1 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: Hello, everyone. 2 00:00:04,160 --> 00:00:07,800 Speaker 2: Happy Monday or Tuesday or whatever day that you're listening 3 00:00:07,800 --> 00:00:10,440 Speaker 2: to your favorite podcast, Cheek is in Chill. I hope 4 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:13,880 Speaker 2: that you're having a wonderful day. I just got back 5 00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:17,480 Speaker 2: from Miami and it was an amazing trip. I am 6 00:00:17,600 --> 00:00:22,759 Speaker 2: so grateful. My performance is doing amazing. Apparently it's gone viral. 7 00:00:22,880 --> 00:00:26,280 Speaker 2: There's so many different and beautiful positive comments, so that 8 00:00:26,360 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 2: just fulfills my heart. And I'm always excited to sit 9 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 2: down and talk to you guys, but especially excited for 10 00:00:31,200 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 2: today's episode because it's all about intuition and tapping into 11 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:36,879 Speaker 2: our higher selves. 12 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 1: For those of you who don't know. 13 00:00:38,640 --> 00:00:41,480 Speaker 2: What that means or how to achieve that, stay tuned 14 00:00:41,520 --> 00:00:45,560 Speaker 2: because our guest is about to enlighten us all. Here 15 00:00:45,600 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 2: with me today is Mariy Fontanez, an intuitive life and 16 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 2: leadership coach and the author of the new book called 17 00:00:51,840 --> 00:00:55,560 Speaker 2: High your Self, Reclaiming the Power of your Intuition. She 18 00:00:55,720 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 2: also hosts a podcast signal Hi, Maury, Welcome to the podcast. 19 00:01:00,360 --> 00:01:01,800 Speaker 2: I am so excited that you're here. 20 00:01:02,240 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 3: Thank you for having me. I'm really excited to talk 21 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 3: to you too. 22 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 2: So let's I have a lot of questions in regards 23 00:01:07,600 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 2: to your book. But let's start off with your higher self. 24 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 2: What does this mean? 25 00:01:15,319 --> 00:01:18,399 Speaker 3: Your higher self is the version of you as soon 26 00:01:18,440 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 3: as I say it, it's going to activate and you're 27 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:23,400 Speaker 3: going to feel it. It's the version of you that 28 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:32,399 Speaker 3: is unencumbered by fear, limitation, shame, anxiety. It's the version 29 00:01:32,440 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 3: of you that is so clear that all of your 30 00:01:35,160 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 3: desires are warranted and deserved, that you are full of 31 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 3: intuitive knowing that your wisdom is within you, not outside 32 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 3: of you. It is very grounded in your worth and 33 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:53,640 Speaker 3: full of dignity. I like to help people imagine your 34 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:58,240 Speaker 3: higher self in this way. When your soul chose to 35 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 3: take a human form to have an experience, a life experience, 36 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 3: it's sort of split into two. The version of you 37 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 3: that came down into this plane to be in a 38 00:02:09,480 --> 00:02:13,560 Speaker 3: human form and have experiences. So imagine yourself down in 39 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 3: the forest navigating life. And then the other half is 40 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 3: kind of sitting on this mountaintop watching from above, knowing 41 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:26,480 Speaker 3: what you are inherently worthy of, seeing the full picture 42 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 3: and sending you signals to guide you towards your highest good. 43 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 3: That's your higher self. 44 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:32,960 Speaker 1: Okay. 45 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,360 Speaker 2: I love how you explained it because I've always tried 46 00:02:36,480 --> 00:02:40,600 Speaker 2: to explain it to other people because I have my 47 00:02:40,639 --> 00:02:43,080 Speaker 2: own definition in my head, and what I'm hearing from 48 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:47,160 Speaker 2: you is I always say God lives in me as me. 49 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:49,639 Speaker 2: God lives in you and all of us as us. 50 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:54,280 Speaker 2: So I feel like that is the person or that 51 00:02:54,360 --> 00:02:56,200 Speaker 2: being or the spirit or whatever it is that you 52 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:59,920 Speaker 2: want to call it, anyone that anyone that's listening, yep, that's. 53 00:02:59,720 --> 00:03:01,639 Speaker 1: Sitting on that mountain waiting. 54 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:05,360 Speaker 2: I think because sometimes we are so caught up in 55 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:08,880 Speaker 2: life and doing our thing that we don't take the 56 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 2: time to look inward and really take care of that. 57 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:17,280 Speaker 1: Being. I guess you know that that higher authentic self. 58 00:03:17,520 --> 00:03:20,720 Speaker 3: You know, well, even I will take it one step further. 59 00:03:21,200 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 3: The true world is our inner world. That is the truth, 60 00:03:26,960 --> 00:03:31,840 Speaker 3: the wisdom, the knowing, and even what we desire. All 61 00:03:31,919 --> 00:03:37,760 Speaker 3: of that creates the external world, and we sometimes are 62 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:41,120 Speaker 3: tricked into the illusion that the external world is the 63 00:03:41,160 --> 00:03:45,000 Speaker 3: truth and that we have to react to it, rather 64 00:03:45,040 --> 00:03:49,400 Speaker 3: than understanding that the truth is actually within here, and 65 00:03:49,440 --> 00:03:53,080 Speaker 3: the external world is a representation of my experience of that. 66 00:03:53,760 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 3: And therefore I can navigate with this you know, this, 67 00:03:57,920 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 3: this this light within me guiding the way because I 68 00:04:01,480 --> 00:04:04,320 Speaker 3: know what is best for me, not I am reacting 69 00:04:04,360 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 3: to what others are saying. 70 00:04:06,800 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 2: Is in my highest good Oh my goodness, Yes, I 71 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 2: love that so much because it took me so long 72 00:04:12,880 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 2: to really really tap into that. And instead of thinking 73 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:22,120 Speaker 2: this happened to me, I now ask myself, Okay, what 74 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 2: did I do or what can I change to change 75 00:04:26,640 --> 00:04:30,239 Speaker 2: the outcome so that I'm not attracting this over and over? 76 00:04:30,920 --> 00:04:31,160 Speaker 1: You know? 77 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 2: And I'm living that right now with my siblings. You know, 78 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:39,520 Speaker 2: there's some stuff going on and I'm like, Okay, instead 79 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 2: of pointing fingers at them, let me not worry about 80 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:44,840 Speaker 2: what they're doing, let me worry about what I can 81 00:04:44,880 --> 00:04:47,839 Speaker 2: do differently, how I can better this situation. 82 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: So I love that you said that. Oh my gosh. Okay, 83 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 1: So I think I'm on the right track. 84 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent. That reframe is everything you don't 85 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 3: have control over anyone but you and the way you 86 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:01,360 Speaker 3: see things and the decisions you from those perceptions. 87 00:05:01,520 --> 00:05:04,000 Speaker 2: Yes, Oh my goodness, Okay, I love that. Okay, And 88 00:05:04,040 --> 00:05:07,279 Speaker 2: why do you think this isn't talked about more well? 89 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 1: And I'm like, what the heck? 90 00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 2: I feel like we hear a little bit about it, 91 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:15,840 Speaker 2: but not as much as I think we should personally. Yeah, 92 00:05:15,880 --> 00:05:17,320 Speaker 2: I'm going to tell you the truth. 