WEBVTT - Second Date Update: The First Five Seconds 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:02.680 Welcome to your brand new Second Date podcast. It's Brooke and. 0:00:02.680 --> 0:00:04.720 Jeffrey in the morning, and I gotta say I think 0:00:04.760 --> 0:00:06.600 today's Second Date calls for a poll. 0:00:07.040 --> 0:00:09.959 We haven't done a pole mile of course. I think 0:00:10.000 --> 0:00:13.560 the poll only works on Spotify to actually click it. Yeah, done. 0:00:13.600 --> 0:00:16.040 But you can just put in your answer wherever else 0:00:16.040 --> 0:00:18.959 you're listening. That's on the comments, whether it's on YouTube 0:00:19.040 --> 0:00:21.680 or whatever platform you're on, or you can text it 0:00:21.680 --> 0:00:23.880 into the number seven eight five nine two. If your 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:27.520 date has something on their face, do you say something 0:00:28.200 --> 0:00:29.440 or do you keep it to yourself? 0:00:30.080 --> 0:00:33.280 It depends, honestly, I'd probably wipe it off. Yeah, yeah, 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:34.760 with what with a napkin? 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:39.839 Oh sorry, I'm all excited, all right, let us know, 0:00:40.120 --> 0:00:43.080 let us know, and you'll understand why that question here 0:00:43.080 --> 0:00:43.800 in just a second. 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:45.960 But first comments from our lovely Lovely listeners. 0:00:46.520 --> 0:00:49.720 Alexis Killer Sheep said, I've been listening since February and 0:00:49.760 --> 0:00:52.000 finally caught up with all the episodes in the Second 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:53.280 Date Update podcast. 0:00:54.000 --> 0:00:56.120 I'm upgrading to the full show now. 0:00:56.200 --> 0:00:58.480 Yeah, okay, good. I was gonna say, oh no, you 0:00:58.600 --> 0:00:59.640 ran out of stop to listen to. 0:01:02.200 --> 0:01:04.679 I mean, that's the thing that people don't understand who 0:01:05.000 --> 0:01:07.039 love this podcast is. We actually do an. 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:10.160 Hour long show every day e stink and day we 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.080 do a brand new show. So if you want the 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:14.600 full show, you can go over to main our main 0:01:14.600 --> 0:01:17.000 feed podcast just look up Brooke and Jefferys that's right there. 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:18.240 Or you can click more like this and I think 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:19.000 it's the first option. 0:01:19.040 --> 0:01:21.480 That's yeah, that's true too. All right, let's get this 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:22.319 second date started. 0:01:22.480 --> 0:01:28.520 Yeah, second date up date. Brooke, did you know the 0:01:28.560 --> 0:01:32.040 first time that you met your husband Michael that something 0:01:32.360 --> 0:01:34.920 was special? Not saying that you knew like you were 0:01:34.920 --> 0:01:37.440 going to get married in the first fifteen seconds of 0:01:37.480 --> 0:01:40.200 talking to him, but was there anything that happened with 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:44.559 you instantly that lets you know, whoa, there's something real, 0:01:44.760 --> 0:01:46.840 like something actually special going on. 0:01:47.040 --> 0:01:49.480 No, I just felt so good around him, and I 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:50.960 was so excited about him. 0:01:51.000 --> 0:01:52.840 Okay, you're drunk, so that's probably. 0:01:53.040 --> 0:01:55.000 I mean, I did have like five glasses of wine 0:01:55.000 --> 0:01:56.840 and make an off color ut I joke. 0:01:58.280 --> 0:02:01.160 Okay, well yeah, ey jokes and. 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:01.800 He still likes me. 0:02:02.920 --> 0:02:06.880 Okay, Pet explains it. I mean, I remember the first 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:09.480 time that I met Jose and I noticed his fly 0:02:09.680 --> 0:02:11.880 was down and I thought ooh special. 0:02:12.040 --> 0:02:14.600 Yeah, he didn't tell me Xyz though. 0:02:14.800 --> 0:02:15.600 No I enjoyed it. 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:17.079 He asked you to put it down further. 0:02:17.400 --> 0:02:19.639 Yeah, but you know, we don't talk about this all 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:22.960 the time, about that first ten to fifteen seconds when 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:26.880 you meet your date and something happens inside. That's what 0:02:27.080 --> 0:02:27.399 you knows. 