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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya ret An iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are screwed rubbing in.

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Speaker 1: That indeed we are, Becca Tilly, do you know what

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Speaker 1: what I feel like?

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Speaker 3: It's gonna be a good day. Do you know why?

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Speaker 4: Tell me?

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Speaker 3: Because the vest is on.

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Speaker 1: The vest is on, and I feel like my best

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Speaker 1: self in this vest.

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Speaker 3: You feel your best in your vest.

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Speaker 4: I feel my best in my vest.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like a would you say it's like a

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Speaker 2: security blanket.

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Speaker 4: It's funny.

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Speaker 1: It feels to me like a like a sleeping bag,

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Speaker 1: you know. And it's been if you're not listening in

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Speaker 1: Los Angeles, it's been June gloomy, and it's been cold.

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Speaker 1: It's just been cold. And so for me, if I

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Speaker 1: walk out of the house with just a little T

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Speaker 1: shirt on, I'm freezing. I put this bad boy on

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Speaker 1: and I'm like Superman.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's only covering like the the center of

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Speaker 2: your body.

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Speaker 3: Your arms are exposed.

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Speaker 1: Yes, But you know what's interesting when I wear puffer

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Speaker 1: like I have puffer jackets that.

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Speaker 4: Are like have sleeves.

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Speaker 3: Uh huh.

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Speaker 1: I get a little too warm in those. Having your

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Speaker 1: armpits exposed is the key.

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Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, she's a vest queen.

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Speaker 4: She's a vest queen. I should get it in more colors.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm in.

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Speaker 4: I got an Amazon invested too.

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Speaker 1: It's like not like an expensive little piece and I

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Speaker 1: wear it all the time.

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Speaker 4: I should get it in white and brown and.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I can't wait to see them view and

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Speaker 2: new colors evolution, same fit, different colors exactly. But it

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Speaker 2: has been uh quite dreary, and I do feel like

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Speaker 2: it's taking a toll on me. I didn't think I

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Speaker 2: needed the sun as much as I really need the sun.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a mental thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it makes sense, like I think people

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Speaker 2: are really really going through it with seasonal depression these days. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I wouldn't say I'm at that point, but I do

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Speaker 2: feel like I would love like a warm, sunny feeling

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Speaker 2: on my face.

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Speaker 4: You're gonna get it in a couple of days, I think.

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Speaker 2: So.

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Speaker 1: They say the before the weather app I've been like

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Speaker 1: to before.

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Speaker 3: What's going on?

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Speaker 1: Well, I will tell you that, Uh, I am the owner,

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Speaker 1: proud owner.

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Speaker 3: I hate this thing on the back of our phones,

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Speaker 3: like just triggered me.

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Speaker 1: I know, I am the proud owner of a chic

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Speaker 1: squatty potty.

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Speaker 3: Now, oh my gosh, whoa, it's wood.

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Speaker 1: It's Woodn't it folds so that I don't have to

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Speaker 1: have it on my potty?

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Speaker 4: Yes, he did.

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Speaker 1: After he saw the social media posts from last week's episode.

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Speaker 4: He bought me this.

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Speaker 3: Bad boy is so romantic.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, romance, aid its finest, you know.

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Speaker 2: No, seriously, like that is so thoughtful. And he got

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Speaker 2: He didn't get you an ugly plastic line.

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Speaker 3: He got you. She like, y'all should get it engraved

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Speaker 3: what I was talking about. We have these.

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Speaker 2: You can hold yours up these like octo. Mine's an octo, buddy?

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Speaker 4: What is your mind's a sticky grippy?

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Speaker 2: Is it to like stick on to it on like

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Speaker 2: a mirror so you can film? But to be honest,

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Speaker 2: sometimes mine slides.

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Speaker 4: Well you can't just stick it on any surface. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: oh it does. Yeah, and so mine is not mine

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Speaker 4: is stuck like met you okay, and.

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Speaker 2: Then but then if you set it down on any surface, yeah, I.

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Speaker 5: Thought it was like a fidget thing like like no, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I prefer that this is not it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So anyways, that's my review on that, And now I'm

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Speaker 2: just stuck with the case.

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Speaker 3: It gets stuck to every surface, so I gotta switch

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Speaker 1: It's been so helpful for me. Have you not noticed

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Speaker 1: that I've been like doing more mirror videos.

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Speaker 2: I haven't noticed, but I will pay attention attention next time,

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Speaker 2: so much better.

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Speaker 3: I love it.

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Speaker 4: I love this little sticky grippy.

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Speaker 2: Okay, great, Maybe I should switch brands. Maybe I got

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Speaker 2: the wrong brand of mine.

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Speaker 4: Does not slide?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Sticks? Okay, okay, okay, yeah.

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Speaker 3: I'm listening.

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Speaker 4: I'll do the link.

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Speaker 3: I wait, I saw you at Okay.

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Speaker 4: So, first of all, what's going on with you?

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Speaker 3: Nothing?

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Speaker 5: Really?

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Speaker 3: Just same old, same old, same old, just living chilling.

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Speaker 4: No news is good news.

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Speaker 3: Do I have any news?

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Speaker 4: Have you been watching Love Island?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: No, what's going on there? Tell me?

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Speaker 4: I'm loving this?

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Speaker 3: He's datings together?

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Speaker 2: Are Mitchell and uh Mollie still together?

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Speaker 4: So funny you ask?

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Speaker 3: They are?

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Speaker 2: Not?

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Speaker 1: Actually, well, they didn't really break up, but he basically

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Speaker 1: said because she wants to stay open, and he's like,

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Speaker 1: I feel like you're not giving.

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Speaker 3: Me the respect that I'm giving you.

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Speaker 1: I'm giving you, so like, if you want to date

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Speaker 1: other people, that's fine, and if you come back to

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Speaker 1: me and I'm still here, then that's fine. But I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to like partake and be giving you all

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Speaker 1: of me when your like head is turning all over.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's what I just watched the other day.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, one episode behind.

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Speaker 2: Is she into anyone else? Or she's just like, oh,

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Speaker 2: I want to be open to the possibility of someone coming.

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Speaker 1: She's open like this one guy just came in took

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Speaker 1: her on a date and she's like kind of into him.

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Speaker 1: And then this other guy like kissed her in a

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Speaker 1: challenge and she's like.

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Speaker 4: Ooh he's cute.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, Wow, that's the whole thing, you know, bigger

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Speaker 1: better syndrome. Everybody just wants bigger better. She's got a

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Speaker 1: great guy in front of her, but she wants bigger better.

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Speaker 2: That's so sad. We actually, uh, Temptation Island is back long.

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Speaker 2: We should have Mark back in the studio. I love Mark.

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Speaker 4: I like Mark too.

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Speaker 3: You just like him?

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Speaker 4: I love him?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I said I love him and he said I

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Speaker 3: like him? Which Mark Wahlberg Mark Mark Mark al Wahlberg,

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Speaker 3: the host of Temptation Island.

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Speaker 2: We love but the show started again this jew watch

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Speaker 2: it We watched last night, followed by Jojo and Jordan's

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Speaker 2: new show, The Big D talk about just absolute chaos

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Speaker 2: and like just bringing your Well, The Big D's different

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Speaker 2: because they're already divorced, and so do you know the

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Speaker 2: concept of it.

