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Speaker 2: Man? Is this?

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Speaker 3: While? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Who is this?

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Speaker 3: This is Elder Smith.

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Speaker 1: Elder Smith's up? Man, what's up this?

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Speaker 3: Crazy? Well, I'm about to leave on my mission.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Man, you sent me a text. You said, I'm

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Speaker 1: a Mormon, I'm eighteen years old. I'm about to leave

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Speaker 1: on a mission for two years. It said you're basic

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's how long you go out for.

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Speaker 1: So I for those who don't know, I guess the

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Speaker 1: mission is like, well, everything I know about about Mormonism,

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Speaker 1: there's the Book of Mormon, the South Park play. I

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Speaker 1: went to Utah. I did a show there, and everyone

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Speaker 1: there was Mormon and people that really Mormon, some Mormon

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Speaker 1: stories to talk. Yeah, yes, yes, yes, tell me tell

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Speaker 1: me about my omission.

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Speaker 3: Well, it's kind of a I don't know, will you

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Speaker 3: ever ran into missionaries before, Like I guess if you've

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Speaker 3: seen the Book of Mormon play, like, we're the guys

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Speaker 3: that knock on the doors and want to talk about

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Speaker 3: the Book of Mormon and stuff, right, yeah, But I

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Speaker 3: don't know. It's just it's fun. So I'm from Utah

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Speaker 3: and so all my friends are Mormon. It's kind of different.

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Speaker 3: It's like a joke where there's like a Mormon and

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Speaker 3: so well, we actually don't go by Mormon. We go

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Speaker 3: by member of the Church of Jesus Christ, by the Saints. Now, yeah,

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Speaker 3: because people call us Mormons, and like there's a whole

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Speaker 3: this whole debate I guess where people say, oh, they're

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Speaker 3: not Christian or whatever. And so recently, the like leadership

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Speaker 3: in our church they decided to change that because I mean,

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Speaker 3: when it comes down to it, like we're centered on Christ. Right,

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Speaker 3: So it's kind of but see, people still call it Mormon,

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Speaker 3: so I kind of I don't know if you knew

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Speaker 3: that or not, but I just wanted to market it.

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Speaker 1: It's like, what is what is the real quick? What's

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Speaker 3: So like I don't know, so like like living in Utah, right,

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Speaker 3: like most of my closest friends are actually they were

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Speaker 3: like it's Mormon, is going to be in your ward. Right.

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Speaker 3: So award is like where you go to church, right

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Speaker 3: and you like sit down.

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Speaker 1: Chest like a oh crap. I'm trying to think of

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Speaker 1: what the Christian equivalent is called. I know, I damn,

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Speaker 1: I know this word. What's that word?

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Speaker 3: It's a Christian what we call it sacrament meeting.

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Speaker 1: Where the word liked Mas, right, not Mass? What's the

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Speaker 1: this is gonna this is gonna kill me? Not a congregation.

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Speaker 1: in the same place. It's not a commune. Seminary. The seminary, yes,

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Speaker 1: They so so else. So they work for it. Dude,

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Speaker 1: where are you going on this mission to?

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Speaker 3: I'm going to Michigan actually, and I'm going I'm speaking Spanish.

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Speaker 1: You're going to mission. You're going to Michigan.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on. There's definitely already a ton of

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Speaker 1: So it's got to be a pretty easy sell over there.

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Speaker 3: I mean, well, the point of being a missionary is

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Speaker 1: You're the you're the guy that comes in when people,

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Speaker 3: Exactly yes, exactly out. Well yeah, that's that's actually said.

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna use that on my mission. All right, that

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Speaker 3: my journal? Thank you, Lyle.

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Speaker 1: But so so so I just met Yeah, how are

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Speaker 1: I want to know this? And aside from all this

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Speaker 1: what's can I can I call you your? What your

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Speaker 3: Well, it's funny because my last name is Smith, so

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Speaker 3: I'm not like worried. But my first name is is

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Speaker 3: what's funny. My brother was almost named Joseph. I actually

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Speaker 1: Is Creighton Creighton, so Creighton, yeah, tell me. Somebody in

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Speaker 1: the chat just asked me uh, to ask you about soaking,

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Speaker 1: But I have other things I want to ask you about.

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Speaker 1: First you personally, Creighton, do you how are like, dude,

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Speaker 1: how are you feeling about going to Michigan? Like, tell

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Speaker 3: Well, dude, Like, honestly, it's really gone like pretty back

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Speaker 3: So it's been like I'm really looking forward to it

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Speaker 3: But so I put mine in in like February, and

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Speaker 3: Like it was really frustrating. So, like I have a friend,

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Speaker 1: This is literally this is this is the plot of

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Speaker 3: I know. Well, but you know what's funny is like

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Speaker 3: I like, I kind of like everybody wants to go foreign, right,

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I've ever been to Detroit?

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Speaker 1: Are you going to Detroit for? Are you gonna now?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. If there's a lot of fucking I

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Speaker 1: don't know. If there's a lot of uh Mormons in Detroit,

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 3: Know either, man, there's probably more there.

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Speaker 1: If there was a sequel to Book of Mormon instead

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Speaker 1: of Africa, they would get sent to Detroit.

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Speaker 3: Though, would be super funny. Well, so you get so

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Speaker 3: there's a So mine is actually called I don't know

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Speaker 3: if it's like bad. I mean, you know what, people

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Speaker 1: going on to a work exchange or you know, there's

433
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Speaker 1: a lot there's many, many, many different options for the

434
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Speaker 1: thing at eighteen where you go, I'm going to exercise

435
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:55,920
Speaker 1: some independence. I'm going to challenge myself. I'm gonna leave

436
00:22:55,960 --> 00:23:01,679
Speaker 1: my hometown and you know, try and do new stuff.

437
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:04,640
Speaker 1: Everyone should do that everyone should should should do. It's

438
00:23:04,680 --> 00:23:06,840
Speaker 1: not going to be for every one hundred percent, right,

439
00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:08,240
Speaker 1: It's not going to be for everyone. That's why you

440
00:23:08,240 --> 00:23:10,320
Speaker 1: know a lot of people come back. But you know,

441
00:23:10,400 --> 00:23:12,840
Speaker 1: you're describing yourself as a as a free spirit. You

442
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,440
Speaker 1: seem like a smart dude. You should go and see

443
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:20,080
Speaker 1: the world. Yeah, you know, you should go and and

444
00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: try and put yourself out there and and try and

445
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:29,280
Speaker 1: follow this this goal that you have of of you know,

446
00:23:29,440 --> 00:23:32,520
Speaker 1: because that's you know, there's a lot of different ways

447
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:38,920
Speaker 1: that people cope with being uh fucking up sad and

448
00:23:39,080 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 1: uh getting out there and exerting force upon the universe

449
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:53,480
Speaker 1: in ways so that you're not just sitting watching YouTube.

450
00:23:53,520 --> 00:23:55,960
Speaker 1: The fish catching thing you talked about sounded fun, but

451
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,400
Speaker 1: you know, trying to trying to do something with your

452
00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:03,640
Speaker 1: life is it thing. So I'm I'm I'm glad you're trying.

453
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:05,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, thanks man.

454
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Speaker 1: By the by the way, just you know, look, if

455
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Speaker 1: you're dude, don't don't open with you. How does it?

456
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,840
Speaker 1: How does it work? Like, let's all right, let's say

457
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:24,600
Speaker 1: I'm a Spanish guy and you're trying to, okay, spread

458
00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,399
Speaker 1: your word of God. What does that? What does that

459
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 1: look like?

460
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Speaker 3: Even so well, I mean I haven't done the EMPTC

461
00:24:35,000 --> 00:24:36,760
Speaker 3: at all I know is like from people that have.

