1 00:00:01,680 --> 00:00:08,440 Speaker 1: Hi. I am Kate Hudson and my name is Oliver Hudson. 2 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:11,920 Speaker 1: We wanted to do something that highlighted our relationship and 3 00:00:11,960 --> 00:00:22,600 Speaker 1: what it's like to be siblings. We are a sibling, Railvalry, No, 4 00:00:22,600 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 1: no sibling. You don't do that with your mouth, Vely, 5 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:44,839 Speaker 1: that's good man. I hate when you do that. I 6 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:46,199 Speaker 1: had to do it to you because you feel a 7 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 1: little like cranky and irritable right now to start the podcast. 8 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: I'm tired. You know, I've been flying back and forth 9 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: just trying to see my family, you know what I mean. 10 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 1: Just you know, this is what I do. Just a hustler. No, 11 00:01:05,680 --> 00:01:10,320 Speaker 1: I know, but I think you feel like cranky. I'm 12 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:14,400 Speaker 1: not cranky. I think I'm just tired. And I guess 13 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: sitting in the COVID line today was not fun. That's 14 00:01:18,680 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: hit you off, Yeah, but I blame you a little bit, 15 00:01:24,280 --> 00:01:29,160 Speaker 1: hold on, just a little bit for what because you 16 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:33,759 Speaker 1: didn't check your email to see that it had changed. 17 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,160 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Because if you had, then 18 00:01:37,400 --> 00:01:40,440 Speaker 1: we would have been able to reregister the kids and 19 00:01:40,480 --> 00:01:43,120 Speaker 1: it would have been like, okay, right to set it up. 20 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:47,600 Speaker 1: No schools. We all get to sleep in. I'm supposed 21 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: to like check my email and be like, hope they 22 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:52,560 Speaker 1: didn't close down the testing site that we've been going 23 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: to now for like a few weeks, that there's no issue. 24 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: And the title of the email said thank you for 25 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: choosing your testing site. So I didn't open that up 26 00:02:01,280 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: because like it's going to be one of those random things. 27 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,840 Speaker 1: Let me just clarify because this is probably so annoying 28 00:02:05,880 --> 00:02:08,920 Speaker 1: and confusing to listeners and why do they care? But 29 00:02:09,000 --> 00:02:14,200 Speaker 1: our kids have to get tested weekly with a PCR test. 30 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: We of course forgot last week, so now we're on 31 00:02:17,720 --> 00:02:20,400 Speaker 1: a weird schedule. The school offers it on the weekends, 32 00:02:20,440 --> 00:02:22,919 Speaker 1: but we missed it. Blah blah blah. There was a 33 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:25,400 Speaker 1: place right down the street, so I set it up, 34 00:02:25,639 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: made the appointment yesterday. It is a pain in the 35 00:02:27,840 --> 00:02:29,360 Speaker 1: asks you have to put in your insurance. You have 36 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: to do each kid separately, all that stuff picked at 37 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: ten forty five am for today, we have no school 38 00:02:35,720 --> 00:02:40,080 Speaker 1: to you know, Jewish holiday today, everyone's home. So I said, okay, great, 39 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: roll up there. I got all the confirmations, I got 40 00:02:43,440 --> 00:02:47,320 Speaker 1: the barcodes, everything came yesterday. Everything's great. And then and 41 00:02:47,360 --> 00:02:49,840 Speaker 1: then you arrive at ten forty five early. I get 42 00:02:49,880 --> 00:02:52,440 Speaker 1: there at ten forty and then it turns out they're 43 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,160 Speaker 1: not even opening till eleven, right, so you were like, 44 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:57,120 Speaker 1: what's up? And so I started sending you all my 45 00:02:57,160 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: stuff that I already had, and then I was in 46 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:02,440 Speaker 1: the underground park, so I had no service, right like 47 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: like run outside. You know, it's just one of those mornings. 48 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: I get it. But wait, we're going back to like 49 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: you said it was like partly my fault. Well not, 50 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: I mean, you know, are you going to tell me that? Like, 51 00:03:13,200 --> 00:03:14,800 Speaker 1: I'm not saying it's your fault. I'm saying like if 52 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:17,959 Speaker 1: you had checked your email alerting you that there had 53 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: been a time change and that you had to reschedule 54 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:22,560 Speaker 1: your appointment, I wish there was a way to post 55 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: it because this is what it says. I get one 56 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:27,920 Speaker 1: hundred things from this. Okay. The difference between you and 57 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:31,320 Speaker 1: I and the email department is how just live on 58 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:33,840 Speaker 1: their read How many what does it say on your email? Thing? 59 00:03:34,240 --> 00:03:37,880 Speaker 1: I'll read it four thousand and twenty four? You know 60 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 1: what mine says? Doughnut zero. I clear my emails. I 61 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 1: can't stand having a folder or an email folder that 62 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: says four and twenty four I have sixty three texts, 63 00:03:51,720 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 1: sixty three texts unread unread, and four and twenty four emails. 64 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,640 Speaker 1: I'm sure many can relate, because I'm sure most people 65 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:02,200 Speaker 1: actually have what you have. No, I think a lot 66 00:04:02,240 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: of people clear I have to clear my ship. So 67 00:04:05,160 --> 00:04:06,920 Speaker 1: so many people that I talked to like look at that, 68 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:09,160 Speaker 1: and they're like, oh my god, that gives me anxiety. 69 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:10,920 Speaker 1: How do you have that many on there? Yeah, well, 70 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 1: this is what I'm saying. And then you have your 71 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:15,640 Speaker 1: ebo h email, but that is separate. That is for 72 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: like shopping and stores, and there's per sixty five thousand 73 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:22,520 Speaker 1: in that one. Oh no, there's like three hundred hundred 74 00:04:22,560 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: thousand in that email address. Yeah, that's crazy. So what 75 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:30,000 Speaker 1: I'm saying is is, you know it can get lost 76 00:04:30,320 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: very easily in your email world, right, But this was like, 77 00:04:33,880 --> 00:04:36,799 Speaker 1: you know, I just did it yesterday. I'm getting confirmation 78 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:39,960 Speaker 1: emails last night that everything's all set. They decide to 79 00:04:40,040 --> 00:04:43,800 Speaker 1: change their hours starting September sixteenth. That's not on us. 80 00:04:44,520 --> 00:04:48,840 Speaker 1: They confirmed it, So it's not that's not my fault. 81 00:04:52,760 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 1: You want to blame me really badly. This is part 82 00:04:55,839 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: of anything that goes wrong, Like I will I will 83 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: admit to that, like, but even one you should figure 84 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:03,400 Speaker 1: that out, even when I know it's not your fault. 85 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:06,080 Speaker 1: I I I want to I have I feel like 86 00:05:06,120 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 1: I want to blame someone, you know, but why me? 87 00:05:08,680 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 1: I'm like the nice like helper in the family. It 88 00:05:11,200 --> 00:05:13,599 Speaker 1: shouldn't be blaming me. No, but no, I know, but 89 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:17,040 Speaker 1: sometimes I just feel like I want to blame somebody 90 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:20,560 Speaker 1: because I'm frustrated and you're, I guess, just sort of 91 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:22,480 Speaker 1: an easy target. I think you're just angry of all 92 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: the protocols and then we have to do that and 93 00:05:24,600 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: like you're one day home and off you had to 94 00:05:27,040 --> 00:05:30,000 Speaker 1: go do it. I offered to go do it. I know, 95 00:05:30,960 --> 00:05:38,280 Speaker 1: I did. I know. It's a pain in the ass. Okay, 96 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:41,280 Speaker 1: So that was that was good. It's good off to 97 00:05:41,360 --> 00:05:47,920 Speaker 1: a good start. Well, I was just going to say 98 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:50,760 Speaker 1: too that I was I read some of the emails 99 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: and you know, that kind of stuff from from the listeners, 100 00:05:54,240 --> 00:05:56,480 Speaker 1: and it was it's just been so awesome. Like I 101 00:05:56,560 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 1: love hearing and you know, thinking what everybody thinks, because 102 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:05,279 Speaker 1: of course, you know, it's fun to kind of get 103 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:08,360 Speaker 1: that feedback, and but there's a lot of people talking 104 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:11,719 Speaker 1: about kind of our questioning us stuff about parenting and 105 00:06:11,800 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 1: our kids and all that, because I think it's such 106 00:06:13,839 --> 00:06:17,080 Speaker 1: a you know, there's such a wide range of stuff 107 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 1: to discuss. Yeah, and you can't have like one episode 108 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: just on parenting. It's whole different avenues of parenting, different 109 00:06:25,120 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 1: offshoots of parenting, and you know how you as parents 110 00:06:30,040 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: sort of bring your own ideas into what it is 111 00:06:34,440 --> 00:06:36,919 Speaker 1: to raise great children and then you have to mesh 112 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 1: those right or respect the boundaries. Well not the boundaries, 113 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:45,720 Speaker 1: but respect your way and you respect my way, which 114 00:06:45,760 --> 00:06:48,320 Speaker 1: sometimes we get into those arguments where it's like you 115 00:06:48,400 --> 00:06:51,080 Speaker 1: need to respect me, and you need to respect the 116 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:54,960 Speaker 1: way that I feel about this situation that they're you know, 117 00:06:55,480 --> 00:06:59,560 Speaker 1: out in the neighborhood and they're in you know, unsupervised 118 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 1: or what where I am more lenient and you are not. 119 00:07:02,279 --> 00:07:03,839 Speaker 1: And I'm like whatever, and you're like, you need to 120 00:07:03,880 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: respect that I care about that. Well, that's mainly that's 121 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:09,160 Speaker 1: what that comes down to. But yeah, I mean, look, 122 00:07:09,160 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 1: there's there's a fine balance I think you have. You know, 123 00:07:12,120 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: the way we were raised was very different, but there's 124 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:19,640 Speaker 1: also there's neither one of us is stuck usually in 125 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: our ways, and so stubborn and wants to win. Just 126 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:24,680 Speaker 1: to win the fight. I think you have to kind 127 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 1: of have this you know, open mind to say, okay, 128 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 1: let's break down like why you want to you know, 129 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 1: establish this rule or why you want to make this 130 00:07:35,640 --> 00:07:40,280 Speaker 1: parenting choice. And usually, you know, we break that down 131 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: and we make the best decision. There are. Of course, 132 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 1: you got to pick and choose your battles. I mean, 133 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:47,040 Speaker 1: there are some that I just kind of like, oh, 134 00:07:47,080 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: and there's others, you know, I'm pretty into like manners 135 00:07:51,480 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: and you know, politeness and respect for adults, and you know, 136 00:07:54,560 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: there's a lot of those type of things that I'd 137 00:07:57,240 --> 00:08:00,520 Speaker 1: rather have, like the character of my kid, you know, 138 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 1: than like straight a's or you know. Yeah, I think 139 00:08:05,320 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: probably that's a universal parenting Yeah, you know dream is 140 00:08:12,800 --> 00:08:15,760 Speaker 1: to have your kids be polite and respectful and to 141 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 1: look people in the eyes and you know, not be dicks. 