Speaker 1: Welcome to your brand new Second Date podcast. It's Brooke and.
Speaker 2: Jeffrey in the morning, and I gotta say I think
Speaker 2: today's Second Date calls for a poll.
Speaker 1: We haven't done a pole mile of course. I think
Speaker 1: the poll only works on Spotify to actually click it. Yeah, done.
Speaker 2: But you can just put in your answer wherever else
Speaker 2: you're listening. That's on the comments, whether it's on YouTube
Speaker 2: or whatever platform you're on, or you can text it
Speaker 2: into the number seven eight five nine two. If your
Speaker 2: date has something on their face, do you say something
Speaker 2: or do you keep it to yourself?
Speaker 3: It depends, honestly, I'd probably wipe it off. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: with what with a napkin?
Speaker 2: Oh sorry, I'm all excited, all right, let us know,
Speaker 2: let us know, and you'll understand why that question here
Speaker 2: in just a second.
Speaker 1: But first comments from our lovely Lovely listeners.
Speaker 2: Alexis Killer Sheep said, I've been listening since February and
Speaker 2: finally caught up with all the episodes in the Second
Speaker 2: Date Update podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm upgrading to the full show now.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, good. I was gonna say, oh no, you
Speaker 3: ran out of stop to listen to.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's the thing that people don't understand who
Speaker 1: love this podcast is. We actually do an.
Speaker 2: Hour long show every day e stink and day we
Speaker 2: do a brand new show. So if you want the
Speaker 2: full show, you can go over to main our main
Speaker 2: feed podcast just look up Brooke and Jefferys that's right there.
Speaker 1: Or you can click more like this and I think
Speaker 1: it's the first option.
Speaker 2: That's yeah, that's true too. All right, let's get this
Speaker 2: second date started.
Speaker 3: Yeah, second date up date. Brooke, did you know the
Speaker 3: first time that you met your husband Michael that something
Speaker 3: was special? Not saying that you knew like you were
Speaker 3: going to get married in the first fifteen seconds of
Speaker 3: talking to him, but was there anything that happened with
Speaker 3: you instantly that lets you know, whoa, there's something real,
Speaker 3: like something actually special going on.
Speaker 2: No, I just felt so good around him, and I
Speaker 2: was so excited about him.
Speaker 3: Okay, you're drunk, so that's probably.
Speaker 2: I mean, I did have like five glasses of wine
Speaker 2: and make an off color ut I joke.
Speaker 3: Okay, well yeah, ey jokes and.
Speaker 1: He still likes me.
Speaker 3: Okay, Pet explains it. I mean, I remember the first
Speaker 3: time that I met Jose and I noticed his fly
Speaker 3: was down and I thought ooh special.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he didn't tell me Xyz though.
Speaker 3: No I enjoyed it.
Speaker 1: He asked you to put it down further.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, we don't talk about this all
Speaker 3: the time, about that first ten to fifteen seconds when
Speaker 3: you meet your date and something happens inside. That's what
Speaker 3: you knows.
Speaker 4: That's real.
Speaker 3: Apparently that happened to one of our listeners gram recently,
Speaker 3: at least that's what his email said, and we should
Speaker 3: learn a little bit more about it. Graham, Welcome to
Speaker 3: the show man.
Speaker 4: Hey guys, thanks for taking my call.
Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear about this chance meeting. Maybe
Speaker 1: it wasn't chance meeting. Whatever the meeting was, it sounds great.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So, without getting overly descriptive, how did your body
Speaker 3: let you know that this was special?
Speaker 4: Well, she didn't ever fly open. I can tell you that.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, dang it.
Speaker 3: So what's her name, by the way, and how did
Speaker 3: you meet her?
Speaker 4: Her name is Aura, Aura.
Speaker 1: How did you meet her?
Speaker 4: We met on one of those dating apps and we
Speaker 4: decided to meet at a wine bar.
Speaker 2: All right, So going into meeting her at the wine bar,
Speaker 2: were you expecting something special?
Speaker 4: Well, you know how you always have your hopes up.
Speaker 4: But I knew when I walked in that I was
Speaker 4: going to be in so much trouble. Why immediately recognized
Speaker 4: me and started from across the room waving both of
Speaker 4: her hands over her head like a total door.
Speaker 3: Just one of those people like me. She's got no shame.
