WEBVTT - Black Women's Health 0:00:05.200 --> 0:00:07.680 What's the family. It's your girl. To mek A D. Mallory, 0:00:08.119 --> 0:00:11.840 it's your boy my son, and we are your hosts 0:00:11.920 --> 0:00:15.640 and street politicians the place via the streets and politics me. 0:00:15.920 --> 0:00:21.200 I want you to address me going forward as grandma tea. 0:00:21.800 --> 0:00:28.480 That's my teeth, teeth and my teeth. Well, thank you. 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:33.080 I was saying grandma, and it just was falling flat 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:35.800 like grandma. You know, people say grandma, they say this 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:37.800 and that, but I want to stick with grandma. It 0:00:37.880 --> 0:00:39.800 was falling flat, and then I just came up with 0:00:39.840 --> 0:00:45.320 it literally in this second. Is grandma te grandma? Te grandma. 0:00:45.680 --> 0:00:52.639 I don't want grandma, I want grandma. What's what's your 0:00:52.640 --> 0:00:56.040 granddaughter's name? And hand? What his name is? Blair? And 0:00:56.120 --> 0:01:00.680 she is we are in bliss with there because she 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:05.520 is abused at Oh dope, man. Congratulations to his son. 0:01:06.200 --> 0:01:09.560 Ye he's a little he's a little half grown man 0:01:09.640 --> 0:01:12.399 there man, he got him a little he gonna he's 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:16.200 gonna step up now. Yeah, I got to step up. 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:20.759 And her mom's name is Nia, and she's also incredible. 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:23.360 They're really good parents, you know. I I even watch 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:30.160 your grand your grandson's parents. So Nassan and Cindy. They're 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:35.399 really good parents. These young people are incredible parents. Bro. Yeah, 0:01:35.440 --> 0:01:37.200 because you know what it is. I think I think 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:39.880 we gave him a lot of a foundation. You know, 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:42.920 they had a way different kind of foundation because we 0:01:42.959 --> 0:01:46.280 had parents says like, listen, you're gonna that's your kid. 0:01:46.400 --> 0:01:49.520 You're gonna figure it out. I love him and gonna come, 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:51.680 but you're gonna you're gonna do the initial work. The 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:54.760 first six or eight months is on you. I'm gonna come, 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:57.320 buy my hug him, and I'm gonna do that. But 0:01:57.520 --> 0:01:59.880 we don't think I don't think we're parented in that fashion. 0:02:00.080 --> 0:02:02.000 You know what I'm saying. We gave a lot of 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:05.920 a cushion. You know my son's mother, I saw him. 0:02:06.120 --> 0:02:10.040 She's very hands on with you know, her grandson. So 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.360 they didn't really have to to really do my I mean, 0:02:13.400 --> 0:02:15.360 they do, they what they have to do, but the 0:02:15.440 --> 0:02:18.800 foundation is really set for them. So yeah, it's true 0:02:18.840 --> 0:02:21.440 when you well, first of all, even though yes we 0:02:21.520 --> 0:02:26.480 are working as parents, I'm as grandparents, we are working, 0:02:26.840 --> 0:02:29.360 but we have a lot more flexibility to be able 0:02:29.400 --> 0:02:33.120 to support Our parents didn't have that. Their jobs were 0:02:33.160 --> 0:02:36.440 pretty much nine to five once they get home. They've 0:02:36.440 --> 0:02:39.280 got to get ready for bed, because every day, you know, 0:02:39.360 --> 0:02:41.400 they were on that that when you call it the 0:02:41.639 --> 0:02:46.440 the the wheel, you know, going my parents they got 0:02:46.480 --> 0:02:49.360 home at a certain time of day, six o'clock or whatever. 