WEBVTT - You’re Manifesting Wrong! Follow THIS 3-Step Alignment Formula That Actually Works (This is Life Changing!) 0:00:00.320 --> 0:00:07.000 Manifestation is not magic. Manifestation is not wishing and waiting. 0:00:07.920 --> 0:00:11.440 Manifestation is not writing it once in a journal and 0:00:11.480 --> 0:00:16.600 closing the book. Manifestation is not saying affirmations while avoiding action. 0:00:17.680 --> 0:00:24.080 Manifestation is not the universe delivering without your participation. Manifestation 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:29.400 is not a shortcut around hard work. It's clarity, belief, 0:00:29.920 --> 0:00:34.360 and consistent action. In Alignment, the number one health and 0:00:34.400 --> 0:00:42.959 wellness podcast, Jay Sety Jay Chatty, Hey everyone, welcome back 0:00:42.960 --> 0:00:45.919 to On Purpose. I'm Jay Chatty, author of New York 0:00:45.960 --> 0:00:48.920 Times bestsellers Think Like a Monk and Eight Rules of Love, 0:00:49.440 --> 0:00:51.159 and today I want to talk to you about a 0:00:51.200 --> 0:00:56.000 topic that I feel we're all completely fascinated by, but 0:00:56.080 --> 0:01:01.640 I think we really don't understand station. There is so 0:01:01.800 --> 0:01:05.200 much about this word out there. There's so many interpretations, 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:08.000 there's so much about how to do it and what 0:01:08.040 --> 0:01:11.400 it is, and I feel like often we set ourselves 0:01:11.440 --> 0:01:14.840 up for failure by subscribing to a word that we 0:01:14.880 --> 0:01:18.560 don't fully understand, by subscribing to an idea that sounds good, 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:21.520 it makes us feel good, but it doesn't really transfer 0:01:21.600 --> 0:01:24.760 into reality. How many of you have ever tried to 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:28.000 manifest a vision board and not seen it come to life. 0:01:28.319 --> 0:01:30.720 How many of you have tried to repeat something constantly 0:01:30.720 --> 0:01:33.840 in affirmations and not seen it come to life. How 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:37.120 many of you have tried to manifest something big and 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:40.160 beautiful in your life and actually felt like you went 0:01:40.200 --> 0:01:42.920 down the wrong path. If that applies to any of you, 0:01:43.080 --> 0:01:45.800 this episode is for you, because I'm going to talk 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:50.600 about the myths of manifestation and how to actually build 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:55.560 the life that you truly want. Myth number one, manifestation 0:01:56.080 --> 0:01:59.840 is magic. We think if I think about it hard, 0:01:59.840 --> 0:02:05.480 it will appear. Here's the reality. Your brain isn't a genie, 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:09.359 it's a GPS. If you don't type in the address, 0:02:10.000 --> 0:02:12.800 it can't take you anywhere. Do you ever get in 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:16.440 the car and just start driving without a destination. You'd 0:02:16.440 --> 0:02:21.000 waste gas, You'd waste time and energy. That's what wishing 0:02:21.280 --> 0:02:26.200 without clarity does to your life. Research from Locke and 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:29.840 Latham's goal setting theory of two thousand and two show 0:02:29.960 --> 0:02:36.760 specific goals lead to higher motivation and success than vague intentions. 0:02:37.320 --> 0:02:39.480 So here's what I want you to do. I want 0:02:39.480 --> 0:02:43.000 you to swap I want to be successful for I 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:47.360 want to grow my business revenue by twenty percent this year. 0:02:48.000 --> 0:02:53.200 Vague wishes drift, clear goals direct. So anyone who's saying 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:56.639 manifestation is just I want abundance, I want to be free, 0:02:57.160 --> 0:03:00.959 I want to create greatness. These are beautiful inspirations, there's 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:05.639 nothing wrong with them, but without clarity, we don't know 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:09.480 what action to take. Your goal has to be clear, 0:03:10.280 --> 0:03:13.240 Your vision of what you're building has to be clear. Now, 0:03:13.320 --> 0:03:15.120 I'm not saying that it's going to work out just 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:17.359 as you think it is. I'm not even saying you're 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:21.120 going to get exactly what you envision. But the truth 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:27.200 is to start any journey, you need clarity. Manifestation is 0:03:27.240 --> 0:03:34.120 not magic. Manifestation is not wishing and waiting. Manifestation is 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:37.480 not writing it once in a journal and closing the book. 