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Speaker 2: On this week's episode in her Space, Thank you one.

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Speaker 3: Black people, especially women, and you know, black men and

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Speaker 3: women being overly sexualized just naturally, like.

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Speaker 4: We're we never able to own our bodies.

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Speaker 3: We're fetishized by other racists and people just in general,

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Speaker 3: and even just like within ourselves, we fetishize like hood

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Speaker 5: Welcome to Her, a podcast dedicated to uplifting women like you.

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Speaker 5: We're your hosts, Doctor Dominique Broussard, a college professor and psychologist.

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Speaker 2: And Terry Lomax, a techy and motivational speaker. In a

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Speaker 2: world where black women are often misrepresented and misunderstood. Please

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Speaker 2: join us as we initiate authentic conversations on everything from

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Speaker 2: fibroids to fake friends and create a safe space where

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Speaker 2: black women can.

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Speaker 6: Just flee lead.

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Speaker 2: Today, for the first time in her space, we have

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Speaker 2: two very special guests at once. These ladies will empower

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Speaker 2: you to free yourself and Joe Cheeks. We have sister

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Speaker 2: duo Breezy and Bobby, founders of Free the Cheeks to Church.

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Speaker 2: Free the Cheeks is a high energy torque class focused

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Speaker 2: on creating a safe environment where women reconnect with self,

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Speaker 2: support one another, and are free from social stigmas placed

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Speaker 2: on twerking and women's bodies. But don't get it twisted though,

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Speaker 2: these sisters are straight healers. Breezie is a certified massage

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Speaker 2: therapist and doulah and Bobby is a certified massage therapist

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Speaker 2: and web designer. Breezy and Bobby Welcome to the show.

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Speaker 4: Thank you, car. I like that really did the research.

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Speaker 4: She feels that I.

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Speaker 5: Appreciate too, And so we're going to start off with

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Speaker 5: our quote of the day, which usually kind of guides

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Speaker 5: our conversation for today. If any female feels she needs

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Speaker 5: anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence. She

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Speaker 5: is already giving away her power to be self defining

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Speaker 5: her agency, and that comes from bell Hooks.

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Speaker 4: And already head like you're like in it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, who is the bell Hooks is a feminist black women?

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Speaker 4: Yes, you see your quotes or see it you let

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Speaker 4: all those shit? Yeah, yeah, it's amazing. No, that's true,

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Speaker 4: that's true. All right.

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Speaker 2: So for the listeners that are not familiar with your movement,

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Speaker 2: let's just get started. How would you describe for the

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Speaker 2: cheeks Because we know what it is because down we've been,

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Speaker 2: we freed our cheeks. We know what it's like. So

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Speaker 2: explain that to our listeners. We have a global audience,

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Speaker 2: so you have women that are in i mean every

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Speaker 6: We we're touching right now.

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Speaker 2: So let them know what is for the cheeks and

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Speaker 2: then what inspired you to found that sisterhood.

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Speaker 3: Free the Cheeks is it's not just a class. It's

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Speaker 3: a space to basically be free and be wherever you are,

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Speaker 3: however you are, and not feel guilty or uncomfortable in that,

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Speaker 3: connecting space where so many women meet each other and

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Speaker 3: build friendships and sisterhoods outside even outside of our class.

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Speaker 4: To our church, it's real church.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it's like a church, like when you go to church,

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Speaker 7: you call it service and everything. Yeah, it's the same thing,

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Speaker 7: but it's just in a different form. It's community, it's love,

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Speaker 7: it's healing, all the things you would find in a

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Speaker 7: that's what our class is like. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and just to set the vibe, Like, lady, if

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Speaker 2: you've never heard of them or been to the you know,

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Speaker 2: it's like a whole vibe. It's just positivity, no judgment. Tom,

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Speaker 5: Went, I did, and I think what it really did

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I feel like sensuality is every woman's birthright. Like

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Speaker 7: and that's something that you don't have to be, like,

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Speaker 4: Because you could engage with yourself and do that.

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Speaker 7: But what I'm saying is like, sensuality is for self,

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Speaker 4: I don't know what the fuck is wrong with them.

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Speaker 7: I do though, it is powerful to think that, damn,

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Speaker 7: these women can do all this without men. But you know,

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Speaker 7: You know, a lot of things we do go against nature,

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Speaker 7: And so I feel like what happened is that our

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Speaker 2: So when I think about the work that you do

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Speaker 2: so I found out about your class because I've been

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Speaker 6: And my husband saw it on social media.

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Speaker 2: He was like, oh, you would love this, so yeah,

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Speaker 2: and it summed up so perfectly like what the conflict

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Speaker 2: and then talk about the sensuality. Yeah, so she said,

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Speaker 2: I love free the cheeks so much and full transparency.

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Speaker 2: I struggle with Shane every time they post a video.

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Speaker 2: I feel conflicted. Her gifts and talent speak to me

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Speaker 2: and challenge what I've been programmed to believe. I think

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Speaker 6: I was just like, damn.

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Speaker 2: And it makes me think, like, what were we taught

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Speaker 2: being for you first, not for me first, like being

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Speaker 6: So what were we taught about that growing up?

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Speaker 3: I think a lot of it is, and I think

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Speaker 4: We never was able to own our bodies.

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Speaker 3: We're fetishized by other raceists and people just in general,

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Speaker 7: In addition to that, though, I feel like being that

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Speaker 4: But we didn't know what that looks like.

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Speaker 7: And I feel like now we're defining what that looks like,

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Speaker 4: Like I'll be telling people when y'all come to class,

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Speaker 7: Think about your granting them your anteenom Everybody who wasn't

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Speaker 3: And then I think on the other side of that

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Speaker 5: What is this?

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Speaker 4: I think it's scary.

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Speaker 3: I think I think because it's something that's powerful, and

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Speaker 3: I think that a lot of people will have turned

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Speaker 5: Of no, And I think, like you were saying, like

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Speaker 4: It's making me look at my shape. That's painful. And

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Speaker 7: Twenty four to seven. We're in America to be black.

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Speaker 7: I wish I would have you know, they weren't taught

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Speaker 4: They wish they would have waited. They wish they would

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Speaker 7: It's just shit like that that I feel like as

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Speaker 4: You know, So if I'm if.

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Speaker 7: Bobby's if this is my slave, little woman, or this

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Speaker 7: is you know these people. You know, y'all senu out

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Speaker 4: Salute to us because it's like we deal with so

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Speaker 7: It doesn't look like that anymore obviously, but uh, I

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Speaker 4: Way that we deal with, Like I wasn't even mad

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Speaker 7: That's why I won't never get mad at none of

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Speaker 4: They couldn't, you know, So I don't know. It's just

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Speaker 7: I just want them to see like I just shifted,

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Speaker 4: Which one the ones she left the common Why are

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Speaker 7: I had to get her, let me go get but

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Speaker 7: I ain't get her like that. I got her in

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Speaker 6: You know, just letting her know I've seen. That's actually

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Speaker 2: I've seen comments when you first started where people were

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Speaker 2: In my mind, I'm like, why the fuck did we

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Speaker 2: And they couldn't control their urgents, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 4: For some reason.

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Speaker 7: Our people like back then like not for some reason,

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Speaker 7: End of the day, they was like, Okay, we're being

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Speaker 7: So like, you know, you want to maintain that. And

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Speaker 7: at our daughter. It's unacceptable. You need some help something.

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Speaker 7: What is going up coming up for you? You know

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Speaker 4: And we live in.

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Speaker 5: This patriarchal society where it's supposed to be about what

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Speaker 5: we approach the men who are behaving inappropriately, call them

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Speaker 5: But then in order to stop the cycle, we also

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Speaker 5: our young boys to not only appreciate and respect women,

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Speaker 5: And so if we if we work. So if we're

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Speaker 5: And so then I think about, so you all work

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Speaker 3: We're not even touching on little boys. Boys are molested

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Speaker 3: in rape just as much as young girls, especially young

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Speaker 4: I'm clarified that's the pedophile was no longer running baseball

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Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, it's it's crazy.

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Speaker 2: And I think when when I see you too, and

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Speaker 2: I want to know, like where did that come from

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Speaker 2: I think now that I see it more and I'm like,

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Speaker 6: I see that it's not yet programming. It's like this

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Speaker 7: My mom let like my mom grew up, she was

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Speaker 7: She making stuff up, same stuff that we get back

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Speaker 7: never do that to my babies. My mama knew from jump.

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Speaker 7: I think, what hold is me cheap? They heard her

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Speaker 7: my mama feeling that she was like, I'm never doing

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Speaker 7: not Hella daughters. Hello kids, And she got a bunch

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 7: She never made us feel like our sensuality was a

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Speaker 7: She always she always hold the perverse accountable because it

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Speaker 4: Kidd she don't play that. She a warrior.

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Speaker 7: And we've been dancing like that even at family reunions

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Speaker 7: I don't know, we ain't get down like that, like

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Speaker 7: And so it was never like ooh, look at them,

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Speaker 7: That's what happens. But the perversion comes in when I think,

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Speaker 7: I don't know, like you, the internet got some crazy

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Speaker 7: women are introduced into like if we go off Christianity

436
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:09,200
Speaker 7: because we can talk about religion exactly.

437
00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:12,880
Speaker 3: Put to the burner is like these kind of basically

438
00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:15,160
Speaker 3: like servants or something or just well also the people

439
00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:17,280
Speaker 3: who brought like in religion.

