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Speaker 1: Welcome to Decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say

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Speaker 1: decisions decisions. It sounded like you was talking to this person.

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Speaker 2: You definitely say to welcome, Welcome to the new podcast.

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Speaker 2: You want to say together decisions decisions. Hey guys, girl,

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Speaker 2: welcome to another episode of Decisions Decisions.

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Speaker 3: You know, we got to guess some fine because we

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Speaker 3: were doing different ship. Let us have somebody who we

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Speaker 3: just don't care about it O.

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Speaker 1: Welcome back everybody. Now, this whole got the moment. I'm

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Speaker 1: your girl, man, d P, I'm weazy and it's a

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Speaker 1: threesome today. That's right.

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Speaker 2: We are joined by we could call them a cousin,

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Speaker 2: so we're not doing incests. So technically it's not that

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Speaker 2: our black fam How far my cousin removed?

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Speaker 1: All right, girl, a marriage cousin or.

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Speaker 4: Like distant country cousin at the cookout? Did you ain't

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Speaker 4: know what you right now?

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Speaker 3: When I went to my family union, there was like, oh,

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Speaker 3: that's one with the white daddy, y'all.

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Speaker 2: We have singer songwriter Broadway song the motherfucker Bauldy.

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Speaker 3: It's all required when you're a musician to wear shirts

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Speaker 3: like that, Like why do It's always just you gotta

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Speaker 3: see it a little bit, a little bumps in arms.

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Speaker 5: If you have it, Oh, don't come on here, even

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Speaker 5: the little squinty eyes. We just need you to beg

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Speaker 5: It's not my fault because it's looking.

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Speaker 4: Like no, I'm not like, I'm not trying to smolder.

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Speaker 3: That's when people ask you d be like, yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: a tenth Asiana.

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Speaker 4: I wake up smoldering. You know what I mean? I

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Speaker 4: felt I feel like I am.

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Speaker 3: I think the energy though, is beautiful because like we're

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Speaker 3: making fun of it, but it is also the allure

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Speaker 3: to be a good singer. To me, it's having that

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Speaker 3: like sexual energy, having that natural just I don't know,

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Speaker 3: I don't even want to call it flirting, but it's

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Speaker 3: almost like the attentiveness.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I'm not gonna lie. It's what I say.

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Speaker 2: Said is wrong with R and B today, Like they'd

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Speaker 2: be talking about like some fuck niggas ship but they're ugly,

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Speaker 2: like they're not attractive enough to be saying the things

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Speaker 2: they're saying. And I'm not saying names. I'm just saying

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Speaker 2: that to me is what is a little bit wrong

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Speaker 2: with male R and B today? Like where is the

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Speaker 2: fine ones at?

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Speaker 4: You know? What and to that, I can say it's

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Speaker 4: very subjective in terms of what you think is attractive.

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Speaker 1: Because back in his day he looked I think he

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, I'll just try to be like he was

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Speaker 3: a handsome man, but he wasn't because we're not allowed

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Speaker 4: But think about this though, it wasn't necessarily like it

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Speaker 4: wasn't necessarily like if they were lookers, just like you know,

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Speaker 4: just without anything right, but the presentation overall, like when

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Speaker 4: you saw what Luther had on you, you saw what Martin,

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Speaker 4: what what Marvin had on when you saw the temptations

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Speaker 4: Oh there's something there that is attractive. It doesn't necessarily

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Speaker 4: have to be that you are physically attractive. But let's

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Speaker 4: get into this word aura. Right, are your energy? You're

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Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying. There are things that are

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Speaker 4: attractive and these things are curated.

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Speaker 1: What women do you.

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Speaker 3: Think have it that are like we can call it

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Speaker 3: out like who has that aura that's a singer and

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Speaker 3: Because to me, Alicia Wan of Alsha could wear a

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Speaker 3: it's goddess energy.

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Speaker 1: It's crazy.

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Speaker 4: You know what. I always refrain from from speaking on

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Speaker 1: I'm respectful that we don't know, as.

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Speaker 4: Alicia's had it since since day one?

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Speaker 2: Right, speaking of Alicia, yes, and speaking of Aura, she

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Speaker 2: brought up but I got to see you live Hell's

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Speaker 2: Kitchen on Broadway loosely based around Alicia Keys's story. And

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Speaker 2: before you said a word? Is this a normal reaction

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Speaker 2: to before you said a word? Before you did a who?

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Speaker 2: The aunties in the crowd was like, whoa, honey?

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Speaker 1: Was your shirt on?

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Speaker 2: No girl fully clothed. He walked on stage with little

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Speaker 4: I the piano on stage? That did not squid my eyes.

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Speaker 1: While he was rolling the piano, he was like, and

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Speaker 2: He didn't say a word, and the girls in the

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Speaker 2: want to say, y'all. I know I've been talking about

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Speaker 2: going to Broadway shows. I've been gassing for weeks going

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Speaker 2: to coe Othello, you told us during the Black Effect

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Speaker 2: Fest that you were on Broadway. I had known Health's kitchen, y'all,

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Speaker 2: where's my camera? By far, probably be bad. I've never

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Speaker 3: By the way, the girl went to see Othello day before,

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Speaker 3: and I still it was gas in Hell's Kitchen.

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Speaker 1: No, so I said, I loved it. Let me tell

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Speaker 2: So when I see him at the Black Back Fest,

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Speaker 2: I said, oh, you're on Broadway, and he's like, I'm

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Speaker 1: I said, you know, Denzel on it.

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Speaker 2: And so I went to see Othello, went to see

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Speaker 2: Hell's Kitchen, and y'all, I bawled four times. The I

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Speaker 2: went with al writer tempest. I went with my good friend,

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Speaker 2: uh Britt. I looked up all you here from behind

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Speaker 2: us in front of us, the white people stood up.

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Speaker 2: Hold on, white people stood up and said that was

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Speaker 2: that was magnificent. So it's not like.

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Speaker 1: And what did you say? What word did you use?

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Speaker 2: I said, that was good as fucking I'm glad we

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Speaker 1: It was so good. I do want to know how

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Speaker 2: Because I'm so glad you're here today, because you've been

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Speaker 2: using them vocals.

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Speaker 1: How is it different from touring? And and have.

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Speaker 2: You acted before, Like, how has Broadway been different for

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Speaker 4: I've done theater before. Okay, it was traveling theater, and

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Speaker 4: thank god I've done that before. It kind of helped

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Speaker 4: prepare me for this. But Broadway is the pinnacle, you

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Speaker 4: know what I mean? When you get the Broadway, this

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Speaker 4: is what theater is, super super theater on forty four.

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Speaker 4: This is where you know you you are, you are

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Speaker 4: The people, the talent on Broadway is different. Actor, you mean,

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Speaker 2: It's saying all of it the Broadway culture because for

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Speaker 2: we go on to day ticks, We just figuring out

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Speaker 2: what we're going to see, right, But the culture of

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Speaker 4: Well, Broadway is its own its own world, right, and

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Speaker 4: so like our we have a og with us Keisha Lewis,

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Speaker 2: That's the one that made she made and she was

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Speaker 2: the first one to make me cry.

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Speaker 4: You can tell that she is Broadway Royalty and that

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Speaker 4: it is not a game.

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Speaker 1: Who do you tell from?

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Speaker 3: Is it the like when people come out? Is it

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Speaker 3: your colleagues, like, what is the energy of Broadway Royalty?

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Speaker 4: What do you mean? What is it in it? Like?

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Speaker 1: Is it?

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Speaker 3: Basically when she goes out in the crowd, people know

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Speaker 1: Is it the staff? Everybody's just like whatever you want

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Speaker 4: Well, no, it's it's let me say, it's universal. Right

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Speaker 4: for the people who know Broadway, they know her, and

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Speaker 4: that's from you know, people who attend Broadway shows as

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Speaker 4: well as people who book Broadway shows, who direct Broadway shows,

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Speaker 4: who like, she's on the rolodex of if you can

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Speaker 3: Her when it comes to like one thing I've always

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Speaker 3: wondered too, when you're doing Broadway, ain't no cut?

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, hannay video cut?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, there's no do over?

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Speaker 3: Do you improv? Do you forget? Like what happens? What

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Speaker 3: is a real moment that you've had on stage?

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Speaker 4: You have to be able to improv because things happen

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Speaker 4: in live theater, you know what I mean. And so

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Speaker 4: you know, we had a mishap where the piano is

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Speaker 1: But oh I wasn't going to give the scenes away.

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Speaker 4: But everything malfunctioned and we still had to deliver the scene.

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Speaker 4: And sometimes you know, it's it's a lot of silly

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Speaker 4: cast is goofballs too, like really talented, but we're goofballs, right,

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Speaker 4: And when this thing malfunction and the way I had

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Speaker 4: people were crying, like the cast is crying.

