1 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:22,320 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, it's your big sister Cheeky's and you've reached 2 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:26,320 Speaker 1: my personal voicemailbox for the Dear Cheeky's podcast. I'm here 3 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: to give you advice on anything and everything you need 4 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,480 Speaker 1: help with. Whether you're going through a breakup or having 5 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:33,960 Speaker 1: issues with your family, or maybe you have a question 6 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: about my personal life. Whatever the case is, I want 7 00:00:36,600 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: to hear from you. Remember these are my thoughts in 8 00:00:39,440 --> 00:00:42,040 Speaker 1: my opinions, and if you're suffering from a serious issue 9 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 1: or hardship, you should seek help from a qualified professional. 10 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 1: All right, now, go ahead and leave your message at 11 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: the sound of the. 12 00:00:49,320 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 2: beeB, Hi Teeky's. I wanted to ask a question about friendships. 13 00:00:57,360 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 2: I am going into my late thirties and I actually 14 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 2: don't really have a lot of women friends at all, 15 00:01:08,120 --> 00:01:14,399 Speaker 2: and I want to know how do you cultivate friendships 16 00:01:14,440 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 2: and keep them for years. I kind of find myself 17 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:26,640 Speaker 2: befriending people and then after maybe about a good six months, 18 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 2: it's like we drift apart, and I'm just not understanding how. 19 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,200 Speaker 2: I'm a stay at home mom, I'm a married woman, 20 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 2: and you know, it's very hard to find friendships. But 21 00:01:42,280 --> 00:01:44,800 Speaker 2: I wanted to know what you thought, and just wanted 22 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 2: to let you know that I do love all of 23 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 2: your music, all of your work. I love your mom, 24 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 2: your family. I am just so proud of you and 25 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:03,440 Speaker 2: everything that you have. A scomplished and congratulations on your 26 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:09,320 Speaker 2: marriage and on your future endeavors. Kre. 27 00:02:09,440 --> 00:02:11,520 Speaker 1: You are so sweet. Thank you so much for that. 28 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 1: I really appreciate it, and thank you for listening, and 29 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 1: thank you for your question. I do have very few 30 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:25,280 Speaker 1: friends now. I think once we get older, I really 31 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: do feel that our circle gets smaller. So I think 32 00:02:30,320 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 1: that's normal, at least for me. I do have a 33 00:02:33,000 --> 00:02:35,239 Speaker 1: friend that is, you know, a little older than me, 34 00:02:35,280 --> 00:02:37,720 Speaker 1: and she has a lot of friends. She's like social butterfly. 35 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:40,920 Speaker 1: I'm more introverted. I'd prefer to stay home when I 36 00:02:40,960 --> 00:02:44,280 Speaker 1: have the choice. But anyway, get into your question. I 37 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: think you might be the type of woman that gets 38 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:51,519 Speaker 1: along more with meles and that's okay. You are married, 39 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 1: so if your husband's okay with it, then I mean, 40 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: why not, you know, but it might also be that 41 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:03,399 Speaker 1: you are looking for friends that are necessarily on your 42 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:08,640 Speaker 1: same page. Are these friends married and also have husbands. 43 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:17,200 Speaker 1: I've noticed that now that I'm married, I hang out more. Actually, no, 44 00:03:17,480 --> 00:03:20,520 Speaker 1: my best friend is you know, doesn't have a boyfriend 45 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:22,920 Speaker 1: right now and has children and stuff. So I don't know. 46 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:25,200 Speaker 1: That's actually a great question. You got me on this one. 47 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: But I do think you got to ask yourself. Is 48 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: it me, Am I the one? Yeah, I'm the one 49 00:03:31,480 --> 00:03:33,280 Speaker 1: pushing them away? Or do they just drift off on 50 00:03:33,320 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: their own? I think it's I need to have a 51 00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:40,000 Speaker 1: little more information. But I don't think you should be 52 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 1: so hard on yourself. I'd rather have two friends than 53 00:03:43,360 --> 00:03:46,120 Speaker 1: a bunch, you know, like two friends that I really 54 00:03:46,160 --> 00:03:49,520 Speaker 1: really trust. Then ten you get me like, that's a 55 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 1: lot of noise as well. So again, you have to 56 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:55,160 Speaker 1: protect your inner peace, your home, your children, so they 57 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,840 Speaker 1: have to be quality human beings. So maybe that's what 58 00:03:59,000 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 1: is happening. You're not finding quality human beings that are 59 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:04,840 Speaker 1: on your same wavelength. And I think that'll come with time. 60 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:07,240 Speaker 1: I don't know. Church is a great place to find 61 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: