump, were about to 2281 01:50:54,560 --> 01:50:57,400 Speaker 1: ruin these liberals and they're out here acting like they 2282 01:50:57,479 --> 01:51:01,320 Speaker 1: really represented. Who are you, Bill Clinton or hillaryy little 2283 01:51:01,320 --> 01:51:04,800 Speaker 1: ahead of locker up? See your emails. I hate females. 2284 01:51:05,040 --> 01:51:07,880 Speaker 1: All these women out here smell coming from the ship. 2285 01:51:08,000 --> 01:51:11,519 Speaker 1: Whole countries or this is Donald Trump and we're from 2286 01:51:11,640 --> 01:51:15,200 Speaker 1: the d C. That's where we run. These black people 2287 01:51:15,479 --> 01:51:17,720 Speaker 1: all around the town and they can't do ship. When 2288 01:51:17,720 --> 01:51:20,240 Speaker 1: they see us getting down on the parade and we're 2289 01:51:20,280 --> 01:51:23,160 Speaker 1: watching on the capitol, I wish you motherfuckers wood try 2290 01:51:23,240 --> 01:51:27,400 Speaker 1: to step to us. I think that's that? Is that better? Forty? Well, 2291 01:51:27,439 --> 01:51:29,960 Speaker 1: it's one more beat. It's one more beat. It's called 2292 01:51:30,000 --> 01:51:31,679 Speaker 1: seven thirties. I give it one more try. 2293 01:51:32,320 --> 01:51:34,679 Speaker 2: Maybe I like all your beats. The problem is the rapping. 2294 01:51:35,040 --> 01:51:38,479 Speaker 1: What what you ain't you want a freestyle? You wonn't 2295 01:51:38,479 --> 01:51:38,840 Speaker 1: playing for you. 2296 01:51:39,360 --> 01:51:41,679 Speaker 2: I know I can't freestyle, but I'm not rapping. 2297 01:51:41,720 --> 01:51:44,960 Speaker 1: No maga bars, I'm just caring. I'm just going with 2298 01:51:45,120 --> 01:51:48,679 Speaker 1: the beat. Is bringing out of me. Okay, you thieves 2299 01:51:48,720 --> 01:51:50,920 Speaker 1: are just bringing out my freestyle. 2300 01:51:51,080 --> 01:51:53,160 Speaker 2: Flow, and I feel like you hate bringing out the hatred. 2301 01:51:53,680 --> 01:51:57,760 Speaker 1: I'm just saying you not love yourself? Oh shit? Oh 2302 01:51:58,120 --> 01:52:07,719 Speaker 1: come on, oh this funky right here? First things first, 2303 01:52:08,439 --> 01:52:11,519 Speaker 1: what's up with all of these opinions? I'm talking about 2304 01:52:11,560 --> 01:52:14,840 Speaker 1: these black women? Every time you try to freestyle some 2305 01:52:14,960 --> 01:52:17,840 Speaker 1: mega balls, they be walking around like Rod like, oh 2306 01:52:17,920 --> 01:52:21,200 Speaker 1: my god, can you cut it out? No, Nigga, I cannot. 2307 01:52:21,520 --> 01:52:24,080 Speaker 1: I'm over here talking about these levels. What they got. 2308 01:52:24,479 --> 01:52:26,880 Speaker 1: Who's gonna stop when the block is hot? I need 2309 01:52:27,040 --> 01:52:29,479 Speaker 1: diamond and silk so I can go and get some milk. 2310 01:52:29,840 --> 01:52:32,000 Speaker 1: I need to get you Kanye, so I could be 2311 01:52:32,360 --> 01:52:36,000 Speaker 1: like what's going on in DC? Like when you go 2312 01:52:36,120 --> 01:52:40,000 Speaker 1: to Chicago and with the Dashians and you be like, yo, 2313 01:52:40,120 --> 01:52:43,760 Speaker 1: I need to crash again. Donald Trump is freeing black 2314 01:52:43,840 --> 01:52:46,519 Speaker 1: people one at a time, but at least it's still 2315 01:52:46,560 --> 01:52:49,640 Speaker 1: a little I mean, why y'all hating because Barack is 2316 01:52:49,800 --> 01:52:55,000 Speaker 1: Satan and I'm talking about these statans. Oh with that scientology. 2317 01:52:56,000 --> 01:52:59,080 Speaker 1: Let me get back on a strategy. Because Donald Trump 2318 01:52:59,240 --> 01:53:02,400 Speaker 1: hangs out with bars like the one that hung himself 2319 01:53:02,520 --> 01:53:08,040 Speaker 1: in jail behind bars I think Epstein. Oh what, Oh wait, 2320 01:53:08,040 --> 01:53:11,559 Speaker 1: we're not supposed talk about him. That's that's against that's 2321 01:53:11,560 --> 01:53:15,200 Speaker 1: against Donald Trump. Well look I gave it a shot. Okay. 2322 01:53:15,320 --> 01:53:18,920 Speaker 1: I tried to drop some hot fire. Karen was hating as. 2323 01:53:19,360 --> 01:53:21,840 Speaker 2: Baby, I love your beats is flames. 2324 01:53:22,160 --> 01:53:22,719 Speaker 1: Karen didn't. 2325 01:53:23,280 --> 01:53:25,719 Speaker 2: I didn't know this was gonna be the Mega Coon 2326 01:53:25,800 --> 01:53:26,639 Speaker 2: Hour over your beat. 2327 01:53:27,280 --> 01:53:30,320 Speaker 4: Karen was not feeling it at all. The chat room 2328 01:53:30,439 --> 01:53:30,880 Speaker 4: is hating. 2329 01:53:31,200 --> 01:53:36,679 Speaker 1: Wow, can the bars. Every time a black person tries 2330 01:53:36,720 --> 01:53:41,479 Speaker 1: to be independent, these black people pull you down. They 2331 01:53:41,520 --> 01:53:43,000 Speaker 1: don't like independent thinkers. 