WEBVTT - Intuition and Higher Self 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:04.000 Hello, everyone. 0:00:04.160 --> 0:00:07.800 Happy Monday or Tuesday or whatever day that you're listening 0:00:07.800 --> 0:00:10.440 to your favorite podcast, Cheek is in Chill. I hope 0:00:10.480 --> 0:00:13.880 that you're having a wonderful day. I just got back 0:00:13.880 --> 0:00:17.480 from Miami and it was an amazing trip. I am 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:22.759 so grateful. My performance is doing amazing. Apparently it's gone viral. 0:00:22.880 --> 0:00:26.280 There's so many different and beautiful positive comments, so that 0:00:26.360 --> 0:00:28.960 just fulfills my heart. And I'm always excited to sit 0:00:28.960 --> 0:00:31.120 down and talk to you guys, but especially excited for 0:00:31.200 --> 0:00:35.160 today's episode because it's all about intuition and tapping into 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:36.879 our higher selves. 0:00:37.520 --> 0:00:38.680 For those of you who don't know. 0:00:38.640 --> 0:00:41.480 What that means or how to achieve that, stay tuned 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:45.560 because our guest is about to enlighten us all. Here 0:00:45.600 --> 0:00:48.920 with me today is Mariy Fontanez, an intuitive life and 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:51.640 leadership coach and the author of the new book called 0:00:51.840 --> 0:00:55.560 High your Self, Reclaiming the Power of your Intuition. She 0:00:55.720 --> 0:01:00.000 also hosts a podcast signal Hi, Maury, Welcome to the podcast. 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:01.800 I am so excited that you're here. 0:01:02.240 --> 0:01:04.200 Thank you for having me. I'm really excited to talk 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:04.800 to you too. 0:01:05.240 --> 0:01:07.600 So let's I have a lot of questions in regards 0:01:07.600 --> 0:01:12.679 to your book. But let's start off with your higher self. 0:01:13.160 --> 0:01:14.280 What does this mean? 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:18.399 Your higher self is the version of you as soon 0:01:18.440 --> 0:01:20.720 as I say it, it's going to activate and you're 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:23.400 going to feel it. It's the version of you that 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:32.399 is unencumbered by fear, limitation, shame, anxiety. It's the version 0:01:32.440 --> 0:01:35.120 of you that is so clear that all of your 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:40.200 desires are warranted and deserved, that you are full of 0:01:40.280 --> 0:01:44.560 intuitive knowing that your wisdom is within you, not outside 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:48.760 of you. It is very grounded in your worth and 0:01:49.080 --> 0:01:53.640 full of dignity. I like to help people imagine your 0:01:53.680 --> 0:01:58.240 higher self in this way. When your soul chose to 0:01:58.320 --> 0:02:02.920 take a human form to have an experience, a life experience, 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:06.480 it's sort of split into two. The version of you 0:02:06.560 --> 0:02:09.400 that came down into this plane to be in a 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:13.560 human form and have experiences. So imagine yourself down in 0:02:13.680 --> 0:02:17.880 the forest navigating life. And then the other half is 0:02:17.960 --> 0:02:22.480 kind of sitting on this mountaintop watching from above, knowing 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:26.480 what you are inherently worthy of, seeing the full picture 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:30.400 and sending you signals to guide you towards your highest good. 0:02:30.639 --> 0:02:31.680 That's your higher self. 0:02:32.520 --> 0:02:32.960 Okay. 0:02:33.200 --> 0:02:36.360 I love how you explained it because I've always tried 0:02:36.480 --> 0:02:40.600 to explain it to other people because I have my 0:02:40.639 --> 0:02:43.080 own definition in my head, and what I'm hearing from 0:02:43.120 --> 0:02:47.160 you is I always say God lives in me as me. 0:02:47.480 --> 0:02:49.639 God lives in you and all of us as us. 0:02:49.680 --> 0:02:54.280 So I feel like that is the person or that 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.200 being or the spirit or whatever it is that you 0:02:56.240 --> 0:02:59.920 want to call it, anyone that anyone that's listening, yep, that's. 0:02:59.720 --> 0:03:01.639 Sitting on that mountain waiting. 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:05.360 I think because sometimes we are so caught up in 0:03:05.400 --> 0:03:08.880 life and doing our thing that we don't take the 0:03:08.919 --> 0:03:12.280 time to look inward and really take care of that. 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:17.280 Being. I guess you know that that higher authentic self. 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:20.720 You know, well, even I will take it one step further. 