WEBVTT - Homecoming Season 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:05.359 Wind down with Janet Kramer and I heard radio podcast 0:00:09.600 --> 0:00:14.160 wouldn't intro? Can we begin talking? We can begin talking now. Okay, 0:00:14.880 --> 0:00:18.640 there's a lot, there's a lot, and you face time 0:00:18.680 --> 0:00:24.000 to me this morning. So something that you had said 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:27.800 last week, like I didn't prerequisite it? Is that the 0:00:27.800 --> 0:00:30.840 word you used? I don't. I don't know. Okay, um 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:35.479 who let us? Who led us on here? And I 0:00:35.560 --> 0:00:42.000 was just I saw the headlines about Adam Levine and 0:00:42.560 --> 0:00:44.680 I was just like, we have to talk about it. 0:00:45.479 --> 0:00:47.960 But I also wanted to bring it to your attention. 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:50.400 So I faced time and I go, hey, girl, are 0:00:50.400 --> 0:00:53.720 you cool speaking about the Adam stuff? And You're like 0:00:53.800 --> 0:00:56.639 what I know? And I was like, wait what, I'm 0:00:56.800 --> 0:00:59.960 always a little behind anyways, So I'm like jogging a treadmill. 0:01:00.200 --> 0:01:02.000 Just google it, call me back. By the way, I 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:05.160 feel like every dude in America would die to get 0:01:05.160 --> 0:01:08.600 my face times from you. Like it's just always Janna 0:01:08.680 --> 0:01:11.240 and her sweet face. What's happening here? It was like 0:01:11.400 --> 0:01:14.200 always Janna and her sweet face. And then these voluptuous 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:16.880 boobs just doing this Pamela Anderson, Like all I can 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:20.280 hear is like the Baywatch theme song and I'm like, hey, BF, 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:25.200 talk to me. And I'm like, every dude in America 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.440 would die if they got to get this spacetime. So 0:01:28.480 --> 0:01:31.080 once in a while, I like to FaceTime Janna with 0:01:31.120 --> 0:01:34.520 my forty year old twice tried to nurse boobs and 0:01:34.560 --> 0:01:37.080 just show her what the difference looks like, well, I'm 0:01:37.120 --> 0:01:41.120 on the treadmill. I do my work on the treadmill. 0:01:41.680 --> 0:01:43.680 You do, and you can also talk while you're running, 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.119 which is a real feat. Wait time Hunt intended, didn't 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:49.080 Luke Brian one time? You you picked up and you're like, 0:01:49.120 --> 0:01:51.520 she's usually in a sports bra or whatever, and I 0:01:51.640 --> 0:01:54.760 was like, so embarrassed, Yeah it was. Was it, Luke Brian? 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:57.400 I think it was. And You're like, it's Janna, She's 0:01:57.480 --> 0:02:00.160 usually just I was like, oh Jesus, Chris. I was like, oh, 0:02:00.200 --> 0:02:02.880 you're welcome, everybody, look at my hot best friend. But 0:02:02.880 --> 0:02:05.440 I was like in a like sweatshirt that when tears 0:02:05.520 --> 0:02:10.720 rolling down her face, a real Lauren Conrad. Anyhow okay, 0:02:10.760 --> 0:02:17.280 so I said Google and she walked in and we're like, 0:02:17.320 --> 0:02:19.640 we just have to like press records, so here's my 0:02:20.680 --> 0:02:22.040 let me just start. Can we just start with his 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:24.880 apology because I feel like it's very similar to the 0:02:24.919 --> 0:02:27.799 Tristan Thompson apology, and I'm just gonna break down his 0:02:27.840 --> 0:02:30.440 apology for a second. Do they have the same PR team, 0:02:30.440 --> 0:02:34.320 because that's usually where those heartfelt responses come from. It's 0:02:34.080 --> 0:02:36.760 a I think, you know, it's so triggering, and again, 0:02:36.880 --> 0:02:39.280 not trying to like make this about me or anything, 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:42.440 but I feel like when someone is in when someone 0:02:42.919 --> 0:02:47.520 cheats or is inappropriate there, apology is what triggers me 0:02:47.560 --> 0:02:52.160 the most because it's copy paste and it's like, okay, 0:02:52.160 --> 0:02:53.960 for example, a lot is being said about me. This 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:55.520 is what Adam Levin said. A lot is being said 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:56.840 about me right now. And I want to clear there. 