Speaker 1: He wasn't pissed, he wasn't happy, he was just in
Speaker 1: four loud shrieks. A Calm Down with Aeron and Carissa
Speaker 1: is a production of iHeartRadio. Hi everyone, welcome to the
Speaker 1: Calm Down Podcast. Ye, Aaron and I are matchams that
Speaker 1: were both wearing hooded sweatshirts. I have horses, and I
Speaker 1: need to talk about your sweatshirt because your sweet husband
Speaker 1: had this sweatshirt on on the flight home from the
Speaker 1: super Bowl and we were all like, oh, I love
Speaker 1: that sweatshirt and then cutie mccute did what he went
Speaker 1: and got them and I love it. It was a
Speaker 1: cute NFL collab with G four, really great great material.
Speaker 1: I love it, love it. G four. Let's do a collab,
Speaker 1: oh please, and we'll be on a G four or five. Interesting.
Speaker 1: I'm really bad about buying merch from like those kinds
Speaker 1: of events, But then in retrospect, I'm I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: I want something like that. It's like commemorative and nice.
Speaker 1: Although I do have my Rebecca mincuff wear by Aaron
Speaker 1: Andrews leather jacket. That's great. That's good, you know what.
Speaker 1: That's a great club. Okay, welcome. Also that shirt that
Speaker 1: that Neon one that I ended up being a big hit.
Speaker 1: I love that shirt and I love that shirt when
Speaker 1: you wore that day to year rehearsal. That shirt was
Speaker 1: ended up being real cute. So how does that work
Speaker 1: if people wanted I mean after the fact, like for me,
Speaker 1: if I'm oh, we're going to do them next year
Speaker 1: for next year Super Bowl, and I think we're going
Speaker 1: to do it for the All Star Game because that
Speaker 1: was a big hit. So giddy on up. But thanks
Speaker 1: for the support this weekend. Yes, tell us everything. Okay,
Speaker 1: you guys, there was an amazing event happening. I'll let
Speaker 1: Aaron speak to it. Because you partially hosted the event.
Speaker 1: I didn't realize you were doing so much with it,
Speaker 1: but you were spending your time for a great cause.
Speaker 1: Tell everyone about it. So the Los Angeles Kings and
Speaker 1: the NHL, they really did a great event on Sunday
Speaker 1: and they hosted kind of a celebrity game. They had
Speaker 1: four different teams hosted by like Snoop Dogg, Will Ferrell,
Speaker 1: Danny DeVito, Vince Vaughn, Michaels, Michael and I didn't get
Speaker 1: to see him. There were so you dinner there. I
Speaker 1: didn't get to see I was working noo and thank
Speaker 1: you to Fox for giving me permission and a thumbs up.
Speaker 1: I was told I was doing the in house kind
Speaker 1: of like interviews of some of the LA heroes, and
Speaker 1: then it went, you know, to the different stations that
Speaker 1: were covering it. So thank you so much to our
Speaker 1: bosses for being so sweet. It was so much fun,
Speaker 1: and I was so proud of the organization and the
Speaker 1: league and my husband. My husband worked really really hard
Speaker 1: on the event. He's he's so great and I have
Speaker 1: to tell you this, our friends in the NFL. I
Speaker 1: was kind of giving him a hard time about it.
Speaker 1: He uh, he reached out to Travis, he reached out
Speaker 1: to Tom, he reached out to I'm forgetting somebody else
Speaker 1: with the NFL. He reached out to and he got
Speaker 1: all these videos done from guys in the NFL. And
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, well, you got him done because
Speaker 1: they're my friends. And he was like, babe, and he's
Speaker 1: so sweet and so nice, and he did such a
Speaker 1: great job getting all this stuff done. And yeah, they
Speaker 1: had a lot of the first responders, they had a
Speaker 1: lot of people that lost their homes. They had a
Speaker 1: lot of people that you know, are trying to help
Speaker 1: people get back to life and get back to the
Speaker 1: real world with all of it, and they are still
Speaker 1: running this LA Strong event and there is still time
Speaker 1: to donate, and I'm going to make our social media
Speaker 1: people put up the code. But it was really really
Speaker 1: fun and these guys came out and they were skating.
Speaker 1: I posted a picture with Mackie Babes with Justin Bieber,
Speaker 1: which was so cute. Mark Metchnew, who I wanted a picture,
Speaker 1: was so bad. Yeah, it was a lot, a lot
Speaker 1: of fun and then great people like Andrew Whitwre showed up.
Speaker 1: He coached a teenager. Edelman brought his daughter. We had
Speaker 1: a big family skate before there's just in a really
Speaker 1: neat moment. I wish I was there. I was out
Speaker 1: of town, but I just love that. And here's the
Speaker 1: thing about those kinds of events, to your point about
Speaker 1: Jarrett and the effort, like they don't just happen. That's
Speaker 1: a lot of time and effort for people to organize that,
Speaker 1: and also for crypto like using you know those venues
Speaker 1: and everything that like goes into that, but for obviously
Speaker 1: for an incredible cause, and that's the thing too about
Speaker 1: these you know, devastating situations, whether it's a hurricane or
Speaker 1: whether it's the fires. Like there's the immediate help, right
Speaker 1: there's someone's like, oh, I want to help. I want
Speaker 1: to help. But then it's like as unfortunately, like life
Speaker 1: moves on for people, but it's like life doesn't move
Speaker 1: on for the person that's still living sometimes out of
Speaker 1: their car or at a relative's house or at a rental.
