Speaker 1: Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington,
Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello.
Speaker 2: Hello Call It crew, and welcome to another episode of
Speaker 2: Call It What It Is. Jessica, what are we diving
Speaker 2: into today? We're diving in to a pool of X X?
Speaker 2: What kind of X have you? What's the past tense
Speaker 2: of dive? Divin have you doven? There's a lot of
Speaker 2: pools of X out there.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of people who do things that just
Speaker 1: don't sit right with us, and uh, they're all different
Speaker 1: and some things rub us in different ways. Sometimes some
Speaker 1: things don't rub us at all, sometimes us too much,
Speaker 1: too much. This got bought up.
Speaker 2: This has got initially talked about on the pod because
Speaker 2: we were talking about our dating experiences and I was
Speaker 2: talking about someone that I dated pulling up in a
Speaker 2: convertible and it's and it was an ick.
Speaker 1: For me at the time.
Speaker 2: It felt super showy, and so it kind of spurred
Speaker 2: on this whole conversation of we need to dedicate a
Speaker 2: whole episode to just plain old IX.
Speaker 1: We all have grosses you out? What does someone do
Speaker 1: that turns you off? Yeah, it makes you want to
Speaker 1: vomb all over your sit Yeah, opposite of a turn
Speaker 1: on is a turn off. And you guys came the
Speaker 1: balls through. Oh my gosh, they brought it. God, I
Speaker 1: brought it. We are God like these people in the world, Like,
Speaker 1: what is it? We don't even have to work. We
Speaker 1: just you guys do the work for us.
Speaker 2: You guys, the submissions today are absolutely incredible.
Speaker 1: Well, and I agree with some of these.
Speaker 2: I'm like, we'll get into it, but some of these
Speaker 2: I definitely definitely agree with. One of them is just
Speaker 2: so weird to me. Anyway, Well, we're going to get
Speaker 2: into it. But before we do it, Jessica, if you're
Speaker 2: in a dating scenario, do you know off the top
Speaker 2: of your head, what like a standout.
Speaker 1: Ick is for you? Well, Comella, you pointed this out
Speaker 1: before that. My younger years were in the eighteen hundreds
Speaker 1: and so a long time ago would be me. You know, me, me,
Speaker 1: me remembering dating? It was hard? Was the Black Death?
Speaker 1: Just pull the cobwebs away? Well, pardon me, did I
Speaker 1: miss an insult? Was the Black Death a turn off?
Speaker 1: The plague not as bad as the beyond itic eubonic plague?
Speaker 1: That was a turnoff back. It was a turnof it
Speaker 1: was dirt. It's yeah, ikey like death ichy, not even
Speaker 1: like gross. Yeah, they were dead. They were just flat
Speaker 1: out deads It was a little bit. Okay, So back
Speaker 1: in my yesteryear when I dated, yes, there were definitely things.
Speaker 1: And you know what, I do think it's worth saying
Speaker 1: this because I you know, when we get these incredible submissions,
Speaker 1: we don't have an age attached, so I don't know
Speaker 1: how old some of these people are, but I definitely
Speaker 1: feel that I was way more judgmental and had a
Speaker 1: longer list of X when I was younger.
Speaker 2: I don't know, you're not out on the dating scene
Speaker 2: right now, so maybe if you were forced to be,
Speaker 2: you would be icked out. We've been Yeah, we've been shelved,
Speaker 2: We've been married shelved, and so we the X are like,
Speaker 2: you know, it is what it is. We have a
Speaker 2: ring on our finger, it is what it is, and
Speaker 2: we got to just swallow that.
Speaker 1: Eck, if we were out, if me and you were
Speaker 1: out on the town, yes, they're not wrong. I think
Speaker 1: my IX would come back. Well, all I know is
Speaker 1: that when I was dating, I had things that were
Speaker 1: just like non starters, and so some of the things
Speaker 1: that people wrote in I absolutely are on my itch list.
Speaker 1: It would not even be I mean my answer to
Speaker 1: their their query is hard no, like there, it would
Speaker 1: just it would just stop the date. It would stop
Speaker 1: the date. I would truly like excuse myself to the
Speaker 1: bathroom and maybe put a phone a friend. I gotta
Speaker 1: get picked up. You got to join us. Well, for me,
Speaker 1: if someone was like very boastful on a date or arrogant,
Speaker 1: know it all, arrogant, know it all, man splaining done yeah, no, done,
Speaker 1: done and done. Yeah. I was pretty definitive about when
Speaker 1: it was like, yeah, it was not. I didn't There
Speaker 1: was no three strikes rule. There was one strike. Bye,
Speaker 1: you could smell a strike. You get a whiff of
Speaker 1: a strike and you're you're you're ubering home. Yeah, well
Speaker 1: there was no uber No, we're taxiing home, We're going
Speaker 1: to the bar. We need to like.
Speaker 2: Our flip flown Motorola's No, we're we're like no, I
Speaker 2: mean yes, back in the day, no dating apps, you
Speaker 2: didn't know what you were getting into. There was no
Speaker 2: profile for you to really right, Okay, the person's coming,
Speaker 2: they're in an ed hardy shirt. That's an instant motorola.
Speaker 2: Flip call a cab. I'm sorry. Just flip that bad
Speaker 2: boy right open. I'm out of here.
Speaker 1: Flip it closed. Let's close. Clap that thing closed. Clapp
Speaker 1: Yeah you're done.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I feel like there are also certain tattoos that are like,
Speaker 2: I do love a tattoo, but if it's kind of
Speaker 2: like almost that flamey tattoo kind of look, do you
Speaker 2: know what I'm talking?
Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I mean I think like between the Ed
Speaker 1: Hardy reference and a flamey tattoo, there's a certain guy
Speaker 1: I'm imagining this is a no go for you. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: that is a no go. We can get into what
Speaker 1: our x are at the front of this, so we
Speaker 1: can do that. I can tell you what my ex are,
Speaker 1: or we can wait.