2332 01:53:43,160 --> 01:53:46,000 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm just trying to get out here on the field. 2333 01:53:46,120 --> 01:53:48,920 Speaker 1: I'm not one of these sheep. Okay, I'm not like 2334 01:53:49,000 --> 01:53:51,600 Speaker 1: these other blacks. And I tried to freestyle of your 2335 01:53:51,640 --> 01:53:52,519 Speaker 1: beats and they was hating. 2336 01:53:52,560 --> 01:53:52,640 Speaker 2: Bro. 2337 01:53:52,720 --> 01:53:55,400 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but thank you for listening. And we appreciate 2338 01:53:55,479 --> 01:53:57,160 Speaker 1: these beats. We will use it, put them to get you. 2339 01:53:57,439 --> 01:54:00,120 Speaker 2: We will, Baby, thank you, and they and and and 2340 01:54:00,200 --> 01:54:03,240 Speaker 2: we won't tarn this your good name and reputation with that. 2341 01:54:03,960 --> 01:54:07,519 Speaker 1: I'm gonna put out a whole Coon album and be 2342 01:54:07,640 --> 01:54:10,479 Speaker 1: like Infra Red Cryptos told me to do this beginning 2343 01:54:10,479 --> 01:54:12,360 Speaker 1: of every song instead of the drop that's just like 2344 01:54:12,800 --> 01:54:15,560 Speaker 1: you know, it'll be like infrared crypto and I'll be like, 2345 01:54:15,640 --> 01:54:17,880 Speaker 1: told me to do this. Oh, Donald Trump was bright. 2346 01:54:18,160 --> 01:54:19,320 Speaker 1: You niggas need to fight. 2347 01:54:20,200 --> 01:54:26,280 Speaker 2: Donna like info info red red crypto crypto. 2348 01:54:27,880 --> 01:54:32,960 Speaker 1: Coon boss, Toy says, Toy says hyy Rod and Karen. 2349 01:54:33,000 --> 01:54:35,560 Speaker 1: I'm with Karen when it comes to tampons and past 2350 01:54:35,760 --> 01:54:38,440 Speaker 1: I didn't know there were symbols on them either. When 2351 01:54:38,480 --> 01:54:40,800 Speaker 1: I'm bleeding, I'm grabbing the ship and going, who gives 2352 01:54:40,840 --> 01:54:43,600 Speaker 1: a fuck. I was more surprised the fact that people 2353 01:54:43,600 --> 01:54:46,000 Speaker 1: were upset about the symbols at all. Then I had 2354 01:54:46,040 --> 01:54:48,080 Speaker 1: to realize some people pay more attention to certain details 2355 01:54:48,080 --> 01:54:49,640 Speaker 1: than I do. And that's okay. I love you guys. 2356 01:54:49,720 --> 01:54:52,400 Speaker 4: I don't even think they pay attention toy o legit thing. 2357 01:54:53,000 --> 01:54:53,839 Speaker 1: When they heard. 2358 01:54:55,280 --> 01:55:00,240 Speaker 4: Trans inclusive, they went, no, I don't want to be inclusive. 2359 01:55:00,280 --> 01:55:02,960 Speaker 2: Because guess what, like I said, and I would say 2360 01:55:03,000 --> 01:55:05,200 Speaker 2: that they could have moved the symbols, not mad no 2361 01:55:05,200 --> 01:55:09,480 Speaker 2: announcement and just changed the product and nobody. Yeah, that 2362 01:55:09,840 --> 01:55:12,040 Speaker 2: shows you how little did actually meant. 2363 01:55:12,840 --> 01:55:16,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, I was very disappointed in people. I guess I 2364 01:55:16,400 --> 01:55:16,680 Speaker 4: don't know. 2365 01:55:16,840 --> 01:55:19,280 Speaker 1: It's like I don't even know what the right word 2366 01:55:19,360 --> 01:55:21,560 Speaker 1: is anymore. It's just like typical. I don't even really 2367 01:55:21,600 --> 01:55:24,560 Speaker 1: spend time talking to these kind of people because it's 2368 01:55:24,560 --> 01:55:27,760 Speaker 1: just so fucking typical for people to do ship like this. Uh, 2369 01:55:27,960 --> 01:55:31,320 Speaker 1: somebody think my man James, I think it was sent. 2370 01:55:31,320 --> 01:55:38,400 Speaker 4: Us a link to video from what's my man's name? 2371 01:55:39,800 --> 01:55:42,720 Speaker 1: Hold on? I like to do. He's it's hilarious and 2372 01:55:42,800 --> 01:55:45,200 Speaker 1: I can't remember his name my name off the top 2373 01:55:45,200 --> 01:55:48,960 Speaker 1: of my head either, But it's a dude that did 2374 01:55:49,080 --> 01:55:54,360 Speaker 1: like Kareem Thickhams, the basketball player I used to play 2375 01:55:54,520 --> 01:55:57,200 Speaker 1: NFL football, but now he makes like funny videos and 2376 01:55:57,240 --> 01:55:58,080 Speaker 1: all this type of stuff. 2377 01:55:59,400 --> 01:56:01,800 Speaker 4: I can't know why I can't remember his name. He's hilarious. 2378 01:56:01,840 --> 01:56:05,160 Speaker 1: But he sent us a video about someone putting sugar 2379 01:56:05,200 --> 01:56:10,720 Speaker 1: in their grits, So it's him putting cigare in his grip. 2380 01:56:12,160 --> 01:56:15,839 Speaker 1: A yo, what are you putting in them grits? Sugar? 