Speaker 1: This week on Good Mom's Bad Choices, I do have
Speaker 1: shit to learn about parenting. I do have shit to
Speaker 1: learn about leading my daughter in the right way, in
Speaker 1: the most appropriate way.
Speaker 2: Luna told me today my back broke out. I must
Speaker 2: have leaned up against something. She's like, must be allergic
Speaker 2: to the fabric. I was like, why does she know
Speaker 2: these combination of words?
Speaker 1: This week?
Speaker 2: This week, welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm
Speaker 2: Erica and I'm Nila.
Speaker 1: And it is September, y'all, Happy September. Happy September, September one.
Speaker 1: To be exact, it's actually the first of September.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 1: Wow. This month's theme is back to School September. Back
Speaker 1: to school September because it just got to learn back
Speaker 1: to school and we ain't talking about our kids. Wait,
Speaker 1: do you remember that song? Did you ever hear that song?
Speaker 1: I'm Gonna read, I'm gonna read, I'm read, I'm gonna read,
Speaker 1: I'm no. I was like, oh my god, it was
Speaker 1: like the best song, like club gay song ever. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: but you know you know I'm gonna read. I'm wait.
Speaker 1: We gotta outro the song with that this episode, with that,
Speaker 1: you're really getting really spicy right now. I'm gonna read
Speaker 1: I'm an read. I'm read. Wow.
Speaker 2: For me being a former lesbian that was highly into
Speaker 2: the gay community, I don't recall that I'm gonna read
Speaker 2: I'm a read song.
Speaker 1: Your musical taste wasn't up to part. That's why I was.
Speaker 1: I was out. I was with the house, the house
Speaker 1: druggy gays. Maybe you were just with the lesbians. I
Speaker 1: know I was.
Speaker 2: I was with the male gaze. No, I was with
Speaker 2: the male gates and the lesbians. But I was in
Speaker 2: the dirty South.
Speaker 1: Uh. I was dropped going to Ronda and like weird
Speaker 1: warehouse parties. I was in a warehouse, but it was
Speaker 1: very ratchet. This is this is why ratchet I was doing.
Speaker 1: I prefer the ratchet gays. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 2: In fact, when I moved back to LA and tried
Speaker 2: to be gay again, I was like it would confirm
Speaker 2: that I was gonna be straight.
Speaker 1: I hate It's like, this is not my thing anyway.
Speaker 2: After a flashback into our former kind of gay lives.
Speaker 1: Yes, this month, we wanted to focus on all the
Speaker 1: things we don't know. There's a lot of those things.
Speaker 1: I know you guys think we're geniuses. I know, I know.
Speaker 1: Surprise now you think that we are bona fide PhD holders,
Speaker 1: But surprise, I don't know shit. IM just kidding. I
Speaker 1: know a lot, but got a lot more to learn.
Speaker 2: I mean, we are experts in threesomes, shut up, cannabis
Speaker 2: and mushrooms and three way kisses.
Speaker 1: But other than that, we do have some learning to do.
Speaker 1: We are actually recording in Costa Rica right now. Still
Speaker 1: well not still, but yes, we're in Costa Rica.
Speaker 2: It's actually our final night. We only have hours until
Speaker 2: we leave. Yeah, we're leaving at five thirty in the
Speaker 2: morning and it is nine fifty six pm. This feels
Speaker 2: like the old times where we would record like at
Speaker 2: eleven pm and release it at seven am and be
Speaker 2: up until two trying to figure it out.
Speaker 1: Trying to figure out why the audio won't sync to
Speaker 1: the video all that bullshit it does.
Speaker 2: And also I don't know something about it being feeling
Speaker 2: that way and it being late at night, even though
Speaker 2: it's not true, it makes me feel like less people
Speaker 2: are going to hear it, like it's more of a secret.
Speaker 1: No, those days are done, I know, I know.
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, do you have any affirmations for us this evening
Speaker 2: or morning or afternoon, wherever you're catching this. My affirmation
Speaker 2: for this week is I am always a student of life.