Speaker 2: I think that you should say what some of yours
Speaker 2: are and then we'll get into the cruise and we
Speaker 2: can talk.
Speaker 1: That'll okay, you know, okay, spur some more for us. Well,
Speaker 1: I mean I can tell you that for me, the
Speaker 1: arrogant or the know it all is a no go,
Speaker 1: a really big one that obviously you'd have to get
Speaker 1: a little deeper into the into the pool, into the
Speaker 1: relationship to know if this was going to happen, but
Speaker 1: not flushing the toilet. I really find that gross. Guys
Speaker 1: who don't flush the.
Speaker 2: Toilet thick, Yeah, that's gross. When people are rude, yeah,
Speaker 2: I mean that standard. No one's like, god, I'm really
Speaker 2: turned on by this.
Speaker 1: I don't know. Some people find because some people that
Speaker 1: are rude are perceived of as powerful and some people
Speaker 1: like that, and I'm no, if you're rude and in
Speaker 1: consider of other people, I have take it back. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's some people are into that. Yeah. I think that
Speaker 1: something that would detail onto that or be in that
Speaker 1: in that in that wheelhouse, would be if people were
Speaker 1: confrontational or like wanting to get into fights. I dated
Speaker 1: a couple of those where I'm like, what the is happening?
Speaker 1: Why are you yelling at that person for being in
Speaker 1: like your pathway when it's a public walkway, Like, what
Speaker 1: is happening? Okay? Yeah, So another one I feel like
Speaker 1: there's I think you can you could definitely groop mine together.
Speaker 1: When people are super loud attention seekers, like in a
Speaker 1: big group, when they're like them or they're like I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess it's a little bit that bro culture. You
Speaker 1: just like the the like hard like I love guys
Speaker 1: who've got, you know, a brotherhood and a nice you know,
Speaker 1: friendship circle. But I'm the bro thing.
Speaker 3: Not for me.
Speaker 1: No, no, no. In fact, if they have, if they
Speaker 1: were like, oh, I've got.
Speaker 2: A man cave that my I would instantly turned off
Speaker 2: by someone has a man cave.
Speaker 1: No yeah, no, no, no, no, no no no. I Also,
Speaker 1: I don't like when people are critical overly, so it's
Speaker 1: kind of icky, like when people are pointing out other
Speaker 1: people's flaws. I'm like, you don't have to do that much.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I have to say your icks so far, though,
Speaker 2: I feel like are pretty standard. You're like, I don't
Speaker 2: like it when someone's mean and they make fun of people.
Speaker 2: Like no, dude, like, I need you to get I
Speaker 2: need you to dig deep in your ix.
Speaker 1: I need you need to be more specific, I said,
Speaker 1: not flushing the toilet. I know that was a good one.
Speaker 2: I think that Like, if you look like you've spent
Speaker 2: hours on your hair.
Speaker 1: Oh kind of problem. I agree. I agree. If there's
Speaker 1: any kind of round brush or blow dryer involving your hair, Luke,
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 2: I can't if I can see my own reflection in
Speaker 2: your hair because the amount of gel machine. It's not
Speaker 2: if it's shining, that's not going to lead to another date.
Speaker 1: No, no, no oh.
Speaker 2: I also like, I also do not like the presumptuous man,
Speaker 2: the man that's kind of like you're welcome, like this
Speaker 2: is going further, Like I want you to like be
Speaker 2: on your toes, like I still do this to Matt.
Speaker 1: Matt's like, hey, you want to go on a date
Speaker 1: to night, And I'm like, I don't know. I'll see
Speaker 1: how I feel, you know what I mean? Like I
Speaker 1: like people with toes a little bit. Yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: call me later. I don't know. It's not a foregone conclusion.
Speaker 1: Where you're sleeping, yeah yeah, yeah, where you sleeping? I
Speaker 1: don't know, left, right side, We'll see. I do. I
Speaker 1: like a little bit of mysteries still, So no, I
Speaker 1: don't like. I don't like not to presume I'm coming
Speaker 1: to bed. Yeah, maybe on the couch. That just sounds
Speaker 1: like the bedrock of a stable relationship you're talking about
Speaker 1: it does it? Does? I like to make him feel
Speaker 1: completely unstable. My girls have a lot of ick things
Speaker 1: they do. Do they think that they I think that
Speaker 1: they think again, I don't know if I've talked about
Speaker 1: this before, but there was a moment where I actually
Speaker 1: I feel that Jerry Maguire and The Notebook are required
Speaker 1: watching for We talked about this, but they were not
Speaker 1: into it. Yeah, they thought it was totally cringe, like, ew,
Speaker 1: why would he do that? And You're like, that's the
Speaker 1: most romantic thing that anyone's ever done in the history
Speaker 1: of doing things on film, And they're like, oh, gross, wow.
Speaker 1: And then it'll be like things where there, I'll say
Speaker 1: why and I'll be like, because it looks like you
Speaker 1: cares so much. Oh my god.
Speaker 2: You're like, oh see, this is why things changed. Because
Speaker 2: they they want a little they want they want some
Speaker 2: hard to.
Speaker 1: Get talk about mystery, talk about mystery, talk about a challenge. Yeah. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you know, I've heard. I was actually in a
Speaker 1: I was in a pitch meeting one time and I
Speaker 1: was pitching a romantic comedy and one of the executives
Speaker 1: that was really young, like like maybe they were just
Speaker 1: like letting her sit in on the meeting, young or new.
