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Speaker 2: Amanda is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Kyle.

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Speaker 3: So in a few minutes we're gonna call him and.

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Speaker 2: See if he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her a second date. But first, Amanda, how

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Speaker 2: long has it been since her from Kyle?

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Speaker 4: Hi, guys, it's been a few weeks.

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Speaker 3: Now, Okay, that's a good amount of time.

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Speaker 1: What is it about Kylie you want to get a

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Speaker 1: hold of so bad?

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Speaker 4: Oh my goodness, It's like it's really rare. I think

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Speaker 4: that you meet someone Mike Kyle. We had this lovely

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Speaker 4: first date and really just lovely connection, and I think

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Speaker 4: it would be a real shame if we don't reconnect

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Speaker 4: in that way. I don't know, it's just something felt

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Speaker 4: really right.

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Speaker 1: What felt so right that you just don't want to

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Speaker 1: kind of move on to the next person?

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Speaker 4: I mean, okay, is it helpful to just explain everything

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Speaker 4: that went down? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Okay, So I.

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Speaker 4: Don't date very much. I'm a single parents, but I

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Speaker 4: met him at this basketball game our kids there are

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Speaker 4: little they're like five and they're in this little basketball league.

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Speaker 4: And you know, we were there on a Saturday and

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Speaker 4: we're both cheering and we ended up just sort of

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Speaker 4: bonding and talking about being single parents and just then

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Speaker 4: a general chaos of life.

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Speaker 5: And he just he's so charming.

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Speaker 4: He wanted about a three guys, but he really is.

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Speaker 4: We just totally hit it off. And then, you know,

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Speaker 4: nobody who asked somebody out anymore, like in person, like

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Speaker 4: when does that happen? But he asked me out to

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Speaker 4: dinner and was like, you know, when we don't have

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Speaker 4: the kids, let's go out. And that's a huge step

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Speaker 4: for me, Like I haven't been out at all since

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Speaker 4: my ex husband, and so I was pretty special, and

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Speaker 4: I mean.

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Speaker 5: He planned the whole date, total gentleman about it. He

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Speaker 5: took me to a steakhouse. He was had a fancy.

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Speaker 4: And we were we just had a great conversation. We

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Speaker 4: were talking at one point and I was like talking

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Speaker 4: so much that I blew the little like tea light

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Speaker 4: candle out in front of us, and he was like,

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Speaker 4: oh and he got up, but he's got another.

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Speaker 5: One, which was so cute.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, he know, it's a lot about wine and he's

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Speaker 4: just really cultured in that way, and so he picked

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Speaker 4: a great wine for us, and she just felt like

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Speaker 4: a real instant connection. A lot of laughing there was

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Speaker 4: also so random, but maybe not random. He's good at

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Speaker 4: planning dates, I guess. But there was like a band

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Speaker 4: that played. It was a very old school vibe, and

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Speaker 4: we ordered dessert and that was nice enough for me,

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Speaker 4: but she literally grabbed my hands and we started dancing

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Speaker 4: wow to the live music, and you know, we had

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Speaker 4: a sea glass was wide at that boy. But the

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Speaker 4: wine was great and the music was great, and it

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Speaker 4: was such a great night, and I really loved how

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Speaker 3: I was with him. That's romantic. I mean, sounds like

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Speaker 3: an excellent day. Do we know he's single? He said,

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Speaker 3: he has a kid.

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Speaker 4: I mean one of the benefits of the Little League,

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Speaker 4: so to speak, that we're all a part of is

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Speaker 4: that I definitely have read it with other parents that

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Speaker 4: he is single. Yeah, you know, there was just some

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Speaker 4: cttling and gifting on that first date, and I thought, Okay,

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Speaker 4: they're definitely going to do this again.

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Speaker 3: So why do you think you know?

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Speaker 4: I mean I thought a lot about it, and really

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Speaker 4: only like a couple of things. I mean, you know,

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Speaker 4: everybody has their in securities, Like I definitely I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 4: you know, maybe he wasn't attracted to me, or any

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Speaker 4: of those things have gone through my head. But the

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Speaker 4: big one is, oh, man, I can't believe I'm saying

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Speaker 4: this on the radio. But I reached over and I

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Speaker 4: cut his steak for him at the stake, Like I

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Speaker 4: instinctively went to cut the steak at the steakhouse. Wow.

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Speaker 5: And I It's just it was just course of habit,

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Speaker 4: I have a little one and I when I pulled back,

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh, sorry, I'm a virgin.

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Speaker 1: And I.

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Speaker 5: Was totally a joke. I was just was like, oh,

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Speaker 5: I'm a virgin. Sorry about that. Like I'm new to this,

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Speaker 4: Madonna would call me I feel like a virgin again.

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Speaker 3: Like I'm very like new to this again. Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: don't know if I would ghost you over that, you know.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we laughed it off.

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Speaker 4: I don't think it's ghosting material, but.

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Speaker 3: I mean I hope not.

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Speaker 1: He might have been alarmed though by somebody reaching over

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Speaker 1: to touch his steak. But I used to hang out

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Speaker 1: with this couple and she would kind his stake every

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Speaker 1: single time they went.

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Speaker 3: Out, like he'd wait to eat. Really it huh? It

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Speaker 3: was weird.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, well we'll see if that is the thing.

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Speaker 2: We'll plas on comeback and then call him and see

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Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghosting you. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: so all right, we'll see if we can get you

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Speaker 2: a second date and your first date follow up coming

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Speaker 2: up next.