0:02:56.880 --> 0:03:00.320 I used poor judgment in speaking with anyone other than 0:03:00.400 --> 0:03:03.600 my wife in any kind of flirtatious manner. I did 0:03:03.639 --> 0:03:11.240 not have an affair. Nevertheless, oh rewind, I crossed the 0:03:11.280 --> 0:03:15.720 line across the line during a regrettable period in my life. 0:03:15.720 --> 0:03:19.200 In certain instances, it became inappropriate. I have addressed that 0:03:19.240 --> 0:03:21.799 and taken proactive steps to remedy this with my family. 0:03:22.919 --> 0:03:24.880 My wife and my my wife and my family is 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:29.919 all I care about in this world. Really, mhm. Triggering 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:32.320 to be this naive and stupid enough to risk the 0:03:32.360 --> 0:03:34.960 only thing that truly matters to me. To me was 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:37.760 the greatest mistake I could ever make. I will I 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:41.840 will never make it again. I will take full responsibility. 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:43.280 We will get through it, and we'll get through it together. 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:48.560 Mm hmm. Well he sure made her his team and 0:03:48.640 --> 0:03:51.680 that didn't he She Yeah, he sure did. I'd love 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:58.440 to know what her statement is, you mother, there's some 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:01.080 isn't she pregnant with this third baby? Whatever? So that 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:06.400 was that was super well again, I think anything that happens. 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.920 And I got an email from a fellow person who 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.400 we've been in it together, and she texted me and 0:04:13.720 --> 0:04:15.440 I'm going to read you her text message. And she 0:04:15.480 --> 0:04:17.560 goes and she's by the way, she's actually met her 0:04:17.600 --> 0:04:21.240 at a wind down event and she was married to 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:23.520 a sex addict and she ended up just saying like 0:04:23.560 --> 0:04:27.600 he kept kept cheating and now she's um remarried with 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:29.680 the baby and her life is you know, it is good. 0:04:29.720 --> 0:04:32.040 But she goes, I don't know about you, but whenever 0:04:32.080 --> 0:04:36.279 a cheating scandal hits my internet, um my betrayal trauma 0:04:36.320 --> 0:04:38.360 gets triggered a bit beyond happy that we are both 0:04:38.400 --> 0:04:40.000 on the other side of it, and I'm so grateful 0:04:40.040 --> 0:04:42.000 for all the amazing women I'm now connected to through 0:04:42.000 --> 0:04:44.120 our shared experiences thinking of you and sending you love. 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:46.560 And it's like I connected with that so much because 0:04:46.600 --> 0:04:52.000 it's like, yeah, like I'm over the stuff that happened, 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:53.520 and you might be over some of the things that 0:04:53.600 --> 0:04:56.240 you face, but it's still very triggering when something comes up, 0:04:57.480 --> 0:05:00.440 especially when it's that specific. I think, Yeah, it's like, oh, 0:05:00.480 --> 0:05:02.960 I was pregnant with my when Max cheated. I was like, 0:05:03.120 --> 0:05:06.960 and it's like to hear these words, it's like, I 0:05:07.120 --> 0:05:09.839 just when my wife, my my my wife and my 0:05:09.920 --> 0:05:12.960 family is all I care about in this world that 0:05:13.200 --> 0:05:16.880 I can just a little hard to believe. And that's 0:05:16.920 --> 0:05:19.279 where that's where I always was my biggest in my marriage. 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:22.360 I was like, how am I? How? How are you thinking? When? When? 0:05:22.760 --> 0:05:26.160 When are you thinking about me? Was when before or 0:05:26.200 --> 0:05:28.279 after you said that, Oh my god, you're the hottest 0:05:28.360 --> 0:05:31.160 like girl in the world, so some other woman? Yeah, 0:05:31.200 --> 0:05:33.960 didn't He also link it to a separate Instagram account, 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:37.200 like I thought I read somewhere that and I did 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:41.200 it quick because I was also just like belly ached. 