Speaker 1: I guess we were talking about. Part of the pitch
Speaker 1: was about how this couple meets and they meet on
Speaker 1: the street, and I'm I'm like, you know, giving the
Speaker 1: story but why. And I get to the part where
Speaker 1: they're meeting on the street and she's like, ew wait
Speaker 1: what Yeah? I was like what she goes, oh, oh,
Speaker 1: I would never trust someone that I met on the street,
Speaker 1: and like this. The lead up to the story was
Speaker 1: actually like everybody was bona fide like it was like
Speaker 1: meant it wasn't it was a feel good rom call.
Speaker 1: It was like you like you could depend on it.
Speaker 1: It was like a bright and sunny, shiny world, right.
Speaker 1: And she was like, no, I would never because I would.
Speaker 1: I only trust people that I data I meet on
Speaker 1: dating apps. I mean, well for me, I'm like you
Speaker 1: dating apps right, like you dating talk about I know,
Speaker 1: I know I used to go. Uh my sister was
Speaker 1: on one of those at one point a long time ago,
Speaker 1: and I remember looking through them and I was like,
Speaker 1: how many guys are going to talk about how like
Speaker 1: their perfect date is like margs and guac Like, why
Speaker 1: is that a thing? Fy A total sidebar. I'm just
Speaker 1: saying that for some reason, all people on all dating
Speaker 1: sites riyah hinge, all of them. You know what if
Speaker 1: they wrote, can I tell you I just got an
Speaker 1: ic if.
Speaker 2: You write margs and guawk, Yeah, that verbiage.
Speaker 1: I don't like the guawk. I'm not the marks. I'm
Speaker 1: okay with, but the guawk is annoying to me. I
Speaker 1: don't know that I like margs either in this In
Speaker 1: this application, you're a grown man, Marxie. Yeah, yeah, swipe
Speaker 1: or swiping? Oh well, you're gonna to swipe a lot.
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. It's a popular answer. Oh no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not swiping left on that. Yeah. No. Anyways, Okay, Well,
Speaker 1: there are people who have called in and then they
Speaker 1: have written in, and I gotta say thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: Think you think you get into it? Are you ready?
Speaker 1: Let's go? Yeah? Yeah, okay, why don't you start and
Speaker 1: then I'll do the next one? Okay. Domenica wrote in
Speaker 1: and said when he double texts after a few hours,
Speaker 1: I am busy, chill. I don't know if that's ick
Speaker 1: for me. I mean, also, just because they text doesn't
Speaker 1: mean that I need to answer right away. Oh the
Speaker 1: number two? Like people have different levels of busy. Maybe true,
Speaker 1: but is it early on? I feel like if it's
Speaker 1: in the.
Speaker 2: First like three weeks and you're doing it tax and
Speaker 2: then another text, especially if it's a follow up, like hey, you.
Speaker 1: Want to go out tonight? Hey, do you want to
Speaker 1: go out tonight?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah? Okay, all right, but not it's not
Speaker 1: a hugeic for me either. Okay.
Speaker 2: Laura said when they bend over and their butt crack shows,
Speaker 2: pull up your damn pants if you're an adult, No
Speaker 2: one's into that.
Speaker 1: It's just sloppy. Yeah, that's sloppy. You could, but I
Speaker 1: would put that in my eck bucket.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think, but that's what I'm saying. I
Speaker 2: think it's in everyone's buckets, right. No one's like, ooh
Speaker 2: ass crack.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's Kimilla is really really holding the line here
Speaker 1: about what would be in everyone's as opposed to specific
Speaker 1: to you. I think, well, I think they were just generalized,
Speaker 1: you know.
Speaker 2: I mean if someone was like, they farted on my arm,
Speaker 2: no one's like, hmm, let me think about it, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, Okay. Amelia wrote in and she said an
Speaker 1: ick for her is having a velcrow wallet. See I
Speaker 1: like this because this is really specific. Can you tell
Speaker 1: me what a bellcrow wallet. I'm assuming it's a wallet
Speaker 1: that's like not a zip. It's like you have to
Speaker 1: bell crow it open. Oh okay, you know what now
Speaker 1: I'm picturing it. At first, I was like, it's bell crow.
Speaker 1: Does it stick to something else? No, it's it's how
Speaker 1: it's fastened, it's how it's fat. That's what I'm assuming.
Speaker 1: That's what I'm gonna go ahead and assume that's what
Speaker 1: it is. And I actually really like this because this
Speaker 1: is what.
Speaker 2: I feel like I'm talking about. This feels specific to me,
Speaker 2: not my ick.
Speaker 1: It is a little like that's Amelia. That's Amelia specific ick.
Speaker 1: If someone whipped that out to pay for the date,
Speaker 1: would you be into that? The bell crow? The sound
Speaker 1: of the bell crow? Well, now thanks to her?
Speaker 2: No, no, now for me, it's a turn off too.
Speaker 2: Amelia's made I turn off. Okay, Elidie said, when they
Speaker 2: are rude to the weight staff or server, Oh, it's
Speaker 2: over irredeemable. No, no, not even bye goodbye, not even
Speaker 2: I don't want to dessert. I don't even want the
Speaker 2: main course. If we're appetite, I gotta go.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's definitely and there's an emergency at how am
Speaker 1: I gotta get back to I'm interested to see what
Speaker 1: you say about the next one. Okay, Rebecca, I wrote
Speaker 1: in and she said that what it gives her the
Speaker 1: X are two words baby talk. This has never happened
Speaker 1: to me, and I'm very grateful. No one has ever
Speaker 1: given me do you do? Baby? Ever? Never is anyone
Speaker 1: giving you the baby voice you're thinking, I'm really thinking
Speaker 1: about it. I feel like if they haven't, I can
Speaker 1: imagine one X I would die. I think I had laugh,
Speaker 1: I would laugh, and we're not together anymore. So that's
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, but by the yes, that is a
Speaker 1: full blown neck if you baby, I don't need the
Speaker 1: baby voice.
