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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: letter lie on the air. You hear that this is

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Speaker 1: a letter right here, and you never could be yours.

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Speaker 1: That's where you, Jake, could be yours. It could be

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Speaker 1: buckle uppot, hold on tight. We got it for you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Thank you. F subject my

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Speaker 1: husband follows nine hundred model How Dear Stephen Shirley. My

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Speaker 1: husband and I have been together for twenty eight years

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Speaker 1: and we've been married for seventeen. We have a nineteen

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Speaker 1: year old son together, and my son recently got his

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Speaker 1: father hooked on Instagram. Before my husband got on social media,

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Speaker 1: we watched movies as a family. We'd go walking in

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Speaker 1: the evening and even fool around in the morning. Now,

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Speaker 1: when he wakes up, he'd rather look at pictures of

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Speaker 1: timeless women, or women in swimsuits or in thongs. He's

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Speaker 1: oblivious to the fact that I'm looking over his shoulder,

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Speaker 1: and he laughs when I tell him to stop. I

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Speaker 1: got his phone one night when while he was asleep,

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Speaker 1: and found out that he follows nine hundred and eighty

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Speaker 1: people on Instagram. I saw that he's following every one

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Speaker 1: of you on the morning show. Well, thank you, and

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Speaker 1: I know, but he's dragging. It's dragging us in it, right,

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Speaker 1: and the rest of the people he follows our Instagram

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Speaker 1: models with oiled up breasts and flat tummies and fake,

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Speaker 1: big old fake butts. I saw where he's been liking

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Speaker 1: pictures and commenting crude things under women's pictures. I saw

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Speaker 1: where he had DMed a few women asking for pictures

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Speaker 1: of their you know what, and he told them he'd

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Speaker 1: send a picture of his if they did. I got

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Speaker 1: so mad I deleted his account. We argued over it,

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Speaker 1: and he told me that what he does on his

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Speaker 1: for me. He told me that he's with me for life,

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Speaker 1: so I need to stop worrying about those Instagram models.

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Speaker 1: He said there is no way he'd have a chance

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Speaker 1: let him have his fun. I asked him if he's

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Speaker 1: thinking of these models when we're intimate, and he said

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Speaker 1: he does think of them at times. I know for

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Speaker 1: a fact that none of these women would want him,

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Speaker 1: because I barely do. But I'd never do him like this.

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Speaker 1: Should I let him have it's fun or keep nagging

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Speaker 1: him until he stops doing this to me? Okay? Is

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Speaker 1: your husband serious? And are you serious? How can you

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Speaker 1: look at this as fun? This is not fun for anyone.

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Speaker 1: I mean, it's really laughable, and there's nothing fun or

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Speaker 1: funny about it for you, whether he's sleeping with them

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Speaker 1: or not. And you didn't say he is. This is

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Speaker 1: a form of cheating, some kind of form of cheating here,

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Speaker 1: I guess emotional cheating. He's mentally unavailable to you, and

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Speaker 1: to use your word and ideous to what he's doing

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Speaker 1: to you. You asked him to stop, you deleted it,

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Speaker 1: He got mad, You guys got in an argument. He

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Speaker 1: just laughs at you. This is no way to be

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Speaker 1: in a marriage. That's not what a husband should do.

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Speaker 1: What he's doing on his phone has everything to do

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Speaker 1: with you and how you feel. If it's hurting you,

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Speaker 1: it's just wrong period. D ms are definitely off limits.

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Speaker 1: He's sliding into these women's d ms asking I'll show

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Speaker 1: you mine if you show me yours. Come on, man,

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Speaker 1: and the fund he calls it is totally at your expense.

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Speaker 1: You're his wife of twenty eight years or seventeen years.

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Speaker 1: You gotta step up. You gotta let him know how

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Speaker 1: you feel. You gotta continue to delete it. You got

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Speaker 1: to talk to your son and tell him, you know,

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Speaker 1: to fix it. Where his dad can't go on Instagram,

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Speaker 1: lock him out, block him whatever he has to do,

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Speaker 1: either he unfollows these nine hundred models or and gets

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Speaker 1: off social media where he can get off you. Because

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Speaker 1: I just think he sucks as a husband and he

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Speaker 1: needs to know that he's talking about you're his wife

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Speaker 1: for life. Well then act like it, sir, act like it. Jaye,

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, this lady, Oh my god, why would

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Speaker 1: you even write us? This is just nonsense. It's straight No.