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:43.880 Manifestation is not saying affirmations while avoiding action. Manifestation is 0:03:43.920 --> 0:03:49.680 not the universe delivering without your participation. Manifestation is not 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:55.560 a shortcut around hard work. Manifestation is not about getting 0:03:55.680 --> 0:04:03.400 everything you want instantly. Manifestation isn't magic. It's clarity, belief, 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:09.480 and consistent action in alignment. For so many people, they 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:12.440 may tell an amazing story about how they manifested something. 0:04:13.600 --> 0:04:15.920 It's not that they didn't vision it. It's not that 0:04:15.960 --> 0:04:20.640 they didn't have clarity. They also aligned their action, their time, 0:04:21.000 --> 0:04:27.400 their energy, their resources in that direction. Manifestation truly is 0:04:27.440 --> 0:04:31.760 the alignment of what you think, what you say, and 0:04:31.800 --> 0:04:36.360 what you do. When those three things are aligned, that's 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:39.240 what creates impact in the world and in your life. 0:04:39.800 --> 0:04:41.800 Whereas when you think in your head, I want abundance, 0:04:43.000 --> 0:04:46.520 you say it out loud, but your actions are completely 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:51.360 the opposite. Nothing changes. The problem is we think manifestation 0:04:51.480 --> 0:04:54.159 means if I think abundantly, then I'll be abundant in 0:04:54.160 --> 0:04:57.320 my business. No, you might actually have a beautiful habit 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:00.919 for happiness, But the strategy for sex is watching the 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:05.080 patterns of success. It's analyzing the journeys of success. It's 0:05:05.080 --> 0:05:09.440 being locked into a different mind. Myth number two is 0:05:09.480 --> 0:05:15.200 that positive thoughts alone attract success. People think if I 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:21.120 stay positive, the universe will deliver. This sets us up 0:05:21.120 --> 0:05:25.120 for a lot of disappointment because I know so many people, 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:30.320 good people who think positively, but then difficult things happen 0:05:30.360 --> 0:05:33.520 in their life. Hard things happen in their life. The 0:05:33.600 --> 0:05:37.640 reality is positivity is fuel, but it's not the vehicle. 0:05:38.400 --> 0:05:42.760 It gets you moving, but you still have to drive. 0:05:43.040 --> 0:05:46.960 Imagine this. Think of going to the gym telling yourself, 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:51.000 I believe in myself. That won't build muscle unless you 0:05:51.040 --> 0:05:53.360 pick up the weights. But it's great that it made 0:05:53.440 --> 0:05:57.760 you show up, So it's important. It's just incomplete. Barbara 0:05:57.920 --> 0:06:04.120 Fredrickson's Broaden and Build the shows positivity expands our creativity 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:09.159 and problem solving, but without action, it just fades. Here's 0:06:09.200 --> 0:06:14.960 your step. Pair every affirmation with one action. If you 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:18.200 say I'm building wealth, then at the same time, set 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:21.719 up an automatic transfer to savings as soon as you 0:06:21.720 --> 0:06:25.839 get your paycheck. The moment you take action, your life 0:06:25.880 --> 0:06:32.040 will change. The moment you take action, clarity replaces confusion 0:06:32.760 --> 0:06:37.080 the moment you take action, momentum begins. The moment you 0:06:37.120 --> 0:06:42.440 take action, the right time finally arrives. The moment you 0:06:42.520 --> 0:06:48.040 take action, you stop waiting for permission. Notice how affirmation 0:06:48.200 --> 0:06:52.800 and action together creates alignment. Affirmation on its own is 0:06:52.839 --> 0:06:57.400 wishful thinking. Action on its own doesn't feel like it's 0:06:57.560 --> 0:07:01.560 fueled with a higher way of living. Affirmation and action 0:07:01.720 --> 0:07:07.160 together are an unbeatable formula. And so I want you 0:07:07.279 --> 0:07:09.280 to really think about in your life about the things 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:11.520 you've been struggling with, the things you're always trying to 0:07:11.520 --> 0:07:14.440 pump yourself up about, and ask yourself, what habits have 0:07:14.520 --> 0:07:16.960 I not built? What actions have I not built? What 0:07:17.080 --> 0:07:20.400 systems have I not built? We're not failed by our 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:24.840 desires or our expectations. We're failed by the systems we 0:07:24.880 --> 0:07:28.720 don't build. We're failed by the processes we don't create. 