Speaker 1: Manifestation is not magic. Manifestation is not wishing and waiting.
Speaker 1: Manifestation is not writing it once in a journal and
Speaker 1: closing the book. Manifestation is not saying affirmations while avoiding action.
Speaker 1: Manifestation is not the universe delivering without your participation. Manifestation
Speaker 1: is not a shortcut around hard work. It's clarity, belief,
Speaker 1: and consistent action. In Alignment, the number one health and
Speaker 1: wellness podcast, Jay Sety Jay Chatty, Hey everyone, welcome back
Speaker 1: to On Purpose. I'm Jay Chatty, author of New York
Speaker 1: Times bestsellers Think Like a Monk and Eight Rules of Love,
Speaker 1: and today I want to talk to you about a
Speaker 1: topic that I feel we're all completely fascinated by, but
Speaker 1: I think we really don't understand station. There is so
Speaker 1: much about this word out there. There's so many interpretations,
Speaker 1: there's so much about how to do it and what
Speaker 1: it is, and I feel like often we set ourselves
Speaker 1: up for failure by subscribing to a word that we
Speaker 1: don't fully understand, by subscribing to an idea that sounds good,
Speaker 1: it makes us feel good, but it doesn't really transfer
Speaker 1: into reality. How many of you have ever tried to
Speaker 1: manifest a vision board and not seen it come to life.
Speaker 1: How many of you have tried to repeat something constantly
Speaker 1: in affirmations and not seen it come to life. How
Speaker 1: many of you have tried to manifest something big and
Speaker 1: beautiful in your life and actually felt like you went
Speaker 1: down the wrong path. If that applies to any of you,
Speaker 1: this episode is for you, because I'm going to talk
Speaker 1: about the myths of manifestation and how to actually build
Speaker 1: the life that you truly want. Myth number one, manifestation
Speaker 1: is magic. We think if I think about it hard,
Speaker 1: it will appear. Here's the reality. Your brain isn't a genie,
Speaker 1: it's a GPS. If you don't type in the address,
Speaker 1: it can't take you anywhere. Do you ever get in
Speaker 1: the car and just start driving without a destination. You'd
Speaker 1: waste gas, You'd waste time and energy. That's what wishing
Speaker 1: without clarity does to your life. Research from Locke and
Speaker 1: Latham's goal setting theory of two thousand and two show
Speaker 1: specific goals lead to higher motivation and success than vague intentions.
Speaker 1: So here's what I want you to do. I want
Speaker 1: you to swap I want to be successful for I
Speaker 1: want to grow my business revenue by twenty percent this year.
Speaker 1: Vague wishes drift, clear goals direct. So anyone who's saying
Speaker 1: manifestation is just I want abundance, I want to be free,
Speaker 1: I want to create greatness. These are beautiful inspirations, there's
Speaker 1: nothing wrong with them, but without clarity, we don't know
Speaker 1: what action to take. Your goal has to be clear,
Speaker 1: Your vision of what you're building has to be clear. Now,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that it's going to work out just
Speaker 1: as you think it is. I'm not even saying you're
Speaker 1: going to get exactly what you envision. But the truth
Speaker 1: is to start any journey, you need clarity. Manifestation is
Speaker 1: not magic. Manifestation is not wishing and waiting. Manifestation is
Speaker 1: not writing it once in a journal and closing the book.
Speaker 1: Manifestation is not saying affirmations while avoiding action. Manifestation is
Speaker 1: not the universe delivering without your participation. Manifestation is not
Speaker 1: a shortcut around hard work. Manifestation is not about getting
Speaker 1: everything you want instantly. Manifestation isn't magic. It's clarity, belief,
Speaker 1: and consistent action in alignment. For so many people, they
Speaker 1: may tell an amazing story about how they manifested something.
Speaker 1: It's not that they didn't vision it. It's not that
Speaker 1: they didn't have clarity. They also aligned their action, their time,
Speaker 1: their energy, their resources in that direction. Manifestation truly is
Speaker 1: the alignment of what you think, what you say, and
Speaker 1: what you do. When those three things are aligned, that's
Speaker 1: what creates impact in the world and in your life.
