Speaker 1: People are addicted to their phones, people are addicted to
Speaker 1: social media. This is a problem in every house. I
Speaker 1: don't know many people in my life that say, I'm
Speaker 1: never on my phone. I never, I'm just don't ever
Speaker 1: get on my phone. Everyone is hey, guys, what's up.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the podcast. This is episode ninety eight. So
Speaker 1: excited to bring you very soon episode one hundred, which
Speaker 1: I've actually full disclosure, I've already recorded it. I've brought
Speaker 1: in some of my great buddies, some of the regulars
Speaker 1: that have been on this podcast, and we came together.
Speaker 1: I had to film it before and had to mix
Speaker 1: up the order a little bit because we have this
Speaker 1: baby coming. In fact, by the time you listen to
Speaker 1: this podcast on Monday, we will have already had it,
Speaker 1: or there was a complication or I don't know. I
Speaker 1: don't know, I don't know the outcome. All I know
Speaker 1: is I'm doing this podcast by myself today. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be the only one today because literally tomorrow morning, Amber
Speaker 1: and I are going to the hospital to deliver little
Speaker 1: baby Mavericks. So given this to you solo and with
Speaker 1: a lot of anticipation going on in my head. So
Speaker 1: as I as I go through this. As I roll
Speaker 1: through this episode, I'm gonna have a little heightened anticipation
Speaker 1: on what's going to happen to me tomorrow. I don't
Speaker 1: know how that's gonna affect the way this podcast goes,
Speaker 1: or how it's gonna affect the way that I answer
Speaker 1: these questions. If you're new to this podcast, I answer
Speaker 1: your questions. Usually I have guests with me. Sometimes I'm solo,
Speaker 1: and you email your questions to Grainger Smith Podcast at
Speaker 1: gmail dot com Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Ask
Speaker 1: me anything, ask my guests anything, and we roll through
Speaker 1: it as if we're sitting in the cab of a
Speaker 1: truck sitting around a campfire, and you just say, hey, man,
Speaker 1: you matter. If I ask you something, something I've been
Speaker 1: thinking about. It could be about life or love or
Speaker 1: music or hard times or good times, or your boss
Speaker 1: or your career, your relationship, whatever it might be, we
Speaker 1: get into it right here on this podcast. I love it,
Speaker 1: and I'm so blessed to have had this many episodes.
Speaker 1: That means that I did those many I did so
Speaker 1: many episodes because you guys kept listening enough for me
Speaker 1: to want to do more, and every day I look,
Speaker 1: I don't. Every time I look at the ranking of
Speaker 1: this podcast, it's usually really high on the all music
Speaker 1: podcast like it's sometimes it sits around the top twenty
Speaker 1: of all genres of all music podcast, which is blow
Speaker 1: me away. And I'm very I'm just very blessed to
Speaker 1: have this kind of platform. And and that's a testament
Speaker 1: to you guys that listen. If you're if you're listening
Speaker 1: on the way to your work, or or you're listening
Speaker 1: at home, or you're over the road trucker, or you're
Speaker 1: a police officer in your in your car, I know,
Speaker 1: there's all different people that are listening to this. And
Speaker 1: there's also all different formats. I know people listen on
Speaker 1: Apple or Spotify or YouTube, anywhere you could find this podcast.
Speaker 1: There's different people listening on different platforms. So shout out
Speaker 1: to all you guys. If you are on Apple, by
Speaker 1: the way, go ahead, you could. You could rate this podcast,
Speaker 1: and you can give me a comment that helps me
Speaker 1: to kind of get a pulse on what you're thinking.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm going to jump right in here to
Speaker 1: question number one. It says, Hey Granger, I'm Matthew. I'm
Speaker 1: from enom Claude Washington. I think that's how you say it, guys,
Speaker 1: enom Claude Washington, are you going to do another live album?
Speaker 1: I love your podcast and your music. I just want
Speaker 1: to say thanks and for you and your family and
Speaker 1: your band. I appreciate you, Matthew, thank you for writing.
Speaker 1: I love this question. I love that we might do.
Speaker 1: First of all, I love that you said another one,
Speaker 1: because we do have a live album. It's called Live
Speaker 1: at the Chicken. It came out I believe in two
Speaker 1: thousand and ten something like that, ten eleven, something somewhere
Speaker 1: around there. And I guarantee you, Matthew, we will do
Speaker 1: another one. I don't exactly know when, but I would think.
Speaker 1: Actually texted my brother recently, I said, hey, man, we
Speaker 1: should do another live album. So the question to you,
Speaker 1: guys is, and which you can comment if you're on
Speaker 1: iTunes or YouTube or any one of these formats that
Speaker 1: has a comment section, what is a good venue where
Speaker 1: we should record the next live album? It has to
Speaker 1: be vibe and cool and different, good acoustics, great crowd.
Speaker 1: Where should we do that? Be thinking? Okay, thinking and
Speaker 1: go to my socials and let me know if you
Speaker 1: can give me an idea and I'll be thinking in
Speaker 1: the meantime. But yeah, thank you for writing, Matthew. I
Speaker 1: appreciate your brother. Shout out to Washington too. By the way,
Speaker 1: we're about to head out there and do a bunch
Speaker 1: of shows coming up really soon, so we'll see you
Speaker 1: guys in the fall. Next question, another music related question,
Speaker 1: comes from Sydney. It says, hey, Granger, how many guitars
Speaker 1: do you have and which one is your favorite and
Speaker 1: what would be the best one for a beginner. I
Speaker 1: have recently counted because we moved and we moved into
Speaker 1: this new house where we are now, so I recently
Speaker 1: took an inventory and it sits the number sits around twenty.
Speaker 1: I have around twenty guitars because I might have forgotten
Speaker 1: one or two, might be twenty one, might be nineteen,
Speaker 1: but it's somewhere in there. I have several favorites. I
Speaker 1: have a favorite for the road. I have a favorite
Speaker 1: which is my John may Or Martin. It's my road dog.
Speaker 1: And Todd, my other guitar player, has one just like it.
