Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya ret An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are screwed rubbing in.
Speaker 1: That indeed we are, Becca Tilly, do you know what
Speaker 1: what I feel like?
Speaker 3: It's gonna be a good day. Do you know why?
Speaker 4: Tell me?
Speaker 3: Because the vest is on.
Speaker 1: The vest is on, and I feel like my best
Speaker 1: self in this vest.
Speaker 3: You feel your best in your vest.
Speaker 4: I feel my best in my vest.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a would you say it's like a
Speaker 2: security blanket.
Speaker 4: It's funny.
Speaker 1: It feels to me like a like a sleeping bag,
Speaker 1: you know. And it's been if you're not listening in
Speaker 1: Los Angeles, it's been June gloomy, and it's been cold.
Speaker 1: It's just been cold. And so for me, if I
Speaker 1: walk out of the house with just a little T
Speaker 1: shirt on, I'm freezing. I put this bad boy on
Speaker 1: and I'm like Superman.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's only covering like the the center of
Speaker 2: your body.
Speaker 3: Your arms are exposed.
Speaker 1: Yes, But you know what's interesting when I wear puffer
Speaker 1: like I have puffer jackets that.
Speaker 4: Are like have sleeves.
Speaker 3: Uh huh.
Speaker 1: I get a little too warm in those. Having your
Speaker 1: armpits exposed is the key.
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, she's a vest queen.
Speaker 4: She's a vest queen. I should get it in more colors.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm in.
Speaker 4: I got an Amazon invested too.
Speaker 1: It's like not like an expensive little piece and I
Speaker 1: wear it all the time.
Speaker 4: I should get it in white and brown and.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I can't wait to see them view and
Speaker 2: new colors evolution, same fit, different colors exactly. But it
Speaker 2: has been uh quite dreary, and I do feel like
Speaker 2: it's taking a toll on me. I didn't think I
Speaker 2: needed the sun as much as I really need the sun.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a mental thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it makes sense, like I think people
Speaker 2: are really really going through it with seasonal depression these days. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say I'm at that point, but I do
Speaker 2: feel like I would love like a warm, sunny feeling
Speaker 2: on my face.
Speaker 4: You're gonna get it in a couple of days, I think.
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 1: They say the before the weather app I've been like
Speaker 1: to before.
Speaker 3: What's going on?
Speaker 1: Well, I will tell you that, Uh, I am the owner,
Speaker 1: proud owner.
Speaker 3: I hate this thing on the back of our phones,
Speaker 3: like just triggered me.
Speaker 1: I know, I am the proud owner of a chic
Speaker 1: squatty potty.
Speaker 3: Now, oh my gosh, whoa, it's wood.
Speaker 1: It's Woodn't it folds so that I don't have to
Speaker 1: have it on my potty?
Speaker 4: Yes, he did.
Speaker 1: After he saw the social media posts from last week's episode.
Speaker 4: He bought me this.
Speaker 3: Bad boy is so romantic.
Speaker 4: Yeah, romance, aid its finest, you know.
Speaker 2: No, seriously, like that is so thoughtful. And he got
Speaker 2: He didn't get you an ugly plastic line.
Speaker 3: He got you. She like, y'all should get it engraved
Speaker 3: what I was talking about. We have these.
Speaker 2: You can hold yours up these like octo. Mine's an octo, buddy?
Speaker 4: What is your mind's a sticky grippy?
Speaker 2: Is it to like stick on to it on like
Speaker 2: a mirror so you can film? But to be honest,
Speaker 2: sometimes mine slides.
Speaker 4: Well you can't just stick it on any surface. Yeah,
Speaker 4: oh it does. Yeah, and so mine is not mine
Speaker 4: is stuck like met you okay, and.
Speaker 2: Then but then if you set it down on any surface, yeah, I.
Speaker 5: Thought it was like a fidget thing like like no, yeah,
Speaker 5: like a little bubble popper.
Speaker 3: I prefer that this is not it.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So anyways, that's my review on that, And now I'm
Speaker 2: just stuck with the case.
Speaker 3: It gets stuck to every surface, so I gotta switch
Speaker 3: on it.
Speaker 1: It's been so helpful for me. Have you not noticed
Speaker 1: that I've been like doing more mirror videos.
Speaker 2: I haven't noticed, but I will pay attention attention next time,
Speaker 2: so much better.
Speaker 3: I love it.
Speaker 4: I love this little sticky grippy.
Speaker 2: Okay, great, Maybe I should switch brands. Maybe I got
Speaker 2: the wrong brand of mine.
Speaker 4: Does not slide?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 4: Sticks? Okay, okay, okay, yeah.
Speaker 3: I'm listening.
Speaker 4: I'll do the link.
Speaker 3: I wait, I saw you at Okay.
Speaker 4: So, first of all, what's going on with you?
Speaker 3: Nothing?
Speaker 5: Really?
Speaker 3: Just same old, same old, same old, just living chilling.
Speaker 4: No news is good news.
Speaker 3: Do I have any news?
Speaker 4: Have you been watching Love Island?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: No, what's going on there? Tell me?
Speaker 4: I'm loving this?
Speaker 3: He's datings together?
Speaker 2: Are Mitchell and uh Mollie still together?
Speaker 4: So funny you ask?
Speaker 3: They are?
Speaker 2: Not?
Speaker 1: Actually, well, they didn't really break up, but he basically
Speaker 1: said because she wants to stay open, and he's like,
Speaker 1: I feel like you're not giving.
Speaker 3: Me the respect that I'm giving you.
Speaker 1: I'm giving you, so like, if you want to date
Speaker 1: other people, that's fine, and if you come back to
Speaker 1: me and I'm still here, then that's fine. But I'm
Speaker 1: not going to like partake and be giving you all
Speaker 1: of me when your like head is turning all over.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's what I just watched the other day.
Speaker 4: I'm like, one episode behind.
Speaker 2: Is she into anyone else? Or she's just like, oh,
Speaker 2: I want to be open to the possibility of someone coming.
Speaker 1: She's open like this one guy just came in took
Speaker 1: her on a date and she's like kind of into him.
Speaker 1: And then this other guy like kissed her in a
Speaker 1: challenge and she's like.
Speaker 4: Ooh he's cute.
Speaker 1: So yeah, Wow, that's the whole thing, you know, bigger
Speaker 1: better syndrome. Everybody just wants bigger better. She's got a
Speaker 1: great guy in front of her, but she wants bigger better.
Speaker 2: That's so sad. We actually, uh, Temptation Island is back long.
Speaker 2: We should have Mark back in the studio. I love Mark.
Speaker 4: I like Mark too.
Speaker 3: You just like him?
Speaker 4: I love him?
Speaker 3: Yes, I said I love him and he said I
Speaker 3: like him? Which Mark Wahlberg Mark Mark Mark al Wahlberg,
Speaker 3: the host of Temptation Island.