462
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Speaker 3: So the empty C is like, so for a month,

463
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Speaker 3: I'm going to go to the EMPTC, which stands for

464
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Speaker 3: the Missionary Training Center, and so they'll teach you how

465
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Speaker 3: to be a missionary and like I'll learn Spanish there. Actually,

466
00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:51,399
Speaker 3: the empty c is like considered the number one place

467
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Speaker 3: in the country to learn languages, like they have the

468
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Speaker 3: most success. Right, But anyways, like there's like the way,

469
00:24:57,600 --> 00:25:00,440
Speaker 3: like there's certain like ways that you approach people, and

470
00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:03,480
Speaker 3: you're supposed to say, Hey, how are you doing? Can

471
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Speaker 3: uh do you have a quick minute that I can

472
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Speaker 3: share a message about Jesus Christ or the Book of

473
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Speaker 3: Warmon and stuff.

474
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Speaker 1: Oh, you're gonna you're gonna think you're gonna you gotta.

475
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Speaker 1: I think you should come up with something more creative.

476
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Speaker 1: I don't know what it is. Well, here you have

477
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Speaker 1: to say, like is that one of that you were

478
00:25:18,480 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: saying there's a bunch of rules. Is that one of

479
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:22,760
Speaker 1: the rules that you have to say that you know.

480
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Speaker 3: What I I don't exactly know yet because like well,

481
00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:28,359
Speaker 3: so that that's like the textbook like you hear and stuff,

482
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:32,239
Speaker 3: and I taken like rapidly like say that. But like

483
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:36,359
Speaker 3: I'm in like what what I want to do? So

484
00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,800
Speaker 3: I work at I work a retail job, and like

485
00:25:38,840 --> 00:25:41,159
Speaker 3: what I like to do is like if someone like

486
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:43,560
Speaker 3: specifically for me, like I just find something common, Like

487
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Speaker 3: if someone's wearing like a like I'm a packer fan,

488
00:25:47,240 --> 00:25:49,879
Speaker 3: someone's wearing a packer. Sure, I'll be like, can you

489
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:52,959
Speaker 3: believe what the Aaron Rodgers is leaving? Or can you

490
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Speaker 3: believe or like something like that, or if they have

491
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Speaker 3: like a cool tie like or I guess if they

492
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Speaker 3: have like a fish on their time and be like,

493
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Speaker 3: oh you fisherman, you like fishing or like or like

494
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:04,760
Speaker 3: if they're wearing like even if they're like wearing like

495
00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:06,679
Speaker 3: a Nike shirt or like.

496
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Speaker 1: A bath You're I'm gonna be honest with you. I'm

497
00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:10,879
Speaker 1: gonna be honest with You're You're a little bit like

498
00:26:11,160 --> 00:26:15,000
Speaker 1: those guys that like in Times Square Venice Beach that

499
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,440
Speaker 1: hand out mixtapes to people.

500
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:19,960
Speaker 3: Or like yeah, like that or like a summer sale, dude,

501
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:21,480
Speaker 3: a little bit like that.

502
00:26:21,800 --> 00:26:23,639
Speaker 1: Can I tell you? I want? Can I tell you something?

503
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:29,320
Speaker 1: And I hope, I I hope. Here's what Here's what

504
00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:32,160
Speaker 1: I want to tell you because I want, I think

505
00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: you should find happiness and whatever gives in whatever thing.

506
00:26:36,200 --> 00:26:43,000
Speaker 1: But yeah, you know, Mormonism, whether that's the the okay,

507
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:50,199
Speaker 1: the vehicle that you choose to enact, you're a grand

508
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Speaker 1: desire of helping people.

509
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Speaker 2: Mm hmm.

510
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Speaker 1: I hope that even if that vehicle as you get old, old, changes, yeah,

511
00:27:04,680 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 1: or you know, I hope the vehicle remains flexible but

512
00:27:11,359 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 1: for me, but the grand idea through which you're using

513
00:27:16,080 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 1: this vehicle, I hope, uh it stays consistent throughout your

514
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:24,879
Speaker 1: entire life, so long as it keeps you happy. Do

515
00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,679
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying to get Yeah?

516
00:27:27,760 --> 00:27:30,200
Speaker 3: Okay, Like like you just find new ways. I think

517
00:27:30,240 --> 00:27:32,399
Speaker 3: that there's a lot of people that probably need to

518
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:36,199
Speaker 3: hear that. Like I think especially like like missionaries that

519
00:27:36,240 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 3: come home, Like there's a lot of missionaries that come

520
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:41,879
Speaker 3: home and they just get so disenchanted with people and

521
00:27:41,880 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 3: they just like don't want anything to do with anybody

522
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,680
Speaker 3: because like literally, like I mean, there's all these rules,

523
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,400
Speaker 3: like you have to be like Jesus for like two

524
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 3: years and.

525
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 1: You have to and you have to and I'm gonna

526
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,320
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm actually I hope me saying this to

527
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:59,399
Speaker 1: you is a compliment to your self awareness and not

528
00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:02,720
Speaker 1: an insult. Okay, oh no, you know, okay, okay, but

529
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 1: you know that people hate people who come up to

530
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 1: them to talk to thee.

531
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, yeah for sure, for sure, Like that's super annoying.

532
00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,520
Speaker 3: But like, well, so there's like the thing where I

533
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,480
Speaker 3: mean this is a different way. So like a lot

534
00:28:17,520 --> 00:28:19,640
Speaker 3: of what it is like being a missionary, Like when

535
00:28:19,640 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 3: you think of a missionary, you think about those guys

536
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 3: that knock on your door and like are shoving the

537
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:26,760
Speaker 3: Book of Mormony your face, right, but like a lot

538
00:28:26,800 --> 00:28:29,000
Speaker 3: of like what like that's what like people see it

539
00:28:29,040 --> 00:28:31,800
Speaker 3: as because that's what you see up up front, right,

540
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 3: But like a lot of what missionary, being a missionary

541
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,920
Speaker 3: is is like networking and working with connections and if

542
00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:41,120
Speaker 3: someone like shows interest to like a member of the church.

543
00:28:41,200 --> 00:28:42,920
Speaker 3: Like so if someone just goes up to a normal

544
00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:46,520
Speaker 3: Mormon and asking a question, like actually interested in it,

545
00:28:46,760 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 3: then Nelson the missionaries and the missionaries are there so

546
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 3: that they can answer the question. Right, Like there's like

547
00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,040
Speaker 3: I don't know, there's like lots of different ways to

548
00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 3: do it, you know, but yeah, for sure, Like I know,

549
00:28:56,400 --> 00:28:59,520
Speaker 3: I totally like even today, like I feel like a

550
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,400
Speaker 3: walking past a bunch of people that are trying to

551
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:02,520
Speaker 3: like because.

552
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 1: What I mean by that is like when you look

553
00:29:04,560 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 1: if after two years of trying to hand out pamphlets

554
00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,440
Speaker 1: to people and talk to about God, you come back

555
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:14,440
Speaker 1: and you're like, oh everyone hates me and this people

556
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 1: are you know, you'll you'll you're you'll have a certain

557
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 1: you'll you'll have a certain kind of perspective, and I

558
00:29:21,800 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 1: hope that you don't get too ingrained in that perspective.

559
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: That not that I you might get in a point

560
00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 1: of that perspective where you're like, yeah, I'm gonna try

561
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:33,480
Speaker 1: a different way of helping people. But uh well, I

562
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:37,280
Speaker 1: think keep keep trying to do your thing. Just be

563
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: flexible on uh you know how to do it.

564
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm just really excited. And I

565
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,560
Speaker 3: don't know, I think that like especially like I mean,

566
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 3: I just want people to be happy, you know, like

567
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 3: I think this. I mean, like I guess there's that

568
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 3: thing in my blessing. I mean it's not just from that,

569
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 3: Like I just feel naturally the person. I wish everybody

570
00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 3: would feel that way. I think a lot of I

571
00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:03,320
Speaker 3: think most people are good, and I think that most

572
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,920
Speaker 3: people do feel that way, just like like just spreading happiness,

573
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 3: enjoy like like like why wouldn't you you know, like

574
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:12,280
Speaker 3: if you if you have the opportunity, so just like

575
00:30:13,120 --> 00:30:15,240
Speaker 3: just like being that's just part of being a human.

576
00:30:15,280 --> 00:30:16,880
Speaker 3: And so I think that like for me, like I'm

577
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 3: gonna go out and be a missionary for two years.