440
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:21,440
Speaker 7: But we're the ones who brought like in Christianity. For example,

441
00:20:21,480 --> 00:20:27,280
Speaker 7: like Eve, you know, she's considered like yes, yeah, you know,

442
00:20:27,320 --> 00:20:29,760
Speaker 7: so they introduced us as that and you have that programming,

443
00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:31,320
Speaker 7: you know, so then of course you're gonna have a

444
00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:34,240
Speaker 7: view that women's bodies are like, you know, only for

445
00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:37,080
Speaker 7: sexual use, like that's how you were introduced if you

446
00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 7: follow in that religion, you being brought up in that.

447
00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:40,720
Speaker 4: You know, we can't fall to ogs.

448
00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:42,840
Speaker 5: I mean when you say that, like I think about

449
00:20:43,440 --> 00:20:46,359
Speaker 5: and this is completely off topic kind disorder, but like

450
00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:52,600
Speaker 5: breastfeeding and the issues that come up in families where

451
00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:58,320
Speaker 5: men will experience like jealousy because when the woman is

452
00:20:58,320 --> 00:21:03,359
Speaker 5: breastfeeding the child, and then the idea of breastfeeding looked

453
00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:07,320
Speaker 5: at as a perversion to do in public spaces, but

454
00:21:07,400 --> 00:21:10,640
Speaker 5: it's because we've been socialized in conditioned to look at

455
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:14,560
Speaker 5: our bodies always in a sexual way. When breastfeeding is

456
00:21:14,560 --> 00:21:16,879
Speaker 5: one of the most natural things you can do. You

457
00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:18,720
Speaker 5: are literally feeding.

458
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:20,760
Speaker 4: Your body produces it.

459
00:21:20,880 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 7: So why would if my body naturally do this, why

460
00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:26,360
Speaker 7: would I take your thoughts? You know, you just a regular,

461
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:30,160
Speaker 7: regular person. My body naturally produces this for my baby.

462
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:31,960
Speaker 7: You're gonna tell me that it's not you know.

463
00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:33,080
Speaker 4: It's not good.

464
00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:34,879
Speaker 7: It's not good for what I guess the people to

465
00:21:34,880 --> 00:21:37,600
Speaker 7: see like that doesn't make sense. It's not good for

466
00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:40,080
Speaker 7: my baby. And obviously it's obviously helping my baby, but

467
00:21:40,240 --> 00:21:42,160
Speaker 7: that's because they have a skew view of like what

468
00:21:42,280 --> 00:21:44,960
Speaker 7: women are for, like what our existence. They think They

469
00:21:45,040 --> 00:21:47,080
Speaker 7: just we just here to get fucked by them. I

470
00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:49,600
Speaker 7: guess that's what they think. They think our bodies belong

471
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:52,080
Speaker 7: to them. And that's the only way you could pervert

472
00:21:52,240 --> 00:21:55,520
Speaker 7: breastfeeding because you think about you second minded, what is

473
00:21:55,520 --> 00:21:57,040
Speaker 7: the problem, what's this issue?

474
00:21:57,600 --> 00:21:58,440
Speaker 4: They produce milk?

475
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:02,320
Speaker 5: And as we're talking about body parts, we already use

476
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:04,280
Speaker 5: the word pussy, and so I want us to go

477
00:22:04,400 --> 00:22:05,359
Speaker 5: back to that word.

478
00:22:06,040 --> 00:22:09,400
Speaker 4: And how do you all.

479
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:12,360
Speaker 5: In your classes in your life, like when you're engaging

480
00:22:12,400 --> 00:22:17,359
Speaker 5: with people, how do you get women to be comfortable

481
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 5: with that?

482
00:22:18,040 --> 00:22:20,200
Speaker 4: Put it in the face. You got to put it

483
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:20,800
Speaker 4: in the face.

484
00:22:21,480 --> 00:22:26,720
Speaker 3: You know what's weird is because like vagina like literally

485
00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 3: means like swordholder or like yeah, like that's what vagina means.

486
00:22:31,800 --> 00:22:34,560
Speaker 3: And people are so comfortable with using vagina when it

487
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:37,600
Speaker 3: literally means like to like basically like something that holds

488
00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:38,360
Speaker 3: the swords.

489
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:43,120
Speaker 6: Like this is a penis garage basically garage. That is wild.

490
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:44,880
Speaker 6: I need to do my research on that, cause that's

491
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:46,080
Speaker 6: why I have known people.

492
00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:48,840
Speaker 3: It's so trippy when you know that and you hear

493
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,040
Speaker 3: people like people some people in class will be like

494
00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:54,439
Speaker 3: even if we say them pussy, they'll be like vagina,

495
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:56,760
Speaker 3: Like they'll try to think that they're being more proper,

496
00:22:57,119 --> 00:23:00,960
Speaker 3: like you know whatever, and it's like cursing it.

497
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:04,080
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, don't do that. So we just reclaim it.

498
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 3: And I used to do that. I used to like

499
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:08,199
Speaker 3: I'm one of the people who used to be very

500
00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,280
Speaker 3: uncomfortable with like saying words like dick and pussy, like

501
00:23:11,359 --> 00:23:14,560
Speaker 3: I just felt very like some beautiful.

502
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:17,840
Speaker 7: Workucky, Like you know, those are some beautiful words. We

503
00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:20,720
Speaker 7: have to reclaim that just like we reclaim nigga. You know,

504
00:23:20,880 --> 00:23:22,919
Speaker 7: black people, we just do what we do. So the

505
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:25,119
Speaker 7: thing is what we do is we hold space around

506
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:27,640
Speaker 7: the womb. Y'all know how I go and free to cheeks.

507
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 7: The womb is the most important thing ever. It's the

508
00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:31,800
Speaker 7: reason we're all in this room together, you know, And

509
00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 7: so we try to reclaim it. And pussy is the

510
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:37,399
Speaker 7: most beautiful word ever, just like just saying it sounds

511
00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:40,359
Speaker 7: so lovely, like the vibration emits, you know, it shocks people.

512
00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 7: Mockers be like, yes, we did, we did, you know.

513
00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 7: And I've realized that like the way that we hold

514
00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,199
Speaker 7: space matters. And like when people realize, like because you know,

515
00:23:50,200 --> 00:23:52,359
Speaker 7: you don't usually hear pussy, would like niggas be like

516
00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:53,840
Speaker 7: I want some pussy or yin Yane.

517
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:56,000
Speaker 4: Twins pop that pussy. That's the only way you hear it.

518
00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 7: You've never heard it, like free to Cheeks say it,

519
00:23:58,680 --> 00:24:00,480
Speaker 7: you know, and it's like, damn, these women lifting us

520
00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,560
Speaker 7: and they stand pussy. I'm gonna say it, you know.

521
00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 7: So I think that's that that helps, cause it's like

522
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 7: we reclaim it. Like again, like the word pussy, I

523
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:08,800
Speaker 7: feel like belong to men.

524
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 4: You know to be like it's something that belongs to us.

525
00:24:11,800 --> 00:24:13,879
Speaker 7: But the word like it was they was only the

526
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:16,080
Speaker 7: ones they were main mainly the people who use it.

527
00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:18,320
Speaker 4: Women never used They were shamed. You know.

528
00:24:19,440 --> 00:24:22,639
Speaker 5: I remember growing up and Bobby, You're wearing a Prince

529
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:26,120
Speaker 5: t shirt and it made me think about. Prince has

530
00:24:26,160 --> 00:24:30,440
Speaker 5: a song called Pussy Control. I ain't heard that in

531
00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:33,520
Speaker 5: the song, like basically he's like writing the script, like

532
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:38,200
Speaker 5: telling us that, like we need to reclaim it, that

533
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:43,760
Speaker 5: we need to recognize our power. And he gives a

534
00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:48,359
Speaker 5: couple of examples of women who kind of lost that

535
00:24:48,520 --> 00:24:53,400
Speaker 5: power or never never realized that power, and then they

536
00:24:53,440 --> 00:24:56,320
Speaker 5: eventually did, like through the lyrics of the song, like

537
00:24:56,359 --> 00:25:00,560
Speaker 5: he explained how to tap into it and get that control.

538
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 4: I love Prince.

539
00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,159
Speaker 7: He a real one, a real nigga, gona empower you

540
00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:06,680
Speaker 7: for real, Like, ain't nobody we do be having free

541
00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 7: cheeks haters. But I'm like, if you hating on us this,

542
00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:12,000
Speaker 7: you ain't tapped him with self, because a real man

543
00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,719
Speaker 7: gonna want his woman to be in tune with herself

544
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,520
Speaker 7: on all levels. Because I ain't gonna do nothing but

545
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:19,680
Speaker 7: make him better. You go handing in Prince are real

546
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,960
Speaker 7: when he was so comfortable in self, Like, but you know.

547
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:25,720
Speaker 5: And when you're comfortable in self, you are okay with

548
00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 5: other people being comfortable with self. So that goes back

549
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,199
Speaker 5: to what you were saying that a lot of a

550
00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:33,800
Speaker 5: lot of us are walking around on.

551
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 3: Hell four seven.

