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Speaker 2: beeB, Hi Teeky's. I wanted to ask a question about friendships.
Speaker 2: I am going into my late thirties and I actually
Speaker 2: don't really have a lot of women friends at all,
Speaker 2: and I want to know how do you cultivate friendships
Speaker 2: and keep them for years. I kind of find myself
Speaker 2: befriending people and then after maybe about a good six months,
Speaker 2: it's like we drift apart, and I'm just not understanding how.
Speaker 2: I'm a stay at home mom, I'm a married woman,
Speaker 2: and you know, it's very hard to find friendships. But
Speaker 2: I wanted to know what you thought, and just wanted
Speaker 2: to let you know that I do love all of
Speaker 2: your music, all of your work. I love your mom,
Speaker 2: your family. I am just so proud of you and
Speaker 2: everything that you have. A scomplished and congratulations on your
Speaker 2: marriage and on your future endeavors. Kre.
Speaker 1: You are so sweet. Thank you so much for that.
Speaker 1: I really appreciate it, and thank you for listening, and
Speaker 1: thank you for your question. I do have very few
Speaker 1: friends now. I think once we get older, I really
Speaker 1: do feel that our circle gets smaller. So I think
Speaker 1: that's normal, at least for me. I do have a
Speaker 1: friend that is, you know, a little older than me,
Speaker 1: and she has a lot of friends. She's like social butterfly.
Speaker 1: I'm more introverted. I'd prefer to stay home when I
Speaker 1: have the choice. But anyway, get into your question. I
Speaker 1: think you might be the type of woman that gets
Speaker 1: along more with meles and that's okay. You are married,
Speaker 1: so if your husband's okay with it, then I mean,
Speaker 1: why not, you know, but it might also be that
Speaker 1: you are looking for friends that are necessarily on your
Speaker 1: same page. Are these friends married and also have husbands.
Speaker 1: I've noticed that now that I'm married, I hang out more. Actually, no,
Speaker 1: my best friend is you know, doesn't have a boyfriend
Speaker 1: right now and has children and stuff. So I don't know.
Speaker 1: That's actually a great question. You got me on this one.
Speaker 1: But I do think you got to ask yourself. Is
Speaker 1: it me, Am I the one? Yeah, I'm the one
Speaker 1: pushing them away? Or do they just drift off on
Speaker 1: their own? I think it's I need to have a
Speaker 1: little more information. But I don't think you should be
Speaker 1: so hard on yourself. I'd rather have two friends than
Speaker 1: a bunch, you know, like two friends that I really
Speaker 1: really trust. Then ten you get me like, that's a
Speaker 1: lot of noise as well. So again, you have to
Speaker 1: protect your inner peace, your home, your children, so they
Speaker 1: have to be quality human beings. So maybe that's what
Speaker 1: is happening. You're not finding quality human beings that are
Speaker 1: on your same wavelength. And I think that'll come with time.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Church is a great place to find
Speaker 1: new friends. Do you go to church or are your
Speaker 1: kids in like soccer or sports? You know, that's another
Speaker 1: way as well, But that I think is just a
Speaker 1: thing of the people that they are, or if they're
Speaker 1: on the same page. If that makes sense, and you
Speaker 1: know what create. I also think it's important to equally
Speaker 1: put in the effort. What I love about my friendships
Speaker 1: right now is that I don't have to speak to
Speaker 1: my friends every single day, like we just pick up
Speaker 1: wherever we left off. There's a friend that I don't
Speaker 1: see for weeks and weeks and weeks I don't even
Speaker 1: speak to her, but when I do, it's like with love,
Speaker 1: I know that she's busy. I'm busy. There isn't any
Speaker 1: room at this stage in our lives to be too
Speaker 1: sensitive and take things too personally. And then I have
Speaker 1: another friend that's a little bit more needy, but she's
Speaker 1: very honest about it. So I think if you have
Speaker 1: that friend that says, hey, I'm needy, I need you
Speaker 1: to call me and you to respond to me like,
Speaker 1: it's kind of like I also tell her, hey, girl,
Speaker 1: I'm busy. I can't respond all the time, but I
Speaker 1: will do my part in calling you more, because she's
Speaker 1: more of pick up the phone and call me instead
Speaker 1: of sending voice notes because I'm the queen of voice notes,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, cool. I love and value this friendship,
Speaker 1: so I'm going to do my part. I'm going to
Speaker 1: try calling at least once a week or once a month,
Speaker 1: and she's happy with that because she sees my effort.
