WEBVTT - Healing from the Inside Out—Breaking Free from the Need to Numb  (With Dr. Chip Dodd) (Outweigh)

0:00:00.400 --> 0:00:04.480
<v Speaker 1>I won't let my body out me outwait everything that

0:00:04.600 --> 0:00:07.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm made done, won't spend my life trying to change.

0:00:08.600 --> 0:00:12.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm learning love who I am, I get, I'm strong,

0:00:12.840 --> 0:00:15.800
<v Speaker 1>I feel free, I know everybody of me.

0:00:16.480 --> 0:00:17.760
<v Speaker 2>It's beautiful.

0:00:19.440 --> 0:00:24.400
<v Speaker 1>And then he'll always out way if you feel it,

0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:24.800
<v Speaker 1>but you.

0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:28.120
<v Speaker 2>She'll some love to the food by you have.

0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:32.800
<v Speaker 1>There, say good day and did you and die out?

0:00:35.200 --> 0:00:37.680
<v Speaker 3>Hey hey leanne here and I hope you enjoyed this

0:00:37.760 --> 0:00:40.959
<v Speaker 3>series with doctor Chip Dodd. Here on outweigh and if

0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:42.879
<v Speaker 3>you want to learn more about how I teach my

0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:45.160
<v Speaker 3>own clients to turn off the part of their brain

0:00:45.200 --> 0:00:48.800
<v Speaker 3>that's obsessed with food, obsessed with their weight, and rewire

0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:51.760
<v Speaker 3>their own brain for peace and freedom, then head on

0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:55.040
<v Speaker 3>over to Stressless eating dot com, where I've literally peeled

0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:58.120
<v Speaker 3>back the curtain and walked you through the exact strategy

0:00:58.200 --> 0:01:01.400
<v Speaker 3>I teach my clients to heal themselves from the all

0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:05.759
<v Speaker 3>or nothing diet mentality for good, but without restricting themselves,

0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:09.399
<v Speaker 3>punishing their bodies, and definitely without ever having to use

0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:13.240
<v Speaker 3>words like macros, low carb or calorie burn. It is

0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:15.880
<v Speaker 3>all over there for you to access over at stressless

0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:18.360
<v Speaker 3>seeding dot com.

0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:21.000
<v Speaker 4>Happy Saturday at Way, we are here back with doctor

0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:21.679
<v Speaker 4>Chip DoD.

0:01:21.880 --> 0:01:25.240
<v Speaker 5>Hello, Hey, how good see you again.

0:01:25.440 --> 0:01:26.920
<v Speaker 2>Yes, glad to have this momentum.

0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:29.240
<v Speaker 3>If you missed the first two weeks, definitely go back

0:01:29.280 --> 0:01:31.560
<v Speaker 3>and check it out. The first part of this series

0:01:31.600 --> 0:01:34.119
<v Speaker 3>we talked about what addiction really is, what it isn't

0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:37.039
<v Speaker 3>and then last week we talked about why we actually

0:01:37.160 --> 0:01:40.080
<v Speaker 3>numb and the real reasons that we avoid pain and

0:01:40.160 --> 0:01:40.880
<v Speaker 3>seek comfort.

0:01:41.000 --> 0:01:41.800
<v Speaker 2>And on both of.

0:01:41.720 --> 0:01:45.040
<v Speaker 4>These episodes we got obviously the emotional.

0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:46.360
<v Speaker 3>Heart side of it, because that's where we're learning, is

0:01:46.360 --> 0:01:48.840
<v Speaker 3>where it starts and it ends right and where there's

0:01:48.880 --> 0:01:51.720
<v Speaker 3>really no starter end but no ending, i should say.

0:01:51.920 --> 0:01:54.680
<v Speaker 3>But then we also got into the neuroside of it

0:01:54.800 --> 0:01:56.600
<v Speaker 3>and the logic and reason side of it, and to

0:01:56.640 --> 0:01:58.680
<v Speaker 3>help you meet your logic and reason brain with your

0:01:58.680 --> 0:02:01.680
<v Speaker 3>emotional spiritual side. So now that you have this new

0:02:01.720 --> 0:02:03.960
<v Speaker 3>awareness of what the problem is and what the problem isn't,

0:02:04.000 --> 0:02:05.440
<v Speaker 3>we're going to the next two episodes we're going to

0:02:05.440 --> 0:02:07.640
<v Speaker 3>talk about what does healing look like? So this week

0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:09.800
<v Speaker 3>we're going to talk about healing from the inside out

0:02:09.919 --> 0:02:13.440
<v Speaker 3>and learning to actually break free from the need to numb.

