1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:10,640 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com 4 00:00:10,880 --> 00:00:13,720 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your 5 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:16,520 Speaker 1: letter live on the air, just like we're going to 6 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now, and you never know, 7 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:20,279 Speaker 1: it could be yours. 8 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:23,200 Speaker 2: It could be yours. Buckle up and hold on time. 9 00:00:23,200 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 2: We got it for you here. It is Strawberry. 10 00:00:25,800 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: Letter, A thank you nephew. Subject I'm not sure whose 11 00:00:30,160 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: baby this is, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm writing in to 12 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 1: get some advice for my brother because he's been duped 13 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: by his wife. She's been in and out of his 14 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:42,840 Speaker 1: life for years and doing whatever she wanted to do 15 00:00:43,040 --> 00:00:45,639 Speaker 1: in the marriage. He told us that his wife has 16 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,720 Speaker 1: never cheated on him, But I beg to differ because 17 00:00:48,760 --> 00:00:51,159 Speaker 1: their baby came out looking like he's the son of 18 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 1: Colonel Sanders. We call him light bright because he is 19 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:59,320 Speaker 1: not getting any darker. My brother is a caramel color 20 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 1: and his wife is a little bit lighter than he is, 21 00:01:03,160 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 1: but not as clear colored as the baby. My brother said. 22 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: They got a DNA test done, but he didn't follow 23 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:12,880 Speaker 1: up with the results because he knows it's his baby. 24 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:16,119 Speaker 1: He's a sucker for his wife, and I can't stand 25 00:01:16,160 --> 00:01:20,839 Speaker 1: to see him mistreated. She's always with her Caucasian best friend, 26 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: and I think that girl's brother is the baby daddy. 27 00:01:24,640 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: I called my sister in law about a month ago 28 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:29,200 Speaker 1: and I told her I want to sit down with 29 00:01:29,319 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: her and go over the DNA test with her. She 30 00:01:32,400 --> 00:01:34,720 Speaker 1: acted a fool and told me if I came close 31 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: to her house, she'd have me arrested. That sealed the 32 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:40,759 Speaker 1: deal for me, and I'm going to get my own 33 00:01:40,880 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: test done the next time my mama keeps the baby. 34 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: My mom said that they have some Caucasian people down 35 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:49,520 Speaker 1: the line and their family, but those would have had 36 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:53,040 Speaker 1: to be some strong jeans to make the baby this pale. 37 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:56,080 Speaker 1: I know you're probably thinking I should mind my business, 38 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,800 Speaker 1: but wouldn't you want your brother to know what's up? 39 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: And what's worse is he might know, and he's overlooking 40 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: the facts because he wants to please this woman and 41 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: be a good dad. If he is happy, should I 42 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:10,840 Speaker 1: let it go or should I try to help him 43 00:02:11,200 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 1: see the light? You already answered the question in your letter, 44 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 1: and I know, I know you care and you want 45 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:20,800 Speaker 1: the best for your brother. I get it. I have 46 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:24,120 Speaker 1: a brother that I love very very much. But you 47 00:02:24,200 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: cannot want more for him, this grown man brother of yours, 48 00:02:28,160 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 1: than he wants for himself. You said, this woman, his wife, 49 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: has been in and out of his life for years. 50 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:37,640 Speaker 1: He takes her back every time, and this time with 51 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: a baby that may or may not be his. So 52 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:44,080 Speaker 1: her bad behavior is nothing new to him. Okay, he 53 00:02:44,200 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: knows exactly who she is. As hard a as it 54 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 1: is for you to sit back and watch all of 55 00:02:49,960 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: this go down, this is none of your business. Like 56 00:02:53,280 --> 00:02:55,639 Speaker 1: you said in a letter, this is between a husband 57 00:02:55,680 --> 00:02:58,639 Speaker 1: and wife period. I know you want to know if 58 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 1: the baby is really your niece nephew, but your brother 59 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,400 Speaker 1: has already accepted the baby as his. So if you 60 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 1: interfere now and get the DNA results on your own, 61 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 1: when the baby comes to live with your comes to 62 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,720 Speaker 1: stay with your mom, please just keep it to yourself. 