578
00:30:19,200 --> 00:30:21,680
Speaker 3: So I'm gonna use this vehicle, like you said, but

579
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:24,560
Speaker 3: then I'm gonna come back and I'm gonna like, I mean,

580
00:30:24,600 --> 00:30:26,280
Speaker 3: like a big like. I like this is just like

581
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:29,960
Speaker 3: my actual example, like fishing, like I love. Like one

582
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 3: thing that just excites me and I just love like

583
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 3: more than anything else, is like when I have someone

584
00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,640
Speaker 3: else catch a fish like, I don't care, like when

585
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,480
Speaker 3: I catch a fish, like it's like if I can

586
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 3: help someone get to that goal and just see the

587
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,080
Speaker 3: like sparkle in their eyes when they do it, that's

588
00:30:47,120 --> 00:30:49,560
Speaker 3: just that's just what makes me happy. And so I

589
00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 3: think that there's ways to find the sparkle in that

590
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 3: eye in like so many different ways, and I think

591
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,960
Speaker 3: you just have to look for them, you know. And

592
00:30:57,040 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 3: I think, dude, I think that this podcast and this

593
00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 3: whole thing like this like is totally just spreading positivity

594
00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,440
Speaker 3: and happiness. I just love it. I've been binging it.

595
00:31:05,480 --> 00:31:09,840
Speaker 3: My friend shout out to san Jay showed me this podcast.

596
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: Oh cool.

597
00:31:12,480 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 3: I just I just love it. It's so good. And

598
00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 3: I think you've spread happiness and love, man, And I

599
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,480
Speaker 3: think that thanks your vehicle, everybody has a vehicle.

600
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 1: You know, I'm glad you liked the podcast. I came

601
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 1: up with it as an idea to start a lucrative

602
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:25,600
Speaker 1: T shirt business.

603
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:29,600
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, God works mysterious ways. Like

604
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 3: I said, Man, dude, I gotta make it.

605
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 1: Okay, see now I gotta make a Now, I gotta

606
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:37,400
Speaker 1: make a gek works and mysterious ways T shirt.

607
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,440
Speaker 3: Put like a missionary peg on him or something.

608
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 1: Do what's your name again? Elder Smith? Elder Smith, Clayton, Keaton, Cretan, Creighton.

609
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:51,920
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know Creighton University.

610
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Speaker 1: If you've heard of that creating.

611
00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:57,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, creatine that works too. If people call me creation like.

612
00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 1: Well, well creating, Uh good talking to you, stay good,

613
00:32:05,680 --> 00:32:10,360
Speaker 1: be stay safe out there. So ifew there might be

614
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 1: two years asking people in Michigan if they want to

615
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:18,920
Speaker 1: talk to you about Jesus, you might get stabbed at

616
00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: least once, you know.

617
00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:22,280
Speaker 3: What, you know what that happens. I had a friend

618
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:24,360
Speaker 3: or my cousin just got back from Brazil and he

619
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:27,720
Speaker 3: got robbed at nine point twice. So man, I mean

620
00:32:27,760 --> 00:32:30,400
Speaker 3: Michigan's I don't know. I haven't been there, so we'll

621
00:32:30,440 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 3: see what happens.

622
00:32:31,360 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 1: You'll be fine. I don't think. I don't think anything

623
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:35,360
Speaker 1: bad is ever going to happen to you.

624
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,600
Speaker 3: Well, thank you. I hope that's true. I hope I

625
00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:41,680
Speaker 3: hope that nothing bad happens to me on my mission.

626
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,640
Speaker 3: Have a good night, man, Hey, you have a good

627
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 3: night to that. I'll see man.

628
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:46,480
Speaker 2: See.

629
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Speaker 1: I like that guy. He was. He was cool. It's fine.

630
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:59,520
Speaker 1: I like talking to people about religion because I'm not.

631
00:33:00,880 --> 00:33:04,280
Speaker 1: I'm not particularly religious at all, and I don't think

632
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 1: that's a you know, something to say to be cool

633
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:14,920
Speaker 1: or anything. But I was I don't know. I don't

634
00:33:14,960 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 1: know because I'm not. I don't know. If I were,

635
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 1: if I were a genius, I would know all the

636
00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 1: secrets of how to be happy in life that I don't.

637
00:33:31,160 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 1: And I was kind of thinking. I was like, oh, man,

638
00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:38,520
Speaker 1: this is religion. I didn't want this guy to Okay,

639
00:33:40,400 --> 00:33:42,719
Speaker 1: i'm gonna say a coherent thought. I didn't want this

640
00:33:42,800 --> 00:33:49,040
Speaker 1: guy at eighteen having grown up in his church and really,

641
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,640
Speaker 1: you know, only knowing that. I'm not gonna say he

642
00:33:53,680 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 1: only knows that. I don't want to assume that much

643
00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 1: about his life and be a douche. But I didn't

644
00:33:58,600 --> 00:34:01,120
Speaker 1: want him to think that that was his only way

645
00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:08,359
Speaker 1: of helping people, right, Because maybe the way that he

646
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:14,399
Speaker 1: helps people is he starts one of those bars where

647
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:19,200
Speaker 1: you can drink and throw axes at dark boards, and

648
00:34:19,239 --> 00:34:24,000
Speaker 1: maybe that's the thing that gives that helps people. Maybe

649
00:34:24,080 --> 00:34:27,799
Speaker 1: somebody meets their wife there and they have kids and

650
00:34:27,880 --> 00:34:30,920
Speaker 1: it's beautiful. Maybe he helps people with his axe throwing

651
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 1: bar and not through Jesus, but I and that's just

652
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 1: that's just an example. Is I don't want him to

653
00:34:38,239 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 1: think he only can help people through God. If that's

654
00:34:42,280 --> 00:34:45,880
Speaker 1: his thing, if that's what works for him to help people,

655
00:34:46,600 --> 00:34:50,040
Speaker 1: and he that spreads a positive thing for him, then

656
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:55,719
Speaker 1: that's awesome. That's sick. But yeah, he could do it

657
00:34:55,719 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 1: in infinite ways, like starting a bar where you can

658
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:03,040
Speaker 1: also throw access at dark boards and they give you tickets,

659
00:35:03,040 --> 00:35:05,200
Speaker 1: and you can use the tickets to buy the blue

660
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:09,400
Speaker 1: Twitchy rolls that on the on the outside, they kind

661
00:35:09,440 --> 00:35:11,400
Speaker 1: of look like their blue raspberry flavor, but then you

662
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:13,320
Speaker 1: open them and they're vanilla. And I used to buy

663
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:18,960
Speaker 1: huge bags of those and keep them around the house.

664
00:35:19,040 --> 00:35:23,520
Speaker 1: But I kinda I'm in my uh, I'm in my

665
00:35:23,680 --> 00:35:29,080
Speaker 1: healing from buying bags fucking bulk candy in Amazon on

666
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 1: Amazon Era talk about that in a song Taylor Swift.

667
00:35:35,920 --> 00:35:38,960
Speaker 1: All from Tom Hello, hey.

668
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:39,879
Speaker 2: Lyle, what's up man?

669
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:43,560
Speaker 3: Sorry? I just got off work and I was being

670
00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 3: a burger?

671
00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:48,080
Speaker 1: So yeah, well I really I appreciate I appreciate you

672
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: apologizing for uh, getting off of work and eating a burger.

673
00:35:52,200 --> 00:35:53,880
Speaker 1: I was waiting for you to apologize for that.

674
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 2: Thank you. I appreciate your appreciation.

675
00:35:59,520 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: What's going on on time? How can I get you

676
00:36:01,000 --> 00:36:01,359
Speaker 1: to there.

677
00:36:05,080 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 2: Hanging out?

678
00:36:07,280 --> 00:36:07,400
Speaker 3: So?

679
00:36:07,719 --> 00:36:12,760
Speaker 2: I am twenty one. I turned twenty one two weeks ago,

680
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:18,120
Speaker 2: the second whoever that makes that? Yep, And I have

681
00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:20,880
Speaker 2: been at this bar, like I've been working at this

682
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:28,719
Speaker 2: bar since I was like fifteen sixteen, no idea what

683
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 2: I wanted to do, and I always liked making food.