0:02:13.840 --> 0:02:15.960
<v Speaker 3>So we've talked about in the past couple of weeks,

0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:19.400
<v Speaker 3>why willpower alone doesn't work, and how breaking free from

0:02:19.400 --> 0:02:22.839
<v Speaker 3>that numbing starts with its true understanding where it's really

0:02:22.880 --> 0:02:24.920
<v Speaker 3>coming from. And we went into depth about where it

0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.120
<v Speaker 3>comes from, which is really the heart right and that

0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.000
<v Speaker 3>brain heart kind of dance that's going on right now,

0:02:30.400 --> 0:02:34.680
<v Speaker 3>and how you recognizing these unhealthy coping mechanisms and learning

0:02:34.720 --> 0:02:37.480
<v Speaker 3>to decode what is actually being told. And we talked

0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:41.320
<v Speaker 3>about the dopamine oxytocin connection and really just the need

0:02:41.360 --> 0:02:43.960
<v Speaker 3>to be needed but not giving ourselves permission to be

0:02:44.040 --> 0:02:46.920
<v Speaker 3>needed and to need and the self sufficiency that comes

0:02:46.919 --> 0:02:50.880
<v Speaker 3>alongside that. But then also it becomes an identity, and

0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:54.120
<v Speaker 3>we also feel shame about our shame and that all

0:02:54.160 --> 0:02:58.200
<v Speaker 3>the stuff that's happening within that paradigm. And so now

0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:01.400
<v Speaker 3>let's talk about how do we shift from avoidance to

0:03:01.680 --> 0:03:04.600
<v Speaker 3>awareness and then obviously the healing side of it without

0:03:04.800 --> 0:03:07.120
<v Speaker 3>like we talked about going back in our old the

0:03:07.160 --> 0:03:10.800
<v Speaker 3>skeletons are emotional graveyard, and we talked to a little

0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:13.480
<v Speaker 3>bit about how we yes, there's a bit of embracing

0:03:13.520 --> 0:03:17.119
<v Speaker 3>the discomfort and not relying on the short term gratification track,

0:03:17.160 --> 0:03:18.840
<v Speaker 3>which is easier said than done right.

0:03:19.320 --> 0:03:20.799
<v Speaker 2>So how do we start.

0:03:20.720 --> 0:03:25.160
<v Speaker 4>Moving into healing, moving from avoidance to awareness? Big loaded

0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:26.799
<v Speaker 4>question that is fantastic.

0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:28.800
<v Speaker 5>I want to back up just a little bit. I

0:03:28.840 --> 0:03:32.000
<v Speaker 5>love you said decode, and you also said shame about

0:03:32.000 --> 0:03:35.680
<v Speaker 5>our shame, and so it's amazing how far removed we

0:03:35.840 --> 0:03:40.000
<v Speaker 5>get from being able to identify our true selves. We

0:03:40.040 --> 0:03:42.520
<v Speaker 5>have shame about our shame, and then we say we

0:03:42.560 --> 0:03:45.000
<v Speaker 5>shouldn't have shame about our shame, which has a third

0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.640
<v Speaker 5>level of shame. By the way, I would love for

0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:50.720
<v Speaker 5>everybody to back the episode up and just listen to you,

0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:58.279
<v Speaker 5>because you are power packed with literally accurate expression of

0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:00.440
<v Speaker 5>how we're made and what we're made to do and

0:04:00.480 --> 0:04:03.280
<v Speaker 5>so on. So I just hope that people will continue

0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:06.320
<v Speaker 5>to come back to any episode you do. And he

0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.800
<v Speaker 5>says a genuine affirmation, not because I'm on your podcast,

0:04:10.480 --> 0:04:13.880
<v Speaker 5>but I mean that you're really bringing a wanting and