0:02:49.440 --> 0:02:52.960 They didn't have time to watch my son afterwards, even 0:02:52.960 --> 0:02:55.600 though they still helped out way more than they should 0:02:55.600 --> 0:02:59.160 have ever been required to. But nonetheless, it was just 0:02:59.200 --> 0:03:01.720 a different thing, you right, It's it's just different. We 0:03:01.800 --> 0:03:06.240 are more involved in shifting things and you know, but 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:09.640 then I don't know, because other grandparents have damn they 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:13.320 are taken over in terms of how they supported their 0:03:13.360 --> 0:03:17.560 grandchildren and the parents. I don't know, it just was different. 0:03:17.639 --> 0:03:19.440 I was just not as good as a parent as 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:22.880 these kids. What I see in them doing is just 0:03:23.200 --> 0:03:25.320 over the top. So I'm happy to be a part 0:03:25.320 --> 0:03:28.880 of that. And it's fering. I'm grandma, te grandma. T 0:03:30.560 --> 0:03:33.920 what's in the news? Um? Oh? So Biden in the 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:38.760 marijuana offenses. First of all, the White House is like, yo, 0:03:38.880 --> 0:03:43.000 we gotta do some stuffs because we only had what 0:03:43.200 --> 0:03:46.800 is it now? They're less than thirty days, Yeah, November 0:03:46.800 --> 0:03:49.520 five is less than thirty days for the mentorm elections. 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:52.080 They need people to turn out, and they have to 0:03:52.120 --> 0:03:55.240 figure out what to do in a short period of 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:58.880 time to try to make sure that the messaging is 0:03:58.920 --> 0:04:01.360 not just flat. They need to be able to give 0:04:01.400 --> 0:04:04.760 it some you know, some some highs and lows and 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:08.200 put some color up in there around what they have 0:04:08.320 --> 0:04:12.160 been able to accomplish. In my judgment, and I'm sure 0:04:12.200 --> 0:04:16.360 you agree, it's not um like you know, it's like, 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:19.119 it's not. I can't say it's flat because we can't 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:21.480 do that. We have to give credit. We are credit 0:04:21.560 --> 0:04:24.960 is due, but certainly the type of change we need. 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:27.920 Forget about what they promised and all of that, because 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:29.840 we could get into that and be here all day, 0:04:30.200 --> 0:04:34.000 but just the type of so it's the type of 0:04:34.160 --> 0:04:37.440 change we need, the type of support people of color, 0:04:37.560 --> 0:04:42.000 but black folks specifically that we need in this country. 0:04:43.240 --> 0:04:44.920 I don't know that the government has ever going to 0:04:45.000 --> 0:04:47.080 do that. I just don't. I just don't know that 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:51.680 we will ever have a government that will give us 0:04:51.760 --> 0:04:54.520 what we need as a people. Just don't know. I don't. 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:57.279 I don't think so either. I don't think, like I 0:04:57.320 --> 0:05:01.400 said all the time, to give black people marginalized communities 0:05:01.400 --> 0:05:06.160 which they actually need to be successful and progressive means 0:05:06.200 --> 0:05:11.080 the fall of capitalism. Right, Capitalism cannot function if everybody 0:05:11.600 --> 0:05:15.160 is financially stable, Right, there has to be a lower class. 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:18.000 That's what it is, built off, is built off somebody 0:05:18.040 --> 0:05:21.320 has nothing, and and and some people have a lot, 0:05:21.920 --> 0:05:25.880 you know. So to actually give marginalized people who who's 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:30.560 actually are black people in this continent communities, you know 0:05:30.560 --> 0:05:34.479 what I'm saying, those equal opportunities and options is the 0:05:34.520 --> 0:05:36.720 fall of capitalists. But when we look at this bill, 0:05:37.080 --> 0:05:40.839 it's two things, right that I say, And I'm critical 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:46.960 about it, always critical about it. But as as the president, 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:51.640 there only you have limited ability to just make laws. Right, 0:05:51.640 --> 0:05:54.880 there's there's a process. And the only thing you actually 0:05:55.040 --> 0:06:01.279 can control our federal as federal legislation gets held the states. Yo, 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:04.560 