684
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:34,880
Speaker 2: So I decided I was going to do culinary school,

685
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:42,040
Speaker 2: but that was always kind of expensive. And I decided

686
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,880
Speaker 2: that I was going to join the Coast Guard so

687
00:36:45,400 --> 00:36:48,399
Speaker 2: they would pay for culinary school to all of that.

688
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 2: And yeah, so I, if all goes well, I should

689
00:36:59,880 --> 00:37:04,960
Speaker 2: leave you've this time next month, But I don't know

690
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 2: if that's the right call.

691
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:11,600
Speaker 1: It all goes well with joining the coast Guard, yeah,

692
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:12,960
Speaker 1: like you know.

693
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 2: You know, like paperwork and drug tests. The drug test

694
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:19,120
Speaker 2: will be fine, but like paperwork and all that.

695
00:37:20,040 --> 00:37:22,680
Speaker 1: Sorry, what do you what about? What is it about

696
00:37:22,680 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 1: this paperwork that you're did you Are you worried that

697
00:37:25,160 --> 00:37:28,959
Speaker 1: you spelled your name wrong or you used a wrong

698
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:29,600
Speaker 1: type of ink?

699
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:36,239
Speaker 2: No? No, it's like it's like stupid stuff, like they

700
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:40,239
Speaker 2: look at your medical records and stuff like because like

701
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:43,080
Speaker 2: when I was younger, like like a like a little

702
00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 2: lad in middle school, I didn't do nothing but play Xbox,

703
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 2: so I had a vitamin D deficiency and so they're

704
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 2: looking at that and now they want me to come

705
00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:57,720
Speaker 2: through my records and prove that I'm not a basement

706
00:37:57,800 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 2: dwelling gamer boy.

707
00:38:00,200 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 1: Okay, well, I mean they used to run ads for

708
00:38:05,680 --> 00:38:08,640
Speaker 1: the Coast Guard on G four TV. You know G

709
00:38:08,760 --> 00:38:13,440
Speaker 1: four TV. No, oh wait, you're twenty one. Wait I

710
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,520
Speaker 1: mean I'm twenty five. I don't think we're there. You know,

711
00:38:16,760 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 1: you don't know G four the fucking channel that had

712
00:38:19,239 --> 00:38:21,400
Speaker 1: Attack of the show and it was like a channel

713
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,240
Speaker 1: for basement dwelling gamer people.

714
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:28,120
Speaker 2: Is that the one that had the like the like

715
00:38:28,200 --> 00:38:30,720
Speaker 2: the Bot League, like the fighting robots and stuff.

716
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: Oh yes, yes it did. Yeah, I forget the name

717
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: of the show. But yeah, okay, well anyway, the point

718
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 1: what I'm getting at is that it's sound the military.

719
00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:40,839
Speaker 1: I think watched those guys, so I wouldn't worry about

720
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 1: coming off like a basement dweller and gamer boy to

721
00:38:42,880 --> 00:38:45,359
Speaker 1: the military, because I think that's what they want. What

722
00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:47,239
Speaker 1: I'm curious about is do you so let's say this

723
00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:51,720
Speaker 1: paperwork does go through, They're like you, what's your name again?

724
00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:53,320
Speaker 2: Tom?

725
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:58,480
Speaker 1: You? Tom look like a killing machine and we want

726
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:03,960
Speaker 1: to give you an all RPG and plant you at

727
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: on on the where do you live.

728
00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 2: Maryland?

729
00:39:12,760 --> 00:39:15,439
Speaker 1: We want to plant you in the Chesapeake Bay off

730
00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:19,239
Speaker 1: the course of Maryland to shoot an RPG javelin at

731
00:39:19,239 --> 00:39:25,919
Speaker 1: any unfortunate enough Italian to invade our waters. We want

732
00:39:25,920 --> 00:39:28,880
Speaker 1: that for you, Tom? Is that exciting life for you?

733
00:39:29,000 --> 00:39:30,319
Speaker 1: That's what I want to know, is that do you

734
00:39:30,400 --> 00:39:32,640
Speaker 1: want to be in the Coastguard? Do you want the

735
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 1: paperwork to go through? What do you what do you want?

736
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:38,280
Speaker 3: Yes?

737
00:39:38,760 --> 00:39:44,160
Speaker 2: And also no, it'd be cool if I went because

738
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:48,720
Speaker 2: still I'm not going for like a for war or anything.

739
00:39:48,719 --> 00:39:53,640
Speaker 2: I'm going for culinary because they have a really nice

740
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:57,520
Speaker 2: like culinary course, like it's like three or four months

741
00:39:57,520 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 2: in California. But that's after basic training, so I still

742
00:40:01,160 --> 00:40:05,200
Speaker 2: have to go through all the you know, physical aspect

743
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 2: of the training.

744
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: Shooting javelins at boats makes you hungry. But either way,

745
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:13,879
Speaker 1: either way the point being, are you do you want

746
00:40:13,920 --> 00:40:15,239
Speaker 1: to do this? Is it exciting for you?

747
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 2: I think so? I think so I want to. It'd

748
00:40:21,640 --> 00:40:23,800
Speaker 2: be a way to like, you know, see new things,

749
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:26,920
Speaker 2: and it also be a lot of money for me

750
00:40:26,960 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 2: and my girlfriend, which I think is pretty cool.

751
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: Now, what's the contract, Like, are you locked in for

752
00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 1: many years?

753
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 2: At minimum? It's like four or five, I think, right,

754
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:44,600
Speaker 2: But I could go for as long as I want, Like,

755
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:48,000
Speaker 2: if it ends up, I'd really like it. I could

756
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:50,840
Speaker 2: go for fifteen twenty and retire by the time I'm

757
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:52,520
Speaker 2: thirty five, thirty six.

758
00:40:53,760 --> 00:40:58,839
Speaker 1: That ain't a bad gig, right, Well, all right, so

759
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:02,920
Speaker 1: maybe there's not. Maybe you just wanted to call in

760
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 1: to celebrate this. But is there any tension or problems?

761
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 2: Uh? Yeah? So they actually I show what's today Wednesday?

762
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:20,560
Speaker 2: So Monday I had to drive to about two hours

763
00:41:20,640 --> 00:41:23,200
Speaker 2: to one of the stations where you where you do

764
00:41:23,239 --> 00:41:25,920
Speaker 2: all like the you know, peeing in a cup and

765
00:41:25,960 --> 00:41:31,960
Speaker 2: the blood drawn and the paperworking and the what nots.

766
00:41:32,000 --> 00:41:36,239
Speaker 2: And we drove down at three in the morning and

767
00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:43,160
Speaker 2: had to hang out until four thirty, and I didn't

768
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:48,280
Speaker 2: get out until around twelve like in the afternoon, because

769
00:41:48,320 --> 00:41:51,920
Speaker 2: they basically said, between the vitamin D thing that I

770
00:41:51,960 --> 00:41:57,160
Speaker 2: said earlier, and since I have ADHD but I haven't

771
00:41:57,280 --> 00:42:01,040
Speaker 2: like taken any like adderall or anything, even though I

772
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:03,080
Speaker 2: took it in middle school. They said, oh, yeah, you're

773
00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:07,040
Speaker 2: just squalified by dude. And so now we're waiting on

774
00:42:07,120 --> 00:42:10,279
Speaker 2: paperwork for like a waiver, which is super easy to get.

775
00:42:10,320 --> 00:42:13,440
Speaker 2: It's super common. But now I'm like a little stressed

776
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:16,760
Speaker 2: that they're gonna just wave me off and say bye,

777
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:18,520
Speaker 2: do something else, you know what I mean.

778
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 1: I feel like adderall you can make some fucking mean

779
00:42:22,400 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: feticini alfredo on that drug. I think they should test

780
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:30,040
Speaker 1: people to make sure that they are taking adderall.

781
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:37,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean that's one way. Yeah, Like I like.

