WEBVTT - Preparing for Life After Quarantine 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:02.519 Do you did? You want to just briefly go through 0:00:03.320 --> 0:00:06.520 before I cut you off, but we just started recording 0:00:06.519 --> 0:00:10.760 here we did, Oh we did? Oh my bad. Okay, 0:00:10.840 --> 0:00:14.040 we're here, We're ready. Don't pay any mind to what 0:00:14.160 --> 0:00:17.800 I just said. Then, good morning, honey, or good afternoon. 0:00:17.880 --> 0:00:20.400 How are you good afternoon? It's so crazy because we 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:22.720 used to record in the mornings. Now we record like 0:00:23.160 --> 0:00:25.439 whenever we're done with everything else that we need to 0:00:25.480 --> 0:00:28.680 do at the house. It's crazy. You you are. You 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:32.080 don't have to lie, girl. You are so accommodating to me. 0:00:32.240 --> 0:00:34.720 Like I legitimately send honey a text ten minutes ago. 0:00:34.720 --> 0:00:36.280 I was like, can you do it now? Because I 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:38.199 have science class and I have to get this one 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:41.440 on a zoom and I'm like so over this homeschooling. 0:00:41.600 --> 0:00:44.680 It is unbelievable. But you've been so accommodating. You know. 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:46.720 What's crazy is like I never want to give you stress, 0:00:46.760 --> 0:00:48.760 Like I know that like as a mom, and you 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:51.280 continue to work from home and your husband works from home. 0:00:51.400 --> 0:00:54.240 I know it's been like all upside down. So it's 0:00:54.240 --> 0:00:55.880 like the last thing I want to do is give 0:00:55.920 --> 0:00:58.720 you at it stress. I'm that friend though, and I'm 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:01.360 that sister, and I'm that door. I contribute zero stress 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:04.319 towards anyone. Don't get me mad, because then she's gonna 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:08.880 get crazy. No, you are, you really have been. Honestly, 0:01:08.959 --> 0:01:11.400 like this podcast and the morning show have been the 0:01:11.480 --> 0:01:14.280 highlight of this quarantine. Now. Don't get me wrong, love 0:01:14.319 --> 0:01:18.440 the family, love spending time with them, but just the 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:22.920 homeschool ship is so real, girl, Like it is bananas, 0:01:23.040 --> 0:01:26.240 and it's like, it's the end of the school year, honey. 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:28.520 You know, you weren't doing anything at the end of 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:30.840 the school year. They were putting on movies, turning off 0:01:31.040 --> 0:01:34.319 the lights. You were hanging out writing notes to your friends. 0:01:34.360 --> 0:01:36.600 At the end of the year. Things to be over. 0:01:36.760 --> 0:01:41.080 I saw that one of your boys graduated. Yes, my asher, 0:01:41.240 --> 0:01:43.560 he graduated, but it was such a tease, you know. 0:01:43.640 --> 0:01:45.600 They had him graduate and then they were like, oh 0:01:45.680 --> 0:01:49.440 but ps, btw, you still have school for the next week, 0:01:49.600 --> 0:01:52.919 so it yeah, you know what it is. They actually 0:01:52.960 --> 0:01:56.520 did a really really sweet little ceremony. You know, because 0:01:56.560 --> 0:02:00.200 of the social distancing, we can't get everybody the gather 0:02:00.280 --> 0:02:03.040 until June I saw you and you look so good. 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:12.560 I'm like, it's the filter, honey, that Nashville doesn't every time. Okay, no, 0:02:12.919 --> 0:02:15.720 you're so sweet, and it was from far away. Um No, 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:17.920 you know what, it was a really special moment. And 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:19.919 I do have to tell you though, when I came 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.440 back that day, I struggled. I said to my husband, 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:23.640 I looked at him and I was you know, I 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:27.680 was very weepy. It wasn't what I expected. None of 0:02:27.680 --> 0:02:30.400 this is what we expected for anything, you know, And 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:32.120 so I said to Mark, I go, you know, in 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:34.960 my mind, when he graduated from preschool, I wanted to 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:38.360 have like a little graduation party for him because he's 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.600 come so far. He really has not that my other 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.520 one hasn't. But we've struggled a little bit more with 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:45.720 Asher because of his speech delay, and I really wanted 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:47.560 to celebrate him going to the big boys school. It's 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:49.639 such a huge accomplishment. And you know, we didn't get 0:02:49.680 --> 0:02:52.000 to do any of that. So there's just all of 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:55.440 the confusion with the reopening and the stress, and like, 0:02:56.360 --> 0:02:59.080 I just wanted to ask you, how are you feeling, 0:02:59.120 --> 0:03:01.880 Like are you just gonna bam get back out there 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:04.200 or you gonna like ease your way back in? Because 0:03:04.240 --> 0:03:06.680 I think there's two different modes that people are in. 0:03:07.040 --> 0:03:08.920 I'm going to use my way back in. You know. 