1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,600 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for freaking out on my boyfriend, 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:06,840 Speaker 1: for bad mouthing my best friend, freak out, freak out 3 00:00:06,880 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 1: my best Outeat. So this comes from Acceptable Radio nine 4 00:00:12,440 --> 00:00:15,560 Speaker 1: to five, and they say, I'm really close to my 5 00:00:15,640 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: bff Eve. We are practically attached at the hip. Words 6 00:00:20,079 --> 00:00:22,279 Speaker 1: cannot explain how much she means to me. She's my 7 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:25,759 Speaker 1: ride or die. Been friends for fifteen plus years and 8 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: always will be. I met my current boyfriend a year ago, 9 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:33,000 Speaker 1: and I really love him. I could say one hundred 10 00:00:33,040 --> 00:00:35,640 Speaker 1: amazing things about him. I really appreciate that we have 11 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:39,160 Speaker 1: similar thoughts on friendships. He's talked about how platonic relationships 12 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: aren't lesser than romantic relationships, and how much his best 13 00:00:42,040 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: friend means to him. I love his best friend and 14 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: him and their dynamic is super cute. My boyfriend is 15 00:00:49,200 --> 00:00:52,680 Speaker 1: different from Eve. He is a really fundamentally good person. 16 00:00:53,280 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: Damn whoa different than Eve? Boyfriend is different than Eve. 17 00:00:57,400 --> 00:00:59,080 Speaker 1: Boyfriend's a fundamentally good person. 18 00:00:59,160 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 2: Eve. 19 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,080 Speaker 1: He is really fundamently a good person. It's a rare 20 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:10,400 Speaker 1: it's rare to find, but true. Eve has always had 21 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: her bad side, but I love her no matter what. 22 00:01:13,440 --> 00:01:17,320 Speaker 1: She slept with my ex boyfriend in high school for 23 00:01:17,440 --> 00:01:20,800 Speaker 1: multiple years. She wanted to tell me, but he kept 24 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: saying I would never speak to them again. So she 25 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,440 Speaker 1: got scared and did it. I was upset, but forgave 26 00:01:26,480 --> 00:01:29,560 Speaker 1: her because I love her. She's like my sister and 27 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: I knew our friendship wouldn't die there, all right? Question 28 00:01:34,200 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 1: for the chat is your friend sleeping with your ex boyfriend? 29 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:39,679 Speaker 1: Or red flag? Yes or no? 30 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,320 Speaker 3: Can you find the red flag? Dude? 31 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 4: Give me? 32 00:01:45,319 --> 00:01:45,479 Speaker 2: OK? 33 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:49,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, where's the red flag? Can you find it? Is 34 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: it behind the toaster? Is it behind Eve? Is it 35 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 1: behind Opie's boyfriend? Where's the red flag? 36 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 3: You're right, it's behind Eve? Yeah, dude, that's that's a 37 00:02:06,360 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 3: crazy red flag to. 38 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 4: Ignore Banana's Yeah, what are we doing? 39 00:02:09,919 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 1: Banana's red flag? So I told my boyfriend this story, 40 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,079 Speaker 1: but I left out that it was Eve. Later, we 41 00:02:16,080 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: were drinking with his BFF and I confessed it was her. 42 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:21,920 Speaker 1: They were both shocked, and after that, my boyfriend was 43 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:25,000 Speaker 1: never the same around her. He wasn't rude, but he 44 00:02:25,040 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 1: wasn't friendly either. He never said anything, but I could 45 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 1: tell he didn't like her, which I mean, yeah. 46 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 2: That makes sense, like he thinks that she might start 47 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:36,200 Speaker 2: to pull some pull some stuntser. 48 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:38,359 Speaker 4: Who knows what else she would do exactly. I mean, 49 00:02:38,360 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 4: she doesn't have any morals, so exactly. 50 00:02:41,200 --> 00:02:43,680 Speaker 1: I feel like it's it's that you just don't it's 51 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 1: that someone like that's unpredictable. So I went to his 52 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:50,639 Speaker 1: messages and typed in Eve to see what came up, 53 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:53,920 Speaker 1: what she was saying about him. I know I shouldn't have, 54 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: but I was beyond curious. And he had said before 55 00:02:56,880 --> 00:03:00,040 Speaker 1: that he doesn't really mind me looking through his phone, 56 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:03,359 Speaker 1: and she says before I have access to his phone, right, 57 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,160 Speaker 1: But the messages were full of him shit talking her 58 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:10,320 Speaker 1: with his best friend. He was saying that he has 59 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: feel that he feels bad for me, like Eve is 60 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: the worst friend you can have, who would sleep with 61 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:19,640 Speaker 1: someone's boyfriend for years and she gives me bad vibes. 62 00:03:20,040 --> 00:03:23,639 Speaker 1: I don't think that's shit talking. That's just like that's 63 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 1: the boyfriend being a Yeah, boyfriend is a brosky or 64 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:27,680 Speaker 1: that's a boyfriend's broski. 65 00:03:27,800 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 4: Yeah. 66 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 2: I Unfortunately, boyfriend and best friend have the same initials, 67 00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 2: so I was backed into a corner. 68 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:36,880 Speaker 1: Also, I would really quickly like to compliment on the 69 00:03:37,200 --> 00:03:43,920 Speaker 1: massive increase in John's writing ability. We do not know 70 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:45,160 Speaker 1: where the cap is. 71 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:48,080 Speaker 2: Yes, I viciously searched for it, but we have a 72 00:03:48,120 --> 00:03:49,960 Speaker 2: new one, so I don't draw on myself for other 73 00:03:50,040 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 2: things on it. 74 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:54,560 Speaker 4: On it, baby, so look at me. 75 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:59,160 Speaker 1: I know I shouldn't have, but I was beyond curious anyway. 76 00:03:59,640 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: It was full of him trash talking her. He also 77 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:06,000 Speaker 1: it was full of him just trash talking her. He 78 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:09,200 Speaker 1: also said she thinks the problem was the toxic boy, 79 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:12,480 Speaker 1: but the problem also is her toxic friend should have 80 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:16,160 Speaker 1: thrown them both out. Those are that's not shit talking. 81 00:04:16,240 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 1: That's just like, that's just good, that's just good truth. 