new friends. Do you go to church or are your 62 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: kids in like soccer or sports? You know, that's another 63 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:17,880 Speaker 1: way as well, But that I think is just a 64 00:04:17,960 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: thing of the people that they are, or if they're 65 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 1: on the same page. If that makes sense, and you 66 00:04:23,880 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 1: know what create. I also think it's important to equally 67 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 1: put in the effort. What I love about my friendships 68 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,400 Speaker 1: right now is that I don't have to speak to 69 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:34,719 Speaker 1: my friends every single day, like we just pick up 70 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: wherever we left off. There's a friend that I don't 71 00:04:38,680 --> 00:04:40,280 Speaker 1: see for weeks and weeks and weeks I don't even 72 00:04:40,320 --> 00:04:42,280 Speaker 1: speak to her, but when I do, it's like with love, 73 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 1: I know that she's busy. I'm busy. There isn't any 74 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:48,400 Speaker 1: room at this stage in our lives to be too 75 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:51,400 Speaker 1: sensitive and take things too personally. And then I have 76 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:53,479 Speaker 1: another friend that's a little bit more needy, but she's 77 00:04:54,080 --> 00:04:57,160 Speaker 1: very honest about it. So I think if you have 78 00:04:57,200 --> 00:04:59,760 Speaker 1: that friend that says, hey, I'm needy, I need you 79 00:04:59,839 --> 00:05:01,440 Speaker 1: to call me and you to respond to me like, 80 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:03,520 Speaker 1: it's kind of like I also tell her, hey, girl, 81 00:05:03,520 --> 00:05:05,680 Speaker 1: I'm busy. I can't respond all the time, but I 82 00:05:05,720 --> 00:05:09,039 Speaker 1: will do my part in calling you more, because she's 83 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,640 Speaker 1: more of pick up the phone and call me instead 84 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: of sending voice notes because I'm the queen of voice notes, 85 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, cool. I love and value this friendship, 86 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 1: so I'm going to do my part. I'm going to 87 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:23,679 Speaker 1: try calling at least once a week or once a month, 88 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:26,560 Speaker 1: and she's happy with that because she sees my effort. 89 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:28,640 Speaker 1: I think she appreciates it because the other day she 90 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:30,640 Speaker 1: told me she says that as long as I see 91 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: your effort and that you're trying, even if it's something 92 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,040 Speaker 1: you're not used to, it makes me love you more. 93 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:38,719 Speaker 1: So I do want you to keep that in mind. 94 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:42,240 Speaker 1: And if you do feel that the friendship is fizzling out, 95 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,120 Speaker 1: I think that it's where, hey, let's communicate. I always 96 00:05:46,160 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 1: say this. People need to talk about things, which means 97 00:05:51,560 --> 00:05:53,520 Speaker 1: if you talk, you will understand the other person. So 98 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,360 Speaker 1: I think it's just having that open communication and honesty 99 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: and saying, hey, is this relationship really worth this to me? 100 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:02,720 Speaker 1: I want to make sure that I make time for 101 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:06,120 Speaker 1: it or or not, you know, that's ultimately your choice. 102 00:06:06,720 --> 00:06:09,080 Speaker 1: So I think just keeping that in mind and not 103 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: being too sensitive and not taking things too personally. I 104 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 1: had to learn that and unlearn it, so just that's 105 00:06:16,160 --> 00:06:20,000 Speaker 1: another little thing. So I hope that makes sense. Sending 106 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 1: you a big hug creat thank you so much. I 107 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: hope to hear from you again. Okay, we're gonna move 108 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:37,200 Speaker 1: on to. 109 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:43,560 Speaker 3: It too, fun, mutual respect. The last too, just coliatient. 110 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 3: It's just me consumed. It's loca in co locate, locate 111 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 3: joys quale is uh is a consume. 112 00:06:56,680 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: Oh menarium and Elie Case has fun. Even the mis 113 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:16,160 Speaker 1: cancion is da is a cancion s condola ca guando 114 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 1: lascuccoendera cancionarios. You know, look represento beca manteo perrena. So 115 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:45,000 Speaker 1: you guys always asking that, you know, he's a fan. 116 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:47,240 Speaker 1: He's a fan of my mother's as well. He wanted 117 00:07:47,280 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 1: to know which song of mine I identify with the 118 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 1: most that like represents who I am and what I'm about, 119 00:07:55,480 --> 00:07:58,560 Speaker 1: and I told him Hena, and I love a lot 120 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,600 Speaker 1: of my songs. I feel like, for instance, the amante 121 00:08:00,720 --> 00:08:05,840 Speaker 1: also represents me very well, and Aura because I've gone 122 00:08:05,880 --> 00:08:09,560 Speaker 1: through so many things, but is just very very special 123 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:13,320 