Speaker 2: I am always a student of life. Oh boy, isn't
Speaker 2: that shit true. We've been traveling for ten days with
Speaker 2: our children, and obviously we've traveled with our children before,
Speaker 2: but I feel like this time is a little bit
Speaker 2: different because I don't know, it's been a long trip
Speaker 2: and they're like a little bit older now, so like
Speaker 2: I'm realizing that more. The things that they say, their memories,
Speaker 2: the words that they use, it's like, oh shit, this
Speaker 2: is like a real little human and it's like a
Speaker 2: really apparent how different we all are.
Speaker 1: Well because their personality, Yeah, their personalities are really shining through,
Speaker 1: and some of the things that they're like working through
Speaker 1: are shining through. And it's yeah, it's really it's blowing
Speaker 1: my mind, to be honest, it really really is. It's
Speaker 1: like beautiful, but also it's scary. I'm like, damn, like,
Speaker 1: is this like a preface to teenage years? Like preteen years?
Speaker 1: Just like how they act. Like Luna told me today,
Speaker 1: my back broke out. I must have leaned up against something.
Speaker 1: She's like, must be allergic to the fabric. I was like,
Speaker 1: why does she know these combination of words? Who? Who
Speaker 1: are you? Wow?
Speaker 2: You're so smart. You're probably right. Yeah, but it's been
Speaker 2: really challenging. It's been beautiful and blissful and like such
Speaker 2: a beautiful trip to say, like last time we were here,
Speaker 2: we're like, we're going to bring our kids back, and
Speaker 2: then we bring them back and it's like we did
Speaker 2: that shit. But it has been challenging. Like I have
Speaker 2: very shortations. Kids make a lot of noise, a lot
Speaker 2: of unnecessary loud noises, and I'm really working through that's
Speaker 2: what you're learning. I'm learning like children make noise. It's
Speaker 2: not their fault. But it has been challenging. I've learned
Speaker 2: a lot on this strip. And you know what, I
Speaker 2: don't know. There's something about this September twenty twenty one
Speaker 2: that feels like something is shifting. Ever since that, ever
Speaker 2: since that lasts that moon and the Lionsgate Moon, Like
Speaker 2: I felt the shift there, but like I really feel
Speaker 2: the shift now. I really feel like this next six
Speaker 2: months I have to be dedicated to.
Speaker 1: Committing to the change that I say I'm going to make.
Speaker 2: And it just feels I feel really called to do
Speaker 2: that in a lot of ways.
Speaker 1: We're here like.
Speaker 2: Making our plans for our retreat in February, finalizing shit,
Speaker 2: and as we're curating this beautiful experience, I'm just like, Wow,
Speaker 2: this is responsibility.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: We're like embarking on this journey of wellness. And obviously
Speaker 2: we keep a rail every week and that's our thing.
Speaker 2: But it's just I'm noticing there's a lot of work
Speaker 2: that I have to do on myself, and even if
Speaker 2: it doesn't feel great, I have to do it. Like
Speaker 2: I don't know, before I left, I was in like
Speaker 2: a mini relationship that I didn't exactly plan for, and
Speaker 2: I also really knew that it probably wasn't the relationship
Speaker 2: for me. There were some red flags very early on
Speaker 2: that we were very different people. But despite all of that,
Speaker 2: I went towards the red light because my favorite color
Speaker 2: is red. And the night of the Lions Gate, I
Speaker 2: made a I was doing like a ritual in the
Speaker 2: bathtub with Luna, and I literally asked for the things
Speaker 2: that no longer served me to be removed. And literally,
Speaker 2: while I was in the bathtub, this person like looked
Speaker 2: through my phone and like found some shit that really
Speaker 2: wasn't some shit, And literally I have not talked to
Speaker 2: him since.
Speaker 1: The universe is like and cut scene. It's not funny,
Speaker 1: I was, I'm not laughing, but I'm just saying. The
Speaker 1: universe said like, I know you asked for this and
Speaker 1: you shall receive. Bitch, I know, I know.