552
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 8: That's what we're still don't school shoot up schools though,

553
00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 8: And that's why too when I read like the comments

554
00:25:42,840 --> 00:25:44,960
Speaker 8: and said, I really don't take this so personal because

555
00:25:45,119 --> 00:25:48,560
Speaker 8: like a lot of it is just like doing something

556
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:51,879
Speaker 8: to other people internally and forcing them to have to

557
00:25:51,920 --> 00:25:54,440
Speaker 8: look at what's going on within them, and like.

558
00:25:54,400 --> 00:25:56,960
Speaker 3: We can project like the Internet I saw people do

559
00:25:57,040 --> 00:25:59,040
Speaker 3: is project all day long. They go comment on other

560
00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:01,240
Speaker 3: people's lives and be like like you know, telling they

561
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,320
Speaker 3: and it's like, how would you know that you know

562
00:26:03,359 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 3: absolutely nothing about these people like you know, or this

563
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:08,480
Speaker 3: this event? You never been there, you never seen that

564
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,119
Speaker 3: person in real life, You never had a conversation with

565
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 3: these people, So how can you just like spew whatever

566
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 3: your opinion is and think believe that it's fact. But

567
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:16,560
Speaker 3: it's because it's whatever is going on with you and

568
00:26:16,600 --> 00:26:18,080
Speaker 3: you really just talking to yourself.

569
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 7: And unfortunately it comes from niggas the most. I'm like, damn,

570
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 7: it just shows how much work we got to. Oh yeah,

571
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 7: black people hate on free to cheek the most, but

572
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,959
Speaker 7: it's because they the most triggered, Like nobody's validating us.

573
00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:30,399
Speaker 7: So I'm not even surprised, you know, like theyre they

574
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:32,040
Speaker 7: more accepting of a white girl's working.

575
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 6: You know, they're.

576
00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 4: Even more accepted.

577
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,639
Speaker 7: That too, but even they're even more accepting of a

578
00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:42,040
Speaker 7: gay black man's working than a black woman.

579
00:26:42,960 --> 00:26:45,399
Speaker 4: I don't know what y'all issue is with black women,

580
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 4: you know, I think I do know what it is.

581
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:48,080
Speaker 4: I do know what it is.

582
00:26:48,280 --> 00:26:50,480
Speaker 7: You know with the end off be y'all not trying

583
00:26:50,480 --> 00:26:53,159
Speaker 7: to our own horn, but you know, beat beat, you know,

584
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:56,120
Speaker 7: it just is what it is. So I think that

585
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 7: that kind of upsets, like, you know, upsets people. And

586
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:02,560
Speaker 7: it's like I think a lot of people feel comfortable

587
00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:06,160
Speaker 7: getting like like like you said, we bring up things

588
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,200
Speaker 7: and people, so a lot of women don't get along.

589
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:09,960
Speaker 4: We know that that's why we do for this cause

590
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 4: we do.

591
00:27:10,160 --> 00:27:12,560
Speaker 7: That sisters are It's so important because it's important to

592
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:13,840
Speaker 7: get in there and let people know this is not

593
00:27:13,880 --> 00:27:14,520
Speaker 7: a competition.

594
00:27:14,760 --> 00:27:16,879
Speaker 4: This is your sister. If one fuck up, we all

595
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:17,320
Speaker 4: fuck up.

596
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:18,960
Speaker 7: You know, it's not like I look better than next

597
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:20,840
Speaker 7: you at your level, she where she at, you know,

598
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,159
Speaker 7: and a lot of we have to like hammer that

599
00:27:23,200 --> 00:27:25,919
Speaker 7: in asap because me and Bobby, you know, we sisters,

600
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 7: we were taught that too.

601
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 4: My mama. She never put us against each other, you know.

602
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:31,160
Speaker 4: We she light, I'm dark.

603
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,359
Speaker 7: Mama treated us both the same, you know, and a

604
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 7: lot of it's so perfect. I'm glad it's like that too,

605
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:38,640
Speaker 7: Like I'm glad that you're a light skinned person. I'm

606
00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:41,880
Speaker 7: a brown skin person, because women have issues with that too.

607
00:27:41,960 --> 00:27:43,720
Speaker 7: So when they come into the space and they see that,

608
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 7: it's powerful, you know, it's powerful that.

609
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 2: But also let's talk about body type because I know,

610
00:27:49,080 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 2: even for me personally, depending on where how hormonial I am,

611
00:27:52,040 --> 00:27:54,400
Speaker 2: how am I feeling myself? One day I might walk

612
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:56,440
Speaker 2: into the space and I know that you all set

613
00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:58,680
Speaker 2: the tone where it's like non judgmental. It doesn't matter

614
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:00,760
Speaker 2: what size you are with if you are, you are

615
00:28:00,760 --> 00:28:03,439
Speaker 2: invited and you are celebrated. But for the women that

616
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:08,439
Speaker 2: are maybe insecure because they see her body, you know,

617
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 2: her body looks so amazing. I'm lacking in this area.

618
00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:13,680
Speaker 2: How did is that something that you all have ever

619
00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:15,560
Speaker 2: struggled with and how did you come back that? And

620
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 2: if not, what do you say to women who are

621
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,119
Speaker 2: just really insecure with their own self?

622
00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,880
Speaker 3: Well, I mean everybody's always like, my body don't move

623
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:26,440
Speaker 3: like Breezy's, and I'm like, my body don't move like Breezy's.

624
00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:28,840
Speaker 3: Like I don't know that I will ever get to that,

625
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 3: but they write it on camera.

626
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,159
Speaker 4: My body is little booty.

627
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 2: Okay, don't really do all day, but and that's what

628
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:36,000
Speaker 2: we say.

629
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:39,000
Speaker 4: That's the main, the main remind So we also will.

630
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 7: Use ourselves like, look, Bobby has no buddy and Bobby

631
00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 7: Bobby is nobody.

632
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 3: It's not about the sign, so it has nothing to

633
00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:47,600
Speaker 3: do with that. And then it's also just really important

634
00:28:47,640 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 3: to know that you don't you're not supposed to look

635
00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:52,360
Speaker 3: like anybody, thank you, Like we get so wrapped up

636
00:28:52,400 --> 00:28:54,000
Speaker 3: in trying to I need to do it like that.

637
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 3: And so anytime we're in classes, like anytime I'm teaching,

638
00:28:56,800 --> 00:28:59,960
Speaker 3: I'm like, do what you feel, and you're not supposed

639
00:28:59,960 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 3: to look like me. I'm not here to teach you

640
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,480
Speaker 3: how to dance like me. I'm trying to help you

641
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 3: just open up within yourself, Like it's not about you

642
00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 3: looking like somebody else or looking like the people on

643
00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 3: Instagram that you see, you know, doing whatever they do.

644
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 3: That everybody's different and it's not supposed to be the same.

645
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 3: Like this is the whole thing. We have these like

646
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:22,080
Speaker 3: ideas that everything is supposed to be this one way

647
00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 3: and there's this structure of how life should go and

648
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 3: what family structures should look like, and what you should

649
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:29,560
Speaker 3: look like and how people should look. It's all this

650
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 3: like one idea and it's like that is so not real.

651
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:34,760
Speaker 4: Yeah, yo, yo's a lie.

652
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 3: And like the more that we can get people to

653
00:29:37,800 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 3: see that that's that's not real, then we can get

654
00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:43,200
Speaker 3: people just open up and then you feel just regular

655
00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:46,200
Speaker 3: and just like in yourself versus being like, yeah, look

656
00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:47,920
Speaker 3: like we got to remind it of other people.

657
00:29:47,960 --> 00:29:49,360
Speaker 4: I'll be telling this what I tell niggas.

658
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 7: Look, look, you got society telling you twenty four to

659
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 7: seven that you ugly. You know, you got society tell

660
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 7: you that you're not enough. Why would you then turn

661
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:57,400
Speaker 7: around and powle on to that.

662
00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 4: You know.

663
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:01,240
Speaker 7: It's like, and it's good when you bring back to kids,

664
00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:02,000
Speaker 7: because we all.

665
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,360
Speaker 4: Just big kids walking around. But if you this. It

666
00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 4: happened to me too.

667
00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 7: You gotta you got to kind of bring that childhood

668
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 7: energy back because when you it's innocent, right, and when

669
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,160
Speaker 7: you think of children, you think of innocence. And so

670
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:15,880
Speaker 7: what I say is like, you know, you got to

671
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 7: talk to yourself how you would talk to you know,

672
00:30:18,720 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 7: your daughter or like your little cousin or something. And

673
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 7: then that, I don't know, it does something because you

674
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,240
Speaker 7: really think back, you go back in your mind, you

675
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,240
Speaker 7: think when you was a kid, like, damn, if me

676
00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 7: as a grown person, if I was talking to myself

677
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:31,320
Speaker 7: as it hurts, you know, but you know we think

678
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 7: just because we big, were big and we adults and

679
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 7: we grown, that we still not them kids and you

680
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 7: know that that.

681
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:43,680
Speaker 4: That we could y yeah, and it's like it's never

682
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,600
Speaker 4: been okay, and so we always got to bring it

683
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:47,920
Speaker 4: back to like honoring self. That's what we always got

684
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:48,200
Speaker 4: to do.

685
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:52,840
Speaker 5: We're lacking, yeah, we lack self compassion and so it's

686
00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:56,480
Speaker 5: about bringing in that self compassion.

687
00:30:56,680 --> 00:30:58,280
Speaker 4: That's what I'd be having to tell. That's what it is.

688
00:30:58,320 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 4: That's the only thing it is.

