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Speaker 1: This is The Eds with Eddie Judge and Edwin Ado Jave,

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Speaker 1: the husbands know Best two Teas production. Hey guys, welcome

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Speaker 1: to The Ed's podcast. My name is Eddie Judge and

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Speaker 1: I'm Edwin ari Jave.

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Speaker 2: If you're listening to this podcast, you probably know we

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Speaker 2: are the better halves of Teddy and Tamera, but not

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Speaker 2: a lot of people know much about us other than

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Speaker 2: what they've seen on TV. So let's get into it.

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Speaker 2: We're going to start today with getting to know each other.

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Speaker 1: Sound good? Yeah, no, it sounds great. I'm excited to

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Speaker 1: get this thing started finally. Awesome. Awesome.

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Speaker 2: Well, let's start with a few questions. I want to

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Speaker 2: know a little bit more about you, Edwin. Where did

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Speaker 2: you grow up? So?

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Speaker 1: I was born in Bota, Colombia. My parents and I

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Speaker 1: came to the US when I was six years old

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Speaker 1: in search of that American dream. However, that American dream

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Speaker 1: quickly became an American nightmare because, due to some unfortunate circumstances,

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Speaker 1: my family lost everything we had, so much so that

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Speaker 1: at the age of fifteen years old, I had to

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Speaker 1: become the head of household. And at the time, I

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Speaker 1: was lucky enough to get a job working at a

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Speaker 1: of job for me because I was very shy and

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Speaker 1: I was very timid, But I quickly got the courage

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Speaker 1: to do this job I did not want to do,

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Speaker 1: just out of my desperation to help my family out.

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Speaker 1: At this point, I was just tired of seeing my

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Speaker 1: the end of the month. I was tired of us

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Speaker 1: because we lived on food stamps. I was tired of

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Speaker 1: my siblings, mother, and I living in this tiny little

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Speaker 1: bedroom without any windows. And finally, I was just tired

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Speaker 1: of like roaches waking me up in the middle of

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Speaker 1: caused me to take on something that really demanded more

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Speaker 1: and I would visualize how one day I was going

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Speaker 1: make the impossible possible. Was sure enough, I became the

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Speaker 1: And he says to me, I can't guarantee you the

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Speaker 1: you make this work, you can possibly be double, triple,

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Speaker 1: I did. I used common sense. I said, this guy's

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Speaker 1: that's untapped. Second thing I thought was, man, if this

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Speaker 1: from the ground up, I'm like, this is exactly what

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Speaker 1: But anyways, that's how it started. And so when I

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Speaker 1: because how are you going to leave this job that

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Speaker 1: for this unknown But my dream was bigger than any

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Speaker 1: promised my dad at ten years old that when he

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Speaker 1: any excuse that I could give myself on why it

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Speaker 1: You know, the company's made over six hundred million, and

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Speaker 2: That's amazing, That's really incredible.

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Speaker 1: One. I want to go back a little bit too.

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Speaker 2: When we started about your story where you were with

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Speaker 2: Because having a dream is one thing, but you know,

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Speaker 2: there is really the key, right. And you don't need

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: So you answered that question by telling me that this

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Speaker 2: you want to make a million dollars, let's go open

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Speaker 2: up this business. My question to you is how did

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Speaker 2: I mean before you started making the seventy thousand or

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Speaker 2: Were you inspiring your family? Were you driven by trying

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Speaker 1: Yeah? So I was a great question. Yeah I was

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Speaker 1: driven because at ten years old. So what happens when

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Speaker 1: And I promise you I'll always praise your name on

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Speaker 1: to start tomorrow at three pm. And I started it

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Speaker 2: she's only a couple of years older than me. But

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00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:08,960
Speaker 2: the struggle was, I think what led me to push

436
00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:11,640
Speaker 2: myself to always work my ass off, and it got

437
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:13,880
Speaker 2: to the point where, you know, I think it took

438
00:22:13,960 --> 00:22:17,920
Speaker 2: us about thirteen years to build this practice up, and

439
00:22:19,440 --> 00:22:21,600
Speaker 2: it gave me the confidence that I could do anything,

440
00:22:21,920 --> 00:22:22,960
Speaker 2: anything I want to do.

441
00:22:23,960 --> 00:22:25,640
Speaker 1: And then that's probably when I.

442
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:29,000
Speaker 2: Met my wife, you know, it was it was a

443
00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 2: life changing moment for me because she's here, she is

444
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,840
Speaker 2: on this national television show, and she's telling me she

445
00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,200
Speaker 2: wants to open up a business. She doesn't know what yet.

446
00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:43,040
Speaker 2: It's either a fitness business or a bar. And I'm like, well,

447
00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 2: I don't know anything about alcohol and being a health

448
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:48,560
Speaker 2: not all my life. I don't really want to, so

449
00:22:48,680 --> 00:22:51,320
Speaker 2: let's go with the gym, even though I know it's crowded,

450
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:55,199
Speaker 2: crowded space. I did do personal training, I think in

451
00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:59,240
Speaker 2: my early eighteen nineteen years old, and again I learned

452
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,320
Speaker 2: real fast, this is not going to pay the bills.

453
00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:03,560
Speaker 2: This is a great business. I love helping people, but

454
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,440
Speaker 2: it's not going to pay the bills. So yeah, I mean,

455
00:23:06,520 --> 00:23:10,600
Speaker 2: it's it's for me. It was it was being hungry

456
00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:15,080
Speaker 2: and wanting the best for myself or my life because

457
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:19,439
Speaker 2: I really didn't have a father that was there for me.

458
00:23:19,600 --> 00:23:21,760
Speaker 2: I had an adopted father that I you know, took

459
00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:23,960
Speaker 2: me under his wing and taught me what I needed

460
00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:26,640
Speaker 2: to learn, which was to work hard. If you want

461
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 2: the finer things in life, you got to work hard.

462
00:23:29,160 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 2: And nine to five is not enough. That's not working hard.

463
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:38,400
Speaker 2: And and I think that was what my prayers, how

464
00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,440
Speaker 2: my prayers were answered. I was just thinking, how am

465
00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:42,960
Speaker 2: I going to do this? I can't get a job.

466
00:23:43,040 --> 00:23:47,199
Speaker 2: I can't nobody's going to hire me. I have no skills,

467
00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:49,919
Speaker 2: and you know what am I going to do? And

468
00:23:50,520 --> 00:23:53,280
Speaker 2: it took meeting the right people in my life path

469
00:23:53,400 --> 00:23:58,639
Speaker 2: to get the answers and see the path right and

470
00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:02,800
Speaker 2: getting there. But that's that's I think that's the biggest

471
00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,359
Speaker 2: lesson I learned in my life and businesses. You can

472
00:24:05,480 --> 00:24:08,760
Speaker 2: have all the energy and desires and dreams and visions

473
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:12,160
Speaker 2: you want, but if you don't know what route to take,

474
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:14,240
Speaker 2: it's going to be a tough route. It's going to

475
00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 2: be a really tough route. But when you meet the

476
00:24:16,119 --> 00:24:20,600
Speaker 2: right person that sees your vision, whether it's one person

477
00:24:20,680 --> 00:24:25,200
Speaker 2: or many, you become very powerful, very very powerful.

478
00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,840
Speaker 1: So yeah, well there's there's someone you said there that

479
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:33,240
Speaker 1: I relate to, you know, I think you know what

480
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:36,200
Speaker 1: I've realized is what gets people to sort of move

481
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:38,919
Speaker 1: and finally take action towards what they really want to

482
00:24:38,960 --> 00:24:42,879
Speaker 1: do is number one, the avoidance of pain, right where

483
00:24:43,440 --> 00:24:45,920
Speaker 1: something's just hurting you so bad that you just you're

484
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: not tolerating it anymore, or like the pleasure of where

485
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:53,640
Speaker 1: you're going. So for me, it's always been both, right,

486
00:24:53,840 --> 00:24:56,439
Speaker 1: the avoidance of pain, Like I was just tired of

487
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:58,160
Speaker 1: roaches waking me up in the middle of the night.

488
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:00,879
Speaker 1: I was tired of us sleeping in that bedroom.

489
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:01,120
Speaker 2: Right.

490
00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 1: But the other thing I did, which sounds like you

491
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:07,199
Speaker 1: did as well, was knowing the pleasure of where I

492
00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,200
Speaker 1: was going. And I called that like touching the dream

493
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:12,200
Speaker 1: before you have what you need.

494
00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 2: Right.

495
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,480
Speaker 1: You know, you mentioned that you got a little taste

496
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 1: of kind that good life, and it's what sort of

497
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:21,680
Speaker 1: made you think, Okay, well I need to go back

498
00:25:21,720 --> 00:25:25,280
Speaker 1: there because it's a lot different from them from where

499
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:27,639
Speaker 1: I came from. So, and then the other question I

500
00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:30,560
Speaker 1: had for you, can you still cry on camera? No?