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Speaker 1: The audience wasn't laughing. They didn't know. They didn't know

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Speaker 4: And the light is on me. I have to stay

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Speaker 4: And then it started out of nowhere and I have

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Speaker 2: Y'all gotta do it Key and Pill told the actors like.

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Speaker 1: You just need to turn around, don't lag. You have

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Speaker 1: to turn around until you get your composure back.

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Speaker 2: Now, when you read the script of this, because you

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Speaker 2: play a deadbeat essentially, okay, what you do, that's he's shit,

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Speaker 2: that's what That's what my daddy says too, all these

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Speaker 2: years later, he's trying. When you read the script, did

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Speaker 2: it's essentially without giving the whole story away with what

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Speaker 2: I love is through music, through just really the character

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Speaker 2: development that happens past too. You really get to see

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Speaker 2: who the people are. There's a love story between young

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Speaker 2: Alicia and her mom, her first crush, then.

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Speaker 1: Her cheatten too much.

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Speaker 2: Well, no, no, no, it's all these different stories. I'm not

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Speaker 2: giving any scenes away. It's it's a seventeen year old

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Speaker 2: girl battling it was Alicia's story, yeah, battling all of

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Speaker 2: these relationships. And that's why I thought it was so

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Speaker 2: phenomenal because the character development between her love of New York,

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Speaker 2: her love of the people in her building, and then

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Speaker 2: you have all of these other relationships that take place

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Speaker 2: while she's learning the piano, and I'm not sure if

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Speaker 2: that's like the real part. However, fit in I was

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Speaker 2: just like, wow, this is magnificent. When you see the script, though,

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Speaker 2: was there anything that you had to look up or

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Speaker 2: any movies that inspired how you would show up as

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Speaker 2: a fuck nigga on stage?

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Speaker 1: Because you did it so well, you did it so well.

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Speaker 1: Did you do a different accent? Did you have pieces

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Speaker 1: that a little too good?

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Speaker 4: Like for me, it was creating something out of Anita

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Speaker 2: For me, it was adding to because you think you

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Speaker 3: How do you feel then when you watch people talk

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Speaker 4: Okay, which is why you see NFL Network now high

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Speaker 4: Like you gotta remember that I help usher that in,

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Speaker 4: You know what? I can't. I don't hate on how

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Speaker 4: If that's the case, we'd have a hundred paintings in

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Speaker 4: So for me, it's about appreciating how you want to

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Speaker 3: Even then a real R and B era see it again,

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Speaker 4: A yes? Because we can't and which one is it?

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Speaker 4: It's still right because everything evolves. It's just like saying,

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Speaker 1: It's almost like the center scene when you're watching of course,

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Speaker 4: There's no there's no wrong anything. My daughter, my daughter,

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Speaker 1: I know that's right.

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Speaker 4: Let's go get it.

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Speaker 1: Who's in your mount rushmore than what do you mean?

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Speaker 4: In terms of R and B?

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Speaker 3: Now we can pick all the time and new I I.

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Speaker 1: You have to, like we asked the question, you actually

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Speaker 4: I can't do four. I can't put four people on

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Speaker 1: It's five today?

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Speaker 4: You know what way to clean that up?

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Speaker 1: It can spand yourself.

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Speaker 4: Only say where where I drew from? That's that's all

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Speaker 4: I can say.

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Speaker 1: That's yours.

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Speaker 4: Give me the drew from. It's not a it's not

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're cutting all that out.

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Speaker 4: You're going to keep all of that. It's a Kelly okay, babyface.

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Speaker 2: No, I fucked the first one to Marvin Gay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: is there a woman that you were throwing there?

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Speaker 3: You don't have to do it now that I said

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Speaker 1: And B, Damn, he said, y'all, Ain't that good?

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Speaker 4: No, no, it's it's it's not. It's not. I come

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Speaker 4: know what, I take that back, Rob Babyface, Marvin Gay,

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Speaker 1: Chris Brown, Oh no, that doesn't surprise me.

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Speaker 2: Let's just say take believes in separating the art from

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Speaker 4: I think I think that well because you gotta you know,

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Speaker 4: Babyface song because you know, because these were nice, good songs,

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Speaker 3: What if you had to choose out of these, like

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Speaker 1: Because today I'm fucking to.

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Speaker 1: Who would it be?

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Speaker 3: What is who is the artist that guaranteed panties off?

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Speaker 3: The fellas need this one because I don't know what

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Speaker 3: the fuck the niggas be putting on.

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00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, you gotta. It depends on the woman.

438
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's.

439
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:46,240
Speaker 4: Because because because women, you know, women are different now,

440
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Women? You see you see

441
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:55,880
Speaker 4: more women under than trap post like, so it's it's

442
00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 4: like it depends on the woman and what she owned,

443
00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 4: if she in that intimate moments, she want to smoke

444
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 4: some weed and get some Hennessy in her body and

445
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:09,119
Speaker 4: get tossed around, or or if she you know, or

446
00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,880
Speaker 4: if she wants some nice shot a plan and she

447
00:24:12,960 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 4: really wants somebody look deep into her eyes. You know

448
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:20,520
Speaker 4: what I'm saying. Oh my god, Like it really depends

449
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:24,960
Speaker 4: on like because it's about listening, right, And so you

450
00:24:25,080 --> 00:24:29,720
Speaker 4: have to number one, be curious and and ask questions

451
00:24:31,160 --> 00:24:34,560
Speaker 4: because no one way works for everything, not in this space.

452
00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:39,520
Speaker 4: You know what I mean? Women, every woman is absolutely different.

453
00:24:40,280 --> 00:24:45,480
Speaker 3: You sound like about all of them.

454
00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 1: They're all like something different had the day they do.

455
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:57,680
Speaker 4: You go, I see, I'm in my day. I had

456
00:24:57,800 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 4: nothing I'm having.

457
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:02,440
Speaker 1: I want to I want to get away from music

458
00:25:02,480 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 1: for a little bit.

459
00:25:03,119 --> 00:25:05,560
Speaker 2: But still digging into one of my favorite records from you.

460
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:09,960
Speaker 2: I made a game from When We which I love

461
00:25:10,040 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 2: in the remix.

462
00:25:11,320 --> 00:25:13,879
Speaker 1: The remix is the one. God damn it. When they

463
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:16,880
Speaker 1: say what remix is better liked? I think you made

464
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:21,280
Speaker 1: like three. There's a lot of remixes you tried.

465
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 2: Oh my gone, no, they went bananas. If you have

466
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:30,720
Speaker 2: not heard that record one of my favorites. So I

467
00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:32,199
Speaker 2: made an ice record to get you to talk a

468
00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,280
Speaker 2: little bit, sex, little relationship, a little all the things.

469
00:25:35,960 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 1: So this one's gonna be fun.

470
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:41,120
Speaker 2: When we bring food into the bedroom to spice things up,

471
00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:45,320
Speaker 2: I always suggest you're going to finish the blank So

472
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:47,960
Speaker 2: it's a bunch of win wei's and I want.

473
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,440
Speaker 4: To see what you be doing when we bring food

474
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:51,400
Speaker 4: into the bedroom.

475
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,000
Speaker 1: Have you never brought anything into the bedroom?

476
00:25:55,359 --> 00:26:03,479
Speaker 4: I've tried. And when we say food, the same food,

477
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:05,600
Speaker 4: I'll say ice. That's it.

478
00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:07,000
Speaker 1: Ice, That's what I'm almost.

479
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,840
Speaker 4: That's the furthest we're going with food, really absolute, Wait.

480
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 1: Why as food failed, you went and play with food?

481
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 4: You way food like the idea of getting sticky.

482
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 1: Okay, and I'm not mad.

483
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 4: You gotta wipe that down, he said ice.

484
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:27,840
Speaker 1: He said, we're not making a mess. Nowhere would I go.

485
00:26:30,480 --> 00:26:32,159
Speaker 4: Again? It depends. I mean the ice can go on

486
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:33,040
Speaker 4: to the ice can go in.

487
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 1: Here. That's all he wanted to hear you saying.

488
00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:41,000
Speaker 2: Now now here the interesting one into relationships.

489
00:26:41,119 --> 00:26:43,119
Speaker 1: When we argue, it's.

490
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:46,879
Speaker 4: Usually because of miscommunication.

491
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:50,720
Speaker 2: Okay, period, valid. I don't think we have to go

492
00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 2: deeper into that. Now here's the fun one.

493
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:56,480
Speaker 1: When we role play, I always request to.

494
00:26:56,520 --> 00:27:08,080
Speaker 4: Be now I'm just making some ship up you've never.

495
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,119
Speaker 2: Played before, or what would you like your partner to

496
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:13,640
Speaker 2: dress up as? Like, has there ever been a scenario

497
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:15,840
Speaker 2: where we're like, let's just have fun tonight, let's roll

498
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:16,359
Speaker 2: play something.

499
00:27:18,440 --> 00:27:20,199
Speaker 1: This outfit could be role play. You want to know

500
00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,440
Speaker 1: what it would be? Okay, all you gotta do is

501
00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 1: pull the beanie.