0:03:21.200 --> 0:03:26.200 The true world is our inner world. That is the truth, 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:31.840 the wisdom, the knowing, and even what we desire. All 0:03:31.919 --> 0:03:37.760 of that creates the external world, and we sometimes are 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:41.120 tricked into the illusion that the external world is the 0:03:41.160 --> 0:03:45.000 truth and that we have to react to it, rather 0:03:45.040 --> 0:03:49.400 than understanding that the truth is actually within here, and 0:03:49.440 --> 0:03:53.080 the external world is a representation of my experience of that. 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:57.920 And therefore I can navigate with this you know, this, 0:03:57.920 --> 0:04:01.400 this this light within me guiding the way because I 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:04.320 know what is best for me, not I am reacting 0:04:04.360 --> 0:04:06.240 to what others are saying. 0:04:06.800 --> 0:04:09.960 Is in my highest good Oh my goodness, Yes, I 0:04:10.000 --> 0:04:12.720 love that so much because it took me so long 0:04:12.880 --> 0:04:18.520 to really really tap into that. And instead of thinking 0:04:18.720 --> 0:04:22.120 this happened to me, I now ask myself, Okay, what 0:04:22.240 --> 0:04:26.640 did I do or what can I change to change 0:04:26.640 --> 0:04:30.239 the outcome so that I'm not attracting this over and over? 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:31.160 You know? 0:04:31.279 --> 0:04:36.000 And I'm living that right now with my siblings. You know, 0:04:36.040 --> 0:04:39.520 there's some stuff going on and I'm like, Okay, instead 0:04:39.520 --> 0:04:42.599 of pointing fingers at them, let me not worry about 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:44.840 what they're doing, let me worry about what I can 0:04:44.880 --> 0:04:47.839 do differently, how I can better this situation. 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.080 So I love that you said that. Oh my gosh. Okay, 0:04:50.120 --> 0:04:51.320 So I think I'm on the right track. 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:54.920 Yeah, one hundred percent. That reframe is everything you don't 0:04:54.920 --> 0:04:58.360 have control over anyone but you and the way you 0:04:58.440 --> 0:05:01.360 see things and the decisions you from those perceptions. 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:04.000 Yes, Oh my goodness, Okay, I love that. Okay, And 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:07.279 why do you think this isn't talked about more well? 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:09.080 And I'm like, what the heck? 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:11.560 I feel like we hear a little bit about it, 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:15.840 but not as much as I think we should personally. Yeah, 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:17.320 I'm going to tell you the truth. 0:05:17.520 --> 0:05:23.599 Just yes, I love that all aside, we are conditioned 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:29.080 as a society not to trust ourselves because power is 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:33.599 more easily accumulated if we don't trust our inner voice, 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:38.640 if we are convinced by others to fear one another, 0:05:39.360 --> 0:05:43.599 to believe that others know better than we do, to 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.680 believe that we are not enough, so we need to 0:05:47.080 --> 0:05:51.359 acquire X, Y or Z product or home or car. 0:05:52.160 --> 0:05:54.520 And by the way, I'm not some like love and 0:05:54.600 --> 0:05:57.360 Light healer that's here to tell you got to abandon 0:05:57.360 --> 0:05:59.919 all of that material wealth and go live on a mountaintop. 0:06:00.040 --> 0:06:01.840 That's not what I'm saying to you. Yeah, But what 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:04.880 I am saying is an answer to your question. We 0:06:05.160 --> 0:06:10.960 are taught that others hold the answers for us, so 0:06:11.040 --> 0:06:14.680 that others can be in control of us, whoever those 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:19.240 others are. So it doesn't make sense in a society 0:06:19.279 --> 0:06:22.919 that wants to control behavior to remind you that you 0:06:23.000 --> 0:06:26.000 have the inner wisdom to know what to do next. Yeah, 0:06:26.040 --> 0:06:28.760 it makes more sense to convince you that you don't 0:06:28.760 --> 0:06:32.039 know and that you have to constantly be seeking like 0:06:32.120 --> 0:06:37.520 this hungry ghost, you know, seeking this validation, seeking wisdom 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.640 from outside yourself so that you put the power in 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:44.000 other people's hands instead of remembering who the hell you are. 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:44.960 Yeah. 