501
00:25:30,840 --> 00:25:33,199
Speaker 2: I never was able to. That was the problem. So

502
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 2: I needn't become an actor because I couldn't cry my camera.

503
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:39,879
Speaker 2: The instructor was like, yeah, you're not going to make it.

504
00:25:40,320 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 1: You got to that point.

505
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 2: It was the hardest thing. I mean, what I could

506
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 2: do ed when was singing dance. That was my fun.

507
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 2: I could do that all day long because that was

508
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:53,200
Speaker 2: In fact, I do remember distinctively getting the bug after

509
00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 2: a show and people there's nothing more exhilarating so far

510
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 2: in my life than getting this any evasion from an

511
00:26:02,000 --> 00:26:05,560
Speaker 2: audience after you just perform your ass off. You know,

512
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 2: maybe speaking public speaking would be the same, but it's

513
00:26:09,240 --> 00:26:11,760
Speaker 2: such a rush. It is an incredible feeling. You feel

514
00:26:11,800 --> 00:26:14,680
Speaker 2: so successful and you feel so admired, and it's.

515
00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:17,879
Speaker 1: A great feeling. It really is. So speaking of that,

516
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:22,320
Speaker 1: it's so funny. So at seventeen years old, I was

517
00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:27,119
Speaker 1: a background dancer for a drag queen and we were

518
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 1: called the Pretty Boys, and we would basically go to

519
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:36,400
Speaker 1: all these nightclubs in Hollywood and we would perform at

520
00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:39,920
Speaker 1: twenty one and over clubs, and we're probably the worst

521
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:44,080
Speaker 1: background dancers ever, but it was Yeah, like you said,

522
00:26:44,160 --> 00:26:46,320
Speaker 1: you're on stage, you kind of get that feeling. You're

523
00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:49,159
Speaker 1: like wow, and then you know, at that point, like

524
00:26:50,280 --> 00:26:53,680
Speaker 1: chasing women was like my thing, you know, so it

525
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 1: was like, Yes, I want to do this. Whatever is

526
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 1: going to get me close to women, I want to

527
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:03,920
Speaker 1: do it. That's awesome. That's awesome.

528
00:27:05,800 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 2: So how do you think your culture has helped you

529
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,120
Speaker 2: and your success? I mean you touched them a little

530
00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,719
Speaker 2: bit about if if you were you had money at

531
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,639
Speaker 2: one point and you lost it and you made it and.

532
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:17,160
Speaker 1: You lost it.

533
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:22,679
Speaker 2: How has your culture really helped you, you know, drive

534
00:27:22,880 --> 00:27:24,439
Speaker 2: in this world in America?

535
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,879
Speaker 1: Basically yeah, I think, yeah, No, I think for me,

536
00:27:28,080 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 1: even though like it was rough growing up, the one

537
00:27:31,960 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 1: thing that my mom did that was great for me

538
00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:36,359
Speaker 1: is she always gave me a lot of love. My

539
00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:40,360
Speaker 1: dad gave me a lot of love. So and they

540
00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:45,399
Speaker 1: put me in sports, and you know, that taught me

541
00:27:45,440 --> 00:27:48,639
Speaker 1: how to compete. That kept me distracted from all the

542
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 1: bad things that probably could have gotten into living where

543
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:56,040
Speaker 1: I grew up. But you know, showing me that love,

544
00:27:56,119 --> 00:27:59,439
Speaker 1: I think really and showing the you know, one of

545
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 1: my da would always tell me like, hey, you got

546
00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:03,640
Speaker 1: to take care of your mom, Like, no matter what,

547
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,080
Speaker 1: you got one mom, You're going to take care of

548
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 1: her and no excuses. And at a very young age,

549
00:28:10,720 --> 00:28:13,560
Speaker 1: I just got the culture was like you take care

550
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:18,399
Speaker 1: of your family first. And I've always been very close

551
00:28:18,520 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 1: with my family. You know, my siblings are kind of

552
00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 1: like my kids. I've been taking care of them since

553
00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 1: I was fifteen, and I've been taking care of mom

554
00:28:25,840 --> 00:28:29,399
Speaker 1: and dads for a while. But it's what drives me today.

555
00:28:29,440 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: You know, I think, you know, if you live for yourself.

556
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,680
Speaker 1: You can settle for less, but if you live for others,

557
00:28:33,720 --> 00:28:35,879
Speaker 1: it requires all of who you are. And you know,

558
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:38,640
Speaker 1: I think if you're just living for yourself, eventually it

559
00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: gets old. But when you got people depending on you,

560
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 1: it's it's that nice little push that that you need.

561
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 1: But yeah, no, and obviously the food's great.

562
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 2: So you know, I have the exact same answer because

563
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,640
Speaker 2: my family didn't have any money of a stuff obviously

564
00:28:58,640 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 2: growing up, and they also put me in sports.

565
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: I had Pop Warner football.

566
00:29:03,040 --> 00:29:06,720
Speaker 2: When I was I think seven or eight, and I'll

567
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 2: never forget we showed up to sign up for football

568
00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 2: and they said, oh, well, his age group is all full,

569
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 2: but the next age group up is available, and I'm like,

570
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 2: I want to play.

571
00:29:17,040 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: Sure enough.

572
00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:20,280
Speaker 2: I was the scrawniest little kid on this team, but

573
00:29:20,360 --> 00:29:23,240
Speaker 2: I was kicking ass because you know, I want to play.

574
00:29:23,800 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 2: And I'll never forget that day. Even my grandma was like,

575
00:29:28,000 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 2: you sure you want to do this as me whole

576
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,480
Speaker 2: because they're bigger than you are going to run you over.

577
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:33,920
Speaker 1: Like, I don't care. I want to play.

578
00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 2: But the most important thing that you said just now

579
00:29:38,240 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 2: that really stood out is the biggest thing I got

580
00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 2: from my culture and my family is love. That just

581
00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 2: one thing, that unconditional love that this family brings to

582
00:29:49,840 --> 00:29:53,960
Speaker 2: my life. And I mean that in a way where

583
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 2: because I had uncles that were into drugs and taking drugs,

584
00:29:58,280 --> 00:30:00,560
Speaker 2: not selling drugs, but just doing drugs, were just not

585
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 2: really great for society, and this is what I had

586
00:30:03,560 --> 00:30:07,040
Speaker 2: to look up to, right, So I don't know, at

587
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:09,640
Speaker 2: one point, I just didn't want anything to do with that,

588
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 2: and I thought I got to get out of this situation.

589
00:30:12,360 --> 00:30:16,400
Speaker 2: I don't I admire especially my grandmother, who's ninety eight

590
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:20,560
Speaker 2: years old now, she still talks about her children, these

591
00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 2: adult children, as their little miholes, right, no matter what

592
00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 2: they're always going to be. She's living in a home

593
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 2: right now, and she's talking about bringing them to live

594
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 2: with her so she can take care of them. Right.

595
00:30:34,240 --> 00:30:38,040
Speaker 2: Growing up, of course, I would be around all kinds

596
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:42,040
Speaker 2: of people, you know, the jocks, the cheerleaders, the druggeries,

597
00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 2: the smart people. You know, it's just the athletes at jocks.

598
00:30:47,880 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 2: And for some reason, I always enjoyed the different types

599
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 2: of friendships. But I never really was involved in doing

600
00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,000
Speaker 2: the drugs or selling the drugs or I would literally

601
00:31:01,080 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 2: go to my friend's house and and watch his parents

602
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:08,160
Speaker 2: do drugs on their living room table. That's how I

603
00:31:08,200 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 2: was introduced to drugs, not because you know, my family

604
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:13,360
Speaker 2: was doing them, but I was like, I don't want

605
00:31:13,400 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 2: to do that. I don't want anything to do with that.

606
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:21,200
Speaker 2: So it's funny how your your your your situation is,

607
00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 2: You're You're presented with this thing in front of me,

608
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:24,680
Speaker 2: and you're like, well, what am I going to do

609
00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:25,320
Speaker 2: with it? Right?

610
00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 1: Do I punt? Do I sweep?

611
00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:29,120
Speaker 2: Right?

612
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:32,000
Speaker 1: Do I turn around and run away? What do I do?

613
00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,120
Speaker 2: And as a kid, I I fortunately made the right decision,

614
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,040
Speaker 2: and that was to you know, avoid all the all

615
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 2: the illegal stuff that was presented to me in front

616
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:40,360
Speaker 2: of me.

617
00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: You mentioned you were shy, you were timid. How much

618
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:56,840
Speaker 1: of your confidence came from women started to pay attention

619
00:31:56,960 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 1: to you. You mentioned when you were young, you started

620
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 1: like liking women, and you know basically what every teenager does.