502
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:28,240
Speaker 4: Down you robbing all them banks and see if you

503
00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 4: can't steal.

504
00:27:32,640 --> 00:27:32,880
Speaker 1: Ship.

505
00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,160
Speaker 3: Wait, can't let me tell you if you wasn't going

506
00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 3: to play tonight, I would have invited you. So I'm

507
00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:39,160
Speaker 3: going to quest loft to this game night in New York.

508
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:39,359
Speaker 4: Right.

509
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 3: He was like, Oh, I know how much you love

510
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:44,400
Speaker 3: Sinners Ryan Coolers be there. Please don't say it, because

511
00:27:44,400 --> 00:27:46,600
Speaker 3: I'm saying it every day. I'm like, please, Lord, don't

512
00:27:46,640 --> 00:27:47,720
Speaker 3: let me get one to kill him play.

513
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 2: You know what?

514
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 1: This stated?

515
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:49,919
Speaker 4: Oh?

516
00:27:50,000 --> 00:27:52,399
Speaker 1: I know, and I don't care. I don't give a ship.

517
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:54,200
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna be like, thank you so much.

518
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,639
Speaker 4: But you know what, and the thing about that, like

519
00:27:56,680 --> 00:27:59,120
Speaker 4: with with with the role play and things like that,

520
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 4: I'm so still aroused and amused by the simple things,

521
00:28:07,520 --> 00:28:10,120
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, Like like, you know, like

522
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 4: my wife having on a a T shirt that just

523
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 4: just slightly shows the butchet's just a little bit and

524
00:28:18,440 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 4: slightly shows the panty and the print up front like that.

525
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:28,159
Speaker 4: That's like, that's that's all I need. Like all like

526
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:32,399
Speaker 4: that easy, my wife, Ladies, you need something absolutely like

527
00:28:34,640 --> 00:28:38,480
Speaker 4: she don't have to do a bunch of a bunch

528
00:28:38,520 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 4: of extra anything. Now listen, I welcome it, for sure,

529
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 4: but I don't require it. I am that much, you know,

530
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:52,560
Speaker 4: ready and available for just the thought of it. Okay,

531
00:28:52,800 --> 00:28:53,840
Speaker 4: you're gonna walk around but.

532
00:28:55,960 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 3: That have like a lot of money or affluent or

533
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:01,000
Speaker 3: can get any woman say these things that it's simplicity,

534
00:29:01,400 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 3: like you ain't even got to do too much.

535
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 4: No, I don't. I find that people with more access

536
00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,480
Speaker 4: get bore quickly, you know what I mean, and they

537
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 4: have to find other ways, more ways to be stimulated.

538
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 2: I think right now a lot of us actually do,

539
00:29:15,320 --> 00:29:17,200
Speaker 2: whether you have money or not, because you can literally

540
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:20,200
Speaker 2: open up your Twitter app or open up the Internet

541
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:21,800
Speaker 2: and it's all right there, all right there.

542
00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 1: Now, I want to role play with you just a

543
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: little bit. The last question.

544
00:29:25,960 --> 00:29:29,360
Speaker 2: When we're in public, and I whisper in your ear,

545
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 2: I'm telling you finish and I want you to whisper

546
00:29:33,240 --> 00:29:35,120
Speaker 2: it so the audience can hear you.

547
00:29:37,640 --> 00:29:42,600
Speaker 3: I want to devour oh fe on the bank, train,

548
00:29:42,720 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 3: the animus and ship.

549
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 2: Okay, we love a big word, and so devour is

550
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 2: not a big word.

551
00:29:50,000 --> 00:29:54,600
Speaker 1: Girl. Somebody could say, eat Mandy, I will take devow.

552
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 4: What you're doing.

553
00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 3: Devour my flower, Devour my fly.

554
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,480
Speaker 4: There you have there, there you have it.

555
00:30:02,560 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 1: Devour my flower. Now I do.

556
00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:08,400
Speaker 2: It wouldn't be us if we had this whole conversation

557
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 2: with you and didn't bring up some of the things

558
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 2: you've said out in public. But before we get there,

559
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 2: we have our book, No Holds Barred, a dual manifesto

560
00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 2: of sexual exploration and power coming out. And I wanted

561
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:24,440
Speaker 2: to read a little excerpt from my chapter. Can I

562
00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 2: put it back there? This is my chapter around my

563
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:34,120
Speaker 2: sexual views on the anus, and this is just the

564
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:38,720
Speaker 2: few first sentences when I first started fucking. I believe

565
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 2: that if a man wanted to put it in my

566
00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 2: ass that he was gay, period, point blank. You could

567
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 2: not tell me otherwise. My Rajanelle was that if I

568
00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:49,520
Speaker 2: had this glorious pussy, and I do that there was

569
00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:51,240
Speaker 2: no reason he should want to put it in the

570
00:30:51,280 --> 00:30:54,720
Speaker 2: back door. To me, when it came to heterosexual sex,

571
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:59,080
Speaker 2: there were only two acceptable orphices, my vagina and my mouth.

572
00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,040
Speaker 2: I thought of anal sex is something that only gay

573
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 2: men did, and looking back, I attribute this blatant misconception

574
00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 2: to many things, including my youth, lack of sexual education,

575
00:31:10,640 --> 00:31:12,280
Speaker 2: and let out ignorance.

576
00:31:12,800 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: Now, this chapter goes from my views on.

577
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:20,200
Speaker 2: Me receiving anal sex and then me ben and men

578
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 2: over with a strap. So I had two views on

579
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 2: just anal sex is a pleasurable.

580
00:31:25,640 --> 00:31:26,840
Speaker 1: Spot for people.

581
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:35,280
Speaker 2: Now, this chapter, for me, vividly speaks about just where

582
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,320
Speaker 2: we are taught a lot of ignorance in terms of

583
00:31:38,600 --> 00:31:42,239
Speaker 2: loving ourselves, pleasing ourselves, what it looks like to communicate that,

584
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:47,240
Speaker 2: and specifically within the black community stemming from homophobia.

585
00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:50,440
Speaker 1: Now, you've said some things across the internet where people

586
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 1: were like what the fuck.

587
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 4: Yeah.

588
00:31:53,520 --> 00:31:56,080
Speaker 2: One is that you admitted that you like your legs

589
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:58,840
Speaker 2: being raised during oral sex, which we find to be

590
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:01,360
Speaker 2: very vanilla, very easy, like you just like to be comfortable,

591
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 2: you know. The other one is I think if a

592
00:32:03,720 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 2: guy suckstick twice, he's not gay. Now I would like

593
00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 2: to know how you became so confident and comfortable and

594
00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:18,080
Speaker 2: not only speaking about sex publicly, but what that looks

595
00:32:18,120 --> 00:32:20,920
Speaker 2: like with your partners and how you're navigating teaching black

596
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:24,800
Speaker 2: men specifically to not be shamed and unlearned the unhealthy

597
00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 2: things we've learned about sex.

598
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 4: I think it's more about you know, being open to conversations, okay, right,

599
00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 4: and listening to people of other lifestyles, of other whatever

600
00:32:43,640 --> 00:32:51,560
Speaker 4: that for you may not make sense, but to discredit

601
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 4: or downgrade their existence, it's not fair within that. And

602
00:32:58,920 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 4: so you know, me coming from where I come from,

603
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:09,520
Speaker 4: you know, I come from heavy homophobia, okay, heavy Like

604
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:15,760
Speaker 4: it took me a long time to assimulate to the

605
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:24,200
Speaker 4: quote unquote Hollywood environment because you know, I'm kid from Maryland,

606
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:26,040
Speaker 4: you know what I mean, and from the church and

607
00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:28,560
Speaker 4: all of these things, and so where a lot of

608
00:33:28,560 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 4: these things are are are like frowned upon in a sense.

609
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:38,120
Speaker 4: Now you come to Hollywood and you know, homosexuality it's prevalent, right,

610
00:33:38,720 --> 00:33:41,400
Speaker 4: And for me, it was very uncomfortable in the beginning.

611
00:33:41,520 --> 00:33:44,520
Speaker 4: My stylist is is a gay man. I study you

612
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 4: know this, this person here is and I'm like, I'm.

613
00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:50,400
Speaker 1: Like, at least have you got a good stylist.

614
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 4: I'm like, I don't. I don't like, like, you know

615
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 4: what I'm saying, I don't. I don't. I don't like

616
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:56,600
Speaker 4: the way looking at what I'm putting these clothes on.

617
00:33:56,680 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 4: I don't like. And it's all in my mind. I'm

618
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:04,280
Speaker 4: assuming all of these things and it's not until I'll

619
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:09,520
Speaker 4: tell you what happened. I signed Young Lady. She was like,

620
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,120
Speaker 4: she was an openly gay rapper Messiah.

621
00:34:11,960 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 2: Oh, she was on the TV show.