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:11.799 I went out on Sunday. I went to the beach 0:03:11.880 --> 0:03:15.960 here in New Jersey where I'm at, and I saw everyone. 0:03:16.000 --> 0:03:18.360 Everyone was on the beach. There was no social distancing, 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:20.360 there were no masks. I was just walking on the 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:22.480 boardwalk kind of like trying to get some fresh air. 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:25.080 And I'm like, wow, it's crazy, like these are the 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:27.920 people that just get right back in it. And I 0:03:28.000 --> 0:03:30.120 was just like an observer and I was like, these 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:32.720 people are playing bollyball, these people are eating, these people 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:37.600 are drinking. Like it felt like Corona is over, yeah, 0:03:37.600 --> 0:03:40.400 but it's not. It hasn't been canceled. Everybody else has 0:03:40.400 --> 0:03:44.000 been canceled every other event, but like Corona has not 0:03:44.080 --> 0:03:46.720 been canceled. This is a news flash for everybody. You know. 0:03:47.000 --> 0:03:50.080 It's it's really crazy, you know. I was looking back 0:03:50.120 --> 0:03:51.960 and I was talking to Mark about this and I said, 0:03:52.640 --> 0:03:55.160 and not to get political at all, but I just think, 0:03:55.280 --> 0:03:57.040 you know, you have the headline coming out of New 0:03:57.120 --> 0:03:59.480 Zealand that they have no cases, right, they have no 0:03:59.640 --> 0:04:02.600 case is it's completely like, you know, I don't want 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:05.440 to say eradicated, but it's just gone control from New Zealand. Yeah, 0:04:05.440 --> 0:04:09.440 it's very controlled. And here there are just there are 0:04:09.600 --> 0:04:12.440 so many questions. So you went to the beach. I 0:04:12.480 --> 0:04:14.800 have not ventured to the beach yet, but what you're 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:17.800 telling me, My girlfriends have said the same thing. They 0:04:17.800 --> 0:04:20.159 have said that when you go to the beach, just 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:24.960 be prepared because nobody's social distancing. The masks are not on. 0:04:25.320 --> 0:04:29.680 Carolyn was like blankets of like ten people, like everybody eating, 0:04:29.880 --> 0:04:34.119 everybody just hanging out, walking with each other, groups of kids, 0:04:34.800 --> 0:04:36.919 like I can tell they were like friends, you know, 0:04:37.000 --> 0:04:40.080 like twelve fifteen kids together. And it was just me 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:42.039 and Nuni, you know, we were just walking around and 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:44.440 I brought my mask with me and I'm like, maybe 0:04:44.440 --> 0:04:46.480 like ten percent of the people had a mask. People 0:04:46.520 --> 0:04:50.880 were buying food, eating, hanging. I mean that's how it 0:04:51.040 --> 0:04:54.640 spreads too, by the way, you know, it's that saliva. 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:57.400 So I keep looking around. I'm like, it's corona over, 0:04:57.600 --> 0:04:59.920 Like is this it? Like? Are we going back to normal? 0:05:00.040 --> 0:05:02.000 Like did it go away? Then? My husband's like maybe 0:05:02.000 --> 0:05:03.599 it was a hoax. I'm like, this was not an 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:05.880 examp folk, So what have you been watching or what 0:05:05.960 --> 0:05:08.680 have you been reading? No, you know what, So I 0:05:08.720 --> 0:05:10.400 have a very big decision and I need you to 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:12.080 be my voice of reason. And there are a lot 0:05:12.080 --> 0:05:13.919 of people who might be listening right now. And by 0:05:14.000 --> 0:05:15.640 the way, we love you guys. Thank you so much 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:17.760 for the feedback. I'm so glad to be back with 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:21.120 you doing this podcast. Honey, it really is my I 0:05:21.160 --> 0:05:23.880 get these messages, you know, and that just one message 0:05:23.920 --> 0:05:27.560 from like one of our listeners and he was like, honey, 