every state, y'all gotta do this. They don't have to 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:07.320 buy buy those rules. So the only thing he's he 0:06:07.960 --> 0:06:11.920 has the ability to do is make federal law and 0:06:11.920 --> 0:06:14.560 and give the states who want to help buy But 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:17.200 not at that point, it's for us to push our 0:06:17.279 --> 0:06:20.480 state legislators, you know, and I the people that control 0:06:20.560 --> 0:06:24.240 our states to adopt those things, you know, And and 0:06:24.240 --> 0:06:26.799 and it's a fun up system it's it's it's sucked 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:28.719 up and I want to be I want to say 0:06:28.800 --> 0:06:30.760 by ain't doing ship. But I see them past a 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:34.320 couple of things that I gotta says. It's more than 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:37.360 I've seen anybody else. Do you know, It's more than 0:06:37.400 --> 0:06:40.960 I've seen people doing a long time. And I'm definitely critical. 0:06:41.400 --> 0:06:43.599 We should be getting way more ship. We should be 0:06:43.600 --> 0:06:46.480 doing all these things, all these bills that we should get. 0:06:46.560 --> 0:06:49.279 But I understand that there's a process, and I understand 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:51.960 there's some people who don't want that process to go. 0:06:52.080 --> 0:06:55.160 They don't want to see marginalized communities, black and brown 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:58.000 communities actually grow. They just don't want to see it, 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:00.400 you know. So you know, I don't. I don't know, 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:02.360 and that's why I don't know if it's it's possible 0:07:02.400 --> 0:07:05.479 for us to actually get equity in this country. Yeah, 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:08.480 I mean, I think what you said is a d 0:07:08.960 --> 0:07:12.280 true that you know the States is now where it 0:07:12.320 --> 0:07:15.080 goes because seven thousand people is great, but we know 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:21.120 that the system is full of and that incarceration is 0:07:20.760 --> 0:07:25.440 is really um populated, if you will, if you will, 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:30.440 by our people, many of them black folks with criminal 0:07:30.520 --> 0:07:35.760 backgrounds based upon marijuana conviction. So we know that you know, 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:38.360 seven thousand is a good number. We want to see 0:07:38.400 --> 0:07:42.360 everybody at every level to cut you in. The seven 0:07:42.400 --> 0:07:46.000 thousand represents the amount of people who would be affected 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:50.480 by INDI federal system by the that I'm saying, seven 0:07:50.520 --> 0:07:56.640 thousand people potentially potentially being freed under this um, you know, 0:07:56.800 --> 0:08:01.760 new law. However, this states it does fall back on 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:05.160 the states to handle the masses and sort of the 0:08:05.280 --> 0:08:09.680 magnitude of the problem around marijuana convictions. And I'm just 0:08:09.680 --> 0:08:13.600 gonna be honest in saying that this is why you 0:08:13.680 --> 0:08:18.040 have to go to the polls, because first of all, anyway, 0:08:18.120 --> 0:08:19.680 I was getting ready get into a whole thing that 0:08:19.720 --> 0:08:21.600 we're not gonna talk about today, because you know, I 0:08:21.680 --> 0:08:27.080 just want to know which one of your Republican buddies, Um, 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:30.440 these all these people who are out here that folks 0:08:30.480 --> 0:08:34.000 are like, well, it's good people on both sides, okay, Well, 0:08:34.000 --> 0:08:37.040 which one of them, Which one of those individuals is 0:08:37.080 --> 0:08:40.120 pushing for legislation that we're free a bunch of people 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:44.319 at once under a new law, um and a new statute. 