622
00:34:14,719 --> 00:34:17,040
Speaker 4: Yes. I signed her, and I signed her because I

623
00:34:17,040 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 4: thought I thought she was well she is. I thought

624
00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:24,120
Speaker 4: she was the most incredibly talented human being from singing, songwriting.

625
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 4: I thought she was like a drake. I was like,

626
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:30,080
Speaker 4: you're dope. I don't know what all's going on with you.

627
00:34:30,080 --> 00:34:32,120
Speaker 4: I don't understand anything that's going on with you, but

628
00:34:32,200 --> 00:34:35,480
Speaker 4: you're dope. And I signed her and she needed a

629
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 4: place to stay, and I was like, you know, you

630
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 4: can stay with me, and I really I started asking

631
00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 4: her questions.

632
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:45,640
Speaker 1: About her sexuality. She's a woman, yes, and it's easier

633
00:34:45,680 --> 00:34:48,040
Speaker 1: for you to do that with a woman versus a man.

634
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:52,080
Speaker 4: That was just the opportunity that presented itself. And I

635
00:34:52,160 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 4: just started asking her questions and I'm like, well, how

636
00:34:55,239 --> 00:35:01,280
Speaker 4: and why? And as opposed to just you know, trying

637
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:06,279
Speaker 4: to make my belief stick, what kind of questions?

638
00:35:06,640 --> 00:35:08,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, would you ask?

639
00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:10,360
Speaker 4: Well? The first was why?

640
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:10,000
Speaker 1: Why?

641
00:35:10,080 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 4: Why are you gay?

642
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:17,800
Speaker 3: I say I had that reaction because for someone that's

643
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:21,640
Speaker 3: so open about gayness, I feel like, the why is

644
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:22,279
Speaker 3: any easy one?

645
00:35:22,320 --> 00:35:24,120
Speaker 1: Like because I like it this way.

646
00:35:24,120 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 4: Now it's easy, I understand it. And I'm like, I'm like,

647
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:31,640
Speaker 4: why are you gay? Like why? How?

648
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: Like?

649
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:35,200
Speaker 4: Maybe we'll mix them together? And she was like, I

650
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 4: was ever since I can remember desiring anything, I desired

651
00:35:39,800 --> 00:35:44,160
Speaker 4: a woman. Okay, I said, interesting, I says you you

652
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:45,879
Speaker 4: you're telling me you were born this way? She said,

653
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:48,799
Speaker 4: I was absolutely born this way. And I had to

654
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:52,520
Speaker 4: take that into consideration outside of all the things I

655
00:35:52,560 --> 00:35:55,960
Speaker 4: had been taught into spirit you can pray it out,

656
00:35:56,360 --> 00:35:58,760
Speaker 4: it's nothing but the devil and all of these things

657
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 4: that I had been taught. And I had to look

658
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:04,520
Speaker 4: at this woman who was honestly telling me, as long

659
00:36:04,600 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 4: as I can remember, I've only wanted a woman, and

660
00:36:08,040 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 4: to this day, I've never wanted a man.

661
00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:14,279
Speaker 3: I was like, you know, what's interesting to hear a

662
00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 3: man say? And I I liked hearing you say it.

663
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 2: This way because I've described this to men, like when

664
00:36:21,719 --> 00:36:24,920
Speaker 2: you're confused, think about innately how you want women.

665
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 3: That is literally how my gay friends view it. Is

666
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:31,200
Speaker 3: like I wake up, I feel this, I embody this.

667
00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:34,319
Speaker 3: It's the same thing, yes, And then we're trying to

668
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:36,719
Speaker 3: convince you. Imagine me trying to tell you loving your

669
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 3: wife is bad. Now, that could be an extremity in this,

670
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 3: but when it comes to sexuality, Oh.

671
00:36:42,080 --> 00:36:44,280
Speaker 4: It's not the extreme. It's what it's You're right.

672
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:46,800
Speaker 1: Okay, you're right, loving your wife would be bad, right.

673
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:51,719
Speaker 4: For because that's how strongly we believe yep, that how

674
00:36:51,400 --> 00:36:55,040
Speaker 4: we help. That's as strongly we believe against that. Yeah,

675
00:36:55,520 --> 00:36:59,960
Speaker 4: it's the same thing reversed. And so like you know,

676
00:37:00,520 --> 00:37:03,440
Speaker 4: one of my good friends style is Brian Javar, And

677
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 4: I'm like, oh.

678
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 1: And then you started asking him the same question.

679
00:37:06,760 --> 00:37:09,879
Speaker 4: Well, just you know, just even us in in in

680
00:37:10,000 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 4: being friends, right, you know what I'm saying, Like I

681
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:16,040
Speaker 4: kindle and that's being friends. And it's like you realize

682
00:37:16,080 --> 00:37:20,440
Speaker 4: that who you are is who you are, right and

683
00:37:21,040 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 4: just because that's your friend or just because you know

684
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:25,839
Speaker 4: y'all hang out on the case, doesn't mean that you're

685
00:37:25,920 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 4: that yeah, doesn't mean that this becomes you. And so

686
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:32,799
Speaker 4: a lot of times with men, you know, especially you know,

687
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:37,799
Speaker 4: but when we were in that hyper masculine space, we

688
00:37:37,840 --> 00:37:41,280
Speaker 4: don't want nothing around us that's going to chip away

689
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:45,480
Speaker 4: at that masculinity. We don't want nobody associated with us

690
00:37:45,520 --> 00:37:49,480
Speaker 4: that's gonna chip away at that masculinity. And that, to

691
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:51,560
Speaker 4: me is an insecurity.

692
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:54,799
Speaker 3: How did you go from that brain to being a guy?

693
00:37:54,920 --> 00:37:56,800
Speaker 3: I remember the day you said it. I was smiling,

694
00:37:56,880 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 3: laugh I'm like.

695
00:37:57,400 --> 00:38:03,840
Speaker 4: This, I just you gotta stop worrying about what everybody

696
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:04,520
Speaker 4: else thinks.

697
00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:08,040
Speaker 1: Because you still believe that today. What is that dick twice?

698
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:13,520
Speaker 4: And I well, how comes twice? I know that? And

699
00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 4: when when the number was put on it, that was all.

700
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 4: But I do know that again, in speaking with with

701
00:38:20,960 --> 00:38:25,799
Speaker 4: people who are gay, they are actually gay. It's not

702
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:29,799
Speaker 4: it wasn't an experiment once in high school or an

703
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:33,600
Speaker 4: experiment once in college, and then they actually found them

704
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 4: their true selves and now they exist in whatever way

705
00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:39,560
Speaker 4: that is. No, it's no, this is what I am

706
00:38:39,960 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 4: and this is how I'm living. This is my life.

707
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:48,440
Speaker 4: I kind of stopped saying lifestyle, right, this is my life.

708
00:38:48,560 --> 00:38:51,799
Speaker 4: I am. I am gay that's what they're saying. And

709
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:55,240
Speaker 4: so I think that there's a great difference between people

710
00:38:55,280 --> 00:38:59,239
Speaker 4: who have tried things and people who are things. That

711
00:38:59,400 --> 00:38:59,920
Speaker 4: was my point.

712
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: I like to a lifestyle word, just take that.

713
00:39:03,200 --> 00:39:05,840
Speaker 4: Out of context because it's the internet. The internet, and

714
00:39:07,080 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 4: then it went from a story about somebody to me,

715
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:15,359
Speaker 4: and that's the ignorance of social media. But I don't

716
00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:17,720
Speaker 4: you know, again, none of that bothers.

717
00:39:17,800 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 1: You know. I never thought it was you.

718
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 3: But one thing I did think when I saw it

719
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:23,320
Speaker 3: was something I say often.

720
00:39:25,040 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 1: This is a memory that will stick out to me forever.

721
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:30,279
Speaker 1: Although gay, I grew up in the South, I know

722
00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:33,040
Speaker 1: how we think of men that are gay. I used

723
00:39:33,040 --> 00:39:34,919
Speaker 1: to even sometimes have that language. When I was young.

724
00:39:35,480 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 3: I never believed niggas could be by you know, I

725
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:40,560
Speaker 3: was one of them. Girl, Like, now once you do it.

726
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:41,000
Speaker 1: You gay.

727
00:39:41,760 --> 00:39:43,640
Speaker 3: Go to Europe with my best friend. He's on a

728
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 3: date with a dude in Rome. He's like, girl, this

729
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:48,000
Speaker 3: place is lit, come meet us. I show up to

730
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:50,000
Speaker 3: the bar and the guy was like, oh my god,

731
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:52,520
Speaker 3: there's Italian dude. He's like, he didn't tell your friend

732
00:39:52,560 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 3: looked like this, mind you They was kissing.

733
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,000
Speaker 1: He's like, I want to fuck to both of you.

734
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: So I'm laughing because I was a movie. Oh it

735
00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:02,600
Speaker 1: felt like a movie. We're in Europe.