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Speaker 4: They're divorced and then they're like dating other people.

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Speaker 2: So they're in they're living in a house with other

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Speaker 2: divorced couples, but they're basically like watching their ex and

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Speaker 4: This is what I want to know. That's like what

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Speaker 4: I need to know.

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Speaker 2: Well, here's the this is It's actually an interesting social

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Speaker 2: experiment in my opinion, because you would imagine that people

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Speaker 2: like these aren't people like a couple of weeks off

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Speaker 2: and I'm ready to move on, like let's have this experience,

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Speaker 2: you know, and they you can tell it's really hard

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Speaker 2: for people to watch who felt certain that maybe this

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Speaker 2: with someone else. Like imagine all you wanted was for

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Speaker 2: your your husband or wife to do blah blah blah,

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Speaker 2: and they wouldn't do it story for someone else.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's like a crab.

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Speaker 3: I it's like a mental But that's.

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Speaker 4: What I'm saying. Who is signing up for? This is

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: And same with Temptation Island, Like I'm like, who.

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Speaker 3: Is Temptation Island? Yeah, I'm just like this is Doomsville. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: everyone who goes on Now, I'm like, you're doomed.

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Speaker 4: Some couples make it, though it's very well not.

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying not make it, because some people will

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Speaker 2: choose to be like, yeah, I went to this experience

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Speaker 2: and I learned that I wanted to leave with you,

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Speaker 2: but they still like end up. Well, is it called

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Speaker 2: cheating if you're on the show, I don't know, they

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Speaker 3: It's not when you're on that show.

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Speaker 4: No.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, But the whole point is not to give into

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Speaker 2: temptation or to give in and break up, yeah, or

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Speaker 2: to be like, Okay, who I came with is in

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Speaker 2: the person for me? Yeah, I don't know. I for

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Speaker 2: one will not be signing up for any of those shows.

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Speaker 4: No, not at all.

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Speaker 3: No, Hayley would like look at someone in a certain way,

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Speaker 3: and I'd be like, who is she?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I would not like that. Not for me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you and I would not thrive there. No me.

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Speaker 3: My past self was my past.

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Speaker 4: Self, the old version of Becca.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she was a cool gal. I miss her. Do

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Speaker 3: you miss her? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Really?

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Speaker 3: Of course?

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Speaker 4: She was so like chill, yeah, unfazed Hanna.

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Speaker 3: I was like Hannah at one point. I miss her.

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Speaker 2: Hannah makes me miss her a lot because I'm like

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Speaker 2: Hanna's reminds me so much of how I was when

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Speaker 2: I was dating.

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Speaker 3: Anything someone did, I'd be like, and.

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Speaker 4: But why do you miss her?

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Speaker 3: She was so cool? Hanna is so cool cool. I

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Speaker 3: have no feelings. I wish I had more feelings.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well I thought that too. Just wait, I hope

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Speaker 2: what happened to me? I hope you can hold on

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Speaker 2: to some of your cool.

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Speaker 3: Is so sad. I have like a devil and an

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Speaker 3: angel on my shoulder now.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, my feelings, My feelings.

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Speaker 3: Are so beautiful. No, I love feelings, but I wish

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Speaker 3: I had that.

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Speaker 4: I wish you could feel less.

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Speaker 2: I mean, guess some of the independence that I felt

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Speaker 3: You don't know. You don't know what it's like to

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Speaker 5: Well, yeah, yeah, this nice woman came to our house

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Speaker 2: It's like the highs you're you're setting, it's like you

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, it's just so beautiful it is.

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Speaker 2: It's like you get one when you lose someone trying.

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Speaker 1: I tell Sunny now, she's one years old, one year old,

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Speaker 3: And she might, Yes, she will, and she will will.

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Speaker 2: I would just like y'all to know that during the break,

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Speaker 3: Mine are just caught on the mic.

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Speaker 4: Caught on the mic a lot too, young lady.

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Speaker 2: We have a riveting host chat today that reads long

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Speaker 2: denim skirts.

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Speaker 3: Do you need one for the summer. Tanya.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I like to wing it more.

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Speaker 4: Oh, I'm not a wing winger.

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Speaker 1: I'm not a winger, but uh, I have been seeing

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Speaker 4: So I feel good about my choice to return that today.

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Speaker 3: Well, I think they're very cute.

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Speaker 2: clothes like weirdly large. Tanya would Tanya, you have come.

451
00:19:22,520 --> 00:19:25,880
Speaker 3: A long way. Because thank you, you're welcome, because that's

452
00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:29,520
Speaker 3: called growth. G r o w h. Thank you for

453
00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:30,480
Speaker 3: spelling it out.

454
00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:34,840
Speaker 2: We would go shopping for like a iHeart event, and

455
00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:38,159
Speaker 2: it was I love spending time with you, but it

456
00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:42,320
Speaker 2: was dreadful. It was a dreadful experience because, first of all,

457
00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:44,720
Speaker 2: just the things she picked out. I was like, my god, like,

458
00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:48,440
Speaker 2: this can't She's got it. There's gotta be a joke here.

459
00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:52,680
Speaker 2: And then she would try it on and she'd be like, yeah,

460
00:19:52,960 --> 00:19:54,560
Speaker 2: this fits perfect, and I'd be like, let me see,

461
00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:56,320
Speaker 2: and she'd come out and it would have like an

462
00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:58,720
Speaker 2: inch gap in her waist and I'm like, that does

463
00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,040
Speaker 2: not fit and she's like, but it's come and I'm like, well, yeah,

464
00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:04,080
Speaker 2: like my sweats are comfortable, but like we're not you're

465
00:20:04,119 --> 00:20:06,960
Speaker 2: you're here, we're looking snatch, like we're trying to look

466
00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:08,440
Speaker 2: like sexy on the.

467
00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:10,400
Speaker 3: Carpet, not like comfortable.

468
00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:12,520
Speaker 4: Right, Yeah, so.

469
00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:15,000
Speaker 3: I'm yeah, you can go on.

470
00:20:15,040 --> 00:20:19,160
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm beyond and my style beyond.

471
00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 4: Which is great now. Huh. Yes, yeah, I realize I

472
00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:23,360
Speaker 4: have like two modes.

473
00:20:23,920 --> 00:20:29,000
Speaker 1: It's like goblin or or like really cute sexy sexy

474
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:29,800
Speaker 1: sexy goblin.

475
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:32,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, like I don't have like an in between. And

476
00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:33,040
Speaker 4: it's so funny.

477
00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 1: Bechoes over the other night for the barbecue, just the

478
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:37,879
Speaker 1: three of us, and Robbie.

479
00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:40,639
Speaker 3: Was like, I think you need no.

480
00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:43,960
Speaker 2: No, I'm gonna defend him here because no, I know,

481
00:20:44,040 --> 00:20:45,080
Speaker 2: I know it wasn't it's you.

482
00:20:45,119 --> 00:20:45,960
Speaker 3: Were talking about.

483
00:20:46,000 --> 00:20:48,119
Speaker 2: You were like, I feel like I only wear sweats,

484
00:20:48,200 --> 00:20:51,240
Speaker 2: like I never get cue and or I'm like dressed

485
00:20:51,280 --> 00:20:52,000
Speaker 2: up for dinner or something.

