1 00:00:11,039 --> 00:00:14,480 Speaker 1: Pat to everybody, Welcome to the podcast. Thanks for listening. 2 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 1: I messed up. I messed up last week, and it 3 00:00:20,760 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: was bound to happen. You know, it's time to hate 4 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:26,120 Speaker 1: to say. It's not the first time that I've actually 5 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: put the wrong title on a wrong video. And that's 6 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 1: what I did on this podcast last week. I believe 7 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:36,600 Speaker 1: it was called Girls with Daddy Issues and what happened. 8 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 1: Let me explain, me explain, because then I started reading 9 00:00:39,000 --> 00:00:42,480 Speaker 1: these comments below the last podcast and they were like, Hey, 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,080 Speaker 1: I don't think you talked about girls with daddy issues. 11 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:47,960 Speaker 1: I liked the podcast, but I didn't hear you talk 12 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 1: about girls with daddy issues at all. You're right, You're right. 13 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:54,160 Speaker 1: And then Amber came to me and she was like, hey, babe, 14 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 1: I think you said the wrong title. I've done that 15 00:00:56,800 --> 00:00:59,160 Speaker 1: on the Smiths and my other my family YouTube channel. 16 00:00:59,840 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: I've put a one thumbnail on and then said the 17 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:05,040 Speaker 1: wrong title because I had two videos going on in 18 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:08,600 Speaker 1: my brain. So Bernie was my guest the last two weeks, 19 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: and I didn't do an intro like I'm doing right 20 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:16,959 Speaker 1: now for today's podcast in the same sitting as when 21 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:21,000 Speaker 1: I was with Bernie. So as I was thinking about Okay, 22 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:22,800 Speaker 1: I got to intro this podcast, I got to talk 23 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:24,319 Speaker 1: about it. So I pulled up my phone and I 24 00:01:24,319 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: pulled up Dropbox that I had uploaded the content to, 25 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: and I started scrolling through to remember what I talked about, 26 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:35,120 Speaker 1: and I heard me talking about daddy issues, and it 27 00:01:35,240 --> 00:01:38,760 Speaker 1: just so happened to be the podcast before the last podcast, 28 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 1: so I didn't realize that ran with it. Did the intro, 29 00:01:43,319 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: talked about it, did the thumbnail, did the title. It 30 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: was an honest mistake, So I hope you guys forgive me. 31 00:01:52,640 --> 00:01:55,640 Speaker 1: I'm doing this intro right now in the same moment 32 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 1: that I'm actually doing the actual podcast, so I'm not 33 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: going to mess this up. And I've got really good questions. 34 00:02:04,320 --> 00:02:10,119 Speaker 1: I got questions that I love answering because it feels 35 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 1: like it feels like a good way to bounce off 36 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:18,720 Speaker 1: an idea, and it's just kind of go back and 37 00:02:18,760 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 1: forth on a good, solid life issue. And I'm not 38 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:25,880 Speaker 1: going to tell you that I'm not always going to 39 00:02:25,880 --> 00:02:27,560 Speaker 1: give you the right answer. I'm just going to give 40 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 1: you my opinion, and I'm gonna reference stories from my 41 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:37,440 Speaker 1: life and apply that as if it was something happening 42 00:02:37,480 --> 00:02:40,239 Speaker 1: to me. Or a friend. That's what I'm gonna do, 43 00:02:40,280 --> 00:02:42,959 Speaker 1: And you can email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com 44 00:02:42,960 --> 00:02:46,760 Speaker 1: and ask me anything. I've been organizing your questions and folders, 45 00:02:46,760 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: and I've been as this podcast has gone on and 46 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,880 Speaker 1: on and on, I've started titling these different folders that's 47 00:02:52,919 --> 00:02:58,720 Speaker 1: like this, music questions, light questions, heavy questions, Amber questions, 48 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:03,560 Speaker 1: God questions, other questions. So I've been kind of organizing 49 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: as I see them come in all though, oh that's 50 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 1: a God question, that's a music question. So it makes 51 00:03:10,040 --> 00:03:12,760 Speaker 1: it easier for them for me to scroll and build 52 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:15,920 Speaker 1: the content for you guys, and as always, thank you 53 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:20,680 Speaker 1: for listening to this content. Thank you for engaging in 54 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:23,960 Speaker 1: something like a long form podcast, because that builds a 55 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:26,400 Speaker 1: relationship with me and you wherever you are, whether you're 56 00:03:26,880 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: an over the road trucker right now, maybe you're cruising 57 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: down the road in your big rig shout out to you. 58 00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: Maybe you're in your tractor in the Midwest. Maybe you're 59 00:03:34,720 --> 00:03:38,080 Speaker 1: you're driving your Mercedes to your high rised office building 60 00:03:38,200 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: in Detroit. I don't know where you are, but I 61 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: just think it's really cool that there's all kinds of ages, 62 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:49,680 Speaker 1: all kinds of personalities, all kinds of countries that are listening, 63 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:53,160 Speaker 1: and I'm grateful for it all because that allows me 64 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: to draw in closer with you, so you feel like 65 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 1: you know me. And if you feel like you know me, 66 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,400 Speaker 1: that makes it it easier for me to make videos 67 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 1: because then I could see your comments, and then we 68 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:08,080 Speaker 1: could all get along, and as soon as touring starts, 69 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:10,400 Speaker 1: I could see you back again in person at a 70 00:04:10,440 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: meet and greet, which is what I really want. I 71 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 1: really want this podcast to be able to move back 72 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:21,920 Speaker 1: and wildflower my bus and sit there and talk in 73 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:23,640 Speaker 1: the parking lot of a venue like I used to 74 00:04:23,640 --> 00:04:26,520 Speaker 1: in the old days. Meanwhile, I'm here at the EEG 75 00:04:26,680 --> 00:05:02,839 Speaker 1: Farm Grangersmith Podcast, Episode sixty nine. Here we go did 76 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 1: chant and dcl month time and so long line up 77 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:30,160 Speaker 1: and down on back range cog. Yeah you gnation. You 78 00:05:30,200 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: could ask me anything you want, just email granger Smith 79 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:37,960 Speaker 1: Podcast at gmail dot com. I see all kinds of stuff, 80 00:05:38,720 --> 00:05:43,440 Speaker 1: all kinds of questions, all different topics, and I know 81 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:46,400 Speaker 1: of the way that this podcast has evolved is been 82 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:50,680 Speaker 1: me answering them off the cuff without rehearsing or taking 83 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:55,279 Speaker 1: notes or having books to reference, because I kind of 84 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:57,479 Speaker 1: wanted to for a couple of reasons. When it's just 85 00:05:57,640 --> 00:06:02,360 Speaker 1: remain where it's like me and you the truck driving along. Hey, 86 00:06:02,400 --> 00:06:04,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna bounce something off you. Something's going on in 87 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:08,880 Speaker 1: my life or some good news. I have just a 88 00:06:08,920 --> 00:06:11,320 Speaker 1: normal conversation with friends. It's kind of how I want 89 00:06:11,360 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 1: this podcast to be. One of the reasons I like 90 00:06:14,560 --> 00:06:16,480 Speaker 1: that is because it allows me to just flip this 91 00:06:17,080 --> 00:06:22,280 Speaker 1: podcast out every Monday, every Monday morning, and I don't 92 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:24,920 Speaker 1: have to I don't have to get into a busy 93 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: week of my work and think, oh no, I forgot 94 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:33,800 Speaker 1: to draw out an outline for a podcast topic. You 95 00:06:33,839 --> 00:06:37,560 Speaker 1: guys give me the topic, and that allows me to 96 00:06:37,600 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: continue to pump out the the podcast episodes and not 97 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: fill the burden. And so that allows me sometimes to Hey, 98 00:06:45,320 --> 00:06:48,000 Speaker 1: I got some extra time, I'm gonna write out this outline, 99 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:50,520 Speaker 1: or have some extra time. I'm gonna have this guest 100 00:06:50,560 --> 00:06:52,920 Speaker 1: come in. It's got an amazing story, or I'm gonna 101 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:56,240 Speaker 1: tell a story in the meantime, I'm gonna jump on 102 00:06:56,279 --> 00:06:59,080 Speaker 1: some of these questions right here. This question comes from 103 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: Travis from Tacoma, Washington. Shout out to Washington State. It's 104 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: one of the many places that I've desperately missed from touring. 