0:05:41.560 --> 0:05:45.200 I also feel for his wife and I forget her name. Um, 0:05:45.240 --> 0:05:47.599 but I just hate that it has to be so public. 0:05:47.920 --> 0:05:53.840 I think that's the one thet I thought you said 0:05:53.839 --> 0:06:00.000 the hottie. I was like, no, she is quite beautiful that. Um. 0:06:00.080 --> 0:06:02.240 I just hate it that it's so public because it's 0:06:02.279 --> 0:06:06.560 so embarrassing and even as a confident person, it still 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:08.919 feels a certain way, and you'd still prefer that it 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:11.920 not be. Like, no one wants that done to them, 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:14.200 Certainly no one wants that done to them in such 0:06:14.240 --> 0:06:18.880 a public way. She's pregnant with the third baby. She's 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:21.520 probably trying to get her grip on life and her 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:24.400 feet back underneath her, because that'll knock you down pretty fast. 0:06:25.360 --> 0:06:30.680 And now it's all online and he will never do 0:06:30.800 --> 0:06:33.880 that again. Well that's the thing that never really bothers 0:06:33.920 --> 0:06:36.719 me too. I'm like, you can't say that. You can't. 0:06:36.800 --> 0:06:40.479 And that's the thing, Like, Okay, I agree with one's 0:06:40.520 --> 0:06:42.800 cheater always I don't. I'm sorry, I don't agree with 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:45.000 once a cheater, always a cheater. Okay, I don't either. 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.120 I I because I was a cheater in my twenties. 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:50.760 I cheated on a few relationships. Not proud of that, 0:06:51.000 --> 0:06:53.600 Like not proud of that at all, okay, but also 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:56.920 twenties not. It doesn't matter. There's no excuse. I just 0:06:57.120 --> 0:07:00.360 I had, like I see now why I did certain things. Sure, 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:03.279 because I'm like my worth and this whatever, like I've 0:07:03.279 --> 0:07:06.839 dissected it. Oh you like to give me attention. Yeah, 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:10.120 so I've like dissected that piece of meat. But I 0:07:10.200 --> 0:07:12.600 can't say so. So I go to the once you 0:07:12.760 --> 0:07:15.480 always hear, I don't believe so because I in my 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:17.800 core I don't think I could ever do that again. 0:07:17.880 --> 0:07:21.000 But I can't say never. Well we should, So I 0:07:21.000 --> 0:07:24.240 get in trouble and therapy for using absolute language with Preston. 0:07:25.600 --> 0:07:29.480 I use always and never as absolute language, and it 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:34.960 is triggering for him and also just pins people down. 0:07:36.520 --> 0:07:39.040 So I'm trying to think of a good example off 0:07:39.080 --> 0:07:40.440 the top of my head. But I'll say, like, well 0:07:40.480 --> 0:07:43.720 you never do that, Well, it's not true that it's never, 0:07:44.480 --> 0:07:47.680 But that makes him feel like defensive, same way we 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.320 feel defensive when we read never. Yeah, because I'm like, 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:54.760 you can't say that, how do you know? Like, and 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:57.160 then she's got to be wondering is there more when? 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:01.160 But that's the thing, and I'm not saying it's it's 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:04.680 one equals the other. It's the same thing that happened 0:08:04.680 --> 0:08:07.600 with but like when there's one, there's always more if 0:08:07.640 --> 0:08:13.240 a man can step outside like that. Always absolute language 0:08:13.320 --> 0:08:18.360 runs in the genetics of Michigan girls always and you 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:22.119 never um. But I think there's something to be said, 0:08:22.160 --> 0:08:26.400 like if there is one, I'm sure and quite possibly 0:08:26.440 --> 0:08:30.400 there could be another that he's slidingly, most likely sliding 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:32.559 through someone else. And that's where my brain always went to. 