621
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,760
Speaker 1: Was that a thing for you? Women started liking and

622
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:12,160
Speaker 1: you got some confidence from it.

623
00:32:12,600 --> 00:32:17,080
Speaker 2: I think, if I go back, I had women that

624
00:32:17,280 --> 00:32:19,480
Speaker 2: liked me, but I never had the money to take

625
00:32:19,520 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 2: them out right, because it was you need money to

626
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:27,600
Speaker 2: have a girlfriend, and I didn't have a confidence I

627
00:32:27,600 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 2: didn't have the job.

628
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 1: I didn't have any of that.

629
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 2: But what I started doing is working on myself.

630
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:33,239
Speaker 3: You know.

631
00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:36,720
Speaker 2: That's the reason why I started working any job I

632
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:40,600
Speaker 2: can to make money and to hopefully build some confidence,

633
00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:43,760
Speaker 2: because now that's the element I'm missing, right, And it

634
00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:46,400
Speaker 2: wasn't enough. It wasn't until after high school when I

635
00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:50,680
Speaker 2: started lifting weights and getting into bodybuilding and really and

636
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 2: of course acting classes and getting into who I am

637
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 2: as a person, what's going to drive me? That's what

638
00:32:56,400 --> 00:32:59,239
Speaker 2: gave me the confidence. That's when I started. You know,

639
00:32:59,280 --> 00:33:01,000
Speaker 2: I had the money, I had the looks, I had

640
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,320
Speaker 2: the body, I had the car, and I started getting

641
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:07,600
Speaker 2: the attention. But it opened my eyes to realize that

642
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 2: the woman I want to spend the rest of my

643
00:33:09,920 --> 00:33:15,000
Speaker 2: life with does not have to be a supermodel anymore. Right, Yeah,

644
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:17,680
Speaker 2: she just has to be attractive and she just has

645
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 2: to't like me.

646
00:33:19,680 --> 00:33:21,840
Speaker 1: So you know, it's funny. It's so funny you mentioned

647
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:25,240
Speaker 1: this because the thing that Teddy gets pissed when I say,

648
00:33:25,280 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 1: I mean my wife. I think she's beautiful, right, but

649
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:33,520
Speaker 1: I always say, like, the reason I loved you is

650
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: your marriage material?

651
00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:39,600
Speaker 2: Well what age did you meet Eddy? Because you know,

652
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 2: I agree with everything you're saying, and for me, as

653
00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:46,000
Speaker 2: you're talking, I'm like, it took me till thirty five

654
00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 2: years old to figure that shit out. I mean, when

655
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:53,920
Speaker 2: I met Tarma, I was like, I'm over it. I

656
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 2: don't want to date any hot shakes in Newport Beach anymore.

657
00:33:57,040 --> 00:33:59,200
Speaker 2: I'm just going to make a bunch of money and

658
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:01,160
Speaker 2: when I get old there I'll have a young hot

659
00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:02,440
Speaker 2: chick next to me and that's it.

660
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:03,360
Speaker 1: That's my life.

661
00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:07,280
Speaker 2: You know, I've given up and suddenly this beautiful girl

662
00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 2: falls into my lap. And it's a great story. I'll

663
00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 2: tell you about it. But I don't think I settled.

664
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 2: I know you didn't settle. I mean, our wives are

665
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 2: pretty damn hot, right, and they are model material, but

666
00:34:20,840 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 2: they're just incredibly smart and incredibly driven, and they're so

667
00:34:25,160 --> 00:34:29,279
Speaker 2: unique in that. I can't speak for your wife because

668
00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:31,279
Speaker 2: I don't know her that well, but I know my

669
00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:34,960
Speaker 2: wife had her struggles. She had her first child at seventeen,

670
00:34:35,040 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 2: and she had that struggle as a single mom for

671
00:34:38,160 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 2: years and years and years, and it's a tough life

672
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:44,359
Speaker 2: and that drives you to want to be more. You know,

673
00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 2: she had a great upbringing and her mom and dad

674
00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 2: were awesome when we just had this conversation, but it

675
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 2: wasn't until she was an adult that they got divorced

676
00:34:54,320 --> 00:34:58,280
Speaker 2: and that's when it really affected her. But here's a woman,

677
00:34:59,200 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 2: I think she's just turned forty one years old. I'm

678
00:35:02,280 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 2: thirty five and thirty six and we just meet and

679
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 2: it was love at first sight. I can't explain it

680
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 2: to you. I've only heard about it. But what happened

681
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 2: was my best friend, Marcos was he was my fitness

682
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:22,680
Speaker 2: instructor when I started getting into teaching classes and all

683
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,560
Speaker 2: that twenty some years ago, and he calls me and

684
00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 2: he says, hey, bro, I need to borrow your house

685
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:29,880
Speaker 2: cause I just bought this house where I live in

686
00:35:29,920 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 2: Right now, we're filming the show The Real Housewives of

687
00:35:33,920 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 2: Orange County and we're just looking for a house. And

688
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 2: I had furniture from my condo that I moved into

689
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 2: this place and there was rooms with no furniture, and

690
00:35:42,200 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 2: he's like, we're just filming, looking for a house to

691
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 2: move into, and I'm like, when did you get into filming?

692
00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:48,399
Speaker 1: What?

693
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 2: Wait a minute, wait a minute, are you bringing Eva

694
00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 2: Longoria to my house?

695
00:35:52,560 --> 00:35:54,399
Speaker 1: Is this what's going on now?

696
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:57,359
Speaker 2: I'm excited, and he's like, no, no, no, bro, wrong show. Sorry,

697
00:35:57,400 --> 00:35:59,600
Speaker 2: it's the Real Housewives of Orange County. I don't know

698
00:35:59,600 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 2: what that is. But Mikasasukasa, I'll be here. I'll open

699
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:07,479
Speaker 2: the door, and sure enough he comes, knocks, opens the door.

700
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:10,600
Speaker 2: I look at this beautiful blonde. I see hearts, I

701
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 2: see sparkles, I see fireworks and and and my heart

702
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:17,600
Speaker 2: rates starts just running and I'm like, what is wrong

703
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:19,680
Speaker 2: with me right now? What is going on? And we

704
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:23,279
Speaker 2: just locked eyes for I don't know, it felt like

705
00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:28,000
Speaker 2: one hundred years. And and of course she said the

706
00:36:28,000 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 2: same thing, like she thought I was not wearing a

707
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 2: shirt when I opened the door. On what I was,

708
00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 2: and and Marcos always says, yeah, I had to kick her, like,

709
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 2: you know, stop you know, gazing because a you're married

710
00:36:40,680 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 2: and the cameras are on. It's like, oh god, it was.

711
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:49,520
Speaker 2: It was such an interesting experience. And the sad part

712
00:36:49,640 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 2: is that she was still married. But that didn't stop

713
00:36:52,600 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 2: me from flirting a little bit, you know, asking, you know,

714
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:59,120
Speaker 2: getting questions and sending her a Facebook request. And she

715
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 2: calls Marco's and tells him, tell him to take it back.

716
00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 2: I can't take a Facebook creek Press because my husband

717
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 2: at the time, you know, he's he's watching every step

718
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 2: I take. And I'm like, all right, I guess I

719
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:12,600
Speaker 2: was gonna help. It was a good looking guy friend

720
00:37:12,640 --> 00:37:16,200
Speaker 2: requested her too. That probably doesn't help. That doesn't help. Yeah,

721
00:37:16,239 --> 00:37:22,239
Speaker 2: So fast forward about six or eight months. The holidays hit,

722
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 2: and of course Marco's being the nucleus in our in

723
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 2: our circle, we start running into each other at some

724
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:31,239
Speaker 2: of the same parties, holiday parties and all that, and

725
00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 2: I start getting to know her a little bit more.

726
00:37:33,880 --> 00:37:36,080
Speaker 2: But we kept running into each other, and we kept

727
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:40,640
Speaker 2: you know, locking eyes and smiling and talking, and it

728
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:42,920
Speaker 2: was it was literally like we were meant to be,

729
00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:45,279
Speaker 2: but we couldn't because we had this guy that was

730
00:37:45,280 --> 00:37:47,920
Speaker 2: in the middle of it. And then I think New

731
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 2: Year's happened after that. She left them, and three days later,

732
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 2: Marcus says she's available, and I'm like, okay, we're going

733
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:59,000
Speaker 2: to start dating. And it was probably a month after

734
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 2: because she had to get through this whole transition from leaving,

735
00:38:02,840 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 2: you know, her ex. It was about a month later

736
00:38:05,200 --> 00:38:07,200
Speaker 2: we had our first date in La Joya. I said,

737
00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,120
Speaker 2: we got to go somewhere where nobody knows you and

738
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:12,000
Speaker 2: nobody knows me, you know, because I don't want anybody

739
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:13,360
Speaker 2: to know this, you know, because.