Speaker 1: I think she appreciates it because the other day she
Speaker 1: told me she says that as long as I see
Speaker 1: your effort and that you're trying, even if it's something
Speaker 1: you're not used to, it makes me love you more.
Speaker 1: So I do want you to keep that in mind.
Speaker 1: And if you do feel that the friendship is fizzling out,
Speaker 1: I think that it's where, hey, let's communicate. I always
Speaker 1: say this. People need to talk about things, which means
Speaker 1: if you talk, you will understand the other person. So
Speaker 1: I think it's just having that open communication and honesty
Speaker 1: and saying, hey, is this relationship really worth this to me?
Speaker 1: I want to make sure that I make time for
Speaker 1: it or or not, you know, that's ultimately your choice.
Speaker 1: So I think just keeping that in mind and not
Speaker 1: being too sensitive and not taking things too personally. I
Speaker 1: had to learn that and unlearn it, so just that's
Speaker 1: another little thing. So I hope that makes sense. Sending
Speaker 1: you a big hug creat thank you so much. I
Speaker 1: hope to hear from you again. Okay, we're gonna move
Speaker 1: on to.
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Speaker 1: He's a fan of my mother's as well. He wanted
Speaker 1: to know which song of mine I identify with the
Speaker 1: most that like represents who I am and what I'm about,
Speaker 1: and I told him Hena, and I love a lot
Speaker 1: of my songs. I feel like, for instance, the amante
Speaker 1: also represents me very well, and Aura because I've gone
Speaker 1: through so many things, but is just very very special
Speaker 1: to me because my boss Bees gave me that name
Speaker 1: Queen Bee, and then we translated it to Spanish, which
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Speaker 1: about my mother. It just really expresses what I'm about
Speaker 1: and what I've had to live. And I don't know,
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Speaker 1: with our last question and it comes from Isara. Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 4: First of all, before I want to go and asking
Speaker 4: my question is, I just want to let you know
Speaker 4: that you're such a beautiful, strong person. Ever like, I
Speaker 4: honestly have been listening to your broadcast like since the beginning,
Speaker 4: and let me tell you, I look forward every Monday
Speaker 4: and Wednesday. But my question is what happened to your
Speaker 4: business about the shape?
Speaker 3: Where?
Speaker 4: Like what happened to it the other day I was
Speaker 4: trying to find and buy something. Then I'm like, oh,
Speaker 4: I can't find it anymore. Can you please give us
Speaker 4: some update update on that, like I need to find
Speaker 4: I need to know.
Speaker 3: Well.
Speaker 4: I hope you're doing well and I'm wishing you a
Speaker 4: blessed day.
Speaker 1: Oh it Sada, thank you so much. I love that
Speaker 1: you are a loyal listener of Dear Cheekies and Chiki's
Speaker 1: in Chill. I appreciate it so so much. And that
Speaker 1: is a great question, something I wasn't expecting. But well,
Speaker 1: shape Or and Co. We quietly on the DL try
Speaker 1: to just close it. Not because it didn't do well,
Speaker 1: because the truth is that it doing amazing. It was
Speaker 1: one of my most lucrative businesses. The partnership just was
Speaker 1: not the right fit. And I am a person that
Speaker 1: does her best to stay true to myself and not
Speaker 1: do things for dollar signs, because when you do that,
Speaker 1: that's when I feel you're selling your soul to the devil.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you guys have heard that. Maybe we can
Speaker 1: do a whole episode on that, but I just didn't
Speaker 1: feel comfortable. We were trying to make it work and
Speaker 1: it just was not working. So I thought the best
Speaker 1: thing to do was to just part ways, as hard
Speaker 1: as it was, because again it was a very successful
Speaker 1: business and I love the shapewear, very great quality and everything,
Speaker 1: but it just was not worth the heartache and the headache.
Speaker 1: So that's what happened. Without getting too much into the details,
Speaker 1: but thank you so much for your question, and I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry.
Speaker 3: Guys.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of you love the shape Our
Speaker 1: and Co. And maybe I don't know. I don't have plans,
Speaker 1: to be honest, but maybe I'll start a new one
Speaker 1: I don't know well right now my focus is Blantita's
Speaker 1: my haircare and be Flawless my skincare. So but thank
Speaker 1: you guys, Thank you all for your questions. I really
Speaker 1: appreciate you guys leaving them and listening all the time.
Speaker 1: It means so much to me. And if you have
Speaker 1: a question about anything you guys heard it here. Could
Speaker 1: be personal question, it could be about advice that you
Speaker 1: need in regards to love and finances and whatever it
Speaker 1: may be. I am here, I am willing, I am open,
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