2381 01:56:16,720 --> 01:56:20,720 Speaker 1: What am I supposed to put in it? Salt? Who 2382 01:56:20,920 --> 01:56:42,000 Speaker 1: puts salt on grits? If you're not in the chat, 2383 01:56:42,080 --> 01:56:44,360 Speaker 1: you can't see it. But he does a whole montage 2384 01:56:44,400 --> 01:56:47,920 Speaker 1: to Spice Adams. He does a whole montage of him 2385 01:56:48,680 --> 01:56:53,360 Speaker 1: dancing to the everybody, everybody, and he is doing like 2386 01:56:53,520 --> 01:56:57,680 Speaker 1: he's roller skating through his house. He's like got fluorescent 2387 01:56:57,800 --> 01:57:00,440 Speaker 1: backgrounds like this Nigga's so funny interview. 2388 01:57:01,160 --> 01:57:15,680 Speaker 4: But yes, everybody, okay, oh this shit is amazing. 2389 01:57:15,920 --> 01:57:19,120 Speaker 1: Oh but yes, so I'll the I shared it on 2390 01:57:19,200 --> 01:57:21,920 Speaker 1: our Facebook page, if you guys are our Facebook fans 2391 01:57:22,000 --> 01:57:25,680 Speaker 1: of ours. And I also noticed that the Sugar Grits 2392 01:57:26,520 --> 01:57:28,880 Speaker 1: people were quiet as hell when I've shared this video. 2393 01:57:29,520 --> 01:57:32,840 Speaker 1: Not a people was heard because they knew they was wrong. 2394 01:57:33,160 --> 01:57:37,320 Speaker 1: Sometimes comedy tells the truth. The Ship show, Alicia says, 2395 01:57:37,360 --> 01:57:38,880 Speaker 1: I had to pause the show and write in about 2396 01:57:38,880 --> 01:57:41,280 Speaker 1: the school shooting drills traumatizing our babies the past. This 2397 01:57:41,320 --> 01:57:43,040 Speaker 1: past Monday, a kid brought a gun to my son's 2398 01:57:43,040 --> 01:57:45,560 Speaker 1: middle school. He goes to a school where it's only 2399 01:57:45,600 --> 01:57:48,600 Speaker 1: sixth grader's a sixth grader. Luckily, he posted a rant 2400 01:57:48,800 --> 01:57:51,400 Speaker 1: on ig the night before was caught before any damage 2401 01:57:51,480 --> 01:57:54,120 Speaker 1: was done. But damn it was also a bb gun 2402 01:57:54,200 --> 01:57:56,040 Speaker 1: according to the school email. But I guarantee you if 2403 01:57:56,080 --> 01:57:57,640 Speaker 1: he had access to a real gun, he would have 2404 01:57:57,640 --> 01:58:00,480 Speaker 1: brought that. Yes, how do you prepare your children for this? 2405 01:58:00,600 --> 01:58:02,840 Speaker 1: I mean, I told my son the whole don't pick 2406 01:58:02,920 --> 01:58:05,280 Speaker 1: on people because you never know. People are crazy in 2407 01:58:05,360 --> 01:58:08,400 Speaker 1: this situation like that, you want them to hopefully remember 2408 01:58:08,440 --> 01:58:10,160 Speaker 1: you as being kind of them and pass you over. 2409 01:58:10,400 --> 01:58:12,800 Speaker 1: And my seven year old daughter comes to me out 2410 01:58:12,840 --> 01:58:16,600 Speaker 1: of nowhere talking about death, asking crazy questions of saying 2411 01:58:16,920 --> 01:58:18,840 Speaker 1: she would be so sad if I died because she 2412 01:58:18,880 --> 01:58:20,840 Speaker 1: doesn't know the past with my phone. Yes, she really 2413 01:58:20,880 --> 01:58:22,560 Speaker 1: said that, and I don't mean the event. But this 2414 01:58:22,600 --> 01:58:24,960 Speaker 1: shit is really hitting home. You know another thing I 2415 01:58:25,040 --> 01:58:28,000 Speaker 1: was thinking too. I know you wrote it very seriously, 2416 01:58:28,120 --> 01:58:31,879 Speaker 1: but skit wise, someone should if we have a skitshell, 2417 01:58:31,960 --> 01:58:35,280 Speaker 1: then one day knock on, one day we get one. 2418 01:58:36,040 --> 01:58:39,000 Speaker 1: I'm definitely making a skit out of Instead of parents 2419 01:58:39,040 --> 01:58:42,800 Speaker 1: saying like f on the shelf or Santa Claus got 2420 01:58:42,840 --> 01:58:46,200 Speaker 1: a bad list, they gonna be saying school shooters, they'd 2421 01:58:46,240 --> 01:58:47,720 Speaker 1: be like, you have to be good because you never 2422 01:58:47,800 --> 01:58:50,680 Speaker 1: know what school shooter's watching. Okay, you know they gonna 2423 01:58:50,680 --> 01:58:51,000 Speaker 1: shoot you. 2424 01:58:51,040 --> 01:58:54,000 Speaker 2: You picking on people at school, that's how you get killed, 2425 01:58:54,200 --> 01:58:56,840 Speaker 2: That's how you die. Okay, So they got a naught 2426 01:58:56,880 --> 01:58:57,480 Speaker 2: your nice list? 2427 01:58:58,120 --> 01:58:59,720 Speaker 1: Nice, you're gonna be on the school shooter list? 2428 01:59:00,280 --> 01:59:03,240 Speaker 2: Yes, and speak speaking of skins, if I have if 2429 01:59:03,280 --> 01:59:05,040 Speaker 2: we did a scared something else I want to do. 2430 01:59:05,440 --> 01:59:08,480 Speaker 2: You know how people talk about like your slips and stuff, 2431 01:59:09,240 --> 01:59:13,600 Speaker 2: I would sell a product called, like uh uh X 2432 01:59:13,720 --> 01:59:16,480 Speaker 2: ray X ray slip where you know, because people with 2433 01:59:17,040 --> 01:59:19,440 Speaker 2: for those of you who actually had to wear slips, 2434 01:59:20,240 --> 01:59:22,120 Speaker 2: when you don't wear slips, you wear a certain materia 2435 01:59:22,160 --> 01:59:23,400 Speaker 2: I can see through it where you can see like 2436 01:59:23,440 --> 01:59:25,800 Speaker 2: you underwear, your bras and all that stuff. So I 2437 01:59:25,840 --> 01:59:27,920 Speaker 2: would like to have like an X ray slip where 2438 01:59:27,920 --> 01:59:29,920 Speaker 2: they'd be like, oh, she got I do X ray slip. 2439 01:59:30,280 --> 01:59:32,800 Speaker 2: Oh she's looking nice. I can't see none of her underwear. 