105 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:12,920 Speaker 1: Fans are revenous and amazing in Washington, so shout out 106 00:07:12,920 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 1: to Washington State. It says, Hey, Grangeur, I met you 107 00:07:16,960 --> 00:07:20,360 Speaker 1: in Seattle at your concert last December before COVID happened, 108 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 1: and I had the time of my life. I did too, brother, 109 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:27,239 Speaker 1: it was so fun. Your music has changed my life 110 00:07:27,280 --> 00:07:29,280 Speaker 1: in so many ways. Thank you for everything you do 111 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: as a music artist and an entertainer. I appreciate you, Travis. 112 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:35,360 Speaker 1: And it says, my question is that if I have 113 00:07:35,400 --> 00:07:39,720 Speaker 1: a monthly subscription to Apple Music, do you get anything 114 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:43,720 Speaker 1: if I add and listen to your music on Apple Music? 115 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: Thanks again, Yeah, good question, Travis, and a couple answers 116 00:07:50,800 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: quickly here. It is monetarily. I do not get any 117 00:07:55,640 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 1: of your money from Apple Music subscription. There are ways 118 00:08:01,560 --> 00:08:06,280 Speaker 1: that that royalty pays out and it's fractions of pennies. 119 00:08:07,320 --> 00:08:11,040 Speaker 1: And so I'm part of a record label, and my 120 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:13,760 Speaker 1: record label the way that it works, we have a 121 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 1: really good deal structure. I keep most of my content, 122 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:26,920 Speaker 1: the label keeps music streaming and purchases until my album 123 00:08:27,280 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: and all my bills are paid for and then we 124 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:32,600 Speaker 1: split it after that, so it works out great because 125 00:08:32,679 --> 00:08:35,280 Speaker 1: they can essentially work for it as like a bank 126 00:08:35,320 --> 00:08:38,079 Speaker 1: to me, and I can get a big loan and 127 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 1: go to all the studios and hire musicians and artwork 128 00:08:42,160 --> 00:08:44,559 Speaker 1: and pictures and music videos like we're about to go 129 00:08:45,280 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 1: tomorrow and shoot a really nice music video that costs 130 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 1: a lot of money, and I don't have to pay 131 00:08:50,720 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: for it at all because the record label will front that. 132 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:56,640 Speaker 1: So that is a huge blessing when it comes to that. Now, 133 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:58,960 Speaker 1: when it like touring, I get to keep all that 134 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:01,680 Speaker 1: and pay my guys. So that's where the majority of 135 00:09:01,679 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: my income comes from. So I don't worry too much 136 00:09:04,480 --> 00:09:07,520 Speaker 1: about things like Apple Music. It is fractions that do 137 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:11,679 Speaker 1: go to my record label. So that being said, that 138 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:15,160 Speaker 1: is more for you, Travis and and your entertainment. I 139 00:09:15,160 --> 00:09:17,240 Speaker 1: don't I'm not a member of Apple Music. I don't 140 00:09:17,280 --> 00:09:22,560 Speaker 1: know how much that cost, but to me, it is 141 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:24,680 Speaker 1: worth it for you to be able to have access 142 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 1: to every song in the world, as opposed to needing 143 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:30,840 Speaker 1: to drive to Walmart because you love a song and 144 00:09:30,840 --> 00:09:33,400 Speaker 1: then you're searching through I just think it's a better system. Yes, 145 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:35,800 Speaker 1: artists don't get paid as much. I don't care. I 146 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:39,320 Speaker 1: think it's a it's a better system to have music 147 00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:43,559 Speaker 1: widely listen to and available to anyone. It's because that 148 00:09:43,720 --> 00:09:47,280 Speaker 1: just helps everybody, right, you would think. What it does 149 00:09:47,400 --> 00:09:51,760 Speaker 1: do to me, Travis, is when you do add and 150 00:09:51,880 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 1: listen to my music on Apple Music, it increases the 151 00:09:57,440 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: spins and the plays and the impressions on my profile 152 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:04,240 Speaker 1: and on that particular song that you're listening to or album. 153 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:09,840 Speaker 1: When that happens, the stock, my stock rises within Apple Music, 154 00:10:10,559 --> 00:10:15,960 Speaker 1: it squeaks over into Spotify and Pandora and all the 155 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:21,560 Speaker 1: other streaming services. And they say, you know, they're trying 156 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:23,400 Speaker 1: to run a business. What they want is they want 157 00:10:23,400 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: people going like you and subscribing to their services, and 158 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:30,320 Speaker 1: they want you listening a lot. So they want you. 159 00:10:30,640 --> 00:10:33,040 Speaker 1: They want to find the music that you like. So 160 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:35,960 Speaker 1: if you like something that's similar to my song, they're 161 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:38,720 Speaker 1: gonna squeak my song in there so that you listen 162 00:10:38,760 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: to it more so that you stay on their subscription longer. 163 00:10:43,200 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 1: And that helps me because then they're pushing me up 164 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:47,680 Speaker 1: at the top of the list for other people to hear. 165 00:10:48,160 --> 00:10:50,200 Speaker 1: So if you've ever seen like my face on the 166 00:10:50,200 --> 00:10:54,120 Speaker 1: cover of a playlist on Apple Music or Spotify or Pandora. 167 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 1: That's a really big deal for me because that means 168 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 1: they feel confident that by putting my face on the 169 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,080 Speaker 1: cover of their playlist, more people will go to their 170 00:11:03,120 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: playlist and stay on their subscription, and then that pushes 171 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: me hire. It gets more people to hear it. The 172 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 1: more people that hear it, the more people that want 173 00:11:10,400 --> 00:11:12,079 Speaker 1: to look me up. The more people look me up, 174 00:11:12,360 --> 00:11:14,240 Speaker 1: the more people will go to a concert and buy 175 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 1: a ticket in a normal year. So yeah, So my answer, 176 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: Travis says, yes, it helps me a lot. When you 177 00:11:22,640 --> 00:11:24,839 Speaker 1: add my song and listen to my music, it helps 178 00:11:24,880 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 1: me a lot, just not directly from that money, if 179 00:11:29,880 --> 00:11:33,160 Speaker 1: that makes sense. It's an investment. There's so many things 180 00:11:33,160 --> 00:11:43,319 Speaker 1: in life are There's another question, Kayla. Kayla is from Eustace, Florida, 181 00:11:44,320 --> 00:11:47,679 Speaker 1: and this email came in September, so I'm sorry I'm 182 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:51,520 Speaker 1: reading it a little bit late here, but it says, Hey, Granger, 183 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 1: many people struggle with this just talking about Eustace. How 184 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:59,679 Speaker 1: to say, Eustace, thanks so much for reading my email. 