782
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:40,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I'm not in charge of the United

783
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:43,200
Speaker 1: States military, but if I was, I would make sure

784
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:47,160
Speaker 1: that everybody who signs up we make sure that they're

785
00:42:47,200 --> 00:42:51,719
Speaker 1: on drugs, because that would make a stronger army. I

786
00:42:51,760 --> 00:42:54,000
Speaker 1: can't see how a drug I think, well, maybe not

787
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 1: piece certain drugs, right, Like, right, PCP is probably not

788
00:42:58,880 --> 00:43:01,880
Speaker 1: great because it might make you turn on. There might

789
00:43:01,920 --> 00:43:06,080
Speaker 1: be some friendly fire in there, right. M d m

790
00:43:06,160 --> 00:43:10,280
Speaker 1: A is an interesting one because maybe if all I think,

791
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:14,080
Speaker 1: if if every soldier was high on m d m A,

792
00:43:14,200 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 1: it would kind of be like if you know, those

793
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:18,440
Speaker 1: fights were like, you know, two guys are in a

794
00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:21,600
Speaker 1: fight and one's getting held back. You know, you know,

795
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:22,960
Speaker 1: when you get in a fight, people try.

796
00:43:22,840 --> 00:43:23,399
Speaker 4: To hold your back.

797
00:43:23,920 --> 00:43:26,439
Speaker 1: It would be like if one guy was being held back,

798
00:43:26,480 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: but the other guy was just punching on him. Because

799
00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:30,360
Speaker 1: because everyone in our military would be like, why are

800
00:43:30,400 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 1: we even fighting?

801
00:43:31,160 --> 00:43:31,359
Speaker 4: Man?

802
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,880
Speaker 1: And then you know North Korea.

803
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:38,719
Speaker 2: Would you like sending the hulk in there? You just

804
00:43:38,760 --> 00:43:41,040
Speaker 2: need one guy off m d m A.

805
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 1: No, I think no, I think they. I think I

806
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:45,880
Speaker 1: would make them not want to fight. They would make

807
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 1: them not want to fight. Unless but if if, if,

808
00:43:48,239 --> 00:43:49,680
Speaker 1: if something, maybe if they had M D m A

809
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 1: guns and they could shoot them at the enemy that

810
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:55,200
Speaker 1: included work and we just shoot, We'll just shoot them

811
00:43:55,200 --> 00:43:59,600
Speaker 1: in the air so that everyone's you know, rubbing up

812
00:43:59,600 --> 00:44:03,319
Speaker 1: on each other. Their acid would make an okay soldier maybe,

813
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:06,319
Speaker 1: But if if and I and if I think that

814
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 1: the governments they want the soldiers to be wired killing

815
00:44:14,280 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: machines or not, even if their job isn't to kill,

816
00:44:16,560 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 1: if the job is to make pasta, they want them

817
00:44:18,960 --> 00:44:21,799
Speaker 1: to be wired. So I think they should let soldiers

818
00:44:21,840 --> 00:44:28,319
Speaker 1: at least be high on adderall and cocaine, but nothing else.

819
00:44:29,360 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 2: Coke could probably be cool. Put a little bit in

820
00:44:32,360 --> 00:44:33,920
Speaker 2: the pasta, you know, rolled up in a meat ball

821
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:34,400
Speaker 2: or something.

822
00:44:34,920 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 1: I'm glad that you're here's but you know, I think

823
00:44:38,120 --> 00:44:40,439
Speaker 1: you're going to be fine. I don't think And even

824
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:44,440
Speaker 1: if you don't, you don't get this job, you can

825
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:45,319
Speaker 1: you come cook for me?

826
00:44:45,400 --> 00:44:49,240
Speaker 2: Man, That doesn't sound like a bad idea.

827
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:54,000
Speaker 1: GA, it would have to be for free. I wouldn't.

828
00:44:55,320 --> 00:44:56,400
Speaker 1: I don't have any money to give you.

829
00:44:56,440 --> 00:45:00,480
Speaker 2: But do you have an attage? I could crash?

830
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:03,080
Speaker 1: No, I live in a studio apartment.

831
00:45:04,560 --> 00:45:06,439
Speaker 2: One bed. That sounds great, dude, No.

832
00:45:06,360 --> 00:45:12,040
Speaker 1: It's not one bed, it's one room. Even better, if

833
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:14,920
Speaker 1: you can make me some pasta Bologne bologneas you know,

834
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: the pasta with meat sauce.

835
00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:21,120
Speaker 2: I'm in yeah, yeah, like, uh yeah, that sounds cool.

836
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 2: I could do that. Bison bison, bison bison.

837
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 1: Bolognees like like the animal bison. Yeah, you're a sick

838
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:37,479
Speaker 1: fuck man. You're perfect for the military. I'm just kidding.

839
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 1: I don't know anything about the fucking military. I don't

840
00:45:39,080 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 1: want to be People are going to be like, oh,

841
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:45,760
Speaker 1: Lyle's anti military. I don't know anything about any any stuff.

842
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:49,239
Speaker 1: I think being the military sounds. Uh, I don't know.

843
00:45:49,280 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: I've talked to a lot of people who are in

844
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:52,560
Speaker 1: the military, and a lot of people who left the military,

845
00:45:52,600 --> 00:45:55,000
Speaker 1: and some people that like, changed their lives for the better.

846
00:45:55,040 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 1: Other people changed their lives for the worst. But that's

847
00:45:57,640 --> 00:46:00,239
Speaker 1: the beautiful that's a beautiful thing about human life. Is worldent,

848
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:03,600
Speaker 1: you know, It's true, very good way to look at it.

849
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:09,719
Speaker 1: What's your name again, Tom? Tom? Tom? Do you feel

850
00:46:09,719 --> 00:46:12,160
Speaker 1: like this phone call was helpful for you in any way?

851
00:46:12,200 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 1: Shape for him?

852
00:46:14,560 --> 00:46:14,680
Speaker 5: Uh?

853
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:15,360
Speaker 2: I think so?

854
00:46:15,880 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 1: Okay, that's pretty cool, Okay.

855
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 3: Uh.

856
00:46:18,680 --> 00:46:21,719
Speaker 1: The truth is usually one bit down from what they

857
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:24,880
Speaker 1: tell you. So when you say I think so, I

858
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:30,120
Speaker 1: interpret that as a no, which is fine. And if

859
00:46:30,120 --> 00:46:31,600
Speaker 1: you and if you had said, if you had said,

860
00:46:31,640 --> 00:46:34,359
Speaker 1: if you had said no, I would have interpreted it

861
00:46:34,440 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 1: as this actively harmed man by any way, Tom is

862
00:46:38,920 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 1: there anything else you want to say to the people

863
00:46:40,600 --> 00:46:41,400
Speaker 1: the computer before we go.

864
00:46:44,480 --> 00:46:44,799
Speaker 3: I listen.

865
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:47,400
Speaker 2: I listened a lot. I actually, like I said, I

866
00:46:47,440 --> 00:46:51,399
Speaker 2: was closing, I listened to your Spotify episodes a lot

867
00:46:51,400 --> 00:46:55,680
Speaker 2: when I'm closing, And uh, it was lucky. I had

868
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:58,040
Speaker 2: just left as I saw you say, Hey, let's take

869
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 2: another call. That's pretty cool. Well shout out Beetle.

870
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:05,359
Speaker 1: That movie was cool, Blue Beetle. Oh yeah, I see

871
00:47:05,360 --> 00:47:10,200
Speaker 1: that on bus stops everywhere. Well, good luck, man. I

872
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:11,520
Speaker 1: hope you. I hope you get the job. I hope

873
00:47:11,560 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 1: you get to make some some mean uh meatball parmisant

874
00:47:18,080 --> 00:47:20,760
Speaker 1: spaghetti and meatballs for the for the for the troops.

875
00:47:23,280 --> 00:47:25,839
Speaker 2: Take care, man, God bless you. Take care.

876
00:47:34,960 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 3: It's yay, it's working. Hello.

877
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:41,960
Speaker 1: Yes, hello, how are you?

878
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:44,920
Speaker 5: I'm very good.

