1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Call It What It Is with Jessica Capshaw and Camil Luddington, 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:20,079 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast. Hello, Hello, Hello. 3 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,920 Speaker 2: Hello Call It crew, and welcome to another episode of 4 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 2: Call It What It Is. Jessica, what are we diving 5 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 2: into today? We're diving in to a pool of X X? 6 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 2: What kind of X have you? What's the past tense 7 00:00:41,120 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 2: of dive? Divin have you doven? There's a lot of 8 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 2: pools of X out there. 9 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:50,280 Speaker 1: There's a lot of people who do things that just 10 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:54,040 Speaker 1: don't sit right with us, and uh, they're all different 11 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:58,320 Speaker 1: and some things rub us in different ways. Sometimes some 12 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: things don't rub us at all, sometimes us too much, 13 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:03,240 Speaker 1: too much. This got bought up. 14 00:01:03,240 --> 00:01:05,199 Speaker 2: This has got initially talked about on the pod because 15 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:07,800 Speaker 2: we were talking about our dating experiences and I was 16 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:10,920 Speaker 2: talking about someone that I dated pulling up in a 17 00:01:11,000 --> 00:01:14,840 Speaker 2: convertible and it's and it was an ick. 18 00:01:14,680 --> 00:01:15,480 Speaker 1: For me at the time. 19 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 2: It felt super showy, and so it kind of spurred 20 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:23,200 Speaker 2: on this whole conversation of we need to dedicate a 21 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 2: whole episode to just plain old IX. 22 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:30,080 Speaker 1: We all have grosses you out? What does someone do 23 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:33,240 Speaker 1: that turns you off? Yeah, it makes you want to 24 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:37,080 Speaker 1: vomb all over your sit Yeah, opposite of a turn 25 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:42,480 Speaker 1: on is a turn off. And you guys came the 26 00:01:42,520 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 1: balls through. Oh my gosh, they brought it. God, I 27 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 1: brought it. We are God like these people in the world, Like, 28 00:01:51,880 --> 00:01:54,200 Speaker 1: what is it? We don't even have to work. We 29 00:01:54,280 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: just you guys do the work for us. 30 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:00,000 Speaker 2: You guys, the submissions today are absolutely incredible. 31 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: Well, and I agree with some of these. 32 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,880 Speaker 2: I'm like, we'll get into it, but some of these 33 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:07,440 Speaker 2: I definitely definitely agree with. One of them is just 34 00:02:07,480 --> 00:02:09,120 Speaker 2: so weird to me. Anyway, Well, we're going to get 35 00:02:09,160 --> 00:02:12,080 Speaker 2: into it. But before we do it, Jessica, if you're 36 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 2: in a dating scenario, do you know off the top 37 00:02:15,480 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 2: of your head, what like a standout. 38 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:23,000 Speaker 1: Ick is for you? Well, Comella, you pointed this out 39 00:02:23,040 --> 00:02:26,640 Speaker 1: before that. My younger years were in the eighteen hundreds 40 00:02:27,040 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: and so a long time ago would be me. You know, me, me, 41 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:35,240 Speaker 1: me remembering dating? It was hard? Was the Black Death? 42 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 1: Just pull the cobwebs away? Well, pardon me, did I 43 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:42,079 Speaker 1: miss an insult? Was the Black Death a turn off? 44 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:48,079 Speaker 1: The plague not as bad as the beyond itic eubonic plague? 45 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:50,120 Speaker 1: That was a turnoff back. It was a turnof it 46 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: was dirt. It's yeah, ikey like death ichy, not even 47 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: like gross. Yeah, they were dead. They were just flat 48 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: out deads It was a little bit. Okay, So back 49 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: in my yesteryear when I dated, yes, there were definitely things. 50 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:07,480 Speaker 1: And you know what, I do think it's worth saying 51 00:03:07,480 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: this because I you know, when we get these incredible submissions, 52 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:11,920 Speaker 1: we don't have an age attached, so I don't know 53 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 1: how old some of these people are, but I definitely 54 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:17,520 Speaker 1: feel that I was way more judgmental and had a 55 00:03:17,639 --> 00:03:19,920 Speaker 1: longer list of X when I was younger. 56 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 2: I don't know, you're not out on the dating scene 57 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:25,800 Speaker 2: right now, so maybe if you were forced to be, 58 00:03:26,560 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: you would be icked out. We've been Yeah, we've been shelved, 59 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 2: We've been married shelved, and so we the X are like, 60 00:03:34,680 --> 00:03:36,160 Speaker 2: you know, it is what it is. We have a 61 00:03:36,240 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 2: ring on our finger, it is what it is, and 62 00:03:38,880 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 2: we got to just swallow that. 63 00:03:40,560 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: Eck, if we were out, if me and you were 64 00:03:44,920 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: out on the town, yes, they're not wrong. I think 65 00:03:48,520 --> 00:03:51,400 Speaker 1: my IX would come back. Well, all I know is 66 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 1: that when I was dating, I had things that were 67 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: just like non starters, and so some of the things 68 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 1: that people wrote in I absolutely are on my itch list. 69 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 1: It would not even be I mean my answer to 70 00:04:02,320 --> 00:04:05,560 Speaker 1: their their query is hard no, like there, it would 71 00:04:05,560 --> 00:04:07,120 Speaker 1: just it would just stop the date. It would stop 72 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: the date. I would truly like excuse myself to the 73 00:04:09,440 --> 00:04:12,320 Speaker 1: bathroom and maybe put a phone a friend. I gotta 74 00:04:12,360 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: get picked up. You got to join us. Well, for me, 75 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:18,320 Speaker 1: if someone was like very boastful on a date or arrogant, 76 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:23,599 Speaker 1: know it all, arrogant, know it all, man splaining done yeah, no, done, 77 00:04:23,760 --> 00:04:29,040 Speaker 1: done and done. Yeah. I was pretty definitive about when 78 00:04:29,080 --> 00:04:31,320 Speaker 1: it was like, yeah, it was not. I didn't There 79 00:04:31,360 --> 00:04:34,159 Speaker 1: was no three strikes rule. There was one strike. Bye, 80 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: you could smell a strike. You get a whiff of 81 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: a strike and you're you're you're ubering home. Yeah, well 82 00:04:43,160 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 1: there was no uber No, we're taxiing home, We're going 83 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:47,160 Speaker 1: to the bar. We need to like. 84 00:04:47,160 --> 00:04:52,280 Speaker 2: Our flip flown Motorola's No, we're we're like no, I 85 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 2: mean yes, back in the day, no dating apps, you 86 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:58,919 Speaker 2: didn't know what you were getting into. There was no 87 00:04:59,040 --> 00:05:02,040 Speaker 2: profile for you to really right, Okay, the person's coming, 88 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 2: they're in an ed hardy shirt. That's an instant motorola. 89 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:12,839 Speaker 2: Flip call a cab. I'm sorry. Just flip that bad 90 00:05:12,880 --> 00:05:14,280 Speaker 2: boy right open. I'm out of here. 91 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:20,520 Speaker 1: Flip it closed. Let's close. Clap that thing closed. Clapp 92 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 1: Yeah you're done. 93 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:21,919 Speaker 3: Yeah. 94 00:05:22,080 --> 00:05:24,680 Speaker 2: I feel like there are also certain tattoos that are like, 95 00:05:25,440 --> 00:05:28,080 Speaker 2: I do love a tattoo, but if it's kind of 96 00:05:28,120 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 2: like almost that flamey tattoo kind of look, do you 97 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:31,600 Speaker 2: know what I'm talking? 