2440 01:59:32,880 --> 01:59:34,240 Speaker 2: I can't see her panty line. 2441 01:59:35,440 --> 01:59:37,840 Speaker 4: That's uh, I don't I don't know enough about slips 2442 01:59:37,840 --> 01:59:38,400 Speaker 4: to get that one. 2443 01:59:38,840 --> 01:59:40,120 Speaker 1: Be honest with you, but. 2444 01:59:41,720 --> 01:59:42,200 Speaker 2: Wear a slip. 2445 01:59:42,320 --> 01:59:44,160 Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm sure there's women out there like that's that's 2446 01:59:45,320 --> 01:59:45,720 Speaker 4: and the and. 2447 01:59:45,800 --> 01:59:48,240 Speaker 2: The poenix pixel when we would be good. But what 2448 01:59:48,440 --> 01:59:50,480 Speaker 2: happened was that I wish it would always hap whenever 2449 01:59:50,520 --> 01:59:52,200 Speaker 2: you try to send your penis over the internet, it 2450 01:59:52,200 --> 01:59:54,960 Speaker 2: would just be pixelated anytime like you got in public, 2451 01:59:55,000 --> 01:59:56,360 Speaker 2: you know how they coat. 2452 01:59:56,920 --> 01:59:58,640 Speaker 1: That's just a good idea for an app that doesn't 2453 01:59:58,640 --> 02:00:00,280 Speaker 1: even need to be a skit. We just need that 2454 02:00:00,440 --> 02:00:04,600 Speaker 1: in the world, like pixelate all penises. Let people choose 2455 02:00:04,760 --> 02:00:07,280 Speaker 1: opt into that one. Okay, not everybody wants to see 2456 02:00:07,320 --> 02:00:08,320 Speaker 1: your unsolicited dick. 2457 02:00:08,880 --> 02:00:10,600 Speaker 2: Oh you know, you know you you could wear like 2458 02:00:10,680 --> 02:00:13,400 Speaker 2: contacts with anytime you see the penis, it will pixelate. 2459 02:00:15,200 --> 02:00:17,480 Speaker 1: Also, because we laugh at inappropriate things. I'm always playing 2460 02:00:17,480 --> 02:00:19,920 Speaker 1: against the race in my head. This school. His school's 2461 02:00:19,960 --> 02:00:22,480 Speaker 1: predominantly black teachers and students. So when I got the news, 2462 02:00:22,520 --> 02:00:24,560 Speaker 1: I was like, damn, I guess our people shooting those 2463 02:00:24,560 --> 02:00:26,880 Speaker 1: schools too, now huh. But nok. Turns out it was 2464 02:00:26,920 --> 02:00:28,920 Speaker 1: done by the only white kid in the school. My 2465 02:00:29,000 --> 02:00:33,520 Speaker 1: theory still stands. Yeah, yep, probably getting roasted on the 2466 02:00:33,640 --> 02:00:36,720 Speaker 1: daily up in there, no power dynamic switched. White people 2467 02:00:36,760 --> 02:00:37,320 Speaker 1: can't take. 2468 02:00:37,200 --> 02:00:40,800 Speaker 2: It being a minority. They don't function well with that. 2469 02:00:40,920 --> 02:00:44,080 Speaker 4: Started calling him white boy at the basketball court and shit. 2470 02:00:45,920 --> 02:00:47,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, they like that's not offensive. 2471 02:00:48,440 --> 02:00:50,560 Speaker 1: Hey, Rod and Carro, I love that song. Low five 2472 02:00:50,680 --> 02:00:52,480 Speaker 1: music is a genre I just discovered. I love it 2473 02:00:52,520 --> 02:00:55,920 Speaker 1: when I read and study anime shows. This is from 2474 02:00:56,080 --> 02:00:59,800 Speaker 1: Michael and he's talking about when I play Samarad Shamploo's 2475 02:01:00,200 --> 02:01:03,320 Speaker 1: anime opening anime shows had the best opening and ending credits. 2476 02:01:03,360 --> 02:01:05,160 Speaker 4: I'm a millennial, so I grew up on Pokemon. 2477 02:01:05,720 --> 02:01:07,960 Speaker 1: Whenever I hear the song, I go into my Ray 2478 02:01:08,080 --> 02:01:09,960 Speaker 1: Dalton bag and sing the hell out of that song. 2479 02:01:10,120 --> 02:01:12,760 Speaker 4: Great show, great touch to end the episode. 2480 02:01:12,920 --> 02:01:14,280 Speaker 1: One of the five. 2481 02:01:14,240 --> 02:01:17,560 Speaker 2: Thank you Yes anime does. And then somebody had a 2482 02:01:17,680 --> 02:01:20,280 Speaker 2: mean when anime come in, anime come in so hard, 2483 02:01:20,360 --> 02:01:23,120 Speaker 2: and when it leaves, it's the The beats are really 2484 02:01:23,240 --> 02:01:25,760 Speaker 2: mellow at the ending, really hard at the beginning. 