Speaker 1: And then Fish, my other guitar player, has a very
Speaker 1: similar one too. So we have those because they're just
Speaker 1: indestructible on the road. They sound great. They you could
Speaker 1: plug them into anything and they sound great. They're built
Speaker 1: really well, they play really well. Then I have my
Speaker 1: favorite wallhangers. I have my favorite sentimental ones. I have
Speaker 1: my favorite historic ones if you watch the Smiths. I
Speaker 1: have a Gibson that I recently acquired that is really
Speaker 1: really awesome. It's a Jay forty five and it's from
Speaker 1: nineteen forty six, so really old. And I have, of
Speaker 1: course the ones that I grew up playing, and I
Speaker 1: have some some of the ones that have been very
Speaker 1: important shows of mine, very important seasons of my life.
Speaker 1: So my guitars are my girls. I love them. They
Speaker 1: all play different, they all feel different in my hands,
Speaker 1: they all sound different to different songs. I've recorded different
Speaker 1: ones on different songs that I needed a different feel to.
Speaker 1: So very sensitive about these guitars and very passionate about it.
Speaker 1: To you, Sidney, to answer your question about what would
Speaker 1: be the best beginner guitar, it kind of depends on
Speaker 1: how serious you want to get, if you want to
Speaker 1: get if you're like man, I am dead set on
Speaker 1: learning this guitar. I already have a little bit of
Speaker 1: background in it, and I already have these plans with it.
Speaker 1: Then you might want to spend a little extra money.
Speaker 1: You might want to spend five hundred bucks or more.
Speaker 1: You might want to go between five hundred and one
Speaker 1: thousand dollars. If you're like, I'm desperate to learn this,
Speaker 1: I have to. It's a passion. If you're like, I'd
Speaker 1: like to give it a shot to try it, I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't really have any music background, and I don't
Speaker 1: really know how this is going to go, and I
Speaker 1: don't have plans for lessons, then don't. Don't spend over
Speaker 1: four or five hundred bucks. Don't do that. You could
Speaker 1: go to your local guitar shop and look in the
Speaker 1: two two to three hundred dollars range. Anything below that
Speaker 1: it's a toy. Anything one hundred dollars range is a toy.
Speaker 1: But you want to go two to three hundred bucks.
Speaker 1: And then you want to tell the guy that you
Speaker 1: buy it from in the music shop that you want
Speaker 1: nylon strings, and he's gonna look at you like you're crazy,
Speaker 1: But you want to take the steel strings off of
Speaker 1: it and replace it with nylon strings that typically go
Speaker 1: with a classical guitar, and the guy's going to go
Speaker 1: you don't want to do that. Who told you to
Speaker 1: do that? Go Granger Smith podcast told me to do it?
Speaker 1: And so a normal acoustic guitar, it's the strings. The
Speaker 1: steel strings have little metal balls at the end of them.
Speaker 1: The nylon strings don't. So you have to tie knot.
Speaker 1: You literally have to tie not, just like a fishing line,
Speaker 1: that's what it feels like. Tie out at the end
Speaker 1: of the string and run it through and then that
Speaker 1: knot will serve as the little metal ball. This will
Speaker 1: save your fingers and it will allow you to play more,
Speaker 1: and it will keep you in the game longer, because
Speaker 1: if those steel strings on a cheaper guitar are harder
Speaker 1: to push down, and it's gonna start cutting your fingers
Speaker 1: before you have callouses built up, and you're gonna get blisters,
Speaker 1: and you're not gonna want to play, and you're gonna
Speaker 1: throw it in the corner and you're gonna get mad.
Speaker 1: You're gonna say I can't do it, when in reality,
Speaker 1: it was just because you were playing a cheap guitar
Speaker 1: with strings that were crushing your fingers. That's my advice,
Speaker 1: and I know, I know I've kind of explained that before,
Speaker 1: but I'm sticking with it. That's what I used to do.
Speaker 1: That's it skip around here, and at this point, I
Speaker 1: don't know how deep we're about to go, but we're
Speaker 1: about to go down a rabbit hole. I'm gonna click
Speaker 1: on this one. It says take the reins, Hattie Granger.
Speaker 1: My name is Will. I'm a twenty year old part
Speaker 1: time diesel mechanic, part time student. First, my question for
Speaker 1: you revolves around my desire to get married. It's something
Speaker 1: I've been praying for for years. I'm very passionate about it.
Speaker 1: The question I have is how much should I be
Speaker 1: How much should I be sitting back waiting for the
Speaker 1: right woman without letting her slip by? In other words,
Speaker 1: should I take the reins and put myself out there
Speaker 1: or expect to just know when God brings the right
Speaker 1: one into my life. I love your podcast. My brother
Speaker 1: and I are going to see you at Tailgates and
Speaker 1: Tallboys in Taylorville, Illinois. Thanks will, appreciate you, buddy, Thank
Speaker 1: you Will. Yeah, we already played Taylorville. So this this
Speaker 1: email came July nineteenth, So I hope, yeah, I hope
Speaker 1: you had a good time. It's a good question, and
Speaker 1: I see I see similar questions a lot on this podcast.
Speaker 1: The answer always will revolve to me, will kind of
Speaker 1: revolve around your age. So twenty, you're twenty years old.
Speaker 1: That tells me there's this is not desperate, you know,
Speaker 1: there's just you're not. You're not. You're not in need
Speaker 1: of a wife right now. Right every man needs a companion,
Speaker 1: every every woman needs a companion. But you're not. You're not,
Speaker 1: you know, crushing the time clock right now saying, man,
Speaker 1: I got to I'm I'm pushing fifty years old. I'm
Speaker 1: still single, So this is a different story for you.
Speaker 1: Will your question says, basically, should I be sitting back
Speaker 1: waiting for the right woman or should I actually put
Speaker 1: myself out there or just expect that to know and
Speaker 1: God brings the right one into my life. Okay, let
Speaker 1: me kind of walk through this my thoughts. I'm not, guys,
Speaker 1: I'm not. I don't always have the right answers, maybe
Speaker 1: even rarely, but this podcast is not about right or
Speaker 1: wrong answers. This podcast is about Will. You're my buddy
Speaker 1: and you're saying, hey, Grangel, can I get some advice?
Speaker 1: And this is this is buddy advice. Buddy advice is
Speaker 1: not always right, it's not always wrong. It's just buddy advice.
