Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effects. And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: with yet another carefully Reckless episode with your girl just hilarious. Listen,
Speaker 1: just fix my mess. I'm gonna jump straight into it.
Speaker 1: We don't have any voice memos today. I find when
Speaker 1: I do the voice memos, one person takes up the
Speaker 1: whole episode. I'm not gonna stop doing them, but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do them every other week because i want to
Speaker 1: give more people a chance to get their stories out there.
Speaker 1: But the lengthy ones I will do every other week.
Speaker 1: And listen, don't let that discourage you from sending your
Speaker 1: voice memos. If you want me to hear your voice,
Speaker 1: if you rather talk about it than write about it
Speaker 1: or type about it, then you can certainly do it.
Speaker 1: Just no, it may take a few weeks for you
Speaker 1: to hear yours, because I'm only gonna do the voice
Speaker 1: notes every other week. Okay, this woman sent in her
Speaker 1: story forst one, Jess. I pray this DM finds you.
Speaker 1: You are one of the ones I respect because you
Speaker 1: keep it so real. Please fix my friend of twenty
Speaker 1: years mess. Okay, I'm gonna make it quick, but you're
Speaker 1: about to be like shit. Okay, my best friend been
Speaker 1: married for eleven years with a boyfriend of nine years
Speaker 1: who was married to his wife over fifteen years. Hold on,
Speaker 1: bit what wait a minute, Let me let me slow
Speaker 1: this ship down, because, for one, why you ain't putting
Speaker 1: no goddamn punctuation points in here. It's just one big,
Speaker 1: long run on sentence ship. And then you're gonna write
Speaker 1: in all caps like it's really really that good, if
Speaker 1: it's all going together. I can't understand. Let me try
Speaker 1: to make sense of this. Okay, my best friend been
Speaker 1: married for eleven years with a boyfriend of nine years
Speaker 1: who is married to his wife of over fifteen years.
Speaker 1: I've been in this friendship and seen it all play
Speaker 1: out very peaceful. Both men loved that girl to death.
Speaker 1: Her husband will kill her if he ever found out
Speaker 1: about the boyfriend, and the boyfriend treats her like gold.
Speaker 1: I'm scared for her, though, And the one time I
Speaker 1: tell her to stop, we fall out and her boyfriend's
Speaker 1: wife gets a message about them. I would have never
Speaker 1: done that, but she thinks it was me and haven't
Speaker 1: spoken to me in months. I love my friend, but
Speaker 1: the ship is foul and how is it love? I'm
Speaker 1: married of ten years, but her ship got me on
Speaker 1: my husband case all the time. Anyway, should I try
Speaker 1: to fix us or say fuck us and our friendship?
Speaker 1: For her to think I would go and tell that
Speaker 1: woman anything about her and the woman's husband. I got
Speaker 1: pics of them and everything. If I wanted to, I
Speaker 1: could let her know everything, but I would never because
Speaker 1: she's my friend. I just want her to stop it
Speaker 1: because she's being dangerous. All right, So you are not
Speaker 1: writing me for you, You're writing me for your friend.