Speaker 2: And I was like it was jarring, but also like god, damn, universe, bitch, relax,
Speaker 2: give me atten ding notice. But I've been reflecting on
Speaker 2: that since I've been here because a literally, as I
Speaker 2: started to like this person in my mind, I was like,
Speaker 2: this is a test. I told myself, like, this may
Speaker 2: be a test because this person is kind of like
Speaker 2: telling you he's probably not the person for you because
Speaker 2: we just had a lot of differences.
Speaker 1: And yeah, just I don't know how to say, you're
Speaker 1: ready to learn your lesson.
Speaker 2: Essentially, essentially, I'm ready to learn my lessons and like
Speaker 2: listen to my intuition when I know that my intuition
Speaker 2: is correct, and then maybe, just maybe I'll prevent myself
Speaker 2: from learning these difficult lessons in advance instead of eight
Speaker 2: months later and being sad in Costa Rica because he
Speaker 2: hasn't called me. It's sad a little bit, you don't
Speaker 2: ever say anything.
Speaker 1: I'm sad. I'm a cancer.
Speaker 2: I'm sad inside alone.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, friend, I know, I mean, I know we've
Speaker 1: talked about it, but I didn't realize. I mean, obviously,
Speaker 1: I know it's probably on your mind, but you haven't
Speaker 1: mentioned it much. No, I mean because I know. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So my lesson even before I left, is that I
Speaker 2: need to listen to my intuition and just my overall
Speaker 2: attachment to things that sometimes don't feel great but only
Speaker 2: let maybe feel somewhat good, and just my attachment to
Speaker 2: things that distract me instead of focusing on myself and
Speaker 2: doing the work to commit to myself so that in
Speaker 2: the future, when things come up that are probably don't
Speaker 2: serve me, it's easy to eliminate them because I have
Speaker 2: done the work and I know that, Hey, I don't
Speaker 2: deserve that, that's unnecessary.
Speaker 1: I don't need that. So I'm good on you and
Speaker 1: without any.
Speaker 2: Residual feelings about whatever it is. Also, since we've been here,
Speaker 2: we are finding healers and we've been doing some sessions,
Speaker 2: some intuitive sessions, some natal chart sessions, a lot of sessions,
Speaker 2: and they've provided some insight on myself and so I'm
Speaker 2: committing to the next six months of committing to myself.
Speaker 2: I'm signing up for a Tantra workshop to help channel
Speaker 2: some of my energies.
Speaker 1: That's so cool. I'm excited. I want I want to
Speaker 1: do that at some point too.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just I feel like this is a good
Speaker 2: time to focus on myself. And I'm telling you and
Speaker 2: everyone else listening so that I could actually do the shit.
Speaker 1: And in gids are our accountability partners. Literally, I mean
Speaker 1: it's the truth. I think a lot of a lot
Speaker 1: of the things that I've done and we've done together
Speaker 1: on this podcast. And even like I just launched a
Speaker 1: I launched a wellness challenge today. Actually it starts today
Speaker 1: and I post about it on Instagram, a thirty day challenge.
Speaker 1: I'm really doing it because you guys make like it's
Speaker 1: like the best tribe ever to just hold each other accountable.
Speaker 1: Like if you guys are posting pictures, I want to
Speaker 1: come in to keep doing it, even if I'm lying
Speaker 1: sometimes and I ate that you know, whole kind of
Speaker 1: Ben and Jerry's half baked ice cream, but that might happen.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean, this is the best place. I'm
Speaker 1: so grateful for like us having the space to for
Speaker 1: people to hold us accountable and hold ourselves accountable, because
Speaker 1: we're saying things on this mic every week and we're like,
Speaker 1: you know, or every year, every year or every year.
Speaker 2: I've literally said this every year, but this time I'm serious.
Speaker 2: If I'm in a deep relationship, eight weeks from now,
Speaker 2: somebody slap me. If you see me in public holding hands,
Speaker 2: I give you all the permission.