2485 02:01:25,800 --> 02:01:30,040 Speaker 1: Marissa right saying our friend shout out to Marissa, Hey, hey, baby, 2486 02:01:30,240 --> 02:01:33,240 Speaker 1: just keep swimming. Hey, Karen and Rod love y'all has 2487 02:01:33,240 --> 02:01:35,200 Speaker 1: always wanted to say that. I teared up so hard 2488 02:01:35,240 --> 02:01:37,640 Speaker 1: when Karen talked about snorkeling in Jamaica even though she 2489 02:01:37,680 --> 02:01:41,280 Speaker 1: couldn't swim. It's not only it's not only dope on principle, 2490 02:01:41,320 --> 02:01:43,080 Speaker 1: but I'm pretty sure I was the one who took 2491 02:01:43,120 --> 02:01:46,680 Speaker 1: her out. That's not flex but actually super surreal because 2492 02:01:46,720 --> 02:01:49,760 Speaker 1: of how I learned the year before I had gone 2493 02:01:49,800 --> 02:01:51,760 Speaker 1: to Jamaica on the women I couldn't swim either. I 2494 02:01:51,840 --> 02:01:54,000 Speaker 1: pushed through my fears to go because I didn't want 2495 02:01:54,040 --> 02:01:56,120 Speaker 1: to fear, want fear to hold me back, and now. 2496 02:01:56,400 --> 02:01:58,920 Speaker 1: It was life changing. When I got home from that trip, 2497 02:01:58,960 --> 02:02:00,920 Speaker 1: I told myself, next time, if the opportunity I wanted 2498 02:02:00,920 --> 02:02:02,480 Speaker 1: to go with out a life jacket. I took swim 2499 02:02:02,560 --> 02:02:05,280 Speaker 1: lessons at the local community center and practice. I was 2500 02:02:05,360 --> 02:02:07,880 Speaker 1: in the pool every single day during Lent that year 2501 02:02:08,120 --> 02:02:11,800 Speaker 1: and got my black father to push overcome his fears 2502 02:02:11,880 --> 02:02:12,800 Speaker 1: and take lessons too. 2503 02:02:13,040 --> 02:02:14,400 Speaker 4: Wow, that's dope. 2504 02:02:14,680 --> 02:02:17,080 Speaker 1: So when I got back to Jamaica the next year, 2505 02:02:17,200 --> 02:02:19,680 Speaker 1: we take the awesome black women with us. It was 2506 02:02:19,760 --> 02:02:22,400 Speaker 1: so full circle to be the one teaching others how 2507 02:02:22,440 --> 02:02:24,280 Speaker 1: to do it and push past their fears. Several of 2508 02:02:24,320 --> 02:02:26,760 Speaker 1: the swimmers were too scared, but Karen jumped right in, 2509 02:02:26,920 --> 02:02:29,160 Speaker 1: push past the discomfort and was out there with me 2510 02:02:29,320 --> 02:02:29,800 Speaker 1: every day. 2511 02:02:31,120 --> 02:02:33,920 Speaker 4: It was an unforgettable experience. Everything was so full circle. 2512 02:02:33,960 --> 02:02:36,200 Speaker 1: And that's only to say explorations can be infectious and 2513 02:02:36,200 --> 02:02:39,839 Speaker 1: impact others around you. Okay, gonna go across some more loo, 2514 02:02:40,200 --> 02:02:42,920 Speaker 1: but for real, though, keep that adventurous spirit. I often 2515 02:02:43,000 --> 02:02:45,480 Speaker 1: reflect these days on how as adults were not encourage 2516 02:02:45,520 --> 02:02:47,640 Speaker 1: to learn and explore and play and fail and get 2517 02:02:47,760 --> 02:02:50,200 Speaker 1: hurt in the same way we can when we are kids. 2518 02:02:50,480 --> 02:02:51,960 Speaker 1: And I'm trying to push back on that in my 2519 02:02:52,040 --> 02:02:54,200 Speaker 1: own life, but always trying new things and being creative. 2520 02:02:54,280 --> 02:02:57,080 Speaker 1: My latest obsession is plants orientally, got my coworker to 2521 02:02:57,120 --> 02:02:59,960 Speaker 1: teach me how to knit. Anyway, still love the show, 2522 02:03:00,080 --> 02:03:02,440 Speaker 1: and I'm still grateful for the vulnerable conversations you all 2523 02:03:02,480 --> 02:03:04,240 Speaker 1: are willing to have publicly because. 2524 02:03:04,160 --> 02:03:06,480 Speaker 4: It gives some of us a chance to reflect on ourselves. 2525 02:03:06,880 --> 02:03:08,720 Speaker 1: That's nice and that's. 2526 02:03:08,640 --> 02:03:12,680 Speaker 2: True, and and and uh I can I say this 2527 02:03:12,840 --> 02:03:15,680 Speaker 2: and not to sound mean and crew, but actually quote 2528 02:03:15,760 --> 02:03:19,600 Speaker 2: unquote being an adult the way most people define adulthood. 