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.719 I'm like, you're only and here's here's what I think 0:08:35.760 --> 0:08:38.080 hurts the worst. Two. I'm only finding this out because 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:41.120 it got discovered, not because you came to me and 0:08:41.160 --> 0:08:43.600 told me the truth. Like, let's give him the benefit 0:08:43.600 --> 0:08:46.360 of the doubt. Maybe hopefully he said something to her, 0:08:46.360 --> 0:08:49.000 but I'm gonna say he probably didn't because most men 0:08:49.080 --> 0:08:51.440 wouldn't do that. Most men don't have the balls to go. 0:08:51.559 --> 0:08:55.320 I sipped up. Yeah, I can't think of a time 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:57.480 in my life where I have felt that they've owned 0:08:57.480 --> 0:08:59.800 it coming like saying I need to tell you something. 0:09:00.600 --> 0:09:03.080 I also there was one other thing about that that 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:06.960 I wanted. Oh, let's talk about this for two seconds. 0:09:08.440 --> 0:09:13.280 It's interesting to me that it's not an affair. Oh, interesting. Yeah, 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:16.080 I'm like, so, let me get this straight. Because you 0:09:16.080 --> 0:09:20.280 didn't sleep with her. It's not cheating. It's not cheating. 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:22.240 It was just inappropriate and sorry, let me just go 0:09:22.320 --> 0:09:23.720 back to his words. I don't want to like speak 0:09:23.800 --> 0:09:26.200 up on his path as I crossed the line during 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:31.280 a regrettable period. Um, I did not have a fair 0:09:31.920 --> 0:09:34.600 never Nevertheless, I crossed the line during a regrettable period 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:36.920 of my life. It's like, okay, well that sentence is 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:40.520 not for anyone but him. M hm, I did not 0:09:40.640 --> 0:09:43.480 have an affair. Nevertheless. You know who did it really well? 0:09:43.520 --> 0:09:47.240 Actually was justin Timberlake. Yeah, what did he do? He 0:09:47.320 --> 0:09:49.840 basically said. I'm I don't think he ever put out 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:52.120 like the I did not have an affair, because when 0:09:52.160 --> 0:09:56.800 you're speaking those words, you better be damn sure. Well, also, 0:09:57.520 --> 0:10:00.760 is it not an affair? Well, that's that it's interesting too, 0:10:00.800 --> 0:10:04.760 well because it's an emotional fair for sure, a guy 0:10:04.920 --> 0:10:09.240 just sending a message. Because she said her side of 0:10:09.280 --> 0:10:12.080 the story is they've been having a year long affair. 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:14.720 I believe that's what she said. I'd also like to 0:10:14.760 --> 0:10:16.640 just talk about her for two seconds, because she knew 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:20.640 he was married, right, Okay, there's that's all I wanted 0:10:20.679 --> 0:10:25.760 to say. Okay, okay, yes, just like my husband's mistress 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:29.400 knew that I was pregnant mhm mm hmm on this 0:10:29.480 --> 0:10:36.720 episode of Quality Humans. So here's okay, this is gonna 0:10:36.720 --> 0:10:39.839 sound really bad that song. Don't mess with my man? 0:10:40.360 --> 0:10:41.840 Can I just say something though, I'm going to give it. 0:10:41.840 --> 0:10:44.120 I have a little empathy for the other side. I know, 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:48.000 I know, and it's it's even when I screamed at 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:50.680 my husband's one of his husbands, my husband's a fair girls, 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:54.520 the longer one, there was still a piece of me 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:56.640 that was like, she's so broken to have done this, 0:10:58.000 --> 0:10:59.920 and so I can have a little