WEBVTT - Unexpected Exes 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:05.359 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heeart Radio podcast. 0:00:06.880 --> 0:00:10.040 Hey ladies, Hi, it is the last week of school. 0:00:10.760 --> 0:00:14.520 Oh thank goodness, we are all most there. 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:19.800 Slowly things are sweetly falling off the calendar. Kind of 0:00:20.400 --> 0:00:22.400 do we feel that I don't know. I want to 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:24.960 believe that it was a deep breath in between. 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:27.760 I no, yeah, I just feel like here at the end, 0:00:28.840 --> 0:00:32.080 there's zero point for them to still be there, minus 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.120 like a few exams here cal A. I get a 0:00:35.120 --> 0:00:37.160 text every day I know I'm doing nothing. 0:00:37.200 --> 0:00:38.640 Can I leave? You know? 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:41.559 And it's like already for high school, they do let 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:43.440 you kind of come and go when you've got exams 0:00:43.479 --> 0:00:45.839 and stuff. But then like in middle school, they'll have 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:48.720 an exam that morning and then it's just movie still 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:51.240 or the rest of the wish all his movies, Julie. 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:54.040 So they were watching a movie. I watched a movie yesterday. 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:57.200 I'm like, yeah, you can't get mad at me for 0:00:57.240 --> 0:00:59.720 all the absences because they're not doing anything. 0:00:59.840 --> 0:01:01.200 So it's like, you know it. 0:01:01.200 --> 0:01:03.760 I was leaving to come here today and the line 0:01:03.800 --> 0:01:06.480 was like a normal school line. Everyone's leaving at like 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:07.040 twelve thirty. 0:01:07.080 --> 0:01:09.720 I'm like, just call it, Yes, be done. Yeah, just 0:01:09.800 --> 0:01:12.240 be done. What's the point. Sorry, that's my that's my. 0:01:14.000 --> 0:01:14.160 Right. 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:20.440 Sorry, sorry sorry. Things will be changing though, and well 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:22.600 it's starting in June. We're going to have a different 0:01:22.640 --> 0:01:26.280 layout again. But it's going to be more episodes and 0:01:26.560 --> 0:01:28.559 split up a bit. It's going to be we're gonna 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:31.400 basically it's not going to be because this right now 0:01:31.480 --> 0:01:35.199 will be a week delayed. It won't be a week delayed. 0:01:35.240 --> 0:01:37.720 It'll be very topical. So what we're talking about, it 0:01:37.760 --> 0:01:40.720 airs that day extra risk for all of us in 0:01:40.760 --> 0:01:44.560 our big mouths. I can't wait perfect a good point. 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:48.440 Oh things I think about. 0:01:48.480 --> 0:01:51.760 Things change so fast, I know, even for us and 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:53.800 for the headlines and all the things. And so it's 0:01:53.880 --> 0:01:56.200 just like smart it comes out a week later, it's like, 0:01:56.200 --> 0:01:58.240 oh yeah, it's iHeart Smart. 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:01.040 I don't know if it's kab So I'm just gonna 0:02:01.040 --> 0:02:03.360 have to really check myself my big opinions. 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:06.440 It'll be good, it'll be good, guys. I'm having a 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:11.880 bit of uh karma. Oo oh interesting. I don't love 0:02:11.880 --> 0:02:14.880 it when that comes back around me. Neither. My grass 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:18.880 is dead huh oh. And it's not anyone's fault, but 0:02:19.200 --> 0:02:23.040 the sprinkler system and the drought's happening. The drought would 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:25.720 be my grass is always dead. But here's the problem. 0:02:25.760 --> 0:02:27.840 You guys know how much I love my yard. It 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:30.920 is so dead. But our sprinkler system isn't working, so 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:34.239 our our rain sensor keeps tripping, and poor Alan is 0:02:34.280 --> 0:02:35.840 to go out. We have all these different zones, so 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:37.880 he has to go out and then manually do it 0:02:37.880 --> 0:02:41.079 because it doesn't just and then we will we've uncensored 0:02:41.080 --> 0:02:42.880 the rain thing. And I go, this is our karma 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:45.880 for not letting use our yard. Wait did we say 0:02:45.880 --> 0:02:50.440 no to that? Oh that's I sorry. Well, no, I 0:02:51.040 --> 0:02:57.120 I came apologizing. Okay, okay, I do it was I 0:02:57.320 --> 0:03:00.720 felt awful for talking about it. Hmmm. 0:03:01.880 --> 0:03:03.960 I would like to just speak a little life into 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:07.440 our little section of the world. It's hard because we 0:03:07.480 --> 0:03:11.160 are all experiencing real life things, the three of us, like, 0:03:11.200 --> 0:03:15.760 we're really doing very normal life. We just happen to 0:03:15.760 --> 0:03:17.320 get in here and we curl up with you guys, and. 