1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:04,320 Speaker 1: Call it what it is with Jessica Capshaw and Camille 2 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:06,760 Speaker 1: Lettington an iHeartRadio podcast. 3 00:00:08,640 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 2: Hi friend, Hi, how are you? 4 00:00:14,160 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 3: I was gonna say good, but I know it'd be 5 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 3: a lie. 6 00:00:17,040 --> 00:00:19,880 Speaker 1: Oh oh no, I'm not. 7 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:25,279 Speaker 4: I not that the world needs well yeah, no, the 8 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:28,800 Speaker 4: world does need to know because they're listening. I am 9 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 4: about to start my period, and after listen, I didn't. 10 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:36,920 Speaker 4: I never really suffered from PMS when I was younger. 11 00:00:36,960 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 4: Did you ever suffer from PMS? 12 00:00:39,680 --> 00:00:40,919 Speaker 2: Do you suffer from PMS? 13 00:00:40,960 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 1: My Well, my particular brand of PMS would be there's 14 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:48,159 Speaker 1: an amnesiac quality to it, which is that I I 15 00:00:48,280 --> 00:00:51,599 Speaker 1: forget every time that right before my period, I have 16 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: a lot of symptoms that are very consistent, and then 17 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:59,440 Speaker 1: every month it's a surprise to me that I have Yes, 18 00:01:00,680 --> 00:01:01,600 Speaker 1: why would what? 19 00:01:02,200 --> 00:01:02,480 Speaker 2: Yeah? 20 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: But then it all makes sense to me, Like when 21 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:06,520 Speaker 1: I get my period, I go, oh, that makes sense, 22 00:01:06,560 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: why that happened this week? 23 00:01:08,480 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 4: I mean I feel that way too, to be honest. 24 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 4: But after I gave birth to my second son, Lucas. 25 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:15,160 Speaker 4: So this is about three years ago, your. 26 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 1: Second child, your first son, Lucas details jess I'm in 27 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:21,560 Speaker 1: I'm a detail oriented. 28 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:24,839 Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, welcome to my second Yes, my second child. 29 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:26,479 Speaker 4: I first, don't want. 30 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,000 Speaker 1: People thinking that you have two sons. 31 00:01:28,160 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 2: It's true. No, this is this is all. This is 32 00:01:30,400 --> 00:01:31,920 Speaker 2: important information. You're still getting to know. 33 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:33,840 Speaker 4: That's how you know that. By the way, my period's 34 00:01:33,880 --> 00:01:36,479 Speaker 4: coming up. Because I'm like, I have two sons. It's like, no, 35 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 4: you don't. You definitely don't. They're so wonderful, I tell one. Okay, 36 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:47,000 Speaker 4: so I'm I'm gonna wrap this story up with this. Okay, 37 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 4: Like three years ago, I gave birth Ish. Three and 38 00:01:49,960 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 4: a half years ago, I gave birth in the pandemic 39 00:01:52,400 --> 00:01:56,400 Speaker 4: twenty twenty. It was, let's be honest, an absolute shit show, right, 40 00:01:56,840 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 4: And I thought, I've given birth in a you know, 41 00:02:01,760 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 4: in this extraordinary like crazy time, and that that's where 42 00:02:05,360 --> 00:02:08,880 Speaker 4: all these feelings are coming from. And then after the pandemic, 43 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:13,600 Speaker 4: I started to notice this pattern before my period started, 44 00:02:13,639 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 4: where I felt like I had PMS, but like I 45 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 4: could actively feel myself kind of sinking into a depression 46 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:23,640 Speaker 4: and it would literally I could. Honestly, I don't know 47 00:02:23,639 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 4: how this manifests for other people. It's called I should 48 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:29,639 Speaker 4: say this. I got diagnosed with p M d D, 49 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:34,919 Speaker 4: which is pre menstrual dysphoric disorder and it is basically 50 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 4: a PMS no crack. But I can feel myself slipping. 51 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:40,919 Speaker 3: Yes, I can. 52 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:43,920 Speaker 4: Yes, I can feel myself slipping into like a depression 53 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 4: and I didn't understand what was happening, and then I 54 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:48,639 Speaker 4: would come out of it and I was like, what. 55 00:02:48,800 --> 00:02:50,119 Speaker 2: Is going on? 56 00:02:50,160 --> 00:02:52,919 Speaker 4: So every single month and it's just happened a couple 57 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 4: of days ago, I'll be like, something's really wrong and 58 00:02:55,440 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 4: I can't, like I feel like something's wrong and I'm 59 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 4: really sad and I'm just like it sits with me. 60 00:03:02,880 --> 00:03:05,240 Speaker 4: And then I'll look at my locking phone and I'll 61 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:07,880 Speaker 4: be like, oh my god, this is the time when 62 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:09,799 Speaker 4: I'm starting to get this again. 63 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:13,200 Speaker 3: So that's where I'm at currently. 64 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's what your week has been like so far. 65 00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:17,240 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, Yeah. 66 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 4: It's kind of helpful to know that, like I'm going 67 00:03:20,919 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 4: to come out of that, Like now that it's been 68 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:25,760 Speaker 4: named for me, I can be like, okay. 69 00:03:25,440 --> 00:03:27,520 Speaker 3: So I'm gonna feel better. But it does still it 70 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 3: is still hard every. 71 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 4: Month, like feeling like damn it, like here I am again, 72 00:03:32,120 --> 00:03:35,040 Speaker 4: nothing's wrong, but it feels like I'm just real sad. 73 00:03:35,920 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, when you're there, Does it help? Do you feel 74 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: supported best by people around you trying to make it 75 00:03:44,360 --> 00:03:47,080 Speaker 1: better or do you prefer when people just sort of 76 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:48,360 Speaker 1: let you sit in the. 77 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:50,920 Speaker 3: Sad That's a great question. 78 00:03:51,360 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 4: I I don't like people trying to make it better. 79 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:58,640 Speaker 4: I don't know if that makes sense. It just I 80 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 4: almost just need to like get space. I feel really overstimulated, 81 00:04:02,480 --> 00:04:04,600 Speaker 4: and I I just need to be able. 82 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 3: To vent and not have a response almost back to it. 83 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: And do all the people that love you know that, Like, 84 00:04:11,040 --> 00:04:13,520 Speaker 1: do they know that that is how you like to 85 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:15,680 Speaker 1: be handled in that in that in that time. 86 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 4: Yes, my husband Matt has learned that over time. It's 87 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:22,800 Speaker 4: hard because people naturally want to help. I understand that. 88 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 4: But it's like he does this thing. He'd be fine 89 00:04:27,080 --> 00:04:29,920 Speaker 4: with me telling you this, but it's not bad. He 90 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:31,760 Speaker 4: does this thing that when I get anxiety, he wants 91 00:04:31,760 --> 00:04:33,799 Speaker 4: to distract me by like telling me things and telling 92 00:04:33,800 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 4: me stories. 93 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:36,920 Speaker 3: And kind of trying to change the subject. And I'm like, no, 94 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 3: I'm more overwhelmed. 