Speaker 1: So much of our life begins invisibly. A seed is
Speaker 1: still a seed before it becomes a flower. A prayer
Speaker 1: is still a prayer before it becomes an answer, and
Speaker 1: a dream is still a dream before it becomes your reality.
Speaker 1: Maybe belief is the part of us that knows how
Speaker 1: to see life before it has even finished becoming. Welcome
Speaker 1: to you a Really Good Cry Podcast. A Really Good
Speaker 1: Cry is here to help you understand your body, feel
Speaker 1: confident in your skin, manage your emotions, and take back
Speaker 1: control of your help. Because growth doesn't always start with answers,
Speaker 1: sometimes it starts with a really good cry. Hey, everyone,
Speaker 1: welcome back to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry.
Speaker 1: I hope that you've had such a wonderful week. You know.
Speaker 1: I've been looking at my for you page lately and
Speaker 1: it has been filled with quotes. It's something that I've
Speaker 1: been trying to curate because I realized that I get
Speaker 1: the most from reading them, and some of the other
Speaker 1: things that used to be on my for you page
Speaker 1: we're not necessarily helping me. And so now my whole
Speaker 1: for you page is all these beautiful quotes, you know,
Speaker 1: just ones that make me think, make my heart happy,
Speaker 1: make me laugh. And one of the things that I
Speaker 1: read was one line. It was really simple, but it's
Speaker 1: basically sparked the thought for this entire episode, and it
Speaker 1: is that belief is magnetic. And it really made me think,
Speaker 1: because I feel like we hear things like that and
Speaker 1: immediately we can put them into this category of manifestation
Speaker 1: or just positive thinking. But the more I thought about it,
Speaker 1: the more I realized that belief isn't magnetic because the
Speaker 1: universe is randomly rewarding your thoughts. Belief is magnetic because
Speaker 1: what you believe literally changes how you move through the world.
Speaker 1: Believing in the magic of life is honestly what has
Speaker 1: got me through the difficult times Delusionally, believing in myself
Speaker 1: is what pushed me to do the things I never
Speaker 1: thought that I would do. But we're amazing and I
Speaker 1: am so happy in my life that I did them.
Speaker 1: And so I kept asking myself, like, what is life
Speaker 1: without believing in a little bit of magic beyond our
Speaker 1: own vision? I feel like we need that. Sometimes. Belief
Speaker 1: is honestly what carries you through the unknown moments, and
Speaker 1: the fact is you can actually start choosing the thoughts
Speaker 1: that support the life that you want, you can actually
Speaker 1: choose the thoughts that support the beliefs that you want
Speaker 1: to have. You have the power to do that, And
Speaker 1: so telling yourself simple things like you can do hard things,
Speaker 1: I can do hard things, I can do hard things
Speaker 1: whenever hard things come into your life, and reminding yourself
Speaker 1: that you are capable, even at the times your initial
Speaker 1: thought is that you actually are not. The more you believe,
Speaker 1: the more that you can actually begin to align your
Speaker 1: actions with that belief. It's like the more you tell
Speaker 1: yourself something, the more you're going to believe it right.
Speaker 1: And so the more thoughts that you can have based
Speaker 1: on the belief that you are trying to create, the
Speaker 1: easier it will be to lean into that belief and
Speaker 1: to start creating things around you that actually represent that
Speaker 1: belief and that can support it. And I think that's
Speaker 1: the part where someone's forget belief isn't just a nice thought.