98 00:05:31,960 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I mean I think like between the Ed 99 00:05:34,200 --> 00:05:37,599 Speaker 1: Hardy reference and a flamey tattoo, there's a certain guy 100 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:41,040 Speaker 1: I'm imagining this is a no go for you. Yeah, yeah, 101 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: that is a no go. We can get into what 102 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:45,359 Speaker 1: our x are at the front of this, so we 103 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:47,040 Speaker 1: can do that. I can tell you what my ex are, 104 00:05:47,400 --> 00:05:47,960 Speaker 1: or we can wait. 105 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 2: I think that you should say what some of yours 106 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 2: are and then we'll get into the cruise and we 107 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:51,560 Speaker 2: can talk. 108 00:05:51,640 --> 00:05:54,640 Speaker 1: That'll okay, you know, okay, spur some more for us. Well, 109 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:57,479 Speaker 1: I mean I can tell you that for me, the 110 00:05:57,640 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: arrogant or the know it all is a no go, 111 00:06:00,680 --> 00:06:02,880 Speaker 1: a really big one that obviously you'd have to get 112 00:06:02,880 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 1: a little deeper into the into the pool, into the 113 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: relationship to know if this was going to happen, but 114 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 1: not flushing the toilet. I really find that gross. Guys 115 00:06:11,720 --> 00:06:12,400 Speaker 1: who don't flush the. 116 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 2: Toilet thick, Yeah, that's gross. When people are rude, yeah, 117 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 2: I mean that standard. No one's like, god, I'm really 118 00:06:19,040 --> 00:06:19,600 Speaker 2: turned on by this. 119 00:06:20,760 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: I don't know. Some people find because some people that 120 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 1: are rude are perceived of as powerful and some people 121 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,520 Speaker 1: like that, and I'm no, if you're rude and in 122 00:06:30,600 --> 00:06:32,440 Speaker 1: consider of other people, I have take it back. Yeah, 123 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: that's some people are into that. Yeah. I think that 124 00:06:34,600 --> 00:06:37,040 Speaker 1: something that would detail onto that or be in that 125 00:06:37,120 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 1: in that in that wheelhouse, would be if people were 126 00:06:40,320 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 1: confrontational or like wanting to get into fights. I dated 127 00:06:43,760 --> 00:06:46,280 Speaker 1: a couple of those where I'm like, what the is happening? 128 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:49,760 Speaker 1: Why are you yelling at that person for being in 129 00:06:49,839 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: like your pathway when it's a public walkway, Like, what 130 00:06:53,200 --> 00:06:56,160 Speaker 1: is happening? Okay? Yeah, So another one I feel like 131 00:06:56,160 --> 00:06:58,559 Speaker 1: there's I think you can you could definitely groop mine together. 132 00:06:58,720 --> 00:07:02,080 Speaker 1: When people are super loud attention seekers, like in a 133 00:07:02,080 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: big group, when they're like them or they're like I mean, 134 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: I guess it's a little bit that bro culture. You 135 00:07:10,280 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: just like the the like hard like I love guys 136 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: who've got, you know, a brotherhood and a nice you know, 137 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: friendship circle. But I'm the bro thing. 138 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:20,760 Speaker 3: Not for me. 139 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,560 Speaker 1: No, no, no. In fact, if they have, if they 140 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:24,640 Speaker 1: were like, oh, I've got. 141 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:27,120 Speaker 2: A man cave that my I would instantly turned off 142 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:28,440 Speaker 2: by someone has a man cave. 143 00:07:28,880 --> 00:07:32,840 Speaker 1: No yeah, no, no, no, no, no no no. I Also, 144 00:07:33,680 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 1: I don't like when people are critical overly, so it's 145 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: kind of icky, like when people are pointing out other 146 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 1: people's flaws. I'm like, you don't have to do that much. 147 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, I have to say your icks so far, though, 148 00:07:43,880 --> 00:07:47,640 Speaker 2: I feel like are pretty standard. You're like, I don't 149 00:07:47,720 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 2: like it when someone's mean and they make fun of people. 150 00:07:50,920 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 2: Like no, dude, like, I need you to get I 151 00:07:54,080 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 2: need you to dig deep in your ix. 152 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: I need you need to be more specific, I said, 153 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: not flushing the toilet. I know that was a good one. 154 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:03,960 Speaker 2: I think that Like, if you look like you've spent 155 00:08:04,480 --> 00:08:05,679 Speaker 2: hours on your hair. 156 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:12,760 Speaker 1: Oh kind of problem. I agree. I agree. If there's 157 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: any kind of round brush or blow dryer involving your hair, Luke, 158 00:08:18,680 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: I don't. 159 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:24,640 Speaker 2: I can't if I can see my own reflection in 160 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:29,000 Speaker 2: your hair because the amount of gel machine. It's not 161 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 2: if it's shining, that's not going to lead to another date. 162 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:36,200 Speaker 1: No, no, no oh. 163 00:08:36,320 --> 00:08:42,520 Speaker 2: I also like, I also do not like the presumptuous man, 164 00:08:42,920 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 2: the man that's kind of like you're welcome, like this 165 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 2: is going further, Like I want you to like be 166 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:51,360 Speaker 2: on your toes, like I still do this to Matt. 167 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:52,839 Speaker 1: Matt's like, hey, you want to go on a date 168 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 1: to night, And I'm like, I don't know. I'll see 169 00:08:54,120 --> 00:08:57,480 Speaker 1: how I feel, you know what I mean? Like I 170 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:00,320 Speaker 1: like people with toes a little bit. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 171 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 1: call me later. I don't know. It's not a foregone conclusion. 172 00:09:03,280 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 1: Where you're sleeping, yeah yeah, yeah, where you sleeping? I 173 00:09:06,200 --> 00:09:09,280 Speaker 1: don't know, left, right side, We'll see. I do. I 174 00:09:09,320 --> 00:09:13,520 Speaker 1: like a little bit of mysteries still, So no, I 175 00:09:13,559 --> 00:09:15,880 Speaker 1: don't like. I don't like not to presume I'm coming 176 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:21,120 Speaker 1: to bed. Yeah, maybe on the couch. That just sounds 177 00:09:21,160 --> 00:09:24,320 Speaker 1: like the bedrock of a stable relationship you're talking about 178 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:27,319 Speaker 1: it does it? Does? I like to make him feel 179 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:33,400 Speaker 1: completely unstable. My girls have a lot of ick things 180 00:09:33,600 --> 00:09:37,240 Speaker 1: they do. Do they think that they I think that 181 00:09:37,360 --> 00:09:39,720 Speaker 1: they think again, I don't know if I've talked about 182 00:09:39,760 --> 00:09:42,240 Speaker 1: this before, but there was a moment where I actually 183 00:09:42,280 --> 00:09:45,199 Speaker 1: I feel that Jerry Maguire and The Notebook are required 184 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:48,440 Speaker 1: watching for We talked about this, but they were not 185 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:51,600 Speaker 1: into it. Yeah, they thought it was totally cringe, like, ew, 186 00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 1: why would he do that? And You're like, that's the 187 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:56,160 Speaker 1: most romantic thing that anyone's ever done in the history 188 00:09:56,200 --> 00:10:00,720 Speaker 1: of doing things on film, And they're like, oh, gross, wow. 189 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:02,640 Speaker 1: And then it'll be like things where there, I'll say 190 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:03,960 Speaker 1: why and I'll be like, because it looks like you 191 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: cares so much. Oh my god. 192 00:10:07,040 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 2: You're like, oh see, this is why things changed. Because 193 00:10:10,120 --> 00:10:12,080 Speaker 2: they they want a little they want they want some 194 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 2: hard to. 195 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:18,400 Speaker 1: Get talk about mystery, talk about mystery, talk about a challenge. Yeah. Yeah, 196 00:10:18,440 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: but you know, I've heard. I was actually in a 197 00:10:20,120 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: I was in a pitch meeting one time and I 198 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:25,400 Speaker 1: was pitching a romantic comedy and one of the executives 199 00:10:25,600 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: that was really young, like like maybe they were just 200 00:10:29,480 --> 00:10:32,560 Speaker 1: like letting her sit in on the meeting, young or new. 201 00:10:32,880 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 1: I guess we were talking about. Part of the pitch 202 00:10:36,679 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: was about how this couple meets and they meet on 203 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:43,040 Speaker 1: the street, and I'm I'm like, you know, giving the 204 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 1: story but why. And I get to the part where 205 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:47,120 Speaker 1: they're meeting on the street and she's like, ew wait 206 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:50,560 Speaker 1: what Yeah? I was like what she goes, oh, oh, 207 00:10:50,760 --> 00:10:53,640 Speaker 1: I would never trust someone that I met on the street, 208 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:56,199 Speaker 1: and like this. The lead up to the story was 209 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:58,360 Speaker 1: actually like everybody was bona fide like it was like 210 00:10:58,400 --> 00:10:59,920 Speaker 1: meant it wasn't it was a feel good rom call. 211 00:11:00,120 --> 00:11:01,719 Speaker 1: It was like you like you could depend on it. 212 00:11:01,720 --> 00:11:03,439 Speaker 1: It was like a bright and sunny, shiny world, right. 