0:08:44.400 --> 0:08:48.320 I don't know what, you know, whatever, the point is 0:08:48.679 --> 0:08:51.640 that this is why we have to make sure that 0:08:51.720 --> 0:08:57.000 we vote for governors and others um in state office 0:08:57.080 --> 0:09:01.440 and your state legislature who will help to ensure that 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:05.839 what Biden has done is modeled on the state level, 0:09:05.920 --> 0:09:09.280 because that's where we have most of our people dealing 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:13.920 with marijuana convictions and incarceration and um, you know, and 0:09:13.920 --> 0:09:17.520 and if you are unwilling to be participate in the process, 0:09:17.720 --> 0:09:19.920 you won't show up at the post. You're not, you know, 0:09:20.040 --> 0:09:21.880 making sure because this is like a rubber meets the 0:09:21.960 --> 0:09:25.480 road situation. This is not just some theoretical ship that's 0:09:25.520 --> 0:09:28.920 just in the air. This is like, literally, you make 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:32.600 sure you put somebody in office who will look at 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:35.360 what Biden is doing the same. This state wants to 0:09:35.400 --> 0:09:37.760 be a part of that. It's that simple. It's either 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:42.400 your legislature, your your It's either your governors and those 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:45.320 people who are in elected office in your state supported 0:09:45.400 --> 0:09:48.920 or they don't. And by the way, where is Kathy 0:09:49.040 --> 0:09:51.800 hok Or in New York? Because I ain't I don't 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.679 know if I heard that she or Or has already 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.360 signed a bill that is aligned with that. So I'm 0:09:57.400 --> 0:10:00.360 over here talking about the Democrats. But hey, which one 0:10:00.360 --> 0:10:03.560 of those states? But I don't know I need to 0:10:03.600 --> 0:10:08.280 do some more research, so I'm checking myself. Anyway, I 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:13.480 heard you say black and brown coalition, um or you 0:10:13.520 --> 0:10:17.600 said black and brown people, and that that term has 0:10:17.640 --> 0:10:20.559 been challenged greatly over the last few days based upon 0:10:21.120 --> 0:10:26.240 the uh, the the situation in Los Angeles County where 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:30.800 the council president she's now the former council president, nor Martinez, 0:10:31.440 --> 0:10:34.960 was caught on tape saying a bunch of nasty, vile, 0:10:35.720 --> 0:10:41.040 racist things um about us black people and particularly a 0:10:41.040 --> 0:10:45.640 black child, calling him a monkey, talking about violence against 0:10:45.720 --> 0:10:48.520 the kid. Just a bunch of nasty things that she 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:51.560 should not have been saying, and she got caught, and 0:10:51.600 --> 0:10:55.080 it has caused people to start talking about an issue 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:58.480 that comes up often, is this idea of a black 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:01.320 and brown coalition and what and not it really exists? 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:03.120 And this is what I want to say. First of all, 0:11:03.200 --> 0:11:06.600 she has resigned from the council completely. But her two 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:09.560 colleagues who were also in the conversation, who not one 0:11:09.600 --> 0:11:12.200 of them pitched the fit and said, wait a minute, 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:13.960 this is nasty, this is not right. What the hell 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:16.680 are you talking about. I refused to participate in this. 0:11:17.240 --> 0:11:18.840 They didn't one of them. I think didn't do that, 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:22.160 and the other one actually participated in the conversation for real, 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:26.600 for real, Um, you know, neither one of them did 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:30.319 anything to stop it. And those two people have not resigned, 0:11:30.400 --> 0:11:34.200 so there's still pressure on. And so the question becomes, 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:36.679 you know, people talk, they hear sometimes even you know, 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:39.520 we say