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:48.520 Even seeking approval, you know, like that was a big 0:06:48.560 --> 0:06:51.400 thing for me for a long time, seeking approval of 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:55.160 my mother or my family and people pleasing and not 0:06:55.240 --> 0:06:59.640 really I was paying so much attention to the outside 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:02.920 world that I could not hear my inner voice speaking. 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:07.000 And now it's so clear everyone relates when you say 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:10.640 that we all have an inner people pleaser. Yeah, and 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:13.400 I just want to give everyone permission to see that 0:07:13.520 --> 0:07:16.640 self with some grace and love. Yeah, because that is 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:19.600 the version of us that at a very young age, 0:07:19.760 --> 0:07:23.200 not understanding what the hell was going on, living in 0:07:23.200 --> 0:07:26.960 a very chaotic and noisy world, not understanding why other 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:29.440 people were behaving the way they were, whether that's mom, 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:35.360 dad's sister, friend, whoever. We create beliefs about ourselves to 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:39.280 help make sense of a world that doesn't make sense. 0:07:40.160 --> 0:07:43.400 So when we see someone maybe not pay attention to 0:07:43.480 --> 0:07:46.920 us because they're tired or heartbroken or whatever, at a 0:07:47.040 --> 0:07:49.960 very young age, we decide, well, we need their attention, 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:54.880 because you need your caregiver's attention for survival. So from 0:07:54.960 --> 0:07:59.080 a brilliant place of survival, we create this strategy to 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:03.400 please others, to get their loving attention. That is a 0:08:03.440 --> 0:08:08.720 survival strategy that I want us to always honor. Honor 0:08:08.880 --> 0:08:13.240 is not the same thing as follow. But just notice, Oh, 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:16.680 I'm in this very old survival strategy that a much 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:20.720 younger version of myself made up to help me make 0:08:20.760 --> 0:08:25.600 sense in the world. Do I still need that outdated strategy? No, 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:29.440 but I'm grateful that you, little one, you created it 0:08:29.480 --> 0:08:31.480 because I'm alive right now because you did that. 0:08:32.240 --> 0:08:36.400 Yeah, yes, that makes so much freaking sense, like moving 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:39.560 and surviving from a place of survival, and then you 0:08:39.559 --> 0:08:41.439 get to a place where you're like, Okay, I did that. 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:42.120 That worked for me. 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:46.080 Then now I'm thriving now I can, you know, which 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:47.680 is why I wanted to have this conversation with you, 0:08:47.760 --> 0:08:51.200 because I'm like, Okay, I kind of know what intuition 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:54.400 is and being in your higher self and your authentic self, 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:57.599 but I really wanted the listeners to understand it, and 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:00.920 and you're explaining it so beautiful, which is I mean, 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:04.280 you are a leadership code ch and a life coach 0:09:04.480 --> 0:09:06.120 and a lot of people when they asked me what's 0:09:06.120 --> 0:09:07.640 the difference. I was just on a podcast not so 0:09:07.679 --> 0:09:09.560 long ago, and they said, Okay, what's the difference between 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:10.880 therapy and life coaching? 0:09:11.160 --> 0:09:12.559 And I think I might. 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:15.240 Have explained it correctly, but I feel that obviously you 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:17.640 can explain it even better. So if you can just 0:09:18.320 --> 0:09:20.720 let us know a little bit more about the difference 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:21.920 or what it is that you do. 