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Speaker 2: Rouquel is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Jake.
Speaker 2: I was always in Jakes, though I don't know, I'm
Speaker 2: not sure if it's a state farm guy or not.
Speaker 2: If you had a red polo, that's probably him, and
Speaker 2: probably because he's very busy. Roquel, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since you heard from Jake?
Speaker 3: Oh gosh, it's been like a couple of weeks. Okay,
Speaker 3: let's get into it. Tell us about the date. How
Speaker 3: did you guys meet?
Speaker 4: So we met at a bar that's also kind of
Speaker 4: known for their desserts. So my idea was like cocktail
Speaker 4: and cake, which.
Speaker 3: I thought was really cute.
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah, I thought it was like a.
Speaker 4: Really fun way to get to know each other. And
Speaker 4: I mean, truth be toltally met online, but like even online,
Speaker 4: our banter was really great and so I was like
Speaker 4: super super happy to when I met him in person,
Speaker 4: Like he was so funny, he was so so, so
Speaker 4: so so funny.
Speaker 5: So was he funny online too?
Speaker 4: Yeah, like exactly like he was funny online, but he
Speaker 4: was even funnier in person.
Speaker 5: That's good.
Speaker 2: You feel like that doesn't happen that often. I feel
Speaker 2: like some people are hilarious over text, but then they
Speaker 2: kind of get nervous when they're in person.
Speaker 5: You know, it really sucks.
Speaker 2: It is a big letdown because you show up and
Speaker 2: you're ready for a show. I'm like, dinner in a show, Yeah,
Speaker 2: make me laugh, And then it's like they.
Speaker 5: Don't do that? Can you just text with me?
Speaker 4: Then?
Speaker 5: Because you were hilarious when you're texting.
Speaker 3: I'm glad.
Speaker 4: It was like a real pleasant surprise for sure.
Speaker 5: And the date was good.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and like we decided to share a slice of
Speaker 4: the triple chocolate cake or it was like triple chocolate
Speaker 4: truffle cake or something. It was so good, and we
Speaker 4: each had martini, so like, you know, it was really nice.
Speaker 3: This is a great date idea. I'm loving this date idea.
Speaker 4: I thought it was cute.
Speaker 5: How did the date end?
Speaker 4: You know, it ended pretty well, Like we were he
Speaker 4: walked me to my car, he gave me on the
Speaker 4: cheek and he was like, yeah, I'll get in touch
Speaker 4: with you.
Speaker 5: So you got a kiss on the cheek, okay, and
Speaker 5: then never got in touch with you.
Speaker 4: I mean I basically texted him like a couple of
Speaker 4: days later, like there was just one thing that happened
Speaker 4: on the date that was like a little strange. Okay,
Speaker 4: So basically he okay, we're talking. I'm like asking him
Speaker 4: some cool questions, right like I'm getting to know him.
Speaker 4: I'm asking him like what's your astrological fine, you know,
Speaker 4: like I'm really into that stuff, like are you close
Speaker 4: with your parents? Like blah blah blah, but like the
Speaker 4: usual stuff.
Speaker 3: And I did kind of.
Speaker 4: Notice that he was on his phone a lot, like
Speaker 4: towards the end of the date, so like that kind
Speaker 4: of was a little concerning to me. And then like
Speaker 4: at one point he excused himself, like after we have
Speaker 4: our martini and he said he had to go, like
Speaker 4: all of a sudden. So it was like, oh, okay, weird.
Speaker 4: I mean everything was going great until then, and it
Speaker 4: honestly happened so fast. So he was like, oh I
Speaker 4: have to go, and I was like, oh okay. So
Speaker 4: like we paid the bill and I'm like okay. So
Speaker 4: we walk out to my car. You know, he he
Speaker 4: kisses me on the cheek. He's like, you know, it
Speaker 4: has fun, but I have to go, and I was like,
Speaker 4: I hope our reading's okay, and he just kind of
Speaker 4: like left. It was it was very kind of strange.
Speaker 6: The ending was strange.
Speaker 3: Well yeah, I mean it makes you feel like did
Speaker 3: something happen? What's the deal?
Speaker 4: Yeah, So like after that, I did text him and
Speaker 4: I was just like, hey, I hope our reading's okay.
Speaker 4: And nothing, and it's been like I don't know, it's
Speaker 4: been like ten days or something like almost two weeks.
Speaker 3: Well, I mean, I would just wonder if you have
Speaker 3: some I would be kind of nervous, like is this
Speaker 3: person all right? Exacly, yeah, is a family emergency?