Speaker 1: So this one, I'm gonna tell you we, as Christians,
Speaker 1: because you brought up God. As Christians, we never sit
Speaker 1: back and let God do something for us, because that's
Speaker 1: not just not the way God works. God works through
Speaker 1: us through through humanity. His will is acted out through
Speaker 1: men and women. And part of the way that He
Speaker 1: acts that out, that he enables his will to happen,
Speaker 1: is through our desires and through our wants. And I
Speaker 1: love this subject and it might not even be the
Speaker 1: first time I bring it up and today according to
Speaker 1: these questions, but it goes something like this. If you're
Speaker 1: living for God, if you're in his word, if you're
Speaker 1: fervently praying, if you're you're you're being obedient to the
Speaker 1: best of your ability according to the word that you're reading,
Speaker 1: and the and the prayers, the sincere prayers that you're
Speaker 1: that you're you're telling him and you're and you're feeling
Speaker 1: gratitude and you're giving him thanks and you're trusting him. See,
Speaker 1: trusting him and having faith in Him doesn't mean you
Speaker 1: kick back in a chair and say, now I trust
Speaker 1: you God, So now do it it means that when
Speaker 1: you trust him and you have faith, and you're in
Speaker 1: his word and you're deep in prayer, then at that
Speaker 1: point you do whatever you want to do. You literally
Speaker 1: go out and do whatever you want to do. And
Speaker 1: you're thinking, whoa hold on, granger, what you don't just
Speaker 1: do whatever? Yet, yeah, you do if you meet those requirements.
Speaker 1: So as the Bible says, those that delight in the Lord, right,
Speaker 1: if you're delighting in the Lord, then he will give
Speaker 1: you the desires of your heart. So you do whatever
Speaker 1: you want to do because he will make your want tos.
Speaker 1: He creates what you want. He creates that desire in
Speaker 1: your heart to do whatever you want. So, if you're
Speaker 1: delighting in the Lord in your all those things I said,
Speaker 1: then he's going to give you a want to. He's
Speaker 1: going to give you a desire he's going to get
Speaker 1: He's going to say, he's going to create the the
Speaker 1: your ability to discern what you want to do or not,
Speaker 1: and then you can trust it. You could trust that desire.
Speaker 1: Does that make sense? So what I'm trying to say
Speaker 1: is if you're chasing after him full strength and you're
Speaker 1: doing all these things, and you see a girl and
Speaker 1: she's beautiful and she's sweet, and her family's great, and
Speaker 1: you go, this girl's amazing, and then you realize, yeah,
Speaker 1: God brought her to me because I was on a path.
Speaker 1: I was heading down this path. So let me give
Speaker 1: you some points of action here. You're a part time, yeah,
Speaker 1: part time diesel tech, full time student. So during this time,
Speaker 1: you're hanging with friends, you're going to church, you're in
Speaker 1: a small group, you're hanging with your buddies, the diesel
Speaker 1: tech buddies. You're studying like crazy. You're putting all that
Speaker 1: into full swing, like this is your effort, this is
Speaker 1: what doing well, this is your this is your life.
Speaker 1: And along that path when a girl comes around, which
Speaker 1: they do, this is how it happens. There's like fifty
Speaker 1: to fifty in this world, men and women, right, something
Speaker 1: like that. So that's gonna happen. You're gonna run into
Speaker 1: a girl and she's gonna be at church, or she's
Speaker 1: gonna be a waitress, or she's gonna be bringing her
Speaker 1: diesel in for you to fix it. Or she's gonna
Speaker 1: be a well a student at school, she's gonna be
Speaker 1: in the faculty, she's gonna be a friend, of a
Speaker 1: friend or you're gonna you're gonna break your ankle, and
Speaker 1: she's the nurse at the hospital. There's this is gonna happen.
Speaker 1: And then when you have your eyes open and you're
Speaker 1: focused and you're on the right path, you're gonna know
Speaker 1: that she's the right one. So when you say put
Speaker 1: yourself out there, are you talking about like dating apps
Speaker 1: and stuff? Because no, I don't think so. I wouldn't.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't say that if me and you were sitting
Speaker 1: around a campfire and say, what do you mean by
Speaker 1: put yourself out? Take the reins and put yourself out there?
Speaker 1: What do you What do you mean? Because dating apps
Speaker 1: are stocking people on Facebook? Is not That's not the
Speaker 1: way that this is gonna happen. It can, it does,
Speaker 1: but probably not will. It's probably gonna happen in real life.
Speaker 1: So live your real life. Do what you do, do
Speaker 1: what you love to do, love God, put him first,
Speaker 1: and then do what you love to do, which is
Speaker 1: diesel trucks and school and hanging out with your buddies.
Speaker 1: And if you're following that in that path, then she's
Speaker 1: gonna come. So I appreciate your emailing man. This question
Speaker 1: comes from Timothy, and it says. The first thing it
Speaker 1: says is I'd like to remain anonymous. So I'm gonna
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna pretend like I didn't say that.
Speaker 1: Good morning Granger. Me and my kids love your music
Speaker 1: and the family chain and Yeee apparel and your open faith.
Speaker 1: My question is, I'll try to word this well enough
Speaker 1: that you could figure it out. How do I talk
Speaker 1: to my wife about getting off social media her phone
Speaker 1: to be a mother to my kids? Right, So here's
Speaker 1: some info. Here's what's going on. He says. I'm thirty five,
Speaker 1: she's twenty six. We have three kids. We've been married
Speaker 1: for five years. Our youngest is two, our oldest is ten.
Speaker 1: And throughout the day we talk on my breaks and
Speaker 1: she is constantly irritated and aggravated with the kids and
Speaker 1: complaining about something they have done and how they act.
Speaker 1: Even when they're on the phone she's on social media.