486
00:20:52,080 --> 00:20:54,639
Speaker 3: But like my everyday look at work is just like sweats.

487
00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:56,359
Speaker 1: I don't wear Like I don't wear jeans and a

488
00:20:56,359 --> 00:20:58,359
Speaker 1: T shirt or like cute little heels to work, like

489
00:20:58,359 --> 00:21:01,280
Speaker 1: I'm either blah or or like hot.

490
00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:02,919
Speaker 3: Mind you. This is when I thought this was a

491
00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:03,760
Speaker 3: full barbecue.

492
00:21:03,800 --> 00:21:06,960
Speaker 2: So I came in jeans and like booties and was

493
00:21:07,000 --> 00:21:08,119
Speaker 2: like a little more dressed.

494
00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:10,040
Speaker 3: And Robbie's like, yeah, like I.

495
00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:16,560
Speaker 2: Think you need like a what is make I.

496
00:21:16,480 --> 00:21:19,359
Speaker 3: Was like, excuse me, what?

497
00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:23,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, the look that shot over him he was not

498
00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:24,240
Speaker 2: facing us.

499
00:21:24,160 --> 00:21:26,320
Speaker 3: But the look Tanya gave him out to I was like,

500
00:21:26,640 --> 00:21:27,320
Speaker 3: and but no, no.

501
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:29,280
Speaker 1: It's true because he's like, babe, you've been talking about

502
00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:31,879
Speaker 1: it for like forever. He's like, you always talk about it.

503
00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:33,680
Speaker 1: How you just feel you're wearing the same thing every day?

504
00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:35,880
Speaker 1: And I'm like, you know, he's right, Like I complained

505
00:21:35,920 --> 00:21:37,360
Speaker 1: to him, like every day you.

506
00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:39,240
Speaker 3: Complain to anyone who will listen.

507
00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:42,560
Speaker 2: You literally imagine all your texts are Yeah.

508
00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,040
Speaker 1: But but I and yet I don't put in the

509
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,040
Speaker 1: effort because I think the thing is I don't want

510
00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,160
Speaker 1: to waste my time putting things together in the morning.

511
00:21:49,160 --> 00:21:50,639
Speaker 4: I'd rather just like get up and go.

512
00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:52,119
Speaker 3: What if you did it at night before you went

513
00:21:52,160 --> 00:21:52,920
Speaker 3: to sleep, That's what I.

514
00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:55,679
Speaker 1: Already do before I go to sleep. I put my

515
00:21:55,680 --> 00:21:58,000
Speaker 1: clothes in the bathroom because I slither into the bathroom

516
00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:00,280
Speaker 1: as to not wake him up. So I do already

517
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:01,600
Speaker 1: do it the night before. But I just put on

518
00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:03,560
Speaker 1: a pair of sweats. My underwear bral.

519
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:06,520
Speaker 3: Just put it jeans, a shirt and boots.

520
00:22:07,359 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 4: Jeans are so uncomfortable.

521
00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:16,360
Speaker 3: Okay, well see this is this is this is.

522
00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 4: The pickle, the dichotomy of my life.

523
00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:22,480
Speaker 2: The economy is the word of the episode that tracks

524
00:22:23,760 --> 00:22:26,560
Speaker 2: we should do like a word of the episode where

525
00:22:26,600 --> 00:22:29,639
Speaker 2: like we like, we're like to see if you can find.

526
00:22:29,520 --> 00:22:30,520
Speaker 3: The word of one episode.

527
00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's fine, that is fun. So we'll start it

528
00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 1: next interactive interactive. Yeah, and then Facebook group you can

529
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:38,040
Speaker 1: let us know what you think the word was.

530
00:22:39,040 --> 00:22:42,679
Speaker 2: Then and the winner gets a shout out.

531
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:47,240
Speaker 3: I love that. That's fun.

532
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:49,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm gonna come with the you know what,

533
00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:53,679
Speaker 1: I'm okay, Maybe because I'm turning thirty six soon, I

534
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:58,200
Speaker 1: can have a makeover for my thirty sixth year of life.

535
00:22:59,040 --> 00:23:02,680
Speaker 2: The thing is, it's you know what style you like,

536
00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:04,560
Speaker 2: like you and you know how to dress cute. Like

537
00:23:04,960 --> 00:23:07,400
Speaker 2: there was a time where maybe that was an excuse,

538
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:09,359
Speaker 2: like oh I don't know what to wear, but you

539
00:23:09,480 --> 00:23:11,159
Speaker 2: do because you put outfits together.

540
00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:14,080
Speaker 4: So I buy clothes that fit me. Now you buy

541
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 4: clothes that.

542
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,440
Speaker 3: Fit you, So I think it's more.

543
00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:19,960
Speaker 2: Maybe I go through this with Haley too, where she'll

544
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,240
Speaker 2: have an outfit on and I'm like, that looks so cute,

545
00:23:22,280 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 2: and she's like, but these shoes are really uncomfortable.

546
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 3: I'm going to change and I'm like.

547
00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:28,400
Speaker 2: No, like the shoes make the whole outfit, like we're

548
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,439
Speaker 2: barely going to be standing. And she's like oh, And

549
00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 2: it's just like I'm so opposite minded where I'm like, Okay,

550
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 2: if I'm uncomfortable for a couple of hours, like I'll

551
00:23:37,840 --> 00:23:38,880
Speaker 2: be fine. Yeah.

552
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:39,680
Speaker 4: It's so interesting.

553
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:42,399
Speaker 1: It's I think maybe the pandemic is what like screwed

554
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 1: me because I was used to just being in sweats

555
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:46,639
Speaker 1: and like comfortable every day. That now, the thought of

556
00:23:46,680 --> 00:23:50,920
Speaker 1: wearing jeans to sit and work for five hours, it's

557
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:52,000
Speaker 1: like not even a thing.

558
00:23:52,080 --> 00:23:55,840
Speaker 2: It didn't make you want to dress up more. No interesting,

559
00:23:55,960 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 2: I think it was one one way or the other

560
00:23:57,880 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 2: for people.

561
00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:03,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know that's just what it's going to be.

562
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:05,160
Speaker 3: When you get the new colors in the vest, you're

563
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:05,640
Speaker 3: gonna be.

564
00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:09,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know it's gonna be like a renaissance of style.

565
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:09,960
Speaker 4: My style.

566
00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:13,400
Speaker 2: M hm, well I what I for one am here

567
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 2: colutely looking forward to it.

568
00:24:15,400 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 1: Oh and then put the best is that he Robbi

569
00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 1: follows it up with like, Tanya, I think you need

570
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:19,879
Speaker 1: to make over Becca.

571
00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:21,399
Speaker 4: You have a really good sense of style.

572
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:24,760
Speaker 2: Like He's like Becca's really got her style, Like she's

573
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:28,160
Speaker 2: like cool and like has her her look.

574
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:30,399
Speaker 4: Yeah. I was like thanks.

575
00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 3: It was awkward.

576
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,040
Speaker 2: I was like, it's just the three of us here,

577
00:24:33,280 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 2: so let's just uh keep this train moving.

578
00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:39,720
Speaker 4: Yeah, Oh what are you looking for?