Speaker 1: Like if you're lucky enough you can get that's the
Speaker 1: time where it's like you got to check in on
Speaker 1: the people that are going through it because everyone helps
Speaker 1: right at the beginning, and then you know, life moves
Speaker 1: on and sadly like for these individuals. But it's really cool,
Speaker 1: and you were interviewing some of the people that just
Speaker 1: stepped in into you know, in the world that we
Speaker 1: live in, and sometimes people are inherently selfish. When you
Speaker 1: see people like that, like the guy that organized all
Speaker 1: the meals and those kinds of things, it's just really
Speaker 1: special that people step up. So kudos Jared Kings and
Speaker 1: everybody who was a part of that. You Matthew Stafford
Speaker 1: was the other video. I'm so sorry, but he got
Speaker 1: all these guys and it was so neat. Guess who
Speaker 1: got the biggest applause though when his face came up,
Speaker 1: Can you guess Travis? It was crazy. It was so wild,
Speaker 1: like we're like, who it's really special. Yeah, he's the best.
Speaker 1: I love that we are in our our re entry
Speaker 1: off season phase. Aaron just got back home. I'm coming
Speaker 1: back home in a couple of days. Avoiding reality, but
Speaker 1: we have a lot that we want to discuss. Aaron
Speaker 1: has stepped into the world of let them. We will
Speaker 1: discuss that. We all so like many girlfriends do. There's
Speaker 1: always that funny meme where it's like we communicate via
Speaker 1: text via DMS back and forth and have multiple conversations
Speaker 1: going with each other at the same time. Aaron sent
Speaker 1: me a great DM that was from Kate Winslet that
Speaker 1: resonated with both of us. We'll talk about that. We
Speaker 1: got a re entry update. I was saying how last
Speaker 1: week when we were talking, how I need to be
Speaker 1: less bitchy about things and let stuff go. So I'll
Speaker 1: fill you guys in on that, and then also just
Speaker 1: what's happening in our world of off season. I know
Speaker 1: it's not really an off season because this gal's already
Speaker 1: booked and busy. She's got a lunch date, so we're
Speaker 1: recording this podcast early so she can go. But all right,
Speaker 1: so that's what you were up to over the weekend.
Speaker 1: You also before we jumped on here, and you told
Speaker 1: me that you started reading the Mel Robbins phenomenon. That is,
Speaker 1: let them your thoughts. I know you're early on, but
Speaker 1: why did you want to pick up this book? And
Speaker 1: now there's dogs barking out there. I don't know much
Speaker 1: about Mels. I just she ended up being on my algorithm,
Speaker 1: which was refreshing, and I stopped and I listened and
Speaker 1: watched her clips from her podcast, and I started sending
Speaker 1: them to you, and I think Constance was sending them
Speaker 1: to me, and I just was like, okay, I don't
Speaker 1: this is a time where I'm not reading the daily
Speaker 1: clips about whatever game I'm covering. Let's do something useful
Speaker 1: besides watching Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, which I
Speaker 1: am deep into right now. I need an update on that.
Speaker 1: I haven't seen anything since you told me to watch
Speaker 1: the one that went to like got arrested and was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: there's a lot happening. Okay, I don't know anything. I
Speaker 1: need a recap there. It's so good, Like I don't
Speaker 1: do that during the season because I just feel guilty
Speaker 1: and I don't really have time. So now I'm full
Speaker 1: blown in this is like when I'm doing my skincare
Speaker 1: routine or I'm like plucking or whatever, I've got it
Speaker 1: on in the bathroom, like it's making me happy, or
Speaker 1: I'm purging or I'm trying to put stuff away. It's on,
Speaker 1: Like it's on, I'm happy. But then to balance out
Speaker 1: the trash and I'm not calling those women trash, but
Speaker 1: let's you know, just like bing like yeah, reality tale,
Speaker 1: it's reality television. Yeah. I was like, I want to
Speaker 1: start reading this book. I need. I'm interested, and I
Speaker 1: really love the vibe of let Them Now. I'm not
Speaker 1: there yet. I only got like ten pages in and
Speaker 1: that was her introduction about the five second what is
Speaker 1: it method that she does, which I thought that was
Speaker 1: fascinating because she for those of you that haven't joined
Speaker 1: the phenomenon that is the let Them train, It's this
Speaker 1: idea that she was getting. You know, she was unmotivated
Speaker 1: and she was just like lying in bed and she
Speaker 1: was had this theory that like a space shuttle, like
Speaker 1: five four three two one, and just get yourself out
Speaker 1: of bed, just propel yourself and so just something sit
Speaker 1: as simple as that was sort of I think that
Speaker 1: was her first book, right, that was her first book.
Speaker 1: But then anyways, that idea of just you got to
Speaker 1: start somewhere, and so that was something. But then the
Speaker 1: let them theory is predicted on something that her son.