Speaker 2: We love but the show started again this jew watch
Speaker 2: it We watched last night, followed by Jojo and Jordan's
Speaker 2: new show, The Big D talk about just absolute chaos
Speaker 2: and like just bringing your Well, The Big D's different
Speaker 2: because they're already divorced, and so do you know the
Speaker 2: concept of it.
Speaker 4: They're divorced and then they're like dating other people.
Speaker 2: So they're in they're living in a house with other
Speaker 2: divorced couples, but they're basically like watching their ex and
Speaker 2: they're in the same room to sleep for.
Speaker 4: This is what I want to know. That's like what
Speaker 4: I need to know.
Speaker 2: Well, here's the this is It's actually an interesting social
Speaker 2: experiment in my opinion, because you would imagine that people
Speaker 2: who have been divorced for a good amount of time
Speaker 2: like these aren't people like a couple of weeks off
Speaker 2: of divorce. This is like months to years divorced, and
Speaker 2: you would think that they would be at a point
Speaker 2: where they're like, Okay, I want to see you move on,
Speaker 2: and I'm ready to move on, like let's have this experience,
Speaker 2: you know, and they you can tell it's really hard
Speaker 2: for people to watch who felt certain that maybe this
Speaker 2: wasn't their person, to watch them have experiences with someone
Speaker 2: else or or maybe be a better version of themselves
Speaker 2: with someone else. Like imagine all you wanted was for
Speaker 2: your your husband or wife to do blah blah blah,
Speaker 2: and they wouldn't do it story for someone else.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like a crab.
Speaker 3: I it's like a mental But that's.
Speaker 4: What I'm saying. Who is signing up for? This is
Speaker 4: what I need to know?
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know.
Speaker 4: And same with Temptation Island, Like I'm like, who.
Speaker 3: Is Temptation Island? Yeah, I'm just like this is Doomsville. Yeah,
Speaker 3: everyone who goes on Now, I'm like, you're doomed.
Speaker 4: Some couples make it, though it's very well not.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying not make it, because some people will
Speaker 2: choose to be like, yeah, I went to this experience
Speaker 2: and I learned that I wanted to leave with you,
Speaker 2: but they still like end up. Well, is it called
Speaker 2: cheating if you're on the show, I don't know, they
Speaker 2: end up hooking.
Speaker 3: It's not when you're on that show.
Speaker 4: No.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But the whole point is not to give into
Speaker 2: temptation or to give in and break up, yeah, or
Speaker 2: to be like, Okay, who I came with is in
Speaker 2: the person for me? Yeah, I don't know. I for
Speaker 2: one will not be signing up for any of those shows.
Speaker 4: No, not at all.
Speaker 3: No, Hayley would like look at someone in a certain way,
Speaker 3: and I'd be like, who is she?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I would not like that. Not for me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you and I would not thrive there. No me.
Speaker 3: My past self was my past.
Speaker 4: Self, the old version of Becca.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she was a cool gal. I miss her. Do
Speaker 3: you miss her? Yeah?
Speaker 4: Really?
Speaker 3: Of course?
Speaker 4: She was so like chill, yeah, unfazed Hanna.
Speaker 3: I was like Hannah at one point. I miss her.
Speaker 2: Hannah makes me miss her a lot because I'm like
Speaker 2: Hanna's reminds me so much of how I was when
Speaker 2: I was dating.
Speaker 3: Anything someone did, I'd be like, and.
Speaker 4: But why do you miss her?
Speaker 3: She was so cool? Hanna is so cool cool. I
Speaker 3: have no feelings. I wish I had more feelings.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I thought that too. Just wait, I hope
Speaker 2: what happened to me? I hope you can hold on
Speaker 2: to some of your cool.
Speaker 3: Is so sad. I have like a devil and an
Speaker 3: angel on my shoulder now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, my feelings, My feelings.
Speaker 3: Are so beautiful. No, I love feelings, but I wish
Speaker 3: I had that.
Speaker 4: I wish you could feel less.
Speaker 2: I mean, guess some of the independence that I felt
Speaker 2: during that you have never felt that, So.
Speaker 3: You don't know. You don't know what it's like to
Speaker 3: miss it.
Speaker 4: Never felt it.
Speaker 3: You're unfamiliar with the independence.
Speaker 4: It's unfamiliar Territoryhy.
Speaker 2: It's probably blissful for you because you know nothing else.
Speaker 2: For me, I'm like, I have something to to look
Speaker 2: back on.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm like that felt safe.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and now you feel unsafe.
Speaker 3: No, it's like you could get you know, that's the heartbroke,
Speaker 3: heart broke.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the whole thing.
Speaker 3: That's that is the risk of falling in love.
Speaker 4: But that is the beauty.
Speaker 1: And the sadness and the dichotomy of life.
Speaker 4: You just don't know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I also realized that I.
Speaker 4: Love.
Speaker 3: I also felt like I had control at that point.
Speaker 2: Correct, And now that you're out of control when you
Speaker 2: fall in love, you lose that sense of control.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so there's that too, And it's beautiful.
Speaker 2: It's like you're like floating and flying, but are you
Speaker 2: going to have a hard landing?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, it's getting really dark. But it's getting
Speaker 1: really dark in here.
Speaker 2: But you know what, No, I'm just saying that that
Speaker 2: is like there's there that you're right. Dichotomy is a
Speaker 2: great word for it.
Speaker 1: It is interesting though, because I feel like, you know,
Speaker 1: we are at a place just in society in general
Speaker 1: as women, where like before, let's say fifty years ago,
Speaker 1: even probably less women had to get married in order
Speaker 1: to like buy a house and to open and have
Speaker 1: a credit card and all these things. But like we're
Speaker 1: at a place now where we as women we can
Speaker 1: be alone forever. We don't need a partner to do
Speaker 1: anything in life, right, Like we can have a sperm
Speaker 1: donor to have a baby, Like we don't need any
Speaker 1: we don't need a man. And it's interesting because I
Speaker 1: know some people that feel that way, like they're like,
Speaker 1: I feel like a man's gonna slow me down in
Speaker 1: my career. I feel like a man's gonna slow me down,
Speaker 1: like in the way that I parent, to be able
Speaker 1: to parent my child the way that I want to,
Speaker 1: I don't want to compromise in that. And there's so
Speaker 1: much beauty in that. But then there's also so much
Speaker 1: beauty with like going through life with somebody, you know
Speaker 1: what I mean, and like working through those things with somebody.
Speaker 4: So it's like they're they're equally both beautiful in their
Speaker 4: own way.
Speaker 2: This is the path you choose, is this is the
Speaker 2: grasses greener thing?
Speaker 4: Yeah right, yeah, I.