Speaker 4: Maybe that's what I'm thinking where I was like, maybe
Speaker 4: he just didn't like the idea of like the cocktail
Speaker 4: and cake, Like I thought it was really cute, but
Speaker 4: I was that's like the only thing, Like maybe he
Speaker 4: just didn't like my judgment and like the place book
Speaker 4: I picked.
Speaker 2: I think that that might not be it. That sounds
Speaker 2: like a fine date unless he's really against cake. It
Speaker 2: was like cocktails, I mean you know that case that's
Speaker 2: a red flag for you, or like.
Speaker 4: Maybe I ate too much of a cake.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 5: And then that's also a red flag for you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's Karen Beva about how much cake you
Speaker 2: But we'll figure it out. We'll play a song comeback,
Speaker 2: and then call him and see if he'll tell us
Speaker 2: why he's ghosting you and maybe get you another date
Speaker 2: if you still want one.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, because I really want one.
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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's first Date follow up.
Speaker 2: Roquel is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by
Speaker 2: a dude named Jake. So we're about to see if
Speaker 2: we can get him on the phone and see if
Speaker 2: he'll tell us why he's ghosting her and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date if she's still interested after she hears why.
Speaker 2: But before we call him, Roquelle, why don't you catch
Speaker 2: everybody up on the situation with Jake.
Speaker 4: Okay, So basically we met online. We decided to get
Speaker 4: to this really cute place. It was like a cocktail
Speaker 4: and dessert type place like get some okay, get some cocktails,
Speaker 4: and everything was going great, really great conversation, and then
Speaker 4: you know, kind of halfway through the date, he was
Speaker 4: like kind about a little strange, like he basically said
Speaker 4: that he had to go to the bathroom, and when
Speaker 4: he came back, he was like, oh, I have to leave,
Speaker 4: like kind of all of a sudden, and I was like, oh, okay,
Speaker 4: that's strange because the banter was really good. And then
Speaker 4: he walked away high car. He kissed me on the
Speaker 4: cheek and then you know, kind of just like rushed out,
Speaker 4: and I texted him being like I hope everything's okay,
Speaker 4: and no response.
Speaker 5: And that was like ten days ago.
Speaker 2: M hm, okay, Well we'll see if we can help
Speaker 2: you out. We're gonna call him right now and see
Speaker 2: if you'll tell us why he's ghosting you, and see
Speaker 2: if you want another date.
Speaker 7: Okay, ready, yes, thank you? All right, here we go.
Speaker 7: Oh that makes we could take please.
Speaker 3: Who is Jake?
Speaker 5: Jake? How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbell, and I host a radio show
Speaker 2: and it's named The Jewbel Show.
Speaker 3: Hi, Jake, jumping right in. Jubel's not by himself. My
Speaker 3: name is Nina. I'm also on the show.
Speaker 5: Yes she is, and I'm Victoria. She's also on the show. Jake,
Speaker 5: how's it going on?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 6: Fine, why are you guys calling from radio station.
Speaker 5: We do a segment on our show called the First
Speaker 5: Night follow Up.
Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with
Speaker 2: somebody and then you end up ghosting them, they can
Speaker 2: email us to get you on the phone and find
Speaker 2: out why. And we got an email about you from
Speaker 2: someone Jake, uh huh, And would you like to take
Speaker 2: a guess at who that person is?
Speaker 6: Yeah, I'm pretty sure I know who it is. Who
Speaker 6: is Roquel?
Speaker 2: It is Roquelle. Yes, So Roquelle told us about your date.
Speaker 2: She said she really liked you, but she can't figure
Speaker 2: out why you're ghostingers.
Speaker 5: So that's why we're here.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, I mean, look, you know, look, first of all,
Speaker 6: was super hot. I thought that taking cocktails idea was
Speaker 6: like super cute, but like it felt like a job interview,
Speaker 6: you know, Like it felt like she was asking all
Speaker 6: these questions and like sometimes like before I even have
Speaker 6: a chance to finish the answer, it was like it
Speaker 6: just felt like she was trying to see if I
Speaker 6: fit her template of like the perfect guy template, you know,
Speaker 6: and it was like it literally felt like a job interview.
Speaker 6: It was like, you know, what are your strengths and weaknesses?
