1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:02,080 Speaker 1: Would I be the a hole if I told my 2 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:06,120 Speaker 1: younger sister's fiance that she lied about my older sister 3 00:00:06,360 --> 00:00:07,040 Speaker 1: when they met. 4 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:09,319 Speaker 2: If you're telling the truth about a liar, I feel 5 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:10,360 Speaker 2: like you're just telling the truth. 6 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:11,319 Speaker 1: Ain't that the rub? 7 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 2: That's the truth? 8 00:00:12,520 --> 00:00:16,640 Speaker 1: So okay Arm thirty eight, twenty six, says my older sister, 9 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:20,560 Speaker 1: Kay female thirty two. My younger sister Jay female twenty eight, 10 00:00:20,680 --> 00:00:24,640 Speaker 1: and my younger sister's fiance, Matt Mayo, thirty two. We 11 00:00:24,720 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 1: have just found out the characters in this tragic play. 12 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 2: Is it tragic? 13 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: I don't know amin his play in his play. Kay 14 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:35,360 Speaker 1: and Matt met at work about two and a half 15 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:37,720 Speaker 1: to three years ago. He was hired in as a 16 00:00:37,760 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: consultant at her company on a few months assignment. They 17 00:00:40,600 --> 00:00:43,519 Speaker 1: became close, but nothing happened because they probably didn't think 18 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:45,960 Speaker 1: it was professional. I think both or I know that 19 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,240 Speaker 1: my sister at least was hoping that I would develop 20 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: to something more when his assignment was completed. Kay is 21 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 1: a very shy and private person, but even with that, 22 00:00:54,320 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: she couldn't stop talking about Matt to j and me. 23 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:59,520 Speaker 1: When she turned thirty, we encouraged her to invite him 24 00:00:59,560 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: with the rest of her close friends from work. She 25 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: was very hesitant and panicked at first, but then she thought, yeah, 26 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 1: why not. His assignment was almost done anyway. Matt and 27 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: Jay met at the party. Six months later, Jay told 28 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:14,240 Speaker 1: us that she and Matt are a couple. This devastated Kay, 29 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: and I knew that even if she held herself together 30 00:01:16,840 --> 00:01:19,200 Speaker 1: and pretended to be happy for them, I almost made 31 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: her confess her heartbreak to me because I couldn't just 32 00:01:21,360 --> 00:01:24,360 Speaker 1: let her hurt alone without any support. Kay said that 33 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:27,520 Speaker 1: after her birthday, Matt changed towards her and was even 34 00:01:27,560 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: a bit angry. Then when he left, he stopped talking 35 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:33,319 Speaker 1: to her altogether. Kay said that she probably misinterpreted his 36 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:36,280 Speaker 1: interest in her. I know that she's still heartbroken about it. 37 00:01:36,319 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 1: Matt was a signed with her company some more times again, 38 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:40,960 Speaker 1: and it was awkward at first, but eventually they were 39 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:43,520 Speaker 1: friends again. Now he's a part of the family. Kay 40 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:45,360 Speaker 1: never showed that she's hurt. 41 00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 2: I'm a little confused. Can you give me a TELDR? 42 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: I can so TLDR. Kay and Matt worked together and 43 00:01:52,560 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: over the course of a couple of years, they were 44 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:56,600 Speaker 1: getting a little flirty together, but they didn't want to 45 00:01:56,640 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: start anything because professionalism. Ohpe was like, hey, you talk 46 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:03,360 Speaker 1: so highly of Matt, you should bring him over to 47 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:05,040 Speaker 1: a party so we can all meet him. 48 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:06,960 Speaker 2: Ohp. He's trying to play match maker with k and 49 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:07,880 Speaker 2: Matt okay, and. 50 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 1: So brings him over to a party. At that party, 51 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:14,680 Speaker 1: Ope and the younger sister Jay both meet Matt, and 52 00:02:14,720 --> 00:02:18,680 Speaker 1: then a couple months later, Jay, younger sister is dating Matt. 53 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:21,840 Speaker 2: Oh So, basically, the people that Opie was trying to 54 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 2: set up that didn't happen, but the people that she 55 00:02:24,840 --> 00:02:27,440 Speaker 2: was not expecting did. Yes, Hey, I mean, can you 56 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:28,079 Speaker 2: blame him? 57 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,519 Speaker 1: Well? We also found out that Matt started behaving very 58 00:02:31,639 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 1: coldly towards Kay. 59 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 2: Why we don't know. 60 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 3: Now. 61 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:36,799 Speaker 1: I found out that Jay told Matt that Kay had 62 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:38,960 Speaker 1: a boyfriend at that birthday party. 63 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 2: Wait, Ka had a boyfriend? 64 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:42,359 Speaker 1: Jay hold Matt. 65 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 2: Jay told Matt. 66 00:02:44,040 --> 00:02:46,440 Speaker 1: Younger sister Jay told Matt that. 67 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:50,080 Speaker 2: Ka had a boy boyfriend. So younger sister is trying 68 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 2: to sabotage. 69 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 1: Did sabotage? Is that she got to effectively sabotage? 70 00:02:55,639 --> 00:02:56,040 Speaker 2: Wow? 71 00:02:56,200 --> 00:03:00,000 Speaker 1: Is sabbatur? Matt is very handsome and lovely, and Jay 72 00:03:00,120 --> 00:03:03,000 Speaker 1: basically wanted him. Matt was shocked at first because he 73 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:05,880 Speaker 1: was hoping for something more, But he probably just thought 74 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:08,920 Speaker 1: that he too misinterpreted Kay's interest in him. He is 75 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: very shy too. After the party, he probably decided to 76 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: cut his losses and not pursue k. Jay, however, kept 77 00:03:16,240 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 1: contacting him, asking him out, being supportive. First he refused, 78 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:23,280 Speaker 1: but then they started dating. How do I know all that? 79 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:27,560 Speaker 1: Jay's roommates spilled the beans to me thinking I knew everything. 80 00:03:27,919 --> 00:03:30,919 Speaker 2: Jay's playing dirty little tricks, dirty dirty little tricks that 81 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:31,760 Speaker 2: we will not stand for. 82 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: No, we'll sit for them. 83 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:36,800 Speaker 2: We'll sit and we'll read about that, and it will judge. 84 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: It will judge you right from our studio. 85 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:42,480 Speaker 2: But Sophia, can you not judge me for this? I 86 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 2: have to leave. 87 00:03:44,520 --> 00:03:48,240 Speaker 1: He's not even in Riley. It'll just be me alone 88 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:51,560 Speaker 1: in the studio. Okay. I am closer to Jay than 89 00:03:51,640 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 1: k Matt has now proposed to Jay. What's upbout these 90 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:58,280 Speaker 1: Wick proposals? How long has this been? 91 00:03:58,400 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 4: I feel I can't wait? 92 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:03,960 Speaker 2: People can't wait marriage. 