185 00:12:00,840 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 1: I wonder if you or Amber ever struggle living far 186 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:08,520 Speaker 1: from home, which side note, we don't live too far 187 00:12:08,600 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: from I'm two and a half hours and Amber is 188 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:14,880 Speaker 1: two hours and forty five minutes, so we're not that 189 00:12:14,960 --> 00:12:19,040 Speaker 1: far from home, she says. My husband and I are 190 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: from Wisconsin and we moved to Florida six years ago 191 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:25,160 Speaker 1: and we have met some amazing people along the way. 192 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:28,160 Speaker 1: Our parents are getting older, they're in their fifties and sixties, 193 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:31,240 Speaker 1: and we feel a sense of need to move back 194 00:12:31,280 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: to enjoy our time together with them, though we will 195 00:12:34,679 --> 00:12:38,600 Speaker 1: never give up what we've established here in Florida, friends, jobs, etc. 196 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:42,440 Speaker 1: Is this the right move? I'm sorry, she said, though 197 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 1: we will give half to give up what we've established 198 00:12:45,600 --> 00:12:47,640 Speaker 1: here in Florida, friends, jobs, et cetera. Is this the 199 00:12:47,760 --> 00:12:51,600 Speaker 1: right move? We love the southern culture and the Midwest 200 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 1: is cold. What do you think we should do? Thank you, Caleb, 201 00:12:56,840 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: great question, and here's my answer. As if we're sitting 202 00:13:02,520 --> 00:13:07,200 Speaker 1: together in a pickup truck, the fact that you're asking 203 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:11,080 Speaker 1: me means it's on your heart. It means you've been 204 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:14,480 Speaker 1: thinking about it a lot, you and your husband. And 205 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:17,480 Speaker 1: the short answer for me is yes, you should move. 206 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: Let me try to explain you will not look back 207 00:13:25,520 --> 00:13:30,760 Speaker 1: thirty years from now and say, man looking back on 208 00:13:30,800 --> 00:13:35,880 Speaker 1: my life parents are dead. I'm glad we stayed in 209 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:41,160 Speaker 1: Florida with our good jobs and friends and weren't there 210 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,679 Speaker 1: when our parents died. I don't think you're going to 211 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:48,120 Speaker 1: say that. I think it's more likely for you to say, 212 00:13:49,160 --> 00:13:53,000 Speaker 1: you know what, looking back on our life, we made 213 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:59,440 Speaker 1: a decision to move back to Ohio, and I'm sorry, Wisconsin, 214 00:14:00,160 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 1: I get my Midwest mixed up. We decided to move 215 00:14:03,040 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 1: back to Wisconsin to be with our parents, and then 216 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 1: we were with them as they got older. We were 217 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:13,720 Speaker 1: able to help them out and transition into their older age. 218 00:14:13,760 --> 00:14:16,240 Speaker 1: Maybe it was a nursing home or whatever, and then 219 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:18,680 Speaker 1: we were with them when they died. They passed away, 220 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: we got their last wishes, We've got our children to 221 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:25,960 Speaker 1: be around them, to be around their grandparents. I think 222 00:14:26,000 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 1: that's the more likely scenario, Kayla, that this is something 223 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 1: that you would possibly have a deep regret about if 224 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 1: you were in Florida and you lost your parents and 225 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:40,160 Speaker 1: you felt like you didn't give the rest of your 226 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:43,040 Speaker 1: time that you could to them, even if it's a 227 00:14:43,080 --> 00:14:46,080 Speaker 1: little bit, even if it's once a week, heck, even 228 00:14:46,080 --> 00:14:48,080 Speaker 1: if it's once every two weeks, you know, you go 229 00:14:48,120 --> 00:14:52,000 Speaker 1: have dinner with your mom. There's just something to say 230 00:14:52,040 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 1: for that time is the most valuable commodity on the planet. 231 00:14:56,520 --> 00:15:00,760 Speaker 1: How are you spending that time? The most precious commodity 232 00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 1: on the planet, time, and how are you spending that 233 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:07,880 Speaker 1: Because you're not ever going to get that time back 234 00:15:07,880 --> 00:15:11,720 Speaker 1: with your parents, maybe you have a rocky relationship with 235 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:14,600 Speaker 1: them that could be fixed up a little bit during 236 00:15:14,640 --> 00:15:20,240 Speaker 1: that time. Listen, Wisconsin. You say it's cold. It is cold, 237 00:15:20,480 --> 00:15:23,800 Speaker 1: and Florida is not. But Wisconsin is a beautiful place. 238 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: It has great cheese and it's a beautiful place in 239 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 1: the summer. You almost have to look at the positives 240 00:15:32,520 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 1: instead of the negatives. Yeah, you're gonna deal with cold, 241 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:37,880 Speaker 1: but you're in a warm house and you got your 242 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 1: family close to you. I think you kind of feel 243 00:15:40,160 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 1: this way, and I think that's why you ask the question. 244 00:15:42,800 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 1: I kind of think you're leaning that way anyway. And 245 00:15:46,000 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 1: you know what, you could always later down the road, 246 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:50,880 Speaker 1: twenty years down the road, I don't know how old 247 00:15:50,920 --> 00:15:53,200 Speaker 1: you are. You can always pack up and go retire 248 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:56,040 Speaker 1: back in Florida again, and you could reconnect with those friends. 249 00:15:56,760 --> 00:16:01,840 Speaker 1: You could make new friends in Wisconsin. You could, Hey, 250 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:04,400 Speaker 1: it's a good scenario. Move to Wisconsin and then go 251 00:16:04,480 --> 00:16:07,640 Speaker 1: stay with your friends that you've made in Florida. These relationships, 252 00:16:08,040 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 1: go stay with them and enjoy the beautiful weather in 253 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 1: the wintertime of Wisconsin. Go spend that in Florida. That's 254 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,000 Speaker 1: my answer right now. I don't know the rest of 255 00:16:17,000 --> 00:16:22,200 Speaker 1: your story, but that's my quick answer for you. This 256 00:16:22,320 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 1: question is from Justin, says Hey Granger. My name is Justin. 257 00:16:27,040 --> 00:16:31,280 Speaker 1: I'm a combat wounded vet from Iowa and I've just 258 00:16:31,360 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: began to love Jesus again because of you and Amber. 259 00:16:34,400 --> 00:16:36,440 Speaker 1: Thank you for helping me find my way. My question 260 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: to you is this, with you being the lead singer, 261 00:16:40,480 --> 00:16:42,760 Speaker 1: face of the band, image of the company, whatever you 262 00:16:42,760 --> 00:16:46,720 Speaker 1: want to call it, have you ever gotten lead singer syndrome? 263 00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 1: I know that singers get a big head and think 264 00:16:50,040 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 1: they are everything about the band, which tends to cause 265 00:16:53,920 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: big problems. Is it ever your way or the highway? 266 00:16:57,800 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 1: Or do you always work together as a team. Thank 267 00:17:01,960 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 1: you for your time, Justin, thank you for your service, 268 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 1: and shout out to Iowa. A wounded combat bet from Iowa. 269 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:18,320 Speaker 1: You sound like a good dude and you love Jesus. 270 00:17:19,240 --> 00:17:22,440 Speaker 1: You sound like a good dude, sound like my kind 271 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:25,240 Speaker 1: of guy. You're a true American hero in the American heartland. 