95 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:43,159 Speaker 4: I just couldn't think about the thing or just like 96 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:45,040 Speaker 4: you know, sit with it in silence. 97 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:49,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, hearing at a wall. Yeah, 98 00:04:49,680 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 1: as as a recovering fixer and as another for where 99 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:57,840 Speaker 1: it's mean. It's sort of in my job title right, 100 00:04:57,880 --> 00:05:00,760 Speaker 1: helping and fixing and supporting, but I in my adult 101 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:03,479 Speaker 1: like helping and fixing and sorting out for my kids. 102 00:05:03,760 --> 00:05:07,320 Speaker 1: You know, obviously that is called parenting to an extent. 103 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:10,839 Speaker 1: Because what I've realized recently and why I asked the question, 104 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,359 Speaker 1: was that some people in my life really want the 105 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:16,559 Speaker 1: support to look like that, How can I help? 106 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 2: What can we do? 107 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: Distracting, cheerleading, strategizing, whatever, And some people that I love 108 00:05:24,440 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: very much really just want to fucking sit in it. 109 00:05:29,440 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: And that's what's going to help them is just to 110 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 1: be sad and for me to be there with them 111 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:37,760 Speaker 1: while they're sad, to know that I love them when 112 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:43,680 Speaker 1: they're sad and happy, but that I can just be 113 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:48,640 Speaker 1: And that's so hard for me. It's been an active 114 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:55,599 Speaker 1: challenge and new skill set for me. And so I 115 00:05:55,600 --> 00:05:57,560 Speaker 1: think it's good to know about people that you love, right, 116 00:05:57,600 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: And it's I always think it's like it's good for 117 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,560 Speaker 1: people that love you to have your operating instructions. So 118 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: that's why I asked that question. So now I know 119 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 1: when you're there, I won't. 120 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:07,760 Speaker 4: I won't distruct, you know, because the truth is is 121 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 4: that it's like a kid for me. It's a case 122 00:06:09,360 --> 00:06:13,000 Speaker 4: by case basis. But I feel like I'm good at 123 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 4: advocating for myself, so I'll be like, hey, where's your help? 124 00:06:17,200 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 4: I think you're great at that. I need you know, 125 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:22,120 Speaker 4: so you'll know when I'm wanting that. And I'm also 126 00:06:22,240 --> 00:06:24,599 Speaker 4: okay to be like I just I don't like I 127 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:27,000 Speaker 4: need it just a second. I want to go come 128 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,280 Speaker 4: watch Friend of Pump Rules with me on the couch. 129 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:31,039 Speaker 3: Yeah that's what I need. 130 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:34,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, well here you want to know about my week? 131 00:06:35,000 --> 00:06:35,760 Speaker 2: Yes, I do. 132 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:39,280 Speaker 3: I hope it was better than mine. 133 00:06:40,279 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 2: My week? What I barely remember my week? My week? 134 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:44,600 Speaker 2: Are you also about to. 135 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 3: Count your period? 136 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:48,559 Speaker 2: Then? I actually think I might be were really a pair. 137 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 1: End of school stuff and starting up this podcast and 138 00:06:54,520 --> 00:06:57,560 Speaker 1: being so excited and having my mind work at fifty 139 00:06:57,600 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: five thousand miles an hour, and and just the expansive 140 00:07:00,760 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: quality of learning and learning something new, growing, and just 141 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,120 Speaker 1: our whole team being so supportive and creating all these 142 00:07:07,120 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: different ways of thinking of things and and as we 143 00:07:09,840 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: you know, are now starting to embark on on launching it, 144 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,600 Speaker 1: which is you know so soon and everything else. I 145 00:07:15,600 --> 00:07:19,800 Speaker 1: think that it's just been I've been feeling super overwhelmed 146 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 1: when I'm super stressed. Something that I learned sort of 147 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 1: later in life was was the self talk that that 148 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: has cured a lot of what worries. So when I'm well, 149 00:07:31,920 --> 00:07:34,320 Speaker 1: a lot of times when you're having when you sort 150 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:37,000 Speaker 1: of when you when you have that negative self talk, 151 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: when you're talking about when you're when you're talking to 152 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:40,800 Speaker 1: yourself or you're imagining what someone else is saying about 153 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:43,440 Speaker 1: you or thinking the feeling and it goes really negative, 154 00:07:43,560 --> 00:07:46,760 Speaker 1: like you know you're not enough, you you know you're 155 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: you're not worthy, you don't you know what. There's yeah, 156 00:07:50,480 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 1: the the like the worthiness, I'm not worthy enough and 157 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:55,680 Speaker 1: I'm not good enough. But that's kind of a habit too, right, 158 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: Like you get in the habit of speaking to yourself 159 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: like that. And I have sometimes just truly willfully been 160 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: like whatever that negative thought was, I'm going to say 161 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: the exact opposite in the positive column. So like fill 162 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:11,080 Speaker 1: in the blank, right, you're like, you're I don't even 163 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 1: know look bad, it's so bad. 164 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:17,880 Speaker 4: You're amazing, Like I'm amazing, I'm confident, I can do this, yes. 165 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:20,280 Speaker 1: Yes, and like you know again, when you're auditioning, I 166 00:08:20,280 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: think a lot of the times you could go like, oh, 167 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:24,200 Speaker 1: I'm never going to get the job, right, there's twenty 168 00:08:24,440 --> 00:08:26,080 Speaker 1: actresses going out for this job. I'm never going to 169 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,960 Speaker 1: get the job. And then I started practicing, like I'm 170 00:08:28,960 --> 00:08:31,280 Speaker 1: going to get this job. We're going to film, it's 171 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: going to start in July. I'm going to be in Austin, Texas. 172 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:38,160 Speaker 1: I'm going to And honestly, it's even if the outcome 173 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:42,440 Speaker 1: is the same, it's such a more enjoyable experience to 174 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:46,800 Speaker 1: be on your own side, like Hunter, don't we want 175 00:08:46,800 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 1: to be that? 176 00:08:47,280 --> 00:08:48,720 Speaker 2: Do we want to be on our own side? 177 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:51,240 Speaker 1: Why would we be on some on the opposite side. 178 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:53,559 Speaker 4: It's so funny you say this because my niece is 179 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:55,120 Speaker 4: staying with me right now and I was talking to 180 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:57,520 Speaker 4: her about something and I was like, you have to 181 00:08:57,600 --> 00:09:00,240 Speaker 4: be your number one fan. Yeah, you have to be 182 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:03,079 Speaker 4: your own number one fan, and not in like an egotistical, 183 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:03,959 Speaker 4: like obnoxious way. 184 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 3: So it's like you have to be. 185 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:10,000 Speaker 4: Team you you do when you are overwhelmed like that, 186 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:13,240 Speaker 4: do you want someone to come in and help you 187 00:09:13,600 --> 00:09:15,000 Speaker 4: or do you want to do it? 188 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 3: All yourself. 