Speaker 1: I think it touched about it. Anyways, I'll let you
Speaker 1: guys read the book. You don't want me to tell
Speaker 1: it because you're further than I am. Tell me what
Speaker 1: you've gotten out of it so far and what's resonated
Speaker 1: with you. What do you love? Yeah, I mean even
Speaker 1: just that theory of not or the theory that don't
Speaker 1: you can't control the things you can't control. So the
Speaker 1: idea for her came about when her son was going
Speaker 1: to homecoming and he didn't have a reservation for a
Speaker 1: restaurant and her daughter was like, who cares if he
Speaker 1: doesn't have a reservation, Like, let him deal with the
Speaker 1: fact that he's going to get to the restaurant and
Speaker 1: they're not going to be full. Or the cursage she
Speaker 1: didn't get a carssage or whatever is it called curso
Speaker 1: for the his date, or that he didn't have the
Speaker 1: tucks or all these things, and like the mother wanted
Speaker 1: to she wanted to control this, like we have to
Speaker 1: get a touch, you have to get a reservation. You
Speaker 1: haven't done that, like, oh my god. And so the
Speaker 1: daughter's like just let him, let him fail and all
Speaker 1: of these things. But ultimately, like he had a great
Speaker 1: time and it didn't matter that he didn't have the reservation.
Speaker 1: It didn't matter. So that theory applied to everyday life
Speaker 1: is if you don't get invited to a bunch of
Speaker 1: your girlfriends at a brunch and you didn't because you
Speaker 1: on Instagram or whatever and you didn't get invited, instead
Speaker 1: of being upset about it, you're like, well, just let
Speaker 1: them like that was they wanted to go to brunch,
Speaker 1: you weren't invited, Like, don't obsess about the things that
Speaker 1: you can't control. Yeah, And so if somebody wants to
Speaker 1: be in a bad mood, like if Steve, Steve doesn't
Speaker 1: wake up at a bad But I'm just saying like, if
Speaker 1: you know somebody's upset about something, you know, like let them,
Speaker 1: Like that's their problem, it's not yours to take on.
Speaker 1: So just that continuous ideas is sort of what and again,
Speaker 1: what page am I know, I'm pretty pretty part I'm
Speaker 1: on page No, I'm only on page forty one. I'm
Speaker 1: on that part of let them a tool to implement wisdom.
Speaker 1: But anyways, so my sister and my niece are both
Speaker 1: reading this book as well, and I just I like,
Speaker 1: I like that it's become something that everyone, not everyone,
Speaker 1: but a lot of people are adapting and adopting because
Speaker 1: it's clear that we all tried to meddle in things
Speaker 1: that or control aspects of our life. And so if
Speaker 1: this book has resonated with so many people, that means
Speaker 1: that everyone needs to just fucking chill out a little bit,
Speaker 1: you know. I mean, there's a reason that in this
Speaker 1: book they talk about people have like are getting tattoos,
Speaker 1: and what if my niece got a tattoo with this?
Speaker 1: But just I don't know, I think hopefully, if there's
Speaker 1: like this wave of people that are all operating with
Speaker 1: a new intention of just being more chill, then maybe
Speaker 1: it has a I don't know, maybe it has a
Speaker 1: resounding effect somewhere. Maybe she's always something. I love how
Speaker 1: she said. And again, I'm only ten pages in, but
Speaker 1: she talked about how she was she was asked to
Speaker 1: speak at something and she had a nineteen minute panic
Speaker 1: attack throughout it, and then she blanked out and she
Speaker 1: ended up talking about the five second method was something
Speaker 1: she wasn't even going to discuss, and little did you know,
Speaker 1: that was the beginning of Ted Talk, and she blew
Speaker 1: the fuck up. That's amazing. And so what you think
Speaker 1: in your own mind might be like your worst moment
Speaker 1: could end up helping. But I think there's a lot
Speaker 1: of that too in vulnerability. You and I and know
Speaker 1: even when the therapy that I've been through in my life,
Speaker 1: it was it's all about for me in particular, it's
Speaker 1: been about vulnerability that the more vulnerable I've been, the better.
Speaker 1: The more success I've had in relationships, the more success
Speaker 1: I've had in friendships, the more success that I've just had,
Speaker 1: even in work relationships where I've said to my boss
Speaker 1: like I'm really sorry, or I got that wrong. That
Speaker 1: one's on me. You know, like in basketball when someone
Speaker 1: commits a turnover and they run back down the court
Speaker 1: and they're like chap tap their chest like my bad
Speaker 1: or you know, you see Baker Mayfield did it. I
Speaker 1: saw him do in the playoff game and he fumbled
Speaker 1: or something, and he was like sitting on the bench
Speaker 1: and he kept going to his team. He's like, my bad,
Speaker 1: like taking responsibility for your mistakes or your actions. I
Speaker 1: think that there's also so much to be said about that,
Speaker 1: but yeah, I'm excited. I'm glad that you're reading it too.
Speaker 1: So let's maybe so we catch up and we can
Speaker 1: do it together. Oh calm down. Book club, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: would love that, andbody else that wants to jump on
Speaker 1: board if you haven't already, let's just do it together.
Speaker 1: I think it would be really fun and then something
Speaker 1: we can discuss to that. I've always wanted to be
Speaker 1: in a book club. My friends had a dirty book club,
Speaker 1: but I just it started, like, you know, then going
Speaker 1: into football, and I was like, listen, these clubs are
Speaker 1: as dirty as they can be. You know, I just can't.