142 00:08:21,240 --> 00:08:24,240 Speaker 1: You know. I mean, I think that's universal. Now, how 143 00:08:24,280 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: you get to that, there's different ways based on the kids. 144 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: And the other thing too is, you know, it's also 145 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,720 Speaker 1: meshing with your with parents. It's also meshing with the 146 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:36,920 Speaker 1: way that other parents do things that are friends with 147 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 1: your kids, and you know, especially as they're getting older. 148 00:08:41,120 --> 00:08:43,400 Speaker 1: You're like, all right, well you allow your kids to 149 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:45,840 Speaker 1: do this, but we don't or we allow our kids 150 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: to do this, and they totally going back to like 151 00:08:48,120 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 1: when they were really young. I mean, now we have like, 152 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:53,840 Speaker 1: you know, eight to fourteen, so we're in that little 153 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 1: like pocket, right so we're out of the holly Lujah, 154 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:00,200 Speaker 1: even though it's heartbreaking, but we're out of the you know, 155 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: baby toddler little kids phase, right Like we're meaning like 156 00:09:04,520 --> 00:09:08,200 Speaker 1: that is an entire chapter of parenthood, right like ten 157 00:09:08,240 --> 00:09:12,800 Speaker 1: and under whatever you want to say, car seats, strollers, naps, discipline, 158 00:09:13,080 --> 00:09:16,960 Speaker 1: you know, all of that. It is, Thank God, because 159 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:18,720 Speaker 1: that's a tough one to navigate, and I feel like 160 00:09:18,760 --> 00:09:22,959 Speaker 1: that causes so much stress on couples and relationships because 161 00:09:23,440 --> 00:09:28,200 Speaker 1: you're exhausted, just literally naturally exhausted. Your patients are thin, 162 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 1: you're trying to do your best. Like you know, it's 163 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:35,440 Speaker 1: that song, I mean that's saying of like you know, 164 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:36,959 Speaker 1: you each that we always say it, but you just 165 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:39,719 Speaker 1: want to be appreciated and you want to feel valued, 166 00:09:39,840 --> 00:09:45,240 Speaker 1: and so many other layers get involved when you're dealing 167 00:09:45,280 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: with little kids that have to do with you. You You 168 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:51,320 Speaker 1: know what I mean, appreciated by your person. Yeah, by 169 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:53,120 Speaker 1: your kid. No, no, no, not by your kids. Sorry, 170 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: I'm saying as the parents, like you know, it's making 171 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,079 Speaker 1: it just about the kids is hard sometimes because a 172 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: lot of times you your feelings kind of get in 173 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:05,640 Speaker 1: the way or the relationship can get in the way. 174 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:08,600 Speaker 1: But we also when you have so much to manage, 175 00:10:08,840 --> 00:10:12,199 Speaker 1: I mean just from a practical standpoint, with fucking strollers 176 00:10:12,240 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 1: and diaper bags and pacifiers and blankies and decotine and 177 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: you know whatever. It is a big stroller, then a 178 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:21,760 Speaker 1: little stroller if you want a little like sort of 179 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:27,120 Speaker 1: offshoot harsh, and then I know, I know it getsy, 180 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:29,079 Speaker 1: I know, but then we look back on videos and 181 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:32,320 Speaker 1: we're like weeping. You don't remember it's just so cute. 182 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: It's like heartbreaking. It does go fast. It's like you 183 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:37,840 Speaker 1: know kids that are going through sleep training, like you 184 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: know Joe and Michelle right now right or you know 185 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:44,760 Speaker 1: teeving or all of those things that feel like they 186 00:10:44,800 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: are never going so happy. I just I just did 187 00:10:47,720 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: a podcast with Joe yesterday Daddy Issues, and we were 188 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:52,520 Speaker 1: talking about that because he's got his three year olds, 189 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:56,760 Speaker 1: his twins with Michelle and they're sleep training now and 190 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 1: it's just a nightmare. You know. They've got this thing 191 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:01,640 Speaker 1: called like a monkey where it's like that you can 192 00:11:01,679 --> 00:11:03,800 Speaker 1: sort of peek in, you know, but the kid cannot 193 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 1: get out, and you know, you got to let them 194 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:08,560 Speaker 1: cry it out, which I do believe in, you know, 195 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:14,120 Speaker 1: and they're just it's just a fucking nightmare. It's a lot. 196 00:11:14,160 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 1: I think also what's happening too and is now the 197 00:11:19,920 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 1: pendulum has kind of swung so far, you know, in 198 00:11:23,280 --> 00:11:25,520 Speaker 1: a good way. But there's so much information out there 199 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:30,280 Speaker 1: now for parents, whereas our parents' generation, you know, it's 200 00:11:30,320 --> 00:11:33,200 Speaker 1: so different from what it is now, and there's and 201 00:11:33,240 --> 00:11:36,120 Speaker 1: there's so many more opinions on what you know how 202 00:11:36,160 --> 00:11:39,720 Speaker 1: to do it, and everybody's navigating and kind of doing 203 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: it at their own speed. And I think like every 204 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:44,480 Speaker 1: family should whatever's right for them, you know, whether there's 205 00:11:44,480 --> 00:11:48,280 Speaker 1: one hundred persons one way, there's no one way, there's 206 00:11:48,280 --> 00:11:50,760 Speaker 1: no one way to do it. And I never personally 207 00:11:51,400 --> 00:11:54,400 Speaker 1: even thought about reading a book or even asking a 208 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:58,400 Speaker 1: question honestly of how to do things. I was operating 209 00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 1: and still operate on pure instinct intuition on who I 210 00:12:02,960 --> 00:12:05,160 Speaker 1: am with my kids, how I feel like they need 211 00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 1: to be raised right. But I'm just saying for a 212 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:10,360 Speaker 1: lot of like first time parents that don't have that, 213 00:12:10,480 --> 00:12:13,679 Speaker 1: you know, say, mom's talking about me in confidence. Yeah, 214 00:12:13,760 --> 00:12:16,079 Speaker 1: you know, I just that's me. And we do it differently. 215 00:12:16,240 --> 00:12:18,880 Speaker 1: I mean I say that of all of our friends, 216 00:12:19,280 --> 00:12:24,320 Speaker 1: we definitely do it the most different. Wouldn't you from 217 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:27,200 Speaker 1: our small friend group here? Yes, But I think but 218 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:29,200 Speaker 1: then you step outside of our bubble and there's a 219 00:12:29,240 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 1: lot of people that do it similar I guess, you know, 220 00:12:34,280 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: it's like from what I know, Well, I think, well, 221 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:40,880 Speaker 1: the difference is now, it's like when they were little. 222 00:12:42,000 --> 00:12:45,080 Speaker 1: We grew up in a time like with Wilder, which 223 00:12:45,120 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: was he was two thousand and seven, so it was 224 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:51,760 Speaker 1: right around you know, No, there were barely any iPads. 225 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,719 Speaker 1: I mean I don't even think they really existed. I 226 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,920 Speaker 1: mean they did. There was like leap Frog and like 227 00:12:56,000 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 1: weird things. Yeah, so screen time wasn't a thing. It 228 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:02,640 Speaker 1: was TV. So we're kids watching too much TV to 229 00:13:02,679 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 1: remember that. And it was like and then not only 230 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: were they watching TV, what were they watching? And we 231 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:11,679 Speaker 1: watched The Devil, which was SpongeBob, the greatest show of 232 00:13:11,720 --> 00:13:16,120 Speaker 1: all time? I mean, SpongeBob is amazing. But our kids 233 00:13:16,200 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 1: loved it, and everybody was, like voting is obsessed with sponge, right, 234 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:24,080 Speaker 1: But I'm just saying, so, like times changed. Now. Of 235 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:26,880 Speaker 1: course it's screen time and it's social media and all 236 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 1: of these things. You know, kind of you have to 237 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 1: adapt and you know, get used to them. But we 238 00:13:34,160 --> 00:13:38,920 Speaker 1: were not, you know, super strict in that way at all. 239 00:13:39,120 --> 00:13:41,160 Speaker 1: We weren't all. I mean, look, it's like it's like, 240 00:13:41,280 --> 00:13:44,600 Speaker 1: talk about it all the time. It's like everything in balance. 241 00:13:45,240 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 1: You know, there's moderation to everything. I think if you 242 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:52,679 Speaker 1: hold the kid back or you know, you strict restrict 243 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 1: them from something like candy or whatever it is, or 244 00:13:57,000 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 1: TV screen screen time, and it's just cut that shit off, 245 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 1: and it's like no. And this is my opinion, you know, 246 00:14:04,080 --> 00:14:06,360 Speaker 1: I mean everyone does it differently, and again I respect 247 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:10,040 Speaker 1: how everyone does it. My opinion, I think that you 248 00:14:10,160 --> 00:14:11,880 Speaker 1: just it's like a drug addict and you're like, oh 249 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:13,240 Speaker 1: my god, give it to me, what is it? What 250 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:14,439 Speaker 1: is it? What is it? And then you get a 251 00:14:14,480 --> 00:14:16,280 Speaker 1: taste of it and you're like, oh my god, it's 252 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:18,480 Speaker 1: fucking amazing. And now it's all you think about it. 253 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:21,800 Speaker 1: And that's all you want totally rather than you know, moderation. Yeah, 254 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:25,560 Speaker 1: watch some TV, go outside and play. You have some candy, right, yeah, 255 00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:29,960 Speaker 1: eat some greens, but just to play Devil's advocate. I agree, 256 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:32,720 Speaker 1: And those were our children. 