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Speaker 1: Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.

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Speaker 2: God, I've been reading so much. My brain's going to explode.

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Speaker 1: Oh I love that for you.

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Speaker 2: Read part I can't wait to see your brains explode,

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean, get all over the walls. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I was reading something last night about loneliness. We hear

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Speaker 2: about this a lot, and this has been a conversation

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Speaker 2: with all of us for several years now. But how

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Speaker 2: loneliness is just so much more dangerous than we give

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Speaker 2: it credit for. You know, people who are lonely become

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Speaker 2: sick faster, don't live as long, they're saying, and while living,

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Speaker 2: the quality of life is just not there because being social,

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Speaker 2: being in touch with people, connecting with people is very important.

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Speaker 2: And another study I read the other day, I got

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Speaker 2: these studies. We've got to stop reading studies. But anyway,

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Speaker 2: it's fascinating to see how they see one percent proof

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Speaker 2: that if you're out engaging with friends, you go out,

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Speaker 2: you go out and have dinner a couple of days

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Speaker 2: a week, or you go out to their house for lunch,

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Speaker 2: or at least go for walks with people, have conversations

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Speaker 2: with people, share a car, going to and from them all,

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Speaker 2: or shopping or grocery store with people. It makes all

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Speaker 2: the difference in the world, that connection. But if you

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Speaker 2: start to find yourself living this life where you're spending

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Speaker 2: more time by yourself, you shut down. Your brain's pathways

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Speaker 2: become empty with no thought, no spark, no electricity at all.

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Speaker 2: That's why you Yesterday, we hung out with one of

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Speaker 2: our best friends of all time, just shopping at the

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Speaker 2: outdoor mall. It would Berry Commons, just walking around talking, laughing.

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Speaker 2: Everyone's while. We're going into a store and buy some shoes,

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Speaker 2: which is great, But we were looking at shoes together.

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Speaker 2: I was making notes, we were comparing the different shoes

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Speaker 2: we were picking up and looking at them and feeling

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Speaker 2: shoes and talking about them, laughing. Yeah, something as simple

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Speaker 2: as shoe shopping where a friend turns into one of

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Speaker 2: those moments where you're connecting. You're disagreeing on a color

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Speaker 2: of a shoe. As simple as that sounds, it's a conversation.

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Speaker 1: I like when you're shopping with somebody and you find

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Speaker 1: an outfit that nobody would wear, and you pick it

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Speaker 1: up and you go, I found it. This is what

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Speaker 1: you're wearing to the next whatever. And then you guys

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Speaker 1: start laughing and then you're in a good space. Makes

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Speaker 1: you feel good.

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Speaker 2: So at the end of the day, your pleasure doesn't

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Speaker 2: only come from getting a nice frock to wear to

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Speaker 2: your next event, but you spent time with someone. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and at the end of the day, you're like, Wow,

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Speaker 2: I just had a great day. Do you guys do that?

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Speaker 2: Do you take stock or do you actually look at

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Speaker 2: your list of things you love it about the day

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Speaker 2: you just spent before you go to bed.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, every day I write down the thing that I

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Speaker 3: had the most fun doing.

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Speaker 2: Why is it writing down so much more important than

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Speaker 2: just thinking about it?

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Speaker 3: Because I'll forget after a while. I can't remember every

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Speaker 3: single thing from a year of the best thing of

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Speaker 3: every day. But if I need to go back and

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Speaker 3: look at it, then I'm like, oh, yeah, I totally

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Speaker 3: remember that and that was fun. It's a little memory jogger.

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Speaker 3: And I also recently read to what you're speaking about

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Speaker 3: that people think recharging and resetting the best thing to

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Speaker 3: do is just be alone and relax and you know,

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Speaker 3: watch TV, And apparently it's opposite if you want to

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Speaker 3: recharge and relax. They're supposed to enjoy it with other people.

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Speaker 3: You don't have to do anything super intense, but you're

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Speaker 3: supposed to be around human beings and share that together

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Speaker 3: because that brings you more sense of joy than just

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Speaker 3: sitting on your couch by.

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Speaker 2: Yourself, Which proves the point. The people you surround yourself

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Speaker 2: with are very key. If you surround yourself with people

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Speaker 2: who are just always swimming in drama and just negative,

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Speaker 2: then that's not the piece you need that you're talking about.