2529 02:03:20,640 --> 02:03:22,800 Speaker 2: I don't want to live y'all adulthood life because the 2530 02:03:22,840 --> 02:03:26,200 Speaker 2: way some of y'all all find define adulthood, you don't laugh, 2531 02:03:26,600 --> 02:03:29,840 Speaker 2: you don't joke, you don't play everything serious. You'll watch 2532 02:03:29,920 --> 02:03:32,800 Speaker 2: no cartoons. It's no creativity, your old black ass. Just 2533 02:03:32,880 --> 02:03:36,040 Speaker 2: wake up, feed the kids, fuck your husband and your 2534 02:03:36,040 --> 02:03:38,880 Speaker 2: wife or your significant other, go to work, turn around 2535 02:03:38,880 --> 02:03:41,640 Speaker 2: and do it again. That's all you fucking do. There's 2536 02:03:41,680 --> 02:03:44,560 Speaker 2: no light in your goddamn life. I don't want to 2537 02:03:44,680 --> 02:03:46,480 Speaker 2: be an adult by your differ because you let the 2538 02:03:46,520 --> 02:03:49,280 Speaker 2: internet tell you that's what adulting kids. Because Disney Plus 2539 02:03:49,360 --> 02:03:52,960 Speaker 2: came out and everybody's like y'all think of y'all watch cartoon, yes, bitch, yes, yes, yes, 2540 02:03:53,000 --> 02:03:55,720 Speaker 2: I do watch cartoons. Anything wrong with that. I'm forty, 2541 02:03:55,960 --> 02:03:57,680 Speaker 2: I will I will watch cartoons for the rest of 2542 02:03:57,760 --> 02:04:00,880 Speaker 2: my life. So it's like they're definitely. So they're basically saying, 2543 02:04:00,960 --> 02:04:03,640 Speaker 2: my definition of adulthood is I gave that up. So 2544 02:04:04,120 --> 02:04:07,160 Speaker 2: I push my definition on the other people. So I 2545 02:04:07,280 --> 02:04:09,800 Speaker 2: feel as though it's childish because this is what I hear. 2546 02:04:09,880 --> 02:04:12,640 Speaker 2: I feel as though it's childish to continue to do 2547 02:04:12,800 --> 02:04:14,960 Speaker 2: the things that you loved as a child as an adult. 2548 02:04:15,120 --> 02:04:18,280 Speaker 2: You're painting or having fun or doing these other things. 2549 02:04:18,480 --> 02:04:22,040 Speaker 2: That's childish to me. And so my definition of adulthood 2550 02:04:22,400 --> 02:04:25,720 Speaker 2: is nothing is funny, everything serious, even though that's a 2551 02:04:25,760 --> 02:04:28,720 Speaker 2: motherfucking life. Because everybody has something and there's something in 2552 02:04:28,840 --> 02:04:30,760 Speaker 2: their life that they enjoy. I don't care if it's reading, 2553 02:04:31,440 --> 02:04:33,800 Speaker 2: I don't care if it's running. You have something in 2554 02:04:33,880 --> 02:04:36,920 Speaker 2: your life. This brings you joy, brings you happiness. Hopefully 2555 02:04:37,040 --> 02:04:40,120 Speaker 2: Hopefully this hopefully you do. If you don't, I feel 2556 02:04:40,160 --> 02:04:40,880 Speaker 2: sorry for your life. 2557 02:04:41,080 --> 02:04:43,080 Speaker 1: I play video games and my bills is paid, so 2558 02:04:43,200 --> 02:04:43,760 Speaker 1: I'm an adult. 2559 02:04:44,440 --> 02:04:46,920 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, but I'm not living for the judgment anyway. 2560 02:04:46,760 --> 02:04:48,320 Speaker 2: Right, And I know your dad it called us too 2561 02:04:48,560 --> 02:04:50,560 Speaker 2: grown ass kids. It's like, you know what that's about, right, 2562 02:04:50,600 --> 02:04:54,840 Speaker 2: because we both play video games, we both go to 2563 02:04:54,960 --> 02:04:57,280 Speaker 2: the movies we like, Like, it's a lot of things. 2564 02:04:57,320 --> 02:04:59,000 Speaker 2: We both watch cartoons, a lot of things that we 2565 02:04:59,160 --> 02:05:02,240 Speaker 2: love that you so, some quote unquote adults would considered childish. 2566 02:05:02,320 --> 02:05:06,040 Speaker 2: But like Maris was saying, there's so many people who 2567 02:05:06,480 --> 02:05:09,200 Speaker 2: as an adult, don't live life to the fullest out 2568 02:05:09,280 --> 02:05:12,360 Speaker 2: of I think these things are childish or I don't 2569 02:05:12,400 --> 02:05:15,320 Speaker 2: think I should do this because of my definition of 2570 02:05:15,440 --> 02:05:16,560 Speaker 2: what being an adult. 2571 02:05:16,840 --> 02:05:19,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, and there's still things I you know that I 2572 02:05:19,320 --> 02:05:21,920 Speaker 1: fear stuff, but I've pushed myself too, you know, Like 2573 02:05:22,600 --> 02:05:25,080 Speaker 1: I mean even us doing live, doing a live show 2574 02:05:25,560 --> 02:05:27,640 Speaker 1: was a big fear for me. You know, it's a 2575 02:05:27,680 --> 02:05:30,760 Speaker 1: big thing to do something like that. But then it 2576 02:05:31,120 --> 02:05:33,360 Speaker 1: was also like probably the most at peace I've ever 2577 02:05:33,480 --> 02:05:36,400 Speaker 1: been doing something like that. So I had to push 2578 02:05:36,520 --> 02:05:39,480 Speaker 1: myself to get there, even traveling to do you know, 2579 02:05:39,640 --> 02:05:44,920 Speaker 1: go to d C, Seattle, Miami, you know, to do 2580 02:05:45,120 --> 02:05:47,400 Speaker 1: those things that was big to me, Like these are 2581 02:05:47,480 --> 02:05:50,680 Speaker 1: not little things. Like I was sick, literally physically sick, 2582 02:05:52,200 --> 02:05:54,000 Speaker 1: you know, I was drained and all that shit, but 2583 02:05:54,480 --> 02:05:58,400 Speaker 1: it was it honestly made It made me realize I 2584 02:05:58,400 --> 02:06:00,400 Speaker 1: could do more than I was doing, you know, and 2585 02:06:00,680 --> 02:06:02,320 Speaker 1: those are lessons that no one can steal from me. 2586 02:06:02,720 --> 02:06:05,919 Speaker 2: Right and also and also I think for me, particularly 2587 02:06:06,000 --> 02:06:08,720 Speaker 2: when I took the trip to Jamaica, I was like, 2588 02:06:08,880 --> 02:06:11,400 Speaker 2: you know what, I'm going to try everything. My mind 2589 02:06:11,520 --> 02:06:13,640 Speaker 2: was already made up that I was gonna be venturous. 