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:25.760 Yeah, it's a good question, because sometimes it's a very 0:09:25.800 --> 0:09:30.080 blurry line. I'll tell clients when they first start with me, Look, 0:09:30.120 --> 0:09:32.720 this is going to feel like three different experiences in one. 0:09:33.040 --> 0:09:34.880 It's going to feel like therapy, but I am not 0:09:34.920 --> 0:09:39.280 a licensed therapist. Everything that I know about healing these 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:44.120 little limiting beliefs is either from my own life story 0:09:44.160 --> 0:09:48.560 and how I've healed them, or what I am really channeling, 0:09:48.679 --> 0:09:52.360 what I'm receiving as a method that makes sense from 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:57.560 the collective consciousness, from the collective knowing. It's also going 0:09:57.640 --> 0:10:02.280 to feel like a spiritual experience because there is an 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:05.000 intuitive part of me that's connecting to an intuitive part 0:10:05.000 --> 0:10:09.439 of you, and it will feel like something that's inexplicable. 0:10:09.520 --> 0:10:12.360 There's some times that I'll know things that people will 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.000 be like, well, how do you know that I'm tapping 0:10:14.080 --> 0:10:18.520 into that gift of reading that energy, and then it'll 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:22.680 feel like a leadership session. It'll feel like strategy because 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:26.040 I come from a corporate background, so I'm a strategist 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:29.560 at heart, So it'll be very tactical and focused on 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.680 exactly what you need to do to get from A 0:10:32.960 --> 0:10:36.000 to B. And I think it depends on the life 0:10:36.000 --> 0:10:39.480 coach or the therapist you see. I mean, obviously therapists 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:44.480 are clinically trained. They are going to be more educated 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:48.520 about all of the different psychological things that could be happening, 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:53.400 and that is really helpful when you're trying to understand 0:10:53.520 --> 0:10:56.199 what system is happening in your brain while you're thinking 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.680 and feeling the way you're feeling. I have lots of 0:10:59.720 --> 0:11:03.760 therapy his friends who will say, though, that sometimes because 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:07.280 some therapists stick to Western medicine and a very linear 0:11:07.320 --> 0:11:12.360 way of diagnosing things, we're missing the unspoken part. We're 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:15.800 missing the energetic part. And so for me, what I'm 0:11:15.840 --> 0:11:19.880 doing is I'm bringing in the energetic, the unspoken, the unseen, 0:11:20.400 --> 0:11:25.839 and blending the healing together with the reminder, oh, look 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:28.720 there's your higher self. Do see them? Great, that's who 0:11:28.800 --> 0:11:31.720 you really are. Now. My goal is for you to 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:34.080 never need me again. That's what good looks like for me, 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:37.480 because the wisdom is within you. I'm just the reminder. 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:44.240 Yes, I okay, I'm just I'm so excited because this 0:11:44.320 --> 0:11:45.680 is I think this. 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:47.520 I was looking for you. I've been looking for me. 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:50.960 I manifested you. Look you're on the podcast. 0:11:51.080 --> 0:11:51.160 Is. 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:54.560 I feel that way about every single client, every interview 0:11:54.600 --> 0:11:57.080 I've done for this book. It's like, if the frequency 0:11:57.240 --> 0:11:59.600 is right and the people who are listening are ready 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:01.720 for the mess, I'll show up or my book. My 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:04.480 book will just show up in people's laps, like they'll 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:06.280 just see it in a bookstore and then they'll DM 0:12:06.320 --> 0:12:08.200 me and they're like, I was just in a moment 0:12:08.240 --> 0:12:10.120 where I felt really lost and there was your book. 0:12:10.200 --> 0:12:13.040 So there's a little magic, there's a little alchemy to 0:12:13.080 --> 0:12:15.880 this message that when you're in the right place and 0:12:15.920 --> 0:12:17.640 you're ready for it, it shows up for you. 0:12:18.520 --> 0:12:19.880 Absolutely, I agree. 0:12:19.920 --> 0:12:22.199 And you do work with a lot of CEOs and 0:12:22.240 --> 0:12:25.240 important people, right, I mean, obviously we don't. 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:26.200 Need never works important. 0:12:26.520 --> 0:12:28.640 Yes, absolutely, I agree with you. 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.320 I agree with you, But I mean, do you feel 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:34.080 that they are any better with trusting themselves in like 0:12:34.160 --> 0:12:35.080 the average person. 