213 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:05,680 Speaker 1: And she was like, no, I would never because I would. 214 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:07,599 Speaker 1: I only trust people that I data I meet on 215 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:10,920 Speaker 1: dating apps. I mean, well for me, I'm like you 216 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:13,920 Speaker 1: dating apps right, like you dating talk about I know, 217 00:11:15,080 --> 00:11:18,040 Speaker 1: I know I used to go. Uh my sister was 218 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: on one of those at one point a long time ago, 219 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: and I remember looking through them and I was like, 220 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:25,320 Speaker 1: how many guys are going to talk about how like 221 00:11:25,400 --> 00:11:29,280 Speaker 1: their perfect date is like margs and guac Like, why 222 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:32,199 Speaker 1: is that a thing? Fy A total sidebar. I'm just 223 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:35,199 Speaker 1: saying that for some reason, all people on all dating 224 00:11:35,240 --> 00:11:38,400 Speaker 1: sites riyah hinge, all of them. You know what if 225 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 1: they wrote, can I tell you I just got an 226 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:42,319 Speaker 1: ic if. 227 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:46,920 Speaker 2: You write margs and guawk, Yeah, that verbiage. 228 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 1: I don't like the guawk. I'm not the marks. I'm 229 00:11:49,360 --> 00:11:51,920 Speaker 1: okay with, but the guawk is annoying to me. I 230 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:54,160 Speaker 1: don't know that I like margs either in this In 231 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,880 Speaker 1: this application, you're a grown man, Marxie. Yeah, yeah, swipe 232 00:11:58,440 --> 00:12:01,120 Speaker 1: or swiping? Oh well, you're gonna to swipe a lot. 233 00:12:01,280 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: I'm telling you. It's a popular answer. Oh no, no, no, 234 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:22,679 Speaker 1: I'm not swiping left on that. Yeah. No. Anyways, Okay, Well, 235 00:12:22,679 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: there are people who have called in and then they 236 00:12:24,520 --> 00:12:30,640 Speaker 1: have written in, and I gotta say thank you, thank you. 237 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:32,760 Speaker 1: Think you think you get into it? Are you ready? 238 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:34,880 Speaker 1: Let's go? Yeah? Yeah, okay, why don't you start and 239 00:12:34,920 --> 00:12:37,320 Speaker 1: then I'll do the next one? Okay. Domenica wrote in 240 00:12:37,520 --> 00:12:40,280 Speaker 1: and said when he double texts after a few hours, 241 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 1: I am busy, chill. I don't know if that's ick 242 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:47,880 Speaker 1: for me. I mean, also, just because they text doesn't 243 00:12:47,920 --> 00:12:51,719 Speaker 1: mean that I need to answer right away. Oh the 244 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 1: number two? Like people have different levels of busy. Maybe true, 245 00:12:55,240 --> 00:12:57,240 Speaker 1: but is it early on? I feel like if it's 246 00:12:57,280 --> 00:12:57,600 Speaker 1: in the. 247 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:00,400 Speaker 2: First like three weeks and you're doing it tax and 248 00:13:00,440 --> 00:13:02,839 Speaker 2: then another text, especially if it's a follow up, like hey, you. 249 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:05,559 Speaker 1: Want to go out tonight? Hey, do you want to 250 00:13:05,600 --> 00:13:06,160 Speaker 1: go out tonight? 251 00:13:06,520 --> 00:13:06,720 Speaker 3: Oh? 252 00:13:06,760 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah? Okay, all right, but not it's not 253 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 1: a hugeic for me either. Okay. 254 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:15,760 Speaker 2: Laura said when they bend over and their butt crack shows, 255 00:13:15,800 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 2: pull up your damn pants if you're an adult, No 256 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:18,959 Speaker 2: one's into that. 257 00:13:19,679 --> 00:13:24,360 Speaker 1: It's just sloppy. Yeah, that's sloppy. You could, but I 258 00:13:24,360 --> 00:13:25,520 Speaker 1: would put that in my eck bucket. 259 00:13:25,840 --> 00:13:27,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think, but that's what I'm saying. I 260 00:13:27,360 --> 00:13:29,800 Speaker 2: think it's in everyone's buckets, right. No one's like, ooh 261 00:13:29,880 --> 00:13:30,480 Speaker 2: ass crack. 262 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:33,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, she's Kimilla is really really holding the line here 263 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:35,679 Speaker 1: about what would be in everyone's as opposed to specific 264 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,160 Speaker 1: to you. I think, well, I think they were just generalized, 265 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 1: you know. 266 00:13:39,760 --> 00:13:43,160 Speaker 2: I mean if someone was like, they farted on my arm, 267 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:45,480 Speaker 2: no one's like, hmm, let me think about it, you know. 268 00:13:45,640 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 1: I mean, Okay. Amelia wrote in and she said an 269 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,760 Speaker 1: ick for her is having a velcrow wallet. See I 270 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:59,040 Speaker 1: like this because this is really specific. Can you tell 271 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:02,199 Speaker 1: me what a bellcrow wallet. I'm assuming it's a wallet 272 00:14:02,240 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 1: that's like not a zip. It's like you have to 273 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:09,000 Speaker 1: bell crow it open. Oh okay, you know what now 274 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:12,560 Speaker 1: I'm picturing it. At first, I was like, it's bell crow. 275 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:15,520 Speaker 1: Does it stick to something else? No, it's it's how 276 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:18,160 Speaker 1: it's fastened, it's how it's fat. That's what I'm assuming. 277 00:14:18,320 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 1: That's what I'm gonna go ahead and assume that's what 278 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:22,720 Speaker 1: it is. And I actually really like this because this 279 00:14:22,760 --> 00:14:23,080 Speaker 1: is what. 280 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 2: I feel like I'm talking about. This feels specific to me, 281 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:27,280 Speaker 2: not my ick. 282 00:14:27,400 --> 00:14:31,480 Speaker 1: It is a little like that's Amelia. That's Amelia specific ick. 283 00:14:31,960 --> 00:14:33,680 Speaker 1: If someone whipped that out to pay for the date, 284 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 1: would you be into that? The bell crow? The sound 285 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:42,400 Speaker 1: of the bell crow? Well, now thanks to her? 286 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:45,360 Speaker 2: No, no, now for me, it's a turn off too. 287 00:14:45,720 --> 00:14:48,720 Speaker 2: Amelia's made I turn off. Okay, Elidie said, when they 288 00:14:48,760 --> 00:14:51,080 Speaker 2: are rude to the weight staff or server, Oh, it's 289 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 2: over irredeemable. No, no, not even bye goodbye, not even 290 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 2: I don't want to dessert. I don't even want the 291 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:00,920 Speaker 2: main course. If we're appetite, I gotta go. 292 00:15:01,440 --> 00:15:03,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, there's definitely and there's an emergency at how am 293 00:15:03,800 --> 00:15:05,840 Speaker 1: I gotta get back to I'm interested to see what 294 00:15:05,840 --> 00:15:07,840 Speaker 1: you say about the next one. Okay, Rebecca, I wrote 295 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:09,520 Speaker 1: in and she said that what it gives her the 296 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:16,480 Speaker 1: X are two words baby talk. This has never happened 297 00:15:16,520 --> 00:15:18,520 Speaker 1: to me, and I'm very grateful. No one has ever 298 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:23,480 Speaker 1: given me do you do? Baby? Ever? Never is anyone 299 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:26,000 Speaker 1: giving you the baby voice you're thinking, I'm really thinking 300 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 1: about it. I feel like if they haven't, I can 301 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:34,200 Speaker 1: imagine one X I would die. I think I had laugh, 302 00:15:34,600 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: I would laugh, and we're not together anymore. So that's 303 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:40,720 Speaker 1: I mean, okay, but by the yes, that is a 304 00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 1: full blown neck if you baby, I don't need the 305 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:43,960 Speaker 1: baby voice. 306 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:49,160 Speaker 2: No, Angela said, when they are constantly adjusting themselves and 307 00:15:49,200 --> 00:15:50,000 Speaker 2: touching their. 