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:20.560 We update each other everything that's happened. 0:03:20.320 --> 0:03:23.960 So literally, and so I think it's also I think 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:25.720 it's great that you apologize, and I think it's great 0:03:25.760 --> 0:03:28.440 you're acknowledging that I just also want to normalize the 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:29.919 sharing of our world. 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:32.200 I think what I where I had to step in 0:03:32.240 --> 0:03:35.320 and look, was though I thought it was a great topic. 0:03:36.080 --> 0:03:41.120 Mm hmm, it's someone to it's someone else's How do 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:44.400 I say this, Like being on the other side of 0:03:44.440 --> 0:03:47.040 it might not feel as good. Absolutely sure, you know 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:50.280 what I mean. Like it wasn't even though I'm like, oh, 0:03:50.320 --> 0:03:52.480 I think it's such a great topic to talk about, 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:54.960 and then you know on here we embellish things a 0:03:54.960 --> 0:03:57.360 bit and you know, oh, we got to keep it entertaining, 0:03:58.240 --> 0:04:03.160 so it's just And then so when I have to 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:05.520 just be mindful because I'm like, I wasn't disrespectful and 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:07.320 this that, But I'm like, oh, but it's still to 0:04:07.360 --> 0:04:10.080 be on the other side might have not felt great. 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:12.400 And that's where I'm like, oh, I'm like, I suck. 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:14.440 So I felt really bad. Well you don't suck. And 0:04:14.440 --> 0:04:16.560 then I'm like, take all my yard. I don't care too. 0:04:16.839 --> 0:04:18.320 But they had already figured out a different plan, and 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:19.840 than I just felt too more okay, so they figured 0:04:19.839 --> 0:04:20.400 out another plan. 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:24.080 I will say, anytime we talk about something, we always 0:04:24.120 --> 0:04:27.000 go back and say, did that was that disrespectful. 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:28.560 Yeah, And I think that's always been our. 0:04:28.440 --> 0:04:30.560 Thing because I never I'm like, yeah, we never want 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:33.680 to disrespect someone, but I think what ends up happening 0:04:34.279 --> 0:04:37.880 is nine times out of ten we're not necessarily disrespecting anyone. 0:04:37.960 --> 0:04:40.719 But like you said, it still just doesn't feel good 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:43.799 being talked about. Yeah, And that's where it gets tricky 0:04:43.920 --> 0:04:47.359 because we are very mindful of being disrespectful. But I 0:04:47.400 --> 0:04:49.720 can see where okay, but I might just not want 0:04:49.760 --> 0:04:50.599 you to share that. 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:53.080 That happened between me and yeah, And that's. 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:55.080 Where it gets very very tricky on here, and we're 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.840 all trying to be a little bit more mindful of that. Yeah, 0:04:57.880 --> 0:04:59.920 because I think we're very good at making sure we're 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:01.360 as respectful as possible. 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:04.440 Yes, But then I think that because like natives can be, 0:05:04.680 --> 0:05:07.160 you know, and don't I never want any negative. And 0:05:07.320 --> 0:05:09.840 I was like, oh my gosh, I just we get 0:05:09.839 --> 0:05:14.200 on here and we just all up. But then I said, 0:05:14.240 --> 0:05:16.520 oh crap, KB, Like was I because I just said 0:05:16.560 --> 0:05:18.440 how great you know? And then and then it is 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.960 just the other side. But even so, like you know, 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:24.640 when I share life stuff, well, why did you say 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:26.880 this about you know that being your best childhood memory 0:05:26.920 --> 0:05:29.480 because it was you know, and so it's again it's 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:33.040 though that was I wasn't trying to be disrespectful and 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:37.280 it is my it was like and that's okay, and 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:39.719 not playing characters like this is our world. Yeah, I'm like, 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:41.720 there was nothing. I didn't say anything bad about you, 0:05:41.760 --> 0:05:43.000 mom or dad, like you know what I mean, Like, 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:45.839 this is just that was my reality and my truth. 