93 00:04:04,680 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 1: It's almost gotta tell him him, know, I feel sick 94 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: because I want to tell Matt what happens, so he 95 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: makes an informed decision. Marriage is not a game. At 96 00:04:14,520 --> 00:04:16,920 Speaker 1: the same time, Ian J seemed to be perfect for 97 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:19,359 Speaker 1: each other and the love is genuine. Maybe he was 98 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: interested in Kay, yes, but obviously it wasn't that deep. Also, Kay, 99 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:25,680 Speaker 1: I want to tell her, but she seems okay with 100 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: the relationship too. She made it clear that Matt and 101 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:31,239 Speaker 1: Jay obviously were meant to be or it wouldn't have happened. 102 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:33,640 Speaker 1: But I want to tell Would I be the a 103 00:04:33,760 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 1: hole if I told everyone what happened? Oh that's tricky, man. 104 00:04:39,320 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: I feel like you would be stirring the pot if 105 00:04:41,680 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: you did tell you like to cook, if you like 106 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,600 Speaker 1: to cook, Like, maybe this is a case of you know, 107 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 1: I think this is a case of ignorance. It might 108 00:04:49,360 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 1: be a case of ignorance. Is this because K right 109 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 1: now is like seems to be okay with what's going on, 110 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:59,640 Speaker 1: and everyone seems to be happy. However, Jay did lie, 111 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:03,159 Speaker 1: Like did start this relationship on a lie, So that's 112 00:05:03,200 --> 00:05:06,040 Speaker 1: probably also not good. Kay and Matt were kind of 113 00:05:06,160 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: having a thing and they were flirting stuff, and then 114 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:10,840 Speaker 1: Jay told Matt that Kay had a boyfriend, and so 115 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:14,479 Speaker 1: Matt completely dropped K and started dating Jay after she 116 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:15,680 Speaker 1: pursued him for like a while. 117 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:19,799 Speaker 4: Yeah, because honestly, I would say, you are starting the pot. 118 00:05:19,880 --> 00:05:23,920 Speaker 4: But think about kay kay maybe thinking what happened? Why 119 00:05:23,960 --> 00:05:26,960 Speaker 4: did he choose her instead of me? And then her 120 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 4: whole life? She would think that I think you were 121 00:05:28,880 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 4: keeping Yeah, a, this is something you keep, you take 122 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:34,039 Speaker 4: to the grave, or you tell the truth. Let yeah, 123 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:37,200 Speaker 4: you know, not really your business. This will come up eventually. 124 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:40,200 Speaker 1: I think, maybe tell k first. I don't know. 125 00:05:40,680 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 4: I don't know. Don't do it in front of everyone. 126 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 4: If you don't in front of everyone, yeahs a b 127 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 4: comments have to say I don't know, yeh, because. 128 00:05:49,400 --> 00:05:52,360 Speaker 1: I don't know what to do right now. Z Eldepin says, wow, 129 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: sister is something she certainly didn't consider anyone else when 130 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:59,160 Speaker 1: she made her decisions back then. I would probably say 131 00:05:59,160 --> 00:06:01,719 Speaker 1: something so he can make an informed decision, but be 132 00:06:01,800 --> 00:06:05,080 Speaker 1: prepared for the backlash. Okay, so they're saying go for it, 133 00:06:05,120 --> 00:06:07,360 Speaker 1: but pot we will be started, which I think, Yeah, 134 00:06:07,360 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 1: that is true. Opie says. The thing is Jay and 135 00:06:09,480 --> 00:06:12,720 Speaker 1: Matt are great together. He and Ca are so much alike. Yes, 136 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,600 Speaker 1: both shy and introverted and very calm. But Jay is 137 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: a social butterfly, and he even said that she has 138 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:20,000 Speaker 1: taken him out of his show. So I don't know. 139 00:06:20,160 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: My only thought is I would have wanted to know. 140 00:06:22,640 --> 00:06:25,600 Speaker 1: But if I tell, I am ready for the backlash. Okay, 141 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 1: so oh he's going for it. Seems like Kurse eighteen says, 142 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:31,840 Speaker 1: you should tell Jay stole Matt's choice from him. Everything 143 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:33,719 Speaker 1: they have built is based on a lie. She didn't 144 00:06:33,760 --> 00:06:36,479 Speaker 1: just tell that lie once, she told it repeatedly. She 145 00:06:36,560 --> 00:06:39,920 Speaker 1: fakes sympathy and comfort for him. She manufactured the entire 146 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:42,680 Speaker 1: origins of the relationship. If Jay has deceived him in 147 00:06:42,720 --> 00:06:45,440 Speaker 1: this way, I guarantee she has deceived him in others. 148 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 1: Her behavior was foul and selfish. She didn't care who 149 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:50,480 Speaker 1: she heard as long as she got what she wanted. 150 00:06:50,640 --> 00:06:52,600 Speaker 1: How many other times has she hurt him to get 151 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:55,160 Speaker 1: what she wants? If there Matt and Jay's love is real, 152 00:06:55,279 --> 00:06:57,080 Speaker 1: they will get over it. If it's not, and I 153 00:06:57,120 --> 00:06:59,479 Speaker 1: don't see how it can be when it's built on sand. 154 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: These let this man out of the opportunity to escape 155 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:05,800 Speaker 1: before Jay tricks him into marriage. Yeah, she did lie 156 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,680 Speaker 1: at the beginning of this relationship, and not only like 157 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 1: hurt her sister, but you know. 158 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:13,240 Speaker 4: Not on a solid founding. 159 00:07:13,320 --> 00:07:16,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, fled to her potential fiance. 160 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:18,240 Speaker 4: Because down the line, whenever, at some point when the 161 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:20,440 Speaker 4: relationship is not in a good place or a happy place, 162 00:07:20,560 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 4: what is she going to revert to? Is yeah, revert 163 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 4: back to these habits of telling. 164 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:28,240 Speaker 1: Lies, telling lies to get her way. Very selfish. 165 00:07:28,480 --> 00:07:31,440 Speaker 4: She got what she wanted by lying. H what cause 166 00:07:31,480 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 4: will she do this at? 167 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,320 Speaker 1: Yeah clearly doesn't care about her family. It's only like 168 00:07:35,360 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: it only matters if she gets what she wants. And 169 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:40,320 Speaker 1: Op says there's zero chance that Matt and k would 170 00:07:40,320 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 1: be together, and that's not the point either. I want 171 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:44,960 Speaker 1: my big sister's heart to heal and Matt to make 172 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 1: an informed decision. Cursed eight eighteen says, I literally didn't 173 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:51,080 Speaker 1: mention Kay once. Matt deserves to know before he marries 174 00:07:51,120 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 1: a woman who is happy to lie to him to 175 00:07:53,080 --> 00:07:55,800 Speaker 1: get what she wants. There's no conceivable way he and 176 00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:58,160 Speaker 1: Kay would ever be together now, but Matt deserves to 177 00:07:58,200 --> 00:08:00,640 Speaker 1: know the kind of woman he's about to marry based 178 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,240 Speaker 1: on a lie. Op says, Yeah, I know I read 179 00:08:03,320 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 1: and agreed with your comment. I just wanted to add 180 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:07,520 Speaker 1: that this isn't about Kay and Matt being together either. 181 00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 1: In case some people wonder if that's my goal. 182 00:08:09,520 --> 00:08:11,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, that felt like it low key to me, what like, 183 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 4: Okay and Matt get together. 184 00:08:13,280 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I wasn't thinking that, but I think other. 185 00:08:15,600 --> 00:08:17,480 Speaker 4: I was gonna ask that question, like is there still 186 00:08:17,520 --> 00:08:17,960 Speaker 4: a shot? 187 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think the way that Matt treated Kay after 188 00:08:21,000 --> 00:08:23,640 Speaker 1: finding out about the boyfriend probably ruined any of that 189 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: because he was super. 