93 00:05:17,520 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 3: Just yes, I love that all aside, we are conditioned 94 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:29,080 Speaker 3: as a society not to trust ourselves because power is 95 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:33,599 Speaker 3: more easily accumulated if we don't trust our inner voice, 96 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:38,640 Speaker 3: if we are convinced by others to fear one another, 97 00:05:39,360 --> 00:05:43,599 Speaker 3: to believe that others know better than we do, to 98 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,680 Speaker 3: believe that we are not enough, so we need to 99 00:05:47,080 --> 00:05:51,359 Speaker 3: acquire X, Y or Z product or home or car. 100 00:05:52,160 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 3: And by the way, I'm not some like love and 101 00:05:54,600 --> 00:05:57,360 Speaker 3: Light healer that's here to tell you got to abandon 102 00:05:57,360 --> 00:05:59,919 Speaker 3: all of that material wealth and go live on a mountaintop. 103 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:01,840 Speaker 3: That's not what I'm saying to you. Yeah, But what 104 00:06:01,920 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 3: I am saying is an answer to your question. We 105 00:06:05,160 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 3: are taught that others hold the answers for us, so 106 00:06:11,040 --> 00:06:14,680 Speaker 3: that others can be in control of us, whoever those 107 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 3: others are. So it doesn't make sense in a society 108 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:22,919 Speaker 3: that wants to control behavior to remind you that you 109 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:26,000 Speaker 3: have the inner wisdom to know what to do next. Yeah, 110 00:06:26,040 --> 00:06:28,760 Speaker 3: it makes more sense to convince you that you don't 111 00:06:28,760 --> 00:06:32,039 Speaker 3: know and that you have to constantly be seeking like 112 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:37,520 Speaker 3: this hungry ghost, you know, seeking this validation, seeking wisdom 113 00:06:37,920 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 3: from outside yourself so that you put the power in 114 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:44,000 Speaker 3: other people's hands instead of remembering who the hell you are. 115 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:44,960 Speaker 1: Yeah. 116 00:06:45,480 --> 00:06:48,520 Speaker 2: Even seeking approval, you know, like that was a big 117 00:06:48,560 --> 00:06:51,400 Speaker 2: thing for me for a long time, seeking approval of 118 00:06:51,440 --> 00:06:55,160 Speaker 2: my mother or my family and people pleasing and not 119 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:59,640 Speaker 2: really I was paying so much attention to the outside 120 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 2: world that I could not hear my inner voice speaking. 121 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:07,000 Speaker 3: And now it's so clear everyone relates when you say 122 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 3: that we all have an inner people pleaser. Yeah, and 123 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 3: I just want to give everyone permission to see that 124 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 3: self with some grace and love. Yeah, because that is 125 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 3: the version of us that at a very young age, 126 00:07:19,760 --> 00:07:23,200 Speaker 3: not understanding what the hell was going on, living in 127 00:07:23,200 --> 00:07:26,960 Speaker 3: a very chaotic and noisy world, not understanding why other 128 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 3: people were behaving the way they were, whether that's mom, 129 00:07:29,560 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 3: dad's sister, friend, whoever. We create beliefs about ourselves to 130 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:39,280 Speaker 3: help make sense of a world that doesn't make sense. 131 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 3: So when we see someone maybe not pay attention to 132 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:46,920 Speaker 3: us because they're tired or heartbroken or whatever, at a 133 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 3: very young age, we decide, well, we need their attention, 134 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 3: because you need your caregiver's attention for survival. So from 135 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:59,080 Speaker 3: a brilliant place of survival, we create this strategy to 136 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:03,400 Speaker 3: please others, to get their loving attention. That is a 137 00:08:03,440 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 3: survival strategy that I want us to always honor. Honor 138 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:13,240 Speaker 3: is not the same thing as follow. But just notice, Oh, 139 00:08:13,320 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 3: I'm in this very old survival strategy that a much 140 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 3: younger version of myself made up to help me make 141 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 3: sense in the world. Do I still need that outdated strategy? No, 142 00:08:26,080 --> 00:08:29,440 Speaker 3: but I'm grateful that you, little one, you created it 143 00:08:29,480 --> 00:08:31,480 Speaker 3: because I'm alive right now because you did that. 144 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:36,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, that makes so much freaking sense, like moving 145 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:39,560 Speaker 2: and surviving from a place of survival, and then you 146 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:41,439 Speaker 2: get to a place where you're like, Okay, I did that. 147 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 1: That worked for me. 148 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:46,080 Speaker 2: Then now I'm thriving now I can, you know, which 149 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 2: is why I wanted to have this conversation with you, 150 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 2: because I'm like, Okay, I kind of know what intuition 151 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:54,400 Speaker 2: is and being in your higher self and your authentic self, 152 00:08:54,440 --> 00:08:57,599 Speaker 2: but I really wanted the listeners to understand it, and 153 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:00,920 Speaker 2: and you're explaining it so beautiful, which is I mean, 154 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:04,280 Speaker 2: you are a leadership code ch and a life coach 155 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:06,120 Speaker 2: and a lot of people when they asked me what's 156 00:09:06,120 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 2: the difference. I was just on a podcast not so 157 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:09,560 Speaker 2: long ago, and they said, Okay, what's the difference between 158 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:10,880 Speaker 2: therapy and life coaching? 159 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:12,559 Speaker 1: And I think I might. 160 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:15,240 Speaker 2: Have explained it correctly, but I feel that obviously you 161 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 2: can explain it even better. So if you can just 162 00:09:18,320 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 2: let us know a little bit more about the difference 163 00:09:20,840 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 2: or what it is that you do. 164 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:25,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a good question, because sometimes it's a very 165 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:30,080 Speaker 3: blurry line. I'll tell clients when they first start with me, Look, 166 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 3: this is going to feel like three different experiences in one. 167 00:09:33,040 --> 00:09:34,880 Speaker 3: It's going to feel like therapy, but I am not 168 00:09:34,920 --> 00:09:39,280 Speaker 3: a licensed therapist. Everything that I know about healing these 169 00:09:39,320 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 3: little limiting beliefs is either from my own life story 170 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:48,560 Speaker 3: and how I've healed them, or what I am really channeling, 171 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:52,360 Speaker 3: what I'm receiving as a method that makes sense from 172 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 3: the collective consciousness, from the collective knowing. It's also going 173 00:09:57,640 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 3: to feel like a spiritual experience because there is an 174 00:10:02,320 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 3: intuitive part of me that's connecting to an intuitive part 175 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:09,439 Speaker 3: of you, and it will feel like something that's inexplicable. 