63 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: Your brother obviously wants this baby, he wants to be 64 00:03:16,720 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: a good dad. He's claiming the baby. So what is 65 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,400 Speaker 1: your meddling gonna do. I'll tell you what it's gonna do. 66 00:03:23,520 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: It's really gonna drive a wedge between you and your brother, 67 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,160 Speaker 1: and you may or may not be able to bounce 68 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:32,919 Speaker 1: back from that. So I say leave it alone. This 69 00:03:33,120 --> 00:03:35,400 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to know the truth if the baby 70 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: is not his, and he's saying the baby is his, 71 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:43,000 Speaker 1: So this is his decision, not yours. Stay out of it, Steve, 72 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:44,560 Speaker 1: I could. 73 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:48,920 Speaker 2: Go so many different directions with this letter. Surely nailed 74 00:03:48,960 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 2: it for me. I mean, stop, you said it in 75 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 2: your letter. It's none of your business. You're taking up 76 00:03:57,160 --> 00:04:01,520 Speaker 2: a case that your brother not even taken up. Yo. 77 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:05,080 Speaker 2: You so worried about who baby this is. You're more 78 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 2: worried about it than your brother. You know, you think 79 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 2: he been duped by his wife. He may very well 80 00:04:12,640 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 2: have been. She's been in and out of his life 81 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 2: for years. The AS's probably the case, and she's done 82 00:04:19,560 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 2: whatever she wanted to do within the marriage. You might 83 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:26,599 Speaker 2: be able to verify improve all that he told you 84 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 2: all his wife ain't ever cheated on him. You beg 85 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:32,479 Speaker 2: to differ. You think it's not true because the baby 86 00:04:32,560 --> 00:04:35,359 Speaker 2: came out looking like Colonel Sanders. Now that's some Benjamin 87 00:04:35,440 --> 00:04:38,039 Speaker 2: Butt's ass statement right there. You're trying to tell me 88 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:39,919 Speaker 2: this baby looked like an old white man. That's what 89 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:43,920 Speaker 2: you're trying to tell me. I don't think so. But 90 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:45,600 Speaker 2: if that's what you want to do to try to 91 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:49,520 Speaker 2: clarify your point, then find your brother is caramel colored 92 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:51,800 Speaker 2: and his wife is a little bit lighter than he is. 93 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:54,840 Speaker 2: Wait minue, now, it ain't a dog skinned person in 94 00:04:54,880 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 2: this letter so far. And you mad cause the baby 95 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:05,200 Speaker 2: pail and you on this color spectrum that you working 96 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:07,919 Speaker 2: on the color spectrum. We can't help you because we 97 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:10,920 Speaker 2: don't know what color you're talking about. You talking about caramel, 98 00:05:11,160 --> 00:05:14,560 Speaker 2: lighter than that brighter light, bright, pale, you using all 99 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:18,800 Speaker 2: these terms. You just don't like the lady what it 100 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:22,040 Speaker 2: seemed like to me, and that's what your focus is. 101 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:25,000 Speaker 2: And you know he's a sucker for his wife. I 102 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 2: can't stand to see him mistreated. You know, she's always 103 00:05:29,120 --> 00:05:32,400 Speaker 2: with her Caucasians best friend. And I think that girl's 104 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 2: brother is the baby daddy. You don't put a whole 105 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:40,320 Speaker 2: story together. Then you said I called my sister in 106 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 2: law and told her I wanted to sit down with 107 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:45,280 Speaker 2: her and go over to d DNA test with her. 108 00:05:46,279 --> 00:05:49,120 Speaker 2: You got a lot of nerves. I got to tell 109 00:05:49,160 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 