189 00:09:16,600 --> 00:09:19,000 Speaker 1: I used to be the former, like I used to 190 00:09:19,040 --> 00:09:22,480 Speaker 1: just do it all myself. Yeah, and I have become 191 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 1: and grown into someone who loves delegating. That being said, 192 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:32,240 Speaker 1: once you have delegated in human behavior, or when you're 193 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: the one that's given the like hey, let's okay, so 194 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: let's do this here, or let's do that, or can 195 00:09:35,600 --> 00:09:40,520 Speaker 1: I have help with this whatever, my mind then revisits 196 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:42,840 Speaker 1: the task or whatever I've asked for help with help, 197 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:45,040 Speaker 1: and you know, you don't always know that it gets done. 198 00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:47,719 Speaker 3: So it doesn't relax you. You're still wondering about that. 199 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: You can are sure that the help is there and 200 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: it's going to be done like Johnny like done, then great, 201 00:09:54,440 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 1: but then if that, but if but that there's like 202 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:58,960 Speaker 1: a backup question or if there's like something you'd like, 203 00:09:59,160 --> 00:10:02,480 Speaker 1: You're it's still alive. But I'm very grateful for help. 204 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:05,679 Speaker 1: I'm very grateful for help. So when people offer, like, 205 00:10:05,720 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 1: it's funny. One of my best friends became one of 206 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: my best friends because she was so uniquely and we 207 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:15,280 Speaker 1: were young. She was she was the one that would 208 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:19,000 Speaker 1: always be like, oh, you're working late, I'm already picking 209 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:22,520 Speaker 1: up you know, Brendan from school, and it's in the 210 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:24,920 Speaker 1: same direction as Luke school, So why don't I grab 211 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: him and I'll just bring him back to our house 212 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: and they can play until you're done with work. I'd 213 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:33,440 Speaker 1: never had a friend who dream. I couldn't even believe it. 214 00:10:33,480 --> 00:10:35,880 Speaker 1: I was like, wait, what you want to You want 215 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: to help like that? 216 00:10:37,480 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 3: That's amazing, that's amazing. 217 00:10:40,120 --> 00:10:42,640 Speaker 1: So yeah, I love getting help. I think it's just 218 00:10:42,720 --> 00:10:44,319 Speaker 1: and I don't want to you know, it's not like 219 00:10:44,360 --> 00:10:46,040 Speaker 1: I'm so bossy. It has to be only a certain 220 00:10:46,080 --> 00:10:48,679 Speaker 1: kind of out. But I think that, you know, some 221 00:10:48,720 --> 00:10:52,000 Speaker 1: help is more helpful than others. Yeah, Like, here's a 222 00:10:52,040 --> 00:10:54,640 Speaker 1: good example I have. I'm not even gonna name names, 223 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:57,160 Speaker 1: but I have certain children who if I said, can 224 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 1: you do X, Y or Z, that would be a help. 225 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: I have other children where if I asked them to 226 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:08,960 Speaker 1: do it, that would not be help. Yeah, and that's okay, 227 00:11:09,160 --> 00:11:11,480 Speaker 1: that's okay because I might ask the one that might 228 00:11:11,520 --> 00:11:14,040 Speaker 1: be able to do you know X, wouldn't be able 229 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:15,360 Speaker 1: to do why? And then if you know what I mean, 230 00:11:15,400 --> 00:11:17,079 Speaker 1: like you got to know you gotta know your customers. 231 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:21,600 Speaker 4: My three year old is actually amazing at delegating things doe, 232 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:22,679 Speaker 4: he'll put things in the trash. 233 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:24,080 Speaker 3: My seven year old at acts. 234 00:11:23,920 --> 00:11:24,800 Speaker 2: Like, are you kidding me? 235 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:25,960 Speaker 1: That? 236 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 2: Three feet away? Like you that's such a hard day. 237 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:32,160 Speaker 2: I'm in the first grade. 238 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:36,560 Speaker 1: Well, the overwhelmness had me a little bit stressed this week. Yeah, 239 00:11:36,600 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 1: and I'm a little overwhelmed. 240 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:39,080 Speaker 2: And uh. 241 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:41,360 Speaker 1: One of my ways of dealing with that is also 242 00:11:41,600 --> 00:11:46,520 Speaker 1: just to keep going. I have a normalized stress, and 243 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:50,520 Speaker 1: I just it's a it's a normal thing. The only 244 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:52,800 Speaker 1: time that I actually stopped for stress in a real 245 00:11:52,840 --> 00:11:55,480 Speaker 1: way was when it when I had a physical manifestation, 246 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:57,200 Speaker 1: which was an ee twitch. 247 00:11:58,040 --> 00:11:59,960 Speaker 2: Oh, I actually started twitch. 248 00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:03,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm I'm uh. I was low key worried 249 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:07,560 Speaker 1: because it lasted a year. What I had an eye 250 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: twitch for a year and it was imperceptible to anyone 251 00:12:10,400 --> 00:12:13,280 Speaker 1: except for myself, Like I would feel it twitching, but 252 00:12:13,360 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: no one else would see it. So it was like 253 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:15,800 Speaker 1: living with a ghost. 254 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 3: It's like like an eye twitch. 255 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:20,319 Speaker 1: I could hear it, I could feel it, I go whatever, 256 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 1: but no one else knew. So yeah, that was that 257 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 1: was a that was a physical way that I actually 258 00:12:25,640 --> 00:12:28,079 Speaker 1: I could not outrun my stress. I could not normalize it. 259 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:29,800 Speaker 1: I could not be like, Oh, it's okay, I'm just 260 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:33,400 Speaker 1: feeling a little stressed. My body was saying, you're fucking stressed. 261 00:12:33,440 --> 00:12:37,080 Speaker 1: Can you break for it and deal? And I got 262 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:40,760 Speaker 1: to say, it wasn't until I stopped and and sort 263 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:43,760 Speaker 1: of tried to like figure out some coping mechanisms and 264 00:12:43,920 --> 00:12:45,760 Speaker 1: kind of what was going on so that I could 265 00:12:46,679 --> 00:12:50,080 Speaker 1: help myself. And uh, and it did, and I got 266 00:12:50,080 --> 00:12:52,839 Speaker 1: to the bottom of it, and and really truly without 267 00:12:52,880 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 1: even all of a sudden, one day, it stopped. 268 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 2: But I had to deal with it. I mean, it 269 00:12:57,400 --> 00:12:58,280 Speaker 2: wasn't like it just stopped. 270 00:12:58,320 --> 00:12:59,960 Speaker 1: I had to deal with what it was that was 271 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:03,560 Speaker 1: sort of, you know, not sort of was really affecting me. 272 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: And for me, it was completely It's always been and 273 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:10,440 Speaker 1: it remains that I'm a talker, like I need to 274 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:12,839 Speaker 1: talk it out, and so therapy. For a very long 275 00:13:12,840 --> 00:13:15,400 Speaker 1: time I stayed away from for the number one reason 276 00:13:15,440 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: I think most people stay away from it, which is 277 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:19,160 Speaker 1: that you can't find a good therapist. And then I 278 00:13:19,280 --> 00:13:22,840 Speaker 1: found a great therapist and we were off to the races. 