black and brown, um, and folks are like, 0:11:39.760 --> 0:11:42.160 is their real black and brown coalition? Because we know 0:11:42.280 --> 0:11:46.120 that there are Latino individuals out there who do not 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:49.680 identify with our communities, and in fact, they want to 0:11:49.720 --> 0:11:53.640 see themselves as a step above us. They want to 0:11:53.640 --> 0:11:56.880 be disassociated completely with anything that has to do with 0:11:57.000 --> 0:11:59.880 even being brown. They want to be as close to 0:12:00.040 --> 0:12:03.600 white as possible. They are trying to gain access to 0:12:04.040 --> 0:12:06.920 the white community, and they will throw us under the 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:10.439 bus and sometimes harm us in order to be there. 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:13.400 And here's what I think, because people look at us 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:15.960 and they're like, oh, you know, why do y'all say 0:12:16.000 --> 0:12:19.400 black and brown? Even with the conversation around fat Joe 0:12:19.520 --> 0:12:23.360 using the word the N word. Um, you know, people 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:26.760 people are like, Tamika, you know, why haven't you said anything? 0:12:27.160 --> 0:12:30.800 And I do think that being a New Yorker, especially 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:33.920 a New Yorker from the hood is very different. I'm 0:12:33.920 --> 0:12:37.360 sure in l A there's some places like that as well, 0:12:37.760 --> 0:12:42.200 where black and Latino people grow up so close together 0:12:42.640 --> 0:12:45.359 that you don't even Because when I lived in the projects, 0:12:45.640 --> 0:12:48.559 it was a black family, a Latino family, a black family. 0:12:48.679 --> 0:12:52.280 Like we ate food together, we did everything together. I 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:56.000 don't know a life without those individuals who I grew 0:12:56.040 --> 0:13:01.160 up with. Now, when I went to school the Catholic church, unfortunately, 0:13:01.559 --> 0:13:03.960 and because I went to a Catholic school, the nun 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:07.840 who ran the church and the school, she's the one 0:13:08.120 --> 0:13:13.360 who put in us sort of a racial dynamic or 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:17.079 made me feel like I was less than as an 0:13:17.280 --> 0:13:20.839 African American or a black girl. When I was next 0:13:20.880 --> 0:13:24.680 to Mariel and Marciel, who are our two sisters, right, 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:30.120 there are two twins who are beautiful, beautiful Latino sisters, 0:13:30.360 --> 0:13:33.480 and they are my girls. We are super cool. Loved 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:36.640 them down. But when I was young, there were people 0:13:36.679 --> 0:13:42.480 who tried to pit us against one another. And you know, 0:13:42.600 --> 0:13:44.960 I don't I feel like I hate to say it, 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.760 but the people who introduced the racial dynamics was the 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:52.440 white folks in the school, because otherwise we didn't know 0:13:52.520 --> 0:13:56.239 nothing about that. Because you know, what it is. Would 0:13:56.840 --> 0:14:01.120 there's a proximity to whiteness with Latinos, right because this 0:14:01.320 --> 0:14:06.360 trade hair lighter skin, so they're identified closer to them, 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:08.800 and those people who want to identify closer to the 0:14:08.800 --> 0:14:11.320 white people are able to. And there are those who 0:14:11.360 --> 0:14:13.320 don't want to, you know, they don't want to be 0:14:13.400 --> 0:14:16.560 involved in this, this racial dynamic. They want you know, 0:14:16.600 --> 0:14:19.080 they want to stand for equity. So it's always been 0:14:19.600 --> 0:14:22.280 that situation. Like like you said, we grew I grew 0:14:22.320 --> 0:14:25.560 up in the Bronx where my next door, everybody on 0:14:25.640 --> 0:14:28.480 my floor except me was Puerto Rican or Dominican. You know. 0:14:28.600 --> 0:14:31.400 The next to the neighbor was Dominican, the guy next 0:14:31.440 --> 0:14:34.200 to me, Jose, They re Puerto Rican, and then I 0:14:34.240 --> 0:14:36.160 guess the other person over here was Puerto