0:12:35.600 --> 0:12:36.800 No, absolutely not. 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:37.439 Okay. 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:40.600 From my experience, you know what I have seen is 0:12:40.880 --> 0:12:43.920 I work with leaders. I also work with performers and 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:48.000 public personalities. I think that with a certain level of 0:12:48.040 --> 0:12:53.640 success comes a certain amount of confidence because your brain 0:12:53.800 --> 0:12:58.480 has received evidence that you are good at the thing, 0:12:59.240 --> 0:13:02.760 or that you make good decisions. And we need evidence 0:13:03.040 --> 0:13:06.199 to believe that's just the way we humans are. We've 0:13:06.240 --> 0:13:08.600 got to see it to believe it. So I do 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:12.559 think that when people have achieved and they are successful 0:13:12.559 --> 0:13:17.320 at whatever they're doing, there is an inherent confidence that 0:13:17.520 --> 0:13:22.640 helps them trust the next decision, but only if it's 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:25.480 a decision that fits in the tiny box of decisions 0:13:25.480 --> 0:13:28.720 they've made before. The minute they want to move to 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:33.480 another box. Let's say I'm coaching a singer who now 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:37.439 wants to be in the movies. Immediately, imposter syndrome comes in, 0:13:37.840 --> 0:13:40.360 I'm not enough comes in. All of these limiting beliefs 0:13:40.400 --> 0:13:44.800 comes in. What do you mean, my intuition? Because now 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:48.319 what their desire is asking of them is to have 0:13:48.400 --> 0:13:51.800 the courage to see themselves as their higher self in 0:13:51.880 --> 0:13:55.200 every scenario. But the evidence part of the brain the 0:13:55.280 --> 0:13:57.720 evidence part of the ego wants to say no, no, no, no, 0:13:57.840 --> 0:13:59.920 we only have evidence that you're good at this thing. 0:14:00.559 --> 0:14:02.920 So when they're coming to me, isn't a moment of 0:14:03.040 --> 0:14:06.920 change or transition or crisis because all of a sudden 0:14:07.360 --> 0:14:10.800 that system they had to trust their decision making is 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:13.880 completely flipped up in the air because it's new territory. 0:14:14.400 --> 0:14:19.320 Yeah, oh my goodness, you know it's so crazy? Is that? 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:21.760 That's where I'm at a crossroads right now, which is 0:14:21.840 --> 0:14:24.440 why I'm like, you know what, I know, I still 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:27.000 want to sing now that I've stepped back a little 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.560 bit and I've created a little bit of space, soul space, 0:14:30.280 --> 0:14:34.480 but I feel like that's going to look different moving forward. 0:14:34.640 --> 0:14:37.280 And the fear steps in exactly what you said of 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:39.400 the doubt, and I'm like, okay, wait, everything's going so 0:14:39.480 --> 0:14:41.320 well here, but why is it that my soul is 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:42.640 telling me I need to kind. 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:46.200 Of just go this way a little? So it's yes. 0:14:46.440 --> 0:14:49.240 Yes, And what happens when you don't listen to that voice? 0:14:49.280 --> 0:14:50.040 How does it feel? 0:14:50.560 --> 0:14:51.480 Oh? Horrible? 0:14:51.720 --> 0:14:53.480 And then I get a kick in the ass later 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:56.760 yes by life. Yes, And it's happened so much to me. 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.480 You guys that I have something in the pit of 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:01.520 my stomach and for me, that is God, that is 0:15:01.520 --> 0:15:03.680 my intuition, that is my higher self speaking to me. 0:15:03.760 --> 0:15:06.720 And I ignore it because of the exterior, because of 0:15:07.440 --> 0:15:10.200 fear or it's people are not going to approve of it, 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:13.680 whatever it may be. And then later on it still happens. 0:15:13.760 --> 0:15:15.920 It just it's out of my control. It just happens, 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:17.560 and I just that's the way I see it. It's 0:15:17.560 --> 0:15:19.000 a little kick in the ass that say, hey, you 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:20.920 didn't listen to me earlier, so I have to kind 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:21.760 of push you to do it. 0:15:22.040 --> 0:15:24.560 Yeah, totally, I tell you know, I believe you know. 0:15:24.600 --> 0:15:26.800 I used to do crisis management and I left that 0:15:26.960 --> 0:15:32.120 to do this work. But I always say that oftentimes 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:40.000 a crisis is intuition unlistened to, intuition unfollowed, And it's 0:15:40.040 --> 0:15:44.080 not a punishment. It's just a cause and effect. It's 0:15:44.200 --> 0:15:49.560 just evidence that you're knowing was right, so that next 0:15:49.600 --> 0:15:51.760 time you can trust it. There's always a next time. 