Speaker 2: Mean it's in every aspect of our lives. It's getting
Speaker 2: a pet knowing also, I wanted to acknowledge Marty because
Speaker 2: we didn't. We haven't paid our respects to Marty, and
Speaker 2: I wanted to say that. I even thinking about that
Speaker 2: with Phoebe.
Speaker 3: I can barely go there. So I wanted to say sorry, because.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we had a poodle out my wife and I
Speaker 5: named Marty for the last like seven years, and we
Speaker 5: said goodbye to him recently about a month ago, a
Speaker 5: couple weeks ago, and it was, you know, sorry, having
Speaker 5: a pet with someone is. Marty was there through all
Speaker 5: of our big Like we got him right when we
Speaker 5: moved in together, so he was like around when we
Speaker 5: got engaged and are getting married and buying our house,
Speaker 5: and like we were watching videos of like when we
Speaker 5: bought the house we let Marty into, like like oh
Speaker 5: you have a backyard now, and like we watching videos
Speaker 5: of him like runing around the house. And that was
Speaker 5: really hard because we've saw so much of our relationship
Speaker 5: in like represented by this like fifteen pound poodle. So
Speaker 5: it was he hasn't been doing very well the last
Speaker 5: couple of years, so we thought it was the right
Speaker 5: thing to do. But it's still very hard. And thank
Speaker 5: you for saying something. It's very nice of you and
Speaker 5: all as scrubbers sent me nice messages. Yeah, I thought Marty,
Speaker 5: but you know you guys both have dogs. You know
Speaker 5: you know that.
Speaker 1: I didn't bring it up because I don't think I could.
Speaker 1: I would not want to talk about it. I would
Speaker 1: literally just shove it into a dark hole, like literally
Speaker 1: like thinking about it when you were like posting about
Speaker 1: it and I reach out to you guys, I can't
Speaker 1: even imagine that, Like I literally can't and I'm like
Speaker 1: getting teara I just like thinking about it. So I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: And if you like don't want to talk about it, no.
Speaker 5: It's we I like we took like that entire weekend
Speaker 5: and we just like sadden it, you know, like, uh,
Speaker 5: it's it's so hard because when you get an animal
Speaker 5: like that, that's guarantee. Like yes, when we first got Marty,
Speaker 5: we were like so in love with him and we're
Speaker 5: both started talking like oh god when he when he
Speaker 5: dies it's gonna be a rough day, and Allison said,
Speaker 5: they're they're beautiful. Little tragedy is waiting to happen.
Speaker 4: That's what that's that's so dark.
Speaker 5: And so someone tweeted I saw a couple of years
Speaker 5: ago saying, like buying a dog is the happiest day
Speaker 5: when you're like just guaranteeing you're gonna be absolutely devastated
Speaker 5: like later on down the red Uh, but uh, the
Speaker 5: memories we have with him will always be there. And
Speaker 5: we have so many videos of that, of that little dog,
Speaker 5: and uh, you know, it's it's it's hard. It's hard
Speaker 5: being sad about something that you Usually when you're sad
Speaker 5: and you don't want something to happen, you're like, I
Speaker 5: will do anything in my power to make this not happen.
Speaker 5: But he was so it was it was we called this,
Speaker 5: Uh there's a service that comes to your house to
Speaker 5: do it, and they were really sweet and they were saying, like,
Speaker 5: this is the most compassionate thing you can do, because
Speaker 5: he's just gonna be in more pain. He's being more uncomfortable,
Speaker 5: like he was sleeping like almost all day when he
Speaker 5: was like he's had this cough for like a year.
Speaker 5: We've taken him to every specialist in town, like everyone
Speaker 5: knows Marty around something California, because we've just brought him
Speaker 5: everywhere and we could not fix it. I think he
Speaker 5: had a tumor in his nose. But it was one
Speaker 5: of those things where I'm like, this is the right
Speaker 5: thing to do, this is the right thing to do.
Speaker 5: I'm so sad about it, but this is the right
Speaker 5: thing to do. And that was something I hadn't really
Speaker 5: dealt with before, like you know, like not like making
Speaker 5: a decision and feeling good, like feeling like it's the
Speaker 5: right thing to do, but feeling so it feels like
Speaker 5: when you're breaking up with someone, you know, like when
Speaker 5: you're like, oh, I have to break up with this person.
Speaker 5: I'm so sad about it, but I know that, like
Speaker 5: this is the right thing to do.
Speaker 1: A friend of mine just put her dog down, and
Speaker 1: she said the same thing because like he had dementia
Speaker 1: and so his body was like physically okay, but he
Speaker 1: was just completely gone and like his life was just
Speaker 1: like a horrible life that he was living, and so
Speaker 1: she'd made the choice to put him down. But again,
Speaker 1: it was that same thing of like you have to
Speaker 1: make that choice for them, and it's because they can't speak,
Speaker 1: they don't you know, and so it's like so hard
Speaker 1: and you just carry a.
Speaker 4: Lot of guilt and like I just can't imagine.
Speaker 5: Well, yeah, yeah, this nice woman came to our house
Speaker 5: and like I saw her like getting out of the
Speaker 5: car and walking up, I just started slobbing asously like
Speaker 5: parked the car. But uh, but it was it was
Speaker 5: really special, Like he got to be you know, he
Speaker 5: was in his own bed and like we were like
Speaker 5: as we were saying goodbye to him, was like we
Speaker 5: were like petting his head. But uh, but he's he's
Speaker 5: very missed. But we're excited to be able to go
Speaker 5: out of town with having to get a babysitter worry
Speaker 5: about someone whizzing all over our carpet. That's nice, but
Speaker 5: but Marty's very very missed. And thank you for the
Speaker 5: kind words.
Speaker 3: I just wanted to acknowledge the goodest boy.
Speaker 5: He's such a good boy.
Speaker 3: But that's life, That's what I'm saying. It is.
Speaker 2: It's like the highs you're you're setting, it's like you
Speaker 2: are taking the risk of heartbreak. And I know it
Speaker 2: sounds depressing, but just life and it's the beauty of
Speaker 2: it you beauty.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it's just so beautiful it is.
Speaker 3: There's beauty and love, and there's beauty and pain.
Speaker 2: It's like you get one when you lose someone trying.
Speaker 4: It's hard to find the beauty of pain.
Speaker 5: But there's a quote I love, which is what is
Speaker 5: grief if not love? Perseverance? And that is spoken by
Speaker 5: the vision from one Division. It's from a marvel thing.
Speaker 5: But I thought that was beautiful.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 5: It's like when you lose, when someone dies or you
Speaker 5: lose someone in your life and you're grieving that loss,
Speaker 5: and it's like, oh, this is just love continuing on.
Speaker 5: And I think that's a beautiful thing.
Speaker 3: True.
Speaker 1: I tell Sunny now, she's one years old, one year old,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, you're gonna live forever well.
Speaker 3: And she might, Yes, she will, and she will will.