Speaker 1: It becomes the way that you speak to yourself when
Speaker 1: things get hard. It becomes the way that you walk
Speaker 1: into a room. It becomes the way that you try
Speaker 1: again after something didn't work. It becomes a way that
Speaker 1: you hold yourself through the unknown moments. What is life
Speaker 1: if we only allow ourselves to trust what is already proven,
Speaker 1: already obvious, and already say. So much of what is
Speaker 1: beautiful in our lives begins invisibly. A seed doesn't look
Speaker 1: like a flower at first. A dream doesn't look like
Speaker 1: reality at first. A prayer doesn't always look like an
Speaker 1: answer at first. So sometimes the beginning of something miraculous
Speaker 1: looks like nothing is happening at all. And that is
Speaker 1: where belief matters so much. Your belief can carry you
Speaker 1: through everything, even when the outcome isn't clear, even when
Speaker 1: the path has not fully formed, when your mind is
Speaker 1: trying to convince you that you cannot. In those moments,
Speaker 1: you actually have this power to choose a thought that
Speaker 1: supports the life that you want instead of the one
Speaker 1: that shrinks you away from it. And the thing is,
Speaker 1: when you're telling yourself I can do hard things. I
Speaker 1: can do hard things over and over again, it's not
Speaker 1: that the hard thing suddenly becomes easier. Actually, what happens
Speaker 1: is you stop meeting the hard thing as someone who
Speaker 1: has already decided that they are incapable. Instead of going
Speaker 1: into it with defeat, you're going into it with this
Speaker 1: opportunity and this idea that this could be possible shifts
Speaker 1: completely the way that you are even interacting with that moment.
Speaker 1: A belief isn't just something that you think once. It's
Speaker 1: a thought that you've repeated enough times that your body
Speaker 1: starts to treat it as truth. It becomes more of
Speaker 1: an instruction. It starts telling you what to attempt, what
Speaker 1: to avoid, what feels safe, what feels absolutely impossible, what
Speaker 1: kind of love you think you deserve, how visible you
Speaker 1: allow yourself to be, and how much of your life
Speaker 1: you feel brave enough to claim. So, belief is a
Speaker 1: thought that actually has become a rule in your life.
Speaker 1: And this is why we have to be so careful
Speaker 1: with the beliefs that we keep repeating, Because if you
Speaker 1: believe you are always rejected, your mind will scan for rejection.
Speaker 1: If you believe you are behind, your mind will keep
Speaker 1: collecting evidence that everyone else is ahead. If you believe
Speaker 1: that things will never work out for you, even the
Speaker 1: small openings might go unnoticed because your mind has already
Speaker 1: decided what the story is. And once you decide what
Speaker 1: the story is, you're looking for evidence and the information
Speaker 1: to show that that story is the truth. When you
Speaker 1: begin to believe you are capable, You just move differently.
Speaker 1: When you begin to believe that life can support you,
Speaker 1: you notice all these little small openings or little signs
Speaker 1: instead of only the obstacles. When you begin to believe
Speaker 1: that you're worthy of something better, you stop tolerating the
Speaker 1: things that constantly make you feel small and look Belief
Speaker 1: does not guarantee the outcome. It's not a magical spell
Speaker 1: that you're doing. But it changes whether you even enter
Speaker 1: the room. It changes whether you send that email. It
Speaker 1: changes whether you ask the question or speak up, or
Speaker 1: begin again, or stay consistent, or walk away or soften
Speaker 1: or try that one more time. Two people can literally
Speaker 1: be given the same opportunity, and the one who believes
Speaker 1: I'm not ready will move completely different to the one
Speaker 1: who believes I can absolutely figure this out. The opportunity
Speaker 1: may be the same, but the belief creates a completely
Speaker 1: different version of the person meeting it. And honestly, doubt
Speaker 1: works in exactly the same way. Doubt is also magnetic.
Speaker 1: Doubt pulls you into hesitation. It makes you delay, It
Speaker 1: makes you overthink, It makes you ask for ten more
Speaker 1: signs when really you already know what the next step is.
