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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and I Heart Radio podcast. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so I want to talk about something that has happened

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Speaker 1: to me a few times recently that I have noticed

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Speaker 1: that friends have unfollowed me on social media. Um. It's

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Speaker 1: not that I have an app that tells me when

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Speaker 1: this happens. I just happened to randomly go to their

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Speaker 1: page and see, let's see if they're still following me,

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Speaker 1: and I've realized that they haven't. Um. You know, it

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Speaker 1: was a friend that I was really close with and

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Speaker 1: we um were at one point in my life, very

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Speaker 1: very close. And I have a lot of friends that,

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Speaker 1: you know, I would say that we are really close

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Speaker 1: at one point in time, and just as time has

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Speaker 1: gone on, you drift apart. Whether you don't live in

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Speaker 1: the same city or you're doing different things, your life's

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Speaker 1: going in different directions. And I've never thought that there

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Speaker 1: was anything bad enough to happen with a lot of

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Speaker 1: these people that it was enough for them to not

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Speaker 1: want to see my face on social media app. But

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Speaker 1: I have always wondered what's the motive for it. I

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Speaker 1: totally get in breakups when someone unfollows them because they're

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Speaker 1: trying to move on, and seeing that person's face or

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Speaker 1: seeing what they're doing is hurtful. But in a friendship,

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Speaker 1: I've wondered, what is the point or why would you

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Speaker 1: have to do that unless unless you had like a

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Speaker 1: blow up fight and it was very obvious. I was

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Speaker 1: totally oblivious to the situation. I think that's what made

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Speaker 1: my made it hurt my feeling so much, was because

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Speaker 1: I thought, what did I do to deserve the ultimate

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Speaker 1: punishment of being unfollowed? It hurts, and it makes me

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Speaker 1: feel like I'm in middle school, because why does that

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Speaker 1: pain feel so familiar. It's like, you know, I remember

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Speaker 1: being in fifth grade and I had my friend Sydney

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Speaker 1: and Leslie, And when Sydney and Leslie would have slumber

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Speaker 1: parties without me, it hurt my feelings because they didn't

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Speaker 1: invite me. And when I would have a slumber party

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Speaker 1: with Sydney and Leslie wasn't invited, Leslie's feelings got hurt.

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Speaker 1: It's all those same feelings, but just on a social

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Speaker 1: media app that's actually not real all the time. So

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Speaker 1: it's an interesting move because people make up stories based

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Speaker 1: on what they see in photos when they haven't really

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Speaker 1: spent time with that person or even had a conversation

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Speaker 1: with them in a while and decide that they don't

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Speaker 1: like it anymore. All right, so we are going to

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Speaker 1: talk to Emily from Maryland. Hi. Emily, Hi, how are

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Speaker 1: you good? How are you? I'm great? Um, let's get

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Speaker 1: down to business. So what what happened? Tell me more? Yeah, So, um,

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Speaker 1: my friend and I were having like a conversation on Twitter. Um. Well,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you know how friends are in college,

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Speaker 1: like everyone's your friends total. It's the same in the

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Speaker 1: bachelor world. I get it. Yeah, so everyone's your friend.

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Speaker 1: We're having a conversation one night, um on Twitter and

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Speaker 1: just you know, to come back and forth. And then

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Speaker 1: I went back to you know, you always have to

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Speaker 1: tell your best friend. You're like, oh, I have this

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Speaker 1: great conversation and telling her like go to the profile

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Speaker 1: and of course the guys that makes like twenty times worse.

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Speaker 1: And um, so like follows you think is like not

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Speaker 1: there anymore? You know how it's like you follow each other. Um.

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Speaker 1: And it was like super awkward, um because you know,

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Speaker 1: we're just vibeing, having a good time. Um. And then

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Speaker 1: all of a sudden, I'm like showing my friend She's like, wait,

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Speaker 1: he doesn't even follow you, Like that's so weird, and

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Speaker 1: I'm private on Twitter. I'm a teacher. Oh wait, so wait,

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Speaker 1: so this guy is the person you are having the

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Speaker 1: good conversation with back and forth on Twitter. Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: he didn't follow you after he like unfollowed me after

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Speaker 1: the conversation. He unfollowed you. Yeah. Oh that's so awkward,

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Speaker 1: isn't it. So it was like, I mean since then,

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Speaker 1: we've like other and like, I'm one of those people

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Speaker 1: where I'm super awkward and I'll just bring it up

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Speaker 1: to your face. So I was like, yeah, you know,

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Speaker 1: like the subject came up that was similar to one.