Speaker 4: I'm gonna take a break now, yeah.
Speaker 3: Right back.
Speaker 2: I would just like y'all to know that during the break,
Speaker 2: Tanya had a Debbie down her moment too.
Speaker 3: Mine are just caught on the mic.
Speaker 4: Caught on the mic a lot too, young lady.
Speaker 2: We have a riveting host chat today that reads long
Speaker 2: denim skirts.
Speaker 3: Do you need one for the summer. Tanya.
Speaker 1: First of all, I would like to say the two
Speaker 1: things that are on the host chat were provided by me.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I like to wing it more.
Speaker 4: Oh, I'm not a wing winger.
Speaker 1: I'm not a winger, but uh, I have been seeing
Speaker 1: a lot of these long denim skirts out on the
Speaker 1: social media.
Speaker 4: On the social media, and it's like, I'm going to
Speaker 4: order one.
Speaker 1: So I ordered one and it came in it was
Speaker 1: like three quarter length, yeah, and I was like, I
Speaker 1: feel like that's not it.
Speaker 3: No, yeah, it's not about the three quarters, it's the full.
Speaker 4: Length, long one.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So I feel good about my choice to return that today.
Speaker 3: Okay, so she didn't work.
Speaker 1: She didn't work, but I want a long one, even
Speaker 1: though I feel like a complete nerdler wearing it.
Speaker 3: Well, I think they're very cute.
Speaker 2: I definitely think it's a trend for sure, but it's like,
Speaker 2: why not join in? Yeah?
Speaker 3: You know, if I'm not trendy, you can't beat them,
Speaker 3: follow them. I miss trend. Imagine the white buffer with the.
Speaker 4: White crop top with the denim skirt. That's the vibe.
Speaker 2: Ali wore one to work the other day and I
Speaker 2: was talking, really, uh, move there's not a lot of movement.
Speaker 2: She was like, I'm just kind of scooting around. I'm
Speaker 2: pretty like locked in.
Speaker 1: So I was messaging her about it too, because I
Speaker 1: was like, mine's really big. I feel like I should
Speaker 1: size it down. She goes, no, no, no, you want
Speaker 1: that extra room. Let me tell you.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't know. You used to buy your
Speaker 2: clothes like weirdly large. Tanya would Tanya, you have come.
Speaker 3: A long way. Because thank you, you're welcome, because that's
Speaker 3: called growth. G r o w h. Thank you for
Speaker 3: spelling it out.
Speaker 2: We would go shopping for like a iHeart event, and
Speaker 2: it was I love spending time with you, but it
Speaker 2: was dreadful. It was a dreadful experience because, first of all,
Speaker 2: just the things she picked out. I was like, my god, like,
Speaker 2: this can't She's got it. There's gotta be a joke here.
Speaker 2: And then she would try it on and she'd be like, yeah,
Speaker 2: this fits perfect, and I'd be like, let me see,
Speaker 2: and she'd come out and it would have like an
Speaker 2: inch gap in her waist and I'm like, that does
Speaker 2: not fit and she's like, but it's come and I'm like, well, yeah,
Speaker 2: like my sweats are comfortable, but like we're not you're
Speaker 2: you're here, we're looking snatch, like we're trying to look
Speaker 2: like sexy on the.
Speaker 3: Carpet, not like comfortable.
Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, so.
Speaker 3: I'm yeah, you can go on.
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm beyond and my style beyond.
Speaker 4: Which is great now. Huh. Yes, yeah, I realize I
Speaker 4: have like two modes.
Speaker 1: It's like goblin or or like really cute sexy sexy
Speaker 1: sexy goblin.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like I don't have like an in between. And
Speaker 4: it's so funny.
Speaker 1: Bechoes over the other night for the barbecue, just the
Speaker 1: three of us, and Robbie.
Speaker 3: Was like, I think you need no.
Speaker 2: No, I'm gonna defend him here because no, I know,
Speaker 2: I know it wasn't it's you.
Speaker 3: Were talking about.
Speaker 2: You were like, I feel like I only wear sweats,
Speaker 2: like I never get cue and or I'm like dressed
Speaker 2: up for dinner or something.
Speaker 3: But like my everyday look at work is just like sweats.
Speaker 1: I don't wear Like I don't wear jeans and a
Speaker 1: T shirt or like cute little heels to work, like
Speaker 1: I'm either blah or or like hot.
Speaker 3: Mind you. This is when I thought this was a
Speaker 3: full barbecue.
Speaker 2: So I came in jeans and like booties and was
Speaker 2: like a little more dressed.
Speaker 3: And Robbie's like, yeah, like I.
Speaker 2: Think you need like a what is make I.
Speaker 3: Was like, excuse me, what?
Speaker 2: Yeah, the look that shot over him he was not
Speaker 2: facing us.
Speaker 3: But the look Tanya gave him out to I was like,
Speaker 3: and but no, no.
Speaker 1: It's true because he's like, babe, you've been talking about
Speaker 1: it for like forever. He's like, you always talk about it.
Speaker 1: How you just feel you're wearing the same thing every day?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you know, he's right, Like I complained
Speaker 1: to him, like every day you.
Speaker 3: Complain to anyone who will listen.
Speaker 2: You literally imagine all your texts are Yeah.
Speaker 1: But but I and yet I don't put in the
Speaker 1: effort because I think the thing is I don't want
Speaker 1: to waste my time putting things together in the morning.
Speaker 4: I'd rather just like get up and go.
Speaker 3: What if you did it at night before you went
Speaker 3: to sleep, That's what I.
Speaker 1: Already do before I go to sleep. I put my
Speaker 1: clothes in the bathroom because I slither into the bathroom
Speaker 1: as to not wake him up. So I do already
Speaker 1: do it the night before. But I just put on
Speaker 1: a pair of sweats. My underwear bral.
Speaker 3: Just put it jeans, a shirt and boots.
Speaker 4: Jeans are so uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: Okay, well see this is this is this is.
Speaker 4: The pickle, the dichotomy of my life.
Speaker 2: The economy is the word of the episode that tracks
Speaker 2: we should do like a word of the episode where
Speaker 2: like we like, we're like to see if you can find.
Speaker 3: The word of one episode.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fine, that is fun. So we'll start it
Speaker 1: next interactive interactive. Yeah, and then Facebook group you can
Speaker 1: let us know what you think the word was.
Speaker 2: Then and the winner gets a shout out.
Speaker 3: I love that. That's fun.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm gonna come with the you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm okay, Maybe because I'm turning thirty six soon, I
Speaker 1: can have a makeover for my thirty sixth year of life.
Speaker 2: The thing is, it's you know what style you like,
Speaker 2: like you and you know how to dress cute. Like
Speaker 2: there was a time where maybe that was an excuse,
Speaker 2: like oh I don't know what to wear, but you
Speaker 2: do because you put outfits together.