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That's Helix h e l i X sleep 304 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 1: dot com slash sibling for up to two hundred dollars off. 305 00:17:33,800 --> 00:17:37,720 Speaker 1: What do I do? What's something that I do that 306 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:41,560 Speaker 1: you disagree with? But you you love me, and you 307 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:44,560 Speaker 1: know it's probably you know, the kid, it's not detrimental 308 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:47,439 Speaker 1: to the kids, but you're like, if I could change that, 309 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:52,960 Speaker 1: I let them do things you probably more like skateboarding 310 00:17:53,080 --> 00:17:55,960 Speaker 1: without a helmet. It's pretty much a big one for me. 311 00:17:56,080 --> 00:18:00,600 Speaker 1: Right now. Look, they ride motorcycles. I do all the 312 00:18:00,640 --> 00:18:03,919 Speaker 1: things that as a parent with my anxiety and just 313 00:18:04,040 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 1: like fear of somebody getting hurt, I would literally keep 314 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:09,800 Speaker 1: them in a bubble. I make that joke about like 315 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:12,040 Speaker 1: don't play sports, don't do anything, just be in the band. 316 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:14,720 Speaker 1: Like I'm joking, but like that's how I feel. Would 317 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:17,879 Speaker 1: that make me feel like comfortable and at ease? Would you? 318 00:18:18,320 --> 00:18:21,560 Speaker 1: Would you be excited if our kids were like band 319 00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:27,640 Speaker 1: kids be awesome? Yeah, I'd be great. It would be great. 320 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:31,320 Speaker 1: But it depends what instrument they played. You know what 321 00:18:31,359 --> 00:18:36,199 Speaker 1: if like wild or like played the flute, great, I 322 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:38,080 Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, Like are you saying, 323 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:40,880 Speaker 1: like be cool and like do the drums or guitar griph? 324 00:18:41,880 --> 00:18:45,680 Speaker 1: I guess you could be a cool floutist. Yes, absolutely, 325 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:48,600 Speaker 1: And I would love him for like wanting to do 326 00:18:48,640 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: something that he loved. But you know what I mean, Like, 327 00:18:51,680 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 1: of course, do I want them to be kids and 328 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:55,800 Speaker 1: go out? But I think back and I was a 329 00:18:56,080 --> 00:18:59,520 Speaker 1: pretty good kid, right like just compared to like what 330 00:18:59,560 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: most stories are. I seemed like kind of a rule 331 00:19:02,880 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 1: follower and I didn't want to disappoint my parents, and 332 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:07,879 Speaker 1: I didn't like risk, I didn't like getting in trouble, 333 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:11,679 Speaker 1: and I still did some crazy, crazy shit. No, thinking 334 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:13,960 Speaker 1: now as an adult you think back, like, oh my god, 335 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:16,520 Speaker 1: I was that age and doing that. It makes you 336 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:18,679 Speaker 1: scared because these are a little baby humans that we 337 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:21,720 Speaker 1: made that we want to protect, and we're also used 338 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 1: to protecting them and like keeping them alive and keeping 339 00:19:25,359 --> 00:19:28,800 Speaker 1: them safe, you know what I mean. So now it's 340 00:19:28,840 --> 00:19:32,159 Speaker 1: like this, we're all over the place with this conversation. 341 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 1: But my point is, like, you know what happens when 342 00:19:37,200 --> 00:19:39,560 Speaker 1: they're little. You got to kind of like navigate and 343 00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 1: figure out who your kid is right. So, like some 344 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 1: kids are not good with, you know, sugar and candy. 345 00:19:45,280 --> 00:19:47,080 Speaker 1: So of course the parents are going to say, I 346 00:19:47,160 --> 00:19:49,240 Speaker 1: know how this goes. Not going to work. Our kids 347 00:19:49,240 --> 00:19:54,280 Speaker 1: weren't really that affected by sugar. They weren't complete spases. Yes, 348 00:19:54,359 --> 00:19:56,000 Speaker 1: of course they had sugar. Were they a little more hyper, 349 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 1: but they weren't like out of control. They didn't have meltdowns. Yeah. 350 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 1: No, no no, So you got to know who kid is right. 351 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:02,720 Speaker 1: But we you know, we we let them watch. We've 352 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: been letting them watch, you know, inappropriate thing. I would say, 353 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 1: that's something I would say, raided our movies since they 354 00:20:09,080 --> 00:20:12,120 Speaker 1: were kids. And then the problem is is that when 355 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:14,480 Speaker 1: you have your number one, which is Wilder, you know 356 00:20:14,480 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 1: who's in the other room right there making a bagel, 357 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 1: that kid consumes more bread. Then he no, no, no, 358 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:28,760 Speaker 1: you're number one, he's number he's number two. But you know, 359 00:20:28,760 --> 00:20:31,760 Speaker 1: you have your first one and then you regulate, you moderate. Okay, 360 00:20:31,760 --> 00:20:33,440 Speaker 1: then if you're second one, now the second one wants 361 00:20:33,480 --> 00:20:35,520 Speaker 1: to hang with the first one. So they start a 362 00:20:35,560 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 1: little bit earlier because they're both watching TV, and Wilder 363 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:40,920 Speaker 1: might be watching something that may be a little too 364 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:43,280 Speaker 1: advanced for body, but like, oh fuck it, what are 365 00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:45,000 Speaker 1: we gonna do with? Get like eight TVs? And okay. 366 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,960 Speaker 1: Then Rio comes along and now Wilder is six years 367 00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:50,200 Speaker 1: older than her, and he's watching things that are far 368 00:20:50,400 --> 00:20:55,000 Speaker 1: inappropriate for her. They're actually inappropriate for him. But I 369 00:20:55,080 --> 00:20:57,880 Speaker 1: am of the ilk of sort of let them see it. 370 00:20:58,040 --> 00:21:00,960 Speaker 1: I mean, it's what's going to happen to them. It's 371 00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:03,200 Speaker 1: not going to rot and destroy their brains. I am 372 00:21:03,240 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 1: here to be the buffer for that. I am their parent, 373 00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:08,920 Speaker 1: you know what I mean, hold on, I'm not done. 374 00:21:09,200 --> 00:21:12,199 Speaker 1: And then then Rio, you know, is then watching the 375 00:21:12,240 --> 00:21:17,119 Speaker 1: things that Wilder is watching, including Scream Queens, which is 376 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 1: a television show that I did for that Ryan Murphy, 377 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:23,359 Speaker 1: did you know for Fox? It was like, you know, 378 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,760 Speaker 1: there's no world where how old was she? Then? I'm 379 00:21:26,760 --> 00:21:30,399 Speaker 1: not saying there's no world where she should be watching that, 380 00:21:30,480 --> 00:21:35,480 Speaker 1: but she did all right, Well, Aaron walked away, Wilder 381 00:21:35,520 --> 00:21:41,160 Speaker 1: walked away. She's finding him syrup. You know, She's wanted 382 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:44,760 Speaker 1: to interject into the way that I do things. She's 383 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,359 Speaker 1: what you're not seeing is that she's giving me the 384 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:52,680 Speaker 1: cutthroat sign, like every every thirty seconds or so, She's 385 00:21:52,720 --> 00:21:54,600 Speaker 1: like looking at me with her eyes like like giving 386 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: me like the cut off sign on her throat because 387 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:06,040 Speaker 1: I'm like, apparently, San, I'm back, Hey, what do you say? Okay, 388 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:12,000 Speaker 1: so you were interjecting, and you know, were you finished 389 00:22:12,280 --> 00:22:14,879 Speaker 1: with Rio and the watching and all that. Basically, I 390 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:16,919 Speaker 1: mean my point is is that, you know, yeah, it 391 00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:19,800 Speaker 1: trickles down. So what I think is I would say 392 00:22:19,800 --> 00:22:25,080 Speaker 1: the movie thing on what's appropriate, because they watch all 393 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:28,320 Speaker 1: these scary movies. I'm not into that. I don't actually 394 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:32,160 Speaker 1: mind like funny, dirty adult humor that's inappropriate. I don't 395 00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,160 Speaker 1: even mind nudity or sex, like that's all like weird 396 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,920 Speaker 1: natural stuff. Sorry interrupt, but that's why I almost different 397 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:38,720 Speaker 1: from me. Like I remember again, Rio's like, I don't 398 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:40,480 Speaker 1: know how old she is, but this was years ago 399 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:45,399 Speaker 1: and I remember. I'm like, she's watching bay Watch, remember that, 400 00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 1: like the new bay Watch with the rock It's a comedy. 401 00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:51,919 Speaker 1: Yeah for those of you just go watch bay Watch, 402 00:22:52,359 --> 00:22:55,120 Speaker 1: you know. And I'm like, what the fuck? I'd rather 403 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:58,880 Speaker 1: her watch not Martin elm Street or Friday the thirteenth 404 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:02,400 Speaker 1: than Baywatch Watch. I'd love to see like a listener 405 00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:09,800 Speaker 1: thing on this blood horror sex, beach comedy. Okay, beach comedy. 406 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:11,800 Speaker 1: So it's not gonna be like crazy sex. It's not 407 00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 1: like it's it's it's sex sex humor, and there's cities 408 00:23:16,400 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: and you know whatever I'm saying. You know what I mean. 409 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:22,920 Speaker 1: Bobes are natural. They're a real thing. We all have them. 410 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,080 Speaker 1: You let her watch by Watch, I know, but babe, 411 00:23:25,680 --> 00:23:28,640 Speaker 1: like the scary movies, like she's gonna either be scared. 412 00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:35,439 Speaker 1: You know, you're projecting and why do you see that 413 00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: made you terrified? Forever and ever? Pltergeist right and Kristin 414 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:47,600 Speaker 1: Garvey and Night Maaron elm Street the thirteen. No Poultergeist. Yeah, Poultergeist. 415 00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:49,920 Speaker 1: That was one, but no one that led to this day? 416 00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:52,600 Speaker 1: Is the reason why you don't go in the ocean? 417 00:23:52,920 --> 00:23:56,480 Speaker 1: Oh Josh, yeah, of course, But you always say that 418 00:23:56,600 --> 00:24:00,480 Speaker 1: you're like I saw Jaws and that was it, Like 419 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,040 Speaker 1: that was it for me. I don't go on the ocean. 