279 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 1: And now I'm like, hence why we were here, I'm 280 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:28,120 Speaker 1: all unpack it all fucking day long. 281 00:13:28,240 --> 00:13:29,880 Speaker 2: Let's unpack it? Yeah you. 282 00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:32,120 Speaker 3: Session? 283 00:13:32,800 --> 00:13:33,040 Speaker 2: Yeah? 284 00:13:33,120 --> 00:13:35,560 Speaker 4: Are you like it's I need the whole afternoon. I 285 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:36,640 Speaker 4: clear the schedule. 286 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:38,600 Speaker 1: Do you have other patients because I I don't think 287 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:39,719 Speaker 1: you Yeah, I just don't even look. 288 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 3: It is just going to be me. 289 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,520 Speaker 4: I think what's happening is like kind of groundbreaking, and 290 00:13:44,600 --> 00:13:46,880 Speaker 4: I think that we are the generations. 291 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:48,840 Speaker 3: You're what, Jhen, I don't even know. 292 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 1: F Is this where you're trying to make it so 293 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:52,000 Speaker 1: that I'm older than you? 294 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:53,360 Speaker 3: What's the nineteen oh five? 295 00:13:53,440 --> 00:13:54,760 Speaker 2: Am I older than you? Come out? 296 00:13:55,800 --> 00:13:57,400 Speaker 3: I mean, is this the part I just wanted to 297 00:13:57,400 --> 00:13:59,280 Speaker 3: make well, I don't know we can I'm. 298 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:01,280 Speaker 1: Part of one generation and you're part of another. 299 00:14:01,320 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 3: Whatever, whatever the whatever you are. 300 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:04,319 Speaker 2: I'm all Millennia. 301 00:14:04,640 --> 00:14:10,679 Speaker 3: I don't have to like I'm very cool and you 302 00:14:11,000 --> 00:14:12,400 Speaker 3: guys can probably tell just by listening. 303 00:14:12,920 --> 00:14:15,720 Speaker 2: Yeah right. I mean I'm like a baby boomer and you're. 304 00:14:15,880 --> 00:14:19,040 Speaker 3: You're a boomer and that's fine, Jess, we still love it. 305 00:14:19,280 --> 00:14:20,120 Speaker 2: I'm paylessen. 306 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:24,400 Speaker 4: I was just just pointing out, Yeah, our parents did 307 00:14:24,400 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 4: not go to therapy. Did your parents go to therapy? 308 00:14:26,920 --> 00:14:27,560 Speaker 4: Maybe they did. 309 00:14:27,760 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 1: My parents divorced when I was really young, so she 310 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:31,920 Speaker 1: did My mom went to a lot of therapy. 311 00:14:32,080 --> 00:14:32,760 Speaker 3: That's amazing. 312 00:14:32,880 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 4: I feel like I feel like most people's parents did 313 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:39,440 Speaker 4: not go to therapy, and so we're the first. We're 314 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:44,560 Speaker 4: all this the first few generations that are really seeking 315 00:14:44,880 --> 00:14:47,960 Speaker 4: that mental health and being able to show, you know, 316 00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:49,800 Speaker 4: seeking help for it, and being able to show our 317 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:52,520 Speaker 4: kids that, which I think is going to, hopefully because 318 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 4: they're dealing with social media and so many more things 319 00:14:54,440 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 4: that when we were dealing with hopefully be really influential 320 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:02,480 Speaker 4: and make it so taboo. Because I look at my 321 00:15:02,520 --> 00:15:05,520 Speaker 4: parents and no offense to either of them. They really 322 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:08,520 Speaker 4: could have done with a lot of therapy. Yeah, like 323 00:15:08,560 --> 00:15:11,200 Speaker 4: it would have made life a lot easier for them. 324 00:15:11,240 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 3: It's tough. 325 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:16,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, the talking it out, and again, the talking it 326 00:15:16,040 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 1: out allows you to connect to the dots because I 327 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:22,160 Speaker 1: think that when you're struggling or when you need help, 328 00:15:22,440 --> 00:15:26,960 Speaker 1: it's just so your natural instinct to think that you're 329 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:30,200 Speaker 1: the only one that it's happening to, that it's only you, 330 00:15:30,280 --> 00:15:32,200 Speaker 1: that no one has ever felt this. Your pain is 331 00:15:32,280 --> 00:15:35,640 Speaker 1: unique to you. It's insurmountable, it's bigger than you. It's 332 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 1: all that you're gonna stress, You're gonna worry it's the anxiety, 333 00:15:38,240 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 1: but almost immediately when you speak to someone else who 334 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 1: has had the same thing happen or feels the same way, 335 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,320 Speaker 1: you feel this like pressure release. 336 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 4: I felt that way when I finally and I'll get 337 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:05,440 Speaker 4: into this more. 338 00:16:05,480 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 3: I'm sure. 339 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:11,360 Speaker 4: At some point bit the bullet and started zoloft. I 340 00:16:11,520 --> 00:16:13,520 Speaker 4: was like, who is? I wanted to know who was 341 00:16:13,560 --> 00:16:17,440 Speaker 4: taking it because I had this feeling like I. 342 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:19,480 Speaker 3: Really did not want to get on antidepressants. 343 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:20,440 Speaker 2: I was not. 344 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 4: I was like, I'm not there until I really was like, okay, 345 00:16:23,640 --> 00:16:25,960 Speaker 4: the heart palpitations I'm feeling one hundred times a day 346 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 4: like are not fun, Like it's again my body's being 347 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:30,760 Speaker 4: like you're done, Like you gotta there's something. 348 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:31,960 Speaker 3: You got to figure this out. 349 00:16:33,160 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 4: And I remember googling, like in my phone and googling 350 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,080 Speaker 4: like who who has come out to say that they're 351 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:43,200 Speaker 4: on some on some sort of help like this, And 352 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:46,400 Speaker 4: it gave me comfort to read names of people that 353 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 4: had come out. That's why I want to talk about 354 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:52,320 Speaker 4: it too myself and say it so publicly, because it 355 00:16:52,400 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 4: is so helpful. 356 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:54,560 Speaker 3: To see other people talk about it. 357 00:16:54,640 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 4: And it's still it's funny even when you google people 358 00:16:57,640 --> 00:16:59,800 Speaker 4: like that have come out to talk about antidepressants. It's 359 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 4: still not a huge long list, right, Like, it's still 360 00:17:03,200 --> 00:17:06,159 Speaker 4: sort of like something people don't necessarily want to share it. 361 00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:08,920 Speaker 3: And I understand that, but it's. 362 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:11,600 Speaker 1: So I think it's it's an it's an old belief 363 00:17:11,800 --> 00:17:15,440 Speaker 1: that dealing with anything like that makes you less. 364 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 2: Then and it's really super. 