879
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:50,520
Speaker 1: You sent me a tech Your name is Amber. Yes, Amber,

880
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:53,759
Speaker 1: you sent me a text that I found very interesting.

881
00:47:54,280 --> 00:47:57,359
Speaker 1: You you said to me. You said to me, I

882
00:47:57,400 --> 00:48:02,320
Speaker 1: am in two polyamorous relationships and I have a seven

883
00:48:02,360 --> 00:48:06,520
Speaker 1: month old child with one of them, and we all

884
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 1: live in the same house.

885
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:10,319
Speaker 5: Yes we do.

886
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:14,400
Speaker 1: Okay, how's how's the situation going?

887
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 5: The beginning was hard. Just having a newborn is hard.

888
00:48:21,280 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 5: But it's doing really good. Both of my partners are male.

889
00:48:25,960 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 5: They are We don't refer to the other one as dad.

890
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:34,319
Speaker 5: He's still figuring out like what he's comfortable with. But

891
00:48:34,560 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 5: the one I had the baby with is dad, and

892
00:48:37,840 --> 00:48:43,920
Speaker 5: they're both doing really great. Like we all love our

893
00:48:44,040 --> 00:48:44,959
Speaker 5: child so much.

894
00:48:46,560 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 1: Even the guy. Wait, so the boyfriend who's come it's

895
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:58,800
Speaker 1: not does he is he like involved in the child's life.

896
00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, so, like he help me take care of the baby,

897
00:49:03,040 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 5: feed him, you know, all that kind of stuff.

898
00:49:06,239 --> 00:49:11,200
Speaker 1: He helps take care of the child. Yeah, and like

899
00:49:11,280 --> 00:49:13,040
Speaker 1: he does he plan on being a part of the

900
00:49:13,120 --> 00:49:17,120
Speaker 1: child's life for like indefinitely, in the way that you

901
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: would if you had a you know, decided to be

902
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 1: a dad with anyone else.

903
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:25,839
Speaker 5: I do believe so. And I always try to look

904
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:29,080
Speaker 5: at relationships like we don't know if we're going to

905
00:49:29,120 --> 00:49:32,240
Speaker 5: hate each other ten years from now, but for now,

906
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:35,560
Speaker 5: you know, the future is together, all right.

907
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:37,840
Speaker 1: I try not to read the chat while I'm on

908
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 1: the phone, but I got to say this. Somebody in

909
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:46,040
Speaker 1: the chat just said this man got uncle zoned, which

910
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 1: is pretty fun.

911
00:49:46,680 --> 00:49:49,200
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, I was like, I don't. I don't want

912
00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 5: to call you uncle because that would be really weird.

913
00:49:53,480 --> 00:49:54,840
Speaker 1: Got uncle zoned.

914
00:49:56,080 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 5: All right?

915
00:49:57,360 --> 00:50:05,799
Speaker 1: So uh man, uh, how long have you been dating this?

916
00:50:06,560 --> 00:50:07,560
Speaker 1: These guys for.

917
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 2: Two years?

918
00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:12,359
Speaker 1: Two years?

919
00:50:12,440 --> 00:50:12,640
Speaker 2: East?

920
00:50:12,840 --> 00:50:14,839
Speaker 5: It's three years?

921
00:50:15,280 --> 00:50:19,240
Speaker 1: Three years? Are they boyfriends? Do they do they do stuff?

922
00:50:20,520 --> 00:50:20,800
Speaker 3: Nope?

923
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:24,799
Speaker 5: Really which if they if they wanted to, you know,

924
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:30,880
Speaker 5: more than comfortable with that. But they're one of my

925
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:33,480
Speaker 5: partners is heterosexual.

926
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:39,560
Speaker 1: So okay, so they're they're not they're they're just they're

927
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:43,440
Speaker 1: just homeboys, are they? Are they even? Are they or

928
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 1: are they just guys roommates?

929
00:50:46,719 --> 00:50:51,960
Speaker 5: No, they're totally friends. They love hanging out and we

930
00:50:52,040 --> 00:50:56,280
Speaker 5: all have really similar interests, so we we be vibing.

931
00:50:57,320 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 1: Now, why do Yeah, you've been dating them both for

932
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:00,799
Speaker 1: the same period of time.

933
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 5: It was, funnily enough, it happened in twenty twenty and

934
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:15,600
Speaker 5: in February of that year, I met the first guy

935
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:21,240
Speaker 5: who is not the father. And then later that year

936
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:26,319
Speaker 5: in this October is when I really got to know

937
00:51:27,200 --> 00:51:33,920
Speaker 5: the father of my child, and we all just really

938
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:38,359
Speaker 5: clicked really well, and I was like, Yeah, these are

939
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:41,160
Speaker 5: the people that I want to be with. And I

940
00:51:41,280 --> 00:51:44,759
Speaker 5: did try having a third relationship, but there is not

941
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:46,239
Speaker 5: enough time in the world.

942
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: What you know, Look, I'm all for people living whatever

943
00:51:51,840 --> 00:51:55,480
Speaker 1: life they want to live, but I what, in what

944
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:59,560
Speaker 1: way could a third relationship add to your life? And

945
00:51:59,560 --> 00:51:59,800
Speaker 1: that's it.

946
00:52:00,360 --> 00:52:06,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, if I didn't have to have a job, I

947
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:08,319
Speaker 5: believe I could totally do it.

948
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 1: If you didn't have it sounds like if you didn't

949
00:52:10,440 --> 00:52:14,520
Speaker 1: have a job, you would have ten different boyfriends, which

950
00:52:14,600 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 1: you know what, I wouldn't blame you for. That sounds nice,

951
00:52:19,440 --> 00:52:27,160
Speaker 1: I guess. Okay, So I have a question why did

952
00:52:27,200 --> 00:52:29,799
Speaker 1: you have kids with one and not the other?

953
00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:30,000
Speaker 2: Like?

954
00:52:30,200 --> 00:52:33,120
Speaker 1: Why why is this guy the dad and not the

955
00:52:33,160 --> 00:52:36,200
Speaker 1: other guy? What was what was been into that decision?

956
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 5: So I had a conversation with both of them, and

957
00:52:40,320 --> 00:52:45,759
Speaker 5: I was like, I want a child. I am this

958
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 5: age in the child and when i'm the stage, the

959
00:52:49,840 --> 00:52:53,800
Speaker 5: kid's going to be this old. And you know, I'm

960
00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 5: ready to have a kid right now, settled down, I

961
00:52:55,719 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 5: have a house. And I asked the first one I

962
00:52:59,880 --> 00:53:02,120
Speaker 5: was with, do you want to have a kid, And

963
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 5: he said, I'm not ready to have my own biological

964
00:53:05,239 --> 00:53:07,640
Speaker 5: child right now. And I said okay. And I asked

965
00:53:07,640 --> 00:53:09,759
Speaker 5: the other one, you know, do you want to have

966
00:53:09,800 --> 00:53:12,279
Speaker 5: a kid with me right now? And they said yes,

967
00:53:12,440 --> 00:53:14,720
Speaker 5: I would love to do that. I want a child,

968
00:53:15,400 --> 00:53:21,600
Speaker 5: and and we all discussed this beforehand, like to the

969
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 5: first one like, are you going to be involved? And

970
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:32,239
Speaker 5: he says, not as much as the biological father, but

971
00:53:33,680 --> 00:53:35,759
Speaker 5: he wants to be involved. I said, you know what,

972
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:37,800
Speaker 5: that's totally cool and understandable.

973
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:42,160
Speaker 1: Okay, So one of them was more ready than the

974
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:49,839
Speaker 1: other one one really volunteered over the other. Yeah, all right, Now,

975
00:53:49,880 --> 00:53:51,439
Speaker 1: what would you have done if they both like, would

976
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:54,840
Speaker 1: there have been a bidding war? If they both wanted to, like,

977
00:53:54,880 --> 00:53:56,879
Speaker 1: you'd have them both g's and a cup and take

978
00:53:56,920 --> 00:53:58,640
Speaker 1: it to a doctor and just be like, tell me

979
00:53:58,640 --> 00:54:00,279
Speaker 1: which one of these is better, and we'll go with

980
00:54:00,320 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 1: the science.