420 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,639 Speaker 1: Mean well, real watches the Blake lively like Shark movie 421 00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,760 Speaker 1: like all the time, the surfer like where she's like 422 00:24:09,040 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 1: yeah and she's swimming in the ocean. Just fine. My 423 00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:14,199 Speaker 1: point is is that maybe you're projecting your own fears 424 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 1: onto the kids. You know, I'm actually sit each other's 425 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:26,000 Speaker 1: buttholes together. We took a tarantula in and made it 426 00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:27,679 Speaker 1: a pet, so like I don't want them to have 427 00:24:27,720 --> 00:24:29,879 Speaker 1: my fears, is the point. And I feel like I 428 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:32,399 Speaker 1: was scarred by watching some scary movies as a kid, 429 00:24:32,480 --> 00:24:34,160 Speaker 1: and so in my mind, I'm like, why are they 430 00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:37,119 Speaker 1: watching this? And it's also like gory and blibly like 431 00:24:37,160 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 1: all that. I know. I look, I get it. I 432 00:24:38,880 --> 00:24:43,480 Speaker 1: understand why people don't let their kids watch inappropriate movies. 433 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:47,840 Speaker 1: I understand, but I will challenge that and ask why 434 00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,119 Speaker 1: what's going to happen? You? Know what I mean. And 435 00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:55,800 Speaker 1: again it's about being intuitive about your children. Like if 436 00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:57,760 Speaker 1: you felt that you had a kid who's going to 437 00:24:57,880 --> 00:25:00,800 Speaker 1: watch a movie and mimic something in it, and then 438 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,520 Speaker 1: it's going to be detrimental to him or his friends 439 00:25:03,680 --> 00:25:06,760 Speaker 1: or the way that he thinks, feels and acts. Okay, 440 00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,800 Speaker 1: But if you are intuitive about your kid and you 441 00:25:09,800 --> 00:25:11,159 Speaker 1: look at them and you know, oh yeah, they can 442 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:14,160 Speaker 1: watch this shit and they're totally fine. They're still sweet, 443 00:25:14,200 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 1: they're still polite, they're still loving, they still look you 444 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,720 Speaker 1: in the eye. You know what I mean. They're not assholes, 445 00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:24,440 Speaker 1: they're not murders, you know what I mean, Like, why 446 00:25:24,480 --> 00:25:30,439 Speaker 1: can't they watch these movies? Cursing is everywhere. Everyone curses, like, 447 00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:34,160 Speaker 1: so they hear bad words. The sexual stuff for me 448 00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:36,600 Speaker 1: is the place where I sort of draw the line, 449 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,480 Speaker 1: you know, That's where I really draw the line. That's 450 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:43,399 Speaker 1: where I get uncomfortable. But then okay, just not being 451 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,480 Speaker 1: the naive parent. It's like that's a movie that they're 452 00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:50,399 Speaker 1: watching on TV. That's you know whatever I mean, porn 453 00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:53,040 Speaker 1: is that the click everything is a click of whatever 454 00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:56,360 Speaker 1: on their own you know. Yeah, to think of an 455 00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,439 Speaker 1: entirely different world where you know, you know what I 456 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:03,000 Speaker 1: meant to every pornography and phones, Like I remember as 457 00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,520 Speaker 1: a kid, like watching like certain movies that were like 458 00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:08,199 Speaker 1: R rated that we weren't allowed to see, like Porky's 459 00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:11,280 Speaker 1: and like do you know what I mean, like Rio 460 00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: Blame It on Me with Michael Caine, Demi Moore and 461 00:26:15,080 --> 00:26:17,000 Speaker 1: Demi Moore, But then there was the girl who was 462 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:19,680 Speaker 1: like the hot one. I don't think it was Demi 463 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:23,760 Speaker 1: Moore who was like topless and stuff. I think it 464 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:28,560 Speaker 1: was I don't think so. Anyway, that movie was a 465 00:26:28,600 --> 00:26:31,840 Speaker 1: big one for me where it was I was young, 466 00:26:31,920 --> 00:26:34,159 Speaker 1: and it was that first sort of moment of like 467 00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:42,399 Speaker 1: oh my god. Yeah. And of course Porky's but you know, 468 00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:46,959 Speaker 1: when you're dealing with porn, that's an entirely different subject, 469 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,880 Speaker 1: you know, which is a whole different podcast honestly with 470 00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: you know, that's another when we talk about doing a 471 00:26:52,640 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 1: parenting podcast, which I think we're going to probably launch 472 00:26:55,880 --> 00:27:00,280 Speaker 1: at some point just Aaron and I or is it 473 00:27:00,320 --> 00:27:03,720 Speaker 1: aeronym me. I'm getting all wrapped up in my head 474 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 1: about Aaron and I and Aeronemy. I know, I think 475 00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 1: it's Aaron and I. I think that is Aaron and 476 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:12,560 Speaker 1: I Anyway, that's another faction. Another arm of parenting is 477 00:27:12,600 --> 00:27:16,880 Speaker 1: sort of dealing with sex and sexuality today with our 478 00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:20,400 Speaker 1: teenagers and sort of how different it was when we 479 00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: were kids until now, and the access that they have 480 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:29,640 Speaker 1: and the sort of desensitization to sex or the idea 481 00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:33,400 Speaker 1: that sex is porn and porn as sex and they're 482 00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 1: mutually exclusive and interchangeable, and that's just not true. I mean, 483 00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:40,080 Speaker 1: I even talk to the kids, you know, Wilder who's fourteen, 484 00:27:40,160 --> 00:27:42,720 Speaker 1: and you know, he's going to watch porn, see porn, 485 00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:44,760 Speaker 1: and I just have to make sure that he understands 486 00:27:44,760 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 1: that this is not reality. When you pay money to 487 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:50,080 Speaker 1: go to a movie theater and you're watching an action 488 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:53,280 Speaker 1: film and you know, those explosions are not real. They're real, 489 00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:55,879 Speaker 1: but they're you know, it's the same thing. This is 490 00:27:55,920 --> 00:28:00,320 Speaker 1: not reality. These are actors who are performing, you know, 491 00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:04,920 Speaker 1: because these kids are growing up in a different sexual culture. 492 00:28:05,640 --> 00:28:07,960 Speaker 1: It's crazy. Anyway, we don't have to get into all that, 493 00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:10,959 Speaker 1: but I'm just saying that that is a great topic 494 00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:13,480 Speaker 1: of discussion. Just going back to like how we did 495 00:28:13,480 --> 00:28:16,720 Speaker 1: it a little differently from a lot of people around us. 496 00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:20,960 Speaker 1: You know, we were kind of the outsiders on a 497 00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:23,840 Speaker 1: lot of the beliefs around that that first, you know, 498 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:26,800 Speaker 1: go around maybe just even body to a little bit. Jesus. 499 00:28:26,880 --> 00:28:30,359 Speaker 1: We didn't believe in Jesus. Yeah, And it was a 500 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 1: lot of like you know, TV sugar, staying up late, 501 00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:37,000 Speaker 1: like we're still kind of that family, right for a 502 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:38,960 Speaker 1: lot of people around us. I mean it even went 503 00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:41,880 Speaker 1: down to we had some very extreme friends, you know 504 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,320 Speaker 1: that there was no like plastic and like do you 505 00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:45,960 Speaker 1: know what I mean, like, oh yeah, we'd go to 506 00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:49,560 Speaker 1: their house. It was only like recycled wood toys. Yeah, 507 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:52,880 Speaker 1: you know what I mean. It's amazing, but that was 508 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,440 Speaker 1: their lifestyle and what they were creating, and it was 509 00:28:55,480 --> 00:28:58,200 Speaker 1: no judgment. It was just incredibly you know, I could 510 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:03,240 Speaker 1: never do that, I know, but if that's their you know, 511 00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:05,520 Speaker 1: kind of lifestyle, it's amazing choice to have and like, 512 00:29:05,640 --> 00:29:08,160 Speaker 1: you know, beautiful for the kids. I think we were 513 00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:11,440 Speaker 1: just like, you know, we had friends who never fed 514 00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,560 Speaker 1: their kids sugar at all, and they were like grinding 515 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:17,320 Speaker 1: veggies because that's all they knew. Yeah, and they loved it. 516 00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 1: And they were like they were like seven or whatever, 517 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,200 Speaker 1: like grinding just vegetables. And I was jealous. I'm like, wow, 518 00:29:23,360 --> 00:29:26,120 Speaker 1: that's amazing. It is amazing. But I think you both 519 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:27,640 Speaker 1: have to be on board. It has to be part 520 00:29:27,680 --> 00:29:30,240 Speaker 1: of your lifestyle. Yeah, that is just not who we are. 521 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:37,000 Speaker 1: You grew up on sugar, cereal and coke. Okay, Coca Cola. 522 00:29:37,120 --> 00:29:39,000 Speaker 1: But no, I know, I mean, look, I wish I 523 00:29:39,040 --> 00:29:42,000 Speaker 1: think you know, there's there's a balance. I think we've 524 00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:44,920 Speaker 1: struck a good balance, you know, because our kids are 525 00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:47,040 Speaker 1: not like terrible. They do have a lot of fruit 526 00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:48,840 Speaker 1: and veggies, and they have their stuff and whatever. But 527 00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:54,560 Speaker 1: now you know they're older, that stuff all happens. But yeah, 528 00:29:54,560 --> 00:29:57,880 Speaker 1: when they were little, it was also kind of figuring 529 00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:01,240 Speaker 1: out who each kid was because Wilder and Body were 530 00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:05,719 Speaker 1: very different. Like there were different newborns, different toddlers, you know, 531 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:08,880 Speaker 1: and we raised them a little different. Meaning sure, Wilder, 532 00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,840 Speaker 1: you know, say this a lot, but he responded to 533 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,200 Speaker 1: a raised voice. So if he was kind of you know, 534 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,360 Speaker 1: disobeying or not doing it whatever, it's like if you 535 00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:20,520 Speaker 1: raised your voice or I just got a sterner voice, 536 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:24,160 Speaker 1: he responded to that. Body. On the other hand, our 537 00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,680 Speaker 1: stubborn one would challenge us and almost like raise his 538 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,480 Speaker 1: voice higher. And there was a lot of stuff where 539 00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:32,760 Speaker 1: you know, as the parents are always trying to navigate, 540 00:30:32,800 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 1: like you're out in public. Do you if you yell 541 00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: at your kid, then are you, you know, get in 542 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:39,520 Speaker 1: trouble for you know, you're like abusive to your kid. 543 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:41,680 Speaker 1: But if you don't, you ignore it. Oh, that parent's 544 00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:44,040 Speaker 1: just ignoring the kid. I mean, it's like you can't win. 545 00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:47,960 Speaker 1: There's so many different levels of like you know, had 546 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,520 Speaker 1: to parent and judging and all that shit. When I'm like, 547 00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:53,200 Speaker 1: everybody's just doing the best job they can and you 548 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,280 Speaker 1: don't know what their story, what was going on before, 549 00:30:57,360 --> 00:30:58,760 Speaker 1: what was going on? I forget about that. You don't 550 00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:00,960 Speaker 1: even know their backstore. 