Speaker 1: It can make you confuse your fear with intuition. Of course,
Speaker 1: doubt isn't always bad. Sometimes dou is information. Sometimes it
Speaker 1: asks us to pause and prepare and refine the plan
Speaker 1: or check out what our motives are. But doubt becomes
Speaker 1: really dangerous when it becomes part of your identity, when
Speaker 1: it becomes the place that you live from, or the
Speaker 1: voice that you trust more than hope. And that is
Speaker 1: where I think we have to understand the difference between force,
Speaker 1: positivity and chosen belief. Chosen belief is not pretending that
Speaker 1: everything is perfect. It's not denying your pain or acting
Speaker 1: like fear doesn't exist. Chosen belief is saying I don't
Speaker 1: know exactly how this will work out, but I am
Speaker 1: so willing to keep moving forward. It's saying I don't
Speaker 1: have proof yet, but I refuse to abandon myself. It's
Speaker 1: saying I can feel scared and still act. I can
Speaker 1: feel uncertain and still feel guided. I can have failed
Speaker 1: before and still be worthy of trying again. So belief
Speaker 1: is not certainty, but belief is this commitment that you
Speaker 1: have in the absence of certainty. So if you want
Speaker 1: to begin shifting your beliefs, you can't just repeat affirmations
Speaker 1: that your body doesn't believe yet. You actual have to
Speaker 1: start by becoming curious about the beliefs that are already
Speaker 1: running your life. You have to ask yourself, what do
Speaker 1: I believe about money, about love, about my body, about success,
Speaker 1: about my ability to change, about this ability to be seen,
Speaker 1: about being worthy? Whatever those thoughts are that are repeating
Speaker 1: in your mind, whatever those insecurities are, try and notice
Speaker 1: and observe what are those beliefs I've created around those things.
Speaker 1: It's not just about naming the belief. It's really about
Speaker 1: seeing whatever behavior is attached to it and how you
Speaker 1: move through the world because of it. So if the
Speaker 1: belief is, for example, I'm not disciplined, maybe the behavior
Speaker 1: is that you quick quickly, you avoid structure, you stop
Speaker 1: trusting yourself. So the new belief doesn't have to be
Speaker 1: I'm the most disciplint person in the whole entire world.
Speaker 1: That will probably feel really far away and maybe feel
Speaker 1: too scary to even get to. But the belief could
Speaker 1: be I can build trust with myself through small promises,
Speaker 1: and then every day you keep one tiny promise, and
Speaker 1: that is how belief becomes real. It becomes your evidence
Speaker 1: that you need, because the fact is your mind has
Speaker 1: spent years collecting evidence for this old belief, and so
Speaker 1: now you consciously have to collect evidence for the new one.
Speaker 1: So every time you keep that promise, every time you
Speaker 1: speak up, every time you recover faster, every time you
Speaker 1: choose differently, it becomes part of this new belief that
Speaker 1: you are creating. And the thing that's really magical about
Speaker 1: believing is that it really doesn't cost us anything, but
Speaker 1: the absence of it can literally cost us so much.
Speaker 1: It can cost us years of waiting and shrinking and
Speaker 1: hesitating and calling ourselves realistic and really we're just scared
Speaker 1: of hoping again. I've really noticed in my life that
Speaker 1: belief and believing in things that I cannot see yet
Speaker 1: is one of the softest forms of courage that I've
Speaker 1: had in my life. It doesn't ask anything from you
Speaker 1: except that you keep just that little crack in the
Speaker 1: doorway open inside of your heart, the idea that maybe
Speaker 1: life can still surprise me. Maybe my vision isn't able
Speaker 1: or capable of seeing what there is to offer. And
Speaker 1: I feel like there's something really sacred in this surrender
Speaker 1: of choosing to believe before the evidence comes, Because usually
Speaker 1: we wait for evidence and then we end up believing.
Speaker 1: But there's something to the surrender or the belief in
Speaker 1: something before you get to see the result, before the applause,
Speaker 1: before the thing has formed fully in front of you,
Speaker 1: and the feeling you get when the outcome does happen,
Speaker 1: The depth of that happiness, the depth of that excitement,
Speaker 1: the depth of the joy that you feel from having
Speaker 1: believed in it before you've even seen it. It's just
Speaker 1: completely different. I've experienced it in my life. It's so
Speaker 1: it feels so much more beautiful, it feels so much
Speaker 1: more meaningful because so much of our life begins invisibly.
Speaker 1: A seed is still a seed before it becomes a flower,
Speaker 1: a prayer is still a prayer before it becomes an answer,
Speaker 1: and a dream is still a dream before it becomes
Speaker 1: your reality. And so maybe belief is the part of
Speaker 1: us that knows how to see life before it has
Speaker 1: even finished becoming. And also, why would we choose not
Speaker 1: to believe, not in a naive way, but in a
Speaker 1: way that lets us stay open, in a way that
Speaker 1: keeps us from closing our hearts just because something hasn't
Speaker 1: happened yet. Disbelief actually just makes us smaller. You can
Speaker 1: either choose to limit yourself based on being a pessimist
Speaker 1: and based on choosing to believe only what you see
Speaker 1: in front of you, or you can choose to be
Speaker 1: optimist and believe that things are possible beyond your own expectations.