Speaker 1: I end up getting off the phone because she's not
Speaker 1: talking to me and she gets upset. And when I'm home,
Speaker 1: the kids are on my hip one hundred percent of
Speaker 1: the time because she goes outside with because when she
Speaker 1: goes outside with them, she's on her phone. I'm skooping
Speaker 1: down here, and I'm and my kids are really annoyed
Speaker 1: by this, and I believe them because every minute when
Speaker 1: we're in home, Uh, this is what she's doing, unless
Speaker 1: we're sleeping, Unless she's sleeping or we're having intimate time,
Speaker 1: she's on the phone. I'm sorry, this email so long,
Speaker 1: and I try to talk to her about her phone,
Speaker 1: and she gets defensive and makes it a big dramatic scene. Uh,
Speaker 1: says we'll just get rid of Facebook. But that only
Speaker 1: lasts one day. I could really use some advice. Sorry
Speaker 1: guys for paraphrasing on that email, but yeah, I get
Speaker 1: the gist. I get the gist. People are addicted to
Speaker 1: their phones, people are addicted to social media, and this
Speaker 1: is that there's a couple of ways we could we
Speaker 1: could tackle this if we were hanging out. We all
Speaker 1: know that this is a problem, and this is not
Speaker 1: I hope you know this is not just a problem
Speaker 1: in your house. This is this is a problem in
Speaker 1: every house. I don't know many people in my life
Speaker 1: that say I'm never on my phone. I never, I'm not.
Speaker 1: I just don't ever get on my phone. Everyone is,
Speaker 1: and these phones are made addictive on purpose. They everything
Speaker 1: about them and the way they're the built in this
Speaker 1: in the the operating systems and all social media apps
Speaker 1: are built so that you return to them over and
Speaker 1: over and over again. In fact, the swipe up you know,
Speaker 1: you need to swipe up to on every social media
Speaker 1: app that literally comes from swiping a slot machine at
Speaker 1: a casino. So as addictive as a as a slot
Speaker 1: machine as a casino is. This is this is what
Speaker 1: people are doing with their phones, and these social media
Speaker 1: companies and these phone companies, they know it. So they're
Speaker 1: trapping us. So the fact that your wife is doing
Speaker 1: this is it's it's not really that she's a weak person.
Speaker 1: She's fallen into it. She fell into a trap, and
Speaker 1: so you need to help her with this. Part of
Speaker 1: the way you could help her is to make sure
Speaker 1: that you're not falling into the trap, right, I mean,
Speaker 1: we can't just keep looking at everyone else and not
Speaker 1: realizing that we're doing the same thing and your kids
Speaker 1: might be doing the same thing. That doesn't change the
Speaker 1: fact that it's still a problem. So one way to
Speaker 1: tackle it is when she's not on her phone and
Speaker 1: when she's playing with the kids, or when she's talking
Speaker 1: with you, reinforce how awesome she is because she's so focused.
Speaker 1: Like you'll say, Babe, this the last twenty minutes, this
Speaker 1: conversation has been amazing. You are You're focused, you're engaged.
Speaker 1: I just there's a lot of people in my life,
Speaker 1: but I love talking to you. I love talking to
Speaker 1: you because you're so You're just you're easy to talk to,
Speaker 1: especially when we don't have our phones around, you know,
Speaker 1: like phones, it's just easy to so like you're reinforcing
Speaker 1: to her in her mind that my husband loves when
Speaker 1: I'm when we're actually having a real conversation. The other
Speaker 1: thing is it's just a conversation about you putting the
Speaker 1: problem on yourself first instead of blaming her, because you
Speaker 1: can't blame her for this, So instead you go, Babe,
Speaker 1: could I talk to you about something I think I'm
Speaker 1: having having a problem with looking at my phone all
Speaker 1: the time, and I need you to help me to
Speaker 1: get off of it. So what are some things that
Speaker 1: we could do to help get off of it? For example,
Speaker 1: I know a couple that when he comes in from
Speaker 1: work and she comes in from work, they drop their
Speaker 1: phones in a little basket at the front door. So
Speaker 1: it's like you have your phone out during the day,
Speaker 1: but when you come into the house, you drop it
Speaker 1: into a basket, and there's a certain time during the day,
Speaker 1: like an hour during the day when they can go
Speaker 1: and get their phones out of the basket. And that's extreme,
Speaker 1: but it's something there's always a way. There's always a
Speaker 1: way with this kind of stuff. And then I think
Speaker 1: it starts with communication. Deleting Facebook. Getting rid of Facebook
Speaker 1: never helps, as you said, it only lasts one day.
Speaker 1: I've seen people there's different apps that could help you
Speaker 1: that could help monitor your your log in time. Some
Speaker 1: people will delete the passwords or log themselves out, Like
Speaker 1: every time you get off Facebook, you log yourself out,
Speaker 1: so that when you get back on Facebook, you have
Speaker 1: to log in. And it's annoying and you don't want
Speaker 1: to do it every five seconds because you've got to
Speaker 1: keep logging in. But that takes discipline to do that.
Speaker 1: There is an app that John Marlin our guitar Player,
Speaker 1: my guitar Player not. We use this a lot, and
Speaker 1: it was gosh, I wish I could wish I could
Speaker 1: remember the name, but there's so many If you type
Speaker 1: in you know, screen time Management screen management, those kind
Speaker 1: of apps. But this one was a tree, and you
Speaker 1: when you close your screen, it's it starts growing a tree,
Speaker 1: and if you open your phone within a certain amount
Speaker 1: of time, it kills the tree. So you see like
Speaker 1: the little leaves withering. But the longer you leave your
Speaker 1: phone closed, the tree grows and like blossoms and gets
Speaker 1: bigger and grows flowers and and you when you just
Speaker 1: see your your home screen, it says I'm growing a tree,
Speaker 1: and it says the time, and it's just it's a
Speaker 1: stupid way to make your mind. It's like a game.
Speaker 1: So you go, oh, I can't open my phone. Like
Speaker 1: the tree's never been this big before. It's looking really good.
Speaker 1: So there's anyway, there's all there's all kinds of mind tricks.
Speaker 1: It it boils down to this. If you're on a diet,
Speaker 1: if you're wanting to start a diet, one of the
Speaker 1: best things to do on the diet is clear your
Speaker 1: pantry and clear your cabinets of cookies and sweets and
Speaker 1: all the things that you don't want to eat. Because
Speaker 1: it's nearly impossible for anyone to be on a diet.