308 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 1: Crotch constantly, I mean constantly, is the problem like a 309 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:59,960 Speaker 1: little shift? Okay? Fine? Mm. I mean I feel like 310 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 1: there's something that sometimes is necessary about that. In the anatomy, 311 00:16:03,640 --> 00:16:07,000 Speaker 1: I do believe that there are there are some constant 312 00:16:07,160 --> 00:16:10,720 Speaker 1: crotch adjusters out there. Oh I know there are. I 313 00:16:11,040 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 1: know some of them, and it's very distracting. Then it's 314 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:17,520 Speaker 1: an nick. Yeah it's a nick. Okay, Yeah, No, that's 315 00:16:17,520 --> 00:16:21,240 Speaker 1: a nick. Okay, this one. I'm Laney. I just I 316 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 1: already love you. Laney said that her ICs were picturing 317 00:16:25,960 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 1: them standing naked waiting for the shower to warm up, 318 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:31,200 Speaker 1: if they sleep talk and if they send me memes 319 00:16:31,200 --> 00:16:35,560 Speaker 1: that aren't funny. Oh Laney, Oh, I love it picturing 320 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 1: them standing naked waiting for the shower to warm up. 321 00:16:37,800 --> 00:16:39,920 Speaker 1: Not like actually watching them. 322 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 2: But like, you know, what's so funny is I can 323 00:16:45,080 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 2: kind of see why that could be a nick with somebody, right, 324 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:54,120 Speaker 2: because it's there. I could see if you're like, ooh, 325 00:16:54,200 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 2: I could get an ooh from that from certain people. 326 00:16:57,680 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 2: Don't you think because they're not in like a situation, 327 00:17:00,800 --> 00:17:02,600 Speaker 2: they're just waiting for the shower to be. 328 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 1: Just naked standing there. Yeah, I can see that that's 329 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:09,880 Speaker 1: just annoying or it can be a way. Yeah, and 330 00:17:10,040 --> 00:17:12,600 Speaker 1: the unfunny memes, I think you're just not on the 331 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 1: same page as that person. Yeah, yeah, that's a goodbye. Yeah. 332 00:17:17,920 --> 00:17:20,199 Speaker 2: The shower thing is really interesting to me. That's a 333 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 2: good one. It's because this is what I'm talking about 334 00:17:22,080 --> 00:17:24,720 Speaker 2: when you get really specific and it's like a very 335 00:17:24,960 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 2: that's interesting. 336 00:17:26,080 --> 00:17:27,560 Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not sure that I've ever seen that. 337 00:17:27,640 --> 00:17:29,760 Speaker 1: I don't know that I've ever know that I've ever 338 00:17:29,760 --> 00:17:33,399 Speaker 1: had a boyfriend who was just waiting their turn in 339 00:17:33,440 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 1: the waiting Room's sure You've never seen someone just waiting 340 00:17:36,600 --> 00:17:40,000 Speaker 1: for a shower to get warm. No, you're such a 341 00:17:40,040 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: little liar. I'm not. You've never seen Christopher waiting like, 342 00:17:43,840 --> 00:17:45,879 Speaker 1: turn on the shower naked and wait for him to 343 00:17:45,920 --> 00:17:48,119 Speaker 1: go in the shower. No, he just goes in to 344 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: cold water. Not even a little hand test. It's a 345 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:56,200 Speaker 1: little cry over Christopher before he gets in every more. Yeah, yeah, 346 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,640 Speaker 1: I mean he's yeah, he's self conscious. That makes sense. 347 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: The rest of us are waiting for it to get 348 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:04,480 Speaker 1: to a good temperature. Okay, okay, well then I've never 349 00:18:04,480 --> 00:18:08,600 Speaker 1: seen anyone wait, Camille said, when they talk with their 350 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: mouthful and get food all over the place. Immediate dick. 351 00:18:11,840 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 1: We talked about this, agreed total agreement. Okay, So Francesca said, 352 00:18:16,080 --> 00:18:21,600 Speaker 1: too much talking when we're having sex stop? Yeah, I yes, 353 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:25,800 Speaker 1: that is not so much. Also, like when someone's talking 354 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:28,879 Speaker 1: so much, you like it sort of feels like it 355 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 1: requires some talk back. Yay. Yeah, you're like yeah, if 356 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 1: that's not your jam, then you're like ah, and you're 357 00:18:35,320 --> 00:18:37,719 Speaker 1: just like ck stop, like just stop with the talking. 358 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:39,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, And then it's hard because you're like in the 359 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:41,080 Speaker 2: middle of sex, and then what are you going to do? 360 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:43,000 Speaker 2: Be like, hey, just can we just have a conversation 361 00:18:43,040 --> 00:18:48,200 Speaker 2: about just the talking, shutting up, shutting the up immediately 362 00:18:48,359 --> 00:18:50,240 Speaker 2: really during this amazing moment, I really like you to 363 00:18:50,240 --> 00:18:50,720 Speaker 2: shut up. 364 00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, no, no, no, that's done. Feels a little yeah no, 365 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:55,479 Speaker 1: But maybe I think maybe you need a little tea 366 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:57,360 Speaker 1: if you're into them. I think maybe you just need 367 00:18:57,400 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: a little team meeting after after that. I mean that's 368 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: because that that could be redeemed, that could be coached, right, 369 00:19:03,200 --> 00:19:05,440 Speaker 1: And I think that I always think that it's nice 370 00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 1: to go into moments like that with a compliment like 371 00:19:08,640 --> 00:19:11,399 Speaker 1: let it, let the event pass, and then maybe a 372 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:14,600 Speaker 1: little later you've got you know, you do a little 373 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:17,199 Speaker 1: round up. I just love that story you told gen sex. 374 00:19:17,280 --> 00:19:20,720 Speaker 1: But can we Yeah, you're cozy on the couch, you're 375 00:19:20,840 --> 00:19:23,040 Speaker 1: snuggling or whatever, and you give like a really big 376 00:19:23,080 --> 00:19:27,160 Speaker 1: compliment like something they did really really great, and then 377 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:32,080 Speaker 1: you swiftly follow it with a you know what, I 378 00:19:32,240 --> 00:19:32,520 Speaker 1: you know what. 379 00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 2: I like you shutting up. 380 00:19:35,240 --> 00:19:36,360 Speaker 3: I like you shutting up. 381 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 1: Take that exact advice. Do you like dirty talk because 382 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:43,159 Speaker 1: I like you to shut them? 383 00:19:44,080 --> 00:19:44,280 Speaker 3: Yeah? 384 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:49,000 Speaker 1: I like specifically yeah, and if you have a baby 385 00:19:49,040 --> 00:19:50,680 Speaker 1: talk it out, baby talk it too. Could you just 386 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:54,679 Speaker 1: like please, yeah, yeah, that's when you could whip out 387 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 1: the baby talk. Guess soften a little bit, soften it 388 00:19:57,480 --> 00:20:00,120 Speaker 1: a little bit. Yeah, have a compliment and then a 389 00:20:00,280 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 1: is what I would say for that. Yeah, yeah, okay. 390 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 2: Me've said when they are flirting, viattacks and they don't 391 00:20:06,000 --> 00:20:08,200 Speaker 2: know the difference between there there and there. 392 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 1: I'm with you and your and your This is hard 393 00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:16,400 Speaker 1: because like some people no no, no, no, no no, no, I'm. 394 00:20:16,359 --> 00:20:20,240 Speaker 2: I Some people have dyslexian things like that that makes 395 00:20:20,280 --> 00:20:21,480 Speaker 2: it hard for them to spell. 396 00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:27,359 Speaker 1: However, if it's confusing, Google is right there. That's the 397 00:20:27,359 --> 00:20:31,240 Speaker 1: only thing. I feel shamed. You feel stupid? 398 00:20:31,920 --> 00:20:36,720 Speaker 2: I don't, no, but I would feel like, yes I would. Yes, 399 00:20:36,840 --> 00:20:39,840 Speaker 2: it's not my favorite Travis Kelcey. I felt like, just 400 00:20:39,880 --> 00:20:42,160 Speaker 2: got in trouble for this, not in trouble, but people 401 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:42,919 Speaker 2: made fun of for this. 402 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,080 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, well it's actually this isn't an ick. This 403 00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:48,199 Speaker 1: is a pet peeve for me. Yeah. Yeah, it's like 404 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:50,480 Speaker 1: a pet. But I'm like, again, if if there's a 405 00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:52,760 Speaker 1: reason that you're doing it, then okay, But if there's not, 406 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:57,160 Speaker 1: then you're just lazy. Calarine Yeah wrote in and said 407 00:20:57,160 --> 00:20:58,920 Speaker 1: that it's an ick when he expects you to post 408 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:04,679 Speaker 1: him on social media a lot. Interesting, I wonder what 409 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:08,760 Speaker 1: I see. What's what's interesting is we Matt is never like, 410 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: why are not on your grid? 411 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 3: Yeah? 412 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 2: Look so I've never had this particular situation. 