736
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:06,320
Speaker 3: I'm twenty one and we're on this boat in Italy

737
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:08,279
Speaker 3: and my friend is like, I really don't want to

738
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:09,880
Speaker 3: fuck you, but he's fine, I want to fuck it too,

739
00:40:09,920 --> 00:40:10,279
Speaker 3: but now you.

740
00:40:10,320 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 1: A can like I ain't got a choice.

741
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 3: And this guy back and forth all night is touching

742
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 3: both of us, so into us and I went home.

743
00:40:18,000 --> 00:40:18,440
Speaker 1: Called my mom.

744
00:40:18,480 --> 00:40:21,239
Speaker 2: The next day, I was like, Wow, Europe and men

745
00:40:21,440 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 2: have the freedom to be gay. I didn't say they're

746
00:40:23,880 --> 00:40:28,560
Speaker 2: really by there are exploring sexuality, but they actually can

747
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 2: do this.

748
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:30,040
Speaker 1: I believed it.

749
00:40:30,120 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 3: I believed men could be by From that day I

750
00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 3: watched this guy the way he was attracted back and forth,

751
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:37,319
Speaker 3: and it made me sad because I know black men

752
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 3: don't have that.

753
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: What black men where I'm gonna pull up and that

754
00:40:40,680 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 1: could happen where.

755
00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:43,879
Speaker 4: In La Well, I don't think it's I don't think

756
00:40:43,880 --> 00:40:47,520
Speaker 4: it's dedicated to black men, right, you think it's.

757
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 2: An American thing, because I do feel like it might be.

758
00:40:51,560 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 3: I think white people can play around a little bit.

759
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,479
Speaker 3: I don't think black men can. I think black women

760
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:56,319
Speaker 3: can play around, but.

761
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 4: It also like it also has a lot of history

762
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,759
Speaker 4: reconnected to it when it comes to black men, right,

763
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 4: I don't it's not just reserved for black men, but

764
00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:07,880
Speaker 4: when you think about the history of black men in

765
00:41:07,960 --> 00:41:13,800
Speaker 4: America specifically, and and the methods that were used to

766
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:18,279
Speaker 4: make to e masculate and make us less than that's

767
00:41:18,320 --> 00:41:22,520
Speaker 4: where it gets kind of triggering for black men. But

768
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 4: you know, ultimately, I think and just believe that you're

769
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 4: you're gonna be what you are, and in terms of

770
00:41:31,000 --> 00:41:34,880
Speaker 4: finding people who are like you or or or or

771
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 4: are into the things that you're into, you just have

772
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:40,839
Speaker 4: to be patient and in figuring out who and where

773
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 4: those people are.

774
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:43,239
Speaker 1: That's a good point. Finding your tribe is all that

775
00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 1: matter is.

776
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:49,160
Speaker 4: Somebody, and that's really all that matters. You know. I

777
00:41:49,200 --> 00:41:50,880
Speaker 4: was I was sitting on the plane next to a

778
00:41:50,920 --> 00:41:53,960
Speaker 4: young guy football player and he was like, you know,

779
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:57,320
Speaker 4: how do I manage all of this? He's got the money.

780
00:41:57,440 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 4: You know, he's he's on TV. You know what I'm saying.

781
00:42:01,480 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 4: They all own them, you know what I'm saying. He's like,

782
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:06,839
Speaker 4: I'm a I'm a young you know, I grew up

783
00:42:06,840 --> 00:42:09,799
Speaker 4: in the church. I think I know what's right, and

784
00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 4: I'm just what what do I do? And I said,

785
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:19,000
Speaker 4: and I said, I said, young fella, good luck, fuck luck,

786
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:24,680
Speaker 4: young rich fella. Do it how you would like to

787
00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:30,120
Speaker 4: do it, Like honestly and unapologetically do it how you

788
00:42:30,160 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 4: would like to do it, and make sure that the

789
00:42:32,560 --> 00:42:38,919
Speaker 4: people within this space, all who are involved, understand what

790
00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:44,239
Speaker 4: that is. I was like, be honest, be honest with yourself,

791
00:42:44,680 --> 00:42:47,840
Speaker 4: and be honest with the person or the people around you,

792
00:42:48,560 --> 00:42:51,080
Speaker 4: and live it exactly how you want to live it

793
00:42:51,440 --> 00:42:55,680
Speaker 4: and judge from there. Decide from there like what works

794
00:42:55,840 --> 00:43:00,520
Speaker 4: and what doesn't work. But while you're young, and while

795
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:05,720
Speaker 4: you have options, do what you would like to do.

796
00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:08,840
Speaker 4: Don't hurt nobody, you know what I mean, But do

797
00:43:08,960 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 4: what you want to do.

798
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:11,879
Speaker 1: He basically said, put a condom on a fuck them all.

799
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 2: I cannot wait to put violent strings behind you, saying

800
00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:16,760
Speaker 2: that that was so beautiful.

801
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:19,480
Speaker 4: You to do, because it's because.

802
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 1: Not what everyone thinks that you would be feeling.

803
00:43:21,719 --> 00:43:25,240
Speaker 4: You should do, or you know, because there's so many

804
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:29,520
Speaker 4: influences and so many traditions that can lead you into

805
00:43:29,640 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 4: a space that you don't belong in.

806
00:43:31,760 --> 00:43:32,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, how long did it take?

807
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 2: You to figure that out and to get in a

808
00:43:35,040 --> 00:43:36,359
Speaker 2: space where you're at now.

809
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:40,879
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm forty nine, so even at forty nine,

810
00:43:40,880 --> 00:43:42,560
Speaker 4: I'm still evolving, learning and growing.

811
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:46,480
Speaker 3: I only didn't make the shock face because I googled it.

812
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:51,360
Speaker 4: So so you know, even a lot of the ideas

813
00:43:51,440 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 4: that I speak of now are are years old. You

814
00:43:55,560 --> 00:43:58,719
Speaker 4: know what I mean, because you know, still learning, still evolving,

815
00:43:58,920 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 4: and and still still growing into a space where everything

816
00:44:03,840 --> 00:44:04,680
Speaker 4: for me is grace.

817
00:44:04,840 --> 00:44:13,600
Speaker 1: I love that now for decisions decisions.

818
00:44:13,760 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 2: Yes, we get into relationships though, and I want to

819
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:20,000
Speaker 2: talk to you and hopefully our audience can take some

820
00:44:20,040 --> 00:44:23,600
Speaker 2: tips from you as well on how to find love again.

821
00:44:24,080 --> 00:44:24,239
Speaker 1: Now.

822
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 2: I talked about double backing and we kind of made

823
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:30,480
Speaker 2: the synopsis here that it doesn't work. Once you lose somebody,

824
00:44:30,520 --> 00:44:33,680
Speaker 2: you shouldn't go back and xyz elemental P. However, you

825
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 2: took a break from your wife and fiance wife, y'all

826
00:44:37,880 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 2: have been together for the spand of like twenty years altogether,

827
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:45,200
Speaker 2: but y'all took about six years of a break you

828
00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:47,920
Speaker 2: co parented. I want to know what it looked like

829
00:44:48,000 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 2: for you to take that space and find your way

830
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:53,200
Speaker 2: back and how you.

831
00:44:53,120 --> 00:44:59,480
Speaker 4: Got back you know what I wish. I wish that

832
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 4: I had the science on it right, Okay, because we

833
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:08,800
Speaker 4: didn't actually get together. We hadn't known each other for

834
00:45:09,040 --> 00:45:10,960
Speaker 4: she danced on my first video. We hadn't known each other,

835
00:45:11,000 --> 00:45:14,120
Speaker 4: you know, kind of offing on, messing or whatever, messing around.

836
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:17,680
Speaker 4: We didn't get together until like two thousand and four,

837
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:22,359
Speaker 4: broke up in like two thousand and six, then had

838
00:45:22,360 --> 00:45:27,000
Speaker 4: a baby in two thousand and seven. And during all

839
00:45:27,040 --> 00:45:30,840
Speaker 4: this time there was you know, there's a lot of beef,

840
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:34,239
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. I don't like you. You know,

841
00:45:34,800 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 4: maybe you don't like me a little bit, but I

842
00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:40,919
Speaker 4: really don't like you. And she was moving on doing anything.

843
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:42,520
Speaker 4: I was moving on doing my thing, what have you.