Speaker 4: So I buy clothes that fit me. Now you buy
Speaker 4: clothes that.
Speaker 3: Fit you, So I think it's more.
Speaker 2: Maybe I go through this with Haley too, where she'll
Speaker 2: have an outfit on and I'm like, that looks so cute,
Speaker 2: and she's like, but these shoes are really uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: I'm going to change and I'm like.
Speaker 2: No, like the shoes make the whole outfit, like we're
Speaker 2: barely going to be standing. And she's like oh, And
Speaker 2: it's just like I'm so opposite minded where I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 2: if I'm uncomfortable for a couple of hours, like I'll
Speaker 2: be fine. Yeah.
Speaker 4: It's so interesting.
Speaker 1: It's I think maybe the pandemic is what like screwed
Speaker 1: me because I was used to just being in sweats
Speaker 1: and like comfortable every day. That now, the thought of
Speaker 1: wearing jeans to sit and work for five hours, it's
Speaker 1: like not even a thing.
Speaker 2: It didn't make you want to dress up more. No interesting,
Speaker 2: I think it was one one way or the other
Speaker 2: for people.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know that's just what it's going to be.
Speaker 3: When you get the new colors in the vest, you're
Speaker 3: gonna be.
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know it's gonna be like a renaissance of style.
Speaker 4: My style.
Speaker 2: M hm, well I what I for one am here
Speaker 2: colutely looking forward to it.
Speaker 1: Oh and then put the best is that he Robbi
Speaker 1: follows it up with like, Tanya, I think you need
Speaker 1: to make over Becca.
Speaker 4: You have a really good sense of style.
Speaker 2: Like He's like Becca's really got her style, Like she's
Speaker 2: like cool and like has her her look.
Speaker 4: Yeah. I was like thanks.
Speaker 3: It was awkward.
Speaker 2: I was like, it's just the three of us here,
Speaker 2: so let's just uh keep this train moving.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Oh what are you looking for?
Speaker 2: I had something on my phone that I was gonna
Speaker 2: talk about. I couldn't remember, but I just remember something.
Speaker 2: So that night, Robbie cooked like a full branzina fish
Speaker 2: and a steak, and I was like very inspired because
Speaker 2: it was so delicious. And you know, Haley has a
Speaker 2: lot of food allergies, so I clearly eat and I'm
Speaker 2: by myself, I eat whatever I want. But when she's home,
Speaker 2: she's like likes to cook because going out to eat
Speaker 2: is a whole thing because the allergies. And so I
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, I'm gonna try and cook
Speaker 2: one of these branzinos for Haley. And Robbie is like,
Speaker 2: you can go to Italy, which is like a restaurant
Speaker 2: slash market and they have like it already prepared and everything,
Speaker 2: So I go, okay, I can do this.
Speaker 3: The hardest part is just going to the store.
Speaker 2: So I go the store and I get the Branzina,
Speaker 2: I get a bottle of wine. I'm like getting fresh veggies.
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I'm feeling confident at this point.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: And then they had these Lingo steams, which is like
Speaker 2: a glorified, huge shrimp looking thing.
Speaker 3: It's so scary.
Speaker 1: I would never I think Robbie just we did lango
Speaker 1: scene for the first time last year.
Speaker 2: Okay, So I was I saw them at the market,
Speaker 2: You like, I have to have them.
Speaker 3: Well, Haley loves them. I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't eat them, but when we go to certain
Speaker 2: when we go to offer, she loves them.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 2: So it's like, I'm gonna get some Lingo steams and
Speaker 2: whip them up for So I asked the guy. I'm
Speaker 2: like asking the guy, Okay, so how do I cook these?
Speaker 2: And he goes, I just boil them. It's the easiest.
Speaker 2: And he was like, I boil them.
Speaker 3: I thought.
Speaker 2: He said thirty to forty minutes. I was thinking, dang,
Speaker 2: that is a long time.
Speaker 4: I feel like you don't boil anything for thirty to five.
Speaker 3: I was shocked.
Speaker 2: I was just like, wow, that is an intense process
Speaker 2: for the LNGO steam. So I go home and I'm like,
Speaker 2: all right, I'm gonna get things prepped.
Speaker 3: And I get the.
Speaker 2: First I text Robby and Tanya and I'm like, do
Speaker 2: I need to do anything with this fish? Just like
Speaker 2: a full dead fish laying on the thing, and I'm
Speaker 2: like traumatized staring at it, and I'm like, do I
Speaker 2: do anything with this or just.
Speaker 3: Put in the oven? And Rob's like, no, like put
Speaker 3: oil on in seize it. And I'm like, so I'm
Speaker 3: having to.
Speaker 2: Touch the fish and I'm like rubbing oil on it,
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh my god, nightmare, nightmare. So I'm
Speaker 2: like I get the fish situated, like thank god.
Speaker 3: I texted them and then the guy and so oh.
Speaker 2: Also the guy said when he boiled the LINGO steams,
Speaker 2: he was like, as soon as they rise, that's when
Speaker 2: you know they're done. So I set the timer for
Speaker 2: thirty minutes for the LNGO steams, and about like five
Speaker 2: minutes in they rise to the top and I'm like whoa,
Speaker 2: whoao what? So I start googling frantically, like how long
Speaker 2: do you boil LNGO steins? Every single one says three
Speaker 2: to four minutes and I'm like, oh, okay, so I'm
Speaker 2: texturing rob.
Speaker 4: Very quick shrimp is like you can't end like they
Speaker 4: cook very quick.
Speaker 2: Oh And I sent a photo of them in the
Speaker 2: boiling hot water and Robbie's like, did you like take
Speaker 2: the guts out and like cut them?
Speaker 3: And I was like nope, sure didn't it.
Speaker 2: So I'm just like, well, those are ruined, so I
Speaker 2: take them out as fast as I can. I'm like, hey, sorry,
Speaker 2: the LNGO steins might be overcod.
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know anything about these things.
Speaker 3: So anyways, it was chaotic.
Speaker 2: It ended up being a delicious meal somehow, some by
Speaker 2: some miracle, and I felt very I felt very capable.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I feel like Robbie really made me feel capable. He
Speaker 2: was really walking me through it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: So nice.
Speaker 3: So that was a that was a win.
Speaker 4: That was quite the journey of a night.
Speaker 1: It was so funny because we were getting played by
Speaker 1: plays and our text thing and like back he was like,
Speaker 1: did you google how long to put in the fish
Speaker 1: to put in the oven? She's like no, I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna wing it. I'm like, you can't just wing fish,
Speaker 1: because like fish cooks are really quick and they're all
Speaker 1: so different.
Speaker 3: On the oven, it was like twenty minutes. It was yeah,
Speaker 3: fish the fish.
Speaker 4: Oh weird, salmon's like twelve.