413 00:21:15,400 --> 00:21:17,399 Speaker 1: It's christer ever like, yeah, but we hold on. We 414 00:21:17,400 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: were talking about this early on and there was a 415 00:21:19,160 --> 00:21:20,879 Speaker 1: there was someone who wrote in and said, I'm not 416 00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:23,560 Speaker 1: on his grid. Like We've been together ten years and 417 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,440 Speaker 1: I'm not on his grid. So you know, there's there's 418 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:29,359 Speaker 1: clearly a little bit of you need to maybe contract 419 00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:31,080 Speaker 1: around this one. You need to like come up, you 420 00:21:31,080 --> 00:21:32,880 Speaker 1: need to figure out, you need to get a little curious. 421 00:21:32,960 --> 00:21:35,800 Speaker 1: You need to say, hey, when you're dating someone, like 422 00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:40,640 Speaker 1: what are your expectations? What do you like? Yeah? 423 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:41,160 Speaker 3: I like it? 424 00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, we need more information, Catherine. Have you been dating 425 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:47,959 Speaker 1: a long time and you're just refusing to put him 426 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:48,440 Speaker 1: on the grid? 427 00:21:48,640 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 3: Yeah? 428 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:50,760 Speaker 1: Why is Yeah? Is there a reason why he's not 429 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:53,120 Speaker 1: on the grid, Catherine. We need to dig deeper on this. 430 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:55,880 Speaker 1: Although if it's coming from a place of like you're 431 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: sort of newly dating and he doesn't understand why. 432 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 2: We have questions about this one. This is not an 433 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:04,080 Speaker 2: it necessarily for me. 434 00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:06,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, we need more info. 435 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:11,400 Speaker 2: Michelle wrote, when he can't make his own doctor's appointments, 436 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:13,800 Speaker 2: order food, I'm assuming, et cetera. 437 00:22:14,280 --> 00:22:16,440 Speaker 1: So he's a big old baby. That is an ick? 438 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: That is that is an ick? I'm I'm almost like 439 00:22:22,760 --> 00:22:30,919 Speaker 1: your own person. Yes, super annoying. Agreed, Yes, he said 440 00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:32,920 Speaker 1: this is the one I was talking about earlier. Yes, 441 00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:36,919 Speaker 1: he's ick, Yes, he's ick. Is running with a backpack on? 442 00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:40,879 Speaker 3: That is? 443 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,360 Speaker 1: Literally? This is one. 444 00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:46,280 Speaker 2: Yes, I love this one. It's not an ick for me. 445 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:49,040 Speaker 2: It's not an ick for me? 446 00:22:49,760 --> 00:22:50,360 Speaker 1: Is it for you? 447 00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:50,720 Speaker 3: Oh? 448 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:53,040 Speaker 1: I think you're thinking about it a little bit. No, 449 00:22:53,119 --> 00:22:55,080 Speaker 1: it's not, it's not at all. I think it's just 450 00:22:55,200 --> 00:22:59,040 Speaker 1: it's so specific and it's so funny to me. And 451 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:01,199 Speaker 1: once I imagine someone running with a backpack on, I 452 00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,080 Speaker 1: think it's actually more funny. It actually might be an 453 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:05,199 Speaker 1: it might be what's the opposite of annick? And in 454 00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 1: turn on, it's a turn on for you. Oh. Odyssey 455 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:15,160 Speaker 1: wrote dirty fingernails, that's the snick for everyone? Ew yeah, 456 00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:19,399 Speaker 1: I think yeah, that's an eck for sure. Yeah, okay. 457 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:22,080 Speaker 1: Jason wrote in and said when she constantly interrupts everyone 458 00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 1: to talk about herself red flag, less of anick and 459 00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:27,439 Speaker 1: more of a red flag for me. 460 00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, we were just talking about this at the beginning. 461 00:23:29,320 --> 00:23:32,960 Speaker 2: When a guy does the same thing, not into it. Also, 462 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:34,800 Speaker 2: they're not they don't care about you then. 463 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:39,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, unless you feel like there's a nervousness factor. Yeah, 464 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,240 Speaker 1: you know some people when they get nervous, they get 465 00:23:41,280 --> 00:23:44,280 Speaker 1: a little little me or they don't. They just can't 466 00:23:44,320 --> 00:23:47,000 Speaker 1: control how much they're talking. So that could be the 467 00:23:47,040 --> 00:23:50,560 Speaker 1: case with that, that's true. You would know though by 468 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,159 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks in. I think, yes, if it was, 469 00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:56,359 Speaker 1: maybe it's alter Yeah, yeah, yep, I agree with that. 470 00:23:56,720 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 2: Danielle when he licks all five fingers while eating doing 471 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:02,880 Speaker 2: a first date ever, not. 472 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:06,280 Speaker 1: Even a first date, don't ever do Why are you 473 00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 1: looking all five? 474 00:24:08,760 --> 00:24:12,720 Speaker 2: Maybe one if you need to, like you picked up 475 00:24:12,760 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 2: a halwing right and it's like maybe you. 476 00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:17,000 Speaker 1: Gotta like lick a couple, but like the whole the 477 00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:20,320 Speaker 1: five I was gonna say, I think there's like truly 478 00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:23,000 Speaker 1: one allowance for this kind of behavior, this kind of 479 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 1: finger licking behavior, and it is at a barbecue place, 480 00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:29,399 Speaker 1: Like I get it, ycause you're you're not using a 481 00:24:29,440 --> 00:24:32,200 Speaker 1: fork and knife you can try, but very hard to 482 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,920 Speaker 1: use a fork and knife to eat you know, some 483 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:38,320 Speaker 1: baby back ribs or some hot wings. Yeah, but napkins exist, 484 00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:40,159 Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? Yeah, you don't have 485 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:44,400 Speaker 1: to put them in, you don't, but all five well, 486 00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 1: I'm envisioning like almost like a methodic, like that's what 487 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:50,760 Speaker 1: I'm Yeah, that's what I'm saying. You're taking your going. 488 00:24:50,800 --> 00:24:53,720 Speaker 1: It is so gross. I agree, it disgusting and I 489 00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,359 Speaker 1: think you'll definitely have dirty fingernails off of that. Ew 490 00:24:57,040 --> 00:25:04,080 Speaker 1: mm hmmmm. Okay. Messina and said it's a nick for 491 00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:09,360 Speaker 1: her when he says something weird after having sex. Good bands, 492 00:25:09,920 --> 00:25:13,960 Speaker 1: good bones? What the does that even mean? If it's British? 493 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,600 Speaker 2: I feel like it could potentially be well, hang on, 494 00:25:16,680 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 2: now I've got to google it. I was gonna say 495 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:23,240 Speaker 2: good banter, the bands good hang on, we gotta google it. 496 00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 1: Hang on, it's British. She was from the UK? Is 497 00:25:26,560 --> 00:25:27,160 Speaker 1: she from the UK? 498 00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 2: Cause this means I feel like good yeah, good bands? Yeah, 499 00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:32,840 Speaker 2: it's it's banter. 500 00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:34,880 Speaker 1: So I was wrong. 501 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:39,119 Speaker 2: It's good for good bones, good bones. I'm thinking like 502 00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:39,719 Speaker 2: you're boner. 503 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:42,600 Speaker 1: No, he's talk about his boner. 504 00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:46,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, No, I'm maybe so like I'm assuming he means 505 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 2: like you're hot, right, like good bones, like you got 506 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:51,640 Speaker 2: a good body. I don't know a TV show came 507 00:25:51,720 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 2: up from like you know, from HG TV good bones. 508 00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,840 Speaker 1: I'm assuming either way. I don't even know why, am I. 509 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:06,679 Speaker 1: It doesn't matter it they both suck, they're both so icky. Yeah. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, 510 00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:08,760 Speaker 1: no good bands, no good bones. I don't think that. 511 00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:11,200 Speaker 2: I don't think that you need to like recall it 512 00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:14,280 Speaker 2: in on TV when you have like a scene and 513 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:16,240 Speaker 2: then we call it a button at the end of 514 00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:18,480 Speaker 2: a scene right where you like wrap it up with 515 00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:19,320 Speaker 2: a cute little call. 516 00:26:19,600 --> 00:26:23,800 Speaker 1: I don't think sex needs a button. No, no, no, no, no. 517 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:28,800 Speaker 2: This feels like a button. Okay, okay, okay, okay. Cheryl 518 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:32,040 Speaker 2: has a friendship pick. When you go on a trip 519 00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:35,200 Speaker 2: with your friend and wake up to her having phone 520 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:36,440 Speaker 2: sex next to you. 521 00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 1: What what curtis courtesy? Please? I have so many questions. 