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:32.320 I feel so connected to this podcast as a gay 0:05:32.320 --> 0:05:37.200 Filipino man and this is this Kay Valentine on Instagram 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:41.279 that is my baby. Okay, Like yes, went back that 0:05:41.320 --> 0:05:44.479 he connected and it was like, I was like, we're 0:05:44.520 --> 0:05:47.800 reaching so many different people. It's like the narrative and 0:05:47.839 --> 0:05:51.120 the conversation is no longer like just geared at like 0:05:51.160 --> 0:05:53.440 people who live their life in spanguish the way where 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:56.479 you originally we try to like start, we're like aim 0:05:56.520 --> 0:05:59.320 it at No for sure, but no, it's great but 0:05:59.480 --> 0:06:01.840 so so no. I was just gonna say, like they're 0:06:02.040 --> 0:06:05.039 probably parents or you know, moms or dads maybe that 0:06:05.080 --> 0:06:07.200 are listening and they have the big decision to make. 0:06:07.279 --> 0:06:10.880 So okay, let me rewind a little bit, because my 0:06:10.960 --> 0:06:13.120 kids go to day camp. They go to camp from 0:06:13.160 --> 0:06:15.200 like eight o'clock in the Every other summer they've gone 0:06:15.240 --> 0:06:17.520 to camp from eight o'clock in the morning. You know, 0:06:17.560 --> 0:06:18.919 the bus comes to pick them up, and then they 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:21.120 don't come home until about four o'clock in the afternoon. 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:24.760 So it's a long day. It's a beautiful program, okay, 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:27.880 Like they swim, they learned crafts, they do like all 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:29.800 these things. By the way, I will just let you know, 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:34.200 camp life never existed for me in Ohio. Camp life 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:38.200 was the backyard, the neighborhood, you know what I'm saying, 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:40.920 Like I never went to camp, so I never experienced 0:06:40.920 --> 0:06:43.599 this as a kid, so I have nothing to reference. 0:06:43.680 --> 0:06:45.560 And you know what I mean. I had the Fresh 0:06:45.600 --> 0:06:48.080 Air Fund, where like the families that had money in 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:50.880 the outskirts and p A and stuff would like take 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:53.479 like a kid from like the buildings and households for 0:06:53.480 --> 0:06:56.040 a couple of weeks. So it was almost like Christmas wishes, 0:06:57.200 --> 0:06:59.440 like you would get like a week a camp because 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:01.440 they were like, there's no way it's true. So like 0:07:01.839 --> 0:07:05.040 I never had camp, and so for me, I think 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.640 it's a lot of money, but I'm like, you know what, 0:07:06.839 --> 0:07:10.080 it's enrichment there with their buddies. They're occupied, they're not 0:07:10.120 --> 0:07:15.400 watching iPads all day. Love it. This year they're still 0:07:15.640 --> 0:07:17.720 going through with camp, and there was part of me 0:07:17.800 --> 0:07:20.120 that wish they would have just canceled it, because then 0:07:20.560 --> 0:07:25.440 now I have to make the decision exactly. And now 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:29.000 they sent out this modified f a Q. What your 0:07:29.080 --> 0:07:33.360 kids can't expect? Na no, no, Like there's no bussing. 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:35.800 I'm like, well, already, that's like an X for me 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:38.640 because to bring them and pick them up you have 0:07:38.720 --> 0:07:42.400 to and you have car line, and car line gets nasty, man. 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:44.800 You know, you get all of these you get all 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:46.960 of these moms that are in the car with their 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.640 kids trying to drop off their kids other kids, like 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:52.400 it is it is the real deal, right, So I 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:54.680 can't do that because I'm on the air. Mark is 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:57.400 not going to sit in car line. I know my limitations, right, 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:01.240 So that's X number one. But then number two it 0:08:01.400 --> 0:08:04.960 was like they're like, oh, we're gonna do uh social distancing, 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:07.720 but your kid will be with fifteen kids in their 0:08:07.880 --> 0:08:10.680 group and all of this is just so confusing to me. 0:08:10.800 --> 0:08:12.600 And I just said to my husband, I go, look, 0:08:13.400 --> 0:08:16.080 I I don't want to It's such an individual decision. 