Speaker 1: Whereas when you think in your head, I want abundance,
Speaker 1: you say it out loud, but your actions are completely
Speaker 1: the opposite. Nothing changes. The problem is we think manifestation
Speaker 1: means if I think abundantly, then I'll be abundant in
Speaker 1: my business. No, you might actually have a beautiful habit
Speaker 1: for happiness, But the strategy for sex is watching the
Speaker 1: patterns of success. It's analyzing the journeys of success. It's
Speaker 1: being locked into a different mind. Myth number two is
Speaker 1: that positive thoughts alone attract success. People think if I
Speaker 1: stay positive, the universe will deliver. This sets us up
Speaker 1: for a lot of disappointment because I know so many people,
Speaker 1: good people who think positively, but then difficult things happen
Speaker 1: in their life. Hard things happen in their life. The
Speaker 1: reality is positivity is fuel, but it's not the vehicle.
Speaker 1: It gets you moving, but you still have to drive.
Speaker 1: Imagine this. Think of going to the gym telling yourself,
Speaker 1: I believe in myself. That won't build muscle unless you
Speaker 1: pick up the weights. But it's great that it made
Speaker 1: you show up, So it's important. It's just incomplete. Barbara
Speaker 1: Fredrickson's Broaden and Build the shows positivity expands our creativity
Speaker 1: and problem solving, but without action, it just fades. Here's
Speaker 1: your step. Pair every affirmation with one action. If you
Speaker 1: say I'm building wealth, then at the same time, set
Speaker 1: up an automatic transfer to savings as soon as you
Speaker 1: get your paycheck. The moment you take action, your life
Speaker 1: will change. The moment you take action, clarity replaces confusion
Speaker 1: the moment you take action, momentum begins. The moment you
Speaker 1: take action, the right time finally arrives. The moment you
Speaker 1: take action, you stop waiting for permission. Notice how affirmation
Speaker 1: and action together creates alignment. Affirmation on its own is
Speaker 1: wishful thinking. Action on its own doesn't feel like it's
Speaker 1: fueled with a higher way of living. Affirmation and action
Speaker 1: together are an unbeatable formula. And so I want you
Speaker 1: to really think about in your life about the things
Speaker 1: you've been struggling with, the things you're always trying to
Speaker 1: pump yourself up about, and ask yourself, what habits have
Speaker 1: I not built? What actions have I not built? What
Speaker 1: systems have I not built? We're not failed by our
Speaker 1: desires or our expectations. We're failed by the systems we
Speaker 1: don't build. We're failed by the processes we don't create.
Speaker 1: We're failed by the criteria we don't have. We're failed
Speaker 1: by the boundaries we don't make. That's what fails us.
Speaker 1: Myth number three, Writing it down is not enough. We
Speaker 1: think I wrote in my journal, so it's on its way.
Speaker 1: Here's the reality. Writing helps focus the brain, but it's
Speaker 1: step one, not the finish line. Think of it like
Speaker 1: making a grocery list. Everyone needs one of those. You
Speaker 1: need to know what you're missing, what you need to
Speaker 1: fill your fridge with what you need this week. But
Speaker 1: if you never go to the store, the list doesn't
Speaker 1: feed you. Research known as the generation effect shows writing
Speaker 1: improves memory and focus, but memory isn't momentum. Here's the
Speaker 1: step after journaling, ad what's one step I can take
Speaker 1: today toward this? If you write, start a podcast, your
Speaker 1: next step could be outline an episode, learn how to
Speaker 1: record a podcast, research a podcast. For so many of us,
Speaker 1: we write down what we want. We don't write down
Speaker 1: how we're going to get there. It's the how we're
Speaker 1: going to get there that makes things seem manageable. What
Speaker 1: our mind does is when we say I want to
Speaker 1: start a podcast that feels so big, we feel overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: We feel overburdened by doing this huge thing. When you
Speaker 1: break it down into all the multiple steps of how
Speaker 1: to get there, the key is to figure out the
Speaker 1: next step you can take right now. The next step
Speaker 1: you can take right now, which is calling up a
Speaker 1: friend who has a podcast, watching podcasts to find out
Speaker 1: a format that works for you, looking up a YouTube
Speaker 1: video from a creator telling you how to start one.
Speaker 1: Without those steps, you can think about starting a podcast
Speaker 1: for months and years, and nothing will ever happen. Manifestation
Speaker 1: is clarity about what you want and what it takes.
Speaker 1: Manifestation is writing it down and then building it step
Speaker 1: by step. Manifestation is persistence when motivation fades. Manifestation is
Speaker 1: aligning your choices with your values, not just your wishes.
