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Speaker 1: This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with iHeartRadio.

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Speaker 2: It's the Almost Famous podcast and it's producer Heather jumping

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Speaker 2: in with the number three most shocking moment in Bachelor

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Speaker 2: Nation for twenty twenty five. This moment was a viral sensation,

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Speaker 2: It was all over the Internet and was a situation

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Speaker 2: about secrets and betrayal. The number three most shocking moment

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Speaker 2: this year was The Danish Deception. Anyika was on Colton

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Speaker 2: season of The Bachelor back in twenty nineteen and that's

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Speaker 2: where we first met her, But this year she went

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Speaker 2: viral in November twenty twenty five when she started to

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Speaker 2: share her story in what she titled The Danish Deception

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Speaker 2: on TikTok. It was very much in the same vein

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Speaker 2: as Resa Tisa's viral TikTok story Who the F Did

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Speaker 2: I Marry? That came out a year earlier. Through her

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Speaker 2: twenty five part saga Onnyeka details how she fell in

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Speaker 2: love with a Danish man while vacationing in Croatia. It

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Speaker 2: becomes kind of a whirlwind romance. Everything is very fast

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Speaker 2: and kind of early on, there are some signs that

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Speaker 2: maybe she should have looked into but this man tells

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Speaker 2: her he's from royal lineage, and she hears him tell

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Speaker 2: someone he's a former Olympic athlete in handball. Now, she

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Speaker 2: never really looks into any of these things and kind

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Speaker 2: of just takes them for face value. I think she

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Speaker 2: ends up regretting that, But yeah, I think most people

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Speaker 2: would do a quick Google search and kind of look

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Speaker 2: into those things, but alas she did not. There were

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Speaker 2: so many shocking twists in this story, but one early

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Speaker 2: on is a dinner date that they have on Yaika

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Speaker 2: ends up falling, hitting her head and having seizures. And

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Speaker 2: this is all within very early stages of them getting

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Speaker 2: to know each other. But it's in this scary moment

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Speaker 2: that he tells her he loves her for the first

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Speaker 2: time because she's already told him she loves him. And

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Speaker 2: this is probably a big moment for them as a

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Speaker 2: couple because she's really building trust. Even weirder, we're not

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Speaker 2: going to get into it, but like, why is she

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Speaker 2: having seizures? She's never had seizures before. This whole moment

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Speaker 2: in the story was very scary and crazy to listen

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Speaker 2: back to. But not long after this experience is when

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Speaker 2: money starts to come into this conversation. He starts saying

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Speaker 2: he needs money, but when she offers, he won't accept.

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Speaker 2: But eventually he gives into her loaning him six thousand

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Speaker 2: dollars and he says this will be the last time.

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Speaker 2: Spoiler it's not. Throughout the multi part TikTok series, Anyeka

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Speaker 2: shares that the asks for money become more and more

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Speaker 2: free went but to her they always seem legit. So

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Speaker 2: he claims to her that he owns apartment complex and

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Speaker 2: other places back in Denmark, and he'll say, like, something

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Speaker 2: broke at the apartment complex he owns, and he can't

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Speaker 2: fix it because his assets are tied up in something else.

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Speaker 2: And you know, Anyika has a background in real estate,

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Speaker 2: but obviously real estate laws are different dependent on the country,

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Speaker 2: so she takes a lot of what he says at

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Speaker 2: face value, and especially in these early stages of their relationships,

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Speaker 2: she doesn't push back and she doesn't look into these things.

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Speaker 2: So you know, she's just very trusting in what he's

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Speaker 2: saying because to her, they're in love. You know, why

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Speaker 2: they weren't just engaged to be married like she would

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Speaker 2: So that was pretty shocking because again her followers only

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Speaker 2: they hadn't even met him or anything. This man, his

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Speaker 2: the more americanized wedding. So that's the plan. But even

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Speaker 2: after they get married, the money requests don't stop, and

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Speaker 2: not long after they marry, the IRS calls Martin and

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Speaker 2: He also says that his dad owes like millions, which shocking. Again,

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Speaker 2: this is kind of where you would think some alarm

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Speaker 2: bells are going off right. Anyeka already is under the

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Speaker 2: loan him the money. It's all very fishy. But you know,

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Speaker 2: Every young woman dreams about getting married, and I'm sure

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Speaker 2: But I mean there's a lot of back and forth

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Speaker 2: taking and swindling money from her throughout their entire relationship,

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Speaker 2: she's extremely sad. Even retelling this. She feels an immense

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Speaker 2: And of course these friends and family will never get

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Speaker 2: divorce proceedings. Their divorce was finalized in November of twenty

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Speaker 2: TikTok series and in another shocking twist, since she has

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Speaker 2: shared her story and it's gone viral. She has found

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Speaker 2: story and I suggest if you have time this holiday season,

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