689
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:01,840
Speaker 7: And once once you get they can it's it's not like,

690
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:03,360
Speaker 7: oh they just love that stuff after that.

691
00:31:03,440 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 4: It's not like that. It's a process exactly, but just

692
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 4: that little just switch.

693
00:31:08,400 --> 00:31:10,240
Speaker 7: They be like, oh shit, you're right. You know, I

694
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 7: wouldn't talk to a little kid like that. I wouldn't

695
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:13,640
Speaker 7: talk to you know, So I'm not gonna talk to

696
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:14,440
Speaker 7: myself like that.

697
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 4: And it is. It's a struggle. I still do it too,

698
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 4: So you know, I love that though.

699
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,320
Speaker 2: I think it's a lifelong journey, and I love just

700
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,600
Speaker 2: the vibe and the class. When you get there, it's

701
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 2: just like we're celebrating everyone, like you, you know, even

702
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,080
Speaker 2: when we have our sister circle and you're like, it's

703
00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:30,160
Speaker 2: not about you talking right now.

704
00:31:30,160 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 6: We're celebrating the women in the middle to give them love,

705
00:31:32,600 --> 00:31:34,000
Speaker 6: to show them love and respect.

706
00:31:34,320 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 5: I keep hearing you all reference this sister circle. Can

707
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,440
Speaker 5: you talk to us a little bit more about like

708
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:42,240
Speaker 5: what happens in that sister circle?

709
00:31:42,320 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 4: We laugh.

710
00:31:42,920 --> 00:31:48,960
Speaker 3: We based there's basically about three different circles we start, so, okay,

711
00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,680
Speaker 3: we also have an alter setup. If I didn't mention

712
00:31:51,760 --> 00:31:54,480
Speaker 3: that earlier. We set up an altar, We clean the floors,

713
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:56,920
Speaker 3: we clean the space before we start, and then before

714
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 3: we even start class, we sit in a circle and

715
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 3: we talk, and that.

716
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:02,760
Speaker 4: That act alone people be like I'm a powerful bitch.

717
00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 7: These motherfuckers are cleaned up for me, you know, they

718
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 7: making the space clean, like you know.

719
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 3: So, And our prompt is usually something along lines of

720
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 3: like name your sign, and then we'll have something that

721
00:32:14,120 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 3: either something that is resonating with us that day or

722
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,600
Speaker 3: just something simple like sometimes we go how you feel

723
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:24,160
Speaker 3: in or how you know around the environment, or things

724
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:28,000
Speaker 3: like that based around whatever's going on, and that really

725
00:32:28,560 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 3: opens up the space because if you get if you

726
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:35,800
Speaker 3: know something about somebody, then you feel more connected to them,

727
00:32:36,280 --> 00:32:38,560
Speaker 3: and you feel more comfortable in a space with somebody

728
00:32:38,640 --> 00:32:41,280
Speaker 3: versus just walking to a dance class and you just

729
00:32:41,320 --> 00:32:44,040
Speaker 3: look around like, oh, I guess we just finished our dancing.

730
00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,640
Speaker 3: Like community in that, Yeah, there's no community in that,

731
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 3: there's no comfortability in that, there's no.

732
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,280
Speaker 4: There's no you in that.

733
00:32:51,720 --> 00:32:54,760
Speaker 3: You're just a number, you don't really matter.

734
00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 7: And we felt that that's why we had to do

735
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,120
Speaker 7: free way that we did it because we both started

736
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:02,239
Speaker 7: off going to dance classes and like I've always been

737
00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 7: able to like I've been like the dance of the family.

738
00:33:04,280 --> 00:33:07,000
Speaker 7: Bobby can dance too, but she's shy you know, like

739
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:08,880
Speaker 7: I'm talking like brazy, get out there and do that

740
00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:10,960
Speaker 7: dance and it's me and then Bobby would be.

741
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 4: She brust out in tears.

742
00:33:12,240 --> 00:33:16,440
Speaker 3: I do not consider myself a dancer. Yeah, I really don't. Yeah,

743
00:33:16,600 --> 00:33:17,320
Speaker 3: I really don't.

744
00:33:17,680 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 4: She she's also done.

745
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,640
Speaker 2: I feel like Bobby her polework. I feel like that's

746
00:33:21,640 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 2: like you're twerking crazy and then Bobby like and sensual.

747
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:26,920
Speaker 2: I feel like I and I'm just seeing the videos.

748
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:28,320
Speaker 6: I'm like, yeah, I want to teach me how to

749
00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 6: do that, Bobby.

750
00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:30,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know. I just signed up for a poll

751
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:32,960
Speaker 3: class too. They don't haven't touched a pole in like

752
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:37,480
Speaker 3: a year and a half. I'm scared, so terrible.

753
00:33:37,520 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 5: But you're gonna be fine because your body memorizes, Yes,

754
00:33:41,280 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 5: Like you get that muscle memory and so like even

755
00:33:43,800 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 5: with with twerking, like our body, if we teach our

756
00:33:47,920 --> 00:33:51,440
Speaker 5: bodies to move in certain ways, we'll develop that muscle

757
00:33:51,480 --> 00:33:53,680
Speaker 5: memory and it'll start to become natural.

758
00:33:53,800 --> 00:33:57,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, and it's so much healing in that bro like

759
00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:01,200
Speaker 7: movement is medicine. Niggas don't even know, like there's like

760
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,719
Speaker 7: we store like stress in the body.

761
00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:07,600
Speaker 3: You know, a lot of our bones and our muscles.

762
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 4: And our wombs.

763
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:09,879
Speaker 7: You know, women hold a lot of You always see

764
00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:12,480
Speaker 7: women with that kangaroo pouch. We all are trauma.

765
00:34:12,560 --> 00:34:12,759
Speaker 4: Shit.

766
00:34:13,120 --> 00:34:15,480
Speaker 7: It goes to where our wombs are, you know, and

767
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 7: when we move that, like women be sweating harder than

768
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 7: they ever sweat it ever, And it's like duh, you

769
00:34:20,200 --> 00:34:24,600
Speaker 7: you it's it's literally where everything is. And in the gym,

770
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:26,879
Speaker 7: they don't honor your body, you know, they're not they're not.

771
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 4: Set up stuff.

772
00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 7: Oh this is for women to move this, you know,

773
00:34:29,640 --> 00:34:32,279
Speaker 7: the womb. Something to strengthen the womb. They don't have that,

774
00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,080
Speaker 7: you know. So it's like, of course you're gonna sweat

775
00:34:34,120 --> 00:34:36,000
Speaker 7: ten times more. Of course you're gonna feel like you

776
00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 7: get more of a workout because you're actually listening to you.

777
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:40,759
Speaker 7: You're not treating yourself like a robot or like, I

778
00:34:40,760 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 7: don't know the gym, I'm not really a fan of it.

779
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:43,760
Speaker 4: Come to free the cheeks.

780
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 3: Let's go. So then our second circle is the closing

781
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 3: work circle. And this circle is basically every woman gets

782
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,279
Speaker 3: a chance to freestyle and do her own thing and

783
00:34:56,280 --> 00:34:59,680
Speaker 3: gets the spotlight basically, and everyone around her it's celebrating

784
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 3: bringing her, pumping her up and like cheering her on

785
00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 3: and just like encouraging her and validing her all that

786
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 3: good stuff that we don't do. And usually how we go,

787
00:35:09,760 --> 00:35:12,640
Speaker 3: we'll call our birthdays first, so if it's like somebody's birthday,

788
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:15,319
Speaker 3: they'll go first. We'll put on birthday music. Whatever. We

789
00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:17,799
Speaker 3: go through every single person until everybody gets a turn

790
00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:19,640
Speaker 3: and nobody can skip the circle.

791
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:20,879
Speaker 4: Yeah we shuh like.

792
00:35:20,880 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 3: If people try to skip the circle, we'll pull you in.

793
00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 3: We're gonna everybody's gonna crowd around you.

794
00:35:25,840 --> 00:35:25,920
Speaker 7: Like.

795
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:28,920
Speaker 3: We just make sure that everybody feels good and that

796
00:35:29,000 --> 00:35:35,120
Speaker 3: they're like open, and then uh, the last and then

797
00:35:35,120 --> 00:35:37,759
Speaker 3: we'll do it like a fool. Everybody just dances. They

798
00:35:37,840 --> 00:35:39,840
Speaker 3: everybody just frees outs and everybody will get their cameras

799
00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,200
Speaker 3: out or whatever if they want to, you know, and

800
00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:44,879
Speaker 3: record themselves and their friends or you know, wherever they

801
00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:47,719
Speaker 3: over by stuff like that. And it's just so cute

802
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:50,280
Speaker 3: to see so many like women are just so cute

803
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 3: because it just it's so innocent and it's just so pure,

804
00:35:54,239 --> 00:35:55,799
Speaker 3: like you know, to see.

805
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 7: That and you never get to break out like that, right,

806
00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:01,399
Speaker 7: you know, we literally walk like I don't know if

807
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 7: you notice a pervert man you know, you don't want

808
00:36:03,000 --> 00:36:04,840
Speaker 7: your cheeks jiggling, your titties bouncing.

809
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 4: We have so much like bruh.

810
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:10,200
Speaker 7: We don't even think about every day shit like you

811
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,799
Speaker 7: try not to draw attention to yourself, you know, and

812
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:14,719
Speaker 7: it's like a free sheeasily like damn, y'all won't be

813
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:15,200
Speaker 7: just you.