Speaker 1: First off, I want to say you are a good
Speaker 1: friend for trying to get help with your friend's issue,
Speaker 1: because that's exact actually what it is. That's a motherfucking
Speaker 1: issue a k A. A problem b k A A
Speaker 1: big motherfucking problem. What's going on? So your best friend
Speaker 1: married for eleven years, but she has a boyfriend that
Speaker 1: she's been with for nine years. That means she started
Speaker 1: cheating very early in her marriage. She was only married
Speaker 1: to her husband for two years before she decided to
Speaker 1: get with his boyfriend. Now the husband don't know does
Speaker 1: the boyfriend know that she's married? See that's what you
Speaker 1: didn't tell me. I want to know if the boyfriend
Speaker 1: knows that she's married, because what would be easier, and
Speaker 1: I'm not justifying or trying to give anybody any ideas
Speaker 1: with how to get away would having a boyfriend and
Speaker 1: her husband, But it would be easier if one of
Speaker 1: them knew. It's like, how the hell do you keep
Speaker 1: up a nine year relationship and an eleven year marriage
Speaker 1: without either of them finding out about each other. So
Speaker 1: I would think her boyfriend knows that she's married. However
Speaker 1: she feeds him the fact that it's complicated. I just
Speaker 1: feel like he just has to know because he's married
Speaker 1: as well. So what she has to lose, he in
Speaker 1: fact has to lose as well. So the only person
Speaker 1: who don't know would be your best friend's husband and
Speaker 1: her boyfriend's wife. Well, the wife knows now, but the
Speaker 1: only person in the dark is the husband. Jesus Christ,
Speaker 1: And you want to know from me if you should
Speaker 1: try to reconcile with your best friend. She's been your
Speaker 1: best friend for fifteen years. I don't feel the need
Speaker 1: to throw away the friendship over this one. It's not
Speaker 1: your problem. I know that you love her. She's very
Speaker 1: close to you. It seems you know and she's your
Speaker 1: best friend. I mean, should I have one. I've been
Speaker 1: best friends with my best friend, SHANEA for nine years,
Speaker 1: so I definitely know how attached people are. So they're
Speaker 1: best friends. Man. As far as you holding the grudge
Speaker 1: against her, being mad at her because she's mad at
Speaker 1: you for something that you didn't even do, that's just friendship.
Speaker 1: That's friendship. Friendship, Okay. That that's a set down between
Speaker 1: you two. That's a one on one lunch, that's a
Speaker 1: link up, and y'all just sit down and talk about it,
Speaker 1: because honestly, it's not like she feels that way for
Speaker 1: no reason. I mean you said when you told her listen,
Speaker 1: they just need to stop. You got a husband and
Speaker 1: you got a boyfriend, and it's like, yo, you know
Speaker 1: your husband will kill you if he finds out that
Speaker 1: you're cheating. Blah blah blah. You said, y'all fell out,
Speaker 1: she blew up on you. Okay, that's because she's gotten
Speaker 1: away with it for so long she doesn't feel the
Speaker 1: need to stop. She's getting away with it. She's having
Speaker 1: her cake and she's eating it too. You understand what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So in her mind, you're my best friend.
Speaker 1: You're my ride or die. Even if I am doing
Speaker 1: something wrong, you can tell me, but don't ever go
Speaker 1: behind my back and snitch on me. You get what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. So and coincidentally, even if you didn't reach
Speaker 1: out to the wife, it just coincidentally happened that the
Speaker 1: wife had found out that her husband was cheating. I
Speaker 1: don't know if she knew that he was she for
Speaker 1: nine goddamn years. But I know for a fact that
Speaker 1: it was just coincidental. And it may have seemed like
Speaker 1: because if I was your best friend, I would think
Speaker 1: the same thing. I would be like, Yo, it's mighty
Speaker 1: funny that after you tell me that you don't like
Speaker 1: what I'm doing and how I'm moving this nigga's wife,
Speaker 1: after nine years of her not knowing anything, his wife
Speaker 1: just hits me up. Even if you did go to
Speaker 1: the wife, I ain't gonna hold you. I don't see
Speaker 1: that completely wrong. However, it pulls your loyalty card with
Speaker 1: your best friend, because before I will go and tell
Speaker 1: this man's wife, I was set down with my best
Speaker 1: friend's husband and tell him I ain't gonna hold you. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm built very differently. I don't give a funk. I
Speaker 1: just don't do that. I don't condone that type of ship.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying that this is something that I
Speaker 1: would definitely do. Oh, go to the husband, go to
Speaker 1: my best friend's husband. No, I would just go to
Speaker 1: my best friend's husband before I would go to my
Speaker 1: best friend boyfriend's wife. That's two goddamn uh. And then
Speaker 1: do you know both they in a relationship for nine years?