579
00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:41,880
Speaker 2: I had something on my phone that I was gonna

580
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,000
Speaker 2: talk about. I couldn't remember, but I just remember something.

581
00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:48,280
Speaker 2: So that night, Robbie cooked like a full branzina fish

582
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:53,640
Speaker 2: and a steak, and I was like very inspired because

583
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:56,480
Speaker 2: it was so delicious. And you know, Haley has a

584
00:24:56,520 --> 00:25:00,200
Speaker 2: lot of food allergies, so I clearly eat and I'm

585
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 2: by myself, I eat whatever I want. But when she's home,

586
00:25:03,880 --> 00:25:06,360
Speaker 2: she's like likes to cook because going out to eat

587
00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:10,959
Speaker 2: is a whole thing because the allergies. And so I

588
00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 2: was like, you know what, I'm gonna try and cook

589
00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,720
Speaker 2: one of these branzinos for Haley. And Robbie is like,

590
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,720
Speaker 2: you can go to Italy, which is like a restaurant

591
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:24,200
Speaker 2: slash market and they have like it already prepared and everything,

592
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,239
Speaker 2: So I go, okay, I can do this.

593
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,480
Speaker 3: The hardest part is just going to the store.

594
00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:31,480
Speaker 2: So I go the store and I get the Branzina,

595
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,800
Speaker 2: I get a bottle of wine. I'm like getting fresh veggies.

596
00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 2: I'm just like, I'm feeling confident at this point.

597
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 4: Yeah.

598
00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:39,800
Speaker 2: And then they had these Lingo steams, which is like

599
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:42,480
Speaker 2: a glorified, huge shrimp looking thing.

600
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:43,280
Speaker 3: It's so scary.

601
00:25:43,320 --> 00:25:46,160
Speaker 1: I would never I think Robbie just we did lango

602
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:47,600
Speaker 1: scene for the first time last year.

603
00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:52,800
Speaker 2: Okay, So I was I saw them at the market,

604
00:25:52,800 --> 00:25:53,960
Speaker 2: You like, I have to have them.

605
00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:55,320
Speaker 3: Well, Haley loves them. I don't.

606
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:56,920
Speaker 2: I don't eat them, but when we go to certain

607
00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:58,760
Speaker 2: when we go to offer, she loves them.

608
00:25:58,840 --> 00:25:59,280
Speaker 4: Yeah.

609
00:25:59,320 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 2: So it's like, I'm gonna get some Lingo steams and

610
00:26:01,320 --> 00:26:03,600
Speaker 2: whip them up for So I asked the guy. I'm

611
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 2: like asking the guy, Okay, so how do I cook these?

612
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 2: And he goes, I just boil them. It's the easiest.

613
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:12,640
Speaker 2: And he was like, I boil them.

614
00:26:13,400 --> 00:26:13,720
Speaker 3: I thought.

615
00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:17,159
Speaker 2: He said thirty to forty minutes. I was thinking, dang,

616
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 2: that is a long time.

617
00:26:18,800 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 4: I feel like you don't boil anything for thirty to five.

618
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:22,600
Speaker 3: I was shocked.

619
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 2: I was just like, wow, that is an intense process

620
00:26:26,520 --> 00:26:29,919
Speaker 2: for the LNGO steam. So I go home and I'm like,

621
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:31,680
Speaker 2: all right, I'm gonna get things prepped.

622
00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:33,639
Speaker 3: And I get the.

623
00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:36,600
Speaker 2: First I text Robby and Tanya and I'm like, do

624
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:38,639
Speaker 2: I need to do anything with this fish? Just like

625
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,880
Speaker 2: a full dead fish laying on the thing, and I'm

626
00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,320
Speaker 2: like traumatized staring at it, and I'm like, do I

627
00:26:43,320 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 2: do anything with this or just.

628
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 3: Put in the oven? And Rob's like, no, like put

629
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,680
Speaker 3: oil on in seize it. And I'm like, so I'm

630
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:50,360
Speaker 3: having to.

631
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:52,520
Speaker 2: Touch the fish and I'm like rubbing oil on it,

632
00:26:52,520 --> 00:26:55,360
Speaker 2: and I'm like, oh my god, nightmare, nightmare. So I'm

633
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:58,160
Speaker 2: like I get the fish situated, like thank god.

634
00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 3: I texted them and then the guy and so oh.

635
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:03,800
Speaker 2: Also the guy said when he boiled the LINGO steams,

636
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,200
Speaker 2: he was like, as soon as they rise, that's when

637
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 2: you know they're done. So I set the timer for

638
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:13,240
Speaker 2: thirty minutes for the LNGO steams, and about like five

639
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,920
Speaker 2: minutes in they rise to the top and I'm like whoa,

640
00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:19,960
Speaker 2: whoao what? So I start googling frantically, like how long

641
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 2: do you boil LNGO steins? Every single one says three

642
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 2: to four minutes and I'm like, oh, okay, so I'm

643
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 2: texturing rob.

644
00:27:28,480 --> 00:27:31,520
Speaker 4: Very quick shrimp is like you can't end like they

645
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 4: cook very quick.

646
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:33,880
Speaker 2: Oh And I sent a photo of them in the

647
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,920
Speaker 2: boiling hot water and Robbie's like, did you like take

648
00:27:36,960 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: the guts out and like cut them?

649
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:41,040
Speaker 3: And I was like nope, sure didn't it.

650
00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:45,159
Speaker 2: So I'm just like, well, those are ruined, so I

651
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,400
Speaker 2: take them out as fast as I can. I'm like, hey, sorry,

652
00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 2: the LNGO steins might be overcod.

653
00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know anything about these things.

654
00:27:53,119 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 3: So anyways, it was chaotic.

655
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 2: It ended up being a delicious meal somehow, some by

656
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 2: some miracle, and I felt very I felt very capable.

657
00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:05,000
Speaker 5: Yeah.

658
00:28:05,080 --> 00:28:07,080
Speaker 2: I feel like Robbie really made me feel capable. He

659
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:08,239
Speaker 2: was really walking me through it.

660
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

661
00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:09,520
Speaker 4: So nice.

662
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:11,600
Speaker 3: So that was a that was a win.

663
00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 4: That was quite the journey of a night.

664
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 1: It was so funny because we were getting played by

665
00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 1: plays and our text thing and like back he was like,

666
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 1: did you google how long to put in the fish

667
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 1: to put in the oven? She's like no, I'm just

668
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 1: gonna wing it. I'm like, you can't just wing fish,

669
00:28:23,720 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: because like fish cooks are really quick and they're all

670
00:28:26,640 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 1: so different.

671
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:31,600
Speaker 3: On the oven, it was like twenty minutes. It was yeah,

672
00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 3: fish the fish.

673
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Speaker 4: Oh weird, salmon's like twelve.

674
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Speaker 5: The branzino being serving it with the head on, yeah,

675
00:28:39,040 --> 00:28:40,760
Speaker 5: is like so intimidating to me.

676
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 1: But it's like the thing right now, I feel like

677
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:46,320
Speaker 1: doing a whole fish is like I don't kidding.

678
00:28:46,600 --> 00:28:48,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, do you eat the head?

679
00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:48,680
Speaker 4: No?

680
00:28:48,680 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 3: No, no, I think some people I do think can't you?