0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.560
<v Speaker 5>a desire for people to get what they need so

0:04:16.600 --> 0:04:18.320
<v Speaker 5>they could be set free to go live the lives

0:04:18.360 --> 0:04:21.520
<v Speaker 5>they're made to have. Because other people's lives get blessed

0:04:22.200 --> 0:04:25.599
<v Speaker 5>when we dare to take the journey into healing, because

0:04:25.800 --> 0:04:28.080
<v Speaker 5>we become a place that other people can find what

0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:32.359
<v Speaker 5>they're looking for. And man, look, other people out there

0:04:32.520 --> 0:04:37.360
<v Speaker 5>are alone because we're along with ourselves, and other people

0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.520
<v Speaker 5>out there are every bit just like us. No matter

0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:43.080
<v Speaker 5>how much they look a certain way and we internally

0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:46.200
<v Speaker 5>feel a certain way, they feel the same way. And

0:04:46.240 --> 0:04:48.680
<v Speaker 5>if we would just dare to say, hey, do you

0:04:49.240 --> 0:04:51.480
<v Speaker 5>somebody else is going to say, yeah, me too. Like

0:04:51.720 --> 0:04:54.720
<v Speaker 5>we refer to the woman last time and who went

0:04:54.760 --> 0:04:57.120
<v Speaker 5>to her meeting and she looked around the room, Will

0:04:57.200 --> 0:04:59.560
<v Speaker 5>me too? I didn't know that could be so close

0:04:59.640 --> 0:05:03.320
<v Speaker 5>so fast as the people I've never met before. Yes,

0:05:03.960 --> 0:05:05.960
<v Speaker 5>this episode, I want people, if they would, to go

0:05:06.000 --> 0:05:10.360
<v Speaker 5>to chipdawg dot com hit free resources and go ahead

0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:14.760
<v Speaker 5>and download. It's two little bitty expressions. One's called the

0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:19.279
<v Speaker 5>Amazing Gift of Feelings. I'm talking about like three fourths

0:05:19.320 --> 0:05:21.560
<v Speaker 5>of a page. Please, you can read that much even

0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:25.120
<v Speaker 5>in today's fast moving climate. And the second one is

0:05:25.160 --> 0:05:28.720
<v Speaker 5>the eight core Feelings and their purposes. Okay, because that

0:05:28.960 --> 0:05:33.800
<v Speaker 5>is the doorway into the rest of our lives with healing,

0:05:34.320 --> 0:05:36.880
<v Speaker 5>and we know that we our job is to come

0:05:36.920 --> 0:05:39.800
<v Speaker 5>back to living fully and then just simply live until

0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:43.159
<v Speaker 5>you die, but live fully until you die. Because everybody's

0:05:43.200 --> 0:05:45.960
<v Speaker 5>going to so there's no end to the journey. There's

0:05:46.000 --> 0:05:50.680
<v Speaker 5>a reawakening and then acquiring the skills of living so

0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:53.640
<v Speaker 5>that you end up riving to be somebody who can,

0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.000
<v Speaker 5>who is recognized that they're gifted, and there's a world

0:05:56.000 --> 0:05:58.920
<v Speaker 5>in need of our gifts versus just a shame. And

0:05:59.000 --> 0:06:01.520
<v Speaker 5>maybe someday, if I work hard enough, I'll be worth something.

0:06:01.839 --> 0:06:06.240
<v Speaker 5>You're already worth something, but you forgot you're already worth something,

0:06:06.320 --> 0:06:09.159
<v Speaker 5>but it was suppressed. You were already worth something, but

0:06:09.240 --> 0:06:11.800
<v Speaker 5>somebody told you you weren't, And whoever that was was

0:06:11.839 --> 0:06:15.120
<v Speaker 5>important enough for you to hide your heart and put

0:06:15.160 --> 0:06:18.320
<v Speaker 5>your willpower and thinking in front of it. And so

0:06:18.400 --> 0:06:22.719
<v Speaker 5>the willpower and the thinking took over. For how God

0:06:22.800 --> 0:06:25.320
<v Speaker 5>made a person to be to use their brains to

