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Speaker 1: assad didn't have occurred to you that right now, at
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Speaker 1: And I guess it's something to really think about, because
Speaker 1: I'm sure all of us are so guilty of putting
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Speaker 1: a better space, rather than season what we have right now,
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Speaker 1: then this next week, the next, next month, and hey
Speaker 1: it's even the next year, and it's like, no, we
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Speaker 1: It was on Instagram and this lady was talking about
Speaker 1: life and she compared it to alphabets and she said,
Speaker 1: you know, life is through B through D and I
Speaker 1: was like, uh, what she said, B is birth and
Speaker 1: then and then you go on to death. But in
Speaker 1: between that's the sea. That's the choice. And it makes
Speaker 1: me think we have a choice every day to live
Speaker 1: our best life, and not just one, not two, not three,
Speaker 1: but eighty six thousand, four hundred choices because there are
Speaker 1: eighty six thousand, four hundred seconds and every day, what
Speaker 1: are you doing or how are you making your choices?
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Speaker 1: gonna be honest, I'm guilty for one to be indecisive.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if I've made the right decision or
Speaker 1: if there's a better decision out there. And as i
Speaker 1: am in my meditation process, as I'm more grounded, as
Speaker 1: as I'm realizing that whatever decision that is made, it
Speaker 1: is right for right now. And that's what I want
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Speaker 1: hurts to stay the same. So what are you gonna
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Speaker 1: that we see on the tombstone, right the birth and
Speaker 1: the death. But then that's dash, that's the choice, that's
Speaker 1: the life, that's the story. What's your story gonna say
Speaker 1: about right now? And I want to have you chew
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Speaker 1: situation be what it is instead of what you think
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Speaker 1: How can I do this? It's something wrong with me,
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Speaker 1: write with me or you write to me, Wow, I'm
Speaker 1: all about inspiring and motivating individuals. But just as the
Speaker 1: name of this podcast, Vitamin D, it's all about shedding light.
Speaker 1: And if you want to be better and you want
Speaker 1: to do better, you have to be able to see
Speaker 1: better and that means the good and the bad. So
Speaker 1: maybe whatever I may say may not rub you the
Speaker 1: quote unquote right way, but no that it's just me
Speaker 1: being true and authentic because there's no way or no
Speaker 1: reason to sugarcoat anything right? All right, now that we
Speaker 1: got the out the way, let's get to this letter. Okay, subject,
Speaker 1: are you flirting with me? Hi? Don? I have been
Speaker 1: dealing with some roommate problems and it's gotten worse these
Speaker 1: last couple of months. I live in an apartment with
Speaker 1: two other people. Two of us are women and the
Speaker 1: other one is a male. We all went to college together,
Speaker 1: and my two other roommates are also a couple. The
Speaker 1: issue I have been having is the boyfriend has been
Speaker 1: flirting with me. It started off as seemingly sweet compliments.
Speaker 1: He'd says something nice about my outfit or my makeup
Speaker 1: in front of his girlfriend, and I'd say how sweet
Speaker 1: he is and how she's lucky to have him. But
Speaker 1: then when we're alone in the apartment together because his
Speaker 1: girlfriend is the only one that doesn't work from home,
Speaker 1: he will not only walk around shirtless, but he will
Speaker 1: accidentally rush up against me when we're in the kitchen
Speaker 1: or if we passed by each other in the hallway.
Speaker 1: I can't count how many times he's done this now.
Speaker 1: The reason that I know he does this on purpose
Speaker 1: is because he never brushes up against me when his
Speaker 1: girlfriend is home. And he also always has a shirt
Speaker 1: on when we're all home. It's now progressed to where
Speaker 1: he makes me food and he brings it to me. Again.
Speaker 1: He only does this when his girlfriend isn't home. I'll
Speaker 1: be honest. It doesn't make me uncomfortable, and I love
Speaker 1: being given food, but this has got to be crossing
Speaker 1: the boundary with his commitment to her right. The fact
Speaker 1: that he only does this stuff when she's not home
Speaker 1: is what makes me question what's going on. And I
Speaker 1: haven't brought it up to her because I feel like
Speaker 1: if I tell her what he's been doing that she
Speaker 1: might take it as me trying to start an issue
Speaker 1: with their relationship, because I know she can be a
Speaker 1: bit of a jealous person. I have been in awkward
Speaker 1: situations with men before, but this is the first time
Speaker 1: I've experienced a man do this kind of weird stuff.
Speaker 1: I haven't addressed him directly because I don't know how
Speaker 1: I would bring it up with him. Do I say, hey,
Speaker 1: stop making me food and walking around without a shirt on?