2: you something you got a lot of nerve. I know 110 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 2: you got cussed out. I know you got cussed out because, 111 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 2: first of all, you gonna sit down and go over 112 00:05:58,680 --> 00:06:03,479 Speaker 2: the DNA test with her. It's not your DNA test. 113 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 2: And she cut up a fool and came and said 114 00:06:06,360 --> 00:06:09,160 Speaker 2: if I came close to her house, she'd have me arrested. Well, 115 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 2: that's the only deal for me. I'm gonna get my 116 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 2: own test done next time. My mama keep the baby. 117 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:18,960 Speaker 2: My mama said, they got some Caucasian people down, girl, 118 00:06:19,000 --> 00:06:23,640 Speaker 2: Where are you going with all this? If they happy, 119 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:26,520 Speaker 2: why are you in it? But I have the perfect 120 00:06:26,560 --> 00:06:30,400 Speaker 2: solution when we come back, all right, I know exactly 121 00:06:30,440 --> 00:06:32,560 Speaker 2: what this is about. When we come back. 122 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:36,080 Speaker 1: All right, Steve, we'll have part two of your response 123 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:39,679 Speaker 1: coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's 124 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:44,560 Speaker 1: Strawberry letter, subject, I'm not sure whose baby this is. 125 00:06:45,640 --> 00:06:47,440 Speaker 1: We'll try and get to the bottom of it with 126 00:06:47,600 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response coming up right after this. 127 00:06:50,920 --> 00:06:55,279 Speaker 1: You're listening Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, 128 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is, I'm not 129 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 1: sure whose baby this is. 130 00:07:02,240 --> 00:07:06,039 Speaker 2: We have a problem in this letter right here. We 131 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 2: got a woman that's so damn nosy. She's upset that 132 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 2: she feels her brother's wife, who has been in and 133 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 2: out of the marriage, is using him in mistreating him. 134 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 2: All of this could be true. They got a baby, 135 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:24,120 Speaker 2: and you don't think the baby is his because the 136 00:07:24,160 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 2: baby came out looking like Colonel Sanders. He caramel colored 137 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:31,320 Speaker 2: and his wife is a little bit lighter than him, 138 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:34,680 Speaker 2: and the baby lighted in both of them. So damn what, 139 00:07:36,640 --> 00:07:39,120 Speaker 2: but you all up in it? Now? You want to 140 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 2: have your own DNA test done. You don't threaten the 141 00:07:41,880 --> 00:07:43,800 Speaker 2: girl ask her because you come over to the house 142 00:07:43,840 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 2: and sit up with her and discuss the DNA test. 143 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:49,240 Speaker 2: She would off on you, cussed you out, told you 144 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 2: if you come anywhere near the house, she have you arrested. Well, 145 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 2: that's sealed the deal for you, because now you're gonna 146 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:57,280 Speaker 2: get your own DNA tests done. Next time your mama 147 00:07:57,320 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 2: over there keeping the baby, you gonna go over there 148 00:07:58,760 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 2: and swab the baby. Mouth. 149 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:05,360 Speaker 3: Girl, what's wrong with you? Your brother ain't saying? Now, your 150 00:08:05,400 --> 00:08:07,680 Speaker 3: brother said they did a DN they test, but he 151 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:10,520 Speaker 3: ain't followed with the roads were followed with the results 152 00:08:10,560 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 3: because he knows his baby. If your brother want to 153 00:08:13,240 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 3: go down that road, what is it to you? I 154 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:21,840 Speaker 3: know you're probably thinking I should mind my business. You 155 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 3: got that right, You damn right about that. 156 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 2: We all on that. But wouldn't you want your brother 157 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,720 Speaker 2: to know what's up? Not if he don't want to know. 158 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 2: And what's worse, he might know and he's overlooking the 159 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:39,320 Speaker 2: fact because he wants to please this woman. And which 160 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 2: is the other reason you need to stay out of it. 161 00:08:41,640 --> 00:08:44,320 Speaker 2: Because if that's his reason for doing it, what you 162 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 2: got to do with that? If he's happy, should I 163 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 2: let it go? I try to help him see the light? 