0:02:27.480 --> 0:02:27.959 That's real. 0:02:28.480 --> 0:02:31.679 Apparently that happened to one of our listeners gram recently, 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:34.920 at least that's what his email said, and we should 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:36.960 learn a little bit more about it. Graham, Welcome to 0:02:37.000 --> 0:02:37.560 the show man. 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:40.240 Hey guys, thanks for taking my call. 0:02:42.080 --> 0:02:44.720 I can't wait to hear about this chance meeting. Maybe 0:02:44.720 --> 0:02:47.639 it wasn't chance meeting. Whatever the meeting was, it sounds great. 0:02:47.840 --> 0:02:51.239 Yeah, So, without getting overly descriptive, how did your body 0:02:51.320 --> 0:02:53.919 let you know that this was special? 0:02:54.240 --> 0:02:56.160 Well, she didn't ever fly open. I can tell you that. 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:58.120 Oh yeah, dang it. 0:02:59.440 --> 0:03:01.520 So what's her name, by the way, and how did 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:02.000 you meet her? 0:03:02.360 --> 0:03:04.000 Her name is Aura, Aura. 0:03:06.000 --> 0:03:06.800 How did you meet her? 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:09.760 We met on one of those dating apps and we 0:03:09.880 --> 0:03:11.680 decided to meet at a wine bar. 0:03:12.080 --> 0:03:14.640 All right, So going into meeting her at the wine bar, 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:16.720 were you expecting something special? 0:03:17.560 --> 0:03:20.519 Well, you know how you always have your hopes up. 0:03:21.040 --> 0:03:24.200 But I knew when I walked in that I was 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:29.640 going to be in so much trouble. Why immediately recognized 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:33.400 me and started from across the room waving both of 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.400 her hands over her head like a total door. 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:40.920 Just one of those people like me. She's got no shame. 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:43.600 And you loved that. 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:48.760 Right, Oh my god. She was just so like effort lived, cute, well, free. 0:03:48.600 --> 0:03:49.440 Spirit over there. 0:03:49.680 --> 0:03:56.240 Her name's Aura, it comes you know. That's adorable. Yeah, 0:03:56.320 --> 0:03:58.320 And it sounds like she was excited to see you. 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:03.040 It was one of those like initial meetings where in 0:04:03.080 --> 0:04:05.800 the first five seconds I was like, oh my god, 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:08.800 this is just like a dream. 0:04:09.440 --> 0:04:12.360 That must be a lot to process, right when you're 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:15.280 first getting to know somebody. So did the feeling where 0:04:15.360 --> 0:04:17.680 often just getting to like a normal date after that. 0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:21.000 I mean, I wouldn't say it wore off or it 0:04:21.080 --> 0:04:23.839 was normal. It was just I mean there was a 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:27.960 jazz trio playing fine and we were both into jazz music, 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:30.800 and she was like, oh, let's make up names for 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:34.200 the guys, and so you have Sammy Fly guitar playing 0:04:34.440 --> 0:04:37.679 and Dennis the drummer, yeahnny, all that kind of stuff. 0:04:37.760 --> 0:04:40.320 We were just cracking each other up the whole time. 0:04:40.480 --> 0:04:44.279 You guys were in your own world right exactly. 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.640 And they're already making almost inside jokes with each other, 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:49.000 you know, like just a fun, fun thing. 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:51.040 Now anytime any song goes on the radio, you can 0:04:51.080 --> 0:04:53.640 be like, oh yeah, this is my favorite drummer, Yeah 0:04:53.839 --> 0:04:55.120 Lington drummers. 0:04:55.120 --> 0:04:55.920 I know whatever. 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:58.760 Well, clearly the vibes are there, so keep taking us 0:04:58.760 --> 0:05:00.200 through how the rest of the date goes. 