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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating Herspace.

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Speaker 2: I've heard it said that when you're in the back

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Speaker 2: of that garbage truck all day long, you don't smell

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Speaker 2: it anymore. You become tolerant of the mess. You become

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Speaker 2: tolerant of that sickening thing, that toxic thing. So sometimes

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Speaker 2: it's removing yourself even temporarily, go on that trip, take

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Speaker 2: that weekend vacation by yourself, so you have to turn

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Speaker 1: Today's episode is sure to provide you with motivation, inspiration,

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Speaker 3: Welcome to Cultivator in her Space, a podcast dedicated to

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Speaker 3: uplifting women like you.

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Speaker 4: We're your hosts.

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Speaker 3: Doctor Dominique Brussard, a college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 5: And Terry Lomax, a techie and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 5: world where Black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood. Please

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Speaker 5: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 5: fibroids to fake friends and create a safe space where

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Speaker 5: black women can.

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Speaker 3: Just be.

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Speaker 5: Ladies. Today, we have a very special guest on the show,

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Speaker 5: and I'm just going to jump right into her bio

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Speaker 5: because we want to get to the juicy conversation. Okay.

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Speaker 5: Doctor Trudy Ann Fraser is a pediatric dentist, wellness expert,

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Speaker 5: and social media influencer dedicated to inspiring positive transformations in

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Speaker 5: the lives of others. After overcoming severe burnout with the

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Speaker 5: passion for holistic wellness, she and her team developed the

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Speaker 5: PMS formula Physical, Mental, and Spiritual Wellness. Her purpose is

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Speaker 5: to empower others to embrace self care and self love

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Speaker 5: by promoting a harmonious and fulfilling lifestyle that sounds so amazing.

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Speaker 5: Doctor Trudy in, welcome to cultivating her space.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you, it's an honor to you here day.

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Speaker 3: Oh well, we are definitely looking forward to this conversation,

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Speaker 3: and so we will start with our quote of the day,

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Speaker 3: and Doctor Trudi in, this quote will sound familiar to

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Speaker 3: you because these are your words, So our quote of

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Speaker 3: the day, invest in yourself like you're the most valuable asset.

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Speaker 3: So I'll say that one more time for the folks

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Speaker 4: Doctor Trudian.

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Speaker 3: When you hear your words, what give us some context

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Speaker 4: Ooh, that gave me goosebuones. First of all, y'all surprised me.

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Speaker 4: So I'm choosing ear to ear like a cheshire cat.

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Speaker 2: Invest in yourself like you are the most valuable asset.

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Speaker 2: So do things come to mind when I hear that?

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Speaker 2: And when I said those words, the first thing was

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Speaker 2: I have some good friends here in Atlanton that own,

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Speaker 2: excuse me, a diamond like a precious stone and a

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Speaker 2: you know, when somebody says it's an investment piece, they

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Speaker 2: So that's the first thing. Invest in yourself like you

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Speaker 2: the biggest diamond, the most clear diamond that they have

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Speaker 4: They you can't even touch it.

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Speaker 2: You have to touch it with gloves, handle yourself with care.

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Speaker 2: So that quote came because I broke down and burned out,

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Speaker 2: and I'm sure we're going to get into my story

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Speaker 2: a little bit later. But I was actually the opposite.

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Speaker 5: doctor Trudy, And that was good. Okay, so you talked

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Speaker 5: Doctor Triuney in what is your origin story and how

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Speaker 4: Sure? So, I was born in Jamaica, book, I lived

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Speaker 2: So Daddy was a biology teacher, a high school biogey

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Speaker 2: And I remember Daddy saying I had to flee Jamaica

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Speaker 4: So in order to feed us ice cream, he had

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Speaker 2: and training you as well, you're still living in that country.

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Speaker 4: So I had the thick eyebrow.

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Speaker 4: So it all started in my childhood.

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Speaker 2: I'm sure many women that listen to your podcast, can

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Speaker 4: Wow, keep going wow.

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Speaker 3: You know, I think I'm glad you paused there, because

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Speaker 3: I think that's an important piece to acknowledge that your foundation,

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Speaker 3: how you start your childhood has a huge impact on.

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Speaker 4: The rest of your life.

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Speaker 5: Right.

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Speaker 3: And I also think that it's important for us to

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Speaker 3: particularly when you're coming as a child, how that really

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Speaker 4: Right.

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Speaker 3: So, doctor Trudeanne, you are living in Georgia, growing up

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Speaker 3: in Georgia, you're experiencing bullying. You haven't yet realized and

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Speaker 3: we fast forward, we know that you're a pediatric dentist.

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Speaker 3: So tell us how you got to that space and

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Speaker 3: then what happened that led you to really realizing that

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Speaker 2: I love how you did that transition. So I think

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Speaker 2: And I'd like to answer that question by saying, I'm

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Speaker 2: pivotal moment in my life was actually after I became

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Speaker 4: And it wasn't until I hit rock bottom.

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Speaker 2: But I don't I call it my beauty for Ashes

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Speaker 4: I'm that girl. But I learned how to be empathetic

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Speaker 2: To others when they show up because we're all going

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Speaker 4: Because nobody's gonna value me like me.

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Speaker 2: some way, somehow, these these employers never give us their

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Speaker 2: to answer your question, my journey to become is not

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Speaker 2: yet complete, but right now for my trials from you know,

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Speaker 2: when diamonds go through pressure, they come out better and

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Speaker 4: I've learned how to.

