1 00:00:01,560 --> 00:00:04,160 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:07,520 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:07,880 --> 00:00:12,080 Speaker 1: please please submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve RVFM dot com. 4 00:00:12,080 --> 00:00:14,400 Speaker 1: We could be reading your letter live on the air, 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:16,439 Speaker 1: just like you're going to read this one right here, 6 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 1: right now. You never know it could be yours. So 7 00:00:19,040 --> 00:00:21,800 Speaker 1: righte this. We want to help you. We do, We 8 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:24,000 Speaker 1: really do. Some buckle up and hold on tight. We 9 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:28,760 Speaker 1: gut it for you. Here it is Drawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. 10 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:33,240 Speaker 1: My parents heard him yelling, Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm thirty 11 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 1: six and I'm dating a forty year old man, and 12 00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:39,600 Speaker 1: we went to my hometown for my dad's retirement ceremony. 13 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: My parents graciously offered their guests room to us. But 14 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: I know how my dad feels about me bringing a 15 00:00:45,520 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 1: man that I'm not married to into his home, so 16 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 1: I was apprehensive. This would also be the first time 17 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:55,000 Speaker 1: they're meeting my new boyfriend, so I didn't want it 18 00:00:55,040 --> 00:00:58,120 Speaker 1: to be weird for them or my boyfriend. My dad 19 00:00:58,200 --> 00:01:01,120 Speaker 1: is still very strict even though I am grown, but 20 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:04,600 Speaker 1: I agreed to stay with them anyway. I got the 21 00:01:04,680 --> 00:01:07,480 Speaker 1: guest room, and my boyfriend slept on the pullout sofa 22 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:11,280 Speaker 1: in our den. I know my boyfriend, so I told 23 00:01:11,360 --> 00:01:14,399 Speaker 1: him not to sneak into my room or even get 24 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: up in the middle of the night, because I'm very 25 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 1: afraid of my father. The first night was peaceful because 26 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:24,040 Speaker 1: he had driven four hours and was tired. The second night, 27 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:27,480 Speaker 1: after the retirement ceremony, we had a few glasses of 28 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: wine with my parents and I fell asleep across my bed. 29 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:33,520 Speaker 1: I got up to take a shower around one am, 30 00:01:33,840 --> 00:01:38,200 Speaker 1: and everyone was asleep. Still a little tipsy and missing 31 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,880 Speaker 1: my man. I tiptoed into the den where he was 32 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 1: passed out. All I had on was a robe. I 33 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: leaned over and kissed him, and he woke up and 34 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:52,000 Speaker 1: threw me on the bed and opened my robe. It 35 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 1: was like a scene from a romantic movie, and we 36 00:01:54,760 --> 00:01:59,000 Speaker 1: quietly made love. The only problem is that my man 37 00:01:59,160 --> 00:02:03,400 Speaker 1: does not know how to end things quietly. When he 38 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: is done, he yells like an injured cat. I know 39 00:02:08,360 --> 00:02:11,360 Speaker 1: my parents heard him because they rushed us out of 40 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,520 Speaker 1: their house the next morning. My dad is big on 41 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:18,359 Speaker 1: cooking breakfast on Sunday mornings, but he did not even offer. 42 00:02:19,160 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: How do I make this right with my parents. With 43 00:02:21,440 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: my parents, should I bring it up or should I 44 00:02:23,480 --> 00:02:30,079 Speaker 1: act like it never happened? Please please help? Okay, all right, 45 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:34,000 Speaker 1: I certainly would act like it never happened. Okay, I mean, 46 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: why bring it up again, because they already know what happened, 47 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 1: they heard it. I would never mention it again. I mean, 48 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 1: don't even bring up the word retirement ever at all. 49 00:02:45,800 --> 00:02:50,040 Speaker 1: And you gotta let some time go before you talk 50 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: to them, before you see your parents next. You gotta 51 00:02:52,800 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: let a little time go by. If you guys have 52 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 1: to go back there for any reason, I say, save 53 00:02:57,280 --> 00:03:00,160 Speaker 1: your money and get a hotel room this time. Your 54 00:03:00,200 --> 00:03:02,080 Speaker 1: dad is who he is, you said it in a letter. 