Speaker 1: I've never read a dirty novel, although I did just
Speaker 1: open up to chapter thirteen, which is very apropos how
Speaker 1: to create the best friendships of your life cut Yeah yeah, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it was like that was a side
Speaker 1: note on this thing, but yeah, jump on board. They
Speaker 1: let them train I've never read a dirty novel? Did
Speaker 1: you ever have to hide it? Like? Yeah, we talked
Speaker 1: about this, like I was trying to keep up with
Speaker 1: the book club. By the way, right now, what I'm doing,
Speaker 1: I'm telling the book club story, but I'm also trying
Speaker 1: to see what other books does old Mel Robbins have
Speaker 1: because it's exciting. I letting them very five second one. Right,
Speaker 1: that was for sure? We go Yeah the half did
Speaker 1: Mel Robin on the podcast here and I know she's busy.
Speaker 1: Take Control of your life was in twenty nineteen. The
Speaker 1: high five is a journal, work it out the high
Speaker 1: five five second rule and let them This is great.
Speaker 1: I'm going to be a new mean watch out watch
Speaker 1: Out world. Okay, so we're not going to get that
Speaker 1: let them tattoos just because I already have too many
Speaker 1: tattoos that I shouldn't have gotten. Not that this would
Speaker 1: be bad, but anyways, but Aaron, you and I do
Speaker 1: need to do a couple of things. We're going to
Speaker 1: give ourselves an off season to do list a trip,
Speaker 1: another earring. Also, we talked about it on the pregame.
Speaker 1: Aaron and I are going to we don't know where yet,
Speaker 1: we don't know what we're going to do. But we
Speaker 1: have to do a vacation together in the off season.
Speaker 1: You know what's crazy, though the off season is already over.
Speaker 1: It's over. I mean we talk about I lost over.
Speaker 1: I was like, we have to sit down and do
Speaker 1: a schedule because every time I turn around in an email,
Speaker 1: something's popping up and I'm like, wait, why is this already?
Speaker 1: I'm the summer's gone. I don't like that feeling. I
Speaker 1: don't like that feeling at all. So we have to
Speaker 1: build in some stuff because if not, oh yeah, we're screwed.
Speaker 1: I'm excited about like events and dates, but I hate
Speaker 1: getting the email where it's like, hey, it's on this
Speaker 1: date or it's something's on this date. No, I don't
Speaker 1: want to do any dates. Like our nanny the other
Speaker 1: day just said to me, when are you going out
Speaker 1: of town? Again? When are you doing this? And I said,
Speaker 1: I don't know, because I think it's like with football,
Speaker 1: you are so it's such a routine. There's such a schedule.
Speaker 1: I got on Thursday, I've got this feature Friday, I've
Speaker 1: got the game on Sunday. I like acting like I
Speaker 1: don't know what anything is. Now I know I've got
Speaker 1: stuff coming up. We're going to Tampa together. We're going
Speaker 1: to do on podcast at the Tampa Bay Buccaneers Women Summit.
Speaker 1: Excited for that, yep, hearing rumors about who may stop buy,
Speaker 1: which could be super fun and a time. By the way,
Speaker 1: But I like acting like I'm loosey goosey right now
Speaker 1: and I don't have a schedule. But summer's over. Off
Speaker 1: season is over. Yeah, it's already done, do you Because
Speaker 1: when I'm here at the ranch, I am well, I
Speaker 1: just billed half mine. I am very It's so I
Speaker 1: don't know if you're like this. I like doing things
Speaker 1: here that I don't like doing at home, emptying the dishwasher,
Speaker 1: doing laundry, like okay, I was wondering if you had
Speaker 1: that same thing, Like I wake up here early, like
Speaker 1: i'm here like, well, I guess the same kind of
Speaker 1: time in LA between six thirty seven's like late, get up,
Speaker 1: I feed the animals. I have my own little routine there.
Speaker 1: I make my coffee, I go for a walk with
Speaker 1: the dogs up to this one little area that I like.
Speaker 1: And then I like doing the tasks that I hate
Speaker 1: doing at home, like all the homemaker stuff. I make
Speaker 1: cookies the other day, Like I don't make fucking cookies
Speaker 1: at home, Like what I know. I'm such a like
Speaker 1: homemaker here. And as I was folding tells this morning,
Speaker 1: I thought to myself, like, I could totally be a
Speaker 1: stay at home mom. I don't have any kids, but
Speaker 1: like I thought to myself, like I could do that.
Speaker 1: I probably couldn't because I'd be bored after like five seconds.
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I just have this like maternal
Speaker 1: thing is I don't know. I don't know. Like I
Speaker 1: meet the bed because Jen was here, so I like
Speaker 1: she She's like wanting to strip the bed. I was like,
Speaker 1: oh no, I'll do it. I made the bed all
Speaker 1: not all these things. And I'm like, I hate doing
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't like doing any of that shit
Speaker 1: when I'm home. I wonder why. I like, maybe because
Speaker 1: we're not in our normal routine and so it just
Speaker 1: feels like we have the time to do it. I
Speaker 1: don't know, but I kind of liked it because you
Speaker 1: don't look at the ranch as like a place where
Speaker 1: you know, we're at home, and it's like I got
Speaker 1: this closet and I got to weed out. It's like
Speaker 1: all my Fox, shit's in there, all my rein gear,
Speaker 1: all the craft. It's like, that's still ranch is still
Speaker 1: kind of your vaca, your vacation. Yeah, and maybe that's
Speaker 1: the way. I don't know, but I just thought to
Speaker 1: myself and not like the stay at home but you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like where it was like I
Speaker 1: liked being a little homemaker and I liked, like, I
Speaker 1: don't even like cooking. And I said Steve last night,
Speaker 1: do you want me to make you dinner? And he was like,
Speaker 1: are you okay? And I was like, well, what going
Speaker 1: to make? Well? I only make three things. I can
Speaker 1: only make three things taco, salads, spaghetti, and then like
Speaker 1: breakfast for dinner. That's the extent of my cooking. I
Speaker 1: don't have any And always there's this girl, Aaron O'Brien
Speaker 1: that I follow on Instagram. She is amazing. She does
Speaker 1: all of these like quick recipes. I have never made
Speaker 1: one of her recipes, but I go in a deep
Speaker 1: day of watching them. You have Yeah, I forgot what
Speaker 1: it was. I made one of her recipes one time.