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Speaker 2: Put my well being first and not force so much

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Speaker 2: I show up depleted because physically I'm in pain, Mentally

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Speaker 2: I'm stressed out, Spiritually I'm depleted, and emotionally God helped me.

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Speaker 2: I'm an EmPATH, so when I go from room to

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Speaker 2: going on, let me feel seen, heard and understood, but

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Speaker 2: not absorb it. So from my experience, Dominic, I do

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Speaker 2: believe that I have a lot of beauty from my ashes,

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Speaker 2: and I'm thankful.

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Speaker 4: I did not enjoy the broken experience, but.

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Speaker 2: I'm enjoying the fruits of the work that I did,

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Speaker 4: Able to see my daddy don't treat my mom like that.

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Speaker 4: He was not breaking her down. But that was my reality.

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Speaker 2: Because I was crying, y'all crying, wa enough crying going.

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Speaker 4: To somebody else. Because our society praises man.

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Speaker 2: Okay, your husband. I'm not saying it's not a beautiful thing.

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Speaker 2: I love marriage, just beautiful. But being married to the

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Speaker 4: So I'm a pause right there because I think I

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Speaker 3: You dropped a lot of gems in there, and I

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Speaker 3: learned about yourself was that you were more than your career,

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Speaker 2: Doctor dom Initially I was shocked because nobody had.

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Speaker 2: But I think I became addicted to the praise and

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Speaker 4: Doctor title doctor, and then it became missus and then

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Speaker 4: So I don't quite have a full answer for you

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Speaker 2: Maybe you as a therapist could give some insight to this,

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Speaker 2: God said, okay, beby girl, enough, it's enough. Let me

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Speaker 2: help you out, let me remove you from this, and

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Speaker 2: realized I created you for more. This is just cherry

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Speaker 4: So I don't quite have an answer to how to

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Speaker 4: Maybe it is an answer to have things around you,

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Speaker 4: Because he's a lawyer, but he's so much more. I'm

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Speaker 4: So maybe having things.

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Speaker 2: Like affirmation or books that you read or people around

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Speaker 2: like baby, like you got it. This is who you are,

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Speaker 3: I think you answered it beautifully, like I love that answer,

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Speaker 5: of the things that I did want to ask you

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Speaker 5: about is like what began your journey into dentistry and

442
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Speaker 5: specifically pediatric dentistry.

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Speaker 4: Oh great question. So I've always had a love for science.

444
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Speaker 2: I think my dad, being a science teacher, he always

445
00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 2: had some kind of scientific experiment, like he made science

446
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 2: fun for us as a child. So my interest in

447
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,399
Speaker 2: science was peaked earlier on and of course when you

448
00:25:56,480 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 2: love science and you're good at science, you're almost steered

449
00:25:59,520 --> 00:26:02,840
Speaker 2: into the path of healthcare in some way. Scientists health care.

450
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 2: So I initially thought I wanted to be either nurse

451
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:08,880
Speaker 2: or a physician. But then I got my wisdom teeth

452
00:26:08,880 --> 00:26:11,880
Speaker 2: out at seventeen and I saw that the dentists were

453
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Speaker 2: both physicians and dentist.

454
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Speaker 4: I was like, okay, that's cool. So it sparked my interest,

455
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:19,440
Speaker 4: and then I did internships. So I always promote for

456
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 4: the moms listening or the young ladies that are listening

457
00:26:22,680 --> 00:26:25,720
Speaker 4: getting exposed to different things because we don't know what

458
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Speaker 4: we don't know. So I did an internship. It was

459
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 4: a summer program in.

460
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Speaker 2: College in Howard, and I was able to go to

461
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Speaker 2: the operating room one with a orthopedic surgeon that bless him,

462
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Speaker 2: he's so sweet.

463
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Speaker 4: I put myself out there. I met this tall black

464
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Speaker 4: guy in the in.

465
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Speaker 2: The cafeteria and I walked up to him and I

466
00:26:42,560 --> 00:26:44,399
Speaker 2: told him who I was and what I was there for,

467
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:46,919
Speaker 2: and he said meet me here, and I met him

468
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Speaker 2: and he took me.

469
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Speaker 4: The surgery five hours of surgery, and I was falling

470
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Speaker 4: over and he was like, baby, this is not for you,

471
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 4: I said, it's not. So I was exposed to what

472
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Speaker 4: long hours surgery was like, and I said, okay, it's

473
00:27:01,880 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 4: not surgery, but maybe I can look into oral surgery.

474
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Speaker 4: And I enjoyed it.

475
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Speaker 6: I liked it.

476
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Speaker 2: So I went to demo school thinking I was going

477
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Speaker 2: to be a surgeon. So I put my head down.

478
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Speaker 2: I told somebody yesterday I was an ostrich and dental school.

479
00:27:12,760 --> 00:27:17,480
Speaker 2: I literally was an ostridge at down I mean elbow

480
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:19,720
Speaker 2: deep in school. And I was blessed.

481
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Speaker 4: God blessed my efforts.

482
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Speaker 2: I was on a podcast yesterday and the young lady said,

483
00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:26,159
Speaker 2: give God something to work with, give him something to bless.

484
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:28,239
Speaker 4: So I gave God quite a bit to bless. I'm

485
00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 4: so thankful that he did.

