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Speaker 3: My husband just suggested trying out a polly relationship with me,

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Speaker 3: You skipped a couple steps my man. Okay. So, my

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Speaker 3: husband forty three male and I forty three female, have

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Speaker 3: been married for twenty three years. We have never dated

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Speaker 3: or even kissed anyone else. Our story is long with

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Speaker 3: separate it. So as we have gotten older, we have

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Speaker 3: become more open minded, for me in particular, just learning

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Speaker 3: and breaking free of what society and really and have

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Speaker 3: boxed as acceptable relationships. Pushing back against those statistics that

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Speaker 3: say people get more conservative as they age. Look at

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Speaker 3: you go. My husband has always felt like something was

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Speaker 3: missing in his heart and mind our whole marriage. There

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Speaker 3: have been about five times in our relationship where he

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Speaker 3: has met someone that helps a little bit of this whole.

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Speaker 3: But as we were both clearly monogamous, I was very

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Speaker 3: upset to the point of not being able to function,

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Speaker 3: and we would take a break. Yeah that's fair. So

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Speaker 3: he's just like falling in love with other people five times. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's He's like, no, there's a hole in the marriage.

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Speaker 3: I got emotionally cheat and she's like, yeah, I got.

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Speaker 3: I got so upset about it. I don't know why.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not rational. We've already talked about it and

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Speaker 1: we've realized I'm the I'm the problem. Of course, he's

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Speaker 1: falling in love. He's just a lover.

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Speaker 3: He's just a lover.

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Speaker 1: Boy.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like rocket science.

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Speaker 3: And in the end we would always come back together.

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Speaker 3: Nothing physical was ever done, but the emotional cheating was

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Speaker 3: heartbreaking for me. I now have more of an open mind, however.

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Speaker 2: To be open.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: She's actually saying what we're saying. She's like, no, no, no,

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Speaker 3: Like I was so closed off before, I am now

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Speaker 3: open minded. I can see that he was right.

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Speaker 1: I can now see the proper way to love.

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Speaker 3: Uh Kimi on Comfen says, But I was thinking he

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Speaker 3: was definitely filling holes. He said, after doing some research

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Speaker 1: Mmmmm, Yeah, I was doing some research. I was really

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Speaker 1: hitting the books, but not in general.

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Speaker 3: Specifically a woman from five years ago who he had

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Speaker 3: one of the connections with. She had cut it off

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Speaker 3: because she wanted a physical relationship with him, but he

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Speaker 3: couldn't cross that line. He just crossed every other line,

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Speaker 3: and because she was so upset, her husband found out

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Speaker 1: Yeah, why did it not work?

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Speaker 3: Well?

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Speaker 1: She wanted to be more physical and he didn't, and

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Speaker 3: This is crazy. But now he wants to date and

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Speaker 3: stay married to me, he said. Eventually he wants us

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Speaker 3: both to be in equal types of relationships with him,

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Speaker 3: And Okay, I can think about this and see if

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Speaker 3: it's something I would be comfortable with. The problem is,

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Speaker 3: things started back up with them seriously about four months ago.

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Speaker 3: About a month ago, they started making out and kissing,

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Speaker 3: and he just told me about this today. Early, he's

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Speaker 3: cheated on you.

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Speaker 1: That's so funny that he's like, maybe if I just

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Speaker 1: disclosed that I was.

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Speaker 3: Cheating, yeah, then it's totally fine.

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Speaker 1: I could pull a Jedi mind trick here. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Oh, he is renaming cheating. She's like, no, no, no, it's

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Speaker 3: just like a really strong bond. It just kind of

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Speaker 3: goes past our marriage vows. I don't understand it. But

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Speaker 2: I guarantee you. He was like, no, no, no, no, babe,

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Speaker 1: Other, right, so that you don't understand.

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Speaker 3: Marriage exists in stages. For the first five years, we're

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Speaker 1: Exactly, babe. I'm We've talked about this. I'm a lover.

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Speaker 3: I'm a lover. Okay. He wasn't even going to mention

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Speaker 1: All right, didn't he just disclose that when he's like,

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's like, all right, I plan to take over

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Speaker 1: And that's when you say, no, I'm not okay with that.

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Speaker 1: I'm leaving you, doctor Dufin Schmertz. I'm not cool with this.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and that's why doctor Dufinn Schmertz is divorced. His

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Speaker 3: want is to be with me like we have been,

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Speaker 3: something I had been pondering for myself. So I'm wondering

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Speaker 3: So I am thinking on it, but it's really hard

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Speaker 1: She's like saying everything except cheating.

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Speaker 3: I'm upset I got cheated on, Like she's not labeling it.

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Speaker 3: You got cheated on, You're allowed to be upset about that.

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Speaker 3: To make matters worse. A year ago, I felt really

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Speaker 3: ill and have been on disability ever since. So I

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Speaker 3: her and moving forward, but that he does want things

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Speaker 3: if that's what I want and to let him know.

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Speaker 3: Wild am I putting too much importance on the kiss

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Speaker 3: and overreacting on what he's done already. I also asked

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Speaker 3: He's like, I think you'd just be so jealous with

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I would keep my other girlfriend completely

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I think. Well, what I was kind of thinking

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Speaker 1: Purely for vibes. Yeah, yeah, it's nothing personal. No, all right,

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Speaker 1: it's just this is it's all just based on.

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Speaker 3: Vib okay, and if you're not okay with that, I

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Speaker 1: You're sounding like a bit of a hater right there. Okay,

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Speaker 1: let's spread some love.

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Speaker 3: I don't really have anyone to talk to, and I

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Speaker 3: know Polly needs a lot of honesty and openness, but

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Any Advisor thoughts are greatly appreciated.

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Speaker 1: Thanks, please tell me.

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Speaker 3: We have comments, Oh so many, so many.

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Speaker 2: I don't think Polly works.

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Speaker 3: It's a hazard, I guess. I don't think Polly works

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Speaker 1: Usually you have to go like, hey, maybe we should

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Speaker 1: that thing that you talked about, not the other way.

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Speaker 3: Around, the other way around, not the other way around,

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Speaker 3: because if you do it the other way around, that's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's take it out of the context of relationships.

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Speaker 1: I already got another one. It's in the driveway.

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Speaker 1: That's just not how that works.

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Speaker 3: It's actually it's a hummer. I know you wanted a

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Speaker 2: How Chet's like, this is an open relationship.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you're already in an open relationship. I don't know

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Speaker 2: It was open for them. I guess you just gotten

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Speaker 2: Cat left wrong email?

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Speaker 3: Sorry you got broken into You got to lock that door.

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Speaker 3: But there are some Eleon comments. Minie Sparrow, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 3: This is heartbreaking and as others have mentioned, it's cheating.

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Speaker 3: would not stop there. You don't need a face this alone.

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Speaker 3: Please reach for additional support and do not for a moment,

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Speaker 3: feel that you are the bad guy here. Your husband

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Speaker 3: with my health and losing all the plans I've had

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Speaker 3: for my life. I've been dealing with depression on and off,

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Speaker 3: I have no one to turn to for support, hence

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Speaker 3: coming to the internet. Well, I'm hopeful I can be

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Speaker 3: brave enough to reach out to a loved one soon.

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Speaker 3: Cat Mouse three says, Unfortunately, Polly is based on communication

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Speaker 3: and being on the same page, and him doing all

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Speaker 3: said something first. Jos he would have went further and

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Speaker 3: not told you he cheated on you. Honey. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 3: but it's only Polly if you know about it. Ope,

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Speaker 3: he said. I told him this that it's based on

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Speaker 3: don't know if I can get over it or not,

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Speaker 3: because I am curious if Polly is something that I

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Speaker 1: This is written like it's like, well, this is my

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's more just like a you just want different

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Speaker 3: I set the boundaries that I didn't want to see

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Speaker 3: No, she's already aware that she's ruined your marriage. She

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Speaker 3: He sounds selfish, immature and selfish. Did I already say

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Speaker 3: But godspeed, lady. I mean again, it's not a red

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Speaker 3: She doesn't care. She cheated on her husband to get

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Speaker 3: He showed you who he is. Oh, he says, Oh,

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Speaker 3: I won't do it.

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Speaker 3: What is his strict moral code.

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Speaker 1: To be a bad guy?

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Speaker 3: It certainly is the strict moral code that most people

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Speaker 1: When I'm in love, I love conquers all. He's like,

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Speaker 3: He's like, I just follow my own ten commandments first

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Speaker 3: The serfs up these mi ladies. That that is Opie's

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Speaker 3: She holds all the power and that's not fair to me.

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Speaker 3: Man tried to Henry the eighth his wives. He's like, well,

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Speaker 1: Execute her and then get a new wife.

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Speaker 3: Yes. Op. When told when she is ready to get

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Speaker 3: It's a twenty five marriage. You don't have to rush

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Speaker 3: But that is the end of that story, and it

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Speaker 1: Yeah, hopefully the right one. There's that is, I mean

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Speaker 3: Yes, and that is a good path to be.

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Speaker 1: On, good path to be on. And there's also a

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Speaker 1: path that you can be on. Oh yeah, it wasn't

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Speaker 1: listen to full episodes with stories just like the one

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Speaker 3: But we're going to jump into the next door.