piece of grace 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:05.280 for her to know you just winced because she must 0:11:05.320 --> 0:11:07.520 be struggling with something really bad too. It doesn't make 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:11.120 any of it when you're struggling with something. And I'm 0:11:11.160 --> 0:11:13.520 not saying it's right at all, but like I do 0:11:13.679 --> 0:11:16.200 think we are all human in some aspects of where 0:11:16.240 --> 0:11:18.959 it's like I can, I don't, I will. I I 0:11:19.000 --> 0:11:22.400 could never imagine sleeping with a man that knowing his 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:26.000 well that he's married A or B, she's pregnant or whatever. 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:28.760 But you all, I also don't know what he said 0:11:28.760 --> 0:11:33.079 to her. Yeah, and I will say this too. This 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:37.320 may actually lead us quite wachfully into your guest, but 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:43.200 we both believe in Jesus and redemption. And that's the 0:11:43.240 --> 0:11:51.000 love story of being a Christian is our brokenness, our sins, forgiveness, grace, redemption, resurrection. 0:11:52.080 --> 0:11:55.040 And I feel like I am hopeful that this is 0:11:55.080 --> 0:11:59.880 really his truth, Adam's truth. I'm hopeful that that lands 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:03.280 somewhere with her and that can be you know, maybe 0:12:03.280 --> 0:12:06.640 it's a pivotal point in their marriage that they need 0:12:07.240 --> 0:12:10.800 something like this is gross and left up as that sounds, 0:12:10.840 --> 0:12:13.680 but like maybe this is the turning point along overdue 0:12:13.720 --> 0:12:17.080 reconnection or something. That's that's my prayer over that family 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:20.319 because it sucks and it's hurtful and there's kids involved, 0:12:20.440 --> 0:12:27.240 and it's public and you know nothing about that. But 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:31.240 back to your and amen to that for sure. But 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:35.559 is it if it was just texting, is that cheating? 0:12:38.440 --> 0:12:41.320 I say yes. I mean I say yes too, But 0:12:41.440 --> 0:12:43.959 I don't think the general public would say because I 0:12:44.000 --> 0:12:46.000 think a man, which is like I was just being inappropriate. 0:12:46.480 --> 0:12:49.600 So it was towing the line. Is towing the line cheating? 0:12:51.640 --> 0:12:54.440 Would you like to do an Instagram poll. What I 0:12:54.480 --> 0:12:58.200 will say is the rule for us not always followed, 0:12:59.720 --> 0:13:04.000 is is you communicate as if I'm next to you 0:13:05.240 --> 0:13:07.679 when you're in public, when you're with a person, with 0:13:07.720 --> 0:13:13.320 your representative, a radio person, anything, and then also in 0:13:13.360 --> 0:13:16.960 the same breath when you're communicating and writing something, is 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:18.600 this something that you would group text with me on? 0:13:19.640 --> 0:13:22.080 And if you would not, then you should not in 0:13:22.160 --> 0:13:26.600 a boxer with a fox or with a boat or 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:32.520 a hoe. So I think it's cheating. I mean, I 0:13:32.559 --> 0:13:35.160 agree with you. I do agree with you. I absolutely 0:13:35.200 --> 0:13:37.840 agree with you. I think if you're especially if you're 0:13:39.360 --> 0:13:42.000 you know, I mean yes, and my flirtatious person. Sure, 0:13:42.200 --> 0:13:47.080 I mean, but I would never O don't say never, right, Um, 0:13:47.120 --> 0:13:51.080 I would like to think that how do I say this? 0:13:51.240 --> 0:13:56.800 Like the things that I've read which I was made 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.120 to believe it wasn't cheating, But I'm like, you are 0:13:59.160 --> 0:14:01.320 telling this woman how beautiful she is and how sexy 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:05.199 she is. Like that's a hurtful and that's emotional, that's 0:14:05.200 --> 0:14:09.520 an emotional because like I mean, that's that's still that's 0:14:09.520 --> 0:14:11.640 still cheating. I'm still like I'll stay I'll stand my 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:13.800 ground that too, Like I still think it's cheating. I 0:14:13.880 --> 0:14:17.040 do too, And I also just feel like doesn't matter 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:20.320 what it's classified as because it just sucks and it's hurtful. 