981
00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:08,719
Speaker 5: I never even thought of that. That's very funny. I

982
00:54:08,760 --> 00:54:13,160
Speaker 5: guess if that happened, if they were both like, I

983
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:14,919
Speaker 5: want to have a kid. I want to have a kid,

984
00:54:14,960 --> 00:54:20,120
Speaker 5: I'll be like, Okay, let's try to plan this out.

985
00:54:20,280 --> 00:54:22,839
Speaker 5: You know, after I have the first child, we can

986
00:54:23,719 --> 00:54:27,680
Speaker 5: try to start having another one soon. One of my

987
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:31,359
Speaker 5: partners is a couple of years older than me, and

988
00:54:31,680 --> 00:54:34,359
Speaker 5: the father of my child is four years younger than me.

989
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:36,520
Speaker 1: So how old are you?

990
00:54:38,160 --> 00:54:40,439
Speaker 5: I am thirty two?

991
00:54:41,480 --> 00:54:46,719
Speaker 1: Okay, what was I going to ask you? Oh my god,

992
00:54:47,200 --> 00:54:48,680
Speaker 1: why am I going crazy about this?

993
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:49,719
Speaker 5: Oh?

994
00:54:49,800 --> 00:54:54,880
Speaker 1: Yes, now the boyfriend. Do the boyfriends have girlfriends?

995
00:54:57,440 --> 00:55:00,759
Speaker 5: The father of my child is he's kind of like

996
00:55:00,920 --> 00:55:07,920
Speaker 5: not interested right now, and looking around my first boyfriend,

997
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:12,160
Speaker 5: he he goes out whenever he wants to, and like

998
00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:15,200
Speaker 5: goes on days on tender and stuff, which.

999
00:55:14,960 --> 00:55:15,279
Speaker 1: Is like.

1000
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:18,319
Speaker 5: Every time he goes out on a day, I get

1001
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:20,120
Speaker 5: so excited. I'm like, Oh, it's fun.

1002
00:55:21,320 --> 00:55:23,440
Speaker 1: You have an you have a you have an interesting

1003
00:55:23,480 --> 00:55:26,719
Speaker 1: household situation to bring a girl back home too, I'll say.

1004
00:55:26,480 --> 00:55:37,000
Speaker 5: That, yeah, but yeah, only right now. I'm not looking

1005
00:55:37,040 --> 00:55:40,160
Speaker 5: for anyone else right now because of the baby, Like

1006
00:55:40,239 --> 00:55:41,560
Speaker 5: it's a baby time right now.

1007
00:55:43,960 --> 00:55:46,919
Speaker 1: Okay, So all right, so right now it's just you three.

1008
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 1: There's no I mean, you guys could just keep accumulating fun.

1009
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 1: I mean, shit, man, you guys could just keep accumulating

1010
00:55:55,760 --> 00:55:58,920
Speaker 1: folks and start a big cult and make the baby

1011
00:55:59,000 --> 00:55:59,520
Speaker 1: or leader.

1012
00:56:05,880 --> 00:56:10,000
Speaker 5: We'll have to raise him a very very writer, very smart,

1013
00:56:10,680 --> 00:56:13,640
Speaker 5: and then I won't none of us will have to think.

1014
00:56:13,680 --> 00:56:15,280
Speaker 5: He'll do all the thinking for us.

1015
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 1: Are you worried about expl I mean, I guess that's

1016
00:56:23,520 --> 00:56:26,480
Speaker 1: a question. Are you worried about having to explain this

1017
00:56:26,600 --> 00:56:30,759
Speaker 1: situation to your baby. But when I when I think

1018
00:56:30,800 --> 00:56:33,279
Speaker 1: about that, I'm like, I guess I don't know where

1019
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:35,040
Speaker 1: the worry comes in.

1020
00:56:38,360 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 5: Oh, no, it's just like having same sex parents. It's

1021
00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 5: just like, yeah, sure, I'm just uh, I guess the

1022
00:56:54,640 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 5: worry for me is like if I do have another

1023
00:56:58,239 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 5: child with my other partner, like being able to afford it.

1024
00:57:05,680 --> 00:57:07,799
Speaker 1: I would wait, if you have a child with your

1025
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:12,360
Speaker 1: other partner, that would just make the what was to

1026
00:57:12,440 --> 00:57:16,640
Speaker 1: be the kid's relationship to that kid, they'd be half brothers, Yeah,

1027
00:57:16,680 --> 00:57:17,360
Speaker 1: to be brothers.

1028
00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:19,720
Speaker 5: I have three half brothers myself.

1029
00:57:19,840 --> 00:57:24,600
Speaker 1: So were you were your parents polyamorous? No?

1030
00:57:25,000 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 5: But when I told my mom, because I did come

1031
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:30,440
Speaker 5: out to my mom about it, and she's like, you know, funny,

1032
00:57:30,880 --> 00:57:39,760
Speaker 5: funnily that funnily enough, your aunt and uncle are swingers.

1033
00:57:40,920 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 5: I thought that was so funny.

1034
00:57:44,160 --> 00:57:51,080
Speaker 1: Hm hmm, is this seems like uh, I don't know,

1035
00:57:51,880 --> 00:57:54,560
Speaker 1: it seems like it seems it seems like you're doing fine.

1036
00:57:54,600 --> 00:57:59,800
Speaker 1: Does everyone have a job, yes, what do you guys do?

1037
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:09,360
Speaker 5: Two of us are what I like to call factory raps.

1038
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 5: We work in a ten hour, ten hour a day

1039
00:58:16,400 --> 00:58:17,720
Speaker 5: four days a week shift.

1040
00:58:18,800 --> 00:58:23,800
Speaker 1: Hi. And then wait, is that is that? Is that

1041
00:58:24,160 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 1: one of the guys? Yeah, let me talk to him.

1042
00:58:29,480 --> 00:58:32,280
Speaker 5: Oh, London, come here please?

1043
00:58:33,040 --> 00:58:34,440
Speaker 1: Hello. Oh he doesn't want to do it.

1044
00:58:35,640 --> 00:58:35,680
Speaker 4: No.

1045
00:58:36,600 --> 00:58:39,320
Speaker 5: Uh oh the other one's sleep right now?

1046
00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:41,160
Speaker 1: Are the other ones asleep?

1047
00:58:42,240 --> 00:58:42,439
Speaker 5: Yeah?

1048
00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:45,200
Speaker 1: The did the guy give a reason why he doesn't

1049
00:58:45,240 --> 00:58:46,640
Speaker 1: want to talk?

1050
00:58:48,080 --> 00:58:50,280
Speaker 5: He just doesn't want to be used for content, which

1051
00:58:50,320 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 5: I totally respect.

1052
00:58:52,040 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, I respect that too, Like, uh, the people at

1053
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 4: work know that I'm Polly and he's my partner, Like

1054
00:58:59,560 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 4: we're all of our friends know, like we're pretty what

1055
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:08,280
Speaker 4: they call kitchen table polyamory, where we're just totally open

1056
00:59:08,360 --> 00:59:08,880
Speaker 4: about it.

1057
00:59:11,520 --> 00:59:15,000
Speaker 1: Was that hard for any of your relationships or anything

1058
00:59:15,040 --> 00:59:15,240
Speaker 1: like that?

1059
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:18,280
Speaker 2: Es?

1060
00:59:19,080 --> 00:59:24,520
Speaker 5: And this is the big thing is that I used

1061
00:59:24,520 --> 00:59:30,600
Speaker 5: to be married, and I told my husband that I

1062
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:34,200
Speaker 5: wanted to open up the marriage because this is the

1063
00:59:34,280 --> 00:59:37,439
Speaker 5: person that I am. I'm not okay with just having

1064
00:59:37,520 --> 00:59:41,200
Speaker 5: one relationship. We were together for twelve years, not married

1065
00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:47,000
Speaker 5: for twelve years, but and I moved out shortly after

1066
00:59:47,080 --> 00:59:50,480
Speaker 5: that happened, so we could have some distance. And what

1067
00:59:50,600 --> 00:59:53,800
Speaker 5: I found is that if you start in a monogamous

1068
00:59:53,880 --> 00:59:59,000
Speaker 5: relationship and try to open it up afterwards, it usually

1069
00:59:59,040 --> 01:00:03,200
Speaker 5: doesn't end up working. Like if you go into relationships

1070
01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:07,080
Speaker 5: saying I'm Polly, this is what's going on, it works

1071
01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:08,600
Speaker 5: out beautifully.