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:04.320 It just kept getting better. I mean, our sense of 0:05:04.480 --> 0:05:08.720 like humor was just so like simpatico, I guess to 0:05:09.080 --> 0:05:11.520 that word. Like at one point she had like some 0:05:11.640 --> 0:05:15.320 lipstick on her front teeth. Huh, So I started like 0:05:15.560 --> 0:05:17.600 signaling and rubbing on my own front teeth. 0:05:17.800 --> 0:05:19.520 Good, I'm glad you told her. 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:21.520 And she just looks at me. She goes, what do 0:05:21.560 --> 0:05:27.599 you have in a stroke on your teeth? Exactly? I 0:05:27.720 --> 0:05:31.599 was just laughing so much and then fun, Oh yeah 0:05:31.720 --> 0:05:34.680 it was it went so well, oh my god, this sounds. 0:05:34.360 --> 0:05:36.640 Like it Why are you calling us for help? Then, like, 0:05:36.680 --> 0:05:39.160 I don't get it. How could this have ended poorly? 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:43.640 Well, that's the thing, it didn't really end poorly. When 0:05:43.680 --> 0:05:46.000 we said goodbye, she just came up to me and 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:49.320 gave me like a really long, tight hug. 0:05:49.720 --> 0:05:50.559 Oh that's nice. 0:05:51.279 --> 0:05:53.760 Some of those are nice exactly, and she says, we 0:05:53.880 --> 0:05:56.080 have to definitely do this again. 0:05:56.320 --> 0:05:58.000 Oh that's nice. 0:05:58.400 --> 0:06:01.480 Sincere, I texted her twice, one time to see if 0:06:01.480 --> 0:06:04.120 she wanted to go out for coffee, the second time 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:06.000 to see if she wanted to go to a trivia night, 0:06:06.000 --> 0:06:07.320 because I think she'd be great at that. 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:09.600 Wait, how long did you wait before you texted her? 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:11.640 Was this like thirty minutes after the date or was 0:06:11.680 --> 0:06:12.760 this a couple of days? 0:06:13.080 --> 0:06:14.360 I waited two days. 0:06:14.520 --> 0:06:17.360 I think that's too long too. 0:06:18.000 --> 0:06:20.440 I think when you have a connection like that with 0:06:20.520 --> 0:06:22.440 someone that you just go with it. 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:26.080 You just follow You got to play the game of waiting. Yeah, day, 0:06:26.200 --> 0:06:28.640 that's what blew it that it took too long. 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:30.040 Have you read that on a certain point, you just 0:06:30.080 --> 0:06:32.040 got to grab your luggage and move in with her. 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:34.120 It sounds like so connected. 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:35.720 Have you not heard from her at all? 0:06:36.360 --> 0:06:38.800 Well, that's the thing is like when I was texting her, 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:42.120 she did reply, but both times she said that she 0:06:42.320 --> 0:06:45.320 was busy, And the worst part was like she didn't 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.360 offer an alternative time or date or anything like that. 0:06:48.440 --> 0:06:49.840 It was like, well, I'm busy. I can't. 0:06:49.960 --> 0:06:52.560 I mean, sometimes these free spirits, they really suck at. 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:56.279 Text outa you know, I mean, Alexis, if you wanted 0:06:56.320 --> 0:06:59.040 to see a guy, would you tell him like, I'm 0:06:59.120 --> 0:07:01.640 just busy, or you offer up a little bit more. 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:04.200 I would offer something else. I'd probably over offer. Honestly, 0:07:04.240 --> 0:07:05.640 I'd probably mentioned all the times I'm free. 0:07:05.760 --> 0:07:10.440 How many times you do apologize for being busy A lot? 0:07:10.600 --> 0:07:13.280 It is odd that she leaves it at just I'm 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:16.120 busy and no explanation and no other follow up to 0:07:16.240 --> 0:07:18.400 it exactly. That could feel like that she's trying to 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:19.920 brush you off. I understand it. 0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:21.480 You guys had such a thing happening. 0:07:21.560 --> 0:07:23.920 It's just hard to imagine she wasn't right there with 0:07:23.960 --> 0:07:25.440 you feeling the exact same thing. 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:27.320 Well, maybe it was the fact that you made her 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:30.400 pay for the dinner that night you made I'm just 0:07:30.480 --> 0:07:31.680 assuming you. 0:07:33.360 --> 0:07:36.360 No, no, no, I am a proper gentleman. I paid 0:07:36.400 --> 0:07:40.360 for everything. Okay, I just need I need you guys 0:07:40.440 --> 0:07:43.240 to find out for me, how the hell did I 0:07:43.440 --> 0:07:43.840 blow this. 0:07:45.360 --> 0:07:47.960 We're gonna find for you. How do keep it going? 