1 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 1: Hey everyone, Emily Abadi here, you are listening to another 2 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 1: installment of Five Minute Friday. Now, if you're new to 3 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: the show, welcome, you are now officially a hurdler on 4 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:32,560 Speaker 1: five Minute Friday. This segment is all about just giving 5 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,120 Speaker 1: you some thoughts about where I'm at finishing off the 6 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:37,760 Speaker 1: week and doing it on a high note. 7 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 2: I offer you a prompt. 8 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: To take you into the weekend or whenever you are 9 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: listening to this to get your thoughts moving, and then 10 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:51,080 Speaker 1: I share an answer to a listener question for five 11 00:00:51,080 --> 00:00:53,320 Speaker 1: Minute Friday this week. I mean, what's going on in 12 00:00:53,360 --> 00:00:57,760 Speaker 1: my head is the fact that it is official Hurdle finally, 13 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: four million. 14 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:02,240 Speaker 2: Downloads all time. 15 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 1: It's crazy, you know, oftentimes when these milestones happen, whether 16 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: you know it's a million milestone or a birthday. Hurdle's 17 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 1: birthday happens to be like right around New Year's Day 18 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:16,440 Speaker 1: when I released it in twenty eighteen. But when these 19 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: big moments happen, I can't help but think to myself 20 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: that it wouldn't be happening if I never started at all. 21 00:01:25,920 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 1: And I think that that is something that a lot 22 00:01:28,200 --> 00:01:30,680 Speaker 1: of us struggle with in a lot of different aspects 23 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: of our lives, right, Like when it comes to our 24 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:37,720 Speaker 1: own personal wellness journeys, and we want to maybe get 25 00:01:37,760 --> 00:01:40,720 Speaker 1: into a new style of fitness. Maybe you want to 26 00:01:40,800 --> 00:01:44,000 Speaker 1: start running, or you want to walk more regularly, or 27 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:46,080 Speaker 1: you want to try CrossFit, or you want to take 28 00:01:46,120 --> 00:01:51,000 Speaker 1: a hit class, and you feel like this level of intimidation, right, 29 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 1: this level of uncertainty because getting acquainted with something well, 30 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:58,520 Speaker 1: that involves change, and that involves you putting yourself in 31 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: a new space and stepping outside of. 32 00:02:00,840 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 2: Your comfort zone. 33 00:02:02,200 --> 00:02:06,840 Speaker 1: And for me, like with Hurdle, please total new space 34 00:02:06,960 --> 00:02:11,400 Speaker 1: for me, Like I admittedly had hardly listened to a 35 00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:15,280 Speaker 1: podcast before deciding that I wanted to start one of 36 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:15,679 Speaker 1: my own. 37 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 2: I didn't know anything. 38 00:02:18,360 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: Or at least very little, but I committed to learning, right, 39 00:02:21,520 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: I committed to trying that new thing. I reached out 40 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,839 Speaker 1: to people in the space and I asked them questions. 41 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: I bought myself a microphone and I just started talking 42 00:02:32,919 --> 00:02:36,119 Speaker 1: to people. And I didn't have again all of the answers, 43 00:02:36,160 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 1: but what I did have was a passion for storytelling 44 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:41,720 Speaker 1: and a passion to just give it my all. I 45 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 1: knew going into it, and this is another huge lesson 46 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:47,519 Speaker 1: that I've learned over the past four million downloads is 47 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: that you've got to trust your gut and sometimes you've 48 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 1: got to jump before you're ready. And with so many, 49 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:59,560 Speaker 1: you know, big asks, reaching out to guests, talking to sponsors, 50 00:02:59,880 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: so much of that was me just one hundred percent 51 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:06,880 Speaker 1: winging it. And in these scenarios it was really like, well, 52 00:03:07,320 --> 00:03:09,920 Speaker 1: the worst thing that can happen in this moment is 53 00:03:09,919 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: that someone can tell you know, someone can say, hmm, 54 00:03:12,520 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: I don't really want to be on that show. A 55 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: sponsor could say, hmmm, that price sounds like a little 56 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: too much for us, or whatever. And I have gotten 57 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: very used to know over the last four years. But 58 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: what that does for me is it makes the yes 59 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 1: moments so much sweeter. But going back to this idea 60 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: of just starting of just putting yourself out there, I 61 00:03:39,640 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 1: never envisioned four years ago that I'd be sitting in 62 00:03:43,240 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: a dedicated home office space designed to record with other 63 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:52,200 Speaker 1: people one day who knows, sometime soon, I hope, thank 64 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: you COVID, But does this in this office space with 65 00:03:56,120 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: two microphones and a neon sign and a massive silver 66 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: Milar balloon that says the number four and would have 67 00:04:04,960 --> 00:04:08,320 Speaker 1: been featured in the New York Times, and today I 68 00:04:08,400 --> 00:04:10,360 Speaker 1: was in Vogue, Like are you kidding? 