272 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,159 Speaker 1: So shout out to you, buddy, Thank you for writing in. 273 00:17:28,520 --> 00:17:31,200 Speaker 1: It's a great question. I do think about it a lot. 274 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:34,720 Speaker 1: There is such thing as lead singer syndrome. I've seen 275 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 1: it many times with friends in the How do I 276 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 1: say this starting from the bottom? I know it's cliche, 277 00:17:50,680 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: and growing my band and crew from the very beginning, 278 00:17:55,080 --> 00:17:59,960 Speaker 1: where we all at some point we're struggling in a 279 00:18:00,160 --> 00:18:03,960 Speaker 1: in a van or pickup truck, changing flat tires and 280 00:18:04,000 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 1: a trailer loading gear in the cold of Wisconsin and 281 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:14,199 Speaker 1: hauling it into venues and playing shows to nobody, and 282 00:18:14,240 --> 00:18:16,880 Speaker 1: then getting cheated by the venue and not getting paid anything, 283 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:21,000 Speaker 1: and having a leave and trying to get the cheapest 284 00:18:21,000 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 1: hotel room possible, and then flipping the mattresses over where 285 00:18:24,440 --> 00:18:26,440 Speaker 1: some people slept on the mattress and some people slept 286 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:28,960 Speaker 1: on the box spring so we could fit eight people 287 00:18:29,080 --> 00:18:33,720 Speaker 1: in one ninety nine dollars hotel room nineteen dollars and 288 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:40,080 Speaker 1: ninety nine cents. I think that that that really puts 289 00:18:40,119 --> 00:18:44,040 Speaker 1: perspective as you start growing, and what we always try 290 00:18:44,080 --> 00:18:47,320 Speaker 1: to do is just be so grateful for every day 291 00:18:47,560 --> 00:18:52,280 Speaker 1: and every new accomplishment with the band. And it's hard, 292 00:18:52,760 --> 00:18:56,680 Speaker 1: I think, to get a big head about that when 293 00:18:56,680 --> 00:19:00,040 Speaker 1: you know where you came from. It's hard to I 294 00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:03,439 Speaker 1: had to see some big success and think it's all 295 00:19:03,480 --> 00:19:07,160 Speaker 1: about you when you and your boys made this happen 296 00:19:08,280 --> 00:19:13,120 Speaker 1: in Amarillo, Texas, when it was snowing and you're spinning 297 00:19:13,160 --> 00:19:16,240 Speaker 1: tires in the van backing up to a rusty venue 298 00:19:16,280 --> 00:19:18,439 Speaker 1: door and no one's there but a bartender. You know, 299 00:19:19,760 --> 00:19:22,080 Speaker 1: paying your dues, that's what they say. And I paid 300 00:19:22,119 --> 00:19:28,240 Speaker 1: my dues with my boys, not by myself. What I 301 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:33,200 Speaker 1: do to put in place in our crew so that 302 00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:36,840 Speaker 1: that we don't have a potential of that happening is 303 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: I keep the same guys around, and I trust them, 304 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:45,480 Speaker 1: and they're also my friends, and they keep me accountable. 305 00:19:46,520 --> 00:19:50,040 Speaker 1: And we've done this long enough now that I don't 306 00:19:50,240 --> 00:19:54,920 Speaker 1: threaten anyone with firing them. I don't say I have 307 00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:58,119 Speaker 1: a long time ago, but I don't anymore say you 308 00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:02,240 Speaker 1: do that again, you're fired, because, as you said, it's 309 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:05,560 Speaker 1: my way or the highway. It's funny that as I'm saying, 310 00:20:05,600 --> 00:20:09,479 Speaker 1: I look down to my monitor, engineer text me will 311 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:14,040 Speaker 1: But I don't threaten them with firing them. I try 312 00:20:14,040 --> 00:20:16,840 Speaker 1: to always listen because if they if they're say they 313 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 1: messed up, maybe they're just having a bad day. Maybe 314 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 1: maybe need work on it together, you know, maybe it's 315 00:20:21,640 --> 00:20:24,160 Speaker 1: something you need to sit down. You're you messed up, man, 316 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:27,000 Speaker 1: you're having a bad day. I'm disappointed. Let's talk this 317 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 1: out instead of using instead of using a threat like man, 318 00:20:30,840 --> 00:20:34,280 Speaker 1: I'll fill your shoes and a heartbeat, fill your bunk. 319 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,960 Speaker 1: So I don't do that. And I also actively tell 320 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:42,960 Speaker 1: my guys, hey, if you see me doing something out 321 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 1: of line or acting out of arrogance, call me out, 322 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:49,760 Speaker 1: call me out on it, and I'm gonna listen to you. 323 00:20:50,320 --> 00:20:55,040 Speaker 1: And having this approach doesn't make things all warm and fuzzy. 324 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:58,960 Speaker 1: It does create problems when when guys will look at 325 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:03,320 Speaker 1: me and go, hey, Granger, screw you, man, you're wrong. 326 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,560 Speaker 1: And there is something inside of me that don't say 327 00:21:06,560 --> 00:21:11,000 Speaker 1: those specific words, but in some form they say that 328 00:21:11,080 --> 00:21:13,639 Speaker 1: to me. It hurts deep down and there's this little 329 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:17,520 Speaker 1: voice inside that goes, I'm the man, I'm gonna fire you, 330 00:21:18,119 --> 00:21:21,760 Speaker 1: and I gotta go Nope, no, i'm not. We're a team. 331 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:24,960 Speaker 1: And if you've got a problem with me, then maybe 332 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:26,880 Speaker 1: there's something I need to look at in myself. Maybe 333 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 1: there's something internally I need to look and dig deep 334 00:21:30,400 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 1: and figure out what am I doing that is causing 335 00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:36,960 Speaker 1: you to react that way? Because we got to all 336 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,840 Speaker 1: be responsible for ourselves. It all starts with us ourselves. 337 00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: If you're having a problem with somebody, have you looked 338 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:46,439 Speaker 1: at yourself first? That's where you got it. You're not 339 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:49,640 Speaker 1: gonna change that person. It's impossible. You're not gonna convince 340 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:54,200 Speaker 1: them of your way. You gotta look inside and go 341 00:21:54,320 --> 00:21:57,800 Speaker 1: maybe I'm maybe I'm doing this, I'm going about this wrong, 342 00:21:58,080 --> 00:21:59,640 Speaker 1: or I need to do it in a different way, 343 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:02,760 Speaker 1: maybe not even wrong. So does that make sense? I 344 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:08,160 Speaker 1: just I mean my brother is my manager, my best 345 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:13,160 Speaker 1: friend for twenty three years is my tour manager. Every 346 00:22:13,160 --> 00:22:15,280 Speaker 1: other band member has been with me for ten years, 347 00:22:15,840 --> 00:22:19,159 Speaker 1: so they know me, you know, like they know me. 348 00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:22,000 Speaker 1: They know everything about me, and there's nothing I could 349 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:24,280 Speaker 1: hide from them, and there's nothing they can hide from me. 350 00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:28,239 Speaker 1: So we're a band of brothers truly. Essentially, we're a 351 00:22:28,280 --> 00:22:30,640 Speaker 1: brand of brothers because I have both my brothers work 352 00:22:30,640 --> 00:22:33,360 Speaker 1: here Atyege Apparel with me. As you heard me say 353 00:22:33,440 --> 00:22:36,879 Speaker 1: with me, not for me, not under me. With me, 354 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:42,320 Speaker 1: my band they work with me, not under me, not 355 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:46,199 Speaker 1: beneath me. My show doesn't sound right if there's not 356 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:49,280 Speaker 1: drums and I don't play those. My show doesn't sound 357 00:22:49,359 --> 00:22:51,879 Speaker 1: right if there's not a or doesn't look right if 358 00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:55,240 Speaker 1: there's not lights and I don't run those, Sean does. 359 00:22:55,760 --> 00:23:00,119 Speaker 1: So as long as I keep those people around on 360 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:02,960 Speaker 1: me and don't get this Elvis syndrome where you feel 361 00:23:02,960 --> 00:23:05,400 Speaker 1: like you got to fire everybody and then hire yes men, 362 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:07,879 Speaker 1: that's the biggest danger that you're talking about justin that 363 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 1: you've seen, and Elvis is like the ultimate example of 364 00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 1: that because it actually ended up being the death of him. 365 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:17,280 Speaker 1: He died because of yes men surrounding him, and no 366 00:23:17,320 --> 00:23:21,439 Speaker 1: one was brave enough to say, hey, King, you probably 367 00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:25,359 Speaker 1: shouldn't be taking that pill. You probably shouldn't be eating 368 00:23:25,400 --> 00:23:28,160 Speaker 1: that right now. No one was brave enough to say 369 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,840 Speaker 1: that because he surrounded himself with yes men that just 370 00:23:30,880 --> 00:23:32,680 Speaker 1: said yeah, man, yeah, King, Yeah, you do what you 371 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:36,800 Speaker 1: want to do. So yeah, I think about it a lot, dude. 372 00:23:36,800 --> 00:23:39,520 Speaker 1: I think it's a great question, and I appreciate you 373 00:23:39,560 --> 00:23:42,480 Speaker 1: asking it. Once again. Thank you for your service. You're 374 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:46,720 Speaker 1: a wounded combat vet and all of us listening to 375 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:50,280 Speaker 1: this podcast are indebted to you in some way. Justin'll 376 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:58,119 Speaker 1: take a quick break. 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I saw this 450 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:31,000 Speaker 1: question and it intrigued me, so I decided to read 451 00:28:31,040 --> 00:28:33,160 Speaker 1: it on here. I don't totally know what it means, 452 00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,080 Speaker 1: but I'll read it for you guys, says Hey Granger. 