Speaker 1: That means that boyfriend know you, because I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: be in a relationship with nobody for nine years and
Speaker 1: not know their best friend, not being around their best friend,
Speaker 1: not ever being the same vicinity with their best friend.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, This has been a nine
Speaker 1: year fucking affair. I know that you you've been around
Speaker 1: this man all the while, knowing that it's hard to
Speaker 1: even be around him. And you know you're close with
Speaker 1: her husband because that's who she married, and that's your
Speaker 1: best friend. So you're in the middle. Whether you want
Speaker 1: to believe it or not, you're in the middle. My
Speaker 1: thing is that would make me take a step back
Speaker 1: from my best friend too, just when people live their
Speaker 1: lives recklessly and wildly like that, knowing that they're hurting
Speaker 1: people knowing that they can possibly hurt someone. And you
Speaker 1: even said it her husband would kill her. I don't
Speaker 1: know if you meant in literal terms, but and ain't
Speaker 1: like Wayne saying nothing like this before. People get caught cheating,
Speaker 1: People kill each other. People, Oh my god, people kill
Speaker 1: over love. People commit suicide over love. People do crazy things,
Speaker 1: They kidnap people's children over love. It's all types of
Speaker 1: ship in this world that we got going on right now,
Speaker 1: and it's worse than it's ever been. So I think
Speaker 1: you should try to salvage the relationship with your best friend.
Speaker 1: I mean, because you two do owe each other a conversation.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying just you. Notice I said you too.
Speaker 1: You both you both owe each other conversation. You both
Speaker 1: owe each other redemption, you know. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you know if this relationship is still going on between
Speaker 1: her and the boyfriend, because you said when the wife
Speaker 1: found out, you cut the story off there and you
Speaker 1: wanted to know what you should do about your friendship.
Speaker 1: I'm assuming you don't know because you haven't talked to
Speaker 1: or or whatever. But hopefully that wife found out for
Speaker 1: the fucking better and they're working on their marriage, and
Speaker 1: your best friend is working on her marriage with her husband.
Speaker 1: Was the two divorces going to funk on something? That
Speaker 1: something either way? Because I kind of want to fix
Speaker 1: her mess and not y'alls. God damn, this is crazy.
Speaker 1: But have a conversation with her. Swallow your pride and
Speaker 1: tell her listen. It really hurt me that you thought
Speaker 1: that I would seriously go snitch on you behind your back.
Speaker 1: You cut me off when I was trying to tell
Speaker 1: you that what you're doing is not right, it's not acceptable.
Speaker 1: How would you like if your husband had a non
Speaker 1: affair on you? How would you like to find that out? Like,
Speaker 1: that's not good. I'm married too, And what the funk
Speaker 1: you got going on? I mean, looking at my my
Speaker 1: husband crazy because you never know you're sleeping with a stranger.
Speaker 1: Your husband been sleeping with your sneaky ass for nine
Speaker 1: years and had no ankling, had no idea that you've
Speaker 1: been cheating on him for nine fucking years. It's weird,
Speaker 1: it's disgusting, it's a slap in the face. It's an
Speaker 1: insult to the covenant that we had were married bitches,
Speaker 1: And I just felt like, if you didn't want your
Speaker 1: husband girl, you could have stayed single, or you could
Speaker 1: have got divorced. I was just being a friend telling
Speaker 1: you I would never go and snitch on you. These
Speaker 1: neat to be your key points when you talk. You
Speaker 1: need to let her know your frustration, but don't come
Speaker 1: at her. Talk to her. Just talk to her. Don't
Speaker 1: come at her now. It may get heated, but she
Speaker 1: probably got so much to tell you. You just never know.