365 00:17:18,040 --> 00:17:21,520 Speaker 1: Stale thought and thought process and way of thinking. It's like, 366 00:17:22,000 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 1: oh my goodness, I listen. I mean, I'm I think 367 00:17:25,280 --> 00:17:30,400 Speaker 1: that people who are dealing with things, or like my heroes, 368 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:32,640 Speaker 1: I find someone so much more complex and so much 369 00:17:32,640 --> 00:17:35,560 Speaker 1: more interesting when they are dealing with adversity or when 370 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:39,160 Speaker 1: they you know, when they when they reckon with and 371 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:42,840 Speaker 1: and speak about like life isn't so easy all the time. 372 00:17:42,920 --> 00:17:46,320 Speaker 3: It's just not. I think that we're slowly getting rid 373 00:17:46,400 --> 00:17:49,200 Speaker 3: of that shame. I remember it. By the way, this is. 374 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:51,919 Speaker 4: This is a really ridiculous story, but the first this 375 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 4: is how this is how far I've come with my 376 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:54,320 Speaker 4: own journey on this. 377 00:17:55,000 --> 00:17:57,119 Speaker 3: I went to pick up. 378 00:17:57,200 --> 00:17:59,760 Speaker 4: Zolof for the first time at CVS, right and I 379 00:17:59,840 --> 00:18:03,280 Speaker 4: was like, this is so like I've like I felt 380 00:18:03,280 --> 00:18:05,480 Speaker 4: like when I go went up to the counter, I 381 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:09,040 Speaker 4: should just say I've hit rock bottom. Just give me 382 00:18:09,119 --> 00:18:12,159 Speaker 4: the fucking zoloft, like like I needed it, Like written 383 00:18:12,200 --> 00:18:16,160 Speaker 4: on my forehead it's this is where I'm at. 384 00:18:16,400 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 3: Right, and like, don't don't even bother showering, right, just 385 00:18:20,840 --> 00:18:23,480 Speaker 3: go looking Discott because that's where I'm at, you know. 386 00:18:24,800 --> 00:18:28,480 Speaker 4: And I went in and I wore a ball cap 387 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:30,600 Speaker 4: and I wore sunglasses because I was like, the last 388 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,000 Speaker 4: thing I need, the last thing I need is for 389 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:36,760 Speaker 4: like anybody to see me walking out with bag of zoloft, right. 390 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:41,720 Speaker 4: And I went to the counter and I was like udding, 391 00:18:42,040 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 4: you know, like giving them my information. They're like what 392 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:49,960 Speaker 4: and I'm like, god, right and birthdate. I'm a millennial 393 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:54,639 Speaker 4: and the chick this is not a joke, Okay. She 394 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:57,560 Speaker 4: hands me my zoloft and then she goes. 395 00:18:58,000 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: By the way, I'm a huge Grace Fantomy fan. 396 00:19:00,320 --> 00:19:05,359 Speaker 4: And I was like, yeah, mother, God not obviously today. 397 00:19:05,720 --> 00:19:07,840 Speaker 4: But I was like thanks so much, and I'm holding 398 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 4: my you know, giant pill of like I felt read 399 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:14,520 Speaker 4: I have the anxiety and the ration, you know, And 400 00:19:14,560 --> 00:19:16,199 Speaker 4: I was like thanks so much. And I walked out 401 00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:20,280 Speaker 4: and I tell you what now everyone listening. I skip 402 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:22,800 Speaker 4: in there to get my Zoloft. I'm so excited to 403 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:25,119 Speaker 4: get that pill. I don't care who knows. 404 00:19:25,440 --> 00:19:26,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm like. 405 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:29,719 Speaker 4: Camella Luddington and I'm here for my Zoloft, thank you 406 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:30,359 Speaker 4: very much. 407 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:34,159 Speaker 2: And it works real well. So I feel get rid 408 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 2: of that shame. I don't want to. I can't even believe. 409 00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 2: It's crazy. 410 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:38,439 Speaker 4: I mean I felt like I had to, like, you know, 411 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:42,160 Speaker 4: incognito myself to get it the first time. 412 00:19:42,840 --> 00:19:43,639 Speaker 2: No, screw that. 413 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:46,400 Speaker 1: I think that's real. I've felt that at CVS. Why 414 00:19:46,400 --> 00:19:47,680 Speaker 1: does CVS bring that out on us. 415 00:19:47,880 --> 00:19:48,320 Speaker 2: I don't know. 416 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:51,000 Speaker 1: I don't even remember what my RX was, but I 417 00:19:51,040 --> 00:19:53,880 Speaker 1: remember it was not something that I was like psyched about. 418 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:55,680 Speaker 1: I'm really I'm gonna have to think about this later 419 00:19:55,760 --> 00:19:57,800 Speaker 1: because I do want to speak the truth and call 420 00:19:57,840 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 1: it what it is. So I'm gonna think about what 421 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:00,760 Speaker 1: it was. But i'd say this sort of thing happened 422 00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:03,159 Speaker 1: where I was like, oh, for sure, I'm not going 423 00:20:03,280 --> 00:20:05,840 Speaker 1: to go in and they're like, yeah, yeah, it was 424 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:07,320 Speaker 1: a passing it over the counter, and then like I 425 00:20:07,359 --> 00:20:11,240 Speaker 1: love your work, yeah yeah, and then a little bit 426 00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:12,800 Speaker 1: of denial on my part. I think, like what, I 427 00:20:12,840 --> 00:20:16,000 Speaker 1: don't know, I must look like her yeah, I know, 428 00:20:16,080 --> 00:20:17,880 Speaker 1: but you know, it's real for everybody, and that's why 429 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:21,520 Speaker 1: they should just maybe like do away with that counter, 430 00:20:21,960 --> 00:20:24,480 Speaker 1: that line at the counter, because I definitely remember being. 431 00:20:24,359 --> 00:20:27,040 Speaker 2: In the back of some poor women that was there 432 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:29,240 Speaker 2: for them and I was. 433 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:32,960 Speaker 3: Like, yeah, oh gosh, okay sucks. 434 00:20:32,600 --> 00:20:35,440 Speaker 1: And she was so like, yeah, by the way, I'm 435 00:20:35,440 --> 00:20:36,680 Speaker 1: really I think she wanted to write it down on 436 00:20:36,720 --> 00:20:38,840 Speaker 1: a piece of paper and to slide it to the pharmacy. 437 00:20:38,920 --> 00:20:42,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, there does need to be a option badge of them. 438 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,040 Speaker 2: Did you need badge em? 439 00:20:44,200 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, they're on the loudspeaker. Can we get extra badge 440 00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:50,119 Speaker 4: of them for a counter five please? You're like, I'm 441 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:52,480 Speaker 4: just this is over, and you're like, can you make 442 00:20:52,520 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 4: some zole off with that? Because now I need it. 443 00:20:55,000 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 4: This whole experience has been so depressing. 444 00:20:58,200 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, we're all out. We're gonna have to order that. 445 00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:06,600 Speaker 1: Can you come back from them so loft bundle. 446 00:21:07,160 --> 00:21:10,680 Speaker 3: Yes, we need a leader of badge of them Aisle five. 447 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:15,080 Speaker 2: It's just it's like just just leave. 448 00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,399 Speaker 4: At that point, you're like, actually, my vagina is fine. 449 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:20,160 Speaker 4: I don't even at this point it's being left. 450 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:24,840 Speaker 1: This reminds me of when I was living in New 451 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 1: York and I was in my twenties and I was 452 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:31,919 Speaker 1: so self conscious. I certainly hadn't been on grazed now. 453 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,320 Speaker 1: I mean, I certainly had zero fame. Nobody knew who 454 00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: I was, nor did they care. And I was so 455 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:41,119 Speaker 1: just I don't know, I was very wound up about 456 00:21:41,240 --> 00:21:43,560 Speaker 1: I don't know, self conscious something like that. And I 457 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: went to go get a vibrator at the pleasure Chest 458 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,439 Speaker 1: in New York City here on sixth Avenue seventh. 459 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:49,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, and I. 460 00:21:51,720 --> 00:21:54,000 Speaker 2: Bought it and when I when I. 461 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:56,439 Speaker 1: Took it to the front counter, I asked them to 462 00:21:56,480 --> 00:21:58,240 Speaker 1: gift wrap it for me because it wasn't for me. 463 00:21:59,040 --> 00:22:01,720 Speaker 3: Oh, I was clearly getting it out of the gift 464 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,200 Speaker 3: you know what. That's genius. 