681
00:28:53,160 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 3: I mean you can, I know because like eyeballs and

682
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:57,560
Speaker 3: stuff have like protein or something.

683
00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like people eat exclusively fish heads really well.

684
00:29:01,000 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 5: I mean.

685
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 2: But once we got on the table, Heley's like, do

686
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 2: you want me to remove like the spine and the

687
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 2: bones for you? And I was like, please, like a kid,

688
00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,840
Speaker 2: like cut up my fish for me because Daddy's not

689
00:29:12,880 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 2: here to do it.

690
00:29:15,720 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 3: Yeah.

691
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:28,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, no, Daddy was not there.

692
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 2: He was sure only over text he was there, and

693
00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:35,800
Speaker 2: that didn't do Daddy couldn't do much for me.

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00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 4: Yeah. Wow, well, proud of.

695
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Speaker 3: You, Thank you so much.

696
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Speaker 1: There is like I do love cooking at home. I

697
00:29:43,320 --> 00:29:46,560
Speaker 1: love I like preparing my food for myself for some reason.

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00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 2: Well, I mean there's some yeah, being able to provide

699
00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 2: a good food for yourself is like a great accomplishment.

700
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 1: When I I remember, like when I was single, I

701
00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 1: would always just like go to Whole Foods. I was

702
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,440
Speaker 1: like the queen of the salad bar. I would get

703
00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 1: like their tuna like some you know whatever. Like I

704
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: was the queen of just like meal buying so for one,

705
00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: Like I was always like, yeah, eating out for one.

706
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, I think that's I think that's normal because

707
00:30:20,600 --> 00:30:23,160
Speaker 2: I think a lot of times like portions are made

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Speaker 2: for two people at least.

709
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:27,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, like hello fresh, I tried to order.

710
00:30:27,840 --> 00:30:32,040
Speaker 2: I just wanted for me because again, Haley's allergies. It's like,

711
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:33,480
Speaker 2: I don't know if she can have a lot of

712
00:30:33,520 --> 00:30:36,080
Speaker 2: this stuff. And the only options for two people, I'm like,

713
00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:38,320
Speaker 2: what's your single right?

714
00:30:38,520 --> 00:30:40,160
Speaker 4: What about the single people in the world.

715
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 3: That's all I'm saying. I did like having leftover sometimes,

716
00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:43,920
Speaker 3: so I.

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Speaker 1: Do, like, yeah, yeah, we always do that. We always

718
00:30:46,640 --> 00:30:48,720
Speaker 1: cook more so that I can have leftovers the next day.

719
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 3: Y'all are just on it.

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Speaker 2: You get your situation locked, locked and loaded. And yeah,

721
00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:02,719
Speaker 2: did you see I sent you the video of Hillary

722
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:04,680
Speaker 2: Burton and Jeffreydine Morgan.

723
00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, and we really want to have them on the podcast.

724
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:08,480
Speaker 4: So if anybody knows Hillary.

725
00:31:08,160 --> 00:31:12,520
Speaker 2: Button, yeah, we really want Hillary Burton eastn.

726
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:14,560
Speaker 5: I'll send some texts.

727
00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:17,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, she knows Hillary Burton around here.

728
00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 3: I just love to you know.

729
00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:23,560
Speaker 2: I was like a loyal one Tree Hill Watcher until

730
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 2: like maybe the last two seasons, but I was like

731
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 2: obsessed with it from the beginning. And then Hillary was

732
00:31:29,440 --> 00:31:34,120
Speaker 2: on Gray's Anatomy. Remember she interfered with Arizona and Callie's relationship.

733
00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:37,479
Speaker 2: And then she is married to Denny Duquette Jeffredine Morgan.

734
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:39,000
Speaker 4: You know how I feel about him.

735
00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: And they're obsessed with each other, like the way they

736
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:43,840
Speaker 2: look at each other on the red carpet.

737
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:46,120
Speaker 3: Does she talk about him on their podcast all the time?

738
00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:48,479
Speaker 3: Is she just in love? Like, is she just like

739
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:50,600
Speaker 3: enamored by him or is she like and how many.

740
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Speaker 4: Kids did they have?

741
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 5: They have two?

742
00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:52,680
Speaker 4: Okay?

743
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 5: And every now and again he'll stop by and we

744
00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 5: do the Drama Queen's podcast with them and an iHeartRadio

745
00:31:58,200 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 5: podcast and some name still stop by and just like

746
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 5: wave into the camera. And it's so fun to see

747
00:32:02,360 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 5: him because he's a walking dead too, Like he's like, yeah, yeah,

748
00:32:04,920 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 5: he's he's cool as hell. She's I did not watch

749
00:32:07,960 --> 00:32:09,560
Speaker 5: One Tree Hill like I I've seen like half of

750
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,920
Speaker 5: an episode. But she is so funny and so her

751
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 5: stories are so great. She's just the best.

752
00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 1: She wasn't funny on the show, so you know what's crazy.

753
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 1: I was obsessed with One Tree Hill, like I was

754
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:21,640
Speaker 1: in that cult. Like I watched it. I've seen every

755
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: single episode. I couldn't tell you one plot line. Like

756
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:27,440
Speaker 1: it's almost like the show from the.

757
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,840
Speaker 3: Show really yeah, but from the beginning.

758
00:32:29,600 --> 00:32:30,320
Speaker 4: From none of it.

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00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 1: Like I remember Brooke Davis, I remember her name and

760
00:32:33,280 --> 00:32:36,640
Speaker 1: that she dated Chad Michael Murray's character, and yeah, but

761
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:38,800
Speaker 1: like I can't tell you, and I think, like, wow,

762
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 1: I know it's kind of art that time.

763
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 4: I don't know.

764
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,120
Speaker 1: But the same with Vampire Diaries. I was obsessed with

765
00:32:44,120 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: the Vampire Diaries. I watched every single episode of that show,

766
00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 1: and I could maybe, like I could tell you a

767
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,480
Speaker 1: little bit about like Nina.

768
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 4: Doe Brem's love triangle, and like that's pretty much it.

769
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 2: Remember when Haley Kyoko was on Vampire Diaries. Nope, she

770
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:56,240
Speaker 2: died in one episode.

771
00:32:56,280 --> 00:33:01,600
Speaker 4: Well that's kind of what happened.

772
00:32:57,440 --> 00:32:57,520
Speaker 2: So.

773
00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:03,920
Speaker 3: Goes. I just saw Haley's episode of Vampire Diaries Gone

774
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:04,440
Speaker 3: Too Soon.

775
00:33:05,960 --> 00:33:08,240
Speaker 1: It's like one episode, but I feel like it's kind

776
00:33:08,240 --> 00:33:10,480
Speaker 1: of concerning that I don't remember much.

777
00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:12,480
Speaker 5: I know what you mean, Like like I've seen Friday

778
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 5: Night Lights like two times, all the way through, and

779
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:15,720
Speaker 5: I love It's one of my favorite shows. But like

780
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 5: I realized, like, oh god, I don't really remember what

781
00:33:17,800 --> 00:33:19,600
Speaker 5: it's been like, you know, five years since I've watched

782
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:20,040
Speaker 5: it now.

783
00:33:19,960 --> 00:33:22,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, this has been like happened twenty years.