Speaker 1: to me because my boss Bees gave me that name 124 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: Queen Bee, and then we translated it to Spanish, which 125 00:08:16,320 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: is Arena, and it talks about my siblings, it talks 126 00:08:19,760 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 1: about my mother. It just really expresses what I'm about 127 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:27,680 Speaker 1: and what I've had to live. And I don't know, 128 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 1: I mean, I wrote it, you know, so I love it. 129 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:32,920 Speaker 1: It comes from my heart. So yeah, if you haven't 130 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: heard it, you guys, you guys should listen to it. 131 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:46,160 Speaker 1: Betrouena it's better. Okay ta mando. Okay. We are going 132 00:08:46,240 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 1: with our last question and it comes from Isara. Hello, Hello, Hello. 133 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 4: First of all, before I want to go and asking 134 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 4: my question is, I just want to let you know 135 00:08:56,559 --> 00:09:00,319 Speaker 4: that you're such a beautiful, strong person. Ever like, I 136 00:09:00,640 --> 00:09:04,080 Speaker 4: honestly have been listening to your broadcast like since the beginning, 137 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 4: and let me tell you, I look forward every Monday 138 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:11,679 Speaker 4: and Wednesday. But my question is what happened to your 139 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 4: business about the shape? 140 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 3: Where? 141 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:16,079 Speaker 4: Like what happened to it the other day I was 142 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,839 Speaker 4: trying to find and buy something. Then I'm like, oh, 143 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:22,320 Speaker 4: I can't find it anymore. Can you please give us 144 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:25,480 Speaker 4: some update update on that, like I need to find 145 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 4: I need to know. 146 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:26,960 Speaker 3: Well. 147 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:29,439 Speaker 4: I hope you're doing well and I'm wishing you a 148 00:09:29,520 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 4: blessed day. 149 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:34,559 Speaker 1: Oh it Sada, thank you so much. I love that 150 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:39,040 Speaker 1: you are a loyal listener of Dear Cheekies and Chiki's 151 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 1: in Chill. I appreciate it so so much. And that 152 00:09:42,600 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: is a great question, something I wasn't expecting. But well, 153 00:09:48,480 --> 00:09:53,520 Speaker 1: shape Or and Co. We quietly on the DL try 154 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:58,120 Speaker 1: to just close it. Not because it didn't do well, 155 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:02,839 Speaker 1: because the truth is that it doing amazing. It was 156 00:10:04,080 --> 00:10:09,839 Speaker 1: one of my most lucrative businesses. The partnership just was 157 00:10:10,000 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: not the right fit. And I am a person that 158 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:21,599 Speaker 1: does her best to stay true to myself and not 159 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: do things for dollar signs, because when you do that, 160 00:10:25,880 --> 00:10:28,240 Speaker 1: that's when I feel you're selling your soul to the devil. 161 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: I'm sure you guys have heard that. Maybe we can 162 00:10:30,400 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: do a whole episode on that, but I just didn't 163 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:37,880 Speaker 1: feel comfortable. We were trying to make it work and 164 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:40,920 Speaker 1: it just was not working. So I thought the best 165 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:44,040 Speaker 1: thing to do was to just part ways, as hard 166 00:10:44,080 --> 00:10:46,439 Speaker 1: as it was, because again it was a very successful 167 00:10:46,480 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 1: business and I love the shapewear, very great quality and everything, 168 00:10:50,360 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: but it just was not worth the heartache and the headache. 169 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: So that's what happened. Without getting too much into the details, 170 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:01,240 Speaker 1: but thank you so much for your question, and I'm 171 00:11:01,280 --> 00:11:01,760 Speaker 1: so sorry. 172 00:11:01,800 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 3: Guys. 173 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:03,480 Speaker 1: I know a lot of you love the shape Our 174 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:06,680 Speaker 1: and Co. And maybe I don't know. I don't have plans, 175 00:11:06,720 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 1: to be honest, but maybe I'll start a new one 176 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:14,280 Speaker 1: I don't know well right now my focus is Blantita's 177 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:17,480 Speaker 1: my haircare and be Flawless my skincare. So but thank 178 00:11:17,520 --> 00:11:19,480 Speaker 1: you guys, Thank you all for your questions. I really 179 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:23,360 Speaker 1: appreciate you guys leaving them and listening all the time. 180 00:11:23,600 --> 00:11:25,319 Speaker 1: It means so much to me. And if you have 181 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:28,560 Speaker 1: a question about anything you guys heard it here. Could 182 00:11:28,600 --> 00:11:32,199 Speaker 1: be personal question, it could be about advice that you 183 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:35,959 Speaker 1: need in regards to love and finances and whatever it 184 00:11:36,040 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 1: may be. 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