Speaker 2: No, Angela said, when they are constantly adjusting themselves and
Speaker 2: touching their.
Speaker 1: Crotch constantly, I mean constantly, is the problem like a
Speaker 1: little shift? Okay? Fine? Mm. I mean I feel like
Speaker 1: there's something that sometimes is necessary about that. In the anatomy,
Speaker 1: I do believe that there are there are some constant
Speaker 1: crotch adjusters out there. Oh I know there are. I
Speaker 1: know some of them, and it's very distracting. Then it's
Speaker 1: an nick. Yeah it's a nick. Okay, Yeah, No, that's
Speaker 1: a nick. Okay, this one. I'm Laney. I just I
Speaker 1: already love you. Laney said that her ICs were picturing
Speaker 1: them standing naked waiting for the shower to warm up,
Speaker 1: if they sleep talk and if they send me memes
Speaker 1: that aren't funny. Oh Laney, Oh, I love it picturing
Speaker 1: them standing naked waiting for the shower to warm up.
Speaker 1: Not like actually watching them.
Speaker 2: But like, you know, what's so funny is I can
Speaker 2: kind of see why that could be a nick with somebody, right,
Speaker 2: because it's there. I could see if you're like, ooh,
Speaker 2: I could get an ooh from that from certain people.
Speaker 2: Don't you think because they're not in like a situation,
Speaker 2: they're just waiting for the shower to be.
Speaker 1: Just naked standing there. Yeah, I can see that that's
Speaker 1: just annoying or it can be a way. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: the unfunny memes, I think you're just not on the
Speaker 1: same page as that person. Yeah, yeah, that's a goodbye. Yeah.
Speaker 2: The shower thing is really interesting to me. That's a
Speaker 2: good one. It's because this is what I'm talking about
Speaker 2: when you get really specific and it's like a very
Speaker 2: that's interesting.
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not sure that I've ever seen that.
Speaker 1: I don't know that I've ever know that I've ever
Speaker 1: had a boyfriend who was just waiting their turn in
Speaker 1: the waiting Room's sure You've never seen someone just waiting
Speaker 1: for a shower to get warm. No, you're such a
Speaker 1: little liar. I'm not. You've never seen Christopher waiting like,
Speaker 1: turn on the shower naked and wait for him to
Speaker 1: go in the shower. No, he just goes in to
Speaker 1: cold water. Not even a little hand test. It's a
Speaker 1: little cry over Christopher before he gets in every more. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean he's yeah, he's self conscious. That makes sense.
Speaker 1: The rest of us are waiting for it to get
Speaker 1: to a good temperature. Okay, okay, well then I've never
Speaker 1: seen anyone wait, Camille said, when they talk with their
Speaker 1: mouthful and get food all over the place. Immediate dick.
Speaker 1: We talked about this, agreed total agreement. Okay, So Francesca said,
Speaker 1: too much talking when we're having sex stop? Yeah, I yes,
Speaker 1: that is not so much. Also, like when someone's talking
Speaker 1: so much, you like it sort of feels like it
Speaker 1: requires some talk back. Yay. Yeah, you're like yeah, if
Speaker 1: that's not your jam, then you're like ah, and you're
Speaker 1: just like ck stop, like just stop with the talking.
Speaker 2: Yeah, And then it's hard because you're like in the
Speaker 2: middle of sex, and then what are you going to do?
Speaker 2: Be like, hey, just can we just have a conversation
Speaker 2: about just the talking, shutting up, shutting the up immediately
Speaker 2: really during this amazing moment, I really like you to
Speaker 2: shut up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, no, that's done. Feels a little yeah no,
Speaker 1: But maybe I think maybe you need a little tea
Speaker 1: if you're into them. I think maybe you just need
Speaker 1: a little team meeting after after that. I mean that's
Speaker 1: because that that could be redeemed, that could be coached, right,
Speaker 1: And I think that I always think that it's nice
Speaker 1: to go into moments like that with a compliment like
Speaker 1: let it, let the event pass, and then maybe a
Speaker 1: little later you've got you know, you do a little
Speaker 1: round up. I just love that story you told gen sex.
Speaker 1: But can we Yeah, you're cozy on the couch, you're
Speaker 1: snuggling or whatever, and you give like a really big
Speaker 1: compliment like something they did really really great, and then
Speaker 1: you swiftly follow it with a you know what, I
Speaker 1: you know what.
Speaker 2: I like you shutting up.
Speaker 3: I like you shutting up.
Speaker 1: Take that exact advice. Do you like dirty talk because
Speaker 1: I like you to shut them?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I like specifically yeah, and if you have a baby
Speaker 1: talk it out, baby talk it too. Could you just
Speaker 1: like please, yeah, yeah, that's when you could whip out
Speaker 1: the baby talk. Guess soften a little bit, soften it
Speaker 1: a little bit. Yeah, have a compliment and then a
Speaker 1: is what I would say for that. Yeah, yeah, okay.
Speaker 2: Me've said when they are flirting, viattacks and they don't
Speaker 2: know the difference between there there and there.
Speaker 1: I'm with you and your and your This is hard
Speaker 1: because like some people no no, no, no, no no, no, I'm.
Speaker 2: I Some people have dyslexian things like that that makes
Speaker 2: it hard for them to spell.
Speaker 1: However, if it's confusing, Google is right there. That's the
Speaker 1: only thing. I feel shamed. You feel stupid?
Speaker 2: I don't, no, but I would feel like, yes I would. Yes,
Speaker 2: it's not my favorite Travis Kelcey. I felt like, just
Speaker 2: got in trouble for this, not in trouble, but people
Speaker 2: made fun of for this.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well it's actually this isn't an ick. This
Speaker 1: is a pet peeve for me. Yeah. Yeah, it's like
Speaker 1: a pet. But I'm like, again, if if there's a
Speaker 1: reason that you're doing it, then okay, But if there's not,
Speaker 1: then you're just lazy. Calarine Yeah wrote in and said
Speaker 1: that it's an ick when he expects you to post
Speaker 1: him on social media a lot. Interesting, I wonder what
Speaker 1: I see. What's what's interesting is we Matt is never like,
Speaker 1: why are not on your grid?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Look so I've never had this particular situation.