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Speaker 1: My stepmother betrayed my father while he was terminally ill.

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Speaker 3: And you know what we do with traders, We.

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Speaker 1: Throw them in the trader hole. So my twenty seven

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Speaker 1: since I was five, so for over twenty years. I've

438
00:19:12,560 --> 00:19:15,639
Speaker 1: never particularly been close with her family. I was a

439
00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:18,199
Speaker 1: little bit of a problem child with adhd off the

440
00:19:18,280 --> 00:19:20,879
Speaker 1: charts and would always get in trouble, so I was

441
00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:23,919
Speaker 1: never really included by her family. Plus she's always just

442
00:19:23,960 --> 00:19:27,280
Speaker 1: been pretty overtly rude with no self awareness, and I

443
00:19:27,280 --> 00:19:29,800
Speaker 1: wouldn't put up with it and would talk back, which

444
00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:32,200
Speaker 1: is also probably a reason. By the way, this comes

445
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Speaker 1: from user. That's rare, and if you want to submit

446
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Speaker 1: your own stories, go to the r slash Okay storytime subredit.

447
00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:40,639
Speaker 1: They would be cordial with me, but after twenty years

448
00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:44,639
Speaker 1: we still never were family. However, Cindy to me was

449
00:19:44,920 --> 00:19:47,000
Speaker 1: and I loved her as if she was a second

450
00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:50,359
Speaker 1: mother to me because she was. My dad got diagnosed

451
00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:54,760
Speaker 1: with Parkinson's dementia with Louis body features over a year ago,

452
00:19:54,960 --> 00:19:58,840
Speaker 1: which sounds horrendous. He required full time care over time

453
00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:01,679
Speaker 1: and progressively forgot how to do basic tasks to the

454
00:20:01,680 --> 00:20:03,879
Speaker 1: point where he lost all his dignity. He fell and

455
00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,119
Speaker 1: broke his ribs in the house. Cindy decided it was

456
00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:08,040
Speaker 1: time to put him in the hospital for full time

457
00:20:08,160 --> 00:20:10,919
Speaker 1: care until he passed. This was in August of twenty

458
00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:14,240
Speaker 1: twenty four. Oh wow, so this is like reson. Since

459
00:20:14,320 --> 00:20:18,080
Speaker 1: then I was visiting my dad, preparing for my newborn child,

460
00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:21,119
Speaker 1: who was just born April second, recovering from a major

461
00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:24,640
Speaker 1: surgery which is a six month recovery process, among other issues.

462
00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:26,919
Speaker 1: To say, this winter has been hard for me is

463
00:20:27,000 --> 00:20:30,320
Speaker 1: a vast understatement. I had tried to stay in contact

464
00:20:30,359 --> 00:20:33,000
Speaker 1: with Cindy. I'd send her messages and when we would

465
00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:35,320
Speaker 1: meet at the hospital, I'd tell her, if she ever

466
00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:37,800
Speaker 1: needs me, don't hesitate to call me. I would tell

467
00:20:37,840 --> 00:20:40,320
Speaker 1: her that I always had worried once my dad passed

468
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:42,680
Speaker 1: that her side of the family would just completely write

469
00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:45,520
Speaker 1: me off because I've never really been included. The age

470
00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:48,800
Speaker 1: gap between me and all of Cindy's children is pretty

471
00:20:48,840 --> 00:20:52,600
Speaker 1: wide as well. Over time, she became increasingly more distant

472
00:20:52,600 --> 00:20:54,480
Speaker 1: and cold with me. I would call her and try

473
00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:56,760
Speaker 1: to converse, and it would go like, Hey, I'm out

474
00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:58,720
Speaker 1: with a friend, call you later bye. I would drive

475
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:00,880
Speaker 1: past the house on the way home from the hospital

476
00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:04,240
Speaker 1: because it was on my drive home, and periodically notice

477
00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,320
Speaker 1: a vehicle there I was unfamiliar with.

478
00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:11,760
Speaker 3: Mmmmm, maybe it's just the tax guy.

479
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:13,720
Speaker 1: Maybe she's just doing her taxes.

480
00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:15,879
Speaker 3: Do we think about that is a tax season?

481
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Speaker 1: OPI Still I had my hunch, but didn't say anything

482
00:21:19,560 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 1: because to me, the thought of her effing with someone

483
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:25,200
Speaker 1: else while my dad is passing away in the hospital

484
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:28,240
Speaker 1: just made no sense to me. It couldn't possibly be true.

485
00:21:28,320 --> 00:21:31,280
Speaker 1: My father did pass on January twenty third, and I

486
00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,479
Speaker 1: got to sit at the hospital with his body and

487
00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:35,679
Speaker 1: cried for hours.

488
00:21:36,160 --> 00:21:39,280
Speaker 3: And to think, like your stepmother during that time is

489
00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:41,600
Speaker 3: potentially cheating? Is his horrendous?

490
00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 1: Pretty gross, pretty gross of her. A few weeks later,

491
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Speaker 1: we had our baby shower and I had invited Cindy

492
00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:51,399
Speaker 1: weeks in advance. Was hosted by my sister, and she

493
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 1: was more than welcome to come. The day of the shower,

494
00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,320
Speaker 1: she texts me and says, I won't make it. I

495
00:21:57,400 --> 00:22:01,360
Speaker 1: had plans with Billy, her son bye, and I said, okay, well,

496
00:22:01,400 --> 00:22:03,520
Speaker 1: if you change your mind, let me know. Love you.

497
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:07,439
Speaker 3: But OP invited her weeks in advance, and she just

498
00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:08,320
Speaker 3: made these plans.

499
00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:09,280
Speaker 1: I got Billy plans.

500
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 3: You know, you know Billy he comes into town. N

501
00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:14,880
Speaker 3: got a clear guy.

502
00:22:15,000 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 1: Schedule's cleared. When Billy walks in, he's like Sanna. Still

503
00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:22,960
Speaker 1: to me, that was pretty sauce. Fast forward a few

504
00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:25,240
Speaker 1: weeks and I go over there to collect my father's

505
00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: ashes and she texts me on the way and goes,

506
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:31,280
Speaker 1: don't go into the garage. I'll tell you later. Weird,

507
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:33,920
Speaker 1: But okay, I go into the graash. Yeah, I'm going

508
00:22:33,920 --> 00:22:34,439
Speaker 1: in the garage.

509
00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:36,240
Speaker 3: Going right into the grush.

510
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 1: So I get there, we talk, I get a small

511
00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:42,760
Speaker 1: necklace from my father, and I eventually asked how the

512
00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:46,119
Speaker 1: door got broken. She was reluctant to tell me at first,

513
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:49,040
Speaker 1: saying it was broken, but wouldn't tell me who broke it.

514
00:22:49,080 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 1: So I pretty much confirmed my hunch at that point.

515
00:22:52,200 --> 00:22:54,439
Speaker 1: After twenty years of being in my life, there's not

516
00:22:54,480 --> 00:22:56,880
Speaker 1: many people I don't know, so for her to hide

517
00:22:56,920 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 1: a name is really weird. I tell her she can

518
00:22:59,359 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 1: just come clean because I know already, and she tells

519
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,399
Speaker 1: me she didn't want me to hate her. So she

520
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:07,560
Speaker 1: tells me how since August, which is when my dad

521
00:23:07,600 --> 00:23:10,240
Speaker 1: got put in the hospital, she's been effing around with

522
00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 1: a guy named Jerry, eighty male. How old is she? Seventy? Okay, now, Jerry,

523
00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:23,480
Speaker 1: she informs me, isn't a new acquisition. Prior to my father,

524
00:23:23,600 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 1: she had another husband named Ralph, and he was around

525
00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:30,000
Speaker 1: for about twenty years. This guy has existed in her

526
00:23:30,040 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 1: life since before Ralph.

527
00:23:32,280 --> 00:23:35,160
Speaker 3: That's crazy. Why didn't you just marry him?

528
00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 1: No, since your twenties. You're seventy now, this guy's been messing.

529
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:40,280
Speaker 1: You've been meddling with the guys as you were in

530
00:23:40,320 --> 00:23:40,880
Speaker 1: your twenties.

531
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Speaker 3: I think twenty years ago.

532
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:45,359
Speaker 1: Twenty years and then another twenty years Ralph. For twenty

533
00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 1: years prior to my father, she had a husband named Ralph.

534
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:49,560
Speaker 1: He was around for about twenty years. So that's twenty

535
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:53,119
Speaker 1: years with Ralph, twenty years with Opie's dad. Yeah, why

536
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:56,720
Speaker 1: and why even get with Opie's dad And this guy's

537
00:23:56,800 --> 00:23:58,080
Speaker 1: just there the whole time?

538
00:23:58,400 --> 00:24:00,959
Speaker 2: Wow, guarantee you money?

539
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 1: Oh does he have the chi ching or no? The

540
00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:08,520
Speaker 1: dad had the chi ching and this guy's got the shwing. Gotcha? Okay,

541
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:13,080
Speaker 1: So she was effing this guy before Ralph, just as

542
00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:15,959
Speaker 1: a fling, she informs me, and then she booted him

543
00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:19,080
Speaker 1: to the curb for Ralph. Ralph passes away, She gets

544
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:21,919
Speaker 1: with Jerry again for a few months, meets my dad

545
00:24:22,080 --> 00:24:25,119
Speaker 1: and then boots Jerry to the curb again. My dad

546
00:24:25,119 --> 00:24:28,880
Speaker 1: starts passing away, picks Jerry back up. She also told

547
00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:31,400
Speaker 1: me that before Dad went to the hospital, Jerry showed

548
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: up there one day talking about I've driven past this

549
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,520
Speaker 1: house for years, working up the courage to come down there.