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They've got domains, 611 00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:36,280 Speaker 1: they've got websites, online stores, marketing tools, analytics, there's they 612 00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:40,879 Speaker 1: deal with e commerce. You know everything that you need. 613 00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:44,360 Speaker 1: So head to squarespace dot com slash sibling for a 614 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:47,000 Speaker 1: free trial, and when you're ready to launch, use the 615 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:51,280 Speaker 1: offer code sibling to say ten percent off your first 616 00:34:51,280 --> 00:34:59,439 Speaker 1: purchase of a website or domain. My thing is, though, 617 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:04,560 Speaker 1: you know, I think we you me more than you, 618 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:07,640 Speaker 1: I guess, but I never want to hide anything from 619 00:35:07,680 --> 00:35:11,279 Speaker 1: my kids, Like I'm not the parent who ever has meaning. No, 620 00:35:11,360 --> 00:35:14,400 Speaker 1: I'm talking about even when I had smoked cigarettes, or 621 00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:16,680 Speaker 1: when I was drinking, or when I was doing whatever. 622 00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:19,120 Speaker 1: You know, It's like, no, I'm not going to I'm 623 00:35:19,120 --> 00:35:21,520 Speaker 1: not going to tiptoe around you like this is who 624 00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,520 Speaker 1: I am, this is what I do. I'm an adult, 625 00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:28,360 Speaker 1: and no, you cannot do that. I cursed like a 626 00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:31,160 Speaker 1: sailor and know you cannot do that, but I'm not 627 00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:33,160 Speaker 1: going to stop cursing in front of you. This is me, 628 00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:37,520 Speaker 1: you know, And I feel like that's worked out for us, 629 00:35:37,640 --> 00:35:39,960 Speaker 1: or at least in my for my relationship with Yah. 630 00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:43,440 Speaker 1: You also got to like build trust. I also got 631 00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:45,200 Speaker 1: to know who your kids are, because if you had 632 00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:46,840 Speaker 1: acted that way and then all of a sudden, we 633 00:35:46,880 --> 00:35:49,759 Speaker 1: have a little kid that's mimicking you and you know, 634 00:35:50,000 --> 00:35:52,400 Speaker 1: going up and doing and you know, it's like my 635 00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,760 Speaker 1: mom was a smoker. I did not become a smoker 636 00:35:54,840 --> 00:35:56,719 Speaker 1: like you know. So it had that effect where it 637 00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:58,200 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, that's something I don't want 638 00:35:58,239 --> 00:35:59,960 Speaker 1: to do. How about we curse in front of our 639 00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:04,600 Speaker 1: kids like sailors and they don't curse. Wilder's just starting 640 00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:08,480 Speaker 1: to at fourteen, but his all of his friends, I mean, geez, 641 00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:12,759 Speaker 1: there's more curse words than than non curse words. It's crazy, 642 00:36:13,040 --> 00:36:15,359 Speaker 1: I know, and his kids. It's not that we're just 643 00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:17,680 Speaker 1: thinking that his friends do say that he doesn't curse. 644 00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 1: Oh no, yeah, exactly. You know. I think he's just 645 00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:24,279 Speaker 1: starting to and they're like, it's so cute, it's so funny. 646 00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:27,719 Speaker 1: But I mean, you know there's things too like that, right, like, 647 00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:29,800 Speaker 1: of course I'm not going to be like smoking a 648 00:36:29,880 --> 00:36:32,560 Speaker 1: joint in front of my kids because it's not appropriate, right, 649 00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:34,719 Speaker 1: But you have a cocktail in front of them, Yeah, 650 00:36:35,280 --> 00:36:37,319 Speaker 1: because it's legal. Well now it's legal, but yeah, of 651 00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:40,120 Speaker 1: course I know, Ei there's still the stigma attached to that. 652 00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:45,719 Speaker 1: But we smoke, you know, and no, we do not 653 00:36:45,760 --> 00:36:47,759 Speaker 1: smoke in front of our children also, But at the 654 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,279 Speaker 1: same time, it's like it's telling your children that, like, 655 00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:53,840 Speaker 1: you know, our brains are developed. Unfortunately, like you know 656 00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:55,640 Speaker 1: what I mean, they're at a place where they're not. 657 00:36:56,280 --> 00:37:00,200 Speaker 1: We're also experienced. We're also doing that at night our 658 00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:02,120 Speaker 1: work day is done and our parenting is done and 659 00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:04,799 Speaker 1: you're asleep, and so you know, there's a there's a 660 00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:07,719 Speaker 1: way to kind of say like, yeah, this is how 661 00:37:07,719 --> 00:37:09,640 Speaker 1: we got there and why we're doing something like that. 662 00:37:09,920 --> 00:37:14,640 Speaker 1: You know thirteen, that woman wrote in like Cosmo or 663 00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:19,759 Speaker 1: something about how she would get a little stoned, you know, 664 00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:25,879 Speaker 1: before bedtime, okay, and it made parenting and her relationship 665 00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:29,040 Speaker 1: with her kids, especially at that witching hour, like so 666 00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:32,279 Speaker 1: much better. I didn't read it, but that's great. It 667 00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:34,160 Speaker 1: was great because it was just out in the open. 668 00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:38,399 Speaker 1: And you know, there's still the stigma on weed. There's 669 00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:41,160 Speaker 1: no difference right now from having a glass of wine 670 00:37:41,239 --> 00:37:43,960 Speaker 1: or drinking you know, having a tequila. But what I 671 00:37:44,040 --> 00:37:47,319 Speaker 1: will like a little bit of a ut that's how 672 00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:51,560 Speaker 1: we'd affects you. So weed, a marijuana does affect other 673 00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:55,279 Speaker 1: people differently. So some mom that would be like, oh, 674 00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:57,160 Speaker 1: I'm not going to smoke it because her experience with 675 00:37:57,239 --> 00:37:59,440 Speaker 1: it isn't good, right, Like, of course, you know what 676 00:37:59,480 --> 00:38:01,680 Speaker 1: I'm saying. So I'm not talking about those who well 677 00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:04,120 Speaker 1: you said there's no difference, but I'm like, but for parents, 678 00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:06,239 Speaker 1: people are allergic to alcohol. Some people might have to 679 00:38:06,400 --> 00:38:08,799 Speaker 1: drinks and lose their mind because they have an allergy 680 00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:13,360 Speaker 1: to alcohol. My point is taking not the extremes of things. 681 00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:15,560 Speaker 1: My point is is like you smoke a little bit 682 00:38:15,560 --> 00:38:18,160 Speaker 1: of a doobie before you, you know, get ready for 683 00:38:18,239 --> 00:38:21,880 Speaker 1: bed and put your kids to bed, and you know, 684 00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:25,000 Speaker 1: all their kids like us, Yeah, things just sort of 685 00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:28,720 Speaker 1: settle down. You're like, oh, I don't I'm not so angry. 686 00:38:28,800 --> 00:38:31,319 Speaker 1: I'm not like brush your teeth immediately and it's like, 687 00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:35,840 Speaker 1: oh you this article was, yeah, it helps your your patients, 688 00:38:35,840 --> 00:38:37,800 Speaker 1: and you just kind of are like, all right, I 689 00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,640 Speaker 1: can get through this because I think as parents, there 690 00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:43,000 Speaker 1: is a counting of the minutes and the hours in 691 00:38:43,080 --> 00:38:45,640 Speaker 1: the day. You know, whether it's the stay at home 692 00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:48,520 Speaker 1: mom that's like, oh my god, I'm so over this, 693 00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,640 Speaker 1: or if it's like the parent that has worked all 694 00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:52,920 Speaker 1: day and then come home and is dealing with you know, 695 00:38:53,080 --> 00:38:55,760 Speaker 1: nighttime routine, and you know, everybody just kind of wants 696 00:38:55,760 --> 00:39:00,200 Speaker 1: a little break, you know, relief from that. And then 697 00:39:00,200 --> 00:39:02,560 Speaker 1: also there's a relief when your parent I mean not babies, 698 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:04,479 Speaker 1: because I know they're kids and all kind of crazy things, 699 00:39:04,480 --> 00:39:07,680 Speaker 1: but like when your kids are finally asleep, they're safe, 700 00:39:07,719 --> 00:39:10,920 Speaker 1: they're in your home, it's like, ah, there is that 701 00:39:10,960 --> 00:39:15,560 Speaker 1: little you know, shoulder let down time where it's like, okay, 702 00:39:15,880 --> 00:39:20,120 Speaker 1: I don't have to be delegating functioning, you know, cooking, cleaning, watching, 703 00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:24,080 Speaker 1: you know, saving, you know, emotionally taking care of It's like, 704 00:39:24,520 --> 00:39:26,600 Speaker 1: oh my god, you just want to like lay in 705 00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:29,640 Speaker 1: bed and shut down and veg out or you know, 706 00:39:29,840 --> 00:39:31,880 Speaker 1: do what prepping for the next day or work or 707 00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:34,920 Speaker 1: whatever you have to do. So there is that little 708 00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:37,160 Speaker 1: feeling of like what is going to take the edge 709 00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:40,640 Speaker 1: off a little bit? And you know, of course there 710 00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:45,759 Speaker 1: are people with no vices, but that's not us. You know. 711 00:39:45,920 --> 00:39:49,120 Speaker 1: It's like, yeah, I'm all about whatever makes you a 712 00:39:49,200 --> 00:39:51,080 Speaker 1: better parent. And I think at the end of the day, 713 00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,440 Speaker 1: like our therapist was big on the pyramid, which was 714 00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:58,160 Speaker 1: like put yourself first. Yeah, and I mean, hands up, everybody. 