176 00:10:09,520 --> 00:10:12,360 Speaker 3: There's some times that I'll know things that people will 177 00:10:12,400 --> 00:10:14,000 Speaker 3: be like, well, how do you know that I'm tapping 178 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 3: into that gift of reading that energy, and then it'll 179 00:10:18,520 --> 00:10:22,680 Speaker 3: feel like a leadership session. It'll feel like strategy because 180 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:26,040 Speaker 3: I come from a corporate background, so I'm a strategist 181 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 3: at heart, So it'll be very tactical and focused on 182 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:32,680 Speaker 3: exactly what you need to do to get from A 183 00:10:32,960 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 3: to B. And I think it depends on the life 184 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:39,480 Speaker 3: coach or the therapist you see. I mean, obviously therapists 185 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:44,480 Speaker 3: are clinically trained. They are going to be more educated 186 00:10:45,040 --> 00:10:48,520 Speaker 3: about all of the different psychological things that could be happening, 187 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 3: and that is really helpful when you're trying to understand 188 00:10:53,520 --> 00:10:56,199 Speaker 3: what system is happening in your brain while you're thinking 189 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:59,680 Speaker 3: and feeling the way you're feeling. I have lots of 190 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:03,760 Speaker 3: therapy his friends who will say, though, that sometimes because 191 00:11:03,800 --> 00:11:07,280 Speaker 3: some therapists stick to Western medicine and a very linear 192 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 3: way of diagnosing things, we're missing the unspoken part. We're 193 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,800 Speaker 3: missing the energetic part. And so for me, what I'm 194 00:11:15,840 --> 00:11:19,880 Speaker 3: doing is I'm bringing in the energetic, the unspoken, the unseen, 195 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:25,839 Speaker 3: and blending the healing together with the reminder, oh, look 196 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:28,720 Speaker 3: there's your higher self. Do see them? Great, that's who 197 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:31,720 Speaker 3: you really are. Now. My goal is for you to 198 00:11:31,760 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 3: never need me again. That's what good looks like for me, 199 00:11:34,400 --> 00:11:37,480 Speaker 3: because the wisdom is within you. I'm just the reminder. 200 00:11:39,640 --> 00:11:44,240 Speaker 2: Yes, I okay, I'm just I'm so excited because this 201 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:45,680 Speaker 2: is I think this. 202 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:47,520 Speaker 1: I was looking for you. I've been looking for me. 203 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:50,960 Speaker 1: I manifested you. Look you're on the podcast. 204 00:11:51,080 --> 00:11:51,160 Speaker 2: Is. 205 00:11:51,320 --> 00:11:54,560 Speaker 3: I feel that way about every single client, every interview 206 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:57,080 Speaker 3: I've done for this book. It's like, if the frequency 207 00:11:57,240 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 3: is right and the people who are listening are ready 208 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:01,720 Speaker 3: for the mess, I'll show up or my book. My 209 00:12:01,760 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 3: book will just show up in people's laps, like they'll 210 00:12:04,520 --> 00:12:06,280 Speaker 3: just see it in a bookstore and then they'll DM 211 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 3: me and they're like, I was just in a moment 212 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:10,120 Speaker 3: where I felt really lost and there was your book. 213 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 3: So there's a little magic, there's a little alchemy to 214 00:12:13,080 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 3: this message that when you're in the right place and 215 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:17,640 Speaker 3: you're ready for it, it shows up for you. 216 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:19,880 Speaker 1: Absolutely, I agree. 217 00:12:19,920 --> 00:12:22,199 Speaker 2: And you do work with a lot of CEOs and 218 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:25,240 Speaker 2: important people, right, I mean, obviously we don't. 219 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:26,200 Speaker 3: Need never works important. 220 00:12:26,520 --> 00:12:28,640 Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, I agree with you. 221 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:31,320 Speaker 2: I agree with you, But I mean, do you feel 222 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:34,080 Speaker 2: that they are any better with trusting themselves in like 223 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:35,080 Speaker 2: the average person. 224 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 3: No, absolutely not. 225 00:12:37,040 --> 00:12:37,439 Speaker 1: Okay. 226 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 3: From my experience, you know what I have seen is 227 00:12:40,880 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 3: I work with leaders. I also work with performers and 228 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 3: public personalities. I think that with a certain level of 229 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:53,640 Speaker 3: success comes a certain amount of confidence because your brain 230 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:58,480 Speaker 3: has received evidence that you are good at the thing, 231 00:12:59,240 --> 00:13:02,760 Speaker 3: or that you make good decisions. And we need evidence 232 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:06,199 Speaker 3: to believe that's just the way we humans are. We've 233 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 3: got to see it to believe it. So I do 234 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:12,559 Speaker 3: think that when people have achieved and they are successful 235 00:13:12,559 --> 00:13:17,320 Speaker 3: at whatever they're doing, there is an inherent confidence that 236 00:13:17,520 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 3: helps them trust the next decision, but only if it's 237 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:25,480 Speaker 3: a decision that fits in the tiny box of decisions 238 00:13:25,480 --> 00:13:28,720 Speaker 3: they've made before. The minute they want to move to 239 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 3: another box. Let's say I'm coaching a singer who now 240 00:13:33,559 --> 00:13:37,439 Speaker 3: wants to be in the movies. Immediately, imposter syndrome comes in, 241 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 3: I'm not enough comes in. All of these limiting beliefs 242 00:13:40,400 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 3: comes in. What do you mean, my intuition? Because now 243 00:13:45,360 --> 00:13:48,319 Speaker 3: what their desire is asking of them is to have 244 00:13:48,400 --> 00:13:51,800 Speaker 3: the courage to see themselves as their higher self in 245 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:55,200 Speaker 3: every scenario. But the evidence part of the brain the 246 00:13:55,280 --> 00:13:57,720 Speaker 3: evidence part of the ego wants to say no, no, no, no, 247 00:13:57,840 --> 00:13:59,920 Speaker 3: we only have evidence that you're good at this thing. 248 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 3: So when they're coming to me, isn't a moment of 249 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 3: change or transition or crisis because all of a sudden 250 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 3: that system they had to trust their decision making is 251 00:14:10,880 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 3: completely flipped up in the air because it's new territory. 252 00:14:14,400 --> 00:14:19,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, oh my goodness, you know it's so crazy? Is that? 253 00:14:19,320 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 2: That's where I'm at a crossroads right now, which is 254 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 2: why I'm like, you know what, I know, I still 255 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:27,000 Speaker 2: want to sing now that I've stepped back a little 256 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:29,560 Speaker 2: bit and I've created a little bit of space, soul space, 257 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 2: but I feel like that's going to look different moving forward. 258 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:37,280 Speaker 2: And the fear steps in exactly what you said of 259 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 2: the doubt, and I'm like, okay, wait, everything's going so 260 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:41,320 Speaker 2: well here, but why is it that my soul is 261 00:14:41,360 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 2: telling me I need to kind. 262 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: Of just go this way a little? So it's yes. 263 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:49,240 Speaker 3: Yes, And what happens when you don't listen to that voice? 