814
00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,800
Speaker 4: Know, go out there and go and they do even.

815
00:36:17,600 --> 00:36:19,360
Speaker 2: When you go out dancing, like I can never go

816
00:36:19,400 --> 00:36:21,480
Speaker 2: to the club and do what I do and cheeks

817
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:23,640
Speaker 2: like it's not a safe jay, So I objectify you

818
00:36:23,719 --> 00:36:26,040
Speaker 2: as perverted. It's like I'm not even doing it for that,

819
00:36:26,120 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 2: but the freedom that I get there and how sexy

820
00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:30,640
Speaker 2: and sensual I feel. I feel like I go home different,

821
00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 2: I'm able to do stuff at home. I'm just like

822
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:34,640
Speaker 2: you know what I mean. I got this from the class.

823
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 2: It's really good and end uplifting.

824
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 6: One thing you talked about, though, is that that sacred

825
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 6: chakra area. So let's talk about like how is how

826
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 6: is it?

827
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 2: How is that healing for us when we've experienced trauma?

828
00:36:45,120 --> 00:36:46,200
Speaker 2: Like what does that do for us?

829
00:36:46,239 --> 00:36:47,680
Speaker 6: I guess? And what have you heard from other women

830
00:36:47,719 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 6: who've come to the class.

831
00:36:50,160 --> 00:36:53,279
Speaker 4: I think it's uh, because what we do is we never.

832
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,560
Speaker 7: Me and Bobby are never like uh, Like our church

833
00:36:56,640 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 7: is a little different because you know, you go to

834
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,040
Speaker 7: church and them pastors that you know to put the

835
00:37:00,160 --> 00:37:02,600
Speaker 7: money in the pot. You know, they want the money,

836
00:37:02,640 --> 00:37:04,920
Speaker 7: they want the glory. Me and Babaa want that. We

837
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:07,399
Speaker 7: just we want women to feel that. Like our whole

838
00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:09,840
Speaker 7: thing is for you to come to freeiate fried cheeks,

839
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 7: feel joy, feel love, feel like you have community, feel

840
00:37:13,400 --> 00:37:15,000
Speaker 7: like you are in tune.

841
00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:16,520
Speaker 4: With you know, closer to self.

842
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 7: May not be as close as you like to be,

843
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:20,799
Speaker 7: but just back to self, just to put you back

844
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:23,040
Speaker 7: in the president in your body. We just want people

845
00:37:23,080 --> 00:37:26,200
Speaker 7: to have that for self and then radiate that, you know.

846
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,120
Speaker 7: So it's like you feel good and all that, and

847
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:29,640
Speaker 7: then I feel like once you go about your day,

848
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 7: you're gonna be on ten, you know, because you created

849
00:37:31,880 --> 00:37:32,520
Speaker 7: that vibration.

850
00:37:33,040 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 4: So one thing about us is like we we really

851
00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 4: try to.

852
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,040
Speaker 7: Give people their power back because that's all the world

853
00:37:39,080 --> 00:37:41,399
Speaker 7: does is take take take all day every day, even

854
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 7: with shit that come up on you. Fee how they

855
00:37:43,239 --> 00:37:44,920
Speaker 7: deal on the phones now they won't. They want to

856
00:37:44,960 --> 00:37:46,840
Speaker 7: know what you're interested in, so something we could be

857
00:37:46,840 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 7: talking about something and then it'll pop up later on

858
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:50,640
Speaker 7: my phone because they know we was talking about it.

859
00:37:50,680 --> 00:37:52,919
Speaker 7: You know, everything is trying to sell you something, Everything

860
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,040
Speaker 7: is trying to take you further away from self. So

861
00:37:55,080 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 7: with free cheeks, we just try to bring you back

862
00:37:56,800 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 7: to self. And then once you're there, you can there's

863
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,680
Speaker 7: it's infinite possibilities like what can happen and what comes up,

864
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,239
Speaker 7: you know, and what you might work through that day, like.

865
00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:08,600
Speaker 3: And even just on like a physical level of just

866
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 3: moving your body in those ways is like really big

867
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:18,960
Speaker 3: because we store so much in our bodies, and especially

868
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:20,839
Speaker 3: if you were younger and told not to t work

869
00:38:21,040 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 3: or like not to move your hips like that, or

870
00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 3: if you're very restricted, or if you've been sexually abused.

871
00:38:25,440 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 3: You like just think about if you got into a

872
00:38:27,920 --> 00:38:30,959
Speaker 3: car accident and you got hit on the left side

873
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,400
Speaker 3: and then you notice that that person's left shoulder is

874
00:38:33,480 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 3: higher than the right because you protect them right right,

875
00:38:36,239 --> 00:38:38,480
Speaker 3: So just think about that in your womb, like you're

876
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,320
Speaker 3: literally protecting it. So those public floor muscles are probably

877
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 3: always tight, They're never like releasing. You probably are like

878
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 3: got all kinds of like hamstring stuff going on, hip stuff,

879
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 3: And so when you start to move like that you

880
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:51,480
Speaker 3: notice people being like ooh, like you know, you get

881
00:38:51,520 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 3: them in a stretches.

882
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 4: The peace of mind.

883
00:38:53,520 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 3: You know.

884
00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 7: It's to answer the question is the possibilities are infinite.

885
00:38:57,080 --> 00:38:58,880
Speaker 7: Like that's why I said our circle, people be crying,

886
00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 7: people be laughing. It's like anything can come up because

887
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,320
Speaker 7: that's what happens. Like even in massage, they teach you

888
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:05,520
Speaker 7: you working on people's bodies.

889
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:06,880
Speaker 4: You know, you're working on people.

890
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,840
Speaker 7: Partsus, Like Bobby said, I got a lot of trauma,

891
00:39:09,160 --> 00:39:12,279
Speaker 7: and so they tell us to be we have to

892
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 7: ground in because you could start crying. You could start

893
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 7: like the person massage and they could start crying. Not you,

894
00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:20,279
Speaker 7: the massage therapist, but the client can begin crying. That

895
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:23,880
Speaker 7: they can they could start laughing uncontrollably. It's energy movie,

896
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:26,480
Speaker 7: you know. And it's like it doesn't it doesn't. It

897
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 7: doesn't have a look how it comes out.

898
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:30,000
Speaker 4: It doesn't. It just looks like whatever.

899
00:39:30,080 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 7: Like one woman was in Free the Cheeks and she

900
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 7: burst into tears because she was it was multiple things

901
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 7: for her. It was the fact that her family kept

902
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:39,719
Speaker 7: her away from dancing in this manner, you know, and

903
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 7: told her oh yo body, da da da, you know,

904
00:39:41,719 --> 00:39:43,759
Speaker 7: so she was triggered from that. The other thing was

905
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 7: that since she hadn't danced in that way, she felt stiff,

906
00:39:46,640 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 7: so she was in her head a lot. She was

907
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 7: thinking like, man, I don't look like everybody else, you know,

908
00:39:51,040 --> 00:39:53,320
Speaker 7: And so we had to like stop the music, stop

909
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:55,840
Speaker 7: everything and kind of just ground in and kind of,

910
00:39:56,239 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 7: you know, cater to her, because that's the thing too,

911
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,920
Speaker 7: with these bitches in these classes and they want to

912
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:02,760
Speaker 7: just do these classes.

913
00:40:02,800 --> 00:40:03,600
Speaker 4: They just ain't shit.

914
00:40:03,960 --> 00:40:06,359
Speaker 7: You know, you can literally trigger somebody, you know, if

915
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 7: you're doing it the right way, you know, but.

916
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:09,799
Speaker 4: You can trigger somebody. You got to be prepared to

917
00:40:09,800 --> 00:40:10,479
Speaker 4: deal with that. Shit.

918
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:13,640
Speaker 7: Like, like she got triggered, and we stopped everything, we

919
00:40:13,719 --> 00:40:15,719
Speaker 7: grounded in, we checked in with her, and it was

920
00:40:15,760 --> 00:40:18,760
Speaker 7: it was beautiful. Like everybody was like she was crying.

921
00:40:18,800 --> 00:40:20,799
Speaker 7: Other people started crying. Other people was like, you know,

922
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:22,319
Speaker 7: it's okay, and like it was.

923
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 3: It was.

924
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,360
Speaker 7: It was amazing to see the community around her. But basically,

925
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 7: it's like it shows up. It's unpredictable. You're gonna love

926
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 7: this next segment. So whenever we have guests on our show,

927
00:40:32,719 --> 00:40:33,960
Speaker 7: we have this segment.

928
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 2: Called oh you clash it, Oh you class it so

929
00:40:38,440 --> 00:40:42,320
Speaker 2: because we recognize and appreciate and celebrate the multifaceted woman

930
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:45,240
Speaker 2: and believe that it's okay to be classy and ratchet.

931
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,280
Speaker 6: You can still be elegant and dance.

932
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 2: To strip club music. We invite you to the oh

933
00:40:49,040 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 2: you class it segment. So Breezy and Bobby, do you

934
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:53,000
Speaker 2: take on the challenge?

935
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 3: Yeah?

936
00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 4: What are we doing? I got a yell on table

937
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:55,319
Speaker 4: on swore.

938
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 3: Now that's like, I don't think the listeners could hear.

939
00:41:00,520 --> 00:41:03,239
Speaker 4: I can work, I can clap these she she really could?