164 00:08:55,679 --> 00:09:04,319 Speaker 2: My friends, phil is there pointed duty. They keep trying 165 00:09:04,320 --> 00:09:09,800 Speaker 2: to tell me that all you want to do is 166 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:20,760 Speaker 2: use me. But my answer to all that use me 167 00:09:20,880 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 2: stuff is I just want to spread the news that 168 00:09:25,320 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 2: if you feel this good getting used, or you just 169 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:35,040 Speaker 2: keep on using me until you use me up. 170 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. 171 00:09:38,120 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 2: Bill Witherus wrote a song about this called use me 172 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:46,400 Speaker 2: My brother, that this is in this case is your system, 173 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:50,120 Speaker 2: my brother. He's sitting me right down and he talked 174 00:09:50,160 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 2: to me. He told me that I ought to not 175 00:09:57,120 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 2: let you just walk on me. And I'm sure he 176 00:10:01,640 --> 00:10:02,880 Speaker 2: meant wear Hell. 177 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:05,680 Speaker 3: Yeah. 178 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:13,880 Speaker 2: But when I talk was through, I said, brother, if 179 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:17,160 Speaker 2: your only new you the wish that you were in 180 00:10:17,320 --> 00:10:26,520 Speaker 2: my shoes, or you just keep on using me until 181 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:31,120 Speaker 2: you use me? Huh lord? That was jail. It explains 182 00:10:31,200 --> 00:10:36,080 Speaker 2: its whole time. But then he even came to this. 183 00:10:36,160 --> 00:10:41,080 Speaker 2: He even says, sometimes it's true, you really do abuse me. 184 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:44,680 Speaker 2: You get me in the crowd of high class people 185 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 2: and you act real rude to me. I better, baby, 186 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 2: when you love me. I can't get enough at all 187 00:10:59,760 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 2: talk talking about you using people. It all depends on 188 00:11:03,559 --> 00:11:07,160 Speaker 2: what you do. It ain't too bad the way you're 189 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 2: using me, because I sure am using you to do 190 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:14,079 Speaker 2: the things you do. Do you understand what's happening here? 191 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 2: Bill Withers did, and he wrote a song about it. 192 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 2: Use me and just keep on using me until you 193 00:11:29,280 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 2: use me up. That's what this this letter is about. 194 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 2: I have nothing else to say to you. He liked 195 00:11:39,559 --> 00:11:41,760 Speaker 2: what's happening to him. There's nothing you can do about it. 196 00:11:41,760 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 2: She doing some things in him back in the house. 197 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:45,400 Speaker 2: You're not gonna be able to count it. With the 198 00:11:45,440 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 2: little white baby or nothing else? 199 00:11:51,559 --> 00:11:52,440 Speaker 1: What else you got? 200 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:55,720 Speaker 2: What else you got? It? Yes, the baby why. 201 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 1: Yes, this is what families do. 202 00:11:59,080 --> 00:12:02,439 Speaker 2: Though at the house, though, have you seen what she 203 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:07,520 Speaker 2: do to me? I'm telling me, you're talking about the 204 00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:10,400 Speaker 2: baby look like Colonel Sanders. I'm telling you this is 205 00:12:10,600 --> 00:12:19,680 Speaker 2: good as his chicken. This is Franker looking good. You're 206 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:21,880 Speaker 2: up in here. You you owe me by something that 207 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:25,960 Speaker 2: ain't fit the change. I'm telling you right now, Frankle 208 00:12:26,040 --> 00:12:30,280 Speaker 2: looking good. I'm not going nowhere. I don't give a 209 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:32,840 Speaker 2: damn who babies. I know the baby was born with 210 00:12:32,880 --> 00:12:36,720 Speaker 2: a little black boat town on. I saw it. I 211 00:12:36,920 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 2: know the baby half white. 212 00:12:38,240 --> 00:12:39,000 Speaker 1: I know it. 213 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:42,280 Speaker 2: I know the baby looks like it ought to be 214 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:44,439 Speaker 2: on the side of a bucket. The chicken, I got that. 215 00:12:46,520 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 2: But have you tasted her chicken? 216 00:12:50,200 --> 00:12:55,440 Speaker 1: Leave your comings Swberry Letter on Instagram and on Facebook 217 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:59,280 Speaker 1: at Steve Harby FM, and check us out on the 218 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter podcast on the free iHeartRadio app. Now. Coming 219 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:06,440 Speaker 1: up next it is Junior and Sports Talk. Right after this, 220 00:13:07,160 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.