0:14:20.400 --> 0:14:24.400 So if it's hurtful, I guess it doesn't matter. It 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:27.440 just all I mean, that's a whole family, I know. 0:14:28.400 --> 0:14:31.760 But then it's also too where like for the end 0:14:31.800 --> 0:14:33.560 of mine, where it's like, but it had to be 0:14:33.600 --> 0:14:37.280 physical cheating to make me leave, but like why all 0:14:37.320 --> 0:14:40.800 this other stuff is that not enough? It's inappropriate, still 0:14:40.840 --> 0:14:42.960 inappropriate and still wrong. So now I look at it 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:45.320 and I'm like, your marriage exactly. So it's like when 0:14:45.360 --> 0:14:47.200 I look at it now, I'm like next dude, Like 0:14:47.360 --> 0:14:50.120 I'm like, here's all the things, like this is what 0:14:50.280 --> 0:14:52.160 it needs because it's like I don't I want to 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:53.960 be respected. I'd love to know what it feels like 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:56.080 to actually be respect And honestly, I have a date tonight. 0:14:56.680 --> 0:15:00.960 I'm sorry, I know, but my first thought when I 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:02.480 saw this and I was like, there's no good. Guess 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:04.560 oh that's been the theme. I have a lot of 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:06.800 girlfriends feeling that way right now. There's no they're gonna 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:10.920 she's she's a supermodel pregnant, you know, like I'm sure 0:15:10.960 --> 0:15:13.200 everyone has their issues, but I'm like, I just I'm like, 0:15:13.360 --> 0:15:15.240 is there any man that's not going to slide into 0:15:15.280 --> 0:15:19.000 someone else's a young thing and say how freaking beautiful 0:15:19.040 --> 0:15:20.800 you are? Is there any man that's not going to 0:15:20.920 --> 0:15:26.400 do that? I don't know. Isn't that sad? I will 0:15:26.440 --> 0:15:29.120 say this though, I think this is I know we 0:15:29.200 --> 0:15:35.360 both get fired up fight you and I versus the world. 0:15:36.000 --> 0:15:40.040 I I do. I think it's worth noting that you 0:15:40.120 --> 0:15:42.080 have this man who is essentially on top of the world, 0:15:42.160 --> 0:15:44.480 right Adam Levine. We all know who he is. He's successful, 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:47.320 he's handsome. Wasn't he like America's sexiest person alive or 0:15:47.360 --> 0:15:49.800 some sexiest man alive one time? I don't know, I 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:52.560 might have made that up. I throw a lass information 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:53.960 into the internet, but you know what, I feel like 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:55.240 everyone does it, so I get to do it once 0:15:55.240 --> 0:15:57.560 in a while. But he was, you know, like he's 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.240 everybody loves Adam Levine and then all of us in 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:04.160 you just realized Adam Levin is an insecure person who 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:07.600 needs to do his own work like us, all right, 0:16:08.320 --> 0:16:11.600 just a human, yeah, a human making a mistake. But 0:16:11.680 --> 0:16:15.040 can we come up with a better can we please 0:16:15.120 --> 0:16:18.600 come up with a better I just instead of just 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:21.680 saying nevertheless or I did not like, just just be 0:16:21.760 --> 0:16:24.560 like that's not even needed in there. Actually I did 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:26.720 not have an affair. Needs to not even be anywhere 0:16:26.720 --> 0:16:28.720 near or even saying me, my wife and my families 0:16:28.720 --> 0:16:33.120 all I care about this because again, m then why 0:16:33.120 --> 0:16:35.840 did you do? It's just like, you know, what would 0:16:35.920 --> 0:16:38.160 what would I want? Yeah, you know, would be really hot. 