940
00:41:03,520 --> 00:41:04,440
Speaker 4: I really can't tell it.

941
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 2: We get a camera when we get it, when we

942
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,360
Speaker 2: get when we got our studios today, we're go ahead.

943
00:41:08,120 --> 00:41:08,359
Speaker 5: To have.

944
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 4: Yes, I'm a clap, I'm a class.

945
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:13,120
Speaker 6: We have seven questions for you.

946
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 3: Okay.

947
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:17,680
Speaker 6: The first one, I don't know this is gonna be okay,

948
00:41:17,719 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 6: we'll see.

949
00:41:18,200 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 2: This is gonna be easy for you. But what song

950
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:21,920
Speaker 2: gets you on the dance for at the club or party?

951
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 3: Ooh? I'm honestly really like I'm a gangsta type of girl,

952
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 3: so like stuff like side of baby, geeked up dizzle dance,

953
00:41:34,800 --> 00:41:38,160
Speaker 3: stuff like that. I'm one of those ones because but

954
00:41:38,320 --> 00:41:44,880
Speaker 3: I turned into a whole nigga. But if I'm dance twice,

955
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:49,040
Speaker 3: probably like juvenile back that ass up. I think that's everybody. Yeah,

956
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:52,960
Speaker 3: I think that's universal. That's just law shake that. Come on,

957
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 3: you don't have no change airy music.

958
00:41:55,560 --> 00:41:58,799
Speaker 7: You know, we're just a little different and some I

959
00:41:58,800 --> 00:42:01,520
Speaker 7: don't know I'm from, so maybe that's what it is.

960
00:42:01,560 --> 00:42:03,839
Speaker 7: But I'll just be feeling so poled if you hear

961
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,520
Speaker 7: forty voices like nigga, go out there, get out there

962
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 7: and show them what you got.

963
00:42:08,960 --> 00:42:10,759
Speaker 4: Like they just pump you. It just feels good. It's

964
00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,760
Speaker 4: feel good music. So anything black, anything Bay Area.

965
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:17,800
Speaker 3: All right, So this question is a little different.

966
00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 4: What's your favorite hairstyle on yourself? Oh, we both got locks.

967
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:25,840
Speaker 3: I'm a bun person.

968
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:28,399
Speaker 4: I like my hair down because it touched my eye.

969
00:42:28,440 --> 00:42:30,319
Speaker 4: So you know, I think I'm the ship of HV

970
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,400
Speaker 4: looking good. Okay, when that hair heir right? Word them

971
00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 4: cheeks it. These niggas can't tell me nothing, mane.

972
00:42:38,040 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 5: I love it.

973
00:42:39,719 --> 00:42:41,000
Speaker 6: I'm trying to over here.

974
00:42:41,160 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 4: All right.

975
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:44,680
Speaker 2: What about let's see what what's the best compliment you've

976
00:42:44,719 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 2: ever received?

977
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 7: Uh?

978
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:48,520
Speaker 4: Oh wow.

979
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 7: I like when people no, but I really love when

980
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,200
Speaker 7: people can see past surface level and see past physical

981
00:42:55,520 --> 00:42:59,920
Speaker 7: and like I'm a I'm Aquarius, so I'm ruled by yeah,

982
00:43:00,200 --> 00:43:03,200
Speaker 7: your rain No no, no, no, my moon her can't

983
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:06,760
Speaker 7: what Virgo Virgo moon? Yes, my moon is in Virgo

984
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 7: and that's ruled by mercury.

985
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:11,040
Speaker 4: But no, I have other stuff that's ruled.

986
00:43:11,400 --> 00:43:15,400
Speaker 7: Query's is intellect, Bobby, tell them, tell them you're she's astrologer.

987
00:43:16,120 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 3: Okay, So tell them.

988
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:17,839
Speaker 4: About my brain.

989
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:20,840
Speaker 7: So what you Okay, so a query Okay, So Curius

990
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 7: is rule by uranus. Ranus is a higher octavele of mercury.

991
00:43:23,640 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 7: So basically it's like a more evolved version of mercury.

992
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:29,440
Speaker 7: So it's all about like mental brainiac.

993
00:43:29,080 --> 00:43:30,640
Speaker 4: Yes, so anybody.

994
00:43:30,719 --> 00:43:32,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, and she's an overthinker.

995
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 4: She's crazy and.

996
00:43:33,160 --> 00:43:36,640
Speaker 7: If and if people comment on my brain, that's my best.

997
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:37,960
Speaker 4: I love those conflidents.

998
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:43,560
Speaker 7: I mean, I'm I'm a comment like Bobby's a sweat,

999
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:44,319
Speaker 7: She's a Leo.

1000
00:43:44,640 --> 00:43:47,000
Speaker 3: Anything you say to me is like really.

1001
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:47,760
Speaker 4: Ruled by the sun.

1002
00:43:49,160 --> 00:43:49,399
Speaker 5: Leo.

1003
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:52,040
Speaker 3: You hate me, and be like I love that, you know,

1004
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:52,959
Speaker 3: be being fake, I'll.

1005
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:56,520
Speaker 4: Be like for real, Yeah, because she just they want

1006
00:43:56,560 --> 00:43:59,839
Speaker 4: to shine. She's ruled by the sun. She wants to shine, and.

1007
00:43:59,800 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 3: I'm words like my love language, like words of information

1008
00:44:03,239 --> 00:44:05,040
Speaker 3: is probably one of my main love languages.

1009
00:44:05,120 --> 00:44:14,680
Speaker 8: So touching to me, touch me and talk to me.

1010
00:44:15,560 --> 00:44:22,239
Speaker 5: So speaking of touching, who is your bad boy or

1011
00:44:22,360 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 5: bad girl crush?

1012
00:44:23,480 --> 00:44:28,520
Speaker 4: Like who would you like to like hell, touch you? Oh,

1013
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 4: I had somebody that I really think is like he married,

1014
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 4: he married, he married. Well, it's a crush. So we're

1015
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:41,839
Speaker 4: not saying it's.

1016
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:44,000
Speaker 7: His mind, his mind, but you can't tell. He's just

1017
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:48,759
Speaker 7: like he's not a stupid virgo's fucking smart and he

1018
00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 7: don't give a damn and he's weird, and I'm like,

1019
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 7: that is so sexy, Like talking is sexy to me,

1020
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:58,760
Speaker 7: like safe or sexual to the to the end, like literally.

1021
00:44:58,480 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 4: Like I body type.

1022
00:45:00,600 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 7: You know people probably think like Morris chustless, some buff

1023
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:04,239
Speaker 7: nigga that is now he's not a crushing more.

1024
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:06,319
Speaker 3: I am so such an old lady, y'all.

1025
00:45:06,560 --> 00:45:08,080
Speaker 7: But you know all the women used to drool over

1026
00:45:08,160 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 7: like Morris and stuff like that. But brains are beautiful,

1027
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 7: like and if you can convey your thoughts, touch me,

1028
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:18,520
Speaker 7: touch me like Keith touch me, k Keith, put your

1029
00:45:18,520 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 7: hand on me.

1030
00:45:19,760 --> 00:45:21,359
Speaker 6: I'm with you there. I totally agree with that. What

1031
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 6: about you.

1032
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 3: That's a hard one. I really I'll be like, she

1033
00:45:25,640 --> 00:45:27,480
Speaker 3: like person is cute or whatever, But then I'm like,

1034
00:45:27,600 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 3: she like.

1035
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 7: Met them in person? I probably wouldn't even she like

1036
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:31,680
Speaker 7: you can I tell them you like?

1037
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 3: No, Okay, fine, you're gonna you know where you like who?

1038
00:45:38,040 --> 00:45:39,960
Speaker 4: She like Chris Brown and he's bad.

1039
00:45:40,239 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 3: I love Chris Brown, but I'm also si Okay, see okay,

1040
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:47,120
Speaker 3: See my venus is in virgo and I'm a fixer.

1041
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:50,320
Speaker 4: Yes, she like and I love I love love.

1042
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 3: I love the broken one. Yes, I love him so

1043
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 3: deeply because they need love.

1044
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:59,160
Speaker 4: They need they do need some divine.

1045
00:45:58,760 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 3: And I am strong enough to hand to Let look

1046
00:46:01,200 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 3: at this.

1047
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:02,040
Speaker 4: I got this.

1048
00:46:02,600 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 7: Yeah, let me step in. You see, Yeah, she wasn't friend.

1049
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 7: Loves Chris Brown.

1050
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:09,399
Speaker 3: I love him, but I wouldn't sleep with him.

1051
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:15,879
Speaker 7: I wouldn't. He ain't even smart. But have you seen

1052
00:46:15,960 --> 00:46:16,440
Speaker 7: him dance?

1053
00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:17,880
Speaker 5: There we go?

1054
00:46:17,960 --> 00:46:22,600
Speaker 2: That's what pold you exactly, that dance in the body movement,

1055
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 2: which takes us to our next question, which is an

1056
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:26,400
Speaker 2: easy one. I feel we should even ask them this,

1057
00:46:26,480 --> 00:46:30,440
Speaker 2: but twork or two steph.

1058
00:46:29,120 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 3: Both of them?

1059
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:31,920
Speaker 4: You could do it?

1060
00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 7: Yeah, do both of them because two step is infinite.

1061
00:46:35,040 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 7: You could do anything with that. You could two step

1062
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 7: into a twerk, like yeah, yeah.

