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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocatesla dot com. Amanda is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first day follow up and she's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a guy named Kyle. So in a few minutes,

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Speaker 1: we're gonna call him and see if he'll tell us

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Speaker 1: why he's ghosting her and maybe get her a second date.

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Speaker 1: But first, Amanda, how long is it vinces your from Kyle? Hi?

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Speaker 2: Guys, it's been a few weeks.

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Speaker 1: Now, Okay, that's a good amount of time.

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Speaker 3: What is it about Kylie you want to get a

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Speaker 3: hold of so bad?

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, It's like it's really rare. I think

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Speaker 2: that you meet someone Mike Kyle. We had this lumly

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Speaker 2: first date and really just lovely connection, and I think

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Speaker 2: it would be a real shame if we don't reconnect

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Speaker 2: him that way. I don't know, it's just something felt

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Speaker 2: really right.

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Speaker 3: What felt so right that you just don't want to

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Speaker 3: kind of move on to the next person?

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Speaker 2: I mean, okay, is it helpful to just explain everything

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Speaker 2: that went down? Yeah? Okay, So I don't date very much.

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Speaker 2: I'm a single parent, but I met him at this

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Speaker 2: basketball game our kids are are little, they're like five,

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Speaker 2: and they're in this little basketball league. And you know,

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Speaker 2: we were there on a Saturday and we're both cheering

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Speaker 2: and we ended up just sort of bonding and talking

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Speaker 2: about being single parents and just then a general chaos

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Speaker 2: of life. And he just he's so charming. I wanted

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Speaker 2: a bet of three guys, but he really is. We

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Speaker 2: just totally hit it off. And then, you know, nobody

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Speaker 2: who asked somebody out anymore, like in person, like when

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Speaker 2: does that happen? But he tasked me out to dinner

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Speaker 2: and was like, you know, when we don't have the kids,

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Speaker 2: let's go out. And that's a huge step for me,

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Speaker 2: Like I haven't been out at all since my ex husband,

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Speaker 2: and so I was pretty special, and I mean he

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Speaker 2: planned the whole date, total gentleman about it. He took

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Speaker 2: me to a steakhouse which is kind of fancy, and

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Speaker 2: we were we just had a great conversation. We were

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Speaker 2: talking at one point and I was like talking so

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Speaker 2: much that I blew the little like tea light candle

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Speaker 2: out in front of us, and he was like, hold on,

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Speaker 2: and he got up and he's got another one, which

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Speaker 2: was so cute. Yeah, and he knows a lot about

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Speaker 2: wine and he's just very cultured in that way, and

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Speaker 2: so he picked a great wine for us and just

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Speaker 2: felt like a real instant connection. A lot of laughing

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Speaker 2: there was also so random, but maybe not random. He's

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Speaker 2: good at planning dates, I guess. But there was like

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Speaker 2: a band that played. It was a very old school vibe,

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Speaker 2: and we ordered dessert and that was nice enough for me,

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Speaker 2: but he literally grabbed my hands and we started dancing

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Speaker 2: wow to the live music, and you know, we had

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Speaker 2: a few glasses. Was line at that point. But the

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Speaker 2: wine was great and the music was great, and it

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Speaker 2: was such a great night, and I really loved how

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Speaker 2: I felt when I was with him.

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Speaker 1: It's romantic. I mean, it sounds like an excellent day.

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Speaker 1: Do we know he's single? He said he has a kid.

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Speaker 2: I mean, one of the benefits of the Little League,

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Speaker 2: so to speak, that we're all a part of is

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Speaker 2: that I definitely have read it with other parents that

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Speaker 2: he was single. Yeah, you know, there was just some

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Speaker 2: crattling and kissing on that first date, and I thought, Okay,

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Speaker 2: so they're definitely going to do this again.

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Speaker 1: So why do you think he might be ghosting?

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Speaker 2: You know? I mean I thought a lot about it,

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Speaker 2: and really only like a couple of things. I mean,

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Speaker 2: you know, everybody has their insecurities, Like I definitely I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you know, maybe he wasn't attracted to me, or any

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Speaker 2: of those things have gone through my head. But the

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Speaker 2: big one is, oh, man, I can't believe him saying

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Speaker 2: this on the radio. But I reached over and I

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Speaker 2: cut his steak for him at the stake, like I

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Speaker 2: instinctively went to cut the steak at the steakout. Wow.

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Speaker 2: And I just it was just course of habit, you know,

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Speaker 2: I have a little one and I when I pulled back,

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh, sorry, I'm a virgin. And it

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Speaker 2: was totally a joke I was.

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Speaker 4: I just was like, oh, I'm a virgin, Sorry about that,

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Speaker 4: Like I'm new to this, you know, Madonna would call me.

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Speaker 2: I feel like a virgin again, Like I'm very like

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Speaker 2: new to this again.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if I would ghost you over that,

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Speaker 1: you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we laughed it off. I don't think it's ghosting material,

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Speaker 2: but I.

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Speaker 1: Mean I hope not.

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Speaker 3: He might have been alarmed though by somebody reaching over

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Speaker 3: to touch his steak, But I used to hang out

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Speaker 3: this couple and she would kind of mistake every single

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Speaker 3: time they went out.

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Speaker 1: Like he'd wait to eat. Recently, it huh, it was weird.

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Speaker 1: Amanda is on the phone and she's getting ghosted buy Kyle.

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Speaker 1: So we're about to call him and see if you'll

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Speaker 1: tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get her a

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Speaker 1: second date. But first, Amanda, why don't you break down

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Speaker 1: your date with Kyle one more time for us real

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Speaker 1: quick before we call him.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I met this guy at our kids basketball game.