82 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:20,720 Speaker 4: Yeah. 83 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:24,239 Speaker 2: Like he's like, oh, I'm I'm I'm worried about Eve, Yeah, 84 00:04:24,279 --> 00:04:27,440 Speaker 2: because who knows what she's gonna do. I was effing 85 00:04:27,520 --> 00:04:31,679 Speaker 2: pissed and horrified and upset. I was crying and showed 86 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:33,360 Speaker 2: him the text and said, I can't believe he would 87 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 2: say that about Eve. She's like my sister and he's 88 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,640 Speaker 2: shit talking her. I just went off on him and 89 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 2: started crying and yelling, and it was horrible. I just 90 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,400 Speaker 2: don't get how he can blame her for things I 91 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:46,919 Speaker 2: forgave her for and how he can talk about her 92 00:04:46,960 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 2: like that Eve is amazing. 93 00:04:48,920 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole? Or did he cross a 94 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:54,880 Speaker 1: line with what he said about her? I'm just horrified 95 00:04:54,960 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 1: because he should love my bff as much as he 96 00:04:58,000 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: loves me, but he clearly doesn't. And there is an 97 00:05:04,880 --> 00:05:11,279 Speaker 1: update to the story and some relevant comments saying, but, yeah, 98 00:05:11,320 --> 00:05:14,280 Speaker 1: what do you think I think is Op's boyfriend the 99 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 1: a hole? 100 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:18,600 Speaker 2: I think that the boyfriend is not the a hole. 101 00:05:18,960 --> 00:05:23,320 Speaker 2: I think Eve should be cut out. I agree, that's 102 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:26,240 Speaker 2: what I think, even one hundred percent should be cut out. 103 00:05:26,839 --> 00:05:30,360 Speaker 1: I think I think, like, I don't know if there's 104 00:05:31,000 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: coming back from that for that, like for hooking up 105 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: with your boyfriend for that long. 106 00:05:36,920 --> 00:05:40,120 Speaker 2: And she's like so defensive of her. Yeah, and what 107 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 2: did she really do to make amends. 108 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:44,400 Speaker 3: Other than apologize? 109 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,840 Speaker 2: I don't know, like apologize and I guess not do it, 110 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 2: Like I feel like you would be so like, imagine 111 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 2: you did that much wrong to someone as a friend, 112 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:56,400 Speaker 2: You'd be like crap, Like what can I do to 113 00:05:56,600 --> 00:06:01,760 Speaker 2: like make the trust and bond rebuilds? Yeah, And it 114 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:03,320 Speaker 2: seems like she's like, oh, we'll just go back to status. 115 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: Quoll It says it feels like Eve doesn't doesn't care doesn't. 116 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 4: Care, and OPI acknowledged it. 117 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:12,599 Speaker 2: She was like, she did it so subtly, but she's like, uh, 118 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,080 Speaker 2: my boyfriend and Eve are different. My boyfriend has morals 119 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:16,000 Speaker 2: Eve not. 120 00:06:16,120 --> 00:06:21,239 Speaker 1: So yeah, but there are some relevant comments. So Haunting 121 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: Juice ninety three says you're the a hole. He has 122 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: more self worth for you than you do. A Giraffe 123 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,159 Speaker 1: Dude thirty two says you're the a hole. You could 124 00:06:30,200 --> 00:06:33,120 Speaker 1: have possibly ruined your relationship with your best friend by 125 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:36,920 Speaker 1: telling him that. Also, it is evident that trust is 126 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,720 Speaker 1: an issue in you and your boyfriend's relationship, which is 127 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: obvious because you felt the need to go through his 128 00:06:41,880 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: phone even if he wasn't talking about her. Why would 129 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:46,720 Speaker 1: you feel the need to do that if you were 130 00:06:46,720 --> 00:06:49,800 Speaker 1: so confident in the relationship. You also stated you have 131 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,520 Speaker 1: access to his phone. Why would that be necessary if 132 00:06:52,560 --> 00:06:56,800 Speaker 1: you guys trusted each other. That's a different take, so 133 00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 1: Op saying you're the a whole because you ruin your 134 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:05,279 Speaker 1: relationship between boyfriend and Eve by telling boyfriend about the 135 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:05,960 Speaker 1: past with Eve. 136 00:07:08,680 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 2: If anything, I'm like, that's good information for the boyfriend 137 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 2: to know, so that way he can be aware in 138 00:07:16,600 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 2: case she tries something. 139 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: Right, Yeah, But then that's that's like like if I 140 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: guess the thing is, if uh, if OP truly trusts Eve, right, 141 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:31,520 Speaker 1: then why bring up her past to the boyfriend? 142 00:07:32,080 --> 00:07:32,280 Speaker 3: You know? 143 00:07:33,080 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 4: Right? 144 00:07:33,520 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: But also if you're getting into a deep relationship, you 145 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: kind of need to tell your partner every. 146 00:07:37,080 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 4: Well you know what, you know what that is. 147 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 2: It proves and shows that Op doesn't really truly trust E. 148 00:07:44,480 --> 00:07:48,800 Speaker 2: Like OP is like she'll say uh, like consciously like 149 00:07:48,920 --> 00:07:50,680 Speaker 2: oh yeah, no, you know, Eve is fine? Why are 150 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:53,920 Speaker 2: you taking her? But then subconsciously, like even in her writing, 151 00:07:53,960 --> 00:07:55,080 Speaker 2: she's like, oh, well. 152 00:07:54,880 --> 00:07:57,360 Speaker 3: She doesn't, which is why why are you friends with someone? 153 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 4: Why are you friends with some of that? 154 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: Which I feel like the advice is the same, just 155 00:08:00,640 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: cut Eve out of your life. 156 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 2: We are in a streak of people not cutting out 157 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 2: the people that deserve to be cut out exactly. 158 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: But there's another one from she but little five five 159 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 1: five says, I'm curious did she ever apologize? And I'm 160 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:17,000 Speaker 1: not talking about a BS I'm sorry, you're sad apology. 161 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:19,520 Speaker 1: I'm talking about a real, true There's no excuse for 162 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 1: what I did, both the lying and the cheating, and 163 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:24,040 Speaker 1: I have no reason to expect your forgiveness, but I 164 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:25,040 Speaker 1: am still so sorry. 165 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:25,560 Speaker 3: Apology. 