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:49.840 Because I've got faith in this one. 0:07:49.720 --> 0:07:51.480 Because we don't even know that you blew it. It could 0:07:51.640 --> 0:07:53.240 be something totally unrelated. 0:07:53.360 --> 0:07:55.120 I am so excited to get her on the phone. 0:07:55.960 --> 0:07:58.760 Let's find out. We're gonna come back call Aura and 0:07:58.840 --> 0:08:01.000 try and get you your second date update coming up 0:08:01.080 --> 0:08:04.760 right after this. Okay, all right, man, hold on second 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:10.080 date update whenever. I'm stuck on holds with customer service 0:08:10.200 --> 0:08:14.800 for four straight hours and the automated message keeps replaying 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:18.360 over and over saying we're busy right now, but don't 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:23.480 go anywhere. Your call's very important to us. We're just busy. Yeah, 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:26.880 I believe them. Oh you do they really really care? Yeah, 0:08:26.920 --> 0:08:28.240 I'm not understaffed. 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:30.240 Yeah, not a break somewhere. 0:08:30.720 --> 0:08:32.600 But the thing is, if you're on the other end 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:36.520 of a potential relationship with somebody you really like and 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:40.320 you get too sorry, I'm just busy right now in 0:08:40.360 --> 0:08:43.360 a rowse, it's hard not to be a little bit 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:45.920 skeptical and feel like you're being blown off. 0:08:46.000 --> 0:08:48.200 Especially when they don't say, hey, press number nine for 0:08:48.280 --> 0:08:50.200 a different day to date me up exactly. 0:08:50.600 --> 0:08:53.120 And that's where our listener Graham is. After a really 0:08:53.160 --> 0:08:55.800 good date at a jazz bar with a girl named Aura. 0:08:56.160 --> 0:09:00.120 He has turned to us because those two busys just 0:09:00.200 --> 0:09:02.640 aren't equally a second meetup, and they're not. 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:05.280 Equaling the vibe that they had going when they were 0:09:05.320 --> 0:09:05.880 hanging out. 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:07.880 It just sounds so I can't believe we haven't said 0:09:07.880 --> 0:09:09.520 it sooner, but negative our points for her? 0:09:09.679 --> 0:09:12.439 Yeah, Graham, I mean before we call her here, how 0:09:12.520 --> 0:09:13.040 you feeling. 0:09:14.200 --> 0:09:17.400 I'm feeling a little nervous, to be honest, But how's 0:09:17.480 --> 0:09:18.000 your Aura? 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:21.320 I mean, I get it, I'm feeling nervous for you. 0:09:21.480 --> 0:09:25.320 I mean, you just sound so excited, and I want 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:26.280 this to happen for you. 0:09:26.360 --> 0:09:27.199 I think we all do. 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:29.640 Everything sounded so good. I don't want to put this 0:09:29.720 --> 0:09:32.400 out there, but it has to be shocking. Like whatever 0:09:32.480 --> 0:09:34.960 the excuse is, you're not gonna see like, oh wow, 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.440 I didn't think of that. There's nothing that has gone wrong. 0:09:37.960 --> 0:09:41.440 We can change that right now. Let let's see if 0:09:41.440 --> 0:09:43.800 something went wrong. I'm going to dial her number right now. 0:09:44.000 --> 0:09:54.400 Hopefully she picks up the phone. Here we go. Hello, Hey, 0:09:54.520 --> 0:10:01.800 is this Aura? Yes, this is a we're a radio show. 0:10:01.960 --> 0:10:05.600 We're called Brook and Jeffrey in the morning show. Thanks 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:06.440 for being on with us. 0:10:07.640 --> 0:10:12.240 Uh okay, Hi, I didn't I don't think I signed 0:10:12.320 --> 0:10:13.000 up for anything. 