550
00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:40,160
Speaker 1: She allegedly showed him off. Jerry is also the reason

551
00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:43,359
Speaker 1: the door is broken on the garage Apparently she told

552
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: him that she doesn't want to have a relationship, and

553
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,400
Speaker 1: he got mad, came over while she was gone and

554
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:52,000
Speaker 1: busted the garage door that my dad had built himself.

555
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 3: Man's in good shape for an eighty year old.

556
00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:56,399
Speaker 1: Well, I imagine he just drove the car into it.

557
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 3: That also works, That could do it. This is kind

558
00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:00,480
Speaker 3: of a plot of The Notebook. But if it were

559
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 3: like over the course of eighty years and just really toxic, yeah,

560
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:05,320
Speaker 3: I mean, the Notebook is quite No.

561
00:25:05,240 --> 00:25:07,440
Speaker 1: The Notebook is a perfect love story with no problems.

562
00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:09,960
Speaker 1: As we've already determined on this show. Just don't look

563
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:13,720
Speaker 1: into it. Don't look don't than the first scene. Just

564
00:25:13,760 --> 00:25:16,240
Speaker 1: look at the surface level and think about, ooh, how

565
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 1: they kiss in the rain? Ooh, how they kiss in

566
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:18,520
Speaker 1: the rain.

567
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 2: Where they lie on the sidewalk or the street and

568
00:25:21,960 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 2: almost get run over.

569
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:26,240
Speaker 1: You have a multi generational f boy.

570
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:29,440
Speaker 3: That's crazy, like he's he's obsessed with you, man.

571
00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:31,320
Speaker 2: She yes, and she likes it.

572
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:36,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she's like no, no's like you the courage

573
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: to stay around. Yeah, however long you'll keep me, I'll

574
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,040
Speaker 1: come back. I just drive by your house and I

575
00:25:42,600 --> 00:25:44,600
Speaker 1: hope one day I have the courage to say something.

576
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:46,240
Speaker 1: She's like, you grow, shut up, get out of here.

577
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it probably is. He probably has some version

578
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:52,479
Speaker 3: of like Ryan Gosling's like that woman that Ryan Gosling

579
00:25:52,560 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 3: is saying, and then the second that is it Rachel mccadams, yeah,

580
00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,600
Speaker 3: comes back. He's like okay, bye, yeah, ye oh bye.

581
00:25:58,720 --> 00:26:00,679
Speaker 3: Opie stepmother is Rachel McAdams.

582
00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 1: But they're like, okay, get.

583
00:26:02,359 --> 00:26:02,760
Speaker 3: Out of here.

584
00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 2: She knew though, She's like, yeah, you don't like me. Yeah, yeah, fine, Yeah.

585
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,399
Speaker 3: I mean you gotta know if if this man is

586
00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 3: willing to come back over the course of eighty years

587
00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:14,840
Speaker 3: after being like kicked out of her life three times,

588
00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 3: he has very little self respect?

589
00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:20,159
Speaker 1: Who yeah, well, hey, you know what, he might have

590
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 1: a lot of self respect, But I gotta respect Jerry's

591
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,760
Speaker 1: hustle at eighty. Yeah, man, I gotta respect Jerry's hustle

592
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: at eighty. You can't stop bullstop at eighty as a man.

593
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 1: As a man in love. We talked about a lover

594
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 1: in our last story.

595
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, this is a lover. Boy.

596
00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:33,920
Speaker 1: That guy is a lover.

597
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:36,879
Speaker 3: Yeah. He is a strict moral code and it's just

598
00:26:37,400 --> 00:26:40,760
Speaker 3: it's just Opie stepmother okay, so he busts. So he

599
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,960
Speaker 3: busts the garage door. He busts the garage door.

600
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 1: She had also been letting him keep his things in

601
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:51,400
Speaker 1: the garage, frequently going on dates with him, buying him

602
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:55,040
Speaker 1: a three hundred dollars stereo set, so I can understand

603
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:58,680
Speaker 1: his confusion. But still, mind you, this is the day

604
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:01,720
Speaker 1: I go over to get my ashes of my one

605
00:27:01,800 --> 00:27:05,240
Speaker 1: month pasted away father. She drops the I've been effing

606
00:27:05,280 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 1: someone else while he's in the hospital on me. While

607
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,880
Speaker 1: i'd be visiting him, he'd be calling her name out,

608
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:14,959
Speaker 1: while she's probably at home getting weinered down by Jerry

609
00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:19,199
Speaker 1: in my father and hers bed. It is a disgusting

610
00:27:19,280 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 1: thought for me. Well, yeah, because it's disgusting.

611
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,119
Speaker 3: Mean, just in general disgusting though.

612
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 1: Just the horrifically disgusting.

613
00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:28,800
Speaker 3: Softful thing. Yeah, I keep.

614
00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 1: It cordial, but I am fuming at this point and

615
00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: try to divert the conversation. She mentions going to this bar,

616
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,159
Speaker 1: and I offer to go with her so we can

617
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 1: get some time together, and she goes, why would I

618
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:41,080
Speaker 1: bring you to the bar when I'm trying to pick

619
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,320
Speaker 1: up guys? Like, how sick in the head do you

620
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 1: have to be. At this point, I excuse myself to

621
00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: go outside and fix her headlight on her car for her,

622
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,159
Speaker 1: but also to get some air. You gotta yeah, you

623
00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 1: gotta hit with the I've gotta go to the store

624
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:56,119
Speaker 1: and get some headlight fluid. Yeah, your headlight fluid is

625
00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:58,360
Speaker 1: low and there. Yeah, and then you drive around for

626
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: forty five minutes and rethink your life. Yeah. I go

627
00:28:01,359 --> 00:28:04,159
Speaker 1: outside to the garage and notice all my dad's stuff

628
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:08,320
Speaker 1: moved around and taken out, my stuff rifled through. Cindy

629
00:28:08,359 --> 00:28:11,400
Speaker 1: wouldn't have done this, and she also mentioned Jerry rearranged

630
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: the garage to make it cozier for that.

631
00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 3: She's incredibly too comfortable talking about the man that she

632
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 3: cheated on Opie's father for Yes, no she doesn't.

633
00:28:22,400 --> 00:28:23,520
Speaker 2: She's seventy.

634
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, this is her.

635
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:26,840
Speaker 2: Usually older people just don't have any filter.

636
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:27,600
Speaker 1: This is her.

637
00:28:28,400 --> 00:28:31,320
Speaker 3: I mean like Sebdy's not even that, Like I don't know,

638
00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:32,960
Speaker 3: it's not like crazy.

639
00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 2: Old my dad's at that day jam where he just

640
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:37,119
Speaker 2: does not care. He'll just say whatever, am I I

641
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:37,479
Speaker 2: don't know.

642
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 3: My aunt's like I have an on an uncle at

643
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,120
Speaker 3: that agent, like there are still still.

644
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 2: They're still I'm saying everyone every older person like that.

645
00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 2: But this is just older people just don't there at

646
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 2: that point, like, I just don't care.

647
00:28:49,000 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't think. I don't think Cindy's picking up anybody.

648
00:28:51,800 --> 00:28:53,800
Speaker 1: I think if Cindy tries to pick somebody up, she

649
00:28:53,960 --> 00:28:57,280
Speaker 1: breaks in half. She's seventy anyway. And I also notice

650
00:28:57,320 --> 00:29:00,000
Speaker 1: his address written on a notepad on the lawn chair

651
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:03,880
Speaker 1: in the garage, so I know it was this effort.

652
00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 1: Why is his address written on a notepad on a

653
00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:08,040
Speaker 1: launch handed garage?

654
00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 3: All people just come behind me.

655
00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, they have a way with him.

656
00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 3: We shall fight at dawn at this address.

657
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:16,680
Speaker 1: Is that him? Like, is he starting a duel?

658
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's him going through the DMS.

659
00:29:19,040 --> 00:29:20,480
Speaker 3: Right road down your gauntlet.

660
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:24,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the equivalent of a DM old, an eighty

661
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:25,280
Speaker 1: year old man.

662
00:29:25,440 --> 00:29:27,680
Speaker 3: He left a note with his address that just says

663
00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 3: you up.

664
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:32,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, public Al when was this first night he strip

665
00:29:33,000 --> 00:29:36,120
Speaker 4: down his name and address and the time At the moment, yeah,

666
00:29:36,160 --> 00:29:39,479
Speaker 4: he's like here, and I just wrote a text message.

667
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:42,640
Speaker 3: If you're up at ten pm? Maybe nine? I go

668
00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 3: to sleep early.

669
00:29:43,680 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: I just gotta figure out how to get this piece

670
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 1: of paper into my phone. Anyway, at this point, I

671
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:51,239
Speaker 1: lose it. I start crying hysterically. I broke a thing

672
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,360
Speaker 1: or two of mine. Then I go into the house

673
00:29:53,360 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: and tell my girlfriend and two daughters to go outside.