166 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:27,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, she was a kid in high school, but you 167 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:30,080 Speaker 1: can't grow and learn from something you won't even take 168 00:08:30,120 --> 00:08:35,199 Speaker 1: responsibility for and acceptable Radio nineteen five, which is op responds, Yes, 169 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 1: she has apologized many times. She has cried about it 170 00:08:37,920 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 1: so many times. She is really sorry about all the 171 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:42,040 Speaker 1: grief she caused me. She was going through a really 172 00:08:42,080 --> 00:08:45,200 Speaker 1: hard time in high school. She had a grandparent that 173 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:47,719 Speaker 1: was dying, and her parents were really absent in her 174 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:50,440 Speaker 1: life and not super caring. She made a mistake. She 175 00:08:50,520 --> 00:08:53,320 Speaker 1: hates how much she has hurt me, and she hates 176 00:08:53,360 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: the trust issues she has given me. If she could 177 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:58,160 Speaker 1: go back, she changed it. She has grown so much, 178 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 1: but still has more growing to do. She isn't a 179 00:09:00,720 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: bad person. I know that what we do in our 180 00:09:03,760 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 1: worst times doesn't define us. She really wants to change 181 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: and she wants to be a better person. That's almost 182 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,840 Speaker 1: more important than just being a fundamentally good person like 183 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 1: my boyfriend. She's going to work at it and get there. 184 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 1: She's never going to hurt someone like that again. So 185 00:09:19,600 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 1: what OPI is saying is she's changed. 186 00:09:22,960 --> 00:09:24,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that does paint more. 187 00:09:24,679 --> 00:09:27,840 Speaker 2: It's that to me, says they've had a lot of 188 00:09:27,880 --> 00:09:31,920 Speaker 2: conversations about it, and that Eve has expressed her her 189 00:09:31,960 --> 00:09:34,560 Speaker 2: guilt and want to become a better friend, which is 190 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:37,160 Speaker 2: better than kind of what we were assuming, which is like, oh, 191 00:09:37,200 --> 00:09:38,760 Speaker 2: they just kind of like went back to status quo. 192 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 3: But still. 193 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 2: That doesn't a mean just because she feels bad, it 194 00:09:44,280 --> 00:09:46,920 Speaker 2: doesn't mean she deserves the friendship back. 195 00:09:47,240 --> 00:09:47,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly. 196 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,680 Speaker 1: And it's like, it's also different when it's like, oh, 197 00:09:50,760 --> 00:09:55,640 Speaker 1: a one time drunken mistake and someone systematically hiding something 198 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:59,160 Speaker 1: from you for months and years, which is what Eve 199 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 1: did you know, It's it's not like it's not a 200 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 1: momentary lapse of judgment, it's a continuous lapse of judgment. 201 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,640 Speaker 1: I'm not convinced she's changed. I feel like you're siding 202 00:10:09,679 --> 00:10:12,959 Speaker 1: with the wrong person here. The boyfriend is has your 203 00:10:12,960 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: best interest at heart, Eve, I don't think. 204 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 2: He's trying to like not associate with someone who got 205 00:10:19,720 --> 00:10:24,679 Speaker 2: your last boyfriend to cheat. Yeah, very fair to be skeptical. 206 00:10:25,240 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 3: I would be skeptical of for sure. For sure. But 207 00:10:29,440 --> 00:10:32,319 Speaker 3: that's where that story ends. Oh that's it. 208 00:10:32,440 --> 00:10:39,839 Speaker 4: That's it, man, I mean, so do we should ope 209 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:42,160 Speaker 4: cut Eve out? 210 00:10:42,640 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 1: I mean, I think it depends how long ago it 211 00:10:44,559 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 1: was and how much he's actually seen change. Yeah, we don't. 212 00:10:49,679 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 1: We don't know how how much time. 213 00:10:51,880 --> 00:10:54,400 Speaker 4: Has passed, how much time? How much time do we need? 214 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:56,319 Speaker 3: Oh? 215 00:10:56,720 --> 00:11:01,280 Speaker 4: Maybe like uh like two years of good behavior. 216 00:11:03,280 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 3: I don't know, dude, I don't know that was one 217 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:06,840 Speaker 3: of my friends. 218 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:08,160 Speaker 4: Because it was how how many years was it of 219 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:13,679 Speaker 4: cheating or how how long? How many years they went without? Uh? 220 00:11:13,720 --> 00:11:17,200 Speaker 3: At least multiple years? 221 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 4: Multiple years? 222 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 2: I mean, and that's probably that could be downplaying, Like 223 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 2: what if it was like four years, five years, six years? 224 00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 1: Pretty nuts? Was it her ex boyfriend? Or was it 225 00:11:31,120 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 1: like while or was it I feel like it was 226 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 1: during Yeah, like was it an ex? 227 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:41,280 Speaker 4: Oh? Were they broken up? 228 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 2: Oh? 229 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:45,400 Speaker 4: That is Yeah, that is such a good. 230 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:47,760 Speaker 3: Point that that would change it. 231 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:51,760 Speaker 2: I have to imagine given the boyfriend's strong reaction everything else, 232 00:11:51,920 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 2: that it that they were together at the time, that 233 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:56,320 Speaker 2: it was true cheating. 234 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:00,040 Speaker 4: I would have to chat let. 235 00:11:59,920 --> 00:12:01,679 Speaker 2: Me know if you if you see anything else, Missay says, 236 00:12:01,720 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 2: if you're friends for fifteen years, uh, you don't make 237 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 2: such mistakes. How far in the relationship was high school? 238 00:12:06,960 --> 00:12:09,240 Speaker 2: How old are they? But I would still not buy 239 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:14,160 Speaker 2: even if they were friends for only a Yeah, Jazzy 240 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 2: said that friend would have been cut off, and Dixie 241 00:12:17,280 --> 00:12:20,600 Speaker 2: Blue Steele says, I would rather not have friends than 242 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:22,199 Speaker 2: a friend like this. 243 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 1: I think it's I think it's very like is it. 244 00:12:27,320 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 1: I think it's I think it's I think because this 245 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: could she could be saying the uh it was my 246 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:38,679 Speaker 1: ex boyfriend. They broke up and then Eve started dating. 247 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 2: They got together her ex, which is still not a 248 00:12:40,840 --> 00:12:42,640 Speaker 2: good move. 249 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:47,480 Speaker 1: But better, yes, better move than than than cheating. I 250 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:52,800 Speaker 1: think if it is an ex, I think like potentially 251 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,760 Speaker 1: could get past, yes if it, but if it is 252 00:12:55,840 --> 00:13:00,280 Speaker 1: a if you cheated for multiple years, like no way, no, 253 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:03,439 Speaker 1: no way, which I think is what happened. 254 00:13:03,800 --> 00:13:04,480 Speaker 3: I think it was. 255 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 4: I've officially exed it. 256 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think cut off Eve. 257 00:13:10,600 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 4: That's it And that's all we got on that story. 258 00:13:13,080 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 3: And that's all we got on that story. 259 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:17,679 Speaker 2: But there is more. There is more, and do we 260 00:13:17,720 --> 00:13:20,000 Speaker 2: want to give them more in the realm. 261 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:24,640 Speaker 4: Of Sam's Okay story time? Do we want to give 262 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 4: them that we can get? 263 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:26,839 Speaker 3: We get, we can put it to a vote, We 264 00:13:26,960 --> 00:13:27,760 Speaker 3: go to a vote. 265 00:13:28,080 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 4: Next note, next story or Sam story. 