264 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:50,040 Speaker 3: How does it feel? 265 00:14:50,560 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: Oh? Horrible? 266 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:53,480 Speaker 2: And then I get a kick in the ass later 267 00:14:53,760 --> 00:14:56,760 Speaker 2: yes by life. Yes, And it's happened so much to me. 268 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:59,480 Speaker 2: You guys that I have something in the pit of 269 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:01,520 Speaker 2: my stomach and for me, that is God, that is 270 00:15:01,520 --> 00:15:03,680 Speaker 2: my intuition, that is my higher self speaking to me. 271 00:15:03,760 --> 00:15:06,720 Speaker 2: And I ignore it because of the exterior, because of 272 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 2: fear or it's people are not going to approve of it, 273 00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:13,680 Speaker 2: whatever it may be. And then later on it still happens. 274 00:15:13,760 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 2: It just it's out of my control. It just happens, 275 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:17,560 Speaker 2: and I just that's the way I see it. It's 276 00:15:17,560 --> 00:15:19,000 Speaker 2: a little kick in the ass that say, hey, you 277 00:15:19,040 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 2: didn't listen to me earlier, so I have to kind 278 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 2: of push you to do it. 279 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, totally, I tell you know, I believe you know. 280 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:26,800 Speaker 3: I used to do crisis management and I left that 281 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 3: to do this work. But I always say that oftentimes 282 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:40,000 Speaker 3: a crisis is intuition unlistened to, intuition unfollowed, And it's 283 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:44,080 Speaker 3: not a punishment. It's just a cause and effect. It's 284 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 3: just evidence that you're knowing was right, so that next 285 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:51,760 Speaker 3: time you can trust it. There's always a next time. 286 00:15:51,880 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 3: We can take that beat up stick and put it down, Yeah, 287 00:15:55,000 --> 00:15:57,680 Speaker 3: because you will get a chance again to listen. And 288 00:15:57,800 --> 00:16:00,080 Speaker 3: the point is when will you begin to learn to 289 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:01,240 Speaker 3: trust that wisdom? 290 00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:04,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know right now that you said punishment. 291 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 2: It's something that I also struggled with for a long 292 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:10,000 Speaker 2: time because I come from like a Christian family, and 293 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:12,920 Speaker 2: I always say, you know, I am a spiritual woman. 294 00:16:12,960 --> 00:16:16,600 Speaker 2: Now I am not religious, but I think when I 295 00:16:16,720 --> 00:16:21,960 Speaker 2: was very religious and Christian, I always felt like I 296 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:24,320 Speaker 2: was going to be punished if I didn't do the 297 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:27,120 Speaker 2: right thing. And I had this crazy amount of fear 298 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:30,320 Speaker 2: within me that if I did something wrong, I was 299 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 2: going to get punished or if I didn't listen. And 300 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 2: now I feel that I have the choice. I don't 301 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 2: know how to explain it. Maybe you'll know a little 302 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 2: bit what I'm talking about, but I think it's important 303 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:46,160 Speaker 2: to talk about that because it would paralyze me. 304 00:16:46,680 --> 00:16:48,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, I couldn't even move. 305 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not even going to do anything because 306 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 2: I'm just so freaking fearful. And now I move with 307 00:16:52,880 --> 00:16:57,720 Speaker 2: liberty and I'm like, Okay, I know, I'm just following 308 00:16:57,760 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 2: this feeling. But even if I take a little detour 309 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:04,119 Speaker 2: because of whatever, X, Y and Z, it's okay, I'll 310 00:17:04,119 --> 00:17:06,800 Speaker 2: come back here. I can come back and yes, I'm 311 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:07,720 Speaker 2: not a horrible person. 312 00:17:08,080 --> 00:17:11,439 Speaker 3: Yeah, And are you harder to control? With this awareness. 313 00:17:11,960 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 1: Yes. 314 00:17:12,560 --> 00:17:16,120 Speaker 3: Okay, going back to your very first question, why are 315 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:19,520 Speaker 3: we not taught that were intuitive? Because it's harder to 316 00:17:19,560 --> 00:17:23,119 Speaker 3: control you. It's easier to control you when there's a 317 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:27,040 Speaker 3: system that tells you you need to be fearful of 318 00:17:27,119 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 3: an external punishment. And that is not to say anything 319 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:37,359 Speaker 3: about anyone's religion. I actually very much honor spirituality in 320 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:40,400 Speaker 3: every way, and religion is one of them. But sometimes 321 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:46,120 Speaker 3: even spirituality can be formalized into a system aka religion 322 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:51,000 Speaker 3: that then has the human ego involved in it. Yeah, 323 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:55,679 Speaker 3: there are other people involved in explaining though. I always 324 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:58,160 Speaker 3: think about how, you know, back in the day when 325 00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 3: they didn't want women to have any writes, women were 326 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:03,800 Speaker 3: not allowed to read. Why they didn't want women to 327 00:18:03,880 --> 00:18:07,520 Speaker 3: read and interpret? Actually, it was illegal for a long 328 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:10,960 Speaker 3: time for people to interpret the Bible and throughout Europe 329 00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:15,159 Speaker 3: on their own. Wow, because what did they want? What 330 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:18,120 Speaker 3: did the Catholic Church want to be able to interpret 331 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:20,679 Speaker 3: it for you? So that is a system of control. 332 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:31,840 Speaker 2: Okay, So let's talk a little bit about men. Do 333 00:18:31,920 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 2: you feel that men are better at leaning into their 334 00:18:35,080 --> 00:18:36,320 Speaker 2: intuition than women? 335 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 3: Yeah? I get this question a lot. I get this 336 00:18:38,920 --> 00:18:40,840 Speaker 3: question because of the term women's intuition. 337 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:41,960 Speaker 1: Mm hmmm. 338 00:18:43,480 --> 00:18:45,760 Speaker 3: I don't believe that your intuition is connected to your 339 00:18:45,800 --> 00:18:49,040 Speaker 3: gender whatsoever. Okay, in fact, I know that it's not. 340 00:18:49,880 --> 00:18:55,480 Speaker 3: I do feel that male CEOs and executives follow their 341 00:18:55,520 --> 00:19:01,640 Speaker 3: intuition more openly and without permission. They may not talk 342 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:04,119 Speaker 3: about it that way, but they just feel something and 343 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:07,399 Speaker 3: they make a decision. I think Forbes did a study 344 00:19:07,440 --> 00:19:09,640 Speaker 3: once and sixty eight percent of ceo said they make 345 00:19:09,680 --> 00:19:13,080 Speaker 3: decisions based off their intuition. I think that women in 346 00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:17,640 Speaker 3: the workplace feel and know, but are not as allowed 347 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:21,919 Speaker 3: to just be decisive from that place of knowing. But 348 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 3: I think that if you look at people in general 349 00:19:25,040 --> 00:19:27,840 Speaker 3: and the way they live their lives and lead their lives, 350 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:32,560 Speaker 3: everyone is intuitive. Yeah, everyone is intuitive. The difference comes 351 00:19:32,640 --> 00:19:36,399 Speaker 3: with the level of fear that's blocking