Speaker 1: If you just make it about your wishes, if you
Speaker 1: just make it about what you're writing. If you don't
Speaker 1: ever make it about the how, right people say, start
Speaker 1: with why really important. You should know why you're doing
Speaker 1: what you're doing. You should know what you want to build.
Speaker 1: But if you don't know how you're going to get there,
Speaker 1: it's almost the hardest thing. If you don't know how
Speaker 1: you're going to get to the party on a Saturday night,
Speaker 1: if you don't know how you're going to get to
Speaker 1: your vacation destination, if you don't know how you're going
Speaker 1: to build that company, it becomes a lot harder. Spend
Speaker 1: more time figuring out the how, and you'll know that
Speaker 1: you're making momentum. You'll know you're making progress, you'll know
Speaker 1: you're moving in the right direction. So the thing is,
Speaker 1: I really want you to get there. I really want
Speaker 1: you to experience the joy of building something you love.
Speaker 1: I don't just want it to remain a dream in
Speaker 1: your mind and your heart space that never gets to
Speaker 1: see the light of day. Myth number four, The universe
Speaker 1: rewards wanting. If I want it badly enough, I'll get it.
Speaker 1: It does not work that way. Desire its fuel, But
Speaker 1: direction is the map. Without it, you spin in circles
Speaker 1: have you ever desperately wanted a job, relationship, or whatever
Speaker 1: it may be, but you had no strategy. Desire without
Speaker 1: direction is like stepping on the gas with no steering wheel.
Speaker 1: The reticular activating system, also known as RAS, filters what
Speaker 1: you notice, define a goal, and your brain literally starts
Speaker 1: spotting opportunities. For example, once you think of buying a
Speaker 1: red car, you see them everywhere. So here's the step.
Speaker 1: Each morning, write down three things you want to notice
Speaker 1: that day, maybe new clients, learning opportunities, or ways to connect.
Speaker 1: Your RAS will tune in. This is so important if
Speaker 1: you have a goal to write a book, start a podcast,
Speaker 1: build a company, ask yourself what is it that you need.
Speaker 1: I was talking to a friend the other day and
Speaker 1: I'd said to him how important it was for him
Speaker 1: to show up to networking events. I said, if you're
Speaker 1: out of those events, you're going to meet people. People
Speaker 1: are gonna see you, You're gonna get to connect with them.
Speaker 1: He was avoiding it for months and months and months.
Speaker 1: He finally went to one, and he was shocked at
Speaker 1: what it felt like to be front of mind. When
Speaker 1: you're present, you get to have the conversations you would
Speaker 1: never get to if you weren't there. So many of
Speaker 1: us avoid the actual action, even though in our mind
Speaker 1: we're wondering, why is this business not taking off? Why
Speaker 1: is it not starting off? Because we're not positioning ourselves
Speaker 1: in the places that we need to be. Remember, you
Speaker 1: don't see things as they are. You see them through
Speaker 1: your own fears and hopes. You don't see yourself as
Speaker 1: you are. You see the story you keep repeating about
Speaker 1: who you are. You don't see the future as it is.
Speaker 1: You see the version you believe is possible. So many
Speaker 1: of us have the wish, we have the one, we
Speaker 1: have the desire. We don't have the direction. We don't
Speaker 1: have the drive. And where does that drive come from?
Speaker 1: Comes from picking something that you really value. I mean,
Speaker 1: everyone would want to be financially free, everyone would want abundance.
Speaker 1: Those are things we all want. What does that look
Speaker 1: like for you? How does that manifest for you? When
Speaker 1: I say that, what I mean is how do you
Speaker 1: envision that? How's it unique to you? And how are
Speaker 1: you going to get there that's unique to you? Myth
Speaker 1: number five, The path will be smooth if it's meant
Speaker 1: to be. We think, if I face obstacle, maybe it's
Speaker 1: not my destiny. The reality is, struggle doesn't mean you're
Speaker 1: on the wrong path. It usually means you're on a
Speaker 1: real one right. Struggle doesn't mean you're making a mistake.
Speaker 1: Struggle could mean that you have a lot to learn
Speaker 1: to get to this goal. If you have something you
Speaker 1: really value, don't change what you value, change the path
Speaker 1: to get there. Ask any athlete, artist, or entrepreneur. I've
Speaker 1: interviewed so many of them on the podcast. The dream
Speaker 1: always comes with resistance. You'll get to where you want
Speaker 1: in life, just not in the way you imagined it.