784
00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:25,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, that's been a long time.

785
00:33:25,120 --> 00:33:27,360
Speaker 4: Yeah it was a freshman. So maybe I revisit One

786
00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:27,840
Speaker 4: Tree Hill.

787
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:30,240
Speaker 5: You should, and you should follow along with the drama

788
00:33:30,280 --> 00:33:31,800
Speaker 5: Queen's podcast. It's a lot of fun.

789
00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:35,120
Speaker 1: You know what's interesting about these like refollow or follow along,

790
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:39,160
Speaker 1: these like companion podcasts, these rewatch podcasts. I don't like

791
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,760
Speaker 1: watching television on like a somebody else's schedule, do.

792
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:43,320
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

793
00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:46,040
Speaker 5: You can't tell me and watch when you can't tell me, I.

794
00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 4: Want to watch what episode I want to watch? I

795
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 4: want to watch it when I want to watch.

796
00:33:48,880 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 3: Is that what they do? Like they're like this week

797
00:33:50,520 --> 00:33:51,280
Speaker 3: we're watching.

798
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 4: Yeah, they go in order, and I don't like that.

799
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Speaker 2: You're a wild, wild girl, and you don't like to

800
00:33:57,120 --> 00:33:59,720
Speaker 2: be told what to do. Yeah, at the patriarchy.

801
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 4: Don't tell me I'm a modern woman, like Taylor says.

802
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:07,160
Speaker 3: She's a modern woman.

803
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:09,640
Speaker 4: She says, F the patriarchy and the ten minute version

804
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 4: of all.

805
00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:12,399
Speaker 3: Oh, I'm very familiar with that, Thank you so much.

806
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 5: Someone yelled that out during our weddings. You were there

807
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:19,440
Speaker 5: during one of My friend Matt was giving a speech

808
00:34:19,440 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 5: at our wedding and someone yelled out, F the patriarchy.

809
00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 5: This girl, it was someone you knew, someone we knew.

810
00:34:26,760 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 5: That was insane.

811
00:34:29,600 --> 00:34:31,319
Speaker 3: A wedding invite regret.

812
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:33,800
Speaker 5: Yes, not just wedding, a bridesmaid regrets.

813
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:35,480
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh.

814
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 5: Absolutely absolutely that case. But she yielded out. This is

815
00:34:39,160 --> 00:34:41,600
Speaker 5: long before the old two ten minute.

816
00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 4: Ahead of the time.

817
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 3: Actually Taylor heard that from her.

818
00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, she got the idea.

819
00:34:47,520 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 5: Someone posted It's like, hey, you know what, she has

820
00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:49,920
Speaker 5: a point.

821
00:34:52,560 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 3: That's devastating.

822
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:58,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, wedding regrets. You might pick your brain about that

823
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:02,120
Speaker 1: at some point, Please do just learn, you know, learn

824
00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:02,840
Speaker 1: from Yeah.

825
00:35:02,680 --> 00:35:04,839
Speaker 3: What what what could it hurt? What could it hurt?

826
00:35:04,960 --> 00:35:07,799
Speaker 4: I mean just knowledge is power, you know.

827
00:35:09,000 --> 00:35:30,959
Speaker 2: All Right, we'll be right back with emails. All right,

828
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 2: we are back. Easton is on the emails today, take

829
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:35,840
Speaker 2: it away.

830
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Speaker 5: Thank you so much. This first one is from Kirstan.

831
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Speaker 5: Kirsten one of the two, so this question is sort

832
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:47,279
Speaker 5: of more for Becca regarding same sex relationships. I'm twenty nine.

833
00:35:47,400 --> 00:35:49,960
Speaker 5: I just started dating women for the first time, and wow,

834
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,360
Speaker 5: why did I wait so long? Lol? But something I

835
00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:55,319
Speaker 5: feel like I never had to worry about before is

836
00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:58,960
Speaker 5: a partner and their friendships and being worried about potential hookups.

837
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:01,759
Speaker 5: For example, the I'm seeing drove three hours to see

838
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 5: a female friend for the weekend. She assured me it

839
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:06,160
Speaker 5: was just a friend, but it's hard to even think

840
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 5: about her, like sleeping in the same bed as a friend,

841
00:36:08,800 --> 00:36:13,239
Speaker 5: and my jealousy sets in. I have female friends who

842
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:14,759
Speaker 5: I do the same with, share beds if we're on

843
00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 5: a ship together, and would never try to get with them.

844
00:36:17,280 --> 00:36:19,359
Speaker 5: But how do you get over that insecurity? Like when

845
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 5: Becka went on that friendship a few months ago, I

846
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 5: ago I couldn't help, But wonder does Haley feel some

847
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 5: type of way? Or with Haley on tour, do you

848
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,680
Speaker 5: get jealous and how do you handle it? I know

849
00:36:28,760 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 5: this is probably more about deep rooted issues I have,

850
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:33,319
Speaker 5: but it's all new to me. Any advice, love you

851
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 5: go some much Day One.

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00:36:34,239 --> 00:36:38,920
Speaker 2: Listener, This is honestly, like, I think you're valid. I

853
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 2: don't think you're crazy for feeling this way because it's

854
00:36:43,239 --> 00:36:45,839
Speaker 2: all of it's very new, and you're probably feeling things

855
00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 2: that you've never felt before for the first time, so

856
00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:50,280
Speaker 2: you're having to navigate a lot of things at once

857
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:54,640
Speaker 2: that feel new and a little unfamiliar. I think it's

858
00:36:54,840 --> 00:36:58,799
Speaker 2: just reconciling that, like when I have to do this

859
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 2: all the time when I think about it, because it

860
00:37:02,560 --> 00:37:05,160
Speaker 2: is different. Like there are certain things where like if

861
00:37:05,200 --> 00:37:07,399
Speaker 2: Tanya's talking about something Robbie did, or I'm talking about

862
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:11,400
Speaker 2: something Haley did, I'm like, oh, like, regardless of the

863
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 2: gender of your partner, that's wrong or that's right, whatever

864
00:37:14,560 --> 00:37:16,680
Speaker 2: it is. But there are certain things when you're in

865
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:19,400
Speaker 2: a same sex relationship where you go, okay, that is

866
00:37:19,440 --> 00:37:24,279
Speaker 2: different because obviously Haley has friends that are women. I

867
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:26,879
Speaker 2: have friends that are women. I don't think of any

868
00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:28,759
Speaker 2: of my friends in that way. And I would like

869
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 2: Tanya and I would go on a trip and share

870
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,840
Speaker 2: a bed and not even think twice about it.

871
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:34,480
Speaker 3: I know Hailey wanted to think twice about it.

872
00:37:34,719 --> 00:37:37,239
Speaker 1: But it's interesting because like if I went on a

873
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:40,200
Speaker 1: trip with a guy and shared a bed with him

874
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:43,880
Speaker 1: that a friend that was a friend, I'd probably be like, oh,

875
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:45,319
Speaker 1: that's not cool with me.