Speaker 1: You told me about her, so I tried. She makes
Speaker 1: one to try so easy wine. Don't this is any
Speaker 1: measuring cops. What the hell, No, they don't. And that's
Speaker 1: the thing where I'm like, I want to be that person,
Speaker 1: and so maybe I'm I don't know, I don't know.
Speaker 1: Should I try other than reading? Reading? Other than reading?
Speaker 1: What else we do? I think we should have a
Speaker 1: checklist for our quote off season, even though we already
Speaker 1: say it's over, but before football season starts again. I
Speaker 1: think it's important and for anybody else out there, we'd
Speaker 1: love some advice, like things that we should do, we
Speaker 1: should finish. Obviously, that's embarrassing if we can't finish one book.
Speaker 1: So we got to finish this book. Yeah, we'll finish
Speaker 1: it like cook once a week. Like, let's think about
Speaker 1: our list. Definitely the vacation, we need to clean out
Speaker 1: our closets, our purses, all that stuff. Yeah, and then
Speaker 1: we need to do something volunteer wise. I don't know.
Speaker 1: I'm coming up with a lot of ideas. But then
Speaker 1: I think we'll feel very like accomplished by the time
Speaker 1: the season rolls around again, and we won't be mad like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, the whole off season went by and
Speaker 1: we didn't do anything that was a real mel Robins thing.
Speaker 1: I think I sent that to you like, do a checklist,
Speaker 1: like if you are starting on Sunday night to have
Speaker 1: anxiety for the week ahead, like think of the things
Speaker 1: you need to get done and write them down. But
Speaker 1: I have list, so sister, but I am not. I
Speaker 1: have so many lests. Another thing that you sent me
Speaker 1: was Kate Winslet. Yeah, had spoke to me. Okay, so
Speaker 1: do you explain what it was because I don't know
Speaker 1: who did this. I don't know if you were able
Speaker 1: to put that together the voices behind it. But there
Speaker 1: was some interview that somebody did. It looked recently with
Speaker 1: Kate Winslet and they went back and looked at I
Speaker 1: don't know if it was like a fashion kind of
Speaker 1: show of her. She was on a red carpet and
Speaker 1: it must have been promoting Titanic, and they were speaking
Speaker 1: about how they thought her dress size was a little
Speaker 1: too small for her body and they played that in
Speaker 1: front of her, and the interviewer was asking if she
Speaker 1: ever confronted the people that said the nasty things about her,
Speaker 1: and she said she did, and the interviewer asked what
Speaker 1: she said to them, and she said, I hope that
Speaker 1: haunts you. And that just spoke to me mmm hmmm,
Speaker 1: And I was like, the girl, look at this because
Speaker 1: which by the way, let me tell you, working at Fox,
Speaker 1: they have this archive, like you can see some of
Speaker 1: the amazing costumes from different movies and shows and all
Speaker 1: this kind of stuff. Kate Winslet's dressed the famed dress.
Speaker 1: Where was the black with the maroon like underlay and
Speaker 1: it had the beads. It was like the first one
Speaker 1: I think that you see that she's in from like
Speaker 1: the dinner the night that like Leo's there, this dress,
Speaker 1: the waiste size on it is like this big. It
Speaker 1: is so tiny. So the fact that she was fat
Speaker 1: shamed at all is fucking insane, like and it's I know,
Speaker 1: it's you know, so many conversations about unrealistic expectations for
Speaker 1: women and their bodies and the whole thing. But as
Speaker 1: it pertained to this, that quote of saying I hope
Speaker 1: it haunts them, I think there's a little bit again
Speaker 1: this reoccurring theme where let them if they want to
Speaker 1: say something about you, if they want to fact shame you,
Speaker 1: or if they want to say you're not this, or
Speaker 1: they want to let them that's on them, and I
Speaker 1: hope it haunts them. I hope they have to live
Speaker 1: with that thing instead of letting it be a problem
Speaker 1: for her or having her feel bad about it, like, no,
Speaker 1: that's their shit, not mine. Like I like that projection
Speaker 1: of not projection, but like pushing off of internalizing it,
Speaker 1: like just no, get you get to live with the
Speaker 1: fact that you're an asshole, like that's your problem, not mine,
Speaker 1: because we know somewhere it's like instead of absorbing that
Speaker 1: and letting it be something we lose sleep at at
Speaker 1: night over people that have you know. And by the way,
Speaker 1: I'm not a saint, but I definitely know a few people.