your ability to 352 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:40,160 Speaker 3: hear and follow your intuition, and that is does not discriminate, 353 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:45,160 Speaker 3: you know, gender color. We all have different levels of fear, 354 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 3: and we all have a highly intuitive part of us. 355 00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:52,800 Speaker 1: Yes, all of us. Yeah, I truly believe that for sure. 356 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:54,840 Speaker 2: Every time I pray them, I thank you for my 357 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 2: five cents is in my sixth sense because I want 358 00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:01,399 Speaker 2: to like tap more and into it and not ignore it. 359 00:20:01,640 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 2: I wasted so many years on ignoring that, and like 360 00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:08,360 Speaker 2: you said, because of a fear, you know. I mean, 361 00:20:08,359 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 2: it's sometimes it's scary to step into the known or 362 00:20:11,400 --> 00:20:13,240 Speaker 2: to listen to it because you're like, wait. And for 363 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:16,680 Speaker 2: a long time, Marie, I was a little obsessed with 364 00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:19,800 Speaker 2: like psychics because I knew what I was feeling, but 365 00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:22,919 Speaker 2: I need confirmation totally. I need someone to tell me, 366 00:20:23,040 --> 00:20:26,840 Speaker 2: and it just would cause a world of problems for me. Hmm. 367 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 2: I was leaning too much into that, and I felt 368 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:31,880 Speaker 2: like I was getting even further and further away from 369 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:35,120 Speaker 2: my own knowing. Yeah, because I was depending so much 370 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:37,119 Speaker 2: on someone else to tell me what to do or 371 00:20:37,119 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 2: not to do. 372 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:40,919 Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah. Anytime you go see any healer or 373 00:20:40,960 --> 00:20:44,280 Speaker 3: psychic medium, really have to check what you're receiving against 374 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:45,040 Speaker 3: your own knowing. 375 00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:46,240 Speaker 1: Yeah. 376 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:51,640 Speaker 3: Always, no one knows better about you than you. Sometimes 377 00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 3: someone who's gifted that way can open your eyes to 378 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 3: something that you may not have seen, but then you'll 379 00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:02,359 Speaker 3: feel that in your body as truth. Whatever truth feels 380 00:21:02,359 --> 00:21:04,240 Speaker 3: like in your body, you just know it when they 381 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,880 Speaker 3: say it. But if it's hitting in a place where 382 00:21:06,880 --> 00:21:10,640 Speaker 3: you're like, no, that wisdom is there to guide you, 383 00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:13,680 Speaker 3: so always check everything you hear against that wisdom. 384 00:21:14,000 --> 00:21:15,719 Speaker 2: And you can feel, like you just said, right now, 385 00:21:16,359 --> 00:21:20,400 Speaker 2: your intuition in your I feel it in my tummy. Yeah, 386 00:21:20,400 --> 00:21:23,560 Speaker 2: forensipan people, you could feel it anywhere right or yeah. 387 00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:23,879 Speaker 1: Okay. 388 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:27,280 Speaker 3: That's where the term gut feeling comes from, because the 389 00:21:27,280 --> 00:21:31,199 Speaker 3: gut actually has a lot to do with consciousness and 390 00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:34,040 Speaker 3: what we perceive. There's just just starting to figure that 391 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:39,160 Speaker 3: out scientists. But the body is a very good reminder 392 00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:44,600 Speaker 3: of all experiences trauma, which feels like tightness, sharpness, pain, 393 00:21:45,400 --> 00:21:48,119 Speaker 3: and intuitive knowing, which can feel for a lot of 394 00:21:48,119 --> 00:21:50,960 Speaker 3: people like a little bubbly feeling their stomach. Some people 395 00:21:51,040 --> 00:21:53,680 Speaker 3: feel it like energy building in their chest. Some people 396 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:56,960 Speaker 3: will say their fingers get a little numb, and I 397 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,639 Speaker 3: say in the book, there's three ways to tell the 398 00:22:00,680 --> 00:22:04,200 Speaker 3: difference between intuition and fear when you're making a decision 399 00:22:04,800 --> 00:22:08,040 Speaker 3: in your body is one of them. Fear in your 400 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 3: body feels like a contraction, it feels like pressure, it 401 00:22:12,880 --> 00:22:17,520 Speaker 3: feels like sharpness, tightness. That's a fear thought. Intuition your 402 00:22:17,520 --> 00:22:21,919 Speaker 3: body will feel like some form of expansion or elevation, 403 00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:27,000 Speaker 3: some kind of bubbly feeling or opening sensation in your body. 404 00:22:27,440 --> 00:22:29,879 Speaker 3: I always tell people, when you're trying to get to 405 00:22:29,920 --> 00:22:33,439 Speaker 3: know your intuition, what is the pre thought? What's the 406 00:22:33,480 --> 00:22:36,359 Speaker 3: first feeling or thought you had in response to something 407 00:22:36,880 --> 00:22:39,879 Speaker 3: that's your intuition? And if you really pay attention to it, 408 00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,960 Speaker 3: it has no emotion. It's just straight up like a fact. 409 00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:46,640 Speaker 1: Damn. That's pretty freaking cool. 410 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:53,240 Speaker 2: Because I sometimes I've learned that when I'm trying to 411 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,399 Speaker 2: make a decision, I start listening. This is just so 412 00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,920 Speaker 2: much confirmation for me because I'm like, Okay, this is good. 413 00:22:59,160 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 2: I'm here, I'm getting like chills. But I'll ask myself, Okay, 414 00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 2: do I have peace with this decision? 415 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:08,879 Speaker 1: And you feel it? 416 00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:11,719 Speaker 2: Guys, like people have asked like, Okay, how is it 417 00:23:11,760 --> 00:23:14,040 Speaker 2: that you listen to that inner voice, that intuition? We 418 00:23:14,160 --> 00:23:16,879 Speaker 2: all have it, right, Mariy, Like everyone can tap into this. 419 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 2: Can you give us some advice or some pointers as 420 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:23,040 Speaker 2: to how they can start if they don't feel what 421 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,800 Speaker 2: it is that we're talking about. Besides reading your book, 422 00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:27,359 Speaker 2: because I really do think you guys should read it, 423 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:29,800 Speaker 2: but are there anything any other tips that you can 424 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:30,320 Speaker 2: give them. 425 00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:34,399 Speaker 3: Yeah. The best way to start to acquaint yourself with 426 00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:39,720 Speaker 3: your intuitive voice is to decipher the difference between it 427 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:44,440 Speaker 3: and your fear of voice. Start to pay attention when 428 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 3: you have to make a decision, or you meet someone, 429 00:23:48,320 --> 00:23:50,640 Speaker 3: or you're just having a thought. What does this thought 430 00:23:50,680 --> 00:23:52,720 Speaker 3: feel like in my body? What does it feel like 431 00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,479 Speaker 3: in my energy? What does it feel like in my emotion? 432 00:23:54,680 --> 00:24:00,360 Speaker 3: If it's contracted, tight, draining, upsetting, that's a fear thought. 433 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:04,639 Speaker 3: Start to notice also the thoughts that feel calm, clear, 434 00:24:05,320 --> 00:24:10,040 Speaker 3: emotionally neutral, that's an intuitive thought. When you can give 435 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:14,520 Speaker 3: your brain lanes, this is fear, This lane is intuition. 