453 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:38,080 Speaker 1: I'm a musician like you. I recently played my first 454 00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:40,440 Speaker 1: show in a long time, and instead of making money, 455 00:28:40,840 --> 00:28:44,560 Speaker 1: they ended up suing me for thirty six thousand dollars 456 00:28:44,880 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: because I didn't play a song from start to finish, 457 00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:51,960 Speaker 1: despite the fact that I thought everyone was properly entertained. 458 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:55,560 Speaker 1: I'm in quite a pickle here, and I just want 459 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,360 Speaker 1: to know what you would do. I'm from Missouri, but 460 00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:01,000 Speaker 1: I'll be in Austin, Texas the first two months of December, 461 00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:03,120 Speaker 1: or excuse me, first two months of twenty twenty one 462 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:05,920 Speaker 1: to clear my head. I just need some help, man, 463 00:29:06,760 --> 00:29:10,960 Speaker 1: ye ye your friend JR. Dude, I don't It's like 464 00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,480 Speaker 1: hashtag not sure if serious here. I don't know if 465 00:29:15,520 --> 00:29:23,240 Speaker 1: you're serious. They're suing you for thirty six thousand dollars 466 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:27,320 Speaker 1: because you didn't play a song from start to finish. 467 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,120 Speaker 1: That is that, man. I think you're messing with me right, Like, 468 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:35,360 Speaker 1: you're either messing with me or you're either messing with 469 00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:40,880 Speaker 1: me which I hope you're not, or dude, you gotta 470 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 1: get your ducks in a row, because that is the 471 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,320 Speaker 1: weirdest thing. I've never heard anything like that. It's the 472 00:29:45,320 --> 00:29:51,080 Speaker 1: weirdest thing. So I will I will address it like 473 00:29:51,120 --> 00:29:55,280 Speaker 1: you're being serious, and I would say, I hope you 474 00:29:55,320 --> 00:30:01,200 Speaker 1: have a good attorney. And that number that's way out 475 00:30:01,280 --> 00:30:04,400 Speaker 1: of the out of the league of any number that 476 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,120 Speaker 1: it should be a lawsuit. I've never heard of a 477 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:13,000 Speaker 1: lawsuit for anyone that's not playing a complete song. I've 478 00:30:13,040 --> 00:30:15,800 Speaker 1: never heard of that. Usually that kind of thing, it 479 00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:19,240 Speaker 1: does happen like venues getting mad that you didn't finish 480 00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:21,520 Speaker 1: a set or you didn't say you're supposed to go 481 00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:24,720 Speaker 1: till you're supposed to play till midnight, and you stopped 482 00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 1: at eleven thirty, and so they want they want to 483 00:30:28,400 --> 00:30:31,680 Speaker 1: be compensated for the thirty minutes because the reason they 484 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,560 Speaker 1: would do that is because people could start leaving and 485 00:30:34,600 --> 00:30:38,160 Speaker 1: not consuming alcohol for that eleven thirty midnight. They needed 486 00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,800 Speaker 1: you to play music because in their mind, now that 487 00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:43,320 Speaker 1: the crowd's going to leave because the band's done, and 488 00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:47,240 Speaker 1: they're out this money for not selling alcohol. And I'm 489 00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:50,280 Speaker 1: assuming if you're serious this what the venue is saying. 490 00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:53,760 Speaker 1: But that doesn't make sense because you're talking about one song. 491 00:30:53,840 --> 00:31:00,040 Speaker 1: You're not saying you quit thirty minutes early. So what 492 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:02,120 Speaker 1: I'm trying to say is usually that could be resolved 493 00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,480 Speaker 1: in the settle up at the end of the night 494 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:07,440 Speaker 1: when the venue's mad and they say, man, you quit 495 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:11,080 Speaker 1: thirty minutes early. And if you did, and you messed up, 496 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,640 Speaker 1: and it's in the contract, then you would take out 497 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:19,880 Speaker 1: a percentage of your pay. You know, you take that 498 00:31:19,960 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 1: slice of the pie, that percentage of the time that 499 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:26,400 Speaker 1: you didn't play versus the time you were supposed to play, 500 00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:29,400 Speaker 1: and you add up that money, and I can't imagine 501 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:33,640 Speaker 1: unless you unless you're I've never heard of you, but 502 00:31:33,680 --> 00:31:37,240 Speaker 1: you're making millions of dollars per show, and each song 503 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:41,400 Speaker 1: for you is worth thirty six thousand dollars, then I 504 00:31:41,400 --> 00:31:45,440 Speaker 1: can't see any other reason for that. I will say this, 505 00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:50,040 Speaker 1: just make sure from now on, every musician listening, no 506 00:31:50,120 --> 00:31:52,880 Speaker 1: matter how big or how small you are, get things 507 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:57,000 Speaker 1: in writing. And a lot of venues don't like to 508 00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:00,720 Speaker 1: sign things. Just them, hound them about it, get them, 509 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:03,800 Speaker 1: get their name to you know, their signature on a 510 00:32:03,840 --> 00:32:07,320 Speaker 1: document that just says my name is Granger, and I'm 511 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:10,480 Speaker 1: playing at your venue on this night, and I'm going 512 00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:15,840 Speaker 1: to play from nine o'clock until eleven thirty, and you 513 00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:19,920 Speaker 1: are going to pay me five hundred dollars flat versus 514 00:32:21,120 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: eighty percent of a five dollars ticket after eight hundred 515 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:33,680 Speaker 1: dollars expenses to you to pay for security and what 516 00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:36,160 Speaker 1: you know, it's like, that's that's the kind of a 517 00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:41,760 Speaker 1: typical contract. You it's a guarantee versus a door deal. 518 00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:44,000 Speaker 1: You get a percentage of that door deal. You guys, 519 00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:45,640 Speaker 1: right back in if you want to know more about 520 00:32:45,680 --> 00:32:48,600 Speaker 1: this topic, Right back in if you want to, if 521 00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: you want me to go through an actual venue contract 522 00:32:51,960 --> 00:32:55,640 Speaker 1: or something like that, if you're curious. But early musicians 523 00:32:56,280 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 1: just get in writing, even if you don't even worry 524 00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:03,480 Speaker 1: about the door deal. And a kind of deal is 525 00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 1: I get zero dollars guaranteed verse one hundred percent of 526 00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:14,440 Speaker 1: the door, So you're gonna get everything that comes in 527 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:17,080 Speaker 1: the door. But if no one comes, they don't know 528 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:19,880 Speaker 1: you anything. That is an option. I have done that 529 00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:24,440 Speaker 1: many times in my in my previous music world. So 530 00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:29,080 Speaker 1: get things in writing and get their signature on it. 531 00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:32,000 Speaker 1: That way, you're fine. You could, you know, you take 532 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:33,560 Speaker 1: that to court and you go, there's assume me for 533 00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:35,720 Speaker 1: thirty six thousand bucks. But look, it says right here 534 00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:38,479 Speaker 1: that all I had to do was play from nine 535 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,080 Speaker 1: thirty to eleven thirty, which I did, and he was 536 00:33:41,120 --> 00:33:43,520 Speaker 1: gonna pay me this amount of money. It says nothing 537 00:33:43,560 --> 00:33:51,280 Speaker 1: about completing a specific song from start to finish. You said, 538 00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:55,000 Speaker 1: despite the fact that I thought everyone was properly entertained, 539 00:33:55,280 --> 00:33:57,560 Speaker 1: that's not that doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what you think. 