Speaker 1: And honestly, she probably needs you more than anything right now,
Speaker 1: but won't say it because y'all both got chips on
Speaker 1: your shoulders. Y'all want to be mad at each other,
Speaker 1: but y'all miss each other. I can tell you've been
Speaker 1: this girl's best friend for fifteen years. I know y'all
Speaker 1: got inside as and all types of ship. Y'all. Y'all
Speaker 1: probably want to send each other means and and funny
Speaker 1: ship online all day. Like y'all, bitch, listen, go make
Speaker 1: up with your friends. And whether you guys make up
Speaker 1: or not, you can say you tried. You can say
Speaker 1: I redeemed myself. I just wanted you to know the truth.
Speaker 1: If we walk away from here and we're never friends again,
Speaker 1: I want you to know the truth. I did not
Speaker 1: do what you accused me of. But I just want
Speaker 1: you to get your life together. Boom out, that's it,
Speaker 1: that's done. All right, check back in with me, girl,
Speaker 1: Thank you Jesus. That's that's crazy. That's crazy. Hold up,
Speaker 1: Hold up. I know the ship getting good. But listen
Speaker 1: to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. If
Speaker 1: you love me, you'll listen. Alright. Moving on, Hey, jos,
Speaker 1: I'm here with an update as well as another question.
Speaker 1: So to clear things up, I was with my boyfriend
Speaker 1: for four years and never met his kids or family.
Speaker 1: Oh I remember this story. Yes. I finally put it
Speaker 1: all on the table and told him how I felt.
Speaker 1: He claimed he never thought to include his kids in
Speaker 1: his personal life. What he asked for time to work
Speaker 1: on my issues, and I said okay. Fast forward a
Speaker 1: week later. We get into a very small disagreement and
Speaker 1: he ignored me for a week. Well it couldn't have
Speaker 1: been that damn small. He finally texted me out the
Speaker 1: blue a week later and tells me I don't truly
Speaker 1: love him. At this point, I just said fuck it.
Speaker 1: I told him he never truly loved me and the
Speaker 1: relationship he was giving I didn't want. Next thing. I know.
Speaker 1: He's telling me I'll never hear from him again, and
Speaker 1: if I see him out, then act like I don't
Speaker 1: know him. The nerve of this motherfucker shaking my head.
Speaker 1: It's been ten days and we haven't spoke since. I
Speaker 1: know I'm better off without the relationship, But is it
Speaker 1: crazy that I still want him as a friend. I'm
Speaker 1: alone in this state and could use his wisdom and advice.
Speaker 1: He's forty three and I'm twenty nine. Let me know,
Speaker 1: just boom that your question right there. So listen, his
Speaker 1: little forty three year old ass is playing games with
Speaker 1: your baby ass. Okay, that's what it sounds like to me.
Speaker 1: He's playing games with you. No, listen, not every older
Speaker 1: guy sought out to play games with these younger girls.
Speaker 1: Some some older guys just genuinely are attracted to younger females,
Speaker 1: not little girls, younger females, younger women. Um, and you
Speaker 1: are a young lady, are almost thirty. Not saying that
Speaker 1: you're too fucking young for him, but I think that
Speaker 1: he's playing on your feelings and taking advantage of how
Speaker 1: you feel and taking advantage of the fact also that
Speaker 1: you moved to the state to be with him right,
Speaker 1: And he knows you don't know any want and you
Speaker 1: can't just up and leaving, you know, uproot again and
Speaker 1: go back home, or go back where you want to go,
Speaker 1: or go wherever. He knows that. So he's playing on
Speaker 1: that fact you you don't need him. I think you
Speaker 1: got comfortable with knowing that he's always gonna be there.
Speaker 1: He's always, um gonna take care of you or gonna
Speaker 1: make you feel better. And I think that he also
Speaker 1: has spoiled you, and you spoiled him as well. With accessibility.
Speaker 1: He knows he always has access to you. He knows
Speaker 1: he can call you and make you feel a certain
Speaker 1: way and you'll be feeling that way for a week.