436 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,000 Speaker 3: It now knows how to put things into buckets, and 437 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:22,439 Speaker 3: you can begin to decide for yourself which bucket do 438 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:26,320 Speaker 3: I want to choose today? Or I'm going to check 439 00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:28,360 Speaker 3: in with my fear self because it has a lot 440 00:24:28,359 --> 00:24:30,879 Speaker 3: of needs that it wants to make sure get met, 441 00:24:30,920 --> 00:24:36,800 Speaker 3: like safety, love, dignity. Okay, I hear you. Now, let 442 00:24:36,800 --> 00:24:39,040 Speaker 3: me take a deep breath and I literally just turn 443 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:41,720 Speaker 3: your head to the other side, take a deep breath, 444 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:44,800 Speaker 3: and just say, what's the go ahead, intuition, what do 445 00:24:44,840 --> 00:24:48,640 Speaker 3: you believe? And just you'll get something immediately, and then 446 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,400 Speaker 3: you get to decide which thought do I want to believe, 447 00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:58,120 Speaker 3: because whichever thought you believe becomes your reality. 448 00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:05,919 Speaker 1: From what I hear, you do believe or think that 449 00:25:06,480 --> 00:25:08,160 Speaker 1: the law of attraction is very real. 450 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:12,480 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean we I want to say this in 451 00:25:12,520 --> 00:25:18,280 Speaker 3: the most clear, simple way. What we perceive is what 452 00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:23,359 Speaker 3: is real. If you don't perceive it, it's not real 453 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:27,600 Speaker 3: to you. If you don't believe in a zebra, if 454 00:25:27,640 --> 00:25:29,959 Speaker 3: you don't believe it's real. I could be looking at 455 00:25:30,000 --> 00:25:31,720 Speaker 3: it and telling you, look, look, look at that thing, 456 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 3: but you might not fully perceive it because your consciousness 457 00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:43,000 Speaker 3: is not grabbing that part. So whatever your consciousness believes in, 458 00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 3: that is the way that you perceive the world. That's 459 00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:51,200 Speaker 3: what that's really the basis of law of attraction, Yeah, 460 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:56,320 Speaker 3: is that you are in alignment with that thing. Oftentimes 461 00:25:56,440 --> 00:26:00,679 Speaker 3: we are in alignment with fear thoughts. Yeah, so we 462 00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,480 Speaker 3: perceive more. I'll give you really clear evidence of this. 463 00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,720 Speaker 3: Have you ever woken up just in a really bad mood? 464 00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:07,840 Speaker 1: Mm hmm, okay, yeah. 465 00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,840 Speaker 3: The way that you think about the people you interact 466 00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:13,840 Speaker 3: with that day or that morning, the way you think 467 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:17,840 Speaker 3: about opportunities coming or not coming, to you, the way 468 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:21,280 Speaker 3: you think about your friends and your family, your life, yourself. 469 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:23,960 Speaker 3: How does all of that feel when you're in a 470 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:24,400 Speaker 3: bad mood. 471 00:26:26,280 --> 00:26:29,920 Speaker 2: It just it feels very negative, right, I just everything 472 00:26:30,040 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 2: is just wrong and you see all the bad in everything. 473 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,639 Speaker 3: And can you find evidence that you're right? Can the 474 00:26:35,680 --> 00:26:36,880 Speaker 3: friend be a bit of a jerk? 475 00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:37,320 Speaker 1: Yeah? 476 00:26:37,440 --> 00:26:41,760 Speaker 3: And the rejection come through? Yeah, because you're waking up 477 00:26:41,840 --> 00:26:45,600 Speaker 3: and seeing things through the lens of negativity. Now, when 478 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:50,640 Speaker 3: you're just in a great mood, how does your relationship 479 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:53,879 Speaker 3: to other people or other things change? How do you 480 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:55,399 Speaker 3: start to perceive those things? 481 00:26:59,560 --> 00:27:03,080 Speaker 2: I mean I see the beauty and everything, and I 482 00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:07,399 Speaker 2: see that, oh I do have a great friend, and yeah, 483 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:08,480 Speaker 2: I mean yeah for sure. 484 00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,160 Speaker 3: So that very same friend that was annoying you yesterday 485 00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:12,880 Speaker 3: when you're in a bad mood, and that was real 486 00:27:12,960 --> 00:27:16,159 Speaker 3: to you, that that person was being an ass that 487 00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:18,359 Speaker 3: next day, when you're in a different headspace, all of 488 00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:22,480 Speaker 3: a sudden, is the most loyal, the funniest, whatever things 489 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:26,439 Speaker 3: you love about them. That becomes real. So what you 490 00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:29,320 Speaker 3: perceive is what is real in your life. 491 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:30,680 Speaker 1: Yeah. 492 00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:33,800 Speaker 2: See, I mean I tell people look in the mirror 493 00:27:33,880 --> 00:27:36,560 Speaker 2: and say nice things to yourself and really, there is 494 00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 2: at least one thing that you can find that you 495 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 2: love about yourself and focus on that versus oh, my 496 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:45,240 Speaker 2: silly letter, my stretch marks. We all have defects. It's 497 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:48,640 Speaker 2: just what we choose to focus on. And I really 498 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:51,560 Speaker 2: believe in affirmations and mantras and all that stuff because 499 00:27:51,560 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 2: it's feeding yourself your brain, and you're also speaking it. 500 00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,080 Speaker 2: I really believe in the power of the tongue as well, 501 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:00,280 Speaker 2: so we talk about that on the podcast lot. 502 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,119 Speaker 1: So I truly believe in that. 503 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:05,800 Speaker 3: Yeah, And I think there's a danger in certain terms 504 00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:10,439 Speaker 3: being overused so that people can throw them away or 505 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:13,359 Speaker 3: be cynical about them, right, Like manifestation is one of 506 00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:16,960 Speaker 3: those terms that has been so overused that it sort 507 00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:20,720 Speaker 3: of misses people. So part of my purpose is to 508 00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,400 Speaker 3: break it down in the most practical, pragmatic terms so 509 00:28:24,440 --> 00:28:27,199 Speaker 3: that it's not something that feels woo woo, but like 510 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,240 Speaker 3: real to you. I want you to find experience in 511 00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:33,119 Speaker 3: your own life of that concept being real. 512 00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,359 Speaker 1: Yes, I love her, guys. 513 00:28:38,320 --> 00:28:43,080 Speaker 2: Okay, So let's talk about relationships and creating high frequency relationships. 514 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:47,440 Speaker 2: Can you turn an existing relationship into a high frequency one? 515 00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:52,560 Speaker 3: Everything is about your own frequency. So if you are 516 00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:56,360 Speaker 3: in that relationship from a place of need, from a 517 00:28:56,440 --> 00:28:58,960 Speaker 3: place of ooh, please fill this hole inside me that 518 00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,840 Speaker 3: thinks she's not he's not worthy, she or he is 519 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:09,120 Speaker 3: not lovable, that they are not inherently worth partnership or loyalty. 