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Speaker 2: But like last night, I was thinking, God, what made

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Speaker 2: today's it's a great day? Of course I had a

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Speaker 2: couple of bags with some new shoes and this and that.

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Speaker 2: That was great. Yeah, but just quality time we spent

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Speaker 2: with a really dear friend. And at the end of

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Speaker 2: the day, I'm like, was today satisfying On the scale

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Speaker 2: of one to ten? It was a ten. It was

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Speaker 2: over it time nice if possible, which is awesome. Hang

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Speaker 2: out with people and talk about stuff other than what

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Speaker 2: you talk about every day. Yeah, Frog, what do you think?

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Speaker 4: I always say this, doing the smallest little thing or

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Speaker 4: nothing with the right person is better than doing the

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Speaker 4: most exuberant, exaggerant thing with the wrong person, because if

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Speaker 4: you go somewhere with the wrong person, it ruins the experience.

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Speaker 4: But doing nothing or even something small with the right

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Speaker 4: person is everything because that person makes the experience so

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Speaker 4: much better.

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Speaker 2: And they get something out of it too. So today,

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Speaker 2: look at your calendar. I always look at my calendar

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Speaker 2: at the beginning of the week, like, Okay, what am

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Speaker 2: I doing this week? And I see I don't see

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Speaker 2: a lot of interactivity with other people other than my

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Speaker 2: favorite four hours a day with you guys, you know,

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Speaker 2: and I'm having lunch with Josh on Thursday. I feel pretty

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Speaker 2: good about that.

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Speaker 1: Hello, We're going to Universal this weekend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and we're gonna be together.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I'm just spend a lot of time together this weekend, all.

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Speaker 1: Of us time well sometime.

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Speaker 2: Ok so uh yeah, So you know, spend time with people.

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Speaker 2: It's much more important than you think. But like I said,

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Speaker 2: if it's the wrong people, you really need to fix that.

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Speaker 2: If you're spent, you don't want to spend time with

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Speaker 2: people who were just bringing you down, no very And.

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Speaker 1: If people are sucking all your energy out and there

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Speaker 1: and they're you know, you know, deep down inside they're

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Speaker 1: not who they say they are, then you need to

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Speaker 1: move on and find somebody new, find new people.

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Speaker 4: And don't let them you in the process. You don't

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Speaker 4: know anymore. You're right, I don't.

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Speaker 2: Do you if this is another line we've used on

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Speaker 2: this show a lot, is uh, don't spend any time

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Speaker 2: with someone who blames you for all of their problems

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Speaker 2: in life when they were the one that created it

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Speaker 2: for themselves. I mean, when I say that line, I

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Speaker 2: bet you immediately think of at least one person I do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure, are absolutely scary.

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Speaker 2: Had a question, how do you keep someone from always

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Speaker 2: being negative?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Like, okay, you can't. Yeah, because sometimes I'm like, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna call this person up, and then you get into

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Speaker 2: a conversation and within thirty seconds it goes down this

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Speaker 2: rabbit hole and it's all negative and you can't pull

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Speaker 2: this person out of an abyss. Yeah, and all they

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Speaker 2: do is talk and I'm like, oh, but wait a second,

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Speaker 2: what about this? Then they take you with them, They

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Speaker 2: take you in there with them. That happened to me

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Speaker 2: last week. So at some point, you know, look, you

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Speaker 2: want to fight it, you want to help because you're

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Speaker 2: their friend and you love them. I get that. It's

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Speaker 2: okay to love someone, but you don't have to like them.

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Speaker 2: You know, but there's got to be a point where

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Speaker 2: you realize there's nothing else I can do. I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: I'm I'm maybe failing at fixing this person. Hey, guess

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Speaker 2: what we are not in the person fixing business in

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Speaker 2: our lives. You got to stop that. This person had

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Speaker 2: a lifelong project for me. But it's all good. Wow, God,

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Speaker 2: who is it? Don't give a name. I'm not gonna

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Speaker 2: give a name.

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Speaker 3: It's all good.

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Speaker 1: You're getting lots of calls today, though, isn't me scared?

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Speaker 3: This is me?

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Speaker 2: Am I your lifelong project anyway? So yeah, surround yourself

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Speaker 2: with the people that matter and spend time with them.

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Speaker 2: And that's kind of an easy order to fill, isn't it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, so