Speaker 1: And you walk into the kitchen and there's warm chocolate
Speaker 1: chip cookies just came out of the oven on a
Speaker 1: plate right there in the kitchen, and you're on a
Speaker 1: diet trying not to eat cookies. It's almost impossible. So
Speaker 1: you get rid of it and you don't cook cookies
Speaker 1: and you keep them out of the house. And it's
Speaker 1: the same thing with any kind of addiction. And that's
Speaker 1: what phones are, their addictions. So don't blame her for this,
Speaker 1: don't put the blame on her, encourage her when she's
Speaker 1: not on it, and try to clear the house from
Speaker 1: the addiction. Including you put it on you first, because
Speaker 1: I know you have the same problem. I know you
Speaker 1: do because you wrote me this email on your phone.
Speaker 1: I'm not calling you out. I'm just saying all humans
Speaker 1: are part of it. I'm one of them. Everyone. So
Speaker 1: limit the time. Limit the screen time. You can also
Speaker 1: limit a lot of these modems like WiFi modems. Could
Speaker 1: limit the Wi Fi so then you have to log
Speaker 1: back in and request more WiFi. We do it with
Speaker 1: our kids. We only give them a certain amount per day.
Speaker 1: When it's up, they have to request more from us,
Speaker 1: and most of the time we're going to say no.
Speaker 1: So that's something you guys could both do together. Just
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Speaker 1: I love that you have such a big, beautiful, amazing garden.
Speaker 1: Growing my own food is something I'd love to start doing. However,
Speaker 1: my experience with plants has been mostly with potted succulents.
Speaker 1: I would love some tips, tricks, best advice, and product
Speaker 1: recommendations on starting and maintaining a garden and how to
Speaker 1: start seeds. It would be best if I could start
Speaker 1: my seeds indoors. Washington is cold and very rainy much
Speaker 1: of the year. Keep killing it with your music. I
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Speaker 1: show in Seattle in November. Best wishes to you, Amber, London, Lincoln,
Speaker 1: and baby Maverick. Thank you so much. Teagan appreciate it.
Speaker 1: So this is this is It's going to be an
Speaker 1: interesting question because Washington and Texas are very different, and
Speaker 1: I don't know a lot about growing in Washington. But
Speaker 1: it is except we have a lot of succulence. It
Speaker 1: is interesting that you're wanting to start with seeds. I
Speaker 1: love gardening, and your subject line of the email is
Speaker 1: Granger's gardening one on one, which is interesting. I love
Speaker 1: gardening just as much as I like eating the produce
Speaker 1: from my garden. I like just maintaining it, and I
Speaker 1: like the process of setting it up, and I love
Speaker 1: getting the soil ready, and I love making my own mulch,
Speaker 1: and I love the watering process and the bug maintenance.
Speaker 1: I would say this, Tiagan, not knowing your setup at
Speaker 1: home and how much space you have, there's a couple
Speaker 1: interesting things you could start right away. The first thing
Speaker 1: I would recommend starting before anything is worm farm. And
Speaker 1: worms could be so beneficial to any garden or plants
Speaker 1: or flowers, whatever you're whatever you're doing, or just for
Speaker 1: your soil for your lawn. And I'm pretty sure you
Speaker 1: could do it in Washington or Texas or anywhere in between. So,
Speaker 1: once again, not knowing your setup, I have. I have
Speaker 1: a worm farm that I got a couple of years ago.
Speaker 1: Those that watch the Smiths with me can probably remember
Speaker 1: when I got this this setup. But it's a it's
Speaker 1: like a green bin. I forgot the name of it,
Speaker 1: but it's a it's like a green bin and it
Speaker 1: funnels inward. So if you're watching me on YouTube, you
Speaker 1: can see my hands. It funnels. The top is fatter,
Speaker 1: and it starts it starts funneling down inwards. And so
Speaker 1: you you put your I started with some regular soil
Speaker 1: and then you as you start composting on top of that,
Speaker 1: you put your kitchen kitchen scraps in there, and the
Speaker 1: worms will will eat eat their way up, and then
Speaker 1: it pushes the good soil down, down down, and like
Speaker 1: the worm cast things and they go to the bottom.
Speaker 1: And then you could actually harvest the very bottom that
Speaker 1: dirt and put it straight into your garden or your flowers,
Speaker 1: and it's amazing. It's the best fertilizer you could possibly get,
Speaker 1: and I love getting mine. Actually just was out there
Speaker 1: before I started this podcast today and was noticing it's
Speaker 1: time for me to harvest that fresh dirt, and so
Speaker 1: I'll go be able to take it and put it
Speaker 1: out there. So I would start with that, and then
Speaker 1: the second thing you could do that's like back to
Speaker 1: back with the worms is composting. And every time you
Speaker 1: have kitchen scraps, you might already do this, but there's
Speaker 1: several ways I use the worms. I have pretty much
Speaker 1: three different composts. I have the worms, and then I
Speaker 1: have a tumbler, and then I have just a big
Speaker 1: open bin. So the big open bin, and I have
Speaker 1: two different sections of that so that I could use
Speaker 1: a shovel and move you know, some compost over. But
Speaker 1: we'll get just start simple when you start with your
Speaker 1: kitchen scraps, and that's like your banana peels and your
Speaker 1: apple cores, and your coffee grinds, and your grounds, and
Speaker 1: your paper towels, eggshells, any kind of fruit scraps, anything
Speaker 1: that's not meat or bread or dairy is great. And
Speaker 1: you just you can get a tumbler like you can
Speaker 1: go to any hardware store and get you a tumbler
Speaker 1: like I have, and it's sits on the metal frame
Speaker 1: and it spins. You might have seen this. You asked
Speaker 1: me for gardening one oh one, So forgive me if
Speaker 1: you already know this kind of stuff. But man, composting
Speaker 1: is great because you're you're turning your kitchen scraps into
Speaker 1: straight soil, which is amazing. And these black tumblers, they
Speaker 1: take the heat of the sun and it heats that
Speaker 1: compost up really hot and breaks it down quicker than
Speaker 1: it would in a normal nature setting. And then this
Speaker 1: is setting you up so that when you do have
Speaker 1: your garden, you have worms, you have worm castings, which
Speaker 1: is the fertilizer, and the worm juice which is like
Speaker 1: straight fertilizer concentrate. And then you've got your compost, which
Speaker 1: is your dirt. So you're you're creating the perfect environment
Speaker 1: for your garden. And then the other thing I do
Speaker 1: is mulch. I make my own mulch, whether it comes
Speaker 1: from different scraps that are too big for the compost,
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Speaker 1: and I'm using all the sawdust and the chippings from
Speaker 1: the tree, that makes really good mulch. And so then
Speaker 1: the mulch goes on top once you once you get
Speaker 1: your plants in the ground, the multch goes on top.