0:05:45.880 --> 0:05:49.000 And I wasn't trying to be disrespectful. But again being 0:05:49.040 --> 0:05:51.239 on the opposite side of things. And also some people 0:05:51.240 --> 0:05:52.920 live in a fence and that's not ours to deal 0:05:52.920 --> 0:05:55.799 with too. Yeah, but like my husband, I think parents potentially, 0:05:55.800 --> 0:05:58.240 I mean, I can write again that's what I was. 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:01.599 Yea, I could see that being I can already see 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.560 into the future. If my child were to say that 0:06:03.640 --> 0:06:05.760 even if that's that reality, that that would hurt me. 0:06:05.880 --> 0:06:07.880 But I'm still saying it's a great I'm not sorry though, 0:06:08.120 --> 0:06:10.120 but I'm not saying it. I would say it. 0:06:10.720 --> 0:06:13.120 I would say it as the cadid arguments of not 0:06:13.200 --> 0:06:15.000 yourselves and parents of not yourselves. 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:18.080 And that's my issue is I would do it all 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:20.880 day long as the kid, and then I go, oh god, 0:06:20.960 --> 0:06:23.000 But if Kaden Britten and me or Ramsey were to 0:06:23.080 --> 0:06:25.400 do that, that would hurt my feelings. 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:27.200 And so it's like I try. 0:06:27.240 --> 0:06:28.680 I look at that, and I'm like, I still want 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.120 to be able to share my truth and how I 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.800 grew up and all the things. But then I'm like ooh, man, 0:06:33.839 --> 0:06:36.159 like I just can't get it all right all the time. 0:06:36.480 --> 0:06:39.600 So of course they're going to remember those those times 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:41.680 and that's what they would be talking about, and I 0:06:41.760 --> 0:06:43.800 can see where that would be hard to hear. 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:46.560 Then as you grow up, as you get older, I 0:06:46.600 --> 0:06:48.839 mean I kind of maybe left out that it was 0:06:48.880 --> 0:06:53.120 my only good child one word, I'll change it all. 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:56.840 But it was, you know, I mean it was a joke, 0:06:56.920 --> 0:07:00.320 a running joke, you know. So I think that's and 0:07:00.360 --> 0:07:03.040 I'm like, Lisa had a good memory. Yeah, see, we 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:05.680 see the positive. So positive. I'm like, why am I 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:06.360 getting in there? 0:07:06.480 --> 0:07:08.600 No, guys, somebody came through the meet and greet line 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:10.200 the other day instead of resting. 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:12.320 WHOA, you're really screwed it up on the blah blah blah, 0:07:12.360 --> 0:07:12.840 And he was. 0:07:12.880 --> 0:07:16.280 Like, I am what And they're like, oh, listen to 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:18.400 the podcast. He's like, so apparently you threw me under 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:20.560 the bus, and I was like, I don't I think it. 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:22.960 I remember the episode. Well, I don't even need to 0:07:23.000 --> 0:07:24.960 revisit it. That's up to you, dear listeners, if you 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:27.880 want to go digging. But I but I also it's 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:29.800 like they watched just the piece of it and they're 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:34.280 not listening to the whole episode where we very very 0:07:34.320 --> 0:07:37.040 candidly threw ourselves under the bus. And well, it just 0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:37.800 happens a lot. 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:39.960 I mean, nine times out of ten, if it's something 0:07:39.960 --> 0:07:41.920 I've talked about with Nick and he just sees the clip, 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:43.880 he like goes and listens, He's like, oh, that wasn't 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:44.360 bad at all. 0:07:44.440 --> 0:07:48.320 Yeah, like usually great marketing. Pretty he's pretty good at 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:48.680 that though. 