Speaker 1: I hope it haunts them. Wait they act you know
Speaker 1: what I mean? So that's great. We love Kate Winslet
Speaker 1: we love to summarize. But yeah, we're real girls girls,
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah. But all that is good. We have
Speaker 1: a lot to be thankful for. We have a lot
Speaker 1: of exciting things coming up. We're going to make a
Speaker 1: list of all the stuff that we wanted to do. Well,
Speaker 1: hold on, how's your re entry going? Can we get enough?
Speaker 1: Because you were upset about somebody in their loud talking.
Speaker 1: How are you guys doing? Where are you with re entry? Better?
Speaker 1: Because even in taking my own advice of our is
Speaker 1: we posted and when our clips came out, when I'm
Speaker 1: like hearing myself, I don't want to be bitchy. I
Speaker 1: don't want to be controlling. Steve is so wonderful to me,
Speaker 1: especially during the off seats or during the season, and
Speaker 1: just taking care of shit at home. So re entry
Speaker 1: is going better because I'm putting it on myself to
Speaker 1: be more mature about some stuff. Some stuff's good. English's
Speaker 1: like English. I'm trying to be better with English stuff.
Speaker 1: But also I think it's just being honest about like
Speaker 1: I because we're together all the time, you guys are,
Speaker 1: and it's fine because I like him, but like up here,
Speaker 1: like we're in the middle of nowhere, so it's not
Speaker 1: like we're even like going into town and like hanging
Speaker 1: out with you know, the people. Like it's just last night,
Speaker 1: I was just like looking, He's sent me a text.
Speaker 1: I was out doing somebody. He goes, hey, do you
Speaker 1: want to come back to the house, And we just
Speaker 1: sit at each other, sit on the couch and stare
Speaker 1: at each other. That's the text I got. I go, sure,
Speaker 1: I'll be down in twenty minutes. We sat on the
Speaker 1: couch and it was actually really nice. Steve doesn't like TV,
Speaker 1: doesn't not into watching TV. He doesn't share. I always
Speaker 1: know that if this guy would have TV's taken out
Speaker 1: of his house, if it wasn't for sports. That's the
Speaker 1: only thing he likes to watch. Every time he goes, oh,
Speaker 1: what are we going to watch? Another? D Dateline? Season
Speaker 1: forty two, episode seven. I love Dateline? He goes, Oh, murder,
Speaker 1: kill kill. All you want to watch is murder? He goes,
Speaker 1: can we watch a comedy? But yeah, he is not
Speaker 1: a TV person. I will catch him sitting in a
Speaker 1: room listening to Art Pepper, this like jazz musician, and
Speaker 1: just staring at the ceiling and I'm like, huh, I
Speaker 1: go what does that do to you? And he goes
Speaker 1: helps me relax? He goes TV I just like get
Speaker 1: inundated and gives me anxiety about like killing and murder.
Speaker 1: And I was like, really, because killing and murder makes
Speaker 1: me relax because now I don't have to think about
Speaker 1: all the things I'm supposed to be doing. I just
Speaker 1: think about how great my life is because it's not
Speaker 1: that so I don't know it's going good. We just
Speaker 1: have to like balance out. I just I miss you.
Speaker 1: I think I need a little airon too. Well. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't get a hold of this chick. She's watching
Speaker 1: Dayline and feeding the cows. Where are my friend? So busy?
Speaker 1: So it's been two weeks actually, so yeah, I'm ready
Speaker 1: to see my girlfriend. Hopefully we get together this weekend.
Speaker 1: And I miss Mac. I haven't seen mag what's Mac
Speaker 1: been up to? He's busy, fifteen years old. I see
Speaker 1: the picture of him and Justin Bieber, which, by the way,
Speaker 1: he looks like Justin Bieber. Yeah, and somebody actually said
Speaker 1: that to me before I forgot who did. I think
Speaker 1: it was somebody at the super Bowl. It was like,
Speaker 1: your kid looks like Justin Bieber. I was like really,
Speaker 1: And so he's he is cute. He was so good
Speaker 1: at that La Strong event we brought him. They were
Speaker 1: so loosey goosey about letting him in the locker room.
Speaker 1: He was hanging out with dad. Dad was sending me skates.
Speaker 1: I know those are the Copauitar's sons. Yakub skates is
Speaker 1: so sweet and Jared was like skating with him on
Speaker 1: the ice and he loves going fast. That was really fun.
Speaker 1: He's good, he's busy, he all right, let's talk about it.
Speaker 1: What do we get talk about it? I get it.
Speaker 1: He's nineteen months. This is where I am in my life.
Speaker 1: We had our babies late. With our baby late, I
Speaker 1: was around a lot of people that were having babies
Speaker 1: for many years, and I was sitting back and observing.
Speaker 1: I went on a lot of family vacations with people
Speaker 1: that had kids. I was all my friends from the
Speaker 1: La Kings at the time had babies. So I got
Speaker 1: to observe a lot of stuff. I realized what I
Speaker 1: really liked and what I didn't like. And what I
Speaker 1: don't like are kids that have free rein and that
Speaker 1: aren't well behaved. What I do like is somebody like
Speaker 1: Greg Olsen who has children that walk in, look you
Speaker 1: in the eye, shake your hand, and is very are
Speaker 1: very respectable. Now I've gone to dinner with Greg and
Speaker 1: I've sat next to both of his kids, and Greg
Speaker 1: is trying to talk to me and he has said, hey,
Speaker 1: it's adult time. Now. I love it. Like listen, no
Speaker 1: kid is a saint, No adult is a saint. But
Speaker 1: I realize what I want out of a kid. I'm
Speaker 1: also having a big struggle of when you learn to
Speaker 1: I'm not say discipline, but rack oh yeah, okay. We
Speaker 1: went to sushi the other night Jared had to work,
Speaker 1: and I love our nanny and she's so great, and
Speaker 1: I said, hey, can I take you to sushi tonight?