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:41.000 I messed up? Huh, And I love and my wife 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:44.120 is beautiful and tells and I'm pretty sure that's what 0:16:44.200 --> 0:16:47.400 Justin said something along that line. Well, he needs a 0:16:47.400 --> 0:16:50.200 new PR team, Adam does because he's been I feel 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:53.000 like he did actually write this yeah, because it sucks. 0:16:54.160 --> 0:16:55.560 I will never make it an like yeah, I just 0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:59.560 I just it just also is like it just needs 0:16:59.600 --> 0:17:03.920 to be I messed up and she doesn't deserve this, 0:17:04.000 --> 0:17:05.320 and I'm going to do the work to fix this 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:09.320 period period and then take it offline at him. It's 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:12.240 almost like this is a burn, it's a pub It 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:15.879 feels a little public declaration for his wife be hottie. 0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:21.280 The hottie I don't know, And it also feels like 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:25.240 a sting against I don't know what the girl's name is, 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:35.320 Jesus uh some it's some Sumner Sumner yeah, which again 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:39.320 I mean, I know, I know, I know broken people, 0:17:39.400 --> 0:17:43.440 broken people, broken hey, broken people, broken world connect with 0:17:43.480 --> 0:17:47.200 broken people. They do. Like my unhealthiness has always connected 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:50.280 with unhealthy people because I was unhealthy. So now when 0:17:50.359 --> 0:17:52.920 I'm in or you know, starting dating, I'm like, oh, 0:17:53.160 --> 0:17:56.560 I'm not gonna because he's not healthy and I'm healthy 0:17:56.640 --> 0:17:59.320 enough to see the flags this time, whereas a year ago, 0:18:00.200 --> 0:18:02.000 six months or no, like a year ago, I was like, 0:18:02.280 --> 0:18:04.520 or six months ago, I was like, oh, those are 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:07.159 still attractive flags. So I just don't want us to 0:18:07.200 --> 0:18:10.439 skate past the fact they have a date tonight. I 0:18:10.480 --> 0:18:12.920 just want to take the pin out. Just chatted out 0:18:12.960 --> 0:18:15.240 a little. It was the story I tried to tell 0:18:15.359 --> 0:18:18.160 last week. And then we got on I will never 0:18:18.440 --> 0:18:22.600 mention even the BJ born Jewish, but I was gonna 0:18:22.600 --> 0:18:24.240 say I don't want to the BJ. I had to 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:26.680 clarify that we talked about bjs on the Wine Down 0:18:26.720 --> 0:18:33.600 tour drop Mike, um did do that, so yeah, so 0:18:34.000 --> 0:18:35.879 we we. Then I got on the whole like I 0:18:35.920 --> 0:18:43.399 texted the BJ situation. Um, BJ, that's not that's not 0:18:43.520 --> 0:18:46.359 his nicknames Born Jewish guy is b J. I hate 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:50.920 it for him, but anyways, we got Jewish. Here's the 0:18:51.000 --> 0:18:53.679 thing we've now got. We've now a lot. Got on 0:18:53.720 --> 0:18:56.040 that train again of just going to him like we 0:18:56.119 --> 0:18:59.720 were diverting from the date tonight, I'm gonna put a 0:18:59.720 --> 0:19:01.000 black hard in it and then I want to talk 0:19:01.040 --> 0:19:05.480 about who the date was. It's tonice Eke. Tell me 0:19:06.119 --> 0:19:10.280 tell us still, because even last night or the last 0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:15.359 time we podcast, are you protecting him? I'm protecting on 0:19:15.359 --> 0:19:18.280 the queendom chat right, it has not entered queendom chiant 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:23.240 any of a smile? I like it. Um, he's flying 0:19:23.240 --> 0:19:29.840 here right now and wings of an angel? Can we 0:19:29.880 --> 0:19:39.720 have one in entertainment? Um? No? Mm hmm. Is he 0:19:39.880 --> 0:19:43.560 in mortgages? Why do you say because you didn't? We 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:47.520 haven't notoriously done well with guys and mortgages? Oh you 0:19:48.000 --> 0:19:51.160 you us? Whoever, I can't say that they never really 0:19:51.160 --> 0:19:55.399 had a job, and I can't say that some of 0:19:55.400 --> 0:19:57.600 the nicknames I have for these guys are their names 0:19:57.600 --> 0:20:06.199 plus something. So I can't like girl, I don't know 0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:14.400 if we can get by now. It's a great time 0:20:14.440 --> 0:20:16.160 to miss and that you shouldn't listen to this while 0:20:16.160 --> 0:20:20.480 you're taking your children on the morning Wake Up Live 0:20:20.560 --> 0:20:28.640 with Janet Kramer. I'm sweat team. You can keep asking questions. 