0:10:13.080 --> 0:10:13.440 I don't. 0:10:13.640 --> 0:10:17.000 Yeah, you didn't know, you didn't, but one of our 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:19.440 listeners kind of signed you up for something called a 0:10:19.480 --> 0:10:24.640 second Date Update. Okay, So if you're not familiar with that, 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:26.600 it's a segment that we do on our show where 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.000 we try to help people who've gone out with somebody 0:10:29.040 --> 0:10:32.160 one time but they're not getting that second meetup and 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:34.840 they're not sure why. We can call and try to 0:10:34.880 --> 0:10:37.640 figure out if there's a reason for it. Yeah, does 0:10:37.640 --> 0:10:38.200 that make sense? 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:40.720 Yeah, I guess. 0:10:41.800 --> 0:10:43.719 We know you're really busy, so we won't keep it. 0:10:44.040 --> 0:10:46.080 That's what we've heard. We're really good at these. By 0:10:46.080 --> 0:10:47.080 the way, we'll be efficient. 0:10:47.120 --> 0:10:48.280 Okay, we'll get through this. 0:10:48.320 --> 0:10:50.280 Because we're calling about a guy that you went out 0:10:50.320 --> 0:10:52.040 with recently named Graham. 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:55.280 I'm sorry, I'm like super confused, Like what is this 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:56.440 great question? 0:10:56.520 --> 0:10:58.000 Well, yeah, no, it's the thing is, we spoke to 0:10:58.040 --> 0:11:00.959 Graham about your date, and we're trying to figure out 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:04.400 if there's a reason that the two of you haven't 0:11:04.440 --> 0:11:07.360 gone out again, because you keep saying to him that 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:08.400 you're busy. 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.920 But not offering any solutions on wind to meet up. 0:11:12.120 --> 0:11:15.080 Yeah, I mean, I like I already texted him, Like 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:17.880 I said, I was busy during the times he wanted 0:11:17.920 --> 0:11:18.440 to hang out. 0:11:19.760 --> 0:11:22.560 I think in his mind, when you say I'm busy, 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:25.320 that's just like it can be a word that people 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:28.360 use to brush somebody off if you're not actually wanting 0:11:28.400 --> 0:11:30.280 to see them, but you don't want to come off 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:31.240 as being rude. 0:11:31.400 --> 0:11:34.480 Like I meant what I said, I'm just really busy. 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:37.760 Okay, okay, but there's no way I mean, like, I'm sorry, 0:11:38.559 --> 0:11:41.080 we're all really busy. But like when you meet somebody 0:11:41.200 --> 0:11:43.520 that you feel like you have this crazy connection with, 0:11:43.880 --> 0:11:45.040 you'll make time for them. 0:11:45.559 --> 0:11:45.839 Yep. 0:11:46.040 --> 0:11:48.760 But I'm not like canceling my plans, Like I know 0:11:48.800 --> 0:11:49.440 we're not we're. 0:11:49.320 --> 0:11:51.480 Not asking you to do that. But he just asked 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:54.160 us to call because it was unclear to him if 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:56.080 you actually wanted to meet up. 0:11:56.200 --> 0:11:58.560 But it's what's unclear. 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:03.120 I'm saying, Okay, but I am busy, uncle. 0:12:03.440 --> 0:12:06.920 If you like, I'm honestly still unclear whether you actually 0:12:07.080 --> 0:12:07.760 like him or not. 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:11.160 I like him, but like I don't understand why, like 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:16.480 he needs a third party interjecting. I said that I'm free. 0:12:16.559 --> 0:12:18.679 I'm just busy during the times he. 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.400 Mentioned gotcha, I hear you, and I don't want to 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:26.800 be the third party interjecting whatsoever. In fact, it's just 0:12:26.880 --> 0:12:30.280 like weird. Well, no, listen, Graham is actually the one 0:12:30.280 --> 0:12:32.160 I want you to talk to. And it's perfect because 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:35.360 he's right here on the other line listening, waiting to jump. 0:12:35.160 --> 0:12:38.840 In or what. 0:12:39.120 --> 0:12:41.920 I'm so confused, like what is happening? What's like? What's 0:12:41.920 --> 0:12:45.520 the deal with these like jobbers you hire to like 0:12:45.559 --> 0:12:46.920 grow me about us? 0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:50.880 Job said job jobbers? 