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Speaker 2: He took me out for dinner. It was super nice.

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Speaker 2: It's been a couple of weeks and I texted him.

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Speaker 2: I literally saw him after the next basketball game and

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Speaker 2: he like rushed away and it was super weird. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: we just love to know what happened and what I did.

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Speaker 1: Okay, well, are you ready for us to call him?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I guess so, all right, here we go. Hi, speak

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Speaker 1: to Kyle. Please speak? Hey Kyle, how are you? This

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Speaker 1: is a radio show. It's called The Jubil Show.

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Speaker 2: Hi.

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Speaker 1: I'm Victoria and my name is I'm Okay not much.

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Speaker 1: Have you ever heard the show before?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 1: Great, Well, Kyle, we got an email about you from somebody.

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Speaker 1: That's why we're on the phone. Ok So, I don't

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Speaker 1: know if you've heard the segment that we do the

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Speaker 1: first eight follow up where if you get ghosted, you

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Speaker 1: can email us and we'll call the person who ghosted

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Speaker 1: you and ask why they're ghosting.

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Speaker 5: Oh wow, okay, so it's just about Amanda.

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Speaker 1: We talked to Amanda a little bit about your date.

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Speaker 1: She said that you were very romantic awesome actually yea,

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Speaker 1: but says that you're not calling her back and she

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Speaker 1: doesn't know why. Can you tell us?

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Speaker 5: Oh boy? Okay, so our kids play in the same

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Speaker 5: basketball league together. I'm sure you know she probably uh right.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we went out.

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Speaker 5: It was a lovely time. It was really nice and uh,

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Speaker 5: you know, I just, uh, I'm looking for something different.

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Speaker 5: I'm a single dad and I want to have fun

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Speaker 5: and she just uh and here she's a great mom,

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Speaker 5: but my kids got a mom and I kind of

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Speaker 5: just want a girlfriend. And she's uh, I just noticed

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Speaker 5: she was sort of in mom mode all the time.

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Speaker 1: What does that mean?

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well, she's really caring, she's really affectionate. I had

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Speaker 5: a really good time, but uh, she just can't cut loose.

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Speaker 5: She's very Uh, well, she was kind of high strung

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Speaker 5: and well, to be honest, I wound up going out

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Speaker 1: Oh hey, Kyle, that's Amanda. Yeah, she's actually on I

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Speaker 1: don't know if you remember these or not, but she's

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Speaker 1: on the phone and wants to talk to you. And

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Speaker 1: obviously it's curious about who you are now with.

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah, no, I uh, I forgot.

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Speaker 2: I Hi. Wait, sorry, you know I've been better. You're

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Speaker 2: noticing me because I'm too much of a mom. Is

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Speaker 2: that like, is that what we're going with here?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 5: Look, okay, yeah, no, you're really sweet. I just uh,

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Speaker 5: I'm not really dating to find a partner right now.

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Speaker 5: I'm just dating to have fun.

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Speaker 2: And you know, I.

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Speaker 5: Think it's awesome. I think you're you're a great parent,

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Speaker 5: but I really just need a girlfriend. And uh, you know,

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Speaker 5: I'm right there.

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Speaker 2: I want someone to take shots and you know, forget

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Speaker 2: their responsibility, forget their kids. And yeah, no, that makes

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Speaker 2: total sense. I was like a mom.

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, no, I I can relax, I can

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Speaker 5: have a good time. I can be a dad and

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Speaker 5: I can just be a man. And you know, you're

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Speaker 5: just you're a mom, and that's awesome, but I need

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Speaker 5: a woman who's more than just you know, just one thing.

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Speaker 2: That's so Kyle, you're a dad, like I have to

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Speaker 2: remind you of that you were a dad. You were

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Speaker 2: a parent too.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Look, I can go out, I can have fun

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Speaker 5: with people, and I don't need to just be a

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Speaker 5: I'm a woman who does that too.

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Speaker 3: I don't think you can say sweetheart like that and

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Speaker 3: then say I can be a dad and a man too.

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Speaker 3: I mean, aren't you a dad all the time. You're

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Speaker 3: a mom all the time if you have children. But

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Speaker 3: I understand what you mean by being able to separate

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Speaker 3: being a person, but I don't know that that's really

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Speaker 3: what you're saying. You're saying you just kind of want

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Speaker 3: somebody reckless. Has nothing to do with it.

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Speaker 2: Not reckless.

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Speaker 5: I mean, what I care about my kids, I think

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Speaker 5: you know it's not about that. But if I'm going

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Speaker 5: out with a woman, I I don't want to just

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Speaker 5: talk about kids stuff all the time. And I mean,

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Speaker 5: it was kind of weird to try to cut my

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Speaker 5: food up for me.

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Speaker 2: Who did you go out with? Can you just tell

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Speaker 2: me that Lisa, sorry, Lisa, two year old referee at

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Speaker 2: the basketball games. She's literally not that makes perfect sense.

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Speaker 5: Okay, cool, yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: So clearly you're just you're a dad who wants to

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Speaker 2: date somebody who's like basically your daughter.

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Speaker 1: Kyle, would you like to go out with a Manday

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Speaker 1: again on a second date? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: Oh wow, Uh sounds very very tempting. No, you guys,

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Speaker 5: why don't you guys all go out together? That sounds

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Speaker 5: like a good time, it does. Yeah, well, thanks thanks

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Speaker 5: for calling. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you have fun being the oldest man at

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