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:33.600 I got nothing all. I will say this. We need 0:20:33.640 --> 0:20:38.320 to have a better transition into your guests, like Anti, Yes, 0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:40.639 that's right. Yes, we're going to the church world in 0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:43.240 a minute. Um no, But I'll tell you the story 0:20:43.280 --> 0:20:45.040 of how I met him. How's that? Okay? Okay, I've 0:20:45.040 --> 0:20:47.320 actually never met him in person. Tonight's the first night. 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:51.720 Have you FaceTime dated? Yes? Okay, three times? Okay? Have 0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:54.920 your clothes day one? Oh my god? Yes, well once 0:20:55.000 --> 0:20:57.720 there was a time, Kramer, when I don't know, I've 0:20:57.760 --> 0:21:03.159 never done that. I don't think so. I like, I 0:21:03.160 --> 0:21:06.600 don't think so. I don't think I ever have really, Yeah, 0:21:06.640 --> 0:21:14.080 because people have screenshot that. What Okay, I may have 0:21:14.160 --> 0:21:17.120 sent a photo or two one time. But anyways, Oh, 0:21:17.280 --> 0:21:19.600 our guest is in the waiting room. Oh, we need 0:21:19.600 --> 0:21:22.560 a transition quickly. So I guess we're going to have 0:21:22.640 --> 0:21:25.080 to share this story eventually. It's gonna take us in 0:21:25.720 --> 0:21:28.080 in five podcasts. When I'm over him and the date 0:21:28.119 --> 0:21:30.480 went terrible, I'll tell you a horrible nickname I'll tell 0:21:30.520 --> 0:21:37.160 you exactly who is um to transition, please away from 0:21:37.200 --> 0:21:41.200 what's just happened. Um, please with any downs. She's actually 0:21:41.760 --> 0:21:45.439 a guest speaker at cross Point in Franklin. Um. She 0:21:45.520 --> 0:21:47.240 has a new book out. She's the best New York 0:21:47.240 --> 0:21:51.280 Times bestselling author. She's a new book called Chase the Fun, Um, 0:21:51.480 --> 0:21:55.720 hundred Days to Discover Fun. Right where you are available now, UM, 0:21:55.840 --> 0:22:12.240 let's get her on. I'm so excited. Hey girl, nice 0:22:12.280 --> 0:22:14.560 to officially like meet you. I know we follow each 0:22:14.560 --> 0:22:17.959 other on Instagram. It's been needing to happen. Yeah, this 0:22:18.040 --> 0:22:20.800 is this is needed to happen. And I've I'm obviously 0:22:20.840 --> 0:22:23.120 a huge fan of yours and I just I love 0:22:23.160 --> 0:22:25.280 everything that you do for the church and your books 0:22:25.280 --> 0:22:28.080 and um, so thank you for coming on wine down. 0:22:28.080 --> 0:22:31.760 This is my trusty sidekick, Kristen Annie. I don't know 0:22:31.800 --> 0:22:34.080 how we haven't met in real life. Are you in 0:22:34.160 --> 0:22:37.240 Nashville right now? Yes? And this is my question. I've 0:22:37.240 --> 0:22:39.280 thought the same about both of you. How is it 0:22:39.359 --> 0:22:41.720 that we have not just done this in actual real life? 0:22:41.880 --> 0:22:43.480 And no, should we just pause it? And I'll just 0:22:43.520 --> 0:22:44.920 get in my car and come sit on your lap, 0:22:45.760 --> 0:22:48.040 Come on over to Green Hills girl, we got you. 0:22:48.040 --> 0:22:50.040 You're really not that far. I'm like, how have I 0:22:50.080 --> 0:22:53.880 never met her? And so many mutual friends that a door? 0:22:54.080 --> 0:22:57.960 You a door? Yeah, we're very lucky. We have a 0:22:57.960 --> 0:22:59.960 beautiful community, right, Like, we have a lot of friend 0:23:00.080 --> 0:23:01.840 to care about each other, so and it's fun when 0:23:01.840 --> 0:23:04.640 they all tie together. Yeah, no, really do. And I'm 0:23:04.680 --> 0:23:06.800 so excited about your new book too, because I was 0:23:06.880 --> 0:23:08.760 on that Sound Bad that I'm like, I have the 0:23:08.800 --> 0:23:10.600