486
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:31,840
Speaker 2: But what I realized in dental school is I didn't

487
00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 2: like taking people's teeth outs.

488
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 4: I still don't. But I was really good with kids.

489
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Speaker 4: I was able.

490
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:41,800
Speaker 2: I live out loud, I live in color, I live brightly,

491
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:45,240
Speaker 2: and I was able to connect really well and have fun.

492
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 2: I wanted a job where I could have fun. I

493
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 2: could go to work. Even to this day, I go

494
00:27:49,560 --> 00:27:52,680
Speaker 2: to work in superhero costumes and page and tututh.

495
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Speaker 4: I just have a good time.

496
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Speaker 2: I'm enjoying the life that I was blessed with and

497
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Speaker 2: I leaned into and I had quite a bit of

498
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:05,880
Speaker 2: mentors in pediatric dentistry, and I managed. I was blessed

499
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 2: with matching my number one program, and eleven years later,

500
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Speaker 2: I'm still practicing pediatric dentistry.

501
00:28:12,680 --> 00:28:13,640
Speaker 4: It is hard.

502
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Speaker 2: One thing I will say is what parents don't realize

503
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Speaker 2: is we, as pediatric dentists, have two patients.

504
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 4: We have the mom or the dad.

505
00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,159
Speaker 2: Most of the times it's the mom, but dads do

506
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:28,040
Speaker 2: come and we have the kids. So there are two

507
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:32,080
Speaker 2: patients in the room and maternal anxiety, the anxiety of

508
00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 2: the mom.

509
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,199
Speaker 4: Does get transferred to the kids. So this is a

510
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Speaker 4: shameless plug.

511
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Speaker 2: Don't prepare the kids unless you're reading a book and

512
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:43,680
Speaker 2: it's a positive book. If you yourself have dental anxiety,

513
00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:47,960
Speaker 2: don't I know you mean well, but don't prepare them.

514
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 2: Let us do it because what happens is, especially if

515
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 2: the kids are in pain and we're like, oh, it's

516
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 2: gonna hurt.

517
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:56,480
Speaker 4: They're gonna give you a shot. We're trying to prepare them,

518
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 4: but we don't even call a shot. I call a

519
00:28:58,360 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 4: shot at work.

520
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:01,720
Speaker 2: The BADSS word, so we don't even use it because

521
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:05,760
Speaker 2: it's scared of kids and they're not emotionally intelligent enough

522
00:29:06,240 --> 00:29:09,280
Speaker 2: to separate the fight or flight and tap into their

523
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 2: rest and digest like, Okay, it's okay to do it.

524
00:29:11,800 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 4: I can do it.

525
00:29:12,280 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 2: Scared, No, they're just like I'm scared, don't touch me,

526
00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 2: So let us do it. And then the other plug

527
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Speaker 2: I have is please, please, please, when you come to

528
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Speaker 2: your dentists, whether it's a kid's dentist or a built dentist,

529
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:24,680
Speaker 2: stop telling the dentist that you hate them.

530
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Speaker 4: I hate the dentist.

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Speaker 2: What you really are saying is I'm really anxious when

532
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 2: I come to this place. I had a bad experience

533
00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 2: in the past and it makes me nervous. But as

534
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:40,080
Speaker 2: dentists were people too, and our mental stress manifests itself physically.

535
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Speaker 4: So not only are we physically hunched over day in

536
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 4: the day out, but when we have I mean sometimes

537
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 4: I see forty people.

538
00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 2: If I have forty people come and say, I hate you,

539
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 2: I hate you, I hate you, I hate you.

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Speaker 4: Doctor dom, I'm sure you tell your patients. Words are powered.

541
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Speaker 4: There's seeds that de planted. So I went to a

542
00:29:57,240 --> 00:30:00,520
Speaker 4: job where it and even ten people. I'm afraid I

543
00:30:00,520 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 4: hate you, doctor d I hate you. Stop saying that.

544
00:30:02,840 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 4: Say what you really mean. I am nervous.

545
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:14,440
Speaker 3: Oh okay, okay, plugs. I am here for those tips.

546
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, because I know a lot of people that

547
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:21,120
Speaker 3: don't like going to the dentists. And really, what it

548
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 3: is is, yes, they are anxious about whatever treatment they

549
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,520
Speaker 3: believe it's going to cause them pain. Yes, and our

550
00:30:30,560 --> 00:30:35,000
Speaker 3: brains are wired to help us reduce pain and find pleasure.

551
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 3: And for a lot of people, unfortunately, the dentist office

552
00:30:40,360 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 3: is not one of those places. However, it sounds like

553
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Speaker 3: when you talked about being getting to wear like tutus

554
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:52,760
Speaker 3: and superhero costumes, I was like, Oh, I want all

555
00:30:52,760 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 3: my nieces and nephews to go and see you. And

556
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 3: then and so when I recognize that your practice is

557
00:30:58,640 --> 00:31:00,560
Speaker 3: in Atlanta, and.

558
00:31:00,480 --> 00:31:02,560
Speaker 4: So, what are.

559
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:10,480
Speaker 3: Some of the joys of being a pediatric dentist?

560
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:14,400
Speaker 4: Oh, great question. You know what.

561
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:21,880
Speaker 2: One of my biggest joys is when well, let me

562
00:31:21,920 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 2: back up. My superpower is connection. I love connecting with people.