Speaker 1: Well, I think that going back to school, I mean,
Speaker 1: is it's such an interesting thing because obviously our kids
Speaker 1: are also going back to school, and I've been thinking
Speaker 1: about that too, like that at some point we decide
Speaker 1: that our education kind of ends, I think because obviously
Speaker 1: the education system is not great all the time. People
Speaker 1: are put in this system and expected to all learn
Speaker 1: the same way, which is fucking ridiculous. And that's why
Speaker 1: so many people end up hating school and not really
Speaker 1: tapping into, like what their real purpose is because school
Speaker 1: doesn't really teach you that. It just teaches you a
Speaker 1: bunch of just I don't even know general shit that
Speaker 1: really I didn't even need to know. But the idea
Speaker 1: of being an adult and being able to tap into
Speaker 1: yourself and figure out what it is that you're interested in,
Speaker 1: what is that you want to work on, you know,
Speaker 1: if you want to take a tantric class, if you
Speaker 1: want to, you know, go back. My shout out to
Speaker 1: my girl Ashley. She just got into like Harvard Online.
Speaker 1: She's about to take a course and going back to
Speaker 1: the school online. Like, there's just so many ways to
Speaker 1: kind of explore what your interests are as an adult,
Speaker 1: and I think it's really important not only for you know,
Speaker 1: your own well being, but also just for your kids.
Speaker 1: For I mean for us. It's like this retreat has
Speaker 1: really inspired me too, and meeting so many people here
Speaker 1: that have I mean, being in Costa Rica, people are quiet,
Speaker 1: they have time to kind of really decide what fulfills them,
Speaker 1: you know, and it's like, I think being here again
Speaker 1: always brings me that back to that. That's why I
Speaker 1: love this place so much.
Speaker 2: It is a very magical place and it is a
Speaker 2: place of like quietness and expansion. I feel like we've
Speaker 2: met a lot of people who have tapped into their
Speaker 2: natural abilities, and in some ways it kind of gives
Speaker 2: us permission to do the same, you know, Like what
Speaker 2: am I good at? What do I want to learn
Speaker 2: like what naturally are my my powers? You know? And
Speaker 2: obviously we have this brand and we do we talk
Speaker 2: a lot, but I don't think we even ourselves get
Speaker 2: give ourselves enough credit in the fact that we are
Speaker 2: good at leading, we're good at being unapologetic sometimes, and
Speaker 2: being here is kind of like it's reassured me to
Speaker 2: kind of sit back in myself and like reflect truly
Speaker 2: on my intentions with people, in relationships, as a parent,
Speaker 2: with my daughter, and really to myself, and like in
Speaker 2: every little way, like in the flings that I have
Speaker 2: in the just the friendships my words. I feel like
Speaker 2: people here like really intentional about their words, Like I
Speaker 2: don't feel like doing that, and no, and like people
Speaker 2: are comfortable.
Speaker 1: Saying no and also saying yes.
Speaker 2: And even I think even for you and I we've
Speaker 2: had obviously we're best friends and we talk about a
Speaker 2: lot of stuff. But I feel like even in this
Speaker 2: trip traveling with our children, and one thing about parents
Speaker 2: is we're going to be sensitive is fuck about our
Speaker 2: parenting about our children. That's not something you really discuss about,
Speaker 2: you know, you have discussions about. But I think even
Speaker 2: we've been vulnerable more in a space to be like Wow,
Speaker 2: like this is I'm scared of this in my parenting.
Speaker 1: Do you notice this?
Speaker 2: And like, yeah, I do, And this is triggering because
Speaker 2: of that, and like even in all spaces, and sometimes
Speaker 2: that's not a comfortable even with someone you're close to
Speaker 2: as a friend, is not a comfortable thing to discuss,
Speaker 2: you know. But we've had even those conversations, and it's
Speaker 2: interesting how being in a certain environment can contribute to
Speaker 2: how you are and who you are and the people
Speaker 2: you keep around you, because this place is really really,
Speaker 2: really really brought some lessons to the forefront for me.