0:06:25.400 --> 0:06:29.160
<v Speaker 5>express their hearts rather than using their brains and willpower

0:06:29.240 --> 0:06:32.760
<v Speaker 5>to hide their hearts. Because once your heart is committed

0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:35.720
<v Speaker 5>to something, you will will follow, and once your heart

0:06:35.839 --> 0:06:39.200
<v Speaker 5>is committed to something, your mind will engage in attending

0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:42.479
<v Speaker 5>to it. But anyway, it all starts with the amazing

0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:45.279
<v Speaker 5>gift of feelings. So how do we heal? We have

0:06:45.400 --> 0:06:49.080
<v Speaker 5>to take a risk of facing that our feelings are passwords.

0:06:49.680 --> 0:06:53.960
<v Speaker 5>They help decode the mechanism, the push button thing to

0:06:54.080 --> 0:06:57.560
<v Speaker 5>let us inside ourselves. So feelings are passwords that let

0:06:57.600 --> 0:07:00.600
<v Speaker 5>you in yourself on your computer. If you know your passwords,

0:07:00.640 --> 0:07:02.760
<v Speaker 5>Think about the times I've lost my passwords and I

0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:08.400
<v Speaker 5>freak out so I can't get in to my whatever. Anyhow,

0:07:08.720 --> 0:07:10.920
<v Speaker 5>I wound up being so helpless that I want to

0:07:11.280 --> 0:07:15.800
<v Speaker 5>numb out, run away, escape, you know, jump off a building,

0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:18.920
<v Speaker 5>you know, just quit whatever it is I've had planned

0:07:18.920 --> 0:07:23.800
<v Speaker 5>to do. So feedings are passwords, and they are also lanterns.

0:07:24.280 --> 0:07:26.720
<v Speaker 5>So once you get in, they show you around, and

0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:30.600
<v Speaker 5>they're also keys. They don't they unlock rooms in a

0:07:30.680 --> 0:07:34.680
<v Speaker 5>mansion that we left behind and never learned how to

0:07:34.680 --> 0:07:37.040
<v Speaker 5>grow into. So I want you to know who our

0:07:37.080 --> 0:07:39.280
<v Speaker 5>true selves are, so much bigger than we even know.

0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:41.000
<v Speaker 2>It's an abandon.

0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:45.000
<v Speaker 5>Yes, it's an abandoned mansion and it is. And there's

0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:48.600
<v Speaker 5>one room that we locked a long time ago. It's

0:07:48.640 --> 0:07:51.680
<v Speaker 5>full of light French doors. In the back, there's a

0:07:51.760 --> 0:07:54.280
<v Speaker 5>there's a grand piano in there, even we don't we

0:07:54.840 --> 0:07:58.520
<v Speaker 5>don't even play. The first is covered with sheets. We

0:07:58.680 --> 0:08:01.080
<v Speaker 5>just take the sheets off. But what's amazing is the

0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:03.760
<v Speaker 5>one thing that's not uncovered. There's a vase of flowers

0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:07.280
<v Speaker 5>sitting on that grand piano with clear water, a clear

0:08:07.360 --> 0:08:10.080
<v Speaker 5>vase and fresh flowers picked that morning that still have due.

0:08:10.360 --> 0:08:14.120
<v Speaker 5>That means somebody's been coming into that room, waiting and

0:08:14.280 --> 0:08:17.720
<v Speaker 5>hoping on our return. In other words, there was a

0:08:17.760 --> 0:08:21.600
<v Speaker 5>home we left because on some level we foreclosed on

0:08:21.640 --> 0:08:25.280
<v Speaker 5>our hearts or orphered our hearts. So returning to the

0:08:25.320 --> 0:08:29.840
<v Speaker 5>feelings now upon the doorway of the human heart, there

0:08:29.840 --> 0:08:33.760
<v Speaker 5>are written eight words. I mean, I know it sounds

0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:39.280
<v Speaker 5>overly simplistic, but it isn't. There are eight feelings sad, hurt, lonely, shame, song.

0:08:39.520 --> 0:08:42.120
<v Speaker 5>You can look them up, but each one is a

0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:45.120
<v Speaker 5>tool that allows us to step into what are our

0:08:45.160 --> 0:08:47.680
<v Speaker 5>needs and what's through our desire? What are I long for?