674
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,640
Speaker 1: And I'm still crying, but completely cordial and non violent,

675
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:02,040
Speaker 1: And I ask Cindy why the f she would do this,

676
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:05,120
Speaker 1: and if he's the reason she skipped my baby shower,

677
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: and surely it off he was. She did indeed go

678
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:12,480
Speaker 1: over to Billy's house, her son, but also brought Jerry

679
00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:16,960
Speaker 1: along to introduce him to her family, her sons and grandkids.

680
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:20,320
Speaker 1: That's why she skips my baby shower. I didn't even

681
00:30:20,360 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 1: want gifts from her. I just wanted her there and

682
00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: to keep our relationship alive for my dad's sake. My

683
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:28,400
Speaker 1: dad didn't get to pass away with dignity. He lost

684
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:32,120
Speaker 1: himself to Parkinson's and the last bit he had was

685
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:35,760
Speaker 1: his relationship, and he couldn't even get that. She at

686
00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 1: the flip of a coin, and I'm assuming because she

687
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,640
Speaker 1: had been drinking, starts berating me. Get out of the house.

688
00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 1: Now you're never welcome back here again. You have thirty

689
00:30:45,720 --> 00:30:47,800
Speaker 1: days to get your things and never come back. Which

690
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 1: hold up, wait a minute, is this are you even

691
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 1: able to do that.

692
00:30:51,800 --> 00:30:53,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, whose house does this belong to?

693
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 1: Because it might be you know, I really want the

694
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:57,720
Speaker 1: UNO reverse card to hit her with that.

695
00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like, well, yeah, thirty days. Actually you have

696
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 3: thirty days.

697
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: And then he goes back and he's like, actually you

698
00:31:02,720 --> 00:31:08,479
Speaker 1: have two weeks. Yeah, I have a freaking Hopefully Jerry's

699
00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 1: got a house for you. I hope Jerry uses that

700
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:15,080
Speaker 1: big strong arms. He used a dental garage door to

701
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:16,920
Speaker 1: help you move all your crap out of the house.

702
00:31:17,080 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 1: She was saying things like, if I had more of

703
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 1: a say in your life, you maybe you'd be more

704
00:31:21,680 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: of a man. Because I was crying, and she also

705
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: dropped he forgot how to f me a year ago.

706
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:33,840
Speaker 1: Oh well, yeah, you you monster. He's gonna have neurodegenerative disease.

707
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:37,360
Speaker 1: You're with him for twenty plus years. Oh my god,

708
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: you're ready to think.

709
00:31:38,440 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 3: Like also, just the kind of audacity to be like, well,

710
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 3: I not even gonna wait. It's sense cool to say this,

711
00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:48,280
Speaker 3: but like to not even wait a year to see

712
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,120
Speaker 3: someone like rapidly decline and be like, well I can't

713
00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 3: even wait like a couple months. I'm just gonna do

714
00:31:52,080 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 3: it while they're like actively passing.

715
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, while they're languishing.

716
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:58,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, how do you even have time for greatly? You're

717
00:31:58,480 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 3: not even there for your partner?

718
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:04,000
Speaker 1: What a what a just shining example of you know

719
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 1: a great senior citizen here, so he's been around for

720
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:11,520
Speaker 1: twenty years and you couldn't wait until he at least passed.

721
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 1: She even had the nerve to tell me I couldn't

722
00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: get the rest of my father's ashes. She had the

723
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:18,520
Speaker 1: main urn, but I was going to bring a smaller

724
00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:21,600
Speaker 1: one later on to be filled alongside my necklace. She

725
00:32:21,680 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 1: effing has the nerve to tell me I can't get

726
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 1: my dad's ashes. At this point, I just leave. I

727
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:30,280
Speaker 1: assume her responses were that way because she knows she's wrong,

728
00:32:30,360 --> 00:32:32,640
Speaker 1: but she's always been too dang prideful to admit it.

729
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 1: And by the way, I am not too prideful to admit.

730
00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:38,880
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733
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Speaker 1: It's as easy as that. You can listen all the

734
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,760
Speaker 1: livelong debt. True, you have a little bit more story left.

735
00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,000
Speaker 1: I think we're all on the same page here.

736
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:56,160
Speaker 3: I would say, so let's go.

737
00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:59,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, A month has passed at this point, and I

738
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: tech to discuss the day I'm picking my things up.

739
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:05,480
Speaker 1: I'll just attach those text messages in a link because

740
00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:06,920
Speaker 1: I don't want to type it out. But you can

741
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:09,680
Speaker 1: see the altercation that we had there. She had the

742
00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: audacity to have Jerry text me off her phone threatening

743
00:33:13,360 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 1: me in response to my text asking her to leave

744
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 1: me alone. No communication has been had since the incident.

745
00:33:19,640 --> 00:33:22,200
Speaker 1: That isn't in the text provided. So am I the

746
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:25,320
Speaker 1: A hole? Dang, no info house, No, you're not the

747
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:27,680
Speaker 1: able No, what do you mean? Am I the A hole?

748
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:30,520
Speaker 3: You're not the one who was in a twenty forty

749
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 3: year cheating relationship that wasn't you?

750
00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:36,080
Speaker 1: I get it. I'm sure, Op, you already know that

751
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 1: you're not the a hole. Right, You've just put this

752
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 1: out on the internet and you're like, Hey, that's that's

753
00:33:40,480 --> 00:33:42,360
Speaker 1: just a thing that people ask, right, Am I the

754
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 1: A hole here? But for God's sake, if you are

755
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 1: thinking you're the A hole, we got to learn to

756
00:33:47,320 --> 00:33:48,840
Speaker 1: have faith in ourselves.

757
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:50,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, and go to therapy.

758
00:33:50,920 --> 00:33:53,560
Speaker 1: You're in no way the a hole here? She just

759
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:56,800
Speaker 1: got mad because she's getting put on one blasts you.

760
00:33:56,800 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 3: You called her out for cheating and betraying your dad,

761
00:34:00,840 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 3: and now she's upset with you, and that's not your.

762
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:07,320
Speaker 1: Problem, nor is it your fault. No, but anyway, yes,

763
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 1: that is the end of that. Do we want to

764
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 1: pull up that link that had like their their text

765
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:16,040
Speaker 1: messages or whatever. Yes, I would see if there's anything

766
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:16,879
Speaker 1: worth reading there.

767
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 3: Kill him on Commen says I need the will to

768
00:34:19,360 --> 00:34:22,879
Speaker 3: be read me too. I need to know what's going Op.

769
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 3: Also just like her withholding the ashes, it's just incredibly cruel. Yeah,

770
00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:30,880
Speaker 3: well that's just weird. Yeah, it's it's weird. Why are

771
00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,200
Speaker 3: you being possessive over my dad's ashes?

772
00:34:33,320 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 1: Yeah? Maybear six oh four, says TLDR. Please so super

773
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:41,400
Speaker 1: super super duper TLDR. Here, Op's father is passing away

774
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:45,880
Speaker 1: from Parkinson's and a lot of nazy stuff, and his stepmom,

775
00:34:46,040 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: who has been with his dad for twenty years, is

776
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,280
Speaker 1: out cheating on him with this guy Jerry, who turns

777
00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:55,600
Speaker 1: out Jerry has actually been her little f buddy for

778
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 1: forty plus years, on and off, on and off whenever

779
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 1: she's not in a relationship or I guess when she

780
00:35:00,760 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: is in a relationship and it ends with op being

781
00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:05,279
Speaker 1: told he needs to get all his stuff out of

782
00:35:05,280 --> 00:35:08,080
Speaker 1: the house, and yeah, honestly, I hope it ends with

783
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:10,960
Speaker 1: a lawyer being like, actually, the house doesn't belong to you, Cindy,

784
00:35:11,000 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 1: and you have to you gotta leave.

785
00:35:13,719 --> 00:35:18,280
Speaker 3: Let's read these it can be Cindy.

786
00:35:18,680 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 1: Okay?

787
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 3: Is that Sindy?

788
00:35:20,080 --> 00:35:20,160
Speaker 4: Oh?

789
00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 1: These are all the texts.

790
00:35:21,680 --> 00:35:23,920
Speaker 3: I won't be able to make it tomorrow. Have plans

791
00:35:23,920 --> 00:35:25,080
Speaker 3: with Billy. Talk to you later.

792
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:27,880
Speaker 1: Oh no, that's fine if you change your mind, let

793
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:29,920
Speaker 1: me know right well, Honnie lo you now we're at

794
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 1: March eighth, six days later. Don't try to go in

795
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 1: the barn.

796
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 3: I will explain when you get it here.

797
00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 1: Also, just to answer your question from earlier, you told

798
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:39,600
Speaker 1: me how do you think my kids took it? When

799
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 1: I got with your dad after Ralph? And to answer

800
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 1: your question the day my dad passed, did you not

801
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:47,080
Speaker 1: tell me that ron and my dad got in a

802
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:48,840
Speaker 1: fight and you had to kick Ronnie out because he

803
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:50,959
Speaker 1: threw a computer at my dad, So obviously he didn't

804
00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 1: take it very well either. Last thing I want to say,

805
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:54,880
Speaker 1: I'll get a hold of you when i'm coming to

806
00:35:54,920 --> 00:35:56,680
Speaker 1: grab my things in my dad's ashes.