Speaker 1: He he knows, he, like you just said, he ignored
Speaker 1: you for a fucking week. How to funn you do
Speaker 1: that to somebody that you love? How the fun you
Speaker 1: do that to somebody that you're in a relationship with.
Speaker 1: How the hell can you do that? Going back to
Speaker 1: the first time that you wrote me, you said that
Speaker 1: you were in a relationship with this man for four
Speaker 1: years and haven't met his kids. He told you kids
Speaker 1: or any other family. I mean you you met in
Speaker 1: passing a brother and a cousin. Who's to say they
Speaker 1: were his real family members? Though you don't know, you
Speaker 1: have to pay attention and the ship like that. His
Speaker 1: kids are his immediate family. Why the funk wouldn't he
Speaker 1: think to include them in his personal life when they're
Speaker 1: his people. They're his persons that came out of his
Speaker 1: damn balls. How the hell don't you include your kids,
Speaker 1: whether they're grown or not. I've been your girlfriend for
Speaker 1: four years. How the funk I don't know your children,
Speaker 1: never seen them, never laid eyes on them a day
Speaker 1: of my life. They've never spoken to me or anything.
Speaker 1: Wake your ass up, baby, Wake your ass up. Get
Speaker 1: out there, get to know other people. I'm not saying
Speaker 1: date established friendships. Go to a couple of barns and nobles.
Speaker 1: I'm dead serious. Go take walks around the park. Start
Speaker 1: doing ship for you, because once you start focusing on yourself,
Speaker 1: that's how you make people mad. That's the sweetest revenge
Speaker 1: to work on yourself. Because you're a little damaged to
Speaker 1: be sitting here dealing with this ship. It must be
Speaker 1: something in you. I don't know if it's self esteem,
Speaker 1: or if it's you know you're comfortable, or you you know,
Speaker 1: complacent or you know you're twenty nine and you haven't
Speaker 1: even reached your third decade of life yet. Seriously, I
Speaker 1: want you to get yourself to cather, get out there,
Speaker 1: should go back to school, do something with yourself. You
Speaker 1: don't need him as a friend. You don't. He ain't
Speaker 1: gonna be no friend because he already know how to
Speaker 1: unlock certain feelings and play on your heart strings. So
Speaker 1: you don't need a friend like that. No, you don't.
Speaker 1: He need to get itself together, and what you need
Speaker 1: to do is take his advice. Do what he tell
Speaker 1: you to do. Act like you don't know his ass.
Speaker 1: All right, don't ever hit him up again. I mean,
Speaker 1: I know it's easier said than done, but I've been
Speaker 1: in your shoes, and I'm telling you you'll feel better
Speaker 1: knowing what I know. Now. Oh, I would have loved
Speaker 1: for just to fix my fucking mess and tell me. Oh,
Speaker 1: do what he's saying, because once you really do it.
Speaker 1: That's why I told you to do it, because he
Speaker 1: knows you're not ever going to do it. You're not
Speaker 1: gonna do that. You don't want to cut him off.
Speaker 1: You're in love with him, but for real, for real,
Speaker 1: like I said, cut that motherfucker off and start living
Speaker 1: for you and watch his as crawled right back up
Speaker 1: in your ass. To believe that. If that's what you
Speaker 1: want to go with it. If not, by boom, check
Speaker 1: back in again. Thank you? All right, we got one
Speaker 1: last one and then we're gonna get out of here,
Speaker 1: says I need some advice on the podcast. Don't say
Speaker 1: my name because he listens to. So. I was with
Speaker 1: a guy for two years. Prior to that, I've been
Speaker 1: in nothing but abusive relationships for over four years. My
Speaker 1: last dude chased me for about two years. Then when
Speaker 1: he finally got me, he did me bad, like real bad.