844
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:47,520
Speaker 4: And in the midst of a breakup, you know, we're

845
00:45:47,560 --> 00:45:51,800
Speaker 4: still cold parenting cool people's. She was always super solid

846
00:45:51,920 --> 00:45:56,160
Speaker 4: as a as a mom, okay, super solid to co

847
00:45:56,320 --> 00:46:00,600
Speaker 4: parent with, like just rolled with roll with all punches,

848
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 4: and not all the punches were fair, but she rolled

849
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:08,480
Speaker 4: with them, you know what I mean, super solid. And

850
00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:15,080
Speaker 4: after a breakup, we just started we started talking more,

851
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 4: you know what I mean. And just because it's like

852
00:46:20,920 --> 00:46:28,800
Speaker 4: the second time around, like those conversations communications are easier. Okay,

853
00:46:29,440 --> 00:46:32,439
Speaker 4: you're not hiding as much anymore, Like you didn't sing

854
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:35,920
Speaker 4: the worst of it. Now the conversations are really on,

855
00:46:36,160 --> 00:46:39,680
Speaker 4: like well this is how I feel, and well this

856
00:46:39,719 --> 00:46:41,960
Speaker 4: is how I feel, and you're able to have those

857
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:46,040
Speaker 4: conversations and nobody takes it away, doesn't feel a way,

858
00:46:46,400 --> 00:46:48,880
Speaker 4: And so we were able to communicate what I feel

859
00:46:48,920 --> 00:46:53,959
Speaker 4: like at a higher level on this re entry, which

860
00:46:54,040 --> 00:46:56,520
Speaker 4: just which just felt weird to me because in my mind,

861
00:46:56,560 --> 00:47:00,000
Speaker 4: I was like, I'll never ever in a million years

862
00:47:00,239 --> 00:47:03,640
Speaker 4: be with this woman and the same and and and

863
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:06,680
Speaker 4: then all of a sudden, we're having these high level

864
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:11,440
Speaker 4: conversations about friendship and life, and you know, they were like,

865
00:47:11,520 --> 00:47:13,200
Speaker 4: we want to go to the movies.

866
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,719
Speaker 3: Maybe it's because the romance is taken out. Do you

867
00:47:15,719 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 3: think there's I know you don't have the science, but

868
00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,880
Speaker 3: I have heard people say when the pressure is gone,

869
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:23,560
Speaker 3: they can have this resurgence of romance.

870
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:26,680
Speaker 4: I think it was. I think it was. It wasn't

871
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 4: romance at first, it was like we truly became friendship. Friendship.

872
00:47:31,280 --> 00:47:34,800
Speaker 1: What did it looks like? Like? How did you forgive

873
00:47:34,920 --> 00:47:36,880
Speaker 1: someone that you literally said at one point.

874
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 4: I like her at all Forgiveness is about accountability on

875
00:47:42,800 --> 00:47:49,840
Speaker 4: whose end listen, okay, listen. Forgiveness is about looking in

876
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:52,600
Speaker 4: the mirror as a as a person who is not

877
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:57,080
Speaker 4: trying to forgive, and saying to the person in the mirror,

878
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:09,560
Speaker 4: he without sin cast the first like you got caught.

879
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:20,799
Speaker 4: I didn't, but we being real, I was do that.

880
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: M hmm.

881
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 4: If we being real, I was old that universe had

882
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:33,839
Speaker 4: to get I got to eat that. Oh for being real.

883
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:36,919
Speaker 1: And you knew how you showed up and the ship

884
00:48:36,960 --> 00:48:38,240
Speaker 1: that you had done.

885
00:48:38,520 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 4: I knew what was in the dark, even if she

886
00:48:41,040 --> 00:48:47,279
Speaker 4: didn't know. And and and and men are really good

887
00:48:47,320 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 4: at that. How dare you? How dare you text that? Dude?

888
00:48:57,080 --> 00:49:00,000
Speaker 4: How dare you respond to that? Dam? M hm?

889
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:03,040
Speaker 1: Do you know? Oh, we can't wait?

890
00:49:04,560 --> 00:49:07,120
Speaker 2: Get my notepas and you just basically are like, I

891
00:49:07,160 --> 00:49:08,200
Speaker 2: know what the hell I'm doing?

892
00:49:08,880 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 4: We gotta we gotta, we gotta be real and the

893
00:49:12,280 --> 00:49:14,759
Speaker 4: in me and me looking myself in the mirror and

894
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 4: tell them and being truthful about who I am and

895
00:49:17,520 --> 00:49:22,120
Speaker 4: what I was was Was's how I was able to

896
00:49:22,160 --> 00:49:28,320
Speaker 4: be like you know what, I'm not perfect, She's not perfect.

897
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:31,320
Speaker 1: The mean thing that caused a riff.

898
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:33,719
Speaker 4: Somewhat somewhat Yeah?

899
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:36,360
Speaker 1: Is it just for women listening?

900
00:49:37,280 --> 00:49:39,040
Speaker 3: I made a joke you know when I was like, oh,

901
00:49:39,080 --> 00:49:41,440
Speaker 3: you know this is hohost shit earlier whatever? Is it

902
00:49:41,480 --> 00:49:45,799
Speaker 3: almost inevitable with someone in entertainment because of the options?

903
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:49,120
Speaker 3: Is it almost inevitably inevitable because it's like it's being

904
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:52,120
Speaker 3: thrown at you at your lifestyle the character of tank

905
00:49:52,239 --> 00:49:53,319
Speaker 3: versus who you are at home?

906
00:49:53,400 --> 00:49:56,160
Speaker 1: Like, is it is it hard to avoid?

907
00:49:56,600 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 4: It? Is that it is also inevitable in your youth? Right?

908
00:50:00,760 --> 00:50:02,680
Speaker 1: Well? You consider like, so when do they stop? Tell

909
00:50:02,680 --> 00:50:05,080
Speaker 1: you women, for the most.

910
00:50:04,880 --> 00:50:07,759
Speaker 4: Part, when you're young. When you're young, I'm gonna say

911
00:50:07,800 --> 00:50:10,160
Speaker 4: for women and men, women get horny as motherfucker.

912
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:11,719
Speaker 1: Too, and they don't know. We was host most of

913
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:12,320
Speaker 1: my friends.

914
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 4: Cheek listen when you're young and hot and bothered and

915
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:21,560
Speaker 4: won't it should happens? Should happen?

916
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:23,719
Speaker 3: What age do you think there's a shift for men though,

917
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:25,960
Speaker 3: when they like, hey, having it too?

918
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:32,720
Speaker 4: Not even there now? If they got these pills out.

919
00:50:33,040 --> 00:50:38,080
Speaker 4: You know, I got a new line. Uh uh stiff

920
00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 4: bull bang bang tea. We will get to all of that. Yeah,

921
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:41,399
Speaker 4: you have a new line.

922
00:50:41,400 --> 00:50:43,960
Speaker 3: I've been trying to dilute my man's mocker root, Like

923
00:50:44,120 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 3: I know how horny is.

924
00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:50,400
Speaker 4: Listen you, that's funny. I think that again a lot

925
00:50:50,480 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 4: of times I say everything is based on the individual

926
00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 4: and and and the experience it is. It is like,

927
00:50:56,400 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 4: no nobody can make you do anything, like like, yep,

928
00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:03,799
Speaker 4: no situation can make you do anything. It has to

929
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:06,000
Speaker 4: be for you. You know what I'm saying. If you're going

930
00:51:06,080 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 4: to be solid and faithful or if you're not, it's

931
00:51:09,680 --> 00:51:10,279
Speaker 4: it's on you.

932
00:51:10,520 --> 00:51:12,879
Speaker 2: I literally say that if there's not gun to head,

933
00:51:13,400 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 2: you have the wherewithal to make the decisions. It's to leave,

934
00:51:16,640 --> 00:51:18,560
Speaker 2: to walk away, to stay, to put up with it,

935
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:20,800
Speaker 2: to tell your friends and not tell your friends.

936
00:51:21,000 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 3: But I do think it could be harder with men

937
00:51:23,120 --> 00:51:25,920
Speaker 3: and entertainment not giving men slack. But for example, if

938
00:51:25,960 --> 00:51:28,279
Speaker 3: I'm on a diet, it's easy if I ain't got

939
00:51:28,360 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 3: no crazy food in the house. Now when I'm going

940
00:51:30,520 --> 00:51:33,000
Speaker 3: out to restaurants and choosing not to eat, it's like,

941
00:51:33,080 --> 00:51:34,839
Speaker 3: right now we're not drinking. I'm not drinking because I'm

942
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:38,040
Speaker 3: trying to cut and lean out. Right, Oh why am

943
00:51:38,080 --> 00:51:39,960
Speaker 3: I going to parties like it's.

944
00:51:39,800 --> 00:51:42,799
Speaker 1: The met weekend? Like Monday we got I'm like, bro,

945
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:43,800
Speaker 1: this is tough.

946
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 4: And it's tougher in the environment.

947
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 1: Now if I'm home, I'm going breaking up at a

948
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:47,600
Speaker 1: certain time.

949
00:51:47,760 --> 00:51:47,960
Speaker 4: Yeah.

950
00:51:48,520 --> 00:51:53,320
Speaker 3: So I can't imagine pussy and the best pussy, different

951
00:51:53,320 --> 00:51:55,879
Speaker 3: colored pussies, different kinds, flavors and shit.

952
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:56,480
Speaker 4: It's crazy.