190 00:08:24,400 --> 00:08:24,760 Speaker 2: Cold to her. 191 00:08:25,040 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: A little bit funny twenty one says No, I don't 192 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 1: think anyone does. The goal is to make sure Matt 193 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: is aware of what kind of a person Jay is. 194 00:08:31,960 --> 00:08:35,040 Speaker 1: That was a huge betrayal judgment, not the a hole 195 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:37,720 Speaker 1: tell Matt. So everyone is on board for telling Matt 196 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:39,080 Speaker 1: there is an update to. 197 00:08:39,160 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 4: You tell Matt first or K first. 198 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:43,760 Speaker 1: I would have told K first because she's in the scenario, 199 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:46,680 Speaker 1: my sister. I think it's a right decision to tell Matt. 200 00:08:46,720 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 4: Olly would have. 201 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 1: I would tell him in private and be like, hey, 202 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: this happened. Just wanted to let you know out. 203 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,439 Speaker 4: How long has Jay and Matt been together again? Two 204 00:08:55,440 --> 00:08:56,560 Speaker 4: and a half years ago? 205 00:08:56,600 --> 00:08:57,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, two and a half years ago. 206 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 4: Okay, so that's old news. Yeah, Jay, Matt and k 207 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 4: are old news. 208 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:02,360 Speaker 1: That's true. 209 00:09:02,440 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 4: But I don't think it pertains to K. 210 00:09:04,440 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 1: That's true, that does make sense. Yeah, I mean K's 211 00:09:07,040 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: over it seems like I guess Yeah. I think the 212 00:09:09,520 --> 00:09:12,520 Speaker 1: main thing is they're about to get married or you know, 213 00:09:12,640 --> 00:09:15,440 Speaker 1: getting married soon. Letting Matt know, Hey, I found this 214 00:09:15,480 --> 00:09:16,000 Speaker 1: out and. 215 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:18,320 Speaker 4: Jay, how does she feel about this? Does she have 216 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 4: any guilt or have we heard any We. 217 00:09:19,920 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 1: Don't know her, We don't know. Yeah, we just know 218 00:09:22,520 --> 00:09:25,439 Speaker 1: that because the roommate told Opie that this is what happened. 219 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 4: That's really suspicious. Like if Jay has no feelings towards 220 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 4: this and he doesn't think that she's wrong at all. Yeah, 221 00:09:31,920 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 4: get out of there, Matt. 222 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:34,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, out of there. 223 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 4: Yeah. 224 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:38,760 Speaker 1: So update five days later. So yesterday I did it. 225 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,040 Speaker 1: I know many here advised me to keep out of it, 226 00:09:41,080 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 1: but I chose to go with my guts. Honestly, I've 227 00:09:43,760 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: been very angry with Jay, and basically I thought it 228 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:49,280 Speaker 1: was time that she learned the consequences of her actions. 229 00:09:49,480 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: If her and Matt's relationship is strong and real, then 230 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:55,120 Speaker 1: nothing would come between them. If it isn't, then I 231 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 1: did the right thing. Most importantly, I did right by K. 232 00:09:58,120 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: I use the opportunity that I my girlfriend to my 233 00:10:01,200 --> 00:10:04,880 Speaker 1: family yesterday. Mom teach K about being the only one left. 234 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:07,920 Speaker 1: I asked loudly, I can't believe that it had been 235 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:18,360 Speaker 1: four years since Kay had a boyfriend. Everyone, everyone, see. 236 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 1: This is why I was saying, you should tell Kay privately, 237 00:10:20,960 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 1: because if you're gotta do in front of everyone. 238 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 4: But it's pretty slick how she's pulled. Yes, pretty slick 239 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 4: laying it on. It's like it like naturally happened. She's like, 240 00:10:30,800 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 4: believe the subjects up. 241 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:35,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, since we're talking about it, Okay, what is the 242 00:10:35,720 --> 00:10:38,959 Speaker 1: exact date that you had a boyfriend since her? Ax 243 00:10:39,040 --> 00:10:41,480 Speaker 1: went home and pandemic hit so we couldn't fly back. 244 00:10:41,559 --> 00:10:44,760 Speaker 1: So he announced his engagement to another woman on Facebook 245 00:10:45,559 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: and that's how Kay knew it was over between them. Wow, 246 00:10:47,960 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: K has really been through it, going through it? 247 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:55,200 Speaker 4: What the heck? Oh wait, can we get a story 248 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:56,560 Speaker 4: on that case? Yeah? 249 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:58,640 Speaker 1: Hey, tell us what happened? 250 00:10:58,760 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 4: That is horrible. 251 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:03,920 Speaker 1: Jay was very nervous and wanted to change the subject, 252 00:11:04,200 --> 00:11:07,600 Speaker 1: but Matt was shocked over how someone would do this 253 00:11:07,640 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: to their girlfriend. I didn't think he really did the 254 00:11:10,080 --> 00:11:11,800 Speaker 1: math at first, and he didn't react. 255 00:11:11,840 --> 00:11:14,200 Speaker 4: Do we get some green flags we're work from it. Yeah, 256 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:16,800 Speaker 4: that's so horrible that happened. Horrible, intrigued. 257 00:11:17,679 --> 00:11:19,560 Speaker 1: Say more, I was annoyed. 258 00:11:19,640 --> 00:11:22,320 Speaker 4: TVA. Oh he didn't understand the timeline. 259 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:25,240 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, he's not putting together. 260 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 1: She's like, Okay, okay, we're gonna go more obvious. 261 00:11:28,520 --> 00:11:29,679 Speaker 4: Let me write this out for you. 262 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:34,280 Speaker 1: Let me spell it out. So I insisted. Yeah, when 263 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:37,400 Speaker 1: she introduced you at her thirtieth birthday, I really thought 264 00:11:37,400 --> 00:11:40,080 Speaker 1: she had a crush on you because she never shut 265 00:11:40,200 --> 00:11:43,320 Speaker 1: up about you. But a few months later, you and 266 00:11:43,440 --> 00:11:46,440 Speaker 1: Jay got together. I said that it was confusing and 267 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:48,560 Speaker 1: surely not only for me but for the rest of 268 00:11:48,600 --> 00:11:51,320 Speaker 1: the family. But then again, Jay had done this before 269 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:56,960 Speaker 1: and stole Kay's first boyfriend. Jay's freaking messy. 270 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 3: Jay. 271 00:11:57,559 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 1: Jay is selfish and horrible people. You can't steal people 272 00:12:02,679 --> 00:12:05,800 Speaker 1: Kay to be happy. Just let Kay have her life, 273 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:10,160 Speaker 1: Just let her have one boyfriend. This was followed by 274 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:14,040 Speaker 1: the loudest silence. I knew I went too far this time, 275 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:17,200 Speaker 1: but I couldn't control my anger towards Jay, and I 276 00:12:17,360 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 1: wasn't going to sit there and hope Matt would connect 277 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:21,760 Speaker 1: the dots himself. That's too dumb for that. 278 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:23,640 Speaker 4: Just give Matt like a day or two, and then yeah, 279 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 4: oh my god, in the middle of a shower getting 280 00:12:27,160 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 4: done with this three and one shampoo, Jay lied. 281 00:12:31,400 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: Everyone was silent and Jay was looking daggers at me. 282 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:37,760 Speaker 1: Matt didn't say anything, and Kay was angry too, and 283 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:39,760 Speaker 1: said that it was a long time ago. Matt and 284 00:12:39,880 --> 00:12:42,959 Speaker 1: Jay left shortly afterwards, and Kay asked me why I 285 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: would embarrass her. I told her that Jay had lied 286 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,880 Speaker 1: to Matt about her having a boyfriend at her birthday 287 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 1: party two years ago, and that's why Matt ghosted her 288 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:56,120 Speaker 1: because he thought she Kay was playing him. Kay was shocked, 289 00:12:56,160 --> 00:12:59,200 Speaker 1: so she didn't know as I expected. Mom was shocked 290 00:12:59,200 --> 00:13:02,080 Speaker 1: to this morning called she wanted to know more. She 291 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:04,840 Speaker 1: told me that she was very heartbroken for the longest 292 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,680 Speaker 1: time and confused as to why Ma ghosted her, but 293 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 1: now she knows at least, even though she had hoped 294 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,040 Speaker 1: that he liked her a bit more to talk to 295 00:13:12,080 --> 00:13:14,400 Speaker 1: her before ghosting her. I said that I believe she 296 00:13:14,520 --> 00:13:17,400 Speaker 1: deserved better than him, and she laughed and agreed. Now 297 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 1: I know that I have made the right decision, at 298 00:13:19,320 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 1: least by my sister, which is the more important thing 299 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:23,640 Speaker 1: to me right now. Haven't heard from Matt or Jay, 300 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 1: so I don't know if they'll stay together or not. 301 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:27,840 Speaker 1: All I know was that they were supposed to be 302 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 1: on a weekend mini trip to see a venue on 303 00:13:29,840 --> 00:13:33,120 Speaker 1: the coast, and this trip was canceled because Jay usually 304 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:35,800 Speaker 1: shares on her stories and they haven't left town this weekend. 305 00:13:35,840 --> 00:13:38,720 Speaker 1: I feel saddened, of course, but not sure if I 306 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:41,800 Speaker 1: feel guilty. Maybe it will hit me later. I don't know. 307 00:13:42,040 --> 00:13:44,319 Speaker 1: Based off of Kay's reaction, it seemed like, oh, he 308 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:47,280 Speaker 1: made the right choice. Kay deserves better give kaboy friends. 309 00:13:47,400 --> 00:13:48,200 Speaker 1: Yeah right now. 310 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 3: The fact that this has happened before twice, Hey can't 311 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:55,800 Speaker 3: be once shame on you, twice chame on and put 312 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 3: the blame on you. 313 00:13:56,520 --> 00:13:59,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, only two times. Pisa loaded the chop wo let 314 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 4: a rain on you. 315 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:04,240 Speaker 1: Comments, unlucky you says you did right by K and 316 00:14:04,280 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: that's the part that matters. I agree Matt is kind 317 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:08,599 Speaker 1: of a dodo and not worth it. He could have 318 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 1: just teased and asked K, hey, I heard you have 319 00:14:11,160 --> 00:14:13,280 Speaker 1: a boyfriend, why are you I to him? This could 320 00:14:13,320 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: have all been cleared up by simple communication. 321 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:17,120 Speaker 3: If he really wanted it, he would have got you, 322 00:14:17,120 --> 00:14:18,640 Speaker 3: would have he would have been like so with that, 323 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:19,440 Speaker 3: you didn't even try. 324 00:14:19,560 --> 00:14:22,520 Speaker 1: Also, Jay is clearly a menace. I'd be careful around 325 00:14:22,520 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 1: her if I were you. Pride of Cape Down says 326 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: agreed on both counts Op did the right thing, and 327 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 1: Matt the Dumbo should have used his words and spoken 328 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:33,600 Speaker 1: to Kay before getting cozy with a lying backstabbing which 329 00:14:33,680 --> 00:14:36,400 Speaker 1: of a sister? Speaking of whom five dollars She's gonna 330 00:14:36,400 --> 00:14:39,040 Speaker 1: claim to be pregnant in the next update, then, of course, 331 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:39,800 Speaker 1: a miscarriage. 332 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 4: She's a liar editors. 333 00:14:41,440 --> 00:14:44,000 Speaker 1: Man, Yeah, they have so many Othery're like, this is 334 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 1: gonna happen and then she's going to kill someone. 335 00:14:46,120 --> 00:14:47,160 Speaker 4: What do you think is going to happen? 336 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:47,440 Speaker 1: Oh? 337 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:49,680 Speaker 4: Bet, I think how much? And what? 338 00:14:49,960 --> 00:14:51,400 Speaker 1: Okay? Okay, twenty bucks? 339 00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:52,160 Speaker 4: Twenty bucks? 340 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:53,320 Speaker 1: Jy and Matt get a break up. 341 00:14:53,360 --> 00:14:56,600 Speaker 4: Okay, I'm gonna put ten ten and then that fifteen 342 00:14:56,640 --> 00:14:59,160 Speaker 4: bucks Matt reaches out to k okay my prediction. 343 00:14:59,280 --> 00:15:02,400 Speaker 1: All right? Update, Yes, Matt broke up with Jay. 344 00:15:03,080 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 4: When you give me fifteen twenty? 345 00:15:05,400 --> 00:15:06,320 Speaker 1: How do you give fifteen? 346 00:15:06,360 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 4: I put ten? 347 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:09,560 Speaker 1: Oh, I'm Matt breaking up with Jay? Y okay, so 348 00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:13,920 Speaker 1: one base I put a parley down gotcha, gotcha, and 349 00:15:14,040 --> 00:15:16,640 Speaker 1: Jay's angry with me, but she thinks that it was 350 00:15:16,680 --> 00:15:21,440 Speaker 1: in an innocent comment that however, rok a text, don't 351 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 1: wanna give Riley ten bucks fifty fifteen? You're Matt. 352 00:15:25,920 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 4: I don't know actually a thing I'm gonna get doubled 353 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 4: bad or something? I don't know anyways, Matt. 354 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:33,640 Speaker 1: However, roe k a text explaining everything. So now everyone 355 00:15:33,760 --> 00:15:36,320 Speaker 1: knows that way. Kay and Mom knew already, but they 356 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:39,280 Speaker 1: acted like they only heard it from Matt. Still, Jay 357 00:15:39,720 --> 00:15:43,560 Speaker 1: is angry with me and has unfollowed me everywhere, saying 358 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:46,640 Speaker 1: I ruined her happiness. I texted her that if her 359 00:15:46,680 --> 00:15:49,880 Speaker 1: relationship was real, it would have survived an innocent comment 360 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 1: like the one I made. Kay called me and she 361 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:54,920 Speaker 1: said that Matt has apologized and explained everything to her. 362 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:57,560 Speaker 1: She has forgiven him, although she said there was nothing 363 00:15:57,600 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 1: to forgive really, since she truly believes that things weren't 364 00:16:00,680 --> 00:16:03,040 Speaker 1: meant to be. They are staying friends, however, and they're 365 00:16:03,160 --> 00:16:05,880 Speaker 1: very close friends. Jay called ka witch. 366 00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 4: What CA's just catches strands, don't do anything just you know. 367 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:15,000 Speaker 1: Boyfriend stolen and her almost boyfriend stolen. 368 00:16:14,920 --> 00:16:17,840 Speaker 4: And the ex boyfriend was not good to her. Yeah 369 00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,800 Speaker 4: she's zero for three, dude. 370 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 1: Come on, leave her out of it, and blocked her 371 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:25,320 Speaker 1: everywhere and wrote a nasty comment about her on Instagram 372 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:27,480 Speaker 1: that she was a man stealer that on followed her 373 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:34,720 Speaker 1: hip hippa great. Oh my god, she sucks. Jay, You're 374 00:16:34,760 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: the worst. Go to therapy because you suck. My mom 375 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:40,200 Speaker 1: is very distraught now, but I think she will survive. 376 00:16:40,440 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: I will survive too, and I still have no feelings 377 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:45,040 Speaker 1: of guilt about what I did. I'm starting to think 378 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: that I really did do the right thing, and I'm 379 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:49,520 Speaker 1: proud of myself for it. As Kay said, things that 380 00:16:49,560 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 1: are meant to be happen, and that, my friends, is 381 00:16:52,280 --> 00:16:53,280 Speaker 1: the end of our story. 