Speaker 1: I found out he was positive. I found out he
Speaker 1: cheated with a plethora of people. He has lied about
Speaker 1: having sex with certain people and lied. He's abusive, narcissist,
Speaker 1: and a manipulator. I'm twenty five, he's forty. I have
Speaker 1: my own and he does too. But he knows I
Speaker 1: have low self esteem as far as my looks and body,
Speaker 1: and he plays on that badly. We've been broken up
Speaker 1: for a year, but won't leave each other alone. What
Speaker 1: should I do? By the way, just three days ago,
Speaker 1: a I I know sent me messages of him fucking
Speaker 1: him after he's saying he still hadn't had sex, so
Speaker 1: he's a liar. Jess, Oh my lord, alrighty, already, already, already, sweetie, Jesus,
Speaker 1: what is up with these forty year old men messing
Speaker 1: with these nine year old motherfucker's these people in the twenties. Okay, So,
Speaker 1: judging from your page, which is private and you have
Speaker 1: a cartoon thumbnail, I don't know if you're a guy
Speaker 1: or a girl. However, I don't want to assume, so
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna speak as if I'm talking to a
Speaker 1: woman or man. It doesn't matter. Now you said he
Speaker 1: was positive. You didn't say he was positive? What like
Speaker 1: he what covid? Uh? Gnarhea. It's a plethora of STDs,
Speaker 1: just like those plethora of people that he was fucking
Speaker 1: lying about. He was cheating on you with those people. Hmmm.
Speaker 1: I don't understand why you ask me what you should do, Like,
Speaker 1: just just listen. It's like sometimes people need to hear
Speaker 1: their story back to them. Sometimes you need to repeat
Speaker 1: people so they can hear just how crazy this is.
Speaker 1: You have to take yourself out of your situation and
Speaker 1: look from the outside in and I'm going to help
Speaker 1: you do that. I understand why this is so hard
Speaker 1: for you because you have been and nothing but abusive relationships,
Speaker 1: whether that's emotionally, physically, sexually, whatever. You know, you've been
Speaker 1: in abusive relationships over the past four years, so you've
Speaker 1: kind of gotten used to abuse, which no one should
Speaker 1: ever have to go through. Nobody should ever have to
Speaker 1: feel this way. So you're you're kind of a magnet
Speaker 1: for abuse, And don't take that the wrong way. That's true.
Speaker 1: People attract certain spirits and certain behaviors and and then
Speaker 1: they wonder why, because if I'm right, you're a people
Speaker 1: pleaser and you think you can help everybody, and you
Speaker 1: like to give everybody the benefit of the doubt because
Speaker 1: you also have low self esteem and you think you're
Speaker 1: not good enough for the people that you really really
Speaker 1: want to date, that you really really see yourself with,
Speaker 1: or people that you've even tried to get within the
Speaker 1: past and it hasn't worked because you have low self
Speaker 1: esteem being rejected all that ship. So you're taking who
Speaker 1: takes you, You're accepting who accepts you, and ultimately you're settling.
Speaker 1: You're settling, and you are giving benefit of the doubt
Speaker 1: to everyone because people change. Yeah, people change, but people
Speaker 1: can't change people. People change themselves. Now, you can help
Speaker 1: people change, but you're not even in the right state
Speaker 1: of mind or where you need to be for you
Speaker 1: to help someone else. You know what I'm saying, because
Speaker 1: you're still suffering real with something. You're still you know
Speaker 1: it's something about you reading your story. It's deeper than
Speaker 1: just dating. This is something else as well. You know.