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:54.960 We can take that beat up stick and put it down, Yeah, 0:15:55.000 --> 0:15:57.680 because you will get a chance again to listen. And 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:00.080 the point is when will you begin to learn to 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:01.240 trust that wisdom? 0:16:01.800 --> 0:16:04.400 Yeah, And you know right now that you said punishment. 0:16:04.480 --> 0:16:07.280 It's something that I also struggled with for a long 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:10.000 time because I come from like a Christian family, and 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:12.920 I always say, you know, I am a spiritual woman. 0:16:12.960 --> 0:16:16.600 Now I am not religious, but I think when I 0:16:16.720 --> 0:16:21.960 was very religious and Christian, I always felt like I 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.320 was going to be punished if I didn't do the 0:16:24.400 --> 0:16:27.120 right thing. And I had this crazy amount of fear 0:16:27.160 --> 0:16:30.320 within me that if I did something wrong, I was 0:16:30.360 --> 0:16:32.240 going to get punished or if I didn't listen. And 0:16:32.280 --> 0:16:38.000 now I feel that I have the choice. I don't 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:40.600 know how to explain it. Maybe you'll know a little 0:16:40.640 --> 0:16:42.720 bit what I'm talking about, but I think it's important 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:46.160 to talk about that because it would paralyze me. 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:48.200 Yeah, I couldn't even move. 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:50.000 I'm like, I'm not even going to do anything because 0:16:50.080 --> 0:16:52.720 I'm just so freaking fearful. And now I move with 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:57.720 liberty and I'm like, Okay, I know, I'm just following 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:00.480 this feeling. But even if I take a little detour 0:17:00.640 --> 0:17:04.119 because of whatever, X, Y and Z, it's okay, I'll 0:17:04.119 --> 0:17:06.800 come back here. I can come back and yes, I'm 0:17:06.800 --> 0:17:07.720 not a horrible person. 0:17:08.080 --> 0:17:11.439 Yeah, And are you harder to control? With this awareness. 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:12.200 Yes. 0:17:12.560 --> 0:17:16.120 Okay, going back to your very first question, why are 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:19.520 we not taught that were intuitive? Because it's harder to 0:17:19.560 --> 0:17:23.119 control you. It's easier to control you when there's a 0:17:23.200 --> 0:17:27.040 system that tells you you need to be fearful of 0:17:27.119 --> 0:17:33.080 an external punishment. And that is not to say anything 0:17:33.080 --> 0:17:37.359 about anyone's religion. I actually very much honor spirituality in 0:17:37.400 --> 0:17:40.400 every way, and religion is one of them. But sometimes 0:17:40.520 --> 0:17:46.120 even spirituality can be formalized into a system aka religion 0:17:46.760 --> 0:17:51.000 that then has the human ego involved in it. Yeah, 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:55.679 there are other people involved in explaining though. I always 0:17:55.680 --> 0:17:58.160 think about how, you know, back in the day when 0:17:58.160 --> 0:18:01.080 they didn't want women to have any writes, women were 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:03.800 not allowed to read. Why they didn't want women to 0:18:03.880 --> 0:18:07.520 read and interpret? Actually, it was illegal for a long 0:18:07.560 --> 0:18:10.960 time for people to interpret the Bible and throughout Europe 0:18:11.080 --> 0:18:15.159 on their own. Wow, because what did they want? What 0:18:15.200 --> 0:18:18.120 did the Catholic Church want to be able to interpret 0:18:18.160 --> 0:18:20.679 it for you? So that is a system of control. 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:31.840 Okay, So let's talk a little bit about men. Do 0:18:31.920 --> 0:18:35.040 you feel that men are better at leaning into their 0:18:35.080 --> 0:18:36.320 intuition than women? 0:18:37.000 --> 0:18:38.840 Yeah? I get this question a lot. I get this 0:18:38.920 --> 0:18:40.840 question because of the term women's intuition. 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:41.960 Mm hmmm. 0:18:43.480 --> 0:18:45.760 I don't believe that your intuition is connected to your 0:18:45.800 --> 0:18:49.040 gender whatsoever. Okay, in fact, I know that it's not. 