266 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:34,679 Speaker 1: They could not want to know about be meeting up 267 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:39,080 Speaker 1: with someone from the Okay fam. 268 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:40,960 Speaker 3: For a now a kind of date. 269 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 4: Do you want to tell that one? 270 00:13:44,040 --> 00:13:46,679 Speaker 3: Yeah? 271 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:49,640 Speaker 4: All right, guys, the poll is about to go up. 272 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:54,120 Speaker 2: It's gonna be the next story or Sam's story, something 273 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:54,880 Speaker 2: to that effect. 274 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 3: So you're reading this next one and I will. 275 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 2: Read this next one, so you will be able to 276 00:13:59,080 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 2: decide your fate in terms of what you get. 277 00:14:02,800 --> 00:14:05,440 Speaker 4: So let us know in the poll below. 278 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:07,560 Speaker 3: Who is that? 279 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:10,960 Speaker 4: Jazzy? Says Sam Story. 280 00:14:10,960 --> 00:14:13,199 Speaker 2: In the comment, carlos I said, I'm just judging by 281 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:17,640 Speaker 2: the comments seeing that. Shout out again Oscy girl in 282 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:21,280 Speaker 2: a shout for the five gifted memberships. Appreciate you, we 283 00:14:21,320 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 2: love you. And rat is celebrating three months of membership. Okay, 284 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 2: but like, how many memberships you need to get gifted 285 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:27,720 Speaker 2: for a. 286 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 4: Ten hour stream? That is the question ten hour army. 287 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:37,320 Speaker 4: I don't know. I'll do the calculation. 288 00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:40,520 Speaker 2: We'll do the calculations. MJ Grow celebrating four months of membership. 289 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:43,960 Speaker 2: Happy four months to me. Let's go, Oh, actually, whoa celebrating? 290 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 2: It's like your your membership birthday key, that's kind of cool. 291 00:14:49,840 --> 00:14:50,920 Speaker 2: Happy four months? 292 00:14:51,520 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 293 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 2: Okay, So with the overwhelming majority. We'll get into Sam's 294 00:14:56,840 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 2: right after these do nos. Also shout to MJ Grow. Literally, 295 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:02,840 Speaker 2: he was like, hey, how do I donate gift memberships? 296 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:03,680 Speaker 3: And did it? 297 00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 2: Turns right around gives five memberships, the families five larger. 298 00:15:07,240 --> 00:15:09,680 Speaker 2: Big shout to MJ Grow, Brittany, I see you Lend 299 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:13,000 Speaker 2: celebrating four months. Okay, look, you've been wondering where the 300 00:15:13,040 --> 00:15:15,640 Speaker 2: milestone chat was. Little love y'all in this great community 301 00:15:15,640 --> 00:15:18,680 Speaker 2: for always donating memberships, y'all are the real MVPs guys. 302 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:21,280 Speaker 2: The fam is going to grow so much and it's 303 00:15:21,280 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 2: so awesome how it's like every single donation is giving 304 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:25,480 Speaker 2: someone else a membership. 305 00:15:26,400 --> 00:15:27,280 Speaker 4: If you love us. 306 00:15:27,160 --> 00:15:29,880 Speaker 5: And you're like, I want more content, please be a 307 00:15:29,920 --> 00:15:33,120 Speaker 5: member because we're going to be doing two It's like. 308 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:36,080 Speaker 4: Two two more streams a week. It's for members only. 309 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 2: Just get ready. It's things are coming. Asian Persuasion celebrating 310 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:43,520 Speaker 2: three months. In normal circumstances, you don't have to like 311 00:15:43,560 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 2: your partner's friends, but you should at least be cordial. 312 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 2: I would take Asian Persuasion's comment and up at one 313 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 2: more and say, in theory, if you like your partner 314 00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:56,120 Speaker 2: and you like your friends. You Jel with your partner, 315 00:15:56,200 --> 00:15:58,360 Speaker 2: Jael with your friends. They should gel with each other, agreed. 316 00:15:58,520 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 2: If not, there might be something wrong. 317 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:01,640 Speaker 3: One hundred. 318 00:16:03,040 --> 00:16:05,320 Speaker 2: But I also agree that Matt hatter Gow just gifted 319 00:16:05,400 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 2: ten more memberships, ten more almost at that thirty more. 320 00:16:12,160 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 2: Nice forgetting there, But I want to get to you. Okay, go, 321 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 2: just go. 322 00:16:20,840 --> 00:16:24,360 Speaker 3: I told Sophia this story last night, so Sophia, Sophia 323 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:24,880 Speaker 3: heard it. 324 00:16:24,960 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 4: I know the TLDR. 325 00:16:26,840 --> 00:16:30,080 Speaker 3: Huh, okay, give me the juicy dats all right. 326 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:39,280 Speaker 1: So, so, as some of you know, I was going 327 00:16:39,280 --> 00:16:44,000 Speaker 1: to New York to go to this like hot dog 328 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:48,480 Speaker 1: eating contest to do some interviews over there. And I 329 00:16:48,520 --> 00:16:53,000 Speaker 1: was pretty excited. And I was perusing through the discord 330 00:16:55,880 --> 00:17:05,399 Speaker 1: and we have like an introductions channel and and and 331 00:17:06,040 --> 00:17:08,640 Speaker 1: sometimes I'll just like comment there and like talk to people. 332 00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:13,520 Speaker 1: And there was one person that that was very cute 333 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 1: and was a writer and like writing's writing is great 334 00:17:18,359 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 1: and like runs and had a lot of similarities and 335 00:17:22,040 --> 00:17:22,680 Speaker 1: was in New York. 336 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 3: And I'm like, I'm going to be in New York. 337 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:27,920 Speaker 1: And she's like, oh, I can like give you some 338 00:17:28,000 --> 00:17:31,520 Speaker 1: recommendations of what to do, and I'm like recommendations yeah, 339 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:37,160 Speaker 1: and so she dammed me over like this comprehensive lists writer. 340 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:40,159 Speaker 1: She is a writer and she does events in New 341 00:17:40,240 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: York like comprehensive list of of in like which actually 342 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:49,520 Speaker 1: we went to one of them. It was it was 343 00:17:49,840 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 1: it was dope. It was dope, it was it was 344 00:17:52,040 --> 00:17:55,679 Speaker 1: super fun. Also, I told her that I would be 345 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:57,040 Speaker 1: talking about it on the podcast. 346 00:17:57,320 --> 00:17:59,080 Speaker 4: Oh good, good, good good, she does. 347 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 6: But anyway, I'm not dating. 348 00:18:18,400 --> 00:18:19,800 Speaker 4: You're dating your children. 349 00:18:19,840 --> 00:18:23,720 Speaker 3: Don't worry. It was platonic. And I will, I will. 350 00:18:24,480 --> 00:18:25,440 Speaker 4: It will be explained. 351 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 3: It will be explained. It will be explained. Anyway. Can 352 00:18:30,280 --> 00:18:35,159 Speaker 3: you stop, everyone, please stop out here on the street 353 00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 3: if you know it is? Oh my god. 354 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:40,400 Speaker 1: Now now I'm like, sure you even tell the rest 355 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:42,640 Speaker 1: of the story, you guys, bet you're not guys your 356 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 1: best behavior. 