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:33.160 We're failed by the criteria we don't have. We're failed 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:37.000 by the boundaries we don't make. That's what fails us. 0:07:37.480 --> 0:07:42.000 Myth number three, Writing it down is not enough. We 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.760 think I wrote in my journal, so it's on its way. 0:07:45.400 --> 0:07:49.400 Here's the reality. Writing helps focus the brain, but it's 0:07:49.440 --> 0:07:52.800 step one, not the finish line. Think of it like 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:55.520 making a grocery list. Everyone needs one of those. You 0:07:55.560 --> 0:07:57.400 need to know what you're missing, what you need to 0:07:57.400 --> 0:08:00.200 fill your fridge with what you need this week. But 0:08:00.280 --> 0:08:03.040 if you never go to the store, the list doesn't 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:07.520 feed you. Research known as the generation effect shows writing 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:13.680 improves memory and focus, but memory isn't momentum. Here's the 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:18.800 step after journaling, ad what's one step I can take 0:08:18.880 --> 0:08:24.160 today toward this? If you write, start a podcast, your 0:08:24.240 --> 0:08:28.400 next step could be outline an episode, learn how to 0:08:28.520 --> 0:08:32.559 record a podcast, research a podcast. For so many of us, 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:35.679 we write down what we want. We don't write down 0:08:35.920 --> 0:08:38.440 how we're going to get there. It's the how we're 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:41.320 going to get there that makes things seem manageable. What 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:43.439 our mind does is when we say I want to 0:08:43.440 --> 0:08:47.240 start a podcast that feels so big, we feel overwhelmed. 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:52.080 We feel overburdened by doing this huge thing. When you 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:54.640 break it down into all the multiple steps of how 0:08:54.679 --> 0:08:57.960 to get there, the key is to figure out the 0:08:58.000 --> 0:09:00.920 next step you can take right now. The next step 0:09:00.960 --> 0:09:02.559 you can take right now, which is calling up a 0:09:02.559 --> 0:09:05.679 friend who has a podcast, watching podcasts to find out 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:08.920 a format that works for you, looking up a YouTube 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:11.600 video from a creator telling you how to start one. 0:09:12.320 --> 0:09:15.160 Without those steps, you can think about starting a podcast 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:19.680 for months and years, and nothing will ever happen. Manifestation 0:09:20.320 --> 0:09:24.240 is clarity about what you want and what it takes. 0:09:25.040 --> 0:09:29.640 Manifestation is writing it down and then building it step 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:36.360 by step. Manifestation is persistence when motivation fades. Manifestation is 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:40.679 aligning your choices with your values, not just your wishes. 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.880 If you just make it about your wishes, if you 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:46.480 just make it about what you're writing. If you don't 0:09:46.520 --> 0:09:49.679 ever make it about the how, right people say, start 0:09:49.679 --> 0:09:52.640 with why really important. You should know why you're doing 0:09:52.720 --> 0:09:55.320 what you're doing. You should know what you want to build. 