540 00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:01,800 Speaker 1: It only matters what's on paper, what's on contract. So 541 00:34:03,760 --> 00:34:07,440 Speaker 1: if you're truly in this kind of pickle and it's 542 00:34:07,520 --> 00:34:11,279 Speaker 1: really got you down because you truly are being sued 543 00:34:11,280 --> 00:34:14,600 Speaker 1: for thirty six thousand dollars, go to court. I mean, 544 00:34:14,880 --> 00:34:17,480 Speaker 1: what judge is going to grant them that? Just go 545 00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,480 Speaker 1: to court. Just go to court and go listen, this 546 00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:23,120 Speaker 1: is my story. I thought they were entertained, and here 547 00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:27,720 Speaker 1: this is no judge is going to go thirty six 548 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:32,560 Speaker 1: thousand your boom. Here you go. Appreciate you writing, buddy. 549 00:34:32,719 --> 00:34:35,600 Speaker 1: If any other musicians out there hear this and have 550 00:34:35,719 --> 00:34:44,240 Speaker 1: questions about contracts, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. 551 00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:49,000 Speaker 1: Next question is from Ricky from Kansas. Shout out to Kansas. 552 00:34:50,760 --> 00:34:53,799 Speaker 1: It says, hey, Granger, I lost my job of six 553 00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:56,959 Speaker 1: years right after Christmas. This is one of the best 554 00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:00,600 Speaker 1: jobs I've ever had to support my family, married and 555 00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,840 Speaker 1: have two kids. My wife and I talked about me 556 00:35:04,040 --> 00:35:06,960 Speaker 1: switching jobs since it was an hour drive to work 557 00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:10,240 Speaker 1: with twelve hour shifts and then an hour drive home. 558 00:35:11,640 --> 00:35:13,280 Speaker 1: I would like to know if you have any advice 559 00:35:13,320 --> 00:35:15,719 Speaker 1: on how to get myself into the mindset of a 560 00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:19,880 Speaker 1: new start. I watch you and Lunker's TV all the time, 561 00:35:20,239 --> 00:35:23,799 Speaker 1: and I've watched you guys grow through adversity, and I 562 00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:26,120 Speaker 1: just want you to know. I want to know how 563 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:29,080 Speaker 1: you dealt with it. I love the channels on the podcast. 564 00:35:29,080 --> 00:35:31,600 Speaker 1: The content is great. Thank you for any words of 565 00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: encouragement that could help me. Thank you, Ricky, appreciate you man. 566 00:35:38,120 --> 00:35:42,399 Speaker 1: Thank you for writing in. I got a couple observations here. 567 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:44,279 Speaker 1: You said you lost your job, it's one of the 568 00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:48,040 Speaker 1: best jobs you've ever had. But you said my wife 569 00:35:48,040 --> 00:35:51,160 Speaker 1: and I had talked about me switching jobs since it 570 00:35:51,200 --> 00:35:54,839 Speaker 1: was an hour commute work, twelve hour shift, and an 571 00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:59,439 Speaker 1: hour home. That's fourteen hours. I'm pretty good at math, 572 00:35:59,440 --> 00:36:01,560 Speaker 1: and I just add that up right there, without even 573 00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:07,040 Speaker 1: using the calculator. So hey, it's not all bad. Right. 574 00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:09,279 Speaker 1: It sucks that you lost a good job, but you 575 00:36:09,320 --> 00:36:13,800 Speaker 1: were thinking about changing anyway, so that's not all bad. 576 00:36:14,200 --> 00:36:16,880 Speaker 1: We've got to these on these questions we got. We 577 00:36:16,920 --> 00:36:20,959 Speaker 1: always gotta look at the blessings here. You know, let's 578 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 1: always focus on the good. Let's always focus on the 579 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:30,799 Speaker 1: blessing and be grateful and thankful for the good in everything, 580 00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:36,920 Speaker 1: because there's always good. There's not always not everything is good, 581 00:36:37,480 --> 00:36:41,239 Speaker 1: but there is always good in everything. You could find it. 582 00:36:41,280 --> 00:36:43,279 Speaker 1: You just have to open your eyes and see that. 583 00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:47,799 Speaker 1: And that's a muscle memory challenge for all of us 584 00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:50,480 Speaker 1: to go. I'm going to focus on what I can 585 00:36:50,520 --> 00:36:55,399 Speaker 1: control right here now, in this moment, right So I'm 586 00:36:55,400 --> 00:36:57,880 Speaker 1: gonna look at this and go, well, dude, it's a 587 00:36:57,880 --> 00:37:00,560 Speaker 1: little bit of a blessing because you we're kind of 588 00:37:00,600 --> 00:37:03,359 Speaker 1: thinking about changing. Your question is how do I get 589 00:37:03,400 --> 00:37:08,960 Speaker 1: myself into the mindset of a new start. First thing 590 00:37:09,080 --> 00:37:13,759 Speaker 1: is and you sent this email January fourth, Okay, so 591 00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:17,399 Speaker 1: we're still in the same month here. So you got 592 00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:19,359 Speaker 1: to get You gotta get a money maker. You gotta 593 00:37:19,360 --> 00:37:22,919 Speaker 1: get a job to make some money. Right now. When 594 00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:27,000 Speaker 1: this happened to me One time, I lost a job 595 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:33,200 Speaker 1: and needed money to pay the rent that was due 596 00:37:33,239 --> 00:37:37,040 Speaker 1: that month because I hadn't saved. You know, this was 597 00:37:37,120 --> 00:37:39,960 Speaker 1: years ago. I hadn't saved, and I'm a single. I 598 00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:43,080 Speaker 1: didn't have enough money to pay the rent at the 599 00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:45,319 Speaker 1: end of that month. So I had to do something 600 00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:48,319 Speaker 1: right now. So I had a lawnmower, and I had 601 00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:50,799 Speaker 1: a weed eater, and it had a can of gasoline. 602 00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,960 Speaker 1: And I started going door to door saying I'll moiw 603 00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:59,439 Speaker 1: your grass for twenty bucks. And it was undercutting every 604 00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:03,000 Speaker 1: lawn star servous by doing that. But a lot of 605 00:38:03,040 --> 00:38:05,959 Speaker 1: people are like twenty bucks, seriously, that's it. It's like yep, 606 00:38:06,320 --> 00:38:08,640 Speaker 1: And I'm thinking I could do it, and I could 607 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,719 Speaker 1: do it in thirty minutes, little lawns. I could do 608 00:38:11,760 --> 00:38:14,920 Speaker 1: it in thirty minutes, and then I could do that way. 609 00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:18,680 Speaker 1: I could do forty bucks an hour. And if I worked, 610 00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:23,000 Speaker 1: you know, six yards in a day and worked four 611 00:38:23,080 --> 00:38:30,200 Speaker 1: days a week, I'm gonna be doing okay. So that 612 00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:35,320 Speaker 1: was the beginning of that mindset of how to start 613 00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:38,279 Speaker 1: over right is you gotta pay bills right now. So 614 00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:42,960 Speaker 1: it's amazing when I started mowing the lawn all these yards, 615 00:38:44,120 --> 00:38:49,439 Speaker 1: the opportunities that brought the people I met during these 616 00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:54,960 Speaker 1: mowing people's grass. I remember there was like Montgomery Gentry, 617 00:38:55,600 --> 00:39:01,520 Speaker 1: remember the country duo Troy Gentry. We actually ended up 618 00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:06,640 Speaker 1: passing away to a helicopter crash. I met him years ago. 619 00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:10,399 Speaker 1: This was in Nashville. I met him because I went 620 00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:12,480 Speaker 1: to his house. I didn't know he lived there, and 621 00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,279 Speaker 1: I knocked on the door and his wife answered, and 622 00:39:15,360 --> 00:39:17,160 Speaker 1: I asked her to if I could mow the grass, 623 00:39:17,200 --> 00:39:19,480 Speaker 1: and she said yes. I ended up meeting him, and 624 00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:22,800 Speaker 1: then I met Keith Urban's drummer. I was literally driving 625 00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:25,399 Speaker 1: down neighborhoods and just putting flyers out, and people were 626 00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:29,000 Speaker 1: calling me, and I ended up making all these connections 627 00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:32,520 Speaker 1: just because I was mowing grass, connections that have lasted 628 00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:39,120 Speaker 1: twenty years since then. So there's a great way to 629 00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:41,120 Speaker 1: get into a mindset by just saying I'm gonna get 630 00:39:41,120 --> 00:39:43,120 Speaker 1: out right now and make some money. The second thing 631 00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:45,560 Speaker 1: I would do is make sure you're getting up early 632 00:39:47,200 --> 00:39:52,800 Speaker 1: before that your new job, and spending a couple hours 633 00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:58,000 Speaker 1: without distractions, without social media, without except for Mondays, when 634 00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:01,840 Speaker 1: you need to listen to this podcast without family distractions 635 00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:06,680 Speaker 1: and social distractions. Get up early and spend some time 636 00:40:06,719 --> 00:40:09,839 Speaker 1: with yourself. Do some reading. There's a lot of great 637 00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:13,000 Speaker 1: self help books, you know, find a good one, take 638 00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:17,239 