357 00:18:43,760 --> 00:18:45,400 Speaker 4: Right, go ahead, go ahead? 358 00:18:45,680 --> 00:18:51,159 Speaker 3: All right? So wit should I I don't even know 359 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:52,439 Speaker 3: if I should tell the rest of the story now, 360 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:54,840 Speaker 3: because they're too good. 361 00:18:56,119 --> 00:19:02,520 Speaker 1: They're too good. I mean, it's all pretty, it's all 362 00:19:02,600 --> 00:19:03,240 Speaker 1: pretty peachey. 363 00:19:03,440 --> 00:19:05,120 Speaker 3: All right. Actually, I'm gonna all tell I'll tell it 364 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 3: all right. 365 00:19:06,320 --> 00:19:11,359 Speaker 1: So so we uh we we start talking. 366 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:14,160 Speaker 3: She gives me a uh. 367 00:19:15,840 --> 00:19:18,720 Speaker 1: And we're all talking, and she gives me, she gives 368 00:19:18,760 --> 00:19:21,280 Speaker 1: me a recommendation of like places go in the city. 369 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:24,520 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, sick, right, And we're talking a little 370 00:19:24,520 --> 00:19:27,040 Speaker 1: bit on discord and then I'm like, oh, let's meet 371 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:30,199 Speaker 1: up when I'm in New York. Would love to what 372 00:19:30,240 --> 00:19:32,159 Speaker 1: would love to like? Would love love to chat with 373 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:37,160 Speaker 1: in the scene. So we schedule to like meet up 374 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:41,800 Speaker 1: the second day I'm in New York and she gives 375 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 1: me her Instagram and the instagram has a guy in it. 376 00:19:47,520 --> 00:19:52,440 Speaker 1: There's like definitely a dude there, but I'm uncertain of 377 00:19:52,480 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 1: whether it is like a boyfriend type dude or like 378 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: a gay best friend dude or many dudes. There's many 379 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:03,240 Speaker 1: many time, there's many reasons, like a dude would be 380 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:09,800 Speaker 1: in ah in a picture of course. So I am like, 381 00:20:09,840 --> 00:20:13,120 Speaker 1: you know what if if this information is is pertinent, 382 00:20:14,000 --> 00:20:17,720 Speaker 1: She'll let me know at some point, right. So we 383 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 1: go to meet up and it is like that I'm 384 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:23,080 Speaker 1: in New York. It's the day and I see her 385 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,919 Speaker 1: and she's wearing these super cute like snick skin white 386 00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:30,520 Speaker 1: boots and she's already talking to someone and she's she's 387 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:32,920 Speaker 1: she's still cute, She's still cute and like completely white 388 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:43,240 Speaker 1: type and dude, instantly, it was awesome. We had so 389 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:47,240 Speaker 1: many similarities. We had so many similar likes she watches 390 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:52,119 Speaker 1: the show. Yeah, I like that's one. Oh dude, actually 391 00:20:52,119 --> 00:20:54,160 Speaker 1: that's so dummy similarity. 392 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:57,439 Speaker 2: That is also such a like not evil, but like 393 00:20:57,600 --> 00:21:00,280 Speaker 2: such a crazy cheat code because you can just know 394 00:21:00,440 --> 00:21:04,120 Speaker 2: everything about us and then like match match up to it. 395 00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:04,760 Speaker 4: I don't I. 396 00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,640 Speaker 3: Don't think she was I don't think she was lying. 397 00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:09,200 Speaker 1: I don't think she was lying, but like we're both 398 00:21:09,400 --> 00:21:13,000 Speaker 1: we're both like, uh like contrarian, but give people the 399 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:13,800 Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt. 400 00:21:14,440 --> 00:21:17,920 Speaker 4: Oh god, dude, this is a stretch, buddy. 401 00:21:17,760 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 1: Bro, No, it's it was, and we just we got 402 00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:23,000 Speaker 1: along like instantly. 403 00:21:23,160 --> 00:21:23,280 Speaker 2: Right. 404 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:26,400 Speaker 1: So she's like, I'm gonna take you to a bar 405 00:21:27,440 --> 00:21:29,840 Speaker 1: down the street. It's like one of the oldest bars 406 00:21:29,880 --> 00:21:32,280 Speaker 1: in New York. Right, So we go over there and 407 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,920 Speaker 1: we're we start we start hanging out around like eight right, 408 00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:38,879 Speaker 1: and again I'm like, I'm still like I have a. 409 00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:39,199 Speaker 3: Yeah I. 410 00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 1: Kean Kieran tired says someone got a crush. Yeah, I 411 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:45,880 Speaker 1: got I definitely got a crush. I'm like, I think 412 00:21:45,880 --> 00:21:46,560 Speaker 1: she's super. 413 00:21:46,320 --> 00:21:48,600 Speaker 4: Cute about to be flooded on this dude. 414 00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: It was it was like we were just instantly. It 415 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:53,399 Speaker 1: was so fun to chat. So she takes me to 416 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:55,320 Speaker 1: this old bar. It's one of the oldest bars in 417 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:59,680 Speaker 1: New York. And we go in there and every stool 418 00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:04,520 Speaker 1: is full on the uh in the bar except for one. 419 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:08,000 Speaker 1: And so we go and like sit on the same stool, 420 00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,200 Speaker 1: each of us have a cheek on. 421 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:11,400 Speaker 4: Side on the school. 422 00:22:11,440 --> 00:22:15,400 Speaker 1: We're side by side, and then she orders a Guinness, 423 00:22:15,560 --> 00:22:18,480 Speaker 1: which is my favorite drink, my favorite kind of beer. 424 00:22:18,640 --> 00:22:23,479 Speaker 1: No responses, but yeah, oh yeah, sure, okay and uh 425 00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:27,400 Speaker 1: and like and like again, the conversation is great. We 426 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,920 Speaker 1: like are drinking the beer, We're talking to people aside, 427 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:32,199 Speaker 1: like next to us, they just got off some like 428 00:22:32,280 --> 00:22:35,080 Speaker 1: big law case. We're just like we're just like chatting, 429 00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:37,080 Speaker 1: ye have a great time. New York vibes, New York vibes. 430 00:22:37,200 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: Then we finish up the drink, we exit and we're like, 431 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,600 Speaker 1: all right, let's just start walking. And we start walking. 432 00:22:42,640 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 1: We're having this conversation like she's like been in New 433 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:46,800 Speaker 1: York for a while and we're having this conversation about 434 00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:48,720 Speaker 1: like what it means to be a New Yorker. Like 435 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:51,199 Speaker 1: as we're walking, she's like, oh, like I've been here 436 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:52,639 Speaker 1: for like eight years, so like I feel like I'm 437 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:54,200 Speaker 1: close to being a New Yorker. Like I don't know 438 00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:56,040 Speaker 1: if you're close to being a New Yorker. And she's like, 439 00:22:56,040 --> 00:22:58,080 Speaker 1: well I think. So I'm like, let's ask this guy. 440 00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 1: And so we turned to the guy and they're like, hey, hey, 441 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:02,920 Speaker 1: like when do you think you're like you're a New Yorker. 