0:08:16.320 --> 0:08:18.440 And I don't want to put anybody else down because 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:20.520 there are some parents who need to send their kids, 0:08:20.600 --> 0:08:23.240 Like both parents work, you know, they're getting back in. 0:08:23.760 --> 0:08:27.320 Things are reopening. Yeah, some it's like what four people 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:29.520 went back to work in New York City yesterday. It's like, okay, 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:32.600 now what we do with our kids? Right? And that's 0:08:32.600 --> 0:08:34.880 why I'm saying, so this is just for me personally. 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:36.960 But I said, you know what they were talking about, 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:38.760 how if they had a bus they wouldn't put on 0:08:38.800 --> 0:08:41.440 the A C because that's how coronavirus is spread. But 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.080 I go, but then you're gonna let my kid be 0:08:43.120 --> 0:08:45.000 in a group with fifteen to twenty kids and not 0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:48.800 have to wear masks? Like it's same exact thing. It's like, 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:50.880 what are they doing. They're diminishing. Okay, on the bus, 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:52.800 you're on the bus with thirty kids. Now you're hanging 0:08:52.800 --> 0:08:56.160 out with fifteen kids, right, And so there's just like 0:08:56.200 --> 0:08:59.080 a lot of confusion. And I and you know me, 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:00.920 I talked to my kids there four and six, and 0:09:01.000 --> 0:09:03.280 I'm I keep it very honest with them, and I 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.120 just said, look, guys, like this is where we are 0:09:05.679 --> 0:09:08.240 Mommy and Daddy have tried to, like, you know, really 0:09:08.320 --> 0:09:11.320 keep you guys safe and secure and everything. And when 0:09:11.360 --> 0:09:13.840 I tell you, they were like the most understanding little 0:09:13.880 --> 0:09:16.240 kids are like, it's okay, mom, we can go to 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:18.160 the beach and stuff, Like we can go to the pool, 0:09:18.240 --> 0:09:19.520 like we can do all of these things that I'm 0:09:19.559 --> 0:09:21.640 thinking to myself, like when did you guys become so 0:09:21.800 --> 0:09:27.120 understanding and cry and talk about they want to go 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:29.679 to camp at? Yeah? But you know what. But then 0:09:29.800 --> 0:09:31.319 I said to my husband, I go, that puts the 0:09:31.400 --> 0:09:34.560 pressure on me because I'm still working from home. We're 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:37.720 still not allowed to go back to our building in Tribeca. 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:39.920 You know, you included. So it's not even just me 0:09:40.080 --> 0:09:43.440 morning shows. It's all air talent period, you know. So 0:09:44.120 --> 0:09:46.200 I don't know, man, I just think, like I think 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:48.840 people need to pause and take a minute. I know 0:09:48.920 --> 0:09:52.280 we've been paused for three months. But I just said, 0:09:52.320 --> 0:09:54.000 Marco was like, you know, I just don't want my 0:09:54.080 --> 0:09:55.880 kids to be guinea pigs, Like I don't want to 0:09:55.880 --> 0:09:58.120 be like, Okay, well let's try it and see what happens. Yeah, 0:09:58.160 --> 0:09:59.640 I don't blame you. It's kind of like the people 0:09:59.640 --> 0:10:01.600 that are saying that they're just going to chill at 0:10:01.600 --> 0:10:03.920 home and watch from the window and see how everything 0:10:03.920 --> 0:10:06.280 works out before they step outside. So it's kind of 0:10:06.320 --> 0:10:09.439 like you're doing the same thing for your kids. Yeah, 0:10:09.480 --> 0:10:12.040 but I do want to get like, here's the thing. 0:10:12.200 --> 0:10:14.160 I think that I'm going to have a major issue 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:18.600 kind of like reintegrating myself back into society because I 0:10:18.640 --> 0:10:21.280 have been so closed off, you know what I mean. 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:24.640 Like I've literally only gone to the grocery store and 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:28.160 that's pretty much it. So I think that people need 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:30.240 to think about how are you going to ease yourself 0:10:30.280 --> 0:10:32.360 back in, you know what I mean? Like just food 0:10:32.400 --> 0:10:35.079 for thought for people who are listening, because you don't 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:38.680 want to go balls to the wall like just you know, bam, 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:41.120 I'm back. But you also don't want to be so 0:10:41.200 --> 0:10:43.880 cautious that it's hard for you to get back into 0:10:44.240 --> 0:10:46.440 the rhythm of things, you know. You know what I've 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:49.120 been doing, Judge me if you want. I've been watching 