55 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,720 Speaker 1: He's old school. He's not ever gonna be cool with 56 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:07,000 Speaker 1: some man coming to his house who is not married 57 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: to his daughter and trying to sleep with her right 58 00:03:09,200 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 1: under their nose. No, he's not gonna be cool with that. 59 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:15,280 Speaker 1: To badger man couldn't control himself and keep quiet at 60 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: the end, or you wouldn't even have this problem. But 61 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:20,960 Speaker 1: by all means, please don't bring any of this up 62 00:03:21,000 --> 00:03:24,480 Speaker 1: to your parents, because nothing you can say, there's nothing 63 00:03:24,520 --> 00:03:28,040 Speaker 1: you can say anyway. I say, time heals all wounds, 64 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: so maybe they'll be all right about it in the future, 65 00:03:30,760 --> 00:03:33,359 Speaker 1: but you can't ever sleep there with him again, Steve, 66 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:42,040 Speaker 1: Old school daddies is old school daddies. Yeah, thaddy's sick. 67 00:03:44,120 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: You're dating a forty year old man. Y'all went to 68 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 1: your dad's retirement program, so I'm assuming your dad's sixty 69 00:03:51,880 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: five minimum. I guess parents gradially offered the guest room 70 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: to us, but you know your dad, he don't feel 71 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:04,560 Speaker 1: good about that. You're not married. What it is is, 72 00:04:04,640 --> 00:04:08,400 Speaker 1: let me explain it to you. You can't come into 73 00:04:08,440 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: a house that I'm paying for and do like you 74 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:17,080 Speaker 1: want to because old school cats consider that disrespectful. Don't 75 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:24,760 Speaker 1: disrespect my house. Don't come in here doing things in 76 00:04:24,960 --> 00:04:27,480 Speaker 1: my house because you ain't paying no bills in here. 77 00:04:27,680 --> 00:04:31,160 Speaker 1: That's what it is. And it's the first time they 78 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:33,560 Speaker 1: met your new boyfriend, so they let y'all stay at 79 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 1: the house. You didn't want to be weird, so your 80 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: dad is strict and you grown, you're scared of him, 81 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: but you agreed to stay with him. Anyway, I got 82 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: the guess room and your boyfriend slept on the pullout 83 00:04:44,560 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 1: sofa in and then you know, you. I know my boyfriend. 84 00:04:48,720 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: You know him. It ain't just your boyfriend is men. 85 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:58,600 Speaker 1: We're in here, we know you in now what's up? 86 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: It's fun too? So hey, hey you man, are you 87 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:21,840 Speaker 1: knocking on the door? You in now it's me. Just 88 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:29,920 Speaker 1: just cracked the dough. Just cracked the dough. Now you're quiet. Uh, 89 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: just cracked the dope. That's all I need is cranking dough. 90 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: Now lean up against the cracking. If you don't get 91 00:05:42,800 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 1: your ass back in the n then see me and 92 00:05:46,720 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: just we just we just men. Man, listen, we all 93 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:53,680 Speaker 1: know how this worked and all this here. When when 94 00:05:53,720 --> 00:05:56,080 Speaker 1: that come back, we're gonna do a re enact man 95 00:05:57,160 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: of him trying to get in that room. And then 96 00:05:59,560 --> 00:06:02,360 Speaker 1: why they God, busn't it. This is a real simple letter. 97 00:06:02,760 --> 00:06:06,160 Speaker 1: This don't call for advice. Sureley gave you the advice. 98 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 1: Don't bring it up. That's all it is. We'll be 99 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 1: back all right. We'll have Steve's response coming up. Part 100 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: two twenty three minutes. Okay, I don't want you to 101 00:06:19,839 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: tell the people we're gonna have Steve's response because I 102 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: didn't gave it. Part two very simple to your response. 