Speaker 1: It's christer ever like, yeah, but we hold on. We
Speaker 1: were talking about this early on and there was a
Speaker 1: there was someone who wrote in and said, I'm not
Speaker 1: on his grid. Like We've been together ten years and
Speaker 1: I'm not on his grid. So you know, there's there's
Speaker 1: clearly a little bit of you need to maybe contract
Speaker 1: around this one. You need to like come up, you
Speaker 1: need to figure out, you need to get a little curious.
Speaker 1: You need to say, hey, when you're dating someone, like
Speaker 1: what are your expectations? What do you like? Yeah?
Speaker 3: I like it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, we need more information, Catherine. Have you been dating
Speaker 1: a long time and you're just refusing to put him
Speaker 1: on the grid?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Why is Yeah? Is there a reason why he's not
Speaker 1: on the grid, Catherine. We need to dig deeper on this.
Speaker 1: Although if it's coming from a place of like you're
Speaker 1: sort of newly dating and he doesn't understand why.
Speaker 2: We have questions about this one. This is not an
Speaker 2: it necessarily for me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we need more info.
Speaker 2: Michelle wrote, when he can't make his own doctor's appointments,
Speaker 2: order food, I'm assuming, et cetera.
Speaker 1: So he's a big old baby. That is an ick?
Speaker 1: That is that is an ick? I'm I'm almost like
Speaker 1: your own person. Yes, super annoying. Agreed, Yes, he said
Speaker 1: this is the one I was talking about earlier. Yes,
Speaker 1: he's ick, Yes, he's ick. Is running with a backpack on?
Speaker 3: That is?
Speaker 1: Literally? This is one.
Speaker 2: Yes, I love this one. It's not an ick for me.
Speaker 2: It's not an ick for me?
Speaker 1: Is it for you?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 1: I think you're thinking about it a little bit. No,
Speaker 1: it's not, it's not at all. I think it's just
Speaker 1: it's so specific and it's so funny to me. And
Speaker 1: once I imagine someone running with a backpack on, I
Speaker 1: think it's actually more funny. It actually might be an
Speaker 1: it might be what's the opposite of annick? And in
Speaker 1: turn on, it's a turn on for you. Oh. Odyssey
Speaker 1: wrote dirty fingernails, that's the snick for everyone? Ew yeah,
Speaker 1: I think yeah, that's an eck for sure. Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1: Jason wrote in and said when she constantly interrupts everyone
Speaker 1: to talk about herself red flag, less of anick and
Speaker 1: more of a red flag for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we were just talking about this at the beginning.
Speaker 2: When a guy does the same thing, not into it. Also,
Speaker 2: they're not they don't care about you then.
Speaker 1: Yeah, unless you feel like there's a nervousness factor. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know some people when they get nervous, they get
Speaker 1: a little little me or they don't. They just can't
Speaker 1: control how much they're talking. So that could be the
Speaker 1: case with that, that's true. You would know though by
Speaker 1: a couple of weeks in. I think, yes, if it was,
Speaker 1: maybe it's alter Yeah, yeah, yep, I agree with that.
Speaker 2: Danielle when he licks all five fingers while eating doing
Speaker 2: a first date ever, not.
Speaker 1: Even a first date, don't ever do Why are you
Speaker 1: looking all five?
Speaker 2: Maybe one if you need to, like you picked up
Speaker 2: a halwing right and it's like maybe you.
Speaker 1: Gotta like lick a couple, but like the whole the
Speaker 1: five I was gonna say, I think there's like truly
Speaker 1: one allowance for this kind of behavior, this kind of
Speaker 1: finger licking behavior, and it is at a barbecue place,
Speaker 1: Like I get it, ycause you're you're not using a
Speaker 1: fork and knife you can try, but very hard to
Speaker 1: use a fork and knife to eat you know, some
Speaker 1: baby back ribs or some hot wings. Yeah, but napkins exist,
Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Yeah, you don't have
Speaker 1: to put them in, you don't, but all five well,
Speaker 1: I'm envisioning like almost like a methodic, like that's what
Speaker 1: I'm Yeah, that's what I'm saying. You're taking your going.
Speaker 1: It is so gross. I agree, it disgusting and I
Speaker 1: think you'll definitely have dirty fingernails off of that. Ew
Speaker 1: mm hmmmm. Okay. Messina and said it's a nick for
Speaker 1: her when he says something weird after having sex. Good bands,
Speaker 1: good bones? What the does that even mean? If it's British?
Speaker 2: I feel like it could potentially be well, hang on,
Speaker 2: now I've got to google it. I was gonna say
Speaker 2: good banter, the bands good hang on, we gotta google it.
Speaker 1: Hang on, it's British. She was from the UK? Is
Speaker 1: she from the UK?
Speaker 2: Cause this means I feel like good yeah, good bands? Yeah,
Speaker 2: it's it's banter.
Speaker 1: So I was wrong.
Speaker 2: It's good for good bones, good bones. I'm thinking like
Speaker 2: you're boner.
Speaker 1: No, he's talk about his boner.
Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I'm maybe so like I'm assuming he means
Speaker 2: like you're hot, right, like good bones, like you got
Speaker 2: a good body. I don't know a TV show came
Speaker 2: up from like you know, from HG TV good bones.
Speaker 1: I'm assuming either way. I don't even know why, am I.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter it they both suck, they're both so icky. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no good bands, no good bones. I don't think that.