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Speaker 1: Colombo and forty eight hours them them days is over with.

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Speaker 1: Nobody want to watch that. Somebody want to watch the

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Speaker 1: the Beverly Hill Villas and all of them. The rightful

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Speaker 1: man them shows is old. The Internet has changed. He

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna never get these women. He even said that

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Speaker 1: you'll know what he looked like. The women know what

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Speaker 1: he Let the man have some peace. Damn, he's just

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Speaker 1: looking at the booty. I mean, what do you want?

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Speaker 1: You want him to be in in the garage making

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Speaker 1: a wooden birdhouse or something like that. That isn't what

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Speaker 1: he want to do. So you wanted outside plating flowers.

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Speaker 1: He don't want to do that. He just want to

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Speaker 1: look at. But I mean, damn, I mean, why would

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Speaker 1: you even write us this letter? Leave? Leave the man alone?

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Speaker 1: You know where it is. You know how many men

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Speaker 1: don't come home at night. They don't even come he's home, Well,

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Speaker 1: where's your daddy? But I mean, why, what? What else

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Speaker 1: do you want? Leave him alone? It's just it's just

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Speaker 1: but it's just. But that's all it is. Damn, he

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Speaker 1: was looking at Would you be happening? Would you have

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Speaker 1: something to say? He's looking at my head. She wants

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Speaker 1: to spend time with her like they used to, watching movies,

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Speaker 1: doing family things. Nobody want to watch no damn movies.

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Speaker 1: No morning. Internet changed that, it changed it. She likes, Oh,

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Speaker 1: nobody want to watch old ass movies. Come on, you're

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Speaker 1: gonna only watch Black Panther one time nine hundred. Butch

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Speaker 1: is the man enjoying himself. Leave him alone and him

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Speaker 1: You are bitter man. You are bitterman. All right. Uh,

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Speaker 1: we'll have part two of the letter coming up. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna hear from Tommy. We're gonna hear from Junior at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject for today's Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: my husband follows nine hundred models. Disregard Jay's answer, We'll

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Speaker 1: be right back. That's bad after this not different card

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Speaker 1: that you're listening to show. All right, Uh, we're gonna

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry Letter. The subject is, and then we'll

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Speaker 1: hear from Tommy and Junior. The subject is my husband

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Speaker 1: follows nine hundred models. A woman wrote in They've been

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Speaker 1: together twenty eight years. She and her husband they've been

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Speaker 1: married for seventeen. They have a nineteen year old son

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Speaker 1: who recently showed his father how to get on Instagram.

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Speaker 1: And now the dad her husband is hooked and all

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Speaker 1: he does is look at women's buts, dms, women crude

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Speaker 1: things in the comments. The wife gets mad. He has

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Speaker 1: no disregard for her. He just tell he just laughs

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Speaker 1: at her and tells her that he's with her for

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Speaker 1: life and don't worry about it, leave him alone and

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Speaker 1: all of that. And she's disgusted as his wife, as

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Speaker 1: she should be, and she wants him to stop. She

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Speaker 1: says she knows she could never he doesn't have a

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Speaker 1: chance with these women because she barely wants him. But

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Speaker 1: she just wants to know. Should she let him have

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Speaker 1: his fun or keep nagging him until he stops doing this?

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Speaker 1: And it is inconsiderate and disrespectful. All right, Tommy, you

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Speaker 1: say what. You're not gonna get him to change until

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Speaker 1: you show him from the other side. You understand what

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Speaker 1: I mean. So what I want you to do is

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Speaker 1: I want you to have me. You need to start

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Speaker 1: when he when he sleeps, wake him up with porn

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Speaker 1: on the TV. You understand what I'm saying, and turn

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Speaker 1: it up real loud and just bring it for him,

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Speaker 1: and just comment on everything you see on the porn.