465 00:22:05,320 --> 00:22:07,359 Speaker 2: It's not my vibrator. You know what. 466 00:22:07,440 --> 00:22:09,640 Speaker 4: There should be a gift wrap option for your mess 467 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:10,879 Speaker 4: if you don't want to talk to you like I 468 00:22:11,200 --> 00:22:14,400 Speaker 4: vadgim is a birthday gift for somebody and I need 469 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:18,679 Speaker 4: you to wrap it up with a nice little bow. 470 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:21,920 Speaker 4: There should be the option so that you don't have 471 00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 4: you don't you don't have to admit it. 472 00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:30,240 Speaker 2: Yes, it's like a yes. So there should be a 473 00:22:30,280 --> 00:22:31,080 Speaker 2: gift wrap option. 474 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:33,119 Speaker 1: And it should be a little note on it for 475 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:36,439 Speaker 1: the CVS person to just or should just be like, 476 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:38,760 Speaker 1: don't talk about it, don't say it out loud, gift 477 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,480 Speaker 1: wraps and shut up. 478 00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:47,080 Speaker 2: I can't carry on. I love it so much. 479 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:49,199 Speaker 1: You need to think of some more r exes that 480 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:50,560 Speaker 1: would be embarrassing like that. 481 00:22:50,840 --> 00:22:53,920 Speaker 4: Oh god, I'm sure. I'm sure there's many in my future. 482 00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:59,320 Speaker 4: But you know what, but this is what gift wrap 483 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:02,560 Speaker 4: a CVS give wrapped your Do you know why? I'm 484 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:06,160 Speaker 4: super excited to be here, though, tell me, I'm very 485 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:09,080 Speaker 4: excited because we said we would do this and we're 486 00:23:09,080 --> 00:23:12,480 Speaker 4: already doing it. Episode three we have talked about because 487 00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:16,159 Speaker 4: we've had just such an incredible response from fans, like 488 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,320 Speaker 4: across the board, like we're so blown away, And we 489 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:26,680 Speaker 4: said we would zoom with fans and in person over 490 00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:31,080 Speaker 4: zoom discuss their ship like where we discussing our ship 491 00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:31,880 Speaker 4: right now, and we. 492 00:23:31,840 --> 00:23:32,800 Speaker 3: Get to do that today. 493 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:33,359 Speaker 2: I can't wait. 494 00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:35,160 Speaker 1: I'm also a little nervous. You're a little nervous. 495 00:23:35,440 --> 00:23:38,120 Speaker 3: No, I'm not nervous. Actually, I'm just depressed. 496 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:42,160 Speaker 1: But I always say my kids, nervous and excited sit 497 00:23:42,280 --> 00:23:44,919 Speaker 1: side by side. So that's the mindset. Thing too, like 498 00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:46,480 Speaker 1: do you want to do? Are you thinking of it 499 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:47,440 Speaker 1: like I'm nervous or you think of it? 500 00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:47,960 Speaker 2: I'm excited. 501 00:23:47,960 --> 00:23:51,640 Speaker 1: So I'm gonna change my nervousness. I'm gonna I'm gonna 502 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: take my nervous and I'm gonna turn it into excitement. 503 00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:57,199 Speaker 4: Because I know it's gonna be great. I know that, 504 00:23:57,359 --> 00:23:59,600 Speaker 4: like we're going to figure it out with them, or 505 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:01,760 Speaker 4: at least like we know, like we're going to take 506 00:24:02,160 --> 00:24:03,360 Speaker 4: a couple of steps. 507 00:24:03,040 --> 00:24:05,600 Speaker 3: Forward and then we can go back and talk about 508 00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:06,800 Speaker 3: this again with them. 509 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:07,600 Speaker 2: Okay. 510 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:11,920 Speaker 1: So segueing from our gift wrapping and into our call 511 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:14,600 Speaker 1: it what it is questions. 512 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,280 Speaker 4: Jessica, I don't know if you can see this, but 513 00:24:17,359 --> 00:24:20,000 Speaker 4: I see a little I see a little thing on 514 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:25,600 Speaker 4: our screen that says Molly has entered the waiting room. 515 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:29,960 Speaker 2: I don't see that, well I do? Is that true? 516 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 3: Okay? 517 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:34,000 Speaker 4: So this is what's so exciting about today's episode two, 518 00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 4: you guys. The reason it says that is because we 519 00:24:37,240 --> 00:24:40,199 Speaker 4: have not just someone who's emailed or DM. We have 520 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:43,480 Speaker 4: someone who has agreed to come and zoom with us, 521 00:24:44,920 --> 00:24:47,879 Speaker 4: so excited and talk to us about their problems, so 522 00:24:47,920 --> 00:25:04,719 Speaker 4: we can talk with them live on a zoom. Okay, 523 00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:08,320 Speaker 4: so you guys, we have a very special guest today. 524 00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,360 Speaker 4: It's one of you, and it's one of our new 525 00:25:11,440 --> 00:25:14,200 Speaker 4: friends in our friendship circle. And she has been super 526 00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:17,399 Speaker 4: brave enough to want to zoom with us. And this 527 00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 4: is what she wrote in Her name is Mollie, and 528 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 4: she said, my girlfriend broke up with me over text. 529 00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:28,560 Speaker 4: Her reasoning was that my poor mental health bothered her, 530 00:25:29,119 --> 00:25:32,359 Speaker 4: but she knew about any issues I had before entering 531 00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:36,000 Speaker 4: the relationship over a year ago. She then blocked me 532 00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:38,479 Speaker 4: on everything before I even had the chance to reply 533 00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 4: to her breakup text. We've been chatting just the night 534 00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:45,680 Speaker 4: before and everything seemed fine. I'm confused, upset, and low 535 00:25:45,760 --> 00:25:48,720 Speaker 4: key full of rage. Well guess what, I'm high key 536 00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:50,960 Speaker 4: full of rage on this one. Okay, let's let Molly 537 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:55,640 Speaker 4: in so we can get into it with Molly. Hi, Mollie, 538 00:25:55,800 --> 00:25:58,840 Speaker 4: we are, Mollie so excited to have you. You are 539 00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:02,240 Speaker 4: our first guest that we are personally very first. 540 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:03,200 Speaker 2: Really. 541 00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:08,479 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm putting it on my cebe yes, yes at it. 542 00:26:09,000 --> 00:26:12,360 Speaker 2: Are you from England? I am where. 543 00:26:13,560 --> 00:26:14,520 Speaker 5: Southwest? I think? 544 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:18,240 Speaker 3: Okay, near Bristol. Oh yeah, I know Bristol. 545 00:26:18,600 --> 00:26:21,160 Speaker 5: Yeah, why my half Irish as well, So my accents off, 546 00:26:22,359 --> 00:26:23,040 Speaker 5: It's all good. 547 00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:26,240 Speaker 1: I love accents. Accents are great. I have none. 548 00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 5: An American accent. 549 00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:28,720 Speaker 2: It's true, that's true. 550 00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:30,240 Speaker 1: That's true. I have an American accent. 551 00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:34,040 Speaker 4: So, Mollie, we just read the message that you sent us, 552 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:37,399 Speaker 4: and it and and it ended with I that you're 553 00:26:37,520 --> 00:26:39,639 Speaker 4: low key full of rage. And I said, reading this, 554 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:42,879 Speaker 4: I'm high key full of rage for you. Do you 555 00:26:42,880 --> 00:26:45,880 Speaker 4: want to add any more details in? So you were 556 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:47,600 Speaker 4: with each other for over a year? 557 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,720 Speaker 5: Yeah, and it was kind of on off, Okay, I'll 558 00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,959 Speaker 5: add but yeah. 559 00:26:54,520 --> 00:26:56,639 Speaker 2: And where are you now? Did you just write this? 560 00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:57,680 Speaker 2: Where are you in. 561 00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:00,639 Speaker 1: Your in your feeling like months ago? 562 00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:03,960 Speaker 5: Okay, round about so I'm still pissed. 