442 00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,440 Speaker 3: It's like you're a the New Yorker if you're born here. 443 00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,800 Speaker 1: I've been right in this building for the last twenty 444 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,720 Speaker 1: five years. I'm the superintendent of this building. And we're 445 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:13,440 Speaker 1: just like randomly talking to people as we go through. 446 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:16,119 Speaker 1: It's lovely. And we go to this point and we're 447 00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,520 Speaker 1: walking around and we see this sign that says children's haircut. 448 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:21,560 Speaker 1: And I turned to her and I'm like, I am 449 00:23:21,680 --> 00:23:24,879 Speaker 1: either down to get a child's haircut or a drink 450 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:28,000 Speaker 1: whatever is inside here. And so we go into this 451 00:23:28,480 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: into this place. Turns out it's like a milk bar, 452 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:35,840 Speaker 1: which weird. And we go in and we talk to Nathan, 453 00:23:35,920 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 1: the bartender, and he's like just the absolute vibe. Now, 454 00:23:40,640 --> 00:23:43,520 Speaker 1: like like her and I are now like vibing even more. 455 00:23:43,680 --> 00:23:45,439 Speaker 1: We've had like we have like one drink in us 456 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:48,119 Speaker 1: and we're like, while you're in the city and about 457 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 1: to have one milk in you and dude, and vibes 458 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,760 Speaker 1: are immaculate, right, And so we're talking and I'm like, 459 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:57,480 Speaker 1: we're drinking our little Oh wait, I asked Nathan. I'm like, hey, 460 00:23:57,480 --> 00:24:00,920 Speaker 1: like look at us and let us know what kind 461 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:04,359 Speaker 1: of drink we embodied, just based off off personalities, and 462 00:24:04,400 --> 00:24:05,720 Speaker 1: so he gave us a drinks. 463 00:24:05,440 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 3: Based on that. 464 00:24:06,160 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 4: They had like different milks. 465 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:10,199 Speaker 1: They had different kinds of milk milksh like like I 466 00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 1: think she got a like hobb and arrow thing and 467 00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 1: I got some like blueberry something. 468 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:18,600 Speaker 3: It was good. It was good. It was good. 469 00:24:19,600 --> 00:24:22,760 Speaker 1: And so, uh, we we are taking the drink and 470 00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:24,560 Speaker 1: I'm like, let's play the secret game. And she's like, 471 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:27,000 Speaker 1: what's the secret game? And I'm like it's where I 472 00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:28,800 Speaker 1: say a secret and then drink, and then you say 473 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,119 Speaker 1: a secret and you drink, and I'm like okay, and 474 00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,040 Speaker 1: then we start doing secrets. My second secret is I 475 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:37,600 Speaker 1: think you're cute, and she like kind of like it 476 00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:40,879 Speaker 1: goes like like like a little little hair thing doesn't 477 00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,159 Speaker 1: say anything and I'm like, okay. 478 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:46,400 Speaker 3: She says, maybe it's a maybe it's. 479 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: A like not a boyfriend, maybe it's a I gave 480 00:24:49,560 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 1: us friend or something. And I'm like, okay, okay, cool, cool. 481 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:58,920 Speaker 1: We start chatting more. It's great vibes, immaculate. Then we 482 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:01,680 Speaker 1: exit that bar and we're talking and talking and talking. 483 00:25:01,800 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 1: We go into she actually she took care of that round, 484 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 1: which was the most expensive round, which is crazy. They'll 485 00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:10,640 Speaker 1: be using the chat for her. And then we go 486 00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:14,480 Speaker 1: to like a little bodega to get some roadies and 487 00:25:14,520 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 1: are like walking around and we're she takes us through 488 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:21,520 Speaker 1: one of the most dangerous parts of New York and 489 00:25:21,920 --> 00:25:24,720 Speaker 1: we were talking to people every street, and she takes 490 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:26,879 Speaker 1: me through this one street where like apparently there's all 491 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,040 Speaker 1: these junkies and she's like, Sam, do not talk to 492 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:30,840 Speaker 1: any of these people. 493 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 4: And I'm like, but I watched Classic Classic. 494 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: And I don't talk to anyone. But we keep walking 495 00:25:40,400 --> 00:25:43,240 Speaker 1: and then we walk to this park and there's absolutely 496 00:25:43,600 --> 00:25:46,440 Speaker 1: no one in the park. Right at this point, it's 497 00:25:46,440 --> 00:25:51,359 Speaker 1: maybe like around midnight, and so we've been out for 498 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:55,080 Speaker 1: like four four hours, and we find this little park 499 00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:56,960 Speaker 1: bench and as we're sitting down on the park bench. 500 00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:58,720 Speaker 3: We see these lighting bug lightning. 501 00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:02,280 Speaker 1: Bugs like, and I go like this and I catch 502 00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:05,120 Speaker 1: one in my hand and I show it to her 503 00:26:05,560 --> 00:26:07,200 Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my god, I have seen and 504 00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 1: she like tells me about like how she like like 505 00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 1: has seen like lightning bugs like in her childhood. Like 506 00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:16,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, I never see these ever, yeah, and it 507 00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 1: it's so cute. And she starts like like talking a 508 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:21,560 Speaker 1: little bit more about her history and like her like 509 00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,679 Speaker 1: her dad like owns nightclubs and stuff, and just like 510 00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,000 Speaker 1: working in New York and how sometimes like New York 511 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,160 Speaker 1: can be hard. We're really opening up to each other. 512 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,320 Speaker 1: We're sitting on this bench. I have this like lightning 513 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,320 Speaker 1: bug that's like literally going around my head and around 514 00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:38,200 Speaker 1: her head. I'm looking in her at her, she's looking 515 00:26:38,240 --> 00:26:41,239 Speaker 1: at me. We're on this bench. And then I kid you, 516 00:26:41,280 --> 00:26:44,919 Speaker 1: not two benches away, a guy with a freaking harp 517 00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:49,000 Speaker 1: starts playing on a harp two benches away, and he's 518 00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:52,720 Speaker 1: super drunk and like, I don't know completely there, but 519 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,840 Speaker 1: playing a harp beautifully right, And I'm like this would 520 00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,680 Speaker 1: be the moment where I would lean in for the kiss, 521 00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:02,840 Speaker 1: but I'm like I'm not gonna kiss someone who has 522 00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:03,920 Speaker 1: a boyfriend. 523 00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 4: Yeah, so or maybe aye. Now so at this. 524 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:11,560 Speaker 1: Point I look at her and I say, did you 525 00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:12,359 Speaker 1: have a boyfriend? 