715 00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:00,239 Speaker 1: There is not a lot of people that put their 716 00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:05,040 Speaker 1: self first because we are trained somehow like that. It 717 00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:07,480 Speaker 1: is selfish, you know, to not be putting like your 718 00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:11,840 Speaker 1: kids first, your kids first, and you know, the pyramid 719 00:40:11,880 --> 00:40:14,960 Speaker 1: theory is if you put yourself first and you are 720 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:18,520 Speaker 1: taking care of you, everything else trickles down in a 721 00:40:18,560 --> 00:40:21,600 Speaker 1: positive manner. So it should go and not a lot 722 00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:24,520 Speaker 1: of some people will probably disagree, but it should go yourself, 723 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:27,799 Speaker 1: and then your partner, and then your children, and then 724 00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:30,960 Speaker 1: your career or whatever it is that you're doing. Then 725 00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:32,480 Speaker 1: I know that gets turned around. And for a lot 726 00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:35,600 Speaker 1: of people it sounds kind of impossible, but like him, 727 00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,279 Speaker 1: you know, talking about it and us working through our 728 00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:41,000 Speaker 1: therapy sessions, it really does make a lot of sense 729 00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,239 Speaker 1: because if you take the time for you whatever, that 730 00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:47,560 Speaker 1: is quiet time, a workout, meditation time with your girls 731 00:40:47,640 --> 00:40:51,480 Speaker 1: or your guys, a run, you know, whatever it is 732 00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:57,680 Speaker 1: that you need, you are better at dealing with work, children, 733 00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:01,480 Speaker 1: your partner. So it does make sense. It's hard to do. 734 00:41:01,600 --> 00:41:03,719 Speaker 1: It's really really hard to do. I got it on 735 00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:06,640 Speaker 1: my third kid, you know what I mean. It really 736 00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:09,239 Speaker 1: resonated with me. And you also have a partner who 737 00:41:09,320 --> 00:41:13,359 Speaker 1: understands that and will allow each other to take care 738 00:41:13,400 --> 00:41:17,759 Speaker 1: of themselves totally, totally, And I think that is part 739 00:41:17,760 --> 00:41:21,399 Speaker 1: of it too, because if you have a relationship where 740 00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:22,879 Speaker 1: you feel like you are in a team and you're 741 00:41:22,920 --> 00:41:26,840 Speaker 1: not against each other, because I think unfortunately parenthood starts 742 00:41:26,880 --> 00:41:30,600 Speaker 1: to kind of become a battle of you know, schedules 743 00:41:30,640 --> 00:41:32,120 Speaker 1: and who did this and who did that? And you 744 00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:34,560 Speaker 1: do this and I do that. There's not a lot 745 00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:38,319 Speaker 1: of like enjoying the process or being a team in 746 00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:42,080 Speaker 1: it together. There are moments, you know, even the best 747 00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:47,600 Speaker 1: of us, it's still like, you know, it's it's hard, 748 00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:50,200 Speaker 1: it's hard to navigate. But if you can put yourself 749 00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:53,200 Speaker 1: first and then you're you two as as the couple 750 00:41:53,880 --> 00:41:59,399 Speaker 1: are solid, everything else falls into place, you know, with 751 00:41:59,440 --> 00:42:02,799 Speaker 1: the kids better for them, and then you're kind of 752 00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:04,919 Speaker 1: like your best version and that's not happening all the time. 753 00:42:04,920 --> 00:42:07,600 Speaker 1: And I know this is you know, it's just kind 754 00:42:07,600 --> 00:42:10,080 Speaker 1: of a well, it's a blueprint. I mean, it's a map. 755 00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:14,319 Speaker 1: I knowing nothing's perfect, and that's not a perfection. I'm 756 00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:18,480 Speaker 1: not saying sist you know what I mean, perfection doesn't exist. 757 00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:23,360 Speaker 1: I don't think anywhere in life. Maybe j low, but 758 00:42:24,560 --> 00:42:32,319 Speaker 1: it's true, that's true. True. But don't you notice, like 759 00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,120 Speaker 1: if you're happy in your best self, like and you 760 00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:37,560 Speaker 1: come back whatever that little time is, if it's a 761 00:42:37,640 --> 00:42:41,799 Speaker 1: fucking you know, extra twenty minutes in a shower or 762 00:42:41,880 --> 00:42:43,560 Speaker 1: you know, ten minutes in shower, or if it's like 763 00:42:43,600 --> 00:42:47,560 Speaker 1: a full you know, trip away from your kids or 764 00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:50,480 Speaker 1: your partner, like it does make you miss them, it 765 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:54,120 Speaker 1: makes you, you know, kind of reconnect with yourself in 766 00:42:54,320 --> 00:42:57,399 Speaker 1: a way where you're like, okay, instead of that go 767 00:42:57,400 --> 00:42:59,239 Speaker 1: go go go get you. You just it's like a 768 00:42:59,280 --> 00:43:02,600 Speaker 1: thin rope. It's just starting to kind of yeah, you know, 769 00:43:04,320 --> 00:43:06,400 Speaker 1: yeah and away and get dinner and dinner, and you know, 770 00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:11,280 Speaker 1: we also have to take time in your relationship away 771 00:43:11,280 --> 00:43:13,680 Speaker 1: from your kids. I think people get caught up in 772 00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:15,879 Speaker 1: this idea that they have to be with their kids 773 00:43:15,920 --> 00:43:19,520 Speaker 1: all the time twenty four to seven. You know, we 774 00:43:19,600 --> 00:43:22,960 Speaker 1: have friends who were just away from their kids for 775 00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,080 Speaker 1: the first time and however long. You know, there are 776 00:43:25,120 --> 00:43:26,400 Speaker 1: a lot of parents that don't want to do that, 777 00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:28,439 Speaker 1: and I get that, and I respect it, and maybe 778 00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:30,960 Speaker 1: hasn't worked out. We are so fortunate a that we 779 00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:34,319 Speaker 1: have family here and we have an incredible nanny that 780 00:43:34,400 --> 00:43:37,480 Speaker 1: is basically family. Oh yeah, right, So when you have littles, 781 00:43:37,480 --> 00:43:39,600 Speaker 1: it's like a lot of that stuff goes into it. 782 00:43:39,680 --> 00:43:42,760 Speaker 1: But no, but it's also you and I have taken 783 00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:47,120 Speaker 1: the time to be together and go away from our kids, 784 00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:49,080 Speaker 1: you know, even if it's down the road for a 785 00:43:49,200 --> 00:43:55,080 Speaker 1: night or or just to reconnect and have that time away, 786 00:43:55,719 --> 00:43:59,360 Speaker 1: even as a staycation. Well exactly because the minute you 787 00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:01,560 Speaker 1: get away and you know your kids are somewhere safe, right, 788 00:44:01,600 --> 00:44:05,080 Speaker 1: whether it's with friends, family, you know, a close babysitter 789 00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:08,880 Speaker 1: or nanny, whatever that is, once you get away again, 790 00:44:09,000 --> 00:44:12,400 Speaker 1: it is that, oh my god, I'm not in you know. 791 00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:15,960 Speaker 1: It's almost like as a parent, you're constantly in this 792 00:44:16,480 --> 00:44:20,080 Speaker 1: state of alert. You know, even when they're at school, 793 00:44:20,080 --> 00:44:21,759 Speaker 1: it's still like, am I going to get a call 794 00:44:21,800 --> 00:44:23,520 Speaker 1: from school. Who's picking them up? What do they have 795 00:44:23,560 --> 00:44:25,799 Speaker 1: to after school? Oh? I got to get the you know, 796 00:44:25,960 --> 00:44:27,759 Speaker 1: the groceries are you know, if you're at work and 797 00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:30,480 Speaker 1: you're dealing with all of this important shit at work 798 00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:34,160 Speaker 1: and you know, whatever's going on, you're still dealing with, 799 00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:36,440 Speaker 1: you know, dropping them off, picking them up? Did your 800 00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,719 Speaker 1: kid have an emotional day? What are they going through 801 00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:40,960 Speaker 1: that you're still carrying? Like, I mean, it is so 802 00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,360 Speaker 1: multi layered, and you could go on and on, but 803 00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,319 Speaker 1: those moments away as a couple or even I will say, 804 00:44:46,360 --> 00:44:48,719 Speaker 1: like as my with my girlfriends or whatever that is, 805 00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:52,360 Speaker 1: it's that moment of just feeling like, Okay, I'm not 806 00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:56,160 Speaker 1: like a mom for this moment, or I'm I'm back 807 00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:59,239 Speaker 1: being like you know, the wife or the girlfriend where 808 00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:01,760 Speaker 1: we can you know, sit around and have a glass 809 00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:05,799 Speaker 1: of wine and not worry or you know, laugh about 810 00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:08,040 Speaker 1: stuff that doesn't matter, or talk about things going on 811 00:45:08,080 --> 00:45:10,000 Speaker 1: in the world or what show we're watching or whatever. 812 00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:13,880 Speaker 1: There's just those moments of kind of dipping back into 813 00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:17,040 Speaker 1: that that I think are like life saving and a 814 00:45:17,160 --> 00:45:21,200 Speaker 1: huge part of why you know, everything kind of works 815 00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:23,600 Speaker 1: so smoothly in our house. And also it gives your 816 00:45:23,719 --> 00:45:28,640 Speaker 1: kids like psychologically, Wilder went through major anxiety when he 817 00:45:28,680 --> 00:45:32,080 Speaker 1: was about seven years old, seven or eight, and we 818 00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:38,279 Speaker 1: had this great therapist tell us, you know, they they 819 00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,319 Speaker 1: need to know that they're okay without you. So when 820 00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:45,080 Speaker 1: you do leave and you come back, you know from 821 00:45:45,600 --> 00:45:49,439 Speaker 1: dinner or work or you know, a trip or whatever 822 00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:52,680 Speaker 1: it might be, they see, okay, see you were okay, 823 00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:54,959 Speaker 1: Well I was coming and I'm coming back and hey, 824 00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:57,480 Speaker 1: mommy and Daddy are Mommy's going to have a playdate 825 00:45:57,560 --> 00:46:00,920 Speaker 1: quote unquote or daddy's you know, going to work, whatever 826 00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,520 Speaker 1: that might be. They need to know and then they 827 00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:06,600 Speaker 1: have that space to kind of feel okay without you, 828 00:46:07,080 --> 00:46:10,960 Speaker 1: which is super important. Well, they build confidence. Yeah, we 829 00:46:11,040 --> 00:46:15,479 Speaker 1: started that early. We would go away, you know, yeah, 830 00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:19,640 Speaker 1: and you set the tone. Yeah, and then they would cry, 831 00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:24,080 Speaker 1: you know sometimes. But it wasn't never crazy crazy well Wilder, 832 00:46:24,320 --> 00:46:29,040 Speaker 1: well Wilder was Wilder in first grade. You know, had 833 00:46:30,480 --> 00:46:33,160 Speaker 1: a moment. You know, I think it had to do 834 00:46:33,280 --> 00:46:36,520 Speaker 1: with me being away as well. I was in Nashville 835 00:46:36,560 --> 00:46:40,480 Speaker 1: doing a crazy show. Give us the best advice ever 836 00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:44,520 Speaker 1: because you got the TV show. Well, because here's the thing, 837 00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:48,960 Speaker 1: just you know, I was attaching my own emotions to 838 00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:52,200 Speaker 1: his so I knew he was not in his best 839 00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:54,879 Speaker 1: place and it would make me crazy too. And then 840 00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:59,400 Speaker 1: I would be leaving, you know, for Nashville and coming homes, 841 00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,480 Speaker 1: going back and forth a bunch, and when I would leave, 842 00:47:02,520 --> 00:47:03,680 Speaker 1: I would be like, oh my god, I'm going to 843 00:47:03,760 --> 00:47:07,680 Speaker 1: miss you, guys Ima, I was emotional. But what was 844 00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:11,319 Speaker 1: so interesting is this therapist told us, you know, the 845 00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:13,440 Speaker 1: seven year old, eight year old brain, whatever it was, 846 00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:18,600 Speaker 1: you know, how it works is he was looking at you, 847 00:47:19,680 --> 00:47:22,600 Speaker 1: and you were basically saying, I'm going to miss you. 848 00:47:23,080 --> 00:47:26,160 Speaker 1: I hate being away from you. Basically being away from 849 00:47:26,200 --> 00:47:29,520 Speaker 1: you is a bad thing. So that's how the little 850 00:47:29,520 --> 00:47:33,200 Speaker 1: brain was translating it. Whereas as an adult, if Oliver 851 00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:35,080 Speaker 1: is saying to me, oh, I hate leaving and I'm 852 00:47:35,080 --> 00:47:37,000 Speaker 1: going to miss you, I take that as a compliment. 