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Speaker 1: Take look at this boy, that boy bringing it. Ain't

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Speaker 1: even look at him, baby, Look at him. Baby. You

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Speaker 1: ain't got nothing like this boy got. You see what

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Speaker 1: this boy working with You see this boy working with baby,

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Speaker 1: and you ain't that. You ain't got nothing like that

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Speaker 1: right there, boy, that boy bringing it up in here,

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Speaker 1: backbuster billy. Look at this boy, go baby, come look

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Speaker 1: at backbuster, Look at it. Look at it. You say, Oh, now,

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Speaker 1: I know you can't do that position right there. Did

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Speaker 1: you just see what that boy did? Did you rewind

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Speaker 1: that white backbuster? Do it one more time? Why you

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Speaker 1: ain't no way you can do with backbusting who he

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Speaker 1: got a lot of working with. You ain't got nothing

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Speaker 1: like that. You ain't close to backbuster billet paper. I

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Speaker 1: mean you good, ain't. I ain't gonna lie to your

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Speaker 1: backbuster billet gonna be on my mind, Oh day when

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Speaker 1: I get back home from work. Look, I don't I

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Speaker 1: don't want to be interrupted. I'm gonna get me a

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Speaker 1: glass of wine and I'm gonna sit here and watch

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Speaker 1: some mold backbuster billy. That's what I back. Yeah, you have.

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Speaker 1: All you gotta do is fight five with five. I

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Speaker 1: promise you he's gonna be getting off them. Dog on,

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Speaker 1: close your media, talking to everybody, Turn up that pawn

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Speaker 1: in the room and let him have it. That's what

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Speaker 1: you got to do. A yeah, yeah, you know, you know,

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Speaker 1: you know. Let me tell you something. This this, this

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Speaker 1: I want to know. Can you give me the list

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Speaker 1: of people he followed me that I need. I need

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Speaker 1: the list or the nine hundred and eighty women? He followed, Okay,

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Speaker 1: matter twenty eight, seventeen, nineteen. Them numbers don't matter. Nine

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Speaker 1: eighty is the word I'm looking for. Care about y'all

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Speaker 1: married for seventeen, don't care you got a nineteen year

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Speaker 1: old son. The only number that matters in this level

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Speaker 1: is nine eighty. Where is these nine hundred and eighty

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Speaker 1: all up women with the fake buttons? Where is that?

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Speaker 1: Give me that list? That's what the one follows. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you followed me, but send me the list

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Speaker 1: in my DM so I can start followers. Some of

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Speaker 1: the stuff you're looking at? Man he at home, Man

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Speaker 1: he at home. You know he ain't gonna get done

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Speaker 1: of these women. You send it yourself, you barely won't

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Speaker 1: him disrespect It's not disrespectful. Man is at home? He

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Speaker 1: looking at butts nine hundred and eight. Let him have that.

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Speaker 1: He don't have much else left, Charley all he wants

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Speaker 1: is nine eighty women, you man, it could have been

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Speaker 1: a thousand. Oh it's nine eighty. Twenty more it is

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Speaker 1: a thousand, it's nine eighty. Let the man have his

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Speaker 1: time with Jake. This man ain't bothering nobody. He's bothering

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Speaker 1: his wife. She doesn't looking over the shoulder. It was

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Speaker 1: gotten me. Why are you looking at this man? Oh?

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Speaker 1: He just looking at pictures? It okay? Still another question?

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Speaker 1: What you look like? Obviously obviously you ain't like the

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Speaker 1: nine eighty he looking at Oh all the man doing?

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Speaker 1: Just look at that fiture. You want a man to

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Speaker 1: be home. He home, He a family man. That's all

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Speaker 1: the family and presence in the marriage, marriage into marriage.

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Speaker 1: Ain't up with marriage? Like just being at home. Can't

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Speaker 1: go no one, That's all it is. This man like

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Speaker 1: to look at all up breasts and fake look over

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Speaker 1: Why are you going back? You sho He's sitting a

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Speaker 1: look at the same nine eight it what it wrong?

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Speaker 1: I think DM Max said it best Jay, which I

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Speaker 1: really won't from me n words X I saw I

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Speaker 1: say what you really want? All up? I'm I'm catain

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Speaker 1: never he's too amazing me all right. Made hit us

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Speaker 1: the Strawberry Letter podcast. Man Uh, coming up, Junior, we're

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Speaker 1: gonna switch gears because Junior has a special poem for

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Speaker 1: us instead of sports today. Yeah. Oh, so you haven't

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Speaker 1: had a poem in a minute, Junior, so that would

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Speaker 1: be good, all right, all right, all right, we'll get

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Speaker 1: to that coming up at forty six minutes after the hour.

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