Speaker 1: Oh me too for sure, especially as a parent, and
Speaker 1: how I can support my child in her development and
Speaker 1: working through certain things that maybe I noticed were there
Speaker 1: for sure, but have been even more highlighted on this trip,
Speaker 1: like really also seeing the differences our kids and like
Speaker 1: how wanted, like how one one thing is one thing
Speaker 1: won't bother one where the other one is super affected,
Speaker 1: and you know, it's just it's just been really enlightening
Speaker 1: but also kind of terrifying a little bit because I
Speaker 1: realized that I I do have shit to learn about parenting.
Speaker 1: I do have shit to learn about leading my daughter
Speaker 1: in the right way in the most appropriate way. You know,
Speaker 1: we had this guest on that's coming on next week
Speaker 1: and she's an astrologer. I can't wait for you guys
Speaker 1: to hear this episode. She actually read me, She read
Speaker 1: me and Jamila's natal charts while we're here, and then
Speaker 1: we asked her to come on the show and read
Speaker 1: our kids natal charts so that we could, you know,
Speaker 1: learn how to better parent them based on you know,
Speaker 1: certain things that we might not even realize are just
Speaker 1: innately part of their who they're destined to be and
Speaker 1: what their soul path is. But within that realizing that
Speaker 1: me and Iri are very different in ways, and you know,
Speaker 1: we've been we've been having kind of a struggle lately
Speaker 1: with certain personality issues and I and she's she's been
Speaker 1: having issues vocalizing like what is wrong whenever she gets
Speaker 1: upset versus where Luna is very vocal and can tell
Speaker 1: you like that hurt my feelings. I don't like that,
Speaker 1: you know. And I was telling the astrologer and she
Speaker 1: was telling she was basically telling me how I could
Speaker 1: support my child more and literally like I was just
Speaker 1: telling her. I was asking her, like what was wrong?
Speaker 1: She was like, have you ever asked her, like, how
Speaker 1: can you what can I do to make you feel
Speaker 1: more loved? And I literally asked, So I asked that
Speaker 1: to Iri today and she responded immediately, which is where
Speaker 1: whereas before I was wording it as what what's wrong?
Speaker 1: Tell me what's wrong? And she wouldn't say shit. She
Speaker 1: just said, I want to need you to be nicer
Speaker 1: to me, and I said, okay, I'll be nicer to you,
Speaker 1: but also you have to be nicer to me, and
Speaker 1: it's and so we were talking about and actually it's
Speaker 1: funny that it's not funny because everything that we do
Speaker 1: is somehow aligned and where we are at. But I
Speaker 1: was telling her, I was like, well, this is something
Speaker 1: you have to work on, this is something we're working
Speaker 1: on together. And then you know, I went around the
Speaker 1: table and I asked Jamie, like, what are you working
Speaker 1: on right now? Luna? What are you working on right now?
Speaker 1: Because these are questions that like we don't ask our kids, right,
Speaker 1: and like we should, right, and they need to know
Speaker 1: that you're working on stuff. Yeah, and it doesn't always
Speaker 1: have to be an emotional working on something that they're six, right,
Speaker 1: but there sometimes there does it does, Like hey, so
Speaker 1: IRI's working on like communicating in a more you know,
Speaker 1: positive way and not you know, you know, being demanding
Speaker 1: and being courteous like the child. I know that she
Speaker 1: is capable of being and is when she's not with
Speaker 1: me for some reason, like when I go she goes
Speaker 1: to school. I got these star stellar reviews abo how
Speaker 1: kind and humble and sweet she is, and she is
Speaker 1: all those things, but sometimes she gets in the zone
Speaker 1: where she is like she's she's just not she's not
Speaker 1: thoughtful with her words and that ain't gonna bla so
Speaker 1: but as a parent, I'm like, well, fuck, I know,
Speaker 1: how do I work on? How do I And then Luna.
Speaker 2: Was like, you need to tell Iri to talk nicer
Speaker 2: and to do this to that, and then Iri got
Speaker 2: upset and then I was like they were crying and
Speaker 2: I was crying.