Speaker 1: some notes, write a journal. What do you want to do? 639 00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,520 Speaker 1: Who do you want to be? Who? Who? How do 640 00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:24,120 Speaker 1: you become the best version of yourself? You're not going 641 00:40:24,160 --> 00:40:27,520 Speaker 1: to figure that out during a busy day boom boom boom, 642 00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:30,279 Speaker 1: boom boom. You're going to figure that out before the 643 00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:34,759 Speaker 1: sun comes up, with a cup of hot black coffee, 644 00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:38,080 Speaker 1: sitting in your chair with your notebook and your book, 645 00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:40,880 Speaker 1: and you're like, I'm going to be the best version 646 00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:44,120 Speaker 1: of myself starting today right here, when this alarm goes off, 647 00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:46,560 Speaker 1: I don't have to go to work till seven thirty, 648 00:40:46,800 --> 00:40:48,200 Speaker 1: So I'm going to get up at five thirty. And 649 00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:52,360 Speaker 1: that's two hours of me time figuring out my next move. 650 00:40:52,760 --> 00:40:55,960 Speaker 1: What am I passionate about? What I'm going to I'm 651 00:40:55,960 --> 00:40:58,560 Speaker 1: going to make a top ten list on this notepad 652 00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:01,840 Speaker 1: right here, top ten list of jobs I want right now, 653 00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:04,239 Speaker 1: and then you're gonna go through every day and that's 654 00:41:04,239 --> 00:41:06,880 Speaker 1: your power list. And every morning when you get up 655 00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:08,319 Speaker 1: and you get your coffee and you sit there at 656 00:41:08,320 --> 00:41:10,120 Speaker 1: that table and you look at the list and you go, 657 00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:13,719 Speaker 1: all right, I called number one and that lead is 658 00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,880 Speaker 1: not happening. So I'm going to number two. This is 659 00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:18,640 Speaker 1: a good one. And the way I'm gonna get to 660 00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:21,480 Speaker 1: number two is I'm gonna email this person or I'm 661 00:41:21,480 --> 00:41:23,480 Speaker 1: gonna go in person and talk to this guy. Or 662 00:41:23,600 --> 00:41:25,279 Speaker 1: my buddy is in this, I'm gonna talk to him 663 00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:27,919 Speaker 1: about how to get to his boss. And you're gonna 664 00:41:27,920 --> 00:41:34,360 Speaker 1: attack this with aggression like I'm attacking this new life 665 00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:39,400 Speaker 1: of mine. I'm going after this like it's like I'm 666 00:41:39,400 --> 00:41:41,680 Speaker 1: trying to win the super Bowl, Like I'm Tom Brady 667 00:41:41,680 --> 00:41:44,200 Speaker 1: trying to win the super Bowl. I'm going after this. 668 00:41:45,160 --> 00:41:47,880 Speaker 1: And you do that every morning and the next morning, 669 00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:51,279 Speaker 1: the next morning, and next morning, and six months go 670 00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:54,600 Speaker 1: down right, and you're gonna email this podcast and go, dude, 671 00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:57,600 Speaker 1: after six months of doing this, guess what my new 672 00:41:57,719 --> 00:42:03,520 Speaker 1: story is? Text discipline. But Ricky, that's my suggestion. Man, 673 00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:08,839 Speaker 1: make money first and start getting up early, plan this out. 674 00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:17,680 Speaker 1: Attack this with aggression. It's a great question. Say I 675 00:42:17,680 --> 00:42:19,319 Speaker 1: got time for an on? Was do another one? Here? 676 00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:28,920 Speaker 1: This subject line on this one says, dilemma, help what 677 00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:32,440 Speaker 1: would you do. I'm ready. I'm ready for you, it says, 678 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:35,120 Speaker 1: Hey Grange. My name is Kayla. I'm in my thirties, 679 00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:39,800 Speaker 1: married with two kids. I've recently been hit with a dilemma. 680 00:42:40,520 --> 00:42:43,080 Speaker 1: We as a family have been praying about it, but 681 00:42:43,160 --> 00:42:45,759 Speaker 1: we just aren't sure what to do or what would 682 00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:48,440 Speaker 1: be best. So I thought I would reach out and 683 00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:53,319 Speaker 1: get your thoughts. Man, the pressure's on, she says. The 684 00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,560 Speaker 1: place we're living now is in South Carolina. It's going 685 00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,440 Speaker 1: up for sale. We currently rent it. We don't want 686 00:42:59,480 --> 00:43:02,399 Speaker 1: to buy it because it isn't a house we want 687 00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:04,719 Speaker 1: to put our money into. Basically, it just meets our 688 00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:08,000 Speaker 1: needs for renting, but not something we would want to buy. 689 00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:13,720 Speaker 1: Here's our dilemma. We're originally from Ohio. Funny that I 690 00:43:13,760 --> 00:43:16,520 Speaker 1: misspoke Ohio earlier, and all of our family lives in 691 00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:19,279 Speaker 1: Ohio still. We moved to South Carolina for a job 692 00:43:19,320 --> 00:43:22,960 Speaker 1: opportunity for my husband almost five years ago now, but 693 00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:26,240 Speaker 1: we miss our family, friends and just being around people 694 00:43:26,239 --> 00:43:28,359 Speaker 1: we know and people that can help us with our 695 00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:31,520 Speaker 1: children if the needs arise. Being said, we're in a 696 00:43:31,520 --> 00:43:34,480 Speaker 1: transition stage. My parents have offered us land back in 697 00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:37,520 Speaker 1: Ohio to come home. And build a house on which 698 00:43:37,600 --> 00:43:40,359 Speaker 1: is amazing, But we would be leaving a very good 699 00:43:40,440 --> 00:43:43,160 Speaker 1: job for my husband here in South Carolina, and I'd 700 00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,399 Speaker 1: have to find a job for him and myself back 701 00:43:45,400 --> 00:43:48,200 Speaker 1: in Ohio. Right now, I'm a stay at home mom. 702 00:43:48,520 --> 00:43:50,960 Speaker 1: So my question is, what would you do given the 703 00:43:51,000 --> 00:43:53,440 Speaker 1: state that our country's in with COVID and all and 704 00:43:53,480 --> 00:43:56,520 Speaker 1: the hiring freezes and hard to find a job. Would 705 00:43:56,560 --> 00:44:00,480 Speaker 1: you a stay in South Carolina with the establish well 706 00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,479 Speaker 1: paid job away from family and look for a house 707 00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:08,000 Speaker 1: to buy here or be move back to Ohio build 708 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:12,759 Speaker 1: a house on free and cleared land and be by 709 00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:15,960 Speaker 1: our family, but have to essentially start over with a 710 00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,960 Speaker 1: new job for my husband, and I would possibly have 711 00:44:19,120 --> 00:44:21,560 Speaker 1: to get a job as well, which I'm not opposed 712 00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:24,600 Speaker 1: to because one child is already in school age. I'm 713 00:44:24,760 --> 00:44:28,359 Speaker 1: stuck because I know the times we're in and well 714 00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:30,680 Speaker 1: paying job with security is hard to come by. But 715 00:44:30,680 --> 00:44:33,319 Speaker 1: we miss our family so much and we would love 716 00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:37,200 Speaker 1: to buy a house, and while our house was being built, 717 00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:39,880 Speaker 1: we could just live with our parents in the extra space. 718 00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:43,480 Speaker 1: I don't know. We're just paying praying for the Lord's 719 00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,239 Speaker 1: will for him to show us the path to take 720 00:44:45,560 --> 00:44:47,920 Speaker 1: but I figured more options couldn't hurt. What would you do? 721 00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:51,680 Speaker 1: It says, thank you for taking the time to read 722 00:44:51,719 --> 00:44:55,279 Speaker 1: and respond. Have a blessed day, Kayla. That is crazy 723 00:44:55,360 --> 00:44:59,399 Speaker 1: how similar that is to the earlier question. And it's 724 00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:02,000 Speaker 1: crazy that this this is South Carolina going back to Ohio, 725 00:45:02,480 --> 00:45:05,520 Speaker 1: and the first question was Florida going to Wisconsin, and 726 00:45:05,560 --> 00:45:10,920 Speaker 1: it just so happens to be on the same podcast episode. 