Speaker 2: I don't think that you need to like recall it
Speaker 2: in on TV when you have like a scene and
Speaker 2: then we call it a button at the end of
Speaker 2: a scene right where you like wrap it up with
Speaker 2: a cute little call.
Speaker 1: I don't think sex needs a button. No, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2: This feels like a button. Okay, okay, okay, okay. Cheryl
Speaker 2: has a friendship pick. When you go on a trip
Speaker 2: with your friend and wake up to her having phone
Speaker 2: sex next to you.
Speaker 1: What what curtis courtesy? Please? I have so many questions.
Speaker 1: Are you on speaker, like do you have the pods?
Speaker 1: And no, it doesn't matter, I mean it doesn't that's
Speaker 1: so gross. That feels like some boundary violations. Yeah that's yeah,
Speaker 1: that's a boundary violation for sure. Yeah. Yeah, I go
Speaker 1: to the bathroom. Ew, gross, Just don't do it when
Speaker 1: your friend's right there. No, no, no, yeah, okay, Oh,
Speaker 1: I think God pretty sure that this is going back
Speaker 1: to our baby talk situation. But Maddie wrote in when
Speaker 1: he instead of sorry, he says, swey what what that's
Speaker 1: he might be associated God, run stuff like that. Run run.
Speaker 1: That's a character in a movie. By the way, that's
Speaker 1: so even a real person like.
Speaker 2: That, saying that, you know how the FBI have like
Speaker 2: a profile of like what a serial.
Speaker 1: Killer could be.
Speaker 2: That's probably one of that's probably one of the top
Speaker 2: five characteristics.
Speaker 1: Yeah, saying have you totally off topic for a second,
Speaker 1: but did you see the preview for the new Netflix
Speaker 1: show that Anna Kendrick Anna or Anna Anna Kendrick an
Speaker 1: Kendrick uh has where I think she will she starring
Speaker 1: in it and she directed it, and it's all about
Speaker 1: having been on the Dating Game and how it was
Speaker 1: a real life story where one of the guys, Oh, yes, no,
Speaker 1: I've seen this now I've seen the documentary. Oh, he
Speaker 1: was literally on the dating game and a serial killer
Speaker 1: and he was he ended up a stealer, a serial killer,
Speaker 1: a serial killer. Yeah, And I bet he said, sawy,
Speaker 1: I bet, he said sowey.
Speaker 2: Okay, Kayley said, well this is we know what generation
Speaker 2: this is. I'm sorry Kaylee about this. He said skibbety
Speaker 2: When I gave him a bracelet, I made nope, I'm
Speaker 2: assuming that you know what skibbity is.
Speaker 3: Me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got a skibbity. But it's a nonsense word.
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean anything. Nobody knows what it means for real.
Speaker 1: Is Luke right there?
Speaker 2: Because I feel like I like Luke would know skibbey
Speaker 2: means well, it's less.
Speaker 1: It's actually even a little. That's it would be young
Speaker 1: for him. It's more than twelve thirteen year old boys.
Speaker 1: But it's the non sense word and it drives the
Speaker 1: girls crazy because it's a nonsense word. It doesn't it
Speaker 1: doesn't mean anything. You can look it upon Urban dictionary.
Speaker 1: That's not so annoying something that they say to be annoying. Yes,
Speaker 1: this is a horrible He's just annoying. He's itchy and annoying.
Speaker 1: So Stephanie says, when they tip poorly at a restaurant, done,
Speaker 1: I think that I would want to know? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think I mean I would. This would be my set
Speaker 1: if I really was into him. I think if I
Speaker 1: wasn't that into him, I would be like, no, we're done.
Speaker 1: But an ick. If I was into him, I think
Speaker 1: that I would want to know why not that doesn't
Speaker 1: have the money or is unappreciative, wouldn't do why are you?
Speaker 1: Why are you being? Why are you tipping so little? Yeah?
Speaker 2: I think that, like listen, it's a service? Was the
Speaker 2: kind of service I used to give? Then I understand
Speaker 2: one just sounded.
Speaker 1: Like a call girl. By the way, have the service
Speaker 1: serve as I used to give?
Speaker 2: No, I'm talking about waiting tables, and it was not
Speaker 2: a good experience for anyone that I helped. So if
Speaker 2: this sucks, yeah, I understand it. But if it's a
Speaker 2: standard dinner, then what are you doing?
Speaker 1: It's weird?
Speaker 2: Okay, Meghan said, when he has a full time job,
Speaker 2: established career, but still lives at home because he wants Mommy.
Speaker 1: To take care of him, run it to the nth degree.
Speaker 1: It's not even just an ick. I feel like it's
Speaker 1: like a red flag. Yeah, it's a non starter. Done,
Speaker 1: run go.
Speaker 2: Here's the thing when you move out when a boy
Speaker 2: and maybe I'm going to get the comments all riled up.
Speaker 2: But I think if a boy like this moves out
Speaker 2: that attachment, that that situation doesn't end. Mommy darist is
Speaker 2: still doing the laundry, or she's involved more with the
Speaker 2: like that. I think it's just it's not as a
Speaker 2: red flag.
Speaker 1: I think about this as a parent to a young son,
Speaker 1: and I think about it all the time because I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm such an acts of service as like a love language,
Speaker 1: Like I love doing things for people I love, and
Speaker 1: that's great, and I don't want that to be taken
Speaker 1: away from me. But I know when you're doing it
Speaker 1: for your young son or daughter, I guess, but I
Speaker 1: think it is a little bit more particular to sons
Speaker 1: and this application. It's like, are you just creating a monster?
Speaker 1: Are you just creating an expectation of your mama doing
Speaker 1: all the stuff? It's so hard.
Speaker 2: It's a catch twenty two because as a as a
Speaker 2: female navigating the world, we know these boys.