526 00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:13,880 Speaker 4: Now? 527 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:17,920 Speaker 1: Well you asked now, yeah, because I'm not going to 528 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:19,160 Speaker 1: kiss someone with the boyfriend. 529 00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:22,000 Speaker 4: But like, what like the milk bar, You're not like, oh, 530 00:27:22,040 --> 00:27:23,640 Speaker 4: you got a boyfriend? Well that's what I said. 531 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:25,840 Speaker 1: She was cute because she would have I don't want to. 532 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 1: I don't want to, Like it's weird to say, like, 533 00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:28,359 Speaker 1: do you have a boyfriend? 534 00:27:28,560 --> 00:27:34,280 Speaker 5: And do you see like, oh, who's that dude on 535 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:34,800 Speaker 5: your Instagram? 536 00:27:34,880 --> 00:27:35,840 Speaker 4: Looks like your boyfriend? 537 00:27:35,880 --> 00:27:37,080 Speaker 5: Is that not you went to the end of the 538 00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:38,600 Speaker 5: night when the harp is playing on the bench at 539 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:40,080 Speaker 5: the night with the lightning bugs? 540 00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:46,119 Speaker 1: Holly, Yeah, well I didn't want there to be a 541 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:46,920 Speaker 1: boyfriend either. 542 00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:48,760 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 543 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,680 Speaker 4: Anyway, yeah, what did she say? What did you say? 544 00:27:51,840 --> 00:27:53,600 Speaker 3: She said, like she looked down and she said like, yeah, 545 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:54,440 Speaker 3: we're actually super happy. 546 00:27:54,480 --> 00:27:55,280 Speaker 4: She she looked. 547 00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:59,800 Speaker 1: Down and she knows and she he knew that I 548 00:27:59,840 --> 00:28:01,680 Speaker 1: like that we were there time out. 549 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 5: Did she know you were there or did she you 550 00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:07,239 Speaker 5: know that Sam was there? Because Sam and Riley are 551 00:28:07,280 --> 00:28:08,760 Speaker 5: both unisex names. 552 00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:10,240 Speaker 4: She could have been like I. 553 00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:13,640 Speaker 1: Know, she she she she knew, she knew I was there, 554 00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,320 Speaker 1: and yeah, like I I could have asked up front, 555 00:28:16,400 --> 00:28:21,439 Speaker 1: but like I don't know, I didn't. I didn't, you know, 556 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:25,120 Speaker 1: like you know, just like it's not until it was 557 00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:29,240 Speaker 1: super romantic, Like you don't know it's gonna be romantic. 558 00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:35,679 Speaker 4: Oh man, I mean, look it is. It is. What 559 00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:38,480 Speaker 4: I will say is there's no good. 560 00:28:38,720 --> 00:28:40,640 Speaker 3: There's more that's not done. 561 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,880 Speaker 1: Also, we were we were dancing in the moonlight, like 562 00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:49,440 Speaker 1: like as we were walking through we were dancing. It 563 00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:53,160 Speaker 1: was it was amazing. Anyway, She's like, hey, like I 564 00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:55,760 Speaker 1: have to I have to, like. 565 00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:06,000 Speaker 4: You know, but I'm ready for a new one. How 566 00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:07,000 Speaker 4: long have they been together for? 567 00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,480 Speaker 3: I don't know, like a year more than four just 568 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:10,920 Speaker 3: one year? 569 00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:21,360 Speaker 4: Oh oh my god. Sam locking it in through his 570 00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:22,320 Speaker 4: own rule. 571 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:25,480 Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I wish I was shy to ask out 572 00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:29,440 Speaker 3: I was. I don't want to. I didn't, you know. Anyway, 573 00:29:30,720 --> 00:29:33,920 Speaker 3: so I did show. Uh so we. 574 00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,920 Speaker 1: So we uh so we were like all right, like 575 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:41,120 Speaker 1: it's like midnight now and or like twelve thirty or something, 576 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,640 Speaker 1: and and she's like I have to get back and 577 00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:47,240 Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, me too. I'm walking uptown if you 578 00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:49,160 Speaker 1: want to walk with me. And she's like, okay, but 579 00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: I want to show you something. Oh okay, and so 580 00:29:53,480 --> 00:29:57,600 Speaker 1: we go to uh we start walking uptown and she 581 00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:00,680 Speaker 1: takes me to Grand Central Station. Like Grand Central Station 582 00:30:01,480 --> 00:30:04,600 Speaker 1: is one of the most amazing structures in New York. Okay, 583 00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:08,040 Speaker 1: have you been a Grand Sentuation? So, like it's massive, 584 00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:11,240 Speaker 1: like it feels like one hundred foot wall, ceilings on 585 00:30:11,400 --> 00:30:16,360 Speaker 1: the ceiling is like this art of like these stars 586 00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,600 Speaker 1: and these constellations. It's just like, can you pull up 587 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:24,520 Speaker 1: a Grand Central Station? Yeah, pull up a Grand Central 588 00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:28,320 Speaker 1: Station picture. It's just like the most beautiful thing. And 589 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,480 Speaker 1: we're like going in and there is no one there. 590 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,080 Speaker 4: Whoa dude? This was on Madagascar? 591 00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:39,920 Speaker 1: Yeah funny wait go uhh yeah yeah, So this is 592 00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:44,080 Speaker 1: Grand Central Station. It's massive, it's beautiful, and there was 593 00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:45,400 Speaker 1: no one there because it's. 594 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:46,040 Speaker 3: Like plast midnight. 595 00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:47,960 Speaker 4: But that's wild to me. 596 00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,760 Speaker 1: Like literally no one. And so we go and start 597 00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:54,200 Speaker 1: walking around. It's echoing as we're talking, and we walk 598 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:58,040 Speaker 1: up these these stairs and there's this little railing and 599 00:30:58,080 --> 00:30:59,720 Speaker 1: I'm like, do you know how to slide down the railing? 600 00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,360 Speaker 3: You know? And she's like, you know, like, all right, 601 00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:01,920 Speaker 3: this is how you do it. 602 00:31:01,960 --> 00:31:04,720 Speaker 1: And so like I slide down and she tries to 603 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:06,520 Speaker 1: slide down, but she can't with her skirt, and so 604 00:31:06,640 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 1: like I put down my my, my jacket, and then 605 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 1: she slides down on the jacket, but I kind of 606 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:13,800 Speaker 1: have to like support her from the back because like 607 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,240 Speaker 1: she'll she'll like fall off. And so she slides all 608 00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:20,000 Speaker 1: the way down and we're looking up at this structure 609 00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:23,400 Speaker 1: and it's amazing, and I'm like, is this what you 610 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:28,280 Speaker 1: want to show me? And she's like no, And so 611 00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:32,880 Speaker 1: we go to this smaller area where it's like a 612 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:36,800 Speaker 1: little bit like it's like this concave ceiling with like 613 00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 1: these four corners, and she's like you stand in that corner. 