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:50.520 But yeah, I mean, at the same time, it's like 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:53.840 if you actually go listen and not just take the 0:07:53.840 --> 0:07:55.000 clip that they post. 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:58.440 The clips are funny, the editing's been epic. I'm like, man, 0:07:58.480 --> 0:08:01.080 if I'm not us is awesome. But if I'm us, 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:02.960 I'm a little bit yeah, a little bit. 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:05.600 Of a belliech But needless to say, Karma's biting me 0:08:05.600 --> 0:08:09.600 and they and my grass is dead, kills my grass hearts. 0:08:09.560 --> 0:08:12.520 It's supposed to rain coming up, I know, thank goodness. 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:13.520 We just can't get this. 0:08:13.800 --> 0:08:16.040 I live across from two empty nesters, and they are 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:19.160 impeccable with their lawns. Mister John and mister Dan. If 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:23.120 you're listening, and you never will, you are, They're they're 0:08:23.120 --> 0:08:25.720 my goals. They look like golf courses. I they're out 0:08:25.720 --> 0:08:28.560 there with little trimmers like shears every day and mister 0:08:28.640 --> 0:08:30.920 John will sometimes spray his lawn and color. If there's 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:34.600 little green pat dry, I'm out then I can spray 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:36.160 my grass because I'm gonna be out there today. 0:08:36.280 --> 0:08:38.840 Yeah, that's a black there. It's going to be a 0:08:38.880 --> 0:08:41.600 par four by dinner, not a girl Cramer. 0:08:41.720 --> 0:08:46.160 Oh no, good Well that's funny. 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:50.240 So format's changing and always for That's about. That's about 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:52.040 all I got. Okay, school lending. 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:57.000 You guys, I am on our topics of. 0:08:58.679 --> 0:08:59.920 Whether to share or not to share. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:05.360 Oh, I'm usually like just share, but I'm trying to 0:09:05.360 --> 0:09:06.160 be a little bit more. 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:09.720 I'm protecting my client strong on this because it's Leggie kid, 0:09:10.160 --> 0:09:14.520 yeah and your client. But I also am like, I 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:17.920 want to share these things because I know that we 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:21.200 all go through these things and it's sometimes I find 0:09:21.240 --> 0:09:24.880 a lot of comedy. As we know in the storm 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:28.640 of motherhood. But I went to go pick up Leggie 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:32.800 and Love from school yesterday and they again just reminding 0:09:32.800 --> 0:09:34.680 everyone we go just two days a week to tutorial, 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:37.079 so we only need to keep ourselves together for. 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:38.920 Two days out of the week. 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:42.640 And we had a recent incident a couple weeks ago. 0:09:43.080 --> 0:09:48.360 At pickup, it was fine, sweet talking. They're wonderful, wonderful humans, 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:50.360 and they approach everything with the most grace, like we 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:51.080 are just so lucky. 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:52.400 We have truly a sweet spot. 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:57.319 However, I go to pick up Leggie yesterday, I'm intercepted 0:09:57.600 --> 0:10:01.080 in the middle of the lawn by our director and 0:10:01.360 --> 0:10:05.000 she says, I have to intercept you, and I go, nope, no, no, no, no, 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:07.360 what did he do? And so I start to guess, 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:11.840 which made it worse, and she said we just needed 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:16.560 to have a talk because Leggie was telling the class 0:10:16.559 --> 0:10:18.439 he was drunk and then he had drugs. 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:20.040 Oh what what? 0:10:19.920 --> 0:10:19.959 What? 0:10:20.120 --> 0:10:20.560 Wrote? 0:10:20.960 --> 0:10:24.439 And coming from the upbringing, I had ready to hear that. 