Speaker 1: Pain isn't proof of misalignment. It's proof you're growing. It's
Speaker 1: proof it matters, and ultimately it reveals to you whether
Speaker 1: it matters enough. If you give up because something's hard,
Speaker 1: it means you didn't care enough about the thing. We
Speaker 1: do the most difficult things as humans for things we
Speaker 1: care about. Parenting is one of the most thankless jobs.
Speaker 1: It's one of the hardest jobs, but people do it
Speaker 1: because they love their child. Their love outweighs the pain.
Speaker 1: That's what purposes, That's what manifesting really is. Is where
Speaker 1: your love for something, your dedication, your devotion to something
Speaker 1: is more than your pain, stress, and difficulty that you
Speaker 1: go through to get there. Angela Duckworth's grit research shows
Speaker 1: sustained effort through challenges predicts achievement more than talent. Here's
Speaker 1: a step. When you hit resistance, reframe it. This is
Speaker 1: the workout, not the wall. Write down what this obstacle
Speaker 1: is teaching you. Just because something is right for you
Speaker 1: doesn't mean it will be easy. Just because something is
Speaker 1: meant for you doesn't mean it will come quickly. Just
Speaker 1: because it's your purpose doesn't mean it won't test your patience.
Speaker 1: Just because you found your calling doesn't mean you won't
Speaker 1: doubt yourself along the way. And just because you're ready
Speaker 1: doesn't mean life won't make you wait. If number six
Speaker 1: manifesting is passive, I just have to wait and trust.
Speaker 1: I was at an event the other day and someone
Speaker 1: asked me about how do you surrender? How do you
Speaker 1: create detachment? How do you do something but then leave
Speaker 1: the result up to what's going on? And here's what
Speaker 1: I said. I said, surrender only starts when you've already
Speaker 1: done everything under your control, if you have given one
Speaker 1: hundred percent of your energy, if you have left no
Speaker 1: stone unturned, and if you have given it all you've got.
Speaker 1: That's when surrender starts. Sometimes we only do fifty percent
Speaker 1: of that, and then we're thinking, there's fifty percent of surrender.
Speaker 1: That's not surrender, that's just hoping, wishing, and waiting. Surrender
Speaker 1: says I've done everything I possibly could. I've put in
Speaker 1: all the energy, knowledge and wisdom I have. At this
Speaker 1: point in my life, I'm now detached from the result
Speaker 1: because I realized whatever comes is what's truly meant for me,
Speaker 1: and I have no idea of what I'm being prepared for.
Speaker 1: I'll give you an example. Eight years ago, when one
Speaker 1: of my videos went crazy viral on social media, a
Speaker 1: TV company in LA reached out to me and said
Speaker 1: they wanted to make a TV show. I had no
Speaker 1: idea what that meant. So I spoke to a friend
Speaker 1: who I thought made a TV show, someone who I
Speaker 1: was producing with. We created a sizzle rule, we made
Speaker 1: a deck, We flew out to La on our own money.
Speaker 1: I used to live in New York at that time.
Speaker 1: I went and built this and went back and forth.
Speaker 1: We went around and pitched it to every major's TV
Speaker 1: network and streamer at the time. Everyone rejected it. No
Speaker 1: one wanted it. Now I had done everything I possibly could.
Speaker 1: Was I upset? Yes? Was I disappointed, of course, But
Speaker 1: I'd done everything I possibly could to make that the
Speaker 1: best pitch I could have. I was detached. I was surrendered.
Speaker 1: It's only because I got rejected that I started on purpose,
Speaker 1: something that was built by me, something that I started
Speaker 1: from scratch, something that I get to define who I
Speaker 1: speak to when I speak to them, what we talk about,
Speaker 1: where we go. So I would never have this if
Speaker 1: I got given a TV show that could have lasted
Speaker 1: two to three seasons and got canceled, I will never
Speaker 1: have this opportunity. Surrender begins when endeavor is complete. If
Speaker 1: your endeavor is incomplete, there's no surrender. It's just wishing, hoping,
Speaker 1: and wanting. Put in all the energy that you possibly have,
Speaker 1: all the wisdom and knowledge you possibly have, and then
Speaker 1: surrender to the fact that what you receive may save
Speaker 1: you for what's to come. I was given something better
Speaker 1: than I imagined in on purpose, than I could have
Speaker 1: ever imagined from any show I could have created. Waiting
Speaker 1: isn't manifesting, it's stalling. Action is what flips vision into reality.