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:57.680 But if you don't know how you're going to get there, 0:09:58.559 --> 0:10:01.440 it's almost the hardest thing. If you don't know how 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.680 you're going to get to the party on a Saturday night, 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:06.280 if you don't know how you're going to get to 0:10:06.360 --> 0:10:09.320 your vacation destination, if you don't know how you're going 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:13.119 to build that company, it becomes a lot harder. Spend 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:17.560 more time figuring out the how, and you'll know that 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:20.560 you're making momentum. You'll know you're making progress, you'll know 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:23.319 you're moving in the right direction. So the thing is, 0:10:23.360 --> 0:10:25.840 I really want you to get there. I really want 0:10:25.880 --> 0:10:28.640 you to experience the joy of building something you love. 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:31.160 I don't just want it to remain a dream in 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:35.120 your mind and your heart space that never gets to 0:10:35.120 --> 0:10:38.880 see the light of day. Myth number four, The universe 0:10:38.960 --> 0:10:44.200 rewards wanting. If I want it badly enough, I'll get it. 0:10:44.200 --> 0:10:48.560 It does not work that way. Desire its fuel, But 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:53.160 direction is the map. Without it, you spin in circles 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:57.480 have you ever desperately wanted a job, relationship, or whatever 0:10:57.520 --> 0:11:01.440 it may be, but you had no strategy. Desire without 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:05.960 direction is like stepping on the gas with no steering wheel. 0:11:06.320 --> 0:11:11.080 The reticular activating system, also known as RAS, filters what 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:15.240 you notice, define a goal, and your brain literally starts 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:19.200 spotting opportunities. For example, once you think of buying a 0:11:19.240 --> 0:11:23.120 red car, you see them everywhere. So here's the step. 0:11:23.640 --> 0:11:27.200 Each morning, write down three things you want to notice 0:11:27.440 --> 0:11:33.240 that day, maybe new clients, learning opportunities, or ways to connect. 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:39.400 Your RAS will tune in. This is so important if 0:11:39.440 --> 0:11:42.280 you have a goal to write a book, start a podcast, 0:11:42.360 --> 0:11:45.559 build a company, ask yourself what is it that you need. 0:11:45.600 --> 0:11:47.720 I was talking to a friend the other day and 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:49.600 I'd said to him how important it was for him 0:11:49.640 --> 0:11:52.240 to show up to networking events. I said, if you're 0:11:52.280 --> 0:11:54.000 out of those events, you're going to meet people. People 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:56.040 are gonna see you, You're gonna get to connect with them. 0:11:56.440 --> 0:11:58.520 He was avoiding it for months and months and months. 0:11:59.040 --> 0:12:02.840 He finally went to one, and he was shocked at 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:05.920 what it felt like to be front of mind. When 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:08.760 you're present, you get to have the conversations you would 0:12:08.800 --> 0:12:11.800 never get to if you weren't there. So many of 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:15.000 us avoid the actual action, even though in our mind 0:12:15.040 --> 0:12:18.160 we're wondering, why is this business not taking off? Why 0:12:18.240 --> 0:12:21.680 is it not starting off? Because we're not positioning ourselves 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:25.000 in the places that we need to be. Remember, you 0:12:25.040 --> 0:12:28.280 don't see things as they are. You see them through 0:12:28.280 --> 0:12:32.280 your own fears and hopes. You don't see yourself as 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:36.880 you are. You see the story you keep repeating about 0:12:36.920 --> 0:12:40.000 who you are. You don't see the future as it is. 0:12:40.720 --> 0:12:44.520 You see the version you believe is possible. So many 0:12:44.520 --> 0:12:46.360 of us have the wish, we have the one, we 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:50.080 have the desire. We don't have the direction. We don't 0:12:50.080 --> 0:12:54.000 have the drive. And where does that drive come from? 0:12:54.640 --> 0:12:56.760 Comes from picking something that you really value. I mean, 0:12:56.800 --> 0:13:01.080 everyone would want to be financially free, everyone would want abundance. 