0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:50.640
<v Speaker 5>What our hope? It's a return to how it remade,

0:08:50.760 --> 0:08:53.760
<v Speaker 5>which is what addiction and even our coping skills take

0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:56.280
<v Speaker 5>us away from. We try to cope in such a

0:08:56.280 --> 0:08:58.880
<v Speaker 5>way that we don't have to feel or become addicted

0:08:58.880 --> 0:09:02.080
<v Speaker 5>that don't even know what we fit right. So returning

0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:06.000
<v Speaker 5>starts to come with believe or not we learn four questions.

0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:13.920
<v Speaker 5>Here are the four questions. Once you kind of get

0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:16.800
<v Speaker 5>familiar with taking a risk of believing you do have

0:09:16.840 --> 0:09:20.200
<v Speaker 5>feelings and they're kind of eight of them, and at

0:09:20.200 --> 0:09:22.040
<v Speaker 5>first you may not know the eight. But here's how

0:09:22.080 --> 0:09:25.520
<v Speaker 5>you can find the eight. You can say, I don't

0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.640
<v Speaker 5>know what I feel, but what would another human being feel?

0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:31.960
<v Speaker 5>In other words, you can picture yourself being somebody else.

0:09:32.320 --> 0:09:35.480
<v Speaker 5>What would that person feel in this situation? Because we've

0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:38.679
<v Speaker 5>spent most of our lives externalizing, watching other people to

0:09:38.720 --> 0:09:39.480
<v Speaker 5>see what we need to.

0:09:39.400 --> 0:09:41.120
<v Speaker 4>Do, being emotionally available to other people.

0:09:41.360 --> 0:09:44.360
<v Speaker 5>Yes, so you could say, well, what would that person feel?

0:09:44.400 --> 0:09:46.440
<v Speaker 5>Then you can know for yourself. Or you could say

0:09:46.440 --> 0:09:50.640
<v Speaker 5>what would a child experience? And actually identifying yourself as

0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:53.640
<v Speaker 5>what having been one, so you can externalize it first.

0:09:53.679 --> 0:09:56.000
<v Speaker 5>Another way of doing it is describe what it's like.

0:09:56.480 --> 0:10:01.240
<v Speaker 5>You shape a metaphor around the feelings. Say now, what

0:10:01.480 --> 0:10:04.280
<v Speaker 5>is this picture telling me about feelings? What are the

0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.480
<v Speaker 5>feelings being described? So you get closer. You can also

0:10:07.679 --> 0:10:10.320
<v Speaker 5>believe or not. I think we've overdone the body in

0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:13.280
<v Speaker 5>some ways, but thank god we're actually paying attention to it.

0:10:13.600 --> 0:10:16.160
<v Speaker 5>Body keeps the score when the body says no, your

0:10:16.160 --> 0:10:18.880
<v Speaker 5>body will tell you an experience. But I want you

0:10:18.920 --> 0:10:22.160
<v Speaker 5>to know don't stop there. Your body's telling you an experience,

0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:25.400
<v Speaker 5>and what's your body telling you that it's trying to

0:10:25.440 --> 0:10:28.600
<v Speaker 5>tell you that you're feeling? Like, go to your eight feelings.

0:10:29.080 --> 0:10:31.800
<v Speaker 5>Now there are just eight feelings. Well, guess what, there

0:10:31.800 --> 0:10:35.280
<v Speaker 5>are only three primary colors, certain number of musical notes.

0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:39.520
<v Speaker 5>This is not like oversimplified. It's actually the elegance of

0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:43.280
<v Speaker 5>God giving us tools to create amazing creations.

0:10:43.520 --> 0:10:46.000
<v Speaker 3>Again, I'm really inviting people to check out your book

0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:47.880
<v Speaker 3>The Voice of the Heart, because you go through the

0:10:47.880 --> 0:10:49.920
<v Speaker 3>eight feelings specifically and how each one.

0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:52.680
<v Speaker 2>Has a gift, which of what we need for healing.

0:10:53.000 --> 0:10:55.360
<v Speaker 3>But then how also each one has its own impairment

0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:56.680
<v Speaker 3>and how you know, kind.