Speaker 6: Asking about my family, like she asked about the relationship
Speaker 6: with my mom. Like I was like, I just met
Speaker 6: you twenty minutes ago. So it just like I get
Speaker 6: that girl's when I know that stuff, but on the
Speaker 6: first date, like and then I mean asking about my
Speaker 6: astrological sign, that's fine, but it just I was like,
Speaker 6: it just felt like it was coming on too strong.
Speaker 3: Like it.
Speaker 6: I was just kind of like, you know, I in
Speaker 6: my mind, I was like, have more game, you know,
Speaker 6: have more game.
Speaker 4: I was just trying to get to know you.
Speaker 2: Take that rock house. She was on the phone listing.
Speaker 2: She's on the phone listing and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 6: Oh, I mean I just like I didn't realize you
Speaker 6: were on the phone.
Speaker 3: No, that's okay.
Speaker 4: I'm just like, you know, I was disappointed because I
Speaker 4: really I felt like we had such great banter and
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm just like interested in you, and I
Speaker 4: just I was interested in those things and I just think,
Speaker 4: you know, it was a good conversation or like they're
Speaker 4: like conversation starters, you know. And I mean, I'm so
Speaker 4: sorry that it turned you off. I can certainly you know,
Speaker 4: tone it down and hotch next time.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Yeah, I mean, no, I get like dating is awkward.
Speaker 6: It's like an awkward thing to do. It's kind of weird.
Speaker 6: So I mean, I I feel that. But yeah, I
Speaker 6: mean I'm sorry that I didn't respond. I just was
Speaker 6: kind of like, honestly, I just think I was really
Speaker 6: interested again, but you know, I mean, yeah, that's kind
Speaker 6: of how I was feeling. That's why I didn't respond.
Speaker 3: Can I ask you what types of questions make you
Speaker 3: feel comfortable? Because I don't know about you guys, but
Speaker 3: I don't like to waste my time with like, oh,
Speaker 3: look at the chandelier, it's so beautiful.
Speaker 5: I'd rather know about you. Yeah, although I.
Speaker 3: Probably would talk about itself, but deeper conversations are more
Speaker 3: meaningful than the surface level like how's the weather, like,
Speaker 3: so what kind of question.
Speaker 5: I totally agree, Yeah, I totally agree.
Speaker 6: I think it's I think it's less Maybe it's less
Speaker 6: the questions. I mean, some of the questions were a
Speaker 6: little bit much, but like it's more like the style
Speaker 6: and the like. It just felt like she was reciting
Speaker 6: a list. It was like, Okay, that's about your Josseph,
Speaker 6: so tell me about your mom. Okay, well, then tell
Speaker 6: me about like what's your sign?
Speaker 4: It was like as if.
Speaker 6: That's what I mean, Like, it wasn't so much like
Speaker 6: those are those are totally valid questions to ask. It
Speaker 6: just was like it felt like I was like a
Speaker 6: candidate to be her husband.
Speaker 3: Huh, technically isn't everybody until you're not. I'm sorry, that's
Speaker 3: just much okay, Raquel? Were you nervous?
Speaker 4: I mean yeah, I was nervous and excited, you know,
Speaker 4: And I think when I get excited, I just like,
Speaker 4: you know, kind of like get a little fit fiery,
Speaker 4: and so I definitely need to work on my delivery,
Speaker 4: which I am really willing to do, Jake, because I
Speaker 4: think we really hit it off and I would really
Speaker 4: love to see you again.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I I'm open to it, like I
Speaker 6: feel like again, like it's honestly, it's my bad, Like
Speaker 6: I should have communicated that to you perhaps, but you
Speaker 6: know how dating is, like sometimes it's just easier just
Speaker 6: to like move on. But but you know, I you
Speaker 6: seem like a nice person, and I'm glad.
Speaker 3: That we had this opportunity.
Speaker 6: To clear this up.
Speaker 2: Jake, since you seem since you think Raquel seems like
Speaker 2: a nice person, would you like to try again and
Speaker 2: go out another day with Roquel.
Speaker 5: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 6: I would, I would, I'm gone.
Speaker 5: I'm don Wow. Congratulations, Raquel, yay, thank you so much.
Speaker 4: Some things I'm excited, but I'm keeping it cool.
Speaker 3: Good luck, don't be self conscious. You still do whatever
Speaker 3: you need to do on this for yourself. Thank you.
Speaker 5: Guys, Jake, you be yourself as well. I think, yes
Speaker 5: I will, and I'm going to be somebody different, but
Speaker 5: I'll see you on your day though. I'm gonna be
Speaker 5: somebody weird.
Speaker 3: Look behind the pitches.
Speaker 5: That'll be me.
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