953
00:51:56,520 --> 00:52:00,440
Speaker 2: I know when we talk we lean into like the

954
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:03,520
Speaker 2: entertainer of it all. But growing up in Orlando, if

955
00:52:03,520 --> 00:52:05,960
Speaker 2: you're in small cities, there's men that have a plethora

956
00:52:06,080 --> 00:52:09,759
Speaker 2: of options in even Middle America, small cities, Like, it's

957
00:52:09,800 --> 00:52:12,000
Speaker 2: not just status, it's not just power.

958
00:52:12,280 --> 00:52:14,160
Speaker 1: A lot of men have a lot of options a

959
00:52:14,160 --> 00:52:16,640
Speaker 1: lot of times in their own listen.

960
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:18,280
Speaker 4: And it's cast in the hood.

961
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:20,320
Speaker 1: They got the full.

962
00:52:22,200 --> 00:52:27,040
Speaker 2: There's there's options and they but they don't have they

963
00:52:27,040 --> 00:52:28,320
Speaker 2: have options, they don't have discernment.

964
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:29,760
Speaker 1: That's the problem.

965
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:31,760
Speaker 4: Are they just the means are just different.

966
00:52:32,040 --> 00:52:34,799
Speaker 3: I mean we're only as good as our options. That's

967
00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 3: the truth of it all. Like you can have a

968
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:39,480
Speaker 3: funny looking nigga, tell me he's good to his wife.

969
00:52:39,560 --> 00:52:42,400
Speaker 3: I bet you are, Bet you are. You can have

970
00:52:42,440 --> 00:52:45,520
Speaker 3: a wealthy man tell me that it's hard, and I

971
00:52:45,560 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 3: bet it is. Like I really do believe It's our options.

972
00:52:49,480 --> 00:52:51,839
Speaker 3: It's why certain people act certain ways. What we're like,

973
00:52:52,000 --> 00:52:55,160
Speaker 3: we're a product of those options, having a roster, a

974
00:52:55,200 --> 00:52:57,719
Speaker 3: plethoro of people falling at you. It's celebrity status too

975
00:52:57,760 --> 00:52:59,879
Speaker 3: as well. Even if you're not attractive, people just want

976
00:52:59,880 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 3: to fucking around you. We've all been around that person

977
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 3: that's super famous and we're like, damn, you know what,

978
00:53:05,600 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, what the fuck?

979
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:08,960
Speaker 2: And especially right you're just like, I know I'm mean,

980
00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:10,680
Speaker 2: but what the fuck? How does this person do it?

981
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,319
Speaker 2: I want to ask you before we get out of here.

982
00:53:13,360 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 2: We haven't dove into the episode just yet, but being

983
00:53:17,200 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 2: that you communicate, you've unlearned some things, you're open to

984
00:53:20,640 --> 00:53:23,560
Speaker 2: learning more things within your relationship.

985
00:53:24,000 --> 00:53:25,600
Speaker 1: What do your boundaries look like?

986
00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:29,359
Speaker 2: We've been talking about boundaries, compromise versus sacrifice and all

987
00:53:29,360 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: these things. Do you have a boundary that you've set

988
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:34,399
Speaker 2: forth that you won't cross or what does it look

989
00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:35,800
Speaker 2: like to compromise with your partner?

990
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:37,520
Speaker 1: What does that kind of entail?

991
00:53:38,160 --> 00:53:43,480
Speaker 4: I mean, we we we really communicate about everything everything.

992
00:53:43,600 --> 00:53:48,200
Speaker 4: Like my wife is one of those women that'll say

993
00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:53,799
Speaker 4: anything okay, Like she'll say it and then that oh yeah,

994
00:53:53,880 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 4: I shouldn't said it like that, like she's she's that person. Absolutely,

995
00:53:58,520 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 4: it's spice, is it? Because I'm non reactive?

996
00:54:02,400 --> 00:54:04,160
Speaker 1: We see how long you take to answer question?

997
00:54:04,320 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 4: You know how you like you have a your Wow,

998
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 4: I just writing the big dogs and things like this,

999
00:54:09,440 --> 00:54:17,359
Speaker 4: that's you. That's how So you know me. I'm just

1000
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:24,000
Speaker 4: about you know, I'm just about respect and appreciation because

1001
00:54:25,760 --> 00:54:29,439
Speaker 4: I'm getting out in the field and I'm going to

1002
00:54:29,440 --> 00:54:33,600
Speaker 4: make sure that your feet don't touch the ground. Just

1003
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:38,480
Speaker 4: respect and appreciate that, Okay, And that's it. I'm I'm

1004
00:54:38,520 --> 00:54:41,400
Speaker 4: when they say men are simple creatures, they're talking about

1005
00:54:41,440 --> 00:54:49,160
Speaker 4: me like food, food, water, power, you got you gotta

1006
00:54:49,200 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 4: give me the flowers, uh, food, sex, and and and

1007
00:54:57,640 --> 00:55:01,080
Speaker 4: and occasionally letting me know that I'm doing a good job.

1008
00:55:01,400 --> 00:55:05,480
Speaker 1: Oh affirmation okay? And how many years have you move

1009
00:55:05,520 --> 00:55:05,959
Speaker 1: with your wife?

1010
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:10,319
Speaker 4: We have we're going on seven years of marriage this year.

1011
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:13,200
Speaker 3: So when we sat down with Envy DJ Envy and

1012
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:17,360
Speaker 3: his wife, Yeah, I asked, at what point do you

1013
00:55:17,440 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 3: just stop fighting and or what point does it just

1014
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,360
Speaker 3: get easier? Do you feel that you've even reached it

1015
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:25,840
Speaker 3: seven years that it's just seamless, that it's just easy

1016
00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:27,839
Speaker 3: that you know each other better, has that hit?

1017
00:55:28,400 --> 00:55:30,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, we know each other very well. But you know,

1018
00:55:31,640 --> 00:55:34,640
Speaker 4: spice just is what it is. It's just it's just

1019
00:55:34,800 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 4: organically spicy.

1020
00:55:35,920 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 1: Do you like a little toxic? Do you?

1021
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:41,000
Speaker 4: And my wife is going to find some spice to

1022
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:44,400
Speaker 4: throw to start the dash.

1023
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:44,880
Speaker 1: Of at front?

1024
00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:50,920
Speaker 4: Is this liberal woman will figure out some spice. I'm

1025
00:55:50,960 --> 00:55:57,640
Speaker 4: a capricorn, Oh, Jane Janeuay first, damn? Yeah, yeah, I have.

1026
00:55:57,560 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 3: A holiday birthday too. I'm curious when is your birthday?

1027
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:03,440
Speaker 3: You'd be like, like, is it annoying that everybody's come

1028
00:56:03,480 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 3: over on your birthday?

1029
00:56:04,120 --> 00:56:05,719
Speaker 1: Do you just celebrated? Is it New York?

1030
00:56:07,480 --> 00:56:09,920
Speaker 4: It annoyed me as a kid because they would group

1031
00:56:10,000 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 4: my birthday gifts for my Christmas gift. It's still got.

1032
00:56:15,960 --> 00:56:20,719
Speaker 2: You got your birthday gifts on Christmas.

1033
00:56:21,200 --> 00:56:23,880
Speaker 4: I don't do that to my son because because his

1034
00:56:23,920 --> 00:56:24,839
Speaker 4: birthday January first?

1035
00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:26,799
Speaker 1: What the wow?

1036
00:56:27,200 --> 00:56:29,680
Speaker 4: Yeah? Yeah, see she she had a she had a

1037
00:56:29,680 --> 00:56:31,839
Speaker 4: baby on my birthday. That's how she got the job.

1038
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:34,839
Speaker 1: Was that her due date?

1039
00:56:35,239 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 4: That was her January first?

1040
00:56:37,239 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 1: That is so weird.

1041
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:41,880
Speaker 4: And I said, I said, listen, I got you. Don't

1042
00:56:41,960 --> 00:56:44,120
Speaker 4: roll with me. Give me a baby as a gift

1043
00:56:44,800 --> 00:56:49,560
Speaker 4: you good, that's good for life's special. But yeah, so,

1044
00:56:49,760 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 4: I mean, but she's spisy. She can't help herself, like

1045
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:56,520
Speaker 4: it's not like she can control it, like she's she's

1046
00:56:56,520 --> 00:56:59,279
Speaker 4: just swixy. And then don't let you know you know

1047
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:02,000
Speaker 4: how how you know your hormones get when that time

1048
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 4: when the month comes and things just get thrown off,

1049
00:57:04,120 --> 00:57:06,840
Speaker 4: bounced a little bit. Oh when that when the spikes

1050
00:57:06,880 --> 00:57:09,480
Speaker 4: really pick up. I know what's going on. And then

1051
00:57:09,480 --> 00:57:12,480
Speaker 4: I have to give her so much great, I'm like, great.