Speaker 1: And I honestly have found in my life having lived
Speaker 1: as both versions of those that the second believing in
Speaker 1: magic and believing in the possibilities of the world, you
Speaker 1: wander through life with a better perspective. You end up
Speaker 1: seeing the world differently. And yeah, it can hurt sometimes
Speaker 1: when you believe in things don't happen, but I think
Speaker 1: the feeling of not believing is far worse than the
Speaker 1: feeling of believing and it not happening. And I think
Speaker 1: having hope and belief is the anything that really keeps
Speaker 1: us going in life. And people might say, oh, but
Speaker 1: you have to be realistic, But what if having believe
Speaker 1: is part of reality. The fact is we end up
Speaker 1: receiving whatever we're putting out in the world. That's a fact.
Speaker 1: If you end up going out there with a bad attitude, yeah,
Speaker 1: you'll probably receive someone with a bad attitude because you're
Speaker 1: invite that into your life. And so the mere belief
Speaker 1: that what we are or what we think is what
Speaker 1: will become into our life, the mere understanding that who
Speaker 1: we are, what we believe, and what we put out
Speaker 1: into the world is what we will receive back. Just
Speaker 1: by knowing that it should change the way that we
Speaker 1: are moving through the world. And so I really hope
Speaker 1: that this encourages you to believe in the magic of
Speaker 1: life a little bit more and to give yourself the
Speaker 1: belief that you deserve the grandness of the life that
Speaker 1: you deserve and know that whatever you believe is what
Speaker 1: you get to create. And that's kind of exciting because
Speaker 1: then you realize what you have to work on is
Speaker 1: in the external world. It isn't trying to control and
Speaker 1: navigate parts of your life that you actually have no
Speaker 1: control over. It's putting in that focus and that work
Speaker 1: into how can I change the way that I am
Speaker 1: viewing the world? Because that you can control, those thoughts
Speaker 1: are things that you actually can impact. And so I
Speaker 1: hope that this episode was a little reminder of that,
Speaker 1: to believe in a bit of magic your life and
Speaker 1: the magic of things that are unseen, unheard and without evidence,
Speaker 1: And for myself Honestly, I think creating new beliefs or
Speaker 1: believing in more has just come with this simple mindset shift.
Speaker 1: As soon as I feel resistance in my life. So
Speaker 1: as soon as I notice resistance in my mind of
Speaker 1: I'm not smart enough to do this, or I really
Speaker 1: don't think I can make it through this, it's having
Speaker 1: that thought. That's fine, observing that thought, and then shifting
Speaker 1: it to what do I want to say to myself
Speaker 1: in this moment to make it through? And so I'll
Speaker 1: shift it to no, you are smart enough, you can
Speaker 1: handle this. You can do hard things. This is possible.
Speaker 1: And so it's almost letting that negative thought come to you,
Speaker 1: letting that restriction come to you, but then thinking, Okay,
Speaker 1: if I was to expand myself and if I was
Speaker 1: to create an expansive thought or sentence around this, what
Speaker 1: would it look like? And then repeating that after. It
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that those thoughts are going to go away,
Speaker 1: but you can observe them and you can correct them,
Speaker 1: and that's really where it all starts. So I'm going
Speaker 1: to leave you with this little thought. Believe not because
Speaker 1: life has given you proof, but because your heart deserves
Speaker 1: somewhere beautiful to walk towards. Why would you not believe
Speaker 1: in a world where seed becomes forests, wound become wisdom,
Speaker 1: and mornings keep arriving after the longest nights. Why would
Speaker 1: you not give your own life the same chance to
Speaker 1: surprise you. Belief is this bridge between what your eyes
Speaker 1: can see and what your soul already knows. And somewhere
Speaker 1: between fear and faith there is this tiny door, and
Speaker 1: belief is what opens it.