Speaker 1: And you loved that.
Speaker 4: Right, Oh my god. She was just so like effort lived, cute, well, free.
Speaker 3: Spirit over there.
Speaker 1: Her name's Aura, it comes you know. That's adorable. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And it sounds like she was excited to see you.
Speaker 4: It was one of those like initial meetings where in
Speaker 4: the first five seconds I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 4: this is just like a dream.
Speaker 3: That must be a lot to process, right when you're
Speaker 3: first getting to know somebody. So did the feeling where
Speaker 3: often just getting to like a normal date after that.
Speaker 4: I mean, I wouldn't say it wore off or it
Speaker 4: was normal. It was just I mean there was a
Speaker 4: jazz trio playing fine and we were both into jazz music,
Speaker 4: and she was like, oh, let's make up names for
Speaker 4: the guys, and so you have Sammy Fly guitar playing
Speaker 4: and Dennis the drummer, yeahnny, all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 4: We were just cracking each other up the whole time.
Speaker 3: You guys were in your own world right exactly.
Speaker 2: And they're already making almost inside jokes with each other,
Speaker 2: you know, like just a fun, fun thing.
Speaker 3: Now anytime any song goes on the radio, you can
Speaker 3: be like, oh yeah, this is my favorite drummer, Yeah
Speaker 3: Lington drummers.
Speaker 1: I know whatever.
Speaker 3: Well, clearly the vibes are there, so keep taking us
Speaker 3: through how the rest of the date goes.
Speaker 4: It just kept getting better. I mean, our sense of
Speaker 4: like humor was just so like simpatico, I guess to
Speaker 4: that word. Like at one point she had like some
Speaker 4: lipstick on her front teeth. Huh, So I started like
Speaker 4: signaling and rubbing on my own front teeth.
Speaker 1: Good, I'm glad you told her.
Speaker 4: And she just looks at me. She goes, what do
Speaker 4: you have in a stroke on your teeth? Exactly? I
Speaker 4: was just laughing so much and then fun, Oh yeah
Speaker 4: it was it went so well, oh my god, this sounds.
Speaker 1: Like it Why are you calling us for help? Then, like,
Speaker 1: I don't get it. How could this have ended poorly?
Speaker 4: Well, that's the thing, it didn't really end poorly. When
Speaker 4: we said goodbye, she just came up to me and
Speaker 4: gave me like a really long, tight hug.
Speaker 1: Oh that's nice.
Speaker 4: Some of those are nice exactly, and she says, we
Speaker 4: have to definitely do this again.
Speaker 3: Oh that's nice.
Speaker 4: Sincere, I texted her twice, one time to see if
Speaker 4: she wanted to go out for coffee, the second time
Speaker 4: to see if she wanted to go to a trivia night,
Speaker 4: because I think she'd be great at that.
Speaker 3: Wait, how long did you wait before you texted her?
Speaker 3: Was this like thirty minutes after the date or was
Speaker 3: this a couple of days?
Speaker 4: I waited two days.
Speaker 1: I think that's too long too.
Speaker 2: I think when you have a connection like that with
Speaker 2: someone that you just go with it.
Speaker 1: You just follow You got to play the game of waiting. Yeah, day,
Speaker 1: that's what blew it that it took too long.
Speaker 3: Have you read that on a certain point, you just
Speaker 3: got to grab your luggage and move in with her.
Speaker 3: It sounds like so connected.
Speaker 1: Have you not heard from her at all?
Speaker 4: Well, that's the thing is like when I was texting her,
Speaker 4: she did reply, but both times she said that she
Speaker 4: was busy, And the worst part was like she didn't
Speaker 4: offer an alternative time or date or anything like that.
Speaker 4: It was like, well, I'm busy. I can't.
Speaker 1: I mean, sometimes these free spirits, they really suck at.
Speaker 3: Text outa you know, I mean, Alexis, if you wanted
Speaker 3: to see a guy, would you tell him like, I'm
Speaker 3: just busy, or you offer up a little bit more.
Speaker 1: I would offer something else. I'd probably over offer. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I'd probably mentioned all the times I'm free.
Speaker 2: How many times you do apologize for being busy A lot?
Speaker 3: It is odd that she leaves it at just I'm
Speaker 3: busy and no explanation and no other follow up to
Speaker 3: it exactly. That could feel like that she's trying to
Speaker 3: brush you off. I understand it.