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:55.480 I do feel that male CEOs and executives follow their 0:18:55.520 --> 0:19:01.640 intuition more openly and without permission. They may not talk 0:19:01.680 --> 0:19:04.119 about it that way, but they just feel something and 0:19:04.119 --> 0:19:07.399 they make a decision. I think Forbes did a study 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:09.640 once and sixty eight percent of ceo said they make 0:19:09.680 --> 0:19:13.080 decisions based off their intuition. I think that women in 0:19:13.119 --> 0:19:17.640 the workplace feel and know, but are not as allowed 0:19:17.960 --> 0:19:21.919 to just be decisive from that place of knowing. But 0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:25.000 I think that if you look at people in general 0:19:25.040 --> 0:19:27.840 and the way they live their lives and lead their lives, 0:19:27.920 --> 0:19:32.560 everyone is intuitive. Yeah, everyone is intuitive. The difference comes 0:19:32.640 --> 0:19:36.399 with the level of fear that's blocking your ability to 0:19:36.480 --> 0:19:40.160 hear and follow your intuition, and that is does not discriminate, 0:19:40.760 --> 0:19:45.160 you know, gender color. We all have different levels of fear, 0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:48.800 and we all have a highly intuitive part of us. 0:19:49.080 --> 0:19:52.800 Yes, all of us. Yeah, I truly believe that for sure. 0:19:53.480 --> 0:19:54.840 Every time I pray them, I thank you for my 0:19:54.880 --> 0:19:57.800 five cents is in my sixth sense because I want 0:19:57.840 --> 0:20:01.399 to like tap more and into it and not ignore it. 0:20:01.640 --> 0:20:06.000 I wasted so many years on ignoring that, and like 0:20:06.040 --> 0:20:08.360 you said, because of a fear, you know. I mean, 0:20:08.359 --> 0:20:10.720 it's sometimes it's scary to step into the known or 0:20:11.400 --> 0:20:13.240 to listen to it because you're like, wait. And for 0:20:13.280 --> 0:20:16.680 a long time, Marie, I was a little obsessed with 0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:19.800 like psychics because I knew what I was feeling, but 0:20:19.840 --> 0:20:22.919 I need confirmation totally. I need someone to tell me, 0:20:23.040 --> 0:20:26.840 and it just would cause a world of problems for me. Hmm. 0:20:27.600 --> 0:20:29.640 I was leaning too much into that, and I felt 0:20:29.680 --> 0:20:31.880 like I was getting even further and further away from 0:20:31.880 --> 0:20:35.120 my own knowing. Yeah, because I was depending so much 0:20:35.119 --> 0:20:37.119 on someone else to tell me what to do or 0:20:37.119 --> 0:20:37.560 not to do. 0:20:37.880 --> 0:20:40.919 Yeah, oh yeah. Anytime you go see any healer or 0:20:40.960 --> 0:20:44.280 psychic medium, really have to check what you're receiving against 0:20:44.359 --> 0:20:45.040 your own knowing. 0:20:45.960 --> 0:20:46.240 Yeah. 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:51.640 Always, no one knows better about you than you. Sometimes 0:20:52.280 --> 0:20:55.560 someone who's gifted that way can open your eyes to 0:20:55.680 --> 0:20:58.800 something that you may not have seen, but then you'll 0:20:58.840 --> 0:21:02.359 feel that in your body as truth. Whatever truth feels 0:21:02.359 --> 0:21:04.240 like in your body, you just know it when they 0:21:04.240 --> 0:21:06.880 say it. But if it's hitting in a place where 0:21:06.880 --> 0:21:10.640 you're like, no, that wisdom is there to guide you, 0:21:10.800 --> 0:21:13.680 so always check everything you hear against that wisdom. 0:21:14.000 --> 0:21:15.719 And you can feel, like you just said, right now, 0:21:16.359 --> 0:21:20.400 your intuition in your I feel it in my tummy. Yeah, 0:21:20.400 --> 0:21:23.560 forensipan people, you could feel it anywhere right or yeah. 0:21:23.600 --> 0:21:23.879 Okay. 0:21:23.920 --> 0:21:27.280 That's where the term gut feeling comes from, because the 0:21:27.280 --> 0:21:31.199 gut actually has a lot to do with consciousness and 0:21:31.240 --> 0:21:34.040 what we perceive. There's just just starting to figure that 0:21:34.080 --> 0:21:39.160 out scientists. But the body is a very good reminder 0:21:39.240 --> 0:21:44.600 of all experiences trauma, which feels like tightness, sharpness, pain, 0:21:45.400 --> 0:21:48.119 and intuitive knowing, which can feel for a lot of 0:21:48.119 --> 0:21:50.960 people like a little bubbly feeling their stomach. Some people 0:21:51.040 --> 0:21:53.680 feel it like energy building in their chest. Some people 0:21:53.720 --> 0:21:56.960 will say their fingers get a little numb, and I 0:21:57.000 --> 0:22:00.639 say in the book, there's three ways to tell the 0:22:00.680 --> 0:22:04.200 difference between intuition and fear when you're making a decision 0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:08.040 in your body is one of them. Fear in your 0:22:08.080 --> 0:22:12.840 body feels like a contraction, it feels like pressure, it 0:22:12.880 --> 0:22:17.520