853 00:47:37,080 --> 00:47:39,680 Speaker 1: It's like, oh, he loves me, he doesn't like being 854 00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:42,600 Speaker 1: away from us. We are able to break that down 855 00:47:42,760 --> 00:47:46,160 Speaker 1: and kind of, you know, understand what it means. But 856 00:47:46,200 --> 00:47:49,200 Speaker 1: the little his little brain, all they're getting is, oh, no, 857 00:47:49,600 --> 00:47:52,520 Speaker 1: Daddy is upset. He doesn't like leaving, so leaving is 858 00:47:52,520 --> 00:47:57,200 Speaker 1: a bad thing. He's away from me, And I just 859 00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:59,440 Speaker 1: thought that was kind of a brilliant. Oh yeah, we 860 00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,800 Speaker 1: didn't see it that way. So the therapist said, because 861 00:48:02,800 --> 00:48:04,960 Speaker 1: he was really upset, like he was having a hard 862 00:48:04,960 --> 00:48:07,080 Speaker 1: time separating from us at school. I didn't like us 863 00:48:07,120 --> 00:48:10,839 Speaker 1: going out, you know. So it started to trickle down 864 00:48:10,880 --> 00:48:16,239 Speaker 1: into other things, not just school. I have to sit 865 00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:19,960 Speaker 1: outside of that classroom every day. Like it was just 866 00:48:20,000 --> 00:48:22,200 Speaker 1: a whole process, which I know a lot of kids 867 00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:24,799 Speaker 1: go through it. Ay, they have anxiety. I mean, never 868 00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:29,160 Speaker 1: mind now, like after being all that, but they the 869 00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:34,279 Speaker 1: doctor was saying, try the next time that he has 870 00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:37,399 Speaker 1: to leave. Remember you were telling him, and the doctor said, 871 00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:39,040 Speaker 1: I don't care if you, as the adult, go in 872 00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:41,239 Speaker 1: your car and cry. I don't care if you're lying 873 00:48:41,280 --> 00:48:45,680 Speaker 1: to your kid. Just say I'm excited to go to work. 874 00:48:45,760 --> 00:48:48,239 Speaker 1: I'm going to take pictures and send you you know, 875 00:48:48,400 --> 00:48:50,759 Speaker 1: from the airplane, and I love you and you're going 876 00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:53,040 Speaker 1: to have the best time and when I get back, 877 00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:58,239 Speaker 1: we'll do This totally changed the dialogue, and it was 878 00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:03,400 Speaker 1: unbelievable how quickly that affected him and made him be like, 879 00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:08,919 Speaker 1: oh okay, wait, you're okay. Like so anyways, I thought 880 00:49:08,920 --> 00:49:12,879 Speaker 1: that was kind of interesting, you know, way to look 881 00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:16,719 Speaker 1: at it because they really do feed off of us. Sometimes. 882 00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:19,480 Speaker 1: Some of the best you know, parent and podcasts that 883 00:49:19,520 --> 00:49:22,319 Speaker 1: I listen to, they you know, talk about that it's 884 00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:26,000 Speaker 1: the not the verbal, you know, it's the physical cues 885 00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:29,160 Speaker 1: that are being given away. And I think that's amazing 886 00:49:29,239 --> 00:49:34,600 Speaker 1: and you know, couldn't be more true. But like right now, 887 00:49:34,719 --> 00:49:37,680 Speaker 1: I think of we're not allowed in the school, right 888 00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,840 Speaker 1: so we have to drop off. Our third is like 889 00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:42,399 Speaker 1: the most independent, you know, eight going on eighteen. She's 890 00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:44,600 Speaker 1: like see you later. She's like peace. But I'm like, 891 00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:48,080 Speaker 1: imagine having you know, a kid that is doesn't want 892 00:49:48,080 --> 00:49:49,560 Speaker 1: to get out of the car or doesn't want to go. 893 00:49:49,600 --> 00:49:51,360 Speaker 1: I have a close friend right now, I'm not going 894 00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:53,360 Speaker 1: to name a name, but you know, her son is 895 00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,319 Speaker 1: going through that after being home, you know, through the 896 00:49:56,320 --> 00:50:00,680 Speaker 1: whole pandemic. At that age, they're never away and now 897 00:50:00,680 --> 00:50:02,799 Speaker 1: all of a sudden they're thrown back in, you know, 898 00:50:02,840 --> 00:50:05,480 Speaker 1: skipped a whole grade, going back to the school with 899 00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:09,120 Speaker 1: mask on. They're used to being with you, you know 900 00:50:09,120 --> 00:50:15,399 Speaker 1: what I mean. It's traumatized. 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You at least got to 955 00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:22,080 Speaker 1: watch some good TV and laugh a little bit watching 956 00:53:22,120 --> 00:53:30,680 Speaker 1: Home Economics. There's a lot of I think anxiety going 957 00:53:30,719 --> 00:53:34,719 Speaker 1: on that they don't even know, Like I mean, you know, 958 00:53:34,800 --> 00:53:37,919 Speaker 1: even just COVID. You know, we've really tried to play 959 00:53:37,960 --> 00:53:40,520 Speaker 1: that down with our kids. Not the severity of course, 960 00:53:40,560 --> 00:53:42,640 Speaker 1: and how you know this is a serious thing, but 961 00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:45,879 Speaker 1: just the fear because they hear things that the news 962 00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:47,960 Speaker 1: might be on or they catch wind of stuff. Like 963 00:53:49,640 --> 00:53:52,640 Speaker 1: I remember during that time when wild there was you know, 964 00:53:52,760 --> 00:53:57,000 Speaker 1: kind of insecurity. You got the flu, sick nos ebola, ebola. 965 00:53:57,080 --> 00:53:59,319 Speaker 1: This is way pre COVID. He was little, Yeah, scared 966 00:53:59,360 --> 00:54:00,759 Speaker 1: the shit out, but it was on the news and 967 00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:02,640 Speaker 1: it was a moment of like, ooh, this is a bola. 968 00:54:02,719 --> 00:54:05,359 Speaker 1: Thing is real. He got sick like a week later, 969 00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:07,520 Speaker 1: just home from school one day, like a normal thing, 970 00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:10,120 Speaker 1: and he was crying and I was like, what's the matter, buddy, Like, 971 00:54:10,239 --> 00:54:12,799 Speaker 1: you know, just your head hurt. And he's like, am 972 00:54:12,800 --> 00:54:14,840 Speaker 1: I going to get a bola and die? And he 973 00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:17,879 Speaker 1: was spiraling and I was like what and he goes, 974 00:54:17,920 --> 00:54:19,920 Speaker 1: I heard you guys talking about a bola. I was 975 00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:21,640 Speaker 1: on the news and it was on the news at 976 00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,960 Speaker 1: the time. Yeah. So anyways, again they soak everything up, 977 00:54:25,280 --> 00:54:27,399 Speaker 1: you know, note to self, like we're casually talking about 978 00:54:27,440 --> 00:54:30,120 Speaker 1: it. It It happened to be on the news for a minute. Nope, Yeah, 979 00:54:30,200 --> 00:54:33,440 Speaker 1: and everything is Those kids, they may they may make 980 00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:35,880 Speaker 1: you think like they're not listening, but there, you know, 981 00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:41,000 Speaker 1: especially Wilder, like his ears, Oh he's got howk eyes 982 00:54:41,080 --> 00:54:43,080 Speaker 1: and like I don't know what would be the ears, 983 00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:49,520 Speaker 1: the animal like owls, rabbit maybe, you know, because rabbits 984 00:54:49,520 --> 00:54:54,759 Speaker 1: have those big ears. Yeah. Anyways, Yeah, you know, I 985 00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:57,200 Speaker 1: think these we don't know what the repercussions of this 986 00:54:57,280 --> 00:54:59,040 Speaker 1: is all going to be for these kids, you know. 987 00:54:59,160 --> 00:55:05,000 Speaker 1: I mean it's it's wild and scary and sad. But 988 00:55:05,040 --> 00:55:08,359 Speaker 1: I think communication is so key, and you know, having 989 00:55:08,440 --> 00:55:12,120 Speaker 1: them talk about their fears and listening, you know, it's 990 00:55:12,160 --> 00:55:14,880 Speaker 1: another great thing. It's like as parents, and I do 991 00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:17,320 Speaker 1: this even as an adult, so I got to really 992 00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:20,799 Speaker 1: be careful of it. I just want to help or 993 00:55:20,840 --> 00:55:24,640 Speaker 1: fix or have a solution, and I want to you know, 994 00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:28,800 Speaker 1: give the information, but sometimes it's about just listening, letting 995 00:55:28,840 --> 00:55:31,560 Speaker 1: them talk through it and seeing if they can kind 996 00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:34,560 Speaker 1: of get to it, you know, on their own and 997 00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:38,000 Speaker 1: not solve it. Yeah, you know. And I think also 998 00:55:38,080 --> 00:55:41,040 Speaker 1: he was it was scared and it was fear. And 999 00:55:41,160 --> 00:55:44,319 Speaker 1: I remember as a kid, I was so scared of 1000 00:55:44,400 --> 00:55:48,560 Speaker 1: dogs because we literally behind our house in the backyard. 1001 00:55:48,800 --> 00:55:51,320 Speaker 1: Anybody from Twin Hills will remember there was a Kujo 1002 00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:54,239 Speaker 1: dog which was really just a big you know, same 1003 00:55:54,320 --> 00:55:56,359 Speaker 1: but art but it was like a little cut through 1004 00:55:56,400 --> 00:55:58,320 Speaker 1: that we would go through, and he had this huge 1005 00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:01,799 Speaker 1: bark and he was so big and scary. Anyways, and 1006 00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:05,040 Speaker 1: then the Landings, you know Bill Landing that you've played 1007 00:56:05,080 --> 00:56:07,800 Speaker 1: golf from a husband. They had a dog like a 1008 00:56:07,840 --> 00:56:11,319 Speaker 1: German shepherd or something once. Anyways, I was terrified. I 1009 00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:13,480 Speaker 1: climbed up the top of a jungle gym once in 1010 00:56:13,480 --> 00:56:16,719 Speaker 1: their backyard like a you know, swing set. The babysitter 1011 00:56:16,800 --> 00:56:18,239 Speaker 1: was like trying to get me down. I'm up on 1012 00:56:18,360 --> 00:56:21,280 Speaker 1: the top like so scared. But the dog was nuts 1013 00:56:21,320 --> 00:56:23,279 Speaker 1: for me because you probably thought I was playing or 1014 00:56:23,600 --> 00:56:27,719 Speaker 1: who knows, but I just remember parents would say to me, oh, 1015 00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:30,240 Speaker 1: you don't have to be scared, or don't be scared. 1016 00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:34,680 Speaker 1: And then psychologically someone said, don't say that, you know, 1017 00:56:34,719 --> 00:56:36,640 Speaker 1: to a kid, because in my mind, I'm like, I 1018 00:56:36,680 --> 00:56:39,319 Speaker 1: know I don't have to be, but I am. You know, 1019 00:56:39,400 --> 00:56:42,640 Speaker 1: it's not like a choice, like I'm actually scared. So 1020 00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:46,000 Speaker 1: there's ways to kind of, you know, verbalize things to 1021 00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:48,279 Speaker 1: kids where it's like I know you're scared, and I 1022 00:56:48,440 --> 00:56:51,280 Speaker 1: either I get it or you know, why are you scared? 1023 00:56:51,320 --> 00:56:53,239 Speaker 1: What are you afraid of? Or you know what I mean? 1024 00:56:53,320 --> 00:57:01,640 Speaker 1: Those little like Bodie with spiders, he's literally achnophobic. I know, 1025 00:57:01,760 --> 00:57:04,960 Speaker 1: it's like you I mean I wonder if that's like 1026 00:57:05,239 --> 00:57:11,680 Speaker 1: genetic learned. No, it's probably learned. But like I've been 1027 00:57:11,719 --> 00:57:14,600 Speaker 1: pretty good with spiders. I mean, we brought and owned 1028 00:57:14,760 --> 00:57:17,280 Speaker 1: a tarantula. For everybody out there that doesn't, I know, 1029 00:57:17,560 --> 00:57:19,400 Speaker 1: you didn't have much of a choice in that matter. 1030 00:57:21,000 --> 00:57:23,360 Speaker 1: That shit with his bare hands, and we took it 1031 00:57:23,400 --> 00:57:25,520 Speaker 1: home in the car. Said no. I could have said 1032 00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:27,400 Speaker 1: absolutely not. Then I could have let it go when 1033 00:57:27,400 --> 00:57:29,000 Speaker 1: we got home. I could have killed it. I mean 1034 00:57:29,040 --> 00:57:32,800 Speaker 1: I didn't. I cried when the thing died. Harry, Harry 1035 00:57:32,840 --> 00:57:38,600 Speaker 1: the tarantula. My own son captured a tarantula up in 1036 00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:41,880 Speaker 1: like Central cal Or wherever, and brought it home and 1037 00:57:41,920 --> 00:57:45,160 Speaker 1: wanted to keep it as a pet. And I was like, 1038 00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:50,360 Speaker 1: I don't want them to have this, you know, crazy fear, 1039 00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:53,640 Speaker 1: and oh look at me. So we have a snake. 1040 00:57:53,880 --> 00:57:55,880 Speaker 1: We have like a twelve foot snake sitting up in 1041 00:57:55,920 --> 00:57:59,880 Speaker 1: our house with ten years Cheato like Cheeto, Cheeto's gotta go, 1042 00:58:00,720 --> 00:58:03,280 Speaker 1: you know. So I do go against some of the 1043 00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:10,760 Speaker 1: things that you know, I don't want my kids to have. Yeah, 1044 00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:12,560 Speaker 1: it got me over in my fear a little bit. 1045 00:58:12,600 --> 00:58:15,400 Speaker 1: I mean, look, at the end of the day, we 1046 00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:18,360 Speaker 1: do live in California. There are black widows, there's brown recluse. 