740
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 1: You're you know, you're on TV.

741
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:17,839
Speaker 2: Then we went to this nice little restaurant I knew

742
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:21,560
Speaker 2: about in La Joya walked around and I think somebody

743
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,560
Speaker 2: saw us but didn't really say anything. They recognized her,

744
00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:27,400
Speaker 2: but we just kept walking. And it was then that

745
00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 2: I realized, Okay, my life's about to change. This is

746
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:34,880
Speaker 2: this is craziness. But being with her in public and

747
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:39,319
Speaker 2: trying not to think about it, you know, trying to

748
00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 2: have a regular, normal relationship conversation with this woman. I

749
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,839
Speaker 2: think that was what really helped her understand that I'm

750
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 2: not after her for her TV status. I really want

751
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 2: to get to know her. And that's I think what

752
00:38:55,320 --> 00:38:57,600
Speaker 2: gave her the confidence, like maybe I'll give this guy

753
00:38:57,640 --> 00:38:58,439
Speaker 2: a shot, you know.

754
00:38:58,480 --> 00:38:59,280
Speaker 1: Because.

755
00:39:01,080 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 2: It's a weird situation. Even today, it's hard to make

756
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 2: friends with people because she's shot on TV and you

757
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:09,960
Speaker 2: never know why they want to be your real friend, right,

758
00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 2: I always question it. I mean, she's taught me to

759
00:39:14,320 --> 00:39:18,520
Speaker 2: do that, but I'm pretty open. I will except for

760
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 2: I'll accept anybody for who they are, what they drive,

761
00:39:21,280 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 2: and what they do until they screw me or prove otherwise. Right, Yeah,

762
00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 2: And I'm just open like that. So my wife though,

763
00:39:29,320 --> 00:39:31,040
Speaker 2: taught me you got to be careful with you know

764
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,480
Speaker 2: why people want to be your friends.

765
00:39:33,960 --> 00:39:35,680
Speaker 1: You know, It's funny I think when you know you

766
00:39:35,719 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: really like someone, when the last thing on your mind

767
00:39:39,600 --> 00:39:42,560
Speaker 1: is having sex with them, Yeah, Like you're so into

768
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 1: getting to know them, You're so into the conversation, You're like,

769
00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:49,319
Speaker 1: you know, the sex will probably come, that's not even

770
00:39:49,440 --> 00:39:51,640
Speaker 1: But like, if all you're thinking of sex sex from

771
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,720
Speaker 1: the get go, that probably means you know, you're probably

772
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:57,080
Speaker 1: not gonna like her very much, or you probably don't

773
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,239
Speaker 1: really like her that much. When the last thing on

774
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 1: your mind is sex, you know you like that person.

775
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:04,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. I think you hit the nail on

776
00:40:04,360 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 2: the head right there, totally. So how did you meet Teddy?

777
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:16,920
Speaker 1: Well? Ironically, so with Teddy, it's actually pretty funny story.

778
00:40:17,120 --> 00:40:20,840
Speaker 1: So I was we were both we met at a nightclub,

779
00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:24,000
Speaker 1: and we were coming out of a nightclub fifteen years ago.

780
00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 1: We were both beyond wasted, so much so that the

781
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:33,520
Speaker 1: next day, when we woke up together in bed, we

782
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:39,399
Speaker 1: didn't remember each other's names nor did we remember if

783
00:40:39,400 --> 00:40:42,680
Speaker 1: we had slept with each other or not? Like we

784
00:40:42,680 --> 00:40:46,480
Speaker 1: we sort of thought we did, but we really couldn't

785
00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:51,240
Speaker 1: confirm it right. And what's funny is that the next morning,

786
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:55,279
Speaker 1: she's driving me home and she looks at me and

787
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:59,959
Speaker 1: she says, and I don't think we like hats said,

788
00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:04,479
Speaker 1: And I said, why are you so certain? She's like, well,

789
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:08,200
Speaker 1: I normally don't date guys like you. You're just not

790
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:11,160
Speaker 1: my type. You're like wearing this low V neck, you

791
00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: got long hair like and like I normally date like

792
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 1: blonde guys with blue eyes, and you're just not my type.

793
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:26,400
Speaker 1: So I didn't acknowledge the statement, and I just thought,

794
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 1: in time, I went her over with my wit and

795
00:41:29,480 --> 00:41:34,479
Speaker 1: my charm, or so I thought, because literally eight months ago,

796
00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,239
Speaker 1: so this whole time, I'm thinking she was never really

797
00:41:37,239 --> 00:41:41,759
Speaker 1: that into me. Yeah, so about ten months ago, I'm

798
00:41:41,800 --> 00:41:47,440
Speaker 1: going through photo books and I run into Teddy's scrap

799
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 1: book when she was in high school. It's like a

800
00:41:49,320 --> 00:41:52,239
Speaker 1: vision board scrap book. So I started looking at this

801
00:41:52,400 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 1: scrap book and I'm thinking, oh, how cute. These are

802
00:41:55,160 --> 00:41:57,760
Speaker 1: all the things that Teddy was into when she was younger.

803
00:41:58,840 --> 00:42:03,319
Speaker 1: And I run into the page where she has cutoffs

804
00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:08,080
Speaker 1: of the people that her dream guys. And you can

805
00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:12,320
Speaker 1: only imagine my surprise when staring back at me was

806
00:42:12,440 --> 00:42:18,160
Speaker 1: Enrique Iglesias and Antonio Sabato Junior. And I'm thinking of myself,

807
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: what the like, what the heck? I thought she was

808
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 1: only introduced with blonde hair, like she totally nagged me

809
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 1: on purpose, totally played me. So I called her up,

810
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:34,239
Speaker 1: Wait a minute, you aren't. You are into some dark

811
00:42:34,280 --> 00:42:37,480
Speaker 1: haired guys, you know. But the whole time it was

812
00:42:37,520 --> 00:42:41,120
Speaker 1: just funny seeing that. But anyway, that's how we met,

813
00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:46,440
Speaker 1: and a little similar story to yours in that she

814
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 1: was in the middle of getting a divorce and I

815
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:55,920
Speaker 1: had just had a baby three weeks prior to meeting Teddy,

816
00:42:56,920 --> 00:42:59,799
Speaker 1: and but it was from a previous relationship and we

817
00:42:59,880 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 1: just we had sort of a bad breakup where we

818
00:43:02,719 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 1: just weren't going to get back together. And when I

819
00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:13,880
Speaker 1: met Teddy and she dropped me back home, were hanging

820
00:43:13,920 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 1: out and she's like, is that ultrasound yours? And I

821
00:43:19,080 --> 00:43:22,160
Speaker 1: remember getting so nervous because what am I What was

822
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:23,960
Speaker 1: I supposed to say? Like, what is she going to think?

823
00:43:24,520 --> 00:43:24,600
Speaker 2: Like?

824
00:43:25,360 --> 00:43:30,600
Speaker 1: And I said I think and she said, well, how old?

825
00:43:31,040 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 1: And I told her six months because I just got

826
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:36,920
Speaker 1: so nervous, right, and she meets her, I think a

827
00:43:37,000 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 1: month into our relationship, and she's like, Edwin, this isn't

828
00:43:40,320 --> 00:43:43,080
Speaker 1: a six month old baby. This is a month old baby.

829
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:48,560
Speaker 1: But immediately she just I mean that's part of how

830
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:50,800
Speaker 1: she won me over. I mean, she took care of

831
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,160
Speaker 1: my daughter as if it was hers from the get go.

832
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:58,000
Speaker 1: And and she's known my daughter, you know, from the

833
00:43:58,040 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 1: get go. Basically she met her a month, which she

834
00:44:01,239 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: was a month old, and so anyway, so that was

835
00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 1: kind of my moment. But then another great moment with

836
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: Teddy was again, I grew up in Huntingdon Park. So

837
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:18,680
Speaker 1: Huntington Park. Don't get it confused with hunting and beach,

838
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:21,800
Speaker 1: polar opposites. A lot of people don't get it confused

839
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 1: with Hancock Park. Huntingdon Park is Southeast LA. It's the

840
00:44:25,600 --> 00:44:29,279
Speaker 1: opposite of hunting and beach, right, And I took her

841
00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:31,560
Speaker 1: to you know, I still hang out with some of

842
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 1: my old friends that I grew up with, and I

843
00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:37,239
Speaker 1: remember taking her to one of my buddies party that

844
00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:40,239
Speaker 1: he had in Huntingdon Park. And this is like an

845
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:44,719
Speaker 1: old school kind of call it, you know, you know,

846
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 1: it was just the way we grew up, and I thought,

847
00:44:48,040 --> 00:44:51,759
Speaker 1: this girl's not going to last here an hour. In

848
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 1: an hour, she's going to be like, all right, we

849
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:54,960
Speaker 1: gotta go. We gotta get out of this freaking place.