807
00:35:57,080 --> 00:35:58,200
Speaker 3: Don't try to go in the barn.

808
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:01,720
Speaker 1: Oh wait, it's the same thing. Keep going on March

809
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:03,759
Speaker 1: twenty second. I'll be over next week some time to

810
00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:06,440
Speaker 1: get my things. I will give Ashley an earn after

811
00:36:06,480 --> 00:36:08,120
Speaker 1: that to collect my father's ashes.

812
00:36:08,280 --> 00:36:11,400
Speaker 3: Name a time and bring a sheriff, so be on time.

813
00:36:11,840 --> 00:36:14,280
Speaker 3: Name the day two along with the time.

814
00:36:14,440 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 1: Definitely right, This is definitely Jerry, and stick.

815
00:36:16,719 --> 00:36:19,920
Speaker 3: To it because I ain't gonna waste my time.

816
00:36:20,680 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 1: Saturday two pm. Won't be home.

817
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:23,920
Speaker 3: Try Wednesday five.

818
00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:26,920
Speaker 1: My son is due Wednesday, so probably not.

819
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:28,920
Speaker 3: Then make it Thursday five.

820
00:36:29,360 --> 00:36:31,800
Speaker 1: Well, may not be Thursday. I'll let you know. Emma

821
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 1: has been in the hospital since Friday. We aren't looking

822
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,920
Speaker 1: to get out of here anytime soon. Okay, these are honestly,

823
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: you know, just keep going, keep going. Is there anything going?

824
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:41,279
Speaker 1: Is there anything actually funny them?

825
00:36:41,520 --> 00:36:41,920
Speaker 4: Yeah?

826
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:44,520
Speaker 1: That was I'm sorry, guys. That was really pooring. That

827
00:36:44,600 --> 00:36:47,360
Speaker 1: was really that was absurdly boring. Yeah, that was. I

828
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,320
Speaker 1: was waiting for Jerry to be I thought Terry was

829
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:51,640
Speaker 1: being like, yeah, well I should come show up and

830
00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 1: bring the sheriff. I'm not going anywhere.

831
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 2: But funny things.

832
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,840
Speaker 1: Leave send me alone, Yo, don't want to meet with me,

833
00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:01,480
Speaker 1: you sissy, You've shown me alone.

834
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 3: Oh that is Joe.

835
00:37:04,239 --> 00:37:07,640
Speaker 1: You don't want to meet with me, yes, cissy, Yeah that.

836
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:10,920
Speaker 3: Jerry, oh, Jerry whatever his name is. Fun things in

837
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:16,160
Speaker 3: there though, we're where Cindy going come come on Wednesday.

838
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 3: He's saying, my child is due, and she goes, well Thursday.

839
00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 3: Then as if the day after the birth of his

840
00:37:22,800 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 3: child is gonna be a good day.

841
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:26,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, just like still probably gonna be dealing with that.

842
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, still still baby's gonna be here that night.

843
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,359
Speaker 1: Yeah. Well, hey, you know.

844
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:35,719
Speaker 3: What, Also, the name of time and place, bring a sheriff.

845
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: The sheriff is wild.

846
00:37:38,760 --> 00:37:42,680
Speaker 3: Are you gonna burst into the saloon have a shootout?

847
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 3: What's going on?

848
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:47,480
Speaker 1: More for the like logistics of like I know, but

849
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:51,440
Speaker 1: taking and uh leaving and owning stuff.

850
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 3: That absolutely but it does sound with name and time

851
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:55,120
Speaker 3: and place.

852
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: Oh it does. It definitely does sound like bring the

853
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:00,200
Speaker 1: sheriff because one of us is going to jail. One

854
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: that survives.

855
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 3: We're having a little dude time to time and place, yo,

856
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 3: one dude Nikoshi. Okay, but that was the end of

857
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:11,760
Speaker 3: that story and not the end of the episode.

858
00:38:11,840 --> 00:38:14,840
Speaker 1: No, it's right here and I'm handing it to you

859
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: right now. oOoOO, there we go.

860
00:38:18,360 --> 00:38:19,319
Speaker 3: All right, let's do it.

861
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867
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Speaker 3: her partner, Shane. Addison met Shane in early twenty twenty

868
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Speaker 3: two through her older brother, and the two hit it

869
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Speaker 3: off pretty quickly. Not even six months later, Addison was pregnant.

870
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Speaker 3: They hit it off real quick.

871
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Speaker 1: Yeah, they got after it.

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00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 3: you want to spit your own stories, go to our

874
00:38:55,040 --> 00:38:58,280
Speaker 3: slash Okay story time separate it. So, following her pregnancy,

875
00:38:58,440 --> 00:39:01,200
Speaker 3: Addison moved in with Shane. Shane is a solid guy.

876
00:39:01,360 --> 00:39:06,120
Speaker 3: He's hardworking, goal oriented, trustworthy, and faithful. He has always

877
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:09,160
Speaker 3: treated my best friend better than any man in her past.

878
00:39:09,360 --> 00:39:12,399
Speaker 3: I had never witnessed any man other than Shane who

879
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:15,720
Speaker 3: made my best friend smile so much. The moment Shane

880
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 3: found out Addison was pregnant, he didn't run off like

881
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:20,600
Speaker 3: a lot of men do. Instead, he offered her a

882
00:39:20,680 --> 00:39:22,840
Speaker 3: place in his home and vowed to take care of

883
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,839
Speaker 3: her and the baby. Fast forward to November twenty twenty four,

884
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:28,839
Speaker 3: Shane and Addison are now engaged. Their baby is now

885
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:31,320
Speaker 3: one and a half years old. Jane is still working

886
00:39:31,360 --> 00:39:34,160
Speaker 3: full time while Addison works part time. Addison had been

887
00:39:34,200 --> 00:39:36,480
Speaker 3: working at her same place of employment for a year

888
00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,560
Speaker 3: before she got pregnant. Following her maternity leave, she would

889
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:42,760
Speaker 3: ultimately return the same job. Here is where she met

890
00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 3: her coworker, Jessie Jesse's girl.

891
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 1: Mmm, Jesse's got a girl.

892
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:51,680
Speaker 3: Addison worked with Jesse both before and after her maternity leave,

893
00:39:51,800 --> 00:39:55,360
Speaker 3: but she had only told me about him recently. Uh oh,

894
00:39:55,400 --> 00:39:57,400
Speaker 3: put some icy us in the chat. If you know

895
00:39:57,400 --> 00:40:00,440
Speaker 3: where this is going, Addison described Jesse. He is being

896
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:04,839
Speaker 3: very egotistical, arrogant and just downright weird. This is an

897
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:06,759
Speaker 3: enemy's to lever arc is it?

898
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,319
Speaker 1: Or is this just a lie? Like I don't know,

899
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,280
Speaker 1: I don't know. We'll see. Yeah.

900
00:40:11,400 --> 00:40:13,600
Speaker 3: She told me that Jesse would make advances on her

901
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 3: at work, constantly call her, text her, and leave her voicemails.

902
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:20,200
Speaker 3: Jesse is fully aware of Addison's engagement to Shane, but

903
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:23,200
Speaker 3: doesn't care. I've seen it for myself, as he would

904
00:40:23,200 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 3: often call her and text her, well, she's around me.

905
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:29,920
Speaker 3: But the weird thing is Addison never blocked him exactly.

906
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 1: That's the thing. It's almost like she's trying to tell

907
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: a story of like, oh my god, Yeah, that Jesse

908
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 1: guy always so annoying and I don't like him, and

909
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:38,959
Speaker 1: he's like always bothering me, and it's like he won't

910
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: leave me alone. Please never stop leaving me alone, Jesse.

911
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:43,239
Speaker 3: No, I have like I know people who do this

912
00:40:43,360 --> 00:40:46,320
Speaker 3: where it's like the complain about a person who's texting

913
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,799
Speaker 3: them a bunch and I'm like block them and they're like.

914
00:40:48,840 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 1: You go, that's mean, No I do it, No, I

915
00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:52,920
Speaker 1: do it.

916
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:55,919
Speaker 3: But it is different. And this is also I'm calling

917
00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:59,640
Speaker 3: myself out. But this is different because she's in a

918
00:40:59,680 --> 00:41:01,799
Speaker 3: relation ship Jesse.

919
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 2: We have to cook.

920
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:07,720
Speaker 1: But as a child, yeah.

921
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:10,080
Speaker 3: So that's different. But there's more. She would often text

922
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 3: him back like nothing, and even answer his calls. I

923
00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:15,880
Speaker 3: would hear him make advances toward her, and instead of

924
00:41:15,920 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 3: telling him to stop, she would just laugh and brush

925
00:41:18,160 --> 00:41:20,440
Speaker 3: it off. You would think that an engaged woman with

926
00:41:20,480 --> 00:41:23,680
Speaker 3: the baby would completely shut something like that down. Afterward,

927
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 3: Addison complained about his behavior towards her, but I confronted

928
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:29,320
Speaker 3: her and told her that she is only further encouraging

929
00:41:29,360 --> 00:41:32,720
Speaker 3: his behavior by answering his calls and texting him back.

