WEBVTT - Dear Chiquis: Did You Shut Down Shapewear & Co.?

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached

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<v Speaker 2>beeB, Hi Teeky's. I wanted to ask a question about friendships.

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<v Speaker 2>I am going into my late thirties and I actually

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<v Speaker 2>don't really have a lot of women friends at all,

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<v Speaker 2>and I want to know how do you cultivate friendships

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<v Speaker 2>and keep them for years. I kind of find myself

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<v Speaker 2>befriending people and then after maybe about a good six months,

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<v Speaker 2>it's like we drift apart, and I'm just not understanding how.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a stay at home mom, I'm a married woman,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know, it's very hard to find friendships. But

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to know what you thought, and just wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to let you know that I do love all of

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<v Speaker 2>your music, all of your work. I love your mom,

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<v Speaker 2>your family. I am just so proud of you and

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<v Speaker 2>everything that you have. A scomplished and congratulations on your

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<v Speaker 2>marriage and on your future endeavors. Kre.

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<v Speaker 1>You are so sweet. Thank you so much for that.

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<v Speaker 1>I really appreciate it, and thank you for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for your question. I do have very few

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<v Speaker 1>friends now. I think once we get older, I really

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<v Speaker 1>do feel that our circle gets smaller. So I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's normal, at least for me. I do have a

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<v Speaker 1>friend that is, you know, a little older than me,

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<v Speaker 1>and she has a lot of friends. She's like social butterfly.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm more introverted. I'd prefer to stay home when I

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<v Speaker 1>have the choice. But anyway, get into your question. I

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<v Speaker 1>think you might be the type of woman that gets

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<v Speaker 1>along more with meles and that's okay. You are married,

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<v Speaker 1>so if your husband's okay with it, then I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>why not, you know, but it might also be that

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<v Speaker 1>you are looking for friends that are necessarily on your

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<v Speaker 1>same page. Are these friends married and also have husbands.

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<v Speaker 1>I've noticed that now that I'm married, I hang out more. Actually, no,

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<v Speaker 1>my best friend is you know, doesn't have a boyfriend

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<v Speaker 1>right now and has children and stuff. So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>That's actually a great question. You got me on this one.

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<v Speaker 1>But I do think you got to ask yourself. Is

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<v Speaker 1>it me, Am I the one? Yeah, I'm the one

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<v Speaker 1>pushing them away? Or do they just drift off on

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<v Speaker 1>their own? I think it's I need to have a

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<v Speaker 1>little more information. But I don't think you should be

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<v Speaker 1>so hard on yourself. I'd rather have two friends than

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch, you know, like two friends that I really

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<v Speaker 1>really trust. Then ten you get me like, that's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of noise as well. So again, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>protect your inner peace, your home, your children, so they

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<v Speaker 1>have to be quality human beings. So maybe that's what

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<v Speaker 1>is happening. You're not finding quality human beings that are

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<v Speaker 1>on your same wavelength. And I think that'll come with time.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Church is a great place to find

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<v Speaker 1>new friends. Do you go to church or are your

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<v Speaker 1>kids in like soccer or sports? You know, that's another

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<v Speaker 1>way as well, But that I think is just a

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<v Speaker 1>thing of the people that they are, or if they're

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<v Speaker 1>on the same page. If that makes sense, and you

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<v Speaker 1>know what create. I also think it's important to equally

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<v Speaker 1>put in the effort. What I love about my friendships

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<v Speaker 1>right now is that I don't have to speak to

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<v Speaker 1>my friends every single day, like we just pick up

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<v Speaker 1>wherever we left off. There's a friend that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>see for weeks and weeks and weeks I don't even

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<v Speaker 1>speak to her, but when I do, it's like with love,

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<v Speaker 1>I know that she's busy. I'm busy. There isn't any

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<v Speaker 1>room at this stage in our lives to be too

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<v Speaker 1>sensitive and take things too personally. And then I have

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<v Speaker 1>another friend that's a little bit more needy, but she's

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<v Speaker 1>very honest about it. So I think if you have

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<v Speaker 1>that friend that says, hey, I'm needy, I need you

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<v Speaker 1>to call me and you to respond to me like,

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of like I also tell her, hey, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm busy. I can't respond all the time, but I

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<v Speaker 1>will do my part in calling you more, because she's

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<v Speaker 1>more of pick up the phone and call me instead

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<v Speaker 1>of sending voice notes because I'm the queen of voice notes,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, okay, cool. I love and value this friendship,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm going to do my part. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>try calling at least once a week or once a month,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's happy with that because she sees my effort.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she appreciates it because the other day she

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<v Speaker 1>told me she says that as long as I see

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<v Speaker 1>your effort and that you're trying, even if it's something

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<v Speaker 1>you're not used to, it makes me love you more.

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<v Speaker 1>So I do want you to keep that in mind.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you do feel that the friendship is fizzling out,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that it's where, hey, let's communicate. I always

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<v Speaker 1>say this. People need to talk about things, which means

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<v Speaker 1>if you talk, you will understand the other person. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's just having that open communication and honesty

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<v Speaker 1>and saying, hey, is this relationship really worth this to me?