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Speaker 1: moisture from the from the water, so it keeps the
Speaker 1: weeds out, it fertilizes it all at the same time.
Speaker 1: It's incredible. So these are like the basics of gardening.
Speaker 1: And so once you have these kind of basic ideas
Speaker 1: set up, I would I would probably do a raised
Speaker 1: bed for you and start. Start with a simple raised bed.
Speaker 1: You can go to your hardware store and get you
Speaker 1: a metal metal container. I did that this year, and
Speaker 1: I'm probably I'm going to do it next year. Super easy.
Speaker 1: Instead of cutting up your backyard and making rows, you
Speaker 1: could just sit there and do a raised bed. You
Speaker 1: could do a lighter raised bed that you could actually
Speaker 1: move and move it into your garage, so then you
Speaker 1: could beat the winter, and you could you could beat
Speaker 1: the freeze if you have like an early freeze or
Speaker 1: a late freeze something like that. So other than that,
Speaker 1: if you actually want to get into plants, then it's
Speaker 1: going to really depends on your preference. What do you like?
Speaker 1: What do you do you like potatoes or tomatoes or
Speaker 1: strawberries or are you like berries? Do you like peppers?
Speaker 1: Like Ora Okra's ocre needs some extreme heat, so you're
Speaker 1: only going to get that a short time of the year.
Speaker 1: But anyway, at this point, I would love to see
Speaker 1: a picture of what you get started taking. Thank you
Speaker 1: for emailing. Here's a question that this is a different
Speaker 1: turn says. The subject says, having moral integrity in today's world.
Speaker 1: Having moral integrity in today's world, Hey Granger, I'm currently
Speaker 1: a freshman at Kansas State studying Mechanical Engineering College, and
Speaker 1: life in general has been pretty rough with the last
Speaker 1: year or so. I've lost a close friend, had my
Speaker 1: younger brother and father both go through rehab for substance abuse,
Speaker 1: and endure a toxic relationship. I feel now that I'm
Speaker 1: stronger than ever in My family is now closer than
Speaker 1: ever too. I see a lot of my peers dealing
Speaker 1: with their problems through drugs, alcohol, and lustful relationships. It
Speaker 1: often seems like I'm the odd man out with my
Speaker 1: moral values. My question for you is this, and what
Speaker 1: ways do you still maintain a social life and still
Speaker 1: uphold your own moral values? And how do you truly
Speaker 1: embolden those values so that no one person or circumstance
Speaker 1: can sway them. Best regards, Connor. Connor shout out to
Speaker 1: k State and Manhattan, Kansas. That is a party town, buddy.
Speaker 1: I could feel your sentiment coming out of this party
Speaker 1: town of Manhattan Mechanical Engineering. You're a smart dude, so
Speaker 1: let me break this down for it as if me
Speaker 1: and you are buddies in a campfire. You've had a
Speaker 1: rough year. You lost a close friend and your brother
Speaker 1: and your father have both gone through rehab for substance
Speaker 1: abuse and endured a toxic relationship. You've had a lot
Speaker 1: of stuff going on, and you feel closer than ever
Speaker 1: to them. Now you are struggling than ever and closer
Speaker 1: and closer to your family than ever. That's awesome. That's awesome.
Speaker 1: Let me lay this out for you. In my opinion,
Speaker 1: with your with your younger brother and your father both
Speaker 1: going through rehab for substance abuse, I would stay far
Speaker 1: away from that kind of influence with your friends because
Speaker 1: it's hereditary at this point, could be, could be. So
Speaker 1: that's helping me answer the part of your question that says,
Speaker 1: how do you still maintain a social life? Well, I
Speaker 1: think your social life, because of your family history, needs
Speaker 1: to look differently than what you might think it's going
Speaker 1: to look like. Like if you're thinking, I'll just be
Speaker 1: a designated driver and I'll just go to these parties
Speaker 1: with everyone, and I'll be like the good guy and
Speaker 1: make sure everyone stays in line, and I could take
Speaker 1: everybody home. Man, I don't think connored. I don't think
Speaker 1: that's something a task that you should be taken on.
Speaker 1: Could you? Yes, you could. You're probably the smart dude
Speaker 1: and strong willed and capable. But we're going back to
Speaker 1: the cookie jar thing. You know, we're going back to
Speaker 1: the you're on a diet and there's there's a warm
Speaker 1: chocolate chip cookie right there, and you got this and
Speaker 1: it's hereditary for you. Why would you want to be
Speaker 1: in the room with the chocolate chip cookie when you're
Speaker 1: trying to be on a diet. It's the same thing,
Speaker 1: it's the same. This is like the same conversation with
Speaker 1: the social media. So a couple of things here. You're
Speaker 1: asking me having moral values, having integrity in today's world. Well,
Speaker 1: if you ever say the word moral to me, to me,
Speaker 1: if you ever say the word moral, I'm going to
Speaker 1: ask you where are you getting your moral basis from? Like,
Speaker 1: where where are you deciding what morals are? And by
Speaker 1: what standard are those morals? Are they from the Bible?
Speaker 1: Are they from a really nice self help book? Are
Speaker 1: they from Sigmund Freud's psychology? You know, where what morals
Speaker 1: are you talking about? Because if you just say, you know,
Speaker 1: like worldly good moral So what is that is that?
Speaker 1: Is that obeying the law? Is that staying within Kansas law? Uh?
Speaker 1: So my point is it's very gray. You got to know.
Speaker 1: If you're gonna say morals, you gotta know a concrete
Speaker 1: level of what those morals are. Like this is what
Speaker 1: I could do and this is what I can't do.
Speaker 1: There's no gray. The Bible tells me where where my
Speaker 1: black and white is. It doesn't it doesn't allow me
Speaker 1: to fall into gray. There is no gray. So for you,
Speaker 1: my first piece of advice is if I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 1: gonna dissect your question. When you say I see a
Speaker 1: lot of my peers dealing with their problems through alcohol, drugs,
Speaker 1: and lustful, lustful relationships, let me say that again. You
Speaker 1: say I see a lot of my peers dealing with
Speaker 1: their problems through drugs, alcohol and lustful relationships. Yes, brother,
Speaker 1: you need new friends. You need to change your friends.