Speaker 5: The branzino being serving it with the head on, yeah,
Speaker 5: is like so intimidating to me.
Speaker 1: But it's like the thing right now, I feel like
Speaker 1: doing a whole fish is like I don't kidding.
Speaker 5: Yeah, do you eat the head?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: No, no, I think some people I do think can't you?
Speaker 3: I mean you can, I know because like eyeballs and
Speaker 3: stuff have like protein or something.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like people eat exclusively fish heads really well.
Speaker 5: I mean.
Speaker 2: But once we got on the table, Heley's like, do
Speaker 2: you want me to remove like the spine and the
Speaker 2: bones for you? And I was like, please, like a kid,
Speaker 2: like cut up my fish for me because Daddy's not
Speaker 2: here to do it.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Yeah, no, Daddy was not there.
Speaker 2: He was sure only over text he was there, and
Speaker 2: that didn't do Daddy couldn't do much for me.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Wow, well, proud of.
Speaker 3: You, Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: There is like I do love cooking at home. I
Speaker 1: love I like preparing my food for myself for some reason.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean there's some yeah, being able to provide
Speaker 2: a good food for yourself is like a great accomplishment.
Speaker 1: When I I remember, like when I was single, I
Speaker 1: would always just like go to Whole Foods. I was
Speaker 1: like the queen of the salad bar. I would get
Speaker 1: like their tuna like some you know whatever. Like I
Speaker 1: was the queen of just like meal buying so for one,
Speaker 1: Like I was always like, yeah, eating out for one.
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I think that's I think that's normal because
Speaker 2: I think a lot of times like portions are made
Speaker 2: for two people at least.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like hello fresh, I tried to order.
Speaker 2: I just wanted for me because again, Haley's allergies. It's like,
Speaker 2: I don't know if she can have a lot of
Speaker 2: this stuff. And the only options for two people, I'm like,
Speaker 2: what's your single right?
Speaker 4: What about the single people in the world.
Speaker 3: That's all I'm saying. I did like having leftover sometimes,
Speaker 3: so I.
Speaker 1: Do, like, yeah, yeah, we always do that. We always
Speaker 1: cook more so that I can have leftovers the next day.
Speaker 3: Y'all are just on it.
Speaker 2: You get your situation locked, locked and loaded. And yeah,
Speaker 2: did you see I sent you the video of Hillary
Speaker 2: Burton and Jeffreydine Morgan.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and we really want to have them on the podcast.
Speaker 4: So if anybody knows Hillary.
Speaker 2: Button, yeah, we really want Hillary Burton eastn.
Speaker 5: I'll send some texts.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she knows Hillary Burton around here.
Speaker 3: I just love to you know.
Speaker 2: I was like a loyal one Tree Hill Watcher until
Speaker 2: like maybe the last two seasons, but I was like
Speaker 2: obsessed with it from the beginning. And then Hillary was
Speaker 2: on Gray's Anatomy. Remember she interfered with Arizona and Callie's relationship.
Speaker 2: And then she is married to Denny Duquette Jeffredine Morgan.
Speaker 4: You know how I feel about him.
Speaker 2: And they're obsessed with each other, like the way they
Speaker 2: look at each other on the red carpet.
Speaker 3: Does she talk about him on their podcast all the time?
Speaker 3: Is she just in love? Like, is she just like
Speaker 3: enamored by him or is she like and how many.
Speaker 4: Kids did they have?
Speaker 5: They have two?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 5: And every now and again he'll stop by and we
Speaker 5: do the Drama Queen's podcast with them and an iHeartRadio
Speaker 5: podcast and some name still stop by and just like
Speaker 5: wave into the camera. And it's so fun to see
Speaker 5: him because he's a walking dead too, Like he's like, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 5: he's he's cool as hell. She's I did not watch
Speaker 5: One Tree Hill like I I've seen like half of
Speaker 5: an episode. But she is so funny and so her
Speaker 5: stories are so great. She's just the best.
Speaker 1: She wasn't funny on the show, so you know what's crazy.
Speaker 1: I was obsessed with One Tree Hill, like I was
Speaker 1: in that cult. Like I watched it. I've seen every
Speaker 1: single episode. I couldn't tell you one plot line. Like
Speaker 1: it's almost like the show from the.
Speaker 3: Show really yeah, but from the beginning.
Speaker 4: From none of it.
Speaker 1: Like I remember Brooke Davis, I remember her name and
Speaker 1: that she dated Chad Michael Murray's character, and yeah, but
Speaker 1: like I can't tell you, and I think, like, wow,
Speaker 1: I know it's kind of art that time.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 1: But the same with Vampire Diaries. I was obsessed with
Speaker 1: the Vampire Diaries. I watched every single episode of that show,
Speaker 1: and I could maybe, like I could tell you a
Speaker 1: little bit about like Nina.
Speaker 4: Doe Brem's love triangle, and like that's pretty much it.
Speaker 2: Remember when Haley Kyoko was on Vampire Diaries. Nope, she
Speaker 2: died in one episode.
Speaker 4: Well that's kind of what happened.
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 3: Goes. I just saw Haley's episode of Vampire Diaries Gone
Speaker 3: Too Soon.
Speaker 1: It's like one episode, but I feel like it's kind
Speaker 1: of concerning that I don't remember much.
Speaker 5: I know what you mean, Like like I've seen Friday
Speaker 5: Night Lights like two times, all the way through, and
Speaker 5: I love It's one of my favorite shows. But like
Speaker 5: I realized, like, oh god, I don't really remember what
Speaker 5: it's been like, you know, five years since I've watched
Speaker 5: it now.
Speaker 4: Yeah, this has been like happened twenty years.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's been a long time.
Speaker 4: Yeah it was a freshman. So maybe I revisit One
Speaker 4: Tree Hill.
Speaker 5: You should, and you should follow along with the drama
Speaker 5: Queen's podcast. It's a lot of fun.
Speaker 1: You know what's interesting about these like refollow or follow along,
Speaker 1: these like companion podcasts, these rewatch podcasts. I don't like
Speaker 1: watching television on like a somebody else's schedule, do.
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?
Speaker 5: You can't tell me and watch when you can't tell me, I.
Speaker 4: Want to watch what episode I want to watch? I
Speaker 4: want to watch it when I want to watch.
Speaker 3: Is that what they do? Like they're like this week
Speaker 3: we're watching.
Speaker 4: Yeah, they go in order, and I don't like that.
Speaker 2: You're a wild, wild girl, and you don't like to
Speaker 2: be told what to do. Yeah, at the patriarchy.
Speaker 4: Don't tell me I'm a modern woman, like Taylor says.
Speaker 3: She's a modern woman.
Speaker 4: She says, F the patriarchy and the ten minute version
Speaker 4: of all.
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm very familiar with that, Thank you so much.