Speaker 1: He hasn't done anything outright inappropriate? Am I to stand
Speaker 1: still with this? Should I say anything? Called up? Wait
Speaker 1: a minute, Oh, let's start with oh. The big oh
Speaker 1: is that if he isn't brushing up against you bringing
Speaker 1: food when the girlfriend is there, why would you even
Speaker 1: try to entertain the idea that is not there or
Speaker 1: that it is appropriate. That's when I gotta check you.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm all about you know, being naive, but
Speaker 1: I feel like you're being naive to a default. What
Speaker 1: you need to ask yourself? Why do you feel any guilt? Oftentimes?
Speaker 1: And I was just sharing with coworker of mind over
Speaker 1: at kjl AH. I said, when we hide things, that's
Speaker 1: because of shame. And usually we're in shame because we
Speaker 1: feel as though there's something that we should not be doing.
Speaker 1: The fact that you have a hesitation about telling your
Speaker 1: roommate what's happening with her boyfriend lets you know that
Speaker 1: something isn't right. Let's just start there. Oh, now, how
Speaker 1: do you work it? Work it? You simply sit down
Speaker 1: and you have a conversation because it's not gonna stop.
Speaker 1: But this is the thing too, I'm going to need
Speaker 1: you to be honest, you know. I It's one thing. No,
Speaker 1: it ain't about being in denial, It's about being honest.
Speaker 1: To be honest about it. You like it, That's why
Speaker 1: you don't feel uncomfortable, because when something is unwelcomed, it
Speaker 1: makes you feel uncomfortable. And best believe, if it truly
Speaker 1: bothered you, he would stop because you would express yourself.
Speaker 1: And no one wants anyone to feel uncomfortable. So when
Speaker 1: you say, oh, hey, John, she has a tendency to
Speaker 1: be a jealous person, well look at you. First of all,
Speaker 1: it highlights the behavior of her boyfriend, and then the
Speaker 1: context of how you guys are living together and how
Speaker 1: she he asks when you two are alone. I'm thinking
Speaker 1: about thinking back to a college friends mam. She shared
Speaker 1: with me. She said, you never leave your husband downstairs
Speaker 1: with any of your friends, never alone, never in a space.
Speaker 1: Because what we need to realize too is that what
Speaker 1: we have all of our morals and we know what
Speaker 1: to do and what not to do, we're still human
Speaker 1: and things happen. And what you realize is that you
Speaker 1: can place yourself in situations with the variable or the
Speaker 1: percentage rate of something going quote unquote in your favor
Speaker 1: and not in your favor can happen. So as a
Speaker 1: human and if you're attractive, same sex or had a role,
Speaker 1: depending what you're into, these things can naturally happen. But
Speaker 1: the thing is is that you haven't set a boundary.
Speaker 1: Can we be honest and say that you actually like it?
Speaker 1: Can we be honest the fact that you like attention?
Speaker 1: Can we be super honest? Hey, guys that dating Michael ever?
Speaker 1: Get your dose about indeed with Dawn day and get
Speaker 1: excited about your Do you have a crush on your friends,
Speaker 1: boyfriend or your room mate? Now you said y'all went
Speaker 1: to college together, but you didn't insinuate that you guys
Speaker 1: are friends. But I'm assuming so. Furthermore, going back to
Speaker 1: my friends said about never leaving your man at home
Speaker 1: with another woman, a woman or other female friends. That
Speaker 1: goes a testament to show and no shade how young
Speaker 1: you guys are. Why is this man making you fool?
Speaker 1: Hold up, that's where we are right now. Let's hold
Speaker 1: up right there. The fact that he is doing things
Speaker 1: when his girlfriend isn't there. What does that say to you?
Speaker 1: Why are you pretending like it's okay? Furthermore, would you
Speaker 1: be okay with your partner, your man doing that to you?
Speaker 1: You know, what goes around comes right back around, and
Speaker 1: what's going around and this is how apartment It's not
Speaker 1: cool let's just be honest. But see, that's why I
Speaker 1: gotta ask you when you're right in, do you really
Speaker 1: expect me to be honest? But more importantly, are you
Speaker 1: ready to be honest with yourself? Because to be acting like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I don't know if I should say anything.
Speaker 1: Is this an issue? Hell? Yes, the issue. You know.
Speaker 1: One of my love languages, Yeah, one of them is
Speaker 1: you feed me. The other one is affirmed me. Okay,
Speaker 1: and baby, he's feeding you and it sounds like he's
Speaker 1: feeding you something good, and it's just interesting. You said,
Speaker 1: I don't know how it would bring it up with him.
Speaker 1: The conversation isn't with him, it's with her. He knows
Speaker 1: what he's doing is inappropriate. You don't need to address that.