727 00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:13,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna approach this differently than I did with the 728 00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:17,040 Speaker 1: Florida question, and I'm gonna kind of start from scratching 729 00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:20,920 Speaker 1: my head, even though I think the end result is 730 00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:27,640 Speaker 1: probably similar. In fact, Kayla, you have a little bit 731 00:45:27,680 --> 00:45:30,040 Speaker 1: of a better situation than the Florida question, because the 732 00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:33,080 Speaker 1: Florida question didn't have land ready to be built on 733 00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:36,239 Speaker 1: those free and clear of payments. But both of you 734 00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:41,520 Speaker 1: have good jobs and this dilemma comes up. You are 735 00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:44,319 Speaker 1: in a time constraint because the house you're living in 736 00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:51,319 Speaker 1: you're having to leave because the landlord is selling. I 737 00:45:51,400 --> 00:45:57,200 Speaker 1: would you're asking what I would do? I would rent 738 00:45:57,280 --> 00:46:01,640 Speaker 1: again in South Carolina, short term lease. You could even 739 00:46:01,640 --> 00:46:05,239 Speaker 1: do an extended stay hotel. The reason I say this 740 00:46:05,239 --> 00:46:07,440 Speaker 1: because you're talking about your kids. You have two kids 741 00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:12,560 Speaker 1: and you're stay at home mom, and you're gonna have 742 00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:15,319 Speaker 1: to pluck them out of school and take them to 743 00:46:15,400 --> 00:46:21,319 Speaker 1: Ohio with no job. Right now, I would get an 744 00:46:21,320 --> 00:46:24,480 Speaker 1: extended stay or a like a six month lease in 745 00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:29,040 Speaker 1: something and then be job hunting like crazy in Ohio. 746 00:46:31,200 --> 00:46:33,200 Speaker 1: Maybe maybe you and your husband are gonna have to 747 00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:37,839 Speaker 1: spend a little time apart, like maybe maybe he's gonna 748 00:46:37,880 --> 00:46:42,360 Speaker 1: have to go and and do some in person interviews 749 00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:45,840 Speaker 1: and you're gonna have to stay in your extended stay 750 00:46:46,239 --> 00:46:50,880 Speaker 1: in uh, South Carolina. And it's it's not gonna be easy. 751 00:46:50,920 --> 00:46:53,200 Speaker 1: This is gonna take a sacrifice. Any any kind of 752 00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:56,600 Speaker 1: big move with a big payout like this pay off 753 00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,920 Speaker 1: is going to require sacrifice. The life is about sacrifice. 754 00:47:00,920 --> 00:47:03,239 Speaker 1: So this is not. There's no easy answer, which is 755 00:47:03,239 --> 00:47:06,520 Speaker 1: why your your subject says, dilemma, help, what would you do? 756 00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:11,280 Speaker 1: So there's no easy way out of this. But everything 757 00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:14,839 Speaker 1: is sacrifice, Even love is a sacrifice, right Like everything 758 00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:20,239 Speaker 1: requires a little out of the ordinary effort. Like in 759 00:47:20,280 --> 00:47:22,920 Speaker 1: the last question, dude, you got to get up a 760 00:47:22,960 --> 00:47:26,759 Speaker 1: little earlier. That's a sacrifice. So you guys are gonna 761 00:47:26,760 --> 00:47:28,520 Speaker 1: it sounds like you're gonna have to spend some time apart. 762 00:47:28,880 --> 00:47:31,600 Speaker 1: Maybe he's gonna have to go like a Monday through 763 00:47:31,640 --> 00:47:35,520 Speaker 1: Friday and job hunt, interview, interview interview, fly back for 764 00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:38,279 Speaker 1: the weekends to be with you and the kids, or 765 00:47:38,360 --> 00:47:41,719 Speaker 1: vice versa, and then the whole house thing you're gonna 766 00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:43,160 Speaker 1: have to figure out. Like me and Amber right now 767 00:47:43,200 --> 00:47:45,720 Speaker 1: are living in a in an RV in our barn, 768 00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:48,879 Speaker 1: and that's a sacrifice for it. We're building a house 769 00:47:48,880 --> 00:47:52,960 Speaker 1: on this property, and that's a sacrifice we chose instead 770 00:47:53,000 --> 00:47:56,719 Speaker 1: of either buying a house that's completely built or renting 771 00:47:56,760 --> 00:48:00,880 Speaker 1: while we're building, we're renting another house. We decided to 772 00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:02,799 Speaker 1: make the sacrifice to save money and stay in an 773 00:48:02,880 --> 00:48:05,640 Speaker 1: RV on the property and look at it like it 774 00:48:05,680 --> 00:48:07,840 Speaker 1: was an adventure. So you could do that. You could 775 00:48:08,400 --> 00:48:11,440 Speaker 1: you say, your husband gets a job tomorrow that's really 776 00:48:11,440 --> 00:48:15,799 Speaker 1: good in Ohio. That's an equal kind of job, which 777 00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:18,439 Speaker 1: you could you could even get a lesser paying job 778 00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:20,760 Speaker 1: because now you're going into a free and clear house. 779 00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:24,640 Speaker 1: But you could get an RV and put this on 780 00:48:24,680 --> 00:48:28,120 Speaker 1: the land and live in the RV while you're building, 781 00:48:29,080 --> 00:48:32,200 Speaker 1: or like you said, you could live with your parents 782 00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:35,560 Speaker 1: and they've even offered you to come and stay in 783 00:48:35,600 --> 00:48:39,400 Speaker 1: their house while while you're building. That's a really good deal. 784 00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:45,480 Speaker 1: So yeah, that's that's my answer. The answer is not 785 00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:50,160 Speaker 1: stay in South Carolina forever. That's not what my answer is. 786 00:48:50,960 --> 00:48:53,800 Speaker 1: My answer is stay in South Carolina right now. I 787 00:48:53,840 --> 00:48:56,720 Speaker 1: would say look at it as a sixth six month window. 788 00:48:57,080 --> 00:48:58,680 Speaker 1: You're going to stay here for six months, and you 789 00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:00,680 Speaker 1: might extend it to another six moth so this might 790 00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:04,800 Speaker 1: take up all of twenty twenty one. But you're hardcore looking. 791 00:49:05,280 --> 00:49:07,440 Speaker 1: In the meantime, your husband's still keeping his job in 792 00:49:07,440 --> 00:49:10,719 Speaker 1: South Carolina, so he's making that paycheck. You got the benefits. 793 00:49:11,120 --> 00:49:13,279 Speaker 1: Your lifestyle is not going to change, even though you're 794 00:49:13,560 --> 00:49:15,600 Speaker 1: you should be throwing a little extra money in the 795 00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:20,239 Speaker 1: savings account every month now for this house build, and 796 00:49:21,800 --> 00:49:23,959 Speaker 1: other than that, your lifestyle is not changing that much. 797 00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:28,960 Speaker 1: So you're just hounding the job market in Ohio, looking, looking, 798 00:49:29,400 --> 00:49:31,760 Speaker 1: and then once you lock something down and it feels good, 799 00:49:32,280 --> 00:49:35,040 Speaker 1: then you make the full commitment to move the whole family. 800 00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:38,239 Speaker 1: That way, you're going to be safe. With everything you 801 00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:39,960 Speaker 1: said about the state of the world and the job 802 00:49:40,000 --> 00:49:42,680 Speaker 1: market and all that, you're still safe because the worst 803 00:49:42,719 --> 00:49:46,520 Speaker 1: case scenario on this is you're living in a six 804 00:49:46,560 --> 00:49:48,480 Speaker 1: month least that you extend to a year, and that 805 00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:50,160 Speaker 1: extends to a year and a half. It's not a 806 00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:53,400 Speaker 1: bad thing. A year and a half in the grand 807 00:49:53,440 --> 00:49:56,239 Speaker 1: scheme of things is not that big a deal to 808 00:49:56,360 --> 00:49:59,839 Speaker 1: this plan that you're eventually going to live on your 809 00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:07,800 Speaker 1: on this land in beautiful Ohio. So yeah, a different 810 00:50:07,840 --> 00:50:12,080 Speaker 1: answer than I gave the first time, but a similar result. 811 00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:16,879 Speaker 1: The end result is you're gonna be in a place 812 00:50:16,880 --> 00:50:21,360 Speaker 1: where your heart is happy. And that doesn't mean the 813 00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:25,800 Speaker 1: good pay and secure job. That doesn't make your heart happy, 814 00:50:26,520 --> 00:50:30,000 Speaker 1: that just makes you feel safe for now. But you're 815 00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:32,680 Speaker 1: gonna have that longing and you're gonna have like I 816 00:50:32,680 --> 00:50:35,320 Speaker 1: said in the first question, you're gonna have this regret 817 00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:38,200 Speaker 1: if you don't do this, Like what if your parents 818 00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:41,360 Speaker 1: you say no and they offer it to someone else 819 00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:46,200 Speaker 1: and then someone builds a beautiful house there. How long 820 00:50:46,239 --> 00:50:50,440 Speaker 1: would you live with that regret of gosh? I remember 821 00:50:50,520 --> 00:50:54,400 Speaker 1: ten years ago my parents offered that land and we 822 00:50:54,480 --> 00:50:57,360 Speaker 1: said no, and we stayed here, and now my husband's 823 00:50:57,360 --> 00:51:01,319 Speaker 1: even switched job since then. South Carolina. Our kids are 824 00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:03,600 Speaker 1: now graduated from high school, they're out of the house 825 00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:10,520 Speaker 1: and here we are and we don't have Ohio. It's 826 00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:14,920 Speaker 1: my thought. I gotta say, that's what I think. But 827 00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:18,879 Speaker 1: great question. And thank all you guys for emailing and 828 00:51:18,960 --> 00:51:21,320 Speaker 1: if you have anything. As you can see, these subject 829 00:51:21,320 --> 00:51:24,320 Speaker 1: matters are kind of all over the place. 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