850
00:44:56,080 --> 00:45:00,160
Speaker 1: We stood there six hours. She didn't complain. She just

851
00:45:00,239 --> 00:45:03,680
Speaker 1: had a great time, and she treated everyone with so

852
00:45:03,760 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 1: much respect where she didn't think she was better than them.

853
00:45:07,200 --> 00:45:11,000
Speaker 1: And I was like, Okay, this is it. She is

854
00:45:11,040 --> 00:45:14,040
Speaker 1: the one, yeah, because you know, especially when you meet

855
00:45:14,480 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 1: someone in the West Side, you know, you take him

856
00:45:17,760 --> 00:45:19,560
Speaker 1: to the East Side and they're like, Oh, give me

857
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:21,360
Speaker 1: the heck out of here, I'm too good for this place.

858
00:45:21,440 --> 00:45:25,400
Speaker 1: Right now, she was which again. And then especially with

859
00:45:25,480 --> 00:45:29,800
Speaker 1: her background, with her dad being John Mellencamp and stuff,

860
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:32,879
Speaker 1: I mean, it was it was awesome to see her

861
00:45:33,160 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: treat everyone with so much respect, and and I knew

862
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:39,240
Speaker 1: that was she was the one, you know now speaking

863
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:43,319
Speaker 1: to nagging. So when she told me that her dad

864
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:47,360
Speaker 1: was John Mellencamp, She's like, do you know who that is?

865
00:45:47,360 --> 00:45:51,560
Speaker 1: I actually said no, But the reality is I did

866
00:45:51,640 --> 00:45:54,520
Speaker 1: know who he was because when I lived in Huntingdon

867
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:57,480
Speaker 1: Park in those apartments, we used to like steal cable,

868
00:45:57,800 --> 00:45:59,400
Speaker 1: and I forgot how I used to do that, but

869
00:45:59,440 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 1: I used to get all the VH one videos, and

870
00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 1: John Mellencamp's videos were always like number one, and you

871
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:06,960
Speaker 1: know they had the top twenty, and I would always

872
00:46:07,000 --> 00:46:08,520
Speaker 1: see the John Mellencamp video.

873
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 2: So I knew exactly who he was. But did you

874
00:46:12,160 --> 00:46:13,560
Speaker 2: know he had a daughter? Oh?

875
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:15,239
Speaker 1: I had no clue that he had a daughter. But

876
00:46:15,320 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 1: when she mentioned, oh, that's my dad, I didn't want

877
00:46:19,040 --> 00:46:20,839
Speaker 1: to say yes right away because I didn't want her

878
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:23,600
Speaker 1: to think, oh, now he just likes me because I'm

879
00:46:23,680 --> 00:46:28,320
Speaker 1: John Mellencamp's daughter. So I was like, no, But I

880
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:32,480
Speaker 1: knew who he was, right, and I just again, I

881
00:46:32,520 --> 00:46:36,520
Speaker 1: loved how down to earth she was. And I remember

882
00:46:36,520 --> 00:46:41,080
Speaker 1: when I first met him. That was a nerve wrecking

883
00:46:41,960 --> 00:46:46,279
Speaker 1: be I go to Indiana and we meet at.

884
00:46:46,200 --> 00:46:50,719
Speaker 4: A McDonald's and all of a sudden, we's wait, I'm

885
00:46:50,760 --> 00:46:52,160
Speaker 4: sorry to cut you off, but how long were you

886
00:46:52,239 --> 00:46:56,840
Speaker 4: dating before you met him? I think, if I remember correctly,

887
00:46:56,880 --> 00:47:00,359
Speaker 4: it was about five months into our relationship a ship

888
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,120
Speaker 4: or four months into our relationship.

889
00:47:02,239 --> 00:47:05,839
Speaker 1: Yes, i'd be nervous too. Yeah, And we go to

890
00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:08,040
Speaker 1: Indiana and then all of a sudden, I don't know

891
00:47:08,080 --> 00:47:11,239
Speaker 1: why we met in a McDonald's, but I just saw

892
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:15,560
Speaker 1: three subs and I'm not exaggerating, like three subs, dark subs,

893
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:18,440
Speaker 1: tinted windows. He would have thought it was the CIA,

894
00:47:19,200 --> 00:47:22,520
Speaker 1: and like three dudes in a suit come out, and

895
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:24,640
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden, it's John Mellencamp dressed in

896
00:47:24,680 --> 00:47:30,640
Speaker 1: black with his shades, and he's like, I'm John. I

897
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 1: was like anyway, and then he gave me some ship

898
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 1: that that week. He's like, when you see these guys here, man,

899
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:39,360
Speaker 1: you mess with my daughter, come get you so you

900
00:47:39,400 --> 00:47:41,239
Speaker 1: better break my daughter's heart.

901
00:47:42,000 --> 00:47:45,080
Speaker 2: And every man has to say that's that's like require

902
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:46,080
Speaker 2: with a stone face.

903
00:47:46,160 --> 00:47:49,160
Speaker 1: Like he didn't say jokingly either, he was, And I

904
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:52,640
Speaker 1: was like, don't you worry? How long did it take

905
00:47:52,640 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: you to win him over? Brought a couple of years, yeah, definitely,

906
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:00,239
Speaker 1: a couple I mean he was never route too, but

907
00:48:01,000 --> 00:48:04,840
Speaker 1: a couple of years definitely. Yeah. Yeah. There was a

908
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 1: couple of times where he's like, how is this Edwin

909
00:48:07,719 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 1: guy making the kind of money he's making, Like is

910
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:12,440
Speaker 1: he fucking drug dealer or something like?

911
00:48:13,239 --> 00:48:18,600
Speaker 3: So there that so anyway, but he was always nice,

912
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:20,160
Speaker 3: but yeah, I would say it took a couple of

913
00:48:20,239 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 3: years to kind of gain his respect and know that

914
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:25,120
Speaker 3: I was really gonna, you know, take care of his daughter,

915
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:27,040
Speaker 3: which I probably would have done the same.

916
00:48:36,040 --> 00:48:40,799
Speaker 2: So after winning him over, and you know that was

917
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:44,359
Speaker 2: five months, two years, no you met him and when

918
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:47,920
Speaker 2: you were dating five months you won him over? In

919
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 2: two years, how long in your relationship was it before

920
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:58,120
Speaker 2: you both were casted if you will, or cast for

921
00:48:58,520 --> 00:49:02,560
Speaker 2: the Real Housewives. So we dated for two years, got married.

922
00:49:02,719 --> 00:49:05,239
Speaker 2: Speaking of the dad, So I never thought I was

923
00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 2: going to get married, Like I was always just so

924
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,759
Speaker 2: scared of get married because everyone I met I was

925
00:49:09,760 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 2: getting a divorce. And I was so scared to get

926
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:15,239
Speaker 2: married that I was just trying to push, push and

927
00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:17,719
Speaker 2: not get married. And at one point I remember just

928
00:49:17,719 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 2: telling today, we didn't just have my baby.

929
00:49:19,239 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 1: We don't have to get married just baby, and she's like,

930
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:25,360
Speaker 1: you're freaking nuts, are you stupid? That's literally what she

931
00:49:25,440 --> 00:49:29,200
Speaker 1: told me, And yes, I did ask. Well anyway, one

932
00:49:29,280 --> 00:49:32,040
Speaker 1: day out of nowhere, she's like, hey, what if we

933
00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:34,680
Speaker 1: just get married in Paris. My dad's going to be

934
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:40,760
Speaker 1: touring and let's just last minute get married in Paris

935
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 1: and I remember always thinking that if I ever did

936
00:49:43,880 --> 00:49:46,400
Speaker 1: get married, it was probably going to be last minute.

937
00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 1: It was probably going to be out of the country

938
00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 1: where I didn't have to worry about who do I invite,

939
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:55,200
Speaker 1: who do I not invite, And it just made total sense.

940
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:58,280
Speaker 1: And then we got married. That was in twenty eleven.

941
00:49:58,760 --> 00:50:01,800
Speaker 1: We had our first child in twenty twelve, our second

942
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:08,040
Speaker 1: child in twenty fourteen, and then twenty the end of

943
00:50:08,120 --> 00:50:13,839
Speaker 1: twenty seventeen is when she got approached to do The

944
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:19,799
Speaker 1: Housewives show. And the first thing I thought was I

945
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,520
Speaker 1: immediately got scared because I hate the freaking cameras. Like

946
00:50:23,239 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 1: I've gotten a little more used to them lately, like,

947
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:29,799
Speaker 1: but back then, I was really fearful of cameras. How

948
00:50:29,800 --> 00:50:33,359
Speaker 1: does she present it to you? She just said she

949
00:50:33,480 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 1: had this opportunity, there's this show called the Housewives, and

950
00:50:36,840 --> 00:50:39,880
Speaker 1: you know they're looking you know, she they're looking an audition,

951
00:50:40,040 --> 00:50:42,719
Speaker 1: and then she nailed her audition, and then I just

952
00:50:42,800 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 1: told her, look, I think you're gonna probably end up

953
00:50:44,880 --> 00:50:48,200
Speaker 1: getting it based on who she told me that they

954
00:50:48,200 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 1: were also looking at, and that I remember just thinking

955
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:56,880
Speaker 1: to myself because it scared me so much. I'm like Okay.