0:13:01.200 --> 0:13:03.680 Those are things we all want. What does that look 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:07.319 like for you? How does that manifest for you? When 0:13:07.360 --> 0:13:09.640 I say that, what I mean is how do you 0:13:09.720 --> 0:13:12.360 envision that? How's it unique to you? And how are 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:31.360 you going to get there that's unique to you? Myth 0:13:31.480 --> 0:13:35.839 number five, The path will be smooth if it's meant 0:13:35.880 --> 0:13:40.120 to be. We think, if I face obstacle, maybe it's 0:13:40.240 --> 0:13:44.839 not my destiny. The reality is, struggle doesn't mean you're 0:13:44.880 --> 0:13:48.520 on the wrong path. It usually means you're on a 0:13:48.640 --> 0:13:52.600 real one right. Struggle doesn't mean you're making a mistake. 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:56.439 Struggle could mean that you have a lot to learn 0:13:56.559 --> 0:13:58.880 to get to this goal. If you have something you 0:13:58.960 --> 0:14:01.920 really value, don't change what you value, change the path 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:05.640 to get there. Ask any athlete, artist, or entrepreneur. I've 0:14:05.679 --> 0:14:09.560 interviewed so many of them on the podcast. The dream 0:14:09.720 --> 0:14:13.400 always comes with resistance. You'll get to where you want 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.360 in life, just not in the way you imagined it. 0:14:17.320 --> 0:14:23.000 Pain isn't proof of misalignment. It's proof you're growing. It's 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:26.120 proof it matters, and ultimately it reveals to you whether 0:14:26.200 --> 0:14:28.880 it matters enough. If you give up because something's hard, 0:14:29.680 --> 0:14:32.040 it means you didn't care enough about the thing. We 0:14:32.080 --> 0:14:34.600 do the most difficult things as humans for things we 0:14:34.680 --> 0:14:37.960 care about. Parenting is one of the most thankless jobs. 0:14:38.120 --> 0:14:40.600 It's one of the hardest jobs, but people do it 0:14:40.640 --> 0:14:45.040 because they love their child. Their love outweighs the pain. 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:49.320 That's what purposes, That's what manifesting really is. Is where 0:14:49.320 --> 0:14:53.000 your love for something, your dedication, your devotion to something 0:14:53.840 --> 0:14:58.840 is more than your pain, stress, and difficulty that you 0:14:58.920 --> 0:15:03.240 go through to get there. Angela Duckworth's grit research shows 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:09.400 sustained effort through challenges predicts achievement more than talent. Here's 0:15:09.440 --> 0:15:14.040 a step. When you hit resistance, reframe it. This is 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:18.400 the workout, not the wall. Write down what this obstacle 0:15:18.480 --> 0:15:22.360 is teaching you. Just because something is right for you 0:15:23.280 --> 0:15:27.240 doesn't mean it will be easy. Just because something is 0:15:27.360 --> 0:15:32.040 meant for you doesn't mean it will come quickly. Just 0:15:32.080 --> 0:15:36.640 because it's your purpose doesn't mean it won't test your patience. 0:15:37.640 --> 0:15:41.360 Just because you found your calling doesn't mean you won't 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:45.280 doubt yourself along the way. And just because you're ready 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:50.360 doesn't mean life won't make you wait. If number six 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:54.800 manifesting is passive, I just have to wait and trust. 0:15:55.920 --> 0:15:57.840 I was at an event the other day and someone 0:15:57.880 --> 0:16:00.880 asked me about how do you surrender? How do you 0:16:00.880 --> 0:16:04.120 create detachment? How do you do something but then leave 0:16:04.160 --> 0:16:07.120 the result up to what's going on? And here's what 0:16:07.160 --> 0:16:11.960 I said. I said, surrender only starts when you've already 0:16:12.040 --> 0:16:16.720 done everything under your control, if you have given one 0:16:16.760 --> 0:16:20.360 hundred percent of your energy, if you have left no 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:24.960 stone unturned, and if you have given it all you've got. 0:16:25.280 --> 0:16:27.800 That's when surrender starts. Sometimes we only do fifty percent 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:30.320 of that, and then we're thinking, there's fifty percent of surrender. 