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:53.720 how people are moving on social media. Okay, so it's like, oh, okay, 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:55.959 this person is around a whole bunch of strangers. Oh, 0:10:56.040 --> 0:10:58.400 this person is already in restaurants all this person is 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:03.160 having a party note to self, don't be around this person. Also, 0:11:03.240 --> 0:11:06.920 further notice, you know, I am still actively working on 0:11:07.160 --> 0:11:10.720 not trying to contract Corona. I'm not one of those 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.360 people that feel like it's gone. I'm not one of 0:11:12.360 --> 0:11:14.120 those people that feel like I'm not going to get 0:11:14.160 --> 0:11:18.360 it or you know, I can't get it. So that's 0:11:18.400 --> 0:11:21.680 one thing that that I know. I'm doing the same 0:11:21.720 --> 0:11:25.440 thing though, you know, I'm like being very aware and 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:30.240 very cautious about who eventually when I do get back out, 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:33.200 Like who am I going to first associate with? Because 0:11:33.240 --> 0:11:35.280 I don't want to be with the people who have 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.840 been just like not abiding by anything this entire time, 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:41.320 you know, and some of them are my closest friends, 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:43.440 you know what I've said to them. Look, I'm really 0:11:43.480 --> 0:11:45.480 like just kind of you know, freaked out about the 0:11:45.520 --> 0:11:48.600 whole thing. But eventually we'll get there. But then I 0:11:48.640 --> 0:11:50.440 wanted to ask you, are there some people that you're 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:53.000 like glad that this whole situation is happening so you 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:56.200 don't have to hang out with them? Not really, you know, 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:58.240 I was always really closed off and I had a 0:11:58.360 --> 0:12:01.679 very small circle of friend They've all been very cautious, 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:04.800 Like everyone's been very very like worried about Corona. And 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:08.280 I've been super understanding because I know some people, they 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:10.240 get offended. They're like, oh does this person thing I 0:12:10.320 --> 0:12:12.280 have Corona? They don't want to be around me, or 0:12:12.320 --> 0:12:14.679 you know, why is this person hanging out with these 0:12:14.720 --> 0:12:16.360 other people but they're not hanging out with me? And 0:12:16.360 --> 0:12:19.719 I'm like, I'm allowing everyone to move freely. I am 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:22.720 not pressed, I am not rushing. I don't want to, 0:12:22.880 --> 0:12:26.480 you know, necessarily force anyone into doing anything that they 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:30.320 don't want to do. But yeah, this Corona is it 0:12:30.400 --> 0:12:34.199 has allowed me to like retract Carolina and just retract 0:12:34.200 --> 0:12:37.200 and obserd. And one thing I can tell you is 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:40.160 I've connected with my family in these past three months 0:12:40.200 --> 0:12:42.840 in ways that I've never connected before. And now I 0:12:42.880 --> 0:12:45.960 talked to them every single day. I talked to brothers, 0:12:46.040 --> 0:12:47.679 I talked to my mother. I can talk to my 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:50.000 mother for a whole hour. Before I was always like 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:52.839 in a rush, telling people only call me on Saturdays, 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.440 that's my only day off, which was super unfair to them. 0:12:56.040 --> 0:12:58.360 So one thing I am coming out of this, you know, 0:12:58.440 --> 0:13:01.680 quarantine with is and I feel much more closer to 0:13:01.760 --> 0:13:05.040 my family. I value them more and I don't ever 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:07.720 want to disconnect from them. Remembers it so like, oh 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:09.400 I can go a month or two without talking to 0:13:09.480 --> 0:13:14.360 my mom. I changed that. That's amazing. The connection is there, 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.600 and I feel like there are a lot of people 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:19.720 who have done that. They've like reconnected with family, and 0:13:19.760 --> 0:13:22.240 it's really such a special thing. Like I've always been 0:13:22.320 --> 0:13:25.480 very close with my family, so you know, I talked 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:27.760 to my sister every day and my brothers. We all 0:13:27.840 --> 0:13:30.679 were constantly on the thread, you know what I mean. 0:13:30.679 --> 0:13:33.200 But we never got down with the house party or 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:36.280 the zoom like wine meetings like a lot of people 0:13:36.440 --> 0:13:38.680 like it just seems so unnatural to me, so like 0:13:38.760 --> 0:13:41.320 we just stuck with what we knew. You know, Yeah, 0:13:41.400 --> 0:13:43.760 that's good for you. I didn't either. I didn't want 0:13:43.760 --> 0:13:45.560 to drag it, you know, I didn't do a lot 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:48.360 I didn't want to do, you know, speeches on Zoom 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:51.440 and meet ups and birthdays like it just wasn't my thing. 