382 00:16:53,400 --> 00:16:54,920 Speaker 4: Op did that beautiful. 383 00:16:55,040 --> 00:16:56,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think Op actually handled it because I was 384 00:16:56,920 --> 00:16:59,360 Speaker 1: worried about the public stuff. But I think Op did 385 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:02,320 Speaker 1: it slowly enough that I mean, it was obvious, but 386 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:06,359 Speaker 1: it was sly enough that she has passible pausible deniability. Yeah, 387 00:17:06,400 --> 00:17:08,919 Speaker 1: and K seemed okay with that after she learned what 388 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:10,560 Speaker 1: happened or why Op did it. 389 00:17:10,640 --> 00:17:12,440 Speaker 4: Yeah, Jay was going to respond that way either. 390 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:14,720 Speaker 1: Jay sucks, So we don't really care about Jay. 391 00:17:14,800 --> 00:17:15,280 Speaker 4: Yeah whatever. 392 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems like everyone else was chill with how 393 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:20,680 Speaker 1: he approached it. So you know, here's my question, what's 394 00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:24,199 Speaker 1: your question. If Op didn't do this, Kay got another boyfriend. 395 00:17:24,240 --> 00:17:26,080 Speaker 1: But do you think Jay would have done they drops 396 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:28,400 Speaker 1: Matt and ghost takes her boyfriend. 397 00:17:28,480 --> 00:17:30,480 Speaker 4: I yeah, think that would have happened. 398 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 1: I think I think they needed to expose Jay's manipulations 399 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:36,959 Speaker 1: and maybe I think, honestly, maybe going no contact. I mean, 400 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:39,760 Speaker 1: Jay's forcibly going no contact with them, but I think 401 00:17:39,800 --> 00:17:41,879 Speaker 1: on their side, going no contact for a little bit 402 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:45,159 Speaker 1: smart because it's clearly unhealthy for Kay to have a 403 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 1: relationship with Jay. 404 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:48,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, call her on her bs. Yeah, well they did. 405 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:50,600 Speaker 4: I don't think. I don't think about the no contact thing. 406 00:17:50,640 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 4: I think they opened. But I'm glad that they called 407 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:52,920 Speaker 4: him out. 408 00:17:53,400 --> 00:17:55,520 Speaker 1: I mean no contact in that like take a break 409 00:17:55,520 --> 00:17:59,199 Speaker 1: from Jay. Jay is enforcing no contact on her end 410 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:00,000 Speaker 1: because she's blocking. 411 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:01,960 Speaker 4: I just don't agree with the no contact name, Like 412 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:03,639 Speaker 4: you don't, what do you mean? Like I still think 413 00:18:03,640 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 4: they could be in contact. They probably won't because it's 414 00:18:05,840 --> 00:18:06,439 Speaker 4: a bad fallout. 415 00:18:06,480 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying, Okay, Like 416 00:18:08,119 --> 00:18:10,160 Speaker 1: I'm not saying there don't ever talk to her. I'm 417 00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:12,440 Speaker 1: just saying, like, for right now, maybe take a break 418 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:13,840 Speaker 1: from Jerry because she's a drama queen. 419 00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:15,560 Speaker 4: Oh I see your point, but that's the end of 420 00:18:15,600 --> 00:18:16,160 Speaker 4: our saga. 421 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:20,919 Speaker 1: Okay, let's do it today. Aft up by letting my 422 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:24,400 Speaker 1: sister choose my new hairstyle, only to end up as 423 00:18:24,480 --> 00:18:27,440 Speaker 1: the victim of the stylist petty revenge. 424 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:32,800 Speaker 4: Oh no, no, no, would you get a bob cut cat? 425 00:18:32,920 --> 00:18:37,119 Speaker 1: It's French anyway, that's why. So Phoenix Galaxy says. So, 426 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:40,760 Speaker 1: my main lactician got into a car accident and broke 427 00:18:40,840 --> 00:18:43,560 Speaker 1: her hand so she couldn't do my dreadlocks for a while. 428 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:45,760 Speaker 1: I was worried for her, and I accepted my hair 429 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:48,440 Speaker 1: but looked trash for a couple of months. Four months later, 430 00:18:48,600 --> 00:18:52,359 Speaker 1: my stuff is trash and I'm getting roasted at school. 431 00:18:52,480 --> 00:18:54,879 Speaker 1: So I'm aggravated for a couple of weeks trying to 432 00:18:54,920 --> 00:18:57,080 Speaker 1: find a new one with no luck, and I'm getting 433 00:18:57,160 --> 00:19:00,679 Speaker 1: roasted while talking to girls too. They called me a unicorn, bacteria, 434 00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:02,000 Speaker 1: a palm tree, et cetera. 435 00:19:02,560 --> 00:19:03,120 Speaker 4: This is row. 436 00:19:03,560 --> 00:19:06,359 Speaker 1: So sad, I gave up, and my sister offered to 437 00:19:06,400 --> 00:19:09,520 Speaker 1: look for one on Instagram. She found one. She liked, 438 00:19:09,520 --> 00:19:12,080 Speaker 1: and with her mom's approval, she set up an appointment. 439 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,440 Speaker 1: I thanked her for helping her younger brother and his 440 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 1: time of need. Thanks to some miscommunication, we were late, 441 00:19:17,840 --> 00:19:20,119 Speaker 1: but still in the grace period. I was dressed already 442 00:19:20,160 --> 00:19:22,320 Speaker 1: because I wanted my hair fixed, but my mom thought 443 00:19:22,359 --> 00:19:24,280 Speaker 1: I was still asleep when she was getting ready, but 444 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:26,600 Speaker 1: wasn't planning on waking me up for some reason. It 445 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:28,840 Speaker 1: took me asking her if she was okay because she 446 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:30,919 Speaker 1: was taking long to get ready for her to realize 447 00:19:30,960 --> 00:19:32,879 Speaker 1: I was dressed now early okay, So that was just 448 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:34,840 Speaker 1: explaining why they were late. We made it and our 449 00:19:34,840 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: stylist arrived five to ten minutes before the grace period 450 00:19:37,840 --> 00:19:40,240 Speaker 1: was up. My mom and the stylists argued because they 451 00:19:40,240 --> 00:19:42,159 Speaker 1: couldn't agree if my mom should pay a fee, but 452 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:45,200 Speaker 1: ultimately my mom reluctantly paid it, even though we were 453 00:19:45,200 --> 00:19:45,960 Speaker 1: still on time. 454 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,480 Speaker 4: Oh no, no, no, no, no, this is not good. 455 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:52,840 Speaker 1: My old luctician liked me and my hair because out 456 00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:55,440 Speaker 1: of all of her clients, my hair grows the fastest. 457 00:19:55,560 --> 00:19:58,359 Speaker 1: In just three sessions, my locks were already out my ears. 458 00:19:58,480 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 1: I normally get my dreadlogs reached twisted into interlocks every 459 00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,960 Speaker 1: three months or so to save money instead of going 460 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 1: monthly because of my hair growth, and it got to 461 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:07,919 Speaker 1: the point where it didn't hurt, so there was no 462 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:11,000 Speaker 1: reason why my hair hurt the way it did. The 463 00:20:11,040 --> 00:20:13,720 Speaker 1: stylist was pissed off at my mom for being late, 464 00:20:13,840 --> 00:20:17,960 Speaker 1: despite her website saying otherwise, this is completely so unprofessional. 465 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:19,960 Speaker 4: What do you do here? You walk away? 466 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:22,120 Speaker 1: I would I mean, I would probably not going to be. 467 00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:22,760 Speaker 4: A good service. 468 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:25,720 Speaker 1: No, No, I mean if he's a kid, though, so 469 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 1: I don't know if he would walk away. I think 470 00:20:27,960 --> 00:20:31,040 Speaker 1: if after the session, you know, you're like, hey, this 471 00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 1: is not okay. Maybe you go to like the store 472 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 1: and you say, hey, like this happened with one of 473 00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:36,840 Speaker 1: the locticians. 474 00:20:36,880 --> 00:20:39,879 Speaker 4: And I'm assuming this lady owns her own store. 