Rican. So 0:14:36.880 --> 0:14:39.280 we and we grew up like family. We was ind 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:41.480 and out of each other's house every day, you know, 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:47.960 So the dynamic there we didn't know, you yeah, you 0:14:47.960 --> 0:14:50.240 know what I'm saying, and then you know, people start 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:52.560 making you see the divide every now and then there 0:14:52.600 --> 0:14:55.320 would be these little racial things that happened before the 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.600 most part, we grew up as family, you know, and 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.960 so you know, not everybody has that because there's certain 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:04.640 things like in Alabama, where my mother is from, there 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:09.080 are no Latinos. The Mexican community has just moved in 0:15:09.480 --> 0:15:13.000 with the like a Mexican restaurant, but other than that, 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:14.520 and I don't even know where they live because I 0:15:14.600 --> 0:15:16.600 sure I've never seen them walking up and down the 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:20.800 past of my grandmother's community, you know. So I'm sure 0:15:20.840 --> 0:15:23.840 that there are certain places around the nation where there 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:27.640 is no The only thing they know is white and black, right, 0:15:28.200 --> 0:15:31.400 and most of the time there's literally no relationship to 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:35.480 the white people. So I don't know. I mean, I 0:15:35.520 --> 0:15:39.400 don't know anyway we should move on. I just we're 0:15:39.400 --> 0:15:42.720 trying to figure this out, this conversation around the Black 0:15:42.760 --> 0:15:45.720 and Brown coalition. When I think of somebode like Carmen 0:15:45.800 --> 0:15:49.520 perez Um, you know, and I think of other Latino 0:15:50.320 --> 0:15:53.720 sisters and brothers who are in this movement with us, 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:56.400 it is very difficult for me to leave them behind 0:15:56.480 --> 0:15:59.520 when I'm talking about issues, because I know they face 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:02.520 some the same things that we face. But I also 0:16:02.640 --> 0:16:04.800 know that there's a lot more work that has to 0:16:04.840 --> 0:16:09.800 be done by our Latino brothers and sisters to show 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.120 up for us as Black people and to make sure 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:14.960 that you know we we we can keep it clear 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:17.960 that we're one family. So I guess, on one hand, 0:16:18.400 --> 0:16:21.160 you know, there's a little bit of hypocrisy that exists 0:16:21.160 --> 0:16:23.760 in all of us because we all we talk about 0:16:24.280 --> 0:16:27.320 For me, fatiates from the Bronx, like every quarto Rican 0:16:27.360 --> 0:16:30.880 I know, up until I got into this movement, being honest, 0:16:31.520 --> 0:16:34.600 the word nigga only have made us angry coming from 0:16:34.720 --> 0:16:37.960 white people, right me and my my spinish tyr, My 0:16:38.000 --> 0:16:39.760 nigga was good. This is just how we talk like 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:42.640 every day, my nigga nigga. That is a community that 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:46.600 is a everyday communication for us in the Bronx. Black 0:16:46.880 --> 0:16:49.720 Puerto Rican people communicate with each other like that. When 0:16:49.760 --> 0:16:53.600 it was a racial slur, when we heard a Hispanic 0:16:53.640 --> 0:16:56.280 person call you a monkey, then that's when we we 0:16:56.640 --> 0:16:59.240 now use trying to be racist. We knew we heard 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:01.560 more no or we heard monkey is something. You know. 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:05.520 This was a direct ratio intention. But the word nigga 0:17:05.640 --> 0:17:08.160 was just our regular dialogue with each other. It's also 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:11.639 how people say it. White people can't say at all period, 0:17:11.760 --> 0:17:14.960 not now, But it's also how people say it when 0:17:15.119 --> 0:17:21.080 some people some Latinos do use it in a derogatory way. 