Speaker 1: And twofold can Matt come too? And I think it's
Speaker 1: so important to socialize him, and you know, I want
Speaker 1: him to sit down and have a meal with me. Now.
Speaker 1: Are there times he needs an iPad? Sure, but I
Speaker 1: also really get a kick of the fact she's great
Speaker 1: to show him you don't need it, and we never
Speaker 1: had that. We went to dinner with our parents and
Speaker 1: I never had that. Yeah, here's a coloring book and
Speaker 1: color crans from the hostess exactly. The one thing I
Speaker 1: love about our nanny, Barbara is she is really great
Speaker 1: in teaching me how to do things. She is like, Okay,
Speaker 1: let's do it this way, let's try it this way,
Speaker 1: And so I feel confident and comfortable because I also
Speaker 1: have a huge insecurity that I haven't been around for
Speaker 1: six months and I want to do it how they've
Speaker 1: done it, so I don't mess up the schedule any
Speaker 1: whot nanny, my man is not talking yet, but we
Speaker 1: are saying something dad, my momm okay, great. He is
Speaker 1: so smart. He is very attentive, but we have not
Speaker 1: figured out how to lower our voice yet, and we
Speaker 1: have stayed while they are related out of nowhere. At Izakaya,
Speaker 1: which is a very small sushi restaurant in our town,
Speaker 1: one of our favorites. He wasn't pissed, he wasn't happy.
Speaker 1: He was just in four loud shrieks where the entire
Speaker 1: restaurant turned and looked at me. His father is not there,
Speaker 1: and I'm mortified. And I looked at Barbara and I go,
Speaker 1: what do we do? What do we do? What do
Speaker 1: we do? She goes, it's okay, you're okay, Matt. We
Speaker 1: do not yell at the restaurant. We're good. It was
Speaker 1: that at the end of the meal, he had had
Speaker 1: such a great meal, we gave him ice. But then
Speaker 1: in the back of my head, I'm like, am I rougar? Oh?
Speaker 1: What am I doing? Because Barbara had said to me
Speaker 1: he did that at the park. Everybody turned and looked,
Speaker 1: and she said, We're not doing that. We're going to
Speaker 1: behave I went home that night and I texted one
Speaker 1: of my girlfriends who has kids, and I just said,
Speaker 1: at what point. I don't even know if I can
Speaker 1: look at him the same after that, because everybody looked
Speaker 1: and I was like, what point of I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I wanted to grab him run out, and she's like,
Speaker 1: he's nineteen months. He's understand. That's just where I am
Speaker 1: right now. I know what I want out of a kid,
Speaker 1: and I don't know when to start. She said, you know,
Speaker 1: you have to say like, hey, let's not do this.
Speaker 1: We're in a place, but he doesn't know what the
Speaker 1: help but he does, but he doesn't. Yeah, okay, look
Speaker 1: I will step in here only to say this. I
Speaker 1: obviously I don't have children. I did grow up. My
Speaker 1: mom did daycare for us when we were growing up
Speaker 1: because you wanted to stay home with us, and it
Speaker 1: was a way for her to make money. So I
Speaker 1: was always around kids. I was a nanny. I started
Speaker 1: watching it an eleven nine month old when I was
Speaker 1: eleven years old, and then stayed with that family until
Speaker 1: I graduated high school. Shout out to the Luhamburgers, and
Speaker 1: they had three kids, and I would go on vacation
Speaker 1: with them and I was the one that would travel
Speaker 1: and I was responsible for, you know, when they wanted
Speaker 1: to go out to dinner, I was with the kids
Speaker 1: and all that kind of stuff. The only thing I
Speaker 1: will say about that is like distraction right where it's
Speaker 1: And again I'm not the professional nanny that you have,
Speaker 1: so I will only say from my own experience, is
Speaker 1: that same reason for kids on airplanes. I feel for them.
Speaker 1: They don't know what they're doing, their ears are popping,
Speaker 1: it feels weird. They're in a confined space, and it's
Speaker 1: like they want to move. Especially he's at an age
Speaker 1: where it's like he wants to move, he wants to
Speaker 1: do things, and so it's like busy. I don't know
Speaker 1: about the yelling part, but like that's just more of like, okay,
Speaker 1: we don't do that. But like I always feel for
Speaker 1: kids when they're like in a situation and they just
Speaker 1: want constant distraction, Like take the credit cards out of
Speaker 1: your wallet to give them something to do. Here's a
Speaker 1: color cran, here's a oh my god, do you see
Speaker 1: a bird outside? Like just constantly like give them something
Speaker 1: else to do so that they're not like I'm trapped
Speaker 1: in this high chair or whatever. Again, I'm not speaking
Speaker 1: to that situation that you have. I'm only thinking about
Speaker 1: the things that I do with kids. And that's the
Speaker 1: part too, where it's like you have went forty to
Speaker 1: forty five years without having a child, and now your whole.