956
00:50:57,239 --> 00:51:01,279
Speaker 1: I always like things that challenge me, so that I

957
00:51:01,480 --> 00:51:03,719
Speaker 1: liked and then I went to go ask my you know,

958
00:51:03,800 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 1: my friends, you know, people in business colleagues, like, do

959
00:51:08,160 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 1: you think I should do this show? Everyone said no,

960
00:51:13,000 --> 00:51:15,360
Speaker 1: They're like, that's going to end your marriage. What the

961
00:51:15,400 --> 00:51:18,120
Speaker 1: hell are you doing? Your business is doing well, like

962
00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:23,000
Speaker 1: that's the last thing you want to do. And at

963
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:24,960
Speaker 1: the time, Teddy and I weren't in a good place either,

964
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:30,600
Speaker 1: Like we were a very very bad place. Wow. And

965
00:51:31,800 --> 00:51:34,600
Speaker 1: we were such in a bad place that at the

966
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:38,440
Speaker 1: time I was thinking, Okay, well if she gets the

967
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:43,120
Speaker 1: show show because at the time, you know, she she

968
00:51:43,280 --> 00:51:44,880
Speaker 1: was just staying at home and she had just started

969
00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:46,399
Speaker 1: all in so she was starting to kind of get

970
00:51:46,400 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 1: her life back, you know, as far as like when

971
00:51:49,680 --> 00:51:53,080
Speaker 1: she had the babies, like she stopped working, she stopped writing,

972
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:57,680
Speaker 1: and she became more dependent on me all the time

973
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:00,000
Speaker 1: to come home, and like she didn't really have a purpose.

974
00:52:00,719 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 1: Not that raising kids is not, because that alone is

975
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:07,320
Speaker 1: a job's hearing shaft. I think she was so used

976
00:52:07,360 --> 00:52:11,560
Speaker 1: to being independent and working and doing her thing that

977
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:15,480
Speaker 1: you know, we just she kind of lost herself. We

978
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:19,080
Speaker 1: started to kind of separate as far as like we

979
00:52:19,080 --> 00:52:23,600
Speaker 1: weren't connecting, and again we were such in a dark place.

980
00:52:23,640 --> 00:52:25,680
Speaker 1: Then I'm like, well, maybe if she gets the show,

981
00:52:25,719 --> 00:52:27,840
Speaker 1: she gets a little purpose and then and then I

982
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:31,359
Speaker 1: won't maybe I could just go. You know, that's how

983
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:34,680
Speaker 1: bad it was. But you know what's interesting is that

984
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 1: when you don't do something for a long time, you're

985
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:40,279
Speaker 1: gonna dislike it. And like, if you don't go to

986
00:52:40,320 --> 00:52:42,799
Speaker 1: the gym, if you haven't gone to the gym for

987
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:44,799
Speaker 1: the last two years, I promise you, you probably hate

988
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:47,920
Speaker 1: the gym. Right, you haven't gone since eighteen years ago,

989
00:52:47,960 --> 00:52:51,320
Speaker 1: you probably hate the gym. Right, So at some point,

990
00:52:51,360 --> 00:52:55,520
Speaker 1: like nothing stays the same, you're either getting better or

991
00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:59,799
Speaker 1: you're getting worse. Right, And at the time, we just

992
00:52:59,840 --> 00:53:03,640
Speaker 1: working on a relationship. Like it was like I was

993
00:53:03,680 --> 00:53:05,719
Speaker 1: doing my thing, she was kind of doing her thing.

994
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:10,480
Speaker 1: And what the show did, at least for me, it

995
00:53:10,880 --> 00:53:15,240
Speaker 1: made me focus again in the relationship because I'm like, Okay,

996
00:53:15,239 --> 00:53:18,919
Speaker 1: well I cannot I can't come out here and look

997
00:53:19,120 --> 00:53:22,840
Speaker 1: divided because that's going to be a shit show. Yeah,

998
00:53:23,160 --> 00:53:26,480
Speaker 1: And I don't want to live that, Like, I mean,

999
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:28,319
Speaker 1: I don't want to see my kids. I don't want

1000
00:53:28,360 --> 00:53:33,799
Speaker 1: my kids to see that, and I remember, just okay,

1001
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:37,279
Speaker 1: I'm going to work on this. And funny thing, when

1002
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:40,719
Speaker 1: you start working on your relationship, you realize like, oh shit,

1003
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:44,279
Speaker 1: our relationship is actually pretty pretty damn cool, and it's

1004
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:46,840
Speaker 1: just getting better and better and better. So you know,

1005
00:53:46,880 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 1: I kid with my friends. I don't think a lot

1006
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:52,040
Speaker 1: of people know that, but most people say that housewives

1007
00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 1: ruined Well, the thought is that the housewives have ruined

1008
00:53:55,719 --> 00:53:59,920
Speaker 1: your marriage. For Teddy and I had actually saved our marriage.

1009
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:06,040
Speaker 1: We're actually closer than we've ever been, and uh, definitely

1010
00:54:06,040 --> 00:54:09,680
Speaker 1: is that's commonly. Yeah, it's just crazy, but again, it

1011
00:54:09,680 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 1: made us both work on something and again you start

1012
00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:15,279
Speaker 1: to realize, wow, like this is why I fell in love.

1013
00:54:15,320 --> 00:54:17,760
Speaker 1: But when you're not willing to work on the relationship,

1014
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:20,640
Speaker 1: then you just start growing apart.

1015
00:54:20,920 --> 00:54:21,120
Speaker 2: Right.

1016
00:54:21,440 --> 00:54:23,839
Speaker 1: But if you just stop working on it, like you're

1017
00:54:23,960 --> 00:54:27,560
Speaker 1: gonna get worse. Yeah, right, because again you're either getting

1018
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:29,759
Speaker 1: better or're getting worse. But it's not gonna stay the same.

1019
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:33,000
Speaker 1: If all of a sudden you're not trying to improve

1020
00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:37,719
Speaker 1: that relationship and it's staying stagnant, I promise you, it

1021
00:54:37,760 --> 00:54:40,719
Speaker 1: starts to decline, but it certainly takes a team. It

1022
00:54:40,760 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 1: takes both of you to see the same thing.

1023
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 2: Right. I'm sure she did her part and you did

1024
00:54:46,560 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 2: your part to bring this relationship back together.

1025
00:54:51,480 --> 00:54:51,680
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1026
00:54:51,719 --> 00:54:54,760
Speaker 2: That is an interesting point because from my experience watching

1027
00:54:54,800 --> 00:54:56,839
Speaker 2: the show for so many years and being part of it,

1028
00:54:57,640 --> 00:55:01,360
Speaker 2: I've seen more divorces on this TV show.

1029
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:04,080
Speaker 1: Then you know, then Court.

1030
00:55:05,400 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 2: But that's amazing that it brought you guys back together

1031
00:55:07,719 --> 00:55:11,359
Speaker 2: and really solidified your relationship. Do you think it might

1032
00:55:11,360 --> 00:55:14,160
Speaker 2: have been because somebody put a microscope to your relationship

1033
00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 2: that you thought, I'm not going to lose this. I'm

1034
00:55:17,160 --> 00:55:19,040
Speaker 2: I'm a winner. I Am not going to lose this,

1035
00:55:19,200 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 2: and I don't want I don't want an outside force

1036
00:55:22,320 --> 00:55:25,719
Speaker 2: to you know, ruin what I have. You think that

1037
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:27,000
Speaker 2: had a part in it?

1038
00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:31,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I think you know what was interesting

1039
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 1: is once the cameras are on, you like it brought

1040
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:41,840
Speaker 1: accountability to me. Yeah, you know, it was you know,

1041
00:55:42,160 --> 00:55:46,560
Speaker 1: back fire to that there's nothing on Like if I

1042
00:55:46,600 --> 00:55:49,440
Speaker 1: wanted to do something and I wanted to do it,

1043
00:55:49,480 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 1: I could say could right, nobody knew who I was.