0:10:56.559 --> 0:10:58.920
<v Speaker 4>Of when it's like if they talk about clean pain.

0:10:58.760 --> 0:11:02.280
<v Speaker 3>And dirty pain, context you know, and a way to

0:11:02.600 --> 0:11:05.679
<v Speaker 3>navigate and kind of again decode your own feelings.

0:11:05.720 --> 0:11:07.400
<v Speaker 2>And so that's so so relevant to this.

0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:10.400
<v Speaker 5>I'm taking clean pain and dirty pain. I've never heard it.

0:11:10.440 --> 0:11:11.000
<v Speaker 5>I love it.

0:11:11.200 --> 0:11:13.120
<v Speaker 3>I heard it that I've heard it was like a

0:11:13.160 --> 0:11:18.920
<v Speaker 3>psychle an actual psychological term that psychologists us. So there

0:11:18.960 --> 0:11:22.920
<v Speaker 3>you go, we're masterminding right now. But I'll just share

0:11:23.000 --> 0:11:29.560
<v Speaker 3>from from your book. The eight feelings are hurt, lonely, sad, anger, fear, shame, guilt,

0:11:29.600 --> 0:11:33.360
<v Speaker 3>and glad and I'll blink it. In the show notes,

0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:35.080
<v Speaker 3>we talked about this in depth and we talked about

0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:36.760
<v Speaker 3>when you're on what's God got to do with it?

0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:38.400
<v Speaker 2>But definitely check that out because it.

0:11:38.360 --> 0:11:40.520
<v Speaker 3>Really becomes this navigation system like if you're lost in

0:11:40.559 --> 0:11:42.480
<v Speaker 3>the desert, wouldn't it be great to have Google Maps?

0:11:42.559 --> 0:11:42.760
<v Speaker 5>You know?

0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:45.600
<v Speaker 3>So this is that for the heart. In terms of

0:11:45.640 --> 0:11:48.520
<v Speaker 3>this conversation of healing and what true healing looks like.

0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:50.880
<v Speaker 3>You know, we talked about we have to acknowledge our

0:11:50.920 --> 0:11:54.880
<v Speaker 3>needs and our emotions and boundaries right to break the cycle.

0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:57.200
<v Speaker 4>So before we end, if you were to just nutshell,

0:11:57.640 --> 0:11:59.120
<v Speaker 4>what does that process.

0:11:58.720 --> 0:11:59.560
<v Speaker 6>Look like this?

0:12:00.080 --> 0:12:02.000
<v Speaker 5>It looks like this is there are four questions we

0:12:02.080 --> 0:12:05.440
<v Speaker 5>need to answer to really reunite with ourselves. This is

0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:10.120
<v Speaker 5>just reuniting with ourselves. Where am I? Which is kind

0:12:10.120 --> 0:12:13.000
<v Speaker 5>of like what am I feeling? It's amazing? That's God's

0:12:13.000 --> 0:12:16.800
<v Speaker 5>first questions, where are you? To humanity? And the answer

0:12:16.840 --> 0:12:20.040
<v Speaker 5>that God was looking for was emotional and that's where

0:12:20.080 --> 0:12:22.600
<v Speaker 5>the human beings said, I was afraid and this is

0:12:22.600 --> 0:12:25.240
<v Speaker 5>what I did with it. So where am I, which

0:12:25.280 --> 0:12:28.720
<v Speaker 5>is what am I feeling, what am I doing with it?

0:12:28.960 --> 0:12:31.280
<v Speaker 5>What am I doing with where I am? Which is

0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:35.840
<v Speaker 5>taking ownership, which is using your mind to address your motives.

0:12:36.840 --> 0:12:40.840
<v Speaker 5>And then number three is what happened or what's happening?

0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:46.320
<v Speaker 5>What's the story not the rationalization, but what's the story

0:12:46.360 --> 0:12:48.520
<v Speaker 5>of how I wound up where I'm sitting right now

0:12:48.600 --> 0:12:52.360
<v Speaker 5>or standing? And then the fourth question is what's this like?