Speaker 1: You guys had such a thing happening.
Speaker 2: It's just hard to imagine she wasn't right there with
Speaker 2: you feeling the exact same thing.
Speaker 3: Well, maybe it was the fact that you made her
Speaker 3: pay for the dinner that night you made I'm just
Speaker 3: assuming you.
Speaker 4: No, no, no, I am a proper gentleman. I paid
Speaker 4: for everything. Okay, I just need I need you guys
Speaker 4: to find out for me, how the hell did I
Speaker 4: blow this.
Speaker 1: We're gonna find for you. How do keep it going?
Speaker 1: Because I've got faith in this one.
Speaker 3: Because we don't even know that you blew it. It could
Speaker 3: be something totally unrelated.
Speaker 1: I am so excited to get her on the phone.
Speaker 3: Let's find out. We're gonna come back call Aura and
Speaker 3: try and get you your second date update coming up
Speaker 3: right after this. Okay, all right, man, hold on second
Speaker 3: date update whenever. I'm stuck on holds with customer service
Speaker 3: for four straight hours and the automated message keeps replaying
Speaker 3: over and over saying we're busy right now, but don't
Speaker 3: go anywhere. Your call's very important to us. We're just busy. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I believe them. Oh you do they really really care? Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm not understaffed.
Speaker 1: Yeah, not a break somewhere.
Speaker 3: But the thing is, if you're on the other end
Speaker 3: of a potential relationship with somebody you really like and
Speaker 3: you get too sorry, I'm just busy right now in
Speaker 3: a rowse, it's hard not to be a little bit
Speaker 3: skeptical and feel like you're being blown off.
Speaker 2: Especially when they don't say, hey, press number nine for
Speaker 2: a different day to date me up exactly.
Speaker 3: And that's where our listener Graham is. After a really
Speaker 3: good date at a jazz bar with a girl named Aura.
Speaker 3: He has turned to us because those two busys just
Speaker 3: aren't equally a second meetup, and they're not.
Speaker 2: Equaling the vibe that they had going when they were
Speaker 2: hanging out.
Speaker 5: It just sounds so I can't believe we haven't said
Speaker 5: it sooner, but negative our points for her?
Speaker 3: Yeah, Graham, I mean before we call her here, how
Speaker 3: you feeling.
Speaker 4: I'm feeling a little nervous, to be honest, But how's
Speaker 4: your Aura?
Speaker 1: I mean, I get it, I'm feeling nervous for you.
Speaker 2: I mean, you just sound so excited, and I want
Speaker 2: this to happen for you.
Speaker 1: I think we all do.
Speaker 3: Everything sounded so good. I don't want to put this
Speaker 3: out there, but it has to be shocking. Like whatever
Speaker 3: the excuse is, you're not gonna see like, oh wow,
Speaker 3: I didn't think of that. There's nothing that has gone wrong.
Speaker 3: We can change that right now. Let let's see if
Speaker 3: something went wrong. I'm going to dial her number right now.
Speaker 3: Hopefully she picks up the phone. Here we go. Hello, Hey,
Speaker 3: is this Aura? Yes, this is a we're a radio show.
Speaker 3: We're called Brook and Jeffrey in the morning show. Thanks
Speaker 3: for being on with us.
Speaker 6: Uh okay, Hi, I didn't I don't think I signed
Speaker 6: up for anything.
Speaker 4: I don't.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you didn't know, you didn't, but one of our
Speaker 3: listeners kind of signed you up for something called a
Speaker 3: second Date Update. Okay, So if you're not familiar with that,
Speaker 3: it's a segment that we do on our show where
Speaker 3: we try to help people who've gone out with somebody
Speaker 3: one time but they're not getting that second meetup and
Speaker 3: they're not sure why. We can call and try to
Speaker 3: figure out if there's a reason for it. Yeah, does
Speaker 3: that make sense?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I guess.
Speaker 1: We know you're really busy, so we won't keep it.
Speaker 3: That's what we've heard. We're really good at these. By
Speaker 3: the way, we'll be efficient.
Speaker 4: Okay, we'll get through this.
Speaker 3: Because we're calling about a guy that you went out
Speaker 3: with recently named Graham.
Speaker 6: I'm sorry, I'm like super confused, Like what is this
Speaker 6: great question?