520 00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:13,560 Speaker 3: If you have that belief about yourself, a relationship is 521 00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:16,760 Speaker 3: not going to fix that belief, and what it is 522 00:29:16,800 --> 00:29:21,080 Speaker 3: going to do is magnetize a frequency that is also 523 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:27,200 Speaker 3: of equal value. Right, not fully healed, not fully in 524 00:29:27,240 --> 00:29:30,760 Speaker 3: a place of believing in themselves. The only way that 525 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:33,320 Speaker 3: you move to a high frequency relationship is when you 526 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,960 Speaker 3: begin to fill that hole inside yourself with the inherent 527 00:29:37,080 --> 00:29:41,760 Speaker 3: truth that you are worthy of love and of dignity 528 00:29:42,200 --> 00:29:46,840 Speaker 3: because you exist, because you are here literally made of 529 00:29:46,880 --> 00:29:52,720 Speaker 3: stardust science has shown in our bones, and a divine being. 530 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:56,080 Speaker 3: All that means is a being that's connected to something 531 00:29:56,160 --> 00:30:01,280 Speaker 3: so much greater and full of unconditional love and deep 532 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:05,520 Speaker 3: knowing that is your truest essence. When you know that, 533 00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:08,959 Speaker 3: and it takes work, It takes therapy, it takes healing, 534 00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:12,520 Speaker 3: It takes attending to these little selves who are stuck 535 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:16,240 Speaker 3: in the illusion that they're not enough. When you begin 536 00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 3: to attend to those littles, love your littles, as I say, 537 00:30:20,120 --> 00:30:23,040 Speaker 3: and they begin to believe you. Oh, I am worthy. 538 00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:25,320 Speaker 3: I didn't need that person to tell me I was. 539 00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:28,960 Speaker 3: I know that I am. Your frequency shifts. When your 540 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:34,880 Speaker 3: frequency shifts, you magnetize same, same like attracts like. So 541 00:30:34,920 --> 00:30:38,440 Speaker 3: then you begin to magnetize a frequency that sees you 542 00:30:38,560 --> 00:30:41,600 Speaker 3: that way and that treats you that way. But if 543 00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:45,360 Speaker 3: you see yourself as inherently broken, what you bring in 544 00:30:45,520 --> 00:30:49,000 Speaker 3: are others who will treat you like you are broken 545 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:54,040 Speaker 3: or continue to break you. People want to project their 546 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 3: inner shame and self hatred onto others. It's so much 547 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:03,240 Speaker 3: easier to externalize that really hard feeling than to sit 548 00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,640 Speaker 3: with it. So if you're a broken vessel and someone 549 00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:12,760 Speaker 3: wants to project their own inner darkness, then you're the 550 00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:17,240 Speaker 3: perfect match. But the minute that you're filling those beautiful 551 00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:21,880 Speaker 3: cracks with gold and knowing of your value, uh, you 552 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,920 Speaker 3: don't even detect that frequency anymore, the one that wants 553 00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,880 Speaker 3: to break you because you've elevated out of it. 554 00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:31,280 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you guys. Yes, Oh, I'm just I 555 00:31:31,320 --> 00:31:32,800 Speaker 2: just need to take it to breath. 556 00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:35,640 Speaker 1: Because it just feels. 557 00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:38,440 Speaker 2: So good and and I sometimes don't even know how 558 00:31:38,480 --> 00:31:41,000 Speaker 2: to explain it. And thank Goodness for my podcast, I'm 559 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:42,560 Speaker 2: able to just it's like it's like a form of 560 00:31:42,600 --> 00:31:46,240 Speaker 2: therapy for me. Just yes, you know, talking and sharing 561 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,960 Speaker 2: my experiences to help others. But that's when I had 562 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 2: to face myself, when I was in one bad relationship 563 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,280 Speaker 2: after another, and I said, what am I doing to 564 00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:57,000 Speaker 2: attract this? 565 00:31:57,160 --> 00:31:58,160 Speaker 1: What am I doing? 566 00:31:58,280 --> 00:32:01,680 Speaker 2: I'm I can't. I have to stop pointing my fingers 567 00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:04,440 Speaker 2: at them. Yes they have their own things, and yes 568 00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 2: they weren't nice, and they did this and that, but 569 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:10,480 Speaker 2: there is something within myself that keeps attracting this, attracting 570 00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:14,280 Speaker 2: the same type of man until I step back and 571 00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 2: I said, I'm going to really figure this out and 572 00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:23,280 Speaker 2: sit in this pain and embrace it. And everything changed 573 00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:26,320 Speaker 2: for me and I and I tell that I tell 574 00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:27,240 Speaker 2: my listeners all the time. 575 00:32:27,320 --> 00:32:30,560 Speaker 1: If you're trying to find a partner, you also need to. 576 00:32:32,000 --> 00:32:34,400 Speaker 2: Be willing to make the changes within yourself so that 577 00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,320 Speaker 2: you can attract and be a reflection of what you're 578 00:32:37,400 --> 00:32:41,440 Speaker 2: looking for. And because I feel in my relationship when 579 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:44,680 Speaker 2: I didn't think I was ready for him, because I 580 00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:46,360 Speaker 2: was doing my own inner work, and I thought I 581 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:48,920 Speaker 2: need to be alone for at least a year. And 582 00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:51,720 Speaker 2: God surprised me in the universe as well, but he 583 00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,400 Speaker 2: was also on his healing journey. He was doing therapy 584 00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,480 Speaker 2: and so was I. And I'm like, oh, this feels 585 00:32:56,520 --> 00:33:01,360 Speaker 2: so different now we're vibrating. It's just night and day. Yeah, 586 00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:04,000 Speaker 2: because I think we were both ready and working on 587 00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:08,040 Speaker 2: our individual selves to be better for ourselves but for 588 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:08,560 Speaker 2: each other. 589 00:33:09,000 --> 00:33:11,400 Speaker 1: Right, And it's amazing. 590 00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:14,240 Speaker 3: And you have to believe it's possible to perceive it. 591 00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:18,720 Speaker 3: If you don't believe that a partner who is respectful 592 00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:23,120 Speaker 3: or a partner who wants the very best for you, Yeah, 593 00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:26,040 Speaker 3: a partner that wants you to succeed even when they don't. 594 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:29,760 Speaker 3: If you don't believe that person exists, you're not going 595 00:33:29,840 --> 00:33:32,200 Speaker 3: to perceive that person. Yeah. They could be standing right 596 00:33:32,240 --> 00:33:34,640 Speaker 3: next to you and you won't see it. And so 597 00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 3: much of this book is the story of my own 598 00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:41,800 Speaker 3: journey from a place of my first marriage being one 599 00:33:41,840 --> 00:33:45,520 Speaker 3: where I was trying to fix someone and make them 600 00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 3: be the husband and the dad for my kids that 601 00:33:49,000 --> 00:33:52,800 Speaker 3: I wanted that I had imagined I needed to feel 602 00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:58,840 Speaker 3: safe as a child of divorced parents, and my own 603 00:33:59,640 --> 00:34:03,880 Speaker 3: reckon that came from my higher self, you know, whispering 604 00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:08,000 Speaker 3: to me on the floor of my kitchen, eight months pregnant, sobbing, saying, 605 00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:10,560 Speaker 3: hold on a minute, is this what you believe you're 606 00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:14,239 Speaker 3: worthy of? Is this all that you believe there is? 607 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:18,000 Speaker 3: And starting to really listen to that voice and being like, 608 00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:20,239 Speaker 3: who is that? What does that mean? Is this all 609 00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:23,279 Speaker 3: that you believe there is? And getting so curious and 610 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:28,520 Speaker 3: beginning this journey for myself of well, if this isn't 611 00:34:28,520 --> 00:34:31,480 Speaker 3: all there is, what else is there? What would that 612 00:34:31,520 --> 00:34:34,160 Speaker 3: look like? What do I really want? What do I 613 00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:36,200 Speaker 3: want my life to look like? Oh? Wait a minute, 614 00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:39,400 Speaker 3: I don't think I deserve that. Oh okay, let's go 615 00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:42,000 Speaker 3: fix that. Why don't you believe you deserve that? Oh 616 00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,520 Speaker 3: there's that little five year old. She's sitting on the 617 00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,719 Speaker 3: couch by herself. Mom and dad are fighting. It is 618 00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:50,239 Speaker 3: all interconnected, but it really comes from this place of 619 00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:53,160 Speaker 3: looking at yourself and saying, do I believe I'm worthy? 