614 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,280 Speaker 3: I'll stand in this corner. And so we stand in each. 615 00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 1: Other like each course, and she's like close your eyes, 616 00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 1: and so I close my eyes and then she says 617 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:50,680 Speaker 1: hi and then literally it sounds like it's right in 618 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:51,040 Speaker 1: my ear. 619 00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 3: Wow. 620 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:55,560 Speaker 1: Yes, yes, So how the how how sound travels in 621 00:31:55,600 --> 00:31:59,440 Speaker 1: this thing? Is it travels like through this like con 622 00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:02,080 Speaker 1: like this Conka thinks the curvature of the roof, Yeah, 623 00:32:02,120 --> 00:32:04,520 Speaker 1: curvature of the roof. So it feels like it's directly 624 00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:08,720 Speaker 1: in my ear, and we start talking like to each 625 00:32:08,760 --> 00:32:10,560 Speaker 1: other and it's like we're talking. 626 00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:11,360 Speaker 3: It's it. 627 00:32:11,960 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 4: We're mouth to ear. 628 00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:14,240 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like we're fifteen. 629 00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 1: Feet apart, but it's like we're talking like mouth to ear, 630 00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:20,440 Speaker 1: like we're like like mere inches away from each other. 631 00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:25,120 Speaker 1: And if that isn't the metaphor for what's going on 632 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,720 Speaker 1: right now, I don't know what is because it's so intimate. 633 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:30,480 Speaker 3: But we're a boyfriend apart. 634 00:32:32,160 --> 00:32:35,360 Speaker 1: Hey, bro, bro, and the ceiling is curved and the 635 00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:38,480 Speaker 1: ceiling is the ceiling discurved. But we have this like 636 00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:41,320 Speaker 1: thirty minute conversation where she was like she was talking 637 00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:43,120 Speaker 1: about I'm like, oh, like a friend showed me this, 638 00:32:43,160 --> 00:32:45,120 Speaker 1: And I'm like, there's no way a friend showed you this. 639 00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:46,920 Speaker 1: It's definitely a boyfriend. She's like, yeah, it was an 640 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,640 Speaker 1: ex boyfriend that showed me. Yet oh oh yeah, that 641 00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:50,360 Speaker 1: showed me the. 642 00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:52,560 Speaker 2: Oh dude, we've read a story like that while we 643 00:32:52,560 --> 00:32:53,600 Speaker 2: were gone or something. 644 00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:54,280 Speaker 4: What was that? 645 00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:56,160 Speaker 3: But anyways, yeah, a bit ago. 646 00:32:56,280 --> 00:33:01,360 Speaker 1: But yeah, and then it's now like two am and 647 00:33:02,640 --> 00:33:06,240 Speaker 1: she leaves and I leave, and then is. 648 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:07,120 Speaker 4: That what the kids are calling it? 649 00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, we're gonna run. 650 00:33:11,000 --> 00:33:14,360 Speaker 1: We're gonna run like together, like during like the week 651 00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,800 Speaker 1: because she was going away for July fourth. 652 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:18,960 Speaker 3: But that is where it ends. 653 00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:24,720 Speaker 5: Dang a one one better than a one v twelve 654 00:33:24,800 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 5: somebody somebody commented earlier knew r slash. 655 00:33:28,320 --> 00:33:30,800 Speaker 2: Okay, story time post. I went on a date with 656 00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:32,960 Speaker 2: a YouTube star. My boyfriend is pitch. 657 00:33:34,280 --> 00:33:38,680 Speaker 1: Apparently he knows. I mean no, no boundaries were crossed. 658 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 1: I don't know the nature at least two. 659 00:33:41,400 --> 00:33:43,320 Speaker 4: Am you got heral child two am. 660 00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,680 Speaker 3: I don't know the nature of their relationship. It's on. 661 00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:46,080 Speaker 3: It's on. 662 00:33:46,640 --> 00:33:50,240 Speaker 1: Like I felt like I asked the questions of like, 663 00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,600 Speaker 1: like do you have a boyfriend when it felt like 664 00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:56,560 Speaker 1: it was going to cross any boundaries. So I feel 665 00:33:56,600 --> 00:33:57,560 Speaker 1: like my hands are clean. 666 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:01,800 Speaker 4: Oh that's that's too close to the fire for me. 667 00:34:01,920 --> 00:34:07,280 Speaker 1: But I'd be having a stern conversation if that were 668 00:34:07,320 --> 00:34:07,880 Speaker 1: to happen with the. 669 00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:12,799 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, if you were the boyfriend, I don't have 670 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:13,400 Speaker 2: the relationship. 671 00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:16,040 Speaker 3: I don't know that you were. 672 00:34:16,560 --> 00:34:18,560 Speaker 5: You were the boyfriend and your girlfriend went on a 673 00:34:18,640 --> 00:34:20,840 Speaker 5: date with John Green, How would. 674 00:34:20,600 --> 00:34:22,839 Speaker 3: You feel about that? Did she kiss John Green? No? 675 00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:26,200 Speaker 4: But she did not talk about you would too. It 676 00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:27,000 Speaker 4: was really late. 677 00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:30,040 Speaker 2: At night, and she did just play by play exactly 678 00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:36,040 Speaker 2: what you just experienced and you know all the details. 679 00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:41,719 Speaker 3: When I like, probably not, probably not, but. 680 00:34:42,320 --> 00:34:48,040 Speaker 4: Said the poll speaks the speaks. Oh I didn't even 681 00:34:48,080 --> 00:34:51,480 Speaker 4: see the poles her to get with you or. 682 00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:54,080 Speaker 3: Uh, why would she get with me? 683 00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,600 Speaker 4: I don't know, I just want to. I just thought 684 00:34:56,680 --> 00:34:59,640 Speaker 4: the people should have like a voice, she. 685 00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:01,279 Speaker 3: Should not definitely not. 686 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:04,480 Speaker 1: Okay, okay, we didn't do anything. 687 00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:07,440 Speaker 4: The fourth party here is we didn't do anything. 688 00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:10,600 Speaker 5: I mean, I think that she's great for you, but 689 00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:14,240 Speaker 5: like you know, boyfriend and part that that stinks. 690 00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:14,479 Speaker 4: Man. 691 00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, anyway, it was the most romantic non date I've 692 00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:22,960 Speaker 1: ever had. And then I want to double date the 693 00:35:22,960 --> 00:35:23,399 Speaker 1: next step. 694 00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:26,319 Speaker 4: Wow, that's for tomorrow. Yeah, because we're out of time. 695 00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:27,920 Speaker 3: That's true. Wow. 696 00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:33,440 Speaker 2: Well there you go, ladies and gentlemen. That's that's about it, 697 00:35:33,480 --> 00:35:36,440 Speaker 2: but again thanks for joining it. Also, Hey, eighty eight 698 00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:41,000 Speaker 2: new members in the family. Wow, eighty eight new members 699 00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:41,760 Speaker 2: in the family. 700 00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:45,640 Speaker 4: Welcome. 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