2590 02:06:13,720 --> 02:06:17,120 Speaker 2: Like I was like, anything that comes my way, I'm 2591 02:06:17,200 --> 02:06:19,480 Speaker 2: going to enjoy it, and I'm going to enjoy it 2592 02:06:19,560 --> 02:06:23,480 Speaker 2: to the fullest. And as adults, we we do ourselves 2593 02:06:23,520 --> 02:06:26,320 Speaker 2: with dissatisfaction by not enjoying life to the fullest. You 2594 02:06:26,360 --> 02:06:29,400 Speaker 2: get one trip, y'all won one motherfucking trip around this 2595 02:06:29,520 --> 02:06:32,400 Speaker 2: goddamn world. Enjoy it. So I was like, you know what, 2596 02:06:32,920 --> 02:06:35,760 Speaker 2: Have I rode a horse? Fuck no, I'm riding a horse. 2597 02:06:35,840 --> 02:06:37,800 Speaker 2: Have I went snorkeling? I don't know how to swim? 2598 02:06:38,040 --> 02:06:40,200 Speaker 2: Fuck it. If we can make it safe and don't die, 2599 02:06:40,400 --> 02:06:42,840 Speaker 2: I'm getting out there. So I was like, we we're 2600 02:06:42,880 --> 02:06:49,080 Speaker 2: gonna go u kayaking, not kayaking, ziplining. I'm gonna go 2601 02:06:49,200 --> 02:06:52,520 Speaker 2: fucking zipline and have a dundant foe. No, Bob's lat 2602 02:06:52,520 --> 02:06:55,240 Speaker 2: didn't have a dundant foe no, so you know, and 2603 02:06:55,400 --> 02:06:57,880 Speaker 2: I realized that that I had a story to tell 2604 02:06:57,960 --> 02:07:01,120 Speaker 2: and it was enjoyable. And even if if I enjoyed everything, 2605 02:07:01,160 --> 02:07:02,920 Speaker 2: but even if it was something that I didn't like, 2606 02:07:03,000 --> 02:07:05,920 Speaker 2: at least I could say I experienced it like chicken gizzards. 2607 02:07:06,120 --> 02:07:08,480 Speaker 2: Like chicken gizzards, they were not good, y'all. I'm gonna 2608 02:07:08,480 --> 02:07:10,000 Speaker 2: tell you right now. I don't eat chicken gizzarts. 2609 02:07:10,000 --> 02:07:12,280 Speaker 4: They all told her not to get chicken githers. 2610 02:07:12,360 --> 02:07:14,320 Speaker 1: She did it, and she did it anyway. Yes, I 2611 02:07:14,400 --> 02:07:18,160 Speaker 1: did a waste of a yackaty a waste I watched 2612 02:07:18,200 --> 02:07:20,040 Speaker 1: her do that. I was I just said, wow, you 2613 02:07:20,200 --> 02:07:22,440 Speaker 1: just just throw it in the trash, can you know? 2614 02:07:23,000 --> 02:07:23,760 Speaker 1: And what did I get? 2615 02:07:23,880 --> 02:07:27,800 Speaker 4: I got Taiwanese sausage, and you know what, it was delicious. 2616 02:07:27,240 --> 02:07:27,880 Speaker 2: At least I know. 2617 02:07:28,120 --> 02:07:30,120 Speaker 1: And she told me when I ordered, she said, those 2618 02:07:30,160 --> 02:07:33,200 Speaker 1: are that's my favorite? That you she said, you picked 2619 02:07:33,240 --> 02:07:35,760 Speaker 1: the favorite, the best one, that's my favorite. And she 2620 02:07:35,920 --> 02:07:38,400 Speaker 1: told Karen, she said you sure about this is terrible 2621 02:07:38,720 --> 02:07:40,920 Speaker 1: and she said I want it. She's like, oh no, 2622 02:07:41,880 --> 02:07:44,600 Speaker 1: oh no, baby, But that's what it been interest me 2623 02:07:44,720 --> 02:07:47,440 Speaker 1: sometimes you gotta fail. You know what, Now Karen knows 2624 02:07:47,520 --> 02:07:50,920 Speaker 1: for a fact, even though she doesn't eat chicken gizzs 2625 02:07:50,960 --> 02:07:53,120 Speaker 1: and chicken gizzards have been available on every menu we 2626 02:07:53,240 --> 02:07:56,840 Speaker 1: have ever been to. Now she knows for absolute fact 2627 02:07:57,200 --> 02:07:59,800 Speaker 1: she don't. She really don't fuck with chicken gizzards. 2628 02:08:00,480 --> 02:08:03,080 Speaker 2: Are not good. But yes, I'm sorry, but no, I 2629 02:08:03,520 --> 02:08:05,520 Speaker 2: like I can make a note and so I can 2630 02:08:05,600 --> 02:08:07,280 Speaker 2: be like, you know what, takedown put that on the 2631 02:08:07,400 --> 02:08:08,280 Speaker 2: do not try again me. 2632 02:08:08,400 --> 02:08:10,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, but you know at least you tried it. And 2633 02:08:10,600 --> 02:08:15,040 Speaker 1: let me tell you something I didn't. You ain't try 2634 02:08:15,160 --> 02:08:19,280 Speaker 1: chicken gives its Karen, I don't. I don't, ps Karen. 2635 02:08:19,320 --> 02:08:21,600 Speaker 2: I may be adventurous about food, but I don't. 2636 02:08:21,920 --> 02:08:24,320 Speaker 1: Ps Karen. I went to tell the nexte by myself. 