563
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:31,800
Speaker 2: Teeth are great, but they're secondary to what they do.

564
00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:33,240
Speaker 2: I know, I'm a dentist. I don't know I don't

565
00:31:33,240 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 2: know if I'm supposed to.

566
00:31:34,120 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 4: Say to or not.

567
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 2: But I don't work as a dentist because I love teeth.

568
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:42,440
Speaker 2: I work as a dentist because I genuinely love people,

569
00:31:43,080 --> 00:31:46,680
Speaker 2: love connecting with people, and like people to feel seen,

570
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 2: heard and understood.

571
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Speaker 4: So let's start there.

572
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Speaker 2: So that is a superpower of mine and I love

573
00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,520
Speaker 2: it espectly my young girls. And when I have those

574
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Speaker 2: teenage girls or those five year old and the mom's

575
00:32:00,400 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 2: just sending me videos on Instagram where the kids stands

576
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 2: up in their class and they're like, I'm going to

577
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:08,600
Speaker 2: be a dentist like doctor. You know, it's beautiful because

578
00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:10,560
Speaker 2: we don't know what we don't know. But when little

579
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:13,440
Speaker 2: girls see me and they're like, wait, you have big

580
00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 2: afro hair like me, or you know, or I have.

581
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 4: On the same color as them.

582
00:32:18,400 --> 00:32:21,400
Speaker 2: I love pink, and I have Today's not orange day,

583
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 2: but I love pink.

584
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,000
Speaker 4: And they're like, I love pink too, and they just

585
00:32:25,080 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 4: connect and they see them. So first of all, they

586
00:32:27,440 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 4: think I'm like twenty one, and I'm okay with that.

587
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:30,560
Speaker 4: That listen.

588
00:32:30,600 --> 00:32:33,520
Speaker 2: Ain't nobody getting plastic surgery to look older. So all

589
00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,280
Speaker 2: you young professionals out there, when people see and they're like, oh,

590
00:32:36,320 --> 00:32:39,200
Speaker 2: you look too young to be a pause right there,

591
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 2: that's their perspective that they're projecting. But secondly, I've learned

592
00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 2: to shift it around and make it a compliment, because

593
00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 2: ain't nobody having classic surgery to look old the last

594
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:47,880
Speaker 2: time I check.

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Speaker 4: So I tell them that and then I say thank you,

596
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 4: so they connect to me.

597
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,880
Speaker 2: One of my other favorite things of the young girls

598
00:32:57,040 --> 00:32:59,239
Speaker 2: like when I talk to them about the things that

599
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 2: they aspire to be and what it is that they like.

600
00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 2: Because as a culture, we praise certain jobs.

601
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 4: We say, oh doctor, oh lord, but hell, Terry Dominique,

602
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 4: you'll are the best at what you do, and we

603
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 4: live in a world where you can be a damn

604
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:19,360
Speaker 4: good podcaster and make great money.

605
00:33:19,880 --> 00:33:24,120
Speaker 2: As parents, they want to instill high achieving goals in

606
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Speaker 2: their kids because they want them to do well. They

607
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 2: want them to do better than how they did.

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Speaker 4: Right.

609
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 2: So the intention is good. But when I pause and

610
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 2: I talk to young girls and I'm like, I hear

611
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:35,640
Speaker 2: what you.

612
00:33:35,640 --> 00:33:38,240
Speaker 4: Said you want to do, but what do you like?

613
00:33:38,920 --> 00:33:39,880
Speaker 4: And then they light up.

614
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 2: Because they're like, oh my gosh, I like anime and

615
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:43,960
Speaker 2: I start talking about dragon balls.

616
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:48,200
Speaker 4: The they just a light up because they still seen,

617
00:33:48,840 --> 00:33:52,040
Speaker 4: they feel heard, and they feel understood. So I would

618
00:33:52,080 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 4: say that's probably the favorite part of my job, my boss,

619
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Speaker 4: I guess I should send her this.

620
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Speaker 2: I I work in a very healthy environment, work with

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Speaker 2: a remarkable black woman from South Africa who pours into me,

622
00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:09,799
Speaker 2: who allows my big bright light to shine, and she

623
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 2: has amazing, big bright light too, and we both just

624
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:17,280
Speaker 2: shine together, and together we just serve our community so well.

625
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:20,640
Speaker 2: So that's probably another favorite part. I guess there's a

626
00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 2: theme here. Support, that big est word that I talked

627
00:34:22,880 --> 00:34:27,320
Speaker 2: about before. I thrive so well when my little seed

628
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 2: is planted in the right soil and I'm supported so

629
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Speaker 2: I can grow. So I work in an environment where

630
00:34:35,160 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 2: I'm supported. Even the stuff I do outside of work,

631
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 2: my retreats. She's like, what's going on with the treat

632
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:44,000
Speaker 2: we treat? How many women are coming out? She supports

633
00:34:44,080 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 2: my endeavors, and I'm so thankful for that. So those

634
00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:49,960
Speaker 2: are some of the things that I really really enjoy

635
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:51,720
Speaker 2: about pediatric adust.

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Speaker 4: You think you were asking that.