Speaker 1: We were all crying. I was crying. It was just
Speaker 1: like like I redid say, She's like that really hurts
Speaker 1: my feeling, Like that hurt my feelings. Luna and I
Speaker 1: told Luna, and I was listening to Luna because Luna
Speaker 1: was right. She was right, but it also wasn't really
Speaker 1: the way she said it. Iri was getting I could
Speaker 1: feel I refelt attacked, you know, and it wasn't constructive
Speaker 1: at all. It wasn't being constructive even though I know
Speaker 1: Luna like she had good intentions, but she was also
Speaker 1: like trying to she was also kind of like trying
Speaker 1: to help me a little bit. She was like she
Speaker 1: was and you know, I don't know, it's.
Speaker 2: Just it's just such a testimony of it is we're
Speaker 2: all very different people. I'm very different from from Iri,
Speaker 2: you know, me and Lenda are some of but still
Speaker 2: very different people. She checks me all the time, and
Speaker 2: it's just like we're never done growing, We're never done learning,
Speaker 2: even from the small souls in our life, and like
Speaker 2: that's the biggest lesson. Like they are just people that
Speaker 2: came through us, Like, you know, we can influence them.
Speaker 2: They're growing up in certain environments. We're trying to, you know,
Speaker 2: obviously lead them to love and like kindness, but overall,
Speaker 2: they are their own people. And it's just like, no
Speaker 2: matter how me I am and how Erica Erica is, like,
Speaker 2: we're all very different.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 2: Ivy full follows rules. She's not fucking around about the rules.
Speaker 2: We're all kind of break rolls a little bit. She's
Speaker 2: very strict in who she is. You know, she knows
Speaker 2: who she is, and it's just an interesting lesson and
Speaker 2: obviously we're having a great time. But I'm just I'm
Speaker 2: happy that this is the chapter I'm in right now
Speaker 2: that I'm just paying more attention and being more present
Speaker 2: and intentional and you know, understanding that everything in life
Speaker 2: is a lesson my child. Your child is a lesson
Speaker 2: to me. I'm triggered by her sometimes. I'm just taking
Speaker 2: accountability and noticing when I'm triggered by things, exploring why,
Speaker 2: being more conscious of like how I talk to Luna
Speaker 2: and support her, and just really being conscious of not
Speaker 2: brushing off children's feelings because that's what I'm used to,
Speaker 2: That's what I'm used to from my childhood. And like
Speaker 2: I realized that, like children being really catered to and
Speaker 2: coddled sometimes is a trigger for me because maybe I
Speaker 2: wasn't given that privilege, Like that wasn't the upbringing that
Speaker 2: was I was supported in?
Speaker 1: Really, And do you think I caughd Ale Iri? No,
Speaker 1: I just it's me. It's like not even caddle.
Speaker 2: But like if I like, that's just I didn't get
Speaker 2: that type of that childhood like at all. So like
Speaker 2: I noticed even not even just like with you and
Speaker 2: I even with other people like and I know it's
Speaker 2: my own personal experiences, it's my own trauma. It's not
Speaker 2: like it makes me uncomfortable. But that's because I wasn't
Speaker 2: supported in that way. And I have to check myself
Speaker 2: even with Luna, because she is six and she is
Speaker 2: sassy and she is mature, but she's still six And
Speaker 2: sometimes I forget that because again, I'm used to a
Speaker 2: certain thing and you would think, like I'm thirty three,
Speaker 2: like how long ago is that? But it still is
Speaker 2: something that I realized more now than ever that that's
Speaker 2: why it's triggering for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I think this trip has really highlighted
Speaker 1: that parenthood is like it has all these stages, and
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm just like entering this new stage
Speaker 1: where like, yeah, or does have feelings. She's very like
Speaker 1: it's not she's resilient in her feelings, but there's there
Speaker 1: is a level of like it sticks more now that
Speaker 1: their memory isn't sticks more, hurt sticks more, The things
Speaker 1: you say stick more, whereas before you could kind of
Speaker 1: brush off their feelings a little bit. I don't want to.