69 00:04:11,000 --> 00:04:12,840 Speaker 2: Are you effing kidding? 70 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: I never thought that this was gonna happen, And to 71 00:04:16,720 --> 00:04:19,040 Speaker 1: be honest, like I didn't even have a thought of 72 00:04:19,120 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 1: like where I wanted to go with this. I just 73 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: knew what I wanted to do, and what I wanted 74 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,720 Speaker 1: to do was connect with individuals all over the country 75 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,960 Speaker 1: to empower them on their own personal wellness journeys and 76 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: make them feel less alone. I remember feeling so alone 77 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:37,640 Speaker 1: when I started mine back early in college. And all 78 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,040 Speaker 1: link to episode one where you can hear more about 79 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 1: my past and the show notes. But all of this 80 00:04:43,680 --> 00:04:45,760 Speaker 1: to say is that I knew what I wanted to do. 81 00:04:45,920 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: I wanted to help people. I knew that I could 82 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:50,680 Speaker 1: do that via a podcast. And now it just blows 83 00:04:50,720 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 1: my mind that four million times someone has opened up 84 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 1: their podcast feed wherever they get their podcasts, and hopefully 85 00:05:00,080 --> 00:05:04,960 Speaker 1: prection of those times someone walked away with something, some 86 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:08,840 Speaker 1: sort of nugget of inspiration of piece of advice that 87 00:05:08,880 --> 00:05:12,280 Speaker 1: they were able to use in their day today. And 88 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:16,000 Speaker 1: so this little rambly rant on this five minute Friday 89 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:19,960 Speaker 1: is twofold. It's one to say thank you to all 90 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:23,400 Speaker 1: of you with the hurdlers. Without you, you give me 91 00:05:23,440 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 1: so much purpose and you give me so much life, 92 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:30,760 Speaker 1: and I appreciate it so much when I get the 93 00:05:30,800 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 1: messages and the emails of people thinking me. But really, 94 00:05:33,880 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 1: what I want you to know is that you are 95 00:05:36,320 --> 00:05:39,280 Speaker 1: my why you are giving me so much more than 96 00:05:39,320 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: I can even possibly try to articulate here. And the 97 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 1: second fold again is just if there's something that you've 98 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: been thinking about, a mission, that you have something, a dream, 99 00:05:48,240 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 1: a goal, a wish, like, just act on it. You know, 100 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 1: like there's no time like the present. Every day is 101 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 1: a gift and an opportunity and you have to grab 102 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: that opportunity go after the things that you really really want. 103 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 2: Oh so many feels. 104 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:08,680 Speaker 1: My prompt for you this week, what is one thing 105 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,840 Speaker 1: you've been holding off on that you want to start? 106 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:14,200 Speaker 2: And when? When are you gonna do that? 107 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: What is one thing that you have been holding off 108 00:06:16,720 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: on that you want to start? And now a listener question. 109 00:06:24,080 --> 00:06:26,680 Speaker 3: Hey, Emily, my name is Annie and I started listening 110 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:28,880 Speaker 3: to your Hurdle podcast this year and I look forward 111 00:06:28,920 --> 00:06:32,520 Speaker 3: to it every single week. I just finished listening to. 112 00:06:32,640 --> 00:06:35,719 Speaker 4: The podcast you had Rainy Howard about relationships, and it 113 00:06:35,760 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 4: really resonated with me after just recently getting HINT and 114 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,839 Speaker 4: finding myself lowering my standards for these guides that I 115 00:06:42,120 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 4: see these constant red flags and just. 116 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:48,240 Speaker 3: Like being hung on to things. I guess my question 117 00:06:48,360 --> 00:06:50,960 Speaker 3: is like, how do you maintain your standards, your space, 118 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:54,400 Speaker 3: your worth when you're dating and just like not be afraid, 119 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:57,839 Speaker 3: just like put yourself out there, but still like keep 120 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 3: your own confidence and I don't know, I just like 121 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:02,200 Speaker 3: to hear your thoughts on that. Thank you so much. 122 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:05,760 Speaker 1: Ooh, this is a good one, Okay. Owning