Speaker 1: How does he know doing well? He's not doing it
Speaker 1: when his girlfriend is around, because if it were okay,
Speaker 1: if it were deemed permissible, the behavior when changed? Why?
Speaker 1: Because remember what I said, you only high things that
Speaker 1: you're ashamed of, and you're only ashamed of. But if
Speaker 1: you feel like you're doing something wrong, so I guess
Speaker 1: I need to ask you. Are you ready to step
Speaker 1: into the light? Are you ready to keep it? G huh?
Speaker 1: The issue that is going to ensue or is brewing,
Speaker 1: is the fact that this is continuously happening and nothing
Speaker 1: get stopped, nothing has changed. Why is that? Why is
Speaker 1: that Okay? You said that he does it on purpose.
Speaker 1: You're stating whether or not you should inform her says, well,
Speaker 1: maybe it's not on purpose if you did not live
Speaker 1: there with him, if you were not in pro close proximity,
Speaker 1: perhaps as somebody that you can stay away from, you
Speaker 1: can't stay away from him. And the fact that he
Speaker 1: keeps feeding you. It's only a matter of time when
Speaker 1: it's gonna take it to the next level. I mean,
Speaker 1: come on, you got the touch, you got the feeding,
Speaker 1: and the next thing adorning with the compliments. Then it's
Speaker 1: the look, and then he walking around with his shirt off. Law, Well,
Speaker 1: I ain't trying to take you to church, but let's
Speaker 1: call a spade a spade. Stop playing with me. And
Speaker 1: if I see him annoyed, I am, because the fact
Speaker 1: that you're trying to act like is there anything wrong?
Speaker 1: Clearly there's something wrong. The fact that you are hesitant
Speaker 1: in telling her, let's her know. And honestly, I don't
Speaker 1: think there's a way to go around this issue. Unless
Speaker 1: what's she's gonna do put some cameras in the apartment.
Speaker 1: So I guess we're best to start thinking about other
Speaker 1: living arrangements, because I mean, honestly thinking, like, what is
Speaker 1: the excuse going to be? The Only thing that can
Speaker 1: change the situation is that he starts to walk around
Speaker 1: with his shirt off while his girlfriend's home and making food.
Speaker 1: And I'm telling you right now, if that was my boot,
Speaker 1: that would not be okay with me. That's not something
Speaker 1: that I'm flying with. So what do we do in
Speaker 1: this situation? She says, I'm at a standstill with this?
Speaker 1: Should I say anything? The answer is yes, You're only
Speaker 1: gonna find yourself deeper and deeper underwater, And ain't nobody
Speaker 1: got time for that. Listen, we're here for a good time,
Speaker 1: not a long time. Why carry access baggage? You can't
Speaker 1: go nowhere with it? What's gonna what's gonna develop from it?
Speaker 1: Let's just say hypothetically, you enjoy it, y'all have a
Speaker 1: little moment. So he decides to leave her, What does
Speaker 1: that leave you with? They say? How you? Uh? How
Speaker 1: you get him inside? You lose them? Do you still
Speaker 1: feel like you can be productive with this? Type of
Speaker 1: relationship or situation ship, What do you want to grow
Speaker 1: with this? You just have to have a flameworheck, you
Speaker 1: can go get somebody around the way or another homie.
Speaker 1: It ain't gots to be him. But what I say,
Speaker 1: what you guts to do. You're gonna have to get
Speaker 1: out of that apartment. And I don't know where you are,
Speaker 1: but I know here in Los Angeles the rent is
Speaker 1: too damn high. So you better start planning now, start
Speaker 1: figuring out the new year's coming up. So I'm sure
Speaker 1: they may have some some deals coming up with some
Speaker 1: leases or whatnot. But this ain't gonna work, baby, Nope, No,
Speaker 1: this is not gonna work. So honestly, it is the
Speaker 1: best policy only because how are you going to continue
Speaker 1: to function in this type of environment? If it annoys you,
Speaker 1: I can imagine it's going to stop, but it doesn't
Speaker 1: because you haven't expressed that it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: So that's what I gotta say on this, Um, honestly
Speaker 1: is the best policy, and more so for yourself. You know,
Speaker 1: feel like when we have shame and we're hiding from
Speaker 1: things that we're doing things that aren't right, it causes
Speaker 1: us to get dirty and acting funky. And I don't
Speaker 1: know about you, but I'm just trying to move the
Speaker 1: right way, not trying, I am moving the right way.
Speaker 1: I want to move with clarity and discernment and just
Speaker 1: being pure so I can attract the right thing like
Speaker 1: attracks like don't let it be massy. All right, Um,
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