563 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,560 Speaker 3: Off, you're still in it? 564 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:06,280 Speaker 2: Yes? 565 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:08,879 Speaker 3: Why did she Why do you think she blocked you? 566 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:13,080 Speaker 5: I don't know. It was just I'm like annoyed because 567 00:27:13,320 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 5: it seemed like really cowardly thing to do, just like 568 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:18,720 Speaker 5: break up me over tech and then block me so 569 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:22,479 Speaker 5: I couldn't even have an adult conversation with her. 570 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:26,480 Speaker 1: It's just like, which says more about her than you? Right, 571 00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:30,120 Speaker 1: that's super avoidant behavior. So she's just going to sort 572 00:27:30,160 --> 00:27:34,359 Speaker 1: of excize you and and not just like you said, 573 00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:36,399 Speaker 1: she it sort of takes a lot of bravery to 574 00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:42,480 Speaker 1: deal with something, and endings especially are very challenging. I 575 00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,159 Speaker 1: have a question, if you could waive a magic wand 576 00:27:45,560 --> 00:27:48,040 Speaker 1: with regards to this relationship, what would you What would 577 00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:48,680 Speaker 1: the wand do? 578 00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:53,560 Speaker 5: Maybe you'd make us both mentally stable, because that was 579 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,560 Speaker 5: that was part of the issue, but it wasn't something 580 00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:59,480 Speaker 5: that we hadn't discussed before entering your relationship. 581 00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 2: I guess so. 582 00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:03,919 Speaker 4: I guess my thing is because Jessica and I have 583 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:07,560 Speaker 4: been talking this whole podcast about like, you know, I 584 00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 4: don't even know about mental health. It's not And I've 585 00:28:11,720 --> 00:28:14,520 Speaker 4: had to learn this. As much as I yes, I 586 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:17,040 Speaker 4: would wave the wand and like make myself have not 587 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:20,159 Speaker 4: no anxiety, that would be nice, I have learned to 588 00:28:21,280 --> 00:28:23,560 Speaker 4: not see it as a negative at all about me. 589 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,359 Speaker 3: It's just another piece of me. 590 00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:31,399 Speaker 4: And so if somebody is breaking up with you because 591 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:34,879 Speaker 4: of something that you have that you have mental health wise, 592 00:28:35,520 --> 00:28:36,720 Speaker 4: I think it's not okay. 593 00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:39,160 Speaker 2: But also that's not your person. 594 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:43,000 Speaker 5: I mean, because that was like part of our reasoning. Otherwise. 595 00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:44,760 Speaker 5: She was just like, I don't think it's working, and 596 00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:48,400 Speaker 5: I'm like, okay, Well, if my mental health is something 597 00:28:48,440 --> 00:28:51,160 Speaker 5: that came up later in the relationship that she didn't 598 00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:53,760 Speaker 5: know about and was like, okay, I can't deal with 599 00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:55,960 Speaker 5: this fair enough. But she knew about it before getting 600 00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:57,880 Speaker 5: into the relationships, so. 601 00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:01,200 Speaker 2: I don't know. 602 00:29:01,160 --> 00:29:04,600 Speaker 5: I'm just really confused. I'm like, I never got any 603 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:06,000 Speaker 5: closure because she's blocked me. 604 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:10,479 Speaker 1: So I'm like, right, well, in a way though, that 605 00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:11,840 Speaker 1: kind of that is the closure. 606 00:29:11,920 --> 00:29:12,120 Speaker 2: Right. 607 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: It's not it's not ideal, and it's not what you 608 00:29:14,120 --> 00:29:19,240 Speaker 1: would want, but it is. It is on some level, 609 00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:22,000 Speaker 1: you know. I mean, it's the most powerful thing someone 610 00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,520 Speaker 1: can do, right, is they just stop the communication. It's 611 00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:27,080 Speaker 1: just an immediate no, and then you're sort of left 612 00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:28,600 Speaker 1: to what's what happens now? 613 00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:31,120 Speaker 4: If I could, like, if I was in a situation, 614 00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,440 Speaker 4: I could wave the magic wand it would have nothing 615 00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 4: to do with her. It would have everything to do 616 00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:41,760 Speaker 4: with me understanding that this person does not deserve me 617 00:29:42,120 --> 00:29:44,720 Speaker 4: at all, and feeling okay with that, and knowing that 618 00:29:44,760 --> 00:29:47,760 Speaker 4: there's someone out there that, of course is going to 619 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,760 Speaker 4: accept every part of you, because your mental health is 620 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:54,960 Speaker 4: not a check in the negative column about who you are. 621 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,560 Speaker 3: It's just one part of you. 622 00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:00,000 Speaker 4: And so that's if I could wave a magic wand 623 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:02,120 Speaker 4: that's what I would want for you. I would love 624 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:05,880 Speaker 4: to hear you say, and it's gonna take time. 625 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:07,600 Speaker 3: But like, I don't need her. 626 00:30:07,960 --> 00:30:09,960 Speaker 4: That's not the person that I need in my life, 627 00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,560 Speaker 4: because mental health is a long it's a it's a 628 00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 4: it's an up. 629 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:14,200 Speaker 3: And down journey. 630 00:30:14,320 --> 00:30:17,160 Speaker 4: It's a long journey, and sometimes it's something that you're 631 00:30:17,160 --> 00:30:20,200 Speaker 4: gonna live with forever and you need that partner to 632 00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:22,800 Speaker 4: be there with you in the highs and lows of 633 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,920 Speaker 4: that journey. If my husband was like, m your mental 634 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:28,080 Speaker 4: health is like really annoying, I'm gonna. 635 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:28,520 Speaker 3: Break with you. 636 00:30:29,360 --> 00:30:34,400 Speaker 4: I don't think like you like, go leave because I'll 637 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:39,120 Speaker 4: find someone that like embraces every part of me, including that. 638 00:30:40,040 --> 00:30:43,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, even if that, like with that case, I would 639 00:30:43,960 --> 00:30:47,240 Speaker 5: have just I would have at least appreciated a conversation 640 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:51,640 Speaker 5: about it. I think that's why I'm so annoyed instead 641 00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,160 Speaker 5: of just a text and then blocking me. I'm like, well, 642 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:57,120 Speaker 5: could we not have discussed this a little? 