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:26.000 Did you ask him? Oh? 0:10:26.080 --> 0:10:31.960 Yeah, okay, yeah, And listen when President and I are 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:33.559 both looking at each other like you guys, I can't 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:37.240 even articulate how absolutely opposite my household is my husband's 0:10:37.280 --> 0:10:39.200 never done a drug in his life, literally, which I 0:10:39.200 --> 0:10:41.280 know is shocking to people. Like I've done more than 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:46.080 he ever, he's never done anything. Like we're just drugs. 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:48.880 Oh yeah, like the light ones. There's light ones. 0:10:49.000 --> 0:10:53.280 I don't know there are there are well like we. 0:10:54.920 --> 0:10:57.800 Yes, not like I've never done coke or anything like 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:02.200 you guys. I read the dayre graduation speech, like, obviously 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:03.000 a lot of. 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.600 People don't say that weed is really drugs anymore. So 0:11:05.640 --> 0:11:07.720 I think that's the worst. 0:11:08.160 --> 0:11:10.480 I still think it's a drug, right, That's why I'm saying. 0:11:10.559 --> 0:11:14.319 That's why I'm saying to be Yea and ones and 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:18.520 I'm like, there's I only have one, yeah, which I've 0:11:18.520 --> 0:11:21.760 never done. Okay, but yeah, see so like and Preston's like, 0:11:21.760 --> 0:11:24.640 they're just we don't even that's a big deal, Like 0:11:24.640 --> 0:11:26.120 we don't do I did that like a couple of 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:27.240 times and I'm just not good at it. 0:11:27.240 --> 0:11:29.319 So I was like, I'm out good at it anyways. 0:11:29.320 --> 0:11:32.480 It's like he doesn't know what he's saying, you know. 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:35.079 And Preston We've had to kind of chat it out 0:11:35.120 --> 0:11:38.600 at home. Preston's constantly we're running a record label. Ot 0:11:38.640 --> 0:11:41.360 of our home. Well, those calls in our industry are 0:11:41.400 --> 0:11:44.800 not super buttoned up, often not super professional, So there's 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:47.320 words being throwd around, like we've we've had the talk, right, 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:51.839 and he's never seen me drunk. I don't even know 0:11:51.840 --> 0:11:54.080 if I've really been drunk in his lifetime, Like you know, 0:11:54.160 --> 0:11:58.160 the ship is sailed. So anyways, we had to have 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.439 this moment where we're sitting down and Preston and I 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:02.600 are both looking at each other like, well, I will 0:12:02.600 --> 0:12:04.520 say this first. I could feel it come over me 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:07.359 to my point earlier of living in a fence. I 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:09.480 felt a certain way because I grew up that way 0:12:09.480 --> 0:12:12.079 and I'm cycle breaking, so it just felt deeply personal 0:12:12.120 --> 0:12:12.880 to me that we're even. 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:13.719 Using terms like that. 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:17.199 But then it was I was reminded by another friend 0:12:17.240 --> 0:12:19.520 who's just also grew up. Oh, She's like, listen, that's 0:12:19.559 --> 0:12:22.160 because he has no reference. So that's what makes this 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:25.560 innocent and sweet and a mistake is because he you 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.520 and I would never say those things because we were 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:29.600 so deeply entrenched in trying to figure it out and 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:30.720 holding all of that. 0:12:31.040 --> 0:12:31.480 Yeah. 0:12:31.600 --> 0:12:36.080 Anyways, so we had to have a real chat yesterday. 0:12:36.160 --> 0:12:38.160 But it's also hard because I'm looking at his seven 0:12:38.240 --> 0:12:40.840 year old self with his forever teeth growing in in 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:44.080 the front, and he's weeping because we are coming down 0:12:44.120 --> 0:12:47.600 hammer style and not not like aggressive at him, but 0:12:47.720 --> 0:12:50.440 just like this is what happens, Like we talk about biblically, 0:12:50.440 --> 0:12:52.439 like the tongue has power, it holds power, and you 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:54.400 can't be saying things like this. If you were at 0:12:54.440 --> 0:12:57.120 a different school, this could be a very bigger issue, 0:12:57.200 --> 0:13:00.720 you know, like they have an obligation of file reports 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:03.040 and call police and and mom and dad could be investigated, 0:13:03.120 --> 0:13:04.480 like you know, like Paus for a. 0:13:04.400 --> 0:13:07.240 Second, he said I have drugs? 