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Speaker 5: That was such a beautiful answer, doctor Trudan, And I'm

638
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 5: just so happy for you because I'm thinking about where

639
00:34:59,239 --> 00:35:01,480
Speaker 5: you came from the the story you shared before about

640
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:03,480
Speaker 5: where you were in life and just the energy that

641
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 5: you're exuding today. And it sounds like the message I'm

642
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 5: getting is like go where you're celebrated and not tolerated,

643
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:12,359
Speaker 5: Like go where people are not intimidated by that light.

644
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:16,040
Speaker 5: And I can only imagine, I mean, just how impactful

645
00:35:16,080 --> 00:35:18,879
Speaker 5: it is with a young girl seeing you as a representative,

646
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 5: like I can only imagine how much I would love

647
00:35:20,960 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 5: the dentist if I had a distance like you when

648
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 5: I was younger. So it's so amazing, And I thank

649
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Speaker 5: you for the pro tips that you shared with appearance,

650
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Speaker 5: but I want to dig into another pro tip here,

651
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Speaker 5: and if you can share with parents, what are some

652
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,680
Speaker 5: best practices to help their little ones build healthy dental

653
00:35:34,760 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 5: hygiene habits early on, because I know for me, i'd

654
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Speaker 5: be struggling to flawstart portrudy in and I tried, but

655
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Speaker 5: my dentist, I'm one of those people right before the

656
00:35:42,520 --> 00:35:44,560
Speaker 5: dentist appointment, I'm like, oh, let me flow, so my

657
00:35:44,600 --> 00:35:46,160
Speaker 5: dentists can think that I've been doing a good job

658
00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:48,600
Speaker 5: when it's like, girl, that couple days of flaws and

659
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Speaker 5: ain't gonna do us Okay, can you help us out?

660
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:51,560
Speaker 5: What could we do?

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Speaker 4: Love that?

662
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:56,160
Speaker 2: So if you were my patient, Terri, I would say

663
00:35:56,440 --> 00:35:59,040
Speaker 2: thank you for your honesty, but we knew the truth.

664
00:35:59,480 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 2: Or I would tell them, are you doing like me?

665
00:36:02,360 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 2: Where a week before I've build I'll start brushing and

666
00:36:04,880 --> 00:36:06,880
Speaker 2: flossing really good because I used to do that and you're.

667
00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,279
Speaker 4: Like, you see me.

668
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 2: So the first tip I would say is say go

669
00:36:13,200 --> 00:36:16,280
Speaker 2: to the dentists one time every six months. The reason

670
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,640
Speaker 2: why we talk about that six month checkup is because

671
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 2: cavity is doubling the size in six months, So if

672
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 2: you go every six months, we can catch cavities while

673
00:36:25,000 --> 00:36:28,720
Speaker 2: they're small. So there are different levels of cavities. They're

674
00:36:28,719 --> 00:36:31,280
Speaker 2: really really small ones that are still in the enamel,

675
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:33,200
Speaker 2: which is the out of part of the tooth. They're

676
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:35,920
Speaker 2: medium sized ones that are still in the enamel but

677
00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:38,680
Speaker 2: starting to go inside. You may need feelings there. But

678
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:41,760
Speaker 2: we can catch cavities while they're little. There are things

679
00:36:41,800 --> 00:36:44,360
Speaker 2: that we can do. They're non invasive procedures that we

680
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 2: can do. We can suggest different habit changes that you

681
00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 2: can do, like reducing your carbs like those chips, cookies,

682
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:54,359
Speaker 2: things like that, or drinking water afterwards, because if your

683
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:57,000
Speaker 2: mouth is a cidic all day long, you're sipping on cold,

684
00:36:57,360 --> 00:37:00,120
Speaker 2: you're eating all the time, your mouth is acidic. If

685
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,560
Speaker 2: you drink water lit, I mean drink my watown, mind

686
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:07,839
Speaker 2: my business. Wait hey, look, everybody take a sipping water

687
00:37:07,880 --> 00:37:10,879
Speaker 2: moment right now. But if you're drinking your water all

688
00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:14,040
Speaker 2: throughout the day, then your mouth is less acidic and

689
00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 2: you lessen your chance of having cavities. I also like

690
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,960
Speaker 2: to recommend replacing some of the carbs, some of the

691
00:37:20,000 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 2: snacks from the pantry and going to the fridge instead,

692
00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 2: unless is apples offt of course, so your vegetables, your fruit,

693
00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 2: instead of the chips and cookies. Those don't quite break

694
00:37:30,360 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 2: down into sugar. Those simple carbs like chips and cookies,

695
00:37:33,120 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 2: they break down into sugar. So some parents say, oh

696
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 2: I don't get or some people they say, oh, I

697
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 2: don't eat candy, or I don't drink soda. But you're

698
00:37:40,160 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 2: eating a lot of carbs, and those simple carbs break

699
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 2: down into sugar. The bacteria eat or the germs eat

700
00:37:46,680 --> 00:37:48,759
Speaker 2: the sugar and produce an acid, so you have an

701
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 2: acidic not all day long. Imagine if you put your

702
00:37:51,080 --> 00:37:54,360
Speaker 2: hand in a swimming pool all day long. Eventually your

703
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:57,160
Speaker 2: skin is gonna shrivel up. Well, that's what's happening to

704
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:00,360
Speaker 2: your teeth. They're being broken down because of our habits,

705
00:38:00,440 --> 00:38:02,400
Speaker 2: are eating habits, our dietary habits.