1044
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 1: And uh, I think once the cameras were on, like

1045
00:55:58,320 --> 00:56:01,719
Speaker 1: it's like, oh now now you're you're accountable, right, Like,

1046
00:56:01,800 --> 00:56:04,799
Speaker 1: if you do something, the whole world's going to see

1047
00:56:04,800 --> 00:56:08,799
Speaker 1: it and all your kids are going to see it, right,

1048
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:13,680
Speaker 1: And I think that's what like made me, you know,

1049
00:56:14,360 --> 00:56:21,400
Speaker 1: really focus on the relationship. And when I did, I

1050
00:56:21,480 --> 00:56:23,840
Speaker 1: was like, whoa, this is what the hell was I

1051
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:27,200
Speaker 1: even thinking? You know, I was just in a dark

1052
00:56:27,239 --> 00:56:27,920
Speaker 1: place myself.

1053
00:56:28,080 --> 00:56:32,720
Speaker 2: So for me, I was single when I met Dema,

1054
00:56:32,920 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 2: and I had to I had to figure it out.

1055
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:38,000
Speaker 2: Bro I you know, the first year, I'm like, what

1056
00:56:38,080 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 2: am I getting myself into? And I went in it

1057
00:56:41,040 --> 00:56:43,640
Speaker 2: like like I do with all my relationships, just open arms,

1058
00:56:43,680 --> 00:56:46,560
Speaker 2: white eyed. Let's just you know, I'm up for a challenge,

1059
00:56:46,719 --> 00:56:50,920
Speaker 2: and like you, when I feel fear, I go after it.

1060
00:56:51,000 --> 00:56:51,239
Speaker 3: You know.

1061
00:56:51,280 --> 00:56:55,120
Speaker 2: That's that's one one indicator that I know I have

1062
00:56:55,239 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 2: to overcome. Anything that scares me. I have to overcome.

1063
00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:00,600
Speaker 2: And if it doesn't scare me, then it's probably not

1064
00:57:00,760 --> 00:57:02,880
Speaker 2: worth and it's it's been proven over and over that

1065
00:57:03,160 --> 00:57:05,840
Speaker 2: if it's not scary, it's probably not worth it. Anyways,

1066
00:57:05,880 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 2: So when I was involved in the show, the first

1067
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:13,680
Speaker 2: year was a great experience and un till it wasn't

1068
00:57:14,480 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 2: you know, because they made me, they made me look

1069
00:57:17,920 --> 00:57:20,240
Speaker 2: like the Knight in Shining Armor right coming in to

1070
00:57:20,320 --> 00:57:20,560
Speaker 2: say that.

1071
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 1: The first year or half of the season, and then

1072
00:57:23,680 --> 00:57:25,320
Speaker 1: they turned on you, or was it the first year?

1073
00:57:25,360 --> 00:57:28,360
Speaker 1: You were just like the first The first three quarters

1074
00:57:28,360 --> 00:57:30,840
Speaker 1: of the year, it was. It was the perfect couple.

1075
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 2: And then they turned on me at the end of

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00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 2: the season, and I had to make a hard decision, like, Okay,

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00:57:36,080 --> 00:57:38,360
Speaker 2: first of all, I have no control here. They can

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00:57:38,520 --> 00:57:41,320
Speaker 2: edit it any way I can. Unfortunately, because I had

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Speaker 2: a legal background, I read that contract. So that was,

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00:57:45,800 --> 00:57:49,360
Speaker 2: you know, that was good experience. And then every year

1081
00:57:49,400 --> 00:57:52,600
Speaker 2: after oh wait, let me go back to where they

1082
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:56,720
Speaker 2: they they turned on me. Yeah, and it wasn't you.

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00:57:56,960 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 2: It wasn't necessarily that they turned on me. I don't

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00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:04,200
Speaker 2: think that's what happened. What happened was I was filming

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00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 2: with my wife and I think it was Vicki and Brooks,

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00:58:08,920 --> 00:58:12,440
Speaker 2: and we were going to go film at the Catalina

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00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 2: Island and I was working all day. It was a Friday.

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00:58:15,440 --> 00:58:17,840
Speaker 2: I skipped breakfast, I skip lunch. I was just trying

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00:58:17,840 --> 00:58:19,960
Speaker 2: to get all my work done because I couldn't work

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00:58:20,000 --> 00:58:24,000
Speaker 2: that weekend, right, and come five o'clock, okay, I finished

1091
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:26,440
Speaker 2: my work, nothing in my stomach, jumped in the limo,

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00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:28,800
Speaker 2: had a drink. By the time we got to Long

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00:58:28,840 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 2: Beach to the ferry, I was drunk and got in

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00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:36,920
Speaker 2: the boat. Halfway to the island, somebody said something stupid

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00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:39,360
Speaker 2: or she said some stupid and it just made me

1096
00:58:39,640 --> 00:58:42,920
Speaker 2: so mad. I lost my cool, I lost control, and

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00:58:42,960 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 2: when we got to the island, she was kind of

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00:58:44,760 --> 00:58:48,160
Speaker 2: elbowing me, like stop getting so angry. You know, cameras

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00:58:48,200 --> 00:58:49,520
Speaker 2: are on you. And I was like, I don't give

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00:58:49,560 --> 00:58:51,440
Speaker 2: a I I just want to get off this island.

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00:58:51,480 --> 00:58:54,560
Speaker 2: I don't want to do this anymore. And I slept

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00:58:54,560 --> 00:58:57,560
Speaker 2: on it. The next morning I was fine, of course,

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00:58:57,760 --> 00:59:00,840
Speaker 2: and on the way back to the mainland, I was like,

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00:59:01,840 --> 00:59:04,040
Speaker 2: I have to make our decision here, you know, because

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00:59:04,040 --> 00:59:06,800
Speaker 2: I honestly do not want to do this ever again.

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00:59:07,040 --> 00:59:09,920
Speaker 2: And if I don't do this ever again, then I

1107
00:59:09,920 --> 00:59:12,160
Speaker 2: don't know what's going to be with this relationship because

1108
00:59:12,200 --> 00:59:14,240
Speaker 2: this is a huge part of her life. I mean,

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00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:17,680
Speaker 2: this is her reality. And I had to flip a switch.

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00:59:17,760 --> 00:59:20,280
Speaker 2: It was a big mental moment for me in my life,

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00:59:20,320 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 2: where you know what, I don't want to do this,

1112
00:59:22,560 --> 00:59:24,240
Speaker 2: but I want to see what it is with her,

1113
00:59:24,320 --> 00:59:26,240
Speaker 2: and I flipped a switch in my head and I said,

1114
00:59:27,800 --> 00:59:31,840
Speaker 2: just do it, enjoy it, don't drink, and stay out

1115
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 2: of the camera, right, And that formula worked for me

1116
00:59:35,880 --> 00:59:39,720
Speaker 2: until today. I you know, like you, I just run

1117
00:59:39,760 --> 00:59:42,480
Speaker 2: from the drama. I know, it's it's not part of me.

1118
00:59:42,560 --> 00:59:44,720
Speaker 2: I don't want to be a sixth house wife. I

1119
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:46,800
Speaker 2: don't want to be a part of it. But I

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00:59:46,840 --> 00:59:50,160
Speaker 2: want to support her one hundred percent any way I

1121
00:59:50,200 --> 00:59:54,920
Speaker 2: can and see her shine. And she's just been amazing,

1122
00:59:55,120 --> 00:59:59,040
Speaker 2: you know, all these years, just not just in her skills,

1123
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:02,720
Speaker 2: but tolerating this whole experience. You know, it's just drama.

1124
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:07,520
Speaker 2: It's completely the opposite. It's exactly what I stay away

1125
01:00:07,560 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 2: from in my life. You know, I do everything to

1126
01:00:09,200 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 2: stay away from drama. And then it wasn't until she

1127
01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:16,600
Speaker 2: got fired. I think it was three years ago. She

1128
01:00:16,640 --> 01:00:21,560
Speaker 2: got fired and it really put her world upside down.

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01:00:21,600 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 2: I mean, twelve years doing this, it was her whole identity,

1130
01:00:25,480 --> 01:00:28,400
Speaker 2: and she was pretty much traumatized. I mean it took

1131
01:00:28,440 --> 01:00:30,960
Speaker 2: me a year to talk her off the ledge. Like

1132
01:00:31,040 --> 01:00:33,280
Speaker 2: you know, there's more to life than the housewives and

1133
01:00:35,520 --> 01:00:38,000
Speaker 2: the whole experience. You know, from the moment it happened

1134
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:40,120
Speaker 2: when they told her they basically kicked her to the

1135
01:00:40,160 --> 01:00:43,360
Speaker 2: curb and she had to pick herself up and I

1136
01:00:43,400 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 2: had to help her and just be there with her

1137
01:00:45,760 --> 01:00:48,800
Speaker 2: and help her, you know, figure out other ways to

1138
01:00:48,800 --> 01:00:53,479
Speaker 2: make money. Fortunately, influencer marketing was big at the time.