Speaker 1: I'm so proud of you though, like no one prepares
Speaker 1: you for that. Your whole, like your whole and your
Speaker 1: whole work. But here I'm gonna say this, and I
Speaker 1: don't have an interjection. You guys, Aaron may sit on
Speaker 1: here and she's vulnerable about the things that she doesn't
Speaker 1: know and all that kind of stuff. She is the
Speaker 1: most amazing mom. You will show me pictures of him
Speaker 1: sleeping in his crip, will look at the little monitor,
Speaker 1: and you'll show me the pain. You are such a
Speaker 1: good mother, and I'm really proud of you, like no
Speaker 1: one prepares you for how to do that. But I
Speaker 1: know that this is like you imagine, you wanted this
Speaker 1: for so long and now you have this perfect little boy.
Speaker 1: And so if he screams at the restaurant, yeah whatever,
Speaker 1: it's true. I was actually thinking of this the other
Speaker 1: day and I said this to Jarrett. And I'm very
Speaker 1: very also grateful for our help that we have and
Speaker 1: we have such a good team in place, and we
Speaker 1: are so thankful because whatever, but we are so grateful
Speaker 1: for our group. But because it does take a village.
Speaker 1: The other day when we got home from Montana, we're back,
Speaker 1: We're in our Routineer goes to the office. I was,
Speaker 1: you know, with him for a bit. Then I went
Speaker 1: to work out, and I was saying to Jarrett, my god,
Speaker 1: this is how it's supposed to be. We have such
Speaker 1: a lovely like team working with us. But this is
Speaker 1: how it is when you don't aren't working and you're
Speaker 1: not traveling to Green Bay, or you're not worried about
Speaker 1: getting on a conference call. Like I will say this
Speaker 1: and not to toot my own horn, it's fucking hard to
Speaker 1: do this for a full time job and traveling and
Speaker 1: not even traveling like I think of all the football
Speaker 1: stories we read where guys talk about their mom and
Speaker 1: how they had three to four jobs and they didn't
Speaker 1: see their mom during the day and then at night
Speaker 1: the mom went to work while they went to bed,
Speaker 1: and my mom would go exactly like that is fucking hard.
Speaker 1: Like And I'm not saying I didn't give myself enough credit,
Speaker 1: but I sat there the last six months thinking about
Speaker 1: what a failure I was because I was like God,
Speaker 1: I'm like half asking it with foxing, though I wasn't
Speaker 1: half asking it with my kid. It is so hard
Speaker 1: to do all that. I will sit and I try
Speaker 1: to remind you of this. My mom worked three jobs,
Speaker 1: my dad was working all the time, like all of
Speaker 1: this stuff. And there's never a time, ever, ever, a
Speaker 1: time where I look back at my childhood and I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I wasn't loved. All I think about
Speaker 1: was I was loved, and my parents were working so
Speaker 1: hard so I could have that extra They could make
Speaker 1: a hundred oll My mom would make a hundred dollars
Speaker 1: at the restaurant, working at a restaurant night so I
Speaker 1: could go join the select basketball team where I could
Speaker 1: get the new basketball shoes. Like you have to give
Speaker 1: yourself the credit, like your kid sitting in that high
Speaker 1: chair watching you do that postgame interview and pointing at
Speaker 1: the screen and saying, Mama, like I like cried watching
Speaker 1: that video. And it's not even my kid. It's just
Speaker 1: the fact that like he he sees you working like
Speaker 1: that is a beautiful thing. And by the way, if
Speaker 1: you don't work, if you stay at home with your
Speaker 1: kid all day, that's almost the joy. The hardest job.
Speaker 1: I imagine that's the everest job is everybody always says
Speaker 1: is the hardest job in the world because it's constant.
Speaker 1: So I think all of this is about giving yourself
Speaker 1: grace and knowing Like when you got Howie as a puppy,
Speaker 1: he would dig, he would chew on things, whatever. How
Speaker 1: he's grown up and he's a great dog like mas
Speaker 1: a baby, he's like gonna try things until But I'm
Speaker 1: really really proud of you and I hope that you're
Speaker 1: seeing like instead of instead of focusing on the like,
Speaker 1: oh I'm not this or I'm not that, like, I
Speaker 1: really hope you give yourself the like this is a
Speaker 1: whole different set of you know, things in life that
Speaker 1: no one prepares you for and even if you've been
Speaker 1: very vocal, you're lucky enough to have help and it's
Speaker 1: so really hard. Yeah, yeah, I I love you. Answers
Speaker 1: you know, you know went in out. So this in
Speaker 1: to summarize. Mel Robbins, we would love for you to
Speaker 1: come on the Calm Down Podcast us like you're now
Speaker 1: innumerable amount of fans appreciate that you have the vulnerability
Speaker 1: to put this down writing so you can help all
Speaker 1: of us be better people and just less stressed out
Speaker 1: or less you know, upset about things that don't matter
Speaker 1: and that we can't control. I'm going to go look
Speaker 1: for a new recipe to cook and fold some more
Speaker 1: laundry because this is the things I like to do now.
Speaker 1: And I love you and I'm going to see you
Speaker 1: this weekend. I can't wait to view. Yeah, let's figure
Speaker 1: that out. How they tacked? Yep. Okay, you guys, thank
Speaker 1: you for listening way in and buy the book if
Speaker 1: you haven't already, because we're going to continue to talk
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