your worth 123 00:07:06,040 --> 00:07:12,160 Speaker 1: in relationships. Honestly, this really starts with determining and establishing 124 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: your sense of self worth because your level of self 125 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:22,160 Speaker 1: care overall impacts your well being, and others cannot fill 126 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: a void that you may be creating when it comes 127 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: to articulating your value. You know, it's so easy for 128 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: us to neglect ourselves and deprive ourselves of what we 129 00:07:32,600 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: might need, and that could be anything from encouragement or 130 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: connection or reassurance to consideration and attention and care. There's 131 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: so much that we need as humans, and often if 132 00:07:46,840 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: we aren't providing that for ourselves, then we look to 133 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: other people to provide it for us. But the problem 134 00:07:53,560 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: in that is that we then mistakenly believe that this 135 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,240 Speaker 1: pain that we are experiencing because this void is something 136 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:04,560 Speaker 1: that can only be fixed by another, and that is 137 00:08:04,600 --> 00:08:07,560 Speaker 1: so not true. You need to show up for you, 138 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:11,800 Speaker 1: and once you can articulate your worth, once you know 139 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: how awesome that you are, I'm telling you, hear it, 140 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 1: then you will better be able to manage a situation 141 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:23,680 Speaker 1: where you realize that someone is not valuing that. And 142 00:08:23,920 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: it's hard to be honest sometimes in those situations because 143 00:08:27,160 --> 00:08:30,200 Speaker 1: we are made to feel if at one time they 144 00:08:30,360 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: were giving us what we needed and then the next 145 00:08:32,800 --> 00:08:35,960 Speaker 1: moment they are not that. Well, this person was capable 146 00:08:36,000 --> 00:08:38,120 Speaker 1: of giving me what I needed, so I know it 147 00:08:38,160 --> 00:08:42,760 Speaker 1: can happen again, But if it to pattern and it 148 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:46,080 Speaker 1: keeps not happening and they keep making you feel like 149 00:08:46,160 --> 00:08:50,200 Speaker 1: you're not important enough, that you have got to walk period. 150 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 2: End of story. 151 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: Of course, there is value in trying to communicate with 152 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:58,000 Speaker 1: this person, and the right person will hear you communicating 153 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:02,760 Speaker 1: and make a pattern, shit will recognize your value, will 154 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:07,240 Speaker 1: work with you to make you feel appreciated it's easier 155 00:09:07,280 --> 00:09:11,840 Speaker 1: so than done. Our heart makes life really effing tricky sometimes. 156 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:15,920 Speaker 1: But know that if you feel like something is off, 157 00:09:16,320 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 1: you deserve to talk about it, to do something about it, 158 00:09:20,480 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 1: and not to feel trapped in this scenario. Life's too short, man, 159 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:29,559 Speaker 1: It's too short. And I'll be frank like my sense 160 00:09:29,559 --> 00:09:32,360 Speaker 1: of self worth and what I know that I deserve 161 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:36,120 Speaker 1: and ultimately what I'm looking for. I am so firm 162 00:09:36,280 --> 00:09:40,960 Speaker 1: in these ideas that, yeah, sometimes I ask myself, like, 163 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:43,600 Speaker 1: am I ever going to find this thing? But I 164 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:47,120 Speaker 1: would rather spend all of these years and all of 165 00:09:47,120 --> 00:09:54,640 Speaker 1: this time doing this solo right then sacrificing, you know, 166 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 1: the things that I want and the life that I 167 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:59,760 Speaker 1: dream of because someone else can't handle when I have 168 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:04,199 Speaker 1: to bring to the table. Who a little female empowerment 169 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:07,800 Speaker 1: to get you to the weekend, You are welcome. Make 170 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:10,760 Speaker 1: sure you are following along over on social media at 171 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast. 172 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 2: I am over at Emily a Body. 173 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 1: By the time you are listening to this, if you're 174 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: listening to it early on Friday morning, August thirteenth, I 175 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:24,720 Speaker 1: will be hopefully finishing a very very long run that 176 00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:28,080 Speaker 1: was probably very difficult because it's going to be obscenely 177 00:10:28,160 --> 00:10:31,720 Speaker 1: hot here in New York City tomorrow, so feel free 178 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:33,960 Speaker 1: to shoot me some words of encouragement or a DM. 179 00:10:34,320 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: I appreciate you, I appreciate this community again. Thank you 180 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:41,000 Speaker 1: so much for four million. I can't imagine my life 181 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:45,200 Speaker 1: without you. Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.