1139
01:00:53,560 --> 01:00:56,320
Speaker 2: She was doing really well with that. And then a

1140
01:00:56,400 --> 01:00:59,080
Speaker 2: year later, they tried to get her back on the

1141
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:01,080
Speaker 2: show as a friend and I said, no, don't do it.

1142
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 2: You're just evaluing yourself. You're not going to be happy

1143
01:01:04,800 --> 01:01:06,840
Speaker 2: if you do this. And we got into a little

1144
01:01:06,880 --> 01:01:09,360
Speaker 2: fight about it because she was adamant, like, this is

1145
01:01:09,400 --> 01:01:11,600
Speaker 2: what she wants to do, this is her opportunity to

1146
01:01:11,640 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 2: go back, and I said, think about the setting, babe,

1147
01:01:14,720 --> 01:01:17,760
Speaker 2: you're going back to do the dirty work or another

1148
01:01:17,840 --> 01:01:20,120
Speaker 2: cast member on the show, and that's what you want

1149
01:01:20,120 --> 01:01:23,160
Speaker 2: to be known as. And we didn't talk for a day.

1150
01:01:23,800 --> 01:01:26,280
Speaker 2: The day came and went. The very next day, she's like,

1151
01:01:26,360 --> 01:01:28,040
Speaker 2: thank you so much for not letting me do that.

1152
01:01:28,120 --> 01:01:30,480
Speaker 2: Thank you so much for you know, being there for me.

1153
01:01:31,240 --> 01:01:33,800
Speaker 2: And it was a tough moment, but it really helped

1154
01:01:33,840 --> 01:01:36,960
Speaker 2: her grow and realize what her true worth is, what

1155
01:01:37,040 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 2: her value is. And then I think about six months later,

1156
01:01:42,520 --> 01:01:44,320
Speaker 2: she got asked to go back on the show a

1157
01:01:44,400 --> 01:01:47,200
Speaker 2: full time and I'm like, well, it's your call, you know,

1158
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:51,000
Speaker 2: this is your life. I'm here to support you anyway

1159
01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:56,040
Speaker 2: you want. You're a lot smarter now you've gone through

1160
01:01:56,320 --> 01:01:59,440
Speaker 2: hell and back with them, And yeah, I agree, you're

1161
01:01:59,480 --> 01:02:01,600
Speaker 2: really good at it. You are really good at it.

1162
01:02:01,680 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 2: So if that's what you want to do about, let's

1163
01:02:04,160 --> 01:02:07,200
Speaker 2: do it. You know, I'm here for you. But and

1164
01:02:07,240 --> 01:02:11,160
Speaker 2: that's how she came back, and I regretfully came back.

1165
01:02:11,200 --> 01:02:15,280
Speaker 2: But I also had to you know, change my attitude again.

1166
01:02:15,640 --> 01:02:18,120
Speaker 2: You know, I said, I have to be a part

1167
01:02:18,160 --> 01:02:19,840
Speaker 2: of this, and I tried to be a little bit

1168
01:02:19,880 --> 01:02:25,720
Speaker 2: more engaged this this next round, primarily because the negative people.

1169
01:02:26,480 --> 01:02:30,040
Speaker 2: When those people were fired, that's when I felt more comfortable,

1170
01:02:30,360 --> 01:02:34,440
Speaker 2: you know, participating, you know, being you know, engaged and

1171
01:02:35,120 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 2: asking questions about it.

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Speaker 1: Right.

1173
01:02:36,920 --> 01:02:41,480
Speaker 2: So it's it's been a crazy, crazy experience.

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Speaker 1: I don't know what.

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01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:46,680
Speaker 2: It's it's going to be, but for me, I mean,

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01:02:46,720 --> 01:02:48,320
Speaker 2: we got a wedding special out of it.

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01:02:49,360 --> 01:02:51,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, which on the next show, we've got to talk

1178
01:02:51,680 --> 01:02:55,560
Speaker 1: more about that wedding special and how that all came about.

1179
01:02:55,680 --> 01:02:58,640
Speaker 1: And I mean, we got so much to talk about.

1180
01:02:58,920 --> 01:03:03,040
Speaker 1: It's funny. I had the same thing Eddie where I second.

1181
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:04,800
Speaker 1: I think it was the second or third episode. Again,

1182
01:03:04,840 --> 01:03:06,880
Speaker 1: I was so shy and timid. Now I don't really

1183
01:03:06,920 --> 01:03:09,080
Speaker 1: have to do that anymore, but I would drink shots

1184
01:03:09,120 --> 01:03:12,000
Speaker 1: before I would start filming. So one day before we

1185
01:03:12,040 --> 01:03:15,760
Speaker 1: started filming, I took a bunch of shots and I

1186
01:03:15,840 --> 01:03:18,720
Speaker 1: was so wasted that at the end of the night,

1187
01:03:18,800 --> 01:03:21,880
Speaker 1: Teddy and I got in probably one of the biggest

1188
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:25,200
Speaker 1: fights in our entire lives. And they never showed it.

1189
01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:29,280
Speaker 1: And I'm thinking it's because Teddy thinks there was cameras

1190
01:03:29,320 --> 01:03:32,320
Speaker 1: in the car. I don't think there were, but she's like, yeah,

1191
01:03:32,320 --> 01:03:34,880
Speaker 1: they just didn't want to show it. But I mean,

1192
01:03:35,400 --> 01:03:38,320
Speaker 1: they could have made me look really, really bad, but

1193
01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:41,600
Speaker 1: I think that first year they tried making me look

1194
01:03:41,600 --> 01:03:44,760
Speaker 1: good or us good. But the funny part about that

1195
01:03:44,920 --> 01:03:47,720
Speaker 1: is the next day we're going to film, so I

1196
01:03:47,840 --> 01:03:50,959
Speaker 1: go downstairs to go get my nineteen forty two start

1197
01:03:51,040 --> 01:03:55,120
Speaker 1: serving myself some shots and I'm like, this is water,

1198
01:03:55,520 --> 01:03:58,800
Speaker 1: and Teddy had refilled the whole thing with water. I

1199
01:03:58,840 --> 01:04:01,200
Speaker 1: don't want you drinking on this a freaking show again.

1200
01:04:01,720 --> 01:04:05,000
Speaker 1: And that was pretty much the end of me drinking

1201
01:04:05,720 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 1: before we started filming. So smart, very smart.

1202
01:04:09,120 --> 01:04:14,560
Speaker 2: Anyway, I figured to show that as we end the show. Yes, yes,

1203
01:04:14,720 --> 01:04:18,560
Speaker 2: good talk man, that was awesome. I think not a

1204
01:04:18,560 --> 01:04:20,800
Speaker 2: bad warm up, right, not a bad warm up, not

1205
01:04:20,840 --> 01:04:22,480
Speaker 2: a first time, not a bad first time. I think

1206
01:04:22,480 --> 01:04:24,880
Speaker 2: we're going to have some questions for our listeners. I

1207
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:26,640
Speaker 2: think they're going to have a lot of questions for us.

1208
01:04:26,680 --> 01:04:30,000
Speaker 2: So yeah, if you enjoy the show and you have

1209
01:04:30,080 --> 01:04:32,520
Speaker 2: questions for us, please send them our way via email

1210
01:04:32,720 --> 01:04:36,800
Speaker 2: or Instagram. There's there's a lot of ways to send

1211
01:04:36,800 --> 01:04:39,000
Speaker 2: them over, even through our wives because they're the ones

1212
01:04:39,000 --> 01:04:39,920
Speaker 2: that rupped us into this.

1213
01:04:40,960 --> 01:04:44,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, and please leave a review, and again, you could

1214
01:04:44,880 --> 01:04:49,840
Speaker 1: ask us any questions from face, Family, Fitness, finance, fun

1215
01:04:49,920 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 1: like anything you want, Like just anything you want and

1216
01:04:53,800 --> 01:04:57,720
Speaker 1: leave a review and when they say hold back with

1217
01:04:57,760 --> 01:04:58,480
Speaker 1: our answers either.

1218
01:04:59,040 --> 01:05:01,320
Speaker 2: If you and joy the show, please share it with

1219
01:05:01,360 --> 01:05:04,560
Speaker 2: your friends. That's what's going to help us continue the show.

1220
01:05:04,680 --> 01:05:08,800
Speaker 2: So we're doing it to just share our experience, give

1221
01:05:08,840 --> 01:05:12,640
Speaker 2: you the male perspective on this whole housewife life.

1222
01:05:13,720 --> 01:05:16,080
Speaker 1: All right, guys, we'll see you next time. Oh and

1223
01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:17,400
Speaker 1: don't forget leave a review.

1224
01:05:17,680 --> 01:05:19,520
Speaker 2: It's very important for us to know if we're doing

1225
01:05:19,520 --> 01:05:20,640
Speaker 2: something right or something wrong.

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Speaker 1: There we go, We'll talk to you later then