2637 02:08:24,400 --> 02:08:27,240 Speaker 1: Last month of swimming so underwater caves, send o test. 2638 02:08:27,720 --> 02:08:30,760 Speaker 1: It was exhilarating. Put that on your list. 2639 02:08:31,440 --> 02:08:32,800 Speaker 2: Always got fun. 2640 02:08:33,280 --> 02:08:35,240 Speaker 1: You need to learn how to swim before you do that, though, 2641 02:08:35,640 --> 02:08:38,640 Speaker 1: So you still swimming on the underwater caves. I'm not 2642 02:08:38,760 --> 02:08:41,440 Speaker 1: losing you for your adventures. Just ain't gonna become the 2643 02:08:41,520 --> 02:08:43,760 Speaker 1: one man sell because you decided to go. 2644 02:08:44,320 --> 02:08:47,640 Speaker 2: Oh no, no, no, I will learn how to swim first. Yeah, 2645 02:08:47,720 --> 02:08:50,760 Speaker 2: I'm not. I'm not just just deep diving down there. 2646 02:08:51,040 --> 02:08:53,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, so you got some work to cut out for 2647 02:08:53,480 --> 02:08:54,440 Speaker 4: you for you can do something. 2648 02:08:54,520 --> 02:08:56,840 Speaker 2: I need to get my core strength up. 2649 02:08:57,240 --> 02:08:59,600 Speaker 1: Like I appreciate the adventurousness, but I can't lose my 2650 02:08:59,680 --> 02:09:04,120 Speaker 1: wife because she decided to be the crocodile hunter all 2651 02:09:04,120 --> 02:09:07,560 Speaker 1: of a sudden. Uh, yousef says, Becky Bars has to 2652 02:09:07,600 --> 02:09:09,560 Speaker 1: be the best white women rap dame I've ever heard 2653 02:09:09,560 --> 02:09:12,560 Speaker 1: of my life. Becky Bars in the place? Bitch, you liberal, 2654 02:09:13,360 --> 02:09:16,200 Speaker 1: you need to switch. Good episode, man, loll thank you, 2655 02:09:16,400 --> 02:09:21,840 Speaker 1: thanks you sef uh And the last email is from 2656 02:09:22,240 --> 02:09:26,040 Speaker 1: Kodisha or is it Cadisha? I I probably have asked 2657 02:09:26,040 --> 02:09:27,960 Speaker 1: her this before and fucked up her name again. I'm 2658 02:09:28,000 --> 02:09:28,520 Speaker 1: so sorry. 2659 02:09:29,200 --> 02:09:33,440 Speaker 4: I gotta give you a nickname, Desha or is it Desha? 2660 02:09:33,640 --> 02:09:38,040 Speaker 1: I don't know anyway, Katot right seeing to say, I 2661 02:09:38,240 --> 02:09:41,040 Speaker 1: know you asked, and after other listeners asked, what, I'm 2662 02:09:41,080 --> 02:09:46,000 Speaker 1: gonna ask one more time? What the fuck was Aaron ha? 2663 02:09:48,520 --> 02:09:48,640 Speaker 2: Uh? 2664 02:09:49,120 --> 02:09:52,280 Speaker 1: Let's see did he make it back from hilltop to Alexandria. 2665 02:09:52,400 --> 02:09:54,840 Speaker 1: What the fuck is he doing? If multiple people die, 2666 02:09:55,200 --> 02:09:57,600 Speaker 1: he need to go. I really do believe that Nigga 2667 02:09:57,720 --> 02:10:00,120 Speaker 1: has changed and he's just hanging with them skins for 2668 02:10:00,280 --> 02:10:04,600 Speaker 1: two reasons. One my entertainment to work undercover for ungrateful Alexandra. 2669 02:10:05,280 --> 02:10:08,280 Speaker 1: You love the recaps. I can't get enough of Karen 2670 02:10:08,320 --> 02:10:09,280 Speaker 1: doing Alpha's voice. 2671 02:10:09,360 --> 02:10:10,440 Speaker 4: She is very good at it. 2672 02:10:11,480 --> 02:10:13,640 Speaker 1: I wouldn't need to find an excuse to have her 2673 02:10:13,680 --> 02:10:15,320 Speaker 1: do it more often during the recaps. 2674 02:10:16,120 --> 02:10:17,440 Speaker 4: But thank you so much. 2675 02:10:17,520 --> 02:10:20,520 Speaker 1: That's everybody, and that's all the feedback. There was a 2676 02:10:20,560 --> 02:10:23,720 Speaker 1: long one, but hopefully people enjoyed it, you know. Plus, 2677 02:10:23,840 --> 02:10:25,360 Speaker 1: I mean, if you think about it, we really had 2678 02:10:25,480 --> 02:10:27,520 Speaker 1: extra twenty minutes of talking about books at the started 2679 02:10:27,560 --> 02:10:30,200 Speaker 1: the show, so I mean really, so you know you 2680 02:10:30,280 --> 02:10:32,320 Speaker 1: probably skipped all that and missed all that fun stuff. 2681 02:10:32,400 --> 02:10:34,640 Speaker 1: So all right, y'all, we'll talk to y'all later. I 2682 02:10:34,760 --> 02:10:37,000 Speaker 1: really hope that person takes all these jokes and stride, 2683 02:10:37,120 --> 02:10:39,240 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, she's gonna turn that review and it start like, 2684 02:10:39,320 --> 02:10:42,880 Speaker 1: fuck you nigga think it's funny. I hate books. I'll 2685 02:10:42,920 --> 02:10:44,880 Speaker 1: reading myself. I don't want to hear you talk about them. 2686 02:10:45,160 --> 02:10:48,560 Speaker 1: All right, y'all, will talk later until next time. I 2687 02:10:48,680 --> 02:10:50,120 Speaker 1: love you you woh