1063
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:41,279
Speaker 6: First time he got that.

1064
00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:44,279
Speaker 3: I mean in public and honestly, like when I'm like

1065
00:46:44,320 --> 00:46:45,920
Speaker 3: in a club shotting, I'm more of a two stepper

1066
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:46,440
Speaker 3: than work.

1067
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:48,000
Speaker 4: But the ass move anyway.

1068
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 7: You know, our hips don't never stay still, So it's

1069
00:46:50,800 --> 00:46:52,839
Speaker 7: like the same things. Working isn't just bending over on

1070
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:55,640
Speaker 7: your knees or on the ground, like it's just literally

1071
00:46:56,080 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 7: anything that involved your won't moving around, you know, so

1072
00:46:59,640 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 7: you could both of them.

1073
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:03,600
Speaker 4: All right, now we're gonna completely veer off.

1074
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:05,880
Speaker 3: Okay, what's your favorite book?

1075
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:09,040
Speaker 4: Hmmm, that's a good one.

1076
00:47:09,680 --> 00:47:13,560
Speaker 3: There's so many books I loved.

1077
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:17,240
Speaker 7: My mom made me read the from Niggas to Gods

1078
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:18,360
Speaker 7: when I was in school.

1079
00:47:18,440 --> 00:47:19,040
Speaker 3: That's a good one.

1080
00:47:19,480 --> 00:47:22,320
Speaker 4: It made me feel like that nigga from Niggas to Gods.

1081
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:27,000
Speaker 7: That's a good books. It's a good book, and like

1082
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:29,680
Speaker 7: I like it. I like it because that's that's how

1083
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 7: I need to be talked to.

1084
00:47:31,080 --> 00:47:31,319
Speaker 4: You know.

1085
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 7: I need something that I can that's easy to digest.

1086
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 7: I don't need nothing with too many big words. I

1087
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:37,279
Speaker 7: gotta have a dictionary with me. I don't mind. I

1088
00:47:37,320 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 7: will eventually get there, but talk to me like you

1089
00:47:40,200 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 7: know me, you know, and put me on game. That's

1090
00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:44,720
Speaker 7: what niggas resonate with. Like nobody in the hood resonates

1091
00:47:44,719 --> 00:47:47,200
Speaker 7: with y'all doing this wrong and y'all need to get educated.

1092
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:47,760
Speaker 4: No, nigga.

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Speaker 8: If this is why Nipsey was so powerful in middle

1094
00:47:51,520 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 8: school because that's when we had that book.

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00:47:53,920 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 3: Ye and I have made all these copies of it

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00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:59,440
Speaker 3: and my friends I just like took it and like

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00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 3: made copies of all the pages.

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Speaker 6: You should read this.

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Speaker 4: Like being a young black kid growing up where you know,

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00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:07,600
Speaker 4: in America.

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Speaker 6: Bruh.

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00:48:08,000 --> 00:48:10,400
Speaker 3: And they thought I was crazy. Yeah, they still probably

1103
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:12,080
Speaker 3: think people most people still think I'm crazy.

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Speaker 7: Whatever, it's revolutionary and everybody ain't ra There's so many good.

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00:48:18,000 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 3: Books, man, I love man. But I'm into a lot

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00:48:22,680 --> 00:48:25,479
Speaker 3: of astrology stuff right now. So that's all for the moment.

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00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:27,879
Speaker 3: What about for the moment? For the moment, I'm trying

1108
00:48:27,880 --> 00:48:29,399
Speaker 3: to think of what I'm reading right now. I'm reading

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00:48:29,400 --> 00:48:31,719
Speaker 3: this book called It's been taking Me a long time,

1110
00:48:31,760 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 3: but it's called the Heart of Trauma, and it's basically

1111
00:48:35,680 --> 00:48:40,760
Speaker 3: talks about it goes into depth, like through different body parts,

1112
00:48:41,120 --> 00:48:43,319
Speaker 3: like the gut and things like that, and also talks

1113
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 3: about like how we how we like are basically have

1114
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:50,200
Speaker 3: become like a left brain society and we don't balance

1115
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:53,080
Speaker 3: it out. You know, we're not in relational space. We're

1116
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:56,000
Speaker 3: always like goal setting and trying to get somewhere else

1117
00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:59,960
Speaker 3: and we're never present, you know. And we also how

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00:49:00,200 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 3: how important relates. Also talks about how important relationships is,

1119
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:07,400
Speaker 3: like when it comes to healing. So it's kind of

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00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:09,560
Speaker 3: like a book for like, I guess you could say

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00:49:09,560 --> 00:49:12,279
Speaker 3: it's kind of for therapists, but because it talks about

1122
00:49:12,320 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 3: like how you work with people, but it's also just

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00:49:15,160 --> 00:49:18,440
Speaker 3: a really good book I think in general for everybody

1124
00:49:18,440 --> 00:49:21,120
Speaker 3: because it talks about how we need touch and care

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00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:23,600
Speaker 3: and love, like how just how babies they need to

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00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:25,880
Speaker 3: be touched when they're born, like premiums to have a

1127
00:49:25,880 --> 00:49:28,319
Speaker 3: better surviving rate if they're touch you know, touch things

1128
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:32,080
Speaker 3: like this, all kinds of stuff like that, how you know,

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00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:35,319
Speaker 3: how we There was this one part of it that

1130
00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:37,400
Speaker 3: was so interesting to me because it was talking about

1131
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:40,320
Speaker 3: how we put our babies in cribs and we just

1132
00:49:40,400 --> 00:49:42,840
Speaker 3: let them cry, and we're already training them to be

1133
00:49:43,200 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 3: like cut off from their emotions and like whatever they're

1134
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:48,600
Speaker 3: feeling and not validating what they feel, because if you

1135
00:49:48,640 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 3: need to be held, then you need to be hel

1136
00:49:50,840 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 3: like you know, but when you strip your child away

1137
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 3: from that, that makes them crying isolated. It talks about

1138
00:49:57,080 --> 00:50:00,640
Speaker 3: like how we're like put forcing ourselves into ice and

1139
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,160
Speaker 3: basically being like you know, even just with like how

1140
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:04,400
Speaker 3: we got all this shit, Like you don't even have

1141
00:50:04,440 --> 00:50:06,200
Speaker 3: to call a restaurant no more to order your food,

1142
00:50:06,760 --> 00:50:08,680
Speaker 3: Like you don't even have to talk to anybody to

1143
00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 3: order your food, Like how crazy is that? That was

1144
00:50:11,640 --> 00:50:13,640
Speaker 3: just five years ago you had to like talk to

1145
00:50:13,680 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 3: an actual person to order your food, you know, or

1146
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:18,920
Speaker 3: like you had to call to get a cat cab

1147
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:21,640
Speaker 3: tax you had to visually see somebody talk to them.

1148
00:50:21,640 --> 00:50:24,200
Speaker 3: Now like we can literally just be in a room

1149
00:50:24,239 --> 00:50:28,960
Speaker 3: by ourselves, and you know, so it talks kind of

1150
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:31,839
Speaker 3: about that kind of stuff and how are and also

1151
00:50:31,880 --> 00:50:34,840
Speaker 3: about like our subconscious and how you know, consciously we

1152
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 3: taken about maybe like seven or eight things in a day,

1153
00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:43,120
Speaker 3: but subconsciously we taken like thousands yes of stimuli. Yes,

1154
00:50:44,560 --> 00:50:45,360
Speaker 3: And it comes.

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Speaker 5: Out and both of those books to my list, and lady,

1156
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:51,600
Speaker 5: we will have it in The show notes that you

1157
00:50:51,600 --> 00:50:53,319
Speaker 5: can add it to your reading list as well.

1158
00:50:53,440 --> 00:50:56,640
Speaker 2: We got you and last question for you, ladies, what's

1159
00:50:56,680 --> 00:50:58,640
Speaker 2: something that many people don't know about you?

1160
00:50:59,440 --> 00:51:00,640
Speaker 4: I'm really baby.

1161
00:51:00,360 --> 00:51:03,799
Speaker 3: An old man. I'm really an old man.

1162
00:51:03,920 --> 00:51:05,280
Speaker 6: She is, And I'm a baby.

1163
00:51:05,840 --> 00:51:06,800
Speaker 4: I'm Bobby's baby.

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00:51:07,880 --> 00:51:08,120
Speaker 7: Yeah.

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00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:10,399
Speaker 3: No, you know what I told Breezy. I told her

1166
00:51:10,400 --> 00:51:12,080
Speaker 3: that I think in the past, like it was like

1167
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:13,879
Speaker 3: her sugar day. No, I was her sugar day.

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00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:16,160
Speaker 4: That's why she got to pay to me. Now, okay

1169
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:17,120
Speaker 4: it came back.

1170
00:51:18,280 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, and so now I really know she believed that.

1171
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:24,200
Speaker 3: I think her name was going on.

1172
00:51:24,600 --> 00:51:28,560
Speaker 4: I think her name might have been like old man Ball.

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00:51:29,600 --> 00:51:32,040
Speaker 3: Yeah. No. And people will look at like my Instagram

1174
00:51:32,160 --> 00:51:36,000
Speaker 3: and they think we covered like the boy. People have

1175
00:51:36,040 --> 00:51:37,040
Speaker 3: thought that we were a couple.