Speaker 1: It sounds irresponsible, but like you could kind of get
Speaker 1: away with cause they forget right because they're like, oh whatever, No,
Speaker 1: it's like no, now I'm starting to see the remnantss
Speaker 1: of like me assuming that she's going to forget and
Speaker 1: her not forgetting right, you know not and not that
Speaker 1: I'm like intentionally doing that, but I don't know. And
Speaker 1: then also like how do I support her? How do
Speaker 1: I like work on her attitude? Like how do I
Speaker 1: make her super aware of her attitude without like traumatizing
Speaker 1: traumatizing her and making her feel bad, make her feel
Speaker 1: bad about herself like she's not a good person, or
Speaker 1: like she's a problem. She's the problem one of Luna
Speaker 1: and her, like she's the one who's always getting called out,
Speaker 1: and like even like even with the food thing, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like it's so annoying my daughter
Speaker 1: is still like not eating anything. It's very fucking irritating,
Speaker 1: and every dinner it's acknowledged, and it's like I realize that,
Speaker 1: like that's not I have to acknowledge it at times,
Speaker 1: but also like it's it's not helpful to keep making
Speaker 1: her feel bad.
Speaker 2: About it, like necessarily fixing I don't know to fix
Speaker 2: it and so like, I don't know, I'm hoping this month.
Speaker 1: This month really, whether it's on the podcast or not,
Speaker 1: it's one thing that I really have to I really
Speaker 1: want to like talk to some other parents that are older,
Speaker 1: that have older children, that have gone through these type
Speaker 1: of behavioral issues and you know, just different things. My
Speaker 1: daughter's gone through a few different a few things over
Speaker 1: the past few years that I don't think I really
Speaker 1: considered how they've affected her. Well, I don't.
Speaker 2: I think just in general, we haven't. Really the culture
Speaker 2: is not necessarily to think of a child like the
Speaker 2: psychology of a child, how impressionable they are, the trauma,
Speaker 2: even if we don't consider it trauma, Like that's not
Speaker 2: our like our background, you know, Like I know people
Speaker 2: who have been in therapy since they're they're like children
Speaker 2: and that's normal in their households. That's not necessarily like
Speaker 2: the norm. Because even you made a comment this trip
Speaker 2: that there was a time like your mom would bring
Speaker 2: up certain things and you couldn't, you could not talk.
Speaker 2: I felt that like there was the same thing in
Speaker 2: my household, like we would bring up stuff and I
Speaker 2: just couldn't. I would just cry, like literally just cry,
Speaker 2: and I thought about that too, like not like not
Speaker 2: feeling like you can literally talk. You just have all
Speaker 2: this emotion, you know, motion, and it's just like at
Speaker 2: the drop of a dime you could just burst out
Speaker 2: into tears and how like how much you know, I
Speaker 2: talk a lot, and I talk about here, but I
Speaker 2: do struggle with like when things get like super deep
Speaker 2: about myself, I'm like, I don't necessarily want to talk
Speaker 2: about it, especially not with like most people, like it's
Speaker 2: maybe like three people, and like it's just it's not healthy.
Speaker 2: And if we don't check ourselves down, we don't relearn
Speaker 2: and reprogram those things, like we'll just create the same
Speaker 2: shit in ourselves, you know, and our and our kids
Speaker 2: that have been created in us. And I'm grateful that
Speaker 2: we are in the position to kind of just be
Speaker 2: open to it, you know. Like I'm happy I'm Luna's mom.
Speaker 2: Like she's feisty, she dances like you know, some people
Speaker 2: will say shit like she's talking and all these things,
Speaker 2: but I let her live because I know she's mimicking
Speaker 2: what she sees. But also I'm happy I'm her mom
Speaker 2: because I can teach her to channel that I can
Speaker 2: teach you, like to not be ashamed or not to,
Speaker 2: you know, let other people tell you what that means
Speaker 2: for you, you know, And I know I wasn't given
Speaker 2: that space, and who knows how that's like blocked me
Speaker 2: in ways.
Speaker 1: Life's lessons, guys, life's lessons.