0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:08.040 What words? 0:13:09.840 --> 0:13:12.240 Because he did, he said for a reason, look at me, 0:13:12.280 --> 0:13:14.760 I'm drunk, right, He's saying he heard it from someone 0:13:14.760 --> 0:13:15.240 else in college. 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:17.720 Of course, these are these little Christian tator talks are 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:19.680 just running around. They have no idea what they're saying. 0:13:19.800 --> 0:13:21.480 All the kids are running around saying things. 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:25.280 And sure, we watch really great programming, but even back 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:28.600 in our nineties sitcoms, we were still remember Jesse Spano, 0:13:28.840 --> 0:13:30.880 I'm so excited. 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:31.679 Yep, yeah yeah. 0:13:31.760 --> 0:13:35.320 So anyways, it was just I was just referencing if 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:37.680 he said I have drugs, because that is a different well, 0:13:37.720 --> 0:13:38.160 and he did. 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:40.560 If he says that in school, yeah, if. 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:42.400 That's what I'm trying to tell him, right, it's like 0:13:42.640 --> 0:13:44.200 you know, saying bomb and the airplane, we just don't 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:44.959 don't say that. 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:45.679 What are you doing? 0:13:46.480 --> 0:13:46.600 So? 0:13:47.000 --> 0:13:47.360 Anyway? 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:51.480 Bomb? Why are we the way we are? Anyways? I 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:53.240 don't want to dominate our time. I just had that 0:13:53.280 --> 0:13:55.000 real parenting moment where I was like, you know what, 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.240 just speak a little life into the moms out there 0:13:57.240 --> 0:13:59.440 that we could be doing our very diligent best and 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:01.800 still or will Ferrell want to be a son? Will 0:14:01.800 --> 0:14:04.120 say things like I'm drunk and is Christian Jesus school? 0:14:04.120 --> 0:14:05.880 He only tends eight hours a week? 0:14:06.000 --> 0:14:08.320 And he did? He say which friend he heard that? Funt? 0:14:08.320 --> 0:14:08.640 He did? 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.120 And I actually texted the other mom and was just like, hey, 0:14:11.400 --> 0:14:14.320 this is didn't text the director. I'm not bringing anybody else. 0:14:14.440 --> 0:14:16.800 I'm responding to my client's issues only, but just wondering, 0:14:16.800 --> 0:14:19.800 like where it's coming from, because if he is somebody 0:14:19.800 --> 0:14:22.040 had heard it from legend, which of course they did, 0:14:22.400 --> 0:14:22.680 one of. 0:14:22.680 --> 0:14:25.320 Them did yesterday. I would want to know. 0:14:25.480 --> 0:14:27.840 So we checked in with each other and everyone's like, yeah, 0:14:27.840 --> 0:14:29.680 we don't really know, Like we couldn't get the origin 0:14:29.760 --> 0:14:33.120 of it, but well, I just would go back to 0:14:33.720 --> 0:14:36.200 he thought he would be funny. So that's the closure 0:14:36.240 --> 0:14:38.560 there is he was like, I don't. I mean you guys, 0:14:38.600 --> 0:14:41.480 it is the most heartbreaking moment where I'm looking at 0:14:41.480 --> 0:14:43.920 his life from thirty thousand feet and I'm like, I'm 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:46.320 having this really serious talk with you at seven and 0:14:46.360 --> 0:14:49.200 I just you're just not this guy. And he's like, 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:51.840 I just said it, and I thought i'd say it 0:14:51.840 --> 0:14:54.000 too and it would be funny. But his big tears 0:14:54.000 --> 0:14:56.080 and his forever teeth and they're so big, and he's 0:14:56.080 --> 0:14:59.560 got these big feelings and he's you know, like, yeah, 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:02.120 is fake tattoos on his hands. And I was like, oh, buddy, 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:05.400 like you're But also I had to drive the point home. 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:07.800 They just don't know what they don't know. And I said, 0:15:08.040 --> 0:15:10.160 one of the biggest rules in our house is we 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:15.280 don't say things we don't understand. And he doesn't understand that. 