0:12:53.120 --> 0:12:56.360
<v Speaker 5>And then there's a fifth thing. Finally, First, you find

0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:58.680
<v Speaker 5>yourself as much as you can with the help of others.

0:12:59.040 --> 0:13:01.840
<v Speaker 6>But then who do I tell? Because remember you're created

0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:05.520
<v Speaker 6>for relationship. You're created to find fulfillment through connection to yourselves,

0:13:05.840 --> 0:13:08.960
<v Speaker 6>others in God. So you got to kind of be

0:13:09.000 --> 0:13:11.960
<v Speaker 6>able to start finding that self to speak. So the

0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:14.839
<v Speaker 6>five things, there are four questions, and then the final one,

0:13:14.880 --> 0:13:17.520
<v Speaker 6>the fifth one is who do I tell?

0:13:18.240 --> 0:13:20.559
<v Speaker 5>I mean who will care who? And we find out

0:13:20.559 --> 0:13:23.400
<v Speaker 5>a lot of times we have restricted our lives to

0:13:23.440 --> 0:13:26.760
<v Speaker 5>no one first, and I remember that for myself. I

0:13:26.760 --> 0:13:30.240
<v Speaker 5>picked up a phone one day, it was nineteen eighty something,

0:13:30.880 --> 0:13:34.360
<v Speaker 5>and I've got to call somebody because I am so lonely.

0:13:34.720 --> 0:13:37.160
<v Speaker 5>I found the lonely and I picked up the phone,

0:13:37.200 --> 0:13:39.960
<v Speaker 5>and I ended up looking at the receiver. There was

0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:42.280
<v Speaker 5>no one. Now I could call people to see how

0:13:42.320 --> 0:13:45.120
<v Speaker 5>they were doing, right, totally, how you doing? Just call

0:13:45.160 --> 0:13:47.760
<v Speaker 5>to see how you're doing, to get somebody to care

0:13:47.760 --> 0:13:49.560
<v Speaker 5>about me. But I need to carry about them, right,

0:13:50.120 --> 0:13:51.920
<v Speaker 5>But no one to call to say I'm in need.

0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:55.040
<v Speaker 5>And there are a lot of people out there who

0:13:55.120 --> 0:13:57.520
<v Speaker 5>were really needing to hear somebody say I get it,

0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:01.679
<v Speaker 5>you know, like you know, sorry, that's where it starts

0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:04.240
<v Speaker 5>flu do I tell Yeah, And it's okay. If you

0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:05.000
<v Speaker 5>find no one.

0:14:05.000 --> 0:14:07.600
<v Speaker 3>Fresh, that's okay, it's not bad. It's part of again,

0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:09.160
<v Speaker 3>it's part of what. That's the way, it's just a

0:14:09.200 --> 0:14:12.079
<v Speaker 3>product exactly. It's an awareness of like, okay, maybe this

0:14:12.120 --> 0:14:14.480
<v Speaker 3>is something to look into, you know. So and yeah,

0:14:14.520 --> 0:14:16.680
<v Speaker 3>we talked a lot about that on episode one of

0:14:16.679 --> 0:14:19.680
<v Speaker 3>this series of really you know, finding that the need

0:14:19.720 --> 0:14:22.680
<v Speaker 3>to be needed, but also knowing that it's it's human

0:14:22.720 --> 0:14:25.320
<v Speaker 3>of you and that's something that needs to be addressed

0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:26.000
<v Speaker 3>because it's not.

0:14:25.920 --> 0:14:28.800
<v Speaker 4>Going to go away and to require not asire And you.

0:14:28.760 --> 0:14:31.680
<v Speaker 5>Know, it's so good to leanne because you know, we

0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:33.640
<v Speaker 5>we have to face that we can't give what we

0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:36.320
<v Speaker 5>don't have. And if I'm not good at knowing what

0:14:36.360 --> 0:14:39.440
<v Speaker 5>feedings are. Also, if I'm not good at needing, can

0:14:39.520 --> 0:14:42.520
<v Speaker 5>I really step into the needs of another? Really, I

0:14:42.560 --> 0:14:44.480
<v Speaker 5>can't give what I don't have if I if I

0:14:44.520 --> 0:14:47.120
<v Speaker 5>don't know what it is to be in need, then

0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.640
<v Speaker 5>on some level I might meet your needs. But I'm

0:14:49.640 --> 0:14:52.200
<v Speaker 5>doing it for me, not as a way relating to you,

0:14:52.320 --> 0:14:53.200
<v Speaker 5>but really relating.