706
00:38:03,160 --> 00:38:06,080
Speaker 4: So every six months dental check ups to catch cavities.

707
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:09,040
Speaker 2: When you're little. If your dentist says you need a filling,

708
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:12,799
Speaker 2: I know you're scared. Find a dentist that you trust, right,

709
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 2: you like, you know you trust. If you have to

710
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,359
Speaker 2: do it anyway, why not do it somebody that you like, right,

711
00:38:18,520 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 2: that you trust. Get that feeling, because that feeling is

712
00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:22,440
Speaker 2: only going to get bigger.

713
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 4: And if it.

714
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,320
Speaker 2: Starts to hurt, a lot of times, it's no longer

715
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:28,880
Speaker 2: a feeling. It's a roucaal. It's an extraction. So sometimes

716
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:32,120
Speaker 2: we wait until we need more invasive procedures and then

717
00:38:32,160 --> 00:38:35,359
Speaker 2: we're like, oh my god, it's gonna hurt. Well try

718
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:38,400
Speaker 2: I'm not knocking anybody that's in pain right now, but

719
00:38:38,880 --> 00:38:41,520
Speaker 2: go get it done. Get yourself out of pain, and

720
00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 2: continue taking care of yourself right. Get it while it's small.

721
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:50,480
Speaker 2: Second O, the third thing I recommend for parents is

722
00:38:50,520 --> 00:38:52,840
Speaker 2: to eat none sticky snacks. So I'm not a no

723
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 2: candy dentist. I know, I know I'm not a no

724
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 2: candy dentist because I have chocolate in my pantry right now.

725
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:01,400
Speaker 4: But I recommend no sticky snacks.

726
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 2: So I say pick non sticky stuff, pea popsicles, popcorn.

727
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:08,759
Speaker 2: Eye is for ice cream. These things dissolve. You could

728
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:11,520
Speaker 2: just drink water afterwards. See us for chocolate. I'm still

729
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:12,879
Speaker 2: trying to find a k but I had a little

730
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 2: four year old tell me KitKat. So all these things dissolve,

731
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 2: so they're the lesser of the two evils. Gummy vitamins,

732
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 2: gummy things. Those things stick in the groove, especially of

733
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:27,960
Speaker 2: our molars, and even though we're brushing them out, they

734
00:39:27,960 --> 00:39:31,399
Speaker 2: are little residues that stay and eventually they break through

735
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:35,240
Speaker 2: and you'll get a cavity. So I am against sticky things, gummies,

736
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:38,239
Speaker 2: fruit snacks, skittles, all those things that go like that.

737
00:39:38,960 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 2: Get away from it. But the chocolate, the ice cream,

738
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 2: those things are great. And then the last thing, it's

739
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:46,200
Speaker 2: a little trick.

740
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:48,760
Speaker 4: I use it for myself, Terry, and this may help.

741
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:53,399
Speaker 2: You flos first pair or flossing with something you're already doing.

742
00:39:53,440 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 2: I think in this book Atomic Habits they talk about

743
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,360
Speaker 2: havoc sacking. So if you're already doing something like you

744
00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 2: shower every single night. I do have teenage boys as patients,

745
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:04,879
Speaker 2: so I'm careful when I say do you shower every night?

746
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 2: Some of them are like nah. I'm like, okay, that's

747
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:09,040
Speaker 2: not gonna be a good analogy. But most of us

748
00:40:09,080 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 2: shower every night. So if you pair flossing, brushing, and

749
00:40:13,440 --> 00:40:16,240
Speaker 2: showering and do it in that order. If you phlos

750
00:40:16,360 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 2: first and then brush, you keep most people brush your

751
00:40:18,200 --> 00:40:20,279
Speaker 2: teeth that night. Some of them go out no shave

752
00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,239
Speaker 2: right now, But you do want to go to bed

753
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:24,680
Speaker 2: with a clean mouth. If you're only able to brush

754
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 2: and floss at least once a day, nighttime is the

755
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:28,439
Speaker 2: best time.

756
00:40:28,600 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 4: Twice is ideally, but you.

757
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:32,319
Speaker 2: At least want to go to bed with a clean

758
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:35,640
Speaker 2: mouth because you're not salivating as much at night, so

759
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 2: your mouth tends to be more acidic.

760
00:40:37,400 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 4: So go to bed with a clean mouth. Philos first

761
00:40:39,960 --> 00:40:41,520
Speaker 4: and then brush. If you hate.

762
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,359
Speaker 2: Flossing, at least get a water pick. At least get

763
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:46,719
Speaker 2: a water floss. Put half mouthwash a floridading mouthwash in there,

764
00:40:47,160 --> 00:40:49,279
Speaker 2: half water, and at least start with the water pick.

765
00:40:49,360 --> 00:40:53,879
Speaker 2: It's better than nothing. I hope those tips help. Those

766
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:56,719
Speaker 2: tips were great, Thank you. Yes, I feel like even

767
00:40:56,800 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 2: as adults we could benefit from that. And so, doctor Trudean,

768
00:41:01,360 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 2: I know oftentimes people don't think about the connection between

769
00:41:08,480 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 2: their dental health and their overall health. Like you get

770
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:15,160
Speaker 2: to the dentist office and they're asking questions about your

771
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 2: overall medical history, your daily habits, and we're like, well,

772
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:22,759
Speaker 2: what does this have to do with my teeth? Can

773
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:27,839
Speaker 2: you let us know why taking care of our overall

774
00:41:27,880 --> 00:41:35,040
Speaker 2: health is important to maintaining good oral health. So I

775
00:41:35,080 --> 00:41:39,120
Speaker 2: love how you said that oral health is a key

776
00:41:39,200 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 2: component in overall health, and the mouth is the gateway.