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:27.000 I'm not I've never heard it inside of our community, 0:17:27.119 --> 0:17:31.680 like I've never heard uh, Hispanic or Latino person say 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:34.720 the word nigga. And it made me feel like yeah, 0:17:34.760 --> 0:17:39.240 because even in a fight, the Latinos in our communities 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:42.679 might be like, nigga, what's up? Like And just so again, 0:17:43.320 --> 0:17:47.960 I recognized the hypocrisy, recognized hypocrisy, and recognized it's like anything. 0:17:48.040 --> 0:17:50.800 If I got my friend, the things that offend don't 0:17:50.800 --> 0:17:52.639 offend me about my friend, don't mean it. It's not 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:57.040 gonna offend somebody else when they do it. The reality 0:17:57.200 --> 0:18:00.719 we need to we need to to move on and 0:18:00.760 --> 0:18:03.520 talk about our topic for today. But I'm glad you 0:18:03.560 --> 0:18:06.159 brought that up because that takes that takes us to 0:18:06.240 --> 0:18:10.400 the conversation that has been viral about coach Stormy and 0:18:10.520 --> 0:18:13.719 Tammy who when I showed up a day late to 0:18:13.800 --> 0:18:19.400 their conference after which is called girl hold my hand, um. 0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:22.560 But by the time I got there, they were already 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:25.560 viral about something that happened the day before. Let's talk 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:27.760 about it a little bit later on. But it is 0:18:27.880 --> 0:18:30.080 very true that what the way that you may speak 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:33.000 to your friend's cool with y'all, but when other people 0:18:33.080 --> 0:18:35.560 hear it, they are gonna be they may be offended 0:18:35.640 --> 0:18:37.600 by what they hear, which is why sometimes people don't 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:39.920 need to hear everything, because the Internet needs to be unplugged. 0:18:39.920 --> 0:18:42.760 But we gotta get to our topic. But I forgot 0:18:43.080 --> 0:18:46.040 that I have to make sure today I do my 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:47.840 thought of the thing, because my thought of the day 0:18:47.880 --> 0:18:53.240 today is so durn, like just it's not so much 0:18:53.280 --> 0:18:56.920 good because it's actually not good, but it's more so important. 0:19:02.280 --> 0:19:06.440 You know that people watch people more than they work, 0:19:07.280 --> 0:19:11.760 Like this is something that you what was you gonna say? 0:19:13.280 --> 0:19:20.760 People watch people more than they work? And you know 0:19:22.520 --> 0:19:29.720 I was. I posted something last week where p Diddy Puffy, 0:19:30.000 --> 0:19:32.600 I still call him Puffy, y'all. You know, everybody got 0:19:32.600 --> 0:19:37.280 their own thing, love Love brother, where he was talking 0:19:37.320 --> 0:19:43.199 about how difficult success is, like how hard you have 0:19:43.359 --> 0:19:47.920 to go to be successful. And you know, some people 0:19:47.960 --> 0:19:51.479 will say, well that is you know, you're killing yourself, 0:19:51.480 --> 0:19:53.520 you're working too hard. And I get that. I'm not 0:19:53.600 --> 0:19:57.359 sitting here advocating for you know, not taking care of 0:19:57.359 --> 0:20:01.560 your family or vacation or resting, so just working so hard. 0:20:01.800 --> 0:20:04.800 But what I do know is that if you'll spend 0:20:04.840 --> 0:20:10.480 more of your time watching other people and wanting to 0:20:10.520 --> 0:20:14.560 figure out how to diminish their value and or call 0:20:14.680 --> 0:20:18.320 them out, and you know, sit up and and and 0:20:18.320 --> 0:20:21.520 and really be motivated by jealousy and envy. And you 0:20:21.560 --> 0:20:24.120 will never say that like most people, they will never say, 0:20:24.600 --> 0:20:28.160 I'm being motivated by the jealousy and envy in my heart. 