Speaker 1: Change them out. They are having an impact on you,
Speaker 1: even if you don't know that they are right. You've
Speaker 1: got to change your environment because your environment makes you.
Speaker 1: If I meet your five friends, I'm going to know
Speaker 1: who you are. Through your five friends, you will not
Speaker 1: be the odd man out. As much as you think it.
Speaker 1: That's not what humans do. We are always a product
Speaker 1: of who we hang around, what we do. The society
Speaker 1: we're living in the in the environment, the civilization, the city.
Speaker 1: We are a product of our environment. That's how we
Speaker 1: are built. So unless you change that environment, unless you
Speaker 1: change your friends, you will be dealing with the same
Speaker 1: problems with drugs, alcohol and lustbul relationships period. There's no
Speaker 1: way around it. You will be that. You will be
Speaker 1: those guys. You might be a slightly better version of
Speaker 1: them with the same problems, solving it with the same remedies.
Speaker 1: Some of them might be really bad at it and
Speaker 1: you're not so bad. But it's the same thing. So
Speaker 1: you got to change your friends. You gotta hang out
Speaker 1: in a different circle. You gotta find a new group.
Speaker 1: You gotta go to a different organization. You gotta go
Speaker 1: down the other side of the campus at k State.
Speaker 1: You gotta get out of the least with your roommate. Man,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna live on my own or I'm gonna I'm
Speaker 1: going to get a pot luck roommate. You gotta change
Speaker 1: the script. Why am I sounding desperate right now? Why
Speaker 1: is my voice getting desperate to you right now? Buddy,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you, Connor, it's because you told me your
Speaker 1: younger brother and your father are going through rehab for
Speaker 1: substance abuse. This is in your blood, man, and now
Speaker 1: you're hanging out with these dudes. I'm not knocking you.
Speaker 1: I'm saying this as a friend around a campfire, connoring
Speaker 1: you need new friends. Now, I want to tell you
Speaker 1: what suggest that you go. You know me. You know
Speaker 1: you listen to this podcast. You know me. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you that I would suggest you go to church.
Speaker 1: You find a good church in Manhattan, and Pastor Chad,
Speaker 1: who's a guest on this podcast all the time, could
Speaker 1: help you. I guarantee you there is an awesome church
Speaker 1: in Manhattan, Kansas with some awesome people and probably possibly
Speaker 1: a future wife for you waiting for you there. Just saying,
Speaker 1: but that is a place you can go and get
Speaker 1: involved and become a member. Say what can I do
Speaker 1: to help serve you? Guys? Are y'all going out on
Speaker 1: Saturday and you're giving out backpacks to little kids that
Speaker 1: need them for elementary school? I'm in all. You're going
Speaker 1: out next Tuesday. You're going out to help the lady
Speaker 1: down the street because she had a tree fall in
Speaker 1: her yard and you're using chainsaw and you're cutting up
Speaker 1: her tree to clear her front yard for this widow
Speaker 1: lady I'm in. That's what a church will help you do.
Speaker 1: And then you're out there and you're like, man, I'm
Speaker 1: got this chainsaw. I'm helping cut this tree down for
Speaker 1: this lady. And these dudes I'm doing this with are cool.
Speaker 1: They're good guys. I bet you those aren't the guys
Speaker 1: that are going out with drugs and alcohol and lustful
Speaker 1: relationships trying to get me in trouble. Bro you're a
Speaker 1: freshman in case that you got a lifetime ahead of you.
Speaker 1: You gotta change these things right now. You gotta get
Speaker 1: this stuff lined up. You got a big future in
Speaker 1: mechanical engineering. You're gonna have a good You're gonna be set,
Speaker 1: You're gonna have a good life. You're gonna get a
Speaker 1: good job. The world needs mechanical engineers right now. You're
Speaker 1: gonna have a good set job with a good education
Speaker 1: from a grit university. But you got to make some changes.
Speaker 1: If you want to see that fulfillment, go down to
Speaker 1: your local church. See what they're doing. Change your five,
Speaker 1: Change your five friends. Start with that one, two through
Speaker 1: four five, Change them out. Man, where do I go
Speaker 1: after that? After that rant? I'm not sure if I'm
Speaker 1: just like debating, if I should read this question with
Speaker 1: the subject line why I got to now right? It
Speaker 1: says why. I'm fourteen, But when I was eight years old,
Speaker 1: my mom and dad both passed away in a car accident.
Speaker 1: I went into foster care, where I got the best
Speaker 1: family I could ever ask for, And in December of
Speaker 1: twenty eighteen, my foster dad died serving and then in
Speaker 1: twenty nineteen, my foster mom committed suicide. Your music has
Speaker 1: saved me, but my question is why is God taking
Speaker 1: everyone I love away from me? I'm tired of this life.
Speaker 1: I'm ready to give up. Question comes from a fourteen
Speaker 1: year old named Cooper. Cooper first thing I'm going to say.
Speaker 1: First thing I'm going to say is there are there
Speaker 1: are hotlines set up for people to talk to you,
Speaker 1: and I would really want you to go speak to
Speaker 1: a counselor and pour your heart out to somebody. You
Speaker 1: said you mentioned God with the upper case. So I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you that to go to Christian counseling, go
Speaker 1: to your local church, and just pour your heart out
Speaker 1: to these very qualified people that are set up for this,
Speaker 1: that have heard stories like yours. You're not alone. You're
Speaker 1: not the first one that this has happened to, and
Speaker 1: that doesn't take away the fact that it's so hard
Speaker 1: and I'm so sorry. A fourteen year old shouldn't have
Speaker 1: this kind of stuff. But there's a strength in you.
Speaker 1: You're questioning too, There's a strength And part of it
Speaker 1: comes from you saying that music saved you. Part of
Speaker 1: it comes from you capitalizing the g in God, which
Speaker 1: is something. Part of it is saying that you got
Speaker 1: the best foster family you could ever ask for, which
Speaker 1: is a blessing. Part of it comes I know that
Speaker 1: you loved your mom and dad, which is what we're
Speaker 1: part of. This pain is coming from when you were
Speaker 1: eight years old when that happened. So I would ask
Speaker 1: you this, Your subject is why. So you're questioning why God?