Speaker 1: I don't want to date this boy. Do I want
Speaker 1: to mommy this boy? Yeah? Does Lucas want to live
Speaker 1: with me forever?
Speaker 3: Sure?
Speaker 1: That's the big deal. Wee how we look as you're
Speaker 1: living mommy?
Speaker 3: Oh my god?
Speaker 1: Okay, Okaynie wrote in when he wears his jeans so
Speaker 1: skinny you can see every part of his balls. That
Speaker 1: would be that wouldn't date, wouldn't happen for me. I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 2: The picture could be from the waist up. You wouldn't
Speaker 2: know until he walks in. Yeah, oh yeah, if.
Speaker 1: There's not a wide shot in the profile. Oh, then
Speaker 1: I think I would do like a kickball change and
Speaker 1: then a moonwalk back out the door. Oh my god, no,
Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not. I don't like skinny jeans on boys.
Speaker 1: It's not my I don't like it either. Put it
Speaker 1: in the ed hardy bucket. But yeah, they don't have
Speaker 1: to be like even ball tight. It's just tight. I'm
Speaker 1: not just tight in general.
Speaker 2: I need it to feel like there's an airflow going
Speaker 2: on in there, you know, circulation. Yeah, okay, Tracy, friendship
Speaker 2: dick when they pick their significant other over you all
Speaker 2: the time?
Speaker 1: Yep, not nick, Yeah it is a nick. Sorry it is.
Speaker 1: I hate this, I know.
Speaker 2: Okay read the last write in because we have an
Speaker 2: excellent voicemail.
Speaker 1: To get to. All right, So rounding up the right ends,
Speaker 1: Mollie wrote in when he's getting dressed and puts his
Speaker 1: top on first and then stands there looking like Winnie
Speaker 1: the Pooh.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is a great it naked from
Speaker 2: the waist down, just the T shirt on. This is
Speaker 2: that's fantastic. I do see how that. I here's the thing.
Speaker 2: When you've been with someone for a really long time,
Speaker 2: I think the X kind of go away right, Like
Speaker 2: your husband could be Winny the poohing and you're like whatever,
Speaker 2: you know, like who cares. But in the early days
Speaker 2: of dating, if I had a Winnie the Pooh situation, yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it could be. That's like a phone as soon
Speaker 1: as you walk out the door. That's like a phone
Speaker 1: call to a friend being like I can't do it.
Speaker 1: I can't do it.
Speaker 3: I got.
Speaker 1: Enough members. We can't do this. I can do this anymore.
Speaker 1: Can you ever recover from the egg? In the instances,
Speaker 1: In the instances where I felt that I could, I
Speaker 1: pointed that out like that there's there gonna be an ick,
Speaker 1: and then you can get you can get a little
Speaker 1: effective work and be like, oh, why are you doing that, dick,
Speaker 1: and then you can find out you could recover. But
Speaker 1: if it's just an ick that's going on in like forever, no,
Speaker 1: I can't like no, no, Oh my gosh. I had
Speaker 1: a boyfriend one time. My girls know this, and I
Speaker 1: don't know why. They think it's really funny because you
Speaker 1: know why, because he's in a movie and they always
Speaker 1: see him and they're like, but I dated this guy
Speaker 1: who was like. It wasn't even very I don't know,
Speaker 1: it wasn't even that big of a deal. It was
Speaker 1: kind of like a hangout situation. But we were boyfriend
Speaker 1: girlfriend and we went grocery shopping and I'll never forget.
Speaker 1: We're standing at Trader Joe's. We were in the produce
Speaker 1: aisle and I was like reaching for something, I don't know,
Speaker 1: some lettuce or some carrot or something, and he was
Speaker 1: He came out of nowhere and I felt something like
Speaker 1: on my stomach as we're a little crop top and
Speaker 1: he stuck his finger in my belly button ew and
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god. And I got very serious
Speaker 1: and I was like, why did you just stick your
Speaker 1: finger my belly button? And he was like, oh, it's funny. Ew,
Speaker 1: what are you for done? We did not recover from that.
Speaker 1: That was done. That was the day it ended. Bye.
Speaker 1: Literally drove home. I couldn't get home fast off. I
Speaker 1: was like, bye, how long?
Speaker 2: Okay, wait, hang on, I did to know how long
Speaker 2: you've been dating for before the finger in the belly button?
Speaker 1: Even just hearing you say it, Chris is no, it
Speaker 1: is gross. I hate it saying it. Yeah, ew, like
Speaker 1: you'd been on a few days.
Speaker 2: I'm assuming if you're shopping together at Trader Joe's, like
Speaker 2: it's been a couple of months.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah know, yeah, we've been dating. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we've been dating for a minute. I don't know. It
Speaker 1: was kind of off and on too, but we've been
Speaker 1: dating for probably around like three or four months. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, and that's what killed it? Yeah, wow, yeah, dead.
Speaker 1: I do. I do think that. I'm not sure you
Speaker 1: can recover from a lot of X.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 1: I don't think some either. Oh my god, you know what.
Speaker 1: I had to just down and see now they're all
Speaker 1: going to come flat. Okay, go, this is what I love.
Speaker 1: Another one actor dating and I was actually super into him.
Speaker 1: He came over for like a second or third date,
Speaker 1: and he brought printed out brought eight by ten glossy
Speaker 1: stills photographs, printed photographs from his last movie to show me,
Speaker 1: like laid him out on my dining room table up, Jessica,
Speaker 1: I was like supposed to ask for an autograph too.
Speaker 2: My soul just left, My body got out, and I was.
Speaker 1: Living in this tiny little condo in West Hollywood, and
Speaker 1: it was like, I mean, and it was a big
Speaker 1: movie or whatever. He was excited. I get it, but
Speaker 1: it was so itck.