103 00:06:28,839 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: You can't bring it up again. No, I click, It 104 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:35,080 Speaker 1: never happened. Now when we come back, we're gonna have 105 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:37,800 Speaker 1: to deal with this noise that he made when he threw, 106 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 1: because that's why the bust it. That's why y'all busted. 107 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: All right, we'll have that reenactment coming up at twenty 108 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,840 Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour Today's Strawberry Letter. And my 109 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: parents heard him yelling. We'll get back into it right 110 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 1: after this. You're listening to show, all right, Come on, Steve, 111 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: let's recap today's Strawberry Letter. Girlfriend girlfriend thirty six got 112 00:07:04,760 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: a forty old boyfriend. Their parents's returned, dad's returned. They're 113 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,360 Speaker 1: going to the ceremony. They should have got a hotel. 114 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: The parents convinced him to stay with them, But your 115 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:14,680 Speaker 1: dad is old school. You know, he's uncomfortable with it. 116 00:07:14,880 --> 00:07:17,440 Speaker 1: So you stayed in the guest room and your boys slept. 117 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:21,000 Speaker 1: Your boyfriend slept on him, pull out sofa in the 118 00:07:21,040 --> 00:07:24,280 Speaker 1: limit and the dad you said, you know how your 119 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: boyfriend is. I said, your boyfriend like all me. He 120 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: ain't gonna stay in there. Now. Friends were good the 121 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:37,160 Speaker 1: first night because he was tired. You know you're afraid 122 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:41,320 Speaker 1: of Your daddy was peaceful, so that's all the good him, 123 00:07:41,360 --> 00:07:45,080 Speaker 1: you know. But the next night y'all had a few 124 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 1: glasses of wine and you fell asleep across your bed. 125 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:51,239 Speaker 1: You got up to take a shot around one am, 126 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:57,720 Speaker 1: and everybody was asleep. Now you you tipsy and missing 127 00:07:57,840 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 1: your man? You two if he told into the den 128 00:08:01,680 --> 00:08:04,720 Speaker 1: where he was passed out. See, you tried to make 129 00:08:04,800 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 1: us think this letter was about your boyfriend, because I 130 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:13,000 Speaker 1: know how he is. But oh no, lady, turns out 131 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: we found out how you are. Oh, you can't keep 132 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:29,080 Speaker 1: your panties on this one. That's strong. You can't keep 133 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:33,520 Speaker 1: your panties on. Wait minute, wait a minute. Read the letter. 134 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 1: It's there. I'm tippy told in the den where he 135 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:43,480 Speaker 1: was passed out. All I had on was a row, 136 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 1: she told us in the letter. She didn't put the 137 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: panties on. Do you have to say everything that's in 138 00:08:49,800 --> 00:08:54,920 Speaker 1: your mind? I say everything that's in the letter. Oh, 139 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:59,520 Speaker 1: don't practice off for me ship Oh no, oh no, 140 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: I'm not. Don't have to say they're implied. No, we 141 00:09:02,920 --> 00:09:06,920 Speaker 1: don't apply. She didn't apply nothing. She said. All I 142 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: had on was a role. What implication is that? That's? 143 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 1: No froll, no leotons, no stockets, no shoes, no spanks, nothing. 