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00:51:37,400 --> 00:51:39,239
Speaker 7: Yeah, but I think that's more so people that are

1177
00:51:39,280 --> 00:51:42,000
Speaker 7: attracted us and they're like, yeah, yeah, and that's usually

1178
00:51:42,040 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 7: who they be kind of weird about it or something.

1179
00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:47,440
Speaker 3: But yeah, we've gotten that. I'm the guy, like and

1180
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 3: I'm like the more masculine one in Breezie's the feminine one.

1181
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:53,880
Speaker 3: But what was I saying?

1182
00:51:54,280 --> 00:51:56,399
Speaker 7: She's an old man, I'm a cry baby, So I'm

1183
00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:58,240
Speaker 7: a baby and Bobby's That's.

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00:51:58,080 --> 00:51:59,720
Speaker 3: What I'm saying. Like people will look at my Instagram

1185
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 3: so because I dance or things like that, and they

1186
00:52:02,120 --> 00:52:04,200
Speaker 3: used to think like, oh, she's so wild, like she

1187
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,839
Speaker 3: that like she they party animal. I'll be at home

1188
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:11,480
Speaker 3: in my big homebody. I do not like go on outside. Hell,

1189
00:52:11,560 --> 00:52:13,400
Speaker 3: we went to a fiftieth birthday parat lastnight and it

1190
00:52:13,440 --> 00:52:15,680
Speaker 3: just took so much it is to me for me

1191
00:52:15,719 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 3: to like get up.

1192
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 4: Bobby is born as hell, she got a tourist moon. Yeah,

1193
00:52:20,200 --> 00:52:21,680
Speaker 4: that's that grounded Ersy Warne.

1194
00:52:22,320 --> 00:52:22,719
Speaker 5: That is.

1195
00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:25,799
Speaker 6: This has just been so amazing. I yeah it is.

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00:52:25,840 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 5: And I'm and I'm sitting here and I'm like watching

1197
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:35,680
Speaker 5: the sisterly interaction and feeling like the energy and I'm

1198
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:40,320
Speaker 5: just loving it, Like it really is amazing to see

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Speaker 5: how to you like vibe with one another. And I

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00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:48,560
Speaker 5: because I've been to the class, like I've seen it

1201
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 5: before and so I would encourage anybody listening, if you

1202
00:52:53,120 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 5: are in the Bay Area, to sign up for Breezy

1203
00:52:57,440 --> 00:53:01,600
Speaker 5: and Bobby's class, because one, you need to free your cheeks, yes,

1204
00:53:01,960 --> 00:53:06,440
Speaker 5: but too just the community, just the sacred space and

1205
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 5: energy that the two of you hold and you bring

1206
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:15,120
Speaker 5: out of other women that are there. Yeah, it's just

1207
00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:16,080
Speaker 5: so powerful.

1208
00:53:16,880 --> 00:53:19,920
Speaker 3: Last little I know. Yeah, I think it's really important

1209
00:53:19,960 --> 00:53:23,080
Speaker 3: that people see us in our natural just like real

1210
00:53:23,200 --> 00:53:25,080
Speaker 3: because I mean, sometimes be and Braezy, we be mad

1211
00:53:25,080 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 3: at each other and all kinds stuff, but we don't

1212
00:53:26,600 --> 00:53:28,480
Speaker 3: let that stop us from getting work done or doing

1213
00:53:28,520 --> 00:53:30,560
Speaker 3: We're supposed to do what we can together. Like there's

1214
00:53:30,560 --> 00:53:35,600
Speaker 3: been times where I don't walk imagine white people, but

1215
00:53:35,960 --> 00:53:38,360
Speaker 3: we just keep going and I'll come back, you know.

1216
00:53:38,560 --> 00:53:41,000
Speaker 3: We just make it work. And so people see that

1217
00:53:41,080 --> 00:53:43,279
Speaker 3: and see that you can work with other people and

1218
00:53:43,360 --> 00:53:44,920
Speaker 3: you don't have to be the same. You can have

1219
00:53:45,000 --> 00:53:47,279
Speaker 3: differences and you can feel whatever you feel, but you

1220
00:53:47,320 --> 00:53:50,960
Speaker 3: can still respect and hold space, hold the bigger picture

1221
00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:52,919
Speaker 3: in mind. Even if we are individuals.

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00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:55,359
Speaker 7: We have to because ownership is important. That's another thing

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00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:57,400
Speaker 7: I want to add. If you're black, try and get

1224
00:53:57,440 --> 00:54:00,000
Speaker 7: some ownership because nigga, we ain't gonna be out here.

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00:54:00,400 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 1: You know.

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00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:03,200
Speaker 7: If we don't, there's not going to be no more

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00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:04,279
Speaker 7: black people in the Bay Area.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so try and get ownership.

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00:54:06,080 --> 00:54:08,160
Speaker 7: Me and Bobby, we don't have time to be falling

1230
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:08,920
Speaker 7: out over dumb shit.

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00:54:09,000 --> 00:54:09,800
Speaker 4: This is my sister.

1232
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:11,799
Speaker 7: Imagine if white people fell out with each other over

1233
00:54:11,840 --> 00:54:13,600
Speaker 7: dumb shit, they will not rule the world right now.

1234
00:54:13,920 --> 00:54:16,799
Speaker 7: So you know, we got to use that the same

1235
00:54:16,840 --> 00:54:18,759
Speaker 7: methods they use. I mean, they a little cutthroat, but

1236
00:54:18,840 --> 00:54:21,600
Speaker 7: still like if they can come together and get shit,

1237
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 7: they don't share they well with us. So and they

1238
00:54:24,239 --> 00:54:26,600
Speaker 7: probably I'm sure they have, you know, like issues where

1239
00:54:26,600 --> 00:54:28,480
Speaker 7: they probably got real shit. They probably fell out over

1240
00:54:28,520 --> 00:54:30,839
Speaker 7: billions of dollars dollars and shit, but they could still

1241
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 7: find a way to make money because they know that

1242
00:54:32,560 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 7: theyre trying to stay on top.

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00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:35,560
Speaker 4: We got to adapt that same mentality.

1244
00:54:35,840 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 3: I just yeah, we just need to take care of

1245
00:54:37,560 --> 00:54:39,319
Speaker 3: each other. Take care of jan today. We just got

1246
00:54:39,320 --> 00:54:41,200
Speaker 3: to take care of each other. It's no matter what

1247
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:43,239
Speaker 3: you feel about somebody. It's like the movie Fences. He

1248
00:54:43,360 --> 00:54:46,680
Speaker 3: was like, I don't gotta like you, my dude, as

1249
00:54:46,719 --> 00:54:48,160
Speaker 3: to you is to take care of you.

1250
00:54:48,239 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 6: We had this end goal in mind. I think that's beautiful.

1251
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,960
Speaker 6: We need everyone listening to tune in to the movement

1252
00:54:55,000 --> 00:54:57,120
Speaker 6: that you have. Where can they find you on social media?

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00:54:58,000 --> 00:54:58,800
Speaker 4: Tell them, Bobby.

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00:54:59,480 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 3: So we just revamped a couple of things. So our

1255
00:55:02,960 --> 00:55:06,800
Speaker 3: website is freeth cheeks dot com, social media at free

1256
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:12,279
Speaker 3: dot the dot cheeks or at we Heal Different. Yeah,

1257
00:55:12,480 --> 00:55:14,399
Speaker 3: and if you need information, if you want to book

1258
00:55:14,400 --> 00:55:17,120
Speaker 3: a private, you want to ask us questions and follow

1259
00:55:17,800 --> 00:55:20,400
Speaker 3: info at free chicks dot com and we'll.

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00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:22,040
Speaker 2: Add those links in our show notes. And I will

1261
00:55:22,080 --> 00:55:23,880
Speaker 2: be booking a private for my birthdays. I'm gonna let

1262
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 2: you know about that.

1263
00:55:28,120 --> 00:55:28,680
Speaker 4: Let's do it.

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00:55:28,760 --> 00:56:01,040
Speaker 3: You know were ready.

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Speaker 5: Thanks for joining us today in her Space. Please note

1266
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:09,640
Speaker 5: that our show may contain conversations about self help, advice,

1267
00:56:10,080 --> 00:56:13,120
Speaker 5: self empowerment, and mental health, but it is by no

1268
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:16,280
Speaker 5: means meant to be a substitute for an ongoing formal

1269
00:56:16,360 --> 00:56:20,560
Speaker 5: relationship with a trained mental health provider. If you or

1270
00:56:20,600 --> 00:56:23,160
Speaker 5: someone you know is in need of mental health care,

1271
00:56:23,520 --> 00:56:28,319
Speaker 5: please visit the Therapy Black Girls directory Psychology today or

1272
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:30,120
Speaker 5: contact your insurance provider.

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00:56:31,360 --> 00:56:33,440
Speaker 2: If you liked what you heard and want to keep

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00:56:33,440 --> 00:56:38,200
Speaker 2: the conversation going, connect with us on Facebook, Instagram, and

1275
00:56:38,320 --> 00:56:44,080
Speaker 2: Twitter at her Space podcast or check out our website

1276
00:56:44,120 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 2: at herspacepodcast dot com. And before we meet again, repeat

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00:56:49,000 --> 00:56:52,920
Speaker 2: after me. I will not judge myself for where I'm starting.

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00:56:53,440 --> 00:56:55,319
Speaker 2: I'm making progress every day.

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Speaker 5: Thanks for joining us we'll see you next week, lady