0:14:53.240 --> 0:14:57.520
<v Speaker 2>You know, absolutely, soh so good recovery. Yeah, it's amazing.

0:14:57.560 --> 0:14:59.240
<v Speaker 2>It's amazing. And definitely go.

0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.960
<v Speaker 3>Over to chip DoD dot com and find out all

0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:04.400
<v Speaker 3>of the resources. If you click on free resources over there,

0:15:04.440 --> 0:15:07.240
<v Speaker 3>you'll get the amazing gift of feelings in those eight

0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.800
<v Speaker 3>core feelings and their purposes when you go over to

0:15:09.840 --> 0:15:13.040
<v Speaker 3>that page and definitely check out his Living with Heart podcasts.

0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:15.960
<v Speaker 4>He gets to be all of who he is and teach.

0:15:16.960 --> 0:15:18.720
<v Speaker 3>What I would say is really, you know you you

0:15:19.440 --> 0:15:21.880
<v Speaker 3>beautifully take the voice of the heart, but you back

0:15:21.920 --> 0:15:23.280
<v Speaker 3>it up with science, and then you back it up

0:15:23.320 --> 0:15:25.240
<v Speaker 3>with stories and experiences and you share your.

0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:28.240
<v Speaker 4>Own and those of you know, decades of working in

0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:29.000
<v Speaker 4>the recovery world.

0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.920
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that's the beauty. And that's another thing, Leanne. You

0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:35.320
<v Speaker 5>will you will have a longevity in terms of the

0:15:35.360 --> 0:15:38.600
<v Speaker 5>passions of your heart. Almost certainly for as long as

0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:42.240
<v Speaker 5>you're here, Okay, and see, I want your audience to

0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:47.480
<v Speaker 5>hear I'm thirty eight years in the field of recovery,

0:15:47.600 --> 0:15:52.400
<v Speaker 5>redemption and struggle, right and I'm not burned out and

0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:54.600
<v Speaker 5>I'm not worn out. So I want you to know

0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:58.120
<v Speaker 5>that is the power of awakening to feelings and the

0:15:58.160 --> 0:16:01.560
<v Speaker 5>passion that comes out of I don't like honestly, look

0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:04.040
<v Speaker 5>at anger chapter and the voice of the heart. Anger

0:16:04.080 --> 0:16:07.040
<v Speaker 5>is essential And I was wanting something, desiring something, longing

0:16:07.080 --> 0:16:10.720
<v Speaker 5>for something. Once you have that, you'll get tired. But

0:16:10.800 --> 0:16:13.560
<v Speaker 5>you your candle doesn't go out, right.

0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:16.960
<v Speaker 2>Wow, thank you for sharing that. Yeah, I needed to

0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:17.200
<v Speaker 2>hear that.

0:16:17.280 --> 0:16:19.920
<v Speaker 4>I know everyone out there that's candle's gone out needed.

0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:20.000
<v Speaker 2>To hear that.

0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:21.800
<v Speaker 5>Absolutely, it'll reignite.

0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.760
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely love it. Well, thank you so much for being here.

0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:26.680
<v Speaker 3>We will be back next week for our fourth and

0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:29.480
<v Speaker 3>final part of the series, talking about the courage to

0:16:29.520 --> 0:16:32.360
<v Speaker 3>feel and transforming your relationship with emotions.

0:16:32.360 --> 0:16:33.320
<v Speaker 2>So we kind.

0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:34.960
<v Speaker 3>Of unpeeled this onion a little bit and we are

0:16:35.000 --> 0:16:36.440
<v Speaker 3>going to get to the core of that center of

0:16:36.440 --> 0:16:37.600
<v Speaker 3>that onion next week.

0:16:37.640 --> 0:16:39.880
<v Speaker 2>So thanks for being here and we'll see you next week.

0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:48.960
<v Speaker 5>Bye, thank you,