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:53.080 I called you jobbers, like I don't know what you 0:12:53.080 --> 0:12:54.199 guys like we are? 0:12:54.240 --> 0:12:57.760 I okay, you. 0:12:57.760 --> 0:12:58.280 Talk to her? 0:12:58.880 --> 0:13:03.120 Yeah I didn't. I didn't hire them. It's just a 0:13:03.240 --> 0:13:05.720 radio show, and they, you know, help people get in 0:13:05.800 --> 0:13:08.680 touch if they're having trouble getting together. 0:13:09.040 --> 0:13:11.840 So yeah, but like I told you, I was busy 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:14.079 a couple of times, Like don't you think it's a 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:18.000 little extreme to like go in a radio station? And 0:13:18.040 --> 0:13:20.680 who honestly, whoever that guy was I've been talking to, 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:22.440 like did not seem prepared at all. 0:13:22.840 --> 0:13:25.319 I don't know what I was talking about. And he 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:28.880 like trying to nail down a gate for you about Jeff. 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:31.839 That's fine. Sometimes people need a common enemy to come together. 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:35.319 Honestly, I'm with her. I wasn't doing it. That was 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:38.079 pretty crap. I get myself a. 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:41.680 D or can't you think of this as like a 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:44.479 kind of a romantic gesture, like he really. 0:13:44.240 --> 0:13:46.960 Wants to see you and he went to all this effort. 0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:52.000 No, it's super weird chemistry. 0:13:52.040 --> 0:13:53.040 I feel like you're angry. 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:54.719 Does this feel like the same person you went out 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:55.200 with Graham? 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.599 Well maybe not a little bit, but you guys have 0:13:58.679 --> 0:14:00.160 been kind of grilling. Are pretty hard hard. 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:04.480 Yeah, we can take the fall. 0:14:04.840 --> 0:14:07.360 Yeah, no, no, no, that's okay. I mean your intentions 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:08.800 are great, and that's fine. 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:14.120 I did have some bad intentions when I dialed. I 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.560 brought some negative energy into this and that's what fat 0:14:17.559 --> 0:14:20.280 that's right. You're so guilty and you shouldn't. 0:14:19.920 --> 0:14:20.600 Be, Laura. 0:14:20.720 --> 0:14:22.600 Is there is there anything we can do to come 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:26.000 back from putting you out or making you feel weird? 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:27.080 Like you keep saying? 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:31.400 You can stop asking me questions and he can just 0:14:31.520 --> 0:14:32.160 ask me out. 0:14:32.200 --> 0:14:32.720 How about that? 0:14:32.880 --> 0:14:34.960 Okay? 0:14:35.080 --> 0:14:37.680 Because I think that's perfect. That's perfect. I'd love to 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:40.600 hang out. And how about this weekend? Are you free 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:41.440 like on Friday? 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:43.200 I'm busy Friday? 0:14:44.680 --> 0:14:49.720 Okay, keep going, Well, we'll have How about Saturday? 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:53.400 Then I've got something that day, but like you should, 0:14:54.040 --> 0:14:56.000 you probably need to notice. 0:14:56.200 --> 0:14:59.120 But I'm in like two other situationships. 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:02.600 Oh that's why you're okay. 0:15:03.640 --> 0:15:05.880 Now you know why she's so busy. 0:15:06.640 --> 0:15:07.760 Oh, Graham, I'm sorry. 0:15:07.840 --> 0:15:08.680 Is that okay with you? 0:15:08.760 --> 0:15:12.120 Graham? Or let me ask you. You said you're already 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:16.160 in two situationships? So really, what does that mean? 0:15:17.480 --> 0:15:18.720 It means a lot of fun. 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:24.560 Do you even have time for me then? 0:15:24.960 --> 0:15:29.680 Or what I'm free Sunday afternoon? Like I can squeeze 0:15:29.720 --> 0:15:30.240 you in. 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:36.680 I'm not really sure if I want to be squeezed 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:38.760 in between two other dudes. 