930
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,080
Speaker 3: I asked her why she hadn't blocked him and cut

931
00:41:35,120 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 3: contact like a normal person would. Her excuse was that

932
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:40,440
Speaker 3: she needed to stand contact with him for work. That

933
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,920
Speaker 3: didn't make any sense, and I called yes. None of

934
00:41:43,960 --> 00:41:46,400
Speaker 3: the conversations I heard them having were about work in

935
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:49,120
Speaker 3: any way whatsoever. I found it odd, but I didn't

936
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:51,880
Speaker 3: feel like arguing with her, so I just dropped it. However,

937
00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,200
Speaker 3: what happened a few days later I could not brush off.

938
00:41:55,480 --> 00:41:57,880
Speaker 3: I was spending the night at Addison in Shane's place.

939
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:01,320
Speaker 3: Shane was working overnight, so Addison and I arranged a girls'

940
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:04,000
Speaker 3: night at the house. The night went on normally until

941
00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 3: Addison left to give her daughter a bath, and I

942
00:42:06,320 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 3: stayed in the living room. I hadn't even noticed Addison's

943
00:42:09,200 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 3: phone was next to me until it rang. Of course,

944
00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:15,239
Speaker 3: it was Jesse calling. I declined the call and was

945
00:42:15,280 --> 00:42:17,400
Speaker 3: going to brush it off until I noticed her phone

946
00:42:17,440 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 3: was unlocked and the text conversation with Jesse was open.

947
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:23,080
Speaker 1: We're snooping' huh waited snoop waite.

948
00:42:23,280 --> 00:42:25,400
Speaker 3: I'm sorry. It was just on with the text open

949
00:42:25,600 --> 00:42:26,640
Speaker 3: or was it like on?

950
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:29,320
Speaker 1: And you were like, well, messages, I love snoopy.

951
00:42:29,840 --> 00:42:33,239
Speaker 3: I didn't want to, but something in my gut told

952
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:34,480
Speaker 3: me to snoop and so I did.

953
00:42:34,520 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 1: Okay, was like you wanted to.

954
00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:39,480
Speaker 3: Oh, He's like, I didn't want to, but I did. Yes,

955
00:42:40,280 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 3: I did it anyway.

956
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 1: I did want to, and I did.

957
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:47,920
Speaker 3: It, and what I saw nearly made me vomit. Dozens

958
00:42:47,960 --> 00:42:52,080
Speaker 3: of flirty text messages, nude photos, and videos exchange between

959
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:55,760
Speaker 3: Addison and Jesse. I couldn't believe it. I couldn't believe

960
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 3: that my best friend of ten years would be so

961
00:42:58,080 --> 00:43:00,920
Speaker 3: soulless to even do something like that. Yes, Shane has

962
00:43:00,960 --> 00:43:03,440
Speaker 3: been nothing but a faithful partner and father. He is

963
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 3: present and works hard to take care of their family.

964
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:08,759
Speaker 3: When Addison was pregnant and had nowhere to go, he

965
00:43:08,800 --> 00:43:12,040
Speaker 3: took her in. After all the toxic men Addison dealt

966
00:43:12,080 --> 00:43:14,360
Speaker 3: with in her life, she was finally blessed with a

967
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,320
Speaker 3: good man, and she decided to throw it all away.

968
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:20,160
Speaker 3: I felt a mixture of sadness, shock, and rage. My

969
00:43:20,320 --> 00:43:23,920
Speaker 3: instincts punted in and I immediately took my phone and

970
00:43:24,040 --> 00:43:27,400
Speaker 3: quickly recorded me scrolling through the messages. It wasn't all

971
00:43:27,440 --> 00:43:30,120
Speaker 3: of them, of course, but enough for proof. I wasn't

972
00:43:30,120 --> 00:43:32,480
Speaker 3: going to hide this or act like I didn't see anything.

973
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,480
Speaker 3: Instead of beating around the bush and acting oblivious, I

974
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:38,880
Speaker 3: decided to confront her head on. As soon as Addison

975
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:41,280
Speaker 3: came back into the living room and sat on the couch,

976
00:43:41,440 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 3: I told her everything. I told her that she had

977
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 3: left her phone unlocked with her and Jesse's text convo

978
00:43:46,160 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 3: out and open for me to see. I told Addison

979
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:50,720
Speaker 3: that I had been suspicious of her and Jesse's dynamic

980
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 3: and that I found it odd that she continued to

981
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:56,000
Speaker 3: stay in contact with him despite all the complaints on

982
00:43:56,080 --> 00:43:59,520
Speaker 3: his behavior. As I'm grilling into her, Addison sat in

983
00:43:59,640 --> 00:44:03,040
Speaker 3: silence and in shock. After I finished speaking, the first

984
00:44:03,040 --> 00:44:06,200
Speaker 3: thing she muttered was I'm sorry. Addison struggled to get

985
00:44:06,200 --> 00:44:08,840
Speaker 3: her words out as I demanded her to explain herself.

986
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:11,040
Speaker 3: She confessed that she's been having an on and off

987
00:44:11,080 --> 00:44:14,840
Speaker 3: affair with Jesse for six months. Addison tried to victimize

988
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 3: herself by saying that Jesse had seduced her and even

989
00:44:17,840 --> 00:44:20,280
Speaker 3: when she tried to end things, he wouldn't leave her alone.

990
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 3: I didn't buy her sob story telling her that Jesse

991
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:25,120
Speaker 3: wasn't holding a pew pew to her head and forcing

992
00:44:25,160 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 3: her to have an affair. She had the full ability

993
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:30,600
Speaker 3: to cut him off, entirely block him, and even file

994
00:44:30,640 --> 00:44:33,800
Speaker 3: a restraining order if she had to. Addison knew exactly

995
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:36,120
Speaker 3: what she was doing and tried to play victim when

996
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:37,160
Speaker 3: she was caught in the air.

997
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 1: Honestly, like that is one of the most pathetic things

998
00:44:39,800 --> 00:44:40,319
Speaker 1: I think you can do.

999
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, to be like, oh, he kept pushing and pushing.

1000
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,040
Speaker 1: It's like I didn't want to cheat on my husband,

1001
00:44:46,040 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 1: but this guy was talking to you.

1002
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:49,879
Speaker 3: Didn't want to cheat on your husband in the same

1003
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 3: way that Opie didn't want to snoop on your phone.

1004
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:55,239
Speaker 3: You did, You both did, and you both did it.

1005
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:56,000
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Jean here.

1006
00:44:56,000 --> 00:44:57,719
Speaker 3: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

1007
00:44:57,760 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 3: three minute break with Azramar sponsors. It was at this

1008
00:45:00,800 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 3: moment when Addison's face grew white, and I kid you not,

1009
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:07,520
Speaker 3: this woman got on her knees and begged for me

1010
00:45:07,560 --> 00:45:10,040
Speaker 3: not to tell Shane. She went on about how Shane

1011
00:45:10,080 --> 00:45:12,840
Speaker 3: treated her like a queen, taking care of her and

1012
00:45:12,880 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 3: their child. She didn't want to lose what she had

1013
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:18,360
Speaker 3: wanted for so long over one mistake. It wasn't one mistake.

1014
00:45:18,440 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 3: It was months of mistakes.

1015
00:45:20,400 --> 00:45:26,200
Speaker 1: Of one mistake for months, months, and however many text

1016
00:45:26,239 --> 00:45:28,160
Speaker 1: messages and photographs we sent between each other.

1017
00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:31,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's not one mistake. I told her she should

1018
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 3: have thought about that before she decided to cheat with Jesse.

1019
00:45:34,760 --> 00:45:37,000
Speaker 1: She's like, I just got if I had never gotten

1020
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:39,719
Speaker 1: this job, I just I got the wrong job and

1021
00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:42,239
Speaker 1: I met Jesse there. Yeah, please let me find it. An.

1022
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:44,600
Speaker 3: I was the mistake to go even to go into

1023
00:45:44,600 --> 00:45:45,160
Speaker 3: this career.

1024
00:45:45,360 --> 00:45:47,799
Speaker 1: Now I know I should have just been unemployed.

1025
00:45:47,960 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not my fault. Like I said, I was

1026
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,480
Speaker 3: not going to hide this. It goes against my moral

1027
00:45:53,560 --> 00:45:56,960
Speaker 3: code to hide something like this from someone, especially Shane.

1028
00:45:57,080 --> 00:45:59,200
Speaker 3: I don't care who you are. If you're doing wrong,

1029
00:45:59,239 --> 00:46:01,480
Speaker 3: I'm going to make sure where you face the consequences.