876
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:48,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, But I think it's more just having conversations and

877
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:51,840
Speaker 2: being like open to being vulnerable enough to have the

878
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 2: conversation like, Hey, I'm navigating this for the first time,

879
00:37:55,560 --> 00:37:57,319
Speaker 2: and this is how I feel about it, Like, can

880
00:37:57,360 --> 00:37:59,959
Speaker 2: you give me some reassurance because I know that you're

881
00:38:01,120 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 2: allowed and obviously I want you to have friendships, but

882
00:38:05,360 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 2: I just want to feel safe in this relationship knowing

883
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:11,080
Speaker 2: that you drove three hours to see someone and what

884
00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 2: does that mean? Or you know, when you're all sharing

885
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 2: a bet, are there any feelings there? Have there been

886
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:18,160
Speaker 2: any feelings there? I also think it makes a difference

887
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:20,640
Speaker 2: if the friend that she's going to see is also

888
00:38:20,719 --> 00:38:21,280
Speaker 2: into women.

889
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 3: Oh interesting, that makes a difference to me.

890
00:38:24,560 --> 00:38:29,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, So like if Tanya liked girls and then we

891
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:31,719
Speaker 2: went on a trip, I think both maybe Robbie and

892
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:34,239
Speaker 2: Haley would be like I don't Maybe they won't think

893
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:35,439
Speaker 2: anything of it, but I think it would.

894
00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:37,480
Speaker 3: There'd be a little more question about it.

895
00:38:37,600 --> 00:38:41,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, And I don't think I don't think it's obviously.

896
00:38:41,120 --> 00:38:44,760
Speaker 2: I think you have to be be able to navigate

897
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:46,839
Speaker 2: this in a healthy way. But I don't think you're

898
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 2: I don't think you're invalid for having these feelings, is

899
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:52,719
Speaker 2: what I'm trying to say. But I think it's just

900
00:38:52,800 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 2: having a conversation and being open and upfront, being like, hey,

901
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:57,560
Speaker 2: I've never had to navigate this because if you were

902
00:38:57,600 --> 00:39:00,160
Speaker 2: a guy and you went to see your friend who

903
00:39:00,239 --> 00:39:02,319
Speaker 2: was a woman, and you were sleeping in the same bed,

904
00:39:03,280 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 2: that wouldn't be okay with me, right, you know it's

905
00:39:05,760 --> 00:39:07,520
Speaker 2: and that's the tricky part about it.

906
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 1: I was actually thinking about the last trip that we

907
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 1: went on, which was I think Jared and Ashley's wedding.

908
00:39:13,680 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, this is long, so so sad. But

909
00:39:16,640 --> 00:39:18,960
Speaker 1: we also did not share a bed. You were very

910
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: adamant about getting separate beds.

911
00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:23,640
Speaker 3: Well, not for the reason that I thought you were

912
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:24,560
Speaker 3: gonna come on to me.

913
00:39:26,560 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 1: I know that that's because, yeah, because I do like

914
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:31,120
Speaker 1: to I do like to touch if I'm in a

915
00:39:31,120 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 1: bed with She likes to.

916
00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:35,239
Speaker 2: Put her toe on people's legs, so I quickly had to.

917
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:38,240
Speaker 4: Use her distance from me, which I understand.

918
00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 2: The et toe it's like absolutely not touching me. Yeah,

919
00:39:42,520 --> 00:39:45,400
Speaker 2: but yeah, I think in same thing with Haley. Like

920
00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 2: I always tell Hailey if if I was like, Hey,

921
00:39:48,560 --> 00:39:52,160
Speaker 2: I'm going on this trip and my guy friend's there,

922
00:39:52,200 --> 00:39:55,520
Speaker 2: we're just gonna share a room, she'd be like no.

923
00:39:55,920 --> 00:39:57,800
Speaker 2: So it's like you just have to have some maybe

924
00:39:57,800 --> 00:40:00,840
Speaker 2: set some boundaries that you both feel comfortable with. You

925
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:04,399
Speaker 2: don't want her to feel controlled and you don't want

926
00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 2: to feel unsafe.

927
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,800
Speaker 1: So and every situation is different. So just being superly

928
00:40:08,200 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 1: overly communicative about things.

929
00:40:10,120 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like because if it was like this female, this

930
00:40:12,719 --> 00:40:16,480
Speaker 2: friend that she's going to see as a like the

931
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:20,880
Speaker 2: lesbian community in general, there's a lot of friendships with

932
00:40:21,000 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 2: exes or like people that you've hooked up with, you know,

933
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 2: or it's like in I feel like.

934
00:40:25,680 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 3: The hetero world, you don't really run it.

935
00:40:28,880 --> 00:40:32,040
Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, So I would just have a conversation like

936
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:33,640
Speaker 2: who is this person in her life?

937
00:40:33,760 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, and then I think you can move forward. But

938
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 3: good luck.

939
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:41,200
Speaker 2: It's there's some complications out there, but they're all such

940
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 2: such as life.

941
00:40:42,560 --> 00:40:47,040
Speaker 4: There's always something, always something, all right, all right.

942
00:40:47,560 --> 00:40:50,799
Speaker 5: Next one's from Anonymous. I skimmed this. There's a lot

943
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 5: of data points here, so let's keep this. Keep this straight.

944
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 5: I'm in a bit of a pickle. At my wedding,

945
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 5: my best friend and maid of honor slept with my

946
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:01,879
Speaker 5: brother in law, who was also the best man. Now,

947
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 5: typically this wouldn't be a huge deal, but my brother

948
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:06,719
Speaker 5: in law is married, and I'm also very close to

949
00:41:06,760 --> 00:41:09,279
Speaker 5: my sister in law. Clearly this has me in the

950
00:41:09,280 --> 00:41:12,080
Speaker 5: worst position. Do I stand by my best friend, who

951
00:41:12,120 --> 00:41:14,640
Speaker 5: has always been there for me despite that I'm incredibly

952
00:41:14,680 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 5: disappointed in her. I wish she didn't make my wedding

953
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,479
Speaker 5: all about herself in this drama. Or do I cut

954
00:41:19,520 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 5: ties and stand by my new family. Somehow, I feel

955
00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 5: the most amount of pressure because my in laws want

956
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:26,439
Speaker 5: me to not be friends with her anymore. But she's

957
00:41:26,480 --> 00:41:30,000
Speaker 5: my best friend, my Beckett, of my Tanya. I'm so torn.

958
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:33,960
Speaker 5: Help a confused scrubber out.

959
00:41:35,600 --> 00:41:37,680
Speaker 4: Look, what she did was horrible.

960
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:40,960
Speaker 1: That is absolutely horrible to sleep with a married man

961
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 1: when you know that they're married. So like, I'm not

962
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 1: making any excuses for your best friend. I think that's

963
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: horrible and a really shitty thing that she did. But

964
00:41:48,760 --> 00:41:50,920
Speaker 1: I do think that if this is the becket of

965
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:53,200
Speaker 1: your Tanya. If this is your best friend, you stick

966
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:55,000
Speaker 1: through your best friends even when the you know, we're

967
00:41:55,000 --> 00:41:59,080
Speaker 1: all imperfect and we all make mistakes, and you stick

968
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,320
Speaker 1: by your friend. You know, like you obviously you express

969
00:42:02,480 --> 00:42:05,640
Speaker 1: your feelings and that you don't stand for it, and

970
00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:07,600
Speaker 1: how disappointed you are. And I think it's okay to

971
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,319
Speaker 1: like have those conversations. But I don't think that you

972
00:42:11,520 --> 00:42:12,920
Speaker 1: did your best friend.