0:13:51.559 --> 0:13:54.240 You know. I knew that eventually things were gonna you know, 0:13:54.840 --> 0:13:57.320 normalize and calm down, and you know, we would be 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:59.920 able to go back outside. Like New Jersey just lifted 0:14:00.080 --> 0:14:02.559 like their stay at home order today, so everybody can 0:14:02.640 --> 0:14:04.880 go back outside. You know, I saw that you just 0:14:04.920 --> 0:14:07.600 have to be super careful. But you know, gatherings are 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:09.800 allowed and things are going to go back to normal. 0:14:10.400 --> 0:14:13.000 But um, I FaceTime a lot. I FaceTime like I 0:14:13.160 --> 0:14:15.160 just prop up the phone and like FaceTime for like 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:17.280 an hour or something. I got me a stand, girl, 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:19.680 I gotta stand. My arm was tired. I was like 0:14:19.760 --> 0:14:23.400 on Amazon. I was like, I need to find a tripod. 0:14:23.480 --> 0:14:25.680 I need to do something because I cannot be sitting 0:14:25.720 --> 0:14:28.120 here with my arm out any longer. Although my bus 0:14:28.240 --> 0:14:31.440 up does look good because when you're you don't want 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:33.080 to put the phone in a bad angle, so you 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:34.960 want to like kind of position it where you still 0:14:35.000 --> 0:14:37.160 look good. Oh for sure. But you know what I 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:38.920 was going to ask you is like, you know, you 0:14:39.000 --> 0:14:41.520 have people like and I know that you're constantly on 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:43.800 social media, so you see this stuff more than I do. 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:47.560 But there was something that I saw today by um 0:14:47.920 --> 0:14:51.480 by ice Cube. Ice Cube put out a tweet earlier 0:14:51.680 --> 0:14:53.840 this morning that said, you know, doctors of the world 0:14:53.880 --> 0:14:57.400 stopped lying about the coronavirus. The people need absolute truth. 0:14:57.960 --> 0:15:01.960 I just do you think that celebrities are you know, 0:15:02.320 --> 0:15:06.440 in situations like this, do you think they're helping or 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:08.520 do you think that it's just kind of like like 0:15:08.560 --> 0:15:11.640 what you said about NOONI providing more of a conspiracy theory, 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:14.960 you know. I don't know. I just feel like celebrities, 0:15:15.000 --> 0:15:19.640 it's like use your influence towards pushing people to do better, 0:15:20.080 --> 0:15:23.600 to give back and you know, and and raise funds 0:15:23.640 --> 0:15:26.040 and you know, guide people into like what they're doing. 0:15:26.200 --> 0:15:28.720 But as far as like speaking out about Corona about 0:15:28.760 --> 0:15:32.440 facts about medical stuff, I don't feel like it's their place. 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:34.840 It's not what they do. You understand, you're an entertainer, 0:15:35.720 --> 0:15:37.040 you know. And I know we're getting a lot of 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:40.240 conflicting information from the people that are supposed to be 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:43.360 leading us. But I feel like sometimes celebrities, like you know, 0:15:43.560 --> 0:15:46.720 a celebrity posting that we're getting Corona from like five G. 0:15:47.160 --> 0:15:50.320 That's not helping, That's what I'm saying, you know, I 0:15:50.360 --> 0:15:52.160 think that at a time like this. But then but 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:54.480 then again people would say, well, like then why can't 0:15:54.480 --> 0:15:57.080 celebrities talk about politics? Then you know what I mean. 0:15:57.160 --> 0:15:59.440 So it's almost like I saw that tweeting, it kind 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:01.320 of stayed out to me and I was just like, man, like, 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:04.880 come on, cube, don't you know, don't further the conspiracy 0:16:04.920 --> 0:16:08.880 theories because yeah, because there's so many people with doubts 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:11.680 already and having somebody like you that people like take 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:15.200 your word and you know, yeah, people are like, oh wow, 0:16:15.320 --> 0:16:18.040 Cube said it. And I've been in so many rooms 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:21.360 where I hear people quoting tweets and oh, I saw 0:16:21.440 --> 0:16:25.400 this on Instagram and they are that it's real, and yes, 0:16:25.520 --> 0:16:27.560 it is real. That's one of the main reasons why 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.720 I've been very selective and I've kind of like curated 0:16:30.880 --> 0:16:33.640 the content and the language that I've put out because 0:16:33.720 --> 0:16:36.280 I don't want to be a part of the problem. 