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:34.560 That's not surrender, that's just hoping, wishing, and waiting. Surrender 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:39.320 says I've done everything I possibly could. I've put in 0:16:39.520 --> 0:16:42.200 all the energy, knowledge and wisdom I have. At this 0:16:42.400 --> 0:16:46.240 point in my life, I'm now detached from the result 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:50.920 because I realized whatever comes is what's truly meant for me, 0:16:52.000 --> 0:16:56.080 and I have no idea of what I'm being prepared for. 0:16:56.920 --> 0:17:00.800 I'll give you an example. Eight years ago, when one 0:17:00.800 --> 0:17:04.679 of my videos went crazy viral on social media, a 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:06.720 TV company in LA reached out to me and said 0:17:06.760 --> 0:17:09.359 they wanted to make a TV show. I had no 0:17:09.440 --> 0:17:12.439 idea what that meant. So I spoke to a friend 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:15.199 who I thought made a TV show, someone who I 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:18.000 was producing with. We created a sizzle rule, we made 0:17:18.040 --> 0:17:20.560 a deck, We flew out to La on our own money. 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:22.200 I used to live in New York at that time. 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:25.600 I went and built this and went back and forth. 0:17:25.840 --> 0:17:28.320 We went around and pitched it to every major's TV 0:17:28.440 --> 0:17:31.800 network and streamer at the time. Everyone rejected it. No 0:17:31.840 --> 0:17:35.560 one wanted it. Now I had done everything I possibly could. 0:17:35.760 --> 0:17:39.560 Was I upset? Yes? Was I disappointed, of course, But 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:42.679 I'd done everything I possibly could to make that the 0:17:42.720 --> 0:17:46.520 best pitch I could have. I was detached. I was surrendered. 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:50.960 It's only because I got rejected that I started on purpose, 0:17:51.320 --> 0:17:54.560 something that was built by me, something that I started 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:57.320 from scratch, something that I get to define who I 0:17:57.359 --> 0:17:59.480 speak to when I speak to them, what we talk about, 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:03.119 where we go. So I would never have this if 0:18:03.160 --> 0:18:05.040 I got given a TV show that could have lasted 0:18:05.080 --> 0:18:07.640 two to three seasons and got canceled, I will never 0:18:07.680 --> 0:18:13.920 have this opportunity. Surrender begins when endeavor is complete. If 0:18:13.960 --> 0:18:19.479 your endeavor is incomplete, there's no surrender. It's just wishing, hoping, 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:24.000 and wanting. Put in all the energy that you possibly have, 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:28.240 all the wisdom and knowledge you possibly have, and then 0:18:28.320 --> 0:18:32.399 surrender to the fact that what you receive may save 0:18:32.520 --> 0:18:36.680 you for what's to come. I was given something better 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:39.960 than I imagined in on purpose, than I could have 0:18:40.000 --> 0:18:44.720 ever imagined from any show I could have created. Waiting 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:51.760 isn't manifesting, it's stalling. Action is what flips vision into reality. 0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:56.280 Imagine planting seeds and then sitting indoors hoping they grow 0:18:56.560 --> 0:19:00.439 without watering, sunlight, or care. That's what waiting does to 0:19:00.480 --> 0:19:06.200 your dreams. Research by Bandura's self efficacy theory shows confidence 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:11.240 comes from doing small things successfully, not from waiting for 0:19:11.280 --> 0:19:15.280 a big break. Here's a step. Break one big dream 0:19:15.800 --> 0:19:19.080 into a seven day goal. You want to change careers, 0:19:19.640 --> 0:19:24.960 update your resume this week. Momentum builds confidence. Myth number seven, 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:30.200 manifestation is about stuff. We think if I manifested money, 0:19:30.240 --> 0:19:34.040 a car, a house, I'll be happy. And here's the reality. 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:39.119 Stuff is a byproduct of meaning and value that you create. 0:19:39.440 --> 0:19:42.120 It's not bad, it's great to have, it's wonderful to have, 0:19:42.920 --> 0:19:45.280 but it can't be the goal in and of itself. 