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, no, it's the thing is, we spoke to
Speaker 3: Graham about your date, and we're trying to figure out
Speaker 3: if there's a reason that the two of you haven't
Speaker 3: gone out again, because you keep saying to him that
Speaker 3: you're busy.
Speaker 1: But not offering any solutions on wind to meet up.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, I like I already texted him, Like
Speaker 5: I said, I was busy during the times he wanted
Speaker 5: to hang out.
Speaker 3: I think in his mind, when you say I'm busy,
Speaker 3: that's just like it can be a word that people
Speaker 3: use to brush somebody off if you're not actually wanting
Speaker 3: to see them, but you don't want to come off
Speaker 3: as being rude.
Speaker 6: Like I meant what I said, I'm just really busy.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, but there's no way I mean, like, I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: we're all really busy. But like when you meet somebody
Speaker 2: that you feel like you have this crazy connection with,
Speaker 2: you'll make time for them.
Speaker 4: Yep.
Speaker 6: But I'm not like canceling my plans, Like I know
Speaker 6: we're not we're.
Speaker 3: Not asking you to do that. But he just asked
Speaker 3: us to call because it was unclear to him if
Speaker 3: you actually wanted to meet up.
Speaker 5: But it's what's unclear.
Speaker 6: I'm saying, Okay, but I am busy, uncle.
Speaker 2: If you like, I'm honestly still unclear whether you actually
Speaker 2: like him or not.
Speaker 5: I like him, but like I don't understand why, like
Speaker 5: he needs a third party interjecting. I said that I'm free.
Speaker 5: I'm just busy during the times he.
Speaker 3: Mentioned gotcha, I hear you, and I don't want to
Speaker 3: be the third party interjecting whatsoever. In fact, it's just
Speaker 3: like weird. Well, no, listen, Graham is actually the one
Speaker 3: I want you to talk to. And it's perfect because
Speaker 3: he's right here on the other line listening, waiting to jump.
Speaker 4: In or what.
Speaker 6: I'm so confused, like what is happening? What's like? What's
Speaker 6: the deal with these like jobbers you hire to like
Speaker 6: grow me about us?
Speaker 3: Job said job jobbers?
Speaker 6: I called you jobbers, like I don't know what you
Speaker 6: guys like we are?
Speaker 1: I okay, you.
Speaker 3: Talk to her?
Speaker 4: Yeah I didn't. I didn't hire them. It's just a
Speaker 4: radio show, and they, you know, help people get in
Speaker 4: touch if they're having trouble getting together.
Speaker 5: So yeah, but like I told you, I was busy
Speaker 5: a couple of times, Like don't you think it's a
Speaker 5: little extreme to like go in a radio station? And
Speaker 5: who honestly, whoever that guy was I've been talking to,
Speaker 5: like did not seem prepared at all.
Speaker 6: I don't know what I was talking about. And he
Speaker 6: like trying to nail down a gate for you about Jeff.
Speaker 1: That's fine. Sometimes people need a common enemy to come together.
Speaker 3: Honestly, I'm with her. I wasn't doing it. That was
Speaker 3: pretty crap. I get myself a.
Speaker 2: D or can't you think of this as like a
Speaker 2: kind of a romantic gesture, like he really.
Speaker 1: Wants to see you and he went to all this effort.
Speaker 6: No, it's super weird chemistry.
Speaker 3: I feel like you're angry.
Speaker 1: Does this feel like the same person you went out
Speaker 1: with Graham?
Speaker 4: Well maybe not a little bit, but you guys have
Speaker 4: been kind of grilling. Are pretty hard hard.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we can take the fall.
Speaker 4: Yeah, no, no, no, that's okay. I mean your intentions
Speaker 4: are great, and that's fine.
Speaker 3: I did have some bad intentions when I dialed. I
Speaker 3: brought some negative energy into this and that's what fat
Speaker 3: that's right. You're so guilty and you shouldn't.
Speaker 1: Be, Laura.
Speaker 2: Is there is there anything we can do to come
Speaker 2: back from putting you out or making you feel weird?
Speaker 1: Like you keep saying?
Speaker 7: You can stop asking me questions and he can just
Speaker 7: ask me out.
Speaker 6: How about that?
Speaker 1: Okay?