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:44.280 Beggars can't be choosers here, Like you're the one who's 0:15:44.360 --> 0:15:49.560 lead to the party, but it's still a party. 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:55.040 She's clearly not rejecting you, but you're gonna. 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:56.480 But she's offering you not much. 0:15:56.840 --> 0:15:59.480 Yeah, I'm single, Like I don't have to like. 0:15:59.640 --> 0:16:00.240 Kind of you? 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:02.120 You're kind of single. 0:16:02.280 --> 0:16:04.640 I think we're all jealous of you are if anything. 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:06.840 So, I think, Graham, I don't know, Graham, I feel 0:16:06.840 --> 0:16:07.960 like you deserve more than this. 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.680 I don't know. Look, guys, I think I should just 0:16:11.720 --> 0:16:14.480 go with my gut and say you only live once. 0:16:14.520 --> 0:16:18.360 And let's do it. 0:16:18.800 --> 0:16:22.760 So you're over to a possible third situationship with Aura. 0:16:23.360 --> 0:16:26.960 Well, I mean, if the third situationship goes so well, 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.680 maybe they'll just turn into a single situationship. 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:32.760 Okay, that's really optimistic for yourself. 0:16:32.840 --> 0:16:35.680 I think that's the point of like dating, Like you're 0:16:35.720 --> 0:16:39.720 supposed to try things and see what sticks. 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:40.840 Okay, that's true. 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:44.000 Yeah, well great, Now we're running out of time here. 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.160 So I'm just curious though, Aura, if he does go 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:48.920 through with this, does that put him like in the 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:52.400 third seat, like the last place guy, or does he 0:16:52.480 --> 0:16:54.760 need to do a trial run? And does he have 0:16:54.760 --> 0:16:57.440 to meet the other guys? 0:16:57.440 --> 0:16:58.680 Why would they meet the other I. 0:16:58.680 --> 0:16:59.120 Don't know how. 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:01.080 That's so weird. 0:17:01.320 --> 0:17:04.159 No, Okay, if it works out, it works out, and 0:17:04.200 --> 0:17:05.440 if it doesn't, we had fun. 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:07.640 Okay, great. I just want to be clear that we're 0:17:07.640 --> 0:17:09.920 setting our guy up for success here. So we would 0:17:09.920 --> 0:17:11.639 like to offer to send you guys out on a 0:17:11.720 --> 0:17:13.400 date and we would pay for it. 0:17:14.560 --> 0:17:16.600 Yeah, I mean, I'm down, thank you. 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:22.440 Not the grand romantic eddie I was b but realistic. 0:17:22.680 --> 0:17:27.600 Yeah, you know, brooking Jeffrey in the morning. 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:30.199 Oh was that like the ickyest? 0:17:30.400 --> 0:17:30.640 Yes? 0:17:30.800 --> 0:17:33.760 That we've ever gotten to a second date ever, not 0:17:33.880 --> 0:17:34.359 where I. 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:35.919 Wanted things to end, I'll tell you that. 0:17:36.359 --> 0:17:38.960 Yeah, but at least we got an answer to why 0:17:39.240 --> 0:17:40.040 she was busy. 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:43.679 And I guess it's clear to Graham what he's walking 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:46.800 into right like, there's no mystery here anymore. 0:17:46.960 --> 0:17:48.919 I don't know if it is really clear, because we 0:17:48.960 --> 0:17:52.520 never really asked whether the like situationships know about each 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:55.760 other or how serious they really were with anything. 0:17:56.640 --> 0:17:58.679 She seems pretty blunt, Jeffy, and she. 0:17:58.560 --> 0:18:01.959 Seems like she enjoyed. Is it for sure? It's the 0:18:02.000 --> 0:18:04.840 one thing that made her smile during that entire call 0:18:05.040 --> 0:18:05.680 and get like. 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:07.240 A weird sexy voice thing. 0:18:08.320 --> 0:18:10.360 How can you not when you're thinking about your harem 0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:13.119 of guys waiting for you. But I just have a 0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:15.400