0:19:45.640 --> 0:19:48.080 Here's the context. How many times have you gotten what 0:19:48.160 --> 0:19:51.639 you wanted, the promotion, the gadget, the trip, and still 0:19:51.680 --> 0:19:55.440 felt empty after a week. That's because fulfillment is about 0:19:55.480 --> 0:20:00.280 alignment with values, not just getting the thing I SAIDs 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:03.240 From the Harvard Study of Adult Development. This is the 0:20:03.280 --> 0:20:08.480 Grant study that lasted over eighty five years shows quality relationships, 0:20:08.800 --> 0:20:12.080 not wealth or fame, are the strongest predictors of long 0:20:12.160 --> 0:20:14.480 term happiness. Now I'm not saying and I always want 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:17.680 to clarify this. Wealth is important. Success is important. That's 0:20:17.680 --> 0:20:20.320 why we have so many amazing money experts on on 0:20:20.400 --> 0:20:23.320 Purpose to help you figure that out. When you write 0:20:23.320 --> 0:20:27.000 a goal, add your why. So don't just write I 0:20:27.040 --> 0:20:30.760 want one hundred thousand dollars salary or whatever it may be. Right, 0:20:31.640 --> 0:20:33.680 I want one hundred thousand dollars salary so I can 0:20:33.760 --> 0:20:37.159 have freedom to travel, take care of my parents, and 0:20:37.280 --> 0:20:40.919 live without stress. When you make the end goal about 0:20:40.960 --> 0:20:44.800 a thing or stuff, it ends up letting you down 0:20:45.000 --> 0:20:48.159 versus when that is just a byproduct of creating value 0:20:48.160 --> 0:20:53.280 in success. If you analyze patterns, you'll become successful. If 0:20:53.320 --> 0:20:56.240 you learn how to market your product, you'll become successful. 0:20:56.560 --> 0:20:59.560 If you learn how to solve someone's problem, you'll become successful. 0:20:59.560 --> 0:21:02.800 If you do all those things, the car, the house, 0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:06.040 the travel, that will all come from that. So that's 0:21:06.040 --> 0:21:08.320 what you want to put your energy into, not the 0:21:08.400 --> 0:21:10.840 vision of what that thing is that you want. That 0:21:10.880 --> 0:21:13.119 doesn't drive. That doesn't make you a better salesperson, It 0:21:13.119 --> 0:21:15.280 doesn't make you a better marketer. It doesn't make you 0:21:15.320 --> 0:21:18.320 a better coder. It doesn't make you a better user 0:21:18.320 --> 0:21:21.080 of AI. It doesn't make you a better videographer photographer, 0:21:21.160 --> 0:21:22.639 but looking at a picture of the car or the 0:21:22.640 --> 0:21:25.320 house you want every day. That will come by becoming 0:21:25.600 --> 0:21:28.800 better at your art, better at your skill. That's what 0:21:28.880 --> 0:21:32.760 you want to focus on. Don't overvalue the goal and 0:21:33.040 --> 0:21:40.439 undervalue the growth. Don't overvalue speed and undervalue direction. Don't 0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:49.440 overvalue success and undervalue sanity. Don't overvalue approval and undervalue authenticity. 0:21:50.600 --> 0:21:56.920 Don't overvalue being right and undervalue being kind. Don't overvalue 0:21:56.960 --> 0:22:02.840 recognition and undervalue can and see. Don't overvalue the outcome 0:22:03.640 --> 0:22:09.159 and undervalue the process. Don't overvalue what you gain and 0:22:09.320 --> 0:22:13.199 undervalue who you become. It's not about wanting for the 0:22:13.280 --> 0:22:17.120 universe to deliver. It's about getting clear, rewiring your brain 0:22:17.160 --> 0:22:21.639 to see opportunities, and taking consistent steps until your vision 0:22:21.960 --> 0:22:24.960 becomes a reality. Thank you so much for listening to me. 0:22:25.400 --> 0:22:27.680 I hope you enjoyed this episode. Pass it on to 0:22:27.760 --> 0:22:29.639 a friend, Tag me on social media and let me 0:22:29.680 --> 0:22:32.600 know what resonated with you, and I'll see you on 0:22:32.640 --> 0:22:35.760 the next episode. Remember I'm forever in your corner and 0:22:35.800 --> 0:22:38.639 I'm always rooting for you. If you love this podcast, 0:22:38.760 --> 0:22:42.520 you love my episode with Lewis Hamilton Lewis and I 0:22:42.640 --> 0:22:46.960 talk about why you should stop chasing society's definition of 0:22:47.000 --> 0:22:50.840 success and how to be more intentional with your goals. 0:22:51.040 --> 0:22:52.920 You don't want to miss it like it's not about 0:22:52.920 --> 0:22:55.280 being perfect. It's about just every day, one step at 0:22:55.280 --> 0:22:57.120 the time, trying to be better, trying to do more. 0:22:57.200 --> 0:22:59.480 I'm learning a lot about myself. I have to break 0:22:59.520 --> 0:23:02.160 myself down in order to be out to be better.