Speaker 1: Why God? Why are you doing this to me? Why
Speaker 1: are you taking everyone a love away from me? And
Speaker 1: through counseling through your grief, through a lot of people,
Speaker 1: trained professionals that you need to talk to. On the
Speaker 1: other side of that, on the other side of all
Speaker 1: those people, here's me. Here's me. And I would say, Cooper,
Speaker 1: is God is talking to you. God is preparing you
Speaker 1: through this suffering. He is, he is making a he is.
Speaker 1: This is profound, right, this is a profound story. And
Speaker 1: so the way I see it, Cooper, is that a
Speaker 1: story like this of so much pain and tragedy and suffering,
Speaker 1: to a person of faith that believes in God only
Speaker 1: has a good story, a good ending, a good ending,
Speaker 1: And God is setting you up for something big. He's
Speaker 1: going to put you in a place. It's just me
Speaker 1: thinking out talking out loud. He's putting you in a
Speaker 1: place where one day you'll be able to make an
Speaker 1: impact because of your story. You'll be able to sit
Speaker 1: in front of people and no matter what someone throws
Speaker 1: at you, no matter what kind of loss they have,
Speaker 1: no matter what kind of disability they've they've endured, no
Speaker 1: matter what kind of hardships they've had to go through,
Speaker 1: you could look at them and say I lost my
Speaker 1: parents in a car accident, and then I got a
Speaker 1: great foster family and both of them died. And then
Speaker 1: everyone at that point is listening to you because you
Speaker 1: have the floor, Cooper, you have the floor, You have
Speaker 1: the upper hand of suffering at that point to them
Speaker 1: for them to listen to you. So then I say, Cooper,
Speaker 1: what will you do with that? What will you do
Speaker 1: with the chance to have the upper hand and a
Speaker 1: conversation to people that are hurting? Would you say to them,
Speaker 1: I gave up. That got the best of me. It
Speaker 1: was the end of me. One loss was hard, a
Speaker 1: second loss was harder, and then the last common losses,
Speaker 1: I just gave up. Would you be comfortable telling a
Speaker 1: panel of people in a room of suffering people that
Speaker 1: or would you say something like that? Happened when I
Speaker 1: was fourteen, and by the time I turned twenty five,
Speaker 1: and I knew that God brought me through this suffering.
Speaker 1: He didn't eliminate the suffering. He brought me through it.
Speaker 1: He carried me through it. That's where the power of
Speaker 1: God is. And you look at this room and you
Speaker 1: go and now I'm here to help you. I'm here
Speaker 1: to walk you through it. I'm here to tell you
Speaker 1: how I did it, How, Cooper, how I did it.
Speaker 1: I'm here to tell you how the most painful childhood
Speaker 1: can turn into the most fruitful life. Because now this
Speaker 1: is you talking, Cooper, still talking for you. Because now
Speaker 1: I'm married, beautiful wife, beautiful kids that I have treasure
Speaker 1: that I love. And guess what my daughters eight, and
Speaker 1: I remember when I was eight, I lost my parents
Speaker 1: in that car accident. And my son is fourteen, and
Speaker 1: I remember when I was fourteen and I lost my
Speaker 1: foster parents. And so now I love them and I
Speaker 1: cherish them, and I build them up, and I encourage them,
Speaker 1: and I lead them on a path towards God, and
Speaker 1: I teach them about integrity and honor and truth. And
Speaker 1: now they're great humans. And now I could stand in
Speaker 1: front of this group and I could help them, and
Speaker 1: I could help them through their suffering, all because I
Speaker 1: kept moving forward. I trusted God that he was carrying
Speaker 1: me through this all because I suffered. And now not
Speaker 1: only am I better because of it, but my family is,
Speaker 1: and now all these people. Because then, Cooper, you'll have
Speaker 1: a platform that no one else has. None of that
Speaker 1: might help you right now, but a counselor can and
Speaker 1: some some people could come that that are trained for this.
Speaker 1: But after that, after that, after after you get through
Speaker 1: the day by day, because right now it's a day
Speaker 1: by day thing. It's it's a if day by day
Speaker 1: is too much, then it's it's hour by hour. And
Speaker 1: if that's too much, then it's minute by minute if
Speaker 1: that's too much, it's the next breath. That's all you have,
Speaker 1: the next breath. But once you get through that, then
Speaker 1: I want you to listen to what I told you
Speaker 1: will listen. I want you to listen to this, this
Speaker 1: potential story that you have of redemption, of restoration. A
Speaker 1: local church could help you through this. A good, a good,
Speaker 1: solid local church, not a weak one, not a not
Speaker 1: a not a weak gospel church, not a cowardly church.
Speaker 1: There's a lot of those. A strong passionate pastor that
Speaker 1: has that has a shepherd's heart, that wants to that
Speaker 1: wants to grow. You know, that's there's one of those
Speaker 1: in your town. There always is. I appreciate you guys.
Speaker 1: It's uh it's different when I sit here and go
Speaker 1: on rants by myself in a room, but these these
Speaker 1: solo podcasts are kind of good for me too. So
Speaker 1: I'm just a few hours away. I'm about to go
Speaker 1: to bed, and then I'm literally a few hours away
Speaker 1: from heading to uh the hospital and bring this little
Speaker 1: baby into the world. This is a baby that and
Speaker 1: and some somehow, some way this will be He'll know this,
Speaker 1: But this is a baby that's coming into this world
Speaker 1: because another is not in this world. This is a
Speaker 1: sibling that's coming into the world because of a sibling
Speaker 1: that died. It's very special. It's heartbreaking, and it's very,
Speaker 1: very very special. I don't take that lightly. I don't
Speaker 1: take that as a fluke or as an accident or
Speaker 1: as a strike of luck. This is it's a really
Speaker 1: big deal to me, so into our whole family, and
Speaker 1: it's just the beginning. This is just the beginning. This podcast,
Speaker 1: episode ninety eight's just the beginning. So love you guys.
Speaker 1: Thanks for listening. Email me. I hope I can answer
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