973
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:14,680
Speaker 3: I agree.

974
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:18,440
Speaker 2: I also think though, that I think your best friend

975
00:42:18,480 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 2: really needs to like take accountability. The fact that she

976
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 2: made this all about her on your wedding day and

977
00:42:24,719 --> 00:42:29,120
Speaker 2: did this has me questioning her character a little bit,

978
00:42:29,320 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 2: because if this is on brand for her, then I

979
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 2: think this is kind of a bigger thing of like,

980
00:42:35,080 --> 00:42:37,719
Speaker 2: who are the people you're surrounding yourself with type thing?

981
00:42:37,760 --> 00:42:40,560
Speaker 3: Because I know, I don't. I feel confident that you

982
00:42:40,600 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 3: would never do that.

983
00:42:41,640 --> 00:42:43,640
Speaker 4: You know, saying never that is correct, and I feel

984
00:42:43,640 --> 00:42:44,279
Speaker 4: the same about you.

985
00:42:44,520 --> 00:42:45,200
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.

986
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I do think that it's worth having a

987
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 2: conversation about the choices she makes and taking accountability for

988
00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 2: her choices because your new family is going to you

989
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,120
Speaker 2: don't want your new family to question your character of

990
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:00,000
Speaker 2: the people.

991
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 3: That are closest to you.

992
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:03,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think it's like having a conversation with

993
00:43:04,000 --> 00:43:07,800
Speaker 2: both parties and just this wasn't your fault.

994
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 3: You didn't do anything.

995
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 2: But I do think that it's definitely a pickle that

996
00:43:13,080 --> 00:43:14,960
Speaker 2: you're in, and I think that you can be a

997
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:17,120
Speaker 2: really good friend to your best friend. But also I

998
00:43:17,120 --> 00:43:19,719
Speaker 2: think being a good friend is holding her accountable, yeah

999
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 2: for sure, for her actions and having a conversation about

1000
00:43:22,719 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 2: what she did, and also probably that it hurt your

1001
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:28,800
Speaker 2: feelings that she did this on your really special day. Yeah,

1002
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:33,760
Speaker 2: it was a very selfish thing under end, But I agree,

1003
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 2: she's your best friend, she's a human. She made a

1004
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 2: horrible mistake, and I think that it's a conversation to

1005
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:45,280
Speaker 2: be had with her and then also with your husband about,

1006
00:43:45,680 --> 00:43:48,160
Speaker 2: you know, because it's his family too and he's feeling

1007
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 2: probably very protective over them.

1008
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:54,000
Speaker 1: I was kind of doing it under the assumption that

1009
00:43:54,080 --> 00:43:58,120
Speaker 1: your best friend was feeling very remorseful and sorry and apologetic.

1010
00:43:58,200 --> 00:43:59,719
Speaker 4: That's I guess we didn't really.

1011
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:01,359
Speaker 2: Well she that kind of made it seem like she's

1012
00:44:01,400 --> 00:44:03,520
Speaker 2: making it all about herself and this drama. So I

1013
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 2: don't feel like she's.

1014
00:44:05,080 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I do think that is important. If like

1015
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:09,719
Speaker 1: that she made a mistake and she's so sorry and

1016
00:44:09,760 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 1: taking accountability and like expressing that to you, it's like.

1017
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:15,120
Speaker 4: I feel like you should work through it, you should

1018
00:44:15,120 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 4: be there for her.

1019
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 1: But if she's kind of blase blase, doesn't feel like

1020
00:44:19,719 --> 00:44:21,600
Speaker 1: what she did was wrong, that's.

1021
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 3: Kind of like, oh, everyone needs to get over it.

1022
00:44:23,680 --> 00:44:24,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, then that's different.

1023
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:27,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, but good luck. I'm sorry you're in the situation.

1024
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 2: Congratulations on getting married, and wish you the best. Yes, Okay,

1025
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:37,200
Speaker 2: this Thursday, we have a guest episode.

1026
00:44:37,360 --> 00:44:43,279
Speaker 3: Yes, it's Tanya's hero. Some might say a hiro, yes,

1027
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:43,719
Speaker 3: thank you.

1028
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 2: We have Nadia O Kamodo coming in and she is

1029
00:44:50,280 --> 00:44:54,280
Speaker 2: here to talk all things period menstruating.

1030
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:58,040
Speaker 4: Yes, so if you and if you have a period,

1031
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:00,120
Speaker 4: you might enjoy.

1032
00:45:00,400 --> 00:45:03,319
Speaker 3: Here's the thing. It's an amazing episode.

1033
00:45:03,440 --> 00:45:07,000
Speaker 2: She is an incredible human being who is doing so much,

1034
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,280
Speaker 2: and she has done so much at such a young age.

1035
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:11,920
Speaker 3: So even if you're like, I don't need to.

1036
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:15,960
Speaker 2: Hear about periods, I'm telling you as someone who often

1037
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:22,000
Speaker 2: feels that way during those conversations, it is an amazing chat.

1038
00:45:22,120 --> 00:45:24,120
Speaker 5: I mean, some of the podcasts I listened to, Like

1039
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 5: if I see a guest and I don't recognize the name,

1040
00:45:25,960 --> 00:45:28,319
Speaker 5: and sometimes I'm like skeptic, like you want to listen

1041
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:29,560
Speaker 5: to this one, believe me, believe me.

1042
00:45:29,920 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 1: That's the thing I think, like when we're what we're

1043
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: trying to do with our guests is like we want

1044
00:45:34,040 --> 00:45:36,719
Speaker 1: to have guests on that we love and we're passionate about,

1045
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,520
Speaker 1: and people that we find really interesting. Maybe they're not

1046
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,080
Speaker 1: a name like you that you know, like Rumor Willis

1047
00:45:43,080 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 1: know Rebel Wilson. That's what I was thinking.

1048
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:46,719
Speaker 4: I was thinking of Rebel Wilson, and I said either or

1049
00:45:47,040 --> 00:45:49,279
Speaker 4: you know both of them, so.

1050
00:45:49,680 --> 00:45:51,120
Speaker 1: You know, they might not be names that you know,

1051
00:45:51,200 --> 00:45:54,440
Speaker 1: but these are all people that either Becca or I

1052
00:45:54,480 --> 00:45:57,479
Speaker 1: really are passionate about and are excited about.

1053
00:45:57,560 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 4: And so hopefully you guys get something from this too.

1054
00:46:00,239 --> 00:46:02,440
Speaker 5: Like I'm a non menstruating person and I was just

1055
00:46:02,560 --> 00:46:04,880
Speaker 5: gobsmack this entire intervice. Aw was on the ground, like

1056
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 5: this woman is incredible. This is just such an inspiring

1057
00:46:07,400 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 5: and interesting and fun interview.

1058
00:46:09,400 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's amazing.

1059
00:46:10,719 --> 00:46:14,200
Speaker 2: So we'll be back Thursday with Nadia, and we hope

1060
00:46:14,200 --> 00:46:16,799
Speaker 2: you have a great rest of the week and love.

1061
00:46:16,960 --> 00:46:18,479
Speaker 3: We love you so much, bab