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Speaker 6: Right in the.

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Speaker 2: Middle of your first date follow up and if you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us, Amanda is on the phone and she's

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Speaker 2: getting ghosted by Kyle. So we're about to call him

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Speaker 2: and see if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her a second date. But first, Amanda, why

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Speaker 2: don't you break down your date with Kyle one more

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Speaker 2: time for us real quick before we call him.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I met this guy at our kids basketball game.

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Speaker 4: He took me out for dinner. It was super nice.

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Speaker 4: It's been a couple of weeks and I texted him.

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Speaker 4: I literally saw him after the next basketball game and

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Speaker 4: he's like rushed away and it was super weird. So yeah,

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Speaker 4: we just love to know what happened and what I did.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Well, are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I guess.

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Speaker 2: So all right, here we go. Hi, I speak to Kyle. Please,

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Speaker 2: this is speak Hey Kyle, how are you? This is

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Speaker 2: a radio show. It's called The Jubil Show.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Kyle, I'm na.

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Speaker 3: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jubil. How are you?

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Speaker 3: I'm okay, not much. Have you ever heard the show before?

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Speaker 6: Uh?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Okay, great, Well, Kyle, we got an email about you

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Speaker 2: from somebody.

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Speaker 3: That's why we're on the phone. Okay.

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Speaker 2: So, I don't know if you've heard the segment that

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Speaker 2: we do the first eight follow up where if you

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Speaker 2: get ghosted, you can email us and we'll call the

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Speaker 2: person who ghosted you and ask why they're ghosting.

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Speaker 5: Oh wow, okay, so we got it's Amanda.

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Speaker 3: Yes.

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Speaker 2: We talked to Amanda a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 2: She said that it was very romantic, awesome actually yea,

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Speaker 2: but says that you're not calling her back and she

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Speaker 3: Can you tell us?

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Speaker 5: Oh boy, I don't.

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Speaker 6: Okay, So our kids play in the same basketball league together.

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Speaker 6: I'm sure you know she probably right.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, we went out. It was a lovely time.

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Speaker 6: It was really nice and uh, you know, I just uh,

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Speaker 6: I'm looking for something different. I'm a single dad and

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Speaker 6: I want to have fun and she just uh and here,

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Speaker 6: she's a great mom, but my kids got a mom

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Speaker 6: and I kind of just want a girlfriend.

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Speaker 5: And she's uh, I just noticed she was.

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Speaker 6: Sort of in mom mode all the time. That well,

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Speaker 2: Oh, Amanda's Yeah, she's actually I don't know if you

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Speaker 2: remember these or not, but she's on the phone and

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Speaker 2: wants to talk to you, and obviously it's curious about.

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Speaker 3: Who you are now with.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, no, I uh, I forgot Hi.

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Speaker 7: Hi wait sorry, So you know I've been better. You're

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Speaker 7: noticing me because I'm too much of a mom. Is

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Speaker 7: that like, is that what we're going with here?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 5: Look, okay, yeah, no, you're really sweet.

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Speaker 6: I just uh, I'm not really dating to find a

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Speaker 6: you know, I think it's awesome.

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Speaker 5: I think you're you're a great parent, but I really

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Speaker 6: A girlfriend and uh you know, I'm uh you just.

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Speaker 4: There want someone to take shots and you know, forget

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Speaker 5: I was like a mom, No, no, no, no.

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Speaker 6: I I can relax, I can have a good time.

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Speaker 6: I can be dad and I can just be a man.

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Speaker 6: And you know, you're just you're a mom, and that's awesome.

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Speaker 4: That's so good, Kyle, you're a dad, like I have

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Speaker 4: to remind you of that you are a dad, you.

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Speaker 3: Are a parent.

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Speaker 6: K Okay, Look, I can go out, I can have

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Speaker 5: To just be a dad all the time.

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Speaker 6: I look, sweetheart, I contain multitudes, right.

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Speaker 5: I need a woman who does that too.

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Speaker 1: I don't think you can say sweetheart like that and

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Speaker 1: I mean, aren't you a dad all the time. You're

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Speaker 1: a mom all the time if you have children. But

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Speaker 1: I understand what you mean by being able to separate

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Speaker 1: being a person, but I don't know that that's really

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Speaker 1: what you're saying. You're saying you just kind of want

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Speaker 1: somebody reckless has nothing to do with it.

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Speaker 5: Oh, not reckless.

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Speaker 6: I mean what I care about my kids. I think

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Speaker 6: you know it's not about that. But if I'm going

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Speaker 5: And I mean, it was kind of weird to try

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Speaker 5: to cut my food up for me. Who did you

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Speaker 5: go out with?

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Speaker 4: Can you just tell me that?

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Speaker 5: Lisa?

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Speaker 4: Sorry, Lisa the twenty two year old referee at the

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Speaker 4: basketball games.

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Speaker 5: She's literally not a Oh it's that makes perfect sense. Okay, cool, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 4: So clearly you're just you're a dad who wants to

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Speaker 2: Oh, Kyle, would you like to go with it out

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Speaker 2: with a Manda again on a second day?

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Speaker 3: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: Oh wow.

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Speaker 6: Uh sounds very very tempting. Now you guys, why don't

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Speaker 6: you guys all go out together? That sounds like a

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Speaker 6: good time does Yeah? Well, thanks thanks for calling. I

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Speaker 6: appreciate it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and you have fun.

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Speaker 4: Being the oldest man at an EDM show comes up.

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Speaker 3: Extreme Juble's First Date follow up