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:17.120 So I was like, you broke a rule in the 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.920 way that you don't understand what you're saying, and you're 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.440 saying it and so it's not funny, it's serious. 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:25.840 Well, and that's what's hard, because they don't know but 0:15:25.960 --> 0:15:28.360 also I do think that's why it's important for them 0:15:28.400 --> 0:15:28.800 to know. 0:15:28.920 --> 0:15:31.120 Right, And we've had the drugs and alcohol talk with 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:35.440 love more so, but we've talked. I mean, you guys, 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:38.560 I'm very open about the way I grew up and well, 0:15:38.560 --> 0:15:40.720 and also things are just more dangerous now. They're getting 0:15:40.760 --> 0:15:43.120 them at a young age. They could take they could 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:43.640 try something. 0:15:43.680 --> 0:15:46.400 One time, Oh, we were talking about drugs and taking 0:15:46.400 --> 0:15:50.120 pills from people from like little little because they ever 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:53.240 had Because the problem is now I've never even heard 0:15:53.280 --> 0:15:55.680 them say anything about it. No, And the only reason 0:15:55.720 --> 0:15:59.160 I did young was because of if someone at school 0:15:59.240 --> 0:16:01.240 were to say, oh, you a headache, here's an advill 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:03.280 and it not really be an advil. Like my kids 0:16:03.280 --> 0:16:06.080 are not even allowed to technically take advill from people 0:16:06.720 --> 0:16:09.200 because just things can be laced. Now, it's just like 0:16:09.240 --> 0:16:11.320 a different ball game with fitneal can be an amy. 0:16:11.360 --> 0:16:13.680 I don't like taking the Adville from your little plastic bag. 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:16.560 I'm like, we're exactly exactly that's what I will take. 0:16:19.400 --> 0:16:23.080 Yeah, And because you know, there's just so many situations 0:16:23.120 --> 0:16:25.400 now where kids will you know, just take a pill 0:16:25.400 --> 0:16:27.960 they're given. And you know, I've talked about that and 0:16:27.960 --> 0:16:31.400 that's why we take and so that's why. So but 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:35.360 also like tell me, like that's such a nat like hey, yeah, 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.720 it's a conversation, like we can't say this, but like 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:38.480 also like. 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:41.080 Listen, the director was as sweet as she can be. 0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:45.280 She was as calm, and she was she can't dismiss it, right, 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:46.680 and she wasn't going to. 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:49.720 Saying I have drugs, but like you know, and you 0:16:49.720 --> 0:16:50.080 know what. 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:51.600 I say, the kid needs a legal team. 0:16:51.720 --> 0:16:53.920 I mean, the kid is like, I'm like, come on, buddy, 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:57.400 But also I did. I was thankful because I'd want 0:16:57.400 --> 0:16:59.400 to know and I just don't want him to be 0:16:59.440 --> 0:17:01.640 the kid that is getting that rep either that like 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:04.439 he's saying that, you know, you can't never count on 0:17:04.440 --> 0:17:05.320 what he's gonna say, or. 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.000 Like well I always had this situation. I mean, you know, 0:17:09.040 --> 0:17:10.960 some people don't drink in front of their kids at all. 0:17:11.359 --> 0:17:13.280 I do drink in front of my kids when I drink. 0:17:13.320 --> 0:17:15.800 I don't drink often, but I have. But for the 0:17:15.960 --> 0:17:19.840 longest time, Emmy would say are you getting drunk? And 0:17:19.960 --> 0:17:23.600 I and even at fourteen, I had to recently have 0:17:23.680 --> 0:17:26.840 a conversation with her and the difference, and it's very 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:30.080 hard to explain because a any drink, she don't want 0:17:30.119 --> 0:17:33.240 them ever getting behind the wheel, obviously, But there is 0:17:33.280 --> 0:17:36.040 a difference between drinking and getting drunk, because she would 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:38.679 say things like, oh, my mom's getting drunk, and I 0:17:38.760 --> 0:17:41.000 will have had a glass of you know, I'm like 0:17:41.080 --> 0:17:42.960 having a glass of wine, and I'm like, there's a 0:17:43.119 --> 0:17:45.040 very big difference. And when you go and tell someone 0:17:45.080 --> 0:17:47.719 my mom's getting drunk, there's a very big difference between 0:17:47.720 --> 0:17:51.080 that and I'm having a drink. Having said that, you 0:17:51.119 --> 0:17:54.040