522 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:45,600 Speaker 1: Are you on speaker, like do you have the pods? 523 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:48,720 Speaker 1: And no, it doesn't matter, I mean it doesn't that's 524 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:53,000 Speaker 1: so gross. That feels like some boundary violations. Yeah that's yeah, 525 00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 1: that's a boundary violation for sure. Yeah. Yeah, I go 526 00:26:57,040 --> 00:27:00,320 Speaker 1: to the bathroom. Ew, gross, Just don't do it when 527 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:06,600 Speaker 1: your friend's right there. No, no, no, yeah, okay, Oh, 528 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 1: I think God pretty sure that this is going back 529 00:27:10,040 --> 00:27:13,480 Speaker 1: to our baby talk situation. But Maddie wrote in when 530 00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:24,040 Speaker 1: he instead of sorry, he says, swey what what that's 531 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:29,600 Speaker 1: he might be associated God, run stuff like that. Run run. 532 00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:32,160 Speaker 1: That's a character in a movie. By the way, that's 533 00:27:32,160 --> 00:27:34,200 Speaker 1: so even a real person like. 534 00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:37,119 Speaker 2: That, saying that, you know how the FBI have like 535 00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 2: a profile of like what a serial. 536 00:27:38,960 --> 00:27:39,560 Speaker 1: Killer could be. 537 00:27:40,359 --> 00:27:43,640 Speaker 2: That's probably one of that's probably one of the top 538 00:27:43,680 --> 00:27:45,239 Speaker 2: five characteristics. 539 00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, saying have you totally off topic for a second, 540 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:51,439 Speaker 1: but did you see the preview for the new Netflix 541 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:55,560 Speaker 1: show that Anna Kendrick Anna or Anna Anna Kendrick an 542 00:27:55,720 --> 00:28:00,359 Speaker 1: Kendrick uh has where I think she will she starring 543 00:28:00,359 --> 00:28:02,160 Speaker 1: in it and she directed it, and it's all about 544 00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,440 Speaker 1: having been on the Dating Game and how it was 545 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:07,600 Speaker 1: a real life story where one of the guys, Oh, yes, no, 546 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:11,800 Speaker 1: I've seen this now I've seen the documentary. Oh, he 547 00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 1: was literally on the dating game and a serial killer 548 00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 1: and he was he ended up a stealer, a serial killer, 549 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:20,359 Speaker 1: a serial killer. Yeah, And I bet he said, sawy, 550 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:22,199 Speaker 1: I bet, he said sowey. 551 00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:28,600 Speaker 2: Okay, Kayley said, well this is we know what generation 552 00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 2: this is. I'm sorry Kaylee about this. He said skibbety 553 00:28:34,400 --> 00:28:37,160 Speaker 2: When I gave him a bracelet, I made nope, I'm 554 00:28:37,200 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 2: assuming that you know what skibbity is. 555 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:40,080 Speaker 3: Me. 556 00:28:40,760 --> 00:28:43,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got a skibbity. But it's a nonsense word. 557 00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 1: It doesn't mean anything. Nobody knows what it means for real. 558 00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:48,200 Speaker 1: Is Luke right there? 559 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:50,720 Speaker 2: Because I feel like I like Luke would know skibbey 560 00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:53,400 Speaker 2: means well, it's less. 561 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,080 Speaker 1: It's actually even a little. That's it would be young 562 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,240 Speaker 1: for him. It's more than twelve thirteen year old boys. 563 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:01,160 Speaker 1: But it's the non sense word and it drives the 564 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 1: girls crazy because it's a nonsense word. It doesn't it 565 00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,200 Speaker 1: doesn't mean anything. You can look it upon Urban dictionary. 566 00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 1: That's not so annoying something that they say to be annoying. Yes, 567 00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,760 Speaker 1: this is a horrible He's just annoying. He's itchy and annoying. 568 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,320 Speaker 1: So Stephanie says, when they tip poorly at a restaurant, done, 569 00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:31,600 Speaker 1: I think that I would want to know? Yeah, I 570 00:29:31,640 --> 00:29:33,680 Speaker 1: think I mean I would. This would be my set 571 00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: if I really was into him. I think if I 572 00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:38,360 Speaker 1: wasn't that into him, I would be like, no, we're done. 573 00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:42,040 Speaker 1: But an ick. If I was into him, I think 574 00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:45,440 Speaker 1: that I would want to know why not that doesn't 575 00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:49,240 Speaker 1: have the money or is unappreciative, wouldn't do why are you? 576 00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,800 Speaker 1: Why are you being? Why are you tipping so little? Yeah? 577 00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:55,880 Speaker 2: I think that, like listen, it's a service? Was the 578 00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:59,280 Speaker 2: kind of service I used to give? Then I understand 579 00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,240 Speaker 2: one just sounded. 580 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,520 Speaker 1: Like a call girl. By the way, have the service 581 00:30:04,880 --> 00:30:06,280 Speaker 1: serve as I used to give? 582 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:11,000 Speaker 2: No, I'm talking about waiting tables, and it was not 583 00:30:11,240 --> 00:30:15,440 Speaker 2: a good experience for anyone that I helped. So if 584 00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:17,680 Speaker 2: this sucks, yeah, I understand it. But if it's a 585 00:30:17,720 --> 00:30:20,400 Speaker 2: standard dinner, then what are you doing? 586 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:21,200 Speaker 1: It's weird? 587 00:30:21,720 --> 00:30:24,840 Speaker 2: Okay, Meghan said, when he has a full time job, 588 00:30:25,080 --> 00:30:29,240 Speaker 2: established career, but still lives at home because he wants Mommy. 589 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:34,120 Speaker 1: To take care of him, run it to the nth degree. 590 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:36,120 Speaker 1: It's not even just an ick. I feel like it's 591 00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:39,720 Speaker 1: like a red flag. Yeah, it's a non starter. Done, 592 00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 1: run go. 593 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:44,040 Speaker 2: Here's the thing when you move out when a boy 594 00:30:44,280 --> 00:30:46,560 Speaker 2: and maybe I'm going to get the comments all riled up. 595 00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:49,840 Speaker 2: But I think if a boy like this moves out 596 00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:57,280 Speaker 2: that attachment, that that situation doesn't end. Mommy darist is 597 00:30:57,320 --> 00:31:01,080 Speaker 2: still doing the laundry, or she's involved more with the 598 00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 2: like that. I think it's just it's not as a 599 00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:04,520 Speaker 2: red flag. 600 00:31:04,760 --> 00:31:07,680 Speaker 1: I think about this as a parent to a young son, 601 00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 1: and I think about it all the time because I'm like, 602 00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:13,840 Speaker 1: I'm such an acts of service as like a love language, 603 00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,320 Speaker 1: Like I love doing things for people I love, and 604 00:31:17,360 --> 00:31:18,960 Speaker 1: that's great, and I don't want that to be taken 605 00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:23,520 Speaker 1: away from me. But I know when you're doing it 606 00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:26,080 Speaker 1: for your young son or daughter, I guess, but I 607 00:31:26,080 --> 00:31:28,360 Speaker 1: think it is a little bit more particular to sons 608 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:33,400 Speaker 1: and this application. It's like, are you just creating a monster? 609 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:40,160 Speaker 1: Are you just creating an expectation of your mama doing 610 00:31:40,520 --> 00:31:42,640 Speaker 1: all the stuff? It's so hard. 611 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:44,960 Speaker 2: It's a catch twenty two because as a as a 612 00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:47,480 Speaker 2: female navigating the world, we know these boys. 613 00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:49,760 Speaker 1: I don't want to date this boy. Do I want 614 00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:53,400 Speaker 1: to mommy this boy? Yeah? Does Lucas want to live 615 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:54,000 Speaker 1: with me forever? 616 00:31:54,760 --> 00:31:55,040 Speaker 3: Sure? 617 00:31:56,120 --> 00:32:04,360 Speaker 1: That's the big deal. Wee how we look as you're 618 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:05,080 Speaker 1: living mommy? 