Speaker 4: Because I think that's perfect. That's perfect. I'd love to
Speaker 4: hang out. And how about this weekend? Are you free
Speaker 4: like on Friday?
Speaker 6: I'm busy Friday?
Speaker 1: Okay, keep going, Well, we'll have How about Saturday?
Speaker 7: Then I've got something that day, but like you should,
Speaker 7: you probably need to notice.
Speaker 6: But I'm in like two other situationships.
Speaker 1: Oh that's why you're okay.
Speaker 4: Now you know why she's so busy.
Speaker 1: Oh, Graham, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: Is that okay with you?
Speaker 4: Graham? Or let me ask you. You said you're already
Speaker 4: in two situationships? So really, what does that mean?
Speaker 6: It means a lot of fun.
Speaker 4: Do you even have time for me then?
Speaker 6: Or what I'm free Sunday afternoon? Like I can squeeze
Speaker 6: you in.
Speaker 4: I'm not really sure if I want to be squeezed
Speaker 4: in between two other dudes.
Speaker 6: Beggars can't be choosers here, Like you're the one who's
Speaker 6: lead to the party, but it's still a party.
Speaker 3: She's clearly not rejecting you, but you're gonna.
Speaker 1: But she's offering you not much.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm single, Like I don't have to like.
Speaker 4: Kind of you?
Speaker 1: You're kind of single.
Speaker 3: I think we're all jealous of you are if anything.
Speaker 2: So, I think, Graham, I don't know, Graham, I feel
Speaker 2: like you deserve more than this.
Speaker 4: I don't know. Look, guys, I think I should just
Speaker 4: go with my gut and say you only live once.
Speaker 4: And let's do it.
Speaker 3: So you're over to a possible third situationship with Aura.
Speaker 4: Well, I mean, if the third situationship goes so well,
Speaker 4: maybe they'll just turn into a single situationship.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's really optimistic for yourself.
Speaker 7: I think that's the point of like dating, Like you're
Speaker 7: supposed to try things and see what sticks.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's true.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well great, Now we're running out of time here.
Speaker 3: So I'm just curious though, Aura, if he does go
Speaker 3: through with this, does that put him like in the
Speaker 3: third seat, like the last place guy, or does he
Speaker 3: need to do a trial run? And does he have
Speaker 3: to meet the other guys?
Speaker 1: Why would they meet the other I.
Speaker 3: Don't know how.
Speaker 6: That's so weird.
Speaker 7: No, Okay, if it works out, it works out, and
Speaker 7: if it doesn't, we had fun.
Speaker 3: Okay, great. I just want to be clear that we're
Speaker 3: setting our guy up for success here. So we would
Speaker 3: like to offer to send you guys out on a
Speaker 3: date and we would pay for it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I'm down, thank you.
Speaker 1: Not the grand romantic eddie I was b but realistic.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, brooking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 3: Oh was that like the ickyest?
Speaker 4: Yes?
Speaker 3: That we've ever gotten to a second date ever, not
Speaker 3: where I.
Speaker 1: Wanted things to end, I'll tell you that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but at least we got an answer to why
Speaker 3: she was busy.
Speaker 2: And I guess it's clear to Graham what he's walking
Speaker 2: into right like, there's no mystery here anymore.
Speaker 3: I don't know if it is really clear, because we
Speaker 3: never really asked whether the like situationships know about each
Speaker 3: other or how serious they really were with anything.
Speaker 1: She seems pretty blunt, Jeffy, and she.
Speaker 3: Seems like she enjoyed. Is it for sure? It's the
Speaker 3: one thing that made her smile during that entire call
Speaker 3: and get like.
Speaker 1: A weird sexy voice thing.
Speaker 3: How can you not when you're thinking about your harem
Speaker 3: of guys waiting for you. But I just have a
Speaker 3: feeling our boy Graham is going to be happy settling
Speaker 3: for Sunday afternoon hangouts.
Speaker 1: Well, he's Sunday boy. Now, he's a posit.
Speaker 3: It might end in a four way marriage if it
Speaker 3: goes well enough. Sweet, so good for you, Graham. Keep
Speaker 3: us updated. But if you want help with your dating life,
Speaker 3: you can always email the show. We'll call that person
Speaker 3: who isn't calling you back and go check out all
Speaker 3: of our second dates wherever you get your podcasts at
Speaker 3: Brook and Jeffrey