475 00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:41,960 Speaker 1: Maybe, but she also might just be like a stylist 476 00:20:41,960 --> 00:20:42,520 Speaker 1: working in. 477 00:20:42,600 --> 00:20:44,760 Speaker 4: Uh you know, Okay, so she's a stylist, talk to 478 00:20:44,760 --> 00:20:47,760 Speaker 4: the manager. If not, and she owns the store, what 479 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:49,399 Speaker 4: do you do leave a bad review? You can do 480 00:20:49,480 --> 00:20:51,560 Speaker 4: a lot with a Google review. Yeah, you take a 481 00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:52,920 Speaker 4: company down down. 482 00:20:53,080 --> 00:20:55,400 Speaker 1: The stylist said that she could only do a palm roll. 483 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: I get interlocks because it lasts longer and looks better, 484 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 1: in my opinion. I was bummed out, but at least 485 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:02,760 Speaker 1: my hair was getting fixed, so I was okay. I 486 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,960 Speaker 1: was okay before she pulled my scalp so vigorously that 487 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:08,280 Speaker 1: I thought she was trying to rip it off. I 488 00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:10,159 Speaker 1: was biting the hell out of my teeth and was 489 00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:12,399 Speaker 1: gripping the seat for dear life. There was a mirror 490 00:21:12,440 --> 00:21:14,159 Speaker 1: in front of me, so I could see my face, 491 00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:17,880 Speaker 1: seeing it contorted in ways I could never even fathom doing. 492 00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:20,360 Speaker 1: I would stop biting my teeth so I wouldn't chip them, 493 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 1: but seconds later I would be biting my teeth again. 494 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 1: I asked her, Hey, excuse me, Is it okay if 495 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:27,040 Speaker 1: you go lighter on my hair? It hurts? She looked 496 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:29,080 Speaker 1: me dead in my eye and said, I can't. It 497 00:21:29,119 --> 00:21:31,440 Speaker 1: won't stake if I don't do it. This rough, which 498 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,760 Speaker 1: was bs, but would have been okay if she hadn't 499 00:21:33,800 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: said it with no compassion. She sounded annoyed that I 500 00:21:37,080 --> 00:21:39,760 Speaker 1: even asked. My eyes were rolling back from the pain. 501 00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:41,840 Speaker 1: I could barely look at the mirror, and I was 502 00:21:41,880 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: sweating hard. This is not okay. I mean to do 503 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 1: this to anyone, but to do it to a kid, 504 00:21:46,520 --> 00:21:49,679 Speaker 1: this was new pain, and even when my original hairstylist 505 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:51,320 Speaker 1: did my hair for the first time, it did not 506 00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:53,680 Speaker 1: even hurt to the extent that this woman did well. 507 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,720 Speaker 1: The only time I have ever been hurt by her 508 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:57,800 Speaker 1: was when I ate a spicy sandwich she made for 509 00:21:57,880 --> 00:22:00,560 Speaker 1: me Halapaaniw's. But that was funny and is related to 510 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:02,480 Speaker 1: a hair which I will tell later if you guys want. 511 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,399 Speaker 1: My point is that she's very considerate to her customer. 512 00:22:05,520 --> 00:22:08,359 Speaker 1: After several stop squirming and oh, I have to start 513 00:22:08,400 --> 00:22:10,879 Speaker 1: over this one, I had tears down my face from 514 00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,000 Speaker 1: the pain and my eyes were going pink. But I 515 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:14,919 Speaker 1: wasn't rying, just thug tears. 516 00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:18,679 Speaker 4: There we go. You can't cry, man, not crying, I. 517 00:22:18,560 --> 00:22:21,200 Speaker 1: Asked in the most polite voice I could manage. How 518 00:22:21,400 --> 00:22:24,040 Speaker 1: far along are we y'all? When she said she only 519 00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,960 Speaker 1: did six, I almost cried. I almost cut off my 520 00:22:27,040 --> 00:22:29,960 Speaker 1: almost year old locks right then and there. My head 521 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:32,960 Speaker 1: is big as f though I knew this would take forever. 522 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 1: The next day, the lady made a post rowing shade 523 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:38,280 Speaker 1: at my mom for being late, me being sensitive, and 524 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:41,320 Speaker 1: moving without outright saying our names. But it was obvious 525 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:43,800 Speaker 1: my sister showed our mom, and our mom showed me. 526 00:22:44,040 --> 00:22:46,480 Speaker 1: The stylist took down the post later and my mom 527 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:49,320 Speaker 1: let it go. Longest four hours of my life and 528 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:52,280 Speaker 1: that only lasted three days. When we got home, my 529 00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:54,720 Speaker 1: sister asked if I was okay, and all I could 530 00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,159 Speaker 1: say at the time was she tried to kill me 531 00:22:57,280 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 1: and my hair. You are banned from picking out spot 532 00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,399 Speaker 1: And after I explained an hour later, we laughed. That 533 00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:06,800 Speaker 1: shower and sleep after, though, was awful. My scalp was 534 00:23:06,840 --> 00:23:09,320 Speaker 1: red and burned and was very sensitive when I tried 535 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:09,680 Speaker 1: to sleep. 536 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:11,120 Speaker 4: Oh man. 537 00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:14,960 Speaker 1: Anyway, my original stylist made a full recovery but quit 538 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:17,639 Speaker 1: her business after restyling my hair for the last time. 539 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: I told her the story and we shared a good laugh. 540 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,439 Speaker 1: Never cheat on your hairstylist, fellas. 541 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:25,199 Speaker 4: I agree with that well as my barber and I 542 00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:26,240 Speaker 4: go to a barber. 543 00:23:26,320 --> 00:23:29,840 Speaker 1: Yeah and uh OPI continues. Ever since that day, I've 544 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,320 Speaker 1: been too scared to try anyone else that isn't my mother. 545 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:34,920 Speaker 1: But I wanted to change styles and my mom can't 546 00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:36,639 Speaker 1: do it, so I have no choice. You offer to 547 00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:38,920 Speaker 1: retwist my hair tonight and we are going to her 548 00:23:38,960 --> 00:23:41,639 Speaker 1: personal stylistitue and that is the end of the story. 549 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,880 Speaker 1: Don't make your barber upset. But definitely this this paris stylist, 550 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 1: this loctician was not that's not okay. 551 00:23:47,200 --> 00:23:50,399 Speaker 4: She came in with a bad attitude. Yeah, not professional. 552 00:23:50,640 --> 00:23:52,320 Speaker 4: It's like, what are you trying to prove at that point? 553 00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:54,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, you're taking on a kid? What is this? 554 00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:57,040 Speaker 4: Why you could join that? Do you sleep at night? 555 00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:57,320 Speaker 3: Yeah? 556 00:23:57,560 --> 00:24:03,359 Speaker 1: People, you're like, ah, I tortured a child, old Wow, 557 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 1: maybe I'll torture another child. That's you, hair locktician. 558 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 4: That was you could be a good witch. 559 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:08,919 Speaker 2: Thank you. 560 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:11,639 Speaker 1: I've played a lot of evil queens. But that's the 561 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,199 Speaker 1: end of that story, and I believe that's the end 562 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:15,040 Speaker 1: of this episode. 563 00:24:15,119 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 4: Yep, you love us. 564 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:18,960 Speaker 1: Make sure to subscribe We love you and see you tomorrow. 565 00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,520 Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives. Time 566 00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:29,560 Speaker 2: for okop reward. My ex boyfriend tried to send me 567 00:24:29,600 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 2: to court because he thinks I'm cheating. Well, dang, didn't know. 568 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:34,680 Speaker 4: This is a legal matter. 