1047 00:58:18,520 --> 00:58:22,640 Speaker 1: Like that's scary to me, of course, And I don't 1048 00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:24,360 Speaker 1: like the idea that like, if a spider like crawled 1049 00:58:24,440 --> 00:58:26,400 Speaker 1: under my bed and I couldn't kill it, I'm not 1050 00:58:26,440 --> 00:58:29,160 Speaker 1: going to sleep well that night. Sorry, I'm actually not 1051 00:58:29,160 --> 00:58:31,760 Speaker 1: even going to sleep in that room. But I will 1052 00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:36,480 Speaker 1: kill spiders now. I take them outside. Well, don't you 1053 00:58:36,520 --> 00:58:40,880 Speaker 1: remember your first apartment at Cameras, There was like like 1054 00:58:40,920 --> 00:58:43,840 Speaker 1: a gate and around the gate was all these flowers 1055 00:58:43,840 --> 00:58:46,120 Speaker 1: and bushes. So every night I would come over or 1056 00:58:46,160 --> 00:58:49,320 Speaker 1: whatever time, there was like these spider webs, remember, And 1057 00:58:49,360 --> 00:58:51,360 Speaker 1: I used to always have you come down and clear 1058 00:58:51,400 --> 00:58:53,600 Speaker 1: the webs for me because I didn't want to walk 1059 00:58:53,640 --> 00:58:57,160 Speaker 1: through them. I first started dating, but you would tell me. 1060 00:58:57,200 --> 00:58:59,920 Speaker 1: You were like, if I kill it, because I'd be like, 1061 00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:01,960 Speaker 1: just kill it, and you were like, but what if 1062 00:59:02,000 --> 00:59:04,840 Speaker 1: it's like a teenager, like a kid that's like just 1063 00:59:04,880 --> 00:59:07,320 Speaker 1: out living on his own for the first time and 1064 00:59:07,400 --> 00:59:09,880 Speaker 1: the parents come to visit and he's dead. Yeah, And 1065 00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:14,040 Speaker 1: I was like, I'd like to create a whole personalized story. Yeah, 1066 00:59:14,080 --> 00:59:15,680 Speaker 1: You're like, or what if like the kids are out 1067 00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:18,200 Speaker 1: and I kill the mom and the baby spiders come home. Yeah, 1068 00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:21,040 Speaker 1: it's Mother's Day, and like they're coming home with like 1069 00:59:21,080 --> 00:59:24,200 Speaker 1: a present for mom and now she's dead. And I 1070 00:59:24,280 --> 00:59:27,760 Speaker 1: was like, kill it he were No, I wasn't. I 1071 00:59:27,800 --> 00:59:31,080 Speaker 1: was kind of I felt for it. And I think 1072 00:59:31,120 --> 00:59:36,720 Speaker 1: about that now. Yeah, remember when you called me to 1073 00:59:36,720 --> 00:59:40,040 Speaker 1: your apartment. Oh my god, yes, you were a jackiet 1074 00:59:40,000 --> 00:59:44,280 Speaker 1: I think so. Yeah, Megan, maybe too, yeah, maybe just 1075 00:59:44,360 --> 00:59:48,160 Speaker 1: fully freaked out. There's a fucking huge boy. Well, it 1076 00:59:48,200 --> 00:59:51,320 Speaker 1: looks like it was like a tranche huge. So I'll 1077 00:59:51,320 --> 00:59:53,760 Speaker 1: give you a little visual that my room had the 1078 00:59:53,840 --> 00:59:56,440 Speaker 1: light off in my bedroom, but the hallway light was 1079 00:59:56,480 --> 00:59:59,840 Speaker 1: shining in shadowed on the edge of like my bed, 1080 01:00:00,760 --> 01:00:03,240 Speaker 1: and as I was walking in, perched up on the 1081 01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:07,160 Speaker 1: side of like my bed spread like kind of dangling off, 1082 01:00:07,200 --> 01:00:10,640 Speaker 1: it was a tarantula, like a huge spider. And my 1083 01:00:10,680 --> 01:00:12,280 Speaker 1: friends all saw it. We all saw it. We were 1084 01:00:12,320 --> 01:00:15,840 Speaker 1: all panicked. I lived like ten minutes away, and we 1085 01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:18,400 Speaker 1: we got we were just dating, and I was like 1086 01:00:18,760 --> 01:00:21,040 Speaker 1: the core. I mean, it was like a hysterics and 1087 01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:23,400 Speaker 1: I was like, oh Jesus, okay, you know, I go 1088 01:00:23,480 --> 01:00:26,400 Speaker 1: over there and I walk into an apartment and I 1089 01:00:26,480 --> 01:00:31,640 Speaker 1: look and it's this huge. It's huge. I'm like, oh shit, 1090 01:00:31,960 --> 01:00:36,520 Speaker 1: I mean, that thing's big. And I get closer to it, 1091 01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:43,040 Speaker 1: closer to it. And as I get really close, because 1092 01:00:43,040 --> 01:00:47,440 Speaker 1: it looked real, I noticed that it's actually like a 1093 01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:53,920 Speaker 1: massive piece of yarn that is just stuck to the bed, 1094 01:00:54,240 --> 01:00:58,080 Speaker 1: my knitting knitting yarn. And I was like, oh my god. 1095 01:00:58,120 --> 01:01:00,840 Speaker 1: And I didn't say anything. And I get closer and 1096 01:01:00,840 --> 01:01:03,520 Speaker 1: and I make a sound and I grab it and 1097 01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:06,960 Speaker 1: put it in my mouth and start chewing it really hard. 1098 01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:09,160 Speaker 1: And you and jack I think it was Jackie, I 1099 01:01:09,160 --> 01:01:15,560 Speaker 1: think so are fucking freaking out, like it was. It 1100 01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:18,720 Speaker 1: was scary. And then my mind I thought, if that 1101 01:01:18,840 --> 01:01:23,280 Speaker 1: thing disappears into my bedroom, I am not ever going 1102 01:01:23,280 --> 01:01:25,040 Speaker 1: in the room again until it's found. And it's going 1103 01:01:25,080 --> 01:01:26,960 Speaker 1: to be in a dark corner, hiding up in something. 1104 01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:29,600 Speaker 1: And it was like all over, Well, you're scared of 1105 01:01:30,080 --> 01:01:34,880 Speaker 1: spiders going into your vagina? Yeah, I think most women are. 1106 01:01:38,360 --> 01:01:40,880 Speaker 1: I mean, maybe I'm not right, but like, you don't 1107 01:01:40,880 --> 01:01:43,600 Speaker 1: sleep naked in no way, right, you don't sleep naked 1108 01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:47,280 Speaker 1: because of that like a bug look with you, like 1109 01:01:47,320 --> 01:01:49,920 Speaker 1: maybe on a like you know, vacation somewhere. And I'm 1110 01:01:49,920 --> 01:01:52,160 Speaker 1: like not thinking about it, but yes, the idea of 1111 01:01:52,240 --> 01:01:55,720 Speaker 1: that is just way too Like, you know, I don't 1112 01:01:55,720 --> 01:01:58,640 Speaker 1: know if I saw a documentary somewhere like spider going 1113 01:01:58,880 --> 01:02:01,439 Speaker 1: a vagint No, no, but that like they go into 1114 01:02:01,440 --> 01:02:03,600 Speaker 1: your mouth in your lifetime or they bite you at 1115 01:02:03,680 --> 01:02:05,760 Speaker 1: night or there. You know, it's just a thing, and 1116 01:02:05,800 --> 01:02:09,680 Speaker 1: I'm kind of like, I don't want a spider bite 1117 01:02:09,840 --> 01:02:15,680 Speaker 1: or one going inside of my vagina. You said, why 1118 01:02:15,680 --> 01:02:18,520 Speaker 1: did you pause so long before? I was going to 1119 01:02:18,560 --> 01:02:20,680 Speaker 1: say something else? And then I changed my mind. What 1120 01:02:20,720 --> 01:02:24,320 Speaker 1: were you going to say? And there's two areas down 1121 01:02:24,320 --> 01:02:29,520 Speaker 1: there that it could go into your butthole. I just imagine, 1122 01:02:29,560 --> 01:02:31,360 Speaker 1: like you scratch your arm and so you think it's 1123 01:02:31,360 --> 01:02:32,960 Speaker 1: a hair and then you look and it's a spider. 1124 01:02:33,520 --> 01:02:35,600 Speaker 1: I mean, Angie had one in her the back of 1125 01:02:35,640 --> 01:02:37,480 Speaker 1: her hair one. I mean, you know, you have these 1126 01:02:37,520 --> 01:02:41,520 Speaker 1: crazy stories. I do not want to, Like, if you 1127 01:02:41,840 --> 01:02:46,160 Speaker 1: woke up and a spider crawl out vagina, would you 1128 01:02:46,200 --> 01:02:48,960 Speaker 1: pass out? You think, oh, one hundred percent, you'd have 1129 01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:51,560 Speaker 1: to dig me to the hospital. Like what if it 1130 01:02:51,640 --> 01:02:53,360 Speaker 1: laid eggs in there? And then baby spiders are going 1131 01:02:53,440 --> 01:02:58,320 Speaker 1: to come out later. Yeah, it's a whole thing. It's 1132 01:02:58,400 --> 01:03:05,960 Speaker 1: not no, sorry, but I'm better now, better now, I 1133 01:03:05,960 --> 01:03:12,480 Speaker 1: think you know, hungry. Okay, Well this was like all 1134 01:03:12,520 --> 01:03:14,680 Speaker 1: over the place, but I hope it was good. I 1135 01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:17,240 Speaker 1: think next time we have more of a like focused, like, 1136 01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,760 Speaker 1: let's have a section on what we want to talk 1137 01:03:19,760 --> 01:03:21,960 Speaker 1: about with kids and parenting, because I think that when 1138 01:03:22,000 --> 01:03:24,840 Speaker 1: we get because I do want to do a podcast 1139 01:03:24,880 --> 01:03:28,320 Speaker 1: with you like our own generally, I think it'll be fun. 1140 01:03:28,480 --> 01:03:30,600 Speaker 1: But I think at that point we can structure a 1141 01:03:30,640 --> 01:03:33,640 Speaker 1: little bit more. But I like the free flow vibe 1142 01:03:34,360 --> 01:03:36,240 Speaker 1: I know you do. And then that's where we have 1143 01:03:36,240 --> 01:03:38,200 Speaker 1: to meet in the middle because I like structured and 1144 01:03:38,240 --> 01:03:40,200 Speaker 1: a little more organized, and then I know where I'm 1145 01:03:40,280 --> 01:03:43,960 Speaker 1: For those of you liking, we need you to email 1146 01:03:44,960 --> 01:03:49,000 Speaker 1: at sibling I think sibling submissions at gmail dot com. 1147 01:03:49,000 --> 01:03:54,160 Speaker 1: I think that's it. And I want to know whether 1148 01:03:54,200 --> 01:03:57,640 Speaker 1: you like the structured or the unstructured or meeting in 1149 01:03:57,680 --> 01:04:02,360 Speaker 1: the middle, because that's that's what I'm saying. Yeah, I guess, yeah, 1150 01:04:02,600 --> 01:04:05,040 Speaker 1: Well we could structure it and then it will take 1151 01:04:05,120 --> 01:04:08,080 Speaker 1: left and right turns, like this episode is going to 1152 01:04:08,080 --> 01:04:11,480 Speaker 1: be about parenting and sort of sex and you're kids 1153 01:04:11,520 --> 01:04:14,640 Speaker 1: and dealing with all right, right, and then through all 1154 01:04:14,720 --> 01:04:20,280 Speaker 1: of a sudden, Oh, we're talking about spiders in your butthole? Right? Great? 1155 01:04:23,240 --> 01:04:25,120 Speaker 1: Remember that place in Italy that we stayed that I 1156 01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:28,760 Speaker 1: thought was like covered in spiders that like old weird cat. 1157 01:04:28,920 --> 01:04:31,560 Speaker 1: So that was bad. Well it goes back to like 1158 01:04:31,600 --> 01:04:34,040 Speaker 1: my childhood. Anybody that knows me from like girl scouts, 1159 01:04:34,080 --> 01:04:36,800 Speaker 1: like sleeping in a tent. I mean, you know, I 1160 01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:39,600 Speaker 1: don't know. I was just a scaredy cat across the board. 1161 01:04:39,800 --> 01:04:42,040 Speaker 1: And I don't want my kids to be like total 1162 01:04:42,080 --> 01:04:44,600 Speaker 1: scaredy cat pussy is. So I'm trying they won't be. 1163 01:04:44,680 --> 01:04:49,040 Speaker 1: We gotta like, well, that's because of you. I'm scared 1164 01:04:50,120 --> 01:04:58,480 Speaker 1: of spiders. No, no, no, no, what are you scared of? Uh? 1165 01:04:58,760 --> 01:05:01,720 Speaker 1: Well you have to be, yeah, but I'm so scared 1166 01:05:01,760 --> 01:05:08,280 Speaker 1: that it makes you brave. I have the choice, exactly exactly. Also, 1167 01:05:08,360 --> 01:05:11,080 Speaker 1: I'm not scared of bugs, and I'm not scared of animals. 1168 01:05:11,120 --> 01:05:13,200 Speaker 1: I'm not scared of that kind of stuff. Yeah, mountain 1169 01:05:13,240 --> 01:05:15,880 Speaker 1: lions for me, and bears living in Colorado, that was 1170 01:05:16,080 --> 01:05:18,479 Speaker 1: that was a big I'm not scared. I'm not scared 1171 01:05:18,520 --> 01:05:22,160 Speaker 1: of that stuff like mountain lions for me, that's a 1172 01:05:22,160 --> 01:05:25,400 Speaker 1: big one. Yeah, I'm just Yeah, it doesn't bother me 1173 01:05:26,520 --> 01:05:29,880 Speaker 1: the bears now that we're camping, I'm scared. I just 1174 01:05:30,840 --> 01:05:34,720 Speaker 1: scared of screwing up my kids. I don't know, scared 1175 01:05:34,760 --> 01:05:45,320 Speaker 1: of I'm not loving me anymore. My fear is more emotional, right, 1176 01:05:46,360 --> 01:05:48,600 Speaker 1: Scared of you not wanting to make love to me anymore? 1177 01:05:48,920 --> 01:05:56,960 Speaker 1: Oh what really? Yeah? Yeah, but you're like hot, handsome dad. Yeah, 1178 01:05:57,000 --> 01:05:59,760 Speaker 1: but you might be over it a little mm hmmm 1179 01:06:00,320 --> 01:06:04,680 Speaker 1: maybe mm hmm. We can talk about that on another show. Well, 1180 01:06:04,720 --> 01:06:09,000 Speaker 1: I think, thank yeah, exactly, your insecurities. Okay, I'll save 1181 01:06:09,000 --> 01:06:10,920 Speaker 1: it because I was going to go into all another tangents. 1182 01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:15,560 Speaker 1: We'll save it, Yes, save it, okay, saving yeah, because 1183 01:06:15,640 --> 01:06:18,240 Speaker 1: we need to do another hour next week. Okay, great, 1184 01:06:19,400 --> 01:06:22,840 Speaker 1: all right, I'm hungry. I love you. I love you 1185 01:06:23,520 --> 01:06:30,000 Speaker 1: all right, poop, still attracted to you? Prove it? Okay? 1186 01:06:30,520 --> 01:06:36,360 Speaker 1: All right? By Sibling Revelry is executive produced by Kate 1187 01:06:36,440 --> 01:06:40,040 Speaker 1: Hudson and Oliver Hudson. Producer is Alison. President, editor is 1188 01:06:40,200 --> 01:06:45,200 Speaker 1: Josh Wendish. Music by Mark Hudson aka Uncle Mark. If 1189 01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:47,360 Speaker 1: you want to show us some love, rate the show 1190 01:06:47,640 --> 01:06:49,760 Speaker 1: and leave us a review. This show is powered by 1191 01:06:49,800 --> 01:06:50,440 Speaker 1: simple Cast