0:16:36.440 --> 0:16:40.440 Like I really want to share solutions. You're super responsible 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:42.320 about that though, I mean I have to. I would 0:16:42.320 --> 0:16:45.200 tell you, I would tetally try my best positivity ways 0:16:45.240 --> 0:16:48.040 that people can help. And you know, and I understand 0:16:48.080 --> 0:16:50.560 we live in a dark, dark place, but guess what, 0:16:51.440 --> 0:16:54.600 my feed has got that handled because don't get me 0:16:54.640 --> 0:16:57.680 started on the whole you know, quarantine reporters. This this 0:16:58.200 --> 0:17:00.960 social media you want thing Carly that it's quarantine has 0:17:01.000 --> 0:17:06.600 showed me so much about people via their social media 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:10.200 behavior and the things that they do and the things 0:17:10.200 --> 0:17:13.000 that they post that sometimes I'm like, I can't look 0:17:13.040 --> 0:17:17.639 at this, I can't conclude this anymore. It's it's gotten 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.240 to a fever pitch. I think, and now I think, 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:22.800 more than ever, you have to, like I took the 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:26.439 weekend off after my son's graduation. I just needed some 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:28.480 time to myself. When we talk about this, to like 0:17:28.520 --> 0:17:32.000 your mental health. But like, I just think it's important 0:17:32.280 --> 0:17:36.880 now more than ever, as you start to adopt new practices, 0:17:36.960 --> 0:17:39.159 as you start to adopt a new schedule, you know, 0:17:39.240 --> 0:17:41.919 as you ease back into society, make that time. Do 0:17:41.920 --> 0:17:43.719 you know what I've been doing? You know that calm 0:17:43.800 --> 0:17:47.879 app I got? Okay, so I got a frame. You 0:17:47.920 --> 0:17:51.720 know I love a free membership, honey. Okay, so I 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:56.240 got through my credit card. They're offering a year free 0:17:56.440 --> 0:17:59.240 and then half off of that next year. Do you 0:17:59.240 --> 0:18:01.320 know what I've been doing every single morning? Hunting? I 0:18:01.359 --> 0:18:03.600 was wanting to tell you this. I go on the 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:06.600 calm app and um, I do a morning and it's 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:08.879 not not a meditation. I don't know if it counts 0:18:08.920 --> 0:18:11.520 as a meditation, but it just like basically sets me 0:18:11.600 --> 0:18:15.000 up for the day. Whereas before, immediately I would turn 0:18:15.040 --> 0:18:16.960 on the news find out what I missed overnight, go 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:20.080 to Instagram, check my Twitter, and I said, no, I'm 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:22.440 taking like this five to seven minutes to just kind 0:18:22.480 --> 0:18:25.240 of like center myself. And I got to be honest 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:27.800 with you, it has been helping. Now I'm only three 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:32.680 days and you know what's weird, Carolyn. I would see 0:18:32.680 --> 0:18:34.680 the commercial and then the commercial is like it gives 0:18:34.720 --> 0:18:36.520 you like a thirty seconds of listening to the rain, 0:18:36.640 --> 0:18:38.800 and yeah, and I take the thirty seconds. I'm like, Okay, 0:18:38.800 --> 0:18:40.720 So I'm like kind of like meditating right now watching 0:18:40.760 --> 0:18:44.439 this commercial right right. Meditation has not worked for me 0:18:44.480 --> 0:18:46.359 in the past. My mind races too much. I have 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:48.480 too many things on my plate. But I'm really going 0:18:48.520 --> 0:18:50.680 to make a great effort to try that. There was 0:18:50.720 --> 0:18:52.239 something else that I wanted to bring up to you. 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:54.639 And we're kind of springing topics on each other today 0:18:54.640 --> 0:18:56.920 because we really did not have time to like get 0:18:57.240 --> 0:18:58.840 up with each other. That's fine because I feel like 0:18:58.840 --> 0:19:00.159 a lot of the stuff that we talked of that 0:19:00.240 --> 0:19:02.720 people want to hear about. Anyway. You are one of 0:19:02.720 --> 0:19:06.400 the first people to introduce me to cancel culture, Okay, 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:11.040