1030
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:05,160
Speaker 3: So I gave Addison an ultimatum. She was going to

1031
00:46:05,440 --> 00:46:07,879
Speaker 3: confess everything to Shane the next morning when he got

1032
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:10,960
Speaker 3: home or I would. She obliged and promised me she

1033
00:46:10,960 --> 00:46:13,440
Speaker 3: would tell him. Due to the severity of the situation,

1034
00:46:13,640 --> 00:46:16,160
Speaker 3: I decided to pack my things and go home for

1035
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:18,399
Speaker 3: the night. The next morning, I woke up to ten

1036
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:21,520
Speaker 3: missed calls from Addison. She texted me saying she had

1037
00:46:21,560 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 3: told Shane everything and he had left the house in

1038
00:46:24,040 --> 00:46:26,800
Speaker 3: a complete rage. I called her back and she basically

1039
00:46:26,840 --> 00:46:29,680
Speaker 3: repeated the same She tried calling him several times and

1040
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:31,399
Speaker 3: said she was scared of what he would do when

1041
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:33,640
Speaker 3: he got back. I didn't say much other than it

1042
00:46:33,680 --> 00:46:36,120
Speaker 3: would be best for her not to contact him at

1043
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:37,960
Speaker 3: the end of the day. She made this bed and

1044
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 3: now she has to lay in it. After we hung up,

1045
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 3: I decided to call Shane because a part of me

1046
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 3: did not believe her. Shane answered immediately. I told him

1047
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,600
Speaker 3: I was aware of what happened and that if he

1048
00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 3: needed anything, I was here for him. Shane sounded confused

1049
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 3: and asked, what are you talking about?

1050
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,360
Speaker 1: How dumb is this friend to be? Like? Okay, I

1051
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,040
Speaker 1: got caught, She said, tell your husband tomorrow.

1052
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:04,920
Speaker 3: I will so may just make him seem really dangerous

1053
00:47:04,960 --> 00:47:06,000
Speaker 3: and she won't ask him.

1054
00:47:06,080 --> 00:47:09,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll just lie again. About it, and I'll allude

1055
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:14,000
Speaker 1: that he's become good Enraged tarzan Man.

1056
00:47:13,840 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 3: I told him that I knew Addison confessed everything and

1057
00:47:16,280 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 3: that he had to leave the house to calm down.

1058
00:47:18,239 --> 00:47:22,080
Speaker 3: Shane responded, what are you talking about? Addison confessed to what?

1059
00:47:22,400 --> 00:47:24,680
Speaker 3: I just left to go get us breakfast. I paused,

1060
00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:29,120
Speaker 3: just as I suspected, Addison never told him anything better.

1061
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:31,439
Speaker 3: Yet she lied to me and said that she did.

1062
00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 3: I'm a woman of my word, and I did just

1063
00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 3: as I told her I would do. I told him

1064
00:47:35,440 --> 00:47:38,600
Speaker 3: everything I told him about the affair, about her confession.

1065
00:47:38,880 --> 00:47:40,839
Speaker 3: I also told him about her lying to me about

1066
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,400
Speaker 3: confessing to him. I sent him the scrolling video of

1067
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:46,520
Speaker 3: the messages between her and Jesse. Oh you are slamming

1068
00:47:46,600 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 3: this man.

1069
00:47:47,840 --> 00:47:51,080
Speaker 1: I hope you freaking told Shane, Hey, shit down driving

1070
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 1: eaten breakfast? Yet, yeah, she might him have a morning coffee.

1071
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:57,840
Speaker 3: I'd be like, hey, I have a lot of stuff

1072
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,960
Speaker 3: to tell you. Are you in a space where you can,

1073
00:48:00,160 --> 00:48:03,160
Speaker 3: you know, handle all this? Shane didn't say a word

1074
00:48:03,200 --> 00:48:05,319
Speaker 3: while I was speaking. Once I was done, there was

1075
00:48:05,320 --> 00:48:09,960
Speaker 3: a long pause. Shane struggled to speak, but he eventually stuttered, okay, good,

1076
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 3: He abruptly hung up. I didn't hear from Addison or

1077
00:48:12,960 --> 00:48:16,000
Speaker 3: Shane for about a week. I mean, honestly, your friendship

1078
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:17,799
Speaker 3: with both of them probably kind of over.

1079
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:20,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, Shane's gonna be like, well, don't want to talk

1080
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:22,600
Speaker 1: to the person who gave me the worst news I've

1081
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 1: ever seen in my life, and I also don't want

1082
00:48:24,520 --> 00:48:27,600
Speaker 1: to see the person who's responsible for committing that news

1083
00:48:27,680 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 1: against me.

1084
00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:30,920
Speaker 3: I decided to call Shane to check on him. He

1085
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:33,640
Speaker 3: answered and graciously thanked me for revealing to him what

1086
00:48:33,760 --> 00:48:36,399
Speaker 3: I saw. He told me that he confronted Addison after

1087
00:48:36,440 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 3: he returned home that morning, and she confessed everything. However,

1088
00:48:39,880 --> 00:48:42,759
Speaker 3: it was revealed that Addison had been sleeping around with

1089
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 3: Jesse for their entire relationship, and not six months like

1090
00:48:46,600 --> 00:48:47,439
Speaker 3: she initially said.

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00:48:47,760 --> 00:48:50,839
Speaker 1: Well, it looks like someone's an overachiever when it comes

1092
00:48:50,880 --> 00:48:51,840
Speaker 1: to being a home wrecker.

1093
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds like all of those things about how

1094
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:56,360
Speaker 3: awful Jesse where.

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00:48:56,200 --> 00:48:59,919
Speaker 1: It was Relies immediately clocked that right off the bat,

1096
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:03,319
Speaker 1: where she's like, Oh, this guy's so annoying. If he

1097
00:49:03,400 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 1: was that annoying, he wouldn't be calling you, he wouldn't

1098
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:06,359
Speaker 1: be texting you, because you would have blocked him.

1099
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:07,600
Speaker 3: You would have blocked him already.

1100
00:49:07,960 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 1: Woof. Yeah, she started wrecking the home before the home

1101
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:11,800
Speaker 1: was even built.

1102
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, the home was just you know.

1103
00:49:15,000 --> 00:49:19,200
Speaker 1: The foundation was foundation, loose, sand and gravel. You had

1104
00:49:19,320 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 1: a couple scaff sick scaffold up.

1105
00:49:21,719 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 3: That's it.

1106
00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, now it's get ready to live in the tent town.

1107
00:49:26,320 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 3: Shane said he left Addison at his house with their

1108
00:49:29,360 --> 00:49:32,440
Speaker 3: daughter and booked an extended stay at a nearby hotel.

1109
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:36,880
Speaker 3: Because Addison was sleeping around longer than anticipated, Shane wanted

1110
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 3: a paternity test. Three weeks past and I hear nothing

1111
00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:43,440
Speaker 3: of Addison, just occasional updates from Shane. He would drop

1112
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:45,399
Speaker 3: in and out of their house to check on their daughter,

1113
00:49:45,600 --> 00:49:47,560
Speaker 3: but that was it. Fast forward to a few days

1114
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:52,560
Speaker 3: before Christmas. Shane called me. He was crying hysterically, barely

1115
00:49:52,640 --> 00:49:54,880
Speaker 3: able to get a single word out. I don't think

1116
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 3: the child. I tried to calm him down, and he

1117
00:49:58,120 --> 00:50:00,920
Speaker 3: eventually did. He told me he did a eternity test.

1118
00:50:01,400 --> 00:50:06,120
Speaker 3: Turns out he was not the father to their child. Devastating.

1119
00:50:06,440 --> 00:50:10,000
Speaker 3: Raising this child a year and a half devastating.

1120
00:50:10,480 --> 00:50:14,080
Speaker 1: Wow, what's the line from Guardians of the Galaxy.

1121
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:16,000
Speaker 2: Not your daddy. No, I'm not your father.

1122
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:18,640
Speaker 1: I will know I ain't your father, but I am

1123
00:50:18,680 --> 00:50:21,759
Speaker 1: your daddy. It's like, yeah, I don't know yet.

1124
00:50:21,840 --> 00:50:26,279
Speaker 3: That's like such a tricky time period because like, does

1125
00:50:26,360 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 3: he have you know, well, hopefully if he was written

1126
00:50:29,600 --> 00:50:32,160
Speaker 3: on the birth certificate, he'd have some sort of parental rights.

1127
00:50:32,360 --> 00:50:34,520
Speaker 3: I feel like that's you know, he might not decide

1128
00:50:34,560 --> 00:50:36,239
Speaker 3: he wants to be the parent of this child, but

1129
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 3: like still, a year and a half is a long

1130
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:40,759
Speaker 3: is a long time of you know, connection to a

1131
00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 3: child to then just sever it. So I don't know

1132
00:50:44,200 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 3: what he would decide to do.

1133
00:50:45,320 --> 00:50:47,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's rock and a hard place right there.

1134
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:50,759
Speaker 3: My heart shattered. I didn't know what to say. I

1135
00:50:50,800 --> 00:50:54,839
Speaker 3: sat in silence as I listened to Shane CRY's eyes out.

1136
00:50:55,080 --> 00:50:58,200
Speaker 3: I felt so much rage and disgust in my body,

1137
00:50:58,360 --> 00:51:00,680
Speaker 3: so much that I wanted to hang out up on Shane,

1138
00:51:00,800 --> 00:51:04,360
Speaker 3: call Addison and curse her out, but I didn't. Instead,

1139
00:51:04,400 --> 00:51:06,839
Speaker 3: I stayed on the phone with Shane and comforted him

1140
00:51:06,880 --> 00:51:10,000
Speaker 3: as he vented on about his heartbreak. Meanwhile, still not

1141
00:51:10,080 --> 00:51:13,160
Speaker 3: a word from Addison. Christmas and New Year's pass by.