1052
00:57:13,560 --> 00:57:16,040
Speaker 1: She looked like, let me see, she's gorgeous. Does she looks?

1053
00:57:16,200 --> 00:57:18,200
Speaker 1: Does she got the looks gorgeous? You know, when women

1054
00:57:18,200 --> 00:57:20,160
Speaker 1: are so fine, you be like, what's remember the guy

1055
00:57:20,200 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 1: that they were hot and crazy smell.

1056
00:57:23,160 --> 00:57:24,200
Speaker 4: From Saint Looisa.

1057
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:27,919
Speaker 1: Fine? Oh I forgot a fun woman right there. Oh yes,

1058
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:31,760
Speaker 1: I see, I could see the crazy. I see it.

1059
00:57:31,760 --> 00:57:34,360
Speaker 1: It's the eyes. It's the eyes.

1060
00:57:36,240 --> 00:57:36,640
Speaker 4: Oh my god.

1061
00:57:36,720 --> 00:57:37,840
Speaker 1: I love this picture of you too.

1062
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:40,840
Speaker 4: That's from the front of my first video.

1063
00:57:40,600 --> 00:57:43,040
Speaker 1: Shoot, first video shoot.

1064
00:57:42,840 --> 00:57:43,680
Speaker 4: First video shoot.

1065
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 1: And he has on leather pants of course that's what

1066
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:49,400
Speaker 1: we did, dated.

1067
00:57:49,880 --> 00:57:53,040
Speaker 4: White and a bandanna. I ain't got no bandanas, but

1068
00:57:53,080 --> 00:57:55,280
Speaker 4: I tell you right now I gotta, I gotta. I

1069
00:57:55,280 --> 00:57:57,520
Speaker 4: got a tank top and some leather pants in the closet.

1070
00:57:57,520 --> 00:57:58,320
Speaker 1: You know you got a tank?

1071
00:57:58,840 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 4: Stay ready to.

1072
00:57:59,640 --> 00:58:02,760
Speaker 1: Be Wait before we get out of here. How'd you

1073
00:58:02,800 --> 00:58:05,040
Speaker 1: get your name? Don't tell you the tank top?

1074
00:58:05,320 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 2: No, I wish I wish it was you said he

1075
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:10,720
Speaker 2: got that tank in the pants.

1076
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:17,760
Speaker 4: I wish.

1077
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 1: The Caribbean mom to fucking do Tank.

1078
00:58:20,200 --> 00:58:23,480
Speaker 3: I'm talking about Lord Jesus, are you here in the

1079
00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:25,640
Speaker 3: room with us? And she over looked, like kept the

1080
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 3: boris kujo?

1081
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:28,080
Speaker 1: Tank? Yes, he is.

1082
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:34,760
Speaker 4: I say that. My grandmother named me Tank. My cousins

1083
00:58:34,800 --> 00:58:36,960
Speaker 4: were making fun of me because I had a big

1084
00:58:37,000 --> 00:58:37,840
Speaker 4: hit in the big stomach.

1085
00:58:37,960 --> 00:58:45,040
Speaker 3: That is hilarious from Geekko hilarious.

1086
00:58:45,160 --> 00:58:47,480
Speaker 4: So my grandma was like, that's my tank. Boy, leaves

1087
00:58:47,520 --> 00:58:50,880
Speaker 4: him alone, Come here Tank, and just started calling because.

1088
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:52,360
Speaker 1: Your head, that's hilarious.

1089
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:53,080
Speaker 4: Dog.

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Speaker 1: If y'all haven't uh. There are over a hundred episodes.

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Speaker 2: Of R and B Money correct hundred in fifty there's

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Speaker 2: a ton and guess you and Jay Valentine hosted. One

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Speaker 2: of my favorite episodes was when y'all had Tearan He's

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Speaker 2: a friend of mine. I love Torn so much, love

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Speaker 2: that that episode. I was like, and he always drops

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Speaker 2: gems and tells the best stories, which I think I

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Speaker 2: love about R and B Money so much.

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Speaker 1: You get the people so comfortable they do the stories.

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Speaker 4: And they really they're really the drivers, you know what

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Speaker 4: I mean, their conversations and their experiences and no, no, no no, they.

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Speaker 2: Say with other people, it's not the same. No, no, no, no,

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Speaker 2: they're not the drivers.

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Speaker 4: Well we know why. You know why. You know why

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00:59:36,600 --> 00:59:41,120
Speaker 4: because we're of the cloth, right, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 4: we we are, we are active, and so our sensibilities

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Speaker 4: are just different. Yeah, you know, our conversation is just

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Speaker 4: different because we do it. And so they I mean

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Speaker 4: when they sit on our couch, you know, they they

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Speaker 4: don't just feel comfortable, they feel appreciated. I mean they

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Speaker 4: feel thata tell you like, we know what you're doing,

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Speaker 4: what it is that you do, and how hard it

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Speaker 4: is to do it. We love you and appreciate you.

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Speaker 4: This is your space.

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Speaker 1: Period, y'all. Check out R and B Money.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, if you are coming to New York anytime, you

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Speaker 2: must see Hell's.

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Speaker 1: Kitchen, please tell us so highly on the stage.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so, y'all have a good.

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Speaker 2: Amount of time our listeners New York, y'all, this is

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Speaker 2: one of our biggest audiences. If you're traveling to New York,

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Speaker 2: you must. I'm telling y'all now you must see Hell's Kitchen.

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01:00:31,800 --> 01:00:36,000
Speaker 2: And if you're a patron, I because it was so good.

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Speaker 2: This isn't because Tank right here. I promise you it's

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Speaker 2: not because I would have told them if it was

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Speaker 2: mid it wasn't.

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Speaker 1: I love it so much.

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Speaker 2: I am giving away two pairs of tickets to go

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Speaker 2: see Hell's Kitchen to our patrons. So go on over

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Speaker 2: to our Patreon community. That's patreon dot com. Backslash horrible Decisions.

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Speaker 2: And then also, I was talking to your manager before

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Speaker 2: we get out of here. You have a new single

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Speaker 2: out with Alisa.

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Speaker 4: Yes, all gone shout out to a black Round record,

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Speaker 4: shout with the Barry Hankerson. Okay, they called me with

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Speaker 4: this idea, Sean Garrett, who actually helped, you know, reproduce

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Speaker 4: it together. You just wanted the greatest and you know

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Speaker 4: they had the idea to to to make me a

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Speaker 4: part of it. Wow, And for me it was it

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01:01:20,760 --> 01:01:22,280
Speaker 4: was a no brainer. You know what I mean. Any

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Speaker 4: opportunity I get to pay homage to a Leah to

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Speaker 4: just keep her legacy and her memory.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait.

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Speaker 2: Well, I do want to tell you because I was

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Speaker 2: looking for it today. It is exclusively on bk stream,

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Speaker 2: so bokaystreamai dot com if you guys want to hear that.

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01:01:41,640 --> 01:01:44,040
Speaker 2: But I'm literally I was like, Okay, I guess I gotta.

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Speaker 4: Go get on.

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Speaker 2: Uh this app. I love any which way that they're adding.

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Speaker 4: And what I want to add to that is that

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Speaker 4: I think, you know, I think people, you know, when

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Speaker 4: judging these things and critiquing these things, want people to

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Speaker 4: have a little more grace because the song.

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Speaker 1: Is a or no it's not.

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Speaker 4: But we're dealing with you know, we're dealing with vocals

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Speaker 4: that are decades and decades all. We're going to salvage

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Speaker 4: a lot of things and put things together the best

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Speaker 4: way we can to sound the best they can to

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Speaker 4: honor her. You know, I'm not I'm not making a

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Speaker 4: bunch of money to do this, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: Blackground is not making a bunch of money to do this.

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Speaker 4: But what we are doing is we're ensuring that Aliyah,

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Speaker 4: who's important to I think all of us, that that

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Speaker 4: that her spirit and that her legacy remains continues, it

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Speaker 4: continues to live, and it's continued in conversation and we're

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Speaker 4: and we're really just doing the best we can.

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Speaker 1: People will appreciate that.

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Speaker 4: People can it just can be too judgmental when they

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Speaker 4: don't understand the process everything. But just know that you

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Speaker 4: know we're doing our best.

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Speaker 1: We're not going to judge this. You're just gonna judge

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Speaker 1: that old clip year bro. Thank you so much, y'all.

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Speaker 2: Make sure you go ahead and pre order our book,

1173
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Speaker 2: No holds bar to doing Manifesto of Sexual Exploration and Power.

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Speaker 2: And again I'm giving out two pairs of the tickets

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Speaker 2: two Hell's Kitchen on Broadway in New York City because

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Speaker 2: you're gonna spend your money on nhbtour dot com.

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Speaker 1: You will, you will NHB tour dot com. Make sure

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Speaker 1: you check us out.

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Speaker 2: And I think that's it, so y'all, thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for tuning in to yet another episode of Decisions,

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Speaker 2: Decisions Yane