Speaker 1: I need you to figure out what that is. Babe.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I can help you with with
Speaker 1: within yourself. I don't know, but I do. I want
Speaker 1: you to know that I think that you should stay
Speaker 1: the funk away from this nigga. I'm telling you that
Speaker 1: because when somebody shows you who they are and you
Speaker 1: keep turning a blind eye to it, you're not being
Speaker 1: real with yourself. Now, you're lying to yourself about this
Speaker 1: person they're showing you. Now, they're not telling you who
Speaker 1: they are. They're showing you, which is better because you
Speaker 1: can tell me anything. But when you start showing me
Speaker 1: the type of person you are, that gives me the
Speaker 1: liberty to say, Okay, I don't want to deal with this,
Speaker 1: or I can deal with this, but you are settling
Speaker 1: and you're staying in it because you just want someone
Speaker 1: to love you. You have a true desperation for love.
Speaker 1: You have an unruly desperation for love. And you cannot
Speaker 1: and will not be happy like that. You're not You're
Speaker 1: never gonna find happiness, never gonna be happy for long
Speaker 1: like that. You're gonna end up miserable, and you can
Speaker 1: end up losing your life like that as well. Because
Speaker 1: this abusive ship, this is a cry for help, and
Speaker 1: I need you to go get help. Okay, leave that
Speaker 1: motherfucker alone. Seriously, he's showing you who he is. You
Speaker 1: don't need any more confirmation, you don't need. I don't
Speaker 1: care if he begs you, whatever the funk. I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck. Y'all been broken up for a year,
Speaker 1: but y'all can't leave each other alone. Uh, that's because
Speaker 1: you know you ain't going to where leave you said.
Speaker 1: He plays on the fact that you don't. You're not
Speaker 1: confident in your body and your face and how you look.
Speaker 1: Leave because there is someone out there that's gonna love
Speaker 1: you for your body, your face, your personality. When you
Speaker 1: wake up in the morning, somebody's gonna want to smell
Speaker 1: that motherfucking morning breath when you go to bed and nice,
Speaker 1: somebody's gonna wanna cut it up and hold your ass.
Speaker 1: You understand, So, man or woman, whatever whoever you are,
Speaker 1: I don't care. You need to let that go and
Speaker 1: start healing on yourself. And listen, you will never be healed.
Speaker 1: That's what I want people to understand. There's no way
Speaker 1: that you can be healed. Everybody always running around something.
Speaker 1: Oh I want to I want to date somebody that's healed.
Speaker 1: I want to make it that's already healed. Already. Listen,
Speaker 1: You're gonna be healing for the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: Everybody who's been through something is going to be healing
Speaker 1: for the rest of their lives. Why, Because the world
Speaker 1: doesn't stop is new trauma every day, new situations, new
Speaker 1: ship that we can't even control, that are out of
Speaker 1: our hands, that are affecting us, that we didn't even
Speaker 1: think had anything to do with us. Oh, but it does.
Speaker 1: So the things that you think don't affect you will.
Speaker 1: It's almost humanly impossible to find someone that's completely fucking healed. Seriously,
Speaker 1: Now you can be with someone that can assist you
Speaker 1: in your healing. Process that can help you heal. That's
Speaker 1: called building together. That's called working, building a strong foundation,
Speaker 1: open honest communication, doing everything the right way, not lying
Speaker 1: about ship I'm talking about. That's how you start a
Speaker 1: true healing process. And who's to ever say that you
Speaker 1: will be healed one cent? But if you do it
Speaker 1: the right way, you'll end up turning out better than
Speaker 1: you would if you keep living life like this, sweetie.
Speaker 1: So I want you to check back in with me, um,
Speaker 1: and I want you to know something. I love you.
Speaker 1: I don't know you, don't know your name, I don't care,
Speaker 1: but I love you just as a person you are.
Speaker 1: You're enough. You're enough. Stop thinking that you aren't because
Speaker 1: a person says it. That's just another person with the
Speaker 1: same skin you got. If you cut them, they're gonna
Speaker 1: bleed just like you. Just know that. And just like that,
Speaker 1: we've come to the end of another Carefully Reckless session
Speaker 1: with Dr Jess because I'm fixing mess all day and
Speaker 1: then my deepest pam boys peace. Carefully Reckless is a
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