Speaker 1: Imagine planting seeds and then sitting indoors hoping they grow
Speaker 1: without watering, sunlight, or care. That's what waiting does to
Speaker 1: your dreams. Research by Bandura's self efficacy theory shows confidence
Speaker 1: comes from doing small things successfully, not from waiting for
Speaker 1: a big break. Here's a step. Break one big dream
Speaker 1: into a seven day goal. You want to change careers,
Speaker 1: update your resume this week. Momentum builds confidence. Myth number seven,
Speaker 1: manifestation is about stuff. We think if I manifested money,
Speaker 1: a car, a house, I'll be happy. And here's the reality.
Speaker 1: Stuff is a byproduct of meaning and value that you create.
Speaker 1: It's not bad, it's great to have, it's wonderful to have,
Speaker 1: but it can't be the goal in and of itself.
Speaker 1: Here's the context. How many times have you gotten what
Speaker 1: you wanted, the promotion, the gadget, the trip, and still
Speaker 1: felt empty after a week. That's because fulfillment is about
Speaker 1: alignment with values, not just getting the thing I SAIDs
Speaker 1: From the Harvard Study of Adult Development. This is the
Speaker 1: Grant study that lasted over eighty five years shows quality relationships,
Speaker 1: not wealth or fame, are the strongest predictors of long
Speaker 1: term happiness. Now I'm not saying and I always want
Speaker 1: to clarify this. Wealth is important. Success is important. That's
Speaker 1: why we have so many amazing money experts on on
Speaker 1: Purpose to help you figure that out. When you write
Speaker 1: a goal, add your why. So don't just write I
Speaker 1: want one hundred thousand dollars salary or whatever it may be. Right,
Speaker 1: I want one hundred thousand dollars salary so I can
Speaker 1: have freedom to travel, take care of my parents, and
Speaker 1: live without stress. When you make the end goal about
Speaker 1: a thing or stuff, it ends up letting you down
Speaker 1: versus when that is just a byproduct of creating value
Speaker 1: in success. If you analyze patterns, you'll become successful. If
Speaker 1: you learn how to market your product, you'll become successful.
Speaker 1: If you learn how to solve someone's problem, you'll become successful.
Speaker 1: If you do all those things, the car, the house,
Speaker 1: the travel, that will all come from that. So that's
Speaker 1: what you want to put your energy into, not the
Speaker 1: vision of what that thing is that you want. That
Speaker 1: doesn't drive. That doesn't make you a better salesperson, It
Speaker 1: doesn't make you a better marketer. It doesn't make you
Speaker 1: a better coder. It doesn't make you a better user
Speaker 1: of AI. It doesn't make you a better videographer photographer,
Speaker 1: but looking at a picture of the car or the
Speaker 1: house you want every day. That will come by becoming
Speaker 1: better at your art, better at your skill. That's what
Speaker 1: you want to focus on. Don't overvalue the goal and
Speaker 1: undervalue the growth. Don't overvalue speed and undervalue direction. Don't
Speaker 1: overvalue success and undervalue sanity. Don't overvalue approval and undervalue authenticity.
Speaker 1: Don't overvalue being right and undervalue being kind. Don't overvalue
Speaker 1: recognition and undervalue can and see. Don't overvalue the outcome
Speaker 1: and undervalue the process. Don't overvalue what you gain and
Speaker 1: undervalue who you become. It's not about wanting for the
Speaker 1: universe to deliver. It's about getting clear, rewiring your brain
Speaker 1: to see opportunities, and taking consistent steps until your vision
Speaker 1: becomes a reality. Thank you so much for listening to me.
Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed this episode. Pass it on to
Speaker 1: a friend, Tag me on social media and let me
Speaker 1: know what resonated with you, and I'll see you on
Speaker 1: the next episode. Remember I'm forever in your corner and
Speaker 1: I'm always rooting for you. If you love this podcast,
Speaker 1: you love my episode with Lewis Hamilton Lewis and I
Speaker 1: talk about why you should stop chasing society's definition of
Speaker 1: success and how to be more intentional with your goals.
Speaker 1: You don't want to miss it like it's not about
Speaker 1: being perfect. It's about just every day, one step at
Speaker 1: the time, trying to be better, trying to do more.
Speaker 1: I'm learning a lot about myself. I have to break
Speaker 1: myself down in order to be out to be better.