Speaker 5: Someone yelled that out during our weddings. You were there
Speaker 5: during one of My friend Matt was giving a speech
Speaker 5: at our wedding and someone yelled out, F the patriarchy.
Speaker 5: This girl, it was someone you knew, someone we knew.
Speaker 5: That was insane.
Speaker 3: A wedding invite regret.
Speaker 5: Yes, not just wedding, a bridesmaid regrets.
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 5: Absolutely absolutely that case. But she yielded out. This is
Speaker 5: long before the old two ten minute.
Speaker 4: Ahead of the time.
Speaker 3: Actually Taylor heard that from her.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she got the idea.
Speaker 5: Someone posted It's like, hey, you know what, she has
Speaker 5: a point.
Speaker 3: That's devastating.
Speaker 1: Yeah, wedding regrets. You might pick your brain about that
Speaker 1: at some point, Please do just learn, you know, learn
Speaker 1: from Yeah.
Speaker 3: What what what could it hurt? What could it hurt?
Speaker 4: I mean just knowledge is power, you know.
Speaker 2: All Right, we'll be right back with emails. All right,
Speaker 2: we are back. Easton is on the emails today, take
Speaker 2: it away.
Speaker 5: Thank you so much. This first one is from Kirstan.
Speaker 5: Kirsten one of the two, so this question is sort
Speaker 5: of more for Becca regarding same sex relationships. I'm twenty nine.
Speaker 5: I just started dating women for the first time, and wow,
Speaker 5: why did I wait so long? Lol? But something I
Speaker 5: feel like I never had to worry about before is
Speaker 5: a partner and their friendships and being worried about potential hookups.
Speaker 5: For example, the I'm seeing drove three hours to see
Speaker 5: a female friend for the weekend. She assured me it
Speaker 5: was just a friend, but it's hard to even think
Speaker 5: about her, like sleeping in the same bed as a friend,
Speaker 5: and my jealousy sets in. I have female friends who
Speaker 5: I do the same with, share beds if we're on
Speaker 5: a ship together, and would never try to get with them.
Speaker 5: But how do you get over that insecurity? Like when
Speaker 5: Becka went on that friendship a few months ago, I
Speaker 5: ago I couldn't help, But wonder does Haley feel some
Speaker 5: type of way? Or with Haley on tour, do you
Speaker 5: get jealous and how do you handle it? I know
Speaker 5: this is probably more about deep rooted issues I have,
Speaker 5: but it's all new to me. Any advice, love you
Speaker 5: go some much Day One.
Speaker 2: Listener, This is honestly, like, I think you're valid. I
Speaker 2: don't think you're crazy for feeling this way because it's
Speaker 2: all of it's very new, and you're probably feeling things
Speaker 2: that you've never felt before for the first time, so
Speaker 2: you're having to navigate a lot of things at once
Speaker 2: that feel new and a little unfamiliar. I think it's
Speaker 2: just reconciling that, like when I have to do this
Speaker 2: all the time when I think about it, because it
Speaker 2: is different. Like there are certain things where like if
Speaker 2: Tanya's talking about something Robbie did, or I'm talking about
Speaker 2: something Haley did, I'm like, oh, like, regardless of the
Speaker 2: gender of your partner, that's wrong or that's right, whatever
Speaker 2: it is. But there are certain things when you're in
Speaker 2: a same sex relationship where you go, okay, that is
Speaker 2: different because obviously Haley has friends that are women. I
Speaker 2: have friends that are women. I don't think of any
Speaker 2: of my friends in that way. And I would like
Speaker 2: Tanya and I would go on a trip and share
Speaker 2: a bed and not even think twice about it.
Speaker 3: I know Hailey wanted to think twice about it.
Speaker 1: But it's interesting because like if I went on a
Speaker 1: trip with a guy and shared a bed with him
Speaker 1: that a friend that was a friend, I'd probably be like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's not cool with me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think it's more just having conversations and
Speaker 2: being like open to being vulnerable enough to have the
Speaker 2: conversation like, Hey, I'm navigating this for the first time,
Speaker 2: and this is how I feel about it, Like, can
Speaker 2: you give me some reassurance because I know that you're
Speaker 2: allowed and obviously I want you to have friendships, but
Speaker 2: I just want to feel safe in this relationship knowing
Speaker 2: that you drove three hours to see someone and what
Speaker 2: does that mean? Or you know, when you're all sharing
Speaker 2: a bet, are there any feelings there? Have there been
Speaker 2: any feelings there? I also think it makes a difference
Speaker 2: if the friend that she's going to see is also
Speaker 2: into women.
Speaker 3: Oh interesting, that makes a difference to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So like if Tanya liked girls and then we
Speaker 2: went on a trip, I think both maybe Robbie and
Speaker 2: Haley would be like I don't Maybe they won't think
Speaker 2: anything of it, but I think it would.
Speaker 3: There'd be a little more question about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I don't think I don't think it's obviously.
Speaker 2: I think you have to be be able to navigate
Speaker 2: this in a healthy way. But I don't think you're
Speaker 2: I don't think you're invalid for having these feelings, is
Speaker 2: what I'm trying to say. But I think it's just
Speaker 2: having a conversation and being open and upfront, being like, hey,
Speaker 2: I've never had to navigate this because if you were
Speaker 2: a guy and you went to see your friend who
Speaker 2: was a woman, and you were sleeping in the same bed,
Speaker 2: that wouldn't be okay with me, right, you know it's
Speaker 2: and that's the tricky part about it.
Speaker 1: I was actually thinking about the last trip that we
Speaker 1: went on, which was I think Jared and Ashley's wedding.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this is long, so so sad. But
Speaker 1: we also did not share a bed. You were very
Speaker 1: adamant about getting separate beds.
Speaker 3: Well, not for the reason that I thought you were
Speaker 3: gonna come on to me.
Speaker 1: I know that that's because, yeah, because I do like
Speaker 1: to I do like to touch if I'm in a
Speaker 1: bed with She likes to.
Speaker 2: Put her toe on people's legs, so I quickly had to.
Speaker 4: Use her distance from me, which I understand.
Speaker 2: The et toe it's like absolutely not touching me. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but yeah, I think in same thing with Haley. Like
Speaker 2: I always tell Hailey if if I was like, Hey,
Speaker 2: I'm going on this trip and my guy friend's there,
Speaker 2: we're just gonna share a room, she'd be like no.
Speaker 2: So it's like you just have to have some maybe
Speaker 2: set some boundaries that you both feel comfortable with. You
Speaker 2: don't want her to feel controlled and you don't want
Speaker 2: to feel unsafe.
Speaker 1: So and every situation is different. So just being superly
Speaker 1: overly communicative about things.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like because if it was like this female, this
Speaker 2: friend that she's going to see as a like the
Speaker 2: lesbian community in general, there's a lot of friendships with
Speaker 2: exes or like people that you've hooked up with, you know,
Speaker 2: or it's like in I feel like.