569 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,080 Speaker 2: Also, this story is from our subreddit. If you want 570 00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:39,560 Speaker 2: to submit your own story, go to our slash Okale 571 00:24:39,600 --> 00:24:42,680 Speaker 2: Peace Show and submit your crazy stories. We like reading 572 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:44,560 Speaker 2: them every week. Please, I want to hear them crap 573 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:46,919 Speaker 2: over there, baby, I twenty two female, am scared for 574 00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:49,159 Speaker 2: my safety and for my mental health. I'm hoping to 575 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:51,840 Speaker 2: get some advice enclosure. After the past four days I 576 00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:55,479 Speaker 2: spent with h E Double toothpicks, which I guess is 577 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 2: and Hell. I've spent in Hell. My ex will call 578 00:24:57,600 --> 00:24:59,840 Speaker 2: up Johnny and I started a relationship a few days 579 00:24:59,840 --> 00:25:02,160 Speaker 2: before for my birthday this year. My birthday was February 580 00:25:02,160 --> 00:25:04,679 Speaker 2: twenty eighth, so in my own style, celebrating it was 581 00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 2: me drinking four bottles of alcohol and passing out. What 582 00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:10,399 Speaker 2: is a bottle of alcohol? Is it four beers or 583 00:25:10,440 --> 00:25:13,919 Speaker 2: is it for like freaking fedka bottles? I have a 584 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:18,000 Speaker 2: feeling like it's the same bud light. Yeah, it could be. 585 00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:19,160 Speaker 2: I mean if it's a girl, and. 586 00:25:19,160 --> 00:25:22,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, handles are alcohol. I don't know for bottles, for 587 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:25,440 Speaker 5: bottles alcohol. That leads me to think, like like wine, Yeah, 588 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 5: maybe it's wine for Joe. 589 00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:30,080 Speaker 2: That's a lot. That's a lot. I ope. First piece 590 00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:33,080 Speaker 2: of advice, maybe don't do that. Should roll back a 591 00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 2: little happy birthday to my kidneys. But anyway, the relationship 592 00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:39,600 Speaker 2: in the beginning was great, sadly long distance, as I 593 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,960 Speaker 2: lived on the other side of the country. We're both 594 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:45,400 Speaker 2: professional gamers. Yeah, so it wasn't like we didn't spend 595 00:25:45,440 --> 00:25:47,199 Speaker 2: no time with each other because we were always on 596 00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:50,600 Speaker 2: a professional team competing in competitions. All was going great 597 00:25:50,720 --> 00:25:55,160 Speaker 2: until disaster struck and our relationship went awry. Johnny's friends 598 00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,280 Speaker 2: started egging him on, saying things like, she's cheating on you, bro, 599 00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:01,400 Speaker 2: do you think she actually loves you? Full disclaimer, I'm 600 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,119 Speaker 2: not the best human being and I never claimed to be. 601 00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:06,520 Speaker 2: A'm bipolar and also grieving that I lost my wife 602 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:09,560 Speaker 2: three years ago to cancer. I guess Op's by because 603 00:26:09,720 --> 00:26:13,959 Speaker 2: she was dating her wife and now she's stayed in Johnny. 604 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:16,280 Speaker 2: I'm attempting to love people right now, but every day 605 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:18,879 Speaker 2: I'm reminded of how hard it actually is. Yes, I've 606 00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,920 Speaker 2: cheated on people in my past, but with this specific relationship, 607 00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:25,200 Speaker 2: I've stayed faithful until I was at my breaking point 608 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:28,760 Speaker 2: to due to my mental health. Okay, Op, Okay, we're 609 00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:29,840 Speaker 2: all a little rocky ground. 610 00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:30,520 Speaker 4: He'll see. 611 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:33,480 Speaker 2: Well, you finish your story. But when Johnny came to 612 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 2: me asking if I was cheating, I firmly said no. 613 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 2: I never lied to this man. As I was still 614 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:41,359 Speaker 2: competing in a tournament alongside him while our teammates exited 615 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,240 Speaker 2: the game. It sounds like she's like, I never lied 616 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:46,880 Speaker 2: to this man because we were competing together, we were 617 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:49,879 Speaker 2: in the same gamer team. He made it seem like 618 00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 2: it would be the end of him asking, but I 619 00:26:51,840 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 2: was misled. Every other day he would ask, multiple times 620 00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:56,760 Speaker 2: at different hours, do you still love me? Do you 621 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:58,879 Speaker 2: still want to be with me? Are you actually telling 622 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:01,879 Speaker 2: the truth? I've answer these questions about one hundred times 623 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:04,359 Speaker 2: during the four month relationship, and I've been nothing but 624 00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:07,879 Speaker 2: brutally honest. I hate sugarcoating, so I always ended up 625 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:10,400 Speaker 2: hurting his feelings. What were you saying? When I would 626 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:12,920 Speaker 2: ask him blunt he stop projecting your insecurities onto me 627 00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:16,119 Speaker 2: and leave if you actually don't trust me. For context, 628 00:27:16,200 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 2: I know that this looks really bad, but my ex 629 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,840 Speaker 2: has been claiming that I've been sleeping with my ex boyfriend. 630 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:22,600 Speaker 2: So a different X from the dead one. I'm assuming 631 00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:27,280 Speaker 2: we'll call him Anthony yo Opie has a complicated relationship history, 632 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:31,280 Speaker 2: a wife of three years, another ex boyfriend. For starters, yes, 633 00:27:31,320 --> 00:27:33,960 Speaker 2: I was romantically involved with Anthony and he with Anthony, 634 00:27:34,000 --> 00:27:35,879 Speaker 2: but we've decided to end things because it was a 635 00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:38,480 Speaker 2: bad idea. I still love him like a sibling, even 636 00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:40,560 Speaker 2: now that he's checking up on me to make sure 637 00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,399 Speaker 2: I'm okay. I will disclose that Anthony lives in another 638 00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:45,440 Speaker 2: part of the country, and if I wanted to see him, 639 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:48,280 Speaker 2: it requires crossing the border, and I'm too lazy to 640 00:27:48,280 --> 00:27:49,920 Speaker 2: do that, so I stay in bed and watch TV. 641 00:27:50,080 --> 00:27:53,119 Speaker 2: Johnny's question started becoming more forced while we were together. 642 00:27:53,359 --> 00:27:56,119 Speaker 2: He started buying me things after I heavily said no. 643 00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:58,840 Speaker 2: I guess to buying the things, but I made the 644 00:27:58,840 --> 00:28:01,240 Speaker 2: mistake of giving him my address when I was showing 645 00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:03,560 Speaker 2: him what I got in the mail from the new 646 00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:07,440 Speaker 2: job I acquired. I now have stuffed animals littered around, 647 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,960 Speaker 2: so Johnny's just been buying her a ton of shit. 648 00:28:10,040 --> 00:28:12,240 Speaker 2: I have stuffed animals littered around me that I'll just 649 00:28:12,240 --> 00:28:14,400 Speaker 2: give to my niece because I know she'll love them. 650 00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:17,320 Speaker 2: Two months go by and the questions still don't stop, 651 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:19,679 Speaker 2: so he's still asking shit. They get more annoying and 652 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,560 Speaker 2: more annoying, which has a result in a ton of 653 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:24,560 Speaker 2: fights and breakups. I know it was Johnny's friends planting 654 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:26,760 Speaker 2: seeds of doubt in his head, and I couldn't sit 655 00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:28,560 Speaker 2: there and tell him, Hey, your friend of four years 656 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:30,320 Speaker 