777
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:47,560
Speaker 2: It's not just the entrance, but it's the gateway to

778
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:48,640
Speaker 2: the rest of our body.

779
00:41:49,080 --> 00:41:50,799
Speaker 4: Believe it or not, there.

780
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:56,320
Speaker 2: Are hundreds of diseases that manifest in the mouth first.

781
00:41:57,200 --> 00:41:59,680
Speaker 2: So if you go to the dentist, and a lot

782
00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 2: of dentists were trained to find the disease before it

783
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 2: starts as a pregnant a woman, A lot of times

784
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 2: if you have parodonal disease, which is when you're dumped,

785
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:14,439
Speaker 2: it always starts, well, most of the times it starts

786
00:42:14,440 --> 00:42:17,640
Speaker 2: with ginger bitis right, and you're not flasc and you're

787
00:42:17,640 --> 00:42:21,520
Speaker 2: not brushing, and it can progress the periodontis, which is paradontitis,

788
00:42:21,520 --> 00:42:24,160
Speaker 2: which is when the bone starts to be affected. Well,

789
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:29,359
Speaker 2: that bacteria can actually enter your blood strain and it

790
00:42:29,400 --> 00:42:32,000
Speaker 2: goes into other parts of your body, and it can

791
00:42:32,120 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 2: enter the fetus, so it can cause premature birth uh huh,

792
00:42:35,680 --> 00:42:38,640
Speaker 2: pre term labor sial birds, things like that. That same

793
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 2: bacteria can enter into your heart that from your blood.

794
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 4: Think about it.

795
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:48,319
Speaker 2: Your blood goes everywhere, so that it can start in

796
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 2: the mouth and it can spread if you have a

797
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 2: dental infection, like you have a cavity, and it goes

798
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 2: from the outside. I talked about the enamela earlier. It

799
00:42:56,719 --> 00:42:59,520
Speaker 2: goes from the outside and eventually it breaks down until

800
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 2: it gets to the hope, which is where you're nervous.

801
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:06,560
Speaker 2: There's blood supply there. It goes in the bloodstream and

802
00:43:06,719 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 2: unfortunately people have passed.

803
00:43:09,360 --> 00:43:10,279
Speaker 4: Away, people have died.

804
00:43:10,760 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 2: That's the extreme level where the bacteria went to their

805
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:18,719
Speaker 2: brain or the bacterier went to their heart, and we

806
00:43:18,760 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 2: don't want that. Another thing that could happen is that

807
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 2: bacteria can spread to the back of your throat and

808
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:27,160
Speaker 2: there's something. The fancy word is ludwigs in China. But

809
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,400
Speaker 2: your airwaight can get closed because your whole back of

810
00:43:30,440 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 2: your throat swells up and your nose and your mouth

811
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:37,040
Speaker 2: is affected. It's connected. So when that swelling occurs, you

812
00:43:37,080 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 2: can't swallow. If you can't swallow, you can't breathe. Your

813
00:43:39,800 --> 00:43:42,280
Speaker 2: tongue gets swollen and you end up in the hospital.

814
00:43:42,440 --> 00:43:46,200
Speaker 2: So dental emergencies can happen. The other thing I always

815
00:43:46,280 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 2: tell people is enamel, which is the outer part of

816
00:43:49,239 --> 00:43:53,439
Speaker 2: the teeth, is the hardest substance in the body. It's

817
00:43:53,440 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 2: harder than bone. It's the hardest thing. So if our habits,

818
00:43:57,080 --> 00:44:00,720
Speaker 2: if the acid, if the soda, the phizzy, I should

819
00:44:00,719 --> 00:44:02,560
Speaker 2: have put that out there. Fizzy water is not good.

820
00:44:02,840 --> 00:44:07,160
Speaker 2: It's a cidic and once again, the acid burns the enamel.

821
00:44:08,040 --> 00:44:09,200
Speaker 4: No shade, y'all, no shade.

822
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 2: But if they called it what it was instead of

823
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 2: carbonated drinks, they call it carbonic acid or acid water,

824
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,280
Speaker 2: we would stay away from it. But it's all marketing.

825
00:44:17,640 --> 00:44:21,839
Speaker 2: Bubbly water, fizzy water, sparkling water. I want my teeth

826
00:44:21,880 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 2: to sparkle.

827
00:44:22,719 --> 00:44:23,320
Speaker 4: No, you're dumb.

828
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 2: But if you do drink something drink it after you eat,

829
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:29,480
Speaker 2: and then do regular water afterwards. So side note, I

830
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:31,279
Speaker 2: just had to put it out there, fizzy water is

831
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 2: not good for our teeth. But back to the original point,

832
00:44:34,840 --> 00:44:37,239
Speaker 2: enamo is the hardest substance in the body. So if

833
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 2: enamel breaks down, if what we're eating, our habits are

834
00:44:40,840 --> 00:44:43,480
Speaker 2: breaking down our enamel, what will it do over time

835
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,480
Speaker 2: to the rest of our body. That's how we end

836
00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 2: up with the diabetes, the hypertension, all these things. It

837
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:53,640
Speaker 2: starts with our habits are flossing, our brushing, right, it

838
00:44:53,719 --> 00:44:55,920
Speaker 2: starts with the types of food, our food choices.