Speaker 3: The hetero world, you don't really run it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, So I would just have a conversation like
Speaker 2: who is this person in her life?
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then I think you can move forward. But
Speaker 3: good luck.
Speaker 2: It's there's some complications out there, but they're all such
Speaker 2: such as life.
Speaker 4: There's always something, always something, all right, all right.
Speaker 5: Next one's from Anonymous. I skimmed this. There's a lot
Speaker 5: of data points here, so let's keep this. Keep this straight.
Speaker 5: I'm in a bit of a pickle. At my wedding,
Speaker 5: my best friend and maid of honor slept with my
Speaker 5: brother in law, who was also the best man. Now,
Speaker 5: typically this wouldn't be a huge deal, but my brother
Speaker 5: in law is married, and I'm also very close to
Speaker 5: my sister in law. Clearly this has me in the
Speaker 5: worst position. Do I stand by my best friend, who
Speaker 5: has always been there for me despite that I'm incredibly
Speaker 5: disappointed in her. I wish she didn't make my wedding
Speaker 5: all about herself in this drama. Or do I cut
Speaker 5: ties and stand by my new family. Somehow, I feel
Speaker 5: the most amount of pressure because my in laws want
Speaker 5: me to not be friends with her anymore. But she's
Speaker 5: my best friend, my Beckett, of my Tanya. I'm so torn.
Speaker 5: Help a confused scrubber out.
Speaker 4: Look, what she did was horrible.
Speaker 1: That is absolutely horrible to sleep with a married man
Speaker 1: when you know that they're married. So like, I'm not
Speaker 1: making any excuses for your best friend. I think that's
Speaker 1: horrible and a really shitty thing that she did. But
Speaker 1: I do think that if this is the becket of
Speaker 1: your Tanya. If this is your best friend, you stick
Speaker 1: through your best friends even when the you know, we're
Speaker 1: all imperfect and we all make mistakes, and you stick
Speaker 1: by your friend. You know, like you obviously you express
Speaker 1: your feelings and that you don't stand for it, and
Speaker 1: how disappointed you are. And I think it's okay to
Speaker 1: like have those conversations. But I don't think that you
Speaker 1: did your best friend.
Speaker 3: I agree.
Speaker 2: I also think though, that I think your best friend
Speaker 2: really needs to like take accountability. The fact that she
Speaker 2: made this all about her on your wedding day and
Speaker 2: did this has me questioning her character a little bit,
Speaker 2: because if this is on brand for her, then I
Speaker 2: think this is kind of a bigger thing of like,
Speaker 2: who are the people you're surrounding yourself with type thing?
Speaker 3: Because I know, I don't. I feel confident that you
Speaker 3: would never do that.
Speaker 4: You know, saying never that is correct, and I feel
Speaker 4: the same about you.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I do think that it's worth having a
Speaker 2: conversation about the choices she makes and taking accountability for
Speaker 2: her choices because your new family is going to you
Speaker 2: don't want your new family to question your character of
Speaker 2: the people.
Speaker 3: That are closest to you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think it's like having a conversation with
Speaker 2: both parties and just this wasn't your fault.
Speaker 3: You didn't do anything.
Speaker 2: But I do think that it's definitely a pickle that
Speaker 2: you're in, and I think that you can be a
Speaker 2: really good friend to your best friend. But also I
Speaker 2: think being a good friend is holding her accountable, yeah
Speaker 2: for sure, for her actions and having a conversation about
Speaker 2: what she did, and also probably that it hurt your
Speaker 2: feelings that she did this on your really special day. Yeah,
Speaker 2: it was a very selfish thing under end, But I agree,
Speaker 2: she's your best friend, she's a human. She made a
Speaker 2: horrible mistake, and I think that it's a conversation to
Speaker 2: be had with her and then also with your husband about,
Speaker 2: you know, because it's his family too and he's feeling
Speaker 2: probably very protective over them.
Speaker 1: I was kind of doing it under the assumption that
Speaker 1: your best friend was feeling very remorseful and sorry and apologetic.
Speaker 4: That's I guess we didn't really.
Speaker 2: Well she that kind of made it seem like she's
Speaker 2: making it all about herself and this drama. So I
Speaker 2: don't feel like she's.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I do think that is important. If like
Speaker 1: that she made a mistake and she's so sorry and
Speaker 1: taking accountability and like expressing that to you, it's like.
Speaker 4: I feel like you should work through it, you should
Speaker 4: be there for her.
Speaker 1: But if she's kind of blase blase, doesn't feel like
Speaker 1: what she did was wrong, that's.
Speaker 3: Kind of like, oh, everyone needs to get over it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, then that's different.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but good luck. I'm sorry you're in the situation.
Speaker 2: Congratulations on getting married, and wish you the best. Yes, Okay,
Speaker 2: this Thursday, we have a guest episode.
Speaker 3: Yes, it's Tanya's hero. Some might say a hiro, yes,
Speaker 3: thank you.
Speaker 2: We have Nadia O Kamodo coming in and she is
Speaker 2: here to talk all things period menstruating.
Speaker 4: Yes, so if you and if you have a period,
Speaker 4: you might enjoy.
Speaker 3: Here's the thing. It's an amazing episode.
Speaker 2: She is an incredible human being who is doing so much,
Speaker 2: and she has done so much at such a young age.
Speaker 3: So even if you're like, I don't need to.
Speaker 2: Hear about periods, I'm telling you as someone who often
Speaker 2: feels that way during those conversations, it is an amazing chat.
Speaker 5: I mean, some of the podcasts I listened to, Like
Speaker 5: if I see a guest and I don't recognize the name,
Speaker 5: and sometimes I'm like skeptic, like you want to listen
Speaker 5: to this one, believe me, believe me.
Speaker 1: That's the thing I think, like when we're what we're
Speaker 1: trying to do with our guests is like we want
Speaker 1: to have guests on that we love and we're passionate about,
Speaker 1: and people that we find really interesting. Maybe they're not
Speaker 1: a name like you that you know, like Rumor Willis
Speaker 1: know Rebel Wilson. That's what I was thinking.
Speaker 4: I was thinking of Rebel Wilson, and I said either or
Speaker 4: you know both of them, so.
Speaker 1: You know, they might not be names that you know,
Speaker 1: but these are all people that either Becca or I
Speaker 1: really are passionate about and are excited about.
Speaker 4: And so hopefully you guys get something from this too.
Speaker 5: Like I'm a non menstruating person and I was just
Speaker 5: gobsmack this entire intervice. Aw was on the ground, like
Speaker 5: this woman is incredible. This is just such an inspiring
Speaker 5: and interesting and fun interview.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's amazing.
Speaker 2: So we'll be back Thursday with Nadia, and we hope
Speaker 2: you have a great rest of the week and love.
Speaker 3: We love you so much, bab