Speaker 2: You do that with a girlfriend. With a girlfriend, you
Speaker 2: can one hundred percent do that. You can be like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, because I'd like these stills. Yeah, on
Speaker 2: a third or fourth date. Yeah, God, that would have
Speaker 2: absolutely killed it done.
Speaker 1: I mean, it was. It was the beginning of the
Speaker 1: end there, don't I was, like I said, I was
Speaker 1: into him, so I let it go a little was longer.
Speaker 2: Okay, I have to add a little bit more than
Speaker 2: to my date with that guy that showed up in
Speaker 2: the convertible, the actor. Yeah, okay, So there are a
Speaker 2: couple more icky things about that date. First off, just
Speaker 2: in general, he I'm assuming he's picking me up to
Speaker 2: go on like a one on one date. He takes
Speaker 2: me to this big Hollywood party with so many people there.
Speaker 1: It someone's house on the hills. It's not my vibe, right, Like,
Speaker 1: and he's like schmoozing, like.
Speaker 2: I can tell that he's maybe I leave you, And
Speaker 2: he kind of left me in the crowd a few
Speaker 2: times where I was like just by myself, like I
Speaker 2: don't want I don't care, Like I don't care.
Speaker 1: That it's a lot of blue Blah's house, Like who cares?
Speaker 1: Like I don't care about these people? Can we just
Speaker 1: go to dinner? Then we went to go see a show.
Speaker 1: Cause I'm getting so specific, he'll definitely know it's happened.
Speaker 1: We went to a show and he was like, I
Speaker 1: want to take this is the same night, Like I
Speaker 1: want to take you to the show to like see
Speaker 1: this band. Fine, I'll go. Never had dinner.
Speaker 2: Went to this show and he could sing really well,
Speaker 2: and he sung louder than the band, and it was
Speaker 2: very like I'm not getting in the crowd. The lead
Speaker 2: singer was overtaken by his voice, and I was like
Speaker 2: I wanted to crawl into a hole. I was like,
Speaker 2: oh my god, you want everyone to know that you're
Speaker 2: an amazing singer.
Speaker 1: You're hungry because he hasn't there's been no food on
Speaker 1: this day. You've already been to a Hollywood party, and
Speaker 1: now he's.
Speaker 2: It was just so many vocal yo these actors. Oh god, anyway,
Speaker 2: I mean the story is that we can I mean
Speaker 2: I can't tell some of the stories. But okay, let's
Speaker 2: play this voicemail.
Speaker 1: Let's do it.
Speaker 3: I call it crew. So I'm also going to put
Speaker 3: this in the comments. But I needed to leave a
Speaker 3: voicemail because I feel so passionately about this topic.
Speaker 1: The ick.
Speaker 3: I too very easily get the ick, and so I
Speaker 3: need to know that I am not alone in this.
Speaker 3: I need to know am I toxic? Or is this normal? Okay?
Speaker 3: Number one ick when a guy only has selfies on
Speaker 3: his social media, that's.
Speaker 1: Weird behavior, agreed.
Speaker 3: Number two when they try to make everything, every every
Speaker 3: normal conversation into something sexual like oh yeah, about to
Speaker 3: take a shower? Oh without me like the GTFO. Number
Speaker 3: three just overall like rude in thinking that they're better
Speaker 3: than everyone around them, talking about how much money they
Speaker 3: have and just trying to flex all the time. Absolutely
Speaker 3: not Number four and oh I feel so passionately about
Speaker 3: this one. Too much talking during you know time, like sir,
Speaker 3: I did not sign up for this survey, please dot talking.
Speaker 3: And then number five when every single girlfriend everyone they've
Speaker 3: ever dated was obsessed with them in crazy because I'm
Speaker 3: just I'm calling fake news on that one. So yeah,
Speaker 3: those are just a couple. Love the show, love the podcast.
Speaker 3: You ladies are doing fantastic, So thanks, love you.
Speaker 1: Oh I love her. I love how passionate she is,
Speaker 1: and I love how specific she is, and I agree
Speaker 1: with all of her ex What was the last one? Again,
Speaker 1: The last one was when they think that all their
Speaker 1: ex girlfriends were obsessed with them and that they and
Speaker 1: we're totally crazy. I think how someone speaks about their
Speaker 1: axes is very important, because, I mean, chances are you'll
Speaker 1: be one one day, right, Like the numbers are not
Speaker 1: so the odds are not in your favor. For no,
Speaker 1: not really, I do.
Speaker 2: I definitely think it's a red flag when someone refers
Speaker 2: to all of their exes as crazy. I just think
Speaker 2: that it's like this throwaway it actually it's not even
Speaker 2: an ick.
Speaker 1: It just drives me crazy. I think it's just this
Speaker 1: very easy way.
Speaker 2: To dismiss an X as being like, oh she was crazy,
Speaker 2: and it's like, well, no doubt, did you do?
Speaker 1: My question is always like what did you do?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: No, for sure, it's sort of It definitely really means
Speaker 1: that they're crazy. Yeah, yeah, I feel that. I feel that,
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, well this could go on forever, because
Speaker 1: there really are so many different ways that we as
Speaker 1: human beings can annoy each other and tick each other out.
Speaker 1: So we've shared some of ours, you've shared some of yours.
Speaker 1: I'm feeling that there might be more out there in
Speaker 1: the world. Hit us in the comments. Please keep it coming, Yeah,
Speaker 1: keep them coming.
Speaker 2: They're so funny, and I like them because they're giving
Speaker 2: me more reasons to have a HICs.
Speaker 1: Exactly, yes, exactly, just a little more critical, critical, critical
Speaker 1: thoughts out in there in the world. All Right, I
Speaker 1: love you, and I love this and I love our crew,
Speaker 1: and I'm very very thankful for all of this incredible material.
Speaker 1: So thank you for making the show. And I think
Speaker 1: that it's now time to call it the end, the
Speaker 1: end of the episode.