619 00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:06,880 Speaker 3: Oh my god? 620 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:12,080 Speaker 1: Okay, Okaynie wrote in when he wears his jeans so 621 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:14,760 Speaker 1: skinny you can see every part of his balls. That 622 00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:19,440 Speaker 1: would be that wouldn't date, wouldn't happen for me. I 623 00:32:19,480 --> 00:32:19,880 Speaker 1: don't know. 624 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 2: The picture could be from the waist up. You wouldn't 625 00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:28,480 Speaker 2: know until he walks in. Yeah, oh yeah, if. 626 00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,360 Speaker 1: There's not a wide shot in the profile. Oh, then 627 00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:33,160 Speaker 1: I think I would do like a kickball change and 628 00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:38,600 Speaker 1: then a moonwalk back out the door. Oh my god, no, 629 00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,640 Speaker 1: I don't. I'm not. I don't like skinny jeans on boys. 630 00:32:41,720 --> 00:32:43,920 Speaker 1: It's not my I don't like it either. Put it 631 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:46,000 Speaker 1: in the ed hardy bucket. But yeah, they don't have 632 00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:50,080 Speaker 1: to be like even ball tight. It's just tight. I'm 633 00:32:50,080 --> 00:32:51,400 Speaker 1: not just tight in general. 634 00:32:51,440 --> 00:32:53,840 Speaker 2: I need it to feel like there's an airflow going 635 00:32:53,880 --> 00:33:01,440 Speaker 2: on in there, you know, circulation. Yeah, okay, Tracy, friendship 636 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 2: dick when they pick their significant other over you all 637 00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:07,640 Speaker 2: the time? 638 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 1: Yep, not nick, Yeah it is a nick. Sorry it is. 639 00:33:10,640 --> 00:33:12,280 Speaker 1: I hate this, I know. 640 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:15,680 Speaker 2: Okay read the last write in because we have an 641 00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:18,120 Speaker 2: excellent voicemail. 642 00:33:18,360 --> 00:33:21,280 Speaker 1: To get to. All right, So rounding up the right ends, 643 00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:24,840 Speaker 1: Mollie wrote in when he's getting dressed and puts his 644 00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:27,320 Speaker 1: top on first and then stands there looking like Winnie 645 00:33:27,360 --> 00:33:28,280 Speaker 1: the Pooh. 646 00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:33,920 Speaker 2: Oh my god, this is a great it naked from 647 00:33:33,920 --> 00:33:38,440 Speaker 2: the waist down, just the T shirt on. This is 648 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:45,600 Speaker 2: that's fantastic. I do see how that. I here's the thing. 649 00:33:46,200 --> 00:33:48,240 Speaker 2: When you've been with someone for a really long time, 650 00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:51,239 Speaker 2: I think the X kind of go away right, Like 651 00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:54,320 Speaker 2: your husband could be Winny the poohing and you're like whatever, 652 00:33:54,600 --> 00:33:57,280 Speaker 2: you know, like who cares. But in the early days 653 00:33:57,280 --> 00:34:01,400 Speaker 2: of dating, if I had a Winnie the Pooh situation, yeah. 654 00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:03,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, it could be. That's like a phone as soon 655 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:05,080 Speaker 1: as you walk out the door. That's like a phone 656 00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:06,800 Speaker 1: call to a friend being like I can't do it. 657 00:34:07,920 --> 00:34:08,640 Speaker 1: I can't do it. 658 00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:10,600 Speaker 3: I got. 659 00:34:12,120 --> 00:34:15,680 Speaker 1: Enough members. We can't do this. I can do this anymore. 660 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:20,719 Speaker 1: Can you ever recover from the egg? In the instances, 661 00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:22,560 Speaker 1: In the instances where I felt that I could, I 662 00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:27,160 Speaker 1: pointed that out like that there's there gonna be an ick, 663 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:29,640 Speaker 1: and then you can get you can get a little 664 00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:32,040 Speaker 1: effective work and be like, oh, why are you doing that, dick, 665 00:34:32,040 --> 00:34:33,799 Speaker 1: and then you can find out you could recover. But 666 00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:36,920 Speaker 1: if it's just an ick that's going on in like forever, no, 667 00:34:37,080 --> 00:34:39,920 Speaker 1: I can't like no, no, Oh my gosh. I had 668 00:34:39,920 --> 00:34:41,440 Speaker 1: a boyfriend one time. My girls know this, and I 669 00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:42,880 Speaker 1: don't know why. They think it's really funny because you 670 00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:44,160 Speaker 1: know why, because he's in a movie and they always 671 00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,759 Speaker 1: see him and they're like, but I dated this guy 672 00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:49,719 Speaker 1: who was like. It wasn't even very I don't know, 673 00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:51,320 Speaker 1: it wasn't even that big of a deal. It was 674 00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:53,600 Speaker 1: kind of like a hangout situation. But we were boyfriend 675 00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:56,879 Speaker 1: girlfriend and we went grocery shopping and I'll never forget. 676 00:34:56,960 --> 00:34:58,840 Speaker 1: We're standing at Trader Joe's. We were in the produce 677 00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:02,279 Speaker 1: aisle and I was like reaching for something, I don't know, 678 00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:05,600 Speaker 1: some lettuce or some carrot or something, and he was 679 00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,480 Speaker 1: He came out of nowhere and I felt something like 680 00:35:08,600 --> 00:35:10,880 Speaker 1: on my stomach as we're a little crop top and 681 00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:14,400 Speaker 1: he stuck his finger in my belly button ew and 682 00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:20,440 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god. And I got very serious 683 00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:21,680 Speaker 1: and I was like, why did you just stick your 684 00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:25,560 Speaker 1: finger my belly button? And he was like, oh, it's funny. Ew, 685 00:35:25,640 --> 00:35:29,239 Speaker 1: what are you for done? We did not recover from that. 686 00:35:29,239 --> 00:35:31,319 Speaker 1: That was done. That was the day it ended. Bye. 687 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:33,840 Speaker 1: Literally drove home. I couldn't get home fast off. I 688 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,000 Speaker 1: was like, bye, how long? 689 00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:37,879 Speaker 2: Okay, wait, hang on, I did to know how long 690 00:35:37,920 --> 00:35:40,360 Speaker 2: you've been dating for before the finger in the belly button? 691 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,719 Speaker 1: Even just hearing you say it, Chris is no, it 692 00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:46,279 Speaker 1: is gross. I hate it saying it. Yeah, ew, like 693 00:35:46,320 --> 00:35:47,439 Speaker 1: you'd been on a few days. 694 00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:49,920 Speaker 2: I'm assuming if you're shopping together at Trader Joe's, like 695 00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:51,960 Speaker 2: it's been a couple of months. 696 00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:53,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah know, yeah, we've been dating. Yeah, 697 00:35:53,960 --> 00:35:55,719 Speaker 1: we've been dating for a minute. I don't know. It 698 00:35:55,760 --> 00:35:57,400 Speaker 1: was kind of off and on too, but we've been 699 00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:00,719 Speaker 1: dating for probably around like three or four months. Oh 700 00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:06,640 Speaker 1: my god, and that's what killed it? Yeah, wow, yeah, dead. 701 00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:11,799 Speaker 1: I do. I do think that. I'm not sure you 702 00:36:11,800 --> 00:36:13,279 Speaker 1: can recover from a lot of X. 703 00:36:14,080 --> 00:36:14,239 Speaker 3: No. 704 00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:15,840 Speaker 1: I don't think some either. Oh my god, you know what. 705 00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:17,319 Speaker 1: I had to just down and see now they're all 706 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:19,479 Speaker 1: going to come flat. Okay, go, this is what I love. 707 00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:25,960 Speaker 1: Another one actor dating and I was actually super into him. 708 00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,879 Speaker 1: He came over for like a second or third date, 709 00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:37,160 Speaker 1: and he brought printed out brought eight by ten glossy 710 00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:43,000 Speaker 1: stills photographs, printed photographs from his last movie to show me, 711 00:36:44,360 --> 00:36:49,120 Speaker 1: like laid him out on my dining room table up, Jessica, 712 00:36:49,160 --> 00:36:51,799 Speaker 1: I was like supposed to ask for an autograph too. 713 00:36:52,239 --> 00:36:57,759 Speaker 2: My soul just left, My body got out, and I was. 714 00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:01,640 Speaker 1: Living in this tiny little condo in West Hollywood, and 715 00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:03,919 Speaker 1: it was like, I mean, and it was a big 716 00:37:03,960 --> 00:37:05,880 Speaker 1: movie or whatever. He was excited. I get it, but 717 00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:08,400 Speaker 1: it was so itck. 718 00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:10,800 Speaker 2: You do that with a girlfriend. With a girlfriend, you 719 00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:12,279 Speaker 2: can one hundred percent do that. You can be like, 720 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:14,680 Speaker 2: oh my god, because I'd like these stills. Yeah, on 721 00:37:14,719 --> 00:37:19,600 Speaker 2: a third or fourth date. Yeah, God, that would have 722 00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:21,920 Speaker 2: absolutely killed it done. 723 00:37:22,080 --> 00:37:23,560 Speaker 1: I mean, it was. It was the beginning of the 724 00:37:23,640 --> 00:37:25,120 Speaker 1: end there, don't I was, like I said, I was 725 00:37:25,120 --> 00:37:26,840 Speaker 1: into him, so I let it go a little was longer. 