0:20:29.000 --> 0:20:31.400 They're not gonna say. They're gonna say, nah, it's because 0:20:31.680 --> 0:20:34.360 things ain't the way it's supposed to be. And somebody 0:20:34.359 --> 0:20:37.120 should have gave me this, and somebody should have did 0:20:37.200 --> 0:20:39.840 this for me, and somebody should have liked because that's 0:20:39.880 --> 0:20:42.920 what we love to do, is to complain about other 0:20:43.080 --> 0:20:47.400 people and try to figure out ways to expose them, 0:20:47.880 --> 0:20:53.960 deny them, disrespect them. Even people who disguise themselves as 0:20:54.040 --> 0:21:00.119 your friend, they're the main ones to do it. And 0:21:00.119 --> 0:21:04.280 and I think people don't realize that the hate that's 0:21:04.359 --> 0:21:08.199 in you is what's stopping you. It's not who is 0:21:08.280 --> 0:21:11.440 in your way. It's not to me, Mallory is your problem. 0:21:11.760 --> 0:21:15.040 It's not my son is the problem. It's the hate 0:21:15.040 --> 0:21:18.400 that's in you that's stopping you from getting where you're gonna. 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:20.480 We used to have a saying in my old job 0:21:21.280 --> 0:21:24.200 that you can't be big and little at the same time. 0:21:24.520 --> 0:21:27.200 You have to choose one or the other. Because if 0:21:27.240 --> 0:21:30.440 you little, everything you touch is gonna be just as 0:21:30.480 --> 0:21:34.520 little as you are. You're never going to accomplish your 0:21:34.600 --> 0:21:38.359 goals and be and and fulfill the greatness that God 0:21:38.440 --> 0:21:42.480 has placed within you. If you're busy watching other people 0:21:42.560 --> 0:21:46.920 and having a why not need and I why them mentality, 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:50.680 especially when you sit around and and claim, oh, I'm 0:21:50.800 --> 0:21:53.560 i'm I'm real, I'm for the people, I'm this and that, 0:21:53.720 --> 0:21:56.320 and all you do all the time is trying to 0:21:56.359 --> 0:21:59.720 tear down people, and particularly tear down black women. It's 0:21:59.800 --> 0:22:02.399 not then you you're a hater, that's what that is 0:22:02.440 --> 0:22:05.320 the only thing in your way. Because I know people. 0:22:06.720 --> 0:22:12.640 I know people who are brilliant, they're smart, they are um, 0:22:12.720 --> 0:22:16.080 they have all the things. But the little bit of hate, 0:22:16.119 --> 0:22:20.760 that little envious behavior at jealousy that you carry, that's 0:22:20.760 --> 0:22:24.359 blocking you from your greatness. It's blocking you from getting 0:22:24.359 --> 0:22:26.480 what you want to go. And I always say, you 0:22:26.560 --> 0:22:29.760 know when you if you look at me, because I 0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:33.600 know that I am I don't know all the things right, 0:22:33.640 --> 0:22:42.800 Like I'm not the most politically educated. I don't know 0:22:42.840 --> 0:22:46.359 how to use all the big words. Sometimes it takes 0:22:46.400 --> 0:22:51.120 me longer to catch concepts and understand things. But somehow 0:22:51.280 --> 0:22:55.800 I have been successful, and I'm in a position where 0:22:55.880 --> 0:23:00.280 I have influence right, where people respect me, where there 0:23:00.280 --> 0:23:02.240 are a lot of people out here who have been 0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:05.680 impacted by not And I'm not talking about our work 0:23:05.760 --> 0:23:07.879 on a big scale. I'm talking about just me and 0:23:07.920 --> 0:23:10.919 my peer to peer relationships that I have with people 0:23:11.200 --> 0:23:13.960 who have helped to put them in position. And I 0:23:13.960 --> 0:23:16.800 am blessed in that way. And I really truly do 0:23:16.960 --> 0:23:20.240 attribute a large part of that to the fact that 0:23:20.280 --> 0:23:22.879 I don't walk around watching other people and hating on 0:23:23.040 --> 0:23:25.760 who ain't got what, and who's over there, and who's 0:23:25.800 --> 0:23:28.120 over there and I don't like this person, and trying 0:23:28.119 --> 0:23:30.440 to figure out how to take shots against people who 0:23:30.480 --> 0:23:33.080 I have once sat and broke bread with. That's not 0:23:33.200 --> 0:23:36.760 my personality. That's just not who I am. So when 0:23:36.760 --> 0:23:39.520 I sit and look at the difference between me and 0:23:39.640 --> 0:23:43.119 some of the other individuals who people watch me and 0:23:43.160 --> 0:23:45.919 who have so much ship to say about me, I 0:23:46.080 --> 0:23:49.240 realized that the difference between you and me is hate. 0:23:49.440 --> 0:23:53.960 That's the only thing that's different. I say that I 0:23:54.040 --> 0:23:57.120 say all the time, if you pay attention to somebody 0:23:57.200 --> 0:23:59.680