643 00:30:57,400 --> 00:31:01,080 Speaker 1: Like I don't know, right, And but that's also that's 644 00:31:01,120 --> 00:31:02,920 Speaker 1: sort of like that's the work that you're left with 645 00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:05,400 Speaker 1: right now, right because you can't. You're only in charge 646 00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 1: of you, You're not in charge of her, And you 647 00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:13,120 Speaker 1: can't have her do anything differently than she's done. She's 648 00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:15,960 Speaker 1: that's that's what she's shown you. That's who she is, 649 00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 1: and that's the choice that she's made. And now it's 650 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:23,360 Speaker 1: really only about you and and who and how do you? 651 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:24,800 Speaker 1: Who do you want to be in this moment? And 652 00:31:24,840 --> 00:31:28,840 Speaker 1: how do you want to treat yourself? And and and 653 00:31:28,880 --> 00:31:32,239 Speaker 1: regard yourself, which I hope is with with kindness and 654 00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:34,040 Speaker 1: and sort of like you know, I do think that 655 00:31:34,040 --> 00:31:36,600 Speaker 1: that self talk comes in in a in a way 656 00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:39,920 Speaker 1: here where where when someone goes away completely, we can 657 00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:43,840 Speaker 1: only imagine what they think or what or what there 658 00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:46,760 Speaker 1: the reasons why they did X, Y or z. But 659 00:31:46,920 --> 00:31:50,400 Speaker 1: you usually what you're imagining is worse than what it is, 660 00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:54,080 Speaker 1: and then it becomes sort of like this negative self 661 00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,760 Speaker 1: talk spiral, and so then you're actually having conversations with 662 00:31:56,800 --> 00:31:59,240 Speaker 1: yourself that are doing no good and making yourself feel 663 00:31:59,600 --> 00:32:03,640 Speaker 1: even more terrible. So I feel like right now would 664 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 1: be an amazing time for you to find and make 665 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,480 Speaker 1: a list of all the things that you love about 666 00:32:08,520 --> 00:32:12,280 Speaker 1: yourself or that you're really proud of of yourself. You know, 667 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,160 Speaker 1: the things that you've done that you're like, you know what, 668 00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 1: I don't know many other people who've done that, or 669 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,360 Speaker 1: the things that are unique to you, or the things 670 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:23,680 Speaker 1: that people have told you, or your superpowers. But focusing 671 00:32:23,760 --> 00:32:27,000 Speaker 1: on those positives and what you hold inside of yourself 672 00:32:27,040 --> 00:32:30,760 Speaker 1: that's unique to only you, and really really thinking about them, 673 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:35,360 Speaker 1: and again writing them down and being grateful for them, 674 00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:38,719 Speaker 1: and finding a way to go back out into the 675 00:32:38,720 --> 00:32:40,320 Speaker 1: world and find someone. 676 00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:44,360 Speaker 6: Who's grateful for you and who sees you for who 677 00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:47,120 Speaker 6: you are again the ups and downs and all arounds, 678 00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:50,240 Speaker 6: because there's actually literally not a person in the world 679 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:51,719 Speaker 6: that doesn't have ups and downs. 680 00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,920 Speaker 5: I'm going to get back out there with self confidence? 681 00:32:55,680 --> 00:32:58,480 Speaker 2: Yeah? Why not? Why not? Exactly? 682 00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:00,800 Speaker 4: And I also think by the way that somebody does 683 00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:03,320 Speaker 4: something like that, because we've all been in a relationships 684 00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:04,440 Speaker 4: where we've come out of it and you're. 685 00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:06,880 Speaker 3: Like, I hate like, why did they? That was so awful? 686 00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:10,239 Speaker 4: But what it did for me is it gave me 687 00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:15,440 Speaker 4: more perspective into what I definitely wanted a partner. You 688 00:33:15,680 --> 00:33:19,200 Speaker 4: definitely don't want a long term relationship with someone that 689 00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:23,040 Speaker 4: cannot communicate with you or ghosts you right, Like, even 690 00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:25,600 Speaker 4: if you guys got back together, if that's their sort 691 00:33:25,640 --> 00:33:28,720 Speaker 4: of personality and how they navigate relationships, it's never gonna 692 00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:31,400 Speaker 4: feel good. You want someone that makes you feel really yummy. 693 00:33:31,440 --> 00:33:34,160 Speaker 4: So I think even though you're like, oh man, she 694 00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:38,000 Speaker 4: didn't even she couldn't even give me an explanation, maybe 695 00:33:38,000 --> 00:33:41,200 Speaker 4: there's also another list. It's like what do I deserve 696 00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,520 Speaker 4: in a relationship, And that's one of the things. It's like, 697 00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:49,240 Speaker 4: I deserve an explanation, I deserve conversations when things get tough. 698 00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:51,240 Speaker 4: And then when you look at that list, does that 699 00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:54,160 Speaker 4: person that just left you fit on this list? They're 700 00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:57,720 Speaker 4: probably not going to check those boxes that you have 701 00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,280 Speaker 4: decided this is important to me and a partner. And 702 00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,080 Speaker 4: I think just seeing those two lists, like how awesome 703 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:05,360 Speaker 4: I am by the way, you're our very first guest. 704 00:34:05,400 --> 00:34:09,200 Speaker 4: You're zooming in on something that's really vulnerable that to 705 00:34:09,280 --> 00:34:10,600 Speaker 4: me should be on your list. 706 00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:11,360 Speaker 2: That's awesome. 707 00:34:11,640 --> 00:34:13,279 Speaker 4: And then you write the other list of like this, 708 00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,720 Speaker 4: this is what I deserve, and I've just been shown 709 00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,200 Speaker 4: what it looks like when that person doesn't do those 710 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:19,480 Speaker 4: things and how it makes me feel. 711 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,279 Speaker 1: And I will say one last thing and it's not 712 00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 1: just because I am a Taylor Swift fan, but there's 713 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:26,840 Speaker 1: a little thing called karma, and so not to be 714 00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:29,160 Speaker 1: a nerd or I could do good or whatever, but 715 00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:33,080 Speaker 1: I actually I personally feel like it's gonna sound crazy. 716 00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:36,040 Speaker 2: Poor her, throw some love at her. 717 00:34:36,280 --> 00:34:38,439 Speaker 1: She had to cut you off and walk away, and 718 00:34:38,560 --> 00:34:40,560 Speaker 1: she doesn't have the skills that you need to be 719 00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 1: in a relationship. 720 00:34:42,560 --> 00:34:44,879 Speaker 5: I feel sorry for her, I really do. I'm a cat. 721 00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:46,840 Speaker 2: You are, you know what? I hope she grows. I 722 00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:49,080 Speaker 2: hope she grows, and look at you. I'm so happy 723 00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:49,960 Speaker 2: we got to talk to you. 724 00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:55,960 Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you so much, and okay. 725 00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,640 Speaker 2: Good and I'm good. Thank you. It's been such a 726 00:34:58,680 --> 00:34:59,440 Speaker 2: pleasure having you. 727 00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:02,080 Speaker 4: And listen if you wanna, if you ever want to 728 00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:05,160 Speaker 4: come back in on on, call it what it is 729 00:35:05,200 --> 00:35:06,200 Speaker 4: and give us a little. 730 00:35:09,719 --> 00:35:13,320 Speaker 2: Thank you so thank you so much, Mellielly, thank you. 731 00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:18,839 Speaker 1: Okay, Wow, this has been a lot of good I've been. 732 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:20,799 Speaker 1: I'm into this. I'm really into this. But I think 733 00:35:20,800 --> 00:35:23,640 Speaker 1: it's time now. So let's call it, shall we Yes, 734 00:35:24,800 --> 00:35:28,960 Speaker 1: let's call it the end of this episode. 735 00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:31,320 Speaker 2: Bye friends, Bye friends.