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<v Speaker 1>I want to make sure that I make time for

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<v Speaker 1>it or or not, you know, that's ultimately your choice.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think just keeping that in mind and not

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<v Speaker 1>being too sensitive and not taking things too personally. I

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<v Speaker 1>had to learn that and unlearn it, so just that's

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<v Speaker 1>another little thing. So I hope that makes sense. Sending

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<v Speaker 1>you a big hug creat thank you so much. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope to hear from you again. Okay, we're gonna move

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<v Speaker 1>on to.

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<v Speaker 3>It too, fun, mutual respect. The last too, just coliatient.

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<v Speaker 3>It's just me consumed. It's loca in co locate, locate

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<v Speaker 3>joys quale is uh is a consume.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh menarium and Elie Case has fun. Even the mis

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<v Speaker 1>cancion is da is a cancion s condola ca guando

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<v Speaker 1>lascuccoendera cancionarios. You know, look represento beca manteo perrena. So

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<v Speaker 1>you guys always asking that, you know, he's a fan.

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<v Speaker 1>He's a fan of my mother's as well. He wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to know which song of mine I identify with the

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<v Speaker 1>most that like represents who I am and what I'm about,

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<v Speaker 1>and I told him Hena, and I love a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of my songs. I feel like, for instance, the amante

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<v Speaker 1>also represents me very well, and Aura because I've gone

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<v Speaker 1>through so many things, but is just very very special

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<v Speaker 1>to me because my boss Bees gave me that name

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<v Speaker 1>Queen Bee, and then we translated it to Spanish, which

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<v Speaker 1>is Arena, and it talks about my siblings, it talks

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<v Speaker 1>about my mother. It just really expresses what I'm about

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<v Speaker 1>and what I've had to live. And I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I wrote it, you know, so I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>It comes from my heart. So yeah, if you haven't

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<v Speaker 1>heard it, you guys, you guys should listen to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Betrouena it's better. Okay ta mando. Okay. We are going

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<v Speaker 1>with our last question and it comes from Isara. Hello, Hello, Hello.

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<v Speaker 4>First of all, before I want to go and asking

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<v Speaker 4>my question is, I just want to let you know

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<v Speaker 4>that you're such a beautiful, strong person. Ever like, I

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<v Speaker 4>honestly have been listening to your broadcast like since the beginning,

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<v Speaker 4>and let me tell you, I look forward every Monday

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<v Speaker 4>and Wednesday. But my question is what happened to your

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<v Speaker 4>business about the shape?

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<v Speaker 3>Where?

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<v Speaker 4>Like what happened to it the other day I was

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<v Speaker 4>trying to find and buy something. Then I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 4>I can't find it anymore. Can you please give us

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<v Speaker 4>some update update on that, like I need to find

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<v Speaker 4>I need to know.

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<v Speaker 3>Well.

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<v Speaker 4>I hope you're doing well and I'm wishing you a

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<v Speaker 4>blessed day.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh it Sada, thank you so much. I love that

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<v Speaker 1>you are a loyal listener of Dear Cheekies and Chiki's

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<v Speaker 1>in Chill. I appreciate it so so much. And that

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<v Speaker 1>is a great question, something I wasn't expecting. But well,

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<v Speaker 1>shape Or and Co. We quietly on the DL try

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<v Speaker 1>to just close it. Not because it didn't do well,

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<v Speaker 1>because the truth is that it doing amazing. It was

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<v Speaker 1>one of my most lucrative businesses. The partnership just was

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<v Speaker 1>not the right fit. And I am a person that

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<v Speaker 1>does her best to stay true to myself and not

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<v Speaker 1>do things for dollar signs, because when you do that,

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<v Speaker 1>that's when I feel you're selling your soul to the devil.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you guys have heard that. Maybe we can

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<v Speaker 1>do a whole episode on that, but I just didn't

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<v Speaker 1>feel comfortable. We were trying to make it work and

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<v Speaker 1>it just was not working. So I thought the best

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<v Speaker 1>thing to do was to just part ways, as hard

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<v Speaker 1>as it was, because again it was a very successful

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<v Speaker 1>business and I love the shapewear, very great quality and everything,

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<v Speaker 1>but it just was not worth the heartache and the headache.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's what happened. Without getting too much into the details,

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<v Speaker 1>but thank you so much for your question, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>Guys.

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<v Speaker 1>I know a lot of you love the shape Our

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<v Speaker 1>and Co. And maybe I don't know. I don't have plans,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest, but maybe I'll start a new one

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know well right now my focus is Blantita's

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<v Speaker 1>my haircare and be Flawless my skincare. So but thank

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, Thank you all for your questions. I really

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate you guys leaving them and listening all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>It means so much to me. And if you have

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<v Speaker 1>a question about anything you guys heard it here. Could

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<v Speaker 1>be personal question, it could be about advice that you

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<v Speaker 1>need in regards to love and finances and whatever it

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<v Speaker 1>may be. I am here, I am willing, I am open,

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