839
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:59,600
Speaker 4: Lastly, I think I lost my train to fight. I'll

840
00:44:59,600 --> 00:44:59,879
Speaker 4: just stop.

841
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:03,520
Speaker 5: No, this was so good, doctor Trudiane. I will say

842
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:06,440
Speaker 5: I'm going to floss after our conversation. So thank you

843
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:08,400
Speaker 5: so much. I'm like, I need to go flaws. And

844
00:45:08,440 --> 00:45:11,120
Speaker 5: then this conversation went by too fast, doctor Trudean. But

845
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,120
Speaker 5: we do want to give you an opportunity to just

846
00:45:13,160 --> 00:45:16,040
Speaker 5: let our listeners know what's coming up next for you.

847
00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:17,880
Speaker 5: How can they support you or can they find you

848
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 5: all that good stuff? But this has been so insightful.

849
00:45:20,880 --> 00:45:24,360
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm so thankful to help. So from my experience,

850
00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 4: I call it my Beauty for Ashes story. I've developed

851
00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:31,719
Speaker 4: a framework and I walk around giving people PMS. We

852
00:45:31,880 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 4: focus and we pour into our physical, mental, and spiritual wellness.

853
00:45:36,160 --> 00:45:39,320
Speaker 2: And I've developed a retreat as well as a coaching

854
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:42,560
Speaker 2: program where we help people priortize themselves.

855
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 4: Don't be like me.

856
00:45:43,719 --> 00:45:46,000
Speaker 2: I waited on until I broke down and did not

857
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 2: know where to go in order to seek the help

858
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:52,840
Speaker 2: that I needed. So we built a non judgmental supportive.

859
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:56,200
Speaker 2: Here's the S word again, the support community. Where right

860
00:45:56,200 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 2: now it's only for women. I've had some men ask,

861
00:45:58,000 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 2: so right now it's only for women. We go on

862
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:03,840
Speaker 2: our retreats and we pour into ourselves. And I bring

863
00:46:04,080 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 2: other facilitators because I know I don't know everything, but

864
00:46:07,520 --> 00:46:09,600
Speaker 2: they help us rebuild. Some people don't know what it's

865
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 2: like to seek a therapist, so we talk about that.

866
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:14,960
Speaker 2: What is the process of that? What do I do

867
00:46:15,000 --> 00:46:18,280
Speaker 2: if I don't like my therapist? That another one, right,

868
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 2: So we do that our next retreat. The last one

869
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 2: was in Jamaica in March, but the next one is

870
00:46:22,640 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 2: in November, November seventh through the tenth, twenty twenty four

871
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:28,800
Speaker 2: in the Georgia Mountains. Everybody said I can't go overseas,

872
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 2: but can you do something local? So the next one

873
00:46:31,120 --> 00:46:32,120
Speaker 2: is in Georgia Mountains.

874
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 4: And if you.

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Speaker 2: Are a woman who needs to focus on their worth,

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Speaker 2: the next one is entitled I Am Worthy.

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Speaker 4: I' mean enough.

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Speaker 2: We're going to pour and focus on our self care,

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Speaker 2: our self esteem, our self confidence, so we can ask

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Speaker 2: for that promotion, so we can leave those toxic marriages,

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Speaker 2: so we can even if you're not broken down or

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Speaker 2: not in a rock and a hard place, but you

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Speaker 2: want to not get there, you want to avoid it,

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Speaker 2: you want to prevent it.

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Speaker 4: This retreat, this experience is free you.

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Speaker 2: And then you can find me on Instagram at doctor Trudyan,

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Speaker 2: dr and Trudy And.

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Speaker 4: I'm sure you'll put the link to the show notes.

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Speaker 4: But I'm happy to help.

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Speaker 2: I'm happy to answer questions, and the retreat website is

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Speaker 2: linked there for anybody.

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Speaker 4: We only have three spots left though we filled up quickly.

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Speaker 4: Yes I have. I'm thankful, I'm thankful.

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Speaker 3: And then I know some of our listeners may be

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Speaker 3: new peas for dentists for their little ones, and so

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Speaker 3: how can they find you? If they are needing excellent

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Speaker 3: dental care.

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Speaker 4: Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: I met a pediatric dentistry at Bindings and that's PDA b.

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Speaker 2: You can find us on the website google Pediatric Dentist

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Speaker 2: Share Bindings. Myself and doctor Bates are there. We're happy

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Speaker 2: to help take care of your needs. And if you

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Speaker 2: don't need a dentist for your little ones, but you

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Speaker 2: need some for your big ones, and you're in Georgia,

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Speaker 2: I've got a great network of female dentists who really

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Speaker 2: there too.

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Speaker 5: Doctor Trudean, you are amazing. We're just going to thank

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Speaker 5: you so much for all that you do, your gifts,

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Speaker 5: your wisdom, all that good stuff, and we look forward

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Speaker 5: to supporting you and staying connected with you in the future.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you, You're most welcome.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Hey, lady, it's doctor dom here from the Cultivating her

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Speaker 3: Please note that our show may contain conversations about self help, advice,

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