1072
01:00:08,880 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 1: You know that makes sense?

1073
01:00:09,840 --> 01:00:10,000
Speaker 3: Right?

1074
01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:14,880
Speaker 1: That makes sense because I feel like people would, you know,

1075
01:00:15,840 --> 01:00:19,760
Speaker 1: as you guys would get older, you know, it would

1076
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:24,680
Speaker 1: you would have your own independent gravitations towards and away

1077
01:00:24,760 --> 01:00:27,920
Speaker 1: from different things, and to be very hard for your

1078
01:00:27,960 --> 01:00:29,360
Speaker 1: gravitations to align.

1079
01:00:29,920 --> 01:00:35,600
Speaker 5: Also, we were each other's first so like we started

1080
01:00:35,680 --> 01:00:38,479
Speaker 5: dating in high school and then we're together for twelve

1081
01:00:38,560 --> 01:00:41,840
Speaker 5: years and we just kind of wit in different directions

1082
01:00:41,880 --> 01:00:44,200
Speaker 5: at the same time. But he's my ex husband now,

1083
01:00:44,800 --> 01:00:48,000
Speaker 5: but we're like still really good friends. We still talk

1084
01:00:48,040 --> 01:00:51,160
Speaker 5: all the time. And he's also really cool to my

1085
01:00:51,240 --> 01:00:52,000
Speaker 5: partners too.

1086
01:00:53,080 --> 01:00:55,280
Speaker 1: What if one of your partners wanted to start dating

1087
01:00:55,320 --> 01:00:58,280
Speaker 1: your ex husband? Would that be sick or bad?

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01:00:59,840 --> 01:01:02,440
Speaker 5: I mean I would find it surprising, but I'd be

1089
01:01:02,480 --> 01:01:05,080
Speaker 5: totally alright with that.

1090
01:01:05,080 --> 01:01:06,480
Speaker 1: That'd be kind of cool. That'd be like a that

1091
01:01:07,000 --> 01:01:09,160
Speaker 1: would be the new that's like the twenty twenty three

1092
01:01:09,200 --> 01:01:17,919
Speaker 1: full house. Ha ha, Well ship, uh I is your

1093
01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:22,920
Speaker 1: is your? Is the guy? What's his fucking name? Lemmy Lanon?

1094
01:01:23,760 --> 01:01:26,520
Speaker 1: Is he cool with being used for content via via

1095
01:01:26,640 --> 01:01:28,400
Speaker 1: you telling the story about him?

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01:01:29,640 --> 01:01:31,680
Speaker 5: Yeah, sure that that should be fun.

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01:01:33,240 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 1: I guess I like I guess I asked you for

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01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:44,600
Speaker 1: his permission. But anyway, anyway, what's your name again? Tyler?

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01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:45,720
Speaker 5: Amber?

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01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:50,560
Speaker 1: Is it is everything okay? In this situation? Are you happy?

1101
01:01:50,600 --> 01:01:54,760
Speaker 1: Are you feeling decent about waking up every day and

1102
01:01:54,800 --> 01:01:55,800
Speaker 1: looking at the sun?

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01:01:57,440 --> 01:02:00,880
Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, I am. I'm I'm the happy I've ever been.

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01:02:02,520 --> 01:02:05,080
Speaker 1: Damn. See, I don't know. That's the thing. You can

1105
01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:10,080
Speaker 1: you can shit and piss all over different ways of living,

1106
01:02:10,120 --> 01:02:12,680
Speaker 1: but you can't argue with somebody's happiness, And I don't

1107
01:02:12,720 --> 01:02:19,080
Speaker 1: know what that means necessarily. Maybe you can argue is

1108
01:02:19,160 --> 01:02:24,360
Speaker 1: I guess if somebody really enjoyed killing people and it

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01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:27,840
Speaker 1: made them really happy, you could probably argue with their happiness.

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01:02:27,880 --> 01:02:30,320
Speaker 1: But you're not killing anybody, so I think that's a

1111
01:02:30,360 --> 01:02:36,240
Speaker 1: different thing. Yeah, Amber's anything else you want to say

1112
01:02:36,280 --> 01:02:37,600
Speaker 1: to the people of the computer before we go?

1113
01:02:38,160 --> 01:02:41,000
Speaker 5: What I'd like to say? What the couple times that

1114
01:02:41,280 --> 01:02:46,760
Speaker 5: heard polyamorous people talk on the chat or not the chat?

1115
01:02:46,840 --> 01:02:50,960
Speaker 5: But the thing is there are definitely not Yeah, there

1116
01:02:50,960 --> 01:02:54,800
Speaker 5: are definitely non ethical ways to do polyamory in the

1117
01:02:54,880 --> 01:02:59,600
Speaker 5: last couple of times I've heard people talk about it.

1118
01:02:59,600 --> 01:03:03,640
Speaker 5: It doesn't seem like they were doing it very ethically

1119
01:03:04,120 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 5: and they were trying to like put all of their

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01:03:08,600 --> 01:03:14,120
Speaker 5: bad things onto one partner and not like respecting that partner.

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01:03:15,240 --> 01:03:17,280
Speaker 1: Are you talking about that? Yeah, there was I made

1122
01:03:17,320 --> 01:03:21,200
Speaker 1: there was a little clip from a call, Yeah, where

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01:03:21,240 --> 01:03:23,960
Speaker 1: there was something. I forget what she said in that clip,

1124
01:03:23,960 --> 01:03:25,600
Speaker 1: but there was somebody talking about being in a polymer

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01:03:25,680 --> 01:03:30,959
Speaker 1: relationship and having one partner that they like have fun

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01:03:31,000 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 1: with and one that they like take their emotional issues to.

1127
01:03:33,960 --> 01:03:34,680
Speaker 1: Something like that.

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01:03:35,920 --> 01:03:39,400
Speaker 5: Right, that's not ethical, Like, that's not cool to do.

1129
01:03:39,600 --> 01:03:44,800
Speaker 5: You have to you have to be positive and be

1130
01:03:44,920 --> 01:03:48,040
Speaker 5: there when your partners need to, just like in a

1131
01:03:48,760 --> 01:03:53,520
Speaker 5: normal relationship to your team. You gotta treat your relationship

1132
01:03:53,560 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 5: like your team.

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01:03:55,080 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 1: Well, you know what, I I don't know. I don't

1134
01:04:02,680 --> 01:04:04,800
Speaker 1: know if I have anything else to say about polyamory.

1135
01:04:05,040 --> 01:04:07,520
Speaker 1: I've thought about it. I'm not gonna sit or say

1136
01:04:07,520 --> 01:04:12,680
Speaker 1: I haven't thought about it. But you know, gotta get

1137
01:04:12,720 --> 01:04:16,240
Speaker 1: one relationship first before you add a second one. Right,

1138
01:04:17,480 --> 01:04:20,480
Speaker 1: thank you for calling Amber. You have a wonderful rest of.

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01:04:20,480 --> 01:04:25,040
Speaker 5: The night, you too.

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01:04:26,000 --> 01:04:32,800
Speaker 1: I'm actually already in a relationship with God. I pay

1141
01:04:32,880 --> 01:04:36,480
Speaker 1: him twenty dollars a month and he lets me have

1142
01:04:36,560 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 1: a dumb ass existence where I get to talk to

1143
01:04:39,760 --> 01:04:44,520
Speaker 1: people on the phone as a gecko. Good trade really

1144
01:04:45,080 --> 01:04:48,240
Speaker 1: goes on the line, taking your phone calls every night.

1145
01:04:48,640 --> 01:04:52,720
Speaker 1: Everly goes to his He's teaching you a loud memory life.

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01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 3: Really an expert