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Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, I remember we had this great

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Speaker 1: conversation about it. Well, I'm not really sure if you do,

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Speaker 1: because you're like, I'm following me on Twitter. Oh what

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Speaker 1: did he say? He was just like, what, I don't

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Speaker 1: Twitter that much? And I was like, oh, yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: sure you don't because you clearly stay up on your

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Speaker 1: followers there. Wow. So he didn't even He tried to

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Speaker 1: give the excuse that he doesn't use Twitter a lot,

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Speaker 1: and You're like, it takes effort to un follow with

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Speaker 1: someone that doesn't happen by accident, right, yeah, exactly. Well,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry that happen, but you know what, I'm glad

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Speaker 1: we could talk about it and relate to it. Thank

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Speaker 1: you so much for calling in. Yeah definitely. I mean

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Speaker 1: you're like my favorite and I smiledge like your favorite.

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Speaker 1: You and Jojo? Oh well, thank you so much. Maybe

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Speaker 1: Jojo will be on here one day. All right, we'll

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Speaker 1: have to go on you two. Thanks. All right, now

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Speaker 1: we have is it Cassia in Pennsylvania? Cassia, Hello, I

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Speaker 1: I'm great. How are you. I'm good. I'm excited to

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Speaker 1: talk to you. I'm so excited to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for calling in. Oh sure, Um, so,

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Speaker 1: what's the story here? Who I'm followed you? Well? Um,

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Speaker 1: it was on Facebook, so he unbefriended me. But UM,

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Speaker 1: I had been in a pretty serious relationship with someone

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Speaker 1: for about six months. Um. I hadn't met his family

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Speaker 1: or anything, but we hung out every night, and I

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Speaker 1: thought that we were gonna end up being official. So

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Speaker 1: we went to the beach and we've gotten I guess,

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Speaker 1: kind of an argument at the bar of the one night. Um,

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Speaker 1: we had just been drinking and I don't even really

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Speaker 1: remember what it was about. So I ended up leaving

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Speaker 1: the beach a day early with my friends, and when

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Speaker 1: I got home, I got on spoke to the creep arounds,

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Speaker 1: and I noticed that we weren't friends anymore. He just

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Speaker 1: unfriended to you and yeah, and so a couple of

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Speaker 1: days later he texted me about that. We didn't talk

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Speaker 1: for like a couple of days. He was at the beach,

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Speaker 1: and then he texted me and asked me a question,

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Speaker 1: but um, I forget what it was, but I was

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Speaker 1: feeling petty, and I said, oh, well, I just made

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Speaker 1: a Facebook post about that. If you want to know

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Speaker 1: the answer, be it there. And so he was like, oh,

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Speaker 1: come one. His reasoning was he said that he went

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Speaker 1: to another bar the next night and he ran into

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Speaker 1: somebody who he used to know from work, and she

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Speaker 1: tagged him on Facebook and he said that he didn't

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Speaker 1: want me to see that, but we were done after that.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, he seems shady, And I don't think that's petty. List.

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Speaker 1: I thought that was a genius that you called him out.

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Speaker 1: That's what I would do, So I don't think that's

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Speaker 1: petty at all. I don't know if my ex and

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Speaker 1: I don't even think we're I'll just say Robert because

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Speaker 1: most people know we I don't even think we're friends

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Speaker 1: on Facebook, so we never ran into that. I think

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Speaker 1: I followed his like public page, but that was the

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Speaker 1: seriousness of that. Um. But that is that's yeah. I

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Speaker 1: mean I think you. I think he did you a

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Speaker 1: favor on that one. Oh. I know, because you know

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Speaker 1: this feeling, it's like such a stucker punch when you

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Speaker 1: didn't get on your phone and you see it. It's

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Speaker 1: like your stomach drop stops, and it's just like really,

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Speaker 1: like this is this is how he's going to tell me.

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Speaker 1: It's it's like being invited. It's like everyone you know

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Speaker 1: being invited to a party and you're not getting the invite.

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Speaker 1: It's that same feeling. Oh my god. Yes, and it's

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Speaker 1: so immature, like we're grown people. We don't need to

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Speaker 1: be like that. We could easily he could have called

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Speaker 1: me and said, hey, I went out with somebody else.

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Speaker 1: You know, it would have been fine. Well, thank you

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Speaker 1: so much for calling in. I'm glad you're not with

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Speaker 1: that guy. I hope you're with someone better now. Oh

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Speaker 1: I am I'm getting married next to I love a

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Speaker 1: happy ending. A happy ending. Well, congratulations, thanks for calling in,

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Speaker 1: thank you for talking to me. Of course. Scrubbing In

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Speaker 1: with Becca Tilly and I Heart Radio podcast