1142
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:15,919
Speaker 3: It is now January twenty twenty five. I haven't heard

1143
00:51:15,920 --> 00:51:18,319
Speaker 3: from Shane in a few weeks, but I finally spoke

1144
00:51:18,360 --> 00:51:22,480
Speaker 3: to Addison. She updated me on everything. Shane punted her

1145
00:51:22,520 --> 00:51:24,680
Speaker 3: out of his house and she is now staying at

1146
00:51:24,680 --> 00:51:27,719
Speaker 3: a low end motel with her daughter. Jesse was revealed

1147
00:51:27,719 --> 00:51:29,880
Speaker 3: to be the father of her child, but upon finding

1148
00:51:29,920 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 3: out the news, he cut her off entirely shocked.

1149
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:36,080
Speaker 1: Oh no, the oh the guys, Oh.

1150
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:38,760
Speaker 3: You're a cheating with isn't as amazing as Shane.

1151
00:51:39,160 --> 00:51:41,239
Speaker 1: Jesse ain't a husband material.

1152
00:51:41,520 --> 00:51:44,160
Speaker 3: She has no relationship with her parents and doesn't know

1153
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:46,160
Speaker 3: any friends that would be willing to take her in.

1154
00:51:46,360 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 3: She vented about how much she missed Shane and the

1155
00:51:48,680 --> 00:51:51,879
Speaker 3: life he granted her. Oh wooh, that sucks too little,

1156
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:53,839
Speaker 3: too late, Too little, too late.

1157
00:51:54,040 --> 00:51:57,880
Speaker 1: You're just a goblin. Yeah, You're just a covetous little goblin.

1158
00:51:58,080 --> 00:52:00,520
Speaker 3: She said her life is miserable now and she would

1159
00:52:00,520 --> 00:52:02,960
Speaker 3: do anything to have Shane back. I told her that

1160
00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:05,480
Speaker 3: despite everything, I still love and care for her, but

1161
00:52:05,560 --> 00:52:08,040
Speaker 3: at the end of the day, this was nobody's fault

1162
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:10,920
Speaker 3: but hers, and that now she had to live with

1163
00:52:11,000 --> 00:52:11,759
Speaker 3: her consequence.

1164
00:52:11,880 --> 00:52:16,560
Speaker 1: She said, I do anything, anything except not doing Jesse.

1165
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:21,560
Speaker 3: Hmmm, like, oh, I wish that my life hadn't turned

1166
00:52:21,600 --> 00:52:22,279
Speaker 3: out this way.

1167
00:52:22,560 --> 00:52:25,200
Speaker 1: If only there only something could have been done.

1168
00:52:25,080 --> 00:52:28,040
Speaker 3: If only I there was a way to stop myself

1169
00:52:28,040 --> 00:52:30,480
Speaker 3: from cheating with Jesse, but it was inevitable.

1170
00:52:30,560 --> 00:52:35,400
Speaker 1: Unfortunately, I was handed to the man jack with unfair cards,

1171
00:52:35,719 --> 00:52:37,840
Speaker 1: and I only had one hand to play, and it

1172
00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 1: was cheat on my husband the entire time we've been together.

1173
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 3: It was a man and then make him take care

1174
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:46,760
Speaker 3: of a child that wasn't his without his knowledge, which again,

1175
00:52:46,880 --> 00:52:49,560
Speaker 3: not my fault, not my fault, not my faults, couldn't

1176
00:52:49,600 --> 00:52:51,400
Speaker 3: possibly be not my fault, and I leave it there.

1177
00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:53,920
Speaker 3: The last thing I remember Addison telling me was how

1178
00:52:53,960 --> 00:52:56,239
Speaker 3: she was going to handle as shees regarding Jesse and

1179
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:59,920
Speaker 3: child support. Without any further details, we said our goodbye

1180
00:53:00,360 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 3: and that was that. I haven't heard from her since.

1181
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:06,120
Speaker 3: I've avoided contact with her since our last conversation. Although

1182
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 3: I do care for her, I can't bring myself to

1183
00:53:08,440 --> 00:53:11,279
Speaker 3: be friends with someone who would do something so low.

1184
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:14,719
Speaker 3: Am I the ale for revealing everything. A part of

1185
00:53:14,719 --> 00:53:17,279
Speaker 3: me feels bad for her, but at the same time,

1186
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:20,080
Speaker 3: it would have gone against everything I stand for to

1187
00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:23,680
Speaker 3: keep something like that from shamee. Some might say it

1188
00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:26,240
Speaker 3: was I was an evil person to reveal the affair,

1189
00:53:26,520 --> 00:53:28,560
Speaker 3: but it would have been even more evil for me

1190
00:53:28,640 --> 00:53:31,320
Speaker 3: to allow her to continue cheating on her faithful partner.

1191
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:35,480
Speaker 3: Oh that's the end. But you should never cheat on

1192
00:53:35,600 --> 00:53:39,160
Speaker 3: us because we have so many full episodes of stories

1193
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:41,400
Speaker 3: just like this that you can listen to you on

1194
00:53:41,440 --> 00:53:45,400
Speaker 3: Apple Podcasts, Spotify or iart Radio. Just search up ok Storytime.

1195
00:53:45,600 --> 00:53:48,560
Speaker 3: You never have to listen to any other podcasts. Us.

1196
00:53:48,640 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 1: Don't cheat on us.

1197
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:52,080
Speaker 3: But that's the end of the story. Op, you were

1198
00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:54,600
Speaker 3: not the a hole for I mean, you gave her,

1199
00:53:54,719 --> 00:53:56,920
Speaker 3: You gave her the option to tell him herself, and

1200
00:53:56,960 --> 00:53:59,080
Speaker 3: she chose to lie to you and him, So not

1201
00:53:59,160 --> 00:54:02,040
Speaker 3: the a hole. But that is the end of that story.

1202
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 1: And that was a weird place for it to the

1203
00:54:04,800 --> 00:54:07,279
Speaker 1: end was Yeah, part of it was about the same time.

1204
00:54:07,280 --> 00:54:09,040
Speaker 3: It would have gone against everything I stand for.

1205
00:54:10,480 --> 00:54:13,400
Speaker 1: It is a tough spot because it's like you become

1206
00:54:13,680 --> 00:54:17,040
Speaker 1: indirectly like a catalyst for like now the kids living

1207
00:54:17,080 --> 00:54:19,920
Speaker 1: in a motel with her mom, who's like, it sounds

1208
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:22,840
Speaker 1: like a napt that the mom is like, oh boo hoo,

1209
00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:26,400
Speaker 1: I wish I could still have my successful, wealthy husband

1210
00:54:26,520 --> 00:54:27,279
Speaker 1: because of the light.

1211
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:29,880
Speaker 2: Cares for me and well my daughter.

1212
00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:33,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you are the but the messenger. But the

1213
00:54:33,080 --> 00:54:35,440
Speaker 3: thing is not the perpetrator.

1214
00:54:35,040 --> 00:54:36,960
Speaker 2: It's it would have happened sooner or later.

1215
00:54:37,040 --> 00:54:38,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, it would have happened.

1216
00:54:38,320 --> 00:54:40,959
Speaker 2: I mean, it sucks, but it's better to happen now

1217
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 2: rather than later. Especially also yeah.

1218
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:46,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean the fact that she left her text

1219
00:54:46,800 --> 00:54:50,120
Speaker 3: conversation open and unlocked in front of you, like it

1220
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:51,799
Speaker 3: was only a matter of time before she did that,

1221
00:54:51,800 --> 00:54:52,520
Speaker 3: in front of.

1222
00:54:52,719 --> 00:54:55,560
Speaker 1: The audacity that she had of doing that, and then

1223
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:57,719
Speaker 1: also calling you and trying to be like, yeah, I

1224
00:54:58,320 --> 00:55:00,920
Speaker 1: talked to him and he like laft and I'm scared,

1225
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:03,479
Speaker 1: and then just hoping that like what you'll never speak

1226
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 1: about I'll never ask And then they stay together and

1227
00:55:06,160 --> 00:55:08,440
Speaker 1: she just goes, oh, yeah, he.

1228
00:55:07,960 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 3: Got over it. Don't don't ask him about it. But

1229
00:55:10,040 --> 00:55:11,400
Speaker 3: he forgot he got over it.

1230
00:55:11,440 --> 00:55:14,000
Speaker 2: Don't jumblizees living in a motel is better than living

1231
00:55:14,000 --> 00:55:15,359
Speaker 2: in a lie.

1232
00:55:14,880 --> 00:55:16,600
Speaker 1: But I meant that more for the kid. I don't

1233
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:18,600
Speaker 1: care at all at the hotel.

1234
00:55:18,760 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 3: I mean, it seems like Shane is going like hands

1235
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 3: off in terms of parenting, which it makes sense.

1236
00:55:24,239 --> 00:55:27,080
Speaker 1: But it is also, yeah, it's in a it's not

1237
00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:29,280
Speaker 1: your technically it's not your, kidd.

1238
00:55:29,320 --> 00:55:31,640
Speaker 3: But uh, that is the end of that story and

1239
00:55:31,719 --> 00:55:33,120
Speaker 3: the end of this episode.

1240
00:55:33,440 --> 00:55:36,360
Speaker 1: So you love us, make sure you subscribe.

1241
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