620 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:55,840 Speaker 3: Do I believe it's possible? And if the answer to 621 00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:58,759 Speaker 3: those questions is no, you've got some work to do. 622 00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:01,479 Speaker 3: My love amis on the other end of that work 623 00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:08,280 Speaker 3: is the most fulfilling relationships, not just romantic friendships, working 624 00:35:08,360 --> 00:35:13,040 Speaker 3: collaborations and romance, because all of a sudden, you're showing 625 00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:15,920 Speaker 3: up more whole and you're embodying your higher self, and 626 00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:18,319 Speaker 3: so people are like, ooh, I want that. I want 627 00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:19,560 Speaker 3: to be near that kind of person. 628 00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:21,520 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness. Yes. 629 00:35:22,080 --> 00:35:23,560 Speaker 2: For a long time, I thought all men are the 630 00:35:23,600 --> 00:35:26,080 Speaker 2: same and they're all cheaters. And I grew up in 631 00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:29,920 Speaker 2: a household where divorce was just normal and it was 632 00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:33,600 Speaker 2: like okay, next next, like if this relationship didn't work, then, 633 00:35:34,280 --> 00:35:36,440 Speaker 2: you know, And I'm like, Okay, well, I guess I'm 634 00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:38,600 Speaker 2: just going to live like that and have a different 635 00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:42,040 Speaker 2: person every so often, you know. But I had to 636 00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:44,400 Speaker 2: sit down and say I want something different. I do 637 00:35:44,520 --> 00:35:48,360 Speaker 2: deserve this. I real love does exist and there is 638 00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:50,880 Speaker 2: maybe there isn't a perfect man, like there isn't a 639 00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:53,160 Speaker 2: perfect woman. I'm not a perfect woman, but I'm going 640 00:35:53,200 --> 00:35:57,160 Speaker 2: to find someone that's perfect for me. Yeah, And that 641 00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:00,440 Speaker 2: it changed everything, Guys. I'm telling you because I was there, 642 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,080 Speaker 2: sitting there at thirty five, going through a separation, through 643 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:05,400 Speaker 2: a divorce, and I'm like, oh my gosh, am I 644 00:36:05,440 --> 00:36:09,919 Speaker 2: ever going to find that person? Appso frecolutely. Yes, you can, 645 00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:12,560 Speaker 2: you know and you will. We just have to also 646 00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:15,440 Speaker 2: be willing to make the changes. 647 00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:19,560 Speaker 3: And become that person. Yes, no worry about finding that person, 648 00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 3: become that person. The rest happens that part. 649 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:28,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely, I love it, Okay, Mariy. So before I 650 00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:31,600 Speaker 2: think we've had an amazing conversation, I'm loving this and 651 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:33,879 Speaker 2: I know my listeners are going to love it as well. 652 00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:40,160 Speaker 2: So is there anything that from the conversation, from your book, 653 00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:45,200 Speaker 2: from your leadership that you want people to understand and 654 00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:49,319 Speaker 2: take away and something that's going to stick with them. 655 00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:52,359 Speaker 3: If you go to my Instagram and you look at 656 00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:57,000 Speaker 3: my bio under my name, there are four words or 657 00:36:57,040 --> 00:37:01,120 Speaker 3: five not self help, self trust. What I am trying 658 00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:05,759 Speaker 3: to bring about is a self trust revolution, meaning that 659 00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:10,399 Speaker 3: you reject the idea that anyone knows better than you 660 00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:15,239 Speaker 3: about what you need and how to get there. So 661 00:37:15,560 --> 00:37:18,040 Speaker 3: I think that the last thing I want to leave 662 00:37:18,160 --> 00:37:22,680 Speaker 3: your listeners with is this truth. You have the wisdom 663 00:37:22,760 --> 00:37:25,960 Speaker 3: within you to know what to do next at all times, 664 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,719 Speaker 3: and when you believe that, you will tap into that 665 00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:35,040 Speaker 3: wisdom and live a little more fulfilled, a hell of 666 00:37:35,080 --> 00:37:38,759 Speaker 3: a lot freer and definitely in full alignment to your 667 00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:39,440 Speaker 3: higher self. 668 00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:43,680 Speaker 1: Ooh ooh, I feel so enlightened. I feel so light. 669 00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:47,160 Speaker 2: There's so much confirmation, and I hope that you guys 670 00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,160 Speaker 2: are also feeling this as well. Please pick up her book. 671 00:37:50,480 --> 00:37:54,239 Speaker 2: I picked it up. High Yourself, reclaiming the power of 672 00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:58,239 Speaker 2: your intuition and talking about your social media. Can you 673 00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:00,880 Speaker 2: share your social media with us please? People can follow you. 674 00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:05,440 Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, follow me on Instagram at Maury Fontanas. 675 00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:09,719 Speaker 2: There you guys have it, and yeah, I'm gonna be 676 00:38:09,800 --> 00:38:11,600 Speaker 2: hitting you up great, Mariy. 677 00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:15,120 Speaker 3: I really love talking to you. You ask the most 678 00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:21,200 Speaker 3: deep and genuinely curious questions, so it's been really nice 679 00:38:21,239 --> 00:38:22,640 Speaker 3: to talk to you. Thank you for having. 680 00:38:22,520 --> 00:38:25,640 Speaker 2: Me, thank you for your time, and I love that 681 00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:28,160 Speaker 2: you are going to help so many people. 682 00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,279 Speaker 1: I think this is exactly what we need right now. 683 00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:32,520 Speaker 1: And you guys, thank you for listening. 684 00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:34,600 Speaker 2: I love you so much and I will catch you 685 00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:40,719 Speaker 2: here on the next episode of Cheeks and Chew. This 686 00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:44,680 Speaker 2: is a production of iHeartRadio and the micro Dura podcast Network. 687 00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:48,040 Speaker 2: Follow us on Instagram at Michael Dura Podcasts and follow 688 00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:50,759 Speaker 2: me Cheeky's That's c H I t U I s 689 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:55,719 Speaker 2: for more podcasts. 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