144 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:20,679 Speaker 1: But when she said all she had on was a rope, 145 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:25,360 Speaker 1: we got it. That's what I'm telling you. We know 146 00:09:25,520 --> 00:09:30,120 Speaker 1: she didn't have those things on. So then I say 147 00:09:30,160 --> 00:09:36,479 Speaker 1: it and I'm wrong. Added it you in your parents' 148 00:09:36,559 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: house a naked and it came in the drunk. Oh, 149 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:47,439 Speaker 1: and y'all talking about I'm right. You ain't got to 150 00:09:47,559 --> 00:09:54,199 Speaker 1: say everything. You're screwing your daddy's house and I'm wrong. Oh, 151 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: excuse me. All I had on was rope. I leaned 152 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: over kiss him. He woke up and me on the bed, 153 00:10:01,120 --> 00:10:06,160 Speaker 1: on the bed, Wait a minute, hold up what bed? 154 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:11,280 Speaker 1: Couch in the den, and open up my robe. It 155 00:10:11,320 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: was like a scene from a romantic movie. We quietly 156 00:10:14,440 --> 00:10:17,839 Speaker 1: made love. Now he go to letter right here. Now 157 00:10:17,920 --> 00:10:20,439 Speaker 1: she's trying to delf it on him. The only problem 158 00:10:20,600 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: is now, No, they ain't the only problem. The problems 159 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:27,440 Speaker 1: when you started drinking that wine in your daddy's house, 160 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:31,040 Speaker 1: that's where the problems start. You gotta be one o'clock 161 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:33,080 Speaker 1: in the morning, take a shot and bought your half. 162 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: Nigga ass in there bothering the man. He tried to 163 00:10:37,040 --> 00:10:39,520 Speaker 1: respect your daddy's house and think, what hell, since you 164 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: don't respect it, what you want me to do, let's 165 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: be quiet. So then he was quiet. But here's the problem. 166 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:53,240 Speaker 1: He does not know how to end things quietly. When 167 00:10:53,320 --> 00:11:06,439 Speaker 1: he's done, he yells like an injured camera. Oh god, 168 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:19,920 Speaker 1: oh god, you are crazy. Really, I've never known when 169 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: an injured cat sounds like Now, yes, now, we know, 170 00:11:28,480 --> 00:11:32,280 Speaker 1: as much as I love animals, sound, that's your man. 171 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 1: You need to get rid of him, because that ain't 172 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 1: really what we're doing. Injured mountain lion. There's an wait, 173 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 1: what one more time? That's an injured mountain lion. And 174 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:07,040 Speaker 1: then he gets shot. That's an injured mountain line. Okay, 175 00:12:07,160 --> 00:12:09,640 Speaker 1: I know my parents heard him because they rushed us 176 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:11,400 Speaker 1: out their house to this morning. Y'all got to get 177 00:12:11,400 --> 00:12:13,679 Speaker 1: the hell out of here. All that, all that right now, 178 00:12:13,880 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: that was your daddy right there. I don't know what 179 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:17,079 Speaker 1: the hell going on in here, but what I heard 180 00:12:17,160 --> 00:12:19,199 Speaker 1: that that. Y'all gotta get him out of here. But 181 00:12:19,240 --> 00:12:20,440 Speaker 1: I don't know what are you even here doing? You 182 00:12:20,880 --> 00:12:23,520 Speaker 1: scare and then your mom in there, well, what was 183 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:25,679 Speaker 1: he doing? You know? It sounded like he was handing 184 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 1: his business. Because you better go, You better put that 185 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:33,000 Speaker 1: thing on him like your mama showed you how to 186 00:12:33,040 --> 00:12:35,160 Speaker 1: do it, because that's why you man, if you wanted to, 187 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 1: you you have him. Let how you had them, have 188 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 1: them men letting out the montline calls. That's what you're doing. 189 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:43,439 Speaker 1: That's my baby right there. I taught her good. You 190 00:12:43,520 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: shot up herman. That's why you in here now. It's 191 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:49,719 Speaker 1: always herman. You know one you keep the pillow, yo. 192 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:52,280 Speaker 1: If you do the same thing when I'm putting it 193 00:12:52,320 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 1: on you while I take it, can you do the 194 00:12:54,640 --> 00:12:59,400 Speaker 1: injured tap sounds again? Please believe it's your comments on 195 00:12:59,520 --> 00:13:05,200 Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry Letter on Instagram and Steve Harvey epso check 196 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. Love it coming 197 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:12,040 Speaker 1: up next? Thank you Steve in a sports talk with Junior. 198 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:16,439 Speaker 1: Right after this, you're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.