Speaker 2: The next six months and the rest of this month,
Speaker 2: for sure, are just commitment to life's lessons and being
Speaker 2: open to learn them and recognize them and not not
Speaker 2: thinking you're too goal old or too grown to return
Speaker 2: back to school in some way, form or remedy.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, and I'm excited for this month too, and seeing
Speaker 1: all the things that we end up learning. Next week's
Speaker 1: episode is really intriguing and interesting and I learned a
Speaker 1: lot and we have some cool things happening the rest
Speaker 1: of the month. So make sure that you stick around
Speaker 1: and go back to school with us and let us know,
Speaker 1: like maybe you have been considering, you know, learning something
Speaker 1: or going back to school.
Speaker 2: Sure, I always love to know what other people are learning.
Speaker 2: I want to learn too. I want to with all
Speaker 2: the learns. Yeah, and if you have any cool courses, share.
Speaker 1: Them, share them.
Speaker 2: Like we're in such as we're in a time where
Speaker 2: we can literally have access to anything.
Speaker 1: It's so interesting, Like there's tantra courses, there's courses, there's
Speaker 1: reki healing courses, there's courses on you know, or courses.
Speaker 1: There's courses on like how to build a website, how
Speaker 1: to market for your business or whatever. Like there's so
Speaker 1: many different things. And so that's the beauty of the
Speaker 1: Internet in twenty twenty one is that there literally is
Speaker 1: an influx of courses. Make sure your check who's making
Speaker 1: the courses, but you know they're there. Whoever calls you. Well,
Speaker 1: if you guys haven't yet signed up for our retreat,
Speaker 1: to be the first to know all the details of
Speaker 1: when it is happening, because those details will be coming
Speaker 1: out next week. We have finalized the actual days here
Speaker 1: in Costa Rica. We've also finalized the location, which is
Speaker 1: very exciting, as well as a few other people that
Speaker 1: we're going to be contributing and facilitating some beautiful and
Speaker 1: amazing experiences for you guys. So make sure you go
Speaker 1: to our website, Good Momsbad Choices dot com and click
Speaker 1: the retreat tab, put your email in and be the
Speaker 1: first to know when all the info goes live. Anything else,
Speaker 1: my love, nothing.
Speaker 2: I'm just excited to commit to the next six months
Speaker 2: up into the retreat to just being better and being
Speaker 2: my more full learned self. And I hope everybody else
Speaker 2: is doing the same. Slide in our dms and tell us.
Speaker 1: How, tell us how, and join they Get Your Shit
Speaker 1: Together Challenge.
Speaker 2: I think we should continue these up until February. It
Speaker 2: is like, you're going to get to Get Your Shit
Speaker 2: Together Challenge.
Speaker 1: It starts in September, but the hope is that you
Speaker 1: don't just fucking stop in October. That would be fucking dumb,
Speaker 1: because you're going to be feeling so good by the
Speaker 1: end of September if you continue, If you just do
Speaker 1: these seven things that I listed, I know because I've
Speaker 1: done them and then I fall off and then I
Speaker 1: feel like shit again. So if you're a patron, I
Speaker 1: posted the details. If you follow us on Instagram, I've
Speaker 1: posted the details. We're starting today. If you know you're
Speaker 1: listening to this and it's a week into September, it's
Speaker 1: all good. Just start now. Buy that gallon of water
Speaker 1: and start drinking that shit. Train your bladder. Think of
Speaker 1: an affirmation. We want you guys to write down an
Speaker 1: affirmation day. If you have a journal right in there,
Speaker 1: and you know try to wake up a few minutes early,
Speaker 1: especially if you have kids. I know it sucks, it
Speaker 1: doesn't sound fun, but you get used to it, and honestly,
Speaker 1: the morning quiet some of us don't have, like the
Speaker 1: luxury of a babysitter or our homeschooling. Wake up early
Speaker 1: and have those few early thirty minutes to yourself and
Speaker 1: do whatever the fuck you want. Get off your phone though,
Speaker 1: and yeah, so it goes to go check that out
Speaker 1: and uh, we'll see you guys next week. Bye bye.
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Speaker 1: Mm hmm