726 00:37:27,320 --> 00:37:29,160 Speaker 2: Okay, I have to add a little bit more than 727 00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:31,000 Speaker 2: to my date with that guy that showed up in 728 00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:34,480 Speaker 2: the convertible, the actor. Yeah, okay, So there are a 729 00:37:34,480 --> 00:37:36,960 Speaker 2: couple more icky things about that date. First off, just 730 00:37:37,000 --> 00:37:40,480 Speaker 2: in general, he I'm assuming he's picking me up to 731 00:37:40,520 --> 00:37:42,000 Speaker 2: go on like a one on one date. He takes 732 00:37:42,080 --> 00:37:46,439 Speaker 2: me to this big Hollywood party with so many people there. 733 00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:50,239 Speaker 1: It someone's house on the hills. It's not my vibe, right, Like, 734 00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:52,279 Speaker 1: and he's like schmoozing, like. 735 00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,640 Speaker 2: I can tell that he's maybe I leave you, And 736 00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:57,240 Speaker 2: he kind of left me in the crowd a few 737 00:37:57,280 --> 00:38:00,319 Speaker 2: times where I was like just by myself, like I 738 00:38:00,320 --> 00:38:02,680 Speaker 2: don't want I don't care, Like I don't care. 739 00:38:02,560 --> 00:38:05,600 Speaker 1: That it's a lot of blue Blah's house, Like who cares? 740 00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:07,759 Speaker 1: Like I don't care about these people? Can we just 741 00:38:07,800 --> 00:38:10,560 Speaker 1: go to dinner? Then we went to go see a show. 742 00:38:10,640 --> 00:38:13,600 Speaker 1: Cause I'm getting so specific, he'll definitely know it's happened. 743 00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:16,480 Speaker 1: We went to a show and he was like, I 744 00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:17,960 Speaker 1: want to take this is the same night, Like I 745 00:38:17,960 --> 00:38:19,359 Speaker 1: want to take you to the show to like see 746 00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:23,440 Speaker 1: this band. Fine, I'll go. Never had dinner. 747 00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:27,760 Speaker 2: Went to this show and he could sing really well, 748 00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:33,239 Speaker 2: and he sung louder than the band, and it was 749 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:37,160 Speaker 2: very like I'm not getting in the crowd. The lead 750 00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:41,080 Speaker 2: singer was overtaken by his voice, and I was like 751 00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:43,840 Speaker 2: I wanted to crawl into a hole. I was like, 752 00:38:43,880 --> 00:38:45,840 Speaker 2: oh my god, you want everyone to know that you're 753 00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:47,040 Speaker 2: an amazing singer. 754 00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:49,719 Speaker 1: You're hungry because he hasn't there's been no food on 755 00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:51,719 Speaker 1: this day. You've already been to a Hollywood party, and 756 00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:53,120 Speaker 1: now he's. 757 00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:59,120 Speaker 2: It was just so many vocal yo these actors. Oh god, anyway, 758 00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,319 Speaker 2: I mean the story is that we can I mean 759 00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:04,520 Speaker 2: I can't tell some of the stories. But okay, let's 760 00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:05,480 Speaker 2: play this voicemail. 761 00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:06,440 Speaker 1: Let's do it. 762 00:39:06,960 --> 00:39:09,359 Speaker 3: I call it crew. So I'm also going to put 763 00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:11,640 Speaker 3: this in the comments. But I needed to leave a 764 00:39:11,719 --> 00:39:15,080 Speaker 3: voicemail because I feel so passionately about this topic. 765 00:39:15,680 --> 00:39:16,120 Speaker 1: The ick. 766 00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:19,960 Speaker 3: I too very easily get the ick, and so I 767 00:39:20,000 --> 00:39:21,840 Speaker 3: need to know that I am not alone in this. 768 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:24,640 Speaker 3: I need to know am I toxic? Or is this normal? Okay? 769 00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:27,319 Speaker 3: Number one ick when a guy only has selfies on 770 00:39:27,360 --> 00:39:28,840 Speaker 3: his social media, that's. 771 00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:30,600 Speaker 1: Weird behavior, agreed. 772 00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:35,520 Speaker 3: Number two when they try to make everything, every every 773 00:39:35,560 --> 00:39:39,040 Speaker 3: normal conversation into something sexual like oh yeah, about to 774 00:39:39,080 --> 00:39:44,480 Speaker 3: take a shower? Oh without me like the GTFO. Number 775 00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:48,279 Speaker 3: three just overall like rude in thinking that they're better 776 00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:52,000 Speaker 3: than everyone around them, talking about how much money they 777 00:39:52,040 --> 00:39:55,080 Speaker 3: have and just trying to flex all the time. Absolutely 778 00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:58,719 Speaker 3: not Number four and oh I feel so passionately about 779 00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:04,560 Speaker 3: this one. Too much talking during you know time, like sir, 780 00:40:04,640 --> 00:40:07,240 Speaker 3: I did not sign up for this survey, please dot talking. 781 00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:12,200 Speaker 3: And then number five when every single girlfriend everyone they've 782 00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:15,799 Speaker 3: ever dated was obsessed with them in crazy because I'm 783 00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:18,799 Speaker 3: just I'm calling fake news on that one. So yeah, 784 00:40:18,920 --> 00:40:22,520 Speaker 3: those are just a couple. Love the show, love the podcast. 785 00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:26,440 Speaker 3: You ladies are doing fantastic, So thanks, love you. 786 00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:29,800 Speaker 1: Oh I love her. I love how passionate she is, 787 00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:31,800 Speaker 1: and I love how specific she is, and I agree 788 00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:33,839 Speaker 1: with all of her ex What was the last one? Again, 789 00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:36,040 Speaker 1: The last one was when they think that all their 790 00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:39,040 Speaker 1: ex girlfriends were obsessed with them and that they and 791 00:40:39,600 --> 00:40:42,600 Speaker 1: we're totally crazy. I think how someone speaks about their 792 00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:47,399 Speaker 1: axes is very important, because, I mean, chances are you'll 793 00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:49,319 Speaker 1: be one one day, right, Like the numbers are not 794 00:40:49,760 --> 00:40:52,520 Speaker 1: so the odds are not in your favor. For no, 795 00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:54,160 Speaker 1: not really, I do. 796 00:40:54,520 --> 00:40:57,400 Speaker 2: I definitely think it's a red flag when someone refers 797 00:40:57,520 --> 00:41:01,160 Speaker 2: to all of their exes as crazy. I just think 798 00:41:01,200 --> 00:41:03,920 Speaker 2: that it's like this throwaway it actually it's not even 799 00:41:03,920 --> 00:41:04,239 Speaker 2: an ick. 800 00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:06,960 Speaker 1: It just drives me crazy. I think it's just this 801 00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:09,239 Speaker 1: very easy way. 802 00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:11,720 Speaker 2: To dismiss an X as being like, oh she was crazy, 803 00:41:12,760 --> 00:41:14,160 Speaker 2: and it's like, well, no doubt, did you do? 804 00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:16,600 Speaker 1: My question is always like what did you do? 805 00:41:17,000 --> 00:41:17,200 Speaker 3: Yeah? 806 00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:20,040 Speaker 1: No, for sure, it's sort of It definitely really means 807 00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:23,120 Speaker 1: that they're crazy. Yeah, yeah, I feel that. I feel that, 808 00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:25,400 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, well this could go on forever, because 809 00:41:25,440 --> 00:41:27,319 Speaker 1: there really are so many different ways that we as 810 00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:30,040 Speaker 1: human beings can annoy each other and tick each other out. 811 00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:33,280 Speaker 1: So we've shared some of ours, you've shared some of yours. 812 00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:35,040 Speaker 1: I'm feeling that there might be more out there in 813 00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:38,960 Speaker 1: the world. Hit us in the comments. Please keep it coming, Yeah, 814 00:41:39,080 --> 00:41:39,760 Speaker 1: keep them coming. 815 00:41:39,800 --> 00:41:43,560 Speaker 2: They're so funny, and I like them because they're giving 816 00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:45,840 Speaker 2: me more reasons to have a HICs. 817 00:41:46,320 --> 00:41:50,280 Speaker 1: Exactly, yes, exactly, just a little more critical, critical, critical 818 00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,520 Speaker 1: thoughts out in there in the world. All Right, I 819 00:41:53,560 --> 00:41:55,800 Speaker 1: love you, and I love this and I love our crew, 820 00:41:55,880 --> 00:41:59,680 Speaker 1: and I'm very very thankful for all of this incredible material. 821 00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,920 Speaker 1: So thank you for making the show. And I think 822 00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,759 Speaker 1: that it's now time to call it the end, the 823 00:42:05,880 --> 00:42:07,239 Speaker 1: end of the episode.