2: is trying to hurt you. What kind of girlfriend would 657 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,399 Speaker 2: I be if I just did that. Our teammates were 658 00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:35,159 Speaker 2: getting tired of how we let our emotions dictate how 659 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:37,959 Speaker 2: we play tournaments. I like this whole game, Dynama. This 660 00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:41,040 Speaker 2: really changes it. We've lost hundreds due to our fights 661 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 2: at this point, so I've reached my breaking point. I 662 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:45,640 Speaker 2: told Johnny bluntly that if he didn't stop fighting with me, 663 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:48,240 Speaker 2: and I'll leave him, but I'd stay single so the 664 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 2: team doesn't suffer. He turned around and shook to the 665 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:52,880 Speaker 2: blame to me and said that it was my fault 666 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:54,800 Speaker 2: because I was cheated. This is how I know that 667 00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:57,280 Speaker 2: he's full of shit, because all of our teammates know 668 00:28:57,360 --> 00:29:00,200 Speaker 2: about Anthony, yet Johnny assumes I'm cheating with him. No 669 00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:02,320 Speaker 2: matter how many times we've explained that we're not together, 670 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,000 Speaker 2: Johnny would gaslight us, saying that we're lying for the 671 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:07,480 Speaker 2: sake of keeping this abusive relationship. I told Anthony I 672 00:29:07,520 --> 00:29:10,360 Speaker 2: can't talk to him anymore, but I won't block him completely. 673 00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,640 Speaker 2: So basically, although Anthony is not really doing anything wrong, 674 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:16,000 Speaker 2: she's blocking him out of his life because she just 675 00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:18,240 Speaker 2: wants Johnny to be happy. Yeah, yeah, I mean it 676 00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:20,959 Speaker 2: seems like there's a bunch of issues. Oh, you might 677 00:29:21,000 --> 00:29:24,000 Speaker 2: want to get rid of some of these problematic characters 678 00:29:24,040 --> 00:29:26,280 Speaker 2: in your life, would agree, gets a little more interesting. 679 00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:28,800 Speaker 2: By the time it became four months with Johnny, I 680 00:29:28,920 --> 00:29:31,800 Speaker 2: was completely exhausted by how he treated me. There was 681 00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:33,800 Speaker 2: way too much doubt in a relationship, and I felt 682 00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:36,560 Speaker 2: that we needed to get couple's therapy for the long distance. Yo, 683 00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:40,719 Speaker 2: don't get couple's therapy for a four month long relationship. 684 00:29:40,080 --> 00:29:41,200 Speaker 5: Break up, breakoup. 685 00:29:41,360 --> 00:29:44,160 Speaker 2: You do not need couples therapy. You need a break 686 00:29:44,200 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 2: from each other. Couple's therapy is for like when it's 687 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 2: like a longer lawyer. 688 00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:48,880 Speaker 5: Yeah. 689 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 2: I calmly told him as we were in another brutal fight, Hey, 690 00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:53,880 Speaker 2: I'll talk to you when you've calmed down, And then 691 00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,320 Speaker 2: I blocked his number. But that's where I forgot how 692 00:29:56,360 --> 00:29:58,880 Speaker 2: persistent he is, because he went through great lengths to 693 00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:04,160 Speaker 2: harass me chat, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, discord my personal emails. 694 00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,000 Speaker 2: He tried to contact me. I've received multiple calls from 695 00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:10,520 Speaker 2: his mother, his sister, his family, his friend, my friends, 696 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:12,720 Speaker 2: trying to get me to talk to him, to which 697 00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 2: all I've said no. Then came the email spam. I 698 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:20,000 Speaker 2: received an email subject that said court with Johnny's name, 699 00:30:20,040 --> 00:30:22,360 Speaker 2: and so I began reading it. Johnny stated, I will 700 00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 2: be taking you to court for the money I spent 701 00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:26,720 Speaker 2: on you and for the emotional distress you will be 702 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:29,040 Speaker 2: hearing from my lawyer. This is a This is like 703 00:30:29,080 --> 00:30:32,960 Speaker 2: a total fake email. There's no way, so yo op, 704 00:30:33,160 --> 00:30:36,320 Speaker 2: this does not hold up. Just so you know, I've 705 00:30:36,320 --> 00:30:38,000 Speaker 2: done so much research on what to do and I'm 706 00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:40,239 Speaker 2: struggling to hold it together. All I want is some 707 00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:43,200 Speaker 2: space from the emotional abuse and harassment I've received. I 708 00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 2: had to make new social media to escape the harassment 709 00:30:45,360 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 2: and assure my family that I'm sorry if he sends 710 00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:50,720 Speaker 2: any messages again. I'm scared for the court case and 711 00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,240 Speaker 2: of trouble sleeping at night. Johnny feels like the type 712 00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:56,960 Speaker 2: of person who to show up at anyone's door unannounced, 713 00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:58,800 Speaker 2: and I don't know what to do. Also, this story 714 00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:00,600 Speaker 2: comes from as Rika. 715 00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:02,560 Speaker 5: Okay, well, first off, at the end of the day, 716 00:31:02,600 --> 00:31:05,360 Speaker 5: we're uh, we're not experts on. 717 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:07,040 Speaker 2: Any of these subjects. 718 00:31:07,040 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 5: Caviat I would actually flip it back and like maybe 719 00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:13,080 Speaker 5: even look at getting a restraining order or something. If 720 00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,160 Speaker 5: he's blowing up all of your family members like all, like, 721 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,320 Speaker 5: that's ridiculous. That is ridiculous and definitely grounds for like you, 722 00:31:19,320 --> 00:31:22,240 Speaker 5: you deserve your piece. So number one, this is absolutely 723 00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 5: unequivocally leave him for sure. 724 00:31:25,760 --> 00:31:28,960 Speaker 2: Break up with this guy. It sucks though, because I mean, 725 00:31:29,000 --> 00:31:31,840 Speaker 2: she she's like doing she's working with him. It seems 726 00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:32,920 Speaker 2: to be a part of your career. 727 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:36,000 Speaker 5: So I don't know what the implications are, but I wonder, like, 728 00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:38,600 Speaker 5: is there like another team or like, I don't know 729 00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:40,280 Speaker 5: how that would kind of I. 730 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:42,880 Speaker 2: Guess like she kind of has left him or at 731 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:45,200 Speaker 2: least is like putting the relationship seems like this because 732 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:47,480 Speaker 2: that's why she's he's reaching out to all these people. 733 00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:49,200 Speaker 2: So I think it's like you probably need to have 734 00:31:49,240 --> 00:31:51,600 Speaker 2: a call with him and just say, hey, this is 735 00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:56,200 Speaker 2: unacceptable that you are reaching out like on every platform. 736 00:31:56,640 --> 00:32:00,800 Speaker 2: I'm going to file a restraining order if you don't stop. Yeah, 737 00:32:00,840 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 2: I want to be able to work with you professionally, 738 00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,760 Speaker 2: but uh, if you don't stop, I'm going to have 739 00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:07,360 Speaker 2: to take legal action. 740 00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:08,280 Speaker 5: I think it's a good call. 741 00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, yikes